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| 3 | Eight years after finding this community, I no longer need 'seduction.' Here are the most basic things experience has taught me.I like it. One question: What is the difference between rule 2 and 3? It doesnt matter if she's not interested seems to be the sumary. Also like these phrases: infinite choice, unspoken boundaries. | /r/seduction | 05/08/17 09:57 PM |
| 6 | 24 year old virgin gets attractive girlfriend - My top revelations from 2 years studying dating/seductionmy take on this issue....Instead of saying "women communicate through emotion" (which is a very interesting idea) look at it this way: Women dont communicate unless they believe you are emotionally in spirit with them. For instance if she's having a good time having fun, dont bring up serious relationship talk. If she's wanting to have a serious relationship talk, dont make jokes. Its pretty simple, but its something that guys overlook. WOmen can get really pissed off if you try to change the em… | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And Relationshipsyour original post was full of opinion with no evidence. | /r/seduction | 25/01/17 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Handsomeness Hacks: 52 ways to look more attractive fastCarry those little alcohol pads with you in your car. They sell them for like 100 for a dollar, no kidding. YOu tear open the packet and they are in there. It is real good at cleaning up the smell, alcohol is supposed to be the best because it kills that particular bacteria in your sweat. I dunno but it seems to work. | /r/seduction | 16/11/16 01:29 AM |
| 2 | I noticed this about ALL women with thugs. (opinions?)listen to this guy. | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Yet another reason to not put women on a pedestaltheres a lot of good info there.I think I said that and stop being a dick. | /r/seduction | 06/09/16 07:10 PM |
| 19 | Yet another reason to not put women on a pedestalthis took a lot of effort to write and there's a lot here. Just dismissing with a one sentence remark is silly. Nice piece of writing. | /r/seduction | 06/09/16 08:42 AM |
| 1 | 13 Useful Facts about Flirting: interesting scientifically established social constructs. Much potential for technique building. Discuss away.they respond well when you indicate to them that you are on the same page as them EMOTIONALLY. They are sad and you sympathize they like that. They are having fun and you reflect that. ITs pretty basic and risks being over generalizing. But its a useful thought. | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 04:46 AM |
| 0 | I don't think shit tests existpretty much agree, with this. To add to it: girls are more emotional than guys and they tend to talk more. They definitely tend to talk about emotions and thoughts right off the top of their head. This leads to the wrong impression. for instance at this moment, they just want to be friends; does that make them a game player? or seeking validation? They're just not feeling it at the moment and are saying that. men are usually that in open about expressing emotions. some girls can give insults rig… | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 11:21 PM |
| 2 | How do you spin a girl? As in what do i do with my hand?I never knew how to do this either. thanks for asking. | /r/seduction | 10/08/16 10:00 PM |
| 3 | After 100+ first dates, my rules on making them go wellthis is very well put, my feelings too. | /r/seduction | 20/05/16 07:25 AM |
| 3 | After 100+ first dates, my rules on making them go wellthis is the kind of post I really love on reddit cause its really well thought out and it will probably never get much attention cause not everybody will see the pt. A lot of people who are really good at doing something are not very good at explaining it to others. Whereas people who had to work at something might teach it better. | /r/seduction | 20/05/16 07:24 AM |
| 2 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.yeah I agree with all that. I have heard its said another way; "WOmen communicate by emotions." I dunno if that is true. But i would say this: "women are not ready to communicate with you until you show that you are on the same emotional level with them." | /r/seduction | 08/05/16 07:40 PM |
| 1 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.I tend to agree. I was thinking about this after I wrote it about why people really dont mention this.And of course no one wants to tell women that they are emotional creatures. I mean, somewhat moreso than men, and just generally speaking. But it often drives the dynamic between the sexes; women expect men to be there to lean on, they tend to feel weird if the man appears to be weak, etc. | /r/seduction | 07/05/16 06:29 AM |
| 2 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.he's talking eharmony I guess. the owner is in his own commercial. it's kind of cute, not a bad commercial at all. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 10:44 PM |
| 2 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.exactly. Its what people THINK they want in a boy friend or girlfriend and they start going from there. What we really need in our life is often hard to express, or we dont really know it. Some people I had great times with and I didnt even realize, but later on a I realized they were open minded or they had good emotional control, or they were easy to talk to or honest... But I didnt go out looking for stuff like that. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 10:44 PM |
| 1 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.on the second part: the thing is, if you go out with the specific intention of finding someone you may indeed find someone for all the wrong reasons. THey look like wife material, or the guy has a good job, or she has big boobs or whatever. And you are already programmed to get married or settle down or whatever. So you find what you think you WANT and then you stay with that. BUt the things that we really value, you cant just go outand pick them out. Like long talks, or humor or whatever you li… | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 10:42 PM |
| 4 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.bonus pts for this. So true. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 10:38 PM |
| 3 | If you’re asking women for dating advice, you’re probably making a mistake. Here’s why.this is a pretty damn good post. The part about emotions and reactions is where its at. The thing is most people here (men and women) dont really get this about women. Or if they do they dont actually point it out when peopel have questions about what happened on their date/relationship/etc. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Shit test: She says she's to busy to date?I think you're on the right track, self awareness is Ok; but not when you first meet someone. It gets too deep and like some drama/tragedy movie or something. People like drama, but I think with women especially they only want that when they feel that. They want to be in that emotion first before you get all deep and serious on them. I mean I understand what randy said, you sound a little to self centered, but I think its too much to say ego. I think your just a little too focused on yourself. L… | /r/seduction | 29/04/16 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Shit test: She says she's to busy to date?dont call her out; and dont point to this self pitying thing (did I do something wrong?). Calling her out is just accusatory and people just tune that out; pointing out your own mistakes is way too intense for someone you barely know. Just say "how's it going?" just be aloof, if you really want to stay in there. NOthing wrong with hanging around a bit. At this point your only two options seem to be: keep in touch a little bit here and there and make no effort to escalate; or option 2) say nothin… | /r/seduction | 29/04/16 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Rule of thumb with introductions: Stay your intent along with your name.ok. None of that was made clear in your original post or subsequent. That's what led to some confusion on my part as well as that other guy. I sort of see what you are saying; but i dont feel it is at all necessary to state what my intentions are. for one thing I dont like to put pressure on someone that is not necessary. I think it is important to try to be the same emotional state as the girl and if you are all serious and she is not, it just leads to misunderstanding. | /r/seduction | 19/04/16 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Rule of thumb with introductions: Stay your intent along with your name.it seems to me you are trying to say that your opening line does not have to be your name/intent. Is that correct? That's the best I can do after reading your first post and the stuff you've written here. Your writing is not very clear in any of this. For example your last post says "Just state your intent..." Which sounds like you can start off with that. But I dont think you are saying that. Sorry if this comes across as mean, I am trying to understand what you are saying. Either I am missing … | /r/seduction | 19/04/16 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Rule of thumb with introductions: Stay your intent along with your name.and so? What is your pt in all this? YOu said what NOT to say and then you give an example of what to say and it sounds just about the same. Care to explain? | /r/seduction | 19/04/16 04:41 PM |
| 10 | You can tell who is getting laid a lot on this sub by how judgmental they are about women. Skilled PUAs have more experience, more success and less resentment about women.probably the biggest thing I see that I disagree with is the default position that if a woman: bails on a date, or is somewhat uncertain then she is by nature: looking for attention, looking to use a man, looking for validation, etc There are girls and men like that of course, but from my experience the majority of it just stems from basic anxiety that women have. Men have anxiety too but they perhaps show it differently; maybe they work it out by chopping wood or doing something else. WOmen oft… | /r/seduction | 09/04/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | The best way I found to getting girlskissing seems like a direct conduit to fucking. those two are connected. its hard to just date a stranger, and Ive done that. Also if people are more into pickup then probably by nature you're going to be dating more strangers, so I guess that's how it goes. when I went on a formal date with someone I just met, and by "formal" meaning we set a time and went dancing or whatever; it was alway a bit stiff. I was nervous and not sure what she was into, so the conversation was a little too polite or … | /r/seduction | 07/04/16 11:44 AM |
| 1 | The best way I found to getting girlspretty much my experience as well. There was a girl on these forums a few months ago telling about her experience with guys in the friendzone and she admitted she really hadnt dated much. Then I asked her how did she wind up with her boyfriends? And she admitted that pretty much all of them had started as friends she hung around with and pretty soon it just happened. It was funny because we had been talking about people being in the friendzone and stuff; and it turns out that's how they started. | /r/seduction | 07/04/16 04:41 AM |
| 2 | 'You're the best I've ever had.' - Blow a Girl's Mind By Eating Her Outare you going over the clit with your tongue while the hood is still in place over the clit? I would usually pull back the hood before doing that. or do you simply work your tongue inbetween the labia flaps to get at the clit? | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 03:26 PM |
| 3 | 'You're the best I've ever had.' - Blow a Girl's Mind By Eating Her OutI'm decent at this but an always get better. In step 2, are you pulling the jeans off or what? what does pull them up mean? Like pull them up into her crotch or pull them off? in step 5, what exactly is meant by hood down? That flap of skin over the clit is in its normal position covering the clit? then how do you work around it? or do you? a little explanation here might help. | /r/seduction | 04/04/16 08:40 AM |
| 1 | Is withdrawl a good way to escape the "friendzone"?this is perfectly good advice and makes sense just from a human being stand pt. | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 07:04 AM |
| 1 | [FR] M/21 and F/21 fourth date, everything went well... until a possible text shit test failure?she was just expressing some sort of angry emotion. Just ignore it. Hopefully she will be in better spirits when you see it again. I wouldnt make a big deal out of it, lots of women are known for being emotional. Perhaps she is and is still a great person. no big deal. | /r/seduction | 21/03/16 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Lessons From Being the Guy She's Cheating With, Not Onnot sure what lessons I am supposed to take from this. It doesnt tell me how to ID cheaters, or why they to it, or whatever else I might learn. | /r/seduction | 11/03/16 06:32 PM |
| 2 | OkCupid Research shows women prefer ugly guys who make a move.or that women (and men?) who join OK cupid are naturally more anxious than the average person, the average person being better in face to face encounters doesnt see the need for an on line dating app. or whatever it is. | /r/seduction | 10/03/16 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Is Anger allowed or is it better to play it cool like it hasn't affected you?its a very good response you have right here cause you use "I" statements. Statements that start with how you feel. I think you've studied this stuff. | /r/seduction | 03/02/16 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Is Anger allowed or is it better to play it cool like it hasn't affected you?well if they're playing a game of some sort then either seriously discuss it or get them out of your life. My response is based on the assumption that both parties are being sincere. If you change the situation then my answer might change, but I dont think it would in this case I would either move to choice A or get rid of them. Is there some specific situation or some person that is on your mind? Cause it sounds to me like you have some specific situation in mind and yet you dont want to be spe… | /r/seduction | 03/02/16 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Is Anger allowed or is it better to play it cool like it hasn't affected you?a is good for certain occasions. If the situation is serious, e.g. someone got physically hurt or is in danger. Also if you know the person for a long time. b. Usually the best answer, the default answer. c. Generally this is a way to create long term issues. the term "passive agressive" was coined just for people who do this. however it can work on certain types of people, not recommended for dealing with mature/intelligent females. | /r/seduction | 03/02/16 09:33 AM |
| 1 | Why women are infinitely more beautiful when they are not naked?maybe if they all wore burkas then this would be even better, no? | /r/seduction | 30/01/16 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Girl who rejected texts me backwell what do you want? Do you really see a future with this person or not? If you dont then its not worth it. You havent made it clear in your post what is it you want with this girl. I mean there's no indication at all what you are feeling. And what does it mean "low value things?" What is that all about? If you really think she is worth it, then you have to respond to that text and try to support her. ANd dont wait. I dont think she's a tease or anything like that, I think she just has a lot o… | /r/seduction | 24/01/16 03:32 AM |
| 5 | Do looks matterit seems that men are more into looks than women. Confident men can get by with many types of looks. That's the good news. The bad news is that women are into all sorts of things that you'd never be aware of. Like how you respond to children. Or how neat your clothes are. Or how you respect people. So they are different. Dont worry about your looks and try to read her and respond to that. | /r/seduction | 24/01/16 03:15 AM |
| 1 | The Effectiveness Of Being a Little Hard to Getthe even stranger thing for me is when I am in a committed relationship and suddenly women start popping out of the woodwork. That phenomenon is even more striking. I guess it has to do with the confidence one has when you have a partner you are really happy with. I guess it shows or something. | /r/seduction | 22/01/16 05:46 AM |
| 2 | The Effectiveness Of Being a Little Hard to Getthe guy who responded to me and said bitchier types respond to it was on the mark. One girl who really responded to this treatment: she couldnt get over how I was blowing it off. She couldnt believe it and she started hanging around. But that sort of person was never gonna be good for me. But it obviously does work on certain types I would just be hesitant about those types. | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Once you've confessed your feelings and you are stuck in the friendzone - is there any way of coming back? How to establish kino now?I think the girl will sort of set the boundaries on this as far as keeping your distance. If she likes it when you call then you can do that. If she seems worried you call too much, then let her do the calling. Or whatever it is. I dont think there's a formula for how much of this you can do, but it seems that the girl will let you know if you are coming on too strong. If you do it right, and you really are truly friends, then you guys will figure that out. Just try to be aware of what she's ind… | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 05:02 PM |
| 5 | The Effectiveness Of Being a Little Hard to Getthere's a lot of truth to what you say. I've done that myself one or two times and it appear to work for at least some girls. But here' the problem I found: it works on the wrong type of girls. At least not my type. I value sincerity, and girls who like to talk and intelligence. That sort of thing. I found that this sort of hard to get attitude would work on girls who were a little bit more bitchy, and not the types I am interested in. It's not an objective study; just anecdotal from a couple of… | /r/seduction | 21/01/16 06:04 AM |
| 3 | Once you've confessed your feelings and you are stuck in the friendzone - is there any way of coming back? How to establish kino now?I cant disagree with any of this. especially the last part about establishing kino. YOu really cannot at this point as that is what she's on guard against. The only different view pt I would offer is that you can remain friends and keep this person as a possibility later but only if: 1: you make no effort to get into her pants. Any effort like that will backfire. YOu can joke about sex, talk about sex you had or she had; but nothing directed at her. sometimes she may even direct sex talk toward … | /r/seduction | 20/01/16 11:27 PM |
| 1 | [FR] ESCALATION > ATTRACTION (and you should always be afraid but just do it anyway)the whole encounter was fascinating. Whats the current situation with her? You just bang her for fun or is it serious? | /r/seduction | 16/01/16 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Scientists say there's one quality in men that women find even more attractive than good looks: selflessness.I am sure a good personality helps but this study seems hopelessly flawed as all they ever do is show you a picture and then tell a personal story about the guy. ANY positive personal story about a guy is going to have some positive effect or so one would think. Suppose they told a story that the guy loves, cats and the other guy hates animals. Of course the guy that loves animals is going to get more attention. Or even a story about say, he grew up on a farm. Just something personal that is mor… | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 11:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] ESCALATION > ATTRACTION (and you should always be afraid but just do it anyway)yea from reading it it sounded like there was a lot of subliminal signaling going on. What was the eye contact like? | /r/seduction | 13/01/16 10:30 PM |
| 3 | [FR] ESCALATION > ATTRACTION (and you should always be afraid but just do it anyway)it was an interesting story, it went on for a while, but then the summary points were outstanding. On point 1, there is a lot more that can be said there. For one thing dont you think that you yourself are probably nervous if its a girl you really like and it hurts how we perceive things. Plus there's a million thoughts going through your head all of which lowers your ability to analyze things in cold logical way. no. 3 also feeds into this, if you hit on girls you are really attracted to there … | /r/seduction | 12/01/16 11:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] My first one-night standwhen you say "we kissed" without anything else, its usually obvious because the people have been named and its usually two. But if you are talking about 3 people and you say "we kissed" its going to be confusing. When you add a noun at the end, that is usually called a "direct object" of the sentence. It usually means the subject of the sentence (the "we" part) is doing something to the object. SO when you say "we have sex with B" We is the subject of the sentence, the thing that is doing the ac… | /r/seduction | 15/11/15 07:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My first one-night standOH sorry I did not realize that. It was actually written pretty well otherwise so I would not have guessed that you were not fluent in English. You said: "We met up with her and her girl friend..." The only way to read this is that there was more than one of you, in other words it is not just you, it is you and some other people. It might have been possible to think that if you just said "We met her..." the we might be referring to you and that other girl. But becaue you already mentioned both g… | /r/seduction | 15/11/15 04:44 PM |
| 2 | [FR] My first one-night standI just couldnt get over how "I" became a "we".. | /r/seduction | 15/11/15 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Can you get any girl if you put your mind to it?I feel more like you do. I never really studied that stuff it seemed to come naturally but then there were long periods when I was single. Lately Ive been reading more about it here, and I think putting more thinking into it maybe a useful adjunct to just being natural | /r/seduction | 14/11/15 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Can you get any girl if you put your mind to it?well yeah human emotion is complex; but I would say we should still try to use logic and psychology to get through it. which I guess you agree. I am curious when you criticize pick up artists in general, what in particular comes to mind? | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Can you get any girl if you put your mind to it?the last time I read up on this the guy was saying maybe 1/8 of the girls in the room would be attracted to you. The real key is identifying (by body language etc.) which of those girls might be into you; or really into you. Because you are wasting your energy if you hit on girls that you are attracted to; you put your energy into the ones who already like your type. At least that's what he was saying. But ask yourself this: "Could you sleep with any girl in the room?" Personally, "no." I have t… | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Can you get any girl if you put your mind to it?math does not become useless when there are many variables how do you think they got men to the moon? They did compex equations. | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 05:56 AM |
| 1 | She want to be friends first?Look you asked her directly and she said as honest as she can "lets see where it goes." to me that means she doesnt realy know. It may work out it may not work out. If you cant handle that, then its on you. Every relationship is like that in reality, its just that not too many people are that realistic about it. She sounds realistic to me and not playing games. That's not to say that she's totally into you, she's not sure. But she seems upfront about things. Is there any reason to feel she's not… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 05:48 AM |
| 1 | Going on our 3rd date soon to the beach, how can I finally escalate?check out Lance Mason's videos. He seems pretty cool he is not a super scripted type of guy, he seems a little more down to earth. This is a ten part series but the good stuff starts on no; 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YSVz61tX4I I would watch all the videos to get some ideas. With you Iwould say: DO NOT attempt to memorize all his moves, or to even have a script. You will look like you are trying to hard and might look fake. Just keep in mind some idea of how he manages to touch. Like th… | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 03:36 AM |
| 1 | ADVANCED/EXPERTS Only: Long interaction but pulled a really hot blonde to a food placeno idea. The girl seems a little tipsy and is just trying to get back to where her friends are. Granted I didnt list to the entire ONE HOUR audio tape that i linked but got enuf of it to get the idea. Rather boring. | /r/seduction | 08/11/15 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Going on our 3rd date soon to the beach, how can I finally escalate?there's some here that say to just do the kiss. Given your relationship with the girl, you probably can get away with this and it will work too. But the more safer way is probably to initiate kino (look it up) first with light touching; then touch some other places, or go right holding hands. Holding hands is very intimate and you can communicate this way without talking. there's lots of tips on this board on how to do all this. Now you're in good position to kiss. There's lots of tips on how to… | /r/seduction | 08/11/15 07:32 PM |
| -2 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.more like them than the other football positions. RBs and defensive backs too. More so than LBs and lineman and wide outs. | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.what is your pt about lifting weigths? Yes everyone in the NFl lifts weights. If your theory was correct then wouldnt most pitchmen be heavily muscled lineman. I dont understand how you dont get that pt. I dont recognize the guy unless its AJ Hawk maybe. Anyhow, his physique is certainly more within more normal male frames than the more extreme shapes typical of most lineman. I mean you agree with that dont you? So two pts: 1) anecdotal evidence like your photo is just one guy,he's more an excep… | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 08:47 PM |
| -2 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.Everyone in football lifts weights, so what. If your theory was true why wouldnt lineman be pitching more products than QBs? QBs bodies look more like the average fit, healthy, fertile male. Or so it seems to me. Have any more opinions on this? | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 08:41 PM |
| -2 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.I went back and googled Daniel Cragis photos to make sure. There are some where he is on the beach and his shoulders are outstanding, so yes in that sense he is very muscled in the shoulders. Also very good pectorals as well. Its hard to get that muscled in the shoulders unless he's doing boxing or something like dips. I can get like that but its hard to maintain as I rip something. The other photos of him on the beach you can tell he's no longer doing whatever he does for shoulders. He has a pr… | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 08:09 PM |
| 0 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.ideal in who's eyes: mens? womens? some other standard? Daniel Craig doesnt strike me as very muscled. I think he's in great shape at least in that movie, you can see his abs and stuff and I think thats great. just dont think he's very muscled. | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 07:29 PM |
| -1 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.why then dont you see in football: offensive lineman or defensive lineman pitching products? We see mostly quarterbacks and we do see a a bit of defensive backs and running backs. we see Linebackers some and a few wide outs. not sure youre theory is panning out. | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 07:06 PM |
| -2 | Why the strong focus on lifting? I get in shape and gain confidence through running.I dont see what you're saying. The biggest box office draws seem to be guys like Daniel Craig,Brad Pitt, Matt McGonahey. All of them seem to have proportions that are pretty much what a fit normal size male would look like. THey dont have extreme shoulder to waist ratio for example. ANd all of those guys are fit but not really muscled, although not sure if McGonahey's body varies a bit. I think of the same thing with women. There are women with really outstanding jugs like Rajakowski or Elizbeth… | /r/seduction | 01/11/15 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Does this approach come across as extremely romantic, or extremely desperate?Right I think that's a fine approach. THe main problem I had with your earlier suggestion was that it's taking a risk when you already seem to have a good thing going. Its like winning a football game and your running game is going great and you suddenly decide to try the flea flicker. There's no reason to take a chance when things are moving along so well. Plus the whole build up thing, I think would take some time to ask her each question and you dont seem to know her well enuf to judge how sh… | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 06:42 AM |
| 2 | Does this approach come across as extremely romantic, or extremely desperate?I hate your idea; there's lot of issues there. How about a more ballsier approach? Ask her what her fantasy first date would be like? Would she kiss on a first date? HOw far would she go? This is a little more up front than your approach, but it is also similar because it involves fantasy and some imagination. It might involve some imagination on your part; if she asks you what you would do. I actually did this on the phone with a girl before I went out with her. Actually she asked me what I wou… | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Screening Before A Relationship, & Why It's Importantthe biggest problem I see with this method is that you really cannot know what you can or cannot tolerate until you actually get involved with someone. IT's like practicing for war without bullets, without the real thing there is really just no way to tell for sure whether the stuff she brings to the table will be a deal breaker or not. I can analyze my past relationships for what I really value in a partner and that can be useful. And it might help to telll which ones maybe real keepers for the… | /r/seduction | 11/10/15 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Interested in a girl, but I want to just know her/be friends first?since you have some experience with this situation, can I ask you about the feelings that a girl might be going through in this situation? Some people say that if the girl knows you like her romantically (in a friendship situation) that she will take advantage of the situation and she will have power over you and that will mess up the friendship. I think this can happen sometimes yes, but that is the main issue that I see with trying to have a friendship.. You mentioned above that the girl doesn… | /r/seduction | 11/10/15 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Interested in a girl, but I want to just know her/be friends first?the problem with this sort of analysis is that people wind up in friendzone out of neediness or desperation or whatever and so we do not get a good picture of what its like when its done "right." Being friends can be rewarding in its own way. But you have to be sincere about it. So many stories about people just hanging on as friends and its really sad. So people create these memes that it wont work or it has very little chance of working. My opinion is we dont have enuf data pts from people who… | /r/seduction | 10/10/15 08:19 PM |
| 1 | In general, is it alright to wait to text a girl after a long initial solid interaction?that iiijjj guy once gave two options which are just as relevant to this as any other situation: 1) you simply continue to pepper her with little messages, teasing, flirting, etc...Never ever suggest a date; until she gives you a sign that she would accept; or 2) you dont say anything until one night, out of the blue, you say "Hey I'm at X place, come join me!" That's it, that's the only message she has from you, hit it or quit.. The two strategies are so different from one another they really c… | /r/seduction | 07/10/15 06:44 PM |
| 2 | It's time to be honest.its a very interesting theory. it really is. | /r/seduction | 06/10/15 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Being told you're too confident?there's nothing wrong with you and nothing wrong with her either. This is usualy how its supposed to work. | /r/seduction | 30/09/15 07:13 AM |
| 2 | The Portfolio: 6 Steps to getting her physically and emotionally invested in you!that really interesting. So the way to get to you is: make conversation and keep it going? Hmm, that's kinda how its working for me right now...thanks for sharing. | /r/seduction | 30/09/15 05:44 AM |
| 2 | The Portfolio: 6 Steps to getting her physically and emotionally invested in you!tell us about the times when someone did ask you directly and it you did say yes. What happened then? Thanks again. | /r/seduction | 29/09/15 09:15 PM |
| 11 | The Portfolio: 6 Steps to getting her physically and emotionally invested in you!wow this is very insightful comment on a tricky subject. See as a man it would never occur to me that this kind of thinking would make you decline. It shows you how different the sexes are with emotions and stuff like that. THis is why most men dont get this part of the ritual and yet you see this same advice appear over and over: ask her to JOIN not make it about her. Lots of insight here. Thank you for sharing your perspective. | /r/seduction | 29/09/15 07:07 PM |
| 8 | The Portfolio: 6 Steps to getting her physically and emotionally invested in you!can you explain the why you generally decline? This would be interesting to understand. | /r/seduction | 29/09/15 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Wish me luck.The more choices you have, the less satisfied you are with each one. Mark Manson blog, 20 Paradoxes 2/6/2013 | /r/seduction | 23/09/15 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Friend-zoning yourself on purpose?its a sort of abstract question; it all depends on the exact situation. sometimes this person might really rely on you so much you actually feel you need to be there for them. Sometimes you feel friendship is worth it. I wouldnt do it just because I have no game. you really need to be sincere about it if you agree to be a friend. Doing it because you have ulterior motive is probably only going to make you worse in the long run. You have to pretty aware of what is going on in the first place to e… | /r/seduction | 21/09/15 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Let me give you the only piece of advice I have not seen herebest piece of advice: Control is an illusion. Being aware of stuff around you is often referred to as Mindfulness. | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 09:02 PM |
| 1 | [FR] "I'm not going to have sex with you." Long story.mostly yes. But i think the type I comments probably require a little more thought, those are most likely the more cerebral ones. | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 06:28 PM |
| 4 | she cheats - response?people cheat for all different reasons. Sometimes it is some old boyfriend who was never any good. This has little to do with what evolution has done to us. | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 01:25 AM |
| 1 | she cheats - response?this is actually a pretty realistic response. | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 01:22 AM |
| 2 | [FR] "I'm not going to have sex with you." Long story.Right but can we stop calling every single, odd thing, a woman ever said right before sex: a shit test? Its not helpful. I. Some shit tests are very carefully thought out and really are designed to be sneaky. Often these are over texts or some long drawn out conversation where there is time to think about what the man is saying and some thought out response to it. II. Some are of them are just emotional eruptions and are not well thought out; usually you've touched a nerve in her and she respond… | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 12:01 AM |
| 2 | [FR] "I'm not going to have sex with you." Long story.My eyes are so bad I 'd have to lean in real close and be like: hmm let me see your eyes. Aha! You're either into me or you've been ingesting Belladonna! | /r/seduction | 19/09/15 10:26 PM |
| 3 | [FR] "I'm not going to have sex with you." Long story.well so much for that guy on the other thread who said you cant see pupils dilating. My eyes are bad so I would never know... | /r/seduction | 19/09/15 05:02 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Follow up on a date I had a couple weeks ago which I thought ended badly...(original in text)lots of excellent stuff going on here. I liked how the main parts of the escalation process include the hands, and then the kiss. You get through those two stages and good things will happen. | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 02:39 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened herejust send a little text once a day, keep it short and maybe a little flirty. If she responds then sure, keep texting, if not then wait a day or two and maybe send another one. thats what I think. you might get a better idea where this is going as you interact with her. | /r/seduction | 07/09/15 04:39 PM |
| 1 | No response after saying "yes" to date?well yeah that is always going to be an issue. You dont want to do too much of that, but I dont think another email would hurt. | /r/seduction | 06/09/15 09:42 PM |
| 1 | No response after saying "yes" to date?do not put the ball in her court. That just tells them it is up to her. They dont want to do that, not usually. They want the man to plan it and take the lead. Just email and tell her you've got a day picked out. Wait for response if she cant then ask for another day or whatever just ask reddit what to do. You put the ball in her court and she will hesistate; women dont like to make that decision. They just dont. its biology or something but trust me they dont | /r/seduction | 06/09/15 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Anthropology nerd explains why women adapted to play hard to get, among other dating strategiesI found it very hard to find much of substance here, it was mostly funny with what little insight in between the skits. I dont think it as complicated as he's trying to portray it. There are simple biological differences between the sexes that make it imperative for women to be choosy in their sex partners; essentially they have the final say in all this because they have to invest the most time in the event of pregnancy. is it any deeper than this? I did not get all the counter strategy evolvin… | /r/seduction | 06/09/15 07:56 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened herethere's nothing wrong with what she did. She seems to want you to keep making an effort and she's not down for doing a whole lot on the first date. Nothing wrong with that and it doesnt mean this is a waste of time. Thinking she wants you as an orbiter is way overthinking this. | /r/seduction | 05/09/15 03:22 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Very confused as to what happened hereI agree she's obviously interested; you dont need to do more stuff than keeping it friendly and a little flirty. Being a little mysterious is probably a good thing here, it makes her think more if she is at all into you. And obviously she is at least a little. | /r/seduction | 05/09/15 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Confused about this situationaccording to that ijjj whatever guy there are two options. I think his ideas are interesting so here they are: 1) continue to send random flirty texts at odd intervals but on a regular basis; do not ask her out until she actually suggests doing something; 2) send no texts at all until a week or so and then say "meet me at X at Y time." Just one random mssg to meet me somewhere. The two methods cannot really be mixed, since they are at odds with one another. It sounds like you should at least pur… | /r/seduction | 04/09/15 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?if you think you could possibly really fall for her, then I would go for it. You may fal flat on your ass, but to me a long time ago I went out with this really great girl I met on the amtrack headed to new york. I talked to her the whole up there for like three hours, got a date with her the next week. It was awesome she headed back to VA tech and I never saw here again. But she was awesome and I vowed to never settle on someone I wasnt totally into. | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 01:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm surrounded by thousands of hot and horny girls and I still cant get laidif you do it right. It's a high that can be better than drugs. | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 06:12 PM |
| 3 | I'm surrounded by thousands of hot and horny girls and I still cant get laidthis is right on. There's a voice in there that is filled with doubt and worry. WHen you start talking to people and start talking about what is going on around you, that voice will turn off. Because your mind is being ovewhelmed by external inputs: voices, the sun, the smell, the weather, the pollen, this girls face, etc. All that stuff comes crashing into your brain to be processed and you dont have time for that recurrign voice to get negative. Then what happens? That fear starts to disappear… | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 04:39 PM |
| 2 | I'm surrounded by thousands of hot and horny girls and I still cant get laidwhat hectic said is good advice. If you do it right you wil be in such a good mood this will be easy. Just keep talking to them about whatever is fun, the weather, classes, where you from. Try to pretend you're doing a comedy act if that helps, you are providing a sort of entertainment. Just stay with it and it should start feeling good. You keep talkin like this and youwont over think. Get it? You're so busy talking and listenig and having fun that you have deep plans on getting anyone. But at … | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?you can have lots of fun with female friends. if you're looking for romance it's an indirect step, one step back ward..but its ok. I remember going to this Steely Dan concert with two girls one I knew and one was her old friend. The old friend was this 6 foot blonde goddess my friend was shorter but really cute Italian. I had one on each arm as we sat down on the grass. I had my eyes focused straight ahead and out of the corner of my eye I could see heads turning everywhere. We sat down and all … | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?I think this is key your insecurity; or maybe the key I dont know you. What strikes me is that how do you not know if you this girl is one you'd like to have a girl friend? I can tell right away if a girl I see could be one I'd like to be with. How far it goes depends on personality and goals and values and such... If you think you could really fall for her, I would go for it. I mean that is me. Cause I hate having regrets about women I thought were great. At some pt. in my life; I made it a pt.… | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?wholly shit! THis whole post just took an odd turn when you start talking bout hooking up. WTF if you want to be friends be friends. Number one rule about being friends: do not make any move on them. Of course you can joke about sex and probably should sometimes. I mean I agree do not bring up hooking up when she's your friend; but why do you say: "dont bring up any of that.."? That what? There boy friend? Thats kind of what you may have to do as a friend. | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?it took me a long time to have female friends that I was attracted to not until my mid 40s. There's usefulness in that: they can baby sit your kids; they can be your partner in card games which can be a lot of fun cause you play in partnerships; sometimes they can even be your go to guru when you have relationship problems. Although the latter role is not usual for me. I do feel better spilling my guts to women (rather than men) but usually to one I am not attracted to. You may see women friends… | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 02:32 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Said f**k it and had a convo with a cute stranger.yes | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 06:02 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Said f**k it and had a convo with a cute stranger.do you even really need to get her number? Isnt it just as easy to find out where she'll be lunch period? or where she'll be next period? or who her friends are ? Or do you want to go to the football game? or?? | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Is tinder good at gauging attractiveness? It's destroying me but I haven't deleted it for one reason....the girls are in "logic mode" and go for guys they think they want instead of guys they actually might find attractive in person This a million times. First think about the criterion that really make for a great relationship from my stand pt, lets say its; high IQ; likes to talk, is emotionally responsive (being up/down is ok); independent thinker; hi energy... When you start to do the math, it make for very long odds of finding that person (including physical attraction too). YOu can fill in yo… | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Dress Better To Improve Your Chances With Womenonly information here is to take his course. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 02:40 PM |
| 2 | Girl told me I was trying too hardthat sounds like a perfect thing to say. You're never gonna see her again if she doesnt bring you, right? So why not go for it? Did you ever think that when she said next time dont try so hard, she was being super teasing? That might be a turn on for some, definitely for her...What did you think? Besides did you think that when someone told you she wanted fuck you, that that was planted by one of her friends? How exactly did that part come about? In general as to your question: I dont think you … | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 10:29 PM |
| 1 | It Begins...ok then. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 09:42 PM |
| 1 | So I finally did it! As a girl, I asked a guy out.what was her response to your question? | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How far do you 'Chase' after making the first move?yeah I can see the frustration, and its also a good way to measure interest. YOu forget: how important could it really be... OTOH there might be other stuff going on. Is she forgetful? Is she under stress? I was thinking at first it might have been some sort of shit test, but now I am thinking I would probably cut her some slack. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 09:35 PM |
| 1 | It Begins...how ru sure shes married? | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 09:17 PM |
| 1 | It Begins...does anyone want to comment on the tactic of tapping someone on the shoulder while they are on the phone? is tapping in general a useful tactic for these situations? | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 06:07 PM |
| 0 | Can anyone help me with tips for F-close ?if you talk to 50 women in a bar they are going to see you as just a weirdo. How do you operate basically? You just start talking to every women you see? I dont even know how you can produce enuf data to have 1/50 success rate. I dont think Ive talked to 50 girls in bars in my life. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 05:43 PM |
| 1 | How far do you 'Chase' after making the first move?wel yes all of this is very dependent on specific people so if thats the vibe you got then that makes sense for that situation. For most of my dates I usually call when I am leaving since most of the time I am 30 min plus away and theres always traffic on most of those highways at that time. Just a way of life here. What was the final outcome, just dropped her? | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 05:16 PM |
| -1 | 1st Date Tipsbecause Thunder God might also respect women he just doesnt have to accept a minor rebuff as a firm no. So respect has various meanings in the context of what he is saying? Is this really that hard to understand? | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 02:35 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Very close K-close! The improvement is real.yes thats good. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 09:19 PM |
| 0 | How far do you 'Chase' after making the first move?its not society per se; its biology. Men have much less commitment into the act of sex. A women gets pregnant and biologically that's at least a 2 year+ commitment that ties her down; at least when man evolved. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 08:40 PM |
| 1 | How far do you 'Chase' after making the first move?I can definitely see your pt here but maybe she has some other reason for doing this. Like maybe she wants to make sure YOU are still on. I wouldnt draw any black or white conclusions from one sort of odd requirement; its not even odd really. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 08:39 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very close K-close! The improvement is real.exactly, she is feeling some emotion whenever she does those things. ANd you have to match that emotion whatever is apropriate for her. If humor calms her down then go for that, but I am thinking if anger then go for soothing voice or whatever. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 06:10 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very close K-close! The improvement is real.I think that would back fire. She appears angry from the story so probably humor would not go well there. its real tricky youi have to pay close attention to where she is at. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 06:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Very close K-close! The improvement is real.Hang in there! She is into you at least a bit, and probably worth a few more tries. These sort of shit tests, as they are known, maybe better to think of them as emotional outbursts. THe women is simply getting an emotional reaction and saying things she is worried about. She likes you she wishes you were a bit more suave. Because they are emotionally based, the best thing you can do is try to respond or mirror her on that emotional level. If she is worried be concerned, if angry try to soothe. … | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Best way to respond to rejection?whats the longest time you've been in a relationship? | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Best way to respond to rejection?how many is countless these days? | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 09:08 AM |
| 0 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!right because neighbors always give their keys to people who are not their friends. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 05:54 AM |
| 1 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!its hard to value the qualities people have and different people will value the same things differently. For instance imagine a girl with tremendous musical talent and yet she has stage fright. She pays a therapist $80 /hour to help her and he cant. yet some guy who is average looks, money, etc. can actually calm her down, talk to her for hours, say what she needs to hear, etc. She can now do what she was born to do. His value to her is nearly impossible to imagine. Believe me, I have encountere… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 05:43 AM |
| 1 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!I know some 20 yr old virgins with high value. | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 12:36 AM |
| 0 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!its realistic because very few people are going to marry the first person they fuck. I dont even think the OP believes that either. So what is your pt? People have more than one sex partner? Yeah thats brilliant. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 05:22 PM |
| 0 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!not only that but as I get even more older, the stuff that we as men think has value is so different than how women judge things. For instance: lifting and getting bigger, yeah right. I mean for a few women yes, and for others they like skinny guys. There's not effin telling. The things that they often value are often things you cant tell from internet chat. How a guy talks. How confident does he look or sound. How he holds his posture. The sound of his voice. It's so difficult to assess all tha… | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 05:08 PM |
| 0 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!none of that is responsive to what I asked. Theres nothing about being a virgin that makes one of lower value. That is bat shit crazy no? The rest of your post is goes from complimenting him for changing is frame to speculation on what happens. Not even relevant. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 10:10 AM |
| 4 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!how can you say he's lower value. Thats' assuming a fucklot. Women often value, composure, confidence, humor, that sort of thing. Different people will value things differently as well. There's no telling how much value he has in this person's eyes. And there's really non telling if this girl is a ten in our eyes or only his. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 08:10 AM |
| 4 | Seduce the world around you.just an awesome post... | /r/seduction | 16/08/15 03:20 AM |
| 7 | [FR] Met girl on a flight, after long battle with AA, managed to K-CloseBefore Sunrise. | /r/seduction | 16/08/15 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Did I blow it through texting?this is impossible to get any idea unless you have more details. Does she text very much? What does she say? Does she not want to talk to you? Can she commit to anything? | /r/seduction | 15/08/15 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.ok but i dont get much of the rest of the story. What does it have to do with cock blocking? she is responding to a female somewhere off to the side. It seems that she was closer to you as you were kinoing with her. So who is she blocking? why did you friendzone her when she was into you? As a punishment? or you really werent into her anyhow? what does it mean you work it out in the corner? Is that make out, or have an argument or what? sorry not getting much of this. | /r/seduction | 15/08/15 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.such as? i mean were are the details? | /r/seduction | 15/08/15 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.those what? | /r/seduction | 15/08/15 08:12 AM |
| 6 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.not only that but it goes with all dating advice from men and women if you take advice from someone and it doesnt work out then you will blame them. in fact you will go back over the situation and see things that they didnt see or you didnt tell them, or they didnt ask you about; and then you will see how you missed the boat. Then you get pissed off about. These situations are so complex and fact dependent that all anyone can do is try to fish out all the detals and give some options. Maybe some… | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.yeah but men get into these situations willingly and you have to ask them why. The fact that you were very young when all this happend also makes this difficult to get understanding of what really happend in your case. | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 04:17 PM |
| 8 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.a huge long detailed post would be very useful for the discussion Just saying. | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 04:10 PM |
| 17 | Just a reminder: your female "friends" can often be trying to cockblocking you.these kind of generalized statements are not very useful without some specific real life examples. There is some stuff I agree with but maybe for different reasons. For example: dont take dating advice from females.I generally agree with this but not because they tell you want they think women want. Theres a more basic reason thats more about counseling: you can never tell someone your counseling what to do. Because if you do and it doesnt work out then they will likely blame you. Certain decisi… | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 04:08 PM |
| 1 | I just went out with a guy last weekend and he texted me that he wanted to bite my lips. What do you think about this guy?it seems to be a normal technique used as part of kissing, although the last time I tried this it didnt seem to do much for her. Are you overreacting a bit? That's my opinion, but why are you worried about this? Tell him you dont like it...simple. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 03:43 AM |
| 2 | How can I rekindle a potential relationship?dont bring up anything remotely heavy like the wedding, at least not at first. Just do what the other guy said, keep it on a light tone. Thats' all you can do really. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Hi, I'm a female PUA learning the ropes here. What's the best (nicest), no-nonsense way to reject a man?one thing that occurs to me, you could say "sorry I am with that fellow over there" and point to the gentleman you have your eyes on. Then move directly toward that guy and tell him your predicament...I dunno this is just one idea. | /r/seduction | 08/08/15 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Tinder profile helpI guess it must work on some levels, then huh? | /r/seduction | 07/08/15 11:43 AM |
| 3 | Tinder profile helpI am not going to defend Tinder as some sort of panacea for people who havent dated; but dont you think there is a reason people are using it? Reading your stuff sounds like it doesnt work at all and yet here we are... | /r/seduction | 07/08/15 07:10 AM |
| 2 | 7 Lies Hollywood Told You About Womennot really sure what movie is called to mind by no. 2: find a woman who challenges you. Almost every single relationship is going to have challenges, almost every man and almost every woman has something they need help with. Life is challenge. Not sure any movie suggests find a challenge, so much as you cannot AVOID finding challenge in anyone. I dont get that one, the rest are pretty good. | /r/seduction | 04/08/15 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Texting back and forth, I told her we should watch a movie, no replythis advice is good, nothing here seems out of place, try it. | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Failed a shit test last nightexactly, this is a good thing. When I first my met my crazy nympho girl she said: "You're dangerous.." Yeah thats a good thing. | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Attracting a girl who's at a more advanced life stage than you are?listen to this guy/or girl. | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Failed a shit test last nightwow, yeah the last two sentences are awesome response to that. Listen to this guy. | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Failed a shit test last nightdoesnt even matter does it? You're gonna see her again, at work correct? You ought to have your next response prepared for when she reminds you of that other guy. How do you handle that one? Act jealous? (hmmm) Act like you dont care (No dont do that). I suggest being bold; if she brings it up. I dont even think what you said was wrong; usually the exact words you use are not that big a deal anyways. So think ahead, think two steps ahead. How do you handle the next encounter? How do you respond … | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Failed a shit test last nightI agree with astrolog; she's into him; and the grinding on some other guy is possibly a way to make him jealous If she wasnt into him, why on earth would she even bring up his dating life? Also, the fact is this not the last word between the two of them. They obviously will see each other gain. I bet the female tries to remind him of the other guy the next time she sees him. How to play that one? "Hope you had a nice time? "Im jealous. "Oh I didnt notice? And what the hell is wrong with what he … | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Cant stop staringjust smile, and then maybe say something. Just dont stare.. | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 03:58 AM |
| 1 | How to continue gaming a girlfriend?.this kind of advice I agree with cause its not really gaming, its more like being yourself but being aware that females have certain expectations and certain needs. | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 04:25 AM |
| 4 | Sisters college friend coming to stay again next week. Please advice on how to move to heryou're asking a lot of stuff that you can figure out on your own. YOu can ask for her number, just straight up without any games. After all she knows you at least a bit, you dont have to go for some cheesy line or make some excuse. Just be straight up. Also the fact that you know stuff about her through your sister is a bit unfair. I'd be very careful about letting on what you know, she may be cool with what you know, or she may feel you're using that. You never know how someone will respond to … | /r/seduction | 01/08/15 07:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I get Friendzoned by a girl?I think this is incredibly simplistic to what are complex relationships. If the girl wants him and he rejects her, she quite likely will not want him to be around. Girls dont like being in that boat no more than guys. Lets face it you simply cannot simply control people inthis manner and make them do as you like. Why do you need to be in the friendzone anyhow? Ask yourself why areyou doing this? It sounds pretty fucked up. | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 03:43 AM |
| 1 | 4 Types of Female Interesti didnt get much out of the article. | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 01:44 AM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.honestly this guy seemed to be both if that is possible. Wasnt Hitler something like that? I mean didnt Hitler express some emotions when his canary died and yet on the other hand...? | /r/seduction | 30/07/15 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives YouOK that helps a lot, I was beginning to think it was something like that but I was wondering if it was confidence, per se, but now I see you think of it as an all around having to do with confidence, emotions, etc. Yeah this is one area that gets frequently tested by certain types of girls and they do it alot and often in various tricky ways. The more real life examples the better. I dont have many better examples of the top of my head, but some other things to think about: A lot of them hate cl… | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Yousounds like the atmosphere at that point was upbeat and flirty and not too serious. It was a great story. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 09:58 PM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.yeah, I know. I still have trouble trying to figure out if he was simply a narcissist/user or a true psychopath. Cause he used people and said hurtful things, but I dunno if he was truly intended to hurt them. Do you have any insight into all that? How to determine the difference? | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives YouI get most of my knowledge from real life. The idea that if a man says something with enuf confidence and conviction to make all or most girls do something is insane. There is no way any of us have that much control over other human beings. Its like you are saying the girls mind set has nothing at all to do with how she will act with regards to confident man with line about being with you all night. That all girls will fall for this and it always works. Right? What about the girl? Does her value… | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youthe above example of conversation is far more realistic than the examples given in the OP. Very well done examples here, very true to life. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youthe term does not explain anything, and certainly not what is being tested for. I think the term is stupid. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youthis was the best fuckin story I've read all week. It reads true to life. But dont you think its a little creepy to presume someone is going to spend the night with you within the first few minutes? I know a few girls would think of this as creepy. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youagree several examples at the end of the passage seemed weak. They didnt seem like real life exchanges. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youmost of this solid gold. Especially the first few examples, much of that is very good. The one thing that seems obvious to me: he criticizes the term "shit test" because it's not very definitive. Well what the HELL IS MEANT by frame test? I have no idea what that means what are they testing for? Except other than congruence test, none of these examples explain what traits they are testing for... Women do test for a lot of traits for sure. One of them is being calm and unflappable. Most of them h… | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youmost of this solid gold. Especially the first few examples, much of that is very good. The one thing that seems obvious to me: he criticizes the term "shit test" because it's not very definitive. Well what the HELL IS MEANT by frame test? I have no idea what that means what are they testing for? Except other than congruence test, none of these examples explain what traits they are testing for... Women do test for a lot of traits for sure. One of them is being calm and unflappable. Most of them h… | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives YouI agree with justdwee, much of it depends on the atmospher as well. Most shit tests have to do with the man getting all defensive, or the man not being able to think on his feet. If you dodge the question by laughing it off, that often works. But sometimes the women is seeking a serious answer. Its a tricky game for sure. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Stop Calling Them Shit Tests: A Real Guide to Passing Any Test a Woman Gives Youhe did not OUTRIGHT state that. He was making a generalization to suggest that there are certain, biological reasons that women act the way they do. It's like saying women are more emotional because of hormone changes and some nitwit saying men are emotional too. Seriously are you OK? | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 04:00 AM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.the average higher quality hooker charges like, 250 an hour. certain professionals make 250 an hour I read this sentence 10x; what the second clause add to the first? | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 02:59 AM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.that's not completely true: there are fun guys. Those guys who are the life of the party; they are always making jokes, looks are irrelevant to them. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 02:57 AM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.another guy I knew: JoeX. He wasnt really a douche bag but he was arrogant all the time, to men to girls he just talked down to people. He was not actually rude unless someone said something he didnt like then he got nasty. He was on the track team and had a surfer dude hair cut. So he was mainly a caricature, an image of a surfer guy with an attitude. He had a few guys who hung out with him, but they were also assholes. He wasnt very bright, he was not fun to be around. But he heavily invested … | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 02:54 AM |
| 1 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.I was hesistant to use the word psychopath, but yes you're essentially correct. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 02:49 AM |
| 2 | These are the men I've known who lived sexual abundance while I knew them.I knew a guy like Brandon my freshman year. His best advice to the rest of us: "always keep doing something with your hands". that and "make sure you're clean down there." Just like Brandon he was good in his element and lacking when he was in an intellectual environment. Plus side: Good looks, tall/atheletic; superficially charming, fun attitude. Negative: not much for a heart to heart, not an Einstein. And I knew a guy like cross between Cyrus and DJ. He ran a club dedicated to parties, and si… | /r/seduction | 28/07/15 02:25 PM |
| 2 | How to Deal with Shit Testsyes this is a serious and well thought out answer. Sometimes you can acknowledge her feelings: 'you're concerned I am a player, huh? Sometimes, you can take a guess at her mindset: "you've had issues with this in the past huh? Lots of ways to engage with people. | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 05:38 PM |
| 2 | How to Deal with Shit TestsI disagree, he's pointing out the down side to having a canned joke response to everything. Yes sometimes it works, it all depends on the situation. You dont always run the football you dont always throw the bomb... Hes saying these kinds of remarks are all of one sort, they may work in a certain situation; they will not if the situation is different. | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 05:36 PM |
| 2 | How to Deal with Shit TestsDo NOT HAVE CANNED RESPONSES. THIS WILL BACK FIRE. Girls more so than guys are often up/down emotionally. Rocking her boat emotionally is usually very bad. Therefore, the best response is to READ HER EMOTION/READ THE SITUATION. And respond appropriately. Humor is good sometimes. If you're in a club setting or casual and she's just testing then OK. SOmetimes she maybe really hurt: back off and apologize. It is more important to stay in the moment, read your girls emotions and try to react to that… | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Please help me if you can. I hate myself.I agree with what this guy is saying. To take advice here, it is going to be more critical, they will say "man up" and stuff and expect you to be strong. So this is not a good place. YOu have to go to places where they will treat you more kindly. Such as therapists you mention. You have to find people to support you. You seem to have given up on them and that is bad. YOu said: "No one has helped me." Okay yo have to get out of this type of thinking. It is negative and you need to stop these thou… | /r/seduction | 24/07/15 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?its more complicated than that. Lots of girls have emotions that fluctuate, as well as getting nervous and girl stuff like that. Lots of them. SOmetimes you just have to be patient and give them a break. Lots of my dates involve driving like 1/2 an hour, so I usually will text or whatever if I am running late, or just let her know I am on time. Often the girl does the same. This has never been an issue for me but I am older so maybe older people are more concerned about time. Cause we have so li… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?karma | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 12:27 PM |
| 1 | I struck out today. Why?just to follow up; the reference to Botticelli is a bit odd. First thing that comes to mind, is that some of those renaissance painting show somewhat heavy women. For a girl whose very weight conscious that might not come as a compliment. Girls as well as guys can have very strong opinions about their body/figure. Many girls will be hurt or taken aback by saying anything that might imply overweight; e.g. buxom, thick boned, busty...None of those terms are bad but can be interpreted wrong. many g… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 05:02 AM |
| 2 | At what point do you stop texting a girl once attraction is assured?Moro's comment is spot on; the thing is pick up techniques have their place. Dating is a game because male and female do things just a bit differently and these things have to be kept in mind. But there comes a time when stuff like honesty, openness, loyalty etc. begin to become much more important then trying to heighten someone's interest. I think you're at that pt. | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?I was referring to the concept of touching base a little bit before the date is to start. Just to make sure no one is tied up in traffic, etc. This how I normally run my life. I am unclear what part you are referring to as "compliance test?" Is it when a female calls the man back to "verify?" WHich is sort of strange to me why this is a compliance test. She seems to be making sure everything is still on track... Are you referring to something else. I honestly am unclear what exactly you are refe… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?good luck. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?just be patient a little while more and see what happens. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?in your 40-60 analysis have you factored in how much money they spend on make up, hair and nails? how much time is invested in this stuff as well as clothing? I'm not sure its 60-40 as you describe. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?I mean in a more serious relationship. You know, you invest time and money in a girl and maybe it doesnt payoff...BUt then once someone falls in love with you, they can remain loyal, no matter who tries to seduce them, no matter how bad times are, etc. That sort of loyalty is also not totally logical but its a powerful thing when people fall in love. I remember the first time I experienced this, with this landlord who was arguing with me. I had fucked up and burned the carpet, and my girlfriend … | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 06:50 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Young Insecure Girls Difficult to "Game"ok so compliments help us and change our mind set. isnt this simple exercise enuf to convince you that some blanket statment about not chanllenging peoples beliefs is insane?? | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Why so serious?there are a lot of good comments especially about making up comments about people. You feel like you cant do this. Have you ever heard of the power of positive thinking? YOu can change your personality just a bit by keeping positive thoughts in your head. I actually did this when I was 20 because I had gotten so terribly sarcastic it was turning off people. I consciously worked on it. After some time (at least months) I found I was still in that mindset of not hurting so many people but it was c… | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:40 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Young Insecure Girls Difficult to "Game"it would not be very helpful to start with the asumption that someone is unattractive. That alone has got to be relationship killing. Lets see "I wont compliment this one cause she's ugly and doesnt get compliments." has anyone, ever, been able to pick you up when you felt down? Wouldnt that be an example of challenging a belief you had? you're taking one idea out of some book and applying it like it always going to work. Psychology is much about studying individuals and trying to figure them ou… | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?if you dont give any shits you will paint yourself in a corner. Lets say you take that attitude for a couple weeks and find out you really do like her. Now you try to tell her this. How will that come off? That you've been faking it all along? or that what you're saying now is fake. or its possible the girl really is sick and really does like you. Then you blow her off and lose all chances. There are several ways to paint yourself in a corner with this approach. I would try to give her the benef… | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?this also is a little devoid of reality. Plans change, people get sick, traffic jams occur, events get rained out. Is the astronomy event still on despite clouds? You cannot simply operate like this in an abstract way; reality intrudes onto your theory. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?you are only seeing one side of this. The investment part. have you ever had someone who was incredibly loyal to you? Who'd take care of you in sickness and even when you fuck up? Despite there being no logical reason for her to stay? The unfairness of this goes both ways. Just like men, women often invest themselves in ways that is way beyond logical. It's often referred to as loyalty, faithfulness, bonding or whatever. Its very powerful. Men have it too of course, but doesnt change the point. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?this would be better if you could explain what the point is here. Either by an opening sentence or perhaps a summary. Also introducing the Chad character was confusing because not sure if he was the yoga mountain guy. He is, I guess, but still confusing. Explaining her motivations and emotions at different points in the story would have helped a lot. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?this should be emphasized. Women biologically are just a little more up/down then men; if they werent they wouldnt value stability and control and none of the basic techniques here would mean much. Fact is they tend to be more emotional... Some of the best women I've ever been with were high strung, emotional. but they were also the most fun. Remember anxiety and excitement are the same chemical (adrenaline). | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls bail/back out on the final moments of a planned date?listen to what this guy says. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 04:49 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Young Insecure Girls Difficult to "Game"your totally over thinking this in a totally weirded out way. What makes you think Psychology doesnt want us to challenge negative beliefs? I mean what the hell was Freud and all those guys doing for their patients if not challenging their negative beliefs? this is way over thought, compliment them. Have you ever seen anyone do that well? | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 04:43 PM |
| 1 | How will this affect my chances of seducing a girl?This exactly. You wear that scare proudly as if you won it on a battlefield. WHich for you, it was. You can deal with punks any way you like: laugh at them, look at them like you will kill them or whatever. Funny story: Long time ago my uncle gave me a ride back to college. It was a long way and I have this scar on my face from where I got hit with a golf club! He's talking about it and how to put some shit on it to make it fade and then he says "someday you can get plastic surgery" etc etc. And… | /r/seduction | 20/07/15 09:19 AM |
| 2 | How do you get a date confirmation on the day of the date without coming across as needy?very good stuff here. | /r/seduction | 20/07/15 07:05 AM |
| 1 | there was a golden post a couple days ago that had 700 upvotes but has been deleted does anyone have an archive of it?I had a very similar experience, early this afternoon or morning. There was a thread in either Sex or Seduction not sure, that had to do with what to say to keep things interesting. There were lots of jokes there especially one about "I want to write this out for you with my tongue in your vagina." I went back to find the rest of the thread but it was gone. Nowhere to be found, nothing in the search engine etc. what happened? | /r/seduction | 20/07/15 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Question about asking a girl out againremember that anxiety and excitement are based on the same chemical: adrenaline. You can turn that anxiety to your advantage and make it excitement. Sometimes I just smile and think to myself and that worry just gets me high/excited. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 05:18 PM |
| 1 | How do I let off a girl without coming off as uninterested? (texts inside)but thats the only other explanation right? the tone changed right there. Or else she's pissed you didnt move immediately. Have you asked? | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 05:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I let off a girl without coming off as uninterested? (texts inside)which is the other possibility I was thinking, which kind of makes it more interesting right? Here tone changed completely as soon as you mentioned the other female. Is your FWB the jealous type? | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 11:07 AM |
| 0 | New female friend is continuously asking me for relationship advice... how do I spin our friendship back towards normal?I probably didnt word that very well. It is possible to be friends and eventually get out of the friendzone by actually expressing no interest in banging her; until she finally realizes how in control you are. This is not recommended, and it takes a long time, and you need real control, but its possible. I see what you are saying that the guy is not interested romantically. But if that's true how is this even a problem? Thats what I dont get. My friends tell me stuff I dont agree with; I tell th… | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Because of you guys, I got my first GF. Thank you!!its always the same for me. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 08:05 AM |
| 2 | Question about asking a girl out againthe relationship sounds just fine: you're not finished, she doesnt know where its going; no one knows where it's going. Relax and enjoy the uncertainty in all of it. And once you do that: its liberating. You have little control over most things, just enjoy it and live. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Because of you guys, I got my first GF. Thank you!!You might be young and I know the first time you start falling for a girl it's magical. Constant butterflies.. What happens the second time? | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Because of you guys, I got my first GF. Thank you!!Next chance I get I am using: "I want to be the caramel in your milky way." | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 04:09 AM |
| 1 | I'm pissedif he's not chasing her, why is he texting her? I dont get it. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 02:37 AM |
| 1 | I'm pissedGuy doesnt want girl, nor does guy even care about girl. Guy worries about girl's attitude. Go figure... | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 02:36 AM |
| 1 | How do I let off a girl without coming off as uninterested? (texts inside)she wanted it right then, and you didnt deliver, is how it reads. Is that not what you read? Also what's with the other girlfriend? Is she jealous? does she know her? that's the first thing that hits me. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Help making my intentions clear and avoiding the friendzonegeezus, why not give it two more dates and see how it goes. Spending 6 hours on one day is probably not best use of time anyhow, so consider that was a bit of overkill. Think of it from women's perspective: the sex act is a far deeper investment for her than you. Doesnt it make sense for her to take her time? Its that simple. Can you invest an amount of time into this that at least remotely comparable to her investment? At least as she views it. look at it from another way: if you had gone on 6 … | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 01:55 AM |
| 3 | A few things I've learned from Tinder.fair enuf. good luck. | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 01:50 AM |
| 3 | A few things I've learned from Tinder."about 8." What is that like 8 1/2 or 9 1/4?? | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Question about asking a girl out againask her out, she's probably still interested. So that's a no brainer. I wouldnt bring it up unless she brings it up. It's not real deal breaker although analyzing it seems bad, at that moment it hardly seems like a bad thing. You might not have known how long she was working so you made other plans. If she brings it up later, be honest, she'll appreciate it. I think your overanalyzing this and have good chances. | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Question about asking a girl out againHOw did you not know that whether it was yes or no? WHy did you not clarify that if you didnt know? | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls ignore texts?I dont think its similar since yours is an ongoing situation. And you said something to piss her off. You have to resolve that issue, and/or she resolves it. There's no issue here of whether shes interested, its a case of what did you do exactly? | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls ignore texts?How do we go from "miscommunication" to "technical flake?" Isnt that a contradiction? | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Going out with a friend tonight, how do I keep the interest going?continue to game her and dont reveal your true emotions. Let this build for a period of weeks or even months. Make her get frustrated until she finally gives in and tepidly enters an uneasy, relationship with you. After a long time, when she finally gets the courage to say she's found someone else who's more open and honest, then break down and confess everything. That you were learning PUA in order to win her, but you really are a sincere guy. Deep down. That's your best bet. | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 05:35 PM |
| 3 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?man goes on pick up forum dedicated to banging women without long term consequences. man insists on punishment for woman who flakes on a date. I love you Reddit. | /r/seduction | 17/07/15 03:13 PM |
| 1 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?a girl once told me: looks matter but only after I get to know the person. Is that something you would agree with? Its interesting cause guys are usually drawn to looks, our culture: movies, playboy etc. is all based on the looks of women. Personality is important to me, but it is you know, her ass, or her boobs or whatever that draws me first. So if I said that process works a bit opposite for you, would you agree or not? Q2. Assuming you've been in love. How long did it take to fall in love? Q… | /r/seduction | 17/07/15 06:14 AM |
| 2 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?can you elaborate on your experience? how long did this process take? does your feelings evolve over time? in what way? do you think you're typical of most girls? thanks, all this stuff helps. | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 09:06 PM |
| 0 | Newsflash: Girls Don't Want To Be Picked Up!is it feminine energy or emotions? I find females more varied in their emotions and its important to try to discern which one they are in. And not try to counter it by joking when they are serious, or serious when they are light hearted. Thats almost always a turn off. that was a good post,btw. | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 08:45 PM |
| 0 | New female friend is continuously asking me for relationship advice... how do I spin our friendship back towards normal?if all you want out of it is friendship then you should have open and honest communications just tell her what you said above. Its sometimes hard to do this with girls because they dont like being moved out of their current emotional state. If you want something romantic you have to keep that mind; you have to listen even if you dont want to. If you just want to be friends then simply be honest. | /r/seduction | 14/07/15 02:57 PM |
| 0 | Questions about a Co workerthe only person that knows where it stands is her. There is no way people on the internet can read this story and know exactly how she feels about you. Perhaps she feels just like you; she'd fancy a roll in the hay but nothing serious. But who knows? I think you're doing everything quite well. Well except for maybe admitting that she's getting to you. I mean you're worried about other co workers and you're here on reddit asking us if we know the answer. You're starting to fall for her because ot… | /r/seduction | 14/07/15 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Ever run into "nice girls"?well that's good. What do you hope to accomplish with all this? Chang her personality? | /r/seduction | 14/07/15 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Ever run into "nice girls"?look up the two personality disorders I mentioned above. You might want to get her into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She could have serious issues. Do you sense there is something seriously wrong with her? Or you just dont like her personality type? | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Ever run into "nice girls"?I think the original post was just poorly title is all, quite confusing. I think it is more about personality issues than really a seduction issue. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 04:05 AM |
| 0 | Ever run into "nice girls"?I dated a person like this for a long time. She turned out to have either borderline or dissociative identity disorder. Not trying to diagnose your friend, but the issues you mention above are serious stuff. You should really be careful how you proceed here. Study her personality carefully, was there any abuse involved in her past? | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Ever run into "nice girls"?this a million times. It sounds like you are trying to turn her into some sort of cougar or pick up artist. But after reading the comments it sounds like she is simply a shy person who doesnt express what she wants or needs. I get the connection to a "nice guy" but this really isnt about dating or sexual stereotypes. It seems to simply be one of personality. At least that is what it seems to me. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Girl texts/snapchats me all the time but doesn't want to hangoutthe default position is to remain calm and in control; and to indicate no interest in her sexually. Which is not to say to be like a zombie, obviously you should be fun to be around. But your emotions with respect to her have to be in check. You cant push her in any way with regards to her feelings about you; you cant punish her by ignoring her (unless you really have enuf of her) or appear clingy or needy. These are two opposite poles of what amounts to getting emotional with them; dont do eith… | /r/seduction | 10/07/15 05:36 AM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?you havent told us about any of these other relations/rejections so I dont know how we are to help you with that. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 02:40 AM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?you will never stop running into girl problems, ok? I dont care how old you are. Just be honest with people. Obviously you cant be so honest that hurts your chances. You'll have to work the rest out when the time comes. you should be fine. | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 02:28 AM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?I wouldnt worry about the virginity thing. Its going to happen when it happens. Trying too hard to do something just sort of either makes it harder or makes it weird. All my best relationships came when I least expected it. Not sure why that was, but maybe because I was relaxed and comfortable where I was and the other person saw me that way. Keep the friend with the place; just in case, though. That's nice. Im not even sure why virginity is such an issue for some guys. It's going to feel a lot … | /r/seduction | 06/07/15 01:58 AM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?that parent issue and her regimented schedule are the keys to understanding her. If you are really into someone you have to study them, their emotions, their motivations and what they value. I will try to read the whole thing later, I have some things to do now. Good luck with everything, I hope you find my advice useful. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 08:17 PM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?Yeah Chipotle's good. I would go for the drink myself, because sit downs usually create psychological pressure, especially if you sit directly across from one another. It feels like bargaining and that just puts pressure on people. Casual coffee sit side by side, just hang out is my style. but Chipotle is fine. if you can find out there is some drink she really likes that would be interesting. Could you surprise her w/ a drink on her lunch hour? that maybe hard to pull off. Given the work schedu… | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 07:37 PM |
| 1 | What is happening to mewhat the hell does "A->B" mean? Jeezus the writing style here...I mean I feel for you, but jeezus can you explain this better? | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 06:58 PM |
| 2 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?Every woman is a roller coaster. or at least the ones that fascinate me. My friend is fond of saying: Boring people are stable people. He values stability more than I do. The parent issue is likely key to her. If you want to work on her long term you will have to really explore this issue with her in a kind and gentle way. You have to accept that although men are expected to make the first move, initiate keno, etc; that ultimately women will make the final decision. That's why men initiate, to s… | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 06:46 PM |
| 1 | I don't know what love is anymore. Help me please.ok so you're feeling all the other emotions then? So it sounds like you're pretty normal. Not sure did you answer the question about your other girlfriends? Have you never felt so called "love" around any of them? None of them were all that different in terms of feelings. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 05:49 AM |
| 107 | What is happening to meits probably in the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 04:37 AM |
| 1 | I don't know what love is anymore. Help me please.as for no. 1 perhaps the question should be, is there any girlfriend that you think you loved more than your current one? its a loaded question to say its the same kind of love. Its not really the same, at least it was not when I was married. But it gives you an idea of the sort of ideal that you might be shooting for or maybe not; this may not be a great question. But at least it establishes that you had a normal upbringing and you dont have issues like you dont feel emotions or such. You do fe… | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 03:04 AM |
| 1 | I don't know what love is anymore. Help me please.two rather obvious questions: 1 have you ever had different feelings for a girl than what you describe above? If so, how was it different? 2 do you have love for parents? what is your relationship to them?how do you feel about them? any regrets? do you still see them, that kind of thing. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?I dont understand about saturday. Could you not have a coffee in the morning before work? How late does she work? is there not time at all on sat? does she work all of saturday? What kind of work is this? Is it labor? I am not sure why people who work a job cant do somethign after work. Honestly I am not sure I get that about saturday. I think not stressing about it is a good thing. I think you did that fine. Telling someone to let me know is maybe not the best approach; but I can understand wha… | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 12:38 AM |
| 0 | I get freaked out when guys try to touch me, but I'm interested in them. How can I talk them past this?didnt she just explain that her mother hugged her like 2x growing up? Obviously its related to all touching from what I gather. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Girl texts/snapchats me all the time but doesn't want to hangoutusually I agree to ignore people who cant get closer. But who knows if this person is desperately shy or whatever. I have known a couple of women with serious agoraphobia issues which doesnt mean they are not quality people, they are/were. If you give people ultimatums they will often take you up on them, which may not be the best way to go. We can generalize about how to handle the situations but not necessarily always the best way. Its easy to blow off people like that. But there may be underl… | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 11:21 PM |
| 0 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?you really need to give more details about each let down and what happened. it is really hard to give helpful advice in this case. You can see from the comments that people are giving you long winded answers and a lot of it does not relate to the frustration of the girl changing her mind. One thing that you shouldnt have done was to ask her on a friday for a date on monday??? That is so bizarre, you are giving her the whole weekend to forget about it. What do people do on weekends? They try to f… | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 10:38 PM |
| 1 | How to determine if a girl is actually interested or not?she always ditching the plans to meet up with him. Thats the problem! | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 10:19 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean if a girl says she has to date someone several times to develop feelings but is happy to keep having dates?the thread seems to be over as the OP bailed.... But what the hell is it supposedto mean anyhow? Literally it means most girls are not ready to be bed you the first time they meet you. Men and women think differently, its biological for certain obvious biological reasons. We have modern day birth control but doesnt really change how we are wired, nor does it really change the issue that much for women. | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Girl texts/snapchats me all the time but doesn't want to hangoutagree with everything here. Ignoring here is a good move as he 's already asked her out and gotten nowhere. Not showing feelings is of course good at this point because that would just appear clingy, or emotional and/or ultimatum like; so dont do that. | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Girl texts/snapchats me all the time but doesn't want to hangoutif someone could say all that it would sound like a memorized speech. I get the intention here, but have to do it more spontaneously. | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Eye Contact - Extremely Powerful With Women And Businessq 1. is it significant if a person looks away from you and looks downward and another person turns away and looks up ward? I heard this is significant. q 2. If you where glasses would it be better to wear contacts to test this theory? | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 07:18 PM |
| 1 | My take on listening skillscorrect. | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 07:08 PM |
| 1 | My take on listening skillsWhat is the question? YOu dont even explain what happened. You listened to her and then she friend zoned you? Is that what I am supposed to take from this? | /r/seduction | 04/07/15 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Hey, seddit. I'm an 18 year old cashier at a grocery store. What are some games/exercises I can use at work (dealing with hundreds of people a day) to improve my game?ok I got it thanks. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | How do you all stay positive?do you have a social network of people that support you such as friends, hobby groups, clubs, etc. If not can you find some? Does your therapy place have a way to network, like group therapy etc? Join meetup.com that is an internet thing that is free and you can find any hobby or kink or whatever. Do you need to go to clubs at night?Have you tried hitting up women in the day? At the supermarket? At school or on travel? Find ways to do non alcoholic things. Any change of scenery should help as it… | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Worst night ever.. [FR]have you thought about going to AA? It sounded like you were actually doing all right. Because going into a bar totally sober is a tough thing to do; it went downhill because alcohol was available and you went back to it. That's not good. How about trying it in non alcoholic environments? I mean the pick up part. Do you have any network of friends that you rely on for support? This is a huge part of the puzzle. If you dont then I would definitely think about AA. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Hey, seddit. I'm an 18 year old cashier at a grocery store. What are some games/exercises I can use at work (dealing with hundreds of people a day) to improve my game?what does it mean you "was using repetitive interactions." Was this what you were doing when your speech was unpleasant or is this something you did to improve your speech? Very unclear. | /r/seduction | 03/07/15 07:35 PM |
| 1 | The REASON why game can't be learned over books/forums and is better learned in person / videosA comma, as in: "I dont, they are synonymous." Would have gone a long way there. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 07:23 PM |
| 1 | PUA Pulling Sexy English Girl During the Dayhow on earth does this guy get the camera aligned straight on him and the girl? Even goes back to his apartment and gets her so the camera is pointed directly at her? Any follow ups? Like how did this tryst end? Are they friends, lovers? Or just another two lonely people out there again? | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 07:20 PM |
| 1 | How to get friendzoned by a girl?this is bizarre advice. Unlike men who rate every woman on HB scale from 1-10 women are not doing that. women look at men as: nice voice, good with kids, doesnt dress well, clean shaven, gets jealous, likes music etc. They are into balancing many things at the same time rather than rating people on a linear system. be yourself, but also have to see things from a womens prospective. | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 05:42 PM |
| 1 | How to party without drinking/very little drinking?just drink clear soda like ginger ale or 7 up; whatever. I think you will find that maybe right now you feel a little hung up and self conscious about it. I guarantee by the second or third time you tell someone you are cool without drinking, you will be in total control and you will feel awesome. Like you are above them. Best response line I ever heard (my hi school buddy who went onto west point, this is when we were like 16 yrs old): "Hey J you want a beer?" "Nay, I do better without." He sai… | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Wisdom from a Nigerian cleaning ladydo you live in a civilized country? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/15 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Wisdom from a Nigerian cleaning ladyyeah divorce is expensive but I dont know how you can pull off that "have a child with young GF, no marriage, then take back the child with lawyers" Do you live in the US? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/15 05:16 PM |
| 6 | 29 year old virgin - updatewhy do yo need to go to bars? I am 52 and meeting tons of women on that meetup.com site that has tons of stuff for just about every stupid hobby/interest imaginable. Like movies? or knitting? or dogs? or hemp? or knitting dogs out of hemp? there's just a bunch of clubs I joined, it costs nothing, or you give them $2 when you get to an event. There's meetups for people who are shy, people who into sex, etc. etc. Try to do some stuff sober. I never got much out of the bar scene. I tend to make fri… | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 05:09 PM |
| 0 | Wisdom from a Nigerian cleaning ladydo you find it refreshing that the girls are shamed? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/15 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Wisdom from a Nigerian cleaning ladyhave you ever paid for lawyers? how about for messy child custody cases? | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/15 03:57 PM |
| 1 | which way is better to ask a girl i met a couple of times to hang out ?Go shopping or rather meet at the mall, have a coffee, buy the present, play some arcade games or whatever. The traditional movie/dinner stuff is usually better when you know someone and how they act and what they like. Sitting for two hours with someone you hardly know is not really making progress. dinner you can talk, but dinner comes across as a bit too formal. You sit across from one another for one thing; and again it is more of a planned thing. Its better to be in an informal situation, a… | /r/seduction | 30/06/15 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’without risk, she will take it. Realize that she needs that attention- and suddenly you have power. You have to be able One week? That's all! OH MY FUCK GOD MAN....!!!! Hang in there man. Dont say anything. Hang in there for just one day. JUST ONE FUCKIN DAY. And come back tomorrow and see how you feel. The default answer to many of these situations is remain calm and collected. I would definitely say that here. There's no need to muck up the waters just yet. you never know, things could get bet… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’OK those are some great tips! All those make sense to me. I have another question how/when do you know when to risk it? Its a difficult question of course. Are ultimatums good for that sort of thing? Or do you just quietly let it happen? Is there any way to sense the right moment? This is great stuff, I am sure it will help others in the same boat. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’I dont want to sound totally down on what you said; (my post below) I think the pt. about coming from a place of need, being too emotional is extremely valid. Some other things I disagree a bit. | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’if you've made the transition from friendzone to relationship 3x; then you are doing something very well. I would really appreciate if you can add any more suggestions in this area. This is a very difficult area to navigate and I've done it and I've failed at it too. Any help would be cool. thanks. | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’how long is she going to be gone? have no idea what people mean when they say "on holiday." Even if she's going away for a while I am not so sure what saying something tomorrow is going to do to change anything. What do you hope to change as far as how you guys see each other? If she's going to be far away then what can you do? I would try to hold out if she's only going to be away for a few days. If we are talking months, then let us know and we can maybe give some last minute advice. But the t… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’you said you found it hard to believe that there wasnt one cool chick out there. OK so that's not the same as saying to find other women. So that's a pt. I guess... But how do you address his problem? I mean to say there are other girls out there. That doesnt address his dilemma does it? He has a very real dilemma about what to do with this one chick right now. Sure there are many other great women out there. We know that statistically. So what are you telling him, then? Forget this one? Well "n… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’but the thing is stolendance is already hooked on someone and he has a right to try to see if this one will be the one stays with. Its true as you say that he does have "oneitis" but that's what happens when we fall in love isnt it? You're telling him go out and find other women but the fact is he's stuck on this one, and he certainly has the chance right now to find out if she is the one for him. I just dont see why he needs to suddenly start finding other women when his problem right now is ho… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Severe onitis, have been getting with plenty other girls and its not going away, don’t think there are ‘plenty more fish in the sea’I want to ask sertasheep: why does he have to confront her or let her go? Can he not keep this situation going, at least in the short term? I.e. try to manage it one day at a time. The reason I suggest this, is that if you are really trying to get this one relationship, one of the best things you can do is to remain cool and collected for as long as possible. There are times I can remember where I just wanted to spill my guts to some girl because I thought my world would come crashing down if I … | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 06:01 AM |
| 1 | CrushedI think you are doing everything right. the only thing is that alcohol really messes with things including logic, values, and getting it up. | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 04:40 AM |
| 2 | Seeking advice on bettering my openingur place or mine? | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Seeking advice on bettering my opening"...but your avatar says BringItDowntoTheWire. Are you playin me? " | /r/seduction | 27/06/15 06:59 PM |
| 2 | CrushedI think so far you are doing it quite well. THe latest bar encounter was excellent, she showed you what a slut she is in front of you and know she has to think of what that means to you. SO its on her if she wants to prove she's not a slut and she deserves you. As usual, being drunk does not help things. If you do anything again with her, do so in a sober environment. If it means no sex that's fine, thats excellent. See what she can be when shes not drunk. After all if you want a relationship mo… | /r/seduction | 27/06/15 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Some girls passing me by are looking at me and turn away when I look at them?? Whats it meanwhat direction do they turn their head? Up or down? If they turn it down it usually means they are into you. If they turn it up it's like they dont really care. Turning it down is more like a sign of embarrassment, because they are interested and you caught them. Not saying every single person is like this, it is a generalization. But if you dont believe study yourself. When you see someone you like and they stare back do you look down or up? Probably down. Or probably up if you dont care. Study… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Masculine Body Languageyea it seems to. | /r/seduction | 25/06/15 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Masculine Body Languagedoes anyone have a checklist they go through to make sure they are in a good posture? Lately Ive been looking in the mirror and find that if I sort of flex my pecs and pull my shoulders back at the same time it looks better. I dont know if do that naturally though or if there is some other method to make sure I give off the best possible posture. | /r/seduction | 25/06/15 05:46 PM |
| 5 | I used to get overly attached to girls before I started Seduction, now I can't get attached at all... anyone else?why would you make a blanket statement like that? This shows immaturity and lack of much experience. WOmen are very different from one another, just like men for that matter. | /r/seduction | 24/06/15 03:40 PM |
| 4 | I used to get overly attached to girls before I started Seduction, now I can't get attached at all... anyone else?But we dont know why the people are reporting that they are happier do we? How do we know they just arent saying that because of societal pressure? Or because they have no other choice in the matter? It's sort of like those JD POwer surveys (How well do you like what you bought?) THe people who bought expensive cars always are more satisfied. WHy? Maybe because they are more invested in them. But I do agree with your first point and I do think there is something to what you are saying here. I ju… | /r/seduction | 24/06/15 03:38 PM |
| 1 | I used to get overly attached to girls before I started Seduction, now I can't get attached at all... anyone else?OK I have never experienced your problem I am sort of opposite, but I will try to advise you just based on what psychology I know. Can you go out with someone and not try to bang them? Or not have any sort of sexual encounter with them at all? Maybe tell them upfront what you are doing. I had a different problem in college (having to do with my attitude) and I worked on it by basically controlling the thoughts going off in my head. I basically worked at telling myself people are good, dont make … | /r/seduction | 24/06/15 03:36 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Persistence, patience, and not giving a fuck about the outcome. BJ-closethat's a subjective statement. The OP says he stayed in the moment and didnt really care. That's at least something. what people get out of it is up to them. | /r/seduction | 22/06/15 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever approach women without first getting an IOI?I look at it from my perspective, do I only want chicks with 36D breasts? No. I like little breasts too. I like many body types, lot of smaller people are very well shaped. But large is interesting too. Healthy though is a bit different that has universal attraction. You can see it in someone's eyes, skin, and/or hair. But thats really mainly cardio. Everyone should do some cardio, and trunk exercises. | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever approach women without first getting an IOI?I work out all the time and used to be 15 lbs heavier. Really makes no difference, THis stuff about lifting is BS. Confidence, personality, how you handle yourself is much more important. Being healthy is good, but some girls like skinny. I know one who likes baldies; she will actually call them out as we drive down the road | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever approach women without first getting an IOI?Girls will tell you that looks matter but only AFTER they are initially attracted to: confidence, kindness, intelligence, humor or something. So I agree w/ the above; dont get too wound up in looks. For guys yes, we are always rating women, who has the best legs, face etc. I do it all the time. It doesnt work the same for women. | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Kino questionstay in the moment helps a lot to find an oppurtunity. Once was with a girl who was pretty clear that it takes her awhile to warm up, but something dropped on the floor and I had a chance to tug her leg. She shrieked, but it was funny and it kept going a little bit more and more. that was a decision that took one second. | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformsyes, for sure. | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformsyeah I can believe that. Isnt that making my point sort of? you are saying that the photo is important for getting lots of hits/whatever. But after that it still boils down to lots of other factors, especially from the girls pt of view. Its not a totally bad thing then? Granted I have not used either of those sites, my experience is based simply on a number of female friends who have used them. | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformsno I agree with the concept in general, I just dont think its mandatory. | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating PlatformsI dont think the looks matter as much as you think they do from the girls perspective. It depends to some extent on the girl, but I definitely know a couple that as long as the looks are decent then they pass that test and want to know more. What he does, what he says, how he talks, etc. Girls are far more programmed to make initial judgments on that sort of thing. But I guess its a fair point if we are talking Tinder or whatever platform that is geared toward pics. I was telling one girl that p… | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformswhat is so bad about that? The entire PUA mentality is dedicated to guys thinking they are hot shit. Do you not see the hypocrisy in that? The only thing more moronic is rating women by their looks when women hardly rate guys like that. They rate guys for other stuff, dependabilty, coolness, a guy with purpose in life, how he talks, how he carries himself, his clothes etc. That sort of stuff. They like looks too but it tends to come after the other stuff. That's probably the biggest thing that a… | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Text vs. Call for initial asking outOK that's kind of funny, but if you read the rest of your post you do seem a little bit self conscious. For instance you say you txt'd 2-3 times. What does that mean? You dont know how many time you txt'ed? Was it more like 5 times? and what did you txt? Was it the increasingly desparate, clingy type of txt? "Hello, where are you?" "Hey did you get my txt?" Girls pick up on that stuff faster, probably because they seem more intuititive than men. They pick up on all sorts of little things that gu… | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Top Mistakes Guys makeyou really need to see how you are doing with the girl. Escalating kino is useful because you can tell from the girl how far you can push it. Kino is also a sexy way to communicate without words. Its quite interesting. So maybe get away from the idea that you need to escalate the convo to sex? or just make little jokes, depending on the girl and how she reacts. Example, one time I was with this girl and the previous date was pretty nice, but I went for the kiss and she laughed. Told me she had a… | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformsthese are all good reasons; but its not mandatory that you have more than one girl in the hopper. I can do all these things you mention (which are definitely good) and only have one girl on my mind. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 04:38 PM |
| 1 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.also putting red dots and cross hairs on your pictures will also turn girls off. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 04:36 PM |
| 1 | [ArousalScience] Observations on Tinder through the eyes of an attractive female. 4 types of profile pictures that will end with you getting rejected.PUA website emphasizes that men need to value themselves more. PUA posters complain that women have hyper inflated value of themselves. Go figure. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Text vs. Call for initial asking outwhat does it mean you "felt" like calling her but she didnt pick up? How does that work? You thought about in your head but in your imagination she didnt pick up? | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 06:36 AM |
| 8 | "Better luck next time" said the old man after he overheard me getting rejected by some girls in the park...I bet the old man didnt give a fuck. Or have or have to write a post about it. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating PlatformsCan you explain why to be successful with one girl you need to have multiple girl options? How does that work exactly? | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating Platformsisnt one of the whole points of PUA to carry yourself like a 10? I dont understand why that would be a bad thing. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 06:27 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endmaintaining composure is always a good default action, girls always seem to pick up on it when guys get weak, clingy, etc. So that part was good. i usually like to think: stay in the moment and be yourself as two main priorities on dates. Of course sometimes you have to simply respond to the girl instead of being exactly yourself, sometimes you have to compromise on that sort of stuff. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 12:16 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endalso walking out would be a good excuse to hold her hand. And she might have felt good about that if the situation made her at all uncomfortable. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 12:06 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endwow you sure know a lot about people without having met them or seen the situation or even know much about them. NOt touching would certainly qualify as beta behavior for must PUA, I guess I agree. I am not sure why what he did at the bar was beta; I would have simply left. I dont think I would have done that but I dont see that as necessarily beta. To presume what one person would do if they did or did not txt the other person is crazy. To presume what someone would do at age 27 vs what they wo… | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 06:32 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her end...because women just hate it when you take them to a nice dinner. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 04:35 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endHow does the reasoning go that if she didnt flirt or otherwise engage with drunk military guys in a bar, then the next possibility is that she's looking to "lock down" a provider? It couldnt possibly be that dumping her date at a bar, which in itself looks sluttish, for some drunk guy in the military who may or may not have a ride home, might not be the brightest idea? It couldnt possibly be this, right? | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 04:32 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endWhat exactly was the beta behavior here? I am dying to hear this. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 04:27 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endcan I ask yoiu: what terrible repercussions would there be if you had simply taken hold of your date by the hand and walked out of the bar immediately? I dont understand why this wasnt an option. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 04:20 AM |
| 1 | How to I make conversations more fun/interesting?quote: "I know some of these characteristics are probably not interesting but just to give some context on the kind of person that I am" Umm?? A not interesting person? I mean if your asking a rhetorical question then you leave us only one answer. I mean I dunno what kind of person you are or how the conversations are going, it's a difficult question without any specifics. But if it sounds like an interview, yeah your doing it wrong. Here's some questions that might be helpful: are you able to j… | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Girls love to chase guys: "One thing I am doing right that I used to do wrong"this a great way to get need, clingy emotionally damaged types to glom on to you. Excellent. | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Too much interest/physicality on date 1; feeling pretty down, but can offer some thoughts!does it occur to you that shes playing hard to get after you played hard to get? just a thought. | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Read the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. Loved it. What more books like it do you recommend?yeah I hate that fuckin hamster wheel it feels like Im spinning circles. | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Indian in SF.. having incredibly hard time finding someonein addition to what others said having a positive attitude may help things. Look how many all-or-nothing statements you made in the above post: SF is hard to date (why?) white/super bitchy, asian want whites. Am not saying your racist or anything but maybe things have got you so down that you only see the situation in black or white (all or nothing terms)? Try to see various shades of grey in everything and think positive. | /r/seduction | 12/06/15 04:49 PM |
| 1 | What if I really like her?why cant you just be yourself? Be yourself and try to stay in the moment and have fun. What other possible strategy can you have at this point? seriously what else can you do? | /r/seduction | 11/06/15 05:36 PM |
| 1 | how to destroy a friendship/ friendzonewell you seem to be doing it the right way, at least for this situation. Stay a little out of reach, its hard to know exactly when to let her in. Just keep trying and hope for the best, that's the fun of it, you dont know, that's the drama of it, enjoy it. | /r/seduction | 11/06/15 06:20 AM |
| 1 | how to destroy a friendship/ friendzoneyou dont have to talk dirty, that's not essential. can you ask her out? HOw do you know your in the friendzone? Again without more context this is really hard to follow. How do you know you are in the friendzone? How long have you known her? how far have you gotten physically? What happens when you escalate? etc. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 04:26 PM |
| 3 | How do you beat the "out of my league" feeling?Here's an ancedote. Olivia Newton John got married to that weirdo guy McDermott (who subsequently was lost at sea) He was a camerman and nothing famous or anything about him. OK why would she do that? Think bout it. What does Olivia N J really need? Money? No not at all...Someone with musical talent? Probably not. What might a person like that want? Maybe someone with loyalty? Maybe someone they can trust if she has to deal with phony people in entertainment. Who would make the best partner for … | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 04:10 PM |
| 1 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?1) we dont need these emotions, but we get them. 2) monks hippies would live in their own heads regardless of what we are doing. 3) is that even an intelligible sentence? | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 04:06 PM |
| 1 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?not sure what your pt is here? Define "all shit." the articles are serious studies, or at least as serious as any sort of study dealing with humans can be. Certainly the methodology can be questioned as can the hypothesis. BUt the pt. is that having to commit effort to something will provoke a more higher degree of emotion than something that you get for free. Makes sense? Have no idea what gahndi and all that has to do with it. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 03:43 PM |
| 2 | how to destroy a friendship/ friendzonemeet her with no alcohol involved. Alcohol complicates things, its an excuse, it decreases values, etc. YOu seem to realy want to go for it, so just go for it and if it fails then OK. To get out of friend zone you simply do things that arent friends, escalate kino, talk dirty, etc. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 03:39 PM |
| 2 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?they are questions where some/all of the answers will get you in trouble. Simple example: "Do I look fat in this?" Ok that's simple example; most guys wont fall into this. The best answer is usually to say you always look good or some such. Trying to be honest is not the best answer. Better example (from a recent thread here): I'm not going to fuck you! "Who said anything about fucking? (perfect answer) here's ones that perhaps more complex but also illustrates the pt better: "I have a boy frien… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 02:44 PM |
| 2 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?interesting anecdote, I must say. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 02:39 PM |
| 2 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?all's fair in love and war. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 02:36 PM |
| 3 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?look up "Emotion intensity theory" by professor Brehm, and also articles by Finkel of a similar nature. Basically being somewhat hard to get or being difficult to deal with, can increase the emotional intensity of our involvement. Think about it, say you go into a store to buy a book and the cashier gives you a hard time, you start arguing with her, you get involved in the stoopid argument. You leave the store still feeling intense. Even though you really had no reason to get worked up about it,… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 02:34 PM |
| 1 | This sub has helped me so much. F-closed on a second date after the first didn't go well months ago.the best part was when he said "who said anything about sex?" Bravo! | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Date with a girl that has little interest?if you go in with that assumption then your lack of enthusiasm will kill the date. Right? | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 12:53 AM |
| 7 | Tired of being ugly. Every girl I like, doesn't like methe ugliest guy in our frat always had ladies. It was insane. he had like conventional bad looks: heavy brow, receding hairline, slight gut, shadow of a beard. I dont know how he did it. Looks are very overrated in terms of getting women. Women tell me looks are important, but only after they are initially attracted to: humour, confidence, skills, creativity etc. As a man I start with looks, but females is different. | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Date with a girl that has little interest?and how u know she has little interest? | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Date with a girl that has little interest?again lack of context means these answers are just guesses. How do you know said girl? What makes you think she has no interest? What does she like to do? what previous interactions have you had? etc etc. | /r/seduction | 07/06/15 09:57 PM |
| 2 | What's the best opening contact for online dating?thats pretty good, I must say. | /r/seduction | 07/06/15 08:45 PM |
| 0 | When she asks "This isn't a date, is it?"sort of disagree with some answers, it is a kind of test, yes. I'd be vague about it, or go for some of the funnier answers. If you try to get all serious and say "yes" this is a date" her defenses are now up. YOu've now made her nervous, she will never be in the mood. It's arguable her defenses are up already, maybe so, so you have to find an answer to defuse it a little bit. I'd be coy, or vague, or funny. What answer do you do best? What response is YOU? Do you like to joke? are just cool and… | /r/seduction | 07/06/15 08:35 PM |
| 0 | When she asks "This isn't a date, is it?"best answer so far. | /r/seduction | 07/06/15 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Day 2 of Rejection Therapy/Daygameha ha me too. I can remember the story of but not the names... | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how?just go slow with her. If she wants you to stop, stop where you're at and give her time to relax. This is how you build up trust. That video i linked mentions this around part 9 or 10. If you stop when she says no. She can trust you. If she can trust you she feels free and when she's relaxed she will be more sexy. You are on the right track, very few girls just willing go all the way without some resistance. she's into you it seems. I dont think you're in the friendzone at all really | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Day 2 of Rejection Therapy/Daygamethe fact you recall so many details makes me think you can hold good conversations with these girls. Everyone likes it when you recall stuff they said. | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how?I agree what happens when you escalate kino? Does she pull back? Give her a chance to rest, then up a little more. She stops it. Then relax. Right? is this what happens? | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how?dont do brother/sister stuff. Dont ask for girl advice, dont call her your sister. Just do stuff that is not brother sister. Escalate kino a little. She's already doing it, so you should definitely do that. Learn and interact from touching, instead of talking. How about for one time, just ignore what she's saying and see if she responds to your touch. Start slow but at some pt. try to slide your hand into her palm. Just slide it, see if she grabs it. THen you squeeze hers. That's feedback she's … | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 03:05 PM |
| 1 | My sticking pointstop dominating. Just take a pause. Do you look at her eyes? do you make jokes? do you take a breath? can you touch or joke when there's a pause in the conversation? | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone actually ever successfully left the friend zone? If so, how?I think it depends greatly on how you got there. If you make a romantic move, its very clear and she puts you there. Then yeah its hard to get out of that. BUt consider another example, girl is already taken, you are friends for whatever reason, maybe you are in the same group. You can move out of that if things change. Or the girl is moving away, so there's no expectations. YOu might move out later if you meet again. I guess the pt. is its a lot easier to move out of it, if you arent pushing a … | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Day 2 of Rejection Therapy/DaygameIt was a very good read because it was so detailed. One of the best parts was when the girl said she was meeting someone and you just kept right on going, like you didnt care at all. You could have done a lot more kino with the Korean girls especially as you had a long walk to the chipotle. I can see all kinds of ways to touch and joke on the way. WHen you said she didnt know the way, you could lightly touch her shoulder with one hand and look the other way at your friend and point with the othe… | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Did I make the right call?I think it is. Also note that some girls are very good at oral sex even if they dont go all the way. Some of them do that for religious reasons, others not ready to commit to one person. She might be game for it. She might not know how to. Theres a lot of possibilities, you could teach her etc. | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Best place for a one night stand?in the old days you really could book a single and then bring friends back later. But nowadays I am not so sure. Because you know there are security cameras everywhere, and no decent company wants people bringing back more people, having parties, getting drunk etc. Security is tighter everywhere you go these days. You'd have to really scope out the place, ask some people, perhaps online, note some motels are seedier than others, etc. B and Bs tend to be expensive; and they are located usually in… | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Did I make the right call?ok you want sex and you want someone you like. So the other person does matter in all this. I'm going to disagree with some of the other posts. WHy not at least talk to her a little about her religious beliefs? Can you talk about something on a deep level like that? you make it sound like she's set in her ways, but you dont really know that. I also find it strange that other people here are willing to write her off on the basis of: something someone wrote on the internet, w/o any context, coming… | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 06:57 AM |
| 1 | How To Seduction Through Textsis it cause they are married that they are flaking? Or does it not matter there? | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Did I make the right call?which still doesnt answer the question: do you want her for sex or do you see a future with her? Not sure why this is hard to answer but what do I know?? I mean look how disconnected your statements are: "I liked her...." "Im sexually active." These statements are not mutually exclusive. But maybe they are in your mind, or maybe not. I dont know. The statements arent even in the same sentence that's how disconnected they are. | /r/seduction | 05/06/15 01:38 AM |
| 0 | Did I make the right call?do you care about this girl in any way other than strictly for sex? Cause I read the story a couple of times and I dont see any indication of what your feeling here. Can you help me out? | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 07:12 PM |
| 1 | How To Seduction Through Textson the other hand, the more you study cultures the more you find that deep down people are the same everywhere. We all want sex, some of us want love, some of us get into abusive relationships etc. Sometimes its better to keep that in mind than to rationalize that these people are different. On the other hand, yeah I am sure they have some different ways to do things. Maybe sex friend does the same thing as FB here, or maybe it is more like a Geisha I dont know. Does it help to open up to these … | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 02:41 PM |
| 1 | How To Seduction Through TextsI think that makes sense, the only thing I am thinking is that you might be sending mixed messages so the girl is not sure which type of relationship you are into. Also, Is that kind of thing (FB) looked down upon in that culture? I think the other guy is right though, that texting is good for setting up dates, like when and where, not so much for emotional responses. Or if you already have someone thats into you you can talk about real stuff. Face to face stuff is more real, is what I am saying… | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 01:36 PM |
| 1 | How To Seduction Through Textsyeah I am sure they have their own particular weird stuff they do. Its hard to give advice just based on what you're saying, one could guess that you come across as a player when you do one on one talk. But that's only a guess. I was particularly struck by the fact that you dont know if you want a FB or something more. Myself I end up falling for one girl at a time and cannot do the FB route. Are you really not sure what you are looking for? Maybe that part is coming across to the girls? That yo… | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 12:56 PM |
| 1 | How To Seduction Through TextsGuy dismisses entire race girls as flakes. Guy wonders why he doesnt get anywhere after getting their number. I dunno, its a mystery to me. | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 07:55 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Hung out with the only girl I know in new city, getting mixed signals, hanging out again tonightentire subreddit dedicated to being a player. Turns out girl maybe a player too: time to be unavailable. I love it. | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 07:53 AM |
| 1 | **[FR]** - 3 months single: The ups and downs of my 5 best approaches and hookups since. Day 1.probably that was the best approach. I can see myself overthinking this, and wondering when to... Did she ever tell what she would have done if you didnt respond to that? Would she have sent you another txt? | /r/seduction | 03/06/15 01:50 PM |
| 1 | **[FR]** - 3 months single: The ups and downs of my 5 best approaches and hookups since. Day 1.this was awesome and sounds really authentic. how did you decide on waiting an hour to txt after she teased you? That to me would be the hardest decision. How long to wait. Whether to txt at all. | /r/seduction | 02/06/15 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Speaking with strange girls and implications ?you dont like racial stereotypes and yet you promote racial stereotypes... | /r/seduction | 02/06/15 04:20 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Hung out with the only girl I know in new city, getting mixed signals, hanging out again tonightI love this girl. She didnt give in to your mixed signals, then sent you a message and put the ball in your corner. Its up to you now, Tiger. | /r/seduction | 02/06/15 03:42 PM |
| 0 | How do you all not care?I like how the conclusion is that there is a mistake here. What part is the mistake? | /r/seduction | 02/06/15 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach / day game for bald guysone of my older lady friends just loves "baldies" she'll go bananas. Sees them on the street while we are driving down said street and will point them out. She doesnt give a fuck either. Identify girls who are into you then work on them. | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 03:53 PM |
| 1 | 23-year-old ruined by anxiety, on the rise back up and need your help with the ladies (I clearly am doing things wrong)can I ask: why is your job holding you back? do you really need this job? you might consider dropping the job and taking a pay cut and maybe do low income stuff that like; relating to music perhaps as a DJ or whatever...I am curious about the job situation so just asking. | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 03:34 PM |
| 1 | I honestly have no idea what I'm doing?There are plenty of social groups such as Meet Up that you can join that are based on the internet, but you meet people in real life. We have ones for shy people in our area. A group dedicated to shy people. But we also have game groups, movie groups stuff like that find ones you like. There are lots of shy people in these, lots of people are just looking to make friends at these. And most groups that I have joined are very welcoming. What are you good at? Find something you are good at and meet… | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 03:21 PM |
| 1 | keeping eye contact just makes everything a lot more intense. cant process everything. Tips?one of the best tips I got was to look at the person's left ear... OK what difference does it make which ear? It doesnt really. But it makes you think as you're doing it. In other words instead of staring like a zombie at someone the idea is best stated as "focused and alert" WHich means, you are focused, but you are not a zombie, you are still able to respond to what is going on around you. Talk, jokes, music, etc. So you look at the person and which ear is the left? My left or her left? Well t… | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 06:42 AM |
| 1 | How to get out of the friend zone for sureexcellent advice, hadnt even thought of that but makes sense. | /r/seduction | 25/05/15 07:09 PM |
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