| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 29 | Boyfriend becoming less generous after several months?Automatic turn off for me! | /r/askFDS | 17/04/22 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Missed Hinge Connection - Tell me I’m over thinking itBump | /r/askFDS | 24/03/22 01:37 AM |
| 64 | Mom gives “Husbands in Training” course to her sonsI watched this and was SO excited until he mentioned the porn part. Does this essentially mean he supports the porn industry? What a waste! How can you defend such an industry? I just don’t understand. He was probably brainwashed by Liberal Feminism thinking it can be “empowering” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 11:56 PM |
| 74 | Support needed to stop dating this guyDon’t go to his place girl. You’re not even into this guy. Listen to your gut. | /r/askFDS | 17/03/22 02:19 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Thank you! I’m not gonna talk to him lol I was just so surprised I didn’t find anything wrong with him right off the bat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:14 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Yes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 773 | FDS works: Why men refuse to pay for datesLol “some random woman” if she is so “random” why are you trying to go out with her? I was just having a convo about this with a friend yesterday. Men act like dating is SO expensive but it doesn’t have to be. Have a budget for dating, and be more selective about who you take out. Rather than trying to “meet up” with every single person you come across. Just an idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 05:54 PM |
| 12 | If they don't list in their OLD profile what they are looking for (relationship or casual) it's never for a good reason. This is from one of the OLD subreddits. OP is confirming my beliefs in the last screenshot.Best comment honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 10:48 PM |
| 6 | On Pornhub blocking russian users. A strategic move and some history lessons.I also follow along with Bethany and Kristen. While I can’t stand their beliefs, (I’m a Christian too) I hate what is happening to their family, her pregnant sister trying to flee the country at 38 weeks, and those poor boys who are sitting back watching what is happening to their home country. Just breaks my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 37 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Why does every man include “The Office” in their profile. It’s literally not even good lmao like why…. There are so many other shows they could mention but no they’ve gotta be basic bitches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:59 PM |
| 26 | I don’t know who’s worse: her trifling mama or her POS husband. I found this on Facebook and was shook. Honestly I probably would have went to jail.What in the…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 122 | When they show themselves in the second message…. Boy bye.Oh I did girl 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:28 PM |
| 3 | The occupation of men on OLDMost of the guys I’ve come across are engineers, work in IT, project managers, and I’ve chatted with two law students. One guy worked at a public relations firm. I haven’t come across too many nurses or doctors. A few, but not many. Probably because people in healthcare date other people on healthcare 😂 I don’t know? Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:29 PM |
| 6 | A Thought About the Nature of "Protect and Provide"I love Shallons videos. I too do not agree with everything she says and does. She seems to be a supporter of hookup culture. I’m not sure what her stance on sex work is. Does she support that heavily? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 19 | How'd You Find FDS?I had gone on a bumble coffee date and was very turned off that he got there before me, ordered, and when I arrived didn’t even offer to pay for mine. It was like my attraction vanished in 2 seconds. I talked to a friend and she thought I sounded very “entitled”. And she mentioned that a date not paying for her isn’t a deal breaker or even a thought regarding if she wouldn’t see him again. I started googling “who should pay on a first date” and the rest is history! I found my people lol 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:46 PM |
| 82 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...So we’re just gonna ignore the biological facts…. The science behind sex… the hormones that get exchanged and how serious that is. Not to mention risk of STDs, pregnancy, and having to be on birth control. Yeah I’m not buying that BS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 42 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...Hell yeah girl, same here! Preach it 🙏🏻👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:42 PM |
| 72 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"This is basically my story! I graduated college when I was 22. Didn’t date during that time. I had a part time job, an internship and full course load. My priorities were straight. I’m turning 25 in April, and I’m JUST now feeling like I know who I am and what I want. My mom got married at 19, her and my dad are still together. While there can be exceptions to the rule, that was never something I ever wanted for myself and my parents have never pushed me in that direction. Times were different t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 02:31 PM |
| 7 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Came here to say this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:23 AM |
| 32 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »Yesssss😂 I love Panera. I always spend so much money when I go there lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:57 PM |
| 27 | FDSers who are waiting for marriage to have sex or have sex later in committed relationships, have you found that HVM (even non-religious) are willing to wait?The ones I know are religious yes. But, I still think you could find someone who would be willing to wait that is non religious. A true HVM will respect your wishes no matter what! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:34 PM |
| 90 | FDSers who are waiting for marriage to have sex or have sex later in committed relationships, have you found that HVM (even non-religious) are willing to wait?I’m waiting for marriage. I don’t care if it “shrinks my pool” or not. It’s my decision and I’m not going to compromise on my values. I’m not sure what you’re reason is for waiting but for me it’s because I’m a Christian. So I wouldn’t even entertain anyone who doesn’t share the same belief system as me/isn’t living the same lifestyle. That said, I actually have ran into quite a few men who are waiting/willing to wait. I have many friends who are married and they along with their current husband… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 09:38 PM |
| 47 | Nick Cannon shares he's expecting his 8th child, with model Bre Tiesi — weeks after the death of his 5-month-old son. Nick Cannon is a sick pos and all the women are serious pickmes!Why do these beautiful young girls keep having babies with him knowing his past and all his baby mamas?? Does he set them up for life or something? 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 68 | Reasons I changed my mind on having children and all the aspects of motherhood society does not want to acknowledge:I totally agree with you and these are all fabulous points to consider. At this point I’m not sure if I want kids. I can, however tell you from the time I was a child I have been terrified of pregnancy. My heart has always been warm towards adoption however, so if I do decide when I’m older and financially stable, I’d be open to that. Also don’t forget you can exercise your motherly qualities without actually being a mother. There are so many organizations (big brothers big sisters) that are beg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 02:46 AM |
| 108 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.That’s like 16+ dates. Boy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:17 AM |
| 89 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsI have a friend who I probably need to cut off but can’t. It’s only gotten clear to me recently who brainwashed she is. I tried introducing her to FDS ideas, and she was disgusted (not just disagreed, DISGUSTED). Literally all I tried to communicate was, “I think you’re amazing and beautiful and you deserve a man who is going to pay for dates, and treat you like a queen” She actually got mad at me for saying she was a queen. Said I was reinforcing the patriarchy. She has swallowed the liberal fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:54 PM |
| 36 | 10 year age gapI’m 24, and the oldest I would consider would probably be 28-29. Anything more than that and he is going to have way more experience and the power dynamics will likely be off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:53 PM |
| 94 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪I don’t think you’re overreacting. Clearly he didn’t listen. That’s on him. Good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:53 AM |
| 37 | I walked away when my needs weren't metHe is clearly playing a numbers game. In my opinion, and someone correct me if I’m wrong, but I always hear on this sub that a man knows almost immediately if he wants something serious/a relationship with you. So wouldn’t that mean that he would drop all the other women he has been going on dates with to focus all his energy on one woman? Not only that, but you shouldn’t even have to “bring up” this conversation. He should be clear in this intentions from the start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:03 PM |
| 56 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesThis was a ride | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 01:44 AM |
| 171 | A pictorial depiction of the “male feminist”Isn’t this the sad truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:51 PM |
| 175 | How to approach multi-dating?I just want to know how to find multiple men that I’m interested in to date. I downloaded Hinge and I think I’ve flipped through 150-200 profiles and so far have only found ONE, single solitary guy that met my baseline standards just based on his profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Scrote is mad that his date has standardsAgree. I’m 24 and the thought of dating someone 30 freaks me out. They’d have SO much more life experience than me. My absolute max that I would consider would be 28 at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:36 PM |
| 4 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Hey! I actually just posed a similar question in Female Level Up strategy. I was having the same concerns/questions you are having. Go check out that thread, I got so many thoughtful, insightful responses! For me, at the end of the day I enjoy makeup. I think it’s creative and can be an outlet for some. I used to wear makeup every single day to hide my imperfections and my acne. Last year, I got serious and started using fragrance free/clean products, and my skin has never looked better! I can l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:16 PM |
| 31 | Need guidance about dating!!In my early twenties as well, I downloaded OLD and I can assure you it’s 99% trash 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Anyone know of any of HVM Youtubers, influencers, etc.?I love the Feminine Fancy! She’s so beautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:17 PM |
| 25 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherThis. I went out with a guy (also from Bumble) whose profile said he was 6 foot. I get there, and he is just over eye level. I am 5’5, so I’m guessing he was about 5’8. Like you, I don’t mind… I’m on the shorter side anyway. But the fact that he LIED about it? Nah. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:41 PM |
| 20 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.Oh gosh yes. I just downloaded Hinge out of curiosity. All of the men look just like this lol! I was quite surprised because I’ve been on Bumble before and they were mostly attractive! It’s so disappointing lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:41 PM |
| 309 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Someone who is SUPER into sports. If they are just casually into them, okay fine. But if they’re season ticket holders, wear team merch, and yell at the TV every week… I can’t do it. I just hate spots I always have 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:37 PM |
| 17 | This man is 24. His “best friend” was 14 while he was a 20 year old man waiting for her to be legal to call his GF. This man is a pedophile.Ewww what the heck! Someone save this poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:17 PM |
| 8 | "I just fell asleep" Men that won't say goodnight or just dip from convosI had a nice little convo happening on hinge with a man. We were messaging back and forth every couple minutes. Then, I send him a longish message. And poof- he’s gone. And it’s been like, 4 hours. Interesting that as soon as I send a more engaging message, it’s over. Hmmmm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:45 AM |
| 19 | If He Wanted To, He Would 💍Congratulations 💕 So beautiful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:37 PM |
| 430 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleYep! Just yesterday I was browsing on I believe it was the Hinge subreddit. A man was asking how he should respond to the question, “what are you looking for?” He explained that he didn’t want anything super serious, and wanted to be truthful about it (shocking!) Of course, another commenter responded and said “if you say you’re not looking for a relationship, 99% of girls won’t be interested…. Just saying” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:51 AM |
| 68 | Just need some supportYes, him suggesting takeout does sound like he is paying. If you do most of the cooking, what does he do? Does he contribute in other ways? Sounds like he is not putting in full effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:02 AM |
| 31 | Vetting Strategy: Ask a man how he feels about his sexual health.If you don’t feel comfortable, then don’t. Simple as that. Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:33 AM |
| 9 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"Yes, oh my goodness yes! A couple years ago I was chatting with a guy on bumble (gross, i know) and was telling him about how the day prior a man at my apartment complex had followed me/creeped me out. I followed up with saying something along the lines of, “yeah it’s hard to be a woman, always gotta be on guard.” His response: “hmm yeah I can’t relate as I am not a woman” WHAT. I was so turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:44 PM |
| 12 | Been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he does meet a lot of my requirements however he watches porn, a few times a month he says he can get it to zero if i don't like it, it does make me uncomfortable though. Idk should i still give him a chance or find someone who didn't watch to begin with?No no no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 02:09 AM |
| 109 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeOmg this man’s Instagram profile literally says “alpha” I am DYING | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 99 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?What are some ways to vet how a man feels about this, and his stance on it? Besides coming out and saying “are you a provider” lol🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 08:30 PM |
| 106 | Men Double TextingThey are literally unhinged lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:27 AM |
| 147 | Men Double TextingRight?? What I don’t understand is that this was on Instagram, and I didn’t even open his original message yet so he could literally see that I didn’t even read it yet… lmao the audacity is amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 03:14 AM |
| 16 | Finally ready to date again after getting a well paying job!You go girl! ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:41 AM |
| 16 | Any halfway decent Christmas films?I like Serendipity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:47 AM |
| 38 | FDS stance on men having sex toys?Thank you. My mom made me feel like I was being a prude or something because I didn’t understand the “joke” Apparently last year this friend bought my brother a body pillow with a man’s face on it to be funny and this is what he does in return. It’s not even on the same level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 04:59 AM |
| 11 | FDS stance on men having sex toys?This is what I thought too! My brother said he did it because “he’s waiting for marriage… it’s gonna be a while before he can get any.” 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 04:49 AM |
| 99 | How often do you go on a date?I’ve been on one date. I say “date” lightly. It was August 2020 and he was from OLD. We met at Starbucks, and he got there way before me and ordered his drink. I was immediately turned off. I found FDS days later and have been leveling up ever since. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:56 PM |
| 81 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!YEP! This happened to me. I got there, and he already had his drink and didn’t even offer to pay for mine. I was instantly turned off. And this was before I found FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 28 | 👉 Recommended YT channelThanks for the recommendation! I am now binging her vids. SO GOOD. can we please get this woman on the podcast?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:24 PM |
| 13 | 👉 Recommended YT channelThanks for the recommendation! I am now binging her vids. SO GOOD. can we please get this woman on the podcast?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:24 PM |
| 27 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionYes queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 10 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I’m never changing my name. I’ve had my name for this many years, why go through all that paperwork and he has to do none? Just another hassle women have to deal with. Now, I do know a woman who, when her and her husband got married they combined their last names. That would be the only way I would do it. If HE changes his also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:48 PM |
| 28 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.This happened to me! I found it SO rude. I wouldn’t even do that to a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:34 AM |
| 2 | FDS when you're down on your looksAbsolutely wait until you feel confident! I used to be down on my looks too. I decided to level up physically as well as emotionally. I got braces, I started watching YouTube videos about skincare and purchase safe products that have now completely gotten rid of my acne (Thanks, Dr. Dray! Seriously… look her up!) and now I’m in the process and leveling up my hair routine. Throwing our old products, cheap shampoos that dried out my hair. I went to Sephora recently and got some higher end products… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:21 PM |
| 8 | Where the lie 🤣🤣🤣Same standard for me! I’m 24 and I’ve had my own apartment for almost 2 years now. I feel like once you hit 25, it’s time to transition out of the “roommate” phase and stop living like a college student. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:08 PM |
| 46 | Straight from the horse’s mouth: men who ask you to hook up with them literally only want you for sex. These comments were in response to a woman who was complaining about the audacity men on Tinder have in asking her if she “wants to fuck”I will be single for the rest of my life before I get back on OLD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 04:23 PM |
| 50 | Avril's new song is an anthem!Was waiting for someone to post this! I have been playing this on repeat, SO good. But what do you think about her dating Mod Sun? 🤮 Hes kinda gross to me lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 462 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.I don’t understand why men write stuff like this. Like, it’s not funny??? Let me casually insult my wife on social media for millions of people to see | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Religious FDSI’m a Christian! I think for me, it helps to know that the misogynistic ways the church has latched on to, was never God’s plan. I would recommend you read the book “The Making of Biblical Womanhood” by Beth Allison Barr. She is a Christian and also a historian. In her book she discusses the history of patriarchy and how it is all man made. She has done podcasts and interviews you can find on YouTube as well. Also make sure the church your attending/content your consuming is egalitarian. Hope th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 08:36 PM |
| 73 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?I second this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsThat’s different! He would still be working and bringing in $. I’m talking specifically about men who quit their jobs, contribute $0 to the household. WFH has changed a lot of families dynamics after the pandemic probably. Working from home gives people this option which I think is great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:47 PM |
| 7 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsThis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:30 PM |
| 9 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsRight?! I’m like… have you ever read a book? Every psychology book/relationship dynamic information I have ever read has said men get their satisfaction from providing. If they can’t provide for you, they’ll find someone beneath you so that they can. So they can feel “like a man” The same goes for women. We desire safety and part of that safety is financially. So, if he isn’t working at all, gets to stay at home with the kids while I’m out making money, yeah, I’m gonna grow to resent him and eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsAmen! I should have said incredibly intelligent before this incident 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 99 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsPrecisely 😂 Apparently men need more freedom then they already have. I can’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 31 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsI agree. And each parent should have the ability to chase their dreams if they choose to do so. However, I think this set up is more of an exception rather than a rule. It shouldn’t be “normalized” or preached to men that this is a viable option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:46 AM |
| 96 | This is a new low…This will be my LV brother and his pickme gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:43 AM |
| 8 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsOh me too! I’ve told friends about how I want a man who is a provider and they think I’m entitled or super old fashioned/not feminist. The bottom line is I could never respect a man who would be comfortable in this type of role. The sexual attraction would be zero lol. I don’t understand why society wants to completely wipe out “gender roles”. The toxic stereotypes yes. But basic family dynamics? No. There is nothing wrong with expecting a man to provide. Especially because we live in a MAN’s wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:07 AM |
| 32 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsThank you! Loved what you said about women stepping into the masculine role. If we go down this road, it changes everything. The courting process, pursuing… etc. it’s just not about who brings home the $$ and takes time to provide childcare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:47 AM |
| 13 | Kacey Musgraves Bread WinnerLOL was just checking to see if someone had posted this song to the sub. SING IT, KACEY! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 92 | Always keep your coins snatchedI read a comment a while back somewhere on the sub, that went like “his money is OUR money, and her money is her money” I asked my mom about it. She said when her and my dad got married, she didn’t pay for hardly anything. He paid all the bills. She still worked. And when I came along, she went to the mall and bought every outfit and baby item imaginable 😂. And she was always spoiling herself with handbags, clothes and things for the house. This set up is the only one that makes sense to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to never be comfortable in dating apps?Are we twins? This was me last year. I had zero dating experience and felt bad about it, so I hopped on Bumble. It was okay at first. I talked to two guys and met up with one. I didn’t really enjoy the date. I realized most guys on there, are on there for one thing. One guy I thought looked very promising, even had a Bible verse in his profile. I thought, oh this is promising! He must be a nice guy! WRONG. 3 messages in and he’s begging me to come over and “cuddle” I deleted bumble and haven’t b… | /r/askFDS | 30/08/21 12:16 AM |
| 5 | Stop watching reality TV and reading trashy novelsThis is why I stopped watching the Bachelor/Bachelorette. I just couldn’t do it anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 11:05 PM |
| 61 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!Amen. Society is obsessed with making women feel like we NEED a partner. I mean we are a culture who grew up on Disney princess movies. Taught from a young age that we need a “happy ending” and a Prince Charming to save us. I remember family members asking me starting when I was very young (7,8 years old) “do you have a boyfriend at school?” It’s ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 8 | So...I wanted to try out K-beauty (inspired by fds) and what do you know, my bf (hvm!) not only encouraged me, but surprised me by footing the entire bill and now ensures I'm actively doing self-care and not forgetting to use theseLove K beauty!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 17 | I’d wife me 💍After leveling up physically, mentally and spiritually over the last year ABSOLUTELY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 29 | Tonight’s ‘The Bachelorette’I stopped watching the bachelor franchise a few seasons ago. It’s very low brow and since leveling up I just don’t even find it interesting anymore. It’s trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:56 AM |
| 19 | I have no wordsWell at least it sounds like she has woken up some. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 03:24 PM |
| 15 | EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)THIS IS SO SWEET | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 02:22 AM |
| 3 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")You’re amazing. Congrats 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:47 PM |
| 28 | The First Date DebateThank you!!! Love what you said about it being a biological response. I went on a date and the guy didn’t pay or offer to pay. I was instantly unattracted to him. I explained this to my friend, who thought I sounded like a spoiled brat, how dare I expect a “stranger” aka some guy I met on OLD who had to convince me to go out with him for two weeks (was cautious about pandemic). Now I realize this is what it was. It’s completely normal and we shouldn’t shame someone for expecting literally the ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 07:19 PM |
| 8 | GOALS 😩❤️My dream lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Dating guys you don't have feelings forThere’s only trash on OLD lol | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Anna Bey?I’m thinking about buying her course now! I love her videos, don’t understand why all the negative feedback here. I quite enjoy her videos she’s doing now on female friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:25 PM |
| 5 | A little wisdom that was passed down to me from my aunt, “Never have children with some one you are not married to.”I wasn’t aware this was an unpopular opinion lol. I thought it was standard knowledge. Of course there are always people who have kids outside of wedlock but I thought but generally I’d think people would want to wait until they were married with a house. But people are crazy... so maybe I’m wrong lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 02:29 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-InI got ceramic braces in January. Cheers to glowing up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:57 PM |
| 20 | The women in my life keep telling me sex is not a big deal and that I should just do it because I'm 23 F and a virgin. But I don't want to allow men to have easy access to my body. How do I explain that casual sex is not empowering to me?You don’t owe them anything. I’d say get better friends. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you’re ready. I just turned 24, and I’m waiting until marriage. Don’t let them pressure you or make you feel like you’re missing out on the “greatness” of casual sex. Because you’re not. | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Every “girls should make the first move!!” Post in a nutshell 🌰 🥜^ the best comment and explanation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!Agree! | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 97 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.This was me in HS. I’m 24 now and i still haven’t had a boyfriend. I don’t want one either 😂 Just because everyone else is doing it doesn’t mean you have to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!This is the third friend I’ve introduced FDS ways to. The first two almost completely agreed with everything right off so I was genuinely surprised when this friend was, dare I say offended by what we preach. But maybe I at least planted a seed by giving her some things to think about. We can’t expect someone to change overnight. | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 07:32 PM |
| 5 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!For sure. I do feel bad. Probably even worse than I felt before I tried to introduce her to new ways. She mentioned that every date she has been on, they split the check. She met someone on OLD and drove like 40 minutes TO him. Idk. I just know she deserves better which is why I feel so protective and upset at her negative reaction to what should be bare minimum manners. | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!Thank you. I realize the makeup comments were probably over the top. I guess I thought I was just throwing another thing out there, but I get it doesn’t look the best. I did make all of those solid points you mentioned, but unfortunately she still didn’t get it. Next time I try to introduce FDS I will be more calm about it. It just got me fired up thinking about how i believe she views herself. Because I think she’s super great and deserves the best. :) | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!Thank you☺️ | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 06:22 PM |
| 8 | Introduced FDS principles to friend. Resulted in a fight - need some insight!Thank you!! I honestly thought most women were like this. Lol. Pretty sure she actually thinks I’m an entitled bitch because I want a man to pay. | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 05:53 PM |
| 14 | Can't tell if the man I'm dating is HVM or LVMYou lost me at 50/50. Especially since he makes more than you. Like the other commenters, your LV list is a lot longer than HV and quite frankly outweighs the good qualities. | /r/askFDS | 21/04/21 04:57 PM |
| 4 | On the MRAs, TRP, MGTOW and IncelsCan someone educate me on Jordan Peterson? I know he’s an author and I’ve read of some his stuff but he didn’t seem bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 03:55 AM |
| 9 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?I have no idea lol. I mean I would want to know we are on the same page as far as goals go, and I think at the 6 month mark is a good time to see what your goals are as far as marriage and kids go. I wouldn’t want to waste my time if our life goals didn’t match. | /r/askFDS | 16/04/21 04:28 AM |
| 15 | How do I bring up marriage with my bf?I’m gonna disagree with the other ladies here. I don’t think 6 months is too soon at all. I think that’s about right on target for that conversation. I mean 6 months is a good amount of time especially if you spend a lot of time with this person and you continue to vet. | /r/askFDS | 16/04/21 03:36 AM |
| 11 | He wanted to be exclusive but without a relationship. Make it make sense.You made the right choice. My question is why the heck do men do this? If you’re still hurting why go chase after someone else only to not commit? Why play games like that? Why don’t men take time to focus on themselves and level up like we do? It’s so lame. | /r/askFDS | 14/04/21 02:33 PM |
| 8 | From the dating subreddit, "Men shouldn't be expected to carry the entire weight of the dating experience, and women shouldn't be afraid to scare men away by "chasing" them and providing support."This lady needs to pick up a biology book or psychology book!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InOkay I’d like to know what high value / FDS minded youtubers you ladies watch. My favorites I’ve found are Greta Bretcheta (sp?), Chengi’s World, Shera7, Karine Alourde and Dr. Michelle. Another one I recently found is The Universe Guru (Mina). Everything she teaches is very FDS except for the fact that she encourages age gap relationships. I say this lightly because she’s not out here telling women to date wrinkly old men. But her thing is that you should date up preferably 5-7 years older than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:17 PM |
| 31 | This lady spitting TRUTHS. Remember to focus on YOU first and not settling up for less.She’s the exception to the rule. Lol. But like you said he was ready in progress, so it’s not like he was some lazy bum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Not sure if celebrity couples/YouTube or influencer couples are talked about here but does anyone think Moses Hacmon is a HVM?Following because I’m also curious. I think they are cute, but I worry because she’s so $$$ and he’s not. | /r/askFDS | 05/04/21 01:44 PM |
| 25 | Can someone explain to my European brain this “joint account” bullshit?!LOVE this! My mom and dad had this set up originally. I want this too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 03:22 PM |
| 12 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexSo thankful I’m waiting until marriage. Most of the time that really is all they want. So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:51 PM |
| 13 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himHe is insufferable. Truly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:41 PM |
| 51 | Reminder to myself and others: Just focus on yourself honey.This makes me feel validated as I’m 23 and haven’t ever had a relationship and honestly have no interest right now. It does get tiring when family and friends are constantly asking me when I’m going to “get a boyfriend” though. They genuinely don’t believe me when I say I don’t want one right now. It’s crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:37 PM |
| 38 | Something about this is utterly horrifying to meI’m sorry the kids heard??? And now need therapy? Someone call CPS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:57 PM |
| 48 | How men use their children as props in their OLD profiles and glorify doing less than the bare minimum of parentingEvery OLD profile : “looking for a mom for my dog” I could literally puke | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:07 AM |
| 87 | 50-50 is a lie.What. A. Scumbag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:05 AM |
| 120 | How long should I wait before he makes me his girlfriend?Don’t say anything. See other men | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 04:57 AM |
| 12 | I need a wake up callOkay, well first things first a loving partner would NEVER threaten to hurt you. Second of all, we as women I think like to see potential in things. We often we potential in people and create this desire to fix them. The truth is that potential will never ever be enough. And you will never fix them. I think it is in your best interest to move on. There is someone out there for you who has MORE - much more than just potential. And a threat to hurt/kill you is not a matter of if - but when. Rememb… | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 12:50 AM |
| 11 | What is FDS stance on finances in marriage?Like if you combine your accounts it’s all the same money right? I still think maybe the woman should have a side account or access to one just in case anything happens. ((You know))) | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 12:45 AM |
| 28 | Our fav guy just dropped another gem 😂He’s a cutie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:49 AM |
| 9 | Should I be disappointed for not receiving anything on Valentine's Day?Just read your post and follow up and I’m glad he is at least admitting his mistake but again, that’s easy to do. Is he going to make up for it still? I think that’s the least he could do, even though a few days have past. Another red flag I found in your post is how you guys do 50/50. You’ll see we don’t advise that in the handbook. I actually made a post about seeing the 50/50 relationship in the wild on fb 😅 good luck! | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 10:36 PM |
| 35 | Where to seek a partner?I’m wondering this too. I also don’t like OLD. I would say events, join a co-ed club. Put yourself in situations where your ideal person would hang out. Example: library, volunteering at a nonprofit, church. Of course these aren’t super great right now with covid. | /r/askFDS | 17/02/21 09:35 PM |
| 6 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!Oh god I do know who that is!!! They have been in some of Trisha paytas videos. Yeah, I couldn’t believe she’s a porn star and becoming a mom! I mean no disrespect but you have to do better for your child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:45 PM |
| 17 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!Who is Adam!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:34 AM |
| 247 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!They tell on themselves. They don’t hide it. Why are women still putting up with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:32 AM |
| 21 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!Good for you! He probably purposely didn’t do anything for VDAY because he doesn’t want to set the bar high for other holidays either, my guess. Men are a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:22 PM |
| 63 | Just finished this book and highly recommend to all my FDS queensLooks good! I personally am not into alcohol myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:48 AM |
| 7 | Happy Galentines! Decorated for MYSELF and my HVW housemates, then had lovely afternoon tea! Giving ourselves the treatment we deserve 🌹💃🏼🍒Adorable!! Love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 11:45 PM |
| 2 | 50/50 Relationships are NOT equal. It’s a SCAM, ladies.I love this. That’s exactly how it should be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 11:15 PM |
| 230 | 50/50 Relationships are NOT equal. It’s a SCAM, ladies.Right? Like, thanks for being my personal house keeper and maid. Ugh, I want to save this woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:04 AM |
| 187 | 50/50 Relationships are NOT equal. It’s a SCAM, ladies.I was casually scrolling through Facebook when I saw this. I was like EXCUSE ME?! and what exactly do you do for her? I’d imagine they are probably splitting the bills down the middle too. I can’t believe he actually admitted this on social media. This poor woman felll into the 50/50 scam.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 111 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceYessssss! 23 and still haven’t had my first kiss haha honestly more focused on my career and self development right now though. Nothing wrong with it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Do you regret losing your virginity? Do you suggest someone wait or not?You’ve got that right girl! 😄 | /r/askFDS | 20/12/20 04:24 AM |
| 34 | Do you regret losing your virginity? Do you suggest someone wait or not?I’m 23 and a virgin. Personally men aren’t shit and I’m waiting until I’m married 😂 if a man can wait for that, then I think we’re good. :) | /r/askFDS | 20/12/20 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Match messages everyday but that's it.Girl take it from me. It’s not worth it. I was in your position a few months ago. Matched with a guy on bumble, hit it off, exchanged lonnnng messages. He never asked for my number, was very wishy washy about asking me out. It went on for TWO months. Don’t be like me. Lol I think on the apps, people act quickly. If a guy sees someone he is REALLY into, he’s gonna ask her out, get her number on the spot. Not wait. | /r/askFDS | 15/12/20 03:35 PM |
| 26 | Underwear......why?This is so gross. I would have broken up with him when I found out while doing laundry lol that’s a no no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 32 | Dump him if he has EDMy question is ladies. How do you know a guy doesn’t watch porn? Many guys have said men who don’t watch porn don’t exist. Is this something you bring up soon after meeting someone? Personally I’m waiting for marriage so not sure how to approach that topic. But I def don’t want to spend months and months with someone only to find out they’re into some gross porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:48 PM |
| 1 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?Yes girl you are me!! Not catholic, but Christian and wanting to wait for marriage. How did you bring that topic up in the first few dates? And how did the guys react? Could you see the interest just fade so fast 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 04:56 PM |
| 4 | Using FDS In Early 20sSame! I’m 23 also and I’m not gonna be dating until I’m ready. We only have so long to date just ourselves ;P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 04:09 PM |
| 56 | Men are so troubled.Oh and don’t forget they want to protect their daughters virginity with their life yet this is how they treat other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 28 | Libfems - BuT iT's EmPoWeRiNgAs a 23 year old virgin I approve this message!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:00 PM |
| 21 | Geographical dating advice?Don’t move to Nashville. Men are scared of commitment. Most are traveling musicians who have groupies and hookups in different cities. I hate it here and I’ve barely started dating. I know there’s good guys in this city but finding them is difficult, as with any city I imagine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:48 PM |
| 11 | In response to the post about whether or not LVM cause monthly cycle disturbances. Explanation in description 😖Omg I’m so disgusted. This is straight up GROSS. this man is pathetic. We deserve better ladies!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:40 PM |
| 8 | Shut down an LVM at work who tried to treat me like his personal secretaryGood for you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:14 PM |
| 9 | Irrefutable proof that sexuality is not a choice 👭💅😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:56 PM |
| 7 | Let's talk about waiting.Hey girl I completely agree! While some make valid points above, I think the only one who can make that choice is you. I want to wait as well. I think it’s important to note that even though we are waiting, we can still have in depth conversations with our partner about our future sex life and discuss what we expect, and things like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:05 PM |
| 19 | Relating FDS to Christian Values in Regards to Dating and MarriageYes!!!! Thank you for this post!! As a Christian I feel exactly the same as you do and agree with everything you said. It was beautiful! Congrats on realizing that you deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 3 | You literally can’t make this shit up.Amen sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 01:59 AM |
| 41 | You literally can’t make this shit up.GIRL. Before I found this sub (very recently) I went on a coffee date. I got there, the guy had ALREADY ORDERED HIS DRINK and did not offer to pay for mine. I was truly stunned. So thankful I found you all, never again!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:24 PM |
| 7 | Women in the BibleJesus Feminist! I’ve been wanting to get that book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:07 PM |
| 19 | This girl’s boyfriend is clearly so generous! Is even worried about how much toilet paper she uses 🙄Oh my god. This is literally awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:18 PM |
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