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And I will not be stopped!!

PossibleCook

November 9, 2020

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Title	And I will not be stopped!!
Author	PossibleCook
Upvotes	2174
Comments	83
Date	November 9, 2020 2:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jqpjlw/and_i_will_not_be_stopped/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/and-i-will-not-be-stopped.324653 https://theredarchive.com/post/324653

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If anything feels weird, gross or even like it’s just not for you, don’t do it. You don’t need to give a reason.

Say no. Don’t be nice, polite or protect anyone’s feelings when you’re saying no, that’s not your job.

Cultivate strong, healthy female friendships and nurture those friendships. They will be the most important relationships at many stages of your life. Your female friends will be loves that last longer than any romantic relationship. They will help you through some of the toughest times and they will be your cheer squad through the good times.

Talk to trusted adults (women) if you feel unsafe or worried about something. Even if it’s embarrassing. Even if you think you might get in trouble or get someone else in trouble.

Follow your own goals and dreams unapologetically and NEVER change your goals or plans for any boy (opportunities missed/travel postponed/ jobs not taken because you prioritised a relationship will become regrets later.) No boy is worth it.

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yes! i didn’t date in high school either. keep in mind that high school relationships almost never last (and, as you’ll see in a few years, when they do it’s kind of weird). big waste of time and mental energy, especially if you plan to apply to colleges, and more so if you want to apply to competitive ones. focus on grades and extracurriculars (music, sports, etc.) so you can get accepted with scholarships.

also, of course, develop a supportive network with other women: cultivate friendships with other girls. support your female band mates, teammates, etc. ask older women who you trust about their stories and for advice, whether it’s your mom, aunt, grandmother, neighbors, teachers, etc. (i had some awesome english teachers in HS who were great mentors and i still talk to them occasionally!)

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Also just focus on school or your career. I poured everything into a relationship with a controlling, insecure guy who was four years older than me (and had a history of dating much younger girls) and not enough energy into school and ended up getting kicked out university after my freshman year, and I had to go to community college (though nothing wrong at all with community college, I just missed my old school). The depression and other issues I had to deal with because of that relationship made me continue to do terribly in school even though I was an AP straight A student in high school, and now I have no degree, no solid career and I’m not even able to go back to school right now. So just focus on yourself love. Wait until you have achieved your own goals at least because even HVM can be distracting.

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