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A true male ally would discuss women’s rights with their male friends who need to be educated, not with women who already fucking know Bonus NVM points if he tries to mansplain feminism to you. Especially when they're trying to convince you that prostitution is super empowering, or why 50/50 asserts your equality, or some other load of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:52 AM
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Definitely. Had an ex who always avoided talking about politics. This was a red flag as we all know, because I knew that he used to spend a lot of time on sites like 4chan, and had some "edgy" opinions. He had strong political opinions I found out by the end of things, but they were unpopular ones, so he avoided the topic. When I could get him to talk about it, he would always play the, "of course XYZ is so important, BUT...". There would always be a "but". He would make statements in defense of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:37 AM
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Honestly. Soooo many men cry how unfair it is when they actually have to do just about anything. They'll whine about "all the other stuff he does around the house", but if you ask him to name some of those things, it's some random, menial task from weeks ago. When you've been getting carried your whole life, of course it's not going to feel fair when you have to start carrying yourself (doing your half of the work)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:07 PM
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Can I also get the link pm'd? I need to know deets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:46 PM
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Honestly, I don't know 100%. She's moving out, and could file for divorce to get alimony. I'm worried that getting primary custody could be hard for her, since he has the job, surely has the house in his name, etc. Financial abuse is especially harmful when kids are involved. Women don't actually have much of an advantage in family courts, contrary to popular belief. They're notorious for giving abusers WAY too much access to their victims, which often becomes dangerous or fatal. At best, the so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:46 AM
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What the fuck. I hope there's a good update on this one, because wow. Like, there's so many things to say, I'm overwhelmed and can't even get into it. Situations like this are unreal. You know what the worst part is? She'll never be able to completely get away from him without "kidnapping" her son and running to get a new identity, or leaving her son behind entirely. Even if she had to leave him, he could weaponize the courts and get child support checks from her, which can open her up to being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:36 AM
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Yeah, having pretty much ANY kind of standard makes you "crazy" with guys like that. It's easier for them to call you crazy than to recognize their own flaws, even the ones that directly ruined the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:56 AM
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"...and then she ghosted me out of the blue for literally no reason at all! Can you believe that?" -Him telling his buddies how "crazy" you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 07:05 PM
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I didn't know this about "common law" marriage and how some NVM could take advantage of it, especially considering some women don't even know it's a thing. I had to check my state, and luckily it's not a thing here, but it's honestly wild to me that it's a thing anywhere. As for three years, I'm not even considering moving in with a man until at LEAST 2 years, but honestly closer to 3 or 4. I know I'm definitely an outlier in this, but I refuse to make a step as big as this with a man that I'm n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 02:44 AM
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I feel the same way sometimes. While people love to romanticize the past (even myself sometimes), they forget that for women, things have never been better. They'll continue to get better too. I have high hopes for the women that enter the dating game when I'm boomer aged. Like, I know incels and red pillers seem more widepsread than ever, but I think they're just more visible, and that the majority of men are doing much better than their fathers and grandfathers. I can only imagine that society…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:28 AM
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YUP. I'm honestly stunned by how many men don't realize that pre cum can absolutely get a woman pregnant. Or they do know, and are willing to bet on the odds to get their dick wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:18 AM
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Yup, despite the side effects being less severe that the ones women face right now. I think they're trying to develop new ones. Though, I get the feeling men will whine about it regardless, because once they have a birth control pill, they have literally zero traction to ever blame pregnancy on women. Of course they'll still try, but it'll be really easy to turn it around on them. Why didn't you wear a condom? Why didn't you pull out? Why weren't you on birth control? Did you purposely not take …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 07:17 PM
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Men and women can 100% have sex and not get pregnant. Condoms, BC pills, IUD, vasectomy, etc. If a man insists on not pulling out, and just HAS to have his dick in there when he cums, then I'm not sure how he can be surprised if a baby happens. This isn't a reversed "don't spread your legs" argument against men. This is a "take advantage of the many ways you could avoid dripping semen into a woman so that she doesn't get pregnant or it's also on you" argument. If you aren't wearing a condom, you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:46 PM
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Agreed. If this is rude, let's all be rude. Why do we have to pander to rude, shady dudes like this? So they can send unsolicited dick pics in a place where you can't report them? So they can get personal information from your phone number? So they can harass you when you drop them? I don't care if it's rude, because anybody who considers this rude isn't somebody who will be welcome in my life, and therefor has exactly zero say in how I live it. Pickme's and men who hate being told no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:30 PM
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Weird how all the women trying to "ruin their lives" are the same ones that they've knocked up. Usually after he whined about having the wear a condom. I've met or been friends of friends with several guys like this. Always shitty dudes. RANT INCOMING: To them, it's the woman's fault in regards to pregnancy. SHE went and got pregnant, SHE aborted his child, SHE decided to keep it, ect. You literally can't win unless you let them choose for you. They use the fact that we get to choose as a bad th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:44 AM
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And to think being a literal Olympic Gold Medalist somehow comes second to whoever you're dating atm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:36 PM
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Oooh but if it's done correctly and with preparation before In other words, "if it's done by ME". They should start having anal with each other, since they're such experts. I mean how would they know they don't like it until they try it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:28 PM
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"Okay well how can you know you don't like it at all with every guy until you give it a chance with every guy? It'll be different with me, I'll choke you differently"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:37 AM
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Yeah I just listened to one of them that gave similar advice about not telling men about your relationship history, or ANY abuse before, because abusers seek out "wounded" women who have tolerated it in the past. I'm learning how important it is to not overshare with men. I definitely had that problem with my last boyfriend. He got SO mad that he literally stormed out when I didn't want to do XYZ, because apparently experimenting with something in highschool then deciding I didn't like it, means…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:12 AM
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YUP. They'll talk themselves up like a employee of the year salesman, and then when you actually get with them, it's like a minute or two of subpar oral, then they're begging for you to suck them off. After they talked about, "let me just eat you out, I don't expect you to do anything". It's more like they're writing porn for themselves than describing their abilities, or what they actually want to do. They're literally just horny, and better at talking the talk than walking the walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:36 AM
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"Dear Diary, tan everywhere, Jan everywhere"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:18 AM
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They want impressive, and good looking, not something that actually tastes good? Lol, they just want to be able to post online and show what a great cook they are. They're really making a meal just for the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:14 AM
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"maybe you just haven't explored with the right person yet" 🤢🤢🤢🤢 I'm so, so sick of men having the entitled attitude that they are different, and they deserve a chance to ultimately disappoint us and confirm again what we already knew. Is it so much to ask for a man to accept our answer when we say, "No, I'm really not into kinks, or reenacting porn", without them trying to turn it into a debate? As if our judgement isn't good enough to have preferences of our own? If I get a whiff of this shit,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:08 AM
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No wonder his own mom ratted him out. Even she knows he's a bum. Honestly, she's an underrated hero in this story. So many dudes like this have parents who encourage their crap, or try to manipulate/bully their son's partner into compliance (so that they don't end up living back with them? Lmao). This mom though? She's the real MVP, looking out for a younger woman who she knows can do better. Love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:04 PM
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That's what gets me. She's spending HER time, putting wear and tear on HER car, spending HER money all to take this man child to work. Then, he won't even get out of the car to pump gas, what a brat. Weird how 50/50 only matters if the man is paying more. If he pays more, she's a gold digger. If she pays more, they interestingly have nothing to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:53 PM
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I personally feel like society holds standards that very few of us can ever achieve, as the "ideal" is a white, european looking woman with select features of other ethnicities. Society wants us to be the right kind of "mixed white". Like, there's beauty in all different kinds of faces, but we're literally trained from childhood to prefer certain kinds of faces over others. You can see it in kid's movies, where the heroes/main characters look white, and the villains/bad guys look ethnic (think o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:16 PM
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Okay literally though who just gives a dog as a gift? Without discussing it at all first? It's a living thing that will require a huge commitment in so many ways. This dude is either ignorant to this / immature about the responsibilities of being an adult with a pet, or this was done maliciously, as anybody who knows anything about dogs knows that huskies are notoriously difficult dogs. Personally, I would have just given the poor baby to somebody ready to care for him. There are people out ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:15 AM
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My mom told me about this once with a guy she dated (who later turned out to be a literal predator, but that could be a standalone post in itself). He overshared fact that he was molested as a child, and wanted her to share a similarly dark secret/confession that was deep for her. My mom being the person she is, lied in the moment and made up a similar story. She says she doesn't know why she did it, but I think her intuition kicked in. Sure enough, months later during a heated fight, he dug up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 09:29 PM
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I think the weird idea that men treat a cheap dinner as some grand gesture is rooted in the fact that they themselves are broke, or not well off financially. $30 must be a lot of money to them if they're really getting so huffy over it, poor things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:56 PM
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She looks so bored too, like she can't wait to go home. This man literally was doing whatever he could to save his ego lmao At least he let her know up front that he's trash, so she doesn't waste any more of her time. I mean really, are we supposed to swoon over pigs who expect sex just because they bought us dinner? A relatively cheap dinner at that. These are the same dudes crying about how nobody wants them too. Big shocker, nobody wants some cheap dude who thinks taking you to Chili's gets h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:48 PM
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Just another big lie men tell, is that they "get better with age" while we "hit the wall". Those hairlines tell a different story. Not to mention a lifetime of poor skincare. When a woman is older and single, it's probably because her older/less healthy husband died. After all, women do live longer than men. Not to mention, women have it better off alone than with a NVM/LVM, and we know it. When a man is older and single, it's because he can't find a woman to tolerate him. SAME. My toxic childho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:10 PM
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Gotta love a relationship that starts off with a big old lie! Makes me wonder how many guys have lied to me about their ages by just a few years before, you know? Same, I really regret letting so many worthless, manipulative dudes waste so many years of my life. When you grow up in a toxic household though, it just seems normal to you. As you said, if I can convince just ONE girl not to make the same mistakes I did, I'll be happy. Those years might be gone for us, but they still have a shot at a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 08:19 PM
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Bruh 💀 It makes me wonder how long he would have lied about it if you hadn't found out. Which, like, obviously you're eventually going to find out. I don't get why they lie like this. Same here. We all fall for dumb shit when we're younger. Live and learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:53 PM
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Women are plenty visual, and I'm done entertaining the idea that this isn't the case. The dumpy, ungroomed men lurking are surely ready to cite sources telling me why sCiEnTiFiCaLlY my brain isn't stimulated the same way, and so I'm not supposed to care how ugly they are 🤡 Okay how did he tell you he was at first, and how old was he actually? I had a guy lie once too, he went from 29 to 39, and he thought it best to come clean mid makeout 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:42 PM
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Left to his own devices he ate spaghettios and drank Diet Coke Ah, Diet Coke, he sounds like a real health nut!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:20 PM
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women their age are (choose one or more) jaded, set in their ways, no longer want kids, all married, etc. "Jaded" and "set in their ways" are both huge IME. Both amount to "they know how to recognize manipulation and immaturity". If somebody older than you is talking to you and says any of this, or something similar, about women his age, run OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:08 PM
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he was very emotionally immature Seems to always be the case with people who are trying to date somebody 10 years younger than them. A mature person goes for somebody their own age. I’d be in my prime with a baldy that has moobs 💀💀💀 I was almost right there with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:55 PM
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If you have to ask, you probably aren't as comfortable with it as he wants you to be. You guys are at very different stages of your lives, and if you dated the power dynamic would reflect this. You'll always feel like you're not on his level, and he'll very likely always talk down to you in subtle ways. Been there, done that. You have to ask yourself why he isn't dating somebody his own age? Why is he aiming for somebody so young? Does he reject women his own age? Do the women his age not want h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:51 PM
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YUP. I used to really sit there for sometimes well over an hour, with a man I may have only met THAT DAY, letting them pile on all their emotional baggage for no good fucking reason. Only for them to hit on me afterwards, talking about "how good of a person I am". Like, you don't even know me, all you do is talk about yourself. Good person = Woman who will give me free therapy and let me talk about myself constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:11 PM
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Men who unload all of their emotional struggles onto you early on too. They're either trying to fake "closeness" by sharing WAY too many details WAY too fast, or they're looking for free therapy, or both. They'll unload their life story at week 3, if they wait that long, and then at week 4 will tell you how "he feels like he can tell you anything" and wants to be "more than friends". Consciously or not, they're trying to fake the intimacy of a longer term friendship/relationship. They don't want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:33 PM
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Makes you wonder why you're even talking to them I'm not lmao. At 4 text's a week, I'll shoot them a reply when I get around to it. Hardly a conversation at all IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:13 PM
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Those podcasts are just men complaining about women focusing on their own problems and not men's problems. They're practically willful victims of themselves at a certain point. Gotta help yourself a little ya'll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:21 AM
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Why do I get the feeling that the mod who wrote that message in the bot isn't a woman? Just a hunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:25 AM
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YUP. The ones crying about how awful FDS is are the ones who are the most entitled. They feel as though us simply not engaging with them is literally as bad as wanting to completely dismantle equal rights for half the population. If they really think "block and delete" is somehow just as bad, it just shows the sheer entitlement they feel towards us. They think they deserve a woman, another human being. They think it's some kind of injustice for us to say "no". Seriously, when you do talk with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:04 AM
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Honestly, I support his decision. The problem is, they don't usually want to actually follow through with the being alone part. So many men whine, rage, and mass murder when women actually let them be alone. I'm sure he's got a prize winning personality anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:19 AM
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Like we just want women to have loving and respectfull partners?¿ Something something unrealistic standards or eugenics, or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:15 AM
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Same here. I came to see the extremist circus, but instead found an extremely supportive community. I'm convinced the people saying the worst things about us are either consciously lying or have never actually been here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:09 AM
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I fucking wish these were the kinds of problems we had. Can we like, trade with men? Cause hey, then they'll "get sex whenever they want", which seems to outweigh all the other downsides of heing a woman, according to men. What's a little risk of murder when you're getting laid right? Rape? Psssh, that's just more sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:56 PM
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Men get blocked. Women get murdered. Poor men 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:46 PM
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IMO our base message is to take care of yourself, and to set good standards for yourself inside and outside of your dating life. Don't accept bad people in your life, don't accept poor treatment from others. If that's too radical for some people, then they need to seriously look at their own self esteem. There's nothing crazy about keeping bad people out of your life, unless you're a bad person, then we're "literal nazis". Or maybe you're afraid you can't do better (YOU CAN), then we're "unreali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:41 PM
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I agree. Anybody coming here with an open mind would see in an instant that we are not our reputation. They may not be an instant fan, nor will they agree with every single thing, but that's okay. What they won't find is the "man hating", extremist toxicity that men love to pretend we're about. Seriously, anybody who explores the sub for more than 5 minutes can see that. The thing is though, they aren't usually coming here with an open mind, they're coming here already of the mindset that we're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:33 PM
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This the antiwork mod who interviewed with fox news? I don't know the deets, but I know they're getting roasted pretty much everywhere online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:04 AM
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Tell me that's not a thing, that men are now afraid to immaculate themselves by... checks list... cutting onions? I can't with these dudes. I believe it, but just like WOW 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 10:40 PM
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Instead of helping me, he scoffed and decided to text his friends in a group chat telling them how much of an idiot I was. The actions of a male idiot who doesn't know how to properly cut an onion. You just know that a man this quick to shame you would have 100% taken the opportunity to show off and "school you", if he actually had a clue how to do it himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:36 PM
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Honestly. I feel like a lot of men who suck in bed use the whole "women don't orgasm on penetration alone" as a "🤷 oh well what can you do" and literally just ignore the problem entirely. Like, it's supposed to point out that they should be stimulating us in other places, but instead they just throw their hands up, say we're too complicated, give us crappy sex, then act like the rug was pulled out from under them when we dump or refuse to have sex with them. See the "dead bedrooms" subreddit. Lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:12 PM
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Not only that, men love pretending to be women in conversations in order to fabricate a false consensus or rage bait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:12 PM
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I've done it twice. You know how many times it came back to bite me in the ass? TWICE. Don't do it guys, ya'll broke up for a reason, and the validity of that reason doesn't go away with time, just the details you remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:56 PM
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Bruh. This is just like, wow. I can't fucking even imagine having that happen during sex then you just KEEP ON GOING? Then you DATE this guy? Bruh. Never ever ya'll. Never. Not once. There's no reason for anybody to accept this for themselves. Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:37 PM
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"HIS NEEDS" 🤡🤡🤡 So basically, her (pickme commenter) man gives her really bad sex and never makes her cum, and considers this the normal baseline for sex. Not only that, but she'll shame anyone who doesn't also accept men who've broken their penises with porn. Actively putting down women looking to improve their sex lives? Christ. They're not even asking for much, just for a not broken penis. Apparently that's too much. It's one thing to accept such garbage for yourself, but then to tell others …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:34 PM
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Yeah I'm going to speedrun it. Like, I've already been going zero effort, short replies for awhile now, and straight up ignoring seems like the next best step
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:22 AM
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Agreed, honestly just writing it all out like this made me really process exactly how terrible he is. You know? Sometimes you know something, but don't completely acknowledge it until you're explaining it to somebody else. Man's getting big ignored. He can go leech emotional energy from somebody else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:35 PM
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I'm going to stop replying to him yeah, I think I've spent enough time half assing replies that it's time to move onto ignoring, then to blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:25 PM
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You know, I felt like there was a more common term/name for people who do this, but I couldn't think of what it was. I felt that fit pretty well, since he does the shit often enough to be his full time job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:23 PM
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Yeah, I'm going to, if nothing else it see what will happen when he's faced with silence. Your guy's responses are making me realize that I have literally nothing to gain by entertaining him with even occasional, half assed replies. Like, that month or two when he was off bugging some other girl, it was refreshing. Just shows how exhausting it is to even have an orbiter, let alone engage with them. I'll see if there's a way to "secretly" mute or block him. Also, added to my Amazon cart. I've bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:22 PM
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This is a good point. Maybe we should get a doorbell camera too, to be safe. My only concern is that he's an unlikable person with very few friends, so he doesn't have a lot to lose in that respect, which is what worries me. I'm still going to stop responding to him entirely though, because he's draining to talk to at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:19 PM
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That's like exactly the shit this dude does. They can't even just come out and ask to share their problems, they have to make themselves believe you actually give a shit by trying to pressure you to ask about it. I fucking love how you came back at him with this. Like, they get so pouty and passive aggressive when we ignore their games too. I love playing dumb and running with it. Yeah, it's honestly exhausting having dudes like this around. Not only because they constantly need emotional valida…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:08 AM
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Don't even send a polite "happy birthday" text. They will read that as "want to screw?" You've got to be cold. You're not fucking wrong. Sometimes I feel like this guy gets the message, then other times it's like simply responding to him tells him "so there's a chance". Does your coworker ever say anything about the ignored messages at work when you see him? I think I will start leaving him on read. Maybe it starts with every other message, then turns into every message. Not like the shit is any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:28 AM
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I can only imagine your DM's right now. They really do like to tell on themselves. They literally see no reason to improve, because so many of us spare their feelings, or even fake it just to get things over with. I've been guilty of this in the past, but never fucking again. I'd encourage more women to tell the whole truth during sex, but I suspect a lot more women would be getting murdered the the hurt egos of many a fragile, porn addict man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:03 AM
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This is so fucked up, I've literally had dreams where I'm about to get attacked/killed by some crazy man and the police put me on hold, hang up, or give me a ridiculous wait time. It's apparently not far from reality. How the fuck can they not investigate? When my brother and I were kids, we dialed 911 and hung up immediately because we were stupid kids, and the police immediately called back. My parents explained, and they still sent a sheriff over just to be certain everything was OK. How can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:23 AM
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In case you needed another reason NOT to stay friends with pickme's who refuse to see reason and LEAVE their abusers. When you keep people in your life, who keep violent, angry men in their lives, you put yourself in danger too. Like, if you have any friends struggling, don't wait years for them to "figure it out", you need to help them see why it's not okay for them to tolerate a partner like this. Being one friendship away from an abuser is still too close, as seen here. Just want to emphasize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 11:06 PM
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"I can't rape her whenever I want? Then WHAT'S THE POINT 😠😤" They tell on themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:03 AM
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Basically came here to say this. Like, rapists boycotting marriage? Fucking good lmao. That many less women being gaslit into thinking rape is okay as long as it's the right person doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:55 AM
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DING DING DING My friend had to do this cause of her man. I'm trying to enlighten her but she wants to be Bob The Builder over here 👷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:47 AM
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Didn't you guys hear? If a woman slights a man (which, do we even know this is about a man?), the most eQuAl thing to do is to kill her. Duh. /s Dude literally couldn't even come up with anything clever for the name, just continued the alphabet then patted himself on the back for a job well done 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:37 AM
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This, but say you're house shopping/college minded. Realtors and colleges make for the best mail spam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:10 AM
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I thought I was the only one who thought it was weird that after she said she drew, that he assumed it was with crayons. Is there a word for making such negative, condescending assumptions like this and then making comments to reflect that, as if their assumption is fact? Is it just negging, or is it something more specific? I have a "friend" who does this all the time that I'm trying to cut out ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:23 AM
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Some of these guys are just unreal. Can't say I haven't encountered a few like this in the wild though. Always online of course, where they can hide behind a screen and face no social repercussions for being pyschotic horndogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:04 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:03 AM
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🤢 I hate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 03:33 AM
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why would he need to say “finally 18.” Finally 18 for WHAT sir?! This needs to be said 1000 times. It's not marriage he was waiting for, or he woulda been proposed, and there'd be SOME mention of it in this long ass description. "Finally 18" means only one thing coming from a creepy ass 24 year old man who's been talking to this teenager since she was 14.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:10 AM
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He probably doesn't even know what kind of person she is SHE doesn't even know what type of person she is yet. She's too young! Like, I don't know about you guys, but I did NOT have myself figured out by age 18. That's partly why these dudes love young teenagers, because it's so much easier to groom a literal child who isn't their own person yet. They'll grow into the abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:05 AM
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YEPP You can tell a lot about a person by the picture they choose to post. He's really trying to give the appearance of the "adoring" (groomed) girlfriend, to minimize exactly how fucking creepy he's really being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:03 PM
390

Of all the MANY things wrong with this, one less obvious thing that's sticking out to me is the photo he chose to post. You KNOW many were taken, yet he chose this one. It's her birthday, but it's a picture of him looking at the camera. Not both of them, not her, him. The picture he chose is about him, not about her, it's meant to compliment him. A picture purposely chosen to highlight how much she's into him, as seen by the "loving" look she's giving him. He's making himself the main character,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:51 PM
236

Apparently he’s a pastor too Sometimes stereotypes exist for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:45 PM
863

"Well played, husband. Well played." I cringed ngl. How is having a sex dream about her, then rolling over and doing nothing about it (knowing she feels unwanted by the lack of sex), worthy of giving him the best blowjob of his life? Girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:36 AM
12

Yeah, him suggesting sounds like it was his idea, and that he would be paying. He shouldn't have said to put the stuff away if he wasn't planning on taking care of dinner. He's either cheap, or clueless. Why are you moving with this guy? I say since you're packed, just take the opportunity to find your own place lol. Kidding but also not kidding at all. Seriously, see if you can find something before signing your soul away for a year on a lease. Seriously, if you're doing almost all the cooking,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 06:18 AM
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Yeah, when he said that, his insecurity suddenly made a lot more sense. He's barely getting through his classes, while she just keeps on rising. I think this "joke" was more malicious than he wants to admit. Let's face it, anybody who needs to trash talk and joke about other people is probably toxic and insecure with themselves. It's their way of coping with that fact, so they feel superior in any small way they can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:58 AM
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Yeah honestly. To make jokes like this to CS guys of all people was completely an irresponsible dick move. They gossip as badly as anyone, they just do it through memes and shit. Of course this would spread like wildfire. I hope she dumped this prick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:56 AM
11

Wow, I didn't even think of that. If he's as educated as OP says, he might actually smart and slimey enough to know how to hide his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:30 AM
39

Absolutely! It's not just for the new men in your life either, but for the men who become resentful of you. Maybe you're succeeding and they aren't, maybe they feel you distancing yourself and they need to regain control. Getting you pregnant in a forced birth state, or anywhere really if you're not in a great place financially, is a go-to method for pathetic men to take a rising woman down a notch and to control her. Has been for centuries. And scrotes claim we've achieved equality 🤡 yeah right…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:25 AM
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So many examples too. Where technically a man can claim he did his part, but he did such a shitty job that you either have to accept 10% of what YOU put in, or you do it yourself to make the experience less shitty. Paying for dinner? Weird how when he's paying, we stick to somewhere "fast" or "reasonable" (aka cheap), but when she's paying (🤡), anywhere works for him. Cooking dinner? We'll cook a nice, hearty, fresh meal from near scratch. They'll put a frozen pizza in the oven and act like it c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:07 AM
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How does he havw $0 savings? Like is that really $0? I work not far above minimum wage and even I have savings. COVID hit everyone hard, how does he have no savings? He sounds like the type of man to talk more than walk. I've met people who, just from a conversation, you'd think they were big up and comers that had great things just around the corner- they didn't. They were just really good at talking. Look at what he's actually done. Has he ever had even temporary success in starting a business…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:22 AM
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or wealthy spouse to cushion any errors A wealthy spouse who he'll leave once he becomes successful and doesn't need the financial safety net she provided anymore. Leaving her with wasted time and nothing of value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:08 AM
168

Most of you may expect your guy to find his own condoms, and I get it. Personally, I'd prefer to keep my own stash as I know where they've been I agree 100%. I don't necessarily trust men to use good and safe condoms. They'll let them expire, keep them in their wallet for over a year, buy spermicidal condoms (irritates and increases risk of STD's), and may even poke holes to baby trap you, if you're in a state that makes abortion difficult. So, I supply the condoms. I buy ones that are body safe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:00 AM
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"Oh you know, I just really wanted to have a threesome some day, it's on my bucket list" = "If you don't do this for me, I'll eventually cheat and find women who will" "It's okay if you don't want to though, I guess I don't really need to be happy 😢" = Emotional manipulation, making you feel like the bad guy for having reasonable boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:25 PM
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my ex, never got me a single thing I would ever want An important distinction. Men like this, if they get you anything, it will have almost no thought put into it at all. My ex would spend a good amount of money on my gifts, but they would have very little thought put into them. I like practical items and try to cut down on clutter, he would get me decorative, useless items whose only purpose is to sit on a shelf. Like, I was always thankful, but inside they felt very impersonal and almost a lit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:57 AM
615

A person that would just sit and watch out the window as their partner shoveled the driveway alone, after a 12 hour shift is just worthless and lazy. Unless they're pregnant, injured, or otherwise disabled, they need to get their ass out there and help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:45 PM
53

They talk way too soon about how "great" I am, or what a "nice" woman I am. I push back: how am I great? how am I nice? They can never give specific examples, so I tell them their empty compliments are meaningless. It is abundantly clear they know nothing about me as an individual. 💯💯💯💯💯 This is a really good one. They LOVE to tell you how great of a person you are while knowing absolutely nothing about you. Even in my pickme days I knew better. I remember sometimes asking, "why do you say that?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:04 PM
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Which is the exact moment that abuser defending scrotes develop a sense of one-way morals, and decide to shame the woman for fighting back. Not a peep during the abuse, but the second she defends herself, they have lots to say. Funny how that works. These are often the same people who are very into gun rights too, which only further highlights their hypocrisy. Ever notice how their support for deadly self defense instantly disappears as soon as it's a woman defending herself from her abusive par…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:07 AM
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Sorry, but we're literally the opposite of incels. We get too many propositions. EXACTLY. Incel = Involuntarily Celibate We choose to be picky with the many options we have, because a lot of them are trash. That's a far cry from not having any options at all, then getting booty bothered and shooting places up over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:06 AM
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And when somebody says yes, he'll argue with them. If they say no, he says, "thanks!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:27 AM
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Weird how so many mass shooters have links to incel communities, it's almost like there's some kind of correlation of hatred there... Real question ya'll, has there been any female mass shooters with ties to femcel (being generous in assuming that's even a thing) communities? Literally even one? It's plainly obvious that they consider us not having sex with them to be as bad as mass murder. What a bunch of snowflakes lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:20 AM
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Same here. Every close female friend I've talked to about sexual experiences has been coerced at least once, if not many times. I think a lot of us thought because it was prevalent, it was okay. In reality, if you have to pressure or trick somebody into sex, you're just a non-violent rapist who uses words instead of weapons or strength. Plenty of other crimes are done with nothing but words and deception, why would rape somehow be the exception? Oh right, it isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:30 PM
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If I was going to do something like this, which I wouldn't, I would do it exactly as you said. You don't even need to lie to these guys, half of them actively do their best to not wear a condom anyway. Don't be shy about checking out that dick for visible STD's either. The same guys who will skirt any and all parental responsibilities IRL will be the same ones screeching online about how wrong it is that you don't give him access to "his" child. In reality, they'll only want to use it as a weapo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:26 PM
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I don't think the traits themselves are what would make him a bad partner, but rather the insecurities and trailing emotional issues that come from being all of those things. Basically, they have a good chance of becoming an incel due to their unattractiveness, and the personality traits that go with it are going to make them a bad partner. Though, I agree with the core of what you're saying. OP pointed it out to me that this was basically a "turned tables" post using things that some men say ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:04 PM
13

OPE it whooshed for me I can already hear the screeching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:34 PM
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I actually knew a really decent guy who had a ridiculously high pitched voice. Granted I never dated him so I didn't see that side of him, I did know him fairly well and he was a good dude IMO. While it's not something I find attractive in a man, I haven't personally noticed a correlation between high pitched voices and being LV (though, I'll be paying attention now lol) I think it just depends on the person. Come to think of it, I did know one pretty toxic dude who had a feminine voice. Maybe t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:24 PM
7

GOOD. Dude really wants all the praise in the world for doing the bare minimum, and just because it's common for men to feel this way doesn't meant they actually deserve it. I bet he thinks he's the hero of his own movie just because he doesn't hit you and does chores once and awhile. Sounds more like a roomie who pesters you for sex and praise more than anything close to a great boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:00 PM
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This guy gets it. If a man takes basic safety measures as a personal insult to himself, you have to wonder exactly why that is. Why are they so defensive and angry over it? I feel like regular people should have no problem with it. Like what would drive a person to get angry over another person keeping themself safe? Almost like they value men's feelings over women's safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:48 AM
51

Since LVM/NVM men. My toxic ex did this too. Any concern I had which involved him doing some kind of actual work, making a change, or sacrificing literally anything, he would consider "picking a fight". Sick of sitting around smoking and watching TV all the time? "Why are you in such a bad mood?" Sick of NEVER cumming during sex with him? "Why are you never happy with anything?" Sick of his subtle negging and backhanded comments? "Why are you always trying to start shit?" It's the worthless man'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:12 AM
31

And what was it, "and so we're getting divorced, and that's fine... it's whatever, it's fine... but here's 100 reason why it's NOT fine 😠😠😠" It's fucking pyschotic how he can use that cheery "it's fine" voice to describe his divorce one minute, then the next go full victim the next, insinuating how cruel and heartless OP must be for leaving a catch like himself. You know, the kind of catch that after you decide to end things, shows up at your door for hours in the middle of the night and won't l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:03 AM
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I hope OP screen recorded it as evidence beforehand. He probably saw all the views, and realized what a pyscho he sounded like so quickly deleted it before his rant got seen by his boss and peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:21 AM
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He seems the type to rustle up enough energy to escalate to murder. OP ^ PAY ATTENTION ^ Get some cameras, collect all the evidence and be ready to make a report with the police of harassment. This dude really showed up at your house and stayed there for hours "just to talk". He's a man who just got dumped, can't control his emotions, and showed up at his ex's house in the middle of the night, we all know where this goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:12 PM
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He's acting like he "did everything" for you, but all I'm hearing is a few sporadic chores here and there, and only barely the basic minimum of what he was obligated to do. He sounds like a self absorbed psycho, way too many places to start, I lost count of the red flags. Like, I won't comment on the video, but I'm just dying to say "So she dumped you, get over yourself." The narcissists try to make their breakdowns sound as profound as possible, when it's really just a super one sided story of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:10 PM
51

Maybe they should’ve chosen a “nice girl” That def ain't us lmao, they can go find some pickme's for a chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 10:04 PM
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And for the men who’ve let women use them, just choose better women.😌 This is going to whoosh over so many screeching lurker's head's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:04 PM
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Aren't we all sis. Male mods may have a hissy fit anywhere else, but you can say it here. I'll say it louder. MEN'S FEELINGS ARE NOT MORE IMPORTANT THAN WOMEN'S LIVES. I don't care if they think we're "mean". I don't care if they "have their problems too". I don't care how much they whine about it. I'd rather be "mean and alive" than "nice and dead".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 07:56 PM
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My ex 💀 He even flat out told me once that he was glad he found me "before it's too late", because he knew he already peaked and needed to settle down fast. Like cool, thanks for telling me the real reason we're together, you're afraid you won't be able to find better 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 07:26 PM
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They'll find a picture handsome older man, who likely spent his life taking care of his skin, eating well, working out, ect., and will tout it as proof that men "get better with age". As they scarf down their cheetos and fall asleep on the same dirty pillow case that hasn't been washed in three months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 07:24 PM
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Now I'm not suggestion that these "visual creatures" would find a way, but I'm also not suggesting that they wouldn't find a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:39 PM
270

Not allowed to get fixed when you choose to, forced to get fixed when you didn't choose to. Fuck these doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:38 PM
113

They can't stand not having access. Feeling entitled to either touch or view women's bodies because they've convinced themselves it's a "need" rather than a "want".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:36 PM
6

If I hear a man call a woman a prude or frigid, it instantly tells me all I need to know about him. In my experience, very rarely are women actually prudes, or frigid, it's usually just that their partner is a porn addict or a pig, and doesn't respect her sexual boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:14 AM
6

They're honestly pathetic, and they will literally get mad no matter what reason you give them. Like, in my personal experience, if you try to break up with an insecure short guy, he will be impossible to convince that it isn't because he's short, no matter what your actual reasons are. The self pity parties are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:09 AM
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Worse, a girl who doesn't like short guys. A witch burning worthy offense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:36 AM
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Matched with a dude who was 6'0" on some OLD years ago. I'm a short lady, so when we met up and he was only a few inches taller than me, it was obvious he lied. I was already out there, so we went on our walk date 🤡 and chatted and all that, and he was actually a really cool person. I would have liked him if he hadn't blatantly lied on his profile. Somebody who can lie like that isn't somebody I'll ever get serious with. Like, short lurkers, just write your actual height damn. None of this "oH b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:32 AM
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So now we're not allowed to ask their height? Can't make sure you're actually attracted to them first? It's cool for them to lie in their answer though, got it. They're really trying to tilt things in their favor as much as possible, huh. Kinda feels like the same power dynamic that prevents people from asking about their pay during job interviews. Moreso, in both cases, if it's a less than desireable answer, they get defensive and sometimes hostile. Notice how he not only lies (a variety of gro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:25 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 01:17 AM
1

What app is this? 10 months late but I'm actually dying to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:14 PM
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One small thing I've noticed that men like this do is say things like, "let's see where it goes", which is code for, "I'm probably not actually going to comit, and if I do I won't be emotionally available. I didn't promise anything". Like, yeah we want guys who are independent and laid back, but if from the very start they're treating it casually, watch out. They don't want a deeper relationship, and when you start to do those things, it would explain why they start backing out. If they don't sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:45 PM
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Not being interested, not giving them our attention, sharing negative experiences, and not being nice about it, it's all just as bad as rape and mass murder to them. Like how fragile can you be. Ope, there I go being a meanie weanie again. I'm such an incel /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:00 AM
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I've noticed this a LOT. It's either: Posts that no longer seem to exist, possibly never existed (shopped image), or has been otherwise removed. More extreme posts with very little interaction, that clearly isn't indicative of the majority of our views. They're convinced that every one of us agree with every post. Posts that come from accounts that, when looked up, are suspicious looking (low activity, low effort engagement within the sub, questionable comment history) Posts that are still aroun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:45 AM
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I usually send people a DM with the suggestion, because some people get big mad when they hear about FDS, let alone to see us actively spreading the word. Weird how they feel so threatened by us, but anyway. Yeah, I stick to DM's, with a reason why I think it would be worth them checking out. Relationship troubles, struggling to set personal boundaries, looking to self improve, ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:43 AM
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The ironic part is that it's usually coming from the people who claim to value "the facts" and logic before all else. Yet, they don't want to hear the facts unless it confirms their presently held views. Basically, they only want the facts that they agree with, the rest is propaganda to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:40 AM
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Yeah, I'm glad they exist, makes me feel a little better. The app I tried before actually listed the device type, which was automatically recognized, and would say, for example "IP camera". Lots of ways you can look, and yet it's still not 100%, which is honestly scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:33 AM
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To add to the pictures without our knowledge thing: no matter how much you trust a guy, if you ever plan on being naked in his place, CHECK FOR CAMERAS. Check the bathroom, the toilet, the bedroom, and anywhere else that he seems to really be trying to get hot and heavy in. Turn all the lights off, look for obvious camera lights. There are also apps you can install on your phone that help you scan the wifi network for devices like IP cameras, if you have their wifi password. You can also use the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:24 AM
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The amount of fucking times that guys from OLD wanted me to come hang out with them and their friends 😒 Then they'd act like I was some crazy, weird introvert because I didn't want to hang with a group of strangers who all knew each other, as a "date". What an uncomfortable situation, does anybody ever actually agree to that crap on a regular basis? Feels like a damn group interview or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:11 AM
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"We can just hang out at your place" 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 So many fucking problems with that I don't even know where to start. Potential hobosexual? GF at home? Kids? Is his place nasty dirty? Why does he want to know where I live? Is he a rapist? Is he a stalker? Is he a murderer? I will literally go anywhere else, most likely a police station.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:48 AM
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Then will complain how unfair it is that nobody wants to be around him, and how society hates men 😢 🎻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:34 AM
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Hey now don't go complicating things with talks of chores, and doing this and that, he told you, he's a simple man. All that other stuff just isn't necessary to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:08 AM
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🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:03 AM
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NAH GIRL they will deadass use it as a pick up line as a lure for pickmes who don't know any better. They have no shame lmao "Hey wanna go to a NYE party with me?" "Hey so I need a date for this party, think you can help me out?" "So what are you doing on NYE?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:00 AM
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So fucking awkward I can literally picture this. I've watched this happen before, somebody having their "first date" or "first meet" in a group setting, and it never fails to be so weird for everybody. Especially since most of us know that it will be the first and last time we ever see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:57 AM
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Okay so I do like thrift shopping, but that ain't a date. That's a shopping buddy who might try to follow you home lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:31 AM
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They just need a date to bring to these parties, and so they won't feel alone when people kiss at midnight lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:29 AM
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Being a man of "simple pleasures" sounds like his way of saying that she shouldn't complicate his mooching with talks of rent or other financial contributions. Sounds like the type of dude to claim that her asking for rent is going to "complicate things". As in, he'll actually have to pay his way, and he doesn't like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:51 PM
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Sometimes people "hivemind" and downvote already downvotes comments without thinking too much, as I almost did before thinking, "wait, this is actually true". I agree with what you're saying entirely. Don't focus on it too much, I know what you were saying. Probably was downvoted because it's definitely what he was thinking when he said "low risk", and people probably thought you were also of that mindset, which is pickme. Though, it's obvious from your comments that's not the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:29 PM
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Yeah, not just for potentially giving women covid, but the STD's, and potentially increasing her risk of getting cervical cancer via HPV. Glad to hear it, I'm also very worried about going to a hospital in general, because it seems like so many other healthcare workers couldn't care less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:30 AM
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Yeah, somebody like this definitely isn't getting tested. Shit like this makes me paranoid to have sex with like, anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:06 AM
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Some of the worst women can be just as awful as men, because they're so desperate for male approval. Pickme's like this are literally just as bad as having a LVM in your circle, because they're surrounded by them, and they will pick up even more LV traits. Like, when you're an open minded person, I know it's easy to want to look past their bad judgement and try to "live and let live", but you need to be careful. They're pickme's, they inherently value the approval of men more than you, and will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:57 AM
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Yeah, you usually get a discount for buying the two pack, and then when you run out, you're not complete out of shampoo. Not stuff you want to run out of, if say, you have to be at work in 30 minutes lol. Glad I'm not the only one who does this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:31 PM
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An extremely important distinction that the libfems don't seem to notice or care about. I don't want to be "empowered", that implies the power was granted to me by somebody else. That's not real power, that's fake power on men's terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:11 PM
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They've done more for less, I think this is absolutely the case. You know how tge wording sounds a little off sonetimes? It's because they're larping lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:05 PM
1

That's the worst part about my ex, he did play the field, and he was still awful. He had all the "crazy" exes and everything. He was living proof that a man can sleep with tons of women and never actually improve his technique at all. He only cared about himself in bed. Horrible at listening, even worse at actually making changes that he said he would, even in day to day life. Some people just aren't capable of, or motivated to change. I literally can't even imagine having sex with a guy like yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 03:10 AM
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This is something that pickme, highschool me would have done. There's nothing wrong with following, but don't follow in the hopes that it will go somewhere. It won't, and a small part of you will stay hoping it does. Cut that part of you off and move on from them. That's partly how influencers get such a large number of followers, is because many of those follows are by people hoping to catch their eye (or in other words, get picked). They purposely create the image of being successful, cute, si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:47 AM
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This x100 I've known too many women rushed into moving in with their (usually older) boyfriends because it was a good opportunity to move out. Be very careful, men sense desperation and can sniff it out from a mile away. They will take advantage, and while they'll frame it as helping or taking care of you, it's really because it benefits them. Somebody to split rent with, somebody who refuses to live in filth and will clean up after them (even though they "didn't ask you to"), more constant acce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:36 PM
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Don't see a high demand in the male community for unhygienic, boring women. That's just it, they would NEVER date a woman like them. A woman who doesn't wash her hands or her ass, who begs for head and doesn't give her partner an orgasm like, ever. A woman who has no personality outside of obscure videogames, who dines on takeout and soda. Do women like this even exist? If they actually got their equal, they would throw tantrums, have meltdowns, and complain about her as much as we complain abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:57 PM
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Same here, except it was "just" regular sex that he expected, not anal. What a gentlemen. He let me pay for my own coffee and everything. I know it's been said a lot before, but the bar really is in hell for some of these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:44 PM
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I'm more than a little confused why a guy with a "girlfriend" is lurking on FDS. And then spending the energy to "brag" that he's a shitty boyfriend. HONESTLY Like who do these 🤡's think they're fooling. What point do they think they're making?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:33 PM
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Didn't you know? Men are allowed to be abusive, that's not a problem to them. The real problem is when women get fed up with it. Life's funny isn't it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:19 PM
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"i CaNt hElP bEiNg A wOrThLesS uNdErPeRfOrMeR" Why do I get the feeling "It happens" every time? Oh but there's no way he could possibly correct this. It's wild to me how helpless they become when their wives and girlfriends are involved. Like they revert back into children 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:17 PM
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They out themselves, regularly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:56 PM
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Lmaoooo look how many comments they've already left. Do they even realize that we don't see them, only the comment count? These dudes RAGE when we flex our ability to just like, NOT engage with them. They hate that we can say no, when they're too desperate to do the same. Then they try to convince themselves we must be incels, because they genuinely don't know how to say "no" in the face of many options. I bet some of the real pathetic ones genuinely believe it's sexist to collectively share our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:54 PM
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They hate you for it too, while simultaneously trying to convince themselves you MUST be ugly. They hate that we have so many options and they don't, yet when they zero in on any specific woman, they'll SWEAR they're an undesirable incel (like them) with no options. Seriously, they need to pick a lane. Angry little trolls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:29 PM
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Exactly, which I later explained. Like, "Um, who do you think those men are mainly being raped by?".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:16 AM
5

📠 There's no rock bottom either, they somehow find a way to always sink lower with how nasty and lazy they'll get. Like, that's just it, where is the shame?? I don't think this is an insane ask either, just wash your damn hands. Neckbeards always come in with the "hE cOuLd jUsT bE dEpReSsEd", as if that accounts for even close to all of them. No, some men are just crusty, dirty, lazy people, and I'm sick of excuse after excuse being made for them. I don't care why he's nasty, I'm not going to li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:16 AM
87

Yeah, I think behind every "starfish", there's a woman who's literally just given up trying to make the best out of the moment with their less than considerate partner. We drop hints, or flat out tell them what to do, and yet they still find a way to blame us when they ultimately do a bad job. Their pride doesn't allow them to accept criticism about something as important to him as their egos, from a lowly woman no less. They aren't actually willing to make changes, because that would require th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:46 AM
100

They will literally do nothing for us and then proceed to complain about having to do SO MUCH. Like, they're complaining about what they're supposed to do, not what they're actually doing. It'd be laughable if it wasn't so real and widespread. We've all been there girl, wasted our time on some nasty dude who did NOT deserve it. This is far more common than they'd lead us to believe. No wonder they hate FDS so much, they can't stop us from talking and comparing experiences, and ultimately realizi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:11 PM
185

Had an ex who was so bad at sex (and even previously virgin me could tell) that he needed me to tell him exactly what to do whenever I told him I wanted something more. Firstly, what a turn off. Like, I asked him do XYZ, he does continues doing what he's doing, almost no change. I ask him to do ZYX, same result, might as well have said nothing. So I mentally checked out, "starfished", and didn't even pretend to have a good time. He wasn't listening to me, why should I spare his ego? Then, when I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:56 PM
44

You know, it's never something I really put much thought into, but this is really eye opening. In the past, not once did I consider how harmful this behaviour could be to other women. Thanks for adding this comment/explanation to help give extra meaning to the image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:50 PM
40

This person is just a list of red flags all in one short bio. I can tell this is the type of dude that will CONSTANTLY try to make deals with you for him to be willing to do the bare minimum. "Okay, I'll have breakfast with you, but only if you make me laugh and cook me dinner" "Okay I'll wash my ass, but only if you have sex with me in the shower" "Okay, I'll take you on a date, but only if you order something cheap and do anal afterwards" "Okay, I'll flush the toilet, but only if you agree to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:36 PM
38

Pretty sure it's why they love gaslighting so much. They can't handle the truth, so they have to try and convince us and themselves that it's not real. Never will you meet a more hostile person than a man being told he's actually not the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:27 PM
47

They never will. They deny reality in favor of "facts" that suit their agenda. I have some pathetic neckbeard in another sub trying to tell me right now how "men are raped way more than women". Citing 10 year old fake crap articles and everything. They really don't care about the real world, they only want to be victims. They'll take anything they can get to reinforce their victim mentality, truth ot not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:18 PM
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They don't actually do any of those things that this angry little manlet claims are required, yet they still expect us to have performative sex. They DON'T know how to cook better than us, the majority of the time. And if they do, they still expect us to cook for them instead. This person is not describing reality, it's a fantasy where they're the blameless victim and evil women are out to get him. If only worthless men like this would ACTUALLY leave us alone and stick to themselves, I would gen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:51 PM
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It's like those guys on dating sites who hit on you, call you gorgeous, sexy, whatever, and after you reject them, you're suddenly ugly, fat, ect. Like who tf do you 🤡's think you're fooling? It ain't us. They see us at FDS, know we'd reject them before they even contact us, so they go straight to the insult part. Meanwhile you know for a FACT, that if they'd encountered you anywhere else, where they can't plainly see our disinterest, they'd lead with compliments in an attempt to shoot their sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:24 PM
42

Hey now, gas ain't cheap. He's already splurging on breakfast, don't be a shallow gold digger. Be a low maintenance cool girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:14 PM
286

It's funny because on one hand they call us incels, and on the other hand they whine and screech about how UNFAIR life is for men because we can get sex whenever we want and they can't. Like, pick one scrotes. Either we're privileged with options or we're not. Funny how often the "truth" changes to whatever suits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:12 PM
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They don't care about truth, they care about their own agenda. They'll take the word of people who've spent all of 2 minutes in the sub as GOSPEL. They'll focus on unpopular posts that were very likely made by trolls and pretend that's the entire sub. They don't want the truth, they want a valid excuse to hate empowered women beyond just being a plain old misogynists. They'll froth at the mouth at a chance to hate women who refuse to engage with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:09 PM
111

The "trip of your life" is actually just the drive to McDonald's 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:40 PM
30

Never ever. It's something I can't look past. Sorry lurkers, but if you have one or more piss bottles, you're disqualified. Turn off your monitors, go to the bathroom, take a shower, put on clean clothes, and step outside for a bit. You'll instantly be 10x more desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:38 PM
75

Deadass. I think subconsciously they're trying to "reverse psychology" us into doing what they want by calling us incels. As if we're so desperate to "prove them wrong". We chose to do something they that would never do themselves, so they'll swear up and down it couldn't have possibly been our own choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:34 PM
62

Same here. Pathetic men who have nothing in their lives but videogames LOVE to gatekeep what it means to be a "gamer". "Oh, you don't play X game? I have 2000 hours in it, and the piss bottles to prove it. Do you even have piss bottles? Clearly you're not a real gamer" Like, their obsession/addiction isn't something to be proud of, unless they're an actual pro gamer getting paid to do it. Games are a way to spend free time, if you have that much free time, I don't admire you at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:27 PM
142

Yeah they don't really know what this sub is, or what we're about. The vast majority of us could get dicked by the end of the day if we wanted, incels can't, which is why they're incels. They get so angry that more women are choosing not to engage with their crusty asses, lowering their already scarce options. So, in response, they're basically screeching, "Oh you don't want to fuck us? Well you must be an INCEL!!1! HAHAH WE DON'T WANT TO FUCK YOU ANYWAY HAHAHA 😭😢😭" Like, okay, sure buddy. Oh no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:18 PM
114

Men really be out there saying not getting their dick sucked is oppression 😂 HONESTLY 💀💀💀 "You don't think my greasy, musty, unwashed ass is a catch? YOU MUST BE AN INCEL😠"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:11 PM
85

He never said he'd make you breakfast either. Either he's expecting you to make that too, or he's going to order takeout. At least he's showing you upfront how low effort he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:00 PM
231

"Make me laugh", "Cook me dinner" Ew, already putting it all on me? Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:59 PM
13

How fucking lazy can a person be Let's not even go there. I don't think we want to go there. Lmaoo I'm no hoarder, but I really try not to ever have just one bottle of handsoap, or just one tube of toothpaste. I have the next one bought and stored in the cabinet so that when the old one runs out, I can replace it, instead of being without basic hygiene supplies until I can get to the store. Is this crazy talk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:59 PM
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Tell me why so many men do this shit. Instead of picki g up a new $0.99 bottle of handsoap, their nasty asses will water it down until it doesn't even lather. My ex did this then genuinely got offended when I brought a bunch of new bottles to his apartment. Probably why he gave me so many UTI's 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:39 AM
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I honestly didn't even say anything, which I hate now. I didn't want start an argument and ruin our trip, and I think he knew that. It was definitely one of several turning points in the relationship. I know that might sound petty, but fuck's sake who does something like that? Made me realize that he stopped caring how I thought of him, and only cared about keeping up the illusion of quality to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:38 PM
10

Yeah it's honestly exhausting. They beg/fish for compliments after complaining no girls like them. If you ignore/say nothing, they get pouty/passive aggressive, and if you try to hype them up, they take that as you being interested. Overall just toxic people to have around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:50 AM
18

Went canoeing with my friends and ex once, friend accidentally left their life jacket behind somewhere, but the guy we rented from was nice and let it slide. Well, I felt bad because he was a really nice guy, and the next time that me and ex went, I told him I was going go give the guy an extra $20 for the life jacket. Ex could have thrown money in too, but instead asked, "Why? He said it was fine". Like, it was somehow confusing for him that I'd want to try to make things right. Whatever, I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:23 AM
27

It's so important. I've been focusing on more of this myself. Random dude I used to know and have been in touch with on Facebook started hitting me up, and we had been talking. Told me he liked me, I said I didn't, and that we could just go ahead and part ways because yeah. Noooooope. He wanted to 'be friends' anyway. Which really just meant trying to chip away at boundaries I had, constantly making "jokes" about sexual things and him "waiting for me" type shit. Not to mention, constantly needin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:12 AM
17

New rules. They make me cum first, or I'm not putting their 🍤 in my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:00 AM
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Not to mention, if you were sharing it with a man, he would 100% glutinously consume the majority of it in about a day. "iM a MaN i NeEd To eAt mOrE"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:44 AM
10

"Oh sorry is that not right? Can you show me how?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:38 AM
89

My longer term ex once told me how he always wanted to have an office mancave type of room when "we" move in together (major future faking, but that's besides the point). Cool, that's fair, who doesn't want their own space like that? Well, on an entirely separate day, when we were talking about our dream houses, I mentioned that I value having a space of my own to work and enjoy quietly, just like him. Well wouldn't you fucking know, now it's suddenly "too expensive" to just have extra rooms lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:44 PM
42

Can I go ahead and place a pre order? I'm here for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:23 PM
114

Of fucking course he assumed that spending money on a hotel room meant he was getting sex. Typical entitled ass man. NOT that sex is for sale from us anyway, but it really shows how little value he places on it (yet still whines like a baby about getting it) that he thinks it's some kind of fucking BOGO deal with hotel rooms. "Buy a hotel room, get sex for free!" I genuinely believe this is part of the scrote thought process, and that's why they act like they're getting ripped off if we don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:22 PM
51

I fucking cackled 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:17 PM
264

Alternately, get really bad at giving them. Use teeth. Give them a small taste of the weaponized incompetence that they're accustomed to throwing our way. #UseTeeth2022
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:59 PM
201

There's something about entering a hotel room with a man that turns him into the whiniest little horndogs you'll ever meet. It's disgusting. I'm fairly certain that the majority of men associate hotel rooms with SEX before anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:57 PM
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I think a small part of me died while reading this, oh my god. 🤢🤢🤢🤢 Why are these men so shamelessly nasty, crusty, stale, entitled, bratty, whiney, and awful. I fucking can't. I'm so angry and disgusted for you. I hate this feeling, but I hate even more how much I can relate to it. I'm all too familiar with being coerced into shit like this by unspoken threat of male anger and poutiness. I'm incredibly frustrated for both of us, for not standing up to this crap sooner. On the flip side, I'm so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:54 PM
42

God, guys like this are completely exhausting. Some of them will even act like we're the indecisive ones if we don't choose. Like, what?? I don't care how many dude's feelings this hurts, if you ask me out, you better have a plan ready, or I might laugh in your face. If I have to make all the decisions, you're basically asking me to take you out 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:03 AM
36

You know, now that you say it, I distinctly remember one of that ads looking almost pornish with how they had the girl positioned. Wait, you mean you don't spend Christmas masturbating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:09 AM
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However, some females do care – and they can be very specific about what they want I'm already getting an idea of who this author is based on the fact that they referred to women as "females" like this lol. Though, I guess we are "female dating strategy". Hell though, that article had so many ads it was hard to read. Just another case of women being supposedly "equal" and free to do what we want, but when we actually exercise that ability, everyone gets mad at us. Then, if you try to bring it up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:10 AM
134

Yeah, I do not understand why anyone would invite an ex to their wedding. If I'm getting married, WHY would I want somebody there who he's had feelings for / sex with them? That's our day, exes are the last people you should want around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:55 AM
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They want us smart enough to show off what a big catch they got, but not smarter than they are. When showing us off for our intellect, it's not about how smart we are, it's about how smart they must be for bagging such a smart woman. If we're obviously smarter than them, this falls apart, and they get big mad, as usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:48 AM
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There's no reason to stay friends with an ex, unless you still want to fuck them or haven't actually moved on. If you're that desperate for friends, you need to work on your social skills or getting out more. There are too many people in the world to act like your ex is one of your only options for friends. "They're still a cool person", no. By cool, they mean "she might still let me fuck her". Once you've dated and had sex, things don't just go back to casual friendship. It's simple enough to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:41 AM
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I hate how young women are told, "it hurts the first time", because it absolutely doesn't need to. By telling girls (and men) that painful sex is normal, even just the first time, we scare women and basically tell men, "don't both trying to make it pleasant, it's going to hurt anyways". It's a self fulfilling prophecy that becomes true as society reinforces it. Women come to expect it, and some (myself included) develop anxiety surrounding penetration, which could lead to things like vaginismus.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 02:56 AM
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Definitely not. First off, people who say things like this often do understand it, they just don't care or think the problem is even "that bad". I'd try to educate them once or twice, but if there's a resistance, then they're either willfully ignorant, a tad misogynistic themselves, or have a very stubborn, closed mindset. All of which is unattractive to me. Like, I need somebody with an open mind as I have myself. I'll listen to other people's POV and try to see it their way for the sake of dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 05:41 AM
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All the details are there, she just needs/needed to piece it together. Restraining order, kids don't want to see him, "crazy" ex, temper problems... Then he gets a dog knowing she doesn't like dogs and has allergies, then lies to her repeatedly about agreeing to get rid of it. Yeah, it's pretty obvious where the problem is. He'll spin a similar story about her to his next unlucky, unfortunate girlfriend. I can hear it already, "She tried to force me to get rid of my dog just to spite me, after w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 05:21 AM
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This reminds me of when I was little, the toys that my parents got me for Christmas/birthday/whatever. I remember getting a kitchen with toy foods, a motherfucking CASH REGISTER, and a McDonald's worker toy kit thing. Prepping the future fast food workforce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:00 PM
83

Yeah, I felt that one myself. They gradually got worse and worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 08:14 AM
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Well, clearly Jen G didn't do a very good job of fixing him up and helping him build his kingdom. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 08:08 AM
16

This gives me Dio vibes and I'm into it. I love seeing FDS art on my feed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:44 AM
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Ben Affleck was already in rehab a few years before even dating Jennifer Garner. His problem was already there. This is nothing more than a self-pitying, personal responsibility dodging alcoholic blaming the people around him for his own failures. She existed around him, which apparently makes her to blame? What a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:43 AM
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The really angry incels also have like 10 alts. They just post their opinion over and over, under different accounts, to make it seem like their opinion is more "correct" or "common" than it really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:49 AM
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Responsibility will shrivel a dick faster than cold water
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:24 AM
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Somehow, no matter how awful they are, they always find a way to make themselves helpless, blameless innocents when they spin the story to everyone else. They will literally abuse, cheat, and flush ya'lls life savings down the drain, and then tell everyone it was ultimately your fault because XYZ. X = "She didn't give me enough sex, men have needs. There's no telling what we might do when we don't have consistent access to a woman's body" Y = "She became frigid, bitter, and cold out of nowhere. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:31 PM
47

Same reason they fight each other to "start the campfire". They think it makes them ultra manly to be by fire, because it makes their lizard brains tingle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:18 PM
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I literally never connected the dots there, about "men's work" conveniently being the work that others see. No surprise when you think about it, since so many men crave external validation and pats on the back for simple tasks. Great point bringing this up, I've never looked at it this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:16 PM
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I love these so much, they all look amazing! Love the flowers on the one. Great work OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:56 PM
42

I choked 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:40 PM
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Of course he did. It couldn't possibly be a reflection on him, it's always those evil witches women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:27 PM
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It's because the girls who are nice to guys are usually naive and spineless Called out 😥 Like actually though, it's true. Back when I was an overly nice cool girl, I did not know how to tell men to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:50 PM
187

You can literally just be polite to a guy and he'll never leave you alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:55 PM
346

Yeah, I recently found out that a friend of mine has had feelings for me for like, a really long time. Something about it just didn't sit right with me. He said nothing this whole time. He never would have been my "friend" if he didn't want to have sex with me, and has literally just been orbiting this entire time. After my breakup a few months ago, his intentions became obvious and he fessed up. The worst part is that as I've become more aware of the different kinds of negging and other subtle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:54 PM
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Yup. It's not that they can't, it's that they won't. Them trying to write chores off as "muh biology says no" are worse than lazy children IMO. "If he wanted to, he would" -somebody
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:35 PM
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"BuT dOnT yOu wAnT tO bE aN eMpOwErEd wOmAn?" - some scrote, somewhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:00 PM
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Somebody else in the thread said it best, hobosexual. They're literally so worthless and entitled it's like, beyond words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:13 PM
94

he asked if he could stay at my place because ( insert BS story). Bruh. Tell me he wasn't actually asking to live with you on a FIRST DATE 🤢. These men are vile, not only is the effort in the negative, but they're not even looking for a date, they're looking for a woman to manipulate into giving them a place to live (for free of course). Overall it sounds like his plan was less of a date, and more of an opportunity to be adopted by a bangmaid mommy rent free landlord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:39 PM
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Pretty privilege is real, and even more dramatic for women. As in, if you don't do it, you will feel the effects harder than a man. As society stands, we benefit from looking "pretty", and we're hurt by being "plain". We're expected to look a certain way, and when we don't, people will say things to you, or talk about you. Huge double standard, considering men are neither expected to do this or questioned when they don't. Especially when you consider the time and money that goes into being prett…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:26 AM
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If you're picking him up on the first date/match/meetup/what have you, you'll be picking him up for everything. Bum ass dudes can't even be bothered to drive. You made the right choice here. This man was a bum, ultra broke, ultra lazy, or a mix of all of the above. He literally thought he was getting sex delivered right to his front door. Like, where is the effort?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:13 AM
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Literally why I stopped liking guys with beard/stubble. It looks good when well trimmed, but it scratches the hell out of my skin and usually breaks me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:57 AM
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Hey a lot of us made those mistakes too. We've all wasted our time on somebody who didn't deserve it. You're not stupid, some men are just shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:51 AM
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You're right and I hate it. I can imagine them saying it too, without an ounce of shame, and it makes me cringe to think of myself sitting at a table with them. Tell them your next date can be at the food pantry, before you pay for your portion and leave. FDS taught me to have cash on hand for a quick escape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:23 AM
42

"Oh, did you need help paying for that?...", nice and loudly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:56 AM
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Plus most men don't even wash their faces, so I have no reason to believe they're washing that more-bacteria-than-a-toilet-seat beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:42 AM
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Men straight don't get it, why I want to "be around dying people all day", back when I was on the dating apps they always put me on the defensive and went out of their way to tell me how horrible they thought nursing homes were. It's like they're choosing to carry a sign around that says "block and delete me". I'm glad you found something that you love doing though. Your future patients will notice, and are going to be lucky to have around somebody who cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:40 AM
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"Wired differently" is such a load. Are there differences between men and women? Yeah, but not the kind of differences that prevent them from doing chores. Like, what a load. Men are just as capable as we are to do any given household task. The only way their brains "prevent" them from doing these things is because they literally CHOOSE not to. Even children are capable of doing chores. Literal children, whose brains are actually less developed. If they can manage, so can grown ass men. Like, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:37 AM
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Good luck! I'm sure you'll do great. People who enjoy their work tend to succeed in it. Plus everywhere needs like, all medical staff from the sounds of it. You got this in the bag. WATCH. But yeah, that work is incredibly valuable. You start doing it for free for some man, he'll make you believe that your labor is just an expected part of the relationship. Just like cooking, cleaning, laundry, and everything else we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:28 AM
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YUP. Like, I'm not trying to be somebody's nurse and therapist. They need to be able to get real medical treatment when needed. Plus, if they think I'm about to take on their medical debt after they spun out while driving stupid... just no. Bottom line, I want somebody responsible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:18 AM
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RIGHT? Like, this is far from an unrealistic list. I myself meet these standards, so why don't I deserve a man who's on my level?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:14 AM
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The only people taking this seriously enough to get mad over it are the ones who think that THIS is the post that will convince all other women to have the same standards, which they do not meet. Like, I have my own similar "do not date" types. Dudes will get triggered by it but that's literally not my problem, it's theirs. A small, incomplete list of men I won't date: Guys content being "unskilled" laborers their entire lives, I like men with more ambition than that. Guys who don't wash their f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:40 AM
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We love to hear it I'm seriously happy to hear how much better your life has gotten, and all on your own too. Your daughters will benefit from having such a role model. I can only PRAY that your worthless ex doesn't come groveling back to them as adults. I hope they're aware of his nature, and are well prepared. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:19 PM
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I cringe when I see pictures where the person handling the camera couldn't be bothered to literally just tap the screen and refocus EVERYONE into the picture. Such a small thing that speaks volumes about who they are and how they prioritize you. Not even just in relationships, but with "friends" too. 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 02:12 AM
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Had a friend who LOVED friends back in highschool. I watched it because she loved it so much, and I honestly just couldn't get into it. I think she genuinely believed that THAT was how friendship was supposed to be. The sexist POV, the cringe humor, and all of the shitty things they do to each other written off as lighthearted jokes. It didn't help her main character syndrome at all. Not my thing. Maybe some people's, but not mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:50 AM
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I was waiting to see somebody say this. If a man pulled this on me, I'd find my way to the bathroom and dip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:33 AM
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For me it's less about the poking itself and more about how they handle it. Do they ignore/apologize? Or do they use it as an opportunity to pester you for sex? In my experience, it's the latter like, 95% of the time. When they do, I will deadass pretend I didn't even notice and felt nothing 🕵🍤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:25 AM
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Forreal. They don't even understand that if they could literally just respect boundaries, it would be so much more of a turn on than them trying to pull out their nasty, unsolicited dicks all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:20 AM
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When they know they're failing at something, it's easier to just pretend like they don't care, or that it's "beneath" them. It's like how the kid getting D's in class is also the one who's "too cool for school".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:17 AM
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Oh I don't doubt it at all. I think there needs to be a PSA to remind people that going on dates isn't the same as being exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:51 PM
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Only shitty guys get mad about it, because they're the ones who know they don't measure up against the rest. A high quality man knows his chances are good, and very likely has options himself, so he isn't going to get mad about one woman. Their reactions say everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:36 PM
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Yeah, and I definitely wouldn't in person, angry men can and do murder women for less. Same though, unless I'm actually feeling somewhat serious with them, I let them figure it out themselves. Nothing wrong with not being available for 100% of your free time, other guys or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:47 AM
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So what you're saying is, women having choices is basically a hate crime against men, and we must be man haters. /s Seriously though, 100%. We have nothing to lose and everything to gain from asserting our independence until we actually AGREE to be in a committed relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:42 AM
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YEP. What a fucking moron. He really, really thought that you wouldn't dare match with anybody else. Don't you know? The relationship starts the second you meet. /s The men who get the maddest about women having options are the same men who don't have many options themselves. OK bruh I just roam around performing full wife duties for strangers. This ain't meals on wheels. 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:37 AM
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Same. I always participate in these kinds of threads where I see people (men) saying stupid shit like this, even if I do get downvoted to hell. If I make one woman realize that she's allowed to see her options, I'll be happy. At least if a man gets mad that you're talking to other men before you're in a relationship, you know to run. From far, far away from his insecure ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:30 AM
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Some men really get so fucking mad when women do this too, despite the fact that tons of men will literally do the same themselves. A very hypocritical "women are whores" type of mindset. Like, I wish I had a link to the thread (outside of FDS anyway) but everybody was attacking OP because she was talking to two guys at once, and not hiding that fact from either of them. People calling her all these names, despite the fact that she wasn't actually committed to anyone, and was being upfront about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:14 AM
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Canada 🇨🇦, Norway 🇳🇴, Sweden 🇸🇪, Germany 🇩🇪 There are of course other places, but these seem to be countries that not only run things in a way that I think is more beneficial to its citizens, but also protect women's rights. Just seems like wishful thinking sometimes, because I know I'm far from the only one who wants to leave, and it's already not easy to. But hey, that's why we start the process years early, cause it won't be quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:31 PM
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Agreed. I'm looking to finish school and then leave to one of a the few countries I've been looking at, wherever will allow me to, honestly. I don't like the direction the U.S. is going. I'm not having sex with men here anymore, I'm not putting my future at risk like that. They don't care about our rights any further than it gets them laid. Like, I'm already icked out by most of them, and now seeing how many of the men in my life truly could not give less of a shit about RvW, I'm done. I need a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:04 AM
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Didn't know this was a thing, but I'm definitely now going to try it out, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:10 AM
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That was pretty much my thoughts on it. There are a lot of posts that I'm interested in, but too wary to actually visit the page. It's purely because like, think of the lengths that particularly angry and capable men will go to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 11:08 PM
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Thanks! Guess I just needed some kind of confirmation that I wasn't missing good posts for no reason, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:17 PM
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Yeah, sometimes I do on accident too, not realizing that a video wasn't embedded or something. I'm just glad to hear somebody else does it too and I'm not totally crazy here lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:12 PM
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Which I absolutely appreciate. Not all subs have such active mods with common interests in mind. I just scroll through "new" a lot, and so I worry that I might come across something that slips through the cracks, you know? By no means do I doubt you guys, I just get paranoid about the angry manlets sometimes. Wasn't sure if I was the only one, or if this kind of caution was even really necesaary. Sounds like for the most part probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:35 PM
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Buy yourself things too. I'd been too much of a people pleaser for too long, and realized that I spent WAY more money on others than I did for things I wanted for myself. Treat yourself ya'll. If you're like me and tend to go overboard on gifts, set limits for yourself this year. Spend on yourself the way you spend on others. You deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:55 PM
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I find it funny too how they're quick to jump on women because they want to "fight sexism", but it's crickets when men say sexist shit. Not a fucking peep put of any of them. Hell, you say something about it, they'll try to gaslight you saying, "tHaTs nOt SeXiSt ReLaX fEmInAzI" Like, the complete lack of self awareness is what gets me every time. "Rules for thee but not for me" much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:17 PM
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They'll really scream and cry about us using the word "scrote", then turn around and use "bitch" like it's nothing. They demand that we stop using "scrote", not understanding that we use it because they have a plethora of similar words for woman at their disposal, which they make full use of all the time. That goes for a lot of those kinds of things on this sub, actually. We turned the tables on them, and all they can do is point, cry, and scream about "sexism", while pretending the reverse isn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:00 PM
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I'm convinced that if she had not gotten the protection, or changed the locks, she wouldn't be around for the update. Abusive scrotes just cannot stand the idea of a woman they've been with leaving them, then succeeding in life. It enrages them to the point of murder often enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:47 PM
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I'm going to start using that, HVA, because you bring up a really good point about needing to differentiate between actions and the man himself. Like, we have "green flag" sure, but to me that's more of a long term behaviour/personality trait rather than a specific action at a specific point in time. HVA could be really useful in this way, good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:34 PM
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Sadly, there are men who will link you to an episode of some TV show where they did exactly this, and the women's island struggled. They link this, and then get the biggest "checkmate" boner of their lives, not understanding that the producers of the show purposely picked people that they knew would stir up conflict and drama, for views. Beware of scrotes who use reality TV shows as examples of why women "need" them. I've been linked the same clip several times. They really think TV is real life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:26 PM
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It's almost ironic, isn't it? Like, throwing being single out as a threat, while simultaneously refusing to leave her alone. Like, this says a lot more about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:22 PM
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Because they get tired of having to put effort in, so instead turn it around and blame us. It's only unrealistic to him, it's plenty realistic for better guys. Sounds like that girl is doing a lot of the physical labor too, shit. Dude gets to go in with zero protection, and she takes the hit of all the consequences, cool. We're better off without them lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:21 AM
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Oh so your expectations were unrealistic, and "reality" just so happened to be exactly on his level. I can't believe so many of us fall for the shit these clowns push. I'm right there with you, definitely had exes like that. Five is practically a hobby. Did condoms make his ween too sad or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:11 AM
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Yeah, I had one before, but she and I definitely didn't "click", and so I never felt comfortable talking about the hard things with her. Having somebody that can talk to you without invalidating you is like THE goal for a therapist. Exactly, like, I hate to to even give advice sometimes because I know myself well enough to know that I do not know the right thing to do. It can be hard to even know what to say because you don't want to push them in the wrong direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:01 AM
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I only use those experiences to try to empower other women, not tear them down. In that way, you are better than your friend. You tried to help, they went for a cheap shot. Not cool at all. I have heard that finding therapy these days has just been next to impossible. I tried looking myself, but it didn't seem like anybody around me was accepting new patients, let alone a woman therapist. Times are tough, but worst case, there are always video call sessions to look to. Yeah, I've had friends lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:48 AM
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I really admire somebody in my life (omitting exactly who she is to me to keep things less identifiable). She's an older woman in tech, which in itself is inspiring, but also spent years of her youth actively protesting for womens/lgbt rights among other things. She knows people from all over the world, from before the internet. She used to backpack very impressive trails, she still kayaks, and she's just so cool. Like, I wouldn't hate it if I ended up just like her when I was her age. She told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:09 PM
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Bruh. If anything, you have more right to suggest it, because you're familiar with the process. She has no right to throw something like that back in your face when she clearly doesn't have much experience with that type of self improvement. She was never your friend OP. I'm sorry, it doesn't feel great to have things like this happen, or to lose a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 07:02 PM
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he may have even gotten to the point where he asked to borrow money from me! He already did, when he basically told you to start paying 50/50 on dates. Real charmer that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:58 PM
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It never, ever NEVER ends up doing you right ya'll. Don't do it. If you find yourself being tempted to "make an exception", it's not an exception, it's lowering your standards. It's the new standard, because it's what you're accepting as being good enough for youself. If you find yourself considering lowering a standard, you need to remember why you have that standard in the first place. Remember that each boundary you have is to keep a certain type of person out. You start removing boundaries, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:27 AM
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My friend's therapist gave her this advice for when her mind got overly occupied with emotions over people in her life. She told her to write that person a letter about it, but don't send it. It helps you resolve some of your thoughts and feelings internally without having to actually interact with somebody in your life who might be problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:21 AM
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Don't dive into the good memories, that's what he wants. He wants you to remember his good side, not the reality of the relationship. He wants to unsettle you, and to shake up your head. Don't even let him know you read it. Do whatever with it, and then destroy it, don't hold onto it. I like what somebody else said about writing out all the bad memories too. That list will be longer I'm sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:14 AM
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Then, once you feel ready, take the letter and, for each ‘good’ memory he mentioned, write a bad one above. God, this is fantastic advice. This is what helped me eventually break up with my long term ex. Sit down and make a pro con list. Once you have it all written down and you can see it visually, the choice will likely be a no brainer. Even now, sometimes I find myself thinking of the good times and missing him a little. I just remind myself of the not good times, and realize what a prick he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:13 AM
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Your husband is a bottom dweller, with no drive or ambition to do more than the bare minimum. He was fine with you working triple his hours when it landed you both in the same place, but now that you're succeeding, suddenly working so many hours is a problem? It's not about the hours, it's about his insecurity. He realizes that his "sweet deal" is nearly a hand out, and one that he didn't have to work hard to get. Standing next to you, somebody who worked for what they have, and is earning much …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:19 PM
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I wasn’t even insecure but he was assuring me as if I was?? Because he's assigning you that trait. You could be the most confident, secure woman around, but if somebody close to you starts treating you as if you're insecure, you'll start to internalize it. Basically, men are pretty fucking sneaky in how they manipulate us. They think they get to decide who we are, based entirely off their perception of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:38 PM
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I do too, like, I want to be able to have a kid or two. I just hate that it means rolling the dice with some man, or basically doing it myself, you know? It just makes my schedule that much less flexible, which will ultimately hurt me professionally, and socially. Basically the same effect as having a worthless man "helping" (skirting his responsibility), as far as childcare responsibilities go. I'm scared of how it might limit my growth and earning potential in the workplace. Like you said, som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:16 PM
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Facts. When guys do this, try replying with something along the lines of, "yeah, I know". Watch how fast those complements turn into criticisms and insults of you being "full of yourself". They want us to be insecure, not confident. They want us to praise them for vocalizing their creepy gaze. A confident woman is a woman with options, which is why the "I know" response triggers so many of their insecure asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:37 AM
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YESS. Even having kids has been in question for me, honestly. I refuse to become trapped with some worthless, nasty scrote who will inevitably push the majority of the work onto me. Can anyone say weaponized incompetence? In a world where being a woman by itself is a disadvantage, this is unacceptable to me. I'm convinced that the only way to avoid the bulk of the disadvantages of being a woman (within the home) is to avoid getting involved with men or having kids. It's like once you're seriousl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:19 AM
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He resents her, and is purposely milking her responsibilities because he doesn't respect the work she does. He doesn't think SAHM is "real" work, so has absolutely no problem piling more on her plate. Might as well "get his money's worth" right? 🤢🤢🤢 Men like this are absolute pigs. They treat their SAHM wife the same as having a personal chef, maid, nanny, 24/7 therapist, and a living fleshlight, all while simultaneously pretending that none of it is real work. I'm disgusted by the vast majority…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:29 AM
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That would be my guess. "I need some advice can you help?" "Yeah sure okay" "How does my dick look" "Advice" is either them unpacking their entire life to you in the hopes that you'll fix their problems verbally, or it's going to involve their dick, because that's what their lives seem to revolve around, primarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:40 AM
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Active in a sub called "sex", nuff said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:52 AM
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Why do these men beg for our labor, yet simultaneously devalue it? Therapists charge good money to listen to people, why would we give it away for free to a total random? Our time is far more valuable than their problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:27 AM
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We're toxic and insecure, but watch what happens if you ignore them and walk away after they say that. They'll really let their own toxic insecurity show because they can't handle being ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:18 AM
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Yep. Long before FDS, I dated a guy I worked with (I know), who I'm now 99% sure was on the autism spectrum, and also suffered from things like ADHD, anxiety, depression, the works. He was a quiet, sweet, sensitive guy, but you can be all of those things and still be manipulative. Well, he was in therapy, and in the process of finding the best medications for his issues. I was attracted to his motivation for self improvement, but my experience with him will ensure I never date a "work in progres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:29 AM
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God, I feel so bad for that girl, having such a worthless scrote for a father. Seriously, what kind of parent genuinely can't come up with any positive way to describe their kid? Even the worst, most temperamental teenagers have some good traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:27 AM
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but I don’t want to explain to all these people that HE is the one breaking boundaries and disrespecting my wishes. Don't avoid doing it though, and don't be afraid to casually share your reasons for your "cold hearted" rejection. Men like this bank on us wanting to avoid confrontation, or not wanting to cause drama, ect. You don't need to go out of your way and waste your valuable time on this dude, or even share too many details, but don't tip toe around why either, when somebody asks or bring…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:13 AM
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This has been my go to forever. I won't even acknowledge that it's there, I wait for them to take care of it. Like, they invited me out, I don't see any reason why I should have to even pretend to reach for my purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 08:29 PM
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This is 100% rageb8 written by a troll who saw the post, and it made his pp so scared and upset he did this. Look at the lengths they go to when they feel threatened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 06:52 PM
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Yeah I was a little afraid to say this, but it's true. A family member dying weeks before isn't an excuse to stand OP up. All he had to do was pick up the phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:11 AM
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Totally understandable why. Women are socialized to be nurturing, and to put others before ourselves. The internal struggle is real sometimes, but don't doubt yourself here. I really think you made the right choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:09 AM
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I think you made the right choice backing out of this. He may be grieving, but it still affects you the same way. He told you he'd call and then he didn't. I know this might sound harsh, but nothing was stopping him from at least sending you a "nevermind" text or something. His grieving is no reason for you to lower your standards. Best thing you could have done is just walk away, and that's what you did. If blocking him helps you keep your mind sane, then you did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:41 AM
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Exactly. You summarized it better than I could lol. He's giving you plenty of lip service, but actions are louder than words, and he's taking exactly zero action. So yeah, overall, I would say this guy is not HV, to answer the main point of your post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:25 AM
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Slowly but surely those problematic traits will pop up with him. Sounds like some might already be there, and he's just good at covering it up. If I see something that actually makes me feel grossed out, I just won't want to watch it, because it doesn't make me feel good. If he's still watching it, I don't believe he's as disgusted with it as he says he is. He could easily just be saying those things as a fabricated "green flag" because he knows how lots of women feel about it. Bonus points for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:08 AM
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If he's so concerned about spreading positivity, why isn't he complimenting men? Or is his "positivity" limited to attractive women? This should give you the answer about how authentic his innocent positivity actually is. You are an average of the people around you. Even the best people will eventually take on the shitty traits of the people around them, if the majority of their circle is problematic. Almost nobody is immune to this. Seems that he knows the right things to say, and might even un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:21 AM
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I did, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:02 AM
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Okay but can we talk about the fact that she's genuinely more attractive than him?? Bald ✔ Scraggly Beard ✔ Ugly attitude ✔ Men will literally find a pretty woman and convince her she isn't, so she doesn't have the confidence to leave. Anything for consistent access to sex, what a pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:38 PM
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This is where I, in her shoes, would throw him under the bus: actually, hubby wanted an open relationship. I realized I didn’t, so we’re getting divorced. I don't even consider this "throwing him under the bus". Just sharing the truth. The facts of what actually happened. He put himself under the bus 🚌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:35 PM
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you instruct him from the jump to clean up after himself ("Put dirty dishes in the sink ") and only ONCE. If he is messy, he shouldn't be allowed back. YEP. You're not his mom, and you shouldn't have to remind him repeatedly of your simple expectation of not being a slob. Don't take on that role. Any decent adult, let alone a HVM, will only need to be told once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:31 PM
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She'll have to be gone by the morning though, because he already has plans Saturday- being "sick"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:19 PM
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and that he doesn’t mind her presence because she does that. So what I'm hearing is that if she weren't willing to clean up after then, he would mind her presence? As in, she's only allowed to be there with them if she's going to be their maid? That is so not the same as being "one of the bros". That's called, "I don't like my partner being around me and my friends so much, but I guess if she's willing to keep things cleaned up we'll tolerate it". Way to become a second class citizen within the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:17 PM
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Block and delete this 🤡 The second he used being sick as an excuse for Saturday, immediately after suggesting Friday, he outed himself as a flake ass liar. This will not be an isolated incident. Don't waste your time on this one sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:08 PM
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Yeah, I did the same thing with the girl he was cheating on me with. I wanted to give her a heads up, but I suspect she already knew. I still weirdly never felt any anger towards her, only him. I basically just told her, "hey, this guy cheats, and you should watch out". She wasn't rude about it, but she brushed the information off big time. I know they weren't together for very long after, and I never knew if that was because of more cheating, or because she realized he was gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:42 PM
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Yeah, if it can actually be considered anyone's "hobby" that's a major nope from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:37 PM
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They want 50/50 because they know the odds everywhere else are already stacked in their favor. It's as good as accepting the staus quo, which is a society that favors men for any kind of real success in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:23 AM
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Beautifully put. It was never about the deal, it was never about the baby, it was about control. I think there are multiple layers to this myself, partly bitter jealousy at his wife's success, partly a need to control her. If she can write, she can become successful, if she becomes successful, she can leave him when he shows his true colors. Wherever the success might come from, it's a threat to men like this. They like to reel some poor woman in, charm them, maybe get them pregnant, married, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:10 AM
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Seriously. Most of these men are literally a net negative on your live. They waste your time with garbage sex, give you UTI's, neg you when your success makes them feel threatened, get you pregnant, eat the majority of the food YOU cooked, live like slobs, scream at their games, and usually won't shower until they absolutely have to. Like, what am I even getting out of all of this? This deal sucks, I've chosen to opt out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:54 AM
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Okay but seriously this takes major guts to actually call your dad out this way. Think he's really ever going to change if nobody days anything? Hell no. He honestly thinks he's not being creepy, he needs to see himself how others see him so that he can see the problem. If more people were willing to call out those close to them like this the world would be a better place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:37 AM
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My very first boyfriend ever cheated on me, and so many people knew, but nobody told me. Some guy on the bus who I was kinda friends with told me in a kind, "just letting you know" way. It hurt a lot to hear, but I'm glad he told me, before my nasty cheating ex gave me mouth herpes or something. Fuck the "it's their business" attitude. If everybody knows, it's not just their business anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:27 AM
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Yeah and as somebody else mentioned (you replied right as I crossed this part out! Lol), just because you skip lunch doesn't mean you actually get to go home early all the time. Dude was literally just trying to find any possible way of making himself the victim here, and looking for things to get angry about, even if they aren't really accurate. Looking for things that he doesn't like to blame on the book. Grumpy attitude? Couldn't have been anything he did, it was probably that god damn book! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:14 AM
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I really believe behind every guy who's "still really sweet though", there's social media accounts made in secret, where they post angry manlet shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:42 AM
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Dated a guy right out of highschool who (looking back) clearly felt threatened by my college plans, and convinced me that college was a waste of time and money, and that the "smart" choice was working (unskilled jobs) to save up (like him). Fucker derailed me good, which I do take most of the responsibility for admittedly, and it wasn't until I saw him a couple years later that I realized I made a mistake. He was broke and balding, still working the same minimum wage ass jobs pretending that dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:41 AM
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"Secretly" but not so secretly. I bet their friends and family can feel the resentment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:35 AM
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and his plan to keep her tied to the home after she bore his child didn't work. "Now you need to promise me that you'll stop trying to entertain this crazy idea of being a writer, not when the baby needs you. You've got your hands full as is, and I don't want you to burn yourself out. We're doing this for you, remember?" Fucking scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:33 AM
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Oh my fucking god did we actually date the same guy because this sounds exactly like the guy I was with. Like I "owed" him for the favor of discreetly, passive agressively negging the shit out of me. I didn't even realize it for so long 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:30 AM
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Why else would he get so mad that he had to watch the baby for a whole extra hour every day. The absolute horror felt only by the most worthless partners who feel that their share of the parenting is a favor. You just know she had to listen to him complain about how betrayed he felt, and he probably even manipulated her to apologizing for having the audacity to do what she wants in seemingly her only hour of free time a day. This post is just rage inducing all around. I fucking can't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:27 AM
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That's a perfect way to summarize it. Like you need them to show you the way, as if you could never figure it out on your own. They assign you the role of being helpless and naive, and then take the role of the "helpful" guide to life that you never asked for. Like, I was doing fine before his ass came along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:22 AM
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Because he's supposed to be the successful one, duh. Obviously it can only be one or the other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:15 AM
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Imagine if she could write on more than just her lunch breaks, with no insecure manchild telling you not to because reasons. This woman could likely do just fine on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:15 AM
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This isn't about the deal, but I don't need to tell you guys that. Enjoy this list of stupid post titles. "Help me come up with good reasons to be mad at my wife for earning more with her side hustle than I do in a whole year?" "I made her promise that she wouldn't become successful with her passion, and now she is, I feel utterly betrayed." "AITA for getting mad at my wife for betraying my trust?" "She didn't skip her lunch breaks daily so I had to watch our child for an extra hour everyday. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:10 AM
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Which one of you was this lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:59 AM
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When I broke up with my first long term boyfriend who I thought was helping me to "mature", but was really causing tons of problems that I didn't have before. He acted like he was the solution, while actually being the cause. Took awhile for me to see it, but once the pattern was seen, it couldn't be unseen. The more I read, and the more aware I become, the easier time I have "decentering" men from my life. Nobody is going to prioritize ME the way I will. Gotta remember that, and not let some ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:56 AM
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And they're the ones constantly accusing women of being flighty when a "better" opportunity comes along. Complaing about how "these women have no loyalty", and how they need a "ride or die". They obsess so much over it, yet are commonly the ones guilty of leaving when things get tough. Projections, projections, projections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:51 AM
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I saw this post and it just made me sad. Sad for her and sad for the normalization of this kind of dynamic. Ya'll, we do NOT beg men for marriage. It's not a "favor" that he's gifting to you, that is not the way you want to start out your marriage, where you "owe" him for being with you. Fuck that kind of relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:21 AM
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Is it? Granted, I have seen far from every episode, but I don't remember any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:09 AM
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Honestly, before seeing this post I had no idea. I loved Chris Pratt's aesthetic, but now knowing this, he's instantly like, just gross. Nothing makes a hot guy ugly faster than his shitty treatment of the women close to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 05:01 AM
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This gives me hope that there are actually HVM worth being with out there. I'm glad you have this kind of relationship in your life, not to sound crazy basic, but this is kinda goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:29 AM
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God I'm so happy to see you post this! I was keeping an eye out for it after you mentioned this the other day. Very thoughfully written out. I'm also thinking that it would lead many men to not chase sex as much. If sex = guaranteed nut, they're going to want sex more. If sex =/= guarantees nut, they're going to want it less. Like, totally not the same thing, but if you had a big case of your favorite candy, you're going to go through that candy much faster than if you had a case of an OK candy.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:25 AM
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Yeah I agree, and that's pretty much what I decided to do with it. Take the handful of good things that religion encourages, and enhance my life that way, but don't affiliate myself with any specific religion. Like, I'd consider myself spiritual, but not religious, because there's too many needlessly controlling aspects of most religions that I don't feel like would actually benefit me, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:25 AM
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You can tell this to a man and his entitlement will really start to show. He'll likely try to explain to you why he's somehow more important/deserving than your best friends. "i'M dIfFeReNt ThOuGh RiGhT 😜"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:52 AM
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Agreed. There was a time in my life when I was open to the idea of embracing a more religious lifestyle (cause hey, they always seem like pretty happy people, or the ones I've met), but for this reason I realized it just wasn't the way for me. I simply cannot put my faith into something so blatantly anti woman. All of the "big" religions boil down to women being second to men. Why would I ever choose to go into it knowing that I'll always be pushed to submit to some man? Religion isn't good for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:47 AM
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Messaging somebody back that genuinely interests you is easy and takes all of about 2 minutes of your time. A guy that just drops off for a whole 24 hours with no indication as to why is when I'm done with it. If it happens a lot, I drop as well. No matter how busy somebody is, if they can't find 2 minutes during the day to say something they get dropped. I'm not going to be treated like an option, or a pastime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:47 AM
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They told married women to stop talking to their single girlfriends after marriage because the single ladies can seduce her husband. They tell married women not to visit their family often after marriage else her husband might feel she isn’t happy with her new family. Holy hell, I'm convinced that these topics have been picked by men who are abusive/manipulative/controlling themselves. Women in abusive relationships often find themselves being isolated by their partner, who drives them away from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:25 AM
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Not OP, but thanks for the reminder. Sometimes I forget when dealing with men like this that just because I know, doesn't mean I have to let him know that. Just gives them tips for the future. As tempting as it is to call these 🤡's out, you're right, it's much better to just block and delete. Something I've personally struggled with in the past myself, and even sometimes now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:49 AM
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Me either. It's targetted towards women as a whole, but especially white women. What male equivalent even is there? Pretty sure the best they got is "male karen", which is still hugely sexist, considering the "bad" part of that phrase is the part relating to women. The difference between women and men who act like this is that men will get physically violent WAY more often, while the worst women (usually) do is throwing things. The men who act like this are often FAR worse than the women who do.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:33 PM
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The trick is to take a shower with them. They think you're being flirty or whatever, but really, it's an opportunity for you to make sure their dick gets clean. Only half kidding 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:10 PM
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Community dick 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:19 AM
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Honestly though. My first boyfriend that I had sex with definitely did not clean himself enough. Pretty sure he thought as long as he put a new layer of deodorant on, he was fine. Well, since he was my first experience with sex, I didn't necessarily notice at first that his grimey, unwashed dick was giving me UTI's. I know it was, because when I stopped sleeping with him, they stopped coming back. They can say what they want about dildos and vibrators, but at least I know they're CLEAN and not g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:27 AM
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And getting your money back is good "confrontation practice" with low stakes. It really is. Good way to practice your ability to be assertive and polite. I've found that generally, employees aren't even upset as long as you're nice with them. No matter what bullshit they tell you, keep pushing, and stay super polite, it will get you far. Some people struggle with the pushing, some people struggle with staying polite. Master both and you're the queen of dealing with customer service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:09 AM
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Or they do, and just don't care/are cool with it because it benefits them. When you really start to look at men/women, they have so many advantages that it's not even funny, it's just depressing. Meanwhile they whine about how privileged we are because we have "more options for sex". Like, oh boy, my privilege is getting to pick through garbage. Trade? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:41 AM
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I'm here for it. Keep em humbled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:35 AM
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"mUh bLuE bAlLs tHoUgH yOu cAnT dO tHaT"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:00 PM
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when they sarcastically say, “you insisted on being equal! Wanna be equal? Pay the bill!” I don't take any of that. Like, if a guy said that at all, he's already out, cause like you said, he's basically telling you he's a misogynist. If a guy wanted to bring the subject up politely, I'd explain to him that I fully expect to see him make the relationship as equal as possible for a given amount of time before I'm going to reach for my purse. I'm talking equal respect, equal chores, equal cooking, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:57 PM
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I agree. I'm definitely getting my money back. I don't care if it's inconvenient for somebody, it wasn't my mistake that I was overcharged. They can direct their frustrations towards themselves, or whoever make the mistake. I'll be polite, but firm. Like, there was a time when I'd say, "oh that's alright, have a nice day", and then leave, for fear of being called a Karen. You know what though? Men don't have to worry about getting called that, or anything comparable. So why should I? Why do I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:24 PM
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If a guy asks me out, he's paying. That's not a men/women/dating thing, that's a "he invited me out so it's the polite thing to do" thing. I'm not going to force him to, but I'll expect it. If he absolutely insists on splitting, then whatever, but he won't be hearing from me again, and I'll make that clear (after the fact of course, be safe ya'll). I'm done being equal only when it benefits them. They don't seem to mind the inequality everywhere else, but god fucking forbid he pays for the date …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:13 PM
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I'm choosing to believe this won't happen either, at least not this way (accepting Texas's new law). It would open the door to states being able to blatantly ignore constitutional rights, and would clog up the courts with bullshit lawsuits. RvW is still in danger with the supreme court being stacked like this, but I don't think it could actually be overturned and stay that way. There would be riots. That being said, I'm ready to start going to protests now, because I don't like how close we are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:03 PM
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When St. Patrick's day comes around, look for little potted shamrock plants! I loved having those because of the way they close up and open up during the day/night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:20 AM
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If you've been buying yourself flowers for this long, you probably already know, but I'm sharing florist knowledge anyway just in case (and for anybody else reading). You can make them last even longer with a bit of ice in the water, and by trimming the ends and changing the water every few days. If the store has a floral counter, you can ask for extra flower food and it's typically free. Alstroemerias and Carnations both last like, a REALLY long time if you do this. If you already knew this, ig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:18 AM
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I've noticed a lot of this too. People who are so eager to be in on the trend of calling women a "karen" that you don't even need to do something they dislike. You just have to be a woman, an older woman usually. Weird how there are never any terms like this for dusty ass middle aged balding men that hit on 21 year olds at the bar and online. We should make one. Then we can point at them and call out their "____ hair" (or lack of).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:06 AM
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I'll sit back, observe and if I see women agreeing with them I'll perhaps send her a signal or two in the form of crafted questions or sentences and watch the woman GET IT and withdraw from agreeing with the "clueless" guy who is still clueless. Thank you for doing this. I had a friend who did this for me and I genuinely believe she turned my life away from a really crappy path involving some NVM. You're doing it exactly the right way too. Go in pointing fingers puts people in the defense. Letti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:59 AM
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Yep. I accidentally slipped up the other day, and answered questions that were semi personal, and now the guy won't stop. Constantly asking about my personal life, what part of town I live in, where I went to school, how old I am, ect. It's fucking creepy and annoying. I get wanting to be friendly with the people you work with, but you can do that without building a whole ass profile. All I know is I carry my housekeys on me at work now. I know it's incredibly easy for somebody who's committed t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:55 AM
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I agree, it's important to be an active part of the household finances. Big red flags are the men who brush their girlfriend/wife off saying, "don't worry I'll take care of it". While it might seem thoughtful at first (if you're gullible like me), it's really 1) a sign that he doesn't respect you or your capabilities, and/or 2) a way for him to gradually take control of the finances entirely, and using it as a way to control you or hold over your head. My mom always let my dad handle that stuff,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:09 AM
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Oh no I got what you meant, I was just sharing how (in my experience) it usually gets used. Shamed to say I've dealt with a lot of LVM/NVM pre FDS. I makes me wonder exactly what the context of that post was. Usually when I hear it, it's being used as an excuse for why the woman should settle for bad sex. I could imagine it being used on other ways though as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:48 AM
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Yes, I agree. At its core, love languages are valid and worth considering in a relationship, between you and your partner. I think the problem arises when people think that you can only have one, or that your partner's love language takes priority over what you're comfortable with, if that makes sense. Being "too rigid" about it is a great way to put it. Love languages just aren't meant to be used the way that so many people are using them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:39 AM
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That's just the impression he wants to give off. Make no mistake, he'll still expect regular sex. It just won't be very good for you, and when you raise concerns, he'll say it again, using it as a way to get away with selfish sex. I guarantee almost any man saying this would suddenly change their mind if you ran with it and replied, "we don't even need sex! It's such a small part of the relationship, we're fine without it". Suddenly sex wouldn't be such a small part of the relationship anymore. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:08 AM
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Where women are literally prizes to be won. Where men "fall in love" with women just because they really, really like the way they look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:57 AM
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Basically every greek myth, as much as I love them, they're ridden with that crap. Twilight. Almost feels like cheating bringing that one up lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:54 AM
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Yeah, they always seem to get butchered into meaning something completely different than what they were meant for. Like you said, it's not an excuse to guilt trip/pressure your partner into sex. Or anything else, for that matter. Somebody might use "receiving gifts" as their love language and expect you to be their sugar mama. Or "words of affirmation" as a love language, expecting you to be their personal therapist. I don't think "love languages" should be used the way they have been getting us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:14 AM
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I did. One too many nights just staring all the ceiling while he did his thing, rolled over, and basically begged me to tell him I had a good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:47 AM
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If a guy starts talking to me about "love languages" (it's always physical touch), I block and move on. What a load of crap "love languages" are these days. Just an excuse to not change, and demand XYZ from your partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:45 AM
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The worst part about this is that women who set their standards this low also tend to bash on women who DON'T. Like, they gotta try to drag us all down with them. "Whaaaat? You really expect him to buy you dinner? I personally pay my share before I let him rawdog me, because I support equality ✌" "Really girl? You're being WAY too picky here. You'll get more guys if you don't make them do XYZ" "I'm not one of those high maintenance girls that needs to be taken out, or given special treatment" Li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:10 AM
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And let's be real, mod teams on most subs are ridden with toxic, petty LV individuals anyway. They go mad with such a small amount of power, and use it to ban anyone who they disagree with on the smallest issues. Luckily, FDS is one of the very, very rare subs where the mods are actually here to uphold the sub values, and not just their personal opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:49 AM
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Sounds like this mod was probably some angry little scrote that felt victimized by the very mention of empowerment. If I suspect a woman needs some FDS in her life, I usually send her the info in a DM. Then I don't have some middleman who needs to "approve" what I say. Aside from Reddit itself of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:33 AM
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What an absolute fucking toddler. That's literally what they're becoming. Unable to handle an ounce of criticism or being told what to do for any reason. 🤢🤢🤢 We're genuinely better off without them. These types of guys are just dead weight. Like having an actual child to look after, to clean up after, to have to go tell to brush their teeth, and to have crying all the damn time 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:36 AM
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We create our own value. Treat yourself like a luxury brand, not a convenience store brand. Not literally, we're not products obv, but you get the point I'm making. We don't need to settle or chase after anyone. If you feel like you have to chase him down, he's probably not it sis. He's not the last one you'll meet, or your "best bet". He's a man, and there's over 3.5 billion of them. Is he really 1 in 3.5 billion good? Focus on yourself, and don't throw your time away chasing after some dude. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:00 AM
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Is this a show? Anybody know what it's called? I think most of us can relate here. Some dude comes up saying "hi how you doing", as if the grocery store is the place to meet women. We politely brush them off, try to go on with our business, and he starts going off about "attitude" problems and the whole "i WaS jUsT bEiNg NiCe". No scrote, if you were "just being nice", you'd have fucked off when I said I wasn't interested. Instead, you're harassing a stranger in the grocery store, expecting to "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:37 AM
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Based security. What an ass hat jumping in front of you like that. The audacity is on par with grocery store line cutters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:24 AM
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BRUH that shit is creepy as hell, who records hours of stuff like that?? What did he want to go back and listen to the sound of ya'll having sex? Like what even is that. I'd feel weird as fuck about that. That could actually be illegal too, depending on what state you're in. Many states you need "two party consent" (everybody agrees to be recorded) to record audio like that. I genuinely believe more men are catching onto the fact that they can just cry and whatever shitty thing they did will be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:53 AM
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Ah yes, the old, "it was a joke calm down"/"just a prank bro". Giving assholes a method of shirking personal responsibility for what they say since, well, a long fucking time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:59 PM
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Especially in response to be told "no"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:29 PM
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You ever notice how completely inaccurate their descriptions of FDS are? Like, they talk about things that I've literally never seen here, or see very rarely, and on posts with almost no comments/upvotes. It's very clear what the message here actually is, to anybody who has ever actually looked through the sub anyways. They'll call us incels (for choosing to not accept garbage treatment), say we hate men (for choosing not to feel obligated to fuck/date anyone), and that we're in an echo chamber …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:54 AM
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Which would then lead to him crying that I called him a bad person. 😶 If this ain't the realest shit 🙃 Crocodile tears because we dare point out something they did wrong. Some of these men are the most shamelessly manipulative people I've ever met in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:27 AM
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Played themselves, as usual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:18 AM
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He probably expected you to be his new personal therapist so he didn't need to take them anymore. They literally crumble without our expected, unpaid labor. Glad you left that shit show real fast. Absolutely nothing good was going to come out of that. You probably avoided becoming a headline if you know what I mean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:34 PM
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💀💀💀 Meanwhile you know that if your hair was thinning, he'd 100% be going on about "women's expiration date" or "the wall". "bUt mEn AgE LiKe FiNe wInE" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:16 PM
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YEP, all of that shit. God forbid I point it out or questioned it either, because that must mean I "didn't trust him" or was "stirring shit up for no reason". 🙃 Some of them are manipulative down to their very bones. Their "cluelessness" is because they can't fathom the idea that they could possibly be doing something bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:18 AM
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Same here, christ it feels like I'm reading about myself lol. Dude had me thinking I was betraying him by not giving him 100% blind faith despite all the signs telling me not to. If I didn't accept his excuses and lies, he'd start crying and calling himself stupid and a piece of shit (so that I'd feel like a bitch, apologize, and end up convinced it was all my fault for doubting him). I'm convinced this behaviour was such a core part of his personality, he was genuinely offended by the idea that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:13 AM
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turns out he was negging and gaslighting me to the point where I felt insecure about us. Once we broke up, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders That's exactly how it felt when I left my sneaky, manipulative, fake woke ex as well. Just like your ex, he acted like he cared about that stuff on a surface level, but then he'd always slip in those, "but men also have it bad" comments. He didn't actually give a shit. I was never the jealous, insecure, of self doubting type until I started d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:50 AM
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Me too sis 😭 His ass was so manipulative. As much as I like to think he's having some kind of mid life crisis, he's probably already looking for another girl to trick into thinking she's his "dream girl"/"future wife". AKA forever girlfriend/baby mama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:24 AM
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Just a reminder for any of you who are thinking of having casual sex with somebody (not a good idea, reconsider it altogether), if he doesn't have health insurance, he's almost definitely not getting STI tests between partners. He's more likely to let an infection fester, and for longer, and won't even know he has one, so he'll be passing it onto you. In countries with socialized healthcare, this might be less obvious. But in the US, this is something to consider unfortunately. No insurance + en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:06 AM
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My ex straight up admitted to me at one point that he was ready to settle down before his looks started declining, WHILE WE WERE DATING. Sooooo basically I was just his way of grasping onto somebody to have sex with before his looks disappeared. He really told me that figured he'd get ugly "like his dad" very soon, and that he was happy that he met his "future wife" before that happened. Which, by the way, he used that "future wife" BS ALLLLLL the time, but especially during his love bombing mom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:44 AM
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Yep! I had an ex who would say manipulative things, and when I called him out for it, I was suddenly the manipulative one. Guys like that will call you an abuser just for standing up to them, because they don't like being called out. They'll turn it around on you, neg you, or cry if it gets the focus off of them. Remember, if a guy ever decides that you sharing your thoughts and feelings is "stirring shit up", "picking a fight", or "trying to make [him] feel bad", you should dump his ass on the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:12 AM
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Be careful to remember that being rude isn't the same as being abusive either. A lot of times women who are assertive are perceived as "rude", while men doing the same thing are not. Remember, women are held to much higher standards in society in terms of "niceness". Saying "no" might deflate a man's self esteem to the point of him crying "abuse", when in reality, it's just a woman who's not coddling him. I'd recommend reading some books about abuse to help identify it in your life in the future…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:32 PM
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Verbal abuse =/= Having high standards Really, those aren't even close the same thing, I'm not sure how somebody could get them mixed up. Believe me, you don't have to worry about getting verbally abusive just from erecting higher standards. If you're worried though, reading about abuse could help you identify it not only in others, but also yourself. Having high standards sorta means having hard boundaries, learning to say "no" when somebody tries to sneak past those boundaries, and only accept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:16 PM
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Weed, video games, and/or fast food, if I had to make an educated guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:17 PM
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Lmao it wasn't, but you're right, I should probably make that more clear! I didn't even think about how some younger girls might see that and genuinely think it's a good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:44 PM
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We really are better off without them and their dangerously fragile egos 🤢 The only thing worse than being alone in a bad situation, is to be in a bad situation COUNTING ON HELP from somebody who CLAIMED they would be there for you. Then you don't have personal safety nets set up, because you're relying on these 🤡's to do what they said they would. So when they don't, you fall twice as hard. I repeat, we're better off without them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:42 PM
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I feel that, you have a very fair point. In reality, their opinion on it doesn't matter because they aren't the ones who are pregnant. I see what you're saying though, maybe this is a case of "boys will be boys" level sympathizing that I'm doing for them. Cause that's really the only reason I'd even give them a chance to give their opinion, is so they don't throw a temper tantrum. Maybe you're right though, letting them think their opinion on it matters enough to be shared might create some sens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:17 PM
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Oh absolutely not. If it was me, they can share their opinion all they want, but I'm going to shut it down if it's conflicting with my own. There will never be a time when his input counts for anything in that kind of situation, because my "vote" will always be the tie breaker. I guess when I meant they get input, it was more like, for diplomacy's sake than anything. Then they can't whine about not getting to share their thoughts later, you know? Really depends on what kind of relationship you h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:12 PM
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Honestly, I guess they really don't get any when it comes to actual decision making. We might listen to what they have to say, but when it comes down to it, there's no reason for his opinion to ever override hers. I guess by "input" I meant more like ideas, suggestions things that a HVM might have read about pregnancy that will improve her experience, and the baby's health. His "input" should be treated more like suggestions. Her body, her final say with everything of course. No "we're pregnant"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:49 PM
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Or that "it doesn't feel right with a condom", "it feels better for BOTH of us without it", or how "condoms feel suffocating". They really are absolute toddlers who want all the reward and not an ounce of the risk. Love the username btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:44 PM
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Dude's only telling one side of the story here. While birth rates in developing countries are falling (also not an inherently bad thing), birth rates in underdeveloped countries are rising. This is typical, this is normal, this is definitely not a cause for alarm. That is, unless you're a racist man who's terrified by the idea of a less white population. Or the type of person who thinks women's rights over their bodies is optional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:39 PM
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They just like to talk about being men, they don't actually want to have to do any of that hard stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:43 PM
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They'll swear up and down that women have it easier, but as soon as they get a small taste of the risk women carry, they have an absolute meltdown about how unfair life is 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:23 PM
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Do men get to give their input? Yes. Do they get the final say/deciding vote? Absolutely the fuck not. That's the part I think a lot of men get confused on. There are two people who need to figure out what to do, but since the woman is carrying, the woman gets the final say. If they don't like that, maybe they should remind themselves of what year it is, and either double up on the condoms (don't actually do this), or just don't have sex (see how much they like being told to "kEeP yOuR lEgS cLoS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:20 PM
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I really, really wish I had read that PDF like 3 years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:25 AM
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Do the same back to him and suddenly he knows what rude is. I DID THIS TOO LMAO. When I do it, I'm "causing problems for no reason", when he does it, he's "just having a conversation" 🙃 I'll add those to the list, if they're not already on it from the FDS list. I'm currently reading through "Why Does He Do That?", and I have not heen disappointed. Thanks for the recommendations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:58 AM
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To me it felt like gaslighting, because when he kept denying the obvious (claiming it was "support", or showing interest), it started to make me doubt my own judgement. When I showed my friend, she would often agree with me. Bless her for being there, because I was really starting to think I was being unreasonable. Subconscious from personality disordered person: telling you that your reaction is wrong because he wouldn't react that way (inserting his reality into you, seems confused you're not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:32 AM
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Congratulations to you for getting started on something better, which from the sounds of it, is just about anything that doesn't involve this 🤡 I notice that a lot of toxic men tend to do the "cold shoulder" thing, and basically check out, the instant they realize we're done passively accepting their manipulative shit. Basically the IRL version of quitting a game because they're losing, because lots of them genuinely see us as part of a "game". That's how you know you hit the nail on the head id…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:23 AM
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Definitely going to keep this one in my back pocket. I wish there were an OLD version of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:55 AM
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My ex did this! But with like, everything. He would sneakily lead to all these implications about anything he knew I was insecure about, while suddenly being super into it for the duration of that conversation 😒 He would do similar shit for things I was confident about too. Made money on stocks? "Well you know luck could change tomorrow". Got a good final grade in a class? "Lol that was a pretty easy class though right?" Talking about how much I loved my hike? "How many miles was it? Oh only X?"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:54 AM
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When you have no children yet still have a dependent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:25 AM
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Absolutely. Men who do this once will do it again. It's a symptom of a larger problem, which is that they don't see women as equals. You aren't going to fix such fundamental issues in the way they think. Nobody "accidentally" tortures their wife, or cuts off their ex's head. There's no rehabilitating that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:59 PM
22

Thinks foreplay is optional, thinks groping is a turn on for us, the language he uses (fucking, cum, cock, etc), whether he's actually focused on you rather than himself, if he jackhammers, if he pressures you do try anal, wants to do weird porn positions that aren't pleasurable for both parties, has ED (pornsick penis guaranteed if he's young), if he WANTS TO WATCH PORN WITH YOU LMAO 😭 There are so many ways to tell, and you usually won't have a hard time telling. Especially if you go undercove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:30 PM
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Could be because he’s doing something shady with them and doesn’t want her to do the same to him. He doesn't want her stealing the views from him lmao I think another reason could be that with the video file, she can more easily detect if it's been uploaded anywhere else. Maybe he's concerned that she'll find out he uploaded it everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:18 PM
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This shit is honestly pathetic. "Oh I don't have social media!" Right, yet you still have an account that you log into and use to JO to women with. But yeah no, totally doesn't count if you use a picture of your dog instead of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:08 PM
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This dude to his new landlord upon getting dumped: "I mean really, why do I even have to pay rent if I'm not going to own the property? That doesn't really seem fair to me. If I'm paying, I should at least own it too. You can just come in to cover maintenance, repairs and all that kind of stuff..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:02 PM
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I just learned that was a thing not so long ago! Like how when I'd call my ex out for trying to manipulate me with guilt trips, then he'd immediately spin it around saying that I'M guilt tripping HIM by bringing it up... because it made him feel bad 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:59 PM
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Girl I'm right there with you. I don't care to admit how many of these "car dates" like this I did. Just like you, I wanted to be NiCe, cOoL, and LoW mAiNtEnAnCe. You know what though? We're here now, we've learned from those experiences, and now we know better and smarter. We're sharing our experiences, and there's so much more awareness because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:07 AM
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She fucking nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:48 AM
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"She really expects me to pay rent? What a gold-digger!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:26 AM
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You know, he never actually brought it up, but I 100% think this man is a pothead. Nothing wrong with that, until you're spending ALL of your limited income on weed, to the point that you can't even cover something as small as property taxes to contribute to the household. Agreed though, this guy sounds like a loser, especially with the way he describes this situation. Clearly believes that he shouldn't have to pay rent at all, because "he wouldn't own the house". Dude's in for a rude awakening …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:11 AM
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He sounds really, really broke, even for a college student. There's no reason for him to be THIS broke. Like, if you're not paying rent, even a part time job should give you SOME kind of money to work with. Property taxes cannot possibly be more than a couple hundred a month
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:32 AM
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When I brought up the fact that I would be more comfortable paying rent in a tenant agreement, he blurted out "then you're just using me since I'm taking on all the risk" In other words, he wants to make it harder for you to leave, and have a certain degree of control over you (in the sense that he can choose to stop paying, and it will hurt you). Maybe his one time gift from mommy wasn't enough for him to get the mortgage himself, his credit wasn't good, etc. So he needed to leech off of you in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:27 AM
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So he's upset that she expects him to pay something as rent? Does he really think that renting anywhere else is any different? Or did he think his wife's gift was also his free meal ticket to a rent free life? Sounds leechy to me. Am I understanding this right? She only wants money for tax? That's hardly anything, sounds like extremely cheap rent to me. If he wants partial ownership, he needs to also take on his fair share of risk, which would mean paying SIGNIFICANTLY more than just property ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:29 AM
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Lol right? I'm all in now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:44 PM
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Men: "Well have fun dying alone ugly bitch.... Didn't you hear me? I said you're going to DIE ALONE.... You should be fucking terrified. Watch someday when you're ALONE with your cats YOU'LL SEE. Enjoy being FOREVER ALONE HAHAHHAHA😂" Men Afterwards: I sure got her good 😏 They really think their scariest outcome is the same as our scariest outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:56 AM
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Oh I'd believe it in a second! Lots of men want women for their labor, in whatever form that might come in. They can cover it in pretty words all they like, but the studies (and our collective experiences/anecdotes) don't lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:49 AM
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I usually answer with something along the lines of "Good.", "I could only be so lucky", or "Do you think that's a bad thing? Does being alone scare you?" (Especially effective right after I reject them). Like, I'd rather be strong and single than with somebody that isn't a perfect fit for me. If that upsets any man, it's probably because that's one less option in the dating pool for them to take advantage of. Plus, frankly, it speaks VOLUMES that they get so hostile in reaction to rejection or e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:43 PM
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And you just know he'e online complaining about how he's "tried everything" and how you're so "unwilling to compromise". Basically playing the professional victim, while being the root cause of the problem. I'm glad you gave him a taste of his own medicine. A lot of men seem to be of the opinion that our effort is a default, and their effort is just something "extra".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:39 PM
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I try to think of it as a learning experience on what I should never, ever tolerate again. Ya'll helped me see that when I posted about it on here. Any lurking women out there experiencing something similar: it's not just as good, not even remotely close, he's lying, dump his ass rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:39 PM
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It was scary to distance myself from certain friends because I don't have many to begin with. However, when you start to rise up, and become a strong, HV individual, that attracts other strong, HV people. You'll soon find that you've got higher value people replacing the old ones, and that your overall friend group becomes a lot healthier and supportive. So for anybody who's afraid to cut the LV people out, for fear of being alone, DON'T BE. It's like pruning a dying plant. In order to make it h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:33 PM
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I had an ex who convinced my previously virgin self that "sex is just as good without an orgasm" when I voiced my concerns about never cumming during sex. He would immediately turn around and ask/complain to me why I don't initiate sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:12 PM
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Plus, many of them completely brush off the notion that the sex could possibly just be BAD. If you ask about whether or not she's finishing, he'll say things like, "I think so", or, "she would tell me if she didn't", or (the big lie) "every time!". In reality, if she was finishing every time, the bedroom wouldn't become "dead". It gets that way because she's tired from doing all the housework, and doesn't feel like adding another unrewarding chore to the list. If the dick game was good, sex woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:02 PM
119

As much as I love The Beatles, John was a pretty big piece of shit. Dude even talked about how he beat on women in his songs. "Getting Better" 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:45 AM
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Right?? There are literally only two answers here, and both of them he's positioned to spin into "I'm hot right?" confirmations. For somebody with so much surface level confidence, he sure seems to crumble to second a woman doesn't reaffirm that for him. This woman is a fucking badass for going against the grain here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:04 PM
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"...You don't think you have a dad bod?" 💀💀💀 There are probably some angry, lurking men around here who completely missed the point. She's flipping the script, and their sensitive asses can't handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:13 PM
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Mine did the same thing. Literally thought my pain was me being 'into it'. They're soley focused on themselves with zero interest in anything that doesn't make them feel good physically or emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:04 AM
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That's something my ex excelled at. Wording has a lot of power to make you think a certain way. Some of these men are like, extremely subtle and sneaky in their manipulations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:34 PM
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I absolutely agree. When it comes time to marking calenders, shop for/pay for/wrap gifts, scheduling trips, coordinating with a group, or anything like that, these men become helpless babies. When it's time to take credit though, suddenly they're more than capable of swooping in, smiling, and basking in the thank you's and whatnot. Talkin bout "this is from US" or "WE knew you'd like it" with gifts and shit. There will be so many steps in preparing a gift, or planning a trip, or whatever, and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:31 PM
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“Can you give me some of the money you withdrew from the ATM today because I want to pay for dinner?” 🤡 "Money you withdrew FROM THE ATM" 🤔🤔🤔 As if it just comes from the ATM, and not your fucking checking account. You ever notice the small ways that they try to minimize this stuff? They word it in a way that sounds less leechy. Cause "Can you give me some of your money, I want to use your money to pay for dinner", doesn't sound quite as charming. These 🤡's have no money, but plenty of audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:18 PM
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She might not have seen it right away, but he was doing her a big favor. She rose above in multiple ways that day, better job, no more LVM weighing her down, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:02 PM
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Nope, not a fucking chance. I will interrupt or follow the waiter back to clear things up, and pay for ONLY what I ordered. No broke ass man is going to scam me into paying for his food just because social pressure. I'll pay for MY FOOD, leave, and he can pay for the rest of HIS meal alone at the table 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:43 PM
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I saved a couple of comments from my posts that weirdly like, really stuck with me, and this was one of them. I just wanted to give an update. I took your advice, read the wiki, started "why does he do that", and really thought about what you and others said. I decided that it's not something I can live with. I started noticing manipulative tendencies of his, and came to the realization that it had to end. It was scary, but god I'm glad it happened. He really showed his true colors in the end, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:18 AM
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Well all know what the real answer would be if the context of the post were reversed. These excuses exist exclusively in posts about men cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:41 PM
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They really do! There are a shocking number of men who genuinely believe that women are "the dumber sex". They LOVE thinking this way, because it makes them feel "better than" others, without having to do any real work to ACTUALLY better themselves. This shit is the trait of weak, lazy, low level men, who can't be bothered to improve themselves, so they cling to ideas that make them feel more important than they really are. Their sexist bullshit does the work for them 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:50 PM
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couldn't imagine them using this logic with a male friend or coworker That's because they wouldn't, because they respect men more than they respect women. Dudes like this think men are inherently smarter than women, and that we're easier to trick or manipulate. They know the excuse is bullshit, and so they wouldn't expect their intellectual "equals" to fall for it. They save this for the women they're trying to have sex with. It's transparent and disrespectful, because it shows how much they rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:44 PM
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He hits me back with all sorts of excuses: "I never considered seeing someone consistently in a while (except he pretended he wanted a relationship to get me to bang him) i'm not a good texter (he was when he was trying to bang!) They alwaaaaaays say this shit, as if we're incapable of noticing the difference before and after. Goes from near instant replies to whenever-he-gets-around-to-it replies. Like, who wouldn't notice the difference? They really think we're that dumb, and that they're so f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:12 PM
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Thank you 😊 it's a big relief tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:07 PM
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I've already thought back on all the ways he was bringing me down. Encouraged me to quit my stable job, we always had to get high, always had to eat snacks and junk food, etc. I was picking gen eds for my degree, and it was down to two classes, earth science and chemistry. I HATE chemistry, and I always really liked earth science. I told him I was obviously leaning towards earth science. While he was "helping" me get situated, he kept saying things like "it's not what you think", "it's going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:07 PM
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u/savevideo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:43 PM
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Thank you, really. I'm definitely taking notes on all of this for next time. Not letting a relationship go on like this ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:54 PM
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CS guys do tend to be misogynistic, coming from somebody majoring in CS. It can be an echo chamber, since so many classes are filled with other men. They also get HUGE complexes against girls who code better than them, because their fragile egos are being propped by by their "highly technical" area of study. Male classmate helps them? No problem. Female classmate helps them? Grumbling, irritation, and lots of "oh I knew that" or "yeah that's basically what I was doing". 🙃 I've talked to CS dudes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:19 PM
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Holy shit you're right. I think that's the mistake I've been making. In the past I told him what it means to do XYZ, and I think all I was doing was showing him exactly how to hide his shittiness. God, I hope I didn't give him too much of a crash course on hiding his abuse from the next person. He's such a toxic person, and he's already so good at hiding it. THANK YOU. Stuff like this is such a big part of why I come here, because I'm always learning from you guys. I will keep the link to myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:23 AM
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You know what, I knew that, I'm just dumb lol. Some part of me keeps deciding that "Lundy" is a girl's name, even thought I know good and well it's a man. Derp moment. I'm hoping by the time I finish the book, I'll be better at seeing the difference between the NVM and HVM. Like, I'm not settling for mostly or maybe HV anymore. Actually HVM or nothing. With any luck, you've got the real deal there. I'm happy for you, and I hope you never have to deal with another abusive POS again. Much love 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:17 AM
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Guess I have one more thing to send him before I block and delete. Thanks for sharing this information. The more of us that are aware of this shit, the more capable we become of fighting it. Based
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:58 AM
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PREACH I love everything about what she's saying and how's the saying it. The end killed me, I really, really hope she actually said that lmao Real talk though, this is why we need women's gyms. Tons of women forego keeping their bodies healthy because going to the gym can be so uncomfortable with creepy men like this around. "It's a women's health issue, and I'm tired of pretending it's not."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:53 AM
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Imagine being shocked when she leaves you after you dismiss, ridicule, tease, grope, disrespect, cheat on, and manipulate her. "I'M JUST COMPLETELY BLIND SIDED I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW SHE COULD DO THIS." "SHE'S FUCKING CRAZY TRUST ME, SHE JUST WANTS TO GO FUCK OTHER GUYS" "YOU CAN'T TRUST ANYTHING SHE SAYS, SHE'LL SAY ANYTHING TO MAKE ME LOOK BAD. GOLD DIGGING BITCH" Like, any possible reason they can come up with in their heads before they even CONSIDER that they did something wrong. My ex guilt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:18 AM
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I'm happy for you sis. I love to hear about the growth that people experience after cutting the toxic people out. It's amazing and tragic how much the right/wrong people can affect your life. Good on you for being strong and cutting them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:05 AM
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Thanks! You're absolutely right, I was thinking the exact same thing. No more time wasted on somebody that I know isn't right for me long term. Band-Aid has been ripped off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:53 AM
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I hear nothing but good things about her his books. I'm glad you have people in your life who care about you enough to help you in that way. Advice and stuff is great, but nothing compares to self education (from my limited experience anyway lol). I'm really happy for you getting out of that situation, I hope you're well on your way to living a fulfilling life free of emotional leeches and abusers. You don't need any of that 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:19 AM
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Thank you, really. I love this sub, one of the few places that I know actually has our best interests in mind. Such a great place for personal growth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:02 AM
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And he acts like it's all totally normal! Like, he really took advantage of the 1 on 1 conversation to try to make me think I was getting upset over nothing. Like, I just got so sick of him CONSTANTLY doing little things like this, because it really does slowly chip away at you. I was never "forgetful", "angry", or "unreasonable" until I started dating him, and he's the only one who seemed to think I was. 🤔 Like, go manipulate somebody else, I'm honestly convinced I'm better off alone than with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:59 AM
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YES, it's done and over with. Super mixed feelings right now honestly, but overall I feel lighter. I'm just happy it's done, I put this shit off WAY too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:31 AM
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I know a dude who would CONSTANTLY push past boundaries. When I told him not to (often for the second, third, fourth, etc. time), he would immediately pretend he was just "forgetful". Weird, because the rest of the time, he would act like I'm the forgetful one with the unreliable memory. For literally anything else, I'm the one who's always "remembering things wrong". His memory/recount of things was the most reliable for everything, until it came to remembering my boundaries. Then, he would jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:56 AM
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Throw some jingle bells in there, make it hard for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:45 PM
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At work, school, or anywhere, don't leave your keys anywhere that isn't locked or on your person. I read an article of some creep who basically scanned their coworkers apartment key and made a copy with it before breaking in (walking in?) to her place with a rape bag ready to go. Keep your house key protected, because it literally just takes 30 seconds for some unhinged, rape minded scrote to essentially gain access to your home. Minus the time to print it, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:07 AM
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I was waiting for him to claim it was broken when she wore it lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:22 PM
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Okay so I don't usually go throwing the word around, but this is pretty fucking badass. What a great woman to call for help with one hand and shoot the shooters with the other. I hope her and her daughter recover physically and mentally from this. Clearly she handled it well, but that's a terrifying situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:07 AM
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Where even is the fucking lie 😒 Russia seems to have serious work to do in this category. I think this song is great. I hope women hear it and it makes them think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:25 PM
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This. They don't want women learning that they don't have to take the bullshit, because then nobody will want to date their NV asses. Just as it's always been, a woman educated is more dangerous (because men's idea of dangerous is a woman that will leave/not fuck him) than a woman kept in the dark, isolated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:23 PM
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It almost seems like it's pointing out domestic abuse (bouncing against the wall) and how society expects women to lower your standards (are you waiting for your prince) settle down and have kids fast (almost thirty where are your kids). How women are always made to focus on their appearance (losing weight), but not too much or they're a prude/slut (wear something shorter/longer) Without hearing the song, and just reading the lyrics, sounds to me like somebody wants to bring attention to this bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:02 PM
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As far as I'm concerned, I worship at the altar of FDS and I'm on board with ANY WOMAN on here who EVER wants to try this field-leveling tactic. Ya'll are gonna DM me when you get this started right? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:42 PM
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Could you imagine if we all just stopped wearing makeup for a day? Or a week? Hell, if we just stopped buying it for a couple weeks, I like to think the industry would feel a little sting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:25 PM
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Men will try to control us, take away the rights to our bodies, abuse/assault us, and defund our medical care, then they'll bitch, moan, whine, and cry that women are "WiThHoLdInG sEx" like it's a fucking crime. Men are such fucking babies about everything, it's unreal. If this passes and we do start withholding sex, we should start sharing more self defence information on this sub, because men gonna rape throw fits get violent men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:54 PM
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Same! After seeing this post, I actually tried to see if there were any in my area, nope, closest is a 45 minute drive. I'd pay a premium to have a women only workout area. Men are so fucking weird about women working out, they stare and stake pictures like it's a normal thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:33 PM
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Also men : I should be able to financially abort Also men : She can't physically abort tho lol that's my kid. I love and hate this so fucking much, christ. We really need to stomp out this anti roe vs wade BS. Men are trying to take us BACKWARDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:52 AM
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Fucking honestly. How about men be on the defense for once. Always women having to fight for the most basic shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:48 AM
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It’s why we can’t meet irl or put any actual info about ourselves here. Male violence. This is such an important point. Women are targets of hate when we make our own spaces. What is it about men that causes them to be so irrationally emotional about it? Why does women getting together bother them so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:20 AM
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Last point - Amazon is activating facial recognition on Ring cameras in June. I sure the fuck hope not. In my state, we have some pretty tight laws on storing/using biometric data without explicit permission from the person whose data is being collected. Makes me want to look up the details, and await my settlement check lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:50 AM
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It's only a problem when women do it. "No girls allowed" = silence ☺ "No boys allowed" = SEGREGATION! SEXISM! 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:37 AM
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To add to this. If you reject a man and he starts insulting you, there's a decent chance those insults are close to his fears and insecurities. Calls you ugly? It's because he's worried he's ugly and that's why you rejected him. So, he tries to lower your "value" by calling you ugly, so he stands a better chance. Calls you fat? Probably because he doesn't take care of his body, and is insecure about it. Again, he's trying to make you feel insecure like him, so that he feels less shitty about his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:53 PM
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"McDonalds it is" Um, more like, "no date it is" ...and they wonder why women won't "give them a chance" They know they're inadequate, and they worry that they'll be single forever. So, naturally, when this fear is reinforced with further rejection by a woman, they project this fear onto her. "You're going to be single forever", "Have fun being a cat lady", "Enjoy dying alone", maybe an occasional, "Whatever, you're ugly anyway" Sweet, sweet projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:46 PM
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Yeah, this woman is undeniably gorgeous and some angry little scrote claiming otherwise isn't fooling anyone. Seeing her in ANY other context, these desperate ass men would be flooding her DM's. They really hate a woman who has standards they can't/won't meet. They really expect us to be excited and grateful to go for a walk as a "date" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:39 PM
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2021, where men's little feelings are literally more important than a woman's safety. After years of them telling us to watch our drinks (which for some, was definitely just another way of shifting the blame onto us), now they wanna cry about being offended by the idea of it. Scrotes, stay mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:36 PM
24

I came to say the same thing. Never seen him with short hair, but I like it a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:19 PM
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Thanks for helping to filter the angry noise out. They really can't stand not being given a platform to share their irrelevant opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:36 PM
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Sis, NEVER feel ashamed of trying to help other women learn to protect themselves. They're wrong. They're trying to gaslight you because: 1) They're a predatory man and don't want women making things harder for them, or they feel "accused" by us even daring to assume they might be predatory (like, if you're not trying to hurt me.... why is it such a problem that I'm making sure you won't? Are your feelings really more important than my safey?). 2) They're a pickmeisha who wants to make herself m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:29 PM
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It's not equally as valid, and it's not equally as popular. I'm not trying to "kink shame" as the lib fems say, but this isn't appropriate for 11 year olds to learn about. This puts it in their minds that anal sex is something to be expected. I bet they conveniently forget to mention how unsanitary it is, how it can lead to permanent damage to your body if done incorrectly, and how it's an overall health risk. I'd be very interested in hearing exactly what it is they're learning about in that sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:21 PM
2

Okay but can we take a vote here. Karl Urban - Beard or No Beard? I love him with a beard, but he looks great either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:56 AM
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Scrotes: "What I really meant was that she should have chosen me, I'm a nice guy" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:01 AM
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They're seriously teaching about anal in sex ed these days?? Think of all the actually important women's health topics that are getting skipped over to make room for that garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:53 AM
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If you point out glaring, horrific red flags the OP ignored, even as nicely as possible, you are “victim blaming”. God, this is so true. You can literally start out with "it's never the victim's fault, ever", and they'll STILL call you a victim blamer. Negative IQ asf. Like you said, we can't effectively talk about it and raise awareness if there's always people like butting in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:38 PM
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True facts. I hate that I used to be one of those women. I was a major pickmeisha in highschool, anything to be cool, edgy, and accepted (especially by guys 🤢) I cringe hard at how I used to be. I take it as an opportunity to try talking other women out of the same mindset, because I see how BS it is now. I only wish I could talk to my 🤡🤡🤡 self from 10 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:30 PM
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How ignorant to think that maternit leave is "time off". Imagine working 40 hours a week and thinking your partner's 112+ hour work week means nothing. Women get stuck with the harder jobs by and large. You know why more men aren't taking their places?Because they know exactly how much harder the work is, and they can't even take care of themselves, let alone a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:18 PM
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Yes, because apparently protecting ourselves is somehow victim blaming the women who don't, in their minds. "You carry pepper spray to protect yourself from rape? What about all the women who don't? Are you saying they're bringing it on themselves??" It's projection IMO, only their porn twisted minds would jump to such a conclusion just from a woman taking steps to protect herself. How about men stay out of topics they dont understand. Exactly why I'm so in love with this sub. Literally the only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:07 PM
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I've had this happen in the past too. Downvoted to hell and eventually banned just for saying that women have a responsibility to look out for themselves. I made it abundantly clear that rape/assault is NEVER the victim's fault. Just that we can always take additional steps to prevent it from happening in the first place. They didn't like that. It's like defensive driving. You see somebody speeding down the street towards the intersection you're stopped at. You can go ahead, and risk them not st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:02 PM
68

Typical fucking scrote logic. Making up their own meaning then telling you how wrong you are. Pathetic how they always try to hard to be "right"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:50 PM
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This sub is the only place that can recommend an 18 minute video I'll actually watch. I have yet to be disappointed by the content shared here. You know, I always felt the creepy, male oriented vibes from this in movies, but I never knew there was an actual name for it. I love all the examples this guy gave too. The fact that I can think of even more is telling of how common this crap actually is. I will not be able to sit through this the same way ever again 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:49 AM
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They throw moody fits over the smallest slights to their egos, yet we're supposedly the emotional gender. I completely understand how this is making you feel, like you've done something wrong, but I promise you haven't. It's not your fault that this man child gets huffy and pouty whenever he's wrong, that's his own fault. His refusal to accept being wrong is toxic. If social norms were set back 100 years, you wouldn't be able to speak out at all. Don't silence yourself because he's a crybaby. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:19 AM
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Sooo... He wants somebody to uproot, isolate, and abuse? Judging off the way this bio written, I have a hunch that this person gets easily angered. So, ofc they're trying to be a cop, fitting. Which will make the abuse even less escapable when you decide to ditch him and leave. He'll be a cop and have cop friends, so they can harrass you even after you leave his sorry ass. Serious relationship, but no marriage. Aka a bangmaid to cook, clean, and fuck him. All while he watches anime, which is alm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:02 AM
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Sorry, I just wanted to share this here because it calls out their hypocrisy. They'll call a girl a slut after acting like complete horndogs towards her, and it's just so obnoxious and hypocritical I hate it. It's not that I'm trying to share an opinion on people who hook up with virtually no vetting, I just hate men who hold this kind of attitude. I'm sorry if it came off otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:49 PM
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If you post the list somewhere let us know please, I'm interested in reading
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:22 AM
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I like this idea a lot. Maybe with a QR code on there. I would definitely scan if I saw that in the bathroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:40 AM
31

How braindead does one have to be to actually believe this kind of logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:09 AM
3

I thought this was just me. It seems like every single one of my friends have had some kind of sexual abuse happen to them at some point. Whether it was a a friend of a friend, a family friend, a boyfriend, etc. I didn't want to say all women, because I thought that would be purely anecdotal, but it realistically does seem like almost everyone has had something happen to them. Now I hear you guys have shared the same experience, it makes me wonder whether there even are any women who haven't had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:20 AM
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⚠ TRADE OFFER ⚠ i receive: sex you receive: sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:39 AM
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Let me follow this up with a story about sexual assault being brushed under the rug whenever possible. I used to work in a grocery store, and we got a new AGM (assistant general manager). There was a quiet, very non confrontational girl working in the back, prepping fresh foods to be packaged and sold. AGM started being there during her evening shifts quite a bit. She confided in a close coworker (M) that he was being creepy, and touching her inappropriately while she was trying to work. She was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:45 AM
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You see the meltdowns that grown ass men have when asked to wear a mask before going into the store? Imagine how they'd act in private if a sex worker tried to enforce OSHA regulations for their own safety. Women would be hospitalized and/or murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:47 AM
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I'd love to suggest to one of these deluded pickmeisha's that if it's so "empowering", they should try out sex work for a month. No? Oh why not? Is it because of the STD's? Is it because of the risk of physical injury? Or is it just too "gross" for you? Already have a job? Why work retail when you could be empowered with doing sex work? I don't hear any of these clowns singing praises for other jobs, so prostitution must be so much better right? Like, explain to me what part of that is so "empow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:45 AM
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I started counting calories to lose weight, and to help me recognize my own bad binge eating habits that I've developed during the pandemic. It's only been a few days, but I already feel so much better and less bloated. It's been hard to police myself, but I've already stuck with this longer than any diet I've tried
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:29 AM
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I just wanna go ahead and second all of this, as another woman who's unfortunately fallen for "older men"s shit. They'll tell you younger men don't know what they're doing. Really, if the man saying that was worth a shit, he would be dating people his own age. Younger women are easier to manipulate, and to make them think he's better than he actually is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:18 AM
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Luckily, looks like somebody already updated her wikipedia page. Right at the top: Priscilla Giddings is an American politician, USAF pilot, and USAF officer from Idaho. Giddings is a Republican member of Idaho House of Representatives from District 7 seat A. She has engaged in the harassment of a sexual assault victim to support fellow republican Aaron von Ehlinger.[1]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:11 AM
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Regardless of how employment is split up, the woman always seems to be expected to do more shit around the house. If not outright expected, pressured into it because if you don't, their nasty asses will literally just let the house turn into a dirty nest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:10 PM
240

A "good job" isn't a job that overworks you to that point. That's a shitty job that might pay well. A good job balances good pay and good work/life balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:00 PM
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It doesn't even make sense either. Like, do these smooth brains really think women don't get anally raped too? Maybe they're honestly too stupid to see how this mindset is clearly caused by their caveman, porn addicted, hypocritically homophobic logic: "Woman with woman, that's hot. Man with man, that's gay, ewwww". It's like they were given the roughest possible prototype of a brain and it shorted out hard in the areas responsible for basic logic Can I also just tell you how much I absolutely f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:04 AM
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All while whining about how we could never understand how hard it is for them. 1 in 5 women get raped in their lifetime. 1 in 71 men get raped in their lifetime. Bring this up to one of these scrotes and cue the "hurrr aCkTuWalLy you can't trust those stats, WAYYYY more men get raped they just don't report it, trust me". Like, are we forgetting about all the women who don't report it either?? Probably because men like this think women just "make it up". They want to be victims so bad it's cringe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:58 AM
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So they can try to tank your self worth. Can't have women getting too confident, because then they're less likely to get with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:08 AM
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Fucking this. My weight has fluctuated quite a bit through my life, as a chubby pre teen, to a fit teenager/young adult, to being chubby again now (on the decline, thankfully). The way that I've been treated by men has seemingly correlated with my weight. Men are much nicer when I'm fit, and are much more likely to brush me off if not flat out insult me when I'm fat. Similarly, during my skinny days, men talked shit about fat women to me all the time. They thought I would just instantly agree wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:05 AM
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Complete and utter lack of self awareness, because they believe so much that they're right, they can't see how moronic they sound. I don't think you can even get through to these people. They honestly think that men are raped more, that "some" women like being raped, and that rape somehow effects them so much worse than it does women. News flash, women have always been raped more. This is indisputable. Anybody who thinks otherwise is not in touch with reality. NOBODY likes rape or it wouldn't be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:50 AM
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Sounds all too familiar. Why is it always women who need to compromise? Because if we don't, these "big strong men" have straight up hissy fit tantrums. I'm fucking over it. They'll call you "immature" if you don't do what they're trying to manipulate you into doing. They'll call you "emtional" if you get upset when they do something shitty. Yet, they have the audacity to call us the emotional gender. I think we all know who the ones punching holes in walls are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:23 AM
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Sounds like another way to control women. You know you're doing something right when the men/pickmes start tearing you down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:56 AM
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u/savevideo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:20 AM
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Bunch of LVN/NVM lurk here. Sometimes they'll private message me when they get particularly upset. Lotta internet tough guy stuff. Sure, I could probably just disable it, but then I'd miss out on the gold that precedes a block+delete combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:43 AM
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Scrotes will choose to live amongst piles of literal shit rather than pick up a mop and do some fucking cleaning. You can't make this shit up Every time I tried to cook at my ex's house, we'd have to go to the store and get pretty much all of the ingredients. He didn't have the most basic kitchen foods, because all he ate was takeout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:18 AM
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How the hell do you just completely abandon your girl like that. What sort of piece of shit? Simple, that's not his "girl", it's his bangmaid. Her only value is what good she can do for him. "Well she's too sick to have sex, so she better at least clean this up"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:09 AM
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Main character syndrome all the way. He doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants supporting characters to enhance him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:04 AM
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Dudes like this always think they are literally the most profound motherfuckers too. Yet, the ability to accurately self reflect is completely lost on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:02 AM
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I think more and more women are waking up to the fact that "crazy" girls are just the ones who didn't accept bullshit from whatever LVM/NVM labelled them that. You're crazy for calling men out. You're "too much" for not accepting whatever they say, no questions asked. You need to "chill" if you ever have a problem with anything. They have a label for everything. So when a man tells me how crazy some girl was, it's instant red flags 🚩🚩🚩 I'm allowed to have a voice and if you want to silence it th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:43 AM
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Fuck me this hit home. Not the diarrhea thankfully, but this phrase being used against me. "It is what it is" is an excuse. It's the lazy person's way of avoiding or diminishing very real problems. When used against another person who has a problem with XYZ, it's ALWAYS used in a way that's intended to silence. It's their way of implying that nothing can "realisitically" be done, so "grow up" and get over it. In reality, there's almost always something that can be done, that person just either d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:18 AM
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Guarantee he takes you somewhere cheap for the first date, then wants to "step things up" for the second and go somewhere nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:48 PM
30

You know what that makes sense. TIL there are pills specifically for migraines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:20 AM
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It's honestly scary how many lvm and nvm are teachers. Oh don't I fucking know it. Plus, a HUGE chunk of the male teachers at my old highschool were certified creeps. One of the "cool" math teachers turned out to be sleeping with girls. I also had a teacher with a serious staring problem, that had ZERO sense of personal space, particularly around girls. My mom had a teacher when she was in school, who literally sat all the pretty girls in the front rows. She said once or twice she saw him starin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:04 AM
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How come you could only take one or the other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:18 AM
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I can't even fucking 😒🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:17 AM
132

Well in the adult world, adults are allowed bathroom breaks. Sounds like your math teacher is the one in need of a lesson in adulthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:15 AM
68

Holy fuck I never thought about this before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:20 PM
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Soooooo what? He's only loyal until 1) he makes more money or 2) he finds somebody else with money? Am I understanding this right? Is that what loyalty is? Staying with a woman for her money? Yet, if woman does that, they're the first to cry "gold digger". Loyal for a man, fake for a woman. The hypocrisy. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:23 AM
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They'll say whatever stupid shit they feel like will give them some kind of "checkmate" against women's empowerment. Their egos respond to it like ice on a sunny day in winter. Despite the balance being tipped in their favor, they still get scared of a little sun. They know spring is coming, and their inherent advantages are going to melt away soon. So of course they're going to whine about how unfair it is. When you've been on top for so long, being on an even playing field must feel a lot like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:20 AM
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Oh it's so subtle, I don't even feel justified pointing it out in the moment, because there's juuuuuust enough benefit of the doubt to prevent me from accusing him. Though, literally after this thread, I had a real talk with him about it, and told him it wasn't going to work if thing stayed this way. We'll see what happens next 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:24 PM
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Bruh are you me? This literally sounds like me. I'm in a 4 year relationship too, and I was doing great before it started. Ever since then, it seems like I've become more anxious, depressed, lower self confidence, weight gain, and a harder time holding onto jobs. It just seems a little too convenient that it all started when I started dating him. I know I need therapy too, but I can't help but feel like breaking up with him would have a similar effect. I guess my only "support" here is that I'm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:26 AM
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Okay but why does he think he gets a say in how the women in his family wear their hair? Did he forget that it's 2021 and we're not the property of our male relatives anymore? Is his broke ass going to fund the weaves, treatments, and upkeep on those styles? I may have stick straight hair, but I know that maintaining a hairstyle that's the opposite of your natural texture is both expensive and time consuming. Plus, I just want to throw this in here, I LOVE when black women wear their natural hai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:13 AM
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Don't forget the extra tab where they have to google the definitions of all those bit words they're clearly not comfortable with/experienced using.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:06 PM
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I've noticed this is especially the case after you've established that you are okay with nothing. They get comfortable with that, then get pissy when you actually ask for something. Even if you're okay with nothing now, don't let them know that. Keep the bar artificially high so they don't get used to letting it go low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:51 PM
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Not to mention like, are we not supposed to be washing our hands after handling the cloth that chills on your ass? Especially at the dinner table like bruh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:28 AM
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Oh like those little cups? You know I did always wonder exactly what goes down when that little cup comes out. I can imagine some gloves might not actually be a terrible thing to have if you're in a stall or outdoors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:47 PM
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Yeah see like, I'm not a man, but I just KNOW they don't have to deal with shit like that. It's honestly gross how if you're bad and a woman, you're bad BECAUSE you're a woman. Hell, if they know you're a woman and you're good, oftentimes you're just good FOR a woman. There's no winning if they know you're a girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:45 PM
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Yeah like, even if this was something we all started doing (why tho lmao), why would we use these? Cause you KNOW they'd cost more, despite being the obviously cheap, thin kind of gloves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:57 PM
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Ooooo since we're sharing. I was hanging out with a guy once before realizing what a creep he was. During our time hanging in his basement (😷) he "randomly" brought up his collection of sex toys. He then proceeded to pull a big ass plastic tub out from under his bed and show me. Apparently they were used by different people, and it was more of a communal collection that him and his brother shared to use on girls. So. Fucking. Nasty. He did this after we dropped some hallucinogenic drugs too, so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:00 PM
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Congratulations!!! I can only imagine how good it felt/will feel to hit that "Submit" button for the last time! Here's to you moving on to bigger and better things girl 🎉🍹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:57 PM
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Exactly! They recognize the shittiness of their own gender, but instead of making any effort to fight it, they use it to drag us down. Yet, we're somehow the bad guys in all of this. You are right, women have always been the target of men who stand something to lose by female empowerment. So, basically every LVM and NVM. Have you seen the image of how in videogames, the men who were most aggressive to female players were also the lowest performing men? I think that translates nicely into real li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:43 PM
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You know what I find odd? These men/pickmes are quick to jump on the "female incel" hate train when FDS is mentioned, but they weirdly never have shit to say about actual incels. You know, the ones shooting people, driving them over with vans, and encouraging actual, violent hate crimes. Almost like it's just another excuse to hate strong women, and not actually an issue with the idea of an incel. Otherwise, we'd be hearing more complaints about the actual, violent, (male) incels. You know? Once…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:28 PM
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Lost at "shamecotton", love it (hate it actually, you know what I mean)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:20 PM
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Women always make things so complicated, why not just stop with the periods or get rid of the dog? Sheeeeesh /heavy s please don't think I'm serious lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:06 PM
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Well, it's the closest they're going to get, you can't expect them to give that up /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:36 PM
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Exactly. FDS women block and delete. Incel men rage and shoot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:19 PM
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Yeah, I may not be in the men's bathroom to see it happen, but I've straight up heard men talking about how "you don't need to wash your hands for a quick pee". I've had men in other parts of Reddit ARGUE that there is NO REASON TO WASH YOUR HANDS if you "only touched your dick". Fucking sickening. My anecdotal evidence that men are disgusting and don't wash their hands enough: in my last two workplaces, the women's restroom handsoap dispenser needed to be refilled almost twice as often as the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:18 PM
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Oh yeah, because how dare women's trash not smell like flowers and sunshine. Something must be done about that. The trash ain't meant to be pretty. We wrap our shit up with toilet paper as it is because men are babies. What next, we need to use an entirely separate, covered trash can for our tampons? I'm glad they were called the fuck out for this. I hope they sunk a lot of money into this and lost it. That's what you get for trying to set a new standard of how women should handle their periods,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:13 PM
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That's how I found it too! Supposedly "top ten worst subs", like well, I WONDER which sex made that ranking. I shared a link from a post here in my group chat, and it was immediately pointed out by a guy friend, "hurrr isn't that the super toxic sub?". Like nah, it's the sub where you're not allowed to post, there's a difference. Men are mad because this is one space where they can't dominate the conversation and talk over us. Ofc they'd call something like that "toxic". Like a boy getting told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:01 PM
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Okay first off, why would I pay the pink tax on a special, cheap looking, bright pink glove? Even if I was inclined to use a glove, they have like, 5 pair packs for a dollar at the store. Second, why the fuck would I even need a glove? Do they think we don't wash our hands? The ONLY time something like this MIGHT be useful is when hiking, but again, we've already got that down with santizer, soapsheets/water, and our "pack out" bags. They're trying to solve a problem that only exists in their mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:50 PM
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Their bloody gums having asses really get mad when you call it out huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:16 AM
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So basically, 1) take any intimacy you can get, 2) don't be a prude when he wants to pressure you to do anal, and 3) don't forget to pretend you're having the time of your life. Meanwhile, he gets an orgasm, intimacy, no restrictions, and a woman to smile about getting metaphorically and literally shafted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:56 AM
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Honestly same. I came on this sub because I heard about it from memes, as being "one of the most toxic subs on Reddit". I came expecting female incels, but stayed for the community. This is a great space for women to talk about problems that certain people (men/pickme's) don't want to acknowledge, and will tear you down for mentioning anywhere else. People didn't like the suffragettes either. They drew them as angry hags, said they'd be single forever "cat ladies", who were making problems "out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:01 AM
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"I want to get brownie points with a compliment, but I don't actually want you to feel too good about yourself, or you might realize you're too good for me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:54 AM
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That's what it is too, they're projecting their worst fears onto us, using it as a threat/insult. Just shows their own insecurities tbh. I don't think they realize that women on FDS (or any strong women) aren't afraid to live single, because we don't need a man to be happy. Not sure if they can say reverse to be the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:53 AM
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Exactly. I know it can be complicated to navigate legally in some situations, but most aren't. Especially not this one here. As you said, the kid isn't going to care why you did nothing. They're just going to know that nobody was looking out for them. To me, nothing is more important than making sure your kid is safe. Not money, material possessions, or ANY man. I'd leave everything behind and take our asses to a shelter. Honestly, I think hardest situation would be one child molesting the other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:26 AM
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Okay I think I see what you're saying now. Just missed it the first time because I was comparing it directly to the post. Like, what's happening there is a no brainer "get the fuck of there" kind of a situation. In the majority of cases, it's a stepfam/sibling, a relative, family friend, etc., and not a parent with custody. I guess I was thinking more like if one of those people, or somebody else living in the house were to be doing it. Those especially nasty situations where an actual parent is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:20 AM
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Are you saying it's somehow better that the parent does nothing? That keeping custody is more important than keeping your kid protected from a rapist? Help me to understand what you're saying I don't know exactly what you're meaning by this, but I respectfully disagree. If somebody in the house is molesting my child, I don't care, that person will not be living with my child anymore. I'm not going to look past it in order to avoid a headache in court. I'm sure there are cases where the rapist/mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:26 AM
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They hate this sub In exactly the same way men hated women's suffrage groups back in the day. This is the modern equivalent IMO. They'd degrade them, depict them in horrible ways, and do everything they could to invalidate them and their cause. You know why? Because they felt threatened, because they knew they benefited from the status quo, and it terrified them that it might change. We might be hated and meme'd on now, but paving the way for a new norm for future generations has NEVER been easy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:30 AM
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Pickme mothers should go to prison for things like that. It's not just being a stupid and naive men panderer. As far as I'm concerned, if a parent knows this is happening and does nothing, they're complicit. It's as good as saying, "go ahead" to the molester, and leaving the room to look the other way. Like, I don't care what their reasons are, if a parent does that, they're a massive piece of shit and deserve to go to jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:22 AM
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Learning to be confident is a big enough feat on its own, let alone when you have so many people in your life trying to tear you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:38 AM
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"BoYs WiLl bE bOyS"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:31 AM
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News flash, most women are not signing up to become single mothers. Why not point a finger at the deadbeat men who abandon their families and parenting duties? Fucking this. Single moms are almost never single moms because that's what they wanted to do. It's literally always some deadbeat dad or some NVM who would hit her, or bleed her dry (emotionally, financially, socially) if she kept him around. Single moms exist because the men who knocked them up ain't shit. So if this dude wants to reach …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:30 AM
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Correlation =/= Causation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:24 AM
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Same lol, this is my feminism/boyfriend rant account. Lately I'm finding myself here more than the main
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:28 AM
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I think I really needed to hear this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:55 AM
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UTI waiting to happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:41 PM
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U/SaveVideo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:33 PM
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u/savethis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:32 PM
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I don't know, I really like the rest of his personality, just not this part. I like everything else about him a lot. Part of me wonders if I'm just scared I won't find somebody as good as him. That itself makes me wonder whether I'm even dating him for the right reasons. Like, we've dated so long, somebody had mentioned it might be the sunken time fallacy. As in, I feel like I've invested so much time into him, I shouldn't give that up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:10 AM
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You know what, now that you say it, every time I've been asked "did you cum", they never really seem to care much about the answer. They say it like it's just a thing you're supposed to say, not like a genuine question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:05 AM
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Man this is perfect lmaoo, match the consideration he shows you and suddenly there's a problem, funny how that works He was whining, pouting, frustrated and upset about it. I don't consider myself sexist, but I think this here speaks volumes as to which sex is less mature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:27 AM
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Man, this is inspiring, and I'm absolutely saving it to come back and read in the future. Aftee reading responses on this thread, I think this might be my new rule. "We both cum, or neither of us do". Let's see how he reacts. Maybe I'll make another post about it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:23 AM
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That's literally exactly how I feel too. After finding out how things CAN be, I just struggle to stay content with how things are now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:22 AM
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It's honestly scary. I've never been in a relationship anywhere near this long, and he's great in most other ways. I really, REALLY want it to work. I'm just starting to realize it probably won't change, and my lack of orgasm will always somehow be my fault for not helping him more. Though, if I did anything else I'd basically be masturbating myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:20 AM
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Lately not so much. The more I hear about what sex CAN be like, the saltier I get lol. It's making me think it just won't work long term Edit: it didn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:34 AM
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For the first time in my life, I enjoyed sex. I initiated it. This sounds like fiction to me, and it's making me realize how far I've settled. I love that you have these standards though, it's genuinely making me reflect on my own. Bless you for standing up to this BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:01 AM
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It's almost like there's a common denominator, what could it possibly be? Their egos are more important than reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:55 AM
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What I find funny is how men act dumb when it comes to things like chores and errands, but need their egos coddled when we're better at certain "masculine" skillsets. Example, I had guys next to me in my programming class get super passive aggressive with me by the end of the semester because I was clearly doing better than them. They would sneakily talk down to me, and make little condescending comments that felt designed to discredit me. I just know when it comes to getting internships and job…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:02 AM
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My favorite is when they do go down on you for a minute or two, then basically go "my turn" and expect a really long, high effort blowjob. It's like "keeping score" or something, and I'm so done with it I started keeping my own score since he very obviously does (which he'll aggressively deny when caught). I give him the same quality oral for the same approx length of time. Guess who suddenly, conveniently gained a sense of time? Guess who promptly whined about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:54 AM
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