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Outer Game srwat/r/seduction22/09/24 01:20 AM
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Let's assume you have no social skills at all. With that absent skill set, If you're lean (athletically, nothing extreme) and you stay calm, willing to be in the moment with whoever, you'll be able to make way more small mistakes with many being overlooked instead of 1-2 leading to instant elimination if for example you were overweight on top of being socially inept. If you aren't lean and have no social skills, it's time to hit the gym and hit the books, and then start to practice regularly tal…
/r/seduction16/11/25 01:49 AM
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Let's assume just for demonstration purposes if you had a lot of things going against you. The first thing you could change immediately is improvement of your fashion sense such as knowing what to wear and when, as well as figuring out what cologne suits you. That's two small elements that are starting to create a little bit of smoke to start that fire. The gym will go a long way of course with your clothes fitting better and more clothing styles being able to work effectively, but the gym is a …
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:16 PM
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Improve yourself and work on doing better for yourself for you. If she happens to return to your life in some shape or form after you're in a healthier headspace then so be it, but the best thing for you is to just push forward, become stronger and do you. Don't have some mindset of "I'll get 6 pack abs and then she'll reconsider" because that is just gambling with massive RNG right there and your chances are literally random depending on why she left you and it'd be extremely mentally unhealthy…
/r/seduction02/08/25 11:32 PM
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Don't go at it like it's a life/death scenario or that will come off as anxiety/desperation. Once you feel that, the girl you could have a potential vibe with will as well, and that will be the death knell to that situation. Be relaxed, focus on her, and remember no matter how it goes, your plans for your day matter just as much as hers. If you are presenting yourself in the hopes and prayers of being selected rather than being something mysteriously aesthetically pleasing that invites curiosity…
/r/seduction04/07/25 05:35 PM
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Attraction tends to function in minimum thresholds, then there's variations in what someone may be into in regards to certain prerequisites being met either explicitly or in a hidden manner. Across the West, the massive "simping" explosion and how its reach due to the internet is so vastly interconnected, the way many relationships of varying kinds work, how they form, and what they become are also undoubtedly influenced. Women are the selectors, as a man you essentially just have to figure out …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 03:53 PM
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A lot of people, probably mainly due to social media over the last two decades or so, have in their imagination, some kind of fairytale partner that doesn't exist or if they do actually exist, someone with a higher SMV has already scooped them up. So basically, you have many people with certain standards they are holding, unwilling to drop, and then some of them, complaining about it. If I wanted to go sell something like a car, and I wanted to do it for a certain price, and no one buys it, or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:44 AM
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Great take. Anytime I've scrolled through this community, I mainly had looked to amalgamate my opinions across different people's takes and see in what ways anyone's angles match up with the other people that are known to know what they're doing so even if someone is a newcomer, they may be insightful about something or approach a topic from a slightly different angle. Being open minded but grounded in reality is of course key. I believe OP may lack confidence in newcomers' personal discernment …
/r/seduction04/05/25 11:23 AM
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It is an estimate of sorts. Really, don’t have it on your head too much. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you look to land a 10/10 but can’t maintain her because you don’t hit enough of her qualifiers (ties back into the 80/20). Just face max, body max, and learn as much as you can about the social skills you need to remain both stable and intriguing in any kind of interaction since they will judge you in a heavily weighted manner, how you come across there. Again, if you get too caught up in ce…
/r/seduction30/04/25 09:00 AM
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Something worth mentioning is many males nowadays come from extremely emasculated upbringings in one way or another, and if they weren't gifted an environment for achieving great social skills or born with great looks, they could literally be in a place where they have no idea what to do, and all the things they have tried to do, they have been either used or taken advantage of in one way or another. The pills, or let's say, the ones that can be implemented in a way that gives a clear self-benef…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:56 AM
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Both perspectives mesh completely. There is a base percentage chance that differs from every encounter, then there is increased/decreased percentage chance which is based upon how the encounter itself goes, what kind of behaviors you do and how they either negatively or positively affect the ultimate outcome. So the tldr, there are some encounters that would be a bust or a success even with strategies being effective or less effective. But that being said, there are some encounters that being ri…
/r/seduction25/04/25 10:15 PM
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This really. If it's habitual there won't be extreme nervous energy attached to it, so it'll come across authentic and not set off a "creeper alarm" feeling to it. Safest way so there isn't any anxiety attached to the process would be to start off on men and then just carry it over as comfort increases so the jump isn't so extreme and it has much less of a chance to be awkward in the wrong kinds of ways.
/r/seduction19/04/25 04:13 AM
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The more social wit you have, the more it translates to confidence and charisma, surely. There can only be benefits to being better at talking with people. Certain people will make excuses as to not try to better themselves, but even if they are at an unlucky genetic starting place of sorts, they can still improve their overall outlook by some kind of positive %, maybe single digit, maybe double digit. Something worth noting is as a guy, sometimes when you are overweight, your social opportuniti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:45 PM
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Them lying on their resume and being incapable of doing the duties they represented themselves as being able to perform is a much different story than them having horrible training (by the current work site or prior to). Common Sense is still completely dependent on one's life experiences up until that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:29 PM
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Guys do get hung up on certain details when the bigger picture is more of % chance rather than “chance/ no chance”. From my own experience knowing quite a few late bloomers, a lack of a father figure and overreaching mother can drive deep uncertainty into a guy which may get them into an extended analysis paralysis, sometimes for many years and years. “Doing” of course is always far superior to attempting to mental math every aspect which just results in the person ultimately doing nothing if ac…
/r/seduction05/04/25 02:03 AM
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Aren’t people with specific general qualifiers fetishizing to some degree anyway? (Hair color, eye color, height, being ripped) I don’t really believe in the concept. People have preferences. If someone is infatuated with me due to a quality I possess either forged or natural born, that is simply attraction. Same the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:38 AM
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So, from what I have observed in my life, in regards to friendships, it is not common as a guy to find them past an acquaintance stage where either one of the following is not occurring: 1) The woman is actually attracted to the guy but is either friend zoned or fuck-zoned by the guy. 2) The guy is attracted to the woman and she keeps him in orbit essentially being flirty enough to keep him as a backup option for if her boyfriend screws up or keeps him around simply for a steady source of emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:30 AM
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The better you look, the more "mistakes" you can make in an interaction. If you look like garbage, your opener to an interaction might have to be completely god-like to even get a chance to play the "chess match of lust", while if you are an Adonis, you may be able to just say "hey" and get comparable results. In regards to personality, look to keep some kind of journal of yourself of certain actions you did, then put yourself to the best of your ability in the shoes of the person you did them t…
/r/seduction26/03/25 11:59 PM
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Yeah but being extremely behind in certain fields is more detrimental than in others. For this kind of stuff you're mostly looking to figure out what are attractive behaviors or qualities to possess and vibing with the ones truest to either who or what you want to be out there. Compare that to something like learning to be proficient at art, music, or welding and those are a different beast as far as time investment goes but will take time all the same. For relationships/seduction, really keepin…
/r/seduction16/02/25 02:08 AM
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From reading your replies to everyone in this thread, it seems first you need to resolve many of your anxiety issues, and the best way to do that if you're going the independent route with it is baby steps. You're not going to have whatever tools in a day, a week, a month, maybe even a year, and let that be okay with you. Don't have that stop you from trying to meet someone. Break down your issues into smaller solvable ones and tackle them one by one. Things aren't too late for you, whatever rou…
/r/seduction16/02/25 12:40 AM
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Often times, the conversation will have much more friction by design initially if she hasn’t chose you off the bat or sought you out. Really, just learning a laundry list of potential questions you would ask anyone really to establish comfort can help you reach some kind of vibe, then you can assess whatever interest you are able to see while keeping in mind “shit tests” will make that a bit foggy. Basically holding through until your attempt at seeing whether you two connect is possible and if …
/r/seduction31/12/24 08:16 AM
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The idea of amusing yourself is mainly to be non-reactive to a girl attempting to "break your frame/state". If the joke you made was truly for you and not her, even if she hates it or shows you disgust for it, you're unaffected, which shows a high level of unshakeable inner strength and inner belief. This still doesn't mean to amuse yourself repeatedly in a socially awkward manner but it means feeling relaxed and confident to go for something on the riskier side when appropriate or just somethin…
/r/seduction27/12/24 10:54 PM
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You want to look solid but not over the top. Women will watch you at all times when you are around them so being consistent with however you walk in, in the first place is key. Then, don’t do weird things that make you exposed to unnecessary shit tests or are encouraging to other guys to go out of their way to out alpha you. Just be seen as solid and that you are enjoying the atmosphere around you. This will make people more likely to want to be around you. Being fit/stylish/able to dance/body l…
/r/seduction22/12/24 03:53 AM
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Right now, she is most likely testing to see if you'll emotionally cave to her. You were probably a backup option in her eyes if she were to leave her relationship, she most likely seen you as a reliable path afterward for a rebound. You having a girl you're talking with, threatens that possibility. Yes, she may have a boyfriend but her spending the night at your house multiple times for entire days, she could have been waiting for you to make a move, for you guys to have a "secret thing" going …
/r/seduction18/12/24 04:20 PM
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The safest way until you know where you stand is essentially being, using your references, let's call him Guy 1.5 Guy 1.5 will stay away from any explicit sexual talk until he knows it is actually on the table. He will use euphemisms and word play to subtly introduce sexually charged banter sometimes ballparks away in the middle of non-sexual banter, while easing into it gently in case reception doesn't exist or doesn't develop even after careful implementation. Following this method can many ti…
/r/seduction17/12/24 02:07 AM
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Well there are 3 frames at play. Your frame, their frame (the girl/others around/Etc.), the overall frame of the overall scene. You many times can enter scenarios where all frames are preserved, sometimes where your frame caves, sometimes when you either break someone’s frame or successfully invite them to join your frame. You are intentionally looking to hold your frame and only breaking or changing parts of it that may be sensible as a means to progression. Hope this is useful in some way.
/r/seduction16/12/24 04:58 PM
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Once you get used to how to navigate how to disperse or move the heavy tension into either predictable or workable chunks which can be present on many starts or that it can take a few minutes many times to really begin to land on a shared vibe of any sort and also find random “shit tests” that will continually come up especially to test the image you present forward and looking at them as amusing little games, talking to someone new becomes much more exciting and much less a chore. Tension that …
/r/seduction15/12/24 11:48 AM
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The way I view this kind of scenario is as follows: It is essentially a primal carryover of sorts. Your "lizard brain" seen the other male as competition interfering with you procreating with the woman in question and thus boiled up irrational feelings of aggression and frustration. I view situations like this as an evolutionary mechanism that is firing off at an inopportune time, since this is literally a random woman. I'd recommend finding a way to reground yourself. Count numbers. Slyly do de…
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:24 AM
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Appreciate the post. Definitely different dynamics at play. Social intelligence, banter, and wit go a long way to establishing a high quality connection but of course when pertaining to actual primal desire, usually only when attractiveness thresholds (differs per person) are crossed. It will be interesting whenever there is a sub reddit for girl game since while I have provided tips for some women in the past, the “fog of war” of being a different gender makes some advice not necessarily fully …
/r/seduction12/12/24 07:41 AM
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Oh no, that's completely normal. What separates you from the people that it isn't debilitating for is mainly exposure. If you spend enough time around "hot girls", you're less caught off guard. If you're able to befriend one platonically and get used to being around her and using it as an educational experience, you will feel more at ease around ones that you may be looking to date. An interesting story to note is my brother back in the day, his first girlfriend was this girl that would be consi…
/r/seduction11/12/24 10:50 PM
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Something to keep in mind is just as your male hormones in the air influence the women around you for better or worse, the same can be said for theirs towards you. Your behavior can be affected especially if you are not leading yourself when encountering someone you may feel in any manner is leagues out of reach.
/r/seduction11/12/24 05:53 PM
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If the woman is being flirty, it gives the guy the green light to really try for more, such as being flirty back, and maybe more depending on where they are and Etc. Some settings or venues are a lot more socially acceptable for certain actions. The best way to show interest to get him guessing would be body language such as you glance at him as you walk by but initially you wait, making sure he catches you in his peripheral but doesn't actually catch you as you're looking and also a little back…
/r/seduction11/12/24 01:17 AM
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Well, this is why I say extremely slow burn. Essentially if you are extremely persistent and have a high enough SMV in comparison to whoever you seduce/tempt, you can spark enough conflicts between a couple to cause “unhappiness” sometimes over the dumbest thing or things. Obviously, morally this is quite sketch to do, just providing for info sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:44 AM
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So another situation that is possible, not necessarily likely but if let’s say you and your partner have an SMV of 7 or below, and a 10/10 SMV type person goes after them or you with an extremely long slow burn approach, most relationships will crumble despite their initial resilient strength. With that said, and not meant to be a dreary statement, just wished to point such out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:24 AM
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So two things you can try: Cheat code that is semi-reliable: On your initial text banter, especially if it was flirty and fun, circle back to that as an initial near starting point in your in person date, she most likely will recognize what you are referring to and playfully respond to it. Look for flirty angles off of things she says. Don’t get too antsy or not only will she stop participating, she will focus too much on you in a bad way. Be relaxed during the date and remember if you burn that…
/r/seduction10/12/24 08:35 AM
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A couple factors to all this: With the gap, even if you said some extremely charismatic A+ level grade lines to solve any potential objection arising, her friend if she is close enough to her will still win the overall exchange as far as being against it and thus leading to you being avoided. Two ways to proceed in a hypothetical fresh situation, the first one much more morally acceptable, is winning over the friend, maybe even charming the friend and attracting the friend somewhat, so both the …
/r/seduction08/12/24 11:27 PM
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Well yeah, anytime you make a bold statement you're taking a risk of sorts, and if it's a bigger risk, you want to have potential counter attacks on standby if needed. You still want to relax and vibe but you want to be aware that any strike you make, you may need to clean up after yourself if the blow doesn't land the way you may want it to. If you are in an extremely high stake scenario, it'd be advisable to move extremely carefully rather than go for something with a big risk that may indeed …
/r/seduction08/12/24 04:20 AM
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This is an interesting way to look at it. I mean, it is possible to probably categorize frame into many rudiments the more advanced you go with it. At a base level, I look at it as, you are looking to maintain yourself in an interaction and not allowing someone to break the tension of the scene/interaction by breaking you (causing you to lose your frame) in a way that makes you look weak/anxious/insecure/unconfident/Etc. But these additional perspectives you added are quite useful indeed.
/r/seduction08/12/24 04:10 AM
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This is the most accurate answer. Was about to write this myself. Nothing really to add to it. It only becomes a problem once the woman and man start having a falling out and she finally “realizes” and then recontextualizes it all back to what was happening all along since day 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:42 AM
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So individually speaking, there are a lot more thresholds to pass to have options as a man. There are workarounds, but yes, due to online dating especially, whatever main asset you offer, whether that is wittiness, your looks, or whatever else needs to be a higher quality than what you would have needed previously. Also, for highly attractive guys, situationships have never been easier for them to just grab a few handfuls of girls off of dating apps and just cycle through a roster. In some ways,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:33 AM
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Your best bet is to be stoic, maintain your frame, don’t let her compromise your emotional states, don’t make emotional decision making, be willing to lose her if it comes down to that, it is what it is. She is losing attraction towards you because somewhere along the way you traded your masculine qualities she was initially attracted to away to her for affection. The biggest irony of course is by trying to have both, you end up retaining neither as time progresses.
/r/seduction06/12/24 11:20 AM
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Usually single actions in themselves are not problematic, but certain actions aren’t worth the risk of giving an otherwise stable frame, instability that you may have to play more of a balancing act in order to retain your presence’s integrity. You could pull off some really quirky open/style but that could then become the expectation out of you and if you can’t deliver on that, you will need the wit to roll out if it into something else if it is even salvageable at that point. To keep it all su…
/r/seduction01/12/24 07:09 AM
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What "The Shift" is is essentially, due to you having less self confidence in yourself (could be sparked off by a loss in active abundance), you start to display unattractive traits such as needy-ness, seeking reassurance, asking judgmental questions, and Etc. Some of your first mistakes will usually be outside of your awareness. If you make too many mistakes, you've already rolled that snowball way too far down the hill and should most likely look to either readjust or abort out of your situati…
/r/seduction30/11/24 05:36 PM
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Something to keep in mind with anything you write is if it's something like "what's up?" to some brand new girl you just started talking with, she has probably heard that same opener literally, non-exaggerated probably like 10,000 times at least so far in her life. This just adds you to the pile of boring guys unless you're exceptional in some way. You want to be intriguing but not over the top. With your follow up line, since it is something with a bite, you need to be ready for potential follo…
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:26 AM
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So a couple things. I'd say in some ways, most experienced guys out there are counter attackers of sorts where they will leave room for you to speak so they can kind of set a vibe in the background while you're opening up. A guy going out of his way to non-stop talk is either nervous, oblivious, or has advanced conversational prowess if they can operate this way successfully somehow. Normal bouts of temporary silence and spacing goes a long way in just taking everything in such as each other or …
/r/seduction28/11/24 01:11 AM
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With the limited details you provided, she either wants to seriously date you so she doesn’t want to have you just “dine and dash” or she is keeping you in her phone for food. Be optimistic. But if escalation leads absolutely nowhere, abort.
/r/seduction26/11/24 11:45 AM
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If this is really you, you really just would need to work on your social interactions, if you still get nowhere with that, study game. You got the body game maxed out. What holds many gymcels back is they don't realize that being so strong/big can be intimidating to girls so you usually need to be more playful so they feel safer around you since physically and this applies to any guy that goes to the gym regularly and looks pretty strong, you are a much bigger actual threat than some skinny guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 05:36 PM
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As someone that has previously had many women with boyfriends/husbands/Etc. come to me, I can give you my best most honest take with what I am aware of. Alright so let's start with, assuming their boyfriend or husband met them similarly to how they came to your awareness how you are now, maybe randomly somewhere, flirting went further, turned into multiple playtimes, Etc. and was a completely exciting experience starting out with both euphoria and mystery, now at this time, they have their boyfr…
/r/seduction23/11/24 04:12 PM
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To translate this thread OP made, I believe what they're saying is: You won't make emotional missteps/misplays if you don't actually like the person you're talking with or doing things with. While this is a viable short term strategy, in essence, you just end up with a living fleshlight and close yourself off to any other positive emotional benefits you'd get to actually liking the girl and being able to have the self-control to resist falling into unattractive "one-i-tis" behaviors. So, really,…
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:55 PM
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I feel the main confusion that occurs between men and women understanding each other in regards to what this post mentions are the following factors to keep in mind, for now I can separate this into 3 layers or so but don't look at this as definitive or exhaustive by any means: - Default Socially Conformist Answers: Many women will give answers they really don't personally feel but know are answers their friends or society would also agree with, and are deemed as safe answers so they'll have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:59 PM
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It's not over for you at all. I know a guy, extremely fit, Indian (his family is from India), he moved to Japan and is doing beyond great with everything related to dating. Maxing out your body game and then maxing out your social game will definitely give you a taste of what you seek. Don't ever count yourself out until you know 100% that you have all factors that are within your command that you have made an honest effort to master or max out to the best of your ability. The way it works is on…
/r/seduction19/10/24 12:42 PM
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Here: - If he is too small, don’t go too far up. - find a reliable angle and don’t get too creative - if you are big, be sure to move at a pace to maximize your energy - he can adjust to maximize both of your connections so he falls out less Really, if he is small or you are bigger sized, you can’t go as wild as you see in adult films, gotta adjust and just get a reliable angle + back and forth.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:53 AM
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If they never want to meet, that means you're horrifically butchering the texting portion of the interaction. Use the search function in this subreddit to read various approaches of how to make the texting portion of the interaction more stable or less self sabotaging. Hope this helps you out a bit. Good luck!
/r/seduction06/10/24 06:20 PM
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Alright so be warned, this is not an endorsement of anything that will follow, just stating a life experience: I had a time in my life where I couldn't eat for around 3 weeks and my weight dropped to 120-130 lbs. Freakily, many random women started approaching me looking to chat me up and everything out of nowhere. My only conclusion is the reduced weight made me less of a "threat" but obviously the correct way to go about it is leaning yourself out doing the gym and looking to get a leaned out …
/r/seduction06/10/24 04:58 AM
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Well it's important to know that if the woman accepted a date with you, she's expecting or at least hoping you're going to live up to the alpha perception of you that caused her to take the time out of her day to go see you. You have a natural advantage there. You're not going to interact with a woman that doesn't want to see your face most times. Yes, you can ruin it but you start at a positive advantage that is there for you to lose for yourself, generally speaking.
/r/seduction06/10/24 01:27 AM
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Banter kind of functions both as a bonding opportunity and the ability to cause an "emotional shift" of sorts. This shift is to push your dynamic more towards "bonding" while maintaining the "tension". Ultimately, you want the tension to not be released until, you know. Or you want it still intact for the next date if the aforementioned doesn't happen. But you want to keep getting closer to one another in the meantime while riding the tension and not allowing it to break between you two. Banter …
/r/seduction06/10/24 12:46 AM
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The answer is already in your question. Start off with some light banter and then just look to get her talking about her life a bit. Pay attention for banter opportunities which will emerge as she begins to tell you about her life. As long as you make it enjoyable for her, you'll get at least some material to use as you continue forward in the conversation. Don't be stressing too much on questions/topics, this isn't a job interview or you studying for a test. You want to be relaxed, and you want…
/r/seduction06/10/24 12:14 AM
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SFW - Exposing neck to guy - Looking towards him and then fixing hair out of shyness - Matching guy's body language more NSFW - Bending over in front of guy - Resting her hand near her nice spot - Closing her legs tightly There are more of course, but a few off the top of my head.
/r/seduction05/10/24 03:48 PM
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You want to be relaxed and vibe but not let her lead the whole date. If she leads the whole date, you'll be in her frame. If you're in her frame, she won't really be excited in "that" kind of way most times. One of the best things that keep her out of her frame is bantering in the moment. Showing her that you are actually present there with her and you're not just both talking about your past and future plans the entire time. Involving the environment you're both in tied to some of your banter g…
/r/seduction05/10/24 12:46 PM
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True, I was looking to make it more gen z read friendly.
/r/seduction28/09/24 06:14 PM
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It's best to use a little bit of some Zherka style game here and focus your interactions towards the ugliest one of the pack in your eyes even if she isn't the one you want. If you play your cards right, you can cause the prettiest one to want more of your attention if you later on wanted to focus on her and it'd give you more of an environment where you're not coming at her from below her but on a more even footing. You could even spin this into some kind of group invite to some kind of event y…
/r/seduction28/09/24 03:07 PM
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The correct headspace that many of the guys that fail, fail to adhere to is: Realizing that not every girl asked will say yes and that they need to expect a low rate of success by default at least as a beginner. Abundance can only be faked for so long and you will still have to pass shit tests if you do fool a woman with a fake abundance aura. When you actually have true abundance, women attract unto you like magnets. If you ever got to a place where you had multiple FWBs simultaneously, you kno…
/r/seduction28/09/24 02:52 PM
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If you have loose skin, she's probably only going to see that after you've both already made your way to the room where things are about to be going down. She isn't going to be like "Oh, this boy has loose skin, I'm leaving, time to call my Uber and get out of here." She most likely will be feeling the same intense tension you are and will be ready to go unless you got some kind of insane festering wound on your body or some other extreme reason for it all to completely cease on the spot. Instea…
/r/seduction23/09/24 10:20 PM
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Go for whatever you and your potential partner are comfortable with as long as both they and you are 18 or over. Will you get judged in some social circles for being gapped if the gap distance is large? Sure, but when it comes down to it, how you vibe and connect with the other person is what truly matters here. And they are selecting themselves to be with you or around you. I have dated with gaps of them being 8-12 years younger in the past.
/r/seduction23/09/24 08:38 AM
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Being a muscular man, you are much more of a "Tower", so to balance this out, you want to be more playful or in a state of play with the women you're around to put them at ease. The advantage a lean guy with visible muscle definition but lacking the strength of a muscular man is that they have much less of an intimidation factor, making them more easily approachable for the woman. A lean guy may have to actually project more "Tower/Strength/Strong" to be taken seriously in a sexual manner compar…
/r/seduction22/09/24 11:22 PM
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Once you have the girl at your house, you just start with extremely safe kino and the more receptive she is, you just keep escalating 2 steps forward and vibing, and when hitting subtle resistance, 1 step back. 2 steps forward 1 step back strategy unless you screw up and go way too far forward and she calls for a complete stop. If the latter happens, you are done, chance blown, and life lesson learned. Try again properly with the next one.
/r/seduction20/09/24 04:00 PM
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Once you (unaware to you) fail some major shit tests, you can hit the point of no return. Best to cut your losses at that point. With some small mistakes, you can climb back. You can’t talk your way out of it. If anything, that is making it worse and is making her respect for you only decrease further. Your only hope would be to subtly display enough non-verbal dominance to slowly change the pace of it all over time, but that may even be a fruitless endeavor at this point.
/r/seduction20/09/24 10:48 AM
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You are thirsting too quickly, failing the shit test, and losing frame control. The tease is bait, be playful with it back, make her seem like a pervert through subtle humor but don’t take it as a green light to push all the way in yourself. Escalate in playful fun calm baby steps. If she wants to jump your bones, it will become more obvious as you go along.
/r/seduction20/09/24 06:56 AM
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If you can’t lose the weight, hire an escort each month. Work for whatever you want. Or don’t work for what you want and take the easy path. It is what it is. Nothing I say to you will change anything for you. It all comes down to what you do and follow through.
/r/seduction17/09/24 05:09 PM
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For dating apps, look at examples of what a successful profile looks like, there are methods to that. You can meet someone anywhere. Don’t think too far ahead. Just talk with them, don’t bore them, and if they want to talk more, look at you, you just made a friend. If they don’t, at least you got a brief interaction in to start your day. Don’t hide the fact you are a man in a conversation, but don’t get sexual unless who you are talking to does it first. These are maybe two of the best tips for …
/r/seduction17/09/24 03:56 PM
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Text messages emotionally are unpredictable and will usually dock you points the longer you carry the text conversations with no end objective. You needed to show her how you felt more through a voice call or a physical date. Show and not tell. There is no way to know where she was at. Could have been another guy she was comparing you against or she felt you were too needy and it turned her off. Less is more, Etc.
/r/seduction17/09/24 12:04 PM
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Not effectively trying. If your metabolism is screwed up, do diets such as keto, intermittent fasting, try carnivore. The weight loss will solve many of your self esteem issues.
/r/seduction17/09/24 06:46 AM
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That is what it is. Calorie count. Have fasting days. Even if your face looks great, being obese means you are not able to do much. If you pay with a year of your life into dedication and get more lean, you will do well. If instead you beat yourself up, laying on the ground, there your fate will remain.
/r/seduction17/09/24 06:44 AM
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Don't jump into logical conversations especially those that require a lot of brain power or you'll turn your date off in most cases. You kind of want most of the things you talk about to be a combination of "in the moment" or banter about random things she talks to you about. The moment you dive deep into talking about something that requires high brain power, well guess what, the blood flow is no longer where you want it, and the prospect of your date going well most likely will be lost. Relax,…
/r/seduction16/09/24 09:17 AM
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This is the legit answer. If she has provided nothing in the conversation to use for banter and someone can’t get any other progress on that front, this idea essentially opens all that up with a slightly longer more reliable route.
/r/seduction16/09/24 08:57 AM
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My ultimate goal since I work a 10 hour day Monday through Friday is probably landing some girl or girls that will be DTF most weeknights. In the meantime, I'll most likely just use each free weekend for doing the dating app thing, practice cold approach here and there, and just continue to educate myself so I avoid the most damaging blunders. I just came out of a 6 year relationship blindside around the tail end of this summer, so this past month has been a lot of rewiring of habits, sharpening…
/r/seduction15/09/24 12:56 PM
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Sending you a DM.
/r/seduction15/09/24 09:39 AM
1

I can hit you up with a chat/DM.
/r/seduction14/09/24 05:00 PM
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Use material for inner game such as affirmations, subliminals, and hypnosis. Get a routine going where you're doing a quick run of such content 1-2 times a day, preferably in the morning and at night as many days a week as you can. You can find free some strong resources on YouTube and on some Adult websites and such (don't get sidetracked, skim through a video before deciding to pick it) In about a month of drilling these things, the results will really start to emerge and start sticking. You'l…
/r/seduction14/09/24 04:57 PM
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What are you trying to ask? There's a lot of guys on here that have rosters that barely ever go dry but that's because they're well seasoned and suffered through the hard times of constantly screwing up along the way. If you improve everything you can about yourself such as looks/banter/body game/dominance/style/vibe/Etc. constantly, you can strive to minimize the length of your dry spells over time. Yeah it'll take time, maybe months, maybe years. But you can build something great, and if you n…
/r/seduction14/09/24 01:35 PM
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A lot of women may get 100s or 1000s of DMs from guys all throughout their inbox. This means if you stumble in the text exchange and lose her attention, she's unlikely to bother giving you another chance. Texting is extremely gamified nowadays, and you have to essentially do your best to stick out from the rest of the humongous pack of guys sending DMs to any girl you also picked if you want to be the "winner" of the day/night. Just keep messaging women and know that you'll run into a lot of dea…
/r/seduction14/09/24 01:26 PM
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This is something I am definitely feeling to get into. It is one of those hobbies that is highly synergistic to so many other aspects of the social skills game. Just been looking to find a good place in my area for it. Great post btw!
/r/seduction14/09/24 09:34 AM
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Why don't you try to hold her as you watch movies and then slowly try escalating things, making sure she is remaining comfortable and back tracking to the last thing you tried if she isn't? This situation baffles me honestly. I would think you could just follow your natural instincts at this point and they would lead you where you needed to go, writing up a guide for this is too out there for me. Good luck if this story is for real. Use the advice in the first paragraph.
/r/seduction13/09/24 08:15 PM
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If you max body game, learn enough general game to keep a girl engaged with you with varying emotions, you can be more “nice”. The main issue with being “nice” is many times it really is being too inauthentic with yourself and girls have an ability to instinctually read your inner vibe usually extremely well. You can still be kind within reason and not a pushover while being strong/dominant.
/r/seduction13/09/24 08:44 AM
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One way to look at it is essentially like a gamble, but the more things you have going for you, the higher % your potential success rate will be. So yes, you want to maximize all categories that you have awareness of that matter: fitness, looks, banter, passions, kino, verbal game, ways to extend a conversation while keeping someone engaged with it. The more aspects you have decently well, the much easier everything goes.
/r/seduction13/09/24 01:50 AM
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Depending on whether your first impression was lukewarm or bad, it’ll either be a neutral or uphill battle. The fact they readily agreed without resistance seems to mean they are above neutral. My personal story was I totally ruined my chances with this one girl, got rejected. Lived my life forgetting about her and the beginning of the next year, had a long enough time of a first impression reset for everything to go smoothly at the 2nd go around. The first impression reset is a gamble of sorts.…
/r/seduction12/09/24 08:46 AM
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If you just break the touch barrier while not bringing any attention to it, and you're not afraid to do it again for each further organic opportunity that presents itself, everything just falls into place.
/r/seduction11/09/24 09:00 AM
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Why are you unable to eat out? If you can figure it out, some of them might come directly over to your place if you are unable to travel. Though it might take you a bit to find someone that will do that with nothing else aside from flirty texts and your voice.
/r/seduction11/09/24 07:38 AM
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In a vacation venue, many women feel like there is much more anonymity within if they hook up with a random guy there. In comparison to the city they live, any potential hookup means they could in a small chance or greater chance, run into that guy again in public. This makes them have more guards up compared to being at a resort where they are very certain they will most likely never ever see you again after your one night stand. It is really about “potential of being judged” or something along…
/r/seduction11/09/24 07:34 AM
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It sounds like this situation might need some kind of therapist intervention worst case. I see two ways it can go otherwise. Positive way: You find a guy that explores your needs in a way that fulfills you, relaxes you, and opens you up. Negative way: You find a guy that doesn’t properly respect your boundaries and maybe puts you in a worse place mentally. Right now, it is a bit of a gamble because while the right kind of guy would probably help you resolve your mental block, having one you are …
/r/seduction11/09/24 06:25 AM
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Affirmations, subliminals, and legitimate hypnosis videos over the course of weeks or months will help with internalizing healthy inner game.
/r/seduction10/09/24 05:20 PM
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The wise ones around here would probably say you showed too much interest past her levels for you way too fast and thus burned hers for you away. We've all been there. Just look at it educationally. And try to remind yourself next time you fall into a blissful euphoria over a girl to restrain yourself enough to not chase those feelings off a cliff. It may still work itself out, but if it doesn't, that's most likely what happened. A chance for a life lesson.
/r/seduction08/09/24 05:06 PM
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Tongkat Ali, Horny Goat Weed, Yohimbine, Arginine, Fadogia, and Tribulus are pretty good. If you are looking for simply libido increase and no eggplant boosting, I'd go with just the Horny Goat Weed. If you want to pack something serious reliably down there, then experiment with the other things on the list. Be sure to do a good amount of research on all this stuff before you take anything. For real, and if in doubt, avoid whatever you feel might not fit with you. Also, be sure to monitor yourse…
/r/seduction08/09/24 03:18 AM
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You want to be in a place where you are "wanted" even if something falls through for you. Keep your fitness up, keep yourself emerged within your hobbies (especially ones that may help you meet future partners), and use your pain to increase the current level of your social skills. The moment you can say to yourself "it is what it is" and you learn, grow and become stronger from it, is the moment the hurt will gradually decrease bit by bit as you continually make improvements to yourself.
/r/seduction07/09/24 06:33 PM
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Whatever you open up with, be ready to have it be flipped back against you when you get into a future argument or your relationship begins to fracture or rift in any type of way. You can open up about some things, emphasis on the "some", because certain things if you give them away, they will eventually return to you as an extremely sharp dagger driven straight into and completely through your heart. Opening up about some things can help deepen intimacy. Give away too much, and you've just reduc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 03:46 PM
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Alright, I've seen tons of times guys in my life spin dating the girl they didn't really like into dating a girl they really like. It's worth seeing the girl (that is well socially connected to other girls) that doesn't look as good as many times you can get one of her prettier friends to take a liking to you, opening future doors if you so choose to access them. If you behave sexually within social bounds with the girl you're dating in front of other girls, those girls in your orbit will take n…
/r/seduction07/09/24 01:02 AM
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You need social skills to make anything “happen” aside from a “hello” or “how’s the weather?” But if you are hot/sexy/attractive, the opposite sex will heavily go out of their way to stretch any form of basic communication as far as it can possibly go to ensure you both connect to one another. Whereas, if you are at the opposite end of this spectrum, any form of communication you offer will be looked to be minimized in response if at all or just pacified with a polite socially acceptable form of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:20 PM
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Sometimes applying pheromones to yourself can motivate you to be more fearless. Some people believe they don't work while I'm one that believes they do work if you get them from companies that are legit. Whether they work or not, they can exist as a stimulus to put you in the mood, whether it's placebo or has an actual helpful benefit. You could also alternatively, anchor some kind of motivational behavior to let yourself "know" it's "go time" such as flicking your lighter twice or tapping your …
/r/seduction04/09/24 11:00 PM
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Affirmations, subliminals, cold approaching, making a mistakes journal, looking through the many gems in this sub and not letting your emotions get distorted. Look at every experience as a chance to learn, not a chance to beat yourself up. Don’t worry about the “finish line”
/r/seduction04/09/24 03:43 PM
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I remember back in school, around 80% of a the girls there all wanted the same exact guy, lmfao. The math there obviously is only favorable to one person and 1 or no others was going to be the winner there. Some of them had to let go of their affection towards him and date others because they realized things probably wouldn't progress to their liking, but a good amount most likely just became his play things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:08 AM
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There is no way around needing game to some degree. Even if you are attractive and have maxed out body game you still need at least extremely basic game. Biologically sex before modern technology (birth control) would get a girl pregnant. If that sex was not with a leader (smooth/ leads ) of some sort or someone important in the tribe (someone confident), that would be like her risking losing her resulting kids that she invests around a year into making with this random male who may not even hav…
/r/seduction04/09/24 08:47 AM
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I agree, and yeah, to OP, if you want text to go well, it works best to land a great first impression, leave on a high note, and then reach out later. Then she'll read your message with excitement. Otherwise, you're rolling the dice, and if she has no strong memory of you, your text is going straight into the trash unless you're exceptionally attractive or have high social proof.
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:11 PM
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Take every failure as a lesson. You'll be more prepared for the next one. Don't be down on yourself. Create yourself a journal. List out your mistakes. List out ways you can improve in the future with each mistake you're aware of making. For physical escalation, starting off with a casual hug when you first see her gives you something to start with, then you start to go further bit by bit as you go along. You had a vibe going with her early into it, but you got too intoxicated and lacked any kin…
/r/seduction02/09/24 10:52 PM
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Alright, here is the solution to your problems: - Be relaxed, Don't overthink things, Don't think that you're going to be marrying this random girl so you have to do everything right. Be relaxed, be in the moment. - Know how to banter. Bantering means not answering things she says logically, you'll want to be fun. sometimes reward her in conversation, sometimes tease her, don't have her break your relaxation, just have fun. - Model attractive body language - Look up various body language poses t…
/r/seduction02/09/24 08:09 PM
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A saying I've been looking to live by whenever I am hesitant to make some kind of move is that famous one everybody knows: "You miss all the shots you don't take." You'll get it next time. This won't be the best opportunity that you run into.
/r/seduction02/09/24 07:21 PM
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What is your current age range? I've dated up to 12 years younger than myself for example (currently a few years away from 40) and my last LTR was an 8 year difference. You probably don't want to go too far out there in range, since you want your partner to still be able to do things you want to do and have some things together in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:08 PM
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This is possible but a guy with no bodies at all usually will mean he is severely socially stunted aside from extreme exceptions. Though that being said there are some extremely attractive guys that have gone celibate by choice, but finding one of those would be extremely rare. You're more likely to find a guy that doesn't know how to banter, do fun conversations, or anything else requiring higher level social skills at 0 bodies. That'd be tough to deal with unless you want every single conversa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:55 PM
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Hasn't there been tons of layoffs in the tech industry in recent years? And that being said, how many positions are even available versus the amount of graduates each year? Yeah, exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 05:53 PM
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This really. Once enough boomers retire without enough replacements coming back in to take their spot, places will be forced to up wages or not have enough workers to get any production done in a timely manner. The trades aren't like a lot of other jobs where you can just throw an AI or robot in there to fill the gap and call it a day. At least not yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:37 PM
1

This really. I know a lot more people steadily employed in the trades than people employed in the fields they got degrees in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:59 PM
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You don't need to be hard to approach, it kind of happens here and there naturally as you and her vibe off of one another, feeling each other through the conversation+ more. Really your main idea here is do confident looking behaviors, primarily body language and tone of voice that make you seem sexual so throughout the conversation, so the girl's "lady boner" grows if you're getting a good banter going between the two of you, and you don't do any behaviors that kill off any attraction she might…
/r/seduction02/09/24 03:34 PM
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The more relaxed, the better you'll do. About kino, I didn't make the rules, but if you want things to go well and more easily than they otherwise would, kino is a tool you will definitely want to study and be good at. I'll just say that.
/r/seduction02/09/24 01:36 PM
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When to kiss her? If you both been building up a vibe together which shouldn't be an issue if you've been progressively introducing higher and higher levels of kino into the mix, you'll feel the moment easily enough. If you haven't really been touching her, you're going to need to look to introduce kino this time around, being aware of her comfort levels, and progressively increasing it in a way where she won't find intrusive but will find inviting. Then the kiss will just come naturally. Just b…
/r/seduction02/09/24 12:45 PM
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Great post. Covers a lot of aspects of the process described extremely well. Would you mind if I sent you a DM?
/r/seduction02/09/24 11:42 AM
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The amog can be dealt with in different ways depending on what is going on. I’ve had to play social chess against a very skilled amog before in a very tense situation where only he and I knew what we were doing to each other. Slipping his labels, making him uncomfortable/anxious, and getting him to bail coming up with an excuse to leave, leaving the girl there with me. When there is multiple girls around, amogs are less of an issue as you have more options available. If you both want the same gi…
/r/seduction02/09/24 10:02 AM
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Alright, a lot of the seasoned veterans here probably feel similarly to what I'm about to say. She either cheated so she "forgot to text you" or she really got that wasted (around guys that probably want to have sex with her so make of that what you will) and it slipped her mind. Definitely do what other posters have suggested, asking about her night but do it in a way where you're relaxed and inquiring and you're not interrogating her. If parts of the story really don't make sense, or your intu…
/r/seduction01/09/24 10:03 PM
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Alright so, you need to stop worrying about the outcome. This will require a mindset adjustment. Instead of worrying about whether or not you say the right thing or if you will screw things up, focus on relaxing and focusing about how much you want her in the moment, not in the future with 5 kids, a white picket fence, Etc. How much you would want her right now and right now only. If you do this correctly your anxiety about the “future” should diminish. Okay, step 2 is get her into a conversatio…
/r/seduction01/09/24 10:22 AM
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I guess the question here is, would you really choose food or would you choose sex? Hiding your sexuality could have been your main error here. You didn't have to answer explicitly, even answering slyly like "well...", looking towards her momentarily, and then being like "I do enjoy both" could have been a fun answer. You'd just have to be ready for her follow up. It's important for you to slow down the pace of the conversation so she doesn't lock you down into an interview mode or have you sitt…
/r/seduction31/08/24 09:43 PM
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Exactly this. If the vibe isn't there, she isn't going to stick it out. Dine and then dash out of there. Some guys be trying to handle hangouts like it's a videogame RPG where choice A always leads to outcome A instead of realizing that things are still flowing moment to moment and a moment butchered could be a moment lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:17 PM
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Some guys get it mixed up that just because a woman accepted an invite to their house for dinner or whatever that it guarantees there will be extra curricular activities from that point onwards. As the guy, you still need to be displaying attractive behaviors (at least the ones she originally liked) and giving an experience of sorts (especially if you may intend to have your first intimate experience with the woman) so that she feels comfortable in your home. Usually someone going to your house …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 11:45 AM
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You got to flip your nerves and anxiety into excitement and courage. She is feeling your vibe and it's making her uncertain. How do I know for certain your vibe is uncertain? You're asking us for a walkthrough while you are in a room alone with a girl. You got this or you'll get it next time. Just vibe and make her feel comfortable. If it doesn't work out, remember what you learned for the next time.
/r/seduction31/08/24 11:35 AM
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A lot of times when a guy is in a committed LTR where he isn't screwing around on the side, a lot of his vibe diminishes rapidly over the years. On the plus side, lots of things in life are like muscle memory though. Same thing if you stop practicing a musical instrument. You can get back what you lost, it may just take a couple weeks to a couple months and maybe it won't be at your peak peak, but it'll be somewhere good, and somewhere that you can feel you can still progress forward from. TLDR …
/r/seduction31/08/24 01:58 AM
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Confidence - No attachment to outcome, self-belief, ability to head into or walk away from a situation without fear. Confident: Guy says he's going home, invites girl along with him, she refuses, he leaves to do what he said anyway. Unconfident: Guy says he's going home, invites girl along with him, she refuses, he stays at the bar and goes against his own word. Social Skills - Your ability to banter. Your wit. Knowing at least roughly as the bare minimum, the appropriate modes of communication …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:56 AM
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I feel any therapist I ever dealt with in my life was useless for me and I had to improve myself on my own, and accept self-responsibility along the way. Many therapists don’t really deep dive far enough with their clients, so nothing truly gets solved.
/r/seduction26/08/24 04:09 PM
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It is worth adding that yeah, you need conversation skills to actually communicate, but the more gym you have towards the ideal lean body type, the less perfect you have to be when you take fun risks conversationally. You will be allowed to make more mistakes and opportunities for recovery will be much easier for any conversational fumbles assuming they are not grave. Essentially both skills are synergistic. Looks just make it easier to open the door. Conversational skills gets you the ability t…
/r/seduction26/08/24 07:07 AM
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What even is this. Even if this is true, this ain't even the right reddit for this.
/r/seduction25/08/24 07:32 PM
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Exactly this. She found in her eyes a "better option" and slated you for the next day.
/r/seduction25/08/24 06:54 PM
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Have you tried the most obvious answer of all? Lubricant? Like astroglide or uberlube? Anything in that class of products usually works wonders, even if the girl is too dry or too tight. Rather than trying to split her apart.
/r/seduction25/08/24 03:00 AM
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This is tricky because if you have any kind of media presence for example, you'll want to have potential playmates maybe sign some kind of NDA through legal or such, so it doesn't come out into the public that you were with them. Obviously, we won't know who you are if this is true, but how would you be able to trust the guy you choose to sleep with, won't reveal he slept with you? It's a big chance and risk to take especially as a celebrity type of figure. I'm not sure how it's done since I'm n…
/r/seduction25/08/24 01:37 AM
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You have to let the pressure of failing out of your mind. It is one of the biggest things that'll sabotage you. Be excited and feel proud to fail as every time you do, you will get better as long as you pay attention. Your reward will be learning from each and every time you do fail. Usually you kind of want to get some kind of thing into a conversation that could lead to the possibility of someone wanting to go with you without any pressure. Let's say you talk about some kind of band earlier on…
/r/seduction24/08/24 07:26 PM
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Honestly, it's really the headspace you need to be in or be away from. When talking to girls, you usually want to focus on fun bantering and navigate that towards a bantering of a sexual nature, even if you would normally answer logically to something if you took it at face value. You don't want to banter 100% of the time since then you'll be seen as too unserious, but you want more bantering than logic for sure. Logic will kill off any building up of attraction a lot of times. The way you talk …
/r/seduction24/08/24 09:28 AM
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At where I work, a girl there broke the touch barrier with me, but I don't take advantage to go further than anything platonic because the minute you both have a falling out, you can easily be toast. HR will side with her even if she fabricates a story and then you need to go find a new job. Unless your job sucks and you can get a better one, no reason to take the risk.
/r/seduction24/08/24 09:07 AM
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Your best strategy as a man is to be peak you, whatever that is. Max your style, fitness, finances, Etc. out as much as you can so that when it's your turn with someone, they don't want to look to next you, so you are able to have much more time to relax peacefully, enjoy your time with them, and not be embroiled in conflict. Depending on your starting stats of course and who else is regularly pursuing your mate, being next'ed may be inevitable, but you can at least prolong the process as long a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:39 PM
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It's worth noting that you have to meet a certain threshold for social cue awareness as well generally, aside from looking the best you can within your ability. That threshold is not too difficult to hit, but if you don't make it there, then your "personality" ends up being deduced as being poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 08:56 PM
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If you go into the date passive, you'll fall into the girl's frame. At that point, you're slowly losing all your chances of anything happening. You want to make sure you pull her into your frame and keep the interactions feeling fun and spontaneous. You want to take chances for natural kino when you can get them. You want to avoid her locking you down into an interview mode (where do you work/how many brothers and sisters/Etc.) and you want to take the lead while letting her express herself emot…
/r/seduction18/08/24 06:40 PM
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Basically, you want to subtly get closer to her, escalating piece by piece by breaking the touch barrier, first very casually that doesn't raise any red flags, then watch to see if she continues to be receptive or even goes out of her way to touch you back and then you ramp it up slowly while still keeping it public appropriate. This will get her "tea kettle" boiling and she'll be more receptive for you guys to take the date somewhere else. Definitely if you venture into touching, you want to st…
/r/seduction18/08/24 11:37 AM
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From a quick glance at this, it seems like you failed the social skills portion. You need to subtly increase your kino throughout the date, and continue building momentum as long as you keep getting positive reception. Then you will be ready for the good old random (hopefully you set up for this earlier in the conversation), “at my place, I have blah blah blah album, ill be on my way home shortly to listen to it on my vinyl player, come along with me” or basically any excuse for you guys to arri…
/r/seduction18/08/24 10:12 AM
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The only successful way out of the "friend zone" generally that doesn't involve anything manipulative/nefarious, as far as I know are two ways: Way one, can work, less reliable than way two, roll of the dice: 1. Break away subtly for an extended period and hit a reintroduction/"new first impression" that is more confident/stylish/better shape. Way two, pretty reliable, but obviously not always: 2. If you are dating another girl or girls that they deem to be of a higher social status than them (m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 01:45 PM
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Try to do the same thing a guy would do. Find something random going on around the guy (your target), whether it's something he's wearing or something going on around you guys, use that to segway into a conversation with him. Throw in a compliment or two in there for him but don't overdo it, and you may win him over easily. Many guys in their lifetimes receive only a few handfuls of complements from women, so it definitely is usually always taken note of. Then if he doesn't take the bait, rinse …
/r/seduction16/08/24 10:58 PM
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If you ever played Baldur’s Gate 3 or DnD, look at being overweight or fat as essentially any dice roll you land with a girl has a few points ripped off the top. For some girls this is an instant elimination. For some others, you better roll higher than you would otherwise need to (errors when pulling off game will be penalized more heavily so you are allotted very few). Tldr, be in good shape, then you can make more small errors (the girl will be more open to overlooking some) and not have them…
/r/seduction15/08/24 06:50 AM
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If you can cut down heavily on pmo, you will get more confidence to approach. Masturbation can be a recipe for anxiety amplification when it comes to new skill acquisition. Btw, the more you fail approaches, the more your body/mind should make micro-corrections assuming you are aware of most of your missteps until finally you start to receive trickles of success.
/r/seduction14/08/24 06:15 AM
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She could be saying you are very sweet in reference to you texting her. You are definitely overthinking this, assuming you're not double texting or doing weird behaviors in the texts. It sounds like she's just saying she appreciates the follow up communication. Not much reason to read any further into it, if that helps.
/r/seduction11/08/24 01:43 PM
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When I used to go to the gym with my cousin regularly, he'd often have girls walk up to him that he didn't even know and they would grab up on his biceps. This essentially meant he was in most times and just had to lead the frame of rest of the interaction with the girl usually making it easy for him. If your assets (such as physique or such) are top notch, you have a lot less game you have to worry about. Your goal essentially becomes more of not doing anything too far out there that suddenly g…
/r/seduction10/08/24 10:55 PM
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The more in shape you are, the more chances a woman will give you even if you scuff up the interaction a bit. If you are overweight or obese and are not muscular, you gotta be spitting perfect game to not get instantly eliminated essentially.
/r/seduction10/08/24 05:15 PM
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Use the oldest trick in the book, have him help you with something you don’t need help with but pretend you do. Many guys love the chance to take a kind of teacher role. You can escalate it without scaring him by subtle body movements and being sure to have plausible deniability in it. Make an excuse for him to be able to touch you by brushing up against him. If he has no interest, he won’t follow up on anything or else he is very shy and inexperienced.
/r/seduction09/08/24 09:56 PM
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I like the way my beard encloses my face but hate the randomness of the hairs when it gets too long. My compromise is I just will use a number 2 guard once a week with the Wahl electric razor so I keep a subtle outline of the beard and it also has a stubble effect.
/r/seduction09/08/24 09:06 AM
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Option: Get into great physical shape and up other aspects of your appearance and then your wife most likely will get more heightened competition anxiety, and this will potentially put you at a more even ground if she has been feeling comfortable regularly promoting toxic behaviors towards you. If she has been good to you regularly, then the above advice is much less applicable but not bad just for personal health reasons and giving you an abundance of future options if things go south assuming …
/r/seduction08/08/24 10:09 PM
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A way to handle the age question is to not bother mentioning it but if they ask you, something like “I turn [age] in [birth month], so when is your birthday?” Then changing the subject naturally after she completes the exchange so there is no lingering on it. One of the biggest things is any of these major questions, if there is any shakiness in your confidence, I notice the girl will have shakiness in their confidence in you. There are a lot of weird directions conversation can go successfully …
/r/seduction07/08/24 06:33 AM
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