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DISCUSSIONspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:01 AM
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DISCUSSIONspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:35 AM
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LEVEL UPspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:59 AM
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DISCUSSIONspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:39 AM
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TRIGGER WARNINGspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:11 PM
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space_cataz__/r/askFDS27/02/21 09:17 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:33 AM
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DISCUSSIONspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:53 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:48 PM
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DISCUSSIONspace_cataz__/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:05 AM
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awareness about reciprocity. I just don't have time for people without this anymore. It's exhausting. I'll be vetting for this in dating and friendships with women as well. Basically, if they're not as awesome as me... they can go on. Men and women included. I know that sounds like I think too highly of myself, but I have spent far too much of my life letting trash people in. It caused me worry, annoyance, and sucked the energy out of me... and I'm done with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:12 PM
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This right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 03:58 PM
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past a certain time investment, you can't progress in the way that is appropriate for your age Omg I have been trying to put this feeling into words for so long and you just nailed it for me!! They don't progress in their careers and they also don't progress in adult behavior. These guys are usually so childish and immature and they speak crudely and crassly... and they just don't understand why they don't fit into society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:20 PM
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Ya it totally is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:31 PM
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very glad I found FDS. This. I'm just so glad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 12:11 AM
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Thank you. With almost anything sex related men use all of this language as degrading and an insult. But somehow miraculously when they want it from us it's meant to be some kind of fucking compliment? I just don't trust men anymore even if they may have good intentions. I just can't stand their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:07 AM
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I thank you for your well thought out reply. I hope to meet someone someday who can make me feel this way. Who can make me feel like I actually want to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:37 AM
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LOL. I imagine a business institution actually saying this to women in response to their questions. Oh wait...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:09 AM
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Agreed. Comedians with their "edgy" jokes at the expense of others need to be taught to shut their mouths. Men don't understand cOmMuNiCatIoN.. only violence. It's on men's sorry asses to teach other pathetic men how they should be speaking about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:21 AM
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Only LVM make you start pre-planning for shitty scenarios and their childish reactions. Ohhh this made it make sense in my head. And if I think back to when I was being mistreated at work I never whined or complained about every little scenario to a boyfriend. I just knew it was happening and immediately started looking for another job. I would get the new job, I never got fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:22 AM
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He probably did it on purpose. Just sayin'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:01 AM
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Omg right. He'll probably be dead before the kid is 20. But thinking about all the other points you made actually makes me sad for the kiddo. They really don't think of anything besides their dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:48 AM
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Threw up in my mouth a little there... 🤮🤮🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:45 AM
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When I discovered my ex was friending a couple on FetLife, looking for someone to fuck the wife. He cancelled on me the night they were looking for a "visitor" to come over as well. The best thing he could come up with before I kicked him out of my house... "It's just a social media site."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:08 AM
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They really are so oblivious. No clue how to be classy. What is it with LVM and talking about bathroom habits though? Seriously, they ALL seem to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:48 PM
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I hope that in therapy you can learn to trust your perception again. You are awesome. Awww thank you. I really needed to hear that this morning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:24 PM
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implying that he was never sorry and he knew what he was doing. Ugh. We really can't ever give them the benefit of the doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:23 PM
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Oh God that is sickening. I'm actually not gonna click on the link right now. I need to look at some things that will make me feel good 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:21 PM
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Oh I dropped him before Christmas. Thanks for this well thought out response. You are SO right that a portion of it was my own self-esteem. I wish I would have gotten angry instead, and done the hot potato! Hopefully, it will never happen again; but if it does, I'll be armed with a much better response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:19 PM
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you are responsible for the way you are feeling Oh God, he used this line too. The more I read through the responses here, they happier I am that I broke it off. I did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:13 PM
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Don’t turn it around on me Ohh that reminds me he's used this line too. Now that I'm sitting down and thinking about it, it's amazing all of the shitty things he'd said throughout the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:11 PM
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You don’t need a reason to say “no” to sex with your partner The really sad part is that I didn't even think about this part of the story. Thanks so much for the kind words, and the teachable moment. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:58 AM
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God he was so immature. Thanks for your insight. They really do just say whatever pops into their head and want to take no responsibility for it!!!!!! Yet when they think about taking me for a date, it should be just the thought that counts right? Not the lack of action. Lmao. Also, I want Oreos now 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:52 AM
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Also, why would men think we want to fuck them on the same night they make us cry? What is wrong with them? Oh wait.. let me guess <<<< porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:37 AM
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Ya know, I think I'll get back to my gym tomorrow after work. It's only an hour workout, so I can come back to my blanket fort if I need it haha! Thanks so much for the kind words 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:28 AM
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I'm glad it helped. It's been easy for me to get down on myself lately too. But with each other's support we will stay strong! Good for you girl, you did the right thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:26 AM
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Oh now I'm starting to wonder if I was being manipulated with his constant reminders that he was on the spectrum and couldn't read social cues. Because now that I think back; he would notice if I was in a bad mood, and ask me what's up because I was acting different. So like, it looks like he actually could read social cues... ​ Edit: Because I spelled cues wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:09 AM
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It's especially terrifying that he went into Law Enforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:02 AM
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OH MY GOD. He was Autistic. Disclaimer: No hate towards autism. But let's face it; Autistic women deal with being neurodivergent much better than men do. If they can't read the room, women don't just go around saying whatever dumb shit pops into their head and end up hurting people's feelings all the time. Men do. So he was socially inept, and could NOT read the room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:01 AM
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Ya my ex used it to try and TEACH ME how I was feeling. I could tell him I need some time to sort out why I'm feeling a certain way and what's bothering me. He would proceed to work through why I'm feeling that way and what probably caused it. Not listening to me at all. Just trying to actually explain to me what I'm feeling and why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 08:01 PM
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spunk-nozzle I am dying 😂😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:22 PM
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I'm looking for a man who's already a fully functioning adult I feel like this right here, is why I'll be single forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:26 AM
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I am strongly against women seeing each other as competition, that benefits men not us I've recently been challenging any men in my extended friend circle who try to say this "women don't even like each other" bullshit. I jut speak up so EVERYONE can hear that I have great friendships with the women in my life and they are there for me. Letting them know this is a male construct, a male idea, for male benefit. I hope we all can make this the "standard" in society in my lifetime!! Wishful thinkin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:02 AM
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I don't wanna be a downer but, the “don’t know yet” guys are still around in their 40s in my experience. The worst part is there are a LOT of them. ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:26 AM
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OMG. I'm not kidding I'm saving this. I'm gonna use it on prospective dates and ask them "Can you tell me what's wrong with this picture?" It'll weed 'em out 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:04 AM
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The cynic in me immediately thought "Ya, but this is probably all he does, and then he probably wants a gold star and applause for it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:35 PM
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Omg I was thinking about this in the shower this morning haha. My exact though was "men seem to have this idea that just because they thought about something, they think that means they magically actually said or did the thing." Why do they do this.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:16 PM
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The first sign of emotional constipation, my vagina dries up and I'm out the door. 🤣🤣🤣 👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:38 PM
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By the end, he was angry about everything, which was crazy as I brought everything to the relationship and made his life so much better while he brought nothing. They really do know how pathetic they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:34 PM
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I also started to understand that when they say you want to control me or take my freedom, it's actually projection because they want to control your thoughts so that you never object... Ohhhh. Today I learned. Thank you sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:27 PM
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Anger: While he never had angry outbursts, he eventually told me that when I told him about a behavior of his I found hurtful, his reaction was one of anger as if I was 'controlling' and 'threatening his freedom'. He never acted on it and worked through it aware that it was a trigger of his, and not actually my fault, but the instinctive reaction was the same nonetheless. Why do they all think we're trying to take a way their freedom? Like, no scrote, you're doing things that are actually hurtin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:26 PM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:50 PM
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These dudes never return the favor either. Always some excuse for why they don't eat pussy. But I should consider it a gift from GOD to have your small, stinky, unwashed dick in my mouth? Groooossss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:47 PM
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Needed that today, thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:13 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:08 AM
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That is weird and unsafe as fuck. This sooo much. I just can't do it. Meeting people online you chat with for 5 seconds is just so very weird and awkward as shit, it's gross to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:39 PM
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What would you like to see more of Women in movies/tv supporting each other rather than being at odds in some way. Media really perpetuates the idea that "women hate each other."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:36 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:51 PM
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I happen to be one who is enjoying the pics! But gosh I really hope there's more to your story of why you got a pick-me tag. Because if that's actually the only reason, that gives me a really bad vibe. That wouldn't put us very far above the men. I hope in FDS we can understand that we don't all have to like the same thing, or even agree, and for our own damn reasons. Wish you the best sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:44 AM
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Is there a way to block them from posting? They just run around to different subs posting their shitty YouTube channel full of documentaries other people made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:18 PM
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Holy crap, thank you for this! Installing one now and testing it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:54 AM
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They are totally listening. But set a PIN and fingerprint (if you have fingerprint) on it. Set your notifications (especially texts and emails) to NOT pop up on a locked screen. Also set your screen to time out quickly, like 15 seconds and try to get int he habit of locking it every time you put it down. Then no one can be a snooping asshole when you walk away from it. Same for laptops and desktops. Put passwords on them, get in the habit of locking the screen when you walk away, and set a short…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:44 AM
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Id like to recommend watching it on PBS Frontline's channel (the people who actually made the documentary). This account seems to just be stealing people's work and posting it on their own channel, trying to get views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:30 PM
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Like boy, you jerk off to dirty feet 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:55 PM
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Looking at post history this account is just trying to get views for their YouTube channel Edit to add: I subscribe to PBS Frontline and this is LITERALLY one of those documentaries being stolen and posted as their own on this YouTube channel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:50 PM
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What is up with this channel? It has 1 subscriber and when I try to save it to a playlist it says I cannot because the content is made for kids? How is this content marked for children on YouTube?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:48 PM
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I'm of the opinion that he is happy with himself, perfectly content, and has moved on. Because he has no empathy and only thinks about himself. However, he's also treating the next woman like shit; We should stop worrying about whether he's changed himself and become a better man for the next woman. Hopefully FDS will help us all to never be one of his victims ever again in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:31 PM
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This was exactly my thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:44 PM
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Such good inspiration to start off my Friday night! I'm happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:54 PM
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I agree with not explaining. He might be "locking down" the next woman while he can still fake it. Soon as he has his bangmaid locked in, could go right back to his shitty ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:32 PM
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Oh I've dated one of those. Always sharing insecurities about how he feels inferior to someone else because a skill or job they have, and how he should go for x job because he went to school for it. But did he go home and work on the resume, or the portfolio, or research ways to get a foot into the industry? Nope, just gamed, all night and on the days off. Glad FDS is teaching me not to love potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:00 AM
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Question regarding non-monogamy for you. I believe women are capable of having actual caring relationships with more than one person. But men need to be coached how to please any woman, they're mostly just absolute shit and terrible partners. Do you entertain consider non-monogamous men? Do you believe any of them can actually form a relationship with more than one woman? I think they just use it as an excuse for more sex but like to throw out the "I need a connection" bullshit to cover that up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:59 PM
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I used to work for a household name huge tech company. Full of those high IQ low EQ guys. They would talk alllllll fucking day about how to do the work or why their way of doing said work was better; they would never actually fucking DO the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:48 PM
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Right! If they're ugly they're sO sMaRt, if they're not smart they're sO hAndSomE, if they're neither they're nIcE gUyS and we should give them a chance. If they're broke then they are nice guys who would give us the shirt off their back. I don't want no damn shirt! Yet they expect us to be smart (but don't speak your mind woman!), presentable (but not too much makeup), fit (but not too muscular OR too skinny) have our own income, keep our bodies hairless (but don't ask them to groom too much), …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:41 PM
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I used to think they just couldn't figure out that their "jokes" aren't funny. Then I realized they are just saying what they really think; then calling it a joke to avoid repercussions. They don't even have the guts to own up to the fact that they mean all of the things they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:20 PM
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How is it that men can't evolve? These types will literally sit around and state their shortcomings. Like, you KNOW what's wrong with you, go work on your damn self. But instead it's on women for not giving them a ChaNcE and JudGinG a BoOk bY itS cOveR. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:56 PM
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Uhg it's such a shame that I feel like I can't go to those places either. I live in a fairly large well known American city, where everyone is so "progressive." You'd think women gaming would be normal and accepted here. But as you said the places are full of socially inept losers. So even if they aren't speaking, they are all just staring at me the whole time. It is so uncomfortable and unwelcoming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:50 PM
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Right! My first thought was "what are they going to be calling me at their next session?" I thought about the 2 good men I know in my life (sad it's only 2 right), and realized neither of those men would ever speak of me (or other women) that way to another group of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:47 PM
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Same! I had no standards and thought "nice to me" was a catch haah. The unatractive, nerdy, gaming scrote also took me for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:08 PM
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Even his mother said so. Bahahahaha 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:49 AM
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Thank you sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:48 AM
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Serious question as a newbie. Would you actually dress a husband, or should they already know how? Maybe they just ask for opinions on a tie or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:13 AM
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I have learned this the hard way 🙁 Ladies, don't be like me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:11 AM
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the depression stage was the shortest (a few months!) but REALLY sad It was actually really helpful for me to read this today. I'm going through the really sad part right now, realizing that at my age (no longer wanting children, or really even marriage) that I will probably remain single. Even though I realize logically that being single is better than a trash ass man, it's really sad. So thank you for your words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:58 AM
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No "Earth" woman? Is he a loser gamer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:46 AM
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Do not reveal too much about yourself too soon. Loose lips sink ships I've found they looove to talk about themselves. They will go on and on. Even though I'm a talkative woman, if I just hold back for a while and listen they will out themselves; I don't ever have to share anything at all about myself first. This is on reflection though, I'm yet to put it into practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:45 AM
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you should call out your friends for being creeps Omg thaaaank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:10 AM
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I didn't make it lol. Did I miss anything? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:09 AM
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SO sick of it. The amount of men I've talked to that wait until like a month in of dating to bring up that they're "poly," and ask if that would be ok. They really like to hide behind poly here because they can pretend it's not all about sex; "oH i hAvE to haVe a ConNectIon before I sleep with a girl." Bullshit. Men are so bad at relationships in general, and constantly have to be told how to behave to please women, they are clueless. How the fuck do they think they could do that for more than o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:36 PM
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I've been truly trying to understand my privilege, especially as it relates to feminism. This is something I (and I'm sure other white women) literally need to hear from others, so that I can learn and understand more. I'll be looking into intersectional feminism and "misssing white woman syndrome." Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:04 PM
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Boys will always be boys in the world's eye, but girls turn into women when men see another body they think belongs to them Dang. This actually makes me sad. Not even mad, just really sad. So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:34 AM
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Thanks! I'm always looking for new things to read. Just bought this. Especially since I'm still struggling with why on earth I liked (or thought I liked) BDSM in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:12 AM
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Eh it doesn't really work when just men are deciding what's "civilized"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:17 AM
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THIS right here. Good on you gurl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:32 AM
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The one making fun of a post from another sub where the guy was leaving butt crust in the bed. "hOw dO i cOmMunIcatE with my husband about this?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:41 PM
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I'm not sure if that makes me feel better or worse 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:15 PM
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This is a bit old now but I'm just starting to look into things like this. Sad reminder of how we have to police ourselves, because men cannot be trusted. Not even "friends."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:12 PM
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I’m not going to let him turn me into someone I don’t want to be. I'm soooo glad for you that you still have this. You're still you and a good person :) I hope to hear an update from you some day on here, when you're set free :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:59 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:48 AM
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This sub is actually where I learned what a hobosexual is. Very interesting to hear this from someone who actually works in shelters. - "Without having done any work on themselves or changed anything about what got them into this position in the first place." I feel like that could go for the average dude who's been dumped in general though ^. They never see their own fault, they aren't capable of introspection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:44 AM
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Girl sorry your dealing with that trash. Glad you hear you have a plan to save up and fix that credit though. I hope you can find a way out sooner rather than later. Sending good karma thoughts your way, you deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:42 AM
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There’s no takeout. l m a o 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:36 PM
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Baahahaha. But itS noT mY faUlt Im BrokE and canT prOviDe, lifE is hArD. It's so haRd to bE a mAn rIgHt nOw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:35 PM
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Next time some scrote tells me to be logical, I'm gonna send him this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:33 PM
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I'm not even sure how I feel about this one! So much of it straight up pissed me off: - He saw her as someone he married to just have children and look after them. - I have set her free - around 52% of men in the country said they had ever been violent towards their partner Like just reinforcing our belief that we are nothing but bangmaids to them. Or the fact that some scrote somewhere will use this as a "not all men, it was only 52%." Or some "see, just give us a chance and we can change, it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:32 PM
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Wow I like this. I know I need a reminder to be willing to leave, and have that foot out the door. Can be harder once you get attached. Gotta stay strong and always vet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:38 PM
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Like this woman passed on your worthless genes for you Slaaaaam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:33 PM
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Must also be a "lady in the streets and a freak in the bedroom." 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:49 PM
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Dude this shit is so true. Real life story: I have a good girlfriend who is really into fishing and good at it. Her ex NVM used to hold up the big fucking fish that SHE caught and post it to social media, as if he did all the work and caught them. Leaving her in the background. She has since learned better, but I wonder, in their heads, if they really convince themselves that they deserve credit for all we do? Such shitbags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:47 PM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:45 PM
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Oh neato, I've never had silver before! Thank you kind FDS sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:03 PM
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I was wondering the other day whatever came of the case against him regarding the parents of the Sandy Hook children. I hope they succeed in suing the absolute shit out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:27 AM
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Gurl I didn't even know I needed to read this until I read it :) Thanks for sharing and I hope one of those men turns out to be the HV you deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:57 AM
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Not trying to be mean at all gurl, but read the handbook! That will help with the "feelings coming and going" for low value men thing. I've totally been where you are.
/r/askFDS27/02/21 02:41 AM
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Littering, insulting ex’s, problems with authority, negative work life, doesn’t think tipping is important These right here = low value.
/r/askFDS27/02/21 02:39 AM
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Riiiiight?? I think my Dad would fly over here and whoop me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:50 AM
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"I think I've corrupted you" Aw gross. They really are so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:43 AM
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Aw man I deleted mine thinking that having it around would just make me re-live it. Now that I'm working toward Queen status though, I don't think I'll be re-living it. Maybe I better write a few down while I can still remember 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:41 AM
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The amount of men that still say to me "you don't need no man huh" is revolting. They know they are worthless and not required. They are so mad we have the choice now. Men would rather behave this way than step up and learn to adult. Like literally, all they have to do is learn to fucking adult.... how... how is it so hard for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:35 AM
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Can you imagine having your life being that easy, and you still are a total failure? Oof. This right here ^. So fucking true. Instead of trying to work on something, to make themselves worth a shit, they wallow in that. I think it's either in the form of "poor me I can't do anything as a man anymore because of fEminiSts," or the kind who want us to be their therapists. The kind we see the memes about, "here's my beautiful girlfriend who can do everything and all I have to offer is my love. I'm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:33 AM
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I agree, I think there's a lot of other stuff that goes into real friendships. My best friend is married now, but in the past (and still now) saw no problem with casual sex, porn, BDSM etc.. But if I'm sick she brings me soup, she watches my cats when I'm out of town, she took me to and from surgery and took care of me for almost a week afterwards. That is a real ass friend. We remember each other's birthdays and celebrate each other's accomplishments. Also in general she's a good person. Women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:35 PM
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Always stand up for yourself & to put yourself first- nobody else is going to. In order to be in your life people must treat you at least as well as you treat yourself I'm still working myself out of my pick-me ways and learning to do what make me feel good. My biggest struggle is asserting myself and not being a doormat. So just wanted to say thanks, I needed to see this today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:32 AM
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Oh my great goodness, this is a thing? I'm learning so much here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:17 PM
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Pepperidge Farm remembers 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:10 PM
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Turn sports on TV into video games, and "fishing/camping" into more video games, and you've got Seattle tech bros lol. They also think they're such a catch, and that I should clean their house while they play games. Oh and also cook them dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:01 PM
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Serious question. What's a hobosexual?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:00 PM
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I love how the artsy "woke" "feminist" ones are the ones who do all of the mansplaining. Like ya, please tell me what it's like to have been a woman my whole life, tell me all about my troubles. Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:59 PM
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Seattle area: - Overweight disgusting tech bros who play tons of video games - want a fit woman who works out tho ^ - look so disgusting yet are into BDSM and degrading women, and feel they are "good doms" - are poly - mansplain everything - no commitment b/c women are all after their tech money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:57 PM
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Guuuuurl congrats! I'm so happy for you!!! How you gonna treat yourself??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:27 AM
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Omg it's so annoying. They stare at you and nag you until you pay attention to them. As soon as you tell them to hold on it's "jeeez, sorry babe, I won't bother you anymore" in some passive aggressive bullshit tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:26 AM
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Omg this. My family is super Christian here in the states. But they all apply any book or vs of the Bible to fit whatever they want to believe. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:44 AM
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I'm just so sorry you had to go through that. You take a step back from sex for as long as you need sis. I'm so glad women like you have the strength to share messages like this, you are helping to make the issue more visible; doing that while you're in pain just shows how strong you are. I hope you can find some ways to treat yourself kindly, and work through this trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:54 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:44 AM
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Hey I'm glad you pulled that trigger. Queen shit! I hope you can find some nice things to do for yourself this weekend, maybe hang out with some good friends to forget about his ass! If it helps; sometimes I like to remind myself that I'm sad because I just miss the company, there's been one time I actually missed the sex, and I'm sad I hurt someone's feelings. But I'm not sad because I lost someone I wanted to be with for the long term - so that helps bring me back out of it sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:39 AM
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Had a dude tell me once that one of the reasons he likes me is because I make good money. I peaced right out of that. But GolDdiGgeRs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:34 AM
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But.. but.. then he would have to read profiles. He's got a raid to do in World of Warcraft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:27 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:26 AM
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Him: "wyd" Me: <block and unmatch> Him: "Why dont these bItChEs answer me?!" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:21 AM
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Serious question though. Anyone ever had an HVM that actually continued to do what you like and need in bed? In my experience they do it for a week or two, then stop again, me having to remind them again. So I'm pretty sure I just give up on dating. Once I've taught you and told you, you know. So selfishness and laziness is the key ingredient here, but I guess that's no surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:19 AM
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Dude my Dad was like this with EVERYTHING. He would actually jiggle my stomach to tell me I was gaining weight (mind you I was in the military at the time and NEVER once was I over my allowed BMI) and call it a "joke". Try to make one joke about something as simple and silly as his snoring? Dude he would fly off the handle! Their fragile little ego's are so pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:11 AM
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Right. You're point out you really were just trying to make a joke. But also taking responsibility for the fact that it was a duuuumb joke. But I'm also willing to bet that the "bad" jokes we women may accidentally upset each other with, are nothing like the hurtful, mean, sexist shit LVMs say as a "joke."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:07 AM
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the statement on its own is just as bad Thank you for this. I just discovered FDS a week or two ago. Broke it off with a guy I'd been seeing for 4 months. One of the big reasons why was b/c he "jokingly" insulted my appearance (called me butch, very hurtful). He never really truly gaslighted me, just went with the "it was supposed to be a joke." I was actually sitting around thinking just now what if I over-reacted. I already called him out on it, so now I'm just being one of those girls who "ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:01 AM
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I also notice that the majority of these type of men are also bad at everything they do. I dated a guy who loved to exclaim "I cook for you," or tell my friends "we both cook," or some variation of those words. He cooked twice in the 4 months. One was a casserole made entirely from frozen food, and it was still cold on the inside. The other involved a baked potato that was still hard and uncooked in the center. Yet he would run around announcing to everyone that he cooks for me. He had the GALL …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:58 AM
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leave skid marks in their underwear So true 🤢🤢 Edit: Reminds me of years ago when I was at a friends house. Her parents were second cousins. Her Mom was folding the laundry. Her Dad's tighty whities had skid marks in like ALL of them. It was so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:23 AM
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Wow. That is weird, scary, infuriating, and very annoying all at the same time. I'm glad you were successful in cutting him off. His male friends will probably never notice nor care; but I'm willing to be every other female he tries to be "friends" with certainly will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:35 AM
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I'm all for this one. If you have to reveal someone's bad traits to protect another woman it's worth it. I wouldn't worry about speaking badly about someone if they aren't around, as long as you are helping the woman who would be the next target of his LVM bullshit. Edit for words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:30 AM
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O m f g the lack of oral reciprocity is fucking astonishing. But they expect us to hand out blowjobs like candy. They cry like little biiiitches when they can't have one. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:07 AM
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I'm 36 and working to find the confidence you have. I've been out of lifting for almost a year due to surgery, but I got the all clear to ease back into it just this week from my doctor. I'm back to the gym next week, and hoping that will help me get back to my healthy cooking and eating habits! Just wanted to say you inspired me today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:00 PM
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Thanks gurl. I think it being Valentines day is making it tougher too. I needed to hear that :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:22 PM
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I'm still new and learning. But so far for me it's been: - That I need to take the time to write down my value, what makes me a good woman - Then I need standards that reflect that value - That I need to take the time to understand what I deserve - No more trying to be the "perfect woman", for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:11 PM
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Thank you so much. Breaking free from being a pick-me, no longer wanting to participate in BDSM/kink, not wanting to pretend I'm ok with poly anymore.. Doing all of this at the same time, while being in a relationship I needed to end, has been so overwhelming and confusing and sad. I can't tell if I'm doing anything right. But as someone else said above, at least I still have emotions, b/c I'm an empathetic woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:04 PM
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Well, this is embarrassing but... He lives like a bachelor. Gross apartment. There was trash chilling on the balcony he didn't feel like taking out. Empty recycle liquor bottles on the counter, carpet all torn up (like why not have the apartments come patch it?), oven not cleaned for like 5 years looks like. It smelled bad in there. The weirdest thin mattress thing on a piece of wood that was still like, somehow, on top of a bedframe. It was ick. Then as we got into it farther, insecurity about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:56 PM
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Thank you. Really needed that this morning :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:51 PM
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I also do not understand the meme gurl. I get the idea society would fall apart if 77 + 33 = 100. But what does it have to do with porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:37 AM
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My God they are hard to come by!! But hey, I'm really glad you already have an idea of something you want to do for yourself when Covid calms down! If you're feeling low or anything you can start Googling and reading all about it to keep busy, and you'll be totally prepared by the time you dive in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:35 AM
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I think back to how often I worried about hurting other peoples feelings because that’s what I’ve been socialized to do I'm struggling so hard with this right now. I just ended things with an LVM who was clueless and inconsiderate. He was kind at heart. Not a terrible person; he just wasn't what I deserve. I know full damn well I did really hurt his feeling. I really did. But it's not my fault, my problem, or my job, to fix the fact that he is clueless and inconsiderate. It's TOTALLY OK that I f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:09 AM
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Serious question. Would you say the algorithm points us to these places b/c they are the most searched or the most heavily visited? Or that the men working there are literally manipulating it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:54 AM
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but it's not true I need that reminder. It is really easy to start thinking they all are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:47 AM
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"There's no need to risk my livelihood, profession, or even freedom for a child." He says this instead of acknowledging that it'd just be fucking wrong. It's ALL ABOUT HIM. Every single one of them only think about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:45 AM
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I just threw up in my mouth a bit. But you're right, it's so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:42 AM
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He says it like it's cute that he'd be lost and fuckin ashy. What a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:40 AM
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My dad has done a lot of stupid shit but I do not think he was wrong in teaching me to fear men Thankfully my father is a HVM, and he taught me this as well (although I fought it like hell when I was a dumb teenager hah!) I have decided to stop OLD. But when I did use it, I would text my best friend his picture, full name, and address before a date. And we would have a check in time. If I went to his house I would also tell him I'm sending my friend this info. So in case he was thinking of harmi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:34 AM
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I can be hurt and still continue to grow I needed to hear this today! It's totally ok to be feeling down. Although it does suck. I'm so happy for you, that you are working on yourself, and doing what makes you happy! No one else can give that to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:48 PM
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This is why long distance with a man is a horrible way to waste your own time I don't think long distance would ever be for me. But just in case I ever even consider the idea, I will have this tidbit of information to recall!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:34 PM
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equality as a right rather than a concession Unfortunately I don't think we will see this in our lifetimes. Thank you for this reminder. It is easy to think women and minorities have it so much better now, so things are good. I personally have to remind myself better does not mean everything is fine or acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:04 PM
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Girl I'm getting back to lifting next week after recovering from surgery, thank you for your inspiration! You look absolutely amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:57 PM
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Giving out the real advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:55 PM
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Hot damn, I wish I had your brains and standards when I was 19! Hell, wish I had 'em a few months ago :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:53 PM
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Gurl I hear you on this. This is the first time in my life I've had real friends. Like the kind who will bring you soup, or take care of you after surgery. I think it's really sad I didn't have this until 36. Most people out in this world are self-centered and self-serving. Wanting friends is such a need that I understand hanging around folks like that for as long as you did. I totally did it myself. I met my current group at the CrossFit gym I go to. So my best advice is start doing some things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:46 PM
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iron man T-shirt Omg. I'm so sick of seeing grown men in Bat Man T-shirts. It's usually more like fat man. These "grown" men going on and on about comic books and super hero movies... I just don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:08 PM
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7x1 shampoo Baaahahaha! No effort. Ugh I'm having flashbacks of a guy's apartment I went to where there was actually bits of SHIT in the toilet. Like it was fresh, he had just done it before I came over, and couldn't be bothered to clean the shit out of his toilet? God they are so fucking pathetic. Like ya, I want to look at your shit in the toilet, your hair on the sink, and then fuck you on your mattress that is on the floor....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:04 PM
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When I started reading, I really thought that's where this was going to go. How sad is it that I actually felt a little relieved it didn't. They are depraved violent creatures who only think of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:15 PM
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Ya these nice guys are usually closet incels, out of shape slobs, play games all day, eat cheetos, and play dungeons and dragons. Then whine about how they don't fit in anywhere and life so hard. Then to top it off they live in filth and want you to pick up after them, cook for them, and be their therapist. All the while bringing nothing to the table themselves. I'm totally projecting my experience here lol, but it's probably safe to assume they're all this way. Never...... Again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:12 PM
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So true! Always a Google Voice number girl. Also never tell them that it's a Google Voice number :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:59 AM
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I actually laughed out loud myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:01 AM
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I don't have the energy to type out my story but I wanted to let you know that I REALLY needed to see this tonight. You helped me a lot sis. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:42 AM
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Lol. They're so dumb they call themselves Beta on accident too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:28 AM
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> Cried and actually begged when I dumped him Yikes. But seriously though that all sounds terrible. This internet stranger is SO glad for you that you're out of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:27 AM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who was thinking this. While it SHOULD be fine for us to dress how how want and dance our ass off anywhere; she is literally just being ogled by a bunch of men in the front row. I don't think I need to say what's going through their heads, I'm sure we can all imagine. I personally wouldn't want to be the object of those thoughts, on a stage, for men. But this is my opinion, no hate to those who enjoyed it. I'll just voice my disapproval and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:21 AM
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I can't tell who posted what? I personally like to text a good bit in the early stages, so I can see if they're going to start calling me kitten or some shit; that way I can block and delete before I leave the house for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:11 AM
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Men want what they want. I truly believe they have an idea in their head of what we want, but they don't give enough of a fuck to consider it. Their WANTS will always outweigh our NEEDS. The sad part is that as she grows up, she'll be taught to repress these thoughts she's having. Also that little girl is f'ing awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:46 PM
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Join us, you shall not be down voted here! But in seriousness, the little bullshit where the sprinkle some water on their hands is so annoying. What do they even think that is doing? You actually might as well not even do that, if it's the only effort to "wash" you're going to make. So many men live like pigs/slobs now. Did their fathers teach them nothing? Ya, probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:19 PM
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I'll take a look, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:22 PM
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Omg thank you so much for this! I just knew it didn't feel fair, but I couldn't quite put into words exactly how I was feeling about it! erase my personality That right there is what so many women end up doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:20 PM
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Not seeing this guy anymore, something from my past, but still important. We'd just had sex, I was feeling all lovely, thought this was the man I would marry. He asks me how I would feel about him having relationships with other people. Ya, waits until MONTHS into the relationship, and until after sex, to let me know I'm not enough for him. And was actually seriously hoping we'd have a serious talk right then and there about letting him have an open relationship. Looking back I realize I should …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:17 PM
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Thank you for the input, it's good to know I shouldn't throw out the whole idea. But rather decide if my effort would even be worth it for said person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:05 PM
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Oh my god I saw that ass wiping thing. I may be a recovering pickme, but I'd really like to think I wouldn't put up with that! Vomit. Also thanks. It's sad that we are so conditioned, I have to even come on the internet and ask if it's ok to be mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:03 PM
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One day she asked for a divorce and everything changed. Love how he leaves out the reason why. She probably got tired of being the mother of a young child, and a grown man-child. I'm sure there was plenty more leading up to it. So sick of men whining about having to spend money to raise their children. Like this woman probably gave up things in her life to have your kid, it's probably why she "never set foot in a college", and now you feel no duty to support her and the child you made. Such tras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:14 PM
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