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| 3 | Posted on FDS a few months ago during a breakup. We broke up. I bought my own house and took possession this weekI love this for you ❤️ No better feeling than this, for sure. Purchasing my own home after suffering LV narc abuse for several years was the best day of my life. Enjoy making this space your own! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 01:34 AM |
| 63 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Like recording someone without their consent is the answer 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:06 AM |
| 18 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.It’s really not so complicated. I for one, always check that the person I’m having sex with actually wants to have sex with me. I could easily demonstrate that they gave consent, without them signing anything. We tell guys when we want to have sex with them. We say, “I want to have sex with you” or some variation of this. We demonstrate it by pulling them closer, telling them that it feels good, that we’re into it, that we want them to do a, b or c. If they stop moving, if they make any noises o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:04 AM |
| 13 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.A fair portion of them will hopefully realise that they’re actually rapists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:43 AM |
| 10 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Oops not stories, it’s a grid post. Lots of men dobbing on themselves in the comments with their “but what if’s” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:33 AM |
| 7 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.It’s screenshots from the triplejhack Instagram stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:29 AM |
| 40 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.I’m sure that “affirmative consent” is going to be a new concept for a lot of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:25 AM |
| 17 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Yes! I hope leaders around the world are watching 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:05 AM |
| 10 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Me too. This has taken way too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:04 AM |
| 24 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Also watching this with interest. I hope I’m not being naive, but I’m finally feeling a change in the way these things are reported in the media. It feels like people are getting more political in regards to women’s safety. I’m going to enjoy feeling this hope for a little while at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 05:59 AM |
| 33 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.I hope so too! Also can’t wait to see how this plays out in cases that come through in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 05:00 AM |
| 92 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.It’s so sad that this is ground breaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:45 AM |
| 8 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Lol you were a little harsh, but I get it, I do. I see long winded posts and think "girl, you're writing an essay to strangers on the internet, you already know you need to leave him." I do know something is wrong, but I guess you're right I don't want to break it off until/unless I'm sure that this is definitely something that is a deal breaker. I've been very strategic in this relationship, I'm not letting things slide just so I can keep the man. I have definitely stayed in previous relationsh… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 06:46 AM |
| 17 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Thanks for replying. I'm not caught up in a tiny bit of affection, if it came across that way then that's very embarrassing for me. Financial stability is an important thing that I am absolutely not wanting to ignore. I've gone and fallen in love (accidentally) so I'm quite aware that I'm invested and not completely rational, so came here for advice from women who know how to prioritise themselves in a relationship and share my values. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 05:40 AM |
| 5 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?To be honest, I don’t know. I’d only be guessing. I’m going to try and have a conversation about finances with him soon. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 04:10 AM |
| 14 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Thanks for the encouragement. I’m going to bring it up. It’ll be uncomfortable for me, but not as uncomfortable as I will be down the track if I don’t address it now. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 04:06 AM |
| 19 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Thank you, really. I’m set up to be financially independent if I remain single. I have no debt besides my mortgage and a well paid job. It’s important to me to feel financially secure (my parents weren’t). I think my next focus should be on saving for egg freezing/IVF and possible single parenthood. I’ll see what he does over the next couple of months. I’m hoping I don’t need to end things. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 03:55 AM |
| 23 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?You’re so right. I’ve worked hard (and continue working hard) to set myself up, with or without imminent plans for a partner or child and it annoys me that he hasn’t. It is a red flag, and if I’m honest with myself I should have noticed it sooner and not let myself get in this deep. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 03:15 AM |
| 17 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Thank you, I know the answer to some, but not all of the questions you’ve posed. So this might be a silly question, but are these things you speak about with a partner? My family is so weird about money. It’s kind of taboo. I honestly wouldn’t know how to even discuss this. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 02:48 AM |
| 30 | How much importance do you place on a man’s financial security? How long would you wait for him to demonstrate financial security?Thanks for this. Ah it hurts a bit but I have to agree that he is financially irresponsible. What kinds of actions should I be looking for to demonstrate that he’d be capable of providing for a family? | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 02:44 AM |
| 7 | Feminist predicted the FDS community. Link to full article quote is from in the commentsDoes she promote kinks and BDSM? And porn? I’ve heard this criticism of her before. Can you point me to something she has said about these topics? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:29 AM |
| 23 | What’s the right response to a dick pic that you didn’t really ask for?Another vote for block and delete. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 12:43 PM |
| 27 | Pleasuring themselves in front of youThere’s nothing inherently wrong with going down on a guy for 20 minutes if you’re both really into it. There’s nothing inherently wrong with masturbating in front of a partner if you’re both really into it But there is something really wrong with continuing on with anything that your partner is not enjoying. You felt frozen and he didn’t notice and/or didn’t care. Then he negged you about blue balls (🙄) the next day. Block and delete. | /r/askFDS | 04/02/21 05:00 AM |
| 14 | Is my fiancé still stuck on his exes... should I call off/postpone the wedding?Yes, he’s obviously still stuck on his exes. Your fiancé needs therapy. It’s not your job to help him through this, and not healthy for you to even try. I don’t think he’s in a place to be in a relationship. Definitely call off or postpone the wedding. | /r/askFDS | 04/02/21 04:45 AM |
| 518 | Proud of myselfHorniness is short lived, self respect is forever 💪🏼 I’m so proud of you! I hope you’re proud of you too!! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Reminder: You are allowed to reject a man for any reason you chooseOnline dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:59 AM |
| 7 | What kind of dates to accept during pandemic?These are great suggestions. It’s obvious you care for and thought about u/D3dleaf’s safety and comfort. OP - if a kind stranger on the internet can think of these ideas, a HVM who wants to date you should be able to do the same, taking into account what’s possible and safe in your local area. If he can’t make an appropriate suggestion for a date (not a “hang out”) then that tells you all you need to know. Please don’t make these suggestions to him, that’s not your job. Edit: spelling | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 5 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftYes that emoji! Also this one - 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 02:17 AM |
| 18 | How do you ensure the guy chases you AFTER you’re in a relationship together?Thank you for putting this so articulately. I think you explained this much better than I did. | /r/askFDS | 07/01/21 12:22 AM |
| 39 | How do you ensure the guy chases you AFTER you’re in a relationship together?I don’t know the context of these comments. My guess is that maybe what people mean is that this should still be an expectation in a relationship. Just like during dating, we can’t make men put effort into a relationship. | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 11:20 PM |
| 177 | How do you ensure the guy chases you AFTER you’re in a relationship together?You can’t. You just keep living your best life, levelling up, pursuing your own interests outside the relationship. He will either recognise your value and put in effort or he won’t. You’ll respond accordingly. | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftHaha He probably was neither of those things 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftNever!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 28 | I have a history of getting into low effort relationships. How do I break the cycle?After seeing your post yesterday, I’m glad you’re still here. When abuse is what you have known, anything else that is not abuse can feel special and enticing at first. Even if it’s low effort, or someone showing even the mildest interest. I think that’s how you end up in these types of relationships. But it sounds like you know that this isn’t enough. It’s sounds like you’re a caring person. But the way you describe yourself as a giver and selfless, it seems like you may have some people pleasi… | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 09:37 PM |
| 26 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Left😂 haven’t been on OLD dating for a while but this just gave me flashbacks of, like, every profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:06 AM |
| 93 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Left“Actually 40 lol but can’t can’t change it” or some variant of this. Do they expect us to believe they accidentally wrote their age 5-10 years younger than they really are?? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:58 AM |
| 21 | My (29f) boyfriend (32m) is too comfortable, how do I reverse it?I know right!! 💔💔💔 | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 05:23 AM |
| 15 | My (29f) boyfriend (32m) is too comfortable, how do I reverse it?This was just posted in the main sub. Please read it. I hope you find this community helpful. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kredba/back_to_the_fds_basics_for_anyone_new_here/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 05:22 AM |
| 109 | My (29f) boyfriend (32m) is too comfortable, how do I reverse it?Firstly, you haven’t made him anything - he’s a grown up. Secondly, this isn’t comfort; this is just low effort. Like someone else suggested, stop making plans and let him step up (or not). Edit: I just saw your post history. Time to dump him lady. Sorry, I know you wanted some advice on magically making him care for you. He doesn’t. He won’t. That’s not on you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 03:03 AM |
| 5 | How important is chemistry vs. compatibility for HVM?Who knows really, I can see why this is confusing for you. A lot of guys are good at saying what they think we want to hear and sometimes can seemingly have good boundaries and share our ideas about relationships, but they can’t maintain that long term. I just want to say, from what you’ve written here, it doesn’t look like you should have done something differently or even that you misread things. Sometimes things just don’t work out. Focus on you for a bit. I wouldn’t remain friends with someo… | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 33 | How important is chemistry vs. compatibility for HVM?Hmm “hot flame” and “off the charts chemistry” sounds like code for sex. His last relationships started with sex. I’m guessing if you were following FDS principles this hadn’t happened? Also 6 dates in and he expects you to be an open book? Nah, I don’t think so. | /r/askFDS | 05/01/21 05:45 AM |
| 11 | They never change! Abusive husband on fetlifeSo proud of you and excited for what your future might hold now that you’re leaving that awful situation. Be safe xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:55 AM |
| 74 | This applies to any type of relationships. We are valuing ourselves in 2021Never 🙅🏼♀️ Past me begged, pleaded, and attempted to explain why I deserved bare minimum things. This was a lovely reminder at how far I’ve come. Thank you 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:49 AM |
| 1 | i did it! i finally left him!!!Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you. You deserve this happiness and freedom 💕 (BTW - The post break up hoovering is yet to come. Block him everywhere.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:33 AM |
| 3 | I Am Woman Tribute to Helen Reddy | 2020 ARIA Awards #LivestreamI had forgotten how much I love this song! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:54 AM |
| 32 | Or both?Honestly I’m a better support to my friends’ kids as an “aunt” than their dads are. If I could raise kids with the support of my girl friends, my sister, my mum, I’m sure I’d have much more support than I would raising kids with any man. Where should we start the colony?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Treating MYSELF the way I want to be treated. I closed my first major deal today in my new career and took my beautiful self to the jewelry store to pick out exactly what I wanted 👏🏼Congratulations on the deal. I love the ring and omg those nails 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:38 PM |
| 5 | My favourite Melbourne celebrities has done a series of posts about online dating and it really embodies FDS mindsetOmg she’s the best. Did you see her post on questions you should ask guys when you start dating? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:22 AM |
| 43 | My favourite Melbourne celebrities has done a series of posts about online dating and it really embodies FDS mindsetAnother Clem fan here 🙋🏼♀️ “not taking yourself too seriously” is the biggest piece of garbage advice that sounds so cool and but is so covertly harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 02:07 AM |
| 62 | Meanwhile LVM and pickmeshas are talking about dIvOrCe r4P3 and unfair family courtThis is horrifying. When I left my ex with less than half the money I had put in to the house we bought together I made myself a promise that I would never be financially entangled with another person ever. I now own my own little house (well slowly slugging away at the mortgage) and no matter who comes into my life this house is mine. No matter what relationship/s I end up in in the future. It’s my insurance, it’s my get away plan, it’s my independence. I will never give up this little piece of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:02 PM |
| 87 | My little queenThis is so lovely to read. You’re doing a good job Mama! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:54 PM |
| 26 | Should I remind NVX about how much cash I sent himSecond this. If you text him all he’ll take from that is that you’re still thinking about him. He’s not going to feel remorse or apologise or HEAVEN FORBID, pay you back. Also - He’s lost the right to hear from you. Also, I’m really sorry that happened to you. LVMs are really draining financially as well as emotionally, hey? 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:00 AM |
| 1 | That’s a hard pass buddy...gotta love the audacityAt least he’s... honest? 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 02:53 AM |
| 170 | Has anyone thought they were an obsessive overthinker and extremely anxious (not to undermine those with anxiety) but it was just because you were in a relationship with a LVMYes, absolutely. It’s been some years since the relationship ended but I remember that I felt like I was going crazy. I’ve never experienced anything like that before or since. Every boundary or value I had was trampled. The initial love bombjng, constant gaslighting and other acts to undermine my self worth really did a number on me. He convinced me to see a therapist because I “struggled to have empathy for him” (stopped putting up with his BS). It turned out to be the best thing. This therapi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:12 AM |
| 5 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thanks for your response. I’m definitely planning on remaining vigilant. I think I’ve just realised that I have sped the pace up and set things on a faster timeline than FDS recommends, now things feel too much too soon. | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thank you. Yep I like him a lot but I’m definitely not attached and I’m not invested in the outcome of this relationship. I’m very much in love with myself 🥰 After your last comment I read about future faking. I wonder now if I’ve accidentally been future faking... can you accidentally future fake? I like the comfort of a relationship, I find it easy being with him and talking to him. Maybe I’ve given him the impression things are further along than what I actually feel. I am going to think abou… | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 03:02 AM |
| 53 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?Yes. I think I started out with low level ick over a few years. Until the Big Ick hit one day after he was particularly badly behaved and I could not justify that behaviour to myself or others any more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thanks for your thoughtful response. No i haven’t told him I’ve been love bombed before. I haven’t talked to him about my experiences in previous relationships at all. I’ve been seeing him more often than once per week, more like 3 or 4 times per week. We’ve moved slightly into comfortable territory, which I know is not recommended. He works weekends and lives far from his work and far from my place so it has worked out for him to come to my house to get ready and take me out. I’ve definitely ma… | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 12:56 AM |
| 140 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?YES! My narc ex made me see a doctor for my lack of sex drive. Oh lawd, I cringe when I think about it. Turns out, that yeah, being treated like dirt and gaslit ain’t sexy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:50 PM |
| 1 | And I will not be stopped!!I always planned to move to London to work (I’m Aussie, moving to London for a year or two is basically compulsory for us) but then I “met someone” 🙄 and I never went. It’s one of my big regrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Tell me your Anthem or Artist?“I’m good” by Wafia was my break up anthem. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 11:27 PM |
| 8 | Need help about my first ever relation - I love him, but he calls me entitled? Is he HVM or am I asking too much?I stopped reading when you said you’re too scared to date anyone else and he keeps saying you’ll just get more STDs. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. Be careful and make sure you have a good doctor who can give you advice on keeping safe in that regard. (Is he doctor??) Do no stay in a relationship for that reason. Being scared you won’t find someone else is never an ok reason to stay in a relationship. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 11:11 PM |
| 6 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thank you. This is such a good point. This is the first real hiccup, I’ll definitely need to watch how he responds to future set backs. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 10:58 PM |
| 5 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?It is weird right? Like you had NO IDEA she was like that before you added her on socials?? She seemed completely normal and then you were shocked she posted only nudes??!! I don’t know. Love bombing has fooled me in the past. It feels like it should be obvious but to be honest I’m finding this a little confusing. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 10:56 PM |
| 6 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?When he comes over to my place after work he calls me and says he’ll be “home” in 20 minutes. I’ve been subtly responding with “see you when you get to my place”. From a week or two in he has said that he’s so glad he’s found me again (we actually met a few times several years ago when I was in another relationship). He has asked to introduce me to his son, which I declined and said I’d like to wait until things are more certain between us. He was fine with that. I feel like he’s really into me.… | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 10:54 PM |
| 17 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Sorry you went through that. Urgh. I’ll forever be an Instagram snooper. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 02:57 PM |
| 8 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thanks for replying. Yes I’ll definitely continue to scope him out. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 25 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Listen to her and take what she says seriously. Even the little things. Because to her, the little things are big things. Knowing that she has a mum that can listen to and handle the big things will keep her safe and let her know she can come to you with anything. When you’re putting in place boundaries for yourself, can you talk about it with her and make it more obvious, in an age appropriate way so she sees that putting in place boundaries is normal and healthy (and hard sometimes) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:21 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Well done. Enjoy your break, if you decide to have it. I hope it’s refreshing and nurturing for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:17 PM |
| 22 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thanks again. Yep, it’s the trusting myself that is hard. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 01:53 PM |
| 8 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Omg yep I’m totally over thinking, I hope I’m not self sabotaging... | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 01:44 PM |
| 30 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thank you, I appreciate your response. I will move forward. His statements that he sees a future with me and knows 100% he wants to be with me made me feel uneasy. Is this something to address (do I tell him it’s too soon for that?) or just let that slide? | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 01:42 PM |
| 6 | What do you do with friends you made through your ex?I agree that it’s dependent on several factors. With my narcissistic ex I let several friendships go. If you can’t support me even though I’ve told you what I’ve experienced then I cannot be friends with you. Often cleaner to just move one in most cases in my opinion. I don’t want to hear what he’s up to because you spoke to him recently or saw a post on Facebook earlier today. I don’t want to be disappointed that you’re not free next Saturday because you’re going out with him. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 01:17 PM |
| 11 | How do I receive gifts/help without feeling guilty?I’ve recently tried this when receiving a gift, having a date pay for dinner etc : 1. Take a deep breath and resist the urge to tell them that wasn’t necessary/they shouldn’t have/I’ll pay half/ I’ll pay next time. 2. Say thank you. Smile. Perhaps let them know that makes me feel happy/I love it. 3. Notice how I feel. It feels nice if the gift comes from someone i care for and who cares for me. 4. Notice how they respond. Usually they are happy with being thanked and happy to have been able to g… | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 01:12 PM |
| 12 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Thanks so much for replying. Since following FDS this is the longest I’ve dated anyone. I’m determined not to ignore red flags like I have in previous relationships. I’m trying to hit the right balance in terms of setting boundaries I’m comfortable with and still being rEaSoNaBLe. To be honest the thing that is bothering me now is his reassurance that he “knows 100% that I’m the girl he wants to be with”. Feels way too soon for that. Is this a red flag or is this what I should accept while I con… | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?I will, thanks for replying 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:13 AM |
| 25 | And I will not be stopped!!I was also thinking about times when I was in unsafe situations (mostly parties I wasn’t allowed to be at) when I was 16 and felt too embarrassed or worried about consequences to call my mum. In hindsight, it would have been a much safer option to call my mum or another trusted adult than staying with the gross creepy guys at the party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:57 AM |
| 27 | And I will not be stopped!!You are so right. Hopefully there is someone (a teacher, an aunt, a family friend, if not a parent) with strong Queen energy that can listen, believe and give good advice. Or, there are always the smart, strong women on this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:54 AM |
| 212 | THE BAR IS SO LOW ITS UNDERGROUNDPlease don’t bring “most ladies” into this. Ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:21 AM |
| 11 | Social Opinions and Red Flag?Babies and very young children being naked at the beach in hot weather shouldn’t be a problem but I work in child protection and I’m jaded and so it is probably a risk I wouldn’t take. However, I would not offer this unsolicited advice (or any other unsolicited advice) to someone I had been dating for a few weeks. There’s an orange flag to watch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:18 AM |
| 96 | And I will not be stopped!!If anything feels weird, gross or even like it’s just not for you, don’t do it. You don’t need to give a reason. Say no. Don’t be nice, polite or protect anyone’s feelings when you’re saying no, that’s not your job. Cultivate strong, healthy female friendships and nurture those friendships. They will be the most important relationships at many stages of your life. Your female friends will be loves that last longer than any romantic relationship. They will help you through some of the toughest ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:59 AM |
| 3 | Ladies: the day you stop looking for "closure" is the day that you will be free. **You** are the only closure you need. Acknowledge your pain, forgive yourself, and forget the one that hurt you. Then go and use your experience to help one of your sisters. **That** is your closure.Ouch. That one hurt when it hit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Man admitting that women don't like sleeping with him and never orgasm from it 🙊Hahahaha. I have no words. No words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 11:21 AM |
| 15 | 🙄🙄I wonder what it feel like to have this kind of audacity 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:11 AM |
| 10 | But really...so far. I’ll continue to reassess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:23 AM |
| 48 | More proof that sexuality is not a choice 🙄If only it were a choice 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:04 AM |
| 6 | Dump A Porn Scote TodayLiterally. The. Funniest! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:15 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 29th 2020)Hi sisters. I’ve been lurking and loving this sub for ages. You guys, I need HELP! I’m a smart, funny, fun, interesting 33 year old lady. My friends are all married now and I’m not going out as much as I used to and tbh meeting a guy in real life seems impossible. Ive been single for 2 years and I’m happy but would like to meet someone. I’m using dating apps. I’m trying to apply FDS strategies. How do you guys flirt with guys (via messages) and still maintain boundaries and let them know you’re … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 12:28 PM |
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