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Jealous much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:20 PM
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I just wanna chime in and tell you to trust your gut and intuition. Yes on paper this doesn’t sound like a big deal at all, but you’re the one in the relationship, not us. Also, you should be able to talk to him about these things if your relationship is as serious as you say it is. It’s not something to argue over, but if it causing you unease then you should be able to bring it up without worry or fear. “That’s very sweet of you. Now I know why you haven’t been buying your wines. Why didn’t yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:22 AM
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In my anecdotal experience, it starts mid 30s for men. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:17 AM
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Ladies, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:49 AM
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BO Majorly crooked teeth Non flat stomach Man boobs Balding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:24 AM
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We all have our different preferences. There are some universal red flags, but a hobby or field of interest aren’t them. HVM is not one size fits all! Different strokes for different folks. We can’t even agree on whether some celebrity is universally appealing! What makes you think personality or hobbies appeal the same to everyone?? I live in Asia and anime can be a huge part of the culture, not just for kids. I personally don’t care for it, but I can imagine if some women think it’s a huge plu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:17 AM
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Did you meet him online? He’s met another girl, or someone from his past came back. And three month mark is where casual dating either gets serious or fizzles out. If it’s the latter, you might be disappointed, but you shouldn’t be surprised. It happens a lot. Keep dating others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:03 AM
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Just my opinion, but both sides of the convo is cringey to me.. who says “I’m overqualified” without irony, and I’m guessing this is online dating, how are you online dating if you are actually too good for it..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:00 AM
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It depends on what you want. If you want marriage, don’t close off all your options until you get there. Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:57 AM
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Nobody thinks dating offline is easier. Dating online is actually easier cos you have desperate men and women on there. You will find someone. (Will it be good? Another story). The pros of IRL meet cute is that it isn’t online dating. That is all. Don’t overthink it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:50 AM
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I’m not, and I don’t think it’s easy for any woman to find love offline, I guess I’m not dead wrong? I advocate for never having to feel like you have to find someone. Prolonged singledom or even spinsterhood isn’t the bad thing that the patriarchy tells you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:02 AM
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NGL sounds pretty lame. It’s cool if you need to do some active “rejecting” to kickstart your journey of learning to reject men.. But once your boundaries are strong enough, and you have learned to efficiently say no to men and their behavior, why do you need to be on Tinder to get any sort of pleasure, even the perverse type? Aren’t there more productive ways to find pleasure than to “reject men on Tinder”? An important part of having a high value life is to protect your vibe and be selective o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:14 PM
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“If you need validation from men, maybe the better thing to do is work on yourself or go to therapy. Damn you have a very nice way of putting things. Very gentle. Me, I’m very blunt. If a very attractive woman needs to go online to date, I call it desperation. No sugarcoating. Haha. Edit add: Aaaand everytime I comment something like this, the barrage of online daters will come at me for speaking the truth they don’t have the self honesty to admit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:38 PM
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A the fucking men! In my own little passive aggressive way I’ve been trying to fight for NOT ONLINE DATING on this sub. But if I get a little obvious about it, I get a lot of pushback. Your post is very logical and data based. I wonder how much push back it will get from the Online Daters Edit add: I want to tag everyone I’ve butted heads with on the subject! “But I’ve met a lot of great guys online! But you can choose the better apps! But you can still vet them! But I met my boyfriend online!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:36 PM
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What do I wear is usually the woman question. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:13 AM
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Throw the whole boyfriend away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:23 PM
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Girl what is your question exactly? There’s nothing to help with here. You have a friend that you go on dates with once every few months. You haven’t slept with him, you haven’t kissed him, it’s just fun friendly dates. You don’t even like him all that much, it seems. You’re single and available to other men. I don’t see a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:17 PM
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I follow the “half the older person’s age, plus nine”rule. Works for men and women For you, you date no older than 24 PS: I went to a women’s college too! I miss those years. Make the best of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:32 AM
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Anyone thinks that OP should not have jumped the gun and asked about the date that he was having? It was an unsexy question to ask in the early dating stage, opens cans of worms. If you guys met online, and have not established exclusivity, both you and he are free to date other people. But now that you’ve asked the question, there’s no going back. The real FDS and HVW way IMO is to have other guys to date to begin with, so you don’t have this laser focus on a single guy (they are never worth it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:05 AM
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A whole chapter (iirc) was dedicated to this in He’s Just Not That Into You. In the movie they dedicated a whole scene to it, with the Ginnifer Goodwin character ending up tossing the whole damn business card away because she leveled up. “Giving you his contact” is actually super insulting. I get business cards from potential clients or employers, or business partners, when there is a potential in them that I might wanna pursue. In dating, I am the prize. I am the potential you have to pursue an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:50 PM
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Thanks. Read up on the sidebar, sit on the material for a while, let them sink before you post advice on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:36 PM
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Don’t worry OP you are doing well, in the right mindset. Pickmes they just can’t deal that some women are just totally secure in their own magnetism they don’t have to worry about what the man feels or does Plus if your campus is small I’m sure you will run into him again, you with the nice radiant smile.. This story is just the beginning, so go forth and be that woman who didn’t go texting him in a rush :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:31 AM
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Pickme party in this thread. Just shows you how easily pickmes can post bad advice disguised as FDS. OP just leveled up and they already want to bring her down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:15 AM
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LVM or HVM is irrelevant in this case because if he wants you to text him first, he’s not that into you to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:11 AM
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Fool yourself. Are you him? And if really does feel embarrassed, is OP supposed to care?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:07 AM
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He was gross from the first text and instead of nexting you engaged, you encouraged further interaction. Not inspirational. We already know LVM behavior here, you don’t need to go out of your way to mine Tinder for material for us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:55 AM
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My eyes. Like I get your point but did I come to FDS to get unsolicited visual attacks like this? Put a spoiler warning next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:26 PM
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If he gives you his number, he wants you to text him first, he’s not that into you. Straight out of dat best selling book, and the movie it was made into. If it was a genuine mistake that he didn’t get your number, he would hunt you down hell or high water, if he really was that interested. “Hi, it’s ____” IS TOO MUCH. Period. As the woman you never make any first move, in any shape or form, and be utterly secure in your position as THE PRIZE, you don’t “worry” if you missed out on a man. The ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:11 PM
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Why even engage? It’s on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:02 PM
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You are fooling yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:09 PM
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Just going by your tone and language.. technicalities don’t really matter, in dating, it’s all about context and subtleties. You almost broke it off, but you didn’t. You stopped dating around. You brought up exclusivity even when your needs aren’t met. Yes, by all definition, you were trying to get him to commit, and he knows it. It is clear as day that you like him that much, even tho TECHNICALLY you TRIED to dump him early on. Step one to recovery is being honest with yourself and the situatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:14 AM
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Thanks, for this post. Good stories. I have been rolling my eyes at every other newbie poster here telling others that you should always ask men what they’re looking for when dating. And they get so defensive when I tell them that’s just bad flirting and also pointless. Idk, everything in the side bar points towards NOT letting a guy know what you’re after, what more asking him yourself. Sherry Argov bitches books dedicated chapters upon chapters to drive this point home. People need to start do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:24 AM
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Sex isn’t the problem here, but calling him HVM after three dates. Of course you’re getting your panties in a bunch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:59 AM
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Hi girl sorry you must be hurting. Take some time to heal and feel better. Go pick up the Sherry Argov bitches books, they are listed on the side bar. You will see that letting a guy know you want a relationship will make him run. So does doing the exclusivity talk. This is conventional dating wisdom, I know, but it’s bad flirting and gives men all the damn power. Really, dive deeper into the sidebar. You will come out stronger from this. You should never be the one trying to get a guy to commit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:55 AM
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I’ve had to tell a guy in person that I would call the police if he doesn’t leave me alone. What’s so difficult about excusing yourself from a situation, over text or in person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:28 PM
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Why even respond to him in full sophisticated sentences..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:53 PM
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Why did you even? Girl? Posts like this are getting BORING. Read up on the sidebar and learn to next quicker faster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:31 PM
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YET another poster not using her block button and let the conversation go on WAY too long this guy should have been yeeted from your phone at the first instant, literally. When he grunted in all caps for your number Not inspirational at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:28 PM
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Uh, why did you even waste time explaining to him? He pressed for answers, but you didn’t have to deal with that, you literally already broke up with him. Have you not read the sidebar stuff? Not inspirational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:23 PM
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How the fuck do people find the stomach to go thru these subhuman filth on dating apps? Like, I do NOT want to even have to swipe left on these. My eyes, my fingers, my precious phone! Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:20 PM
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Uh. What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:15 PM
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My soul sister!! Child free, men free, and an apartment full of cats. Rolling in money that I worked hard for and saved up for my retirement. Never will I be desperate enough to start looking for someone to love online, cos cat lady life sounds like prime fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:14 PM
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Zac Efron. We hit puberty around when High School Musical exploded, and Zac Efron grew into his looks in front of us and reached peak form in HSM 3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:07 PM
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LOL Angelina Jolie is a whole witch (the sexy scary kind)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:05 PM
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You really should have stopped dealing with him at “what do you bring to the table” We have to talk less and act faster. All those words and the typing when the block button was so damn easy to use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:00 PM
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Yes, duh, I don’t even know why people still dare to defend apps as the more time-efficient, volume-efficient option, and as long as you “vet vet vet” you can successful in OLD Dating apps are for people who are sufficiently desperate enough: men for sex, women for love. Any self respecting man who wants sex hits the club or bars. Any self respecting woman won’t put herself in a date catalogue to be browsed by strangers. (I’m speaking as someone who’s tried online dating, and I did it when I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:39 AM
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what did soy ever do to deserve this slander ☹️ I’m okay with clown bashing tho, cos I hated the joker movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:27 AM
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Probably cos of the implied exclusivity, recruitment process and all. Reminds me of sororities Downvotes are a part of Reddit, we need to be less bothered by it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:41 AM
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Yes. It’s a false dichotomy that the sub uses as rhetoric to preach. The problem is when we start internalizing the dichotomy and start labeling whole, dynamic, complete human beings as high value, low value, pickme, queen, etc. Be careful of the FDS circle jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:15 AM
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Okay some of you might not be ready for this: When you call another woman a “pickmeisha” or “low value woman”, you’re it. Joining this sub or posting on this sub does not make you a high value anything by default, you still need to do the inner work. Bullying other women for their mistakes and foibles in dating, or their low self esteem or lack of self respect, is not inner work at all and is itself trashy and pickme af. At most you can feel sorry for them, but those of you making fun of them, c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:05 AM
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I think the OG mods are busy with the DarkTriad woman sub, and are saving their best discussions on strategy and seduction for there. While FDS is being run by meme-hungry newbies...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:26 AM
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Too bad I’m too lazy for a verification process just to join a subreddit.☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:52 AM
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Don’t say you want a relationship. Like duh how predictable is that and you’re just playing straight into his hands THROW HIM OFF. Tell him, “I don’t know.” Shrug it off, play dumb, idk put your own twist on it, but throw him off Anybody who tells you to be upfront about these things, is wrong, and hasn’t done their due diligence reading the sidebar recommended reading. “Why Men Love Bitches”, the FDS textbook, tells us to never let it be known that you’re looking for a relationship. Go read it,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:53 PM
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Not to hijack your convo but sadly most of the mainstream opinions on FDS don’t even align with the sidebar approved references (YT channels, the OG guidebooks), cos people don’t actually read or watch them. Most of FDS newbies are happy parroting platitudes off each other, making a loud echo chamber and circle jerk, instead of taking the time to educate themselves on the “textbooks” first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:19 PM
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But posting a link to the sub without any commentary is kinda spammy and lazy? Usually one would preface with something.. like a short one sentence advice and “for more info you can go to this site”. You weren’t trying to help her, you were just being sassy. I’m not surprised you got banned, the way you did it was begging to be banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:03 AM
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Unpopular opinion, LV and HV is a false dichotomy. Makes for good rhetoric to preach about LV and HV, but in practice, people are a spectrum of moods, emotions, and behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:27 AM
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Have you ever thought that maybe he just never liked you enough? The whole messiness thing is just an excuse. Even if you knew it was his deal breaker and overhauled your whole life to become a neat freak, he would have still found another thing to break up with you over. Messy people date or marry neat people all the time. It wasn’t a communication thing that broke your relationship, he just wasn’t that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:18 AM
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I’m picky af, and that’s how I will always wanna be with my men..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:31 AM
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Hey, this is my take. You were kinda needy but I wouldn’t blame you for it, it happens to the best of us, and you being still in college, I wouldn’t hold it against you, you’re not expected to be fully mature and secure at that age. No, that’s not pickme behavior, that’s just needy and clingy behavior. The problem is that you communicated you feelings and needs to him, but he couldn’t meet you where you are at. If he truly was in love with you, he would have tried harder - you were being clingy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:53 AM
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Hi I think you might want to read the sidebar posts! All of your questions will be answered there. :) Always remember, you’re the prize as a woman. He pursues you, and you don’t have to do a single thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:02 PM
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It’s not that different from believe patterns not apologies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:59 PM
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I think the sentiment behind that is to put the husband in his place, for trying to guilt her for how SHE spends HER money. Not literally weighing makeup against your spouse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:34 PM
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What? Why? What do you mean by not impressive partners? Anyone in particular Why are we going around spotting pickmes in the wild now? What’s the point? To demean them, to shame them? But why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:31 PM
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The downvotes are from people who feel attacked cos they use online dating and need to defend that about themselves. I have other upvotes on this thread to care about them hurt feelings, tough love hurts. Also going by Reddit votes as a metric is laughably simplistic, are we in high school? Most popular opinion wins? Yes the whole sub is full of screenshots complaining about trash convos with men on online dating, have you seen? You can’t seriously try to tell anyone that it’s EASY to meet high …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:49 AM
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Hi :) I wrote that, but I actually don’t have a IG, SC or Twitter.. my only social media is FB and it’s on private lockdown as well. It’s cos I’m also very private, introverted, and have lots of secrets to keep lol I was just repeating what the book said and adding some of my own ideas, for those who are more outgoing and less private. I do agree about social media attention being low effort and low value. It’s just as bad as the attention you get from online dating. Blehh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:03 PM
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You can’t get men to approach- you can’t get anybody to do anything unless you use the Imperius curse The only thing in your power that you can do is to attract The thing is even tho you have attracted them, they can still NOT approach for reasons- not their type, too shy, involved with other women, is gay, don’t like you that much, having a bad day, etc. We have to learn how to let go of the impulse to “make things happen” when it comes to men. They do what they want, we can’t get them to do an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:52 AM
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Not overfunctioning and independence are two different things And you can be both at the same time You are independent you can do things yourself Not overfunctioning is not doing things for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:00 AM
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I love what the other commenters have contributed so far! Basically just want to echo some of them by replying directly to your title: You don’t need an upper hand cos you are not a player in the competition, you are the prize. Heck, you are the competition itself, you make the rules and you choose the players. Men compete to win you. They should be the ones worrying about having the upper hand and other shit :) It sucks that you had to cross paths with your shitty ex. What he did is not about y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:12 PM
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Thank you for this! Very beautifully written
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:42 PM
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LOLThis is why I don’t do online dating, I don’t want to exist on the same digital space as this kinda losers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:35 PM
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Your scenario of this guy “talking about himself the whole time while making sexual jokes” is a slippery slope argument. All that OP advice said is to “let him” think whatever he wants (and let’s be real, when it comes to men it’s sex sex sex) And nothing about actually feeding him sexual promises. In fact the second part of the advice is actually to not sleep with him, ie enforce boundaries and be in control. It’s actually good advice, though worded funnily. You might have overreacted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:39 AM
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“Just know you won’t get sex from me lololol” Girl what 🤦‍♀️ why did you go put sex on the table but in the same breath took it away Of course he went silent on you You need to relearn how to flirt. He’s right, you need to calm down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:48 PM
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Wear whatever you want, you only live once. Life is too short to care what other people think of one outfit of yours I personally think they are fun pieces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:10 PM
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Disagree. If body, money and looks are enough to make a HVM, you’re calling many liars and cheaters, and emotionally irresponsible men HVM too. Nah for me. For me character is equally important, plenty of good looking, fit and rich players and assholes running around and I don’t call them HVM, barf Investment is a whole different yardstick together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:00 PM
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1.5 months. But also went through a 1.5 years of dateless streak before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:06 AM
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So? How’s it going? We want to know the quality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:53 PM
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Taylor Swift is pretty cool I think her feminism has grown a lot. Her one dollar sexual harassment lawsuit, her stand down with streaming services, and recent troubles with her record company. She’s way more interesting as an artist and celebrity than Beyoncé
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:03 PM
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asks for separate checks on the first few dates has man boobs or a pudge, not fit posts too much on Facebook or social media unironically the party, clubbing type negs me during the early dating stage no sense of style (nothing against it, but I’m a stylish person so he has to be able to appreciate my effort and also keep up) poor hygiene: BO, unkempt hair or clothes bad teeth too old too much facial hair (nothing against it, I have a youthful style and neotenous face I don’t want to look like I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:44 PM
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IMO he’s not in my rotation until he’s taking me out and spending on me, and I won’t care if he’s single or not cos he’s just as good as another platonic male colleague (guy I have to deal with due to life, social circle, but zero romantic aspirations). Not every guy that asks for my number and exchange texts with me gets to be in my rotation by default. Too easy. Male attention is cheap This guy certainly wasn’t in your rotation in the first place, and perhaps you shouldn’t have been that inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:58 AM
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Asking a guy if he’s single, and when he says no, you block him. How does that look to him. Not that it matters but it could have gone better You wouldn’t be at all having this “what should I do” problem if you never “asked”. He would just be another wishy washy guy that you eventually lose interest or forget about. That’s a better look IMO You forced him to show his cards by revealing yours. Granted the end goal is to reveal the man anyway but I’m just saying there could be more finesse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 07:18 PM
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And he used the word “catch up” not “get dinner” “go out” “meet” but “catch up” like she’s his bro. What does “catch up” even entail for two people who have never met? How more vague can he be. Blah So many pitfalls dealing with OLD dudes, much respect for you gals having the tenacity to even try at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 04:49 PM
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You are a badass!! the two times it happened to me, the guys asked for separate checks. Holy cringe I was embarrassed for him, myself and all of humanity, but I said nothing, paid up, and never went out with them ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:50 PM
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They probably mean “beauty” as their resource or something, cos they objectify themselves like RP tells them to. They also buy into the myth of the female wall Even so, they speak for themselves, a woman’s beauty is infinite by default... in comparison to men’s 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:40 AM
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Hey I wouldn’t straight up ask a guy if he’s single or no. That question alone already told him you’re into him. Remember you’re the prize. He should be wondering if you’re single. Asking if a guy is single is almost like asking a guy out on a date, you’re telling him you’re interested before he shows you he is. Of course on a practical standpoint you would wanna know if a guy is attached, there are other ways to scout that out, usually through actions, and over time. He’s not texting you soon e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:46 AM
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Maybe at this point you need to be following r/ExNoContact more than this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:38 AM
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Following this thread! My goal is to buy myself a Chanel bag one day (not there yet). I know women will notice these things but do men care?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:31 AM
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I’d say do some research on your particular concert hall on instagram, to see how dressy people get for that hall. Instagram is going to give you a good idea of what the healthy middle between the platinum level patron and the college student outfit looks like.. with how popular and accessible orchestras are today, there is just wayyyy to much variance in terms of dressiness In any case, opera gloves are a bit overkill. Definitely go without. Julia Roberts pulled that off in Pretty Woman, becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 09:04 AM
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Thank you for this! I like that you brought up cowardice. You can’t tell this without witnessing a man going through a difficult thing or period in life. To me, how a man handles challenges are the biggest HV signifier. Does he face it with grit and honesty? Or does he cut and run? Does he strategize and ride the wave out? Or does he just ignore it and hide in a mountain of video games and beers? Or does he throw money at problems (a lot of rich guys do that, but take zero responsibility) A lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:35 AM
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Such an important video. A lot of the movies I like are up there and it’s such a waking up moment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:07 AM
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It’s Taylor Swift’s 30th Birthday today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 08:27 PM
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According to the FDS-recommended book “Men Don’t Love Women Like You” dating services or apps are desperate, lazy and last resort solutions a woman uses when she’s full of excuses (I’m busy, my town sucks, etc). (Based on all the reports of low level men and interactions from dating apps you can find on FDS, you’re not missing much anyway. Don’t feel like you’re missing out because you’re not OLDating) Instead of signing up for apps, the book recommends amping up your social media. Set things pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:28 PM
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That’s the thing, you have to understand that the quote is just one section of a whole damn novel, you can’t just dissect a quote on its own out of context like that. It’s spoken by a character who would turn out to be crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 03:05 AM
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Do you want this friend? That’s about the only question that matters How your HVM thinks of your value with regards to your friendships are irrelevant and are false questions. His love shouldn’t be this fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:56 AM
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I want to look beautiful for many reasons that don’t have to do with men But men ask me out solely coz I look beautiful. Not cos of my personality or soul, even though I have that going on too, but cos of my beauty. So they pay cos beauty is expensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:14 PM
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Lol getting ahead of ourselves here? It’s just dating, why are you already picking the wedding dress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 01:49 PM
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I also have a thing for cops, and have a great time ogling at them whenever I get the chance.. but I let it just be my little gag inside joke fantasy thing Cos to actively strategize to find one is kinda lame. Not only you’re objectifying somebody, you’re also letting yourself be a groupie. Well if you’re really committed to finding your ice hockey dude. Then you gotta be the kinda woman that attracts ice hockey dudes. Move to Canada, be an ice skater, find a job at the rink, etc, idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:14 AM
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Let him do the work? He’s the one securing you, not you him. IMO the moment you become the one to try to lock him down, you lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:43 AM
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Looking back at all of my relationships, month 3 is the turning point. All of my horrible exes were still good guys at month 3. Happy for OP but I think it’s way too early to call anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 05:08 AM
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It’s not unsalvageable, but you need to continue with the mindset that you can do better (like date someone who will pay for your food unprompted). Start looking at him like he’s underperforming at a job, and adjust your attitude towards him accordingly (decline all house dates, say no to things) and of course be looking to meet other men. Don’t say anything about paying for food or taking you out for dates, it shows all your cards. Just pull back your investment (emotional, physical) in him, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:27 PM
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Some dude I know brags about only swiping women while on the loo I don’t want to be found by men who look for women this way, so I don’t do OLD Like I literally DO NOT want to exist on the same plane as their low vibrational dusty asses who don’t have what it takes to meet women in real life Also edited for another anecdote: men on apps really view women as products in online dating. I have overheard a conversation going on between two dudes talking about Tinder using words like “market.” My dre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:42 PM
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Do you spend money and time on self care? Once I did that, my self esteem skyrocketed (I also looked better too). But I also realized my wallet doesnt like it, and I have less time for other things So it made a lot of sense for guys to compensate for my self care costs. They want to go out with a hot, happy woman, then pay up, cos everything about her costs time and money, from sulfate free shampoo to therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:33 AM
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Okay maybe not a post on its own here, but it’s quite self explanatory. Scarcity = not enough things to go around, abundance = world is your oyster. Don’t go into dating with a scarcity mindset cos you’ll hold on to toxic things thinking this is all you can get. Cultivate an abundance mentality, that the world is big enough for you and I. For every guy you ditch, there are a lot of others waiting for you to meet. Edit: NGL “omg pls make a post on [simple concept]” sounds lazy af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:51 PM
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he even assumed your choice of footwear smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:06 AM
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You’re cold, but I respect you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:02 AM
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Scarcity mindset vs abundance mentality. It think it’s been talked about a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:00 AM
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There’s a recent post on “HVM.” This guy is not automatically a HVM just because he has a good job and house, or “giving” in the beginning. Only give someone that much credit when you’ve vetted him He’s better than your ex, but let’s not make your ex your yardstick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:35 AM
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TIL most people think high value means money, job and looks. No it’s not. It’s not about appearances, it’s about character, and you can only suss that out by seeing the man in different environments, facing different situations. You can’t know if somebody is high value in two or three dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:32 AM
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yeah and a guy from Tinder you barely know, is he really a “HVM”? Or another clown? Congrats to OP for waking up from the nightmare that’s her ex, but keep your guard up high. It’s okay to get rebound sex if that’s what you need, but be careful of giving too much credit to a new man who you are not sure if he’s deserving of your wonderful self yet. Especially if he’s from Tinder! Men can be devious, especially when sex is on the table. Spend some time healing before you jump into the dating pool…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:32 AM
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Mood for December
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:48 PM
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He’s coming to the mall with me, I’m just doing some research online beforehand. It’s a shopping date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:09 PM
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Idk I just think it’s special kinda insensitive to use Bin Laden in a jokey way when many people lost loved ones during 911. Their life altering loss ain’t your solidarity flair. It’s just not the same as Jay Z using the n-word in his songs you know. Non black people still can’t use the n-word willy nilly But if it’s temporary then fine. Thanks for the hard work in changing flairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:46 PM
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Liking the flair for reasons is okay and great. But calling that thread a takeover attempt is a bit of an overreaction. It was a valid discussion topic that needed addressing, hence this pinned post. The OP wasn’t even a Pick Me, and she mentioned victim-blaming only passingly, like, once...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:30 PM
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Currently choosing a lipstick for myself, to be paid for by the man I’m talking to because he owes me an apology. (Lol long story) There’s a shade that I really want from MAC but here I stop myself and go: nah, I’m picking a fancy-ass Tom Ford A part of me wants to be nice and choose a MAC cos it’s better for his wallet, and hey I did want this particular shade from MAC anyway so why the drama But no. He has to know early on that I get the queen bee of lipsticks cos I’m the queen bee of my world…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:14 PM
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Between you and I, only one of us is using misogynistic lingo, calling names, and throwing others under the bus. High Value that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 02:20 PM
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Mod are you serious? Bin Laden is literally a mass murderer and people lost loved ones because of him. Are we this tone-deaf? It’s one thing to use it tongue in cheek in response to trolling men, but to use it as a flair is a bit of wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 02:11 PM
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I’m Christian so I understood value as something innate, as in God values everybody equally and highly. Also works in secular terms: even the most wretched of a human being also has the same value, dignity and rights as any other. Something really weird about thinking you are better and can look down and make fun of other women, just because you are on FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:14 PM
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Amen OP! I absolutely hate how there’s this completely unnecessary hierarchy of high value-low value women in this sub. And these self proclaimed “high value” FDS women like to assert their superiority over these other women, and hence are more suitable for “high value men.” Barf. (Never mind the classism and other types of isms and prejudice involved in judging a somebody as “low value”..) They don’t realize this actually is throwing these other women under the bus, and undermines women as a gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 12:39 PM
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You just did a wonderful thing for yourself, not the easiest thing to do but you did it! Crying is okay, you liked someone and your heart was open and true. Now take all the time and do all the things you need to feel better!! Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:57 AM
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Yes and it also shortcuts the actual courting process so he can get you in bed right away, cos “boyfriend”. It’s manipulative and lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 12:22 PM
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This is so much BS.. sounds like girl 2 is salty that she’s not getting as much attention as girl 1, and wrote a whole paper to rationalize it by not only calling the grapes sour but also putting girl 1 down by low key calling her trashy. Attention is attention, approaches are approaches, our job is to filter which guy’s approach you want to entertain and sustain. Girl 1 might just be enjoying her life wearing clothes she likes and dancing to music she loves, she ain’t caring how she comes acros…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:20 PM
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Next level pep talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 02:11 PM
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Amen! He should be splitting hairs trying to get my fine ass to marry him. What is this nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 06:28 AM
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Exactly, OP is already sensing that he’s pulling away. It would be different if he’s keeping the momentum going, but he’s not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 04:09 AM
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All the comments here are good! Just wanna add: sometimes despite your best efforts, the man just doesn’t make a first move. Maybe he is attached to someone else, maybe he’s emotionally unavailable, maybe you are just not his type and he’s just not into you. And that’s okay. There’s nothing you can do to fix it, to change him, to make him want you. You gotta be okay to let go and move on, stop wanting to go after him. That’s the control freak in you. You just take some time to mope a little bit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 09:25 AM
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Muted? Girl you block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:53 AM
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Saving this comment for when I can understand it fully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:32 AM
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Women look out for each other and build each other up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 05:30 AM
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Literally neither the poster nor I am telling you to not treat your boyfriend nicely and with respect. Like I said the poster doesn’t mean “nice” in the literal sense, it means pandering and not standing up for yourself. Gotta read the whole poster for context, sis. And nobody cares what type of male you’re dating and how you do it, save that inspo shit for RPW bragging threads
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:24 AM
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And that you’ve just been twiddling your thumbs waaaaiting for someone like them to come along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 02:12 AM
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I don’t like OP’s text, too much emotion, not enough control and shows all of our cards. This is the occasion for the single sentence roast and a swift block. Perfect example of going into the mud to play with the pigs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:33 PM
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Not your problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 12:41 PM
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Emma Stone is great too, when Andrew Garfield cheated on her she wasted no time dumping him and went on to win an Oscar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 08:21 AM
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I see a woman acting pathetic with a man, I feel sorry for her and wish that one day she will find enough self love and courage to move on I don’t call her low value. Everybody has intrinsic value as a human being, and are deserving of respect and love. Being on FDS, and smarter in dating doesn’t make you a better person than her... I hope this sub doesn’t devolve to be like RPW where it’s a us vs other women mentality. We are not competing with each other to get “high value men”. Women, even if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 07:05 AM
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In my country the server usually asks “do you need separate checks?” I keep my mouth shut and let the guy answer. If he says yes, I pay up my share, finish up the date but on my way home I delete and block If he says no, Whoop de doo Any self respecting man won’t embarrass himself or his date by telling the server to get separate checks. When the server/machine doesn’t ask the question, just be slow with your purse grab - reach into your bag but do some girly thing first such as reapply lipstick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:57 PM
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“Pick me pick me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 05:34 PM
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That blog needs to be repped more here. He’s stopped updating a while ago but the ideas are FDS I also have his breakup strategy book and it’s gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 07:49 AM
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Amy Young https://www.youtube.com/user/AMYoungster She stopped putting new stuff on tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:38 AM
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Opportunity cost sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 09:18 AM
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First date I like to wear a skirt and a tight fitting top. Point is to show off my shape Second to third dates I like to push the envelope a bit and a wear a low cut top. I enjoy making them squirm a little bit in their seat by a little display of cleavage. Well-adjusted men know how to behave in these situations - they will compliment your outfit but will try to keep their eyes averted. It doesn’t matter anyway cos I wasn’t going to sleep with them at that point, I just like to see them struggl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:20 AM
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Personally I’m turned off by the word “feminine” cos it’s been so hijacked by the RPW “Modest” too In the femalefashionadvice subreddit (where RPW hang out a lot) these are the keywords that signals RPW It gets made fun a lot at the ffa circle jerk subreddit, it’s funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:06 AM
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You might be overthinking it! It's a yes or no question. It's HIS job to make it as "datey" as he wants. It's not something for you to figure out, don't worry your pretty head over it. If you show up and it turns out to be something below your standards, finish it up and go home. He is or he isn't, you'll find out through the date itself. There's literally no magic you can manifest through clever texting or what not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:41 AM
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Thanks for your anecdote. I would like to explore the notion of exceptions for a bit- that maybe exceptions aren’t even exceptions when you examine it closely I had a “good” relationship in my college years too that had a rocky start and needed me to DTR.. we were there for each other, we did the best we could, it ended because I had to move. However I wouldn’t consider it an exception because... if I were to look closely, that ex was a LMV (lazy, unambitious), and I was happy with him for so lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:03 AM
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Beautiful then and now, I like how both looks are so era-appropriate, you can tell she definitely follows beauty and makeup trends, and do a damn good job looking good in them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:27 PM
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Maleficent 1. Angelina Jolie gets her heart broken and her wings stolen by some fuckboi, goes on full evil witch mode to get revenge Love that the prince’s kiss didn’t do shit about waking Sleeping Beauty! A guy you met a few days ago ain’t true love blaaah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:20 PM
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I like how they talk about each other, and how dreamy they sound (not exactly #relationshipgoals, he sounds way too lazy and she way too A-type for my ideal dynamic) But it sucks that their story started with “he had wanted nothing to do with her, so she had to chase him down” And of course that she had to propose and even buy her own damn ring... They are just such dirty details, that needed a lot of explanation to fit into the epic love of the ages narrative. Otherwise on their own it would ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 07:53 PM
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I'm in the middle middle of watching Pretty Woman! I'm pretty blown by how WOKE it is given that it's from 30 years ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 06:14 PM
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I’m of the following opinion camp: Men aren’t your friends. You can try, but they always end up trying to get into your pants, or secretly resent/sabotage you for not wanting to fuck them Female friendships are a whole different thing together. Female/female dynamics are so different from f/m relationships that the strategies in this sub are not that applicable Tho to be honest, “take no shit” “cut toxic people off” “stand up for yourself” are just the basic things to a good quality of life and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 01:51 PM
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What kinda question is this? A woman decides for herself, she either wants to or no. How she operates her sexuality is none of anybody’s business, and there’s no should or shouldn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:44 AM
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Guys who aren’t into you still try at least get into your pants Those who aren’t into you and still won’t try to get into your pants... they aren’t into you and are also too busy fucking other people. That’s like being not into you, squared. You are like number 74 on his list. Accept the sad truth and cut delete block. He’s even not worth you trying to understand why he’s not DTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:35 AM
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The only correct interpretation of this behavior. They don’t want to fuck YOU now cos they are busy spinning other women. This is how disposable you are to them. Don’t entertain them or spend another second rationalizing why they are not sexual with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:32 AM
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Speak for yourself OP cos I frickin love being approached in public, as long as they are polite and non-creepy about it. Whether I entertain them depends on: context, attractiveness, how confident and smooth they are, and my mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:56 AM
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Haha, fuck grace, it’s a breakup. Do whatever feels right to you it’s all gonna end the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:02 PM
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Girl listen to yourself, get a grip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:52 PM
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Yup don’t understand how this song blew up, so people really thank their exes? All I wanna say to mine is fuck you go to hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:27 AM
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I think more important than “where” is how you look. Wherever you go, dress well, stand out and be in a good mood. The last few times I was approached I wasn’t in any extraordinary place, just my regular route, but I was wearing something interesting/odd. I wasn’t thinking of it that way, but it gave men the opportunity to start a convo Some colors and styles work better on you, get more of those into your wardrobe. Don’t stand out too much or in a weird way, just subtly enough (through coloring…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:05 AM
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Right? All the things she outlined are not high value yet, it’s just basic decency
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:51 AM
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The heck, I’m a freaking ocean liner I’ll rock whatever I want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:09 PM
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A pattern of losing yourself in relationships sounds like it’s due to low self esteem or a weak sense of self. Getting on practice dates feels like a band-aid solution, treating the symptoms but not the cause... what’s stopping you from falling too quickly again if this guy puts on all the right moves? Don’t forget, filtering ruthlessly and cutting bad matches off is one of the key strategies of the sub. Every moment you spend being involved with bad matches, is a moment you’re not leveling up o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 04:03 PM
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Can the FBI be alerted of accounts like this? It makes me sad that there are straight up pedos running around like this without some sort of... supervision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:53 PM
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IMO you’re giving way too much thought for a man who hasn’t even asked you out yet He’s literally just a dude you talk to at the dog park, sis wake up And queens don’t have to strategize about getting a man to pursue her, how weak is that. A man either pursues her or don’t. I know it hurts to learn that sometimes a guy you like and ticks all the boxes, IS JUST NOT into you... but you gotta accept that and move on. Don’t waste your time and energy on men who don’t even like you enough to ask you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 07:44 AM
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BLAH a man who’s been breadcrumbing you isn’t and will never be your friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 12:16 PM
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Blocking is the best way. Not only does it baffle him, you also get to move on in peace (the most important aspect) Your unwillingness to block just tells us that a part of you still hangs on to some hope, that he’ll somehow realize the errors of his way and turn around and be your dream guy again. No sis. Kill all hope, mourn the loss, move on from the whole situation and level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 11:30 AM
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The right answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:44 AM
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I don’t use OLD but wonder if the Bumble way plays out in the long term for relationships. I’ve always supposed it attracts lazy passive men who are there to take advantage on not having to initiate and get flooded by first messages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:43 AM
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The right answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:37 AM
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In short, men and women are not equal (they are not the same physiologically) But they should have equal rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:42 AM
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it’s equivalent to “you no Virgin you have sex before with other men, so don’t play prude and give it to me nao” It’s RP misogynistic rhetoric that should never find its way here. But OP perhaps got unwittingly brainwashed by it so here we are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:50 PM
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The whole “they know we have jumped through hoops for other men before” eerily reminds me of the alpha widow rhetoric. Assuming women once broken forever broken etc Anyway, in my younger years I’ve taken up shit jobs for shit pay cos I was young and inexperienced. I am upgraded version of myself now. I expect higher starting pays at my new jobs cos upgrades, experience, age etc Employer: oh you’re not fooling anyone, I know you’ve worked shit temp jobs for peanuts before. What makes you think I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:30 PM
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Look you’re looking at it the wrong way I go on dates and sometimes the guy just goes “separate checks pls” at the server I don’t say a thing, I pay my bill, I finish up the date as usual But on my way home I block and delete the dude I don’t “get him to pay” or make myself look bad convincing that he should be paying for me, while he calls me gold digger or other names. None of that. I just swiftly and quietly remove him from my pool of suitors, no drama. All he will remember me by is that I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:17 PM
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Men aren’t giving you their hearts and bodies, most of them are just doing and saying things to get into your pants soonest possible. You filter and find the wheat from the chaff before you open your heart Men have been fighting themselves over the best women in history and in the oldest stories. What’s so mind bending about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:54 AM
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How old are you and how long have you been dating? Maybe you need to date more, deal with more men and you will realize that it IS battle.. they made it that way, not us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:39 AM
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Confident people filter ruthlessly and not worry about the ones that didn't make it. If they miss a genuinely good one, oh well, there's always another one. Yes I'm playing with scared money, cos my time and love are invaluable. That's the whole point of the sub, helping women protect themselves from men who want to play/hurt them. There is a time to be vulnerable and emotionally open: when you have thoroughly vetted the guy through observation and many high-effort dates and time spent together,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 04:43 PM
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Tbh I would take that risk ten times over than to get played by cheap, stingy, and low effort trash men Risk of getting played by clowns > risk of missing real connections Oh, men are also gr8 at faking “connection” with you so I think we should try to move beyond the “what if” mentality. It’s based on a scarcity mindset. Confident people just don’t think that way. They never really think about “what if” cos the next best thing is just around the corner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:47 PM
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I think you just have to take it at face value. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not interested or invested, maybe he’s just cautious when looking for relationships (green flag imo) However, what this means for you: Don’t prioritize him, don’t commit to him, he’s not your boyfriend. He’s just a friend (his words) And start focusing on attracting other men (the most important) From now on, let him come to you not just 100% but 120%. His date propositions has to have value to you (fun, high effort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:06 AM
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Girl you didn’t have to start talking to him again just because he called you rude You should have been like ya of course I’m rude to you, eat shit! And drop the mic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 06:10 AM
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Genuine emotional and physical connection is the easy part with the right person (think about your friendships... did you have to force it? Work for it? Apply strategies to get it?) This sub is about weeding out not only trash dates, but dates who are not compatible with you for whatever reason. A guy can have no red flags, be a complete hot gentleman who pays for your dates.. but have no chemistry with you. It’s a compatibility issue. There’s nothing you can do about it. Forming deep emotional …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:50 AM
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Second this. They say friends only, they might even be in steady relationships... things look ok for a while. But in the end they want to have sex with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:33 AM
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We are sisters in reactions lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 10:45 AM
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You don’t really have to compete with them, men lose interest in them in the long run. The situation takes care of itself, in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 08:24 AM
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They do. my most recent date noticed I changed my nail color 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 08:22 AM
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Girl if you don’t feel like a three course fancy meal now, still pretend that you are. Fake it till one day you make it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 08:08 AM
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They are pointing women to this sub. Women find this sub useful, finally a sub that actually helps women level up and date well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 07:43 AM
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cost isn’t just money. Time, effort, energy to get good at makeup is still cost.. You actually compared makeup and brushes to see if you can save money. That’s actually a whole lot of effort in fine tuning your makeup routine that’s unaccounted for in terms of money. You are using essence now, but you started out with Anastasia. You are accumulating makeup experience. Experience is resource Nails are a good example. I don’t have cash for regular visits to the nail salon, so I do it myself at hom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 03:44 AM
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yes I think you’re showing him way too much of our play book! Let them reveal themselves and get nexted none the wiser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 03:24 PM
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There’s a sub called feminine not feminist and the name itself is giving me cancer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:56 PM
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come on spill the tea! So which South African supermodel is actually from Ohio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:53 PM
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And the beautiful thing is that Beyoncé could take him or leave him. I like to imagine she gave him hell (in her own way) for what he did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 12:18 PM
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Exactly! And it’s about the same for women who don’t date online and rely on Day game. It costs so much more money for women to look hot than it is for men. There’s a literal industry. They want to go out with the hottest woman they can find but aren’t willing to pay for one meal or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 05:15 PM
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Don’t date for a while! Online dating is a cesspool and is already taxing to mentally fit people, how are you going to handle it when you are at a low place? I know at 31 there is a rush to find the one but sometimes life is not ideal. If it’s ruining you mentally now, you are in no place to find the right person, just take a step back and recover About being third wheel and the only single person in gatherings... girl don’t put yourself in such situations! Find new single friends who love life,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 02:03 PM
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Go into dating with the idea that most men will screw you over if they can get away with it. Apply the strategies from the sub so you can weed out the trash. Being woman your game is all about defense and filtering Only relax when you find someone amazing, and have confirmed it through time and effort. And yes, it will take a loooong while before you do The men who get so offended by this sub are the exact ones your filter will filter out - the “trash”. Good men know they are good and won’t be b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:50 PM
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Don’t date, stay single for a while to find your center. You don’t recover from a fuckboy only to find more fuckboys. Level up first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:45 PM
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Ya I didn’t want to be mean.. but can count on you guys for truth bombs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 06:00 PM
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👌 So you had a “good relationship” with this guy. Throughout the course of the relationship, have you ever wondered why he never asked you out himself? And it took YOU to get it going? This is what happens when the woman makes the first move. She deprives herself of that first indicator of his real level of interest in her (the real level- not what he says or what she tells herself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 05:50 AM
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Girl way too many words on your part. Simple comeback and a swift block would’ve sufficed You don’t have to explain yourself to men, they won’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 11:54 AM
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I think you can take what you need from his advice and leave what you don’t like. For example in MDLWLY he advocates approaching a guy, and talking for hours on the phone pre-first date. Or kissing a guy first so you get it out of the way. I I don’t think that’s good But the rest of the book are filled with good and concrete advice on what to do on dates and in between dates. Don’t think I’ve seen any other dating guide book that breaks down every single interaction in a date. A lot of his advic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 06:34 AM
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IMO moisturizing and sunscreen is a non negotiable must. Even if not for beauty, do it to prevent skin cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 06:23 AM
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One time I met a guy on the subway and he asked me if I was open minded. I said... yes? Turned out it meant to him that I would be okay with kissing him after just ten minutes of chatting lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 03:00 AM
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Nah we give the only good advice in all of Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 08:20 PM
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“Be hot and be around him” is my lazy way of saying “flirt with him” 🙄 For someone that my advice was not intended for, you’re taking it way too seriously and way too literally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 07:47 PM
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No one’s being mad lol we have other men to attract 🙄 these men be thinking we lose sleep over men who don’t even like us enough to notice or ask us out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 07:18 PM
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Not enough. You can find other big penises that respect you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 04:27 PM
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It’s like, if they do end up dating each other for a while, or god forbid end up getting married, do they want to the memory of “low investment first date” taint their history? “Babe I know we are getting married now but remember when I was soooo skeptical about you I didn’t want to take you to dinner. Lol”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 10:11 AM
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Be hot and be around him. If he doesn’t make a move despite you being your hot sexy self, he doesn’t like you enough. You pick yourself up and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 09:01 AM
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Right?! I’m so glad people are coming here for advice and actually getting the real deal! No BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 04:48 PM
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Metaphorical lol. I actually drop my keys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/19 05:59 PM
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Be wearing statement something so he can comment on it. Drop your handkerchief or something so he can pick it up for you. If he doesn’t bite or not pursue the opening you are offering, move on.. you can manifest another one of your type but this time, add another clause: that he comes after you lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/19 04:27 PM
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Girl bail. You caught him two timing, you gave him all the opening to make a big romantic gesture to save your situationship, but all he could do was tell you he feels inconvenienced. Cut your losses, go Don’t even hold on to any hope about “few years later with grand gesture” And no, even if he matured up, even if you guys met at a different point in life, it would not be different. Guys who like you don’t treat you the way he did It hurts but cut him off like he was cancer and take all the tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 06:16 PM
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When I won’t put out: “You think so much / I wish you would just turn your brain off and follow your feelings” “Why won’t you just stop thinking and see where it goes” sounds good and wholesome but in the context it basically is just euphemism for.. You know what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 05:31 AM
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Used to be all positive and friendly and warm with stranger men chatting me up in public, you know, in the spirit of “having honest and open human encounters” and “letting them relax”, And then next thing you know he tries to get a kiss from you, just after ten minutes of meeting and talking with you wtf Or feels up your leg Or ask you weird shit like are you wearing safety pants under that skirt Or straight up follows you wtf ^ True stories I now carry a pepper spray with me, I used to not. Do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 05:24 AM
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Mood..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 05:57 PM
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If I’m not watching my ex in the time I’m choosing to remain single after a breakup, then I won’t be watching him move on In fact I won’t be watching him do shit at all I think while the advice is well meaning, dating just for the sake of dating after a devastating breakup might be counterproductive. There is value in staying alone for a while to work through your feelings and clear your mind before going out to date again. Don’t want to keep repeating bad dating patterns just to beat your ex in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 05:54 PM
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Remember I was 27 (WALL!!!) and almost went on a date with someone until I found out he was 43 (he looked like it, which was why I pressed for an honest answer, dude was applying all sorts of deflection techniques trying to avoid telling me his age) And I was kinda desperate for a date cos I was coping with a breakup BUT STILL i turned him down, not that desperate Dudes are deluding themselves thinking twenty somethings want to be seen going out with 40+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 02:36 PM
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Can we do something like the RP agree and amplify technique? “No I’ve had no boyfriends or hookups before, I’ve remained a Virgin all these years waiting for someone like you to come along” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 01:44 PM
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Girl I’m kinda where you at now, I’m not in a place to be in relationship as I might leave the country at a moments notice, so casual dating and maybe maybe possibly FWB is what I’m gaming for atm My plan: just go about daily routine and hangouts looking my best to attract men, post pretty photos on social media to attract those already in my circle And get dates from there I think the dating for relationship strategies still apply for FWB: look for someone who respects you, cares for you, and w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 08:44 PM
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Right? I don’t agree with all the advice or strategies posted here (about 90%) but it’s just sooo nice to have a sub that’s for women and by women only. A safe space on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 08:23 PM
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“What would Queen Elizabeth (or insert other literal queen who inherited the throne by birth not through marriage) do?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 07:40 AM
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I think OP addresses this under the “never shying away from the truth” part. Basically owning your shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 07:38 AM
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Imagine you are Queen Elizabeth and one fine afternoon you decide to go out in plain clothes. Some clown throws you this question. You smile and move on Cos queens don’t deal with this crap Meanwhile this fool was just graced with the presence of a queen and didn’t even know it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 07:25 AM
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Right? Do they expect us to stay prim virgins, twiddling our thumbs all those years, until we finally got lucky enough to meet them.. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 09:12 PM
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I found it! (If it is inappropriate to post the link here please remove) https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/defw7n/i_grew_some_balls_and_asked_a_guy_at_the_gym_for/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I think a biggest issue with the OP is that the guy gave her a wrong number, but OP somehow spun it to sound like it was a genuine mistake on his part. It’s a story of how a woman made the first move but got rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 03:00 PM
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Anyone has a link to the post in question (about someone who feels like a queen cos she asked a guy out)? I saw it while it was fresh but didn’t get the chance to follow the discussion. Has it been removed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 12:05 PM
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Trust me these men know where the Virgin brides are. They don’t really want to find them, they are just finding ways to whine about how degenerate women are.. like going to Antarctica to look for lions, and complaining that there aren’t lions in the world anymore!! Must feel good to jerk themselves that way I rather they stick to their own kind on Tinder and clubs, no need to go educating them about where to find Virgin brides.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 08:42 PM
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“I found my captain” a-okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 05:55 PM
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My god it’s still a man’s world in every possible way, women get this tiny basic thing called right to vote and are only starting to do things that they weren’t allowed to cos it’s always been a man’s world Aaaand he’s already whining “double standard”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 12:59 PM
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My god gtfo of this sub I hope the mods wake up soon. But I’ll bite. Feminism exists cos women had no benefits at all. On being drafted for war: man start war with man. Man fight. Okay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 11:29 AM
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“True feminists love and own the word slut. Level up generic handle” Sorry just trying to imagine how this idiot would have said it. The manipulation here is so strong I’m getting a headache. I hope you don’t have to talk to him anymore 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 11:21 AM
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“Not all men” okay so most men then, the men we have to deal with by just being women. This is how we deal with it. Okay man with standards, why don’t you go back to the den that you came from and educate your kind so we don’t have to apply ruthless filters like this? You think we like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:39 AM
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Men don’t filter, men fuck everything :) and they try fuck the most women in the cheapest possible way You MGTOW, why don’t you just actually go your own way instead of barging into conversations where you are not welcomed?? “What if we men are actually filtering you out too” come on are you fucking kidding me? The whole TRP and MGTOW subs are all about spinning the most plates the cheapest way possible, what filter? You ain’t filtering shit, you just CANT fuck women who require money on dates c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:05 AM
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You are right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 07:06 PM
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just wanna comment on the need to return favors: I used to think that way too. But after developing self esteem through therapy and inner work, I’ve become slowly accustomed to the fact that maybe I can graciously accept gifts and treatment without always having to reciprocate, that I deserve this, and can enjoy this without the burden of repaying? You deserve to receive gifts. You are worth it. There is a time to reciprocate, but for now, enjoy being treated well by this person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 05:34 PM
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fair enough! But the sub description says “women who know what they want” so I thought it would be inclusive for all women, even those who aren’t subscribed to the LTR/marriage agenda, and yes, those who for whatever reason, want an STR/FWB. If it’s only for women interested in getting/maintaining LTR/Marriage then the sub description should be changed to reflect that. At least the RPW sub makes that stance of theirs clear. I do like this sub for how empowering it is, but if the point of all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 06:55 PM
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Filtering the stingy cheapskates out, was the whole point! The whole purpose of a filter to is cut most men out, not to let a big bunch of them thru... Also screening them to pay for the first few dates does not mean “pay for everything” for ever and ever. As the relationship/courtship deepens there comes a time for women to reciprocate, take him out, buy gifts... but not on the first few dates when all the stakes are hers to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 06:10 PM
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Pray tell!!,This sub is about women knowing what they want in their dating lives and taking control of it, if FWB is what somebody wants, why not? (Genuinely wondering why cos aren’t we all here to learn and discuss, gotta chill with the downvoting girls..)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 02:49 PM
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If going out by yourself = going out on a date, why do you even bother going out on the date? You prefer paying for yourself on a date, so you can convince yourself it’s not a date? I’ve seen so many arguments for this side of the debate, but this is a first..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 01:12 PM
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Ya but some want to set a higher standard... Women shouldn’t really concern themselves about letting every guy pass their filter, it’s the man’s job to qualify as himself as a suitor. (Not loaded? Easily solvable by thinking up some fun date ideas that are low cost or free even. It’s his problem to solve as the suitor / person who asked for the date.) I do end up paying 50/50 sometimes, but there would be no second dates or instant friendzone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 12:36 PM
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No. It just makes it cheaper for them to date you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/19 10:49 AM
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This is awesome! I too had a phase like you where I was the doting, sweet girlfriend. I was browsing the RPW sub and doing all the cooking, cleaning, no nagging and pick me routine. Guess what, it doesn’t work, dude slow faded me and went back to another pick me ex who could bend over backwards further and longer than me 😂(nope they never actually officially got together..) So glad I picked up the Sherry Argov books and Men Don’t Love Women Like You! Therapy also helped. It was a long process, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 09:49 AM
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What does cutting off mean? Blocking? Unfriend on Facebook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/19 05:22 PM
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If he actually initiated and expressed interest in you, then yes you can consider dating him. But to actually make the first move as a woman (high risk move, high chances of being played), nah don’t do that for a waiter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/19 09:09 PM
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<q>Don't bother with a man who is a waiter for a living.</q> the only part that matters imo, aim higher girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/19 03:01 PM
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Idk man if my life is bigger than “snapping up a man” I wouldn’t really worry about how many good men or bad men there are out there It’s just such a fear-based life The sub is just teaching women how to filter men who somehow are in their life
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 04:24 AM
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Hahahaha literally one of my douche exes was telling me how he would rather have a son than a daughter, cos he knew exactly how skeevy boys can be with girls.. he would be worrying about his daughter all day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 03:27 AM
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The whole sub is about reframing that scarcity mentality. Women can live life for themselves, be the center of their own universe. Good men or no good men, still fabulous, still have a bright future. We are no longer in the sixties. Women snapping up good men? Scarcity mentality. Abundance mentality: wow life is great, being a woman is great! It’s raining men (good and bad, mostly bad, even married ones still try) so filter filter filter
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 03:20 AM
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That’s a universal female problem, girl. Even the best of them over at the red pill women sub also discuss this to pieces
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 06:47 PM
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Idk I think their advice is more geared towards women who have no trouble attracting men by just going about their daily routine... also actively searching for men sounds kinda desperate, that sub talks about being fabulous and your best self even when single :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 06:33 PM
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Filtering, nexting ruthlessly is what the sub advocates as the best strategy. Actively chasing after men isn’t exactly a good strategy for women in general (according to the sub at least)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 06:13 PM
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So glad that people are catching on don’t love women like you! That book and why Men Marry Bitches are bible-like to me. They changed my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/19 04:25 AM
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I am 29 and just that day I was jokingly describing myself as old to a 25 year old girl. She didn’t deflect my joke so I guess it was true to her. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 01:10 AM
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just curious, what use can a low value man with a history of not valuing me, have for me in the future? In what circumstances?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 01:07 AM
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Not directly responding to the topic, but I find having a “best trait” in general is kinda lame cos it is kinda like virtue signalling... your best trait probably changes depending on who you are talking to, and let’s be honest, you are also probably overblowing that trait of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 07:33 PM
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Yeah thanks for reminding me I gotta change that flair, i changed my views of course, that sub makes me cringe these days
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 07:24 AM
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Okay if awkward college students are some kind of people’s hot... Reality is most of 20-year olds I see are still in “workshop” form: braces, baby fat hasn’t melted off yet, wearing cute but not sexy clothes, while figuring out grooming and fitness methods best suited for them. I look at them and I won’t think of that as their peak. I think, they are great and youthful now, but they are just going to get sexier and hotter here on after.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 05:02 AM
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even so, nahhhh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 05:15 PM
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Fellow late bloomer in life! God forbid my peak was 20. Was into skinny androgynous pop stars, wearing weird clothes, weird hair, talked and moved funny due to low confidence, and never had sex. Those who choose 20 yo me over current me for sex... because it was my “peak”.. jokes on them bahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 02:00 PM
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Chiming in as a late 20s year old. What they say about women peaking at 20: absolute trash. At twenty you are still figuring out the actual important adult things in life: ambitions, interests, personality and your sexuality. What I thought I was sure about at 20, turned out to be just the beginning of long journey of discovery and fine tuning. It’s just going to get better and better the longer you inhabit this skin of yours. Sure you no longer have the stamina you had at 20 (for things like al…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 01:37 PM
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there's a meme that i saw once that stuck to me: "20 things that you should stop wearing once you turn 30 / become a mom" 1-20: the weight of other people's expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 10:07 AM
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I don’t know why you’re getting downvotes, this is true and effective
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 01:02 PM
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I cooked great meals for my exboyfriends and they still dumped me. :(
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 06:45 AM
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what a luminous post! I wish to see more posts like this in the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 12:06 PM
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I really admire your optimism! A lot of posters in this sub tend to take the pessimistic route (“how to handle being alpha-widowed” “oh no I am post wall and broken”), and it is just sad. (Something is wrong about this sub if people come here and go out with the impression that they are less! That’s not supposed to be!) Always remember that you are a work in progress. It sucks that you have made mistakes / wrong choices but the good thing about being human is that you have agency! You can change…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 05:36 AM
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Do what gives you joy,“basic” or not. I think it’s a term made up by some hipster snobs to bully other people who they think aren’t as “cool” as them. It’s also pointedly sexist - think “basic bitches.” I’m baffled why this topic even has to be discussed - hobbies are something you naturally pursue out of joy and interest, not something you “pick up” to seem one way or another. I realize when you force a hobby on yourself, uour whole investment and attitude about said hobby will seem artificial,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 12:52 PM
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Regardless of what is normal or not, do you want to see other people, do you want him to see other people? You are non-exclusive because he wants it this way. What about you? You probably are way more committed to the relationship than he is, since you are asking for advice to look the most “wifey” to him. Meanwhile he is happy to be non-monogamous - aka meeting more potential wifeys.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 12:23 PM
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I don’t at all, have never liked the taste. The idea of mixing in other drinks to mask the taste of hard liquor (in cocktails etc) is ludicrous to me; why mask the actual taste of that liquor you are paying so much for? I don’t buy the notion of “drinking socially” or “drinking to relax” as well; I socialize and relax well enough with non-alcoholic, tastier beverages.. I would not judge anyone for drinking, but when I find someone who doesn’t, it does make me warm up to them extra quickly :) The…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 11:50 AM
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I... would talk to him again about the relationship, and dump him if necessary. But that’s just me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 11:21 AM
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... is everyone just going to gloss over the fact that OP is in a non-exclusive situationship, aka being a plate to this guy? OP clearly wants more in the relationship, he can't/won't give to her; her staying in this relationship already tells him that she is his doormat, as hard as it is for the OP to recognize and admit. If you were the guy; would you seriously care about your doormat's opinion? OP is talking about a specific situation regarding the guy's writing; however, if he already can't …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 06:07 AM
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To care! :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 09:59 AM
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I have been thinking a lot about nails lately because it is my new hobby.. I derive great pleasure from painting my nails every few days, and maintaining them. Polish is also surprisingly easy and cheap to collect - so many brands, so many colours! I truly think guys do not give a sh*t what your nails are, as long as they are not OTT ugly, unkempt. Even so, it barely affects your attractiveness to them. I think nails is just a way for your to entertain yourself, an act of self-love - in the end,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 08:55 AM
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She has every right to be upset.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 08:13 AM
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Good for you! Also I think there’s nothing wrong in being demanding in a relationship, as long as you are being reasonable and respectful about it. We as women have our own relationship needs, and it is our job to assert it, cos no one will do it for you. I think you can try to embrace your emotions a little bit more (sometimes they aren’t pretty - jealousy, anger, hurt) and express them to the guy you are in a relationship with. Do not reject your emotions. These little acts of rejection and su…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 08:07 AM
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went to and graduated from a women's college, it is NOT a RPW environment. I was surrounded by man-hating SJWs, lesbians, by ball-busting career climbers. However, think about WHY you are going to college and what you hope to achieve in those years. I loved learning and growing my mind in a women's-only environment. I wasn't going to school to "snag a husband"; I was going to college to learn, to build confidence, to explore my potential and to snag the best opportunities in my intended field. F…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/18 08:32 AM
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I do follow Matthew Hussey and Evan Marc Katz. I honestly think all of this dating coach advice and strategies are more or less the same in their essence, what they differ in is in their delivery and brand. For instance Matthew Hussey is more of a kid-gloves, feel-good coach (his good looks and the cheesy music of his video play into that), and Evan Marc Katz is a kind of a straight shooter. I also want to recommend Elliott Scott on YouTube. His videos are straight to the point and he is hilario…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 05:37 AM
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The Body Coach Joe Wicks ! He is famous for his Lean in 15 recipes which are easy and quick to make! (Healthy too)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 07:15 AM
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Dating many men does not equal to having sex with many men! I've read somewhere that Harry Styles broke up with her because she wouldn't put out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 10:19 AM
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HEALTH AND APPEARANCE develop a new, better skincare regimen, and stick to it (with the help of my best friend who's kinda a expert on this) gradually transition my style from cute to sexy regain abs wear heels more often paint nails more often learn how to use a curling wand learn how to do basic eye makeup The theme here is simply: Be Hotter :) MIND & RELATIONSHIPS reduce waste cook more, bake more start reading about the world again (just signed up for a current affairs magazine subscription)…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 02:31 PM
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INFJ here! They say it's the rarest type, but most of my best friends IRL are INFJs, and apparently it's also the type that's most abundant on Tumblr! Either the statistics are no longer true, or that INFJs gravitate towards each other... I would suppose, this being reddit and all, most of us here would be an I :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 11:12 AM
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I really recommend the blog Black Girls Are Easy (I know the title is weird), and the e-books authored by the blog writer such as "Men Don't Love Women Like You". His writing is more targeted towards the black community, however you can bet they he doesn't handle you with kid-gloves... (his latest blog posts are on the psychology behind cheating, how to deal with past traumas - in light of #metoo) His core teachings are wrapped up under this idea of being a "Spartan" - a woman with strong bounda…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 09:32 AM
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My style is variety :) One of the things I'm most proud of in my life is the variety of styles that can come out of my wardrobe! I rotate between sporty, OL, romantic goth, retro depending on the occasion and my mood. How I built my wardrobe: by mainly going shopping for clothes that are bargains, on sale, or cheap. By doing so, I go out of my "style" comfort zone and force myself to exercise creativity in outfit-matching and making them work! I see it as taking fashion risks - sometimes they pa…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/17 06:48 PM
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I have both Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches. I love them! They were super helpful to me when I was going through my last breakup, and also now as I go back into the dating scene. The "Bitch" in the books is basically just a girl who has her shit together and acts from a place of confidence in dating and relationships. She's contrasted against the "Nice Girl" who bends over backwards and has no backbone. I was the "Nice Girl" in my last three relationships. I picked up these books …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 02:06 PM
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In a trusty and loving relationship: Sexy clothed photos, with purpose of showing off body or clothes (lingerie etc): yes Phone sex: yes for LDR Nudes: nope never, sorry luv Guy you're just casually dating / he is spinning other plates: No sir you get nothing sexy from me unless you make the time and effort to see me person lol
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 07:49 PM
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good, straight-to-the-point advice, that OP doesn't seem to appreciate (fair, she's in the bargaining phase of the breakup now)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 07:07 PM
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sometimes there are the solutions to complicated problems are really just that simple. vet vet vet... and don't meet guys on tinder anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 07:02 PM
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how did you respond?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 06:58 PM
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hm, maybe you can wait for her to do one of her annoying things again, and when it happens, just genuinely express your feelings and tell her that you really can't do this anymore? (don't accuse her or anything, but express your feelings: i'm annoyed, i'm hurt, i feel bad to be hearing all of this from you) that way, it doesn't have to necessarily devolve into a confrontation, unless she ends up being defensive/combative about it. then it can go two ways: either she learns from her mistakes and …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 02:03 PM
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Omg!! That's actually quite inspirational. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 05:45 PM
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Lol
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 02:23 PM
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I agree! It's not even divorce I want to avoid. Breakups take a huge toll on your emotional well being and I definitely do not want to go thru that again unless it's someone I have a real fighting chance with..
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 02:23 PM
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would gladly offer to hold his hand LOL thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:51 AM
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i think i will do this! thanks! i definitely do not want to come off as the customer who flirts with EVERY barista..
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:50 AM
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thank you for the very actionable advice! i also appreciate that you really consider things from his perspective. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:48 AM
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thank you. it's definitely more natural and organic that way. i guess i was just afraid of being forever stuck at the "regular" status and nobody ever makes a move on me and i'll be forever single, alone, etc. so i was in kind of a panic to "figure out what to do to move things along" or i could just learn to be more secure with myself first. people who want to ask me out on a date, barista or not, will find a way to do it. thanks for the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:44 AM
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woah. i understand :) thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:41 AM
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damn this is cold lol.. thanks this is some next-level perspective! i do want to get married and start a family, and i am looking for someone with the same goals too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:40 AM
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i have never really noticed him until the umbrella episode. i will need to see him again to decide! well, someone stole my umbrella, it was ugly but had some sentimental value. i think it's fair :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:37 AM
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me too! it's just dinner, you have to ask me? it's not his fault, maybe he's being nice, but at some primal level, i get so turned off...
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:19 AM
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thanks for the idea. i do realize that it might be against work ettiquette to ask for a customer's number while in uniform. that's why i'm wondering if i should make the first move instead. but slipping him a note casually would work. if he doesn't reach out ever, do i pretend it didn't happen?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:07 AM
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oh man this. thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:05 AM
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thanks! so do coffee shops have rules regarding their baristas engaging with customers for dates and flirting?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:04 AM
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thanks! no it wasn't normal customer service interaction. don't think i'm that off in gauging a barista's attention towards me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:01 AM
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I get irrevocably turned off..
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 05:04 PM
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If we have not been having sex (cos he's having it with the other girl), is that still true? Plate = sex, friendzone = no sex. yes? Haha actually it doesn't matter anyway..
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:39 AM
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it depends on why you broke up. if you think things have changed since then and it's worth trying again, you can reach out and see what happens. at least you will get some closure (you mentioned it wasn't clean). but KNOW when to walk away and move on. (very important.. if you don't this have feeling of certainty and discernment down yet, better work on that first..) but if you think you broke up for a good reason and it's simply the best way, then just work on yourself and hobbies and life, and…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:21 AM
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Thank you! Right now I'm taking some time to mull things over but I think we do have to meet at least one more time to get things off our chests (he seems super surprised about my hurt.. smh) I'm fully ready to walk away though!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 02:14 AM
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Thank you so much for the timeline! Really helpful! I did let him initiate all dates for the two months (total of 17 dates, about twice a week) and only turning down a couple times due to scheduling... but it seems like the chase is more than just letting him initiate. It's more of a mindset kinda thing? I really was just going with his flow in that two months of dating, wasn't thinking too much because I liked him so much .. Compared to yours, it does seem we moved a little too fast. Oddly I do…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 02:09 AM
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Thank you... yes I was sad when he pulled away, but played it so cool, I guess I do have some major hang ups about seeming clingy in the slightest.. (an ex who spoke non native English once joked that I sounded "cute but desperate" when I said I was gonna miss him when he was going away on a trip... never again I dared to repeat "I miss you" to a guy, so silly)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 01:58 AM
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thank you, i think you are right. he genuinely thought he wanted a relationship and all the good, steady things that come with it, but he actually didn't. :) i do feel a lil sorry for him now. oh well.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 03:19 PM
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