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well what do you do for your self care? maybe a guy's night out to discuss man stuff and watch the game is his form of self care after providing for his family. i think spouses should continue working on their self care, even when they have kids, if not more so.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:19 PM
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as an infj, sometimes i word shit wrong. my bad. i guess i didn't understand what her breastfeeding had to do with her being selfish about her husband going out and having some guy time with his friends.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 05:06 PM
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yeah but that's not what i'm saying. she knows she's being irrational, she lists off reasons why he should have boys' nights and she still continues fueling her jealousy. nursing or not, i don't think that's fair to her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 04:20 PM
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Well we have President's Day off so it'll be a nice long weekend for us. I think if anything I'll make him a nice meal and we just spend quality time together. I used to be really big on Valentine's Day but it's really shallow to me now. Such a big show for what is really a few hours after work with your significant other. I don't expect cards or candy or gifts on any other day except MAYBE Christmas or my birthday and even then, not really. So Vday shouldn't be an exception. Maybe I'll wear pin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 03:32 PM
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I definitely begrudge his boys’ nights. It’s not that I necessarily do it on purpose, but in the spirit of confessing my failures as a wife I will say that it’s true — I’m jealous of his nights out. I fully recognize that he needs them, deserves them, and that we’re all better off for him taking them once in a blue moon, but gosh darn it if it’s not hard for me to accept them. OMG how selfish is this???? If you know he needs AND deserves it, then let him go out! That can definitely breed resentm…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 03:30 PM
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I have no idea haha! This will be my first Valentine's Day with my boyfriend. I haven't asked him anything about it. Honestly, he doesn't strike me as a "special day" kind of man. There are anniversaries and birthdays and that's it haha
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 01:27 PM
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Sounds like I picked a major!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 05:26 AM
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i'd take that class!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 03:42 AM
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If I were a teacher Work/Life Balance -- How to juggle the responsibilities and expectations of your relationship with your career/job. How to make it clear to your superiors and colleagues that your relationship comes first AND still earn and keep their respect. How to work with feminists. How to remain feminine minded and get the promotion/raise you want. there would be three levels: 101 -- the basic understanding for being a feminine woman in any workplace, how to manage expectations with rea…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 03:39 AM
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1) I love how my bf calls to check in on me daily. We only see each other on weekends so he makes an effort to communicate with me and keep up with what i'm doing during the week. He knows how important this is to me and I really appreciate his doing so. 2) I love how my bf keeps me in line. This may seem weird to some but to RPW I'm sure it's not foreign at all haha! He makes sure to remind that my feelings are my own, he won't carry my emotional burdens on his shoulders, that I am responsible …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 08:24 PM
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that makes sense! yay data integrity!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 08:15 PM
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serious question! how are you going to distribute the survey? my worry would that if you linked it here in the sub, and answers were anonymous, randoms will come in and skew results.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 07:54 PM
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Nationality Political affiliation Education level Age of SO Relationship count Dress size (Idk I'm curious lol)
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 02:19 PM
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If you are allowing your friends to influence your relationship in negative ways, that is your own fault. Instead you could be influencing their perspectives in a positive way. If they see that you are comfortable and happy in your relationship they will only respect you for it. Some women think they are doing you a service by offering "advice" or "girl days" away from your SO, but often times, they're just uncomfortable with the level of comfort or harmony you have in your relationship because …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:28 AM
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The Good I am learning to relax in my relationship, not just in how my bf would like it, but how I experience it in my head. Even if something happens that makes me feel weird, disappointed, or upset, I am learning how to just accept it for the sake of harmony, and not trying to "understand" it or "correct" it or "debate" it, or whatever actions I take to let go of the discomfort of change and surrendering. It's been physically offputting at times, cuz I have physical symptoms of anxiety, but ov…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 01:40 AM
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Great post. This is so damn true. This not only affected my last relationship to the point of toxicity (my first serious relationship) but if I'm not careful it would kill my current one, which is great so far. I've already gotten the following: "You are so young! You deserve someone closer to your age!!" (My bf is 44, I'm 27) "Why date a man with kids??? You deserve someone that can share all the firsts with you!!" (My bf is a single dad) "Why have him lead? You deserve someone that treats you …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 12:35 AM
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I don't know what a "feminine" hair color would be outside of any color that doesn't distract from you looking your best. idk how this may work for some other ladies and idk what your skin tone is, but for many black women, the most feminine hair color is almost always your natural color. its' really hard with my skin color (I'm Nigerian and very dark skinned) to wear any hair color but the blackest of black haha. Anything else cheapens my look and people associate certain colors with negative p…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 04:12 PM
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haha i love this!!! Thanks so much for the post.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 09:29 PM
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this reply stuck out to me. women often forget that commitment is not a sure thing and neither is the progression of a relationship. you have to earn every step in the process, it won't just be granted to you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 08:21 PM
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Good: This past week has not be bad at all! I've been working on slowing down my thoughts and not being so emotionally reactive. Short of one minor hiccup that I'm forcing myself to get over, the week has been relatively nice. My boyfriend met my cousin and they got along rather well. All in all, very good. Bad: I suck at awkward silences and I don't know when to stop myself from talking while embarrassed. I am working to be comfortable with silence. Ugly: Nothing this week yay!! Goals for this …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 01:22 AM
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None of these things in my mind would make me feel more attracted to my SO. Dominance in my relationship is when I can't control him, manipulate him, overpower him in any way. That's the alpha aspect of my bf that gives me the tingles. If I had to sit down and make a plan or to do list to create scenarios where my man had to physically dominate me, Idk it would defeat the point for me and would probably make me less attracted to him. Maybe just fall back and provide soft encouragement those mome…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 01:46 AM
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what an interesting post!! Wingnut brought this up in chat and I was super curious to read the entire theory. Thanks for this Camille. Upon reading this, I think my relationship relates most to LLL. I think I had a HLL relationship before and I burned out rather often and very quickly each time. We weren't a great fit. With my current guy, I definitely feel like there's more of a balance and it's much easier to relax and thus defer with him. This is a really interesting concept and I think it ad…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 02:12 AM
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Good: My bf introduced me to pretty much the bulk of his circle as his gf, including to his ex-wife (son's mother). That made me feel pretty special. It was nice and a first for him, so i was honored. Bad: I'm officially 123 lbs. This is the heaviest I've been in a year. I need to lose weight. Ugly: Potential family drama is stressing me out again. Weekly Goals: Continue daily prayer and devotional. IF every day this week and workout in the evenings. Aim for 120 lbs by the end of the week. Work …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 03:26 PM
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this is excellent! it would be great if this was part of a homemaking series. Thanks for the post!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 03:08 PM
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honestly, i don't even remember. That's just what other women told me. Similar to the 3-6 months income for engagement ring myth. many of my gfs think that you can't know a person in a year. or that men need to sow their oats before settling down and you just need to "tame" them and wait around until they're ready. I much prefer dating with a purpose.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 07:13 PM
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it did! they really liked me. I went out with his mom to get our nails done. Nice time for just us girls. They were very New York, if that makes sense haha but good ol traditional American values on things. It was pleasant and I do think it brought me and my boyfriend closer. They've invited me back! Yeah I really like that me and him can have serious conversations about where we'd like our relationship to go and how it would look if we were married and how we'd raise kids, etc. I would have nev…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 05:33 PM
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lol who knoooooooows!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 03:53 PM
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Happy new year!! Started doing my morning and evening prayers last night. I really felt energized to start my morning and I even got a workout in (I missed being sore at work). It was nice waking up before dawn to start my day. :D I hurt the trust of someone I know recently and that really sucks. So this week I'll be doing a lot of reflecting on who I open my thoughts to, my methods of expressing said thoughts, and the definition of "friend". I recently did a facebook purge but it may be helpful…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 05:57 PM
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wow this is an excellent list. i feel like everyone should have this, not just SAHs. thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 04:26 AM
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Yeah I've cohabitated before with my ex. I thought it meant we'd marry.... He thought he'd get a new apt. It wasn't an "audition" in his mind. Ultimately we broke up. For the best I think. I know better now.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 09:00 PM
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I've never seen good men turn down an opportunity to positively influence a boy or young man's life. Idk about other communities, but that is really common in the places I've lived at. If not family male members, community guys like retired men, church leaders, etc. I agree with /u/_wingnut_ . it's a good strategy, especially if the father isn't present or around
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 04:25 PM
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It's not your relationship. Stay out of it. That said, he should look into his state's laws on common marriage, if it has it. Even if they aren't legally married, some states well treat them as married should they ever break up.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 04:21 PM
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So there's this thing called Google. It's quite magical. You see, you can go there and search for ANYTHING. Really!! Here's the website: www.google.com Type it " secular traditionalist porn" and you should get the results you're looking for!! Jk. Seriously dude? Is it that hard for you to find fap material? Your question is so transparent and skeevy. Try another sub bro
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 04:18 PM
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embody a Proverbs 31 woman get down to my goal weight of 115 lbs and with out 5x a week to maintain cultivate a healthy and loving bond with my boyfriend stop people pleasing grow my hair out CHILL THE HELL OUT master the art of moving on
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 06:26 AM
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eat more veggies instead of chocolate I loled
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 06:23 AM
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Lol awww. This was cute.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 09:34 PM
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This year has been a whirlwind. I had experienced the worst breakup of my life in January and found RPW around May. I had a lot of growing pains but I finally met a man who I really care about and feel like a true woman with. It's been wonderful and I really want to nourish my relationship. Next years Goals: Work on being a stronger woman: Not FEMINISM strong, but emotionally fortified. I am too emotionally malleable by the influences of others. I'm so tired of that. I want to be my own woman --…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 06:34 PM
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sounds like a compliance test. but that line "Look you can come but just know you're being really forceful about it" seemed to be a way again to deflect responsibility- if she goes, she's the crazy gf who forced her way into her bf's plans. If she doesn't go, he doesn't need to offer an explanation as to why the other girl was invited but she was not (after he told her he would invite her if other girls came) because technically, he did end up inviting her. he doesn't really need to offer any ex…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 04:33 AM
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many congratulations!!! i don't have any advice cuz i'm still waiting for my special day (and man!!) to come, but please stop by chat and tell us girls the fabulous details :D
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 11:36 PM
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ugh, so true. i love my neck line. even if i had long hair, i'd probably wear it up to show my neck off.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 11:34 PM
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the other ladies offered a lot of advice on hair. one thing to consider is that since your short hair is already a disadvantage, be ever more present and aware of the rest of your look: is your outfit feminine? how is your makeup game? do you wear accessories? what is your demeanor like? If all those things are pretty feminine, your hair length won't matter AS much. I am currently growing out my hair and I highly doubt anyone would think i look like a "boy with boobs" haha. you have to look and …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 11:29 PM
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i never heard of the fresh chair thing but now i'll be painfully aware of it at parties!!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 08:31 PM
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my sole goal this week is to ACCEPT, PROMOTE AND INTERNALIZE the concept of shutting the fuck up.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 07:27 PM
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my boss was proud when she told me her husband (33 at the time) bought hers for close to 7000 or so dollars. she loves the cut, color, and shine. she shows it off often. i don't doubt she loves her husband but i do find it weird that some women SWEAR by this metric before saying "yes". before, i didn't even KNOW how much rings, bands, weddings cost. now that i know, i would feel terrible spending anything north of 1500-2000 for the rings, the wedding, the dress, everything together.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 05:54 AM
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i was told by SEVERAL women of varying backgrounds that a man should invest 3-6 months of his income in an engagement ring -- and that if he does NOT do this, he is not financially investing in the marriage. personally, forgive my french, i think that's bullshit and i have since placed each of those women in the bad category regarding relationships. i do not seek their counsel and i never take their "happy" descriptions of their relationships seriously anymore. i honestly don't want to know, nee…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 04:34 AM
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Reflection? Hmm...I think the biggest reflection from this year is that I finally accepted that much of the strife in my life stemmed from being a people-pleaser and it never made me happy or comfortable or assured or emotionally safe ever. I have neglected my self-care long enough and in 2016 I will work my ass off to ensure I don't put others before myself again. Relationships are different, I guess, but I can't be a good partner if I'm not my best self. So it still applies. Weekly Goals: Work…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/15 02:45 PM
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omg i do this all the time and my bf always catches me doing it. i'll try this going forward!! thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 04:19 AM
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ah, okay that makes sense. i guess that would be confusing if you are still coming to RPW with a belief that relationships should be equal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:43 PM
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Nothing in RPW says that men/SOs should defer to their women. At all. Mods, please back me up, if otherwise. What you're saying is not RP at all. The final decision almost always rests on the Captain and his First Mate (YOU) are to follow that decision. Because you respect him, his position and judgement. You do not respect your husband. Period. You are grossly emasculating him with your attitude. He's putting in work however he can to step up to the plate and you're looking down at him at every…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:29 PM
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I'm struggling mightily with the idea of deferring to him just because he's the man and I happen to be the woman. Things were not like that when we met and got married, and for years afterward. Main thing I'm gonna contribute, then I'll let the veterans respond to your post -- you don't defer JUST because he's a man. you defer because he's earned your respect. if you don't feel like you can respect him, you should start there in the introspection. Why don't you respect him enough to defer?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:09 AM
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I entirely disagree that millenials don't know how to handle conflict, adversity or stress. I think they handle it better than any other generation because they've faced more of it. you think millennials today have faced more stress and adversity than previous generations? seriously? well i guess i'll end my line of questions there. we aren't gonna see eye to eye on this at all.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:32 AM
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i know how severe the Recession was. not a reason to put off marriage. omg you don't have $15,000 for your dream wedding? too bad. cut back. you don't have the money for that new car? too bad. keep driving your current one. young people were the least affected by the bad economy because they didn't have anything to lose--yet. the worse thing they did was attempt to weather hte Recession by taking out more loans to go to grad school, thinking it would help them on the other side of it. which it h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:12 AM
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thanks for the well thought out comment. :D
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:07 AM
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wow. not my post but this seems to be how most divorces come to pass.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:01 AM
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idk there's always been economic downturns for every generation. but the theme that because of an economic downturn we shouldn't invest in adulthood and develop serious relationships for marriage....that's very new.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 03:51 AM
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"you're only 27. you're still young." Yeah, i hear that all the time. I totally agree with this woman. I don't think women should push off "real life" --whatever that means, until they're frickin 30. I think beyond hurting social norms, it's killing the economy (long story) because people aren't investing during their prime working years in assets that encourage community growth. anyway, I think women put a lot more effort into their careers in their 20s (at least where I live) than in relations…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 02:06 AM
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i can't even imagine what that is like lol. must be exhausting. Wouldn't your NT prevent you from overanalyzing issues, even if it reads as fun internally?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 01:21 AM
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It's officially December, which means this is my month of hardcore introspection. I do a friendship purge, if necessary, I plan for the upcoming year with goals, dreams, etc, and I prepare my 2016 Annual Budget!! Yay! Goals for this week: Spend < $10 this week on things not already planned for. Period. Mostly likely will be coffee :O Finish finals and feel confident about my grades. Purchase xmas gifts for the bf and his son. Yay!! Finalize upcoming visit from my sister. If she's still flaky, I'…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 09:33 PM
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it's funny. our debates are usually me trying to understand process and motivations and him trying to define my terminology or questioning my logic. it's almost never about being "right" but about my logic being valid, even if different. he almost always ends up saying that my logic is valid to HAVE but it doesn't make sense to him haha <3 I think the external validating in getting debates right comes from my work experience. i was trained as a policy advocate and lobbyist early in my career so …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 06:49 PM
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LOL. I hate how true this is.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:49 PM
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This is the line that really stood out for me and if anything, is why I'm a part of this sub and wanting to learn more. Despite great strides in this country toward equality, modern society hasn’t made relationships between men and women any easier. Today’s society has taught us and has imposed on us the expectation that men and women should live together continuously, in communion, and in harmony. These expectations are not only unrealistic but ultimately they leave people feeling unloved, inad…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:45 PM
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that's the RPW mantra? My bf says this like every weekend haha. Had no idea.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:42 PM
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i seriously would love a deference vs submission post from one of the mods. this would really clear up some stuff i feel like.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 09:09 PM
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i see. okay. well, when I came to RPW, i was hyper feminist in most things (outwardly). It wasn't how I was raised but it was what I attached myself to via higher learning. I don't think i'm a recovered feminist at all. I just find RPW more empowering. It says a lot to acknowledge in 2015 that we as women are different from men, both in strength, logical thinking, endurance and foresight. And that do be so is totally okay and natural. And accept those differences, if not embrace them, and take o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 08:49 PM
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Well, you can't force anyone to do something they ultimately do not want to do. So I'd leave her to it. If she's single, you can offer suggestions but it's her choice, ya know? I've learned to leave people alone and let them come to their conclusions on their own. Creates more harmony. :D
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 08:37 PM
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RPW does not have a type at all haha! A lot of ladies here have super alphas, or very dominant guys who act like cavemen (I say that with love, she knows who she is <3 ) and others have more regular guys that you'd see on the street. all of our men are different but how we approach our behavior with them is similar. I would say just be mindful of the layout and tone of your post. It's not our fault for misinterpreting if you aren't being mindful of audience.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 06:07 PM
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usually, if i'm experienced second - hand embarrassment, i am projecting my own insecurity onto a situation. During halloween, my bf wanted to dance to the music playing in the corn fields. I was super embarrassed at first--thinking, omg, what adult does that?? very judgemental. Then i corrected my thinking-- no one cares if he's dancing, cuz others were too. The actual reason I was embarrassed was because I put unnecessary pressure on myself to either 1) dance as well and i'm introverted, 2) wh…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 05:33 PM
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Instead of being so critical, I think it would really be much more helpful to consider This isn't about being critical. I think these are great date ideas. It just seems like you are more intent on making the dates for your own pleasure than letting us know (the people you're posting to) why your SO would like these things. You used the word I throughout the entire post, so it was a bit confusing when you say you're doing this for him. My primary concern regarding your post is that you are doing…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 05:30 PM
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all these sound like great date ideas--for you. I say put them on paper, stick them in a jar, and save them. in terms of a special week for your MAN, how about just ask him what he'd like to do for a whole week, and youll do it for him, or pay for it, whatever. he gets to indulge at zero expense and you get to make him happy!! :D honestly, i just dont' see guys liking doing all this stuff. maybe with his girl, but not for himself. it's his week, let him pick
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 04:59 PM
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peels scare me a bit. how long does it take for your skin to return to normal?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 05:20 AM
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government related, i should clarify, doesn't have to be federal. state and local jobs, although harder to get into cuz they're more limited, are also really good options. consider state universities as well. they're always hiring and offer good benefits too. plus, they usually provide tuition reimbursement, not just for the employee, but their children. something to consider!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 03:52 AM
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check out this thread on RP ladies who are with older guys. you may be excited to see all the benefits!! (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/3s2is6/rp_women_can_you_off_any_advice_about_dating_an/)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 09:58 PM
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hey there!! I majored in Political Science in undergrad and i'm currently in PT program for Public Management. I had tons of internships: NGOs, nonprofits, state govt, and legislative offices. All worth it. It helped me really command a certain level of respect from employers and allowed me to really take on responsibilities that i otherwise wouldn't have received because i did have such good work experience by the time I graduated college. I have no regrets career wise. Even if the first few ye…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:03 PM
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idk his son is 9 lol. all his video games involve warfare and shooting lol. i think i could find a cheap one of both and give him options :D I may bake some xmas cookies for the bf in between. i know he really likes crunchy things, and chocolate so maybe pumpkin cookies with walnuts on top? with a glaze?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 05:21 PM
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I just wasn't raised to give gifts, so it was always stressful for me doing the whole gift thing with his friends. i know his son likes legos, so i was gonna get him either a new lego set or a video game. something simple. and for my bf, i was thinking something practical, cuz he's a super practical guy haha. maybe a really nice scarf and gloves, like quality stuff. or a new coat. idk.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:12 PM
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I'm probably not making any meals for xmas for my bf, but i was debating whether or not to buy him, along with his son, a small gift. would that be too much?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 03:09 PM
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it really is!! So basically, before I found RPW, I found a lot of Christian wife blogs that really gave me the image I wanted for myself as a woman and as a future wife/mother. I'm still pretty secular, although I have faith, I just don't subscribe to it all. but overall it's super helpful. Here's a link to the book. (http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Woman-God-Wants-Me/dp/0800730720) It covers things like the following: Godly habits Eating Healthy Home Management Personal Appearance and other thin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:51 PM
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finally not sick!! thank God. My goal for this week: Work out every weekday, either at 6am or immediately after I get home. Keep my house in top shape, regardless of my day. I sometimes leave dishes in the sink when I'm tired, etc. I want to have my house spotless just for the sake of it. Increase water intake to 96oz a day, at minimum. Start on my 90 Day Proverbs 31 Wife challenge :D Study for finals next week.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:30 PM
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if only we could sidebar comments lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:10 PM
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I think that's great. If you have older, more established men who want to settle down considering you, that means that they recognize you're a valuable, quality woman. you're not doing anything wrong, you're more likely doing everything right. if their ages are a bit too old for you, consider guys in their early 30s, so a good 10+ years older than you. you'll both be at your peaks and probably have more in common.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:09 PM
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when i first was going through my last breakup, i was in denial of a lot of things. my political views my emotional immaturity my sense of romantic entitlement my fears of being alone my personal insecurities about how i look, etc RPW helped me come to terms with who I really was. It's okay to be conservative, you don't' have to care about the opinions of others, it's okay to admit you're more dominant than other women, it's okay to have the less stressful, less prestigious job, you CAN'T have i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:08 PM
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well, your advocacy on the topic is swell, but that really isn't rpw specific.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 02:00 AM
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so, i feel like i can contribute to this. most if not all of my best friends are hardcore feminists. like "i'd never make a grown man a sandwich", strong and independent, who needs a husband when i have my son, type of feminist. lol. so yes, being the lone libertarian, gender traditionalist in the group, i often find myself just stating my personal opinions on topics that no one is vested in and getting completely shot down. i mean COMPLETELY. by every woman in the group. before rpw, it was dish…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 01:59 AM
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I'm trying to simplify my life here and offline so I'm just gonna make a bullet list lol Recover from this pesky cold that has taken over my life. I have bought a humidifier for my studio since the air from my radiator is horribly dry and its screwing my sinuses while I sleep. Trust my bf (I can call him that now :D ) and remember that he is on my side and wants to get closer to me. We're on the same team. THERE IS NO WINNING AGAINST TEAMMATES. Pass finals this semester. Minimize the urge to wor…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 05:59 PM
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I think you should totally go into more detail, or make it a new post!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:17 PM
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right, that's exactly what he was thinking and doesn't want that in his relationships. i'm not a weak girl by any means haha! and i have more than enough ideas and thoughts and opinions floating around in my head, so i like having them heard. i guess it sucks that there is a negative connotation to the word, but as long as everyone is on the same page, the actual term used doesn't matter as much as others have said.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:49 PM
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right, i'm not submissive at ALL. i tried to be in previous situations, and failed. but i think it's good to point out that it really depends on the man and what he wants/needs out of his SO. My guy responded well to the term "defer" where he still calls the shots and I trust his judgement and things, but he doesn't want me to ever feel like I don't have a voice, or I'm not allowed to do certain things. He's also military, so this idea of a captain/first officer thing may really appeal to him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:20 PM
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awesome post camille!! I have a question!! The man that I'm currently seeing --- he hates submissive women. Like....loathes it. He sees it as a weakness and wants a strong and self-reliant woman who can help him out with his goals and responsibilities. Now, we ladies at RPW are always talking about being submissive to our guys, but what if our guys don't want that, and they want someone who is more deferential....how do we determine the difference? What is the difference between deference and su…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:06 PM
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this may just be me, but i need to feel tingles. not rationalized "i wonder what kind of couple we would be...." thoughts but legit sexy-times, i want to kiss him tingles. tingles for me = chemistry If i don't get that right away, doesn't matter how "nice" or "fun" or "reasonable" the date is or the person comes across....i'm not gonna be interested in a second date. The chemistry is what makes me want to be the perfect woman for a guy, be submissive or deferential, always put my best foot forwa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:29 PM
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hey!! I am 27 but I just started dating someone who is 17 years my senior (44 years old) and so far, it's been my most emotionally rewarding experience with a guy ever. I second Camille that that a large age gap where the guy is older can be great because you fall into a very natural vibe that doesn't feel awkward. I can be myself where I'm silly, and shy and curious and things, and not feel judged -- in fact, it's almost expected because i am so much younger! That youthfulness is seen as femini…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 05:24 AM
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super random, but the former US Secretary of State Condolezza Rice. I just thought she was so experienced, education and well spoken, but always gracious and feminine in her appearance and demeanor. She never went out of her way to impress but she still was respected by her male colleagues. She also accepted her life decisions and wasn't bitter about being single in her 50s. She is still open to love and marriage but isn't going to let her past ruin her present. Very RP thinking. Idk she's just …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 04:59 AM
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Thanks. This is basically what I meant. I don't think there's a particular age... But by someone's 30s, regardless of gender, I'd expect someone to have had at least one serious relationship, otherwise I'd be left to assume something about them left something to be desired.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 11:34 PM
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thank you!! his son seems excited to meet me and I him! We're doing laser tag!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 09:43 PM
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1) a man of a certain age who has never been in a serious LTR. huge red flag for me. 2) any man who references his ex any time he's talking about his relationship with you -- run. Sounds like "the one that got away" syndrome and no one wants to be the one a guy settles on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 09:42 PM
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my only contribution this week is that i need to work on being vulnerable and less guarded. baggage is real ladies. Also, I may meet my guy's son this weekend so yay!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 04:34 PM
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haha i've gotten that from other people. I think he's cautious about titles because of what comes with it, perhaps? I haven't asked. I don't want him aware that I think about this often. But I assume given his situation (divorced father of 1) he is very careful about who he chooses to spend with. I'm super flattered because all of his free time is either work, his son, or me, so I am already a big part of his schedule (we see each other 3x a week usually) but I guess for him gf/bf implies a tang…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 12:11 AM
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yay! i missed last week. i have been hamstering like a mad woman lately. this week will make it one month since I've been dating the new guy!! This would be the longest I've been involved with someone since my breakup in January. While I should be happy about this, and I am, I can't help but feel a tad confused or worried: we are exclusively dating but he is not my boyfriend. This is a new concept for me and I don't want to put any timelines or anything on us (yet) so I am working hard to just g…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 12:06 AM
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thanks for this post. the guy i'm seeing has a 9 year old and an ex wife and while we haven't been dating long, this is excellent advice for women who are dating men who are looking for their second marriage. i wish it was a side bar or something.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 07:15 PM
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Dating: So its' been 3 dates since I've started seeing this older guy, who frankly is just wonderful!! We have so much in common and he's been nothing short of impressive. It's really difficult though, trying to enjoy his company, when two people very close to me have already expressed their extreme dislike about the situation. They think he's a creeper and that I'm desperate, given our 17 year age difference. It's been pretty upsetting and I don't' want it negatively influencing what has so far…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 07:13 PM
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This week is starting off really good. Dating: Seeing an older man (44 y.o.) with a lot of potential and I'm really happy so far! He's much older than I would have planned to date otherwise, but everything about him is really what I'm looking for. Confident, communicative, handsome, humorous, affectionate, good career, family/marriage oriented, etc. Hope it blossoms into something beautiful and meaningful (aka marriage!). Work: I'm trying to be focus on being more productive at work. Not just in…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 06:50 PM
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i know women like this even now at 27. they spent 2 semesters or something abroad in Europe to "enrich" their history or language degrees, only to come back to the states and not have any real work experience and living at home.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 02:23 PM
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