I'm really happy I found this sub. I am still fairly young (early 20's) and I haven't had that many relationships in my life. I'm still growing up, but this sub and the RPW literature have given me so many revelations that my mind is blown. I've come to realize that I still applied a feminist/toxic paradigm to relationships; the paradigm being what I thought to be "healthy." It's just not living in reality. Men are intrinsically different in the way they express emotions and process situations, and them not behaving the way I think they should doesn't make them abusive or unloving. It's unfair and I've come to realize that my previous relationships (except for one guy who I was recently dating) were with men who were just as immature as I was. I feel really bad for putting my recent ex through the ringer because of my misunderstandings and feminist POV. I left the feminist movement years ago once I stopped being liberal, but old habits die really hard. I seriously want to improve as a woman, because the man I want to marry deserves a woman who respects and loves him in a way specific to him. It just goes to show that you think you know everything, and you actually don't. Lots of the relationship advice that I've seen on Reddit and Instagram is very much female-centric, and leaves you thinking you're in an abusive relationship when you're not. I just have a lot of maturing to do, but I SERIOUSLY want to thank this sub for helping me. And the guy I was dating would tell me directly that he felt disrespected, but because I was hardheaded and immature I didn't actually LISTEN to him.