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His or her reply was to my comment. Your comment and judgemental attitude says a lot about you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 12:36 AM
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Is it a must to read everyone's reply on Reddit? Especially if it's too long? I value my time. Read your comment again. You're the one who is rude. Why don't you get off Reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 12:35 AM
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Keep doing what you've been doing. Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:52 PM
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You are not the problem. Seems like he has a hard time dealing with strong emotions. It may be related to a traumatic childhood experience. That is regarding the shower at a stranger's house incident. If I were you, I would have a heart to heart conversation with him and try to reach a mutual understanding -- him understanding where I'm coming from (wasted time getting ready) and me understanding where he's coming from (had to cancel because of work). He may also be stressed because the his busi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:42 PM
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Asking him to talk about something else is being dismissive. Of course, it's frustrating for you. I get where you're coming from. He's stuck because he can't figure a way out. The only way is for him to resolve it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 05:22 PM
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What on earth??? You've got some serious issues... I hope you're not a reflection of a typical Red Pill wife. If you are, I'm outta here! How many insane people like OP are there on this sub???
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 11:35 PM
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Yup, exactly!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 12:03 PM
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Please get that out of your head. Having a degree doesn't make you masculine. Even if it's a STEM degree, it doesn't. Being smart doesn't make you masculine at all. In fact, men would appreciate that, especially men who are smart themselves. Men who aren't smart would likely keep their distance, but that's a good thing. It filters them out -- they're not worth your time anyway. As long as you're not constantly trying to prove to men that you're smarter than them, it's not an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 11:09 PM
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Yup. That'll paint a better picture. If you consider all humans on earth, a majority are "low value". Only a few are high value in terms of character, virtues, and so on. I'm pretty sure an exit survey would reveal ridiculous and immature reasons for divorces. Not to mention, many get married for the wrong reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 10:58 PM
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I couldn't care less about the statistics. I think there are many more factors in play. Mutual respect, mutual trust, mutual support, healthy communication, and so on -- regardless of income, status, education, etc., these factors are always key. Income, status, education, etc. can contribute to how well couples respect each other or communicate with each other and so on. My issue with statistics is it never really paints the full picture. For example, the 50% divorce rate. One might say that ma…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 08:01 AM
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Your second paragraph is right on point! Only take advice from women who are where you want to be!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 01:25 AM
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Sensitive men do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 01:16 AM
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I think the key difference is the existence or lack of emotional connection.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 11:04 AM
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I think the key difference is the existence or lack of emotional connection.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 11:04 AM
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I have to disagree with you. If a man truly loves you, he would care about what you have to say. It depends on the man though -- sensitive men tend to be more empathetic towards their partners and that's why I love them. Sharing your day may seem like pointless information though. I personally don't care about "sharing my day" and I wouldn't want to hear about my partner's day unless it's about something important. As women, we should understand that we shouldn't depend on our partners for every…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 11:01 AM
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That happens when men don't care about pleasing their partners -- when men only care about their own pleasure. That's why emotional connection is so important. If it's not there, the woman would feel used.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 10:49 AM
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You know what? I'm deeply embarrassed to know that you are female. In fact, I wish you weren't one since you hate women so much. Afterall, you're still a teenager -- an 18 year old. You have a lot of growing to do. You are the disappointment to the female gender. Stop judging and hating on women you barely know.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 03:54 AM
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"Women are irrational and weak." You've got some issues girl. There are irrational men and there are irrational women. It's the same with rational men and rational women. Women may seem to be more irrational, but you have to understand why that is. Think about how boys and girls grow up. Generally, boys grow up solving problems but girls grow up believing in fairy tales. Still though, there are many rational women out there. I'm one of them. You can be one of them too -- it's really up to you. D…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 03:33 AM
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Great write up but I disagree with this "... care more about him than yourself", especially if he's not doing the same for you
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 04:44 PM
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There are some comments accusing you of having a big ego. Ignore them. It has nothing to do with you. It's a reflection of who they are -- they're just projecting their insecurities on you. It's similar to your fiancé. Is he insecure about you earning more than him or do you really have a big ego? You will have to self reflect. Personally, I don't think you have a big ego because you are concerned about how you make your partner feel. You don't feel that you're better than him because you earn m…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 05:45 AM
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Do your best to stay in shape but always be prepared for the worst. There's no guarantee of anything in this life.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 07:54 AM
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Totally agree with you! We should never lose ourselves in a relationship ever.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 06:07 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:30 PM
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Exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:29 PM
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Your username is funny 😁
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:24 PM
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I think the age gap may become an issue, especially since he's still so young and still in uni. By when would you like to get married? It seems like it will take him years to reach a point where he's financially stable enough for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:20 PM
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Your comment is irrelevant to your post. If you're referring to women looking for something better after marriage, that's definitely not okay especially if there are kids involved. It reminds me of what Jeff Bezos's mistress did. It was very selfish of her and Jeff was an idiot to accept a woman who could do that to her family -- leave her husband for a richer man. It affects her children too. Jeff also played a part in it. Anyway, hypergamy is a thing a wise woman would do, but there's a place …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 02:09 AM
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There is nothing wrong with hypergamy. A woman wants what's best for her children. By marrying up, she's giving her children better chances at life. If you were a woman, you would do the same. Any wise woman would do that. Child birth and taking care of children reduces a woman's earning potential. If women didn't have to do any of that, they would be earning a lot more. There's a big difference between a woman who's looking for a sugar daddy though. I personally identify as a healthy, stable wo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 10:46 PM
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Keep believing that it has nothing to do with hate. Good day to you too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 03:48 AM
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There's no hate in f*ck men? Seriously? If she has a daughter, that's not a healthy attitude to expose her to. If she has a son, that's not a healthy attitude to expose him too either.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 03:01 AM
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I'm talking about cheating in stable relationships like hers. Her husband made a life long commitment. There's more to the story. Instead of just blaming the other person, we should also look at ourselves to see what we could've done better. Whether there were any red flags we missed. Whether we made them feel disrespected and so on. Whether we let ourselves go. That way, we won't make the same mistakes in our next relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 02:59 AM
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Yes, OP needs to love herself, but hating and blaming all men out there is not a healthy approach.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 09:41 PM
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Knowing the full story will not justify his cheating -- it will help us understand his side of the story. People don't cheat just because of ego and selfish desires. It goes beyond that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 09:40 PM
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Do we know the full story? No. Yes, he cheated on her, but why? You can't say that OP didn't contribute to it in any way. They both have some responsibility. I'm not saying that he was right to cheat -- cheating is never right.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 09:23 PM
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I won't only blame the man. They both played a part in the down fall of their marriage. Please don't generalize by saying f*ck men. There are great men out there. Plus, the mistress is a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 08:46 PM
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I disagree with you. Red pill is not about blindness, shallowness, and being egoless to serve an egotistical, selfish and self centered partner. Red pill is about learning how to understand and treat your man with honor, based on his masculine nature. In fact, I would argue that OP is where she is partly because she didn't follow (some) red pill principles. The red pill has transformed the relationships I have with men in my life. It's not fair to jump to your conclusion without knowing the full…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 08:44 PM
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Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 01:59 PM
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Some men say that it's a traumatic experience for them. Were you not affected at all by the experience?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 10:58 AM
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Even during disagreements, I recommend that you remain respectful towards each other.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 08:39 AM
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I don't know why no one has mentioned this. Your communication style is very disrespectful -- it's confrontational. I personally would never talk to my partner like that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 02:42 AM
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That's interesting. Thanks for sharing how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 08:29 PM
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Why do you disagree with the red pill? What don't you agree with? Just curious to know. I personally was the complete opposite of the red pill until I met someone who treated me like a proper gentleman. He made me realize how fulfilling it is to embrace my femininity as a woman. The red pill has really opened my eyes to the fundamental difference between men and women. It has made my relationships with the men in my life much more fulfilling.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 03:12 PM
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Why are you wasting your time thinking about that?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 12:34 PM
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My comment was referring to your second paragraph.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 04:01 PM
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Very true. OP needs to remember that there are other people involved. Bringing in kids would only make matters worse.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 05:57 AM
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This is a selfish thing to do though. She would be leading on and cheating her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 05:56 AM
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I don't think there's a hard and fast rule for this. It's subjective. There are certain things that a man may do that would mean you should walk away the first time he does it. For example, if a man should threaten your life, giving him a second chance may be a death wish. But if it's a silly habit, even if they do it multiple times, you want to overlook it and compensate for it. In general, look at his actions and not his words. If he says sorry but does it again, it means that he's not truly s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 11:53 PM
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"And if I'm being honest, I've seen more promiscuous women married in comparison to women who were still virgins.“ There is some truth to this, but there are other factors in play. Did they put themselves out there? Are they attractive? Why did they remain virgins? Was it by choice or was it because no man was ever interested in them? A high value man won't reject a high value woman just because she's a virgin. That will never be the case. As long as she has an open mind and is confident with he…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 11:40 PM
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Very interesting perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 11:04 PM
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And why is that?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 07:29 AM
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There are ways men show commitment. Action speaks louder than words. Some men only want sex. After that, they're gone. I get where you're coming from though, but we have different views and I respect yours. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 07:28 AM
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Thanks for going through this again! Happy to refresh my memory :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 04:33 AM
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I would say for a lady, it's getting commitment before sex not after. Not the ultimate commitment -- marriage -- but some level of commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 04:22 AM
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You are still immature. You need to learn more about what to look for in a partner. You can search this sub for ideas and there are lots of resources on the internet. You are still so young. You don't have to make such a compromise. If you're not willing to accommodate his dream career, let him go. You're not compatible with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 12:35 AM
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I get what you mean. Thanks for the explanation. I do agree in the sense that we should be sensitive towards the male ego but it shouldn't get to the point where we feel like we're walking on eggshells. There are some women here who seem to prioritize their men's needs up to the point that they neglect their own -- it ends up costing them their happiness in the long run. Based on my experiences, there should be a healthy balance if not it can become very toxic. There's a lot of truth to the red …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 03:14 AM
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I would use the present the problem and not the solution approach. Meaning that you should tell him for example that you've noticed that the clothes don't get washed properly, then ask him leading questions that would lead him to the conclusion that he should probably load less clothes. Something like this. He's not listening to you because he doesn't think it's significant. When he realizes that overloading causes problems, he would be more willing to come up with a solution and make a change.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 12:04 AM
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Could you please expand on that? How have wives here been submissive in unhealthy ways? Just curious to know.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 11:58 PM
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To me, success can be financial, psychological, social, and so on. It depends on the circumstance. I don't care much about the actual success, I care more about how they respond to success and failure. It's a true test of character. As for high value males, to me, they have high standards for women. They value quality over quantity. They are leaders that I can naturally submit to. They are wise, smart, trustworthy, financially stable, ambitious, kind, sensitive, reliable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 11:24 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. All my ideas have been mentioned in other comments. I really hope things work out well for you. My heart goes out to you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 11:08 PM
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Your partner needs to be more empathetic. Can you afford therapy by yourself? Self therapy is what helped me a lot -- it's what I preferred. I really love self reflecting. You need to stop looking for validation from others. Don't give anyone that much power over you. Everyone is unique. There will always be someone better at something than you. What matters is that they pick you. When you know your value, you wouldn't need anyone to validate you. You're better off looking for someone who choose…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 12:23 PM
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Wow! That example really hit me. Never thought of it that way.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 12:06 PM
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You've posted on the wrong sub. Women here don't see men as complete trash. Neither do we blame men for all our problems. We take responsibility and work to understand men better and improve ourselves. Plus, we don't waste time on LVM. You may want to post that on FDS.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 12:00 PM
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Can't you do both? When it comes to weight, controlling your diet makes a huge difference. I'm slim and have been slim for years. I work out occasionally (planning to do so often), but my diet is what has kept me in shape all these years. Nothing else.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 08:01 AM
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Happy to read this! Come to think about it, I wonder why women get so caught up in being independent. Being interdependent and embracing a man's masculinity makes life so much easier!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 04:40 AM
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Thanks for this. I get where you're coming from, and I agree with you. I still feel that all 3 are essential though. I used to be against marriage, I used to think that it wasn't important, but what I've come to realize is that marriage is the ultimate form of commitment, especially from a woman's perspective if she plans to have children. In life, there are highs and lows. A man won't always be in the state of dedication. When there's no marriage, it's much easier to walk away when the going ge…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 12:05 AM
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There are lots of misconceptions about RP. Haven't gotten banned for posting here (I'm only on a few subreddits), but many members have. It's ironic because there's a lot of truth to RPW. It shouldn't be the case.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 11:41 PM
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Went through your post history. You're a teen. I don't know how old you are, but please be careful. You're still so young to be having thoughts like these. Money is power. When you depend on someone for money, they will have power over you. At a tender age, you're more vulnerable. It's easier for rich men to prey on you. Many women remain in abusive and unhappy relationships because they can't afford the lifestyle themselves. My advice to you is work on becoming financially stable. There are so …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 12:25 PM
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IMO, his reaction is not necessarily a good thing. He seems to have very low self esteem and thinks that you're the best that he can get, so he's scared of losing you. If he could get her, I'm pretty sure that he'll leave you for her. Just something to think about. I may be wrong though -- think for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 02:19 AM
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Instead of giving him advice, you should have asked leading questions that would guide him to make the conclusion of a solution himself. Just reflect and learn from this experience. You're still very young.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 02:13 AM
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Also, since you don't see getting married as a form of commitment, in your opinion, how would a woman know that a man is making a commitment? Would love to hear your thoughts on this. You may also want to write a post about this. There seems to be a lack of clarity in the meaning of commitment in RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 08:22 AM
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When I say marriage is a form of commitment, I'm referring to the decision to get married. As I've mentioned before, one would only get married to someone they wish to spend the rest of their life with.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 06:55 AM
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Marriage is just one element. Vetting is also very important. It's important to consider their character, their values, their openness to compromise and adapt. Their willingness to grow and work on their shortcomings. Their desire to please their partner and care for their well being. When I say marriage, I'm not referring to the license, I'm referring to the decision the man is making, the commitment that he is making, to spend the rest of his life with a woman. We always say that divorce is po…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 01:13 AM
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Also, tell me a better form of commitment than marriage then.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 11:34 PM
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I guess it also depends on the culture. In Western culture, sex before marriage is no big deal, but in Asian culture, it's frowned upon. When a woman has sex, there's a risk of pregnancy, even with contraceptives. The last thing I want is to have children out of wedlock, and abortion is frowned upon in some cultures; or children whose father I don't have a solid stable relationship with. I still see marriage as the best way to know whether a man is truly committed to the relationship. Either way…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 11:26 PM
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Marriage is a major form of commitment. You won't get married to just anyone, only to people with whom you are very serious about.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 11:15 PM
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IMO your post goes against the principles of RPW to some extent. Commitment before sex is key to RPW. When you talk about sex before marriage, cohabitation, and polygamy, these don't necessarily align with commitment before sex. It's very possible for a man to up and leave at any moment. Of course, marriage is not the only form of commitment, but it is a major form of commitment. For ladies who take part in the previously mentioned (sex before marriage, etc.), how can they guarantee a commitment…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 05:18 PM
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Your post lacks context. I wonder what you did to make her that angry. Not saying it's justifiable -- there are two sides to every story. If she's willing to work on her anger, anger management classes or therapy (if her anger stems from unresolved trauma) would be great. If she's not willing to work on it, be cautious. Maybe even walk away. Sociopaths can be very dangerous -- sometimes, life threatening.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 04:24 PM
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Any man can verbally express commitment, but his actions speak louder than words. There are ways a woman can tell whether he's committed through his actions. When a man is truly committed, he's in it for the long haul. He won't just up and leave after sex, even if it's bad. He would be willing to put in the effort to make it work. However, if there's no commitment, he may lose respect for her and if it was bad, he'd have even more reasons to up and leave.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 07:21 AM
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IMO, it's insecure men who feel the need to marry women who are poorer, weaker, dumber, less emotionally stable, and more needy. Secure men don't feel intimidated by women who have these opposite of these qualities, as long as they are feminine and submissive. However, women with the opposite of these qualities tend to be less feminine and submissive. Also, some qualities are subjective. For example, the way or reasons a man would respect a woman is different from why he would respect a man. A m…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 06:38 AM
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He was never truly into you. He was only into the chase. He caught you and now he's lost interest and he's onto the next chase. Next time, wait for commitment before becoming intimate. It'll save you from a lot of heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 04:59 PM
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This is subjective. The way one would describe what their best friend is to them is different from how another would. Having a best friend doesn't go hand in hand with codependency. Rather, it signifies interdependence. It's true though that we need to have various relationships to fulfill our needs rather than relying on only one person.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 04:55 PM
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It's ironic, but the more you're sacred of losing something or pushing it away, the more likely you are to lose it or push it away. There is a lot of strength in being able to walk away. There's a lot of strength in knowing that you will be okay with or without him. Seems like there's a mismatch between your self esteem and his. You need to work on improving yours. When you do that, it'll all fall in place. You won't be as scared about screwing up. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 02:57 AM
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This is so true.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 02:48 AM
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Try expressing your concerns to him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 10:26 PM
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Infatuation is short lived -- it can last for a few years. It doesn't take time to form. Love on the other hand lasts forever. It takes time to form. You can never fall out of true love. You can only fall out of infatuation. Read up more on the differences and see which applies to your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 10:23 PM
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Seems like he doesn't genuinely care about you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 01:30 PM
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This is the most disturbing and confusing post I've ever read on this sub. I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. I don't think it belongs on this sub. I don't know what made you feel that being female is disgusting. I'm a woman and I'm so proud of it. I won't trade it for anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 03:56 PM
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Glad that he's social. Happy for him. Maybe try talking to him about his issues and how he would like you to support him better? That will surely give you the clarity you need.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 06:06 PM
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I think it's good for you to understand men's issues, but it'll be better for him to form male friendships that will help him in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 03:26 AM
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I'm personally against women asking men out because it's a great way to guage his interest in you. If he's not asking you out, he's simply not interested. You only need one man who's interested enough to consistently put in the effort. Afterall, men are the gate keepers of commitment. It's very easy for a woman to commit because that's what she wants, but a man won't commit so easily. You're better off holding off for a man who's making the effort to commit to you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 03:20 AM
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Some great suggestions here. You could also join Facebook groups dedicated to women in a particular niche. There are also networking events you could check out on eventbrite -- both online and in person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 03:26 AM
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This is not an insult. Apart from your business and degree, why should a man want to be with you? What qualities do you have? If you were a man, would you date yourself? If yes, why? If no, why not? What I'm getting at here is stop thinking that a man would want to date you just because you have a business and a degree. And being a woman doesn't make you entitled to male attention. Also, beauty is subjective. A woman can be beautiful to some men but ugly to others. Also, some men (usually low va…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 03:21 AM
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A woman should never ask what she can do to get a guy to fall for her. If being you isn't enough, don't force it. In fact, no one can ever do anything to make someone truly fall for them. You may change yourself to please him, but you'll get tired of it over time, then your true nature will come to light, then he'll lose interest in you. Since he has already gotten to know you, and he isn't already in love with you, walk away. Deep down, you want to believe that there's still a chance, so you'll…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 03:02 AM
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This is a tricky question. Dominance doesn't apply in the same way to men as to women. Dominance is a masculine trait, so it's not a bad thing for men. It's unattractive in women (since it's not feminine), but it's attractive in men. I associate strong men with dominance. But there are variations. A secure man who's confident in himself will uplift people around him with his power, whereas an insecure man would need to tear people down to exert his power.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 10:57 PM
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Yup!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 10:42 PM
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I won't call that a strong woman. More like stern.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 06:08 PM
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Totally agree with the second part!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 05:04 PM
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There's a lot of misunderstanding here. A strong woman is different from a dominant woman and they are both different from a feminist. A strong woman is a woman who has a lot of resilience. She may be feminine too. A dominant woman is a woman who wants to exert power over others. She's not feminine at all. A feminist is a woman who believes that men and women are equal or should be treated equally. She may be feminine depending on how extreme of a feminist she is. A woman can have all or none or…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:59 PM
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There's a distinction between what strong means to a man and what strong means to a woman. A strong woman is very different from a strong man. A woman can be feminine and still be strong.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 04:53 PM
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I personally advise women to become financially independent before getting married. I've also seen what happens when a woman depends too much on a man for money. The disrespect is unbearable. Of course, there are great men who still have high regard for their women despite depending on them financially, but many men treat their wives with so much disrespect. There's a theory to this. The person who is more dependent has less power, and some men abuse this power. They become abusive -- physically…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 03:10 AM
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Ya. And when you consider a professional, there's a pay range. Some are highly paid, but some are paid lower. Those who establish themselves well over time are more in demand, so they can command higher fees.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 03:23 AM
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Will check it out. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 10:20 PM
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Well, the supply and demand theory is a general theory. Of course, there are exceptions and other factors that come into play. For example, if you live in a rural area, the pay will be low. If the national average is low, the pay will be low. But still, the supply and demand theory is generally applicable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 05:32 AM
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That's interesting... Thanks for sharing. I don't think it's sustainable though. If you should (universe forbid) lose her, you'll go back to how you were before. You should work on being in your best shape for yourself. That's part of self care and building a healthy level of self esteem. I personally wouldn't "help" anyone to change if they weren't self motivated to do so, but that's just me. Either way, hope things work out well for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 05:59 PM
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Tbh, no one has the right to tell anyone to become someone else just to please them, without considering how the other person feels. If you can't accept them the way they are, just leave them. If they were in a relationship and he gained weight over time, then they could have a conversation about it. But, trying to change someone from the get go without considering how they feel is just selfish... I'm slim and I love it. If a man wants a curvy woman, he should look for someone else. I wouldn't t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 05:40 PM
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Yes, keep an open mind. And please, don't mistake narcissistic traits for healthy alpha traits.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 09:12 AM
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I cringed when I read "I've tried saying how much better he would feel if he worked out and also send him recipe ideas." How do you know that he would feel better? Instead of building him up, you're tearing him down. You're not helping him at all. Instead of trying to understand where he is coming from, you're trying to mold him into your ideal body type. Does he even want to look like your ideal? Does he accept and like the way he is right now? Please, put yourself in his shoes. If a man said t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 09:07 AM
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When I say demand and supply, it's relative. The pay of surgeons will depend on how many surgeons there are (supply) compared to how man surgeons are needed (demand). The pay of family physicians will depend on how many physicians there are (supply) compared to how many physicians are needed (demand). Since the shortage is greater for surgeons, surgeons will earn more than family physicians. Some countries purposely limit the number of medical professionals they train and certify. Many may apply…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 02:10 AM
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No worries :) Hope she sees this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:39 AM
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It's actually all about supply and demand. I don't think society devalues femininity. Rather, I think feminine women lean more towards jobs with higher supply than there is demand. If you consider health care, surgeons are the highest paid. This is because supply is much lower than demand. On the other hand, nurses are paid lower because the supply is not as low as surgeons when compared to the demand.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:37 AM
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I've been really wondering about this myself. Sadly, the way some people describe alpha/dominant males is actually similar to that of a narcissist. And narcissists are big trouble -- you really don't want to have them as a partner. I love love love sensitive men. These men make the best partners, but some people describe them as beta males. I've decided to just forget about the whole alpha beta male dynamic, because I feel like the best men lie in between. I have met men who are sensitive yet do…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:09 AM
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I agree. But women are only protective of children, not of men. Men are naturally protective of their woman and children. But ya, women may be more protective of children than men because children are very vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 02:16 PM
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Actually, women are nurturing and protective of children. I have witnessed this myself. I couldn't care less about protecting a man who can protect himself, but children are very vulnerable. When I'm around them, I do everything I can to make sure that they are safe, even if they are strangers.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 02:14 PM
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You are very wise. I wish more women would find you and listen to you, but sadly, what's good is not always what trends. I don't know why you took it upon yourself to educate women, but I'm very grateful and I hope more women would find you and listen to you. You truly have women's best interest at heart and it's very refreshing to see.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 12:03 AM
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That's very very interesting. You guys have put a lot of thought into TRP movement. I never thought about it that way. I have gone through r/asktrp once before, and yes, there was so much anger. In fact, I decided to stay away from men who identify as red pill 😂 But, your comment makes so much sense. You guys let them vent while building themselves up, and eventually, the anger fades when women start getting attracted to them. Very different from the way you approach RPW. Even still, you can see…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 05:25 AM
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That's very interesting. Thanks for the insights!
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:54 AM
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I'm amazed because there's no bias at all. It's purely in favor of women. I could never have guessed that it was run by men. Also, men and women were built to complement each other. Please, no gender wars.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:51 AM
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That's really interesting. You guys are doing a really great job. Thanks for the effort! Really appreciate it! Plus, the information on wiki is pure gold for women. And there's no bias at all -- maybe a little bit, but it's all in favor of women. You wouldn't be able to tell that men run this sub. It presents the plain truth about the differences between men and women. It has really changed my views on how to approach men. There were a few things I didn't agree with based on my experiences as a …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:37 AM
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One thing I know for sure is that it wasn't his first time. Based on your description, pretty sure that he has a lot of experience. It's only girls with low self esteem who like guys that don't treat them well. Work on your self esteem and learn to love yourself. You can never change what has happened, but you can change your attitude towards it. Cut him out of your life. Learn to set healthy boundaries. And most of all, forgive yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 03:38 AM
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I'm amazed that this sub is owned by and run by men. Edit: Since this comment has gotten so many likes, I'm clearly not the only one who's amazed. A big thank you to the men who own and run this sub! Really appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:30 PM
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I don't get why women, especially extreme feminists say that "the future is female". Please, just stop. Men and women were built to complement each other. One cannot live without the other. And how can you generalize that women are doing better? Men have their strengths and weaknesses. Men are better than women at some things, and women are better than them in others. Also, some men are hardworking and some of them are not. You clearly sound like one of those extreme feminists. This sub is not f…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:25 PM
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I always say this. If a man wants to leave, he will leave. Even if he remains there physically, he would no longer be present emotionally. There's nothing a woman can do when he's made up his mind. I'm not a fan of mate-guarding. We should be committed to our partners, but give them the freedom to walk away. There's no point trying to force someone to stay when they'd rather stray.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:14 PM
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Interesting. Do you think it has something to do with how secure a man is? I think women fighting boosts an insecure man's ego.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:10 PM
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As someone else said, please work on your self esteem. What makes you think that he sees you differently than other girls? The fact that he sent you that picture speaks volumes. It's very disrespectful. Save yourself from heartbreak and walk away. He told you that he's in love with you, but what does his actions say? What makes you think that he's hasn't told the women he's had sex with that he's in love with them? Don't waste your time telling him how you feel. He's already shown you how he fee…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 02:00 PM
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I have a different take on this compared to the other comments. When we gift people things, it's about them not about us. You're clearly not into extravagant gifts, but your husband is. I honestly don't think that he truly thinks about you when he gives you these extravagant gifts. If he really cared, he would want to give you what you like. But the fact that you voicing your opinion turned into a huge argument is not a good sign. I personally am not a fan of extravagant gifts. They have no valu…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 04:59 AM
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I get what you mean. By get yourself together before dating, I meant start working towards building your dream career. As long as you're actively working towards it, you'll feel a lot better about yourself and about dating. Also, start learning to love yourself now. Don't make it conditional -- until you get into the right career. Start now. Also, if you to date before loving yourself, you won't look for the best partners because you will feel deep down that you don't deserve them. It puts you i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 03:12 AM
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All men do not have the same taste. High value men are much less likely to end up in disastrous divorces because they are wise about choosing their partners. I will sum up this way: To a high value man, if a woman looks good, she gets his attention. If he finds out that she lacks virtues, he walks away. Many men will overlook it, but high value men won't. To a high value woman, if a man is charismatic and financially stable, he gets her attention. If she finds out that he lacks virtues, she walk…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 03:04 AM
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"Most men" are not "high value men". Few men are. It's the same with women. Most women are not high value women -- a few are. Yes, I know that looks are what usually attracts men in the first place. But, my point is that, even if a woman looks great, looks attractive, but lacks other qualities, she will repel him just as fast as she attracted him. I have met high value men, so I know what I'm talking about. We ladies on this forum don't want "most men", we want the few high value men. BTW, I've …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 10:55 AM
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Yes, I know that men value looks more than women in general. But high value men value other qualities too, and a hot woman with no virtues stands no chance.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 10:46 AM
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My pleasure :) All the very best! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:44 AM
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Then leave him. Many will see it as a selfish move, I do too, but at the end of the day, it is your life. What is important to me may not be important to you, and I have no right to judge you and your choices. Since you want to leave, if you stay, the resentment will just grow. Leave him. Give him the opportunity to find a woman who would truly love him and care for his wellbeing regardless of his condition.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:43 AM
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Get yourself together before dating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:36 AM
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Learn how to catwalk! :) I catwalk and I've gotten some great compliments ;)
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:35 AM
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Diet is everything! Just watch what you eat. Keto diet has been very effective for a lot of my friends.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:34 AM
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First of all, be compassionate towards yourself. I don't know why people keep thinking that their degree ultimately determines their career. That's not the case. You can do something totally different. Also, what you learn while studying goes beyond the curriculum. Take part in other activities -- clubs, sports, etc. Not to mention, your analytical skills become very handy and it's something that you may not be conscious about.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:32 AM
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Please! Stop saying us guys! It's more like "guys like you". Not all men are like you. Again, looks are important to high value men, but just as important as other qualities. The women on this forum aren't interested in men like you -- men who will put up with "hot" women who lack virtues. We are interested in men who value looks and qualities -- high value men. They have very high standards, unlike men like you. You're on the wrong forum.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:27 AM
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Put yourself in his shoes. (Universe forbid) If something similar happened to you, what would you like your partner to feel and do about it? Do the same.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:22 AM
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First of all, forgive yourself. Accounting is a great degree to have. What I've come to realize is that our past experiences accumulate over time. You may not realize it now, but I won't be surprised if your accounting degree eventually comes handy in the future. Especially if you plan to start a business.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:10 AM
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He is doing that because he has been programmed to do so by his ex. If there's mutual trust, he wouldn't have to feel that he should ask for your "permission". If I was in your shoes, I would tell him that I trust him and that he doesn't have to tell me everything or ask for my permission. I wouldn't want to have to do that to my partner and I certainly won't ask him to do it for me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:07 AM
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I see the ones on the extreme end of the spectrum as toxic. I was scrolling through r/trp and found that some of the men there are actually quite nice, but there are some extremes. I would be careful about approaching men who identify as red pill though...
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:04 AM
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No, looks does not count more. It is important, but just as important as other qualities. And looks are subjective -- different men have different preferences.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:01 AM
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So true! It's all about doing you and putting yourself in places to attract the right one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:58 AM
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Try harder next time :) Your description of me sounds more like you. You may be a low quality man to me, but women of your level will think you are a high quality man. Good luck and don't be bitter.
/r/askTRP15/02/21 03:12 PM
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Some men do. Fact. Either way, it's important to have a healthy balance though.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 12:27 PM
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Get to a point where you're ready to let go. It gives you so much power. You can try to be on your best behavior whenever you're with him, but you won't be able to keep that up in a relationship. You are on a great path right now. Socialize more and expand your social circles as well. Stop making him the center of your universe. Things may or may not work out with him. Just get to a position where you can stand on your own regardless. It must be hard being friends with him though, since you stil…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 12:22 PM
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Low quality to you, high quality to them. Based on your posts, I see you as a low quality man.
/r/askTRP15/02/21 07:33 AM
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You're in the wrong place. Women on this sub want high value men. Men who know what they want. Men who are confident and secure enough to go after what they want. Men who won't go for just any woman, let alone the first woman who approaches them. Men who want high value women too. Of course, we're not going to waste our time on men like you. You need to look for women on your level. Rejection hurts, I have felt it myself, but it's something men need to face. Men are the gate keepers of commitmen…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 06:53 AM
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Totally agree! Younger women should also be wise about who they give their time to to avoid ending up in that position.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 11:14 PM
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Well, the truth can be hard to swallow. I sympathize with women in that position though -- I understand where they're coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:54 PM
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As for your weight, watch what you eat! I've had friends lose weight super quick just by changing their diet -- they were on keto diet to be exact. As a 28 year old, be smart about how you spend your time. My suggestion will be to socialize more and form connections with men through your hobbies. You may also ask family and friends if they can link you up with someone. Also, you'd probably not want to commit until you sure that it's mutual -- you can't afford to waste time right now.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:48 PM
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I don't know why you're getting downvoted. You're telling the truth -- a bitter truth. I've heard it a lot of times. We ladies really need to manage our time wisely.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:39 PM
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This is not a housewife subreddit, but there are some housewives here. This subreddit is dedicated to women who believe in the traditional roles of men and women, and disagree with the ideologies of extreme feminism. Basically, we prefer to accept and deal with reality -- women being gate keepers of sex and men being gate keepers of commitment. Browse the wiki as others have said. It's very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 10:51 PM
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I personally won't mind telling him directly. If he's offended, he's probably not the one for me anyway. Because I feel that a man should be glad to know that you're cautious about your safety.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/21 06:56 AM
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My heart goes out to you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 12:53 PM
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:)
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 05:30 AM
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You don't have to follow the crowd. Do what ever suits you. I don't wear makeup at all and I never will -- I just make sure to take good care of my skin. Eating healthy, washing my face twice a day, drinking enough water, exfoliating regularly, getting enough sleep, etc. I love love love my natural look. I don't care about being surrounded by people who do, and I respect their decision to wear makeup. It's just not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 12:33 PM
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Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 09:11 PM
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Maybe you should read his comment again. His first comment. I am not against marriage, I'm against the notion men like him have that without marriage, a woman can't be content with her life. For women like you, it's probably true, but not all women are like you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 09:09 PM
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We are 2 different people. Self love has transformed my life in ways I could've never imagined. I'm not going to waste my time arguing with you. You do what you think is best for you, and I will continue to do what's best for me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 09:05 PM
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Interesting to hear your thoughts. Would you have preferred if you felt safe enough to be vulnerable with your partner? Yes, some women take advantage of a man's vulnerability, but some women like myself love men being vulnerable enough to share their problems/stresses with us. It deepens the love and respect we have for them, rather than diminishing it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 04:45 AM
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If you think that parent-child love should be unconditional, I can't understand why you believe that self love should be conditional. In this life, the only person you'll ever have always is yourself. Your family can abandon you, you children can walk away from your life, your partner can walk away too. Some lose family members to death too. You will always have yourself, no matter what. Based on your comments, you're not a perfectionist. I used to be a perfectionist, and I demanded it from peop…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 04:31 AM
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There are different kinds of love. In general, love takes time to grow. It's not about telling or making yourself to love yourself, it's about learning to love yourself over time. Some -- or a lot -- of women seek love from men when they don't even love themselves. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect that from someone else? And do you want someone to love you only when you do/are/have something? Is that the love you want -- a love that is conditional? Of course, we're not going to lov…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 04:09 AM
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Yes, I know what the purpose of this sub is which is why I'm here. I'm just saying that he shouldn't generalize, claiming that every single married woman is better off than those who aren't. It's just not true.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 04:01 AM
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Self love is unconditional. And it doesn't mean being selfish and inconsiderate of other people. You don't get it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 02:01 PM
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True love is not conditional. Conditional love means that you stop loving someone once they lose something or once they change in some way. Keep being conditional with your self love, I will keep being unconditional with mine :) You will never be perfect -- striving to be your possible best will one thing, and striving to be perfect is another. As a perfectionist, you will impose it on other people -- you will want them to be "perfect" like you, and that will only or has already pushed them away…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 01:58 PM
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Do you know those women personally? You men don't see what women go through. Some women live great lives as housewives, but some women don't. Men don't see or understand what women go through. Some divorced women swear to never get married again. Marriage does not always translate to fulfillment for women. I'm not saying that you are wrong -- I'm just saying that you shouldn't generalize, neither should I.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 01:51 PM
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It sure does! Learned this the hard way too as a former perfectionist.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 08:05 AM
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Self love is anti-empowerment?? You don't understand what self love means. Let's take a couple. They meet each other but they're still on their journey of self improvement, yet they love each other for who they are, and where they are on their journey, and support each other on their growth. They don't have to be perfect to love each other -- they love each other, build a solid foundation, and continue to grow to become better versions of themselves. Let's take another example -- parent and chil…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 07:14 AM
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I totally agree with you on this! I've personally experienced the same!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 07:03 AM
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You can't generalize though. Some of the housewives I know are the most miserable women I've ever met in my life -- disrespected, mistreated, and taken for granted by their husbands.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 06:59 AM
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Self love.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 09:47 PM
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How common is this? Do most men feel this way?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 09:45 PM
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I don't wear makeup at all. I just work on taking good care of my skin.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 09:44 PM
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But sadly, subs like this aren't as popular.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 01:05 PM
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During the dating phase, people tend to show the very best of themselves. I prefer to build friendships first -- that way, I don't waste time being exclusive in 1 relationship that may not end up working out, and I get to learn a lot more about who they are. Just my preference.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/21 01:41 AM
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I think it's best to be genuinely you. That way, you'll automatically attract people who like you for who you are and you won't spend time trying to figure them out and adjusting yourself. Of course, there are times when we'll have to adjust ourselves to get along well with people (for example, at work), but when it comes to more personal relationships, you're better off attracting people who like the genuine you and repelling those who don't.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 04:34 PM
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You were being thoughtful, and that's nice of you. However, since you've noticed that he doesn't appreciate it much, stop spending too much time and effort doing it. Men usually don't care as much about things like that compared to women, so it's understandable. I don't think it has much to do with standing up for yourself, but rather setting your boundaries while respecting his.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 04:17 PM
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Please, read his/her first paragraph again.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 04:09 AM
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What do you gain from shaming her? Please try to be compassionate. You don't know her story or why she's done what she's done. People usually need to hit rock bottom to make a significant change when they're struggling with psychological issues.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 11:15 AM
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I talk about self love a lot on this subreddit, and this is one good example. I've not been through what you have been through, but I've been betrayed, humiliated, lied to, back stabbed. I've come to realize that the only person on earth I can truly rely on is myself. At the end of the day, it's me, myself, and I. I've created a safe space within. I know that no matter what happens, I've got myself. If anyone should want to walk out of my life, I'll hold the door for them. If anyone should mistr…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/21 11:11 AM
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🙄 My message to op is don't fight for a man's love. If he doesn't love you or loves someone else more than you, walk away and look for someone who does.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 09:09 AM
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I don't think she should waste time and effort competing with her. They already have history. If he's in love with his friend, op doesn't stand a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 08:31 AM
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This is amazing advice. I never thought about it this way. Some men have found me intimidating, and now that you've mention this, I can understand why. I'm confident, brave, strong, outgoing, smart. Men who've found me intimidating weren't any of these.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 01:10 AM
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Sleep definitely has a lot to do with it. I've personally noticed that I'm less tolerant when I don't get enough sleep. Being aware of this has helped me put a break on it. It may help your husband too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 04:49 PM
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I don't know about other women here, but I don't play games and they most likely feel the same way too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 06:38 AM
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This is the last time I'm going to reply since it's just dragging. There are certain things you can't change about yourself. For example, some people have dark skin and some have light skin. That's where self acceptance comes in -- accepting qualities about you that you can't change. And still, even though you have certain things about yourself that you don't like, I think it's still important to accept yourself and work to grow. No one is perfect. We all have our flaws. Self love is about accep…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 02:46 AM
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That's my point. No one will put themselves in the position of facing such consequences unless if they're really serious about their partner.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 05:09 PM
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Excuse me, don't judge people blindly. I'm financially independent and I'm proud of it. I don't need a man to provide for me financially. I'm speaking for women who want to be house wives.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 05:05 PM
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Love is not separate from acceptance, respect, compassion, forgiveness, etc. There are different kinds of love -- for example, feeling romantic love for yourself is insane. I can't remember which kind of love it is, but think about it. Don't you accept people you love for who they are? Don't you have respect for people you love? Don't you feel compassionate towards people you love? And so on. If you like, don't believe in it. I don't care. People focus too much on finding love externally before …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 05:01 PM
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You have some serious issues OP. It's not an insult, it's just the truth. The fact that you want to be with someone who treats you like that, that's recipe for disaster. You will have a very miserable life if you should get married to him. You really need to work on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:28 AM
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I'm not saying that marriage is needed for trust, I'm saying that marriage builds trust to a deeper level. Would you get married to just anyone? No right? The legal commitment makes it so that you will only get married with someone you're really serious about. In this case, we're talking about a woman who is planning to leave her job and depend on her partner financially. If she was married, the legal commitment would mean that he is responsible for looking after her. Without that, he can up and…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 11:47 PM
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Marriage is a legal commitment. It builds trust to a greater extent.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 11:19 PM
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This! The first thought that came to my mind. You really don't want to put yourself at risk.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 11:16 PM
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Nope, I don't need to change my name. I know who I am. I don't care about a stranger's remarks who knows nothing about me. Back to the topic. I thought about the point you brought up earlier but didn't reply because this post was deleted. Since you still see my comments, here it goes. Yes, I agree. In some circumstances, some women who get raped are responsible for it. Their irresponsible actions -- like getting drunk may have led to it. But in some circumstances, the woman may have not been res…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 11:11 PM
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I disagree to some extent. Regardless of how good a woman is, it boils down to the man's character. Some men don't appreciate a good woman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 10:45 AM
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There are some great comments already. Take good care of yourself and also look for a partner who likes you for who you are. Don't go for a man who's with you only for your looks and your youth -- that will eventually fade away and he will leave you the moment it does. I've seen a lot of great couples who are older and still very much in love. I'm sure you've seen them too. Don't worry too much about it. Just keep working on being your best possible self -- physically, mentally, and emotionally,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 10:42 AM
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That's great! Keep smiling :) Yes, it's so true. When some experience heartbreak, they put a wall up to prevent it from happening again, but that's what not to do. It's important to learn from the mistakes you made, but it's also important to be open to loving again. After my most recent heartbreak, which was my most painful ever, I tried to learn from it and realised that I needed to love myself more. I needed to give myself the love I was seeking. Now that I love myself so much more, rejection…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 10:32 AM
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Ya, would've been better if it never came up. You've taken a blow to your self esteem. I don't know. If you're in your best physical shape, just try to convince yourself that you're enough since there's nothing more you can do.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 02:46 AM
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I can't help but think that your bf is really shallow. Is he showing you off and marrying you only because you're the hottest woman he's ever dated? I'm personally not a fan of all these number ratings. It's just not for me. It feels really shallow. Now you want to improve yourself to get a higher rating from him. If you're already in healthy shape physically, what more can you do? You are enough. Stop seeking validation from other people. Yes, it is important to be in your best shape for yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 02:32 AM
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How can you compare rape victims to MGTOW followers??? Still, generalization is never right. Just because some men rape women doesn't mean that all men do. And we are talking about relationships here -- don't twist the topic. Men voluntarily get into relationships. Women do not voluntarily get raped! Again, MGTOW followers are insecure. I don't know if you are one, but it's the painful truth. Think about it for yourself. Insecure means lacking self-confidence and security. They are so scared of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 11:09 PM
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No, you won't get banned. This forum welcomes input from men. To be honest, those men need to look at themselves and work on themselves instead of blaming women. There's a reason why they don't attract quality women who will treat them well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:38 PM
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Men who follow MGTOW are insecure. They generalize, thinking that all women are out to hurt them. We attract who we are. These men attract who they are. Instead of looking at themselves to see what they're doing wrong, to figure out what they need to change, they blame women for it. I stay away from men into MGTOW because they're not worth my time. Pain is needed for growth. Instead of channeling the pain they get from rejection into growth, they channel it into hatred. I won't be surprised if d…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:32 PM
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First of all, just start smiling more. I went through a very traumatic experience when I was younger. Because of that, I forgot how to smile. I forgot how to laugh. To start smiling again, I would practice in front of a mirror every day. Today, I smile and laugh like there's no tomorrow :) So, take it one step at a time. Practice smiling and laughing with a mirror to become more comfortable with yourself. Then try to smile and laugh more when you meet people. About your trust issues, you really …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 03:37 PM
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She said he's hurt because of the reason she gave "in case anything happened between us," because he didn't think that they'd ever break up. I'd say he's sensitive rather than insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 02:20 AM
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I haven't read a book on self love. I've taken a more practical approach -- for example, being a friend to myself, treating myself how I want to be treated, and so on. In doing so, I've realized a lot of things. Since there's too much to write down, I did a quick book search and found Nathaniel Branden's The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. I scanned through the book and found that he touches a lot of points that I've realized and practiced on my journey to self love. I particularly love his quote "P…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 04:10 AM
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As for me, I believe that it all comes down to one thing -- learning to love yourself. This means respecting yourself, forgiving yourself, accepting yourself, being compassionate towards yourself, and so on. Once you master self love, everything falls into place. You will only accommodate men who are deserving of you. You'll know your worth and will not be willing to tolerate any form of disrespect. You won't try to hold on to men who don't want you in their lives. The list is endless!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 01:02 PM
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In fact, I strongly believe that women who remain single, for the most part of their youthful years, end up becoming much more successful financially -- business and career wise. I see this happen every time. Maybe because they focus more on their careers and less on men. Men sometimes contribute to a woman's success though, especially when they have more experience and act as a mentor. Not saying that it is a good thing because there are women who'd rather have a successful family life over fin…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 08:56 PM
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Everyone is beautiful (in terms of face -- body too, but that's not our focus here and I'm all for being healthy). Of course, not everyone is beautiful to you, but everyone has someone who thinks that they are beautiful. The woman you think is the most beautiful is the most ugly to another man. A woman cannot change her face. She can wear makeup, but it doesn't change. She may do plastic surgery, but that's the ultimate betrayal to herself. A woman should learn to love her face. It's a great way…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 03:49 PM
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Women should just learn to accept themselves. Of course, it is important to have a healthy body, but when it comes to face, learn to love how you look. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A woman can be beautiful to one man, but ugly to another. The confidence that radiates from loving yourself is all that matters. Don't worry about the men who don't find you attractive -- only care about the ones who do. Edit: Don't know why people are down voting this. Do you want someone who won't accept yo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 03:38 PM
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Exactly! Obesity says a lot about a person -- it goes beyond the looks.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 03:33 PM
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You didn't state a fact. There are great men and there are not so great men -- please, don't generalize. I don't know what troubles led to you make that conclusion, but therapy can help you dig deeper to address the underlying issues.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:46 AM
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That works for you, and that's OK. But what works for you may not work for others. As for me, making myself a priority has made me a much better person -- a better carer, a better lover, a better friend. The love I have for myself overflows. I don't neglect myself and I'm fine even when no one is there/has time to shower me with love and attention.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 07:41 AM
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You also need some therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 05:45 AM
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You don't have to agree or align with everything -- just accept what you agree with and ignore the rest. For example, RP says to make your man your number 1 priority above all. I highly disagree with this. I am my number 1 priority, and I prioritize others too. So many women forget to take care of themselves because they don't feel that they are a priority. I've experienced it myself. It's highly detrimental. RP also says to not prioritize your career. Again, I disagree with this. There's so muc…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 10:36 AM
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How would he feel if 50 percent of your friends were males? Pretty sure he'd feel a bit uncomfortable, and even possibly jealous. I feel that if he really did care about you, he would go out of his way to make you feel comfortable with his female friends -- to make you feel assured that you have nothing to worry about or to be jealous of.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 06:38 AM
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I get what you mean. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 08:44 PM
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What do you mean by most chicks don't have a personality? Just curious to know more.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 10:06 AM
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Getting married to someone looking for a citizenship??? Do you want to get taken advantage of? You're not ready for a relationship. You really need to work on yourself! To be honest, people like you with low self worth end up in abusive relationships. Please change that before you start dating!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 09:59 AM
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You have some serious issues. That anger you have towards men, it's not normal. It's good that you can protect yourself, but don't purposely get into trouble with men. And stop generalizing -- all men are not bad, some are and those ones are insecure. Ignore them. Stay away from them. Don't waste your time or effort on them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 12:20 AM
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You grew up without a dad? That explains your attitude towards men to some extent. As the other commenter said, whether you like it or not, men are physically stronger than women. Men and women have different physical builds. Some men use their strength to protect women, but some men use it against women. That's why men physically abusing women is much more common than women physically abusing men. Men who physically abuse or challenge women are usually insecure. Just ignore them. They're not wo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:38 PM
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On point.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:29 PM
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Is it that way with all alpha males? Can you give an example scenario? When I say that I feel safer around alpha males, I feel like they will protect me. And these have to be males I know or males that my family or friends know. I will never put myself in a situation where I'm the only woman with a bunch of alpha male strangers. And I don't trust male strangers at all. I tend to trust women more easily.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:10 PM
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Maybe something traumatic happened when you were younger, but you can't remember. As for me, being around alpha males makes me feel safe.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:01 PM
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A traumatized woman? Some women who've been traumatized by certain types of men hate them. If not for the few great men in my family, I would've hated men in general coz I've had a lot of bad experiences. Some of them are just... Don't even know what word to use, but there are great men out there which is great to know.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 10:30 PM
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You husband is your daughter's biological father. This isn't only about you, it's also about her. You said that your husband knows about the other guy. Is he fine with it? What does he say about it? My take on this is build a future for yourself and your daughter, regardless of who you end up with -- whether you end up with the younger man still interested in you or not. Accept the decisions you made, forgive yourself for it, and accept that you will likely be widowed when you're still young. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 05:41 AM
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I disagree. Instead of looking for clues and jumping to conclusions -- which may not even be true, she's better off seeing the papers for herself to be 100% sure. She should have probably been more subtle about how she asked for the proof though. And him showing her proof is a way of building her trust in him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 05:24 AM
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Really great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 05:13 AM
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Based on your post and comments, you probably shouldn't be together, but I may be wrong. Just listen to your intuition and clearly communicate what you want to him. If he's not on the same page, you're going to have to move on. If you're not compatible, it's better to move on sooner, so don't feel ashamed. It will save you time and future heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 03:37 AM
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How would you know if a man is committing to you? For me, marriage seems to be one of the best ways because you legally become one. It's only a man who is serious about you that will go to that extent. Do you have any other ideas in mind? I've been really thinking about this. Would love to hear your thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 03:29 AM
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I get where you're coming from. You just want to be assured that he's committed to you. Have you talked to him about your concerns? Why doesn't he want to get married? If he is fine with buying a house together, I wonder why he is against marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 11:08 PM
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Really? I thought the Middle East had a more traditional approach to masculinity and femininity. That's interesting to know.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 04:29 AM
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I agree with others saying around 5 years max, but there's no hard and fast rule. Just make sure that he isn't in it only for your youth, but he genuinely adores and respects you for who you are and is ready to commit to you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 04:25 AM
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Don't get me wrong. I wished her all the best with her romantic life and hoped for the best with her current relationship. She's the only one who knows if he's the one -- I don't.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 05:51 AM
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First of all, it's not about ego. And I don't stare. And men leading is not a myth, there are reasons for this. Has a girl ever asked you out? I'm speaking from experience. HVM tend to see women who ask them out as desperate. HVM also tend to prefer having control over who they get into a relationship with. And please, don't bring up the men and women are equal ideology here. They are different. A lot of men will pretty much have sex with any woman if given the green light, but the converse is n…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 12:16 PM
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Just go for more elegant styles.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 03:12 AM
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Honey, he does not love you. No man on earth who truly loves his woman will purposely do anything to hurt her because he can't stand to see her in pain. Let alone do it over and over and over again. Actions speak louder than words. A man can say anything, but the truth is in his actions. You need to take a look at yourself. There's a reason why you remain with a man who continuously hurts you for years, and you keep giving yourself excuses to stay with him. You need therapy -- whether self thera…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 04:21 PM
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What sort of dresses do you wear? And in what way are your earrings cute?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 04:14 PM
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Now that explains it. Yes, it's really sad that a lot of men are not conscious about wasting a woman's time, despite knowing that they're just waiting for the next best thing to come around. Since you don't want kids, there's less to worry about. Maybe try having a conversation about commitment since you have doubts? Whatever you feel is best. I hope your relationship works out great. All the best!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 05:30 AM
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Just be receiving of their efforts to provide and protect. And don't feel the need to return the favor, just show that you're grateful. They get a lot of pleasure from that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 05:22 AM
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She does have a point though. Some women spend years with their boyfriends, only to end up getting dumped for another woman when their "clock" is about to run out. It's really sad. That's probably why she feels that way. I prefer to build friendships rather than "girlfriendships" as I get to know men better because I'm not willing to commit with the risk of breaking up after years of commitment. I'm only willing to commit when we're 100% sure that we will be life partners. I will just brush it o…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 12:53 AM
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Deep down, you know who you want. You're just clouding your judgment with too much logical analysis. Let your intuition do the job. No one here knows them as much as you do.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 01:26 AM
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I used to think that I needed to help "nervous" guys to get to me. I went through a really bad experience a few years back, and I've learned my lesson. If a guy truly wants something with you, he will make it happen. You won't have to wonder whether or not he likes/wants you. He will be crystal clear in letting you know that he wants you. And just because a guy likes you doesn't mean that he wants a relationship with you. My advice to you is let men lead. You taking the initiative to make a move…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 11:13 AM
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Every woman on this planet is beautiful. Not everyone will recognize it, but some will. Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. Some men will think that you're the most beautiful woman they've ever seen. You are not below average looking. You are beautiful the way you are, and some men can see it. If you're not happy with your looks, try out different hair styles, different outfits. HVM go for women who love themselves. You really need to learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who y…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 01:56 PM
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This is very true, but I won't say that it's a trait of HVM. They may seem like HVM, but this is actually a psychological issue where the man wants to be needed -- they feel that if they are not needed, they have/add no value. They usually have a low self esteem. HVM are sensitive -- they have high empathy, but they also have high self esteem. They don't feel the need to be saviors, rather they want women who don't need to be saved.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 12:16 PM
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