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The purpose of reading is to give you the guidance you need to learn from experience, but experience is the best way to learn by far.
/r/seduction17/12/18 03:01 PM
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Drop her and onto the next one
/r/seduction15/12/18 08:01 PM
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Invite her to come to your place when tensions are high. In most cases the invitation alone is sufficient codeword for “lets fuck”, unless she’s sheltered AF then she’ll know what it means. If she accepts your invite and you take her to your place, ideally you should be doing something that eventually leads to making out. Let your hands wander a bit, touch her ass or her breasts and see how she responds. If she doesn’t seem to mind, see how she reacts if you put your hands up her shirt, down her…
/r/seduction15/12/18 04:08 PM
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/r/niceguys
/r/seduction12/12/18 01:27 PM
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Its more mindet than skills. Having an abundance mindset is key
/r/seduction11/12/18 10:58 PM
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If you know what your'e doing, any country that you're not from as long as it has a liberal attitude towards sex. And then it largely depends on the city you're in. A lot of girls anywhere in the world will more readily hook up with a foreigner than somebody local. For example, a lot of American girls I've met abroad will complain about American guys but they're open to hooking up with a Canadian guy. A lot of girls in the UK might complain about British guys but will happily bring home an Austr…
/r/seduction11/12/18 07:03 PM
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Ever since TRP got banned/quarantined/whatever they've all started spilling into here more than before, and naturally some MGTOWs and incels have followed them in too.
/r/seduction11/12/18 06:40 PM
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/r/deadbedrooms
/r/seduction11/12/18 03:08 PM
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Since you’re not as close you have a lot less to lose now than you did in the past. Life is short, I say go for it. The worst that can happen is she’ll say no.
/r/seduction11/12/18 03:08 PM
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Look up “polarizing” on this sub, or google “polarizing seduction”. There are dozens of posts here and articles explaining the concept
/r/seduction10/12/18 04:19 PM
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Make them love you or hate you
/r/seduction10/12/18 04:09 PM
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I guess I'm confuse because why would girl like to dance sexily with a guy just for fun, I mean I like dancing but if I'm a woman and I'm dancing provocatively with the guy in front doesn't that mean I want sex? They might or they might not. Their first and foremost intent is just to have fun dancing. Girls know that if they grind on a guy then he's going to get hard, a lot of them simply do it because it makes them feel sexy. Sometimes they like the attention and validation. Sometimes they get …
/r/seduction10/12/18 02:06 PM
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When a girl tells a guy she isn't looking for a relationship, it means she isn't looking for a relationship with him. Her opinion of him has nothing to do with her opinion of you. Plus, if he was trying his shot for 3 months but kept getting rejected then he's an idiot. If you like her just ask her out, the worst that can happen is she'll say no, and if she says no you never had a shot to begin with.
/r/seduction10/12/18 01:48 PM
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Polarize them.
/r/seduction10/12/18 01:41 PM
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Could have been anything, don't sweat it too much.
/r/seduction10/12/18 01:39 PM
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I’d wait till next week
/r/seduction10/12/18 12:16 AM
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Another thing is wanting to experience sex. While wanting to experience sex is a reasonable goal, don't make it your priority. First focus on working on becoming a better you. Everything you do to work on yourself should be done for you and your benefit only, not to impress a girl enough so she'll fuck you. Become confident and comfortable with yourself and who you are, step out of your comfort zone. At the same time, start putting yourself out there. Just talk to random people, girls and guys. …
/r/seduction09/12/18 09:55 PM
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She's either shy, or she just likes the attention. Either way you have nothing to lose by asking her out on a date. Just approach her after class, joke around and tease her for being boring in person yet so extraverted on instagram, then ask her out on a real date. You'll get your answer.
/r/seduction09/12/18 08:03 PM
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Don't worry too much about trying to be flirty through text and save that for the actual date. Remember, texting is a means to an end. The ultimate goal of texting is to set up a date and figure out the logistics. I'll link you a good 5 minute video that goes over some basics of texting with a girl. The guy in the video sums it up perfectly: each text you send should get you closer to getting a date with her, if it doesn't get you closer to that then don't send it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v…
/r/seduction09/12/18 07:38 PM
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There's a reason why they're her exes, she's choosing to date you and not them. Until you find any red flags to tell you otherwise, stay positive and assume she chooses to date you because you're her preference.
/r/seduction09/12/18 07:25 PM
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Escalate during the date and build tension. Start small, see how she reacts, and if she appears to be comfortable keep escalating. Do I just randomly grab her hand and say is this okay? If you're unsure if she wants to or not then randomly grabbing her hand to hold hands is fine. No need to ask if it's okay, if it's not okay then she'll pull away. If she doesn't pull away then it's reasonable to assume she's fine with a kiss later. Going for the kiss is a bit tricker, because it has to be done i…
/r/seduction09/12/18 06:48 PM
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/r/niceguys
/r/seduction08/12/18 10:47 PM
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Well with an attitude like that or course it won’t lol
/r/seduction08/12/18 05:23 PM
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If she says "I have a boyfriend" 99% of the time she's disqualifying you, regardless if she actually has one or not. If she does have one but will cheat with you anyway, 9/10 times she won't mention him. If you want to be friends with her fine, but don't be friends with her just to wait on the chance she'll dump her bf. That's typical NiceGuy behaviour that'll bite you in the ass hard.
/r/seduction08/12/18 04:44 PM
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Looked at you're post history, you're 26. You're still very much in your prime and you're seeing this advice now. You're likely meant to be a late bloomer, it just means your time hasn't come yet. But nothing is set in stone, only you can make it happen.
/r/seduction08/12/18 04:08 PM
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For example, I met a girl and we hung out for a week, going to the river, giving her messages and having deep intimate conversations. It was really beautiful. But she decided that we needed to call it quits, so I moved on. My friend asked if I was heart broken. I said, "why? I got to spend an amazing week with a hot girl. I am one up on most guys. Meanwhile my friend had a girl come and live with him for a week. They fucked like rabbits. Then she bolts. Now he is all butt hurt. He is one up on m…
/r/seduction08/12/18 03:56 PM
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That’s exactly what I meant to say! I just wanted to condense it down, but I never meant to imply you need to be rich or influential to get girls. I equate success with inner success, which means achieving your own goals. If your goal is to be outwardly rich and you achieve that then you are successful. If your goal is to be amazing at sweeping floors and you're the best damn janitor your employer has ever hired, then you are successful there too.
/r/seduction08/12/18 06:31 AM
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I’m 26 still, this is a message to my teenage/early 20s self
/r/seduction08/12/18 04:36 AM
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Shh, lets let him munch on his tendies
/r/seduction07/12/18 07:08 PM
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If you haven’t known her that long, I would just assume she doesn’t want anything serious until she says otherwise. If you feel like she might want something serious, be straight up and ask her.
/r/seduction07/12/18 07:07 PM
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Why wait till your 20s? Why not start today?
/r/seduction07/12/18 03:28 PM
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No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
/r/seduction07/12/18 03:01 PM
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You’re doing fine, just take it as it comes and try not to overthink it.
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:55 PM
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Sounds like you already know where you went wrong when you dumped your girlfriend to take a shot with your old crush. You held onto the remote chance that you’d be with your crush and you got another girlfriend to simply use her as a means to an end, when you were never really invested in her, you were always invested in your crush. You should never date somebody while you’re too invested in someone else, it always gets ugly. It’s a good thing you learned this at age 16 as opposed to doing this …
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:53 PM
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You want to be interesting and fun to hang around with, and you want to be confident. You want to have a sense of humour but you don’t want to be a buffoon either. The trick is to work on yourself while getting practice at the same time. If your approach isn’t working then try something different. Rinse and repeat and eventually you’ll get there.
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:45 PM
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You’d probably be better off going to Europe or Canada and finding a sex club for that sort of thing.
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:39 PM
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Your words kind of sound like something an incel would say, stop that shit because that attitude gets you nowhere. If this were true then why do I see so many non-immigrant Asians in relationships everywhere I go?
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:35 PM
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Keep conversation to a minimum, crack some jokes instead of being so serious. Get her number and move it off Tinder ASAP. Save the 21 questions for the first date.
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:29 PM
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Either a catfish or she just likes the attention
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:27 PM
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Have you ever read Models by Mark Manson and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover?
/r/seduction04/12/18 08:43 PM
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Don't overthink things, just go in with the only intention of having a good time, and see where the night takes you. Talk to her during the night, but don't wife on her and talk to other people too. If you're getting good vibes casually ask her if she has a "New year's kiss" lined up. Other than that just go with the flow. Good luck.
/r/seduction04/12/18 07:41 PM
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This is a terrible idea because at least 9/10 times it backfires horribly. Unless she's extremely shy and does like you deep down, but that situation is very rare. The best way is to make your intentions and interest in her known as soon as possible. If she gives it a chance then great! If not then you can move onto the next girl and you waste much less of your time.
/r/seduction04/12/18 06:57 PM
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One trick I've found that works is to deliberately change tempo/rhythm if you find you're getting close. Also, do different positions during each session.
/r/seduction04/12/18 06:41 PM
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Be the guy who dont care about her and lays the pipe; don't be nice guy on the sideline. The only difference between the d-bag and the nice guy, the d-bag is honest about his intentions.
/r/seduction04/12/18 06:11 PM
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Girls don’t friendzone you, only you put yourself there. If you’re not sure if she’s interested or not then you can’t expect her to read your mind, you have to make your intentions clear from the get go so she knows that she has to accept or reject you sooner than later.
/r/seduction04/12/18 06:08 PM
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What is it you're doing right now exactly? With the vague context it could honestly be anything.
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:24 PM
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Is it looked down upon by girls towards guys that might get “too hyped”? I feel as some of the times I’ve been at these parties or nightclubs, I’m getting too hyped and it pulls me away from getting girls. Some girls do, some girls don't. You have the ability to get lost in the music and not care about what other people think, harness that and turn it into a strength. People are drawn to positive energy, and if you're able to be that person who wilds out on the dancefloor without caring about wh…
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:17 PM
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So she's talking to another guy, that doesn't automatically mean she's getting engaged him. It's common these days for single people (both guys and girls) to be talking to multiple people at once. Remember, always assume she's single until you find out otherwise. In this case it sounds like she's single and has options. Here's what I'd do: Keep pursuing her like normally. You don't know much about this guy, for all you care she could be getting bored of him and want someone fresh (aka you). The …
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:09 PM
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You have to start small, high fives are a good starting point. Work your way up slowly depending on her responses.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:31 PM
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Why not count your blessings? If you’re seeing success at all then thats a great thing! Most guys aren’t likely to have regular sex unless they have a girlfriend anyway.
/r/seduction03/12/18 01:58 PM
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I guarantee you that you’d be able to find the exact same advice he’ll give you on the internet for free. Plus that $2500 could easily be put towards travelling somewhere like SE Asia for a couple weeks, which I think you would probably get more out of.
/r/seduction02/12/18 10:42 PM
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For any guy who's good with girls, every girl he closes with there were several others who rejected him. For each night he brings a girl back home there were many nights where it was just him and his hand. Rejection is just part of the process. As they say, before you learn to walk you first learn how to fall. The negativity surrounding rejection is all in your head, only you can choose how to react to it. You can either make excuses as to why you're being rejected and feel sorry for yourself, o…
/r/seduction02/12/18 10:16 PM
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How would she react if you started dating someone else? Would she be happy for you or would she start getting jealous?
/r/seduction02/12/18 09:49 PM
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In the last meeting I found out she has a boyfriend living abroad (she told me) This is where you stop pursuing her immediately. As soon as a girl tells you she has a boyfriend the odds are not in your favour. The fact she's willing to "utilize" you to bankroll her and her friends' nights out speaks volumes about her character. If you're personally inclined to cut ties with her, I'd listen to what your gut is saying. This girl and her friends are most likely nothing more than a waste of your tim…
/r/seduction02/12/18 09:46 PM
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If you can afford it, maybe get an Airbnb or hotel for some nights when you go out? Or are there any hotels in the area that you could expect to have rooms available if you walk in? As Kenic said, its best to assume the worst (she doesn't have her own place or doesn't want to bring you back to hers) and have the logistics figured out from your end.
/r/seduction02/12/18 09:32 PM
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"Signs" aren't enough to tell if someone likes you or not, and in the case of friends its even trickier because they're already comfortable with you, so its much easier to misread them. The only way to know for sure is to ask him/her.
/r/seduction02/12/18 09:13 PM
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Yes I did read it, and it tells you that being needy and desperate is a turn off to most girls.
/r/seduction02/12/18 01:23 PM
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I’m 26 and had my fair share of dating. I have a MUCH clearer idea of what I look for in a girl now. I like a girl who is secure enough to trust me, doesn’t play silly mind games to get what she wants, humble, not super high maintenance, able to laugh at my jokes and make me laugh, intelligent, honest, direct, and of course attractive. I realized I valued this because back in the day I went for any attractive girl who gave me attention, and most if not all of them were a fucking headache to deal…
/r/seduction02/12/18 01:16 AM
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You honestly sound kind of needy and desperate.
/r/seduction01/12/18 08:52 PM
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Either means she isn’t interested in you, is only interested in you as a friend, or interested in you as an FWB. If she still wants to chill then go on the assumption she’s interested until she says otherwise.
/r/seduction01/12/18 03:58 PM
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Just don’t overthink it too much, if she’s still talking to you then you’re probably fine. If she makes up her mind about you then you can’t change her mind.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:40 PM
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You shot your shot and you were rejected, move on.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:30 PM
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Don't overthink it too much, if you're into it then reciprocate. You can start by putting your hands on her hips, and as you're dancing turn her to face you. Talk to her, ask what her name is, make some small talk, flirt a bit. After a while move somewhere else, either at a better spot on the dancefloor, go get another drink, or step outside to take a break from dancing, if she comes with you then thats a good sign she's into you, if she invites you to do any of those things even better. When th…
/r/seduction19/11/18 02:00 AM
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50+ a year is pretty rare, your best chance any combination of rich, famous, powerful, good looking/charismatic, have very good game, be lucky, or fuck every girl they have a chance with. You’ll have to, on average, pull 1 different girl each week. Doable but definitely a longshot. Realistically speaking most guys probably haven’t even done it with 50 girls, nor will they reach it in their lifetime. Best just not to focus on the numbers so much and just enjoy the process and focus on actually ha…
/r/seduction15/11/18 12:10 AM
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Tdlr; contact her under false pretenses of a business inquiry or other promotion offer, then use it as an opportunity to hit on her.
/r/seduction14/11/18 06:10 PM
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Own it and emphasize your stronger features
/r/seduction14/11/18 05:54 PM
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Only if she’s insecure and desperate herself
/r/seduction14/11/18 01:52 PM
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Guy here. Desperation, neediness, and insecurity are the root cause of most things guys do that turn off girls.
/r/seduction14/11/18 07:05 AM
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But the way you get there isn't by setting arbitrary rules and boundaries with the people you date. It's by being a person of value, having other options, and being secure in who you are. A person of value knows their boundaries, establishes them, and stands up for themselves when those boundaries are crossed.
/r/seduction13/11/18 11:07 PM
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yeah as far as going out with her friends go..it's weird because she actually told me that she only feels comfortable doing such things (talking to guys) around me rather than NOT around me This is either one of two things, the truth or 100% horseshit. Take it with a grain of salt but don't drive yourself crazy trying to rationalize her reasons, she probably doesn't even fully understand them herself. Just look on the facts, she does flirt with other guys in front of you and she is acknowledging…
/r/seduction13/11/18 10:59 PM
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No. Unless you’re extremely self-unaware its pretty easy to know what is and isn’t sexual assault. A huge part of escalation is finding out what she is and isn’t comfortable with in the first place. If what you’re doing counts as sexual assault you’re doing it wrong
/r/seduction11/11/18 02:10 PM
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At the end of the day she will most likely prioritize the man with money. Remember that.
/r/seduction11/11/18 01:58 PM
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Terrible idea bro
/r/seduction09/11/18 08:54 PM
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Now I am questioning what she does every time she goes out with her single attractive friends. I don't know how to recover or act the next time she tells me she's going out... I don't blame you at all. If she does do anything without you around her friends certainly won't stop her. On the other hand, if she is blatant enough to do it in front of me..maybe it's not as big of a deal as i'm making it Did you miss the point of what I was saying? She's purposely testing your boundaries here, and she'…
/r/seduction08/11/18 12:57 AM
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Why don't you agree with that?
/r/seduction08/11/18 12:37 AM
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Better to be dry than chasing a flake
/r/seduction07/11/18 05:09 PM
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It really depends on the night, the club, the crowd, my mood, and many other factors. Sometimes it happens shortly after I’d walk in the door, sometimes midway through the night, sometimes before I leave. Sometimes nothing happens at all. Bottom line, it either happens or it doesn’t.
/r/seduction07/11/18 12:27 AM
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It can be applied to both relationships and short-term flings.
/r/seduction06/11/18 05:07 AM
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You can have sex without true love, but (unless you're asexual) you can't have true love without sex.
/r/seduction05/11/18 07:17 PM
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Most likely a compliment, take it as one. It means your approach is good.
/r/seduction05/11/18 06:48 PM
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Models by Mark Manson. Ironically, it actually deconstructs pickup in a couple of the chapters, its more of a seduction/dating book than a pickup book but its praised as one of the best books to read on this very subreddit No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover isn't a pickup book at all, but its a great read that'll help improve your mindset.
/r/seduction05/11/18 06:28 PM
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What did the full interaction go like exactly? As someone else said, maybe she's used to being approached by creepy dudes and you didn't give her a creepy vibe
/r/seduction05/11/18 06:21 PM
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As in if she wants to make a move and date you, its her job to make that happen now. Regardless if she does or not, you do not know that. Assume its a "no" and put your energy into pursuing other women. You are not waiting for her, because if you're "waiting" it means you have an expectation.
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:32 PM
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She even stated in our first “date” she would never be with someone in the workplace She gave you her answer already. She might or might not change her mind, but the odds are not in your favour here. I think because I can’t read her I want her more(if that makes sense) like a challenge There is no challenge except the one you're creating in your head. Any interaction you are having, in her point of view, is as friends/acquaintances. The only thing you can do here is back off and start focusing o…
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:24 PM
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The nights where I've gone clubbing with a group of friends and genuinely been able to just say "fuck everything else, my only goal is to enjoy myself with my friends tonight" have always been the nights where I actually got a girl. The nights where I went and said "I hope I get a girl tonight" were the ones I was never successful. You have to find a way to channel the former mindset EVERY time you go out. The trick is to just not care or have any expectations of the outcome of the night, just l…
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:16 PM
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Stopping weed is a good first step, but its not going to be the silver bullet. However, quitting weed will clear your mind to focus on the multi-faceted approach to building on what you need to tackle your problems and step your game up
/r/seduction05/11/18 04:47 PM
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Yes, this happens when she sees you as a friend (if you have not made your intentions clear), if she likes the attention you're giving her, or some combination of the two. Make your intentions clear and make moves, and don't be afraid to get rejected.
/r/seduction05/11/18 04:45 PM
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If you don't know if she's got a man or not, its fair game to assume she's single until you find out otherwise. If you approach chances are she'll say "I have a boyfriend", this means one of two things: she isn't interested, or she does have a boyfriend, or both. Its not your job to guess she has a man, its her job to tell you, and its your job to get her to tell you. I've been in this situation a couple times, I just say something like "He's a lucky guy and he must be a great guy. Nice meeting …
/r/seduction05/11/18 04:32 PM
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3 strike rule, and she's passed strike 3.
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:56 PM
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There are two ways this happens, either a) the girl is whisked away by her friend(s) and is never to be seen again or (b) the girl will slip away from her friends and come back. Her friends might take her away again, then she’ll just keep coming back. In situation (a), which is what happened to you here, just understand its beyond your control and there’s really nothing you can do about it. Sometimes they just get away from you, if she doesn’t come back then it wasn’t meant to be. Instead of dwe…
/r/seduction03/11/18 02:52 PM
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That sounds like an excuse to me. This isn’t high school anymore, nobody worth their salt cares if you’re a freshman. More importantly, why are you going for girls who actually care about something trivial like that?
/r/seduction02/11/18 05:25 PM
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You do not look 12 at all, you do look young but you look more 19 or early 20s young, not boyishly young. It does sound like your main issue here is your confidence and self esteem. I don't know you personally so I can't speak for your personality, but I'm going to guess you might be the type who is defeatist and might self-sabotage. At the end of the day confidence and personality tend to go hand in hand, as you improve your confidence you might find your personality starts to become more attra…
/r/seduction02/11/18 02:35 PM
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You're getting practice and experience already, that's something I didn't even get until I was 18! Over time you'll learn and improve. Here are a few pointers: Get more comfortable around girls. This comes mostly with time and experience. Maybe try to find some girls who are strictly platonic only, and keep them separate from girls you date. The best way to get more comfortable around girls is to spend time around them. It sounds like you're focused too much on the outcome.In the dating world th…
/r/seduction02/11/18 01:14 PM
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A bit late to the party but here's my two cents. You shouldn't care about other dudes hitting on your girl so much as you should care how she responds to them. It's never good to be jealous or controlling, period. If you have a girlfriend who's attractive then its a fact of life that other dudes are going to hit on her. Even when she tells them (or they know) she has a boyfriend, some dudes see it as a challenge and won't stop there. But at the end of the day your real concern should be how she …
/r/seduction02/11/18 01:07 PM
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A beta will do it to please her and get in her pants, and insist that he isn’t if she figures out her game. An alpha will do it because its what he wants to do. She can like it or not like it.
/r/seduction30/10/18 07:25 PM
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For all you care the bf might not even be a “nice guy” who just wants to kick your ass, he could be a crazy person who has no problem coming after you with a gun. Rare chance of that happening, but definitely not impossible. Even if not that, he could be the TSA agent you run into next time at the airport and just happen to “flag” you for further screening, or be in some other position to make your life difficult. If not him, he could just as easily have friends who can. You never know, especial…
/r/seduction30/10/18 07:14 PM
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From your other post on asktrp it seems like you already made up your mind. I personally don’t fuck with girls with boyfriends, shit can get ugly real fast
/r/seduction30/10/18 02:57 PM
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Ever been “friends” with a girl you like hoping that one day she’ll come around and start being more than friends with you? That’s the friendzone.
/r/seduction29/10/18 12:17 PM
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In my experience, whenever I pulled a girl in a club she’s always a girl who rarely goes clubbing. Try learning salsa or bachata and going to Latin clubs instead.
/r/seduction27/10/18 12:40 PM
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What makes these guys “chodes” exactly? Women are complex creatures who are attracted to different things, sometimes they can’t even explain why they like what they like, often they just know what they want when they see it. Sometimes women are insecure and want a “safe” beta guy. Sometimes the “beta chode” probably isn’t as beta as he seems, he’s probably a lowkey savage. Maybe there’s some trait to them that’s not immediately obvious that attracts girls.
/r/seduction26/10/18 02:00 PM
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Why the hell would I want to get my ex back?
/r/seduction24/10/18 05:30 PM
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Ahh yes, a pub or a club would be two different situations. In clubs its a bit harder to engage a girl in conversation but if she’s dancing with you that’s already a decent IOI, if she’s grinding on you thats an even stronger sign of interest. In a club environment, especially on a dancefloor, its much easier to escalate and make bold moves since you’re already in a pretty sexually charged environment, and something about the loud music, and darker environment with flashing lights makes people m…
/r/seduction24/10/18 05:29 PM
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Usually you’re going for a smooth escalation, taking a leap would be more in situations where the ball could be rolling but it isn’t. For example, she’s giving you many other positive signs (i.e. asking for more dates, agreeing to more dates, finding reasons to prolong your dates, being in “no rush” to leave, looking her best when she sees you, body language seems comfortable) but you haven’t broken the touch barrier yet, if you two are walking along just start holding her hand. She can either r…
/r/seduction24/10/18 03:00 PM
3

Pretty much that yeah. Sometimes it just happens naturally, sometimes you have to give it a little “push” to get the ball rolling. So if you aren’t sure just blatantly start holding her hand or something like that, if she responds positively the rest will happen naturally.
/r/seduction24/10/18 01:29 PM
6

Start small and work your way up from there. So start by gently touching her back, arms, or shoulders and see how she responds. If she responds positively then you can escalate to slightly more intimate touching (i.e. lower back, more prominent touch, 2 hands). Eventually, steal a kiss. If she kisses back and makes out, I think you probably know what to do from there.
/r/seduction24/10/18 12:27 PM
2

Its a factor, not to the same extent as if it were a coworker, but it could still make it a bit awkward if it ends badly. As with everything, its a matter of weighing the risks and the potential benefits.
/r/seduction23/10/18 08:02 PM
2

Just take your chances with the one you like more. You haven’t done anything with the second girl so its still all fair play. If you keep going for the one you’re not attracted to you’re doing both her and yourself a disservice in the long run.
/r/seduction23/10/18 07:47 PM
3

No, just no
/r/seduction23/10/18 06:29 PM
1

Yes and no. Every human in general has some sense of what makes them uncomfortable, and over time from our experiences, what we’re told by others, our environment, etc, we develop an understanding of what cues to look for that might indicate a person might be someone you are not comfortable with. Neediness is something that makes people uncomfortable. Generally women are not conditioned to be the approacher since they are usually the ones being approached, and as a result of this women have the …
/r/seduction23/10/18 04:05 PM
1

In regards to the first part, at the end of the day everyone wants to be accepted by others. However, what the book is saying is that when you work on yourself you make changes that only you want to because its in line with what you truly want or what your values are. You don’t make a change just because you think it will win the approval of other people. People are naturally drawn to people who are comfortable in their own skin. If someone is making changes just for the sake of approval, it exu…
/r/seduction23/10/18 02:10 PM
1

Not out of spite. Usually they either want a friend or want attention.
/r/seduction19/10/18 02:18 AM
1

Ethics and morality aside, not worth it. There’s a very good chance it’ll come back to bite you in the ass.
/r/seduction19/10/18 02:05 AM
1

Hiphop dancing is good for clubs
/r/seduction19/10/18 02:03 AM
4

Tell her to buy you one first
/r/seduction19/10/18 02:00 AM
4

They’re choosing to date you because they’re already interested in you. And it sounds like you’re actively working on losing the excess weight as well, and it sounds like you’re doing that to battle your own insecurity instead of to simply impress them. Trust me, chicks dig it when guys are actively trying to work on improving themselves like that, and once you start to see results you might find they only become more attracted to you.
/r/seduction17/10/18 04:00 PM
3

Just don’t overthink it too much. Treat the situation exactly how you would if it were any other girl. Be yourself and just be straight up, no need to put on a facade and try to show that you’re something that you’re not. No games, no bullshit, and certainly don’t put her up on a pedestal either. Remember, she matched with YOU. Hell, you can probably even jokingly mention that you had a crush on her in high school (save that for the date). Maybe she had a thing for you and was too shy to act unt…
/r/seduction17/10/18 03:29 PM
1

Be blase about it
/r/seduction16/10/18 09:59 PM
1

Because he might be NiceGuy who gets all butthurt when they say no. I agree its annoying but its one of those things you just have to grow a thick skin to.
/r/seduction16/10/18 09:57 PM
2

Sounds paradoxical but don’t worry too much about trying to not be needy, that in itself makes you needy anyway
/r/seduction16/10/18 06:41 PM
13

You don’t need to be a fuckboy to get laid, confidence is all you really need. A lot of the time fuckboy is just a label thats given to guys who get the girls by the guys who don’t get the girls. I was once the dorky, awkward guy who didn’t get girls and got jealous of the so called “fuckboys” that did. Later on once I started getting laid I had dorky/awkward guys label me a fuckboy even though I’m really not. I’m still that same guy, I’m just more confident and know how to get what I want sexua…
/r/seduction16/10/18 12:43 PM
2

Think of it this way, if she gave you her number its reasonable to assume that she’s aware you want to ask her out, if she didn’t want to go out with you then she shouldn’t give out her number. You should ideally ask her out ASAP. Here’s the gist of how the conversation should go: You: Hey its [me] from [where you met her], nice meeting you last night Her: Hey nice meeting you too! :) [Optional: exchange a few pleasantries about the weather, how your days are going, etc] You: What are you up to …
/r/seduction15/10/18 05:43 PM
2

Either ask her out and risk changing the friendship forever, accept the friendship and go for other prospects, or eject. Be decisive, the only person putting yourself in the friendzone is you.
/r/seduction15/10/18 03:46 AM
2

Depends, for a first date maybe 1-2 hours. If its going badly its usually over within 1 hour. If its going well it can stretch longer than 2 hours.
/r/seduction14/10/18 10:26 PM
1

Put yourself out there and meet other women.
/r/seduction14/10/18 06:32 PM
4

A girl who is interested in you will make things easy for you. Speaking from experience.
/r/seduction11/10/18 07:22 AM
2

I wouldn’t say this is a shit test. She could be trying to keep the conversation going, she could be bored, she might be awkward, could be any of the above or something else. I wouldn’t overthink this one, just tell a cool story, tell a joke, or even a random interesting fact. Might be a shit test, or she might just be curious. No need to be anything other than straight up about it. If you do approach randomly often, you could say something like if you see a girl you think is cute you approach h…
/r/seduction09/10/18 03:20 PM
1

The most likely situation here is you’re her “safe guy” she keeps around while she explores other options. In other words you’re her fallback option for if she can’t find anyone else she’s interested, but here’s the problem: there’s always going to be other guys around, and she will always have other options. In the meantime she’s fulfilling her sexual needs with other guys while she’s keeping you around for her emotional needs. She does just enough to keep you invested, and as long as you stay …
/r/seduction09/10/18 02:44 PM
13

I guess you never watched Breaking Bad then
/r/seduction01/10/18 01:40 PM
10

Is her name Skyler and does she have a dead former drug dealer ex husband?
/r/seduction01/10/18 01:38 PM
2

Stop putting people on pedestals because of their looks. A 10 in looks is otherwise equally human to a 7, a 5, or a 3. The simple answer is to realize that all you have to do is talk to a 10 exactly how you would any other girl, because most girls want guys who are able to talk to them on an equal level. If she lets her looks get to her head and acts like she’s “too hot” for you then she’s not worth your time. I honestly dislike the whole 1-10 looks scale concept, beauty is ultimately subjective…
/r/seduction01/10/18 01:32 PM
1

You don’t think of her as a prize to be won or an object to be obtained. Treat her like you would treat anybody else. Most girls do not want to be treated like a queen or a princess, they want to be treated normally.
/r/seduction28/09/18 05:26 PM
1

She’s overthinking. If its not a big deal to you just politely let her know that she didn’t offend you, and that she doesn’t need to overthink it. Hopefully she drops it from there and doesn’t continue to make it a big deal.
/r/seduction28/09/18 05:23 PM
3

Either accept her friendship or don’t be her friend. If you’re her friend in hopes of changing her mind then you’re gonna have a bad time. Some girls do prefer to date guys who they’ve been friends with for a very long time but its too much of a longshot to bank on it happening.
/r/seduction27/09/18 12:55 PM
13

I know at least a few South Asian dudes (with non-western names) who manage to pull hot white girls, and I see it happen quite often in clubs. Granted the guys I know are any combination of tall, fit, handsome, well dressed, well groomed, or generally have good charisma. But guys in general (regardless of race) who have any or all of those qualities tend to be more successful with girls (regardless of race). Your friend Tony has a point. Many brown dudes don’t put themselves out there with white…
/r/seduction27/09/18 12:52 PM
6

To put it bluntly, it sounds like you have some work to do on yourself before you start approaching girls. I don’t know you personally but I’d guess you have a hard time connecting with people, improving your interpersonal skills would be a good start. It doesn’t matter what approach you take to dating/seduction, if you don’t know how to connect with people you won’t get far.
/r/seduction27/09/18 12:43 AM
1

Morals, ethics, and integrity aside there are at least several reasons why pursuing a taken woman is in most cases a very bad idea, even if she’s receptive to you. The only time you’ll have a worthwhile chance is if she breaks up with her boyfriend, but you can never count on that happening.
/r/seduction26/09/18 02:14 PM
2

You have to just take a shot at it. The longer you wait the harder it is, and the more likely you miss your window.
/r/seduction22/09/18 03:51 PM
3

Clubs are always better if you go with friends. It makes it much easier to get in the “zero expectations” mindset, and from experience I’ve found the less you expect to happen the more that happens. The main way to improve your chances is to not come off as the kind of guy who’s hopping from girl to girl trying to get laid, it looks needy/desperate. Just focus on enjoying yourself and having a good time. If you see a girl you think is cute and you see a chance, no harm in taking it. But don’t ma…
/r/seduction22/09/18 03:42 PM
1

Lying should be avoided as much as possible, in the long run any lie can come back to bite you in the ass. I would personally only ever tell even a “white lie” if it was over something so inconsequential that it wouldn’t even matter in the long run, or if I’m not looking for anything serious with the girl. But even then I find you can accomplish the exact same thing by keeping explanations simple and not sharing too many details. For example, you have a girl spend the night, then in the morning …
/r/seduction22/09/18 05:53 AM
1

Depends on the girl. Some go out if they want attention/validation. Some are looking to for a guy to cheat with. Some are simply going out just to have some drinks and dance with their friends.
/r/seduction22/09/18 05:38 AM
1

Nothing wrong with wanting to be more social. /r/socialskills might be a better sub
/r/seduction22/09/18 05:34 AM
1

They tend to assimilate into the “melting pot” of society after they leave school. Some of them to into positions where their looks matter (i.e. waitressing at chic restauranra, modeling, stripping, working promo, nightclub bartenders), some of them get married and become housewives, some of them go on to work jobs that don’t ultimately depend on their looks (i.e. engineering, business, etc). There still tend to be “hot girl” groups that run together, but its not always absolute.
/r/seduction22/09/18 05:21 AM
3

Pickup is a band aid solution at best, all it really does is teach you how to be manipulative and play games while hiding who you really are. The whole pickup industry was built for insecure people by insecure people who figured out how to manipulate other insecure people. While I do realize that pickup has helped many men get laid, a guy who uses pickup will only find that it works on insecure and manipulative women (like attracts like after all). If they’re in it too long it distorts their vie…
/r/seduction18/09/18 10:28 PM
3

Don’t approach girls that you follow on instagram and let them know you follow them on instagram and ask them out. You just come off as thirsty. As for her, she’s definitely not interested. Move on.
/r/seduction18/09/18 07:16 PM
1

Keep her off the pedestal and go for her like you would any girl who isn’t a pornstar. She probably gets 100s of guys who are fighting and clawing each other for a chance to be with pornstar. Don’t be the guy who wants to be with her onscreen persona. She’ll ultimately prefer guys who act normal and can treat her as if she were any other normal person. Easier said than done.
/r/seduction18/09/18 05:23 PM
1

Those kinds of people are insecure and feel jealous when they find out you have a girlfriend because you have what they don’t, or they feel that you have something else they don’t. They feel below you so they try to bring you down to their level to feel better about themselves. EDIT: Ah he’s gay. He probably thinks that you’re gay and in the closet.
/r/seduction18/09/18 04:44 PM
10

Being needy, being desperate, being annoying, being an assclown, making her uncomfortable, being boring, the list goes on
/r/seduction16/09/18 02:55 PM
1

If you have other options then why do you feel the need to go after her specifically? It doesn’t matter if she was being flirty, she’s basically friendzoned you already. You can respond how you like but I don’t think it will change her mind. Unless you back off this probably won’t end well for you. If she wants to fuck you she’ll come to you, but she’ll probably have broken up with her boyfriend by then (in which case you’re in the clear). Don’t count on that happening though.
/r/seduction16/09/18 01:51 PM
1

The longer you wait the more likely you’ll hit the friendzone
/r/seduction13/09/18 05:57 AM
1

I’m assuming you two know each other from school? Or are you both internet/long distance friends? And how long have you known each other for?
/r/seduction12/09/18 04:10 PM
1

Sounds like you’re on the right track. Keep doing what you’re doing and stay positive. Try some new activities out to meet new people. Focus on activities you genuinely will enjoy instead of just trying to get girls there. Once you drop to a weight you feel more comfortable in try changing up your hairstyle and growing/grooming facial hair if you can. Find your face shape first. The right grooming options will make a difference. Weight loss will also chisel your facial features more. For Tinder,…
/r/seduction12/09/18 02:47 PM
1

Not really much to go on, how many actual dates have you been on? If you both text a lot then probably
/r/seduction12/09/18 02:36 PM
2

A good chunk of guys don’t have the best profile setups. Either their pictures suck, their bios suck, or a combination of both.
/r/seduction09/09/18 02:10 PM
1

You mean her friends’ boyfriends are all jealous of male friends? Sounds like they’re the insecure ones. It is unfortunate she’s normalizing it.
/r/seduction19/08/18 06:46 PM
1

Not being jealous isn’t a bad thing at all, its a good thing! What makes her think its strange?
/r/seduction19/08/18 06:42 PM
1

Try and befriend her friends. If you try to isolate her all the time it comes off as being creepy and they might think you’re a potential rapist. Instead, ask the girl if you can meet her friends and introduce yourself to them. Make a bit of small talk with them, crack a few jokes and give them the impression that you’re just a regular guy.
/r/seduction19/08/18 06:35 PM
1

First of all, how exactly is she chasing away other girls? Is she actively going after them and telling them to fuck off? Second, how do you see her? Do you keep hanging out with her wanting more? Or are you comfortable with the fact she’ll only ever be a friend and nothing more.
/r/seduction18/08/18 11:09 PM
1

The exact same kinda date you’d take any other girl on. Just because she’s a “hot sorority chick” doesn’t make her any different.
/r/seduction21/07/18 01:19 PM
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