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Red Pill Theorystoicstephen/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 12:24 PM
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DATING ADVICEstoicstephen/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 04:47 PM
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"My wife is smart. Her logic often contends with mine and I find it hard to find any fault in it, to the point hat my efforts to establish frame are met with sound logic from an incredibly intelligent woman." Establishing or maintaining frame has nothing to do with intelligence. Remember that they are children at heart, and want to be treated as such, so work with her emotions not with her logic. In the end you shouldn't care if she falls into your frame or not.
/r/askMRP19/04/23 08:26 AM
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Tldr
/r/askMRP06/09/22 06:53 PM
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The point is not that she gets pissed at the AA. The point is that you care that she gets pissed. If you two don't have kids then end it. You guys clearly dont like each other.
/r/askMRP15/11/21 07:39 PM
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Ahhh here he backtracked on his gorilla frame... Internet pressure too much for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 08:47 AM
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Here he showed us his macho man Gorilla Mode pre-workout infused frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 08:46 AM
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Nice example of DEER right here guys. No going back, he needs to refuel on the pre.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 08:44 AM
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This post is the definition of going Rambo.
/r/askMRP07/03/21 02:54 PM
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OYS 3 - It Comes Back To Bite You Stats: Age 25 single, no kids. Height: 5'6". Weight: 149lbs (68kgs), Bf%15. Readings: NMMNG 2x, Book of Pook, Mystery, Models, The Rational Male I, and TRP/ MRP top posts. This Week: Re-read NMMNG. Mental Mission: replace mental-models and become my own mental point of origin. Observations: I realized that you can't half-ass OYS and mental/emotional-healing. I thought I had overcome my mental models of codependance and anxious-attachment, but that was because I …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 10:39 AM
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You have to change planets, not countries. AWALT
/r/askMRP31/01/21 01:49 PM
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I've failed as well man, but it got me here so I'm thankful for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/21 01:27 AM
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I'm not in a relationship, and I'm not looking to get into one for at least 3 years so I don't think I'm gonna bring much into MRP. I'm also really young compared to most guys here (25).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 10:13 PM
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Really liking your OYS's. As a daytrader myself I can see a lot of similarities with MRP. The discipline, the risk and how to accept it, the sticking to your plan, and the removal of ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 11:26 PM
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Do not start a new relationship until you have your mental, physical, financial, social and spiritual frames on check.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 10:21 PM
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I don't even think you guys are dating, she sounds like your roommate. For you to truly evolve into the ideal man - the one you can be - you will need to break things up. Next week I expect to read on your OYS on how you two are no longer together and what is you mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 10:16 PM
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It's been 2 years man...2 years and you are still operating in her frame. Fuck, I feel bad for your kid.
/r/askMRP18/01/21 12:39 AM
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I am scared of asking for what I want and then getting let down. Not a big deal, just something to be aware of as impacting my behavior. I’m still working through doing things just because I want to. I have to make up some reason for it rather than just acting because it is a desire I have. You should read NMMNG again, 3 times in a row.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 05:07 PM
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I on the other hand am not really thinking about this at all at this point in my life and it's making me anxious. Normally human beings get anxious when they are facing a situation where they are not in control, or when they are afraid of acting on it. With that in mind you should ask yourself if you are in her frame (I guess you are, or you wouldn't be anxious about this). Look... We are not here to decide for YOU if you should marry anytime soon. The answer to your real problem is that you sho…
/r/askMRP01/12/20 04:54 PM
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You just have to better your Beta game. There's a lot of material out there about that. Get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 07:08 PM
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NMMNG did wonders for me in that department as well. Do you have any other books you like that work on codependent behavior?
/r/askMRP23/06/20 09:29 PM
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Try reading MRP rules before reading MRP theory. Questions are asked in Askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/20 01:38 PM
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/Thread
/r/askMRP20/06/20 01:35 PM
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How did it go
/r/askMRP23/04/20 12:13 PM
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I did a buzz cut too. I have a nice beard so it looks good (imagine Tom Hardy style), in fact I look way better now. This will problably be my style from now on.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/20 01:25 PM
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OYS 2 - #60DoD Week 1 and 2 Stats: Age 24, single, no kids. Height: 5'6". Weight: 147lbs (67kgs), Bf%14. Most recent PPL lifts: DL: 132lbs (60kgs) | Bench 88lbs (40kgs) | OHP 55lbs (20kgs) | Squat 110lbs (50kgs) - before lockdown Readings: NMMNG 2x, Book of Pook, Mystery, Models, The Rational Male I, and TRP/ MRP top posts. Currently Reading: WISNIFG (next Six Pillars of Self Esteem) Mental Mission: replace mental-models and become my own mental point of origin. Observations: It has been a month…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 09:37 AM
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Is this your purpose? Is your mission in this world to marry and have kids?
/r/askMRP12/04/20 02:20 PM
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Now is the time you should ask yourself... "Am I pursuing plates because I wanna fuck, or am I pursuing plates because I desperately need female attention and validation and can't be alone for more than a year". Btw... Are you dirty bulking? If not go do some cardio, you need it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 08:24 PM
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This year MRP will have a flood of new members due to this lockdown. Many men will see through their wife's actions or lack of them that they have little to offer. Now that normal routines are being replaced, couples have no choice but to spend more time together, that's when wife's all-over the world will take a good look at their now mission-less husbands and become disgusted. 2020 will be the year of breakups and divorces, so be ready if you have the money and knowledge to invest in real esta…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 06:29 PM
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Good job, and nice bucket list. Be careful with plates during this time though. Don't let your desire blind you from safety measures.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 04:59 PM
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MPR fixes 90% of things. The other 10% is what OP needs to fix by himself without outside input. In his case its his ego. It needs to die.
/r/askMRP08/04/20 04:52 PM
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Damn
/r/askMRP08/04/20 04:47 PM
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Wow This is not even about MRP anymore. You truly have some problems. Before you try to work out the shit in your marriage, you have to work out the shit in your head. You sound depressed. Your mission is your wife. Your purpose is to make your wife less angry. You smell like shit, you are shit. No wonder why she's acting like shit.
/r/askMRP08/04/20 01:51 PM
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Remember, fogging and negative enquiry are still better than DEER.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 06:48 PM
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You sound like a woman whining that her man is not sexual with her over the phone. If you want something done do it yourself.
/r/askMRP03/04/20 09:41 PM
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Yeah the mental models require mental work to be changed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 07:43 PM
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It's not April 1 anymore.
/r/askMRP02/04/20 11:11 PM
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Did you have a mission to start with? It sounds like your mission was your marriage. You get over this by exercising your body, mind and spirit. Work out, do bodyweight exercises. Read, re-read what you already read. Meditate, and if possible go into nature. Install Tinder, "socialize" and game.
/r/askMRP02/04/20 06:36 PM
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If we could put game into one phrase it would be that one I said above. Don't take anything women say or do seriously. What you did was a textbook example of that. That phrase is my RP mantra because it is true. Everytime I fuck up with a plate or LTR is because I start to take them seriously, like they are on my level. How could you be the prize and still be on the same level as them? You can't.
/r/askMRP02/04/20 03:11 PM
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Good text game should come naturaly from your knowledge and experience with A&A, AM, qualifying, etc. Don't take anything women say or do seriously. Basically be fun, be aloof, use your imagination and A&A to take them into your fantasies (your frame) and don't text everyday. That's what I'm doing on Tinder right now, I'm working out my game. I'm giving women that I talk to an escape from this shitty situation, and that's what they need the most right now. If you can do that you can expect to ha…
/r/askMRP02/04/20 11:53 AM
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Settings boundaries is great. But where does this boundary come from? Why not keep her as a deluxe plate? What do you win by being in a monogamous relationship right now?
/r/askMRP01/04/20 10:07 PM
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Mods, this guy needs a ban.
/r/askMRP01/04/20 10:47 AM
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The third one is not a book
/r/askMRP30/03/20 10:53 AM
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1- Read Sex God Method (for the sex) 2- Read Unchained Man, Alpha Male 2.0 (for the mission and sense of purpose) 3- Get rid of your vices
/r/askMRP29/03/20 10:20 PM
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You think so? Oh boy
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 09:25 PM
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How long have you been together? If less than 5 years then forget it. Also, do you OYS? If you can't handle your own shit then you won't be able to handle the shit that will come with children.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 09:12 PM
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The way you pass the comfort tests is by pulling her into your frame. Your frame right now should be a frame of abundance (more importantly, an abundance of safety and positivity). You must show through actions that you can handle this storm (wich in your case is a storm within a storm). You have to believe in yourself and in your skills to navigate this, only then can she believe in you. This doesn't mean she will stop comfort testing, it just means she will be a little less paranoid and anxiou…
/r/askMRP23/03/20 02:49 PM
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And? That's no excuse for not writing in the weekly OYS.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 01:02 PM
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I asked... can you hold the urge until I get home? You don't ask for shit, you demand it. She said no, use it or lose it. She's in charge. She paints her libido as a random mythical creature.... grab it while it's there It's only random for unplugged men. This directly shows the RP, woman, hypergamy and cheating. She literally just told me it's how it works. Yes she's cheating on you with a dildo named Chad. Replace dildo for a buff stud when the urge hits and the opportunity is there. Why don't…
/r/askMRP21/03/20 11:07 AM
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The sex toy's frame is stronger than yours.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 11:04 AM
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That's the spirit!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 05:31 PM
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Don't. Build him up just enough so that he can get his own place. He needs support from men now, and it happens to be you. As long as he does not impact negatively on your mission then help him.
/r/askMRP16/03/20 01:15 PM
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You both are operating in her frame because you both think that she is still worth it. She is the prize for both of you. Don't forget Iron Rule 7.
/r/askMRP16/03/20 12:46 PM
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Please do it, that way I will be able to lift 50 times my bodyweight.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 02:49 PM
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OYS 1 Introduction This is my first OYS post, it was about time I did this. The reason I didn't do it before was because I thought I had everything under control, yeah right... Stats: Age 24, single, no kids. Height: 5'6". Weight: 145lbs (66kgs), Bf%15. Most recent PPL lifts: DL: 110lbs (50kgs) | Bench 88lbs (40kgs) | OHP 44lbs (20kgs) | Squat 99lbs (45kgs). Readings: NMMNG, Book of Pook, Mystery, Models, The Rational Male I, and TRP/ MRP top posts. ...I discovered TRP about 6 years ago after a …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 09:34 AM
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Are you afraid of what might happen if you don't answer?
/r/askMRP27/02/20 02:23 PM
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What the hell. OP are you bored? Because you sound bored. OP are you in her frame? Because it looks like you are. You came here for a solution right? So here it goes. 1- Stop living in your LTR's frame. (stop giving a fuck about what and when to text, and about caring when she doesn't) 2- Get a mission. OYS. (it will fill your time with simething useful and will stop you from becoming bored and writing posts like this) 3- The LTR will only get stale if you get stale. (become awesome, do awesome …
/r/askMRP27/02/20 01:46 PM
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With 26% BF you need to do a lot more cardio and cut way more than 200-300 calories. Cut at least 500 but mantain enough protein to keep and gain muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 02:02 PM
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What NLP technique did you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 01:49 PM
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This reads like a little boy that is jealous of his sick brother because he's getting all of mommas attention. You are in your wife's frame. You are fueled by covert contracts. You are 50 yet you sound 5. Your wife is your mission. You clearly haven't read the sidebar and the books.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:27 PM
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It adds up to these one-rep max: BP 121lbs DL 192lbs MP 83lbs Were are the squats OP?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:17 PM
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What do you want? Not what you want to do, but what do you want out of this relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 10:06 AM
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First, you are on the wrong subreddit, questions go to askMRP. Second, who are you? Lifts, bf%, age, books read etc. Third, do what you want. Do you want to only text for logistics? Go ahead. Are you afraid she's gonna pick on it and ask you "what's wrong"? Just say you're busy (and it's true you're busy being afraid of her). Fourth, time, attention and affection are removed gradually. Fifth, go read the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 09:50 AM
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You don't even deserve a roast. This is not your place.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 11:51 PM
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I know the theory, but am not very good as dont have much experience. One more reason why you should go out there and get some skin in the game.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 01:37 PM
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You brag about your RSD and pickup knowledge, so why did you go straight to hookers? You could be fucking greater quality women and improving your game and frame at the same time, but you choose hookers.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 10:52 AM
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Your wife doesn't have respect for you and doesn't follow your lead because she feels (therefore knows) that you are still a needy boy looking for validation and control. What do you do besides lifting? In what Level of Dread are you? For the looks of it your are still on level 1, and that's not bad because it's easy to go up on the ladder at least to level 5. What's hard though is becoming your own mental point of origin. You are still doing this for her and not for you. How do I know? Because …
/r/askMRP20/01/20 03:09 PM
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Damn. OP there's no room for second guessing this. You don't have kids, in fact you are still a kid (24yo), so just end it. Don't let oneitis fuck with your mind. Just end it.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 12:18 PM
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You are 25, not married and without kids. Break up with her, be free, squat, and build your own business.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 09:35 AM
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Try to increase protein intake. Are your workouts for strength or hypertrophy?
/r/askMRP16/08/19 09:38 AM
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Sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 11:18 AM
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Remember to STFU, and DARE when needed. Oh and, don't mate guard.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:51 PM
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Oh man, hypergamy is ruthless. The reason she is reaching chad is because she needs an escape from her life. You have to become that escape, you have to become that island where she goes when she wants to rest, relax, have fun, and not worry about real life. Remember though, the point is not to become that island for her, this is all for you. But you still don't have a strong enough frame to achieve that, so... Build yourself. Find your purpose. Get on your mission. After that she will follow yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:10 PM
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Then remain with her, just don't marry her.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 04:50 PM
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He's the Chief Autist, don't mind what he says.
/r/askMRP10/08/19 08:25 PM
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Because it is. It's called 12 Levels of Dread.
/r/askMRP09/08/19 05:34 PM
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Dread is in the title. A man with options is the byproduct of the 12 levels of dread. It's those options (along with your wife's hamster) that create dread. You don't control your wife, you control yourself.
/r/askMRP09/08/19 04:54 PM
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The objective of the 12 levels of dread is to instill dread on your wife. Do you think that being a leader of young men scouts leads to dread? You have to have hobbies that are unisex, or that at least bring women's attention onto you. I would replace the boyscouts thing and replace it with rock climbing, BJJ, and maybe a team sport. Always more than one. Btw, do you lift? Do you go to a gym frequented by women?
/r/askMRP09/08/19 04:14 PM
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You are not a man, not even a boy, you are a mouse.
/r/askMRP08/08/19 03:40 PM
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What you are missing is that: 1- There's a sub called askMRP where you ask these type of questions, this sub is for quality content only. 2- You are still a noob, and you are tracking your success with your wife's eyes. She doesn't matter. This is for you. 3- You are a pussy that wants instant gratification, instead of reading the sidebar and top MRP posts. 4- If you did, you wouldn't be asking this, because you would know that it takes time, sometimes years until you get the sex and respect bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 10:20 AM
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Your kids sound cool as fuck.
/r/askMRP07/08/19 04:47 PM
5

This is what happens when people swallow the Red Pill to improve their sex lifes, but end up making their life (and mission) all about sex and women. The more OP focuses on the sex he is getting from his wife, or on how well he is dominating her, the less he focuses on the success he gets from his life, or on how well he is dominating the world. OP I give huge credits to you for achieving what you have achieved, but be careful to not go off track. Check your Azymuth.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:13 PM
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Possible mistakes I see I made: going Rambo, I could have waited until I was more attractive to do this, more acta less verba. My answer to your post. Going overt like this is best when the main event occurs. You brought the "main event" onto yourself too soon, so good luck handling it for a long while because she is not yet ready to enter your frame.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 02:18 PM
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Just like everything else it's a numbers game. You already have your LTR's interest in the matter, so what is missing is someone who agrees to the threesome. Approach girls with and without your LTR (for threesomes is best if you game with her by your side, so you don't come off as a creep, but you can do it solo). Go to places and venues where girls that might accept the invitation are present. The game is still the same.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 01:30 PM
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The problem here is that your mission was to improve your marriage. Now that there is no marriage, there is no mission. Without a mission there is no motivation to improve and evolve. Get a mission, preferably one that is not dependent on other people.
/r/askMRP31/07/19 10:43 AM
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Or am I simply an impatient asshole and do I need to relax and simply broken record my empathy? Most probably. Do you feel upset that she keeps mentioning it, or because your assertive listening is not working? Relax. This is nothing compared with being nagged at. And do you think I've handled this situation correctly? It felt like a loss of frame to change my mind, but I genuinely wanted to stay home after a while. Do what you want to do. The problem here is that you are thinking of your frame …
/r/askMRP26/07/19 09:35 PM
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Yup, with my last LTR I vetted her for 5 months before calling her my girlfriend. I was the prize to be won. But it didn't last long because I didn't have boundaries (never had in my life, with girls or anyone) and because I forgot I was the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 12:19 PM
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You're right. After writing that comment, I realized that meditation besides being good for frame building, it is even better for frame holding. If you can't control your train of thought, or if you are easily controlled by your emotions, then you can't hold frame. And that's the focus of meditation, to focus on one thing (your breath) and disregard anything else that isn't that one thing. Although, if some insight comes up in your mind that is useful for finding resolve in some type of problem …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 01:57 PM
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I might.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 01:02 PM
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It's weird that I don't see meditation (as a great mental frame building tool that it is), mentioned a lot in this or TRP sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 11:46 AM
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So you pre-DEER
/r/askMRP22/07/19 04:11 PM
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Wife was away on a business trip for 2 weeks (no she didn't cheat/IDGAF if she did, but I know she didn't). We have a psychic here. I've been tracking her cycle (even though she is on birth control, were not ready for kids yet) and according to posts I've read on here, I'm supposed to be more alpha during her fertile times. You have to be alpha 24/7. You can't be seasonal. I don't know why I said this, but with an emotionless reaction, I look at her and say in a snappy way, "put some socks on th…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 12:40 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/07/19 10:31 PM
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I'm not victimizing myself or OP. I'm talking about cause and effect. I'm the only one responsible for what happens in my life, good or bad.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:01 PM
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Do you think that in the 1800's or early 1900's men acted like this? He acted like a women, purely out of emotion. He was like a princess going with the flow of whatever is most emotionally gratifying/ comfortable. The feminine is the river. The masculine is the rock. He was the river, or more like a waterfall. I'm also guilty of this, in the past emotions ruled me, but now as I get even more in touch with my inner masculine, I can stand still and observe and act accordingly, not emotionaly.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 05:51 PM
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This right here is the result of a feminized society. It's still all your fault OP, it always is.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 04:09 PM
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Break up with her. It's the best thing you can do right now. If you don't she'll do it herself in less than month.
/r/askMRP19/07/19 09:50 AM
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I do what's fun for me. Find what's fun for you. That doesn't mean that if lifting isn't fun for you that you shouldn't do it. If you have a gym nearby go lift. If you have a bike trail nearby go ride it. If you have a river nearby go swim it. If you have a mountain nearby go climb it. If you have a mission go crush it, if you don't have one find one. etc... And if what's fun for you is not fun for your wife then fuck it, do it anyway. You guys are both human, so you must have things that you bo…
/r/askMRP18/07/19 09:35 AM
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First, live your life (if you don't have one then get one). Second, let her join you (if she deserves it). Third, have fun (that's all that matters).
/r/askMRP18/07/19 09:12 AM
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Dude. This kind of shit needs to be taken care of in the beginning of the LTR. If you don't want your girl doing that then tell her. You are not telling her what to do or not do, you are telling her what is that you expect from a LTR. If she says no and keeps doing it (crossing your boundary) then break it off.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 10:57 AM
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I fail to adhere to law 28 (enter action with boldness) and sometimes act timid or not act at all. Is this just an area where "lift, train, work hard, focus on goals" + patience will show me the light? I have this idea in my head that when I'm 10-12% BF and making $150K/yr, I will feel better about myself, but I don't want it to be dependent upon those factors. And you shouldn't. The point of being bold is doing stuff even if you don't feel like it will work out as planned. Being bold is great b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 11:23 AM
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Not a big deal.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 05:48 PM
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Create a schedule and stay loyal to it. I go to bed every night at the same time, and I wake up every day at the same time. If I have trouble falling asleep then it means that I didn't use all of my energy that day. Also, stop drinking coffee after 12am. I haven't touched coffee in one month and a half, and since then I sleep better and fall asleep quicker.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 02:43 PM
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What is for you the best thing to do when your wife rejects sex?
/r/askMRP15/07/19 02:39 PM
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Try 6 days a week. That's how I do it.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 02:37 PM
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I struggle with getting myself to go to sleep at a decent hour (something I'm working on) as it is. Can't even control his schedule. Check. The advice around here seems to be, if you approach at bedtime and get a hard no, roll over and go to sleep. That's not an advice, that's a remedy. The advice is, game your wife all day long, initiate in every room of the house in a playfully and teasing way, not in a desperate and needy way. Why? What's the purpose? Another one that doesn't read the sidebar…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 07:29 AM
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You need to game your wife from dawn to dusk. There needs to be a sexual vibe going on between you two throughout the whole day. That way you won't need to game her with one liners when you guys are in bed. And the plants thing wasn't a shit test, you made it one. She was right so you should've just fogged and said "You're right".
/r/askMRP14/07/19 04:58 PM
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All rugs and carpets as well.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 03:32 PM
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She then proceeded to “take it back” and say she didn’t really mean it and did want to have kids. She doesn't love you no matter what she said. What they do not what they say. My wife is gone all the time. She will come in literally one or two nights a week to sleep and then leave the next day You are roommates, but she's the alpha one. Don’t know if she’s cheated She's a flight attendant with a beta at home, what do you think. brought her back to my apt to do cocaine Drugs are for losers, just …
/r/askMRP13/07/19 07:29 AM
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I prefer to train myself. When you can't control yourself, you want to control the world (or women). When you can control yourself, you become independent from the wild winds of the world (or women). I find more pleasure in hitting a PR than in making some girl more submissive to me. The funny thing is that one of those things makes the other thing easier.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 07:32 PM
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This reply is so transparent.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 08:55 AM
9

The isse you are missing is that you are giving a huge fuck about this. You are still too much emotional invested in the sex you get from your wife. The more you invest in that, the less you invest in your true purpose and mission, and if you don't stop it right now, your purpose and mission will be all about sex and your wife. And as we know that is a sure fire way into oneitis highway.
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:26 PM
8

Yup, this wasn't her trying to bring starfish back. This was her being a normal human (with normal concerns) more than a horny woman. The next night it was the opposite. Besides that you did everything well OP (I don't count that drunk DEER).
/r/askMRP06/07/19 08:06 PM
2

The thing is that without problems, without adversity there is no evolution, only stagnation. There will always be the yin and the yang.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:34 PM
11

After skimming it, I only read this... "We should just get rid of men. That would solve all of our problems.” Women like comfort and security, they are risk averse, that's why they want to live in a world without problems. But that's where men come in, getting solutions to the world's problems is our job and joy. Without men, women would have been killed by the sabertooth tigers. This as like many other feminist noise philosophies are really a cry for help. They are in denial, and by repressing …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:16 PM
3

It's also used as an alarm clock sometimes.
/r/askMRP02/07/19 05:32 PM
7

Read the Book of Pook. And if the reason you're not fun is because you are afraid of being fun, then read No More Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/askMRP02/07/19 05:00 PM
5

You clearly haven't read Book of Pook. Next time, after your frame, game and looks are 100% on point, invite her in person while you grab her ass and she grabs your guns. If she says no, then slap that ass and go by yourself.
/r/askMRP02/07/19 04:56 PM
2

Keep going strong. Pain is fuel. It will take a while for her to follow your lead, and if she doesn't oh well, mrp fixes you not her. Check Rian Stone's youtube channel, and watch his cooking videos, they answer your questions and address your OYS better than I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 04:24 PM
2

I stopped 31 Days to Masculinity in the middle. I was not ready to continue - the no masturbation was too tough given the sex drought. Nofap is easy, the key is to not think about it. Before the holidays, I organised a dinner picnic and she said she had enough of surprises at the moment. I STFU. Good = you STFU Bad = you should have gone by yourself or with friends (date yourself before you date women). We had a clear-out talk during the holidays, unprompted. I initiated one evening, she said “s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 12:38 PM
5

4 words... Don't Take Women Seriously
/r/askMRP01/07/19 05:01 PM
5

Start powerlifting. Do the 4 big exercises, squat, deadlifts, bench press and military press. Don't ask why, just do it. Thank me later.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 04:55 PM
1

She needs a leader.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 11:10 AM
1

This reminds me of a post on r/TheRedPill from a year ago that I think was called "Why the Patriarch Doesn't Smile". I can't find it though, but it crushed what was left of my blue pill mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 08:06 PM
2

Those were great, textbook AA and Am. Do you remember the first time you used AA in your marriage?
/r/askMRP27/06/19 05:30 PM
3

My ex LTR used to constantly criticize and undermine my driving skills. My default reaction was to STFU and ignore, act like she wasn't even there. My mind told me that that reaction was the correct one, but my gut told me that I should just shut that down from the start and create a boundary. Internaly I was building up resentment, but my logic was that by demonstrating my anger towards her actions, I was breaking frame. After reading NMMNG, I questioned this even more. What's your opinion?
/r/askMRP27/06/19 11:28 AM
3

His cooking and coffee videos are pure gold, it's like he extracted the red from the red pill, and left out all the bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 11:21 AM
1

This right here. If it was me I wouldn't even answer the second text.
/r/askMRP19/06/19 11:59 AM
2

Be busy. Have boundaries. Keep frame. Don't let her emotions affect you. Change her mood, not her mind. Go read the series on LTR game, its in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 02:42 PM
1

What do you mean with deflect?
/r/askTRP16/06/19 01:31 PM
6

I hold frame. Give me examples.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:47 PM
6

I want to have a frame and do whatever I want to do, but it is not easy as said. It is never easy, the only way to build frame is to do hard things. If you shed blood through it even better. But the problem is that my wife doesn't let me to be a strong, masculine, alpha man in our relationship. Why would she? You clearly don't seem a good candidate to become one. She sees that, and that's why she doesn't let you. She gets jealous when I look at other girls out there and it is impossible to talk …
/r/askMRP28/05/19 12:47 PM
13

Damn. Do you want to be single because people make "fun" of you, or because you really want to be single? Move the fuck away from her father, go to a different country if you need to. You and your wife are living life in his frame. How can you make your wife follow your lead if there's someone else pulling the strings? So here's what I would do if I were you... Follow 100% of the sidebar, you clearly need to read NMMNG and WISNIFG. Find your core values which will be the foundations for your fra…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 08:01 AM
2

I hope this is sarcastic.
/r/askMRP19/05/19 11:41 AM
5

What a pity. You are 100% in her frame.
/r/askMRP19/05/19 11:36 AM
44

She hurts my feelings time and time again That's because you don't have frame. I’m 29 she is 34 and it just feels the whole dynamic of the relationship is horrible and thrown off Of course it is, you are with a woman 5 years older than you, it should be the other way around. Yes you should go monk mode, but dont' go all rambo about it. Take it slow. Follow the 12 Levels of Dread, and do it the right way. If I were you though I would drop the marriage. Why? Because she sounds like shit, you are s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 01:42 PM
4

How's your sex life? ​ Sounds like you don't have a Mission.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 10:47 AM
0

How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 03:10 PM
1

You are feeling this way because he wasn't a challenge and never took you on emotional rollercoasters during the relationship (lack of tingles = lack of infatuation = lack of "love"). And now with his proposal (the greatest show of commitment) you feel like you won the "game" (without it being on hard-mode). And now you are feeling comfortable and secure in the relathionship (lack of excitement = lack of tingles = lack of "love"). The best thing he could do right now would be to apply dread, but…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 08:28 PM
9

Level 0 mgtow the blue pill stage. This level is not a level in mgtow but rather of man. These men generally believe in love and marriage. This level of man will resort to magical thinking when it comes to women (jesus or the stars brought us together she will be my queen). The blue pill man makes up the majority of men in this world sadly. Marriage status- where do i sign? White knight level- shall i open the door for you mam? Status of mgtow- drowning in the blue pill. Level 1 mgtow the purple…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 09:24 PM
1

In what ways does he show that he has oneitis for you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 08:10 PM
1

This doesn't work on men, real men atleast. It backfires most of the times.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/18 04:44 PM
26

This kind of emotional mental process would only be logical if he said that he wouldn't marry you. If you read your post from a 3rd person perspective you would realize that the only thing wrong in here is your thoughts, and we all know that we are not our thoughts. He wants to marry you, but he has to finish some challenges first. Consider yourself lucky to be with a man of such caliber. Be careful, we men take the lack of sex from our partners very seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 08:12 PM
0

You acknowledged her emotions and made them the frame or "reality" you live in. The best option would be to self amuse and agree and amplify, making your "reality" one where her emotions are not that serious and needed.
/r/askTRP24/07/18 05:24 PM
1

Edit: LTR The problem here is that you are trying to match his wants, and it doesn't work like that. The way to solve this is to first decide exacly what you want (for this step it doesn't matter what he wants), then ask him if he is on the same page (here is where it matters), and if he doesn't then say your goodbyes. Its not healthy to be in limbo.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 03:31 PM
11

But this is the only truth - to not commit. Then it is not a LTR. If you are not comfortable with commitment then don't do LTRs. Being exclusive is not anti-TRP, being exclusive while doing the opposite of what you listed in your post is anti-TRP. Read this series.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 03:25 PM
1

It seems to me that you are also not so shure of what you want with this guy. If it is a LTR then back off because he clearly doesn't want the same, or maybe he does (I would never spend the night without sex with a girl I wasn't interested in as a potential gf) and he is just afraid of looking vulnerable or needy by telling you the truth. Don't be afraid of being honest and asking the questions you want answered. If he is interested in something serious, then doing this would help with breaking…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 03:13 PM
1

That sure sounds like the anger phase. Everyone goes through that. Here's what worked for me. 1- Stopped masturbation and porn. (changed my view of women and sex) 2- Started meditating. (increased the awareness of my thoughts and actions and made me more mindfull of the effect of those same things in the outside world) 3- Started lifting heavy weights. (channeled my anger into the iron and into building my temple) After point 2 he should start being more compassionate to the kids and yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 11:43 PM
8

Regarding your "Edit"... Its not having the same boss or coworkers that matters, its being um the same office that matters.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 09:30 PM
1

Its not love. Its infatuation. What do you want? A FWB or a LDR? If it is the second one then you know what to do. Remember to use the logic side of your brain and stop following "feelings".
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 11:49 AM
4

I bet she has colored hair.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/18 04:14 PM
2

Ignore.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 04:00 PM
20

When a man commits to a woman it doesn't mean he is a loser that can't get any better. There are a lot of high SMV men who want to commit because they like the Captain/ First Mate dynamic, and want a partner in their life to go along with them on their adventures of life. I value more a great LTR than a life of fucking random women. I want a connection. I want someone on my side. That doesn't mean I don't have a back bone. And sure there are men and women out there that cheat, but if it happens …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 06:52 PM
8

Only Betas like to control women.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 04:49 PM
8

You are already doing everything you should do. Now it takes some time for things to have a concrete effect, so try to keep doing those things often when you have the time. If you say he looks "deflated" that could mean that he has a low testosterone level, it can be cured with exercise (I know he's already tired but exercise raises your base energy levels), and some proper rest, he should try meditation too. Don't forget to get some rest yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 12:08 PM
42

Before lifting, chop wood and carry water. After lifting, chop wood and carry water. Btw please blur your face.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 07:55 PM
2

If this was a one time thing, then just wait and see if he is doing this on purpose. And talk with him about this, tell him how you feel. I'm a guy and there would have to be a good reason to flake and ignore my Gf, and if I really cared for her I would want to compensate for her.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 08:50 PM
1

Don't sweat the small stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 08:05 PM
84

Tl:dr Have a mission. Excel in your mission. Never break yours or your mission's frame.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/18 07:23 PM
1

Of course. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1tjcbg/ltr_game_maintaining_frame/
/r/askTRP20/06/18 08:02 PM
2

You guys are not exclusive, so you do what you want. Just remember that she might be doing the same. How old are you two?
/r/askTRP18/06/18 08:13 PM
3

Wanting to be in a LTR is not beta, as long as you dont want it from a place of scarcity or insecurity. Whether you are spinning plates or in a LTR your frame is still the same "I'm the fucking Man".
/r/askTRP18/06/18 06:34 PM
1

Stoicism will be your saviour in times like these.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 06:29 PM
3

Good times create weak men. Weak men create bad times. Bad times create strong men. Strong men create good times.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 06:26 PM
7

Whats the theory behind that?
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 09:31 AM
1

Do you guys live together?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 05:22 PM
10

This you fighting logic with emotion. You are seeing the benefits of following RPW values, and seeing that this dynamic is the natural one, but still you are fighting with old beliefs that are anti-natura and dangerous for healthy and balanced relathionships. You just have to let go of the past and start seeing things for what they are, not how they make you feel. Goodluck.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 07:58 PM
1

Lookup Tantric Sex
/r/askTRP04/06/18 11:35 AM
–

What is your body language usually like? Normally an open, wide and tall body language means that you are confident and that you are aproachable. It can be because of your facial expressions though. For example my standard facial expression is a neutral/ stoic one, and I can't fake a smile so I try not to. Try to do exercises that make you loose and more open, like those that actors do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 12:25 PM
7

Talk with him about this. If he doesn't grow a pair, then break it up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 05:47 PM
1

Would you picture yourself doing that if you weren't in love or really attracted to your man or if you didn't respect him as your captain?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 08:43 PM
1

All this
/r/askTRP19/05/18 07:43 PM
4

Not everything is the same. Not all women crave the exact same man. Work on your SMV. Get a mission, and everything else will fall into place.
/r/askTRP13/05/18 06:53 PM
5

You have to have standards if you want to play the LTR game. The minimum time to wait for her to check all your LTR checkpoints is 3 months, the more the better. And you don't want to be the one asking for commitment, thats the girl's job. You are the prize, make her work for it. Don't be a commitment ho.
/r/askTRP13/05/18 02:12 PM
11

What you did wrong was showing emotions, you showed you weren't comfortable with facial expressions and body language, and she saw that. Your default state should be a stoic one. You are either positive (happy) or neutral (in the zone, chilling). Whenever you are with her and she does (or is doing) something you don't like, or don't want to be part of (like watching lame movies with her sister), you just say you have stuff to do, kiss her goodbye and leave with a smile on your face. You are a mo…
/r/askTRP10/05/18 04:06 PM
37

tl:dr Be a Man and don't be afraid to be a Man.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 03:05 PM
37

This is only possible if you have the capacity to see yourself (your perceptions, emotions, thoughts, and actions) from an outsider view. Meditation and stoicism is great for this.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 10:34 AM
1

Awesome thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 06:17 AM
1

I don't mind doing the pursuing, but I thought women liked to chase a high value man (to win him over). If I'm the one always texting first, I feel like I'm investing more than her (although I'm the one who always ends the texting).
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:18 PM
1

1. In what ways do women show that they want something serious (LTR) with you, instead of just wanting to mess around? 2. Is it normal for a woman to really like a guy (to the point of thinking about him all day) but still not being the one initiating texting convos? Thanks in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:05 PM
1

Being on point, never breaking frame, not being more invested then they are, is a difficult thing to keep up long term. That's why I love LTR's, because it is a challenge, and it is a way of always being on high alert (great for survival and sucess).
/r/askTRP30/04/18 06:09 PM
1

Fuck her hard one last time. Then say sayonara.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 06:08 PM
2

Arrange a meeting. Texting is bad if you want to vet someone. He might even be a beta who uses texting to hide his insecurities by being "sexual", you never know.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 12:46 PM
1

A man will be on our mind 75% of the day Is that really true?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 12:01 PM
31

Investement should be mutual from the beginning. Your investement should always be 2:3 from her though.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 09:41 PM
1

Its physical so yeah.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 03:37 PM
2

Build rapport (only use humor if its relatable to your relathionship aka inside joke) and when you feel that the iron is hot ask her out. After that is silence until the date. During the date talk with your eyes and hands.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 03:11 PM
5

The way to close this is to hard next her.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 03:04 PM
49

Stoicism is alot like buddhism. It helps you see reality for what it is, and therefore you learn that everything is dependent on you, and that is how you build frame. Actually I'm gonna write a post about this in the future.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/18 02:39 PM
104

Everytime when I feel a oneitis or some other mental trap building up, I get out the house and run until my legs and lungs turn to ashes. Most times when that happens, I start crying, but from a place of happiness and freedom. Sometimes instead of running, I use this fuel to hit pr's in the gym. Pain sets you free.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/18 09:11 AM
11

Do you lift? - It makes your animal self come through (testosterone). Do you meditate? - It takes your mind out of your mind, and into your body (you don't get cold feet). Do you do nofap? - It makes you sexual as fuck, so much that when you are with a girl, you have no choice but to touch her. I was just like you until the end of the last month, and what got me through "pussy" phase were these 3 points. Oh, and girls are as/ or more sexual than you, that's why that other girl initiated kino wit…
/r/askTRP17/04/18 09:56 AM
2

Lifting for more than one week (after not giving up like a pussy because it is hard and/ or you can't see the gains already) will bring you more than just muscle.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 07:08 PM
16

I can see you never lifted before.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 09:02 AM
4

He showed interest, but it was only when they were together (aka the present moment).
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 04:40 PM
1

That's what I said. I'm not saying the contrary. One thing is knowing how to fuck a girl the right way (you need a lot of experience). Another thing is knowing that girls/ pussy are not that important (you don't need that much experience).
/r/TheRedPill23/02/18 03:14 PM
1

Fool yourself all you like, but there's no true abundance without actually doing the work. I'm not saying the opposite. I'm just saying that to have the mentality that pizza is just pizza, you don't have to eat a lot of pizza.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/18 03:11 PM
1

I know, but knowledge is knowledge. If you've never hunted before, you better learn everything about it before you do it. You might not kill a bear for 10 years while hunting, but you know how to do it. Sure experience os superior, but knowledge is what supports it.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/18 03:25 PM
38

You don't need to go through phase V to get the knowledge that it provides. Even a experienced virgin (if he's red pill) can have the mentality of "Pizza is awesome, but in the end it’s just pizza." You don't need to eat a lot of pizza to know that it will always be there, and that it doesn't provide much value besides the momentary flavoury satisfation, and full stomach.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/18 01:28 PM
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