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i agree with this. if you feel sexy with men de-centered from your life, i see no problem. if your dress makes YOU feel sexy when you’re home alone, let it. it’s only a problem when you seek out being sexy for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:49 AM
13

“Boys will be boys!!” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:38 PM
192

Can’t believe they talk about women like this. We aren’t human to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:44 AM
1

Any update OP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:11 AM
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But I have no idea what is confirmed and what’s not and I don’t really care tbh 🙈 I’m just concerned about Gigi’s baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:40 AM
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All I know is that he’s been charged with 4 counts of harassment and has been sentenced to probation and anger management lol. He and Yolanda allegedly had a huge fight, calling her a “f-ing Dutch sl*t” and there’s rumours he “struck” her. Zayn and Gigi have split and his record label also allegedly dropped him due to smoking incredibly strong cannabis to “cope” and saying he’s impossible to control💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:36 AM
170

Like sperm isn’t the most revolting thing in the world 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:32 AM
327

Her: “You’re too short for me, sorry” Them always: “She was a 3 out of 10 anyways ugly bitch didn’t even want to date her anyways dodged a bullet”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:30 AM
22

Glad we’ve learnt how WRONG that is!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:20 PM
53

They’ve been together since 2014/16, has hinted multiple times she’d like to get married, yet now they have a child with no ring. She’s a forever girlfriend. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p49ugh/celebrity_forever_girlfriends_baby_mama_culture/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:18 PM
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It’s not your fault, you were manipulated and pressured into sex with these guys. Society has also brainwashed you to think that it is normal to be treated that way. You are NOT the same person as you were back then, you would never deal with that now because you know your worth!! This is a reflection of THEM, not you. Every time a cringy memory surfaces, remind yourself that you forgive yourself and you are so much stronger now. Think about how far you’ve come and be proud 💕 none of us here jud…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:58 AM
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I feel so bad for Perrie, I’ve been through that, but I levelled up. I wish she did too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:41 AM
332

This is a great strategy. It will show how a guy acts when he feels “in danger” or scared. Will he stick by your side or run away? Will he push you out of the way to get away from something? Will he protect you? If he doesn’t protect you in a damn haunted house, he won’t protect you ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:39 AM
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She says “there’s no way to know him unless you move in!” Or “if you get engaged then move in, you don’t want to have to call off the engagement if it goes wrong”. I will show her the FDS official post on that then I will be done if she still doesn’t understand 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:31 AM
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Our mother is a pickme so I think what she has said has stuck 😬 I’m just glad I have the FDS mindset and hopefully my sister realises it too someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:04 AM
1

Mmm I see. I can only hope she understands one day but I can’t keep telling her. Even our mother is telling her it’s fine to move in with a bf!! So I think it goes in one ear and out the other when it comes from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:56 AM
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The thing is, she understands and listens to every FDS rule except this one, which is why it makes me frustrated! She doesn’t have a boyfriend which is why I’m trying to tell her so she knows before (if) she gets one. But of course, I can only tell her once and hope she understands one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:55 AM
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She doesn’t have a boyfriend, she abides by or understands every FDS rule except this one which is why it makes me frustrated. Our own mother tells her it’s fine to move in with a bf so I’m just glad I’ve learnt it’s wrong!! So you are right, nothing I do will help until she unfortunately experiences it herself it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:54 AM
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I need to convince her to read the handbook, but at the end of the day, there’s only so much I can tell / show her before she decides to put herself first. With our own mother saying it’s fine to move in with a bf, there’s not much I can do. It’s just hard when it’s your sister because you want the best for them and would hate to see them get used and abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:08 AM
2

That’s horrible 😡 I’m SO glad you’re there for your animals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:41 AM
12

actually one of the “i hate myself” videos was posted just two months before this video. regardless, i hope she’s doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 03:35 AM
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Staying with a man known for alleged cheating for 6 years with no engagement and then getting pregnant isn’t exactly HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:49 AM
2

He’s just realised after 43 years that he’s actually the victim after objectifying and abusing women all of his life. He finally realised women are people so, good for him? 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:02 AM
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He’s probably just saying this because he realised he wants a woman to settle for him now to get a wife 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:02 AM
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Sorry but I don’t benefit from anything a guy has to offer when they prioritise their ejaculation over women’s safety etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:54 PM
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it’s like “porn is bad because it made me unable to ejaculate 😢” cool, porn abuses and exploits women and is incredibly unrealistic, but they don’t acknowledge that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:43 PM
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But yet again, they don’t get the correct message. They think it’s wrong because of the effects on men and their ability to ejaculate and never acknowledge the harmful effects on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:36 PM
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Boo hoo if you didn’t realise it before the age of 43, it’s because you didn’t want to and you didn’t care. All I see is HIM being the victim and not the women who he made suffer. “It’s demeaning for men” give me a break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:33 PM
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“I cOuLdNt giVe a dAmN iF I eVeR sAw yOu aGaiN” yet is texting her while drunk because he was thinking about her 🤡 anyways, block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:28 PM
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You’re totally right, usually it’s one of the first things they say 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:33 PM
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She has many video titles such as “I hate myself” or “I hate my body” so I hope she’s not rushing into dating when she stated she’s in the process of healing, I’m also concerned when she stated in a past video that she wishes she was the type of person to have one night stands 😢💔 (she did mention that she knows it’s negative for her, but I wish she didn’t want it any other way) she seems like a very strong and positive young lady who is aware of her past toxic situation so I hope she continues t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:34 PM
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Arrogant scrotes do and they play it off as a “joke”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:14 PM
78

If she’s fairly popular on social media, guys probably know how to “win” her over and clearly, it never works if she has a new guy every 6 months. Why are you even following her? It’s obviously impacting you negatively. The handbook states everything you need to know about attracting high value men and high value dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:07 AM
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So we should be telling women to drop men when they ask them this, not drop the topic all together. Women discussing their worth is never “beating a dead horse”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:56 AM
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You think it’s not relevant anymore? The only thing we take from this is to leave him the second he asks. We don’t answer to this question. Doesn’t mean it’s not a relevant subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:57 AM
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I’d love to know who the OP was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:24 AM
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It reflects on how bad HE is, not you!! Please always remember that ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:58 AM
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And this, ladies, is the result of mass production “teen / step sister” porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:52 PM
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I read nothing but facts!! HV women do not fold for LV men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:51 PM
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That’s great!! All of us here just want the best for you and want you to remember to put yourself first and live your life a little as you’re so young. Along with listening to his actions more than his words! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:36 PM
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Thanks for clearing that up!! Bit of a personal question so I do not mind at all if you don’t want to answer, but does he he use protection? Just wondering since your mind went to pregnancy once you missed your period x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:21 PM
5

Still the same guy that gave you a pregnancy scare tho?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:46 PM
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Girl people are just trying to help you. You asked for advice or anecdotes and not all of us have anecdotes so pls don’t shut down people’s advice, we’re all here to try help each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:55 PM
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Nothing wrong with that :) I wrote my comment in a rush on the bus and added some info that I thought would help you since you did mention you were looking for advice. Just trying to help :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:45 PM
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You mentioned you always felt men lose interest in you when sex wasn’t in sight, they’re obviously LV and you shouldn’t blame yourself. A HVM will want to advance emotional intimacy just as much as you do. FDS advises that women wait minimum 3 months into the relationship to have sex with a guy. It’s all about vetting for a HVM, vetting that man, and seeing if he’s worth being intimate with you in any way. You need a strong base of communication to bond emotionally and you need to keep your boun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:13 PM
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They have to get up to “prove” it 💀 like, they can’t just ignore the comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:36 AM
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I’m slightly worried because judging by her post history, this could be the same bf that gave her a pregnancy scare and was worried about him manipulating and love bombing her, I’m concerned that she’s so invested in these plans with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:14 AM
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We love Lisa for giving him a death stare and continuing with her day 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:34 AM
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I’m giving this advice to her because from her post history, this is allegedly the same guy that gave her a pregnancy scare and she was worried about him love bombing and manipulating her. There is no rush when she should still be heavily vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:52 AM
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First of all, I think you’re VERY young to be considering marriage right now, especially to a 20 year old guy. Secondly, you should not move in with him unless you have a ring 💍 otherwise, he’s getting the benefits of a wife without you being a wife. Live a little, girl there is no rush for marriage. You’re so young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:04 AM
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Not sad for us, though!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:11 AM
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Doesn’t exist anymore don’t you know women love it when men subconsciously abuse them on the 1st date, she’ll come back for more!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:10 AM
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83k likes 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:08 AM
138

Insecurity at its finest. They can tell us that our breasts aren’t big enough and that fat asses are all that matters yet can’t handle being called bald 🤡 so defensive, they don’t even have to read the comment lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:35 AM
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Yep… She already knows the answer!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:32 AM
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Yes!!! Go have a girls night!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:32 AM
12

Exactly, especially if they’re trying to tell you something sexual or ‘joke’ about it💀 like “what does that mean?” And they squirm so hard trying to explain because they know it’s wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:24 AM
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Even if the date isn’t going well, if he offers to pay before you leave, let him!! She continued to date this guy after this so idk why she even made the tiktok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:26 PM
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If you’re uncomfortable now you’ll be uncomfortable forever. This will never work, he’s publicly liking pictures of half naked women. Shows he has no respect for you. Block and delete and go have a girls night 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:20 PM
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They’re so sensitive and insecure about it 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:18 PM
97

Gosh the “brother” and “tall men” ones are GOLD. They are so sensitive they would absolutely flip 😂 totally using these
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:59 PM
183

Pickmes can’t call other LV women “easy” when they themselves stay with a LVM, cheating asshole who uses their body when he wants it 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:58 PM
3

I also think parents think with their sons “oh boys will be boys! It’s natural to watch” which is SO wrong and harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:56 PM
4

I remember playing online fashion or makeup games probably when I was about the same age as you were and I remember seeing advertisements of those “sexy” half naked IMVU characters 🙄 why is that on a children’s website!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:14 PM
4

I cannot believe children 15 years and probably younger… are exposed to such graphic and horrendous content. They’re MINORS. This 15 year old boy is one out of many that did (or does) have a porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:06 PM
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😂😂😂 they’re so sensitive!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:20 AM
18

Maybe bra size?? That’s all I can think of 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:16 AM
42

“I travel for work” 🤡 bye. “jUsT sOmEoNe tO cHaT wiTh” 🤡 sure buddy. Hope no woman goes near him with those dirty fingernails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:43 AM
132

God it’s so young. 15!!! A minor being exposed to such graphic stuff. Makes me devastated. Children these days are getting into such sexually violent relationships with each other because they’re exposed to it so young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:12 AM
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Vet vet vet :) if you find someone that is into harmful sexual culture, then they’re not the right person for you! If you put yourself out there on queer dating apps, and they try push you down or change your boundaries because you don’t like that stuff, then they shouldn’t be in your life anyway! That culture won’t benefit you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:41 AM
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What type of spaces? If they’re into kinky and poly stuff then you really don’t want to be involved with them, right? As long as you and those around you accept you for who you are, that’s all that matters isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:07 AM
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They think “no nut november” is something to be proud of, like woohoo!! One month out of the year 🙄 not to mention how many of them brag about when they fail that like “dudes this random instagram girl in leggings made me fail” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:04 AM
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Obviously they don’t care, that’s why we don’t date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:53 AM
1

Hugs to your dogs if you have any too!! 😁🐶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:11 AM
40

This is a great example!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:41 PM
408

I’m glad… but men also need to stop watching porn because of the industry and exploitation and everything else horrible about it, not just because “ass doesn’t matter that much”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:59 PM
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That’s what we are here for, so we stop thinking like that 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:02 PM
3

She will find out. Meanwhile, you need to block him girl. He doesn’t deserve to see how well you’re doing without him. Why would you want a “manipulative f**kboi” to have access to your life again?? He will probably try to contact you at some stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:25 PM
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Men think we need them when in reality, when you look at it, how many of us have had an ex that moves on super fast? They constantly need to be with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:12 PM
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I wish you nothing but the best and most fulfilling healing process ♥️ you are so brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:48 AM
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She’s fine thankfully ♥️ she just needs even more care now that she’s a senior dog and I’m glad I can be there to keep her healthy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 09:04 AM
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Just be careful, even though you’ve met them before you still have no idea how someone is when it’s just you two alone xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 09:02 AM
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I’m happy for you that you stated your boundaries, saw the red flags, and know your worth for no second date!! ♥️ BUT, next time please don’t bring men that you just met to your place, especially when you aren’t in a relationship and are dealing with panic attacks, you have no idea what could happen and we need to stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 08:21 AM
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Well I’m not gonna settle for a man who watches it! If that means I never find any HV men because of that, then I’m completely happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 08:16 AM
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Yes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 07:24 AM
12

Report it. I did. This advice given is not beneficial to women because we don’t tolerate porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:52 AM
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OP has already accepted his previous porn use in their relationship, so he will of course watch it again because there is no consequence - she said she’ll give him another chance 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:51 AM
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That’s why we vet for men who don’t watch it to begin with xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:57 AM
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We are. This post goes against everything FDS stands for about porn in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:55 AM
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I think you’re saying what we’re all thinking!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:49 AM
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So he admitted he watches it but says he’ll stop since you brought it up, and you’re ok with him having “slip ups”. I think you’re gaslighting yourself and I worry for you since you have already accepted his previous porn use. Unfortunately, now he is aware that you don’t like him watching porn, so he will only hide it better when he has “slip ups” and if you find out, he knows there will be no consequences because you said you’ll give him another chance 🤷‍♀️ “he didn’t know better” just shows e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:49 AM
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My dad too, he also disregards his pets health. One of his dogs is like 13 and has all sorts of lumps on her and refuses to take her to get checked out. Thank god once I got my license I could finally take the pets to the vet myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:48 AM
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I hope she sees this… and 19k likes wtf. He really thinks this is making him look good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:15 AM
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You dress like the people you want to attract, is a motto i like. It is your absolute first impression after all. If you don’t dress like a high value woman, you won’t attract high value people. But most importantly, dress for YOU, unfortunately men will sexualize you no matter what if they want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:44 PM
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Huge turn off lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:40 PM
65

She needs therapy and not a rapper bf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:50 AM
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Huh? I’m saying if you’re dating someone and you QUESTION whether their female friend is “just a friend” then you shouldn’t be with them. I’m not saying he can’t have female friends, I’m saying if you have to worry about her, then it’s for a reason. You’re completely missing the point. If you’re worried about his female bestie, it’s for a reason. FDS advice is follow your intuition. Moral of the story, don’t date lvm and you don’t have to deal with it. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:46 AM
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i googled it, looks like she’s an instagram model that boys “thirst” over. one of the first things that came up said “shes known for her sensual body” 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:16 AM
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can’t believe she fell for him when that was the first thing he said to her 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:14 AM
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she must be extremely insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:13 AM
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have you seen their interview where megan asks him questions about herself… he keeps trying to make sex jokes it’s disgusting. lvm. and they had sex on the second date so, that tells me all i need to know about their relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:13 AM
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it’s not strict!! it’s being a responsible parent!! i wish all parents were like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:10 AM
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the guy should peruse you otherwise you have no idea what he’s in it for. you can tell straight away how a man feels about you by the way they approach you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:09 AM
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can you IMAGINE if it were the other way around. “she’s a crazy bitch” “she didn’t give him enough sex” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:07 AM
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they will always make it our fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:06 AM
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i hate they way the world is. way too scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:05 AM
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jealousy? if you’re dating someone and have to question whether their female friend is just a friend and nothing more, then they’re probably more than friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:01 AM
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they are either raising monsters or they are extremely insecure women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:57 AM
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Aww good luck queen!! Sounds good so far!!💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:48 PM
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I mean, if you even have to question if they are “just a friend” then they probably aren’t 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:16 AM
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See, I struggle to read stuff like that. Men are horrible and disgusting so that doesn’t shock me, it’s the WOMEN being despicable pickmes. Why any woman would side with scrotes over a vulnerable woman is beyond me. No one is there for us in society and so I just hate when women turn against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 08:20 AM
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Levelling up your lounge wear makes a huge difference!! It’s like self care! why only dress nice when you leave the house, right? 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:14 AM
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Why are men exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:11 AM
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he thinks nothing of you before and once you have a glow up, he thinks you’re something now? doesn’t sound very HV to me, shows he has no interest other than your physical appearance. However, if he treated you well and with respect before, that’s different. Overall I wouldn’t consider this HV behaviour of him UNLESS your glow up is from a LVW to a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:33 PM
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Yeah all I got from this is “don’t be fwb” lol. Can’t deal with their crap if you don’t go there in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:42 AM
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Take a screenshot of his threat and go to the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:38 AM
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Time to heal and focus on you ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:54 AM
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“if you change your mind, i’ll be here” girl no tf you won’t be. block this scrote. i love how he admitted he isn’t attracted the natural woman and only porn stars 😂 what a loser!! you’re perfectly beautiful with your acne, he’s just trying to tear you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:01 AM
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The classic “you’re insecure for not letting your bf have female friends” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:47 PM
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I’d like to know too! Perhaps a lot may be intuition or the way he acts when you begin to be intimate, but there’s definitely got to be some strategies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:47 PM
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Pickmes don’t understand that most of us are genuinely happy and safer alone 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 10:44 PM
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Enjoy it girl!! Have fun, keep vetting and most importantly, stay safe!! 💕 love seeing posts like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:22 AM
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Way too many red flags in, what, a 3 minute scene? 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:20 AM
5

Me too girl, me too. I was like Nell you deserve better 😭 it’s good it was only a small part of the series though. We didn’t have to suffer too long 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:19 AM
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It sucks because the series is literally SO good, thankfully that “love story” is about 10mins of the whole series tho lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:18 AM
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Oh girl… I think the more you look the worse it will get, which is just more motivation for you to get tf out when you can!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:27 AM
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You sound like a badass queen who isn’t afraid to speak her mind. I know we should all aspire to be like that but you just kinda inspire me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:25 AM
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Not worth it, BUT, I’ve never had sex with a HVM so I have no other experience. I’m sure if it was with a HVM that cares about me and that I trust and feel like he deserves to be intimate with me, that it would be much more enjoyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:21 AM
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The answer to why they do this: porn. As soon as women in porn say they’re “about to orgasm”, the guys just jackhammer their fingers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:20 AM
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Pretty much all of them. Im watching the “haunting of hill house” series again and I can’t believe I used to think it was cute that Arthur asked his PATIENT out on a coffee date during her appointment 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 01:44 AM
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No you’re just different!! he actually got all those other women off my spitting on them and repeatedly smacking their extremely sensitive areas!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:37 PM
18

I love that for you girls ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:35 PM
12

Can’t believe there are women still going to clubs, it’s way too dangerous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:32 PM
2

I’m glad you know better now. The healing process starts and it’s time to focus on you and your worth 💕 keep us updated, all the best xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:32 PM
5

Honey judging from your post history, it’s time for a break from relationships too, it’s time to heal and find yourself and your WORTH 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:08 PM
6

This ♥️ we’ve grown and all we can do is hope they deleted them and know that we would never do that again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:07 PM
7

Learn from it. Never do it again. Just forget about it honestly you don’t wanna risk provoking him. If he finds a new girl it’s 99% likely he will delete them anyway. If you were a minor then he has possession of child porn, if you weren’t, you can still contact the police or his manager etc in terms of revenge porn if he ever leaked them. It’s time to let it go, know that you have grown from it, and take care of yourself. Many of us have been in this situation and the best thing to do it NOT le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:03 PM
7

Telling the landlord that you have a family emergency and need to move is a great idea!! Best of luck, try anything at this point, hey <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:18 AM
1

Why have you stayed with him for so long if you don’t mind me asking? Is he manipulative or did you just not know any better until finding FDS? <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:17 AM
30

“Oh he just forgets to pick up his dirty underwear…” “Oh he just doesn’t know that I don’t like it when he speaks to me like that…” He does know. And he knows he can get away with it if you let him. That’s why we DON’T let him get away with it. 👋 we don’t put up with it in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:21 AM
9

Girl he’s only apologising because of your reaction. It sounds like if you were fine with strippers he would have them. Like you said, he’s only considering kicking that guy off the wedding party because YOU want him to AND HE STILL DEFENDS HIM. You are not engaged to a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:32 AM
367

That’s disgusting. Tell me you have no respect for your body without telling me you have no respect for your body!! Not to mention how DANGEROUS this is sleeping with complete strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:27 AM
10

“A man needs to feel needed” = a man wants to be in control and wants a woman to depend on him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:14 AM
10

I can tell the scrotes are SEETHING at this 😂 I’m so happy for you, OP!!! Enjoy it 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:54 AM
63

Men are the only ones who believe they are protectors 🙄 I have faith in none of them. No way in hell I’d run up to another man if I was in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:40 AM
9

OP if you leave him, I’m sure his true self will come out and you will be so thankful you dodged that bullet early!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:02 AM
11

Can’t be a HVM if his friend is a LVM. Don’t marry this guy, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:00 AM
29

This was my last relationship too. Thought “fighting for it” meant we had something strong 🤡 I’m thankful every day that I realised my worth and left that scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:37 AM
16

Wow, you probably found the only HVM on those sites 😂 happy for you OP it sounds wonderful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:35 AM
62

But it’s our fault because we purchased the product… right? OR we provoked it, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:34 AM
133

We get taught and brainwashed through media and music that love is “hard” and we should “fight for him” which is absolute rubbish. Why waste time on a difficult relationship with… some dude. If the relationship is a struggle, it’s not worth it. Put YOURSELF first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:31 AM
83

This sub is just so important to women. So so important and valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 11:59 AM
11

It’s pure projection. “You’ll end up alone” is not our biggest fear - it’s theirs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:55 PM
68

Sorry but I will not be “making seductive eyes” or “whispering freaky stuff” in his ear if he won’t give me an answer to if he watches porn. If he can’t answer the question that’s enough of an answer to me. The rest of the info I agree 100%!! Been there before - never again!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:51 AM
42

I feel the “thank god” part so much… can NOT imagine the person I’d be if I didn’t walk away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:03 AM
2

Have a look at this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ppvg3a/ladies_i_have_a_question_and_in_need_of_advice/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf It’s pretty similar and there’s great answers there that helped me ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:18 AM
8

“It’s polite to reciprocate” not when you don’t enjoy doing it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:15 PM
6

yes!! it’s like why? why do they hate cats? there’s no reason, even if they’re allergic there’s no reason to hate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:02 AM
3

They don’t mean literally. It’s an exercise to consider how that man would raise a child, what would they teach a young boy? Would they introduce terrible habits? Would they be a good role model? If you don’t want kids then think about it with pets, how does he treat small and innocent animals, is he rough with them etc. this post is about vetting for a partner AND vetting for a father for your potential kids… if you want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:20 PM
6

Then consider how he will treat animals or your pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:17 PM
34

I’m guessing it’s just when you make a post, provide some detail and useful or beneficial commentary relevant to the post / the sub. For example, don’t just post a Twitter screenshot and caption it “😐” you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:31 AM
5

I’m so happy! Missed you lovely ladies so much 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:30 AM
15

A dinner date is great for vetting irl, how they eat, how they carry a convo, how they dress, how they talk to the waiters, if they wanna go 50/50 on the bill etc. But if you’re interested in going on a date with the guy, your vetting should have found things you are compatible with so he should be able to plan something worthy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:18 AM
33

“Weird is a good thing” and so the grooming for ‘experimental’ BDSM begins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:16 AM
29

There’s like praise around being a wife these days. “baby momma” too 🙄 why are we praising women who take care of the worst men? Seems like a punishment to me! I think they’re often the type of women who dream of marriage and their whole goal in life is to find a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:13 AM
30

100% agree, her boundaries are obviously very weak right now and the last thing she needs is two guys catching on and love bombing her vulnerable self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:43 AM
50

Your ex slept on your couch? You didn’t feel safe kicking him out but let him in? Sounds like your boundaries are quite weak since you’re vulnerable after the break up. I think you should spend some time focusing on yourself right now. It almost sounds like love bombing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:50 PM
28

I personally like to avoid being sexualised at all costs but pickmes like to profit off of it and invite it. No thanks it makes me WAY too uncomfortable and I respect myself and my image!! You gain NO power from being sexualised willingly, just attention (and a lot worse) from the worst types of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:17 AM
10

I’d love a nice car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 10:36 PM
4

There’s your lesson: NEVER AGAIN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:49 PM
3

We forgive ourselves because we grow from it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:48 PM
5

The lurkers are MAD at this one 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:47 PM
5

yOuRe jUsT vAniLlA 🙄 But seriously, I’m glad I never had a hookup despite what the media and school showed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:44 PM
20

Ugh I’d say he’s moved on super quick with an unfortunate naive woman like I was. He’s out of my life though which is all that matters to me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:05 PM
9

I haven’t seen a man I’m physically attracted to in probably years (not counting celebs lol). And not even just with facial features, most men just genuinely don’t care about their hygiene and appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:33 AM
94

My LVM ex once told me how he wanted to have an*l with his ex and so she allowed it, then proceeded to tell me how bad she stunk down there and how he almost gagged. And I was like?? This idiot really thought it was going to be a porn scene with her. I feel so bad for her, he’s a manipulative asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:28 AM
32

This is my nightmare. The men, the dirtiness, the filthy socks. Yuck!! And they all look high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:20 AM
78

Why do they feel the need to post this online to strangers? That’s what gets me. “I’ve never told her this ANS never will” yet tells strangers on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:18 AM
60

Precisely, if we need men so bad, why are they the ones always trying to chase us 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:04 PM
184

This is what men cannot get through their head. They think women legitimately need men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:56 AM
22

“Some of you value your damn pets more than men” is this supposed to be a negative thing? 😂 “You will put little to no effort in finding and keeping a man” maybe that’s because… we don’t want or need a man? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:55 AM
54

Men are so disgusting. This is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:45 AM
3

Doctors and pilots and musicians that tour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:54 PM
65

And it’s not like we just dated them, we really gave our all and tried make it work because we didn’t know better 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:47 AM
1

Sharing in your removed comment to “expect porn use slip ups” in a relationship is not useful to anyone here since we don’t tolerate porn. Other women seeing your experience might think it’s ok to tolerate slip ups when FDS is against this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:54 AM
2

Porn is harmful to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:50 AM
2

It’s not a threat, just not beneficial advice to be sharing. You keep contradicting yourself. You said “all men watch porn and the ones who don’t are lying” yet you say your husband stopped watching it just cuz you asked him and he still had slip ups. The advice here is that we don’t tolerate men who watch porn, we don’t date them or try to “fix” them. Which is why I’m saying this to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:45 AM
2

I think you should not post this info on FDS since it is not beneficial to women. We don’t tolerate men who watch porn here. You just said yourself that all men watch porn so you’re pretty much saying your husband does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:43 AM
2

I realise it, which is why they’re not in my life anymore. People have different boundaries, yes. But tolerating porn should not be one of them. For MANY reasons. Slip ups only prove their addiction. Have you read the FDS handbook? Your husband has had frequent porn slip ups so what’s to say he just lies about it now 🤷‍♀️ any HVM wouldn’t watch porn as they know the emotional and physical damage it causes, not to mention the issue of exploitation and much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:31 AM
57

Same as you, OP. I was brainwashed into thinking that the only thing that mattered was his pleasure and at the expense of me being humiliated or hurt. Along with letting crude, sex or abuse jokes slide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:39 AM
63

YES the only women who end up with these scrotes, unfortunately, are either incredibly naive women, or women with no standards or respect for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:37 AM
100

Honestly. Like he probably does this all day and is frustrated at this point like “hurry up”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:36 AM
19

We all know what he’s looking for 🙄 this is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:35 AM
45

Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:34 AM
186

Firstly, no man will take you seriously if he’s gotten what he’s came for - sex on the second date. This shows you have zero boundaries and he gets what he wants and leaves. Secondly, I would have walked up to his “girlfriend” and told her!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:32 AM
40

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:32 PM
73

Further proving that men don’t respect the simplest of boundaries 😂 If a man messages her, I’m sure she will block. She has a right to keep her DMs open to give advice to fellow FDS ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:10 PM
5

yOuRe jUsT iNsEcUrE iF yOu dOnT lEt yOuR pArTnEr hAvE fEmALe fRiEndS 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:16 AM
24

The matching outfits, the little dance 🥺 made me happy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:15 AM
17

Be thankful that he’s GONE. You are free and he is no longer in your life. It’s done. It’s time to give yourself all the love you tried to give someone else that refused it and emotionally scarred you. YOU don’t hate yourself. YOU love you and that’s all that matters now. It’s time to heal. No matter how amazing of a person you are, his actions reflect him. Not you. He would treat anyone like that. It’s on him. And he’s gone now!!! It’s a healing process, let it happen ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:13 AM
153

LITERALLY. Men are boys these days. Incredibly spoiled by their parents and society. Everything is handed to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:10 AM
69

They said they accept messages from women looking for FDS advice, just not messages from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:09 AM
5

Oh it’s beautiful!! What a nice gift
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:36 PM
4

Always love getting that little blue bag!! Even better when someone else gives it to me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:35 PM
8

That’s freaking creepy and weird not to mention illegal… some women have ZERO standards at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:32 PM
8

You just gave him advice on how to hide his behaviour better next time though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:11 PM
312

I see nothing but facts. They spend their “youth” having community dick and once they’re old, smelly and alone, they continue to chase young women thinking they’re wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:48 AM
105

Just block. What’s a paragraph gonna do? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:46 AM
1

Girl did i write this post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:56 PM
68

Those girls next to him know. No one seems excited to see her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:28 AM
54

What they don’t realise is it’s not because white women that don’t want them… it’s because they are creepy, stinky men that no woman wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:11 AM
11

Block him girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:31 PM
6

why tolerate the slip ups though? genuinely curious. if i was dating someone and they said they stopped watching porn yet had multiple slip ups AND was affecting the sex, it’s his problem not mine and it’s not my responsibility to “fix” them. why deal with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:16 PM
7

a truly HVM will not watch porn in or out of a relationship due to the damage it causes and the horrible exploitation. discussing it when you feel comfortable or ready is probably the best way, imo earlier the better so you aren’t wasting your time too. if they say they don’t watch it we have to find out why and what their stance is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:09 PM
3

I just mentioned it since FDS recommends waiting at least 3 months in a relationship before having sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:11 AM
8

You’ve been intimate after only a month? I hope he’s in it for the right reasons OP. But you’re 100% right, all you can do is vet and update us with hopefully a success story!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:14 AM
5

I just hate how he speaks to my mother. I can never just sit there and let him manipulate her when she stands up for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:13 AM
13

perfect. i’ll probably have to use it today lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:31 PM
19

Icks literally sometimes keep me up at night making me think WHY did I put up with that!! Yuck! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:38 PM
6

Good luck!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:37 PM
23

If he’s been watching porn before you started dating that’s not a very HVM trait to me, but that being said, keep vetting and if you eventually get to the point of being sexually intimate with him, that will really show if he’s pornsick. Best of luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:36 PM
15

MY DAD DOES THIS URGGGGGH it hurts my brain it’s so undermining
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:34 PM
44

My own father has those group chats at work… he’s their BOSS yet allows it and says “I dOnT lOoK aT tHeM” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:33 PM
33

Exactly. I think it’s ridiculous that women stop vetting once they’re married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:24 PM
19

If a man wants to marry you… he will propose and marry you. Otherwise you’re just convenient and he thinks he’s secured you. (Unless you’ve already discussed you don’t want marriage but that’s not relevant in this case lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:21 PM
24

I’m the same. I just can’t be bothered to go through the long process of getting to know someone and trusting someone who could even get close to being intimate with me. I’m repulsed by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:46 AM
60

THIS. I thought I was asexual, then lesbian, but I’m probably just bi and repulsed by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:44 AM
57

And some women still wouldn’t consider it cheating 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:17 AM
36

“tHinKs iM diRtY” scrotes always have to make it about them 😐 if he can’t feel any pleasure from using a condom that’s literally his problem that he caused. “i’m honestly a little offended” you know, you could just, leave her and not have sex with her??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:43 PM
115

she thought she got picked 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:42 PM
26

and the best part - we don’t need it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:41 PM
159

its disgusting. women can never feel comfortable. that girl is a complete stranger away from everyone yet is STILL being harassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:40 PM
10

Good job!! Best decision!! Another thing to remember though is drinking dates is not always the best idea. Definitely not the ideal date for a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:24 AM
7

This is so embarrassing!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:54 PM
152

their minds have been trained to believe being degraded is beneficial sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:50 PM
46

yep cuz they wanna get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:49 PM
575

Men will never understand “fuckzoned” because they think women benefit from the sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:24 AM
1

she’s asking for a random guy to cum in her because she wants a baby… on tinder. just seems odd to me and risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:22 AM
3

That’s true, I’d love to see the users other tweets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:25 PM
36

the fact that she is asking the internet means she is uncomfortable and feels wrong about it. she needs to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:50 AM
7

nothing that reminds you of love more than picking up his dirty shorts every day 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:48 AM
297

i see SO many couples when i’m out where the woman is dressed beautifully and the man looks like he rolled out of bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:46 AM
11

that’s as fucking disgusting and creepy as it gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:44 AM
2

wow some women are so desperate!!! this is just embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:40 AM
174

I once knew a sex worker. They lay out their rules (what they can and can’t do to them) before engaging with the “client”. If the rules were broken… what were they gonna do, tell the police?? That NEVER worked. Doesn’t sound very empowering to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:35 AM
209

All the awards 💀💀 the bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:56 AM
3

Oh yes doing his chores. How romantic 🙄 the bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:59 AM
135

WITHOUT even asking, too 🤢 the porn sick entitlement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:03 AM
44

Eww thirst traps… and on tiktok?! You dodged a bullet, girl ♥️ protect those boundaries forever, you have them for a reason!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:02 AM
24

Was definitely a lesson I learned the hard way. NEVER again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:01 AM
61

“wOmEn oWe uS sEx”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:08 AM
7

I hate everything about this. Creeps and rapists. That’s all they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:07 AM
98

I will never forgive the media for trying to make Jojo look like a BAD role model for children. She is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:50 AM
159

That’s disgusting!!! I work with children that age and just can’t understand how people can sexualize those innocent children. They are literally children!! I just want to protect all of them :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:48 AM
30

If she can’t afford to do the responsible thing and get a sperm donor she probably shouldn’t be having a child. Tinder is no place to find a sperm donor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:53 AM
63

Because the average man can lie about their existing number of kids and std records 😂 plus who knows what kind of genetic disorders he could possess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:14 AM
241

“and be submissive” what a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:10 AM
64

“Serious enquires only” on Tinder… good luck Sara.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:09 AM
205

Why doesn’t she just go to a donor clinic? Aren’t there tons of requirements and checks men have to do before donating sperm??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:31 AM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:03 AM
2

Definitely, I’ll probably see how I’m doing after 3 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:31 AM
5

thanks for the advice, might see how I go off of it for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:08 AM
7

Wish I saw this earlier. I almost cried reading the comments. That kind of heat down the neck, stinging type of tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:38 PM
26

Who’s gonna tell her it’s not feminism when it only benefits men 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:37 PM
20

Omlllll reading this pickme energy actually triggered me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:36 PM
27

HE can have shit behaviour, not me!! HE can be known as a cheater, not me!! And who are you gonna cheat on him with… another scrote?? Because that’s the only type of guy that would have a one night stand. Tiktok breeds pick-mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:34 PM
64

“After date #2, I went back to his ✨place😉✨” = they had sex on date 2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:32 PM
73

“I don’t deserve you” yep, you don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:31 PM
43

Or if he says “my friends / family think I’m oUt oF yOuR leAgUe” you are, say bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:31 PM
347

Brian reminded me so much of Chris Watts in the bodycam footage. I think Brian took notes from Chris tho and stayed away from the media - that was Chris’s downfall. The coward hides instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:29 PM
508

I feel sick. Another woman gone from the actions of a man. Every comment section I’ve seen is filled with “well he didn’t just snap, she provoked him!!” WHAT DOES IT MATTER EVEN IF SHE DID?? Poor girl looked terrified in that bodycam footage, anyways. Why do people always have to make the woman the bad person. She was MURDERED. This whole case feels very Chris Watts to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:51 AM
1

It was changed back thankfully xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:22 AM
13

That is so embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:42 AM
7

Rest In Peace Eno 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:04 AM
16

100% Rape RUINS lives!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:03 AM
30

I broke up with him and he blocked me! Made my life easier 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:00 AM
3

Don’t beat yourself up, I can see you already know what was wrong and your body is dealing with the trauma. I saw your update #4 💔 and I wish you the best from this point forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:26 AM
1

oh this is a good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:32 PM
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Go no idea!! Just woke up and it was back to newbie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:29 PM
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Step 1 moving forward. DONT contact your LVM / NVM ex’s!! They don’t care. The only thing they take from these long paragraphs is how to hide their behaviour better next time. Since this sounds like it is taking over your life and doing horrible things to your mind and body, therapy may be a good choice for you to regain some strength back and learn that he is the the one in the wrong NOT you. Also, this is a learning experience, look at all his behaviour and never deal with it from anyone again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:59 AM
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So many women think that once they’re in a relationship, everything is safe and sound. Not the case and we ALL know that. Dating, or boyfriend, or husband: Vet vet vet. It doesn’t mean constant spying or letting it get in the way of the relationship, it means remaining alert for potential red flags, acting on those red flags when necessary, and keeping your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:32 AM
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We should never and WILL never be ashamed of being a part of FDS. But on the other hand it’s just scary the lengths they will go to doxx you. And if I can hide my identity just a little more to try avoid that then I will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:33 AM
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I will check it out ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 05:00 AM
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I can already tell that the emotions I feel don’t take over my body as much now, it’s more of a nuisance now. So that’s definitely growth!! I’ll totally check out that podcast ep though, thanks so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:52 PM
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Block block block. He’s such a creep!! I’m so sorry this is happening to you, I can sympathise with the shock and ptsd feelings you must have felt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:09 PM
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This happened to me too!! Someone crossposted a post about never going 50/50 from here on like mildlyinfuriating or something, and everyone was raging in the comments saying it’s a “male hate sub” and everyone here is “desperate and sex deprived” or of course “gold diggers” and I came here expecting the worst pick-me women and negative women ever… only to find the complete opposite. Safe to say I’ve left that sub and belong here now ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:06 PM
1

Thank you for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:04 PM
49

Holy crap what a psycho!!! I didn’t watch till the end tbh because this freaked me out but I wonder if he broke in or still had a key… put that psycho in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:48 PM
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We will, best of luck to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:29 AM
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The scrotes reading this: 🤬😡 bUt mUh pEniS If i wanted a jackhammer I’d buy a tool, not sleep with one!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:55 AM
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I stumbled here from a reddit post (may I add, recommending it for the wrong reasons, I’m no longer in that subreddit lol) and I’m so thankful for it. You’re right, society made me think that all the things I mentioned is normal and I had no one to tell me otherwise, and my mother is a pick-me woman. Thank you for the encouragement, I am proud of me too ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:49 AM
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Definitely agree 100%. It’s hard for ladies growing up and learning things from society and the internet etc, that’s how I became so vulnerable and thinking all this disgusting stuff was “normal”. I’m with you, this sub has helped me so so much learning about my past and why what happened, happened. Thank you for reminding me that I’m no longer that person in the past, it wasn’t even truly me back then either. Time to really heal ♥️ Ive learned so many lessons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:46 AM
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I’ve just researched nice breathing meditation today so I’ll definitely start that later today and hopefully make it part of my daily routine!! Thank you for the advice, I need to focus on the fact that those men will NEVER touch me again and like you said, I’m free now!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:42 AM
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Thank you so much for this. I’m so sorry we both had such awful experiences, but we’ve grown!! I will definitely keep all your info in mind 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:18 AM
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My intuition is so special to me now. Thank you so much for the encouragement 💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:17 AM
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YESSS I feel this so much. The whole “porn / following Insta models is normal don’t be so insecure” bullsh*t. This is such important advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:39 AM
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Gotta keep this in mind, thank you so much for reminding me ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:00 AM
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This. They’re 100% aware of their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:42 AM
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Thank you so so much ♥️ this is the stuff I’ve needed to hear. I’m very proud of my growth and much of it is thanks to you ladies here and your wonderful advice and insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:16 AM
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I am screenshotting your comment haha I really appreciate the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:15 AM
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So many mothers say “oh he’s just the sweetest kid he’ll make a girl so happy one day!!” and knowing the son it’s like, you really don’t spend time with your son do you… they’re the same kids making sex jokes in school and sending unsolicited inappropriate pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:50 AM
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i appreciate this a lot. you’re right. we were not in the wrong for being uneducated, trusting women. THEY are wrong for being disgusting, manipulative, abusive men. i’m so glad we know better now and we won’t allow it to happen to us again ♥️ thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:37 AM
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i think escalating sex has happened to probably most of us 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:10 AM
23

never stop vetting!!! how many times have we heard of a woman being devastated over divorcing her seemingly “perfect husband” due to finding out he was cheating on her for years, secret porn addiction etc. NEVER think that once you’re in a relationship the vetting stops. and don’t forget, if you want to leave, leave. there doesn’t always have to be a reason. you know within yourself whats right for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:38 AM
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they can’t date women their own age because every one of them quickly finds out what a disgusting scrote they are. men also have this weird thing about being a girls “first” 🤢 also the overwhelming popularity of “teen” porn has GOT to end up warping their brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:31 PM
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update, it was changed!!! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:11 PM
3

yayyy it was changed!! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:10 PM
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but you know what? WE are in charge of how we view ourselves now. WE choose what we tolerate and what our boundaries are in relationships now. i’m sorry for how both of our mothers were and the influence they had on us, but no more. best of luck to you in the future hun 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:09 PM
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proceeds to say he doesn’t want sex = he wants to sleep with his “sister”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 11:57 AM
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i have a pickme mum too, my dad is such a LVM but i can never get it through to her. got busted watching porn which was her “ultimate deal breaker” yet nothing came of it, they never really talked about it since. with my LVM ex before finding FDS, i didn’t have my license and so he had to drive to me each time and she used to say “he will get siCk of yOu, yOu sHouLD bE tHeRe fOr hIm” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:57 AM
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the main reason i see guys stop watching porn is because it doesn’t “feel good” anymore or takes them too long to ejaculate 🙄 it’s for selfish reasons and rarely because it’s UNHEALTHY or a terrible industry for women in every way, not to mention the impact on women they sleep with. i just hope the men who quit because of the other reasons i mentioned are sharing their insight with other men or their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:27 AM
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if a guy is TRULY interested in forming a connection with you for the right reasons, he will go above and beyond to plan the date, ensure it’s at a nice, high quality place, and would never make you pay or go 50/50. not because it’s “nice to treat a lady”, but because for HVM, this is just the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:06 AM
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i think it’s possible that a bunch of angry pickme women or men are coming in and reporting specific comments that anger them a bunch of times?? because i know that you can get this flair if you’re reported a lot. i had the newbie flair before this one so my comments were never up for moderator review so it’s not like my comments weren’t approved. that’s all i can think of, though. maybe it would make more sense if the mods just removed your flair and vetted you again instead of labelling as a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:29 AM
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searching for internet advice for my previous LVM partners before FDS, omg i can’t believe i trusted it!! of course my intuition said otherwise, but internet strangers (who i now know were asshole men and pick-me women) were telling me i was “overreacting” or being the “jealous GF” and that porn is “normal” 🙄. i’m so thankful for finding this sub, all my worries in the past were so valid but i didn’t have anyone in my life to tell me that or give me advice and strategies. but now i’ve found you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:12 AM
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i know i have the pick-me flair but i promise i’m not one!! 😂 came here to say the same thing tho so i agree 100%. and i appreciate the mods so much for keeping it a safe space for us 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:06 AM
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me too omg 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:04 AM
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exactly i agree 100%, however from what i’ve seen from the ladies recently, none of us have “pick-me” posts or comments? so i’m really not sure why we have received the flair. idk, hopefully the mods remove it at some point or tell me why i’ve received it!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:40 AM
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why are so many of us getting the pick-me flair? this is the third i’ve seen today. anyways, isn’t it so sad that women are seen negatively when asking for help from their partner... rather than the man who’s not helping at all?? men will ALWAYS find a way to make women the problem. they’re coddled and spoiled and they’re angry that more and more women are speaking up about it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:05 AM
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i’ve got one too and idk why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:55 PM
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so glad you’re away from that now 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:54 PM
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this is great advice!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:52 PM
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so she was raped twice, and now dances for the disgusting men who most likely want to do the exact same thing to her??? that is NOT empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:49 PM
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it makes me so angry. the women are somehow always to blame and never the men 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:42 AM
3

i’m so excited for you!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:24 AM
4

it’s not the safest thing to go out by myself at night or anything where i live, but i love my at home dates!! i love painting my nails or doing makeup just for fun with some music playing or a movie! but my favourite ritual-type thing to do for myself is take a shower and use all my best products and really focus on my body and all the lovely smells and textures on my skin 💕 candles, lights off, no phone, all that self care stuff ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:23 AM
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scrotes gonna scrote. him “moving on fast” has NOTHING to do with you. he’s trying to fill his sick void but whatever he finds won’t last. if he’s porn-sick, he’s just looking for a woman to sleep with - asap. block him and focus on you now. i know you’re feeling hurt but you already know that leaving him is the BEST choice, so use this time is to heal ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:18 AM
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you do you!! we’re all here to support your journey 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:10 AM
15

LVM writing LV lyrics. you’re not thinking too much at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:27 PM
14

good move OP, he sounds revolting!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:29 PM
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please can i get my newbie flair back? i’m unsure as to why i have the Pickmeisha flair all of a sudden, as far as i am aware my comment history is not pick-me or questionable and i haven’t argued with any mods?? i’d love to know what happened!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:43 PM
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all in all for point 1, there are ways to show more skin / show off your figure if you want to, BUT in a way that flatters you and makes YOU feel good, not because it’s “trendy on insta models” or “it’s what men like” 🙅‍♀️ dress for YOURSELF, ladies. dress the way that makes you feel your best and makes you feel like the absolute queen that you are ♥️ we don’t need to change our wardrobe just to attract men, we dress for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:47 AM
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love this advice, i know a few of us here don’t really know how to respond if he asks us to pay. but paying with no fuss, leaving and blocking is the best way!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:16 AM
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i always thought i was straight, then i had a few boyfriends and was convinced i was actually lesbian. now i realised i’m just bisexual and there’s almost no HV men where i live so i literally became turned off by them completely. FDS has helped my be safe in my life yet vet any potential female partners as well as male, but i’ve learned a lot about self love and being happy single here and that’s all i’m focusing on ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:37 AM
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the fact that all the porn on the internet isn’t enough for men, they need specific people or to make their own with whoever’s face they want. it’s so scary. this could harm so many women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:03 AM
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i’ve been there, honey. but now that we have all this info on here and the FDS handbook, if you’re looking to date you know how to vet and not waste time on the jerks. best of luck to you, it’s time to invest in yourself and heal 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:18 AM
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all the mind games even before the first date… it’s exhausting blocking so many men!! 😂 just me and my beautiful cat here and i couldn’t be more at ease ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:49 AM
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i haven’t dated in almost a year, it’s been great. i’m just happy with myself and don’t feel the need to share this happiness with anyone else. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:32 AM
8

oh yes and more common than we’d like to even imagine i’m sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:57 AM
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yes!! or like exclusive meaning = shes the only girl i sleep with without protection 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:54 AM
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me too, i can’t imagine being in a relationship now, i’m so happy on my own 💕🌹 i love it here, too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:52 AM
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please don’t say my reactions are toxic and that i’m lowering the bar. i put up with ZERO nonsense in my life. i never ONCE stated a man staying home for his partner is not HV, it is, i simply said i would not expect it. i’m guessing you reported my comment too because now I have the pick-me flair. i’m disappointed, i thought we were supposed to be building each other up here. if you didn’t understand what i meant you could have asked me to elaborate instead of jumping to conclusions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:58 PM
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“we’re exclusive :)” = the woman wants to be in a relationship, the guy wants to rely on her for sex but not be committed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:38 PM
52

honey, the bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:43 AM
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this made me rethink a lotttt. definitely going to be using this in many aspects of my life. i wish i could talk to my younger self and apologise for all the stuff i put her through when she grows up, but i just have to remember that i GROW from it and have learned MANY lessons from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:46 AM
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yeah i wonder if he would ask his mother or sister 🙄 most likely NOPE because he knows it’s weird as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:29 AM
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🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:37 PM
19

even scarier!! girl i’m so glad you escaped ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:06 PM
13

i’m sure if he’s her husband and has acted with such HV behaviour, OP has vetted significantly. HVM DO exist and it sounds like OP has found one. like OP literally said though, never stop vetting. they are celebrating HV behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:33 AM
9

YOUR husband is a protector, a great companion, someone to feel safe around. i’m so happy for you ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:31 AM
15

ME TOO thinking these traits were just the “dream guy” like no it’s just a healthy adult 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:07 AM
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exactly. if i can give a stranger a pad or tampon if they ask me without hesitation, a man can get some damn pain medication for their partner / date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:06 AM
5

yesss dental hygiene is a must
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:05 AM
67

ew wtf how scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:01 AM
130

walking in front of you / behind you following instagram models sex jokes doesn’t know how to comfort you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:59 AM
98

omg yes never accept car rides when u don’t know them!! so dangerous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:58 AM
80

friends? family? pets? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:58 AM
23

poly = men who want to sleep with multiple women but will rely on one loyal pick-me when they have no one else 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:57 AM
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when i realised that absolutely nothing i said or did was gonna make him treat me better. no matter how many times i tried to explain how he hurt me or made me feel bad or lacked passion, he never changed because he didn’t want to, and i realised that he never would want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:40 AM
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💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:23 PM
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i honestly can’t believe hookup culture is considered a normal thing. i can’t take anyone seriously that participates in it. women surely don’t find genuine happiness from it... what woman seriously likes a jackhammer in bed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:32 PM
3

yesss girl now you know exactly who they are! good riddance!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:01 AM
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you’re 100% right. so many women these days think it’s “normal”. but it’s not. i used to try justify it in my previous relationship but no more!!! if i’m not ok with it, then i won’t tolerate it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:28 AM
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OMG SAME!! like they’re not even “influencers” just random girls who post pictures of their ass 💀 no thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:27 AM
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first of all, think of why he’s following them. for their diet and fitness advice, fashion inspiration? i don’t think so. he’s following them because they’re hot and half naked. trust your gut, but this is a FDS red flag. you’re bothered enough to ask us about it so i suggest block and delete!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:25 AM
70

oh yes, BDSM is bioLoGy don’t ya know??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:13 PM
71

these dudes are disgusting, they literally think every east asian woman is a “kawaii submissive schoolgirl” and it makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:17 AM
4

call him out. when you see this shitty behaviour, call him out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:15 AM
8

you said he’s your friend?? why is a guy like this your friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:12 AM
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if it’s a hobby, it’s fine to an extent. some people let their hobby take over their whole life and free time. my hobby is drawing, yet i only draw a few times a week for like an hour. if gaming distracts them from their real life and is all they do during their free time (instead of going on walks, trying a new restaurant, playing with the pets, spending time with YOU) - then yes it’s a problem. also if their video games of choice are highly graphic or sexually explicit - big no. and watching h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:21 AM
15

ew they make my skin crawl!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:40 PM
76

“don’t even have the balls to explain. go figure” dude if you want someone with balls just date a guy and leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:22 AM
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if he thinks a woman’s body in a bathing suit is pornographic, then that’s clearly his issue with pornography
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:19 AM
3

Ghibli all the way for my potential future kids, strong and independent female protagonists that aren’t always looking for love or “the perfect guy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:11 AM
1

glorified aren’t they? if you take like 3 seconds to actually look at the character, they’re not HVM at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:08 AM
3

eye contact = sex don’t you know?? /s i’m so sorry this happened to you, ugh can they just leave us alone??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:17 AM
8

it’s horrible, i constantly blamed myself because that’s what i was taught to do. i’m so thankful i found you ladies ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:17 PM
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good on you!! you know within yourself what’s right, and you followed through! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:53 PM
12

i don’t even understand how he thinks “bitch” could be a joke!! like “who are you trying to look good for” and he says “shut up bitch / whatever bitch / you sound like a bitch” like ??? i don’t know what he could have possibly said other than that 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:40 AM
24

!!! true colours come out in an argument. they could seem like the perfect guy, but if they disrespect you in an argument, then they don’t actually respect you at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:40 AM
20

keep your boundaries, hold your values and you will hopefully find the right person if you’re looking for them ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:38 AM
25

“do i have to tolerate this even if it just happens once?” NO, if this happens you leave him and block him out of your life!! this is why we vet, so we can try spot these warning signs before it gets to this level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:37 AM
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idk, for me it’s the way he basically dismissed her like she’s wasting his time for wanting to text just a bit more after just meeting him. makes me have a bad feeling in my gut. and throwing around the “i’ll lose interest” statement, like if he was interested i would assume he wouldn’t mind texting a bit longer. but like you said everyone’s different :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:32 AM
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what a jerk, that message sums up real quick what he’s looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:29 AM
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because the porn industry and it flooding into platforms such as instagram has allowed men to view women as sex objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:24 AM
5

mhm- will she take the bait? no? “f-ck you b-tch” thats their real side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:23 AM
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so these are the guys that end up 40+ and flirt with young ladies because they didn’t get one when they were their age, huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:50 AM
64

pricey lesson but valuable lifelong!! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:39 AM
64

i think we’ve all broken up with this guy!! 😂♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:39 AM
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because they’re used to getting what they want and being enabled by pickme women, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:38 AM
8

this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:25 AM
58

men taking women to expensive places: 😌 also men when she orders something expensive: 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:23 AM
55

they be like “siZe dOsEn’T mAttEr sHe’S lOoSe aNyWaYs”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:21 AM
89

how they talk about their current girlfriends: she was always so tight how they talk about their ex: sHe wAs sO lOoSe 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:19 AM
94

outing themselves that they suck in bed and don’t know how a vulva / vagina works 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:17 AM
66

the comments 🤢🤢🤢 projection much??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:14 AM
24

you’re free!! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:11 AM
14

learn from this ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:09 AM
164

i honestly think long distance could only work if you have already been in a committed relationship for years or are in a solid marriage and then something comes up with work etc. not a long distance relationship to begin with, it’s never worked for me and i won’t do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:33 PM
4

you’re verrryyy right. men are SO enabled here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:28 PM
4

where i used to live there was an all girls school across the road from an all boys school and they basically breeded misogynistic jerks and pickme girls. not a good combo when the schools joined for senior graduations each year 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:59 AM
8

wow, i was at a Catholic school too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:46 AM
5

i’ve never been through something like that but i want you to know that all of us here support you ♥️ and you WILL come to terms with it and let it all go one day. you’re strong, if you’re here in this sub i know you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:45 AM
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if they want to cheat, they’ll cheat. it doesn’t matter how amazing, beautiful, caring you are. if they want to cheat they will, because they are the ones who are horrible people NOT you, and they’ll do it again and again, because they want to. i’m so sorry you went through this ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:25 AM
13

this this this!!! they’ll read it but never grow from it. they’ll just learn how to hide it better for the next unlucky girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:23 AM
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learn from it, you’re already taking the first step by acknowledging that you “messed up” so i know you’ll overcome this ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:21 AM
13

i remember back when i was in school in AUS it was DISGUSTING the way boys spoke about girls and porn... like 14-17 year old boys!!! i can’t believe they’re learning that behaviour and mindset at such a young age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:14 AM
10

definitely a fuckboy who wanted you as someone stable to sleep with when he has no one else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:12 AM
29

bad breath when he keeps trying to kiss me after i keep saying no ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:27 PM
22

!!! this. only you have a say in what you do with your body hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:26 PM
264

being essentially completely hairless especially on your private areas sounds like a prepubescent child to me, it always weirds me out when i hear guys that won’t date “hairy” women or want their partner to “be shaved”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:55 PM
30

Australia 1. women are treated quite well compared to other countries, but definitely nowhere equal to men or safe etc. 2. I got harassed at work the other day by 2 men while working in a crowded mall for an activity for children 😐 3. women have great access to abortion in the state i live in, i think it’s legal in every state but isn’t free. contraception is easily available for women and men. 4. i can’t answer for rape in a legal setting because i’m unsure (it’s definitely a criminal offence) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:13 AM
170

and when BDSM sex is used as “punishment” in a relationship... like what??? 🚨🚨🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 10:00 AM
8

i would tell her that it’s not your fault, and this is a lesson to stop it from happening to you again. you are so lucky that they aren’t in your life anymore. if they wanted to, they would and they never did. NEVER lower your standards and drop your boundaries, you have them for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:33 AM
39

exactly. men like porn because they enjoy watching it. no other reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:31 AM
17

exactly, my ex was a korean LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:38 AM
30

did i write this comment?? haha i relate so much xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:23 AM
48

i genuinely missed you all so much!! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:03 AM
8

then some of them have the audacity to cheat and say “wE wErE oN a bReAk” 🙄 you know your worth and i love seeing it!!! so proud of you, dodged a massive bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:01 AM
12

a subtle one is wrinkled clothes or eating messily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 11:00 PM
23

right like i spend time making sure the air i breathe is non-toxic and they don’t deserve to smell my perfume 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:07 AM
99

almost seems like a woman who he doesn’t deserve just left him, a lot of hatred in such a little man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:54 AM
218

men who get arrested for domestic abuse charges have the same vibes that this guy gives me. just... very controlling and “aLphA mAlE”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:17 AM
125

as we love to say: the audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:16 AM
33

his right hand is his queen 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:00 AM
241

omg my bad, i forgot we owe him sex!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:58 AM
115

i don’t either, i honestly just don’t interact with men these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:57 AM
1405

“yOuRe nOt tHe pRiZe” ok then stop trying to date us and get in our pants 😐 “i’m nOt gOinG tO cHasE yOu aNd bEg fOr you” ok then stop trying to date us and get in our pants 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:10 AM
88

the last night of freedom was the day before you got into the relationship!! i’ve never understood this, and a strip club?? hell no!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:00 PM
131

i hope she can escape, this is so so creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:09 PM
15

it totallyyyy does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:34 AM
201

literally, if i need a jackhammer i’ll buy a tool instead of date one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:22 AM
2

he wants to live his fantasy of sleeping with sisters. that is all. “secret polyamorous relationship” = cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:49 AM
30

that’s why we don’t compete with it anymore ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:48 AM
7

i’d consider getting married if i met the right guy who will treat me as i deserve. but i’m not planning on getting married and setting an age or year. just like how i’m not planning on meeting the right guy. i’m very happy on my own with my kitten and my family near.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:11 AM
100

definitely “not like other girls” pick-me vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:08 AM
3

yeah my advice is: if he watched porn in the past, he’ll do it again. you can’t change him and you’re wasting your time. you’re already saying you can’t get rid of the feeling that he’s watching it and what do us ladies here always say? TRUST YOUR INTUITION. enough with the mental gymnastics!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:06 AM
54

my exes are so ugly and stinky and unhygienic when i remember back, what was i thinking back then 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:01 AM
39

when women have a preference for a handsome men, we’re called shallow and picky but men are allowed to be a boobs guy, butt guy, small waist guy, thick thighs guy, blonde hair guy, no body hair guy 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:59 AM
47

if your husband / partner only cooks dinner and shows you affection so that they can play their video games... they shouldn’t be your husband / partner. let’s not compete with a gaming console.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:31 AM
37

i love it here so much ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:22 PM
5

i don’t have social media either!! my life has become so much better since getting off it xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:16 AM
4

literally so many LVM who actually do get tested think of it as “well she’ll know i’m clean then i don’t have to wear a condom 😈” nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:20 AM
11

i wonder if she’d still get into a relationship him if she knew his job before they started dating, my guess is hopefully no. this just sounds like a fanfic to justify his job and entertain his fantasy though... that or she’s the worst type of pick-me for enabling this crap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:15 AM
13

if he’s only seeing you on Saturdays weekly, it’s likely he’s seeing other women too, especially on a Friday night. it seems kind of stale. it doesn’t sound like you’re the woman he wants to really secure. it sounds like you’re just convenient for something to do on a Saturday, especially if you’re intimate with him. I think you know it’s not fulfilling either since you’re asking in the first place and in another comment you mentioned he’s a “commitment phobe” so he literally admitted he’s wasti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:13 AM
38

i’m so happy for you!!! you made such a good decision. these posts just make me so proud to be a part of this community. we are all here to support you if you ever need it. your boundaries / morals are valid, and justified and i’m very happy that toxicity is out of your life!! if he can hide something as disgusting as a porn addiction, i don’t wanna know what else he lied about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:04 AM
106

you WILL attract men by getting plastic surgery!! just... the wrong type of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:54 AM
121

she needs to leave him. go to family go to a friend while she figures everything out. him making a large amount more and expecting to go 50/50 is a clear sign he isn’t ready for commitment and doesn’t take her seriously. like she said, there’s an imbalance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:50 AM
10

my LVM ex used to always reenact scrotey male instagram comedians and would laugh so hard at his impressions 😐 i never laughed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:14 AM
6

i’m sure a lot of us needed to hear this today ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:07 AM
33

it’s a cycle of ego boost. they get with a girl, hurt them, leave them, move on super quick, act like you wasted their time, and WANT to act this way so that YOU feel bad to make them feel better about themselves, repeat. in reality, many of them know deep down that they’ll never secure a successful and high value woman so they keep going for girls with low self esteem as a bandaid to USE and throw away once they catch onto the pattern. many of them are happy about being fboys until the age of 4…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:06 AM
1

goodness thanks so much!! woohoo!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:58 AM
47

the comments are all men and pick-mes. their toxicity all comes together and breeds there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:03 PM
120

oh i’m definitely using this in the future when i (hopefully don’t) need to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:04 AM
3

the handbook has saved my life 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:27 AM
4

oh 100% women say one “negative” thing about men and suddenly they hate the whole gender but men have gotten away with calling women sluts, hoes, gold diggers and MUCH more yet the term “woman hater” literally doesn’t exist. but the type of comments that I saw under the post literally made this sub out to be a bunch of depressed women hating on men for doing nothing... but of COURSE they made it seem that way because their trashiness and despicableness is exposed here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:15 AM
26

their hate for us keeps proving our point 😂 but seriously, i remember seeing this sub cross posted somewhere before i knew about it, and the way they were talking about it had me convinced it was a man-hating, desperate, incredibly negative sub... then i clicked on the post and subbed here immediately 😂 i think where it was cross posted was like mildlyinfuriating or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:08 AM
100

something that is done entirely for the public praise and approval of men is truly not “empowering”. sex work should not be necessary for a woman to make her way in the world. these girls complaining about it while calling it “empowering” fail to realise that their bodies are literally being used as objects that men pay for (that men will later go and post on reddit for free). that’s not empowering at all. if it was truly empowering, a lot more men would be doing it too, but no, it is just anoth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:50 PM
44

he sounded dangerous, it’s not normal to try convince someone you love all the EXACT same things. very strange indeed, dodged a bullet OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:40 AM
115

i see many traits in my father that i would not tolerate in a partner. i wish my mother could see what i try to explain to her sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 01:15 PM
183

i knew a person who was a sex worker. they said it’s horrible but they do it as it’s their only option. they said that men don’t respect their rules and very rarely are the acts that they do consensual. they say to their clients “you’re not allowed to do X to me” yet the man suddenly does it. what are they supposed to do? they need the money to get by and they don’t want to go to the police as it’s not a respected line of work where they live. they say they have to engage with disgusting, smelly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:08 AM
2

this !!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:25 PM
120

this was a hard pill for me to swallow but i’m SO thankful for it. it doesn’t matter how amazing you are, scrotes gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:38 AM
30

!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:35 AM
30

i’m so thankful for finding this sub. i remember looking at posts about this because that’s what i was experiencing with my ex. all the answers were like “you’re just insecure it’s not like he’ll ever meet those girls” and so i was putting up with it 🤡 soooo glad i’m away from all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:33 AM
92

this is also why I find guys follow “suggestive” instagram models when they’re in a relationship, it’s to decrease your mental well-being and make you insecure while they keep telling you “it has nothing to do with you stop worrying!” but you never believe it. they’re manipulating you to make you feel how they want you to feel and playing the game that “all these girls must be MUCH hotter than you but yet he still chose you!!” no. don’t settle, ladies. your friends and your mental well-being is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 12:37 AM
21

just a question! how do you know if they’ve actually deleted the apps though? because for some lvm us having no social media is just asking for them to cheat before we find out they’re lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:33 PM
46

“being a lil silly” no. he was asking to see another girl’s butt from behind 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:20 AM
21

women are the table ... men are the ones lacking in bringing things to us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:51 AM
29

men be like: “women hate men because they have to deal with inequality and being catcalled and touched without consent and stared at regardless of what they wear and get mad when men wanna sleep with them on the first date at a bar that we split the bill at and being in fear of their lives even in a public setting 🙄”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:22 AM
47

that’s disgusting, seeing a woman’s hand then immediately thinking of how she gives head 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:22 AM
2

I think a lot of info from this post is super useful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:31 AM
32

When you’re encouraging a man to put in zero effort???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:01 AM
9

🙄 if you’re anxiety is that bad you have to ask a stranger to talk to the waiter get treated and stop relying on women to baby you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:19 PM
33

this happened with my ex, actually my previous two exes, they say “oh it has nothing to do with how i feel about you” so why is it a problem when i ask them to stop? sometimes it’s basically no-nudity porn and he’s showing you that he likes looking at other half naked women and doesn’t care or doesn’t want to understand why it’s not ok. I’ve stopped telling guys why it’s wrong to me though, i just end things because i don’t want to waste my breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:43 PM
14

i got banned from botched surgeries sub because i commented that i wish women would really evaluate whether they want to make their breasts and butt bigger for themselves or to attract men as it’s not worth the risk of getting botched and apparently i was “shaming women” ... no i was promoting that women should do what they want for themselves 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:55 AM
51

that’s so true! it’s literally men swiping for who’s “f*ckable” and who’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:23 PM
17

so basically he said girlfriends are just there to give you sex 😐 i hope his wife finds this post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:46 AM
25

ugh how disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:45 AM
18

we are all queens, we all deserve top notch men and none of us should settle for less 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:30 AM
33

you know what comes along with this “preference” too? they want someone who is easy to manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:56 AM
2

they’ll never understand how uncomfortable it makes us. we are not objects for them to flirt with and sleep with. we are NOT easy. we don’t dress for them!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:33 AM
1

hey honey this happened to me and i feel anxious too, but i blocked him on literally everything and we don’t even live in the same state so all i can do is just move on, live MY life without him i’m twisting my thoughts anymore, and deal with it if that situation ever happens. he was a fboy so he probably moved on super quick to another chick and thinks i’m a waste of time, or if he tries to use it against me, i was 18 so that won’t look great on him! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:30 AM
6

me last year, my ex started choking me and i was so shocked i didn’t know what to do and was conditioned to think “well if it makes him feel good then that’s all that matters” it’s taken me a while to forgive myself from it but i’ve taken it as a lesson and this sub has helped me learn how to react if it happens again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:26 AM
10

i’m just not open to doing something that could risk my life if my partner snapped. plus pain? no thank you, i want the good feelings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:22 AM
1

and if he does not make a move, don’t wait around ladies!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:24 AM
3

another quote i like similar to this is that “women know it’s not all men, but women don’t know which men, so women are cautious of all men”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:54 AM
1

i love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:47 AM
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