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Based on your comments, it sounds like you have especially severe social anxiety when it comes to women and romance. I think it is somewhat common. I bet your body completely locks up in situations where you would like to ask out a woman. The only solution is to go through that awkward process enough times that the anxiety becomes more manageable. You have to be willing to experience rejection and even the possibility that someone will unfairly think you are a creep. I suggest you go out the bar…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 09:52 PM
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"I’m wondering if this is redpill shit, if he’s just insecure, if he thinks I’m naive and he’s one of those slightly older guys who goes for younger girls to manipulate, or if he’s all of this at once!" It sounds like all of the above. He definitely has a redpill-type mindset. I don't think it's healthy for you to date guys who you think you can "help" with your psychology knowledge. You should bring this idea up with a trained psychologist. They will explain why it's a bad idea.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/26 06:11 PM
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Like you said: Everyone settles. We don't have movie-star good looks and, as we mature, we have to adjust our expectations to reality. On average, women settle in different ways than men do. But the level of settling is not different. Everyone has unique attractions and priorities. You may settle for a woman who doesn't have the same politics as you. A woman may settle for you even though you can't keep up her when hiking. This is an anxiety that's not worth spending time on. You could just as e…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 11:12 PM
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Yes, you messed up. Next time, just text something like: "how about 9pm?" That's what most normal people do.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/26 07:04 PM
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Well, some of these feelings may be natural for you. So, don’t beat yourself up too hard about them. Just recognize they are illogical and do your best to ignore them. Also, time will probably be the biggest help for you. With time, your mind will grow and these old ideas from your youth will be replaced with maturity and wisdom.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/26 11:42 PM
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You need to try to change your perspective. Here is the perspective you should have: These redpill ideas you have are just a reflection of your insecurity. They are a weakness inside of you. Just like overwhelming anger and fear would be serious weaknesses if you were a military commander, this redpill insecurity you have is a weakness you need to conquer. This weakness will prevent you from enjoying life, being a good lover, and having a good relationship. If you view it as a weakness, that may…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 11:43 PM
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It sounds like you are both young and inexperienced. This results in lots of failed relationships for dumb reasons. You and she will both learn from it. I can't say whether you did anything wrong here. However, it sounds like you are in a conservative culture. In conservative cultures, men are often expected to be providers and fit into traditional roles. It could be that, in your culture, men are expected to buy their girlfriend a meal during a date. When you live in a conservative culture, I t…
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 09:43 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like keeping your distance from eldest would be a good idea.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/25 10:58 PM
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I don't think it's healthy for you to be around her if she is constantly disrespecting you and bringing you into contact with people who disrespect you. It's okay to get pushed away. It's her doing. Not yours. You do have other family. Your two siblings. It sounds like they will happily resume contact with you once you do what is healthy for yourself and cut ties. It sucks that they cut contact because you were spending time with your mom, but they may have had very good reasons for it. It's pos…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/25 08:41 PM
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I don’t know if that stat is true. But I do think it is a little easier for women to get meaningless sex than it is for men. The catch is that most women don’t want meaningless sex, but a lot of men do want it. Finding a relationship isn’t any easier for women. In general, they are naturally more picky than men. Meaning they aren’t attracted to a lot of guys who might seem fine on paper. So that narrows their options way down. And they have to dodge all these guys who are creepy and even dangero…
/r/ExRedPill16/08/25 02:33 PM
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"Comparison is the thief of joy". It's an old saying and it is still true. Comparing yourself to other people who are more lucky or successful will always bring you pain. It's problem for everyone. Even rich people are often jealous of people who are even more rich than them. It's one of the reasons you have people worth many millions of dollars killing themselves through hard work to achieve a billion dollars. Even though they could have the perfect life if they just enjoyed what they already h…
/r/ExRedPill01/08/25 08:01 PM
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I suggest making a list of all the red flags his girlfriend had before he found out she was cheating. Then point out that she was a uniquely bad person. And that most women are not like that. You're not like that. Then explain that if he wants to have a relationship with a decent woman, he needs to stop reading all this redpill and racist stuff. It will turn him into the male-version of his ex. Most decent women can smell that stuff a mile away.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/25 10:53 PM
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It sounds like you're looking for non-redpill dating advice. A lot of people like an author named Mark Manson who writes books and gives dating advice.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/25 08:05 PM
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If you want here back you should probably confess that you messed up due to redpill right now. You need to find other activities and interests to focus on when you're feeling stressed and anxious.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/25 05:50 PM
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Most of them are lying about their wealth. If they actually had a lot of money, they wouldn't be wasting their time making youtube content. And the few of them that actually have money, like Tate, are incapable of having a healthy serious relationship with a woman. So their life isn't going to be that great.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/24 07:59 PM
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Only an awful person would say something like that on a date. Some people are materialistic and awful. Some people are gold diggers. But most people aren’t. Just keep trying until you make a connection with someone who isn’t awful.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 04:00 PM
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If you’re worried you can’t get a job in your town without getting fired due to your reputation, you need to move to somewhere you can get a job. I think you need to move to a different small college town. (A bigger city would work too, but the cost of living is a lot higher so probably not practical.)
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 04:27 AM
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You are dealing with some massive insecurities that are completely unnecessary. These insecurities are not based on reality. And they are making it so you cannot objectively view women and your situation. You say that there are women who want to marry you but don't actually like you? I really doubt that. Have you actually met these women, or are you just assuming they exist? Maybe you are dating some awful women? If so, try and find better women. Dating a woman who has more sexual experience tha…
/r/ExRedPill06/09/24 06:56 PM
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It's not redpill. It's fine to tell him that. It's especially true when online dating. Both women and men tend to be especially superficial when dating online. But there are exceptions to every trend. If he meets a really beautiful woman in real life, and they have a legitimate intellectual connection, it's totally possible for them to get into a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/24 05:26 PM
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Looked at your profile. You live in a desolate area, have a bad ratio of men to women, and are completely dependent on online dating. Online dating doesn’t work for average guys anymore. Especially in areas with a bad ratio. The dating apps are designed to keep you engaged and paying money. And very few women use the apps relative to men. Basically, things won’t get better for you until you move to an area with more favorable demographics. No amount of Reddit posts will help that. It seems like …
/r/ExRedPill05/08/24 04:33 AM
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There is a lot of variation in women genitalia. People are just born differently. Like belly buttons and ears and noses are different. It’s not from having a lot of sex.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/24 11:11 PM
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Possibly. But I wouldn't assume it based on that information alone. It's definitely cringey, though.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/24 12:43 AM
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I suggest you give him some alternative options. If he quickly adopts them and moves away from the redpill stuff, great! If he is resistant and stubbornly sticks to redbill stuff, move on from him. This will have the added benefit that, even if you break up with him, he will have some idea how to improve himself for his next girlfriend. People here often recommend an author named Mark Manson: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Mark-Manson/author/B00BIJOMOC?ref=ap\_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPo…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/24 08:49 PM
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I’m old and we’ve been together for a long time. It’s worked out great. You won’t be able to have a good relationship until you overcome your fears and insecurities with women. You will also need to learn to make friends with men.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/24 03:22 PM
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I assume it just reflects their own insecurity. In their mind, marrying a virgin would mean they never had to compete with another man for the sexual desire of their wife. I don't think it really works that way. But insecurities are not necessarily rational.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 06:30 AM
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FYI - The vast majority of the time, your first time is going to be kind of lame for you. It takes practice. So don't set your expectations up too high.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 06:29 AM
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Personally, as a sexually experienced guy, I definitely prefer very experienced women. Sex is a skill. And most people suck at it. An experienced lover is much more likely to know her body, be comfortable with her self, and be enthusiastic about sex. I ended up marrying a very experienced woman and I have zero regrets. Wonderful monogamous relationship.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 06:27 AM
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Great post. My advice: almost everything is best in moderation. That includes social media, work, religion, etc. I say that because sometimes people in your situation will turn from one extreme (red pill) and replace with a new extreme. Try to avoid that because it is not healthy.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/24 07:11 AM
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This comes off as kind of red pillish because it sounds formulaic. But if it it motivates you to be a better person, without being manipulative or mean to others, then I don’t really care if it’s formulaic.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/23 06:44 PM
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So, a girl you like does coke, and that makes you agree with red pill stuff? I think maybe you’re confused about what red pill is. It has pretty much nothing to do with women doing drugs. Or, maybe you are looking for an excuse to be red pill, even though you know it’s wrong?
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 05:45 PM
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It sounds a lot like you are just a fan. If you don’t spend time with her in person, you’re just a fan. Don’t expect anything more than that from her. I suggest you spend way less time in social media and try to spend time with people in person.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 05:18 AM
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Redpill relationships are pretty much guaranteed to suck. Can you find videos from guys with healthy relationships?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 04:49 PM
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Based on the women-oriented subreddits, it appears that a lot women are fed up with their bad experiences with men due to misogyny, red pill, sexual assault, etc. It’s hard to say if this is really representative of the whole population.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/23 03:10 AM
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A lot of red pillers do include a lot of stuff about weightlifting, confidence, and self improvement. Which are all great things. But they are not unique to redpill. The problem with redpill is that much of the content is about tricking women into liking you, being very materialistic, viewing women as inferior, and other stuff that is pretty awful.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/23 09:42 PM
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There is a saying: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It means you will never be happy as long as you compare yourself to people who have more than you. You need to learn to be happy with what you can get.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 03:44 AM
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So, now you’re saying you don’t feel resentment or jealousy? I’m also not understanding this comment about women looking for a relationship. You say you don’t have a problem with women if they want a relationship, but then you say you want to play the field right now and don’t want to settle down. It seems you are looking for a very narrow subset of women: someone who wants a relationship but who does not want to settle down.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:23 AM
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Your jealousy is potentially holding you back from dating a large pool of women. If you have resentment, it will impact your judgement and reduce your charisma and likability. And even if you get into a relationship, it will undermine your love and affection for her. Emotions like anger, jealousy, and pride need to be restrained and controlled, or they can ruin your life. (They do have their place, like using anger for self defense or using pride as motivation, but you can’t let them control you…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 12:53 AM
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It’s just one of those things you have to learn as part of being an adult: Don’t hold yourself back due to pride, jealousy, and insecurity. If you do, you have only yourself to blame.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/23 10:23 PM
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Do you have many male friends or platonic women friends? For a lot of guys, the bigger issue is they just don’t know how to make friends and keep them. We can’t help you without knowing if that is an issue too.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 04:39 PM
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Someone needs to make a separate wikipedia entry for red pill in the manosphere.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/23 06:21 PM
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It’s really good you’re figuring this out. I suggest you make a list of red flags from prior friends and your girlfriends. And you can add more that you haven’t yet experienced. Things like “he brags a lot about himself, he never seems to care how I feel, he always talks down to other people.” Then review that list when you’re getting into new relationships with men or women.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/23 01:14 AM
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Are you good at evaluating the trustworthiness of people in general? Do you have a lot of trustworthy friends? In my experience, usually people who keep getting into bad relationships haven't learned how to find and befriend people of good character. Oftentimes, it's because the people they grew up with weren't that great.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/23 11:15 PM
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It would mean less sex and fewer relationships for men and women. That’s a billion men who can’t get laid or into a relationship with the vast majority of women.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/23 04:02 AM
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Stay away from social media and manosphere stuff. Redpill rage and incel rage didn't exist until social media. (There definitely was misogyny, but it was more tied to patriarchy and traditional ways of devaluing women.) Try to form friendships with women your age. That will really help in preventing you from falling in love on the first date and becoming super needy. Redpill stuff is toxic and will just make you feel worse. And if you use redpill ideas to get women, it will create a toxic relati…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/23 11:04 PM
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I guess with cold approach, you don't have to worry about rejection affecting your relationship with the person or the social group. The problem is that most women are just not going to be receptive to a stranger. They are much more likely to date a guy who has been "approved" by mutual friends. It's important to them for both attraction and safety.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/23 10:28 PM
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Why can’t you meet women through hobbies and mutual friends? If it’s because you are not capable of making friends, then you need to solve that problem before you can have a healthy relationship with a woman. Because friendship is a huge part of a healthy relationship.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/23 04:46 PM
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You’re setting yourself up for failure. You cannot change him. You need to leave him and find someone who is not redpilled. There are lots of guys who would love for you to be a stay at home mom, but who also respect women and aren’t into redpill.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 01:14 AM
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Some women can be trusted to be faithful in a relationship. Some cannot. Just like men. There are plenty of women, and men, who are wild and promiscuous when they are young, but then settle down and have healthy monogamous relationships. I personally know a lot them.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/23 09:30 PM
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That sub felt like a fake debate place where redpillers went to validate each other. It was pretty awful when I looked at it a few years ago.
/r/ExRedPill11/08/23 12:47 AM
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As a man, most women are going to expect you to initiate romance. It's cultural. You dated this woman for months and never tried to kiss her, make out, etc.? Of course she got fed up and stopped thinking of you romantically. If you date other women, this will keep happening to you until you learn to initiate sexual contact with the person who you are dating. Promise yourself that, from now on, when you start dating someone, you will try to kiss her on the third or fourth date. (Sooner is okay if…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/23 06:29 AM
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Look at it this way: On the internet, you can find a lot of misogynistic men who are hateful towards women. A lot of the redpill and incel guys are like that. That creates a lot of women who, in response, have a lot of hate for men. Also, there are plenty of women who have suffered real-world abuse by men. It's not surprising that some of them have angry or hateful feelings towards men. Both of these groups are outliers. You should ignore both groups for your own mental health. Most people in th…
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 09:52 PM
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Then don't post there.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 09:47 PM
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It seems to me like you are a really high anxiety guy. If you didn’t have this issue, your brain would find another issue to be anxious about and prevent you from being comfortable dating. You just need to a way to overcome these anxieties in a healthy way. It sounds like you have already made a lot of progress by rejecting redpill. That said, some guys never get over this issue and that’s okay. It’s just a core part of who they are and they can’t change it. But that shouldn’t stop you from dati…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/23 05:02 PM
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It's a lot more complicated than this. There are probably some guys out there who have major hygiene problems, and that is their biggest hurdle. Humans are extremely diverse and there are all kinds of guys who could be labelled as "incel".
/r/ExRedPill23/06/23 09:07 PM
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If you've already been able to make women orgasm, you are experienced and you shouldn't worry about anything more than that. Next time you're in that situation, just focus on her needs and getting her to orgasm (if she can, sometimes the timing is not right). After you have focused on her, then you can try penetration if she wants and you will learn as you go. She will be happy that you focused on her first, since so many guys completely neglect that.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 08:54 PM
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I think you should tell your parents about this. Explain all the bad things he has said to you and explain he is getting redpill stuff from the internet and it is probably going to get worse because there are so many redpill content providers.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 03:37 PM
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There definitely needs to be dating advice for guys. But it shouldn't be called redpill, because we don't want any guys to ever think that the toxic redpill stuff is correct. I wish someone would create a better, more popular alternative. Some people really like Mark Manson's blog and books, but I haven't read his stuff. And most of it costs money.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 08:25 PM
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Men and women both tend to want to date the most attractive people they are able. It seems you do this yourself. So, you shouldn't be surprised that women also try to date the most attractive men they can. Online dating greatly magnifies this issue. The SMV concept in redpill is dumb though. Because different people find different things attractive. If only less attractive women are interested in you, then you need to improve how attractive you are or learn to appreciate less attractive women. I…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/23 06:04 PM
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Keep setting boundaries and take breaks from him whenever he crosses those boundaries. But I don't think you should block him (unless you need to do it in order to preserve your own mental health). It's probably good for you to check in with him and his wife every month or two. Maybe he'll slowly realize he's wrong. Or maybe his wife and child will need your help if he keeps acting this way or escalates. You could also buy him a Mark Manson book, from what I can tell, it has some good self help …
/r/ExRedPill18/04/23 12:29 AM
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The red pill includes a lot of stuff that is commonly known to be true. The problem with the redpill is it also includes a lot of stuff that is toxic, misogynistic, and will prevent you from having a healthy relationship. It's true that if you obsess over women and make them your only goal, you will be unattractive to women. And it's true that if you focus on your work and improving yourself, women are more likely to be attracted to you. And it's true that lifting weights and losing weight is at…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/23 11:34 PM
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I remember having the same anxiety as you when I was young and it was hugely embarrassing. I would turn bright red and say something dumb. If they are friends and they mean well when they ask about this, I suggest you own it and just be honest. It's okay to say something like "Yeah, I haven't had very good luck with women. I don't even know where to start." They may end up trying to hook you up with friends or set you up on dates. That's not a bad thing, even if it is temporarily embarrassing. G…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 04:54 AM
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It’s way more complex than alpha and beta. Most people can play leader or following roles defending on the situation. I am in a dominant role at my job, but that is because it is part of my job and I have years of experience. When I play sports, I am usually not the most dominant player on the court. But I do talk a lot and I can give leadership advice that most players will follow. I’m also really good at taking advice and being a team player. Socially, I’m very comfortable talking but I can al…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 05:06 PM
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I think the point they are trying to make is that, there have always been abusive households which have sometimes led to violent, broken men. Hopefully, the redpill is not creating new such men, it is just giving them language to use to connect to each other. That's still awful. I don't want violent extremists encouraging each other. I think they are actually trying to be optimist and hope redpill isn't quite as influential as some of us fear.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/23 08:52 PM
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It sounds like a broken relationship and you are not happy. It also sounds like you are both young and not very good at the communication that is necessary for healthy long-term relationships. I think you need to end the relationship. She's taking advantage of you.
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 07:44 PM
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If it stresses you out and you don't enjoy talking to them, I suggest taking a break from it. You can clearly jump into dating anytime you want to. Long term, I think you should try to figure out what kind of women you enjoy talking to. If you just don't enjoy talking with people in general, that's definitely something you need to improve on. You won't be able to have a healthy relationship until you learn to enjoy conversations, even if you are only interested in conversing with certain kinds o…
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 05:23 AM
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The point of this subreddit is to try to help turn guys away from the redpill. Messing with them doesn’t help with that, even if they deserve it.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 04:45 PM
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You need to give more information about your beliefs. All the responses are just arguing over what feminism means.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 01:24 AM
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Being physically attractive is a big advantage in dating. Being charismatic and funny is also a big advantage. Having a good job is also a big advantage. All of these things are true. What tends to happen is that you will end up dating women who are about as attractive as you are. Some guys can’t accept that because they grew up watching tv with very beautiful women, so they feel like that’s normal.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 04:36 PM
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Redpillers often give advice like: How to manipulate women in abusive ways. Women only care about looks and money. Women won't like you if your emotionally open and available. You have to be "alpha", which they think means being kind of a dick. Women are selfish and will leave you for someone else. How to trick women into dating you. Etc. All of that is false and horrible advice. It may work on a small percentage of women. But for most women it will create a toxic relationship that will fail. An…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 06:49 AM
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I think that some men have no luck dating in their 20s, but in their 30s they have a job and are more mature, so they suddenly have some women interested that were not interested before.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 04:48 AM
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Yeah, I think you are correct.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 04:45 AM
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That list certainly matches common redpill values. I have no idea if the article is academically accurate, though.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 04:54 AM
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No, it’s not true in the US. However, some guys have better luck with relationships in their 30s than in their 20s because it is the first time they have a decent job and are somewhat emotionally mature.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 04:23 PM
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I am someone who used to do a ton of dating. I'm now married. Every single one of my friends who are below-average height married a beautiful woman. In general, I would say my shorter friends married more beautiful women than my taller friends. (I think my taller friends may have cared about that factor less. It's hard to day.) When I was dating, I definitely noticed that a lot of the most petite, beautiful women tended to go for smaller men. It is more logistically practical for a variety of re…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/23 06:08 AM
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It’s fine. But humans need real human contact (voice, touch, conversation, etc) to get the healthy biological responses that are built into us. Our body and subconscious definitely knows the difference between real and fantasy. If you’re feeling isolated. Fantasy isn’t going to fix it.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/23 08:56 PM
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All of the good self improvement stuff in the redpill is stolen from other sources and has been around far longer than the redpill. I totally agree that taking ownership, being healthy, lifting weights, being your best self, are all great things to pursue. But you should try to get that stuff from non-redpill sources. Because redpillers will sprinkle all kinds of toxic ideas into the good self-improvement stuff. It's just not healthy to consume those ideas.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/23 07:59 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4cvx/red\_pill\_detox\_first\_aid\_kit\_start\_here/
/r/ExRedPill21/01/23 07:55 AM
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It sounds like you’re saying you’re okay with him if he can get away with it.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 04:47 AM
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Here is a link with a lot of resources to help you get these toxic ideas out of your head: https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4cvx/red\_pill\_detox\_first\_aid\_kit\_start\_here/
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 06:03 PM
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It sounds like you're just looking for good advice. Which is great! Here is a link with lots of information on why the redpill philosophy is toxic and will mess you up: https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4cvx/red_pill_detox_first_aid_kit_start_here/ I'm old, so I don't have any youtube links for dating advice that isn't redpill. Hopefully, someone else here can provide that.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 06:01 PM
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He's in jail right now for a variety of crimes. Most of his business knowledge is about how to illegally and dishonestly exploit people. He is a horrible role model.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 05:56 PM
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It sounds like you have a pretty traditional, conservative viewpoint. I would not call your views "redpill". Your views on gender are probably similar to what your parents and grandparents felt. In fact, from what you have said, your views on gender are probably relatively modern. Remember, it was just a few generations ago that women weren't allowed to vote and men were allowed to rape their wives without repercussion. Our society was horrible to women for a very long time. We need to make a co…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 05:51 PM
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You should browse the past posts on this subreddit. A lot of them are guys talking about how getting into the redpill destroyed their relationships and caused them to lose friends. It’s a toxic belief system. It has a few good things in it (like telling you to boost your confidence and lift weights) that you can just as easily get from sources that aren’t toxic.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 03:54 PM
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Because being redpilled makes dating and relationships much more difficult. And it makes the pool of women who might be interested in you much smaller. Also, being redpilled can lead to depression and feelings of isolation. And there are a lot of stories on this subreddit from people who lost their friends because they became redpilled.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 08:40 PM
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Hopefully someone else will direct you to some good resources. I had to learn by trial and error. A few tips: Always get her number. Women are taught to be passive. They’re usually not going to call you. You may have a demographics problem. Many of the regions in the country have way more young men than women. This puts you at a massive disadvantage. The women get totally overwhelmed with the amount of attention they get and the competition is starved. Not a good environment for learning to date…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/23 02:33 AM
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Wow. That’s awful
/r/ExRedPill05/01/23 04:24 PM
2

It’s tricky because so many conservatives in the US have lost their way and gone totally bonkers. It’s not even clear what it means to be a conservative anymore.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/22 04:29 AM
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I think the issue is what you do while unemployed. If you sit around playing video games all day, it makes you seem lazy, selfish, disinterested, and unable to connect socially and emotionally with your partner. If my partner suddenly just sat around all day playing video games and didn’t seem enthusiastic to spend time with me, talk to me, do chores, and have fun in the real world, I would lose interest very fast.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:31 PM
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Here is a list of recommended de-programming resources by the mods of this subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/ho4cvx/red\_pill\_detox\_first\_aid\_kit\_start\_here/
/r/ExRedPill13/12/22 01:25 AM
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Your problems have nothing to do with you being male. Your problems come from having mental health issues (depression, etc.), being poor in a highly capitalist society, and being born at a time when the internet overwhelms us with information and pushes us into echo chambers full of false information. You would have all these same problems even if you were a women. The only difference is that you would probably be blaming different people for your problems. Life is really hard right now for all …
/r/ExRedPill12/12/22 06:13 PM
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It should be your concern if you are causing other people stress or discomfort. And if you are trying to date, it’s a good idea to be aware of how you are perceived so you can improve yourself as necessary. But I agree you shouldn’t worry too much about how much you are liked in general.
/r/ExRedPill08/12/22 03:38 PM
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First, you should never press a girlfriend on these topics again. You clearly don't want to know this information. Most women won't share it, and most men won't ask for it, because they know it will create drama. It's common for men to feel upset about hearing their partner was very sexually active before they met. It's an irrational response (because those same men don't feel guilt about all the pre-marital the sex they had). But even if you know it's irrational, you can't just ignore it. You h…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 01:05 AM
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If she's holding you back, just break up with her. Don't cheat on her. Your values seem all out of wack. It's not okay or normal to cheat on people. I'm worried about what other things you might think are morally okay.
/r/ExRedPill23/11/22 06:52 PM
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Why do think I’m redpill? You were arguing with someone else. Did you not check my username? I’m not the same person you were arguing with. If you think it’s okay to cheat on someone, you have serious issues that will prevent you from being able to form a healthy relationship. Please seek counseling. If you find the right therapist or counselor for you, it will make your life so much better.
/r/ExRedPill20/11/22 09:18 PM
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so I would either ghost her or cheat on her Why on earth would you think it's okay to cheat on someone? And ghosting people in a relationship is also not okay. (Unless it's because you're scared of someone or they don't take no for an answer.) It sounds like you have a pretty selfish view of relationships and don't have ordinary moral boundaries. So, I think you may be drawn to the redpill because of its warped worldview: The redpill says everyone is selfish and without morals. Which is totally …
/r/ExRedPill20/11/22 05:58 AM
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It's not a crime. But it's analogous to you saying "cheeseburgers and candy are the most nutritious foods in the world". We know it's false. And we don't want people spreading misinformation. Because we want people to be healthy and we want to live in a healthy society. Both men and women care about looks. But women, like you, also find other things attractive. If you want to be successful with women, you will need to learn to empathize with them and be able to see things from their perspective.…
/r/ExRedPill07/11/22 07:03 PM
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I’m here to try to help men have healthier relationships and lives. I think the redpill is toxic and harmful to both men and women. And I have a lot of dating experience that most redpill men seem to lack. I think most of the users here are also just trying to help other men. Though you do get the occasional person here who is angry at redpill and just wants to argue about it. I don’t think that’s helpful. And thankfully it doesn’t seem common here.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/22 03:00 PM
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When women are young they tend to want to feel independent and a little rebellious. So they want to be different from their parents. Same thing happens with men.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 03:49 AM
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Dude. You asked for advice and I tried to give you some, and you responded by being a total dick and insulting me. If you can't be friendly to people who are trying to help you, what on earth makes you think any woman would want to have sex with you and/or have a relationship with you? For women, sex involves a high level of emotional vulnerability and physical vulnerability. The vast majority are not going to have sex with just any guy, especially a guy who isn't even capable of being nice to p…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 01:02 AM
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Well, real self improvement is not basic at all. To be seen as serious relationship material, you should be an emotionally mature person who has real empathy for women and the individual you are dating. That’s really hard for a lot of guys. Spend some time on some ordinary female-orientated subreddits and see some of the crazy bullshit they deal with on a daily basis. Be the opposite of that. Also, if you are having trouble meeting women in real life, it could be a demographics issue. For exampl…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/22 09:19 PM
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Sometimes we do everything right and still get burned. That’s life. Try to learn from it and move on without letting it scar you.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/22 05:51 AM
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Well, some of the things they say ARE true. For example, both men and women care about physical appearance. A lot. And legitimate self-improvement, including working out, will help you to be more successful in dating. But pretty much all of the toxic, anti-women stuff they say is completely false. People of both genders sometimes suck and do awful stuff. Try to avoid those people and only date people that seem mature and healthy.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/22 12:18 AM
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In my experience, most women want a strong emotional connection with their boyfriend. The closest analogy would be like being a close friend where you enjoy talking with each other. It's not perfect, because romance and close friendship are slightly different, but they are very similar in many ways. So, the process of learning about someone, spending time with them, and finding ways that you can connect, like a close friend, is itself romantic. But every woman will have a unique opinion on what …
/r/ExRedPill20/10/22 07:21 PM
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Those relationships add up to 41 years (5+8+10+18). The redpill and PUA stuff hasn't been around nearly that long. Am I misreading your comment?
/r/ExRedPill14/10/22 12:29 AM
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Wow, that's a lot of conservative talking points all at once. You probably won't believe me, but I am familiar with all of those arguments. These are arguments pushed by Republicans to justify why they oppose unions, defund education, and cut taxes on the rich. I don't have time to tell you why those talking points are wrong. And you probably wouldn't listen to me. But consider this for a moment: Your post actually defends tax cuts for the rich. You say you want to support ordinary men, but you …
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 04:29 PM
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I think you are misunderstanding liberals. They’re about fighting for the underdog. So, they don’t care about rich people, because they’re not underdogs. But liberals are constantly fighting for workers rights, stopping corporations from ripping people off, and better education. These are things that help every ordinary man. Liberals also try to remove the ways that institutions discriminate against women and minorities. It’s true that doesn’t directly help men. But I think having a more fair so…
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 02:17 AM
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It’s a concern, but i don’t think you should worry about it too much. The vast majority of women will not express romantic interest in you unless there is some minimal level of physical attraction. Your stability will make you more attractive to some women, especially in future years as you get older and women become more mature. But that’s a good thing. It means you will be more attractive to women interested in a serious relationship.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/22 04:30 PM
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We can turn things around by educating young men about healthy dating strategies. As a culture, we just haven’t caught up to the internet age.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/22 05:35 AM
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I agree with a lot of what you said. HOWEVER, the biggest problem with redpill is that it indoctrinates vulnerable and impressionable men and boys. For example, a lot of redpill followers are men on the autistic spectrum searching for a set of rules to follow that will get them a partner. And many of them are confused boys desperate to get laid. In the past, these guys would not necessarily become misogynistic abusers. They would eventually find their way to dating and hopefully a successful mar…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/22 02:42 AM
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I have no doubt you are highly intelligent, but it appears that you are below-average in certain aspects of emotional intelligence. You have been told you make women uncomfortable. Your writing style reflects a highly condescending attitude to other people. But most women are drawn to charisma, humor, empathy, confidence (not arrogance), and humility. This is especially true of women in academia. My impression is that you do not have these skills. Have you ever sought any kind of therapy to impr…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 05:53 AM
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So, you’re able to get dates and unhealthy relationships with broken women by using redpill tactics, but you can’t get dates with healthy women that lead anywhere? That’s tricky. My suggestion is to take a long break from online dating and try to focus on real life women and dating. The vast majority of women are not doing online dating. So focus on them. Then, with real world dating, you are much more likely to find a healthy woman. And hopefully your dating experience can be useful for forming…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 03:42 AM
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Are able to keep doing the healthy things, but remove the toxic stuff like negging and viewing women as inferiors? It’s okay to play the dating “game” at the start as long as your goal is to have a healthy relationship with a healthy woman.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 12:46 AM
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What is it about RP that helped with online dating? Was it negging? Some parts of the redpill aren’t toxic (like self improvement and working on your physical appearance). So maybe you can use the healthy things you learned while staying away from all the toxic BS.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 03:13 PM
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Not exactly. I would help you if I could. But humans are too complicated for any easy answer for your situation. And I’m not a professional therapist.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 04:07 AM
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I think you are right that it’s a big problem that you cannot connect with other people on an honest level. This isn’t a women problem, this is a human problem. Human contact and connection is super important. It’s a biological need. You are clearly aware of how much loneliness can affect you. I think you need therapy: professional help for connecting to other humans. Reddit commenters like me can’t possibly know you well enough to help you with this.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 03:14 AM
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This subreddit has a lot of posts from men who lost all their friends and relationships because they got too deep into redpill ideas. Link him to this subreddit (or even to some of those posts) and tell him that you don't want to date him if he's going to keep consuming all that toxic stuff. You shouldn't have to constantly persuade him why the redpill stuff is wrong. That's not your job. He can do his own research into why redpill is wrong. If you don't tell him to fix it, it will just get wors…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/22 08:50 PM
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Sometimes adults do it through work. Workers at restaurants or bars often have lots of other young people working with them. They hangout and link each to parties. I met people through roommates and friends from high school. There are still a lot parties after college, you just have to be friends with other people who like parties. But I think a lot adults don’t get to do much social exploration after college. It means they don’t get to grow as much. Though college is no guarantee that you’ll gr…
/r/ExRedPill18/09/22 03:23 PM
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You are missing out on the social exploration that comes with college. It’s often kind of a shit show, since people in college are basically still kids in a lot of ways. But it’s a great learning experience and it can be a ton of fun, and also involve a lot of heartbreak. I think you should try to find a better social situation in the next couple years. Maybe you could move closer to one of the colleges in DC?
/r/ExRedPill17/09/22 05:23 PM
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I suggest you move to a place with more people your age. Like a city or a college town. I agree college may not be the best thing for you, but you can still hang out with college students and make friends. This should be a fun time in your life. And a time where you build your social skills with smart people your age.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/22 05:09 AM
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You are only 18. You can change who you are somewhat. I pushed myself to be more social and more “normal” at your age and it actually worked for me. Your brain is still developing. Our brains are like muscles and get stronger when we use them, including socially. It sounds like you’re smart but not in college? That may make it harder to find like minded people your age.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 05:45 AM
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So, what I think I’m hearing you say is that men and women your age don’t really like you that much. That’s a big problem for dating. And it’s something you need to work on. Have you read any self help books on making friends?
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 02:52 AM
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Normal ways that guys find girlfriends outside of online dating: Build your social network. Hang out with as many guys and girls as you can. Go to parties. Throw parties. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to randomly meet a girl who is interested in you. (Clubbing sucks because it's too loud to talk. Which means you can't have meaningful conversations with girls there.) If you are a good guy who seems like you'd be a good boyfriend, people will try to hook you up with their frien…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 05:59 AM
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It’s great that you’re here giving guys encouragement to change their ways. But I really think you should set higher standards for the men you date in the future. If a guy is bullying you, that’s abuse and you need to end the relationship as soon as that happens. And don’t tolerate any negging. You can’t change men while you’re in a relationship with them. You need to move on and try to find a guy who is already healthy.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/22 03:35 AM
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You think everything the blackpill says is fact, but every religious person also thinks their religion is fact. It’s a matter of perspective and confirmation bias. It’s easy to believe false things are true. I agree that being unattractive makes everything harder. But everyone already knows that. Life doesn’t work like fairy tales. Having empathy doesn’t make you a clown. It makes you able to see things more objectively and have legitimate emotional connections to other humans.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/22 02:10 AM
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It sounds you are in a depressed and negative mental health space. Blackpill talking points are designed to reinforce those negative thoughts. It's definitely not the truth, but I can see how it would be very enticing to be a part of group that reinforces your negative thoughts. If you want to give up on dating and just try to enjoy life without dating, that's fine. But you'll still be unhappy if you live in this really negative mental space. Try to get away from blackpill ideas as much as you c…
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 08:09 PM
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“ And pursue it, no matter how hard it gets, or stupid it may sound to other people.” It sounds like you’re still chasing a pretty extreme approach to life. Consider that almost all things are best in moderation.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 02:25 AM
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21 is really young. She is not yet emotionally mature. So be careful. She could be playing games. Or, she could be dealing with past abuse and not yet know how to protect herself from getting hurt. Give her the time and space she asks for. Enjoy the time you spend together. If she says something that contradicts what she said before, ask her about it without accusing her of lying. She might break your heart. But that's life and this is part of the learning process.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 07:05 PM
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He says he already apologized to her. My fear is that he would tell he was a changed man and that might make her consider getting back together. Which would be unhealthy for them both because it sounds like it was a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 04:13 PM
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I’m really glad you have figured out how bad it was to do those things. But don’t go back to her and try to explain everything you know now, that will just fuck her up even more. Let her move on. And be an emotionally healthy boyfriend to the next woman you care about.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 03:00 AM
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Yes, reduced social status makes both men and women less attractive. High social status is generally attractive (unless a person is intimidated, which often happens with beauty, smarts, wealth, etc.) so reducing status makes you less attractive. But different people are attracted to different things, so it may not matter on an individual level. From my experience, women aren’t really into guys being emotionally vulnerable until you’re already in a relationship. Then, it can help a lot. However, …
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 03:44 AM
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Is it degrading to your partner if you sometimes fantasize about other women? I think it’s natural. Plenty of people are able to have healthy and successful marriages. Follow their example. They have empathy and compassion for each other. They work together as partners. And they try not to be bothered by natural things like occasional fantasies that nobody is going act on.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 05:21 PM
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No. This definitely not true. However, if you are very intelligent, it is harder to find a compatible mate because there is a smaller pool of women who are also very intelligent. It sounds like your friend is really good at reading signals from women to know if they are interested and to know what subjects they are willing to talk about. This comes from practice and building empathy. (If you are on the autistic spectrum this is more difficult.)
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 04:23 AM
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Hypergamy is a fancy sounding word for the fact that everyone wants to date someone who is more socially desirable than them. I’d love to date a gorgeous movie star. A lot of women find successful doctors attractive. This is not rocket science. This is not new or secret information. But redpillers twist it and make it this weird thing that is distorted from reality. And if you follow it, it will make you worse at relationships and dating.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 04:17 AM
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Its really too bad that stuff isn’t more widely discussed outside of redpill. It would probably make redpill less successful. Be careful about buying into the whole male and female nature thing. While there are definitely differences and tendencies between men and women, the redpill stuff is all bogus pseudoscience. They really have no idea what they are talking about. There is plenty of mainstream psychology books on the differences between genders and how to navigate that during relationships.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 04:10 AM
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Can you give me some examples of what you think is valid? I can only think of things like: get a good job, take care of your health and body, practice dating and socializing as much as you can, etc. Those things don’t seem “redpill” to me. They seem traditional and somewhat common sense. (Though I agree they aren’t taught to a lot of guys)
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 03:41 AM
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Yeah, redpill really is that bad. Because it’s full of toxic bs that will make you unable to form a healthy connection with a girlfriend. Some of things redpill says is true, because it was just stolen from pretty ordinary books on dating and self improvement.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 02:47 AM
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Freedom of speech only applies to government entities. Businesses like Instagram and YouTube are free to restrict content however they like. Personally, I think they have moral responsibility to restrict content.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 04:01 AM
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How did you figure out redpill was wrong and then move on from it?
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 04:05 PM
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I think autism can have symptoms similar to ocd. But you should talk a mental health professional if you think you have ocd and want help with it. Can you shift your ocd energy to something other than going to forums devoted to hating women?
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 03:49 PM
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I don’t think feminists try to downplay autism. I haven’t seen it.
/r/ExRedPill17/08/22 03:44 PM
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That self-improvement and physical health are important to be successful at dating. That looks play a big role in how attractive you are. That your job and money is also a factor. That if you become comfortable with being rejected, and try to meet as many as possible, you will be more successful with dating. Redpillers mix some true stuff in with a lot of the toxic and false stuff. It's one of the reasons it is so appealing to inexperienced guys.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 05:09 PM
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I don’t know who that is. It’s good advice regardless of who gives it.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 06:57 PM
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I somewhat agree. Especially concerning advice on what can be considered creepy. And on good places to meet women. But women will often give conflicting advice on those things, because each woman is different, so multiple women should be asked.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 06:55 PM
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From what I have seen, women usually do not give great dating advice. They give great relationship advice, but dating is a tricky process for men and most women have zero experience being in a mans shoes.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 05:23 PM
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Bro pill is generally a cool subreddit. But at least one of the mods is a little worrisome. I got banned for suggesting a guy who was struggling with dating should try lowering his standards/expectations of what women he was trying to date. It’s pretty common and helpful advice. And very strange to get banned for it.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 12:21 AM
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Well, it seems to me that a lot of red-pill guys are drawn to it because they have been cheated on and are looking for emotional support. So, for a lot of these guys, it's a legitimate experience they had and probably found very traumatic. I don't think it happens that often. But some people do cheat. This includes men and women. What's dome is that redpill guys convince each other that they can't trust any women. By destroying their trust, and destroying their ability to have a healthy relation…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 10:59 PM
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Having a good job will definitely make you more attractive to a lot of women. Confidence. Financial security. Motivation. Social status. They are all tied to having a good job. But it goes both ways. I think women who have good jobs are also more attractive.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 05:06 PM
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That's not women. That's life. If you were gay and married another man, you would have all those same expenses. And if you adopted a kid, you would have that expense too.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/22 11:55 PM
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It just takes practice. And it will get easier as you get older.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 03:01 AM
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Therapy won't work if you're not honest about those feelings. Next time, be more honest and also tell them your shame makes it hard to be honest.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 07:26 PM
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Honestly, for guys who find girlfriends easily, I don’t think they know themselves what sets them apart. But I can give you some common things I’ve seen: They’re handsome. They are secure and not particularly competitive. They respect women. They connect well with women emotionally. They like the women who like them. (This may be more important than you think.) Also, it really helps to be in a place where there are slightly more women than men demographically.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 03:35 AM
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It does happen. But if it's the main way you look for a girlfriend, you will waste many years of being "friends" with a woman with the hope that she will eventually decide to date you. And it will be very painful when she dates someone else while you are friends with her. It's fine to be friends with women. And if one of them expresses interest in dating you, great. But you should always be trying to date women outside your friend group.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 06:07 PM
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Wow. Way to go! I never saw the first part, but it sounds like you did the right thing by ending it the way you did. Hopefully your message to him will be the reality check he needs to change his approach to women. I think a lot of guys have no idea what they are doing wrong and need to here it.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/22 03:30 AM
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Someone needs to create a YouTube channel that gives healthy advice for dating and self improvement. The hard part is that it needs to be entertaining and charismatic enough to steal viewers away from redpill content.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 07:09 PM
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Yes. Definitely. However, who you find attractive will probably be different once you are secure in yourself. You will be less influenced by social expectations and the media you consume.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 03:08 PM
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Both you and your ex sound extremely immature. You don’t go changing someone’s phone settings without their permission. If you did that to me I might end our friendship. I don’t need childish drama like that. As for your ex, if she would curl up into a ball and cry when she was upset with you, then I don’t think she is ready to be dating. She clearly has mental health issues that need to be addressed, possibly some past trauma too. To answer your question about what to do in that situation: Don’…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 08:28 PM
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While you are correct, that seems nitpicky. The bigger point here is that overturning Roe v. Wad affects BOTH genders in many bad ways. And it will make dating harder. And it will lead to less sex for men. This is worth repeating in male-dominated spaces. Most people, including men, don't worry about politics until it directly affects their life. If we want the entire population to be furious about the decision, we need to explain to men how it will directly affect them and their dating life.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:55 AM
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OP. You make a good point. Reversing Roe v. Wade will make dating harder. And it will make it so men are a lot less likely to have sex. This is important for men to realize. They will be personally affected, and often, that's what it takes for people to care about politics. You're getting downvoted because this decision has created a ton of anger from people who do not want their rights taken away. And because people here are having trouble "seeing the forest through the trees" concerning your p…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:52 AM
1

Redpill is toxic and full of false ideas. However, some redpill stuff is somewhat accurate. And I think that's what makes it so compelling to guys like you. Most women really do want a man who is confident, handsome, charismatic, and has a job. Being a "loser" who hates yourself is not attractive at all. So, to improve your chances with women, you do need to improve yourself and try be more successful. But women are not evil. They are, mostly, a lot like men. Some women will take advantage of yo…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 02:53 AM
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Yeah, Justice Thomas said that’s next.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 02:36 AM
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"Lost her when I continued to play hot shot too long into the relationship and left her feeling abandoned." So, you played games, and that caused her to end the relationship. Then, later, you and her started flirting again. But this time she played games because you taught her that's how you operate. Now, you're coming here because you're upset she played games. This all seems pretty predictable to me. If you play games, that hurts your chance of having a healthy relationship. Even when a woman …
/r/ExRedPill20/06/22 12:31 AM
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This kind of comment is not helpful. If you start out by attacking someone, there is zero chance you are going to be able to persuade them of anything.
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 06:03 PM
1

It’s a real problem and dismissing it is not helpful. I agree sexual assault is much more common, but you can’t just ignore the complexity and nuances of the problem of false accusations. Doing so makes it harder to solve the problem of sexual assault.
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 06:01 PM
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I’m sure there are toxic people who call themselves “feminists” who have been jerks to you. But that doesn’t mean all women and feminists are bad. The internet is filled people being awful. Try not to take it so personally. Even in this thread, you are making broad accusations about women and feminists that someone else could take personally. This subreddit mostly tries to get people to be in healthy relationships where both partners care about each other. But there are some toxic people here to…
/r/ExRedPill15/06/22 05:55 PM
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I agree with you that people should try to be less judgment of each other. However, it seems that a lot of your posts and comments are very judgmental of other people. Why on earth would you think all women are users and cheaters? That's objectively false. And it's pretty unhealthy for you to be so judgmental of others. As for feeling sorry for yourself: Most humans, regardless of gender, don't really enjoy being around people who speak negatively about themselves or others. So, you're not going…
/r/ExRedPill13/06/22 12:06 AM
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Thanks for posting. This is a good message for guys who might think redpill will help them.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 09:53 PM
7

It sounds like you have improved yourself massively. I’m impressed because that is not an easy thing to do. I hope are enjoying life and I wish you the best!
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 12:21 AM
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I'm guessing that the redpill tactics got you into relationships with women who had some serious issues of their own, which is why things fell apart once you tried to have a healthy and loving relationship. I suggest you look for women who are more healthy mentally, and scale back the dating tactics a little. But even healthy relationships do often need some game playing in the beginning. For example, not appearing needy, not appearing overly interested, and acting confident are typically very i…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 06:11 AM
1

Why don't you search for some healthy videos on dating and self-improvement and post those here instead? That way, you would be helping yourself and helping others.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 06:26 PM
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Here’s why you should leave the redpill: Being into redpill makes it less likely you will get laid. And it makes it much harder to have healthy long term relationship with a woman. And it makes you view women as the enemy.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/22 07:50 PM
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That sounds like they’re conservative about gender norms. Not redpill. Redpill has all this weird stuff about dating strategy, pseudoscience about human behavior, encourages superficial views of relationships, and generally looks down on women. But I haven’t watched them so I don’t know.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 03:48 PM
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OP is talking about guys doing things without discussing them beforehand. It’s totally fine to do role playing or choking, etc. if you talk to your partner about it beforehand and get consent with clear boundaries. Also, lots of women will go along with this stuff because they think the guy wants it. So you have to be really careful to make sure this really is something they want and enjoy. I say this as someone who has more experience than you if we’re just going by numbers.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 04:09 PM
2

I agree with you on this. Personality matters a ton. But it is definitely something you can improve with work.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 11:54 PM
4

Wow. That’s pretty awful. Sorry you had to be his daughter. I’m glad you realize how toxic and abusive it is.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 05:10 PM
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“ And my brain keeps reminding me, that if I was a pretty girl, I could probably have a great big social circle in no time at all” This would also be true if you were a handsome boy. You shouldn’t be angry at women. You should be angry that you were born without good looks. I wish I was better looking too. But we have to learn to make the best of what we are given. At least you weren’t born in the 1400s. Or worse. Also, I think you need to try harder to see things from other people’s shoes. Wome…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 02:17 AM
2

The black women I dated weren't like that. But there are some white women and black women who are argumentative. Some guys like that. Some don't. If you are interested in dating black women, you should definitely try. Don't get caught up in stereotypes.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 05:36 AM
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Almost all the gendered subreddits are echo chambers that can get pretty toxic. Especially as the number of subscribers grow. In general, social media is not good for your mental health. And that includes Reddit. Social media is full of false and distorted realities. Half the personal stories are made up. And the loudest voices are usually the most unhealthy people. Try to get more knowledge from real friends in the real world.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 09:57 PM
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I don’t think your situation is salvageable. You should move on before you waste more time with this guy. Like you said, you’ve already given him some of the best years of your life. And you have already given the relationship your best effort. I don’t think there’s anything you can do to salvage the relationship. You have repeatedly told him why you don’t like him watching this content. And he has totally blown you off. People sometimes grow apart as they get older. It is pretty clear he has ch…
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 02:54 PM
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How do you think the redpill gets new followers?
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 11:54 PM
2

It’s great that you don’t hate women. But I think your views are still overly biased about the differences between the genders. Maybe you are from a culture where people are forced into stereotypical gender roles?
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 06:58 PM
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The only thing special that redpill brings to the table is toxicity and hatred for women. You can find the same good info on things like meditation, weights, dating advice, self improvement, etc from plenty of other place online.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 02:18 AM
2

Your area could have bad demographics. If there are just 4% more men in your area than women your age, it really messes up the dating scene. Also, online dating has horrible demographics for men and you should avoid it if it’s not leading to immediate success. Focus on building your friend network.
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 12:03 AM
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Ask her if she meant to say “I’m taken”
/r/ExRedPill15/05/22 09:05 PM
1

To me, that sounds more like your mom being toxic. She could have said the same thing even if your dad had been really experienced. I do think that people who don't have much experience with relationships are less likely to realize they are dating bullies or crazies. If you don't know what's normal and healthy, it's hard to tell when you're in a bad situation.
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 09:30 PM
4

I don’t think getting walked all over has anything to do with not having sexual experience. Can you give me an example?
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 03:40 PM
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Both men and women do go after the most attractive people they can find. I think you may be underestimating how attractive your women friends are. Also, it doesn’t sound like these were meaningful relationships, which is what your goal should be anyways. And that’s where redpill stuff really breaks down.
/r/ExRedPill12/05/22 03:05 PM
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Hiring a prostitute carries a stigma in our society. I think it’s common sense you would not mention this at all, and lie if asked, to anyone who you were interested in dating. You also wouldn’t tell your boss, your parents, etc. Why would you think it’s something you should be truthful about?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 08:14 PM
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I don’t think this is realistic for guys who already struggle with dating. And it may set unrealistic expectations for guys looking for advice on really basic stuff. Like how to be likable and how to ask a girl out.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 02:32 AM
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Long distance relationships can be awful and usually don’t work. Avoid that. Are you open to moving to her city for a year to gain the experience of living in a new place? Will it cause you a major setback in life if you move there and things don’t work out? If moving to her city is an option for you, this could work. And if you’re young and things don’t work out, living in another city for a year can really expand your horizons and enrich your life. But before you seriously consider moving ther…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 09:28 PM
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First, you need to learn to make friends. If no males want to spend time with you, why would you expect a woman to want to spend time with you? Once you have learned how to have friendships, then you can try to make friends with women and, if there is a mutual attraction, you can date them.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 09:02 PM
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Well, you can make this argument about any word. For example, there's a lot of disagreement on what "conservative" means. Definitions fluctuate between people. But there is definitely an online community of people who talk about dating strategy and call it "redpill". And it's pretty toxic.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 06:44 PM
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I think it’s because we all want to encourage each other to look past looks. A lot of the things we say are aspirational.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 03:08 AM
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Looking at your posts below, I'd say your views on sex are not "moderate". Particularly your view that no women enjoy sex. That is a very old-school, socially conservative, viewpoint. I'd say it borders on Puritanical. I expect that view would get downvoted on just about any subreddit. Even somewhat conservative ones.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 05:48 PM
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I haven’t seen what you are describing. This tends to be a pretty positive subreddit. The only time I see people downvoted much is when they are trolling, pro redpill, or say something offensive.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 05:27 PM
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I think there thousands of people who are compatible with you. You just have to find one of them. But that’s not easy.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 05:13 PM
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Yes, I agree with it for two reasons. First, I don't think there is a magic "soul-mate" out there. There is a small percentage of people with whom we are compatible with for marriage or long term relationship (whatever your goal is). The more you put yourself out there, the more likely you are to succeed. Second, by putting yourself out there, you will improve your social skills and dating skills. So, when you do find a compatible person, you will be more likely to connect and be successful in d…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 11:31 PM
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Nobody wants you to be a bad person, except for trolls on the internet. Avoid trolls. They are the worst. They just try to mess with people. And you should not trust anything they say. You shouldn't be a bad person. Most men are good. Most women are good too. I don't know what kind of feminists you are talking about. Most feminists just want women to be safe and treated fairly. I've never heard of feminists who want men to be bad. (But I suppose there is probably a tiny group of people somewhere…
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 07:53 PM
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First, if you were well-above average looking, absolutely you would have a very different life experience. The really beautiful people in this world have a totally different experience than the rest of us. Both men and women. Second, looking at your post history, it looks like you are very uncomfortable in social situations and you have a negative view of yourself and other people, especially women. You even went so far as to say you hate women. Even if you were good looking, women can pick up o…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 11:55 PM
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I agree. It's not healthy to put people on a pedestal.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 07:58 AM
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You are assuming that the red pill is "correct". But that's a false assumption. As someone who has more than a decade's worth of dating experience before finally getting married, I can assure that a huge amount of red pill ideas are bullshit. There is definitely some truth to certain red pill ideas. For example, getting a good job, getting in shape, and having confidence will dramatically help you with dating. But that's not some secret that only red pillers know. That's been common knowledge fo…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 09:23 PM
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The general objectification of women is one broad example. Women are often treated as things to be seen. Valued only for their appearance. Another example is the way that romantic comedies make it seem normal for gorgeous women to fall in love with a guy just because he's nice and in their general proximity.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 09:18 PM
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Good luck!
/r/ExRedPill22/03/22 07:41 AM
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Do you actually have some scientific research to point to refute me? I think you may be confusing the difference between science and speculation based on scientific ideas. The latter is pseudoscience.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 10:28 PM
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Do you disagree that either gender has very different parental investment costs and therefore their reproductive strategies from natural selection will be different? While this is theoretically probably true, the problem is that nobody actually knows what these innate behaviors are. For the most part, it's all speculation by people who are not competent scientists. We simply don't know enough about genes and how the human brain works, to say "This nuanced behavior ______ is the result of _______…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 05:31 AM
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Do you have any male friends who are just like you in all the ways you describe? Probably not. It’s really hard to find a life long best friend. And it can be equally hard to find a life long female best friend (also known as a wife). Keeping making an effort to be improve yourself (job, exercise, knowledge, etc.) and be social. It takes time to find someone. ALSO, don’t assume your future wife is going to be exactly like you. Sometimes opposites attract and provide good balance in relationships…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/22 05:13 AM
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You can say the same thing about women.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 05:41 PM
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Once you become experienced with sex and relationships you will realize your analogies are ridiculous. You sound very ignorant.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 09:00 PM
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Youre getting downvoted because you don’t seem to understand a complex issue. Fertility ranks quite low as far as issues go here. Read some of the upvoted responses to become better informed.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 08:56 PM
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The men and women you are describing sound like pretty horrible people. I assure you that is not the norm. But when you are around horrible people, it can make you think that's normal. If these are the kind of people you are meeting, you need to find a different way of making friends and meeting women. Also, there is no "gender war" for the majority of the population. If you think of the opposite gender as the enemy, you'll never be able to have a healthy relationship.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 08:56 AM
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They get these ideas from being completely inexperienced. They don’t really know what they want, so they are open to whatever is being sold to them. I’ve tried dating multiple women at the same time. It is far more exhausting than you would imagine if you had never tried it. Also, the quality of sex during one night stands is usually low compared to sex in a relationship. So this fantasy of having a ton of one night stands is mainly held by guys who don’t know any better.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 03:19 AM
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Sounds like you have really learned a lot. I’m glad you were able to get out of that toxic way of thinking. So many guys don’t realize how much it harms their ability to date and form relationships.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/22 09:00 AM
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I've never heard of the white pill. But I think all "pills" are scams. The concept of a "pill" comes from the Matrix movie. It is the idea that someone can give you some secret information that is easy to swallow and will permanently improve everything in your world. That's not how the real world works. If you need advice on how to improve yourself, there are lots of good self-help books. And if you need dating advice, there are tons of resources for that. You don't need a "pill".
/r/ExRedPill18/02/22 11:45 PM
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Most people would prefer to date hot men or hot women. News at 11.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/22 07:13 PM
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I assume it’s the same reason that all YouTube content creators do it: To make money. It’s the perfect niche for a woman. You tell redpillers what they want to hear and you are guaranteed clicks and ad revenue. Maybe even sell some merchandise. It’s the same reason that guys have been making redpill content for years.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/22 03:28 AM
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Wow. Those comments are crazy. They have almost nothing to do with the video. Just a brigade of hateful comments saying that women will eventually get old and unattractive. It's especially weird because it seems a lot like a hate group, but they all are clearly desperate for female companionship (physically and emotionally). Very, very sad.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/22 09:01 PM
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TRP often seems to treat women like the enemy, or prey, or objects. It’s a major reason it is so toxic and flawed. So it doesn’t surprise me that they lack empathy about this sort of thing.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 10:15 PM
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You can get that same level of adoration and attraction from a woman if you have a serious emotional connection. But you won’t get that until you get mentally and physically healthy.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 04:21 AM
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I strongly suggest you seek mental health diagnosis and treatment. It sounds like you have a treatable eating disorder and a very negative self view. You won’t get any of the things you want until you get your head straight. And that’s nearly impossible to do without the proper mental health treatment.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 04:05 AM
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Where to find "the right" women? That's not an easy question to answer. And I don't think this subreddit is a great place for that sort of question. Online dating, school, work, hobbies, social networks, parties, etc. are all potential places. But everyone's circumstances are unique. And places that were great 5 years ago may not be great today. Also, every woman's tastes are going to be unique. Just because she's in a coffee shop, a bar, or grad school doesn't mean you can predict what kind of …
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 12:07 AM
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Does this actually hurt you with dating? There are tons of women who want exactly what you are describing: a cute, reliable, caring, non threatening guy.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 08:55 PM
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Her ex was definitely an asshole. But your comment also kinda blamed OP for being victimized by him. That's really not helpful.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 05:27 AM
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No one is saying looks don't matter. They make a huge difference. However, you can be ugly and still date. But you need a likeable personality. OP's point is that you can control whether you have likeable personality. So you can date even if you think you're ugly. Also, there are a ton of average looking guys who are unsuccessful in relationships because they treat women poorly.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 05:20 AM
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Dude. You care so much about redpill, that you spent the time to come here and make a post blaming a trauma victim for causing her own trauma. Can you not see that what you did was awful? Words can hurt people. I don't think you're a troll. I don't think you intended to hurt anyone. But you need to reconsider your values and priorities.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 10:01 PM
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The self-improvement stuff in the redpill is useful. (Get healthy and fit, get a better job, learn confidence, etc.) But that's not unique to redpill. Any self-improvement book will tell you that. The rest of redpill is garbage. Redpill is popular because most young men just don't know any better. It's appealing to young men because it claims to have simple rules for how to get women. And young men are desperate for instructions on how to get laid. I'm pretty sure a lot of redpillers are on the …
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 03:55 AM
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About 4,000 women are murdered each year through domestic violence. https://domesticabuseshelter.org/domestic-violence/ Redpill encourages misogyny and hate against women. And it attracts a lot of men who already hate women. Given the popularity of redpill, it is very likely that some of those murders were done by men who were into redpill.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:14 PM
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In the same regard I can’t deny reality either and that’s why I seem so different from majority of men here Haha. So, you believe redpill stuff? Redpill does not teach you reality. It has a warped view of reality and guys who follow it really struggle to have successful, healthy relationships.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:08 PM
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I think the kind of blanket statements in this thread are not very helpful. They remind me a little of some of the negative generalizations you find in redpill forums. People are complicated. The redpill is messed up but I think there are a variety of different kinds of guys drawn to it.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/22 07:57 AM
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I agree with your second paragraph. But you are living in a different world than me if you don't think men are encouraged to sleep around. And women are definitely shamed for having premarital sex. There's a lot of different voices and sub-cultures in the US. But our media is pretty consistent about celebrating players and playboys. And it's pretty consistent about shaming women for being "easy" or overly sexual. There are exceptions, of course, but there is a huge hypocrisy. It's got hundreds o…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 04:20 AM
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Haha. “Objective truth”? So it’s objective because it’s your opinion? Try being a little more self aware and consider you may be mistaken in your opinions.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 06:10 PM
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You seem to be confusing logic for social norms. It is socially normal for people to shame women for being "sluts" or "easy", while we encourage men to have the exact same behavior. This is not logical. It's just the current state of our culture, which is still adjusting after hundreds of years of women being abused and lacking birth control. There used to be really good reasons to discourage people from having premarital sex. Those reasons are no longer logical in the modern world. About 250 ye…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 12:07 AM
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While I agree that many men turn to redpill because they have been hurt, redpill definitely teaches men to be abusive and toxic.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 05:07 PM
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I've dated over a hundred women and been in many serious relationships. What you are saying about women is not true. Maybe you have been needy in relationships? Being needy is super unattractive. For both men and women. But it is different than loving someone too much. It's also not attractive when you act totally in love with a woman and she doesn't have the same feelings for you. But if a woman loves you she isn't going to leave you just because you treat her well and love her a lot. If you th…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:39 PM
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many of our societal daily occurrences were and are controlled by our deeper animalistic nature The problem is that humans are insanely complex and scientists have not figured out human behavior to this level of detail. We know that instincts do affect our decisions, but we don't really know how. And every person is different. So pretty much all of the redpill stuff is made up by non-scientists.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:30 PM
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Dude. You’ve been fed some toxic BS. Women aren’t going to leave you for loving them if you’re in a healthy relationship. But you won’t be able to have a healthy relationship until you deprogram yourself of this redpill stuff.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 06:38 AM
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It's not wrong to feel sad about it. It definitely sucks. But there is a saying "comparison is the thief of joy". When we compare ourselves to others, we will always find reasons to be jealous and dissatisfied with what we have. All we can really do is make the best with what we have. Try to enjoy life and improve yourself. And try not to be angry at others just because they were more fortunate in the genes they were born with. Anger just adds more pain to your life.
/r/ExRedPill12/01/22 07:12 PM
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Well, your husband sounds awful. And it sounds like he will probably get worse because there were not serious consequences to his prior infidelity and because his best friend is teaching him to be even worse. But, if you still want to salvage the relationship, I suggest you give him an ultimatum. You tell him you will divorce him if he does not treat you as an equal, cut all ties with his toxic friend, and stop looking at mgtow and redpill websites.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/22 05:00 PM
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Great post! Lots of good insights here. I suggest you continue to channel your sex drive as motivation to improve yourself in a variety of ways. I did that when I was young and I think it really helped me to channel that energy in a positive way. The key is to recognize that being the best version of yourself will make you more attractive and make life more enjoyable.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 07:51 PM
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All of the "wisdom" that you can sometimes find in the pills can be found in other places. Heck, I could probably list all the redpill advice that is actually useful right here: Improve yourself Workout Make more money Take care of your hygiene Dress nice Practice social skills Date as much as possible Watch out for toxic women and gold diggers There, now you've learned everything that isn't garbage in redpill forums. The problem is that following 90% of the other stuff they tell each other will…
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 05:07 AM
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The age old question of whether to “be yourself” when trying to date. There’s no easy answer here. I think you should try to be you best self. And sometimes that means pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and modifying your social skills. And dating is sometimes a bit of a game, even with people who don’t really like playing games. There are a lot of gray areas and contradictions in dating that make it very hard for people to navigate. But it’s not supposed to be easy. If your instinct is …
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 05:21 PM
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Like many things with redpill, it is sometimes true but it is often not. They massively exaggerate it and treat it like a universal rule. From what I have seen, older women do not have any problem dating.
/r/ExRedPill26/12/21 11:39 PM
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I’m sorry you were cheated on. It’s awful and it happens to a lot of people. But it doesn’t have that much to do with hypergamy, or any other redpill pseudoscience. Some people are narcissistic and they don’t care how those actions affect others. Those people sometimes cheat. If you are with a quality person, they won’t cheat on you. If you aren’t a great match they will break up with you and move on. (Which is okay, finding a good fit for marriage usually takes a long time.)
/r/ExRedPill25/12/21 06:49 PM
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Both fds and redpill are misguided, toxic, and not very effective. And I highly doubt anyone from fds is coming here to try to pick up guys…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 09:55 PM
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Because redpillers don’t actually know how to form relationships and succeed with women. The whole reason they get into redpill in the first place is that they are unsuccessful and looking for someone to tell them what rules to follow to succeed with women.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 04:53 AM
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I’m glad you’re feeling so much better. It’s all about moderation. All the things you said you were working hard on are great, as long as you don’t push yourself so hard that it makes you unhappy. It’s just as important that you cherish life and be social. Those are also important skills that will enrich your life and make you a more desirable man.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 06:50 PM
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That kind of data is just the current cultural winds. It could be the opposite in 10 years. It certainly shouldn't be considered human nature or anything like that.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 12:20 AM
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Redpill makes you very unlikable for most women.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 05:28 PM
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I would like to add that our understanding of complex human behavior and instincts, like attraction and sexuality, is extremely limited and full of speculation, even at the academic level. So the odds are the things you are learning will one day be modified or falsified. And be careful about being too sure of any theories or conclusions you have about this stuff. To me, hypergamy just seems like another way of saying humans find people with high social status to be more attractive. Which has bee…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/21 08:17 AM
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I'm a man who dated many, many women before I got married. So I can speak with some experience. In my experience, younger people (both men and women) tend to be attracted to outspoken, extroverted people. When people are young (like around college age), they are really drawn to strong personalities. As folks get more mature, they start to become more sure of themselves and more confident in what kind of people they like. Certainly, a lot of older women find themselves more attracted to shy and r…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 07:58 AM
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This is rough. Red Pill is really attractive to men on the spectrum who have very little romantic experience. It's like a set of instructions they can follow to make women give them what they want. What a reassuring thought it must be to "know" that you will be successful in romance if you just follow a certain set of rules. I don't spend much time on youtube. But there must be some non-toxic romance advice on there, right? Maybe you could link him to that. Another option would be to have him ta…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/21 10:04 PM
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Fear. I think conservative viewpoints often arise out of a fear of the rapid changes happening to our society. This is a totally legitimate fear, because society usually needs time to adapt to new changes and technologies. So, people tell themselves that the reason we did things a certain way 70 years ago was "human nature". But often the truth is that what we did 70 years ago was just the cultural norm at the time and it's fine to have new norms based on us trying to correct our past mistakes.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 07:06 AM
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This is hilarious.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/21 09:28 PM
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I think you should try to find a house with roommates in a city. Or at least very close to a city. You need to find some friends. It’s much easier to date if you have a few friends. And if you can’t find any friends, it probably means there aren’t enough people around for dating.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 05:27 PM
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Recognize that "hypergamy" is not very insightful and not really something worth worrying about. Basically, men and women both find high social status people attractive. Social status can come in the form of beauty, money, charisma, profession, etc. That's not really a groundbreaking concept. People leave serious relationships because the relationship isn't working. Focus on finding a partner who matches you well, and focus on having a healthy relationship, and you won't have to worry about them…
/r/ExRedPill24/11/21 08:46 AM
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This true. But redpill is also a poor strategy for getting laid. I dated a ton and played the field for a long time before marriage. There are a lot of strategies that are better than redpill.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/21 10:16 PM
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Yeah that’s rough. I had pretty bad acne too. The acne should slowly get less bad in your 30s. Try to date as much as you can now. As time passes you’re appearance will slowly get better and your social skills will get better. Your odds will improve.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/21 08:12 PM
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Those things you listed are definitely attractive to most women: Having a job. Good hygiene. Good looks. Some women care about fashion, but some don't. I'd also add self-improvement and confidence are also very attractive to women. Sometimes these redpill guys are right about certain things. But a lot of what they say is super negative, toxic, and false. The pretend they are backed by science, but they are really just trying to make money off getting subscribers on youtube. So, anyways, do try t…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 09:12 PM
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I get your point that desperate times call for desperate measures. The problem is that redpill only works on about 10% of women. And even if it works, it almost guarantees a toxic relationship. It’s better to focus on the other 90% of women. Much better odds and an actual possibility of a healthy relationship.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 05:17 AM
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Maybe you should point out to your fiance that he (your fiance) is already more successful at relationships than this loser YouTuber who "can't find a good woman". Would your fiance take financial advice from a homeless person? But really, I don't see your relationship surviving this. He gets engaged to you, and afterwards he wants you to change your personality and your values?
/r/ExRedPill03/11/21 06:57 PM
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I don’t think it’s a myth. I was definitely treated as more attractive once I became a professional. But attractiveness also has a lot to do with social skills and your place emotionally. Maybe you were more social when you were younger. Or maybe you moved somewhere with less favorable demographics.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 04:36 PM
1

It’s great that you have identified this problem and that it is a habit you want to break. But I don’t think Reddit or the internet can tell you how to condition your brain to work differently. A therapist might be able to help with that. Or it may be something you have to practice and change on your own.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/21 12:08 AM
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But the explanations of women are false and toxic. You may like it because it seems easy and straightforward. But that’s part of the reason it’s wrong. It’s not much different than a Nigerian prince who wants to give you 100k if you just pay1k to get it.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 11:58 PM
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Here's the thing about redpill: It's a scam and doesn't really work. It's not based on science. And it teaches a toxic viewpoint and toxic behaviors. I understand it's very appealing because it gives you a set of rules to follow that will supposedly make you successful at dating. There are a few good ideas in redpill: Try to improve yourself, workout, get healthy, work on your appearance, have a good job, and try to overcome your fear of talking to women. But that's all good advice that existed …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 05:36 PM
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Your post shows you have a lot of insecurities about dating. From my experience, most women don’t act how you are describing them. A small portion probably do, but not enough for you to worry about it. The purple pill subreddit you linked is mostly full of redpillers. They will just exacerbate your insecurities and give you a warped view of dating and women. If you really want to learn about dating, you should do as much dating as you can and try to have a lot of friends in real life. Most redpi…
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 04:01 AM
2

This only works if you are really attractive or if she already sees you everyday and knows you are interested. Ordinarily, if you don’t give her much attention, she’s going to be a lot more interested in guys she regularly interacts with. But you definitely don’t want to overdo it. If she perceives you as needy, annoying, or desperate that is very unattractive.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 04:46 PM
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So, people will often look for sources that validate their conservative impulses. Also, our culture has misogynistic roots. We don't yet have a lot of practice on how to handle equality. And some people are just desperate to have some sex or companionship. Redpill offers a system of (false) rules and shortcuts that they can follow. It's very appealing when you don't know any better.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/21 07:48 PM
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Good for you for figuring it out and admitting you were wrong. That takes real guts and it shows a lot of personal growth. The more you grow as a person the more attractive you will be.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/21 09:47 PM
5

This is really cringey. If you say this in real life, most people will be embarrassed for you. And these attitudes will not get you much success in the dating world.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/21 09:45 PM
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Typical RP stuff is mostly awful advice. So, you should look for dating advice that is not redpill. This sub is mostly about criticizing redpill. Not a lot of generic dating advice here. But here is my advice: Improve yourself and be as social as you can. Make friends with men and women in a non-dating context. Try to learn to be fun to be around. In real life, having "game" is mostly about being charismatic and being fun to be around.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 07:08 PM
5

Well that’s pretty awful. I’m not sure what the solution is. Are there healthy dating advice sources on YouTube?
/r/ExRedPill17/10/21 10:15 PM
1

Great post! It sounds like you have made great personal growth and you will continue to grow if you keep making the effort. What you’re saying isn’t going to resonate with everyone, but that’s because we all have different nuances to master and overcome.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/21 08:51 PM
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Short answer is yes, you can be sexually attractive. A woman who feels connected to you emotionally can find you attractive, even if you are ugly. The key is that you have to have a real emotional connection with her. And it will help if she is not that physically attractive, so you both feel equal in that regards. Stay in good shape. (You don’t need to be muscular, just healthy.) Meet as many women as possible. Keep your expectations low when it comes to looks. Try to connect with them as a per…
/r/ExRedPill15/10/21 02:15 AM
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You sound like a redpiller.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/21 02:46 AM
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Well, they are responding to a perceived unfairness in the system. And I think there has been some unfairness to men in this particular aspect of the legal system. Pushing for fairness goes both ways. There are tons of things you can criticize the “manosphere” for. But this particular criticism seems a little hypocritical to me.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/21 02:34 AM
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This doesn’t seem bad to me. It’s good that our legal system doesn’t decide cases solely on gender, and it’s good that both men and women can “win” a divorce depending on their unique circumstances. I don’t think it’s a big deal that men who are worried they will treated unfairly by the legal system are happy when they see legal decisions that show men can be treated fairly.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/21 12:25 AM
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The FDS subreddit can be pretty toxic towards men. I've seen a ton of negative generalizations about men. Sometimes, they discuss men in a very similar way to how redpillers discuss women. I will admit the FDS subreddit does have a lot of decent posts. But I think pretty much everything good about FDS (e.g. dating safety) can also be gotten from places like r/TwoXChromosomes. Which is a great subreddit and is very rarely toxic. The FDS subreddit isn't as bad as the redpill. But there are similar…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 07:48 PM
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I have known a lot of men and women over the years. I have never even heard of someone like what you describe being successful with men. I am having a lot of trouble believing this true.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 11:22 PM
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When guys say "Women have tons of options", they really mean "The 10% most beautiful women have tons of options." The same thing could be said for men. The top 10% most handsome men have tons of options. A major problem for most redpillers, and for most young guys, is that they are obsessed with dating women who are much more physically attractive than they are. Many women have the same problem. If you find yourself asking "Why is that girl with that guy? He's a total jerk. Why won't she date me…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 10:10 PM
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Beautiful women, yes. But average women, not so much. A lot of the problem with redpillers, and guys in general, is that they only consider the top 10% of women in terms of beauty. So, when guys say "Women have tons of options", they really mean "The 10% most beautiful women have tons of options." The same thing could be said for men. The top 10% most attractive men have tons of options.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 10:03 PM
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because there's no incentive to actually be a good person I disagree with that. You should be a good person because that's the right thing to do. Also, don't you want to marry a woman who is a good person? Well, if she's a good person, she probably won't want to marry you unless you are a good person.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 07:13 PM
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Yeah, it’s really tricky right now because concepts like feminism and equality are really new in our culture so we, as a society, don’t have much experience with how to have love and romance while dealing with these concepts. So people say they want one thing but then their actions show something different. As you get older, women start being more attracted to stability and nurturing personalities. But when people are young, they like rebelliousness. Also, looks seem to matter more than anything…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/21 06:46 AM
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It is not normal at all. It does happen with really beautiful women. Especially when they are young and in school. I think a lot of redpillers are obsessed with dating a woman who is way outside their league, which leads to great frustration and anger by the redpillers.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 03:37 PM
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It really depends on the guy. I don't think it matters to most guys, unless they are really conservative. There are definitely men out there who don't like women who are sexually experienced. It comes from a place of insecurity and some guys seem to think it is biological. And those guys are definitely judgy about women and whether they have sex too soon. I'm a guy. I know for me, I never judged a woman badly for having sex early. It certainly did not make me lose respect. All my educated male f…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/21 10:47 PM
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I think it is wrong for you to assume that guys who want sex early in a relationship are sexist/redpillers . Those are completely different things. I’m married now, but when I was dating I wanted to be sure I was sexually compatible with the other person before we got serious emotions. And being single often felt incredibly lonely and casual sex help reduce that feeling of loneliness. If you’re worried about guys being sexist/redpill, and you can’t tell from their profile, I suggest you just ask…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/21 04:36 PM
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If women having their own motivations is a turn-off, you have mental health issues that should be addressed by a mental health professional. Reddit cannot help you with this.
/r/ExRedPill24/09/21 06:35 PM
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Be supportive of him in general. Give him time. And be sure to share your insecurities and anxieties with him. It’s not like he’s the only one who is entitled to anxiety and support.
/r/ExRedPill24/09/21 02:05 AM
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There's no actual data in this article. It's purely anecdotal experiences and opinions from a few people. While it's true that men tend to care more about visual aesthetics when dating, I have read stats indicating that women are very much influenced by cute they think a man's face is. That is by far the most important factor for whether a woman will express interest in a mad during online dating. Once they're having a conversation in person, a cute face is much less important to a woman. So, if…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 09:30 PM
2

It sounds like you're talking about pregnancy health? Pregnancy risks do start rapidly rising in your late 30's. And getting pregnant in your 40's is very high risk. This is easily accessible on Google if you want to look into it. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/in-depth/pregnancy/art-20045756
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 08:42 PM
1

There are definitely some women who can orgasm through intercourse. But it's not typical and nobody should expect it.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 08:32 PM
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You're trying way too hard, buddy. Nobody here is buying it.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 08:31 PM
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Many, if not most, women cannot orgasm through intercourse alone. This is relatively well known.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 01:55 AM
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Reach out to any friends you have lost and tell them you got a lot of dumb ideas in your head and you'd like to hang out again now that you're trying to get your head right. And try to have platonic friendships with women. Learn to enjoy spending time with them and just talking about stuff. Probably good to focus on women who are not attractive to you or are in a committed relationship.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/21 11:00 PM
2

It has not been my experience that people on the left refuse to discuss biological differences between men and women. Like, I think people on r/politics would acknowledge there are major physical strength differences. And that subreddit is very left wing, and sometimes extreme left wing. That said, it does get kind of kooky on the far left in internet echo chambers. But that's a problem with every political extreme.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/21 05:17 PM
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While I agree with much of what you said, I think it's unfair to assume that everyone drawn into the alt-right, white supremacist, social media world had those beliefs before they went down that rabbit hole. Young people are highly impressionable. Someone who is raised by parents with liberal values can easily "rebel" by looking at contrary media sources, especially stuff that is easy to digest and claims to be "secret" information. Most young people today really struggle with differentiating be…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/21 05:13 PM
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Some people wouldn’t mind that.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 05:43 PM
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So, she's a party girl, you're not a party guy, and you're in a long-term relationship. And you sound pretty young and inexperienced (because those are usually the guys drawn to TRP). And since you say she is "hypergamous", that means that she is mainly attracted to guys with more money and social status than she has. Presumably, that includes you. So, you're young, you have money, and you're in a long-term relationship with a party girl who doesn't have money, even though you don't like to part…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 03:57 PM
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Because the concept of hypergamy gives them a basis for how to strategize to be more attractive to women. Inexperienced guys just want to know what they need to do to date women. Ideally, they want women who are much more attractive than them. It is very appealing when someone says here are some rules to follow and it will get you what you desperately want.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 01:32 AM
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It’s tricky. I think generalizations will end up being wrong for a huge part of the population. There are a ton of households where the wife is smarter, more educated, or has better mental health. In those situations, she should probably be the “leader” of the household. But since it is a partnership it’s not very healthy for either partner to be “dominant “ over the other. I’m the more successful and intellectually assertive spouse in my household. But both of us have veto power on pretty much …
/r/ExRedPill10/09/21 05:48 AM
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Yeah, shyness sucks. I pulled myself out of it, but I was pretty lucky to be able to do that. I suggest you get treatment for social anxiety. And try to be more social. Women are taught to be passive, especially when dating. So it’s totally up to you to initiate the dating process. Just like it’s up to you to get dressed in the morning, find a job, eat healthy, be careful with money, etc.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/21 11:22 PM
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No. There really are some guys here who are ugly or have a facial deformity. Not everyone can be average or just slightly below average. By definition, millions of people are in the top 1% of ugly. They want advice too.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/21 11:12 PM
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Ask them if they think they really think they are smarter than the woman who discovered and proved the crystalline structure of DNA (Rosalind Franklin). Or if they think they are smarter than all millions of female medical doctors and surgeons in the world. If they say "yes", they are clearly idiots and you can point that out to them if you wish. If they say "no", then you can ask them why they think their opinion should matter when there are clearly lots of women who are smarter than them. If t…
/r/ExRedPill07/09/21 06:18 AM
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Women Have definitely been oppressed in our culture. For example, they weren’t even allowed to vote until 100 years ago. Until the 80s, the law said men could rape their wives and it was not a crime. That shows you just how much men controlled things. But men also oppressed other men. And still do. So, it’s definitely complicated. Just because women have been oppressed by men doesn’t mean it’s easy to be a man. If you’re a man who is born poor or with a learning disability it is very hard to hav…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/21 10:27 PM
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It’s okay to be involuntarily celibate and it is pretty normal for a lot of guys. The term “incel” is generally used to refer to toxic social media groups that seem to hate women and sometimes encourage abuse and violence against women. Good for you for leaving the redpill. It’s also toxic and views women as the enemy. Dating is definitely kind of like a game. But women are just as annoyed by the game as you are. They should be viewed as allies and teammates. (Though you should avoid toxic men a…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/21 04:31 PM
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I think the media is a big factor. There are tons of tv shows and movies with an "average" looking guy married to a gorgeous woman. Also, just about every woman on TV or in movies is in the top 0.1% of beauty. So boys grow with completely unrealistic expectations about what will be available to them.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/21 04:47 PM
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Do you have guy friends in real life? I think you should try to make some platonic friends with women. Maybe start with women who are older than you and/or married, so that it is absolutely clear it is purely friendly. It could be your neighbors, someone at work, a friend's wife, it doesn't really matter where. But you should really try and learn to connect and enjoy time with healthy women. After you get practice and are comfortable doing that, then you can try talking to women you are interest…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/21 12:29 AM
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All the things you mentioned are totally useful and not toxic. Are there specific things you aren’t sure about?
/r/ExRedPill02/09/21 03:49 AM
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You’re very welcome. Also, when people are blaming you for your situation, I think it’s probably because they feel they need to give you advice that you can follow to “solve” your problem, even though it can’t really be solved. People online want to feel good about themselves, and they do that by spending a couple minutes trying to solve other people’s problems. Or maybe they’re just being jackasses. Either way, try not to worry about what anything anyone says online.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 01:16 AM
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I think you have a realistic attitude. With a facial deformity, having a satisfying romance is probably very unlikely. And I think you are doing great by focusing on your health and all the other important things in life. As you get other, those other things will matter more to you and bring you more enjoyment. When I was young, my libido completely dominated my emotions and world view. It gets a lot better once you mature a little bit. Good luck to you. And good for you for getting yourself out…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 10:00 PM
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You're not evil. You do sound a bit depressed. And depression can definitely distort your world view. I think social media is super unhealthy. Especially for someone dealing with depression. All the extremist feminist stuff you're concerned about barely exists in the real world. In the real world, women mostly just want to be treated as equals and don't hate men at all. Just focus on real life, take care of yourself, and try to have healthy relationships.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/21 10:38 PM
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Yeah, this is the reality. Tons of guys grow up without good father figures. Those of us who are lucky enough to have gotten good guidance should do everything we can to help.
/r/ExRedPill17/08/21 02:39 AM
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I disagree. I think those of us who actually have a lot of experience with dating and life can give some good advice here. And it makes sense that people who were drawn to TRP could use some advice from mentally healthy people. But it's certainly not your job, OP.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/21 08:24 PM
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Well, it's tricky. There is an element of truth to it, but TRP blows it way out of proportion, like it does with many other things. It is true that financial success is very attractive to a lot of women. So, for men to improve their odds at dating, they should try to improve their finances (along with their health, their knowledge, their social skills, their appearance, etc.). But TRP takes it step further and makes it seem like all men are in a battle with gold-digging women. Which is pretty ri…
/r/ExRedPill16/08/21 06:24 PM
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This is a weird system. OPs view is noncontroversial and pretty well accepted among healthy people and mental health professionals. But this rule makes it so all the top comments are pretty kooky and seem to think one night stands are the only measure of success. The cmv subreddit has the same problem. Rules that artificially inflate extremist viewpoints.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 12:17 AM
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OP is talking about having a good relationship and all the things that come with it (great sex, trust, emotional support, etc.). Getting laid is a tiny step in that process.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 12:06 AM
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I disagree. I’m guessing you mean “success” as in sleeping with a lot of pretty women. But that’s actually fairly easy for a lot of guys if they put in the effort and don’t care about having an emotional connection with the woman that they are sleeping with. Real success is dating women who are impressive people who you can connect with, until you find an impressive woman who you marry and have a wonderful marriage with. I highly doubt someone who dislikes and disrespects women would be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 11:59 PM
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You are trying to extrapolate and theorize about the nuances of human evolution. It is nearly impossible to do. It is almost guaranteed that you will be wrong and you will just find ways to confirm your personal biases. If you study evolution and genetics you would learn it is incredibly complicated and we still don’t fully understand it. And humans are the most difficult and complex species to understand. Any scientist who claims to know the truth is lying or incompetent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:39 PM
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Yeah, this a whole lot of nothing. Teenagers are not credible reporters
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:02 PM
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Yeah, the most likely explanation is that kids who self report as bullies are more likely to lie and exaggerate about how much sex they have and how popular they are. I think we should be more skeptical of these sorts of studies. They are often not reproducible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:59 PM
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It also could simply be that kids who self report as bullies are more likely to lie and exaggerate about how much sex they have. I think we should be more skeptical of these sorts of studies. They are often not reproducible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:55 PM
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I haven't seen this particular issue you describe, but I don't doubt it. Hypocrisy is at the core of a lot of redpill ideas. They treat women as things to be manipulated and controlled, then complain that women are manipulative and disloyal. It is rife with double-standards. That's one of the reasons it is toxic.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 05:04 PM
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Right now, I think your biggest problem is that you have no social life. You need some guy friends you hang out with regularly. Talking to ordinary friends will help you practice social skills that you need for dating. And having friends is super important for your mental health, confidence, and self worth. This should be your first priority before dating.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 06:28 PM
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Help me understand the purpose of OPs post and your comment. It seems the point is to argue that ugly men are more deserving of pity than ugly women? I don’t see how any of this is going to help anyone become more successful at relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:22 AM
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I'm sorry you've had to go through all this. I'm glad you figured out how bad those groups are. Here is my advice for you: Make sure you have a job before you try to date. Having a job will give you confidence and will make you seem more stable and safe to women. Try to make friends with women. But not for dating or anything sexual. Just for being friends and enjoying talking. These women can be the girlfriends of your male friends. Or they can be women at work, or older women. Once you have pra…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/21 08:13 PM
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Your post comes off as very dehumanizing and misogynistic. You're treating her like prey, but you get upset when you think she is treating you the same way. It definitely seems like you view her more like an object than as a person. This approach to women will really hurt your ability to find a healthy relationship. Do you view your male friends in the same way? (Probably not, but if you did, that sounds really lonely and depressing.) A romantic relationship includes friendship with the woman. I…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/21 09:21 PM
3

There's no statistics or proof for this. They are just making stuff up and acting like it's true. The same way people in the past made stuff up in order to justify slavery, justify making it illegal for women to vote, etc.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/21 04:16 PM
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So, he's going to make you rich AND get you laid? Why haven't you given him all your money yet? /s
/r/ExRedPill30/07/21 08:35 PM
1

Oh, I get it. I definitely had weird mental health stuff going on when I was still a virgin after high school. I was sure it was a massive problem. I think a lot of young men are wired to make losing their virginity their absolute top priority, and it really messes with our mental health. I don't have great advice for you. All I can say is that sex really wasn't nearly as good as it could be until I started having long term relationships in my 30s. So you're not going to miss out on the best par…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/21 06:45 PM
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Here's the thing, there is a reason that incels are often shamed, and it is very different from your situation. The vast majority of "incells" online seem to have obvious personality problems that prevent them from forming healthy relationships (romantic and platonic). Those personality issues can often be fixed through self-improvement and therapy. Often, they are just plain a-holes who simply need to learn to be more polite, empathetic, and friendly. When they rage out and complain about women…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/21 12:31 AM
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Much of what you're reading is printed to generate clicks for ad revenue. Entertainment sells better than science. And the truth is that current science can't really answer questions about complex human behavior very well. Try to improve yourself and develop the positive traits of both the good guy and the "bad boy". These are not mutually exclusive. You can be assertive, confident, physical, aggressive, and courageous (the "bad boy") while also being empathetic, progressive, and supportive. The…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/21 06:08 AM
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You’re looking at it wrong. Before I got married, I was looking for experienced women. Good sex takes practice and an experienced woman is likely to be better at. And I want someone who has a high libido like me. Also, how on earth are going to be compatible with the ‘best’ mate possible if you’re so insecure that you can’t handle a woman who has the same interest in sex and sleeping around that you do. I swear, it seems like a lot of guys are looking for replacement mothers, not a wife.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/21 01:43 AM
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That’s not a redpill thing. That’s just two people being selfish and screwing up everyone else’s lives. Surely that would be traumatic for you.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/21 03:34 AM
1

This is really great advice.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/21 03:25 AM
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"So guys.. If I give her what she SAYS she wants (more time, affection, validation) do you think she’ll lose interest in me?" Answer: She won't lose interest in you if you do those things. Those are things that people do in every successful long-term relationship, including marriages. It sounds like she just wants to have a healthy relationship with you. One of the awful things about TRP is that they have very false ideas about what is "masculine" and "feminine". Giving your partner time, affect…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 10:30 PM
4

Nobody has time to explain to why every one of your points is wrong. For all we know, you could be trolling or just looking for attention. I’ll address your first point: “Women aren't oppressed in the west, and a large portion of the wage gap is due to different choices men and women make. For example, a lot of my female friends, when picking a major in college, pick something they "like". I just went for whatever major would make the most money regardless of how I felt about it.” Here’s why it’…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 09:37 PM
13

This is self-centered and ignorant way to view women. Women go through just as much struggles as men. They’re not waiting anywhere. They are trying to get by, just like you. You will be more successful at dating once you learn to empathize with other peoples struggles, including women’s struggles. Most women find empathy very attractive. That said, success, confidence, and having overcome real struggles are all very attractive traits. So it is true that women will be more attracted to you once y…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 03:56 PM
4

Yeah. Redpill is just filling a vacuum. Nobody taught me how to date. I learned on my own and became really good at it. After hundreds of dates, it’s now useless knowledge because I’m happily married. We don’t do a good job of teaching boys or girls, men or women, how to date. The result is kind of a mess.
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 01:36 AM
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I think the girl likes you as a person and is trying to get to know you better before she decides if she wants a relationship. This was the hardest part of dating for me: where you know you like a girl but she is not yet sure. She also may have other guys she is potentially interested in. Which would make her slower to decide she’s interested in you romantically. You’re doing well. Just keep trying to enjoy your time talking her. Don’t force things or pressure her. She may need space. That’s fin…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/21 11:43 PM
1

For many western women, a man with dark skin is considered attractive. Taste varies widely so you cannot make generalizations. If you are trying to date western women, the biggest disadvantage for you will be using information you learned from the redpill and blackpill groups. Those groups are mainly targeted to men who are very unsuccessful with women. Most western women want nothing to do with these kind of guys. Another issue is major cultural differences between India and the west. My unders…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/21 07:03 AM
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Sounds like that’s your trauma talking. What happened to you is pretty awful and it would mess up anybody. If you can afford it, I definitely suggest therapy to help you heal.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 04:04 PM
8

Sounds like someone is looking for a way to justify their father not loving them. Which is really sad. If you have a deadbeat dad, it must be ten times worse if you think he didn’t do anything wrong.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 11:10 PM
2

For the studies I am referring to? It is all levels of education, but I don’t how this statistic is affected by different levels of education. I’m not sure anyone has studied that. It may also be different in countries outside the US.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 01:44 AM
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No, statistically, married women who have children, especially young children, are the least happy. I think this is because so many men are dicks who do not help much with raising the children and do not household chores.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 03:56 AM
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Yeah, I think you are correct on everything you said. Mental health is very hard to treat. Especially when you don't have money or a supportive family. Things like QAnon, The Red Pill, and other groups definitely take advantage of vulnerable people. I wish there was an easy solution.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 09:56 PM
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Some women are just very conservative concerning gender roles. They want dominant men who will take the “burden” of making decisions away from them. Not everyone wants freedom and choice and responsibility. Those things can be very scary to some people.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 04:15 PM
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Yeah, a lot of colleges actually suck for dating.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 11:48 PM
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