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Any advice on how I compile and present these items BEFORE I hand it to my attorney Your lawyer will ask you for this stuff, so you will be the one pulling it together in any case. (I've done this for my family court gongshow already.) You're going to want 3 copies - one for your lawyer, one for her lawyer and one for the judge (if it goes to court). You can photocopy the docs but it must be single sided, all pages must be numbered, and organized into sections. Get all 78 items and scan them in …
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/18 01:37 AM
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But is it too late? Yep. Here at /r/divorce_men, we're more of a disaster control sub than a disaster prevention sub. Like you can talk to us if "the plane" is definitely going to crash or after it has crashed. If it hasn't crashed yet, see /r/marriageadvice. We do empathize tho, because we've all been there at one time or another. Often it is said when one person divorces the other, the person doing the divorcing (i.e. in your case your wife) has had time to emotionally process and mature from …
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/18 10:38 AM
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How did you all go about paying for attorney's fees Easy! When the judge assesses you for costs you'll have to pay for both your lawyer and her lawyer (typically $100k each). If you're struggling just to pay your own lawyer, bankruptcy is the only way out, and your lawyer then becomes a creditor in the bankruptcy. Fuck sakes, eh?
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/18 11:43 PM
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Property is a tough call, ask a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/17 05:17 PM
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I truly dont believe she is trying to paint me that way. OK, so go and get the kids then. If she refuses to let you take them overnight you've got your answer. It* may seem like she's just making insignificant moves, but when it gets to court it can get blown up into "she was running for the children's safety." This Internet stranger is telling you to talk to a lawyer like it's an emergency - take it as good advice. Most family/divorce lawyers don't charge for the first 30 minute consult. You ha…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/17 08:07 AM
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Wrong thread, try: /r/marriageadvice
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/17 09:37 PM
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We are going through this without lawyers, we live in Florida, we do not have children and do not own a house. Only assets we own together are our cars, the loans and car titles are joint between us, how the court is going to divide the assets Firstly, DON'T LISTEN TO ME - talk to a divorce lawyer - they all will give you at least a free 30 minute consult and they will give you the best advice on your situation for your state. All I am saying is based on what you've said it isn't worth pursing h…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/17 09:27 PM
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No, it's not worth the hassle. If she wanted to she could come back to you for other things to offset your claim, and 10k (5k really?) already spent is small beans in the context of divorce. Maybe think of it as a parting gift - you should count yourself lucky and get it notarized ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/17 09:04 PM
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Yesterday, she packed up and moved, with the kids, to a frienda house. You need to get a lawyer to immediately. She is attempting to characterize you as abusive and unstable because she left with the kids - it all starts with them stating that she left because of "fear for their own or the children's safety". She doesn't have to say anything to you, and they will treat her statements as fact. You need to start worrying about protecting yourself NOW. Sorry, it's a shit sandwich from here on out. …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/17 08:33 PM
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My SO and I agreed on shared custody and a very amicable painless split. I just don’t know where to begin in all of this Whatever you do, make sure you do 2 things: 1) Don't leave the house, no matter what. If you leave, you will be labelled as the one who abandoned your daughters. If she leaves with the kids, you will be labelled as an abuser, but she will have to lie a lot to be heard. 2) If she's agreeable to shared custody, you need to get it on paper right now (but sell it as a formality). …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/17 04:44 PM
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CPS. You need to call CPS.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/17 12:35 AM
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Does anyone else have the problem of sometimes just can't stop thinking our your ex? Yeah, but in my case I pray everyday the bitch drops dead from heart failure.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/17 06:54 PM
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Dear god what do you want to hear from a stranger? She's not a wife. Ditch the bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/17 06:48 AM
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BEST DIVORCE ATTORNEY. WE NUMBER ONE. YOU GUYS GOOD FOR BUSINESS, YA?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/17 05:33 PM
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Have you talked to a lawyer about this? It sounds like a nice idea, but this is how I see the court seeing it as. If your ex lives with the kids the majority of the time (more than 50%) she is the primary caregiver. She gets to own whatever the kids own. Because it belongs to the kids, if she decides to sell the house, you cannot dictate where the money goes, because it may be needed to support the children, which is something out of your control because she is the primary caregiver. If this is …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/17 05:31 PM
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overdosing my kids with eye drops Thanks man, that made my day. Good luck. As a guy who got fucked, it would be nice to see the opposite happen at least 1 out of every ten times.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/17 09:36 PM
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Look, if she's threatening custody, get it in writing or on video - it'll backfire on her if it is recorded somewhere. Just don't leave the house, the judge will hold it against you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/17 04:09 AM
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She's being a cunt. You're letting her do it to you, and it is abusive. Stop attending to her whims and the abuse will stop. Like why are you going to her birthday party? Why even listen to her at all?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/17 09:38 PM
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Since you're already talking to a lawyer then the only thing left to say is that I'm sorry you're going through this because it sucks. It's a rough ride but just realize that your kids know the truth, no matter what your ex says or does, and you will see them again eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/17 08:26 PM
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Holy shit don't let her lawyer find out.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/17 09:08 AM
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In 6 months you'll look back on it and say "thank fuck" that's ancient history.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/17 03:13 AM
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Sure, you can ask, but whether or not she does what you ask is unenforceable. she claims stability for not wanting 50/50 She wants money (child support) for your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/17 01:18 AM
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Under no circumstances leave your house. This is key.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/17 07:52 PM
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Fuck you're an asshole. You come in here, ask for help and then shit on the answers. Go fuck yourself troll.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/17 04:39 PM
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Look, your lawyer and my lawyer were the same - they want you to keep fighting so they'll get paid. If it works out for you, then you're the exception, not the rule. But if you already know the answers to your questions, then why ask? Are you trolling?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/17 04:19 PM
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No. Your schedule does not matter, only the child's. You will be labelled as narcissistic if you even present this idea to the court.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/17 03:55 PM
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You are definitely being setup by your ex. What to do about it is something only a lawyer can help you with.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/17 06:22 PM
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Would this count as income for child support reasons? No. Student loans and grants are not income. She has to pay the loans back.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/17 02:14 AM
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Sorry man, the only advice to give is to find a way to move on without them, and to let you know that of all fathers (married, divorced, unmarried, etc.) you are 1 in 3 - so you are not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/17 06:40 PM
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You're in an abusive relationship. You need to get out, because it will continue as long as you stay there. The fucked up thing is that as long as you continue to say or do nothing then people will think you're OK with it. Plainly put: You're not the problem, the rest of the world is really that stupid and selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/17 04:24 PM
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I'm nervous as hell. Look at it this way: Is the insurance agent's job to enforce a court order? If it were, wouldn't the order say how? My ex always talks about how my daughter's extracurricular actives like horseback riding and swimming are not covered under child support, and I need to pay her extra. The reality is she thinks you're a sucker since you're still paying for it now. They're just acting like entitled pieces of shit and the words coming out of their cock holes mean nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/17 05:48 PM
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You don't have to pay her bills. That's what spousal support is for. Cancel the insurance immediately - like TODAY - if you are the policy holder you can do it any time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/17 05:10 PM
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You have to learn to be alone. Find a distraction that doesn't involve anyone else. Hobbies are a good idea, but it has to be something new that never involved her so that you can do something you will enjoy without anyone in your past mucking it up for you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/17 11:30 PM
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Congrats! Too bad for the kid tho - it's a tough life when your parents are pieces of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/17 07:56 PM
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Is this even legal/can I do anything about it? Doesn't a change in your insurance policy require you to personally sign for it? But also if you want the nightmare to end, get the separation going and then end it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/17 02:12 AM
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I am not a lawyer, but I've been "through the system" and have had numerous family and friends go through it as well. He quit his job while they were still together. The big problem is the kids. His ex has a lot of legal ground to get him to work making $100K a year (or whatever he was making before) by being forced to pay child support at that level of income, which sounds like it's $1500/month, which is probably most of his post tax income. Because "it is in best interests of the children" his…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/17 01:42 AM
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she insists on being the primary custodian and I believe it is for the child support. Yup. Welcome to the club consisting of 90% of divorced fathers. My attorney does not want to ask for this unless we are absolutely certain that she is using No guarantees - there are drug using mothers who still have custody because vagina for some reason. we will be required to pay her legal fees. Judges use this to punish fathers who put up a fight. They see all family matters as a waste of the courts time. Y…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/17 05:26 AM
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go away fuckwad
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/17 05:42 AM
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One of the most horrible fucking things your wife's lawyer can use in court against you is that your inaction means you're also OK with her being a whore. Don't be a victim of the system.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/17 04:54 PM
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Don't move out, no matter what. If she moves out, it's her prerogative, but you can't leave or they will hold it against you, especially if you have kids. Fucking scumbags, eh?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/17 10:17 PM
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About the same. I had to declare bankruptcy so they couldn't come after my military pension. You're something like one of 92% of divorced men.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/17 10:02 PM
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"If you think the wedding is expensive, wait 'til you see the divorce."
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/17 06:25 PM
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Sorry, she doesn't sound like a good person. But, no matter what kind of person she is, there's no penalty for being disloyal or anything like that, so the bottom line is you have to learn to let go. Most guys handle this by redirecting their attention on other things, like doing things they couldn't do before because they were married - such as meeting other women. The only thing you should consider never doing again is getting married - it's just a shitty contract that's enforced by the govern…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/17 10:47 PM
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You're going to have to get a lawyer. When finances like your pension are involved, you need to get help. But it doesn't have to go to court or anything like that. You will have to pay child support and maybe some alimony, and child support is about 1/6th of what you make now + alimony on top of that. The state she is in sets the amounts, and you can google it. You will have to adjust to seeing your son a lot less. Like every other weekend and one night every 2 weeks, so that he doesn't forget w…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/17 06:40 PM
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Sorry man, I have no good advice for you other than to get a lawyer to help you through this. It only gets expensive if you want to fight her on anything.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/17 11:12 PM
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I got good news and bad news for ya. First the good: The good news is that any reason, including "promiscuity" and trash talking your ex, are just grounds for divorce. So as long as you were not handing out nudes of her, there's no law being broken. The bad news is her lawyer is going to fuck you over financially - nothing will stop that. If you have kids you're double fucked, because they'll use it as "emotional abuse" to get custody so she can get a child support payment too and basically cut …
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/17 09:50 PM
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Here's a recent one, for starters.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/17 06:56 PM
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The child support calculator estimated $600/mo while the alimony calculator estimated $950/mo. That is insane, tell me I am missing something here! Nope, it's not a mistake. If she took you to court she would expect to get at least that. It's the difference in incomes that gives her "a life that she has become accustomed to" argument which you must continue to provide for since her being in your life gave you the ability to give her the life she has become accustomed to. It's all lawyer talk but…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/17 04:53 PM
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She is complaining about not being able to pay for things. Reality is a bitch. If you're making your payments you should focus on your own future because she definitely won't be helping you. If you're kids need anything buy it for them directly. I wouldn't feel guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/17 05:55 PM
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She refuses to tell me if she is changing jobs or just took me off the plan. Plan to be off the plan. She also expects me to pay 100% of our son's coverage, and the other son's coverage is also covered 100% by his dad. Does that make sense? Nope, you should be sharing the costs equally. She sounds entitled. She moved out into her own place. It seems like that she "abandoned" your son. If you start acting on this right away and get a lawyer you can file for child support, since you are now the pr…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/17 10:54 PM
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Bad idea. If you go back to court you'll have to pay her the amount you owe, with interest, and they'll assess you for court costs which includes her lawyer and legal expenses, which will add at least $5000 on top of that. When I went to court over my daughter, I paid child support form the beginning, but they assessed me costs because they (my ex's lawyer and the judge) said the only reason why I was in court was to try and dodge paying child support. I was ordered by the judge to pay for the e…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/17 05:48 PM
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Holy fuck is this for real?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/17 02:51 AM
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Now is a good time to get out, since you've been married for less than 6 months and the illegal drug use is grounds for divorce. Talk to a lawyer and you can probably end this before you have to pay her anything. Just don't say anything bad about her otherwise you'll be characterized as abusive.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/17 05:03 PM
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Won't it look bad if I'm dating right away? After the separation is formalized, no. For example, if she cheated on you, there would be no penalty for her, nor would she get any less than what she's entitled to - it's just grounds for divorce. There are no penalties or shame for bedroom indiscretions anymore. It's all about the children now...
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/17 02:17 AM
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Generally speaking, if you have a penis and she was the homemaker, you owe her. This is due to "precedence" which is a fancy lawyer term for "we've always done it this way for the last 50 years, so fuck you, pay up." The whole system is very much engineered to work against you, as you are the one with money that everyone wants - everything else is an accessory to this fact. It is in everyone's best interests (except yours and your children's) - such as lawyers, counselors and psychologists - to …
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/17 07:02 PM
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1 Yes. A Ltd. company separates the owners assets from the business's assets in the event of things like bankruptcy. If he forms the company when he's not yet divorced, your step mom may get a stake, unless "you" (re: he) forms it and you are 100% the owner (which is not clear). Any money not paid to anyone in salary stays with the company, which is then used for expenses. The 5K you would earn would add to your existing income, and you would probably be taxed on it. As director you should be en…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/17 12:08 PM
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