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She knew it was a non-traditional date. If a girl is hanging out with you alone, she knows it is not just a friendly hangout. Keep up with the kino and flirt with her as much you can. Now I'm not sure what to make out of tonight. I'm sure she knows I'm interested in her and I felt like I was boring to her but I'm not sure. I wanna ask her out again but I barely see her so my only option is to text her. Should I wait to see if she texts me? I've noticed that she's not into texting for long period…
/r/seduction25/11/14 10:02 AM
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Try to go out solo. It is how I met a lot of people I know, and it is so much fun to jump between groups and have a cold pint with different personalities.
/r/seduction18/11/14 09:25 AM
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Worth reading. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction18/11/14 09:21 AM
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What are some good things to talk about? Whatever you want to know about her. Share your passions and find out what she is like. How do I talk about family without bringing down the mood but also being honest? Do not talk about your family in detail on the first date if it is making you uncomfortable. Tell her about your close friends and ask about her friends instead. I don't want to completely ignore it because I feel like it makes me look suspect but I don't want to really be like, "oh yea my…
/r/seduction18/11/14 07:00 AM
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I understand your point, but my situation was different. Attachment was bound to happen because we were involved for over a month before I cut it off. That is why I had all these realizations mentioned in the main post.
/r/seduction18/11/14 06:53 AM
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This is the correct response. Unless you are highly experienced, stay away from trying to date girls who were in a LTR right after their breakup. Either go for FWB or only hang out once in a while to flirt and to get to know them. Give them enough space and time to get over their ex and then make bold moves.
/r/seduction18/11/14 06:52 AM
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I'm still struggling in my mind to stay friends with her when I know I shouldn't. Think of it this way: Your purpose was to date her. At this point, your purpose has been defeated. You can either cut your losses and move on or wait long enough to see her date someone else and come discuss other guys with you. I realized my relations weren't heading where I had wanted them to. I had failed to control the situation properly. The only logical step was to realize my mistakes and move on, which I did…
/r/seduction18/11/14 06:48 AM
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Exactly. Let them earn it just like your trust.
/r/seduction18/11/14 06:46 AM
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Welcome aboard the feels train, my friend :).
/r/seduction18/11/14 06:46 AM
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Good observation. I should edit that to a "hangout" where we walked around the town and talked a lot. To me it was a date, but I never mentioned the word "date" so I am not sure what she took it as. The reason I say this is because we started as just friends and her naive self may have assumed this was a friendly hangout. Or I am speculating too much.
/r/seduction08/11/14 12:29 AM
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Thank you. I get your point. I will keep this in mind.
/r/seduction15/08/14 07:23 AM
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Got it. Thank you for the explanation. I am glad I asked here because I wouldn't have realized all this.
/r/seduction15/08/14 07:22 AM
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Why aren't you comfortable taking drunk girls home? When I say drunk, I mean girls who would not have a one night stand otherwise. Some people tend to get horny after drinking heavily and then regret their decisions later. I am interested in having meaningful relationships and taking them home only if they are interested in something casual. Not because have little control over their thoughts.
/r/seduction14/08/14 05:51 AM
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So you are suggesting to come back to the same girl(s) after ejecting earlier in the night and then escalating from there? I am interested in casual encounters, but I have very little experience with casual relationships. I have either been in a LTR or single.
/r/seduction14/08/14 05:49 AM
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Thank you for your inputs. It makes a lot of sense. I try to leave at a high point in the interaction, which is usually reached in 5-10 minutes, so the want for more can keep the attraction alive when I text them later. I will continue the interaction until it starts dying then, as you recommended.
/r/seduction14/08/14 05:46 AM
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Hmm... good point.
/r/seduction14/08/14 05:42 AM
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Because I go to the bars to hang out with friends and meet as many people as possible. I would like to meet girls, but at the same time I would also like to continue exploring more possibilities. By the end of the night, most girls are pretty drunk and I am not comfortable taking drunk girls home. Please share your stories and tips of closing successfully.
/r/seduction13/08/14 06:09 AM
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Damn, I posted a similar thread seconds ago. Hoping to read some great feedback here and on my thread.
/r/seduction04/08/14 07:28 AM
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Got it. Thank you for your inputs. I am not very experienced, but I am on the way.
/r/seduction08/07/14 07:17 AM
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That makes sense. I am going through your articles right now. My problem is not opening, but smoothly transitioning to a close after the initial interaction. Sometimes I feel like I transition to the closing stage quickly and lose out on the #-closes.
/r/seduction07/07/14 03:01 AM
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I actually just got a #-close after an indirect opener and talking to her for nearly 2 hours at a bar,
/r/seduction04/07/14 09:07 AM
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I recognize your username. You have a blog. Right? I am interested in knowing how I can be indirect when as per Models, which I really like, has guided me to be more direct and honest about my intentions. However, I do think that I am too direct most of the time.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:19 AM
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You may be showing too much interest too early. Could be. I usually just go in direct and tell them that they are cute and I want to talk to them. Usually after this they tell me they have a boyfriend and I exit shorty after.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:16 AM
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I completely agree. I am not trying to push any boundaries, just intend to improve my chances with girls that use the "boundary" as an excuse.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:15 AM
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Early-20s in college. I do agree that most of them are, but I intend to improve my approach so that the girls are comfortable enough with me for me to be direct with them instead of asking them out indirectly. Asking them to "hang out" has never worked form. Only direct approaches worked have whenever they have.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:13 AM
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keep going man it's indeterminable if she is available unless you see a ring. I don't push it after the first rejection. I am nice about it and I do say Hi and have small talk if they recognize me. A few times I think I get the canned boyfriend excuse because I go in too direct and get straight to the point. I usually tell them they are cute and that I would like to take them out for a drink - to know them better. But I am assuming being direct is overwhelming for most girls and they throw in th…
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:11 AM
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I am interested in knowing this as well.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:07 AM
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I like this. So how do I go about doing so? I just told her I think she is attractive and now I am indirectly asking her to hook me up with her friends.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:07 AM
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That is what I have realized after reading Models. Earlier, rejections were awkward and terrifying, but now I don't even think about the rejection and just move on with a smile.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:06 AM
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I agree. I am just looking for ways to improve my chances with girls that attract me.
/r/seduction04/07/14 02:04 AM
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Sounds like you work in the Bay Area where every other guy is in the same profession. Am I right? get nothing but looks of disgust and condescension. You don't want to be around people who judge you based on their preconceived notions of your profession, especially when you enjoy it. You should aim to meet open minded people who are more interested in your personality and accept your passion for IT. working in IT seems to be a black mark IT is one of the top paying fields with a lot of scope. Be…
/r/seduction14/05/14 12:24 PM
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Physical touch triggers a sense of comfort. We are tuned to only the close ones (family and friends) initiating physical contact - hugs, kisses, holding hands, etc. Slight physical touch helps create a emotional connection much quickly as opposed to verbal communication only. Also shows you are confident and have a small personal bubble.
/r/seduction03/05/14 01:57 AM
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Now that I think about it, I did react stupidly. I have been thinking way too much about it. Fuck it, what is done is done.
/r/seduction02/05/14 06:46 AM
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I purposely did that to see how she responds because I am done dealing with the BS excuses and losing respect. I am gladly moving on.
/r/seduction01/05/14 05:32 AM
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Conversation ended after I told her I didn't judge her that night and not to worry. Unless she initiates, I am not pursuing this any further.
/r/seduction01/05/14 05:12 AM
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You both were right. She responded today and she apologized for texting late and flaking. She confessed she was embarrassed. Not sure if she is still interested, but it is good to know. Will try to set up another meeting with her this week.
/r/seduction30/04/14 04:43 AM
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Definitely!
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:39 AM
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Thought I would update you. I finally got her number from a previous co-worker and texted her that I would like to talk to her in person. Kept it mature and simple.. I also mentioned how I wanted to contact her earlier, but couldn't because I "lost my contacts". Didn't want to lie, but for the sake of keeping it simple - I did. She has not responded. I am assuming it is a lost cause now.
/r/seduction26/04/14 06:17 AM
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Thanks for the tip. On a different note: Do you enjoy travelling for work? I want to get in to a similar position, but I have heard it becomes a pain after a while.
/r/seduction20/04/14 04:46 AM
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I concur. The more you think about it, the more it will freak you out. Focus on enjoying and now how'll manage each and every second of it.
/r/seduction20/04/14 02:59 AM
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Once you start meeting more girls in person, you'll realize that what you see in magazines is not true. Your reality will change once you start meeting girls in real life.
/r/seduction19/04/14 10:32 AM
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Thanks for the response. A kiss wouldn't weigh heavily on my conscience, but what may have followed would have. I only deleted the number because I didn't think about what you just shared and the one-itis had been in my head for a while until I got over it. If she was only messing with me for a ONS, I wouldn't want it to come back. I now understand the situation much better, thanks to you! I will definitely try to get in touch with her and sort this out. I do like her and want to pursue, but I d…
/r/seduction17/04/14 04:28 AM
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Good work running up to her! Your confidence was more attractive to her than what she saw sitting on the bench.
/r/seduction16/04/14 10:46 PM
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Hmm... that makes sense. What could I do next time in such a situation to not embarrass a girl and still politely decline the offer? I so wanted to kiss her considering the former one-itis, but I would rather live with a clear conscience.
/r/seduction16/04/14 10:32 PM
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And then tell her you don't want to yell anymore so she should come to a quieter place with you.
/r/seduction16/04/14 08:31 AM
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The material you read here does help become more confident and have better results. Those women you open on the streets don't even know you exist until you approach and talk to them. Unless of course your status is similar to Brad Pitt or George Clooney and they already want you for that.
/r/seduction16/04/14 08:27 AM
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You are right. I had a brainfart and typed opposite of what I was thinking.
/r/seduction07/04/14 06:36 AM
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I don't go there often so I wanted to make use of the opportunity. Her getting nervous made it awkward or it would've been fine I feel. Anyway, I now know what to do next time I am in a similar situation.
/r/seduction06/04/14 08:28 PM
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There weren't many people there, but I get your point.
/r/seduction06/04/14 08:26 PM
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You should introduce yourself and and talk to her. Get to know her and hang out. Do what you want to do and whatever makes you happy. There is no perfect way.
/r/seduction06/04/14 08:18 PM
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Which cologne/perfume? :P
/r/seduction05/03/14 03:02 AM
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What I mean is rather than being frustrated and giving up, accept the failure, learn from it, and become better.
/r/seduction27/02/14 04:39 AM
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Tickling, holding hands, hugging, and high-fives are some good examples.
/r/seduction22/02/14 08:42 PM
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Build comfort at work, and then ask them out when you see them outside of the gym. Be on first name basis at least so that it seems natural when you ask them out later. I am sure you wouldn't want to get in trouble in case some (immature) girl complains to your manager.
/r/seduction22/02/14 04:48 AM
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Become acquaintances at the gym, and then ask them out outside of work. This way, you save face at the gym in front of your co-workers/supervisor(s), make more friends, and get dates after work.
/r/seduction21/02/14 07:13 AM
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Added some links in my post.
/r/seduction18/02/14 03:24 AM
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Seems like she is interested in a FWB situation. Don't develop feelings for her until you are sure she wants something serious. EDIT: Here is some material on developing a FWB situation: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1q1u03/how_i_set_up_a_fwb_situation/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/100up7/fwb_this_is_what_works_for_me/ http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1195xu/how_to_ask_for_a_fwb/
/r/seduction18/02/14 02:55 AM
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"This conversation will be even better if your phone isn't involved ;).
/r/seduction14/02/14 10:01 AM
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All you have to say is "Hi!" and immediately start a conversation when she responds. For example: You: Hi! :) Her: Hello :) You: <situational_opener_here> -> You seem excited to go in to the gym, but it's packed today! Her: Oh really? You: Yeah, I have finally started to love working out, but I hate it when I have to wait on three people before using a equipment for my workout. Wish I had a home gym. After her response, introduce yourself and try to #-close her. You get better with practice.
/r/seduction14/02/14 03:32 AM
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Hmm... great method for self-motivation. Another way I use us to tell myself that I have nothing to lose. I am an unnoticed stranger to this absolutely beautiful girl right now, and it will remain the same if I don't approach her. However, if I say the first sentence (opener) to her I have a chance of getting a date, and perhaps more. Furthermore, think of how good she will feel knowing that a confident, bold man wants her. A man with a big pair walked up to her and boldly said what he wanted to…
/r/seduction13/02/14 11:20 AM
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Not only your son, but also the people who enter your life.
/r/seduction13/02/14 11:09 AM
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Good luck! :D
/r/seduction13/02/14 11:08 AM
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Here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1vpxcb/how_i_ask_girls_out/
/r/seduction09/02/14 10:03 AM
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This is a great technique. Also, you should reject the flakey ones over text and make them aware that you are the one in control, and not the other way around.
/r/seduction09/02/14 02:03 AM
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God damn, son. That is excellent! Don't let it hurt your ego because what you achieved without much experience is noteworthy. Continue the journey and enjoy it. You will only get better!
/r/seduction09/02/14 02:00 AM
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I take that as a big compliment :).
/r/seduction08/02/14 12:18 PM
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Haha... good to hear. One thing is important now - energy. You need to maintain a similar level of high energy and confidence that you showed when you approached her. Don't overdo it, but also don't go back to your "AFC" ways. She likes you and is interested in you. The date is just a way for her to find out why she should reject you despite you being likeable. Express yourself, and take that beauty home ;).
/r/seduction07/02/14 03:02 AM
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Don't stop being a nice person though.
/r/seduction06/02/14 07:02 AM
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Great job, man! No need to stress. You will have more such encounters if you keep up the confidence and the determination to approach. If you haven't already, text her that it was nice meeting her and ask her to hang out. Invite her out on a small date - walk in the park, hiking, ice cream, or a museum, for example. A place where you can talk about each other and also have an environment for situational humor and other things to drive the conversation in and out of your personal topics.
/r/seduction06/02/14 06:25 AM
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You add value to a conversation by sharing your opinions and personal stories without any hesitation. This sub-consciously tells that you are open to them adding their opinions and feelings in the conversation. Also, people love talking about themselves. So ask questions to help yourself know them better.
/r/seduction01/02/14 01:45 AM
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You should not be waiting for text messages or call backs for anyone unless its urgent business. You should be making good use of your time and keeping yourself busy learning new things, meeting people, working out, watching movies, or doing whatever makes you feel good. If a girl doesn't get back to you within a reasonable time frame, don't wait and test your patience. Just move on. If she texts back in a day or more, proceed with caution. Otherwise, continue on your journey towards the next (b…
/r/seduction29/01/14 02:50 AM
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Ar... Are you Niki Lauda?
/r/seduction27/01/14 04:54 AM
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All you have to do is start talking. Start talking to the person sitting next to you in class (they're probably as bored as you are), start or get involved in study groups, ask people to spot you in the gym and exchange names, and so on. Once you exchange names, you are acquaintances. From then on you have to start talking about deeper things and no long carry on with the small talk. People who are able to carry out those deep conversations and are able to relate to you go on to become friends, …
/r/seduction25/01/14 01:33 AM
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I can tell you guys were going back and forth pretty fast because I myself got confused by your responses for a second there. But yeah, she wanted this whole thing to happen. Good job closing the deal!
/r/seduction23/01/14 06:16 AM
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Haha... this is funny. Nothing to be embarrassed of. That was your 2nd chance with her. Next time, smile and use the 2nd opportunity wisely. Congratulations on growing a pair of brass balls to day-game!
/r/seduction23/01/14 06:05 AM
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Haha... this is so clever. I stared at my computer chair for a few seconds before reading your comment. Totally stealing it.
/r/seduction22/01/14 09:03 AM
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And join local clubs/groups of your interest.
/r/seduction22/01/14 08:59 AM
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I read a FR from a veteran PUA and also personal experience.
/r/seduction22/01/14 03:41 AM
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Alright. My intention was to seek clarification on the general notion with that example, but I will keep this in mind.
/r/seduction21/01/14 08:27 PM
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I think dinner will be too much for the first date as well. A cup of coffee or a walk in the park sounds better since it puts little to no pressure on the girl. Dinner means you have high expectations out of this date.
/r/seduction21/01/14 08:25 PM
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You don't have to demonstrate higher value in every thing. An awesome event where you could meet cool people is a good enough reason to go alone. If she strings along, she gets to enjoy the night with you and perhaps gets to meet more people. Remember, it's primarily about your movie (your enjoyment). You have just offered her an once in a lifetime chance to be the supporting cast in this movie. If she screws up, she will have to work hard to make up for it.
/r/seduction21/01/14 08:17 PM
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Say you're cool we should get coffee.#close This should not be the last thing you do. I would recommend continuing the conversation for few more minutes before moving on. When you bounce immediately after the #-close, you risk coming off as just another guy going around getting digits from random girls. You should aim to transition between meaningful and funny conversations, and genuinely try to get to know her. People love talking about themselves. Make her talk about her self and get to know h…
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:49 PM
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"See these girls here? They're out to meet guys like you, they want' to talk to you! So go talk to them!" "Stop being fucking stupid and sitting at the bar, go talk to people!" "They're out here to get fucked man, you know that right?" "It's not about what you wear, or anything, it's about who you are, and you're the exact people that they want to meet, so go talk to them!" This pretty much sums up the night-game. High energy and confidence takes you a long way during the night.
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:12 PM
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Alternatively, casually ask her about her weekend - if she has anything exciting going on. Then mention the event on Saturday that you're really excited about, but don't invite her yet. See how the night progresses and then before you part ways, invite her to the event (if she is worth a 2nd date).
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:07 PM
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You need to come off as a man of value as well. Humor is fun, but you also need to show that you can add value to her life through conversations and actions. Don't be the joker, be the quick-witted man who pursues what he wants.
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:05 PM
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I haven't worked on WP in months, but I don't mind having a look.
/r/seduction21/01/14 05:49 AM
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instead of just going silent I text her back something like “ok, well it looks like you aren’t interested. Nice to meet you and moving on!” Man, I am so glad you covered that. I always wanted to do what you suggested, but didn't considering a lot of people on here have more experience than I do and they all made it seem like a very bad idea. Bookmarked your blog for all the inner-game material. Is there a sitemap or a list of all posts by just the titles on your website? There is a WP plugin for…
/r/seduction21/01/14 04:38 AM
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I would advise against it. It's just like texting. I would rather text her to meet up after finals.
/r/seduction20/01/14 08:32 PM
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Firstly, good job scoring that date! I want to point something out to help you in the future: I departed and texted her with gl studying and lemme know what time's good, she said she will. Here you handed over the control to her. You should have told that you will be texting her tomorrow to touch base regarding the date. Now, if you text her to ask about the date, you may come off as needy. The safe option for you is to wait and then re-engage in a couple of days if she does not get back to you.…
/r/seduction19/01/14 11:40 PM
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That's because most girls would give their number to be polite and then avoid you rather than being upfront in a social setting to avoid the embarrassment that you or others may create.
/r/seduction19/01/14 12:58 AM
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Unfortunately, this is true. I had 2 (good looking) female friends do this last night. If a girl asks you for a drink within first few minutes of the introduction, she is not interested in you, but what she can get out of you.
/r/seduction18/01/14 11:16 PM
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Great post. I truly agree with this. There was another post about doing things that make you proud to improve the inner-game. Here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1v9b7w/my_different_take_on_inner_game_if_you_have_been/
/r/seduction18/01/14 08:04 PM
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If these numbers are acquired at a bar or a party, one tip is to continue talking to them for a minute or so after getting their number. This hints that you are genuinely interested in talking to her and not just going around asking for phone numbers from every other girl. I am not only suggesting you use this as a "trick", but that you should also be genuinely interested in the girl before approaching her. Also, use texting to setup dates or the follow up messages only. Don't build attraction o…
/r/seduction18/01/14 07:58 PM
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I am not experienced with FWB situations so maybe someone can give better advice. However, from what I have read on here so far you should be honest with her and let her know that you like her, but you are not ready to commit. You enjoy her company, but you are not interested in a relationship. This will convey that you are honest, genuine, and would rather walk away than deceive and hurt someone.
/r/seduction16/01/14 05:34 PM
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Thank you! The book can be purchased here: http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1375321456&sr=8-1&keywords=models+mark+manson Link taken from the PDF.
/r/seduction15/01/14 10:31 PM
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You shouldn't kill it, but don't fall in the friend zone. Treat her like just another friend/girl you know. Approach other girls.
/r/seduction15/01/14 10:29 PM
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I don't disagree with you on the boring life part, but I feel that the the concept of "league" affects the game to quite an extent. This ideology causes guys to put good looking girls on a pedestal because she is out of their "league". They must now do something extra to win that prize which is out of their reach. And unfortunately, this thinking is completely based on looks.
/r/seduction15/01/14 10:25 PM
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Guten post! Haha... Ich spreche nicht gut Deutsch.
/r/seduction15/01/14 09:29 PM
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Exposure therapy. And not using the HB scale or limiting your reach by the idea of a "league".
/r/seduction15/01/14 09:24 PM
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but people can and should only be honest when their life is cool and worth being honest about. Please explain further. I believe and encourage that one should always be honest. If you are not proud of something (example: physique, grammar or intellect), you should improve that and be proud of yourself for doing so.
/r/seduction15/01/14 09:19 PM
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Glad you are open to suggestions because I have two more: Please do not consider other people lame or stupid for asking girls out a certain way. It takes courage and effort to ask and take someone out. Every one is trying to do better. You should be secure about your own abilities and encourage others and add value (DHV). 2. Then we fuck and I walk her back to the tram station, because I'm a nice guy. This is not something out of the ordinary. Any decent guy would do that, so be happy that you d…
/r/seduction15/01/14 09:13 PM
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Bookmarked for this very reason. I feel motivated to run my day game now!
/r/seduction15/01/14 08:56 PM
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Great FR! It's posts like these that motivate me. Expecting more soon. and I said "Wait, how do you say kiss me in Russian?" "Potseluy menya" "Okay! I will!" and then I kissed her a couple times (I don't know if that was smooth or not, but it was what I thought of in the moment so I did it). That was James Bond smooth, my friend! I was not aware of the "Leverage Trick". Sounds like a good one for us college students who'd do anything to save or make money.
/r/seduction12/01/14 07:29 PM
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As a general notion here on Seddit, you should only limit texting to set up future dates. Rest of the interaction should either be face to face or over the phone. Call her or text her to set up an interesting date. Texting tends to get boring unless you always have exciting things to share.
/r/seduction12/01/14 04:00 AM
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Good FR. The confident kino and change of venues did the trick. Continue having fun!
/r/seduction11/01/14 10:54 PM
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Something that works for me is asking them fun questions, inquiring on a topic that they are passionate about, and genuinely getting to know them. Pay attention to their words and lead the conversation from there. Eye contact is of prime importance here. Once you build enough rapport, try a venue change with the girls or get a table together and continue having fun. For a #-close, I usually say, "Hey, I really enjoyed having this conversation/night with you; I would like to see you again. We exc…
/r/seduction20/12/13 01:29 AM
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Every time you approach a girl, she knows what's up. All you need to do is say Hi followed by a natural conversation. Act like you are already friends and assume attraction.
/r/seduction18/12/13 09:52 AM
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Thanks for sharing this. These tips are great when you are trying to meet new people as well, not only just girls at bars. If you are able to get a group of interesting friends who enjoy your company, it will make your day and night pulls a lot easier. You can introduce her to cool people, have interesting group conversations, tag her along with the group (changing venues), and add value to her night. This is a great way to make people fond of you and have them look forward to hanging out with y…
/r/seduction15/12/13 04:37 AM
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Giving her even a few options is too beta IMO. Your advice is good, but I don't completely agree with this whole alpha beta mentality prevalent here. For me, its not giving a fuck about menial things. Doing silly things to come off as alpha seems unnatural to me. Here is the logic behind my approach: I have some time for your after work. Join me. If you are not available at that time, I give you another chance as option 2. This raises the chances of getting yes to either of the options. If OP di…
/r/seduction09/12/13 04:19 AM
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Give her 2 options. First the day and time you want to meet her, and 2nd the next best possible time that works for you. If she is unable to make it to either ask her what works for her between the day of the text and next 3-5 days, and then pick one. Example: "I get off work tomorrow so we should grab a cup of coffee at 5:30 pm. If that doesn't work for you, then we can do X on <insert_option_2> instead."
/r/seduction09/12/13 02:10 AM
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Making your intentions clear when you get the number prevents the friendzone. But then be ready to be directly shot down or to escalate from there with Kino.
/r/seduction25/11/13 02:44 AM
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Me too, buddy. Me too. OP's behavior was natural - hardly any game or PUA stuff. All genuine and that was attractive to her.
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:22 AM
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You could try what I shared above and report back.
/r/seduction14/11/13 08:31 AM
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Although its not recommended to pick up at the gym, but if you really want to talk to them then slightly wave at them with a genuine smile when you are in her field of view. If they smile back and take their earphones out, you can introduce yourself and have small talk. Next time you see them you address them by name and eventually ask them to hang out or whatever you want. By the way, stop emphasizing on NEED. Don't be desperate to meet girls, focus on making new connections and having new expe…
/r/seduction14/11/13 02:24 AM
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Slow down and enjoy every experience you have. Whether it be talking to a girl or dancing with friends. You need to savor these moments and not think about what comes next. There is a great video on this by RSDTyler. I am talking about Rule #3 in the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qsaxJCvahA&list=PLvMP7zVmPKCE5AUtz2VrsGwaNdgMrsWtp
/r/seduction14/11/13 02:16 AM
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I said I was going fuck her which she agreed. Don't speak; act and lead. Talking while on top of her is one of the worst things you can do.
/r/seduction06/11/13 05:22 AM
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You take the lead then. Start having fun conversations and involve everyone in the group. Ask people questions about themselves and genuinely care to listen and learn things about your friends.
/r/seduction05/11/13 06:29 AM
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Keep the texting to a minimum - only for things that are too short for phone conversation like setting up a quick date or letting her know you are close by. Rest of the conversations should be over the phone or in person. Period.
/r/seduction05/11/13 06:25 AM
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Basically, you find the center of attraction in the group and you become buddies with them. If they like you, other people will be more responsive to you. What I usually do is find out the most chatty person, preferably a girl, in the group and start having a fun conversation with the. They are more likely to involve other people around them in your conversation.
/r/seduction03/11/13 09:48 PM
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"Okay" is the magic word here.
/r/seduction03/11/13 09:44 PM
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Meet another girl asap. As soon as you interact with another pretty girl and manage to get her number, you will 50% less fucks about my oneitis. #-close a few and setup dates, and you are out of it!
/r/seduction01/11/13 09:28 AM
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You are being nice to her as you are to everybody regardless of the rejection. That's it. I am sure most reasonable people would like that.
/r/seduction01/11/13 09:18 AM
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Good idea. Make sure you use the content from /r/mansformation as well. The guides in that sub-reddit helped my innger game a lot. Not only with women, but school and work as well.
/r/seduction01/11/13 09:07 AM
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