Throughout undergrad, I weighed around 200 pounds, and my success with women was great. I rarely got ghosted and usually managed to at least make out with half of the girls I dated, sleep with roughly a third of them.

I’m 27 now and weigh about 220 pounds. My luck with women has plummeted . I’m lucky if I even get a text back after a first date. I’ve tried to compare my current approach with what I did during undergrad. Aside from having a big boy job now, the only major change I can think of is my weight. For context, I still date within the same age range: 20-30.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Do you think losing 15-20 pounds might help me get back to my old self? In my mind, I don’t see how losing weight will change a lot. I do see weight loss success stories here but those are usually with people losing 50+ pound

As an avid gym-goer, the only thing holding me back is knowing that if I lose weight, my gym gains might suffer… I’m willing to risk it tho..