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I’d only even consider accepting the offer of friendship if we didn’t do anything. In this case we did a bit of shit together, so there’s no going back from that.
/r/seduction09/12/18 11:36 PM
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I know to do that now
/r/seduction09/12/18 11:33 PM
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Yes I’m aware that the date choice and the way I set it up were mistakes, I tried too hard to impress her. Moving forward I’m gonna keep the first date choices much more simple and have better opportunity for escalation. Even if I stayed friends to have access to her social circle, I could just as easily go out and meet someone new. I’m at a point in my life where I’m managing to get girls interested more than ever. I’d rather befriend a girl I could genuinely see myself being friends with, and …
/r/seduction09/12/18 10:18 PM
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Over the long term, instead of wondering how you can get up to her level, ultimately you want to bring her down to your level. And no I don’t mean degrade her and devalue her, but rather not focus on her looks giving her more “value” than anyone else and recognizing that she’s a human being just like you, and is very much at the end of the day your equal. There’s alot more to someone’s overall attractiveness than just looks. And it cuts both ways.
/r/seduction09/03/18 11:18 AM
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She has a bf, unless she flat out asks you to do sexual stuff with her assume she isn’t interested
/r/seduction09/03/18 09:45 AM
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If you know her beforehand then no problem
/r/seduction09/03/18 09:42 AM
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Stop caring so much about your value
/r/seduction09/03/18 09:40 AM
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Those are red flags not shit tests!
/r/seduction26/01/18 09:27 PM
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1) Overthinking it, you probably wouldn’t be more or less likely to be falsely accused unless the accuser is a psychopath, seeking some financial gain, or if you had some high social status and somebody wanted to take you down a peg. 2) There’s no surefireway to know if you have affirmative consent unless you ask. When doing something with a girl, if she responds positively or non-negatively and is of clearly competent capacity (i.e. is not blackout drunk, passed out, etc) then its generally saf…
/r/seduction26/01/18 09:24 PM
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Since distance is a factor here coupled with all the crap going on in her life, it’s reasonable to assume that she can’t make time for you that easily. On the other hand, it’s still very possible that she could have another option that’s closer to her. It’s a bit of a grey area right now that only time will clear up. If she wasn’t far away or didn’t have alot going on then I would definitely write her off. For now just take it day by day and keep your options open. If its meant to be then it’ll …
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:21 PM
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It’s really just about being honest about your beliefs, opinions, interests, likes and dislikes, etc. Being polarising means the opposite of “playing it safe” to improve the chances of a favourable outcome. Example: a guy meets a girl who has a religious background. The guy is not religious at all and has no interest in being religious. Playing it safe: The guy feigns being religious and pretends he has an interest in learning more about the religion in the hopes it makes him seem more eligible …
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:12 PM
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Overthinking
/r/seduction26/01/18 07:50 PM
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With all girls, assume that if she’s interested she’ll make time for you and not play any silly games. You have nothing to lose by trying again 1-2 more times but if she isn’t receptive move on.
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:07 PM
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1) Grooming and personal hygiene. This should be a no-brainer really. Shower daily, brush your teeth, clip your nails, keep facial hair shaven or neatly trimmed, use deodorant, pluck your unibrow, etc. 2) Get a good haircut and get some nice clothes. A good hairstyle can make a significant impact on your overall attractiveness. As for clothes you don’t have to dress to the nines or overtly flashy, just wear decently fitting and clean clothes that don’t make you look like a bum. 3) Exercise and g…
/r/seduction15/01/18 03:19 PM
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Definitely not a bad start at all, keep in mind not every night will be the same, they were probably a little more loose because it was NYE. However, if you do find yourself in this situation again... When you’re dancing with her, take the lead and put your hands on her hips/back/waist. Turn her, pull her in closer, do a few cool moves and have a little fun. Make eye contact and ask her name, make a bit of small talk on the dancefloor. If you’ve been dancing for a while then take things away fro…
/r/seduction04/01/18 10:03 PM
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LinkedIn is a definte no, just don’t go there. Unless you’re a celebrity or some otherwise high status guy then sliding into her IG DMs probably won’t do much good either, especially since she doesn’t know you and probably doesn’t even remember you.The only chance you’d have is if you happened to meet her in person again, have a conversation longer than 2 words, then ask for her number then. If that doesn’t happen its probably not meant to be.
/r/seduction04/01/18 09:49 PM
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This is tricky, there’s no way you can really ask a model out directly during a shoot without it risking your professional reputation, no matter how respectful you are about it. The only way I could see you having a chance with these girls would be to somehow get to know them outside of your work environment without an ulterior motive, making a move if and only if you sense that there might be a real connection. But even then it’s way too much of a longshot to give you any reasonable chance of s…
/r/seduction04/01/18 09:43 PM
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With touching start small then escalate (or not) depending on her reaction, but first make sure that she appears comfortable with you. There’s no hard fast method on how to escalate, just do what feels right in the moment and don’t be afraid to take risks
/r/seduction28/12/17 09:34 PM
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Yeah I have several Indian friends who have no problem getting laid, with non-Indian women. It’s all about how you present and carry yourself. If you’re a fun guy who knows how to hold a conversation (bonus points if you’re in good shape) and exude confidence then there will be some girls out there who appreciate you
/r/seduction28/12/17 09:28 PM
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You need to be direct, if she gave you her number then assume she wants to go on a date, ask her on that date ASAP and make your intentions clear from the get go. If you beat around the bush and wait too long it’ll confuse her. Girls want a guy who isn’t afraid to pursue what he wants.
/r/seduction21/12/17 09:04 PM
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She’s seeing you because she thinks you’re good enough for her for starters, and you’ll never know until you try. Make a move before its too late! Whatever you do don’t be so negative, especially around her. Nobody likes to have to validate someone.
/r/seduction21/12/17 08:49 PM
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Don’t get yourself caught up in that bullshit, it never ends well
/r/seduction21/12/17 08:45 PM
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You’re overthinking, if you need to try and seem “mysterious” then you clearly don’t have any idea what you’re doing. Just keep an open mind, don’t try too hard, and be how you would normally be. Nobody really cares about social media unless you’re a weirdo IRL or spewing hate speech online.
/r/seduction15/12/17 12:51 AM
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I’d say yes. There’s no hard time limit per se, but think of it from her perspective: she exchanges contact info with a guy she thinks is kind of cute, then he says absolutely nothing to her for 2-3 weeks before asking her out. For all she cares, she’s simply the “next” option on the list because another girl didn’t pan out. Unless she’s desperate, she doesn’t want to feel like she’s the next best thing to a guy.
/r/seduction12/12/17 09:17 PM
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You’re probably overthinking it, the fact you’ve already kissed before (while sober) and she’s giving you the time of day is a good sign. She was probably wondering why you didn’t kiss her! No need to play games, just invite her out again and do something more involved than just meeting for coffee. If she’s interested then she’ll make the time. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, make sure to escalate more (i.e. holding hands, invite her back to your place, etc)
/r/seduction18/10/17 04:17 PM
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It’s a good avenue to meet women you wouldn’t normally meet in your everyday life, but like anything else it’s hit or miss. I met my current girlfriend on Tinder (it started as an FWB arrangement) and I know other people who also met their SOs online as well. I personally find it quite convenient to use since you can do it from just about anywhere at anytime. However, it does have somewhat logistics from meeting in real life so if you want to game on Tinder it can feel like taming a whole new be…
/r/seduction11/10/17 05:31 PM
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how much time do you spend with her As little or as much time as you feel you can to both your mutual comfort. There's no hard-fast answer here. If she doesn't seem comfortable with you at all then don't waste your time with her, but if she seems to enjoy your presence then by all means stick around for a while. After approaching and making you interest clear, do you hang around and keep talking and trying to escalate or is it better to circulate and mingle with other people, then return to her …
/r/seduction18/09/17 03:15 AM
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All depends ultimately on what kind of life you want to lead, how introverted/extroverted you are, what your interests/hobbies are, what you want in life, etc. For many guys in my city it looks something like this: Work 9-5, gym 3-4 times a week, a sport or other activity 1-2 nights per week, and go clubbing/partying on Friday or Saturday. Me and my friends have been like that for a while, but now I'm personally trying to break away from the clubbing/partying every weekend bandwagon. It's fun ev…
/r/seduction17/09/17 03:18 PM
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There isn't anything you can do to ensure success, she's either interested in you or she isn't. Leaving the ball in her court is the best thing to do in this situation.
/r/seduction17/09/17 02:08 PM
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If she agreed to a date assume she's interested unless she flakes. You can't really "keep" her interested, its ultimately beyond your control if she flakes or not. The best you can do is just be normal and try not to do anything thats obviously off-putting.
/r/seduction13/09/17 11:56 AM
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3 flakes is alot. Up to you if you want to keep her around but don't expect anything to happen.
/r/seduction13/09/17 11:24 AM
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She's coming to you for a place to sleep, it's not an invitation to start coming onto her. I mean, if you're getting a clear and unambiguous vibe from her that she's comfortable sleeping with you then go for it, but don't get any expectations from it whatsoever and don't push your luck.
/r/seduction07/09/17 11:06 PM
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It really depends, different things will happen for different guys. In my case I lost around 25lbs and everyone I knew gave me compliments left right and centre. I felt more confident, and girls seemed to pay me more attention. People in general seemed to notice me more and would have more respect for me right off the bat. For some reason girls I barely knew were all of a sudden more comfortable talking to me, and my sex life went 0-100. I attribute alot of it to a change in confidence and attit…
/r/seduction10/08/17 01:31 PM
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You're a snake
/r/seduction09/08/17 06:56 PM
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She's playing games with you
/r/seduction09/08/17 06:56 PM
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It will certainly make a noticeable difference
/r/seduction09/08/17 06:53 PM
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She sounds a bit wishy washy to me, keep seeing her if you like but keep your options open and don't bank too much on getting her. If she gets wishy washy now then it's probably not going to change anytime soon.
/r/seduction09/08/17 03:12 PM
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Just pick rhe one you like best and ask her out
/r/seduction08/08/17 11:56 AM
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That doesn't sound like oneitis to me, if you two dated for a while then its you not being over her. It happens. You need to find a way to get over her by yourself, simply bringing another girl into the picture isn't going to do that. I can't tell you how to get over it, you have to find that within you.
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:38 PM
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Car, cheap hotel/airbnb, secluded public spot, go camping, her place, sneak her in through a window.
/r/seduction03/08/17 09:32 PM
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Talk to everyone and get to know them all, just as if you're coming in to introduce yourself at the party. Don't have any goal other than to be social as possible. Gauge which girls are more interested in you then go from there
/r/seduction22/07/17 05:25 PM
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Talk to everyone and get to know them all, just as if you're coming in to introduce yourself at the party. Don't have any goal other than to be social as possible. Gauge which girls are more interested in you then go from there
/r/seduction22/07/17 05:08 PM
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You did exactly what you were supposed to do, you put it out there and were honest with yourself. Now you can move on
/r/seduction21/07/17 03:51 PM
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I was 23 when I lost it, not all that uncommon for guys to be older than me when they lose it (although admittedly a bit lagging behind most people).
/r/seduction13/07/17 01:58 PM
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You're young so there's no rush
/r/seduction13/07/17 01:46 PM
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You don't until you've actually done the act
/r/seduction13/07/17 01:45 PM
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You don't have to outright say "lets fuck" when you meet her. It can be something simple as asking for her number when meeting her: most (keyword most) girls will assume this means you're interested in asking them out. Then once you set up a date, make sure you tell her she looks nice. It's subtle but it directly subcommunicates that you're checking her out and you find her attractive. If she seems receptive, find little "excuses" to touch her (i.e. If she has a tattoo on her wrist, ask to see i…
/r/seduction13/07/17 12:07 PM
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Don't sweat it, I was a virgin till 23 and I know guys who were older than me when they lost it. Contrary to what it's built to be, losing your virginity isn't some earth shattering experince, a small rite of passage at best but it ultimately doesn't change your life much. Stay positive, just keep doing you, learn how to get what you want and it will happen when it happens. A few pointers if you will (all from lessons I learned the hard way) * Don't assume that the next girl you meet will be the…
/r/seduction12/07/17 08:19 PM
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There's absolutely no way this will work at all, stop wasting your time and go meet someone new.
/r/seduction12/07/17 06:06 PM
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You can't make her feel comfortable unless she wants to be comfortable with you, ultimately its her call. Just keep doing what you're doing but don't get too pushy
/r/seduction10/07/17 02:11 PM
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If you see her just be normal and don't mention the flake. If she brings it up then don't make it a big deal at all. Gauge how she acts during the conversation and if it feels right ask her if she'd want to go out on another day.
/r/seduction10/07/17 02:07 PM
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Find a way to isolate her, for example tell her "lets go get a drink" or "lets find somewhere to sit down". If she follows your lead then continue the conversation from there and escalate. If nothing happens between the two of you make sure to ask her out and get her number.
/r/seduction10/07/17 01:59 PM
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You're doing great, good for you for making it this far! Try not to put her too much on the pedestal and revert back to old habits and you'll go farther. If you want to sleep with her take a chance and put yourselves in a position where it can happen. But make your move soon, better to know than to be wondering.
/r/seduction06/07/17 04:40 PM
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It happens, don't overthink it.
/r/seduction04/07/17 06:06 PM
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You're doing okay, stop overthinking it
/r/seduction03/07/17 11:14 AM
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Answer: you don't. If she's not happy in her relationship she will either not tell you about her bf, or she'll be making the moves on you.
/r/seduction23/06/17 07:02 PM
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Shower, get your hair game on point, wear deodorant (cologne optional), brush your teeth, keep your breath fresh, wear decent clothes, be in a good social mood, relax, enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction23/06/17 02:28 PM
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Its a random hookup, thats the whole point of it in the first place. Zero commitment, zero expectation, extremely low investment. No harm in trying again because hey, YOLO
/r/seduction23/06/17 02:26 PM
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You're probably going in too abruptly and its turning her off. I wouldn't say there's a time limit per se, but keep dancing with her, escalate, pull her in closer, and gauge her reactions. If she's putting her hands around the back of your head/neck and putting her face close to yours then go in for it!
/r/seduction23/06/17 02:23 PM
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This isn't the subreddit to come to asking if you should, this subreddit is for teaching you how to get laid! I personally don't think waiting for marriage is a good idea. It works out for many couples, but it's a huge gamble.
/r/seduction22/06/17 01:52 PM
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Stop immediately, this in itself is a needy behaviour, it doesn't stop you from being needy at all. You need to learn to get by without sex. Every time you're about to see an escort, put the money in a jar instead.
/r/seduction22/06/17 10:57 AM
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Ask her what she's looking for: is she looking for love right now or is she just enjoying life? Let her know you're not really looking for anything serious right now.
/r/seduction21/06/17 08:38 PM
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If she's not feeling him then there's absolutely nothing he can do
/r/seduction21/06/17 07:32 PM
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That wasn't the point I was trying to make, where OP most likely went wrong was not making his intention to meet her in person clear from the start. I actually learned from that experience that Snap is arguably better than just a phone number. You can more easily determine whether or not she's a catfish
/r/seduction21/06/17 05:08 PM
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You swear around your guy friends but not your female friends? You're still putting them on a pedestal. If they're your friends, you talk to them how you would talk to your other friends. Saying that tells me you're not 100% being yourself around them. You need to be comfortable being yourself around women.
/r/seduction21/06/17 05:01 PM
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Remember she's at the end of the day a normal human being just like you, and her being a model doesn't make her any different any other girl you're dating. Most guys she encounters probably put her up on a pedestal because "Whoa, model!" so if if anything she's sick of guys trying too hard to impress her. Stand out, just be your normal self and treat her like a normal girl. As another poster said, she's choosing to go on a date with you. That means she likes something about you too and wants to …
/r/seduction21/06/17 03:55 PM
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I started on snapchat with a Tinder girl (at her request when I asked for her number), and that didn't stop me from sleeping with her.
/r/seduction21/06/17 01:45 PM
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Just man up and ask if she's actually interested in meeting up or not. You got in touch with her because you want to meet her in person. If she is then great! If she doesn't, then you can move on and stop wasting your time.
/r/seduction21/06/17 01:42 PM
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It might or it might not, I usually find that speed dating is more for the late 20s and older crowd. At your age you'd be better off finding an activity with people your age and socializing there. What personally worked for me was to learn how to befriend women before pursuing them. Keep in mind that being their friends will NOT make them want to date you, but that is not your goal. Your goal is to become more comfortable around women. Its extremely important that you make a separation between g…
/r/seduction21/06/17 01:31 PM
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Keep in mind most guys are terrible at reading signals, even more experienced guys have trouble sometimes. We're notice but we're never completely sure unless we make a move. Some girls do give false signals. Make sure you use certain signals for certain situations only. Smile, make eye contact, laugh at his jokes, tilt your head in a flirty way. Us guys use kino/touch to indicate interest and escalate, girls shouldn't be afraid to do the same. Touch the guy's arm, hand, etc lightly. This has wo…
/r/seduction21/06/17 12:34 PM
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You're a fish out of water mate, a bar full of 20 something year olds probably isn't the best place for you to be doing this. I wouldn't waste your time, you're just the creepy old guy to them.
/r/seduction20/06/17 07:22 PM
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They're not completely comfortable with you, knowing how to make a girl comfortable is key. Try and examine what you're doing. Maybe you might be coming off as too pushy or needy, or your level of investment is too high. This tends to put a girl off, try pulling back a bit. Or on the flip side you could be doing nothing truly wrong, but no matter what you do there are some girls you won't be able to make completely comfortable with you. This means you're incompatible with her.
/r/seduction20/06/17 03:17 PM
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Depends on the girl, how much she's feeling you, her friends, and how much they're feeling you
/r/seduction20/06/17 11:38 AM
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Are you escalating further than making out? They're probably getting bored of you
/r/seduction19/06/17 09:50 PM
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Keep investing in yourself and growing as a person, don't put all your time and energy into the relationship. Realize that a significant percentage of relationships fail before the "few months" mark. The main reason is incompatibility. Especially considering you're in high school still, don't take dating too seriously. Its extremely rare for any high school relationship to last a long time
/r/seduction19/06/17 09:49 PM
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A guy worth his salt won't break up with you just because you're bad in bed, if he really cared about you then he'd work with you to help you get better. I can't give you country specific advice but guys are pretty much the same everywhere. Dress nicely, look your best, be friendly, be flirty, and if you like a guy then drop hints. Only have sex if you want to, and don't feel ashamed for wanting it. You're not a slut for being horny, you're just a normal sexual human being and to deny yourself t…
/r/seduction19/06/17 09:27 PM
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Friend zone is when you're friends with a girl because you want more, but she only sees you as a friend. I sort of disagree with his definition. Its actually pretty common for guys and girls who've been friends for a while to start dating, but its definitely more difficult and risky to ask out someone you've known for a while. Its never personally happened to me but from what I know from friends' experience they just sort of start liking each other then it happens naturally. I think what he mean…
/r/seduction19/06/17 08:21 PM
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The permanent solution is to find a way to make yourself happy instead of basing your happiness on how many girls you get. It'll be an ongoing process
/r/seduction19/06/17 08:04 PM
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Whatever improvements you made were probably short term solutions, you merely treated the symptoms instead of curing the greater problem. Start over, learn from your mistakes but don't dwell on them, then move on.
/r/seduction19/06/17 06:41 PM
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Shouldn't have apologized to her lol, should have asked if everything's good.
/r/seduction19/06/17 06:34 PM
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You two had a moment, and now she's decided that she doesn't want to sleep with you again. She has her reasons for her choice but she doesn't owe you an explanation. It's nothing you did right or wrong, it's no fault of yours, it's just one of those things that takes two to make it work. It's out of your hands. If you wanted to bang her for 3 years then are you really her friend? Be honest with yourself here. She's offering you the chance to accept it as a one time thing and move forward. Now yo…
/r/seduction19/06/17 06:24 PM
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You're a foreigner travelling, your accent will be something people aren't used to hearing every day, you'll have a story and be making stories as you go. That alone is already interesting. Literally just be yourself, have fun, focus on creating the experiences and don't worry so much about the girls. Sure it's awesome if you do get lucky but as I said, that's not what you're in Europe for. The primary goal of travel is to create experinces for yourself to make you a better person, not to bang g…
/r/seduction19/06/17 04:58 PM
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It took me losing it to a random chick to realize this, good on you!
/r/seduction19/06/17 04:45 PM
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In that case just try to have fun and not take it too seriously. While 1 on 1 dates are better, on a group date interesting things can happen that won't happen otherwise so try and use it as an opportunity to learn more about her and how she is with her friends. Be sociable with her friends too, try to have fun with it, but do see if you can get some alone time with her as well.
/r/seduction18/06/17 01:53 PM
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Don't waste your time with a group date for a first date. If you want to do a group date then do it later
/r/seduction17/06/17 07:59 PM
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I cringed at that last text OP sent You texted her for way too long before asking her out, you should have asked her out ASAP. She lost interest because you got to know each other over text You should have picked one time and place instead of offering two for her to choose from. If she can't make it, then suggest an alternative time if she doesn't already That friendzone text wasn't a shit test at all, it wasn't even her friendzoning you. It was her politely letting you know that she wasn't inte…
/r/seduction17/06/17 07:57 PM
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Just straight up ask her out over Snapchat
/r/seduction17/06/17 07:44 PM
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No means she's not interested, so no. You only try once, if she changes her mind let her come to you. Insulting her afterwards certainly won't make your chances greater at that happening.
/r/seduction17/06/17 01:58 PM
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Make your first focus to have fun on the dancefloor, have zero expectations, don't base your night based on how many chicks you get. I find that it's best not to ask her to dance outright in a club, literally just dance near her and let it happen naturally. Let your bodies do the talking
/r/seduction17/06/17 01:56 PM
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I've always got a mixed bag experience. Some girls kinda just brush you off politely, some brush you off rudely, and some girls will congratulate you. One time me and a couple of buddies went and approached a group of mixed age women (late 20s to late 30s age range), but older than us. They actually gave us kudos for having the courage to approach them and wished us luck.
/r/seduction17/06/17 01:53 PM
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Friendzone is when a girl only sees a guy as a friend, but the guy wants more. You get there by doing trying to be overly nice and friendly to her in hopes that she'll see what a great guy you are, and by not making moves when you do it. Keep in mind that what Mark Manson is saying isn't the word of god, it's a guideline based on his observation. It's not unheard of to start dating a girl you've known for a long time (its pretty normal actually), but he is right in the sense it makes it more dif…
/r/seduction16/06/17 04:47 PM
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LMFAO, yes do it. What's the worst that can happen? I mean its not like you'll get arrested or possibly shot for doing that right?
/r/seduction16/06/17 01:18 PM
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Make new friends who do this kind of thing
/r/seduction15/06/17 07:32 PM
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Don't ask her when she's free, suggest a specific day at a specific time. If she can't make it that day, suggest an alternative time (if she doesn't already).
/r/seduction15/06/17 05:41 PM
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When breaking the ice just introduce yourself, say hi and ask basic questions about the other person. Challenge people to games of pool/darts, if there's a dancefloor then dance like nobody's watching, just have fun and don't take it too seriously
/r/seduction13/06/17 11:55 AM
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Tough to say but probably nothing you really could have done to avoid it. Just say it was fun while it lasted
/r/seduction12/06/17 03:32 PM
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The only thing you really did was build up an expectation when you weren't looking for anything serious to begin with. Other than that you probably didn't do anything wrong, probably just got bored of you. As you said she's got options, it wouldn't surprise me if there's another guy she prefers over you. Just keep doing your thing and be on the lookout for new prospects.
/r/seduction12/06/17 02:41 PM
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Doesn't matter had sex
/r/seduction12/06/17 02:28 PM
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I doubt it's going to go anywhere beyond friendship at this point. You can see her if you want but don't get hung up on her.
/r/seduction09/06/17 08:47 PM
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If she's interested she'll be more talkative
/r/seduction09/06/17 04:51 PM
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If she's non-talkative then she's not interested/non receptive. I'd move on
/r/seduction09/06/17 04:44 PM
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Social partner dancing. Salsa, Tango, Lindy hop, West coast swing, etc. You really can't go wrong. Learn something fun and have an excuse to be close to a girl in a fun and non-threatening way. Also, you're going to learn how to get comfortable being in close and touching a girl and learning how to know when and how they like being touched. This, Toronto's got a very lively Latin dance community.
/r/seduction09/06/17 01:40 PM
1

I see where you're coming from I used to be in that same boat as well. You can't be in that state of feeling like you "need" experience though, that there is a sign of neediness and scarcity mentality. There's something there that's the root cause of your mindset, getting a girl won't solve that problem. You have to drill down and tackle your demons before you can break out of it.
/r/seduction09/06/17 01:35 PM
1

It's pretty rare for a girl to approach a guy, we're the ones who do the approaching its just how it is.
/r/seduction08/06/17 08:13 PM
8

Get the conversation off Tinder ASAP, ask her for her number or for her snapchat (snapchat's good to make sure she isn't a catfish).
/r/seduction08/06/17 08:07 PM
7

Usually one of four reasons: She's not into you She's playing games She keeps you around as an "option" She's just using you for attention
/r/seduction08/06/17 07:52 PM
1

You need to find different friends for different situations. Hang out with him when you just want to play games, find a new group of friends to go party and meet girls with
/r/seduction08/06/17 06:42 PM
1

You're letting other people dictate your own happiness? That's not the answer, you alone have the power to control your own happiness, nobody else can do that for you. What exactly is it that other people have done that you feel like they're forcing you down?
/r/seduction08/06/17 03:09 PM
2

You have to get creative and work with what you have. You have to find ways to meet people where you are. That means getting out of the house more often. It won't happen any other way, there's no external force that's going to improve your life for you: it's on you to do that for yourself. You seem to have a bit of a scarcity mentality as well, which given your circumstances is understandable. You do have to realize that there are many other women out there, and not every girl you meet will be t…
/r/seduction08/06/17 03:06 PM
4

In a bar fight nobody wins, pretty much 100% of the time you'll at best be kicked out of the bar/club you're in. If the police happen to be there, you'll be arrested on the spot and spend the rest of the night in the drunk tank. There are times where fighting back is the right choice, this situation was not one of them.
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:24 PM
1

Some quick tips: Try and find something you can put your mind to that's not work/school related. Find something you enjoy doing, it can be one thing or it can be many things (i.e. cooking, hiking, cycling, martial arts, improv, co-ed sport to name a few examples). Make sure it's a social activity and make it your primary focus to enjoy the activity first. The social aspect will be secondary, but it will get you out there. Or if they're more solitary hobbies, find a way to make it interesting to …
/r/seduction08/06/17 12:24 AM
1

If you have that attitude then yeah, that's all you're going to be for the rest of your life. A pathetic, deadbeat loser with a defeatist attitude and nothing going for him. Its up to you if you want to accept that as the status quo, or decide you're better than that and break that notion of yourself. Losers quit when they fail, winners fail until they succeed
/r/seduction08/06/17 12:08 AM
1

I don't think so. I think it's just socially awkward guys who crush on someone, and think that the person will eventually see how awesome they are. I don't think they open doors expecting to get fucked. I think they hold the girls purse, thinking that she will confide in him, fall in love with him, date him. But it's because he likes her, not just randomly thinking he deserves it. That proves my point. He's doing these "nice" things expecting him to earn "brownie points" for himself, eventually …
/r/seduction07/06/17 07:27 PM
2

She knows what she wants and she's going straight for the kill. She's definitely looking for a good time, if thats what you want then no reason not to go for it. Don't expect it to be anything more than that
/r/seduction07/06/17 03:54 PM
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The problem here is you're reducing girls to "monsters" and seeing them as inferior to you. You're treating them as obstacles to be "defeated" and you're valuing them on attractiveness alone. That's not how it works in real life. Girls are human beings as well just like you, with thoughts, emotions, feelings, and urges. See them as your equals, not as a trophy to be won
/r/seduction07/06/17 03:22 PM
1

A "nice guy" is a guy who acts nice not because he's genuinely nice, but because he's expecting to be rewarded for it. He thinks of himself as a nice and honest guy when in reality he's probably worse than the so called "jerks" he thinks women prefer. He's nice until he doesn't get what he wants, that's when his real personality comes out. A real nice guy is nice because its the right thing to do and expects no reward for it. He also knows that his niceness has limits and shouldn't just be given…
/r/seduction07/06/17 02:06 PM
1

If you lock eyes with him and you're feeling him, smile at him. If he knows what he's doing he'll take that as a cue to talk to you
/r/seduction07/06/17 01:32 PM
1

You're in the friendzone, if she wasn't interested the first time then don't expect she's going to change her mind anytime soon (if ever). You're not being honest to yourself or her, if you continue down this road then you're only going to hurt yourself in the long run. You need to think about what you really want from this girl then do one of the following: Tell her what you really want from her then ask if she wants to give you a chance. This will most likely be met with a no, but hey at least…
/r/seduction01/06/17 01:36 PM
3

First of all you're not a boring person, if you have interesting hobbies and experiences then that makes you interesting. You don't need to become less boring so much as you just need to learn how to being that interesting side out in a conversation. Here are some pointers: Don't just force out your entire story in one go, keep it mysterious by telling bits and pieces (i.e. This one time in Thailand...) Ask the other person about themselves and take an interest in their experiences as well. Peop…
/r/seduction01/06/17 01:12 PM
1

Don't take Tinder too seriously, treat it more like a game: have fun it! I like to use it as a chance to experiment with openers, whether its cheesy, clever, or just downright ridiculous. Here are some openers that have got responses for me: "Bio?" (If she doesn't have a bio written. It challenges her, and if she actually takes the time to write one then chances are she's interested in seeing what happens) "I certainly hope that guy in your pic isn't your boyfriend" Rhyme about the colour of her…
/r/seduction31/05/17 01:40 PM
2

OP did nothing wrong, it just sounds like to me for whatever reason she isn't interested in pursuing anything with you. There's nothing you can really do to change that, only she can change her mind. It seems like she's being mentioning anxiety issues since the beginning so I don't think she's making excuses but at the same time I wouldn't keep trying to pursue her. Up to you if you want to stay in touch with her or not, but if you do then back off for a bit and explore other options. If she wan…
/r/seduction31/05/17 01:23 PM
1

It sounds to me like you're settling because you feel like you can't get anything else. Don't settle, 3 months is plenty of time to know if its going to work or not. If you're still unsure after that amount of time then its time to let go
/r/seduction30/05/17 02:23 PM
1

First you need to get into the mindset that you don't need the love of a girl in your life to be happy.
/r/seduction30/05/17 05:12 AM
1

Having an abundance mentality is: Realizing that she is not the only girl in the world, and she's not the last girl you will meet Realizing that if one girl makes you feel some way, another girl will make you feel that exact same way (if not a different way) Realizing that there are just as many girls out there who would be interested in you than there are that aren't interested in you Realizing that another girl will come along Realizing that you will not be compatible with every girl you meet …
/r/seduction30/05/17 05:07 AM
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Good job! The key to having sex with any girl is to make her comfortable which you did beautifully.
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:41 AM
1

I'd recommend learning some basic salsa and hip hop, it'll get you dancing better both when you're with girls and dancing by yourself. Better yet I would highly recommend bachata
/r/seduction26/05/17 03:08 PM
2

I tend to attract alot of "goody goody" type of girls, i.e. thy don't party, don't swear, don't drink, don't like raunchy humour, don't stay up past a certain hour, goes to church regularly, etc. I like nice and sweet girls, but they've got to have a wild side to them as well. Lady in the street but a freak in the sheets. My thing is I'm a laid back and friendly guy so people tend to assume I'm a goody two shoes myself when I'm really not. I swear, I have a dirty mind, I drink and party, I stay …
/r/seduction21/05/17 10:41 PM
2

What do you want from these girls? Friendship or more?
/r/seduction21/05/17 10:23 PM
2

To me it sounds like she just likes the attention of having a guy like her because she can talk shit about him.
/r/seduction19/05/17 12:31 PM
1

As Shia Laboeuf once wisely said, JUST DO IT!!!!
/r/seduction19/05/17 12:15 PM
1

Try asking other people if they want to hang out after school
/r/seduction19/05/17 12:13 PM
1

Ask her if she wants to study together, suggest a time and place. When you're studying start getting to know her, gauge her interest. If she seems interested then ask if she wants to go out for drinks/coffee then keep escalating from there. You'll never know unless you take action
/r/seduction18/05/17 05:16 PM
1

I usually confirm plans if the girl doesn't confirm first, nothing wrong with that and no reason to try and seem "gamey" about it. My time is valuable and I want to make sure I'm not wasting it by getting stood up.
/r/seduction18/05/17 02:37 PM
2

Find a venue you'd expect a more mature crowd to frequent, stay away from the more student-y places. Go to more upscale bars, lounges, etc.
/r/seduction18/05/17 02:24 PM
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Set it up whenever
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:29 PM
11

She did you a favour, at least you won't waste your time with her
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:27 PM
2

Creepy is subjective, one girl will find you creepy but another will find you mad attractive. It really just depends on numerous factors like how the interaction goes, how she's feeling at the moment, the time/place, whether or not she finds you attractive, etc. No matter what you will be labelled creepy by some girls. It just happens, but if you're being labelled creepy by a large percentage of girls then there's a problem. From what I can tell you approach every single girl you see on campus, …
/r/seduction17/05/17 11:34 AM
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If you're in a bar/club and you're making out, just ask if she wants to go somewhere else (i.e. Grab food to settle those drunk munchies). If she leaves her friends to go somewhere with you, then she's more likely to go home with you. Or alternatively, get her number. Chances are you'll have sex another time.
/r/seduction17/05/17 10:58 AM
1

The short answer is you just haven't met the right girl for you yet. You've just got to keep trying and not give up, there is someone out there for you. Long answer: From reading your post I can see that you're taking a certain mindset that might be hindering you. Right now you're taking the mindset that you need to have a fulfilling romantic life to complete yourself: that's wrong. You shouldn't need romance to complete yourself, romance should only be a bonus. Here are some tips I'll leave wit…
/r/seduction14/05/17 01:58 PM
1

You're reading too much into it. If you have to read too much into her actions the she's wasting your time. You can't change her behaviour, the only thing you can do is find someone more decisive and less wishy washy
/r/seduction12/05/17 03:49 PM
1

Stop messaging her, focus your efforts on meeting other girls, and if she wants to hang out then let her come to you. Don't drive yourself crazy
/r/seduction12/05/17 12:08 PM
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Dude, you're wasting your time with this chick. You want sex and she doesn't, it's unlikely that's going to change. Sure she's good on paper, but ultimately you will not be happy if you pursue a relationship with her. Trust me I just got out of a relationship with a girl like that, except in this case the girl was not a virgin. We did making out and all that but she refused sex even after 2 months saying it was moving "too fast". Later on she told me she regretted having sex and wished she waite…
/r/seduction11/05/17 11:48 AM
1

Remember, lying has a way of catching up to you, especially for something like that. Sure a dumb drunk girl might be fooled, but even the most skilled liar wouldn't be able to keep up the charade forever. If you did that then not only would you have zero chance at anything lasting, but you will build up a negative reputation. Do you really want that? Better to be an honest street sweeper than a dishonest king
/r/seduction10/05/17 11:22 PM
1

Suggest an activity, and give her a time and a place. If she'a interested she'll either say yes or suggest another activity/time/place.
/r/seduction10/05/17 11:15 PM
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Check out what's happening in the local community. See if there's any activity you can join: crossfit, co ed sports league, cooking class, improv classes, stuff like that. Try to meet and befriend other people your age, and find out where everyone hangs out during their downtime. Every so often I'd also say take a trip down to Chicago and find something to do there. Maybe once in a while grab an Airbnb down there and spend the weekend in the city
/r/seduction10/05/17 12:12 PM
1

By vulnerability he doesn't mean telling a girl all your flaws to attract them. By vulnerability he means you're willing to show your true colours, not use any tricks or put on a different persona to attract girls. By being yourself you're making yourself vulnerable. Not just being yourself but also willing to put yourself out there. Every time you ask a girl out or tell her that you like her, you're putting yourself in a vulnerable position. The willingness to make yourself vulnerable communica…
/r/seduction10/05/17 12:06 PM
2

Turn your body towards her, make eye contact, smile. If she responds by doing the same then gradually move towards her. Once you feel the time is right hold out your hands or grab hers, twirl her around a bit, do a couple tricks yourself, then escalate from there. No talking necessary
/r/seduction09/05/17 08:34 PM
1

Keep conversation through online/texting to a minimum, set an in person date as soon as possible. The real escalation happens in person
/r/seduction09/05/17 07:37 PM
1

You do that in person, not over texting. Make it clear through flirting and touch that you're interested in her, any girl with half a brain knows that flirting/touch = interest. If she asks you then tell her straight up what you want
/r/seduction09/05/17 06:35 PM
1

Group physical activities: running club, crossfit, hiking, intramural sports, casual sports, hip hop dance class, any dance class Always make it about doing the activity first. Make sure you're legitimately there to enjoy the activity, meeting the girls should always be secondary. Same for events, you're there for the event. You can't always 100% avoid being creepy, regardless of what you do some girls will find you creepy. One trick to reduce creepiness is to not see every girl as a potential r…
/r/seduction08/05/17 01:46 PM
1

Here are a few books I would recommend: * Models by Mark Manson * No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover * The Suble Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson (applies to life in general)
/r/seduction08/05/17 04:01 AM
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Here are a few: * Meetup events * Dance classes (especially partner dancing) * Latin dance clubs, tend to be less expensive than regular clubs in my experience * Join a club * Go to campus events * Join a co-ed intramural sports team * Just about any group physical activity * Any extracurricular class that would have girls in it (i.e. cooking class)
/r/seduction08/05/17 03:58 AM
1

There's no need to advertise the fact that you're a virgin, but you have nothing to gain by lying about it either. Truth be told, nobody can really discern if you're a virgin unless you tell them you are. When I lost my virginity, the girl didn't even know until I told her just before I was balls deep in her.
/r/seduction08/05/17 03:54 AM
1

It's definitely doable as long as you distinguish her from the women you do pursue, and you actively pursue other options.
/r/seduction21/04/17 07:43 PM
1

Dude you told her you weren't interested in her, so she's reacting accordingly and asking if you want to be just friends. You friendzoned her, not the other way around. If you wanted to escalate and make moves then you don't tell a girl you aren't interested, you simply escalate and make moves
/r/seduction21/04/17 07:37 PM
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Be careful, she might be able to legally consent but that does not mean that her parents will be okay with it. She's still very much under their thumb and there are many other ways they can press charges, especially if drugs or alcohol are involved. Not saying that it will happen of course, just be careful how you approach it. If you do really want to go through with this make sure you're both completely sober during the act, do not take/exchange any pictures or videos either
/r/seduction18/04/17 02:40 PM
2

I was a virgin until 23, even though I had done kissing by age 20, and I felt the exact same when I was that age. We place so much emphasis on virginity as being a rite of passage from boyhood to manhood but when it finally happened to me it really wasn't the earth shattering experience that I thought it would be. However, I did learn that at the end of the day it's really not that big of a deal. It sounds cliche but don't think about the negatives and think about the positives. You had the guts…
/r/seduction14/04/17 06:27 PM
8

Good for you and great job improving, but don't fall into the trap of complacency. You should always be growing as a person
/r/seduction02/04/17 01:00 PM
1

It might or might not, but the right haircut can shift attention from certain parts of the face to others and emphasize the more attractive features more, or it could even complement the less attractive ones. Its all subjective and takes experimentation
/r/seduction01/04/17 12:52 PM
2

Try changing up your hairstyle and/or grow some facial hair if you haven't already. Find out what your face shape is (i.e. Rectangular, triangular, oval, round) and do some research on what style looks best with each face type. It sounds cliche but changing up your hairdo really does tend to make a bold statement, and it can signify an important change in one's lifestyle and personal growth. Also, get in shape if you already aren't. It'll subtly yet noticeably change the shape of your face and m…
/r/seduction31/03/17 08:54 PM
2

If she's grabbing coffee it could just be a casual/friendly thing to her, it doesn't mean that she's going to cheat. And if you ask yes what I think you're doing is horribly wrong! How would you like it if some dirtbag was trying to get your girlfriend into bed?
/r/seduction28/03/17 07:14 PM
1

Forget your feelings right now because they aren't going to pan out. If you want to keep her as a friend go ahead but don't waste your energy trying to get her. If she ignores you then it doesn't even sound like she's your friend. Date other girls and explore your options, there are tons of other attractive girls who will be more than willing to sleep with you if you play your cards right. If she wants to be more than friends with you then she will come to you
/r/seduction28/03/17 03:33 PM
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Don't waste your time with her
/r/seduction28/03/17 03:27 PM
1

Just ask her if she wants to "hang out", and if she asks if its a date tell her it's strictly platonic
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:53 AM
1

You're overthinking it. As for a hangout just ask for her number, text her a bit later and tell her "Hey [her name] this is anotherthrowawayad22, it was a pleasure meeting you today" wait for her to reply, make a bit of small talk over text then ask her if she wants to hangout. Suggest a time and a place then go from there , i.e "Are you free Thursday evening? Lets get drinks at X bar". If she gave you her number then its safe to assume she wants to meet up with you again. Nothing creepy about t…
/r/seduction27/03/17 03:13 PM
1

Just be direct and don't beat around the bush. Decide if you want to just be friends or pursue her as a potential romantic partner, make that distinction as early as possible and go from there. The trick is to start off small and simple, start off telling her she looks nice then move onto something more specific (i.e. Her watch, earrings, bracelet, necklace, nails, etc). Don't go too overboard on the compliments, and most definitely don't compliment something like her ass if you just met her (th…
/r/seduction27/03/17 02:10 PM
1

Don't think about it too much and don't focus so much on the end result. Just approach a girl you think is cute, say hi and strike up a conversation. Chances are she knows you find her attractive so no point in hiding that, tell her you think she's cute. If she shuts you down, move on... she did you a favour by not wasting your time. If the conversation keeps flowing, go from there. Most of all be honest about your intentions, both to her and to yourself
/r/seduction27/03/17 01:37 PM
1

There's no guarantee that will happen, don't put that expectation in your head. Yes there is a certain percentage of women that will, if you play your cards right, will give you head but it's impossible to predict when that will happen until it happens
/r/seduction27/03/17 03:02 AM
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It's all a mixture of experience, trial and error, and luck my friend. If you're shy then you can start off small and simple, no need to go straight to heavy petting. For example, if she's wearing a watch then complement it and make sure to gently touch her wrist near the watch. Another example, tease her a little bit and when she reacts gently tap her on the wrist and say "Relax I'm just messing with you" or something along the lines of that. Try and let it happen more organically, the less for…
/r/seduction27/03/17 02:59 AM
1

Tell her you like her ASAP
/r/seduction26/03/17 12:40 PM
1

You can't guarantee a pull, but you can guarantee that you will do your best to have a good time. Just go there, talk to people and focus on enjoying yourself
/r/seduction23/03/17 12:31 PM
1

If you want to respond, respond. If you don't then don't
/r/seduction22/03/17 08:15 PM
1

Good. To be honest its impossible to forget, the very most you can do is get over your feelings for her and only time can do that. You should consider this whole thing a lesson learned; look at everything you did wrong here and don't repeat the same mistakes in the future.
/r/seduction22/03/17 07:08 PM
1

In this case it means both
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:41 PM
1

Upvote for the Archer reference lmao
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:21 PM
3

Yes, let her go like that, freakin everyone here is telling you to do it without question
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:18 PM
2

At this point you have nothing to gain for trying
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:17 PM
1

Let it all go, trust me you will be saner
/r/seduction22/03/17 05:07 PM
2

Don't let yourself get blinded by beauty, you have no idea the ways that a girl could take advantage of that and use that against you. Judging from some other comments you've been making you need to get help. Find yourself a counsellor and work on your issues before you head down a dark path
/r/seduction22/03/17 03:41 PM
1

I would have just gone with it with zero expectations, even if she wanted to be just friends she still has alot of other girls she's friends with, some of who might be single
/r/seduction22/03/17 03:25 PM
4

You've already lost and the damage you've done is irreversible. Nothing you do will salvage anything, move the fuck on and leave her alone before you do something stupid and land yourself in jail
/r/seduction22/03/17 03:15 PM
1

Guys are just competitive by nature, this happens at every social gathering ever where there are single guys on the prowl. The best thing you can do is just not let it get to you. Be super chill with the guys and be friendly and outgoing with everyone. Chances are the other guys will end up being shot down anyway
/r/seduction22/03/17 03:10 PM
1

You should be patting yourself on the back, any interaction is a good interaction no matter what! You approached her with no expectations, and you both had a decent little chat which she probably enjoyed just as much as you did. Hell you managed to do more than I can do on most days lmao You will have many more missed opportunities, even as you get more experienced its just a fact of life.
/r/seduction22/03/17 02:43 PM
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OP are you for real? She outright blocked you on every social media platform possible and you think she's playing hard to get?!?! She clearly doesn't like you, stop wasting your time and energy on her. If she was just playing games with you, would you really want someone who fucks with your feelings lile that?
/r/seduction22/03/17 02:30 PM
2

Started reading it a couple days ago, only at the beginning part so far but so far I'm liking it. His thoughts are very close to my own, I like the idea of not having to change fundamentally who I am to get better at attracting women. I've never really been a fan of PUA stuff and the "game playing" that most modern dating advice articles/books/forums/etc tell you to do
/r/seduction22/03/17 02:25 PM
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Get out of the mindset that you have now, you're not a sucker for being attracted to a girl, you're just a normal human being who experiences attraction. Don't put her up on a pedestal either, she just like you is a normal human being as well, not a divine being. As for letting her know that you are attracted, the best way is to directly compliment her but don't go too overboard or shower with compliments. Keep it simple (i.e. That watch/necklace/bracelet/earrings look really nice on you), again…
/r/seduction20/03/17 12:48 AM
1

It's called a dip
/r/seduction16/03/17 08:33 PM
1

People probably won't pay too much attention, but in my experience girls tend to ask "who are you here with?" To some girls being a loner tends to be a turn off, but then again to others they might find it attractive that you're confident enough to go to a club and give zero fucks. Just make sure you know how to have fun without getting a girl
/r/seduction16/03/17 02:51 PM
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Clubbing is about as superficial as it gets when meeting girls, unless you're a celebrity or have the social skills of a god the you'll be seen as a loner or a creep. Try something else like taking dance classes, going to meetups, going to school events, going on Tinder, etc.
/r/seduction16/03/17 01:47 PM
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