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Hopefully you only have to learn this lesson once.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/26 01:35 AM
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Be thankful you have no kids with her and that the marriage wasn't longer. It's tough road, but you'll be able to make a full break and move on with your life. It will absolutely get better, its just hard for you to see right now cause you are dealing with the shit. My life got so much better after my divorce. I felt like Theon Grayjoy in the marriage and the divorce was like escaping with Sansa, except I also got my dick back.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 06:27 AM
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Thanks for the reply, and source!
/r/MensRights20/07/26 06:35 AM
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Does this stat take into consideration previous crimes commited?
/r/MensRights19/07/26 09:01 PM
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Can you shelaborate on ovaryacting?
/r/MensRights09/07/26 12:47 AM
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He did look deeper, that's why he has the opinion he does.
/r/MensRights04/07/26 09:22 PM
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Have a constant recording going all day while you are at work. (assuming its legal) this not only will protect you, but potentially mess her up.
/r/MensRights02/07/26 12:42 AM
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Get a lawyer! Our advice here will not be sufficient. Divorce court and family law varies widely from state to state. If you care about your kids, which you clearly do, get a lawyer. My lawyer told me to do everything I could to stay in the home because if I left it could be seen as abandonment and hurt my prospects for custody. That applied because there had been no physical violence between us. I'm a little confused as to how her brother and other family members kicked down your bedroom door. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 02:50 AM
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yeah. It's rough as you make that adjustment. You'll get used to it. The real worry is if you are like me and you start enjoying it and don't want to be with other people.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 05:19 AM
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That's actually really smart. maybe even add on a lot of credit card debt.
/r/MensRights22/06/26 05:30 AM
4

Even better... until they try and set you up with their gay friend.
/r/MensRights22/06/26 02:31 AM
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Lie to these women when you can. Say you are happily married or have a serious girlfriend or whatever. Especially if it is a professional relationship.
/r/MensRights22/06/26 01:18 AM
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Get some responsibility in your life. I was lucky enough to have a son who I clearly wasn't gonna abandon and just let him be raised by his mom. Go volunteer places. Get a pet. do things in life that will make you feel needed.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:20 AM
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Women typically think about getting divorced well before they actually do. So by the time the divorce happens she's been mentally out of the relationship for much longer. Meanwhile you are still in the shit trying to get through it. It certainly isn't easy, but it will get better. It will help to start dating and focusing on yourself. Get yourself thinking about other things. Things have been way better for me post divorce. Like way better! But It took time before I got to where I am now.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:16 AM
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Well at least she is some other fuckers problem now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 03:50 AM
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MGTOW is considered a hate group by the southern poverty law center. They hate the idea that they can't control and manipulate those of us who have broken free.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:57 AM
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Same here. The ex was terrible. I miss the toxic whore that came after. Or rather, I did.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 02:39 AM
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A thousand times better. I was a shell of a man while I was married and I didn't even know. In every way things are better now than they were. It sucks to go through and is hard to break free. But things are so much better once you make it to the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 01:26 AM
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True, but I did just read a story about how in some Scandinavian country the immigrants are frustrated that the white European women don't want to date them.
/r/MensRights03/05/26 07:50 AM
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I don't know that it's particularly racist. So much as feeling like they are taking something not reserved for them. Women can be so mean and catty that I imagine there are some that don't feel like they can go for you when the friend group already has your "match" (I've witnessed this with whites and Chinese but not blacks, so my perspective is limited)
/r/MensRights03/05/26 07:49 AM
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Yup. You are me from five years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:47 AM
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Women get divorced in their heads well before they do it in real life. It is likely she has already grieved. Women are also more engineered biologically to move on. Its why they are the ones initiating 70% of divorces.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 09:53 PM
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Yep. Don't file. This was a problem with my ex. All women build the narrative of you being the problematic and abusive one. All her friends started hating me and got their husbands on their side. Its pretty normal behavior for them. This is a minor problem compared to the rest of the narrative she has been constructing.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 12:07 AM
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Yep. I felt that way for a while. She was my best friend and everything had been really great and that I would miss the sex. You feel that way cause you are still in it. Its not easy and it took time to get over that myself. My ex was a blonde with big natural tits. Well they aren't as big anymore and they sag. Every woman I have dated since have been younger and hotter and very willing to please.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 11:24 PM
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Well done learning the lesson early in life. It took me way too long to learn it myself.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 10:46 PM
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I faced only a fraction of what you have and it was incredibly hard. I found a men's support group that was pretty helpful. They understand better what you have been going through, as opposed to friends and family who are still blue pilled regarding cheating women's behavior. My son is only 9 so he doesn't know about the cheating as of yet. You'll come out of this and be in such a better place. You likely can't see that place yet, but I promise you'll be enjoying life sooo much once you've gotte…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 10:43 PM
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Married 10 years. I divorced at 38 and am about 5.5 years out from divorce, so I'm 44. 1 kid. Things are sooo much better now I don't have to deal with her constant harping on me. My mental state is soo much better not constantly walking on egg shells or getting criticized. She recently finished paying me alimony and still pays child support. As far as starting over, I dated a few different girls. One girl where the sex was incredible! Never was it ever that good with my wife. My relationship wi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 07:17 AM
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Is once enough? well at your age, what is the advantages to getting married? what are disadvantages?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 06:36 PM
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I'm so sorry. Those have to be some tough realizations. Just a weird thought. I wonder if he got married so that any assets and money he had would not go back to your mom.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 08:05 AM
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Yes. Your spouse is no longer the woman you believe her to be. She is now the enemy. Act accordingly. You have a rough road ahead, Keep to it for your children. Kids need a father more than they need a mother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 06:35 AM
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This is what I would suggest. It didn't save my relationship cause I was way too late finding it. but I believe it would have and it definitely turned around her desire and sex drive. The year before the divorce was finalized we had a TON of sex and it was the best sex of the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 04:25 PM
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time to start checking IDs
/r/MensRights05/04/23 12:23 AM
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the divorce sub is just the divorce_women sub.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 09:22 PM
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You lack responsibility. Get some in your life. volunteer somewhere. involve yourself with a community you care about.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/23 04:52 AM
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It sounds to me like you need responsibility in your life. It is truly a game changer. For me I have a son who is dependent on me. Pets fulfill this somewhat as well. Involving yourself in a community (not one online) can do the same. There are group like Big Brothers Big Sisters where you can go spend time mentoring young men who maybe don't have a father figure in their life. Coach a sport. join a sports team. I am a loner as well, but being around others and having them depend on me cures me …
/r/TheRedPill19/01/23 08:57 AM
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She calls you a narcissist to help create the narrative that you are at fault for the divorce. I think 95% of women divorcing do this. I hear that all the time. You are being pathetic in allowing your wife to have a guy friend she drunk texts and you need to man up. Tell that guy he needs to block your wife's number and if you find out they are communicating he's gonna be regretting it. If you are crazy enough to not just kick this bitch straight to the curb (understandable when this negatively …
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 05:15 AM
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It might benefit you to check out the married red pill Reddit. Lots of ways to build attraction that potentially solves a lot of your problems, if you go down that path and still get divorced you’ll be better for it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 10:06 PM
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This is terrible advice and will not help OP in anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/22 03:23 PM
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I love all these. I'm two years post divorce. I would add that your kids worlds have been turned upside down. You are gonna have essentially half the influence you would otherwise. To counter that you need to be CONSISTENT and RELIABLE! Your kids need to know you are there for them, and they will know if you are or not by your actions.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 06:13 AM
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I prefer “she’s a whore who doesn’t charge money.”
/r/MensRights14/09/22 09:02 PM
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You’ll get better advice on the legal advice subreddit than you will here.
/r/MensRights12/09/22 05:04 AM
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You are right. There are plenty of unpleasant women to be around who make no money. (Jokes) This post is that caricature, I’m just playing a long. I was married to one of those women though and she is/was not pleasant to be around.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 06:36 AM
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Yeah. That’s what I did. Ended up costing more money since we paid for a mediator and then lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 06:26 AM
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The proof is for your peace of mind only. You’ll never get anything worth while out of your wife. Concentrate on yourself and take care of your business. Best thing to do is serve her and don’t give her any kind of reasoning. Don’t even confront her about it. Pretend like you don’t even know. She knows what she has done. Now you do what you need to.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 06:44 PM
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Sweet summer child right here. Also, try some punctuation.
/r/MensRights02/09/22 06:02 PM
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The type of woman who makes a lot of money is not the type of woman who is pleasant to be around.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 09:06 PM
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And women don’t want equally successful. They want someone who makes more than them.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:48 AM
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And all she did for that was lay back and spread her legs.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:38 AM
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Here’s a fun phrase to use. “That sounds like something a husband would do.” Or if you wanna be vulgar, when she says the quality she is accustomed to you tell her you are accustomed to sex, and she needs to take care of you as well. My ex just the other day asked me to help her put some gym equipment together. I don’t tell her no, I pretend like I will and then put her off and delay it cause I know it pisses her off more.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:36 AM
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Retire before you file. Might need to wait a bit. Also consult with some lawyers, you clearly can afford it and will get better advice than anything on the internet
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 06:48 AM
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The way to stop an affair is to bring it out into the open with everyone. There is excitement in it being clandestine. Once the other guys wife and families know about it it loses its luster.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 04:21 AM
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You think you have a good shot, as a man, at getting primary, if not full custody? You sound deluded. Is your wife physically abusing you, your child, or on drugs? Cause unless she is so bad CPS would take her child away, you aren't getting full or primary unless she wants you to.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 02:07 AM
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Did you fall out of love with your kids too? If the only problem is that you’ve fallen out of love with your wife I think you stick it out for a few years for your kids sake.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 11:29 PM
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Why are women allowed to have physical preferences like 6ft tall, but men are shunned for having them? People can’t change their height but people can control their diet, and if they can’t it speaks to their self control and personality.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 04:44 PM
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My list is slightly different. But once they fuck up it is very much zero fucks given with no remorse.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 04:39 PM
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JADE?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 06:40 AM
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I’m sorry you had to go through that, but glad to hear you were able to save your own ass.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 05:30 AM
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A lot of people are saying one party consent other wise it’s not admissible. However, family court does not operate the same way as regular court. Talk to a lawyer!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 05:28 AM
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I'm not worried about it at all. Never said I was. I wasn't even when I was 18 cause I have things that would have kept me from being drafted. My feelings on it are not that point. Yes military warfare has changed dramatically, but selective service still exists and the program is in place, but only for men and not for women.
/r/MensRights08/08/22 07:01 AM
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You know very little about world politics or international relations. Look up NATO and how that treaty works.
/r/MensRights08/08/22 04:44 AM
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You might wanna look at a history book. My father’s generation had a draft. His father’s generation had a draft. And the generation before that had a draft. None of those were because the US was invaded.
/r/MensRights08/08/22 04:42 AM
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Even if he is suffer abuse exposure is he no longer responsible for his actions? I believe he is, just like his wife is still responsible for her actions regardless of whether or not she is a narcissist.
/r/MensRights06/08/22 04:22 PM
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It’s pathetic that you have so many downvotes. You are correct, and as men we need to be better at putting our emotions aside and taking responsibility for ourselves regardless of our feelings. All the men who downvoted you are behaving like women.
/r/MensRights06/08/22 04:17 PM
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Sounds like you are both abusing each other. My ex was just like this and while I believe her abuse was significant and my abuse minor, her view is that she wasn’t abusive at all while I was terrible. Her feelings clouded her ability to see how bad she was behaving. So anytime she acted out she justified by saying it was in response to my behavior and therefore not her fault. It sucks. You may benefit from the married red pill sub. Some of it is crap, but there is also a lot of good info there.
/r/MensRights06/08/22 04:14 PM
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Wait till you are divorced. Save all the evidence. Don't forget to notify his wife along with their work.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 04:22 PM
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Sounds like my ex. Almost to a T. It’s tough that you are still in love with her. It’s gonna make doing what is best for you that much harder. It’s also tough because kids are involved. But if you want to be happy and fulfilled and you don’t want to be a little bitch, leave her. She clearly doesn’t respect you, she isn’t attracted to you and she will 100% cheat on you again. Leave with your head held high and she at least might miss you and wish she hadn’t been so stupid in messing around with a…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 12:36 AM
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She makes a lot of money and pays me alimony and child support.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:51 AM
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You might benefit from some the married red pill sub. Good info on building attraction and gaming your wife. Some of it is crazy shit, but there is some good actionable stuff
/r/MensRights31/07/22 01:36 AM
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The problem is that I could be staring off into space but if someone FELT something about where I was looking it could become illegal harassment. So while not expressly illegal, the application could be that you looking somewhere could land you in serious trouble with the law. This is why you need to wear sunglasses in the underground and carry a white cane (blind people stick)
/r/MensRights31/07/22 01:32 AM
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It’s not passive aggressive. That’s when you indirectly express negative feelings. He isn’t expressing shit. This is more like the gray rock method. Sure he can set his family down and “set them straight” but that doesn’t mean they wont still maintain a relationship with his ex. The only way to maintain control of info is to not share it with anyone. Women love to talk, so he probably should with hold information from them that he isn’t comfortable with his ex knowing. Depending on how shitty hi…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/22 01:26 AM
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It is a crime in England. Look it up.
/r/MensRights30/07/22 05:06 AM
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You can’t control other people. You can control yourself. So cut contact with your mom and sister. They can’t report on you if they don’t know what’s going on. If you have other family let them know you don’t want them sharing details of your life with your mom and sister. If they do, they get the same treatment. When I say cut contact. In my mind you basically can still talk to them, but you talk about the weather and other bullshit. If they ask how the kids are doing or how your relationship i…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 04:22 PM
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I had an old lady at the Target check out do this to me when I didn’t buy my 5 yr old a water. Lady there is a fountain right by the entrance.
/r/MensRights25/07/22 04:43 AM
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I got you all beat in the opposite direction I pay a negative $1500.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 07:02 PM
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To add to your 4th point. Think about how sex toys are viewed when it’s for a man versus a woman. A male sex toy must be used because he can’t get a woman, a woman uses a sex toy because a man can’t pleasure her. (Obviously this is a generalization)
/r/MensRights17/07/22 05:59 AM
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Equality does feel like oppression just start asking feminists how they feel about having to also have equal responsibilities of what men have.
/r/MensRights14/07/22 04:16 PM
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This is good advice, I was married to a woman who made good money (more than me) and now she pays me alimony and child support.
/r/MensRights13/07/22 03:25 PM
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No you haven’t Greg.
/r/MensRights13/07/22 02:27 PM
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You don’t have a new relationship until this is settled. You can’t control what she does, but you can wait
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 08:28 PM
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Oh man! I didn’t realize my ex wife had remarried, my condolences. Seriously, it sound like you either leave or start turning the tables. Check out married red pill. It will change your whole world view.
/r/MensRights07/07/22 09:16 PM
4

Don't forget that you have to keep paying her once you get divorced but she doesn't have to keep taking care of your house.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 06:15 AM
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This is exactly correct. I used to think like this until I learned some hard truths about life.
/r/MensRights03/07/22 05:10 PM
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Lawyer up. Fight for your kids. Fix your problems. Channel that anger. Make it useful. You were a stay at home dad while your wife worked, you would benefit from some red pill content
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 07:13 AM
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Who is gonna build it? Who is gonna support the infrastructure? Who is gonna repair the electric grid after a storm? Who is gonna dig up the sewer pipes? Who is gonna collect the garbage?
/r/MensRights01/07/22 06:50 AM
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Good luck dating. Not sure any quality women are gonna be down with dating a man who lives with his ex wife.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 05:31 AM
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"as the father of your children, NO."
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 04:14 AM
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Hard disagree. Kick her out of your brain as best you can. Maintain no contact. Depending on the age of your kids and the custody arrangement let them know it’s difficult to hear about your mother and why and ask that they don’t talk about her with you unless it is extremely important.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 06:26 AM
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This behavior is part of monkey branching. She probably doesn’t even realize it, you are practice dick, if you go through with it don’t be surprised when things get freakier. Happened with my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 04:19 AM
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Once a cheater always a cheater. Move on. If taking action now puts you in a better position act now. Her affair partner choosing to stay with his wife is beyond typical. Men just want sex, not a whole other stress and headache in their life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 07:58 AM
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I intended to. She stopped wearing it. and it was with my stuff for when I moved and she found it and took it... I have since stolen it back.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 04:49 AM
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That's super tough man. My advice start recording everything at all times. keep a recording device on you and have it recording at all times. she comes at you with accusations you have a recording of the time and place in question proving nothing took place.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 06:05 AM
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Why are people downvoting you? Are they not aware of the utter shit that The Sun is? They will print ANYTHING. They were the ones who called JD a wife beater.
/r/MensRights25/05/22 12:26 AM
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If I didn’t have a kid I would have left my country as well
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 09:06 AM
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This was my ex. Never asked me about my day but would go on and on and on about hers. I dated a few ugly girls who's pics online did NOT match up. They tended to be more interested in me. Hot girls have less personality.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 05:01 AM
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The publicity is great for Johnny Depp because even if he losses the case he has won in the court of public opinion. I’ve been watch/streaming every JD movie I can so when steaming services look at their figures they see that he is liked and popular
/r/MensRights21/05/22 08:18 AM
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Already killed him off with another actor, so unlikely.
/r/MensRights21/05/22 08:15 AM
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But to hide her true identity will legally change her name to Amber Turd.
/r/MensRights21/05/22 08:14 AM
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What happens is society has laws and legal definitions and legally speaking it is in fact rape. Also legally speaking, you are a dumbass.
/r/MensRights21/05/22 04:23 AM
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pretty common for gaslighters to accuse people of gaslighting. Happened to me. Just realize she doesn't live in reality and plan accordingly, starting with recording any and all interactions.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 10:05 PM
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Well I don't live in Australia, but I am gonna deny all female uber drivers now... or just never use Uber again. Lyft it is.
/r/MensRights20/05/22 06:17 PM
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My baseball glove. at least she was also left handed and actually used it.
/r/MensRights14/05/22 10:24 PM
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I used to have a girl in college who would come over and watch me play video games. This was well before girls gamed at all and she had no interest in it. She did have interest in me. If they like you they don't give a fuck what you are doing.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/22 07:10 PM
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Good god the UK is just full of sensitive little babies. I'm all for men's rights, but that doesn't mean I need to be treated like a snowflake.
/r/MensRights12/05/22 06:41 PM
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A stable girl? Try the barn.
/r/MensRights12/05/22 08:25 AM
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And then complain they don’t make as much money as men when they don’t work as much.
/r/MensRights12/05/22 03:53 AM
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The wall comes for all.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 01:48 AM
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Blow it up! Also, her being liberal and him being misogynistic... its all bullshit. Take a peak into redpill/manosphere stuff, you might find some useful insights into people's behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 09:55 AM
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Not having an attorney costs more.
/r/MensRights02/05/22 04:32 AM
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This is all really good advice. I just wouldn’t say the part about “we can look at getting back together.” Don’t let her know the door is still open to that. Doesn’t matter if it is open or not. Make her think it’s closed.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 08:14 PM
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Sunglasses. or those ones with tons of tiny small holes so you can see out but no one can see your eyes. That's a practical solution, but the whole thing is fucked.
/r/MensRights23/04/22 07:05 AM
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So I am the only person who clicked, "yes, but I quit early." To elaborate, she took therapy as an opportunity to call me names and criticize me. Some of her criticism was valid, but the name calling was childish. I never was given a chance to voice my concerns or be critical of her in any way. She deemed her issues with me as much more important than my issues with her. It was all very one sided and left me feeling worse every time we went. The therapist did little to nothing to mediate. I saw …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 07:40 PM
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Any avenue you might want to explore is why did she get divorced in the first place? The vast majority of marriages end because the woman decides to. Why did she end her 1st marriage? does she claim he was abusive or a bum? Have you bothered to get his side of the story? That's what I would want to know, cause ten years down the road you are gonna be dealing with the same stuff her first husband was dealing with.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 11:21 PM
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Just watch what happens when you do the exact same thing back to your spouse. Women do not like being nagged! it's very much a one way street.
/r/MensRights11/04/22 05:45 PM
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I wouldn't delete anything. Put them all in a place where you won't come across them unless you go specifically looking for them. If its all digital throw them in the same folder on an external hard drive. What advantage is there to deleting them?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 10:02 PM
2

Some people are looking to be offended. They are actively seeking it out.
/r/MensRights10/04/22 06:19 PM
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I thought it was gonna be the 2nd mouse gets the cheese.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 02:49 AM
1

In no way do I believe that is what is happening, but I really hope I am completely wrong.
/r/MensRights08/04/22 04:20 PM
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r/divorce is basically r/divorce_women. Don't waste your time their.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 02:32 AM
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If you use the enemy to defeat the enemy, you will be strong wherever you go. -Sun Tzu To add to what OP is saying. I found that if I fought for something I wanted the EX would fight back for it. If I conceded something, she would often not care to much and even change her mind about wanting it. Don't let her know how much you value the things you have to split up. By that same token, if she clearly wants something that you don't care about, pretend like its important to you and it can help get …
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 03:21 PM
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I disagree with some of the goals stated in some of the posts here, but its not worth debating a lot of the nitty gritty details. I'm happy that men are here and they are discussing issues they face in life. It helps bring awareness and that is a good first step. For me, men and women having different struggles in life and generally it seems to me that men are getting left behind in having those struggles recognized. Meanwhile women's struggles seem to get significantly more attention. I just wa…
/r/MensRights02/04/22 12:09 AM
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No. Chris was the bigger man by letting it go. He could have and was about to verbally slap back, but he held his tongue and moved on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 04:48 AM
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There are people out there who believe it was fake. I’ve heard what people say to debunk that and agree that it was very real.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 04:45 AM
1

I feel bad for him cause he is a broken man, however, I still think he is a piece of shit for doing what he did and I don’t think I will be watching any of his movies anymore. Not that it matters, he has a fuck ton of money. And they are Scientologists so fuck them and their stupid cult.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 04:35 AM
164

That's fine. Just don't call it MGTOW, otherwise you are a terrorist. In fact we probably shouldn't name it a damn thing.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 10:12 PM
11

You are trying to use reason and logic to understand what she says. She is crafting a story to justify her feelings and ultimately justify her divorce. The things she explains and says don’t matter. To her it is her feelings that matter. Don’t expect closure either. I would also expect that she has found someone else and that is the catalyst for her asking for a divorce. You probably can’t save your marriage at this point, but kowtowing will have the opposite affect. Start looking at ways to imp…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 01:47 AM
2

You need to talk to a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 11:06 PM
2

You need to read “no more mister nice guy” your problem might be that you are listening to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 07:14 PM
4

I did the same thing. The best sex of the marriage was when we were going through the divorce. Don’t think for one second any of it will change the course you are currently on. If you think it will emotionally crush you then stop doing it. It certainly didn’t make things easier for me. Also be sure to keep in mind you are getting a divorce and she is from a legal standpoint the enemy. Make sure you have some post-nut clarity before deciding on anything important related to the divorce. And that …
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 10:09 PM
6

Just wait till you meet one of these fine ladies and she is 10 years older and 50 pounds heavier than her pictures were showing.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 11:35 PM
1

haha, all the time, they are both crazy. I'm divorced and still have to deal with it on occasion.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/22 02:02 AM
3

Zelensky didn't order men to stay behind and die. He ordered them to fight and protect their country and home. I think women should stay behind as well. Them fleeing just shows that they are in fact the weaker sex.
/r/MensRights02/03/22 08:30 PM
3

Fight for 50/50. Talk to a lawyer about it. Research shows 50/50 is best for the children, unless one of the parents is fucked up (drugs, crime, whatever) Kids so stupid stuff all the time, but if you feel like your kids are drifting away do something about it! Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 08:27 PM
1

The research I've seen out there shows that unmarried men earn less than married men. In my estimation that's because unmarried men can get by with a lot less consumer bullshit so they don't go for the promotion or work as hard at jobs that have more stress. My ex lost her job last year and continued to buy and buy crap and went 20 k in the hole on a lot of stuff that was not needed. She just likes to buy and shop. (We have a child together so I notice things when I drop said child off) Yes we h…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/22 01:51 AM
2

50/50 is best for the kids. All the research shows this. It might be hard with their ages since one might be breastfeeding still. I would still fight for my 50 though
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 06:46 AM
0

My wife divorced me cause I didn't work enough. Ignore that bullshit. It's just her excuse to justify her actions.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 04:18 AM
1

it got an upvote from me. Don't know why all the hate on it.
/r/MensRights24/02/22 06:51 PM
18

For me, I just didn't vote that election cycle. First time I didn't vote.
/r/MensRights24/02/22 04:19 PM
0

Troglodyte here. I pee standing up in the dark in the middle of the night. I can't remember the last time I have needed to wipe up the toilet seat and my five year old hasn't missed since he was four. (granted he is five so his penis is only a few inches above the bowl when he goes.)
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 09:52 PM
2

This is how I always viewed it. (minus the waiting to flush part) I put the whole thing down, It's like making your bed. Its just how things look nicer in your home.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 09:41 PM
1

He’s not gonna care she cheated before. His wife might, but the decision to tell her should be after you make you own plan and figure out what you are doing. You don’t want to Sabotage yourself informing the wife. Once your ducks are in a row then I think you have a duty to tell her. If your goal is to try and save your marriage. (I wouldn’t recommend it) then you need to tell both him and his wife, that is the best way to end the affair. Also, you should have evidence of this so he can’t deny i…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:46 AM
1

and if the condom is squeaky, there wasn't enough foreplay.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 11:59 PM
5

The goal is to fuck up her plumbing.... if you know what I mean.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 06:57 AM
2

Clogging becomes an issue for the owner or the property or waste management. There aren't any "authorities" that would change anything that mattered because of flushed condoms. There are plenty of ways to protect your sperm without flushing the condom.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 06:55 AM
2

Step 10 get paternity tests done. Those kids might have other dads.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 08:01 PM
1

If you aren’t a troll please find a good therapist
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 06:20 AM
6

I stopped reading after the pit bull lawyer screwing a dad out of seeing his son more. Tell your friend the guys here in this sub think he’s a piece of shit. I hope he gets raked over the coals.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 05:41 AM
10

She can suck it. but at the same time, I'm not a fan of people getting canceled/fired for saying the wrong thing. Censoring speech is wrong and shouldn't be done.
/r/MensRights17/02/22 10:12 PM
2

I was making a joke as well. I don't know why you have the downvotes, I thought it was pretty funny. Good idea to be women free till everything is finalized. You are gonna be in a better place mentally once everything is finalized and settled and be able to make better decisions regarding dating and finding a woman if you want. Good luck with the divorce!
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 10:06 PM
1

Yeah I've seen this a lot. Men get shamed for admitting a preference.
/r/MensRights17/02/22 08:42 PM
2

Height, baldness and penis size. And these are things men can't reasonably control. at least woman who have the drive to not be overweight can. (don't message me about exceptions to the rule, I don't care)
/r/MensRights17/02/22 08:34 PM
1

It was basically that she gets the vibe that men often don't believe her until she sites example of abuse she has suffered. It sounds like there was some legitimate abuse there but I often think most relationships that sour have some abuse. Whether its verbal, or manipulation or emotional or whatever. My ex and I abused each other emotionally and verbally too. But she claimed some other very specific things that were blatantly false. I wish she hadn't deleted her comment because i think its help…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 05:24 PM
3

Is that a turn off or a red flag?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 06:36 AM
1

I would hold those comments and details about your ex back and try not to bring them up. Even if they are legit, bringing them up early is a red flag. It shows me you feel like and portray yourself as a victim. I am not interested in someone with that mindset. If we are very close and have been going out for a while, then mentioning a specific story… fine, but don’t let it define you. I know that my ex told numerous people I abused her in very specific ways, it’s clear to me she says these thing…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 06:32 AM
1

Why does every reply make me think OP just asked people to describe my ex wife?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 06:22 AM
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Absolutely! Almost unrecognizable from the woman I married. I married a happy, playful, loving and caring woman. I divorced a depressed, uncaring, rude, selfish bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 10:32 PM
3

Personally I believe you have some duty to let his wife know what he was doing. I was in a similar situation and the wife being cheated on was very grateful that I would do that for her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 07:43 PM
1

Ultimately this guy is unlikely to leave his wife and blow up his own family due to reason's men typically cheat. If your wife is in the honeymoon phase with this guy I would try and push hard to get your divorce finalized before her emotions settle down. I would also be gathering evidence of her infidelity with this guy as much as I can and I would blow that shit up once your divorce is finalized. My ex kept on trying to see different married men she worked with during our divorce. I didn't wai…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 07:37 PM
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Since I haven't seen this mentioned yet, get a paternity test as soon as you can. I don't know your situation or intentions but find out if you are the father before you sign any birth certificate or anything else. I know this seems backwards since she is asking you to sign away rights, but I've seen weirder things happen. Good luck.
/r/MensRights04/02/22 01:54 AM
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The best thing you could do would be to become his friend and someone he can go to for help. Evidence/proof doesn't matter if he isn't gonna do anything for himself because he has been so mentally broken down.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 05:09 PM
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You typed out exactly what I wanted to say. I wish I could have more children but the society we live in deems it too risky.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 11:54 PM
8

I find women, nowadays in particular, have little to no value to add to my life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 05:12 PM
8

Arguing on the internet is like the special olympics. You might win, but you're still retarded. Stop wasting your time and energy trying to convince these morons of their logical fallacies. They didn't arrive at their conclusions with logic, you aren't gonna convince them to leave their conclusions with logic.
/r/MensRights20/01/22 08:41 AM
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My Lawyer in my no fault state said a judge won't even hear it and it won't be taken into consideration.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 09:40 PM
10

Adultery doesn't matter in the vast majority of US states now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 09:36 PM
2

But don't buy it on your shared Amazon account. Also, have it delivered to an Amazon locker, not your house.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 09:35 PM
3

Hashtag believeallwomen
/r/MensRights12/01/22 06:03 PM
1

haha. the guy my wife cheated on me with blocked me on social media and everything else.... but he couldn't block the fake account I made. Takes like five minutes to create an alternate account. There are also apps that will allow you to message as a different phone number which would get around the blocking phone numbers. Yeah, I didn't want my ex back either but I felt a duty to inform the other wife that she was being cheated on as well.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 09:16 PM
2

If he is still cheating on his wife, I would blow that shit up. Get it all out in the open make sure everyone knows everything you know.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 09:28 AM
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Are we just assuming she is a feminist?
/r/MensRights16/12/21 04:17 PM
13

Do girls not smoke weed?
/r/MensRights09/12/21 03:26 PM
5

Bold of her to assume she has a say in the divorce. What a bunch of gaslighting bullshit. "The kids and I do not need anymore stress" does she mean the stress brought on by her immediately moving in with a guy leaving you and your kids. She was likely messing around with him before you guys were even separated and now he isn't as fun anymore. Even if she believe she is serious she is just gonna do it again. What a bunch of bullshit saying you can live in the basement. Fuck that bitch. (just not …
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 07:17 AM
3

Ultimately it doesn't matter if its a "way of life" or "just having a bad day". Best thing to do is to just stay away from people without any common decency or kindness.
/r/MensRights06/12/21 11:02 PM
1

links please! I wanna see that!
/r/MensRights03/12/21 04:43 PM
6

You likely won't have to chat with your daughter for her to learn the truth. Your boys will likely talk to her.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 10:19 PM
146

I saw this happen before social media existed. A group of women who all knew each other from where they attended church.... fucking church!
/r/MensRights26/11/21 03:38 PM
8

The correct response when someone complains about your whiteness is to quote the great Doctor Martin Luther King Jr. " I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."
/r/MensRights22/11/21 10:26 PM
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The way to attack is too behave like you don’t give a shit and nothing she does bothers you. Acting like you don’t care will be what drives her mad.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 04:12 AM
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I guess I kinda fall in the middle here. It's a bit of an asshole comment, but it is certainly something we as men need to be aware of and take precautions against, but that certainly doesn't mean it should be acceptable for a women to pull this shit. With how acceptable this kind of thing is for women to pull with no repercussions we as men need to be that much more vigilant and protective of where our sperm goes.
/r/MensRights23/10/21 05:01 PM
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You need to take control of the finances and not give her access to credit cards. You need to talk to her mom and everyone she could send packages to and get them on the same page and as everyone else has said therapy. However even with therapy she is bound to slip up. You need to also check your credit and monitor it regularly. If you can't do all those things than divorce might be your safest financial decision.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 08:57 AM
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True, but there have been a few times where she got dressed up dropped off and then she just went home. Did it happen last night? who knows? who cares? If it did the poor bastard who takes her out is gonna be the one to suffer.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/21 06:44 AM
3

Yeah, mine did that to me last night. I could smell her perfume, which she hates wearing. She might have had a date but its much more likely she just went back to her house and spent the night alone.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/21 03:38 PM
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Get An Order For Counsel Fees. If you can’t afford an attorney and you don’t qualify for a court appointed attorney, the judge can order your spouse to pay your attorney's fees if they are the monied spouse. You would have to make a motion for this and the monied spouse has the right to give an arguments as to why they should not pay. If your motion is granted, the money will be paid directly to your attorney. Keep in mind that this is not automatic or guaranteed, so many attorneys will requires…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/21 05:30 AM
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I was in a very similar situation as you. DO NOT IGNORE ALIMONY! First, you need to get a lawyer YESTERDAY. You sure as shit shouldn't be starting from the ground up financially and a lawyer can make sure that happens along with helping you not fuck up your divorce and hindering yourself for the rest of your life. Second, you don't have any chance of reconciliation, demanding alimony won't change that. She might try and manipulate you into thinking that for her own sake. Third, you need to make …
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/21 01:41 AM
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Doing this helped me a lot in my divorce. You need to stop acting like the groveling fool. Your whole mindset needs to change. You are treating her like a celebrity, so she is treating you like a fan. Some advice that was given to me in a men's support group was to do the opposite of what you are inclined to do. This ultimately didn't 'save' my marriage but it put me in a better place mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/21 05:18 PM
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It's a legal case. Roe v. Wade Read about it. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roe_v._Wade
/r/MensRights29/09/21 04:58 PM
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First off, your ideas will be taken a lot more seriously if you use some punctuation. Secondly, any man that lets his woman provide or have access to his condoms is taking a HUGE risk. Stay in control of your seed and where it goes even after having sex. There is a reason the NBA teaches its players to do things like flushing condoms and stuff like that.
/r/MensRights29/09/21 04:56 PM
2

Weirdly I just watched a video of two psychologists discussing men's issues in regards to divorce and they said men are 8 times as likely to kill themselves than women while going through divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/21 06:44 AM
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start recording all interactions if your state allows one party consent.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 03:26 PM
11

Apparently wives told on their husbands who weren't cut, thinking it would make them better in bed. If my wife did that to me. I wouldn't fuck her again... she would cease to be my wife.
/r/MensRights13/09/21 10:12 PM
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You fight her on this and then let her win and make her think you lost and are upset about it. If you cave quickly she will start demanding other things. She wants to feel like she won or is winning. Play into that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/21 05:25 AM
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Protects yourself. Gives you more time to concentrate on yourself and do your own thing. Keeps the woman wanting which is usually a good thing and makes break ups a lot smoother. What do you think is shitty about it?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 08:29 PM
9

This is why you also don't let them move in.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 06:16 PM
2

Women often want to "win" so help that become their perception.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 09:30 PM
3

I think not caring can be healthy. You work on yourself. If everyone was taking personal responsibility in their own lives, society would be better anyway.
/r/MensRights01/09/21 02:29 AM
9

The girl who cried wolf. Now if someone rapes her they will likely get away with it.
/r/MensRights25/08/21 04:51 PM
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I completely understand not having someone to tag in with. It's difficult when my 4 year old is asking me to play with him and I have things in life that need to get done or I am just worn out. He recently told his mom he didn't want to go with her to Disneyland because I would miss him and he would miss me. He wants us to be a happy family but it just isn't in the cards for him. Don't blame yourself that your wife chose divorce. That's on her. Be the best dad you can and your son will see the k…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 09:21 AM
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Don't bother appeasing your wife, it won't fix anything in your marriage. Think about what your life looks like once you are divorced, pursue that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 02:19 AM
4

Corporate interests side with whatever is better for their bottom line. Particularly if the company is a public one.
/r/MensRights05/08/21 02:02 AM
2

Fair point. Maybe talk to a lawyer and see how well a post nup will hold up where you live and see if its worth it. I know in my situation I would have taken back the dumb whore only so I could be around my kid 100% instead of 50%. Its a tough situation where children are involved.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 08:45 PM
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post nuptial 100%. If she doesn't sign it dont take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 02:53 PM
8

you need to call a lawyer YESTERDAY!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 05:33 PM
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anytime the phrase "real man" is used, it's being used to manipulate you.
/r/MGTOW228/07/21 04:31 AM
3

I take issue with your use of the word "usually". Never has it ever been a women who shows up.... like never ever ever.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 04:28 AM
3

Her obit says "Lorrie will be remembered for her many special qualities; among them her unconditional love, support and encouragement of her children and family."
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 05:36 AM
7

and yet you are marrying again....
/r/MensRights11/07/21 01:01 AM
1

I'm stealing this. It's gold!
/r/MGTOW230/05/21 08:59 PM
2

Yes, read the title of the article again.
/r/MensRights13/05/21 08:26 PM
2

I would get a paternity test. If he is your kid you don't leave him behind like a coward, you man up and deal with your crazy ex.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 02:50 PM
3

This isn't a decision the internet should decide. The forum you are in will be incredibly biased as well. You need to figure out what you want and need to do, it won't be an easy path either way.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 02:18 PM
2

Yeah, I'd like to knock her out.
/r/MensRights27/04/21 04:20 PM
27

Can we bring the guillotine back?
/r/MensRights26/04/21 06:58 PM
1

You literally said "In their defense"
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 01:55 AM
0

You completely missed the point. You can't defend bad actions of one person or group by saying there is another person or group out there that also acts poorly. Your defense is a logical fallacy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 01:52 AM
2

What terribly stupid defense. Would you say Ted Bundy isn't so bad cause he didn't kill nearly as many people as Hitler?
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 11:40 PM
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I do too, but nothing is gonna erase the fact that this poor guy had to go through all that shit including going before a judge all while still in high school. If I was the parents I would sue AT LEAST for all costs associated with any and all counselling for my son.
/r/MensRights25/04/21 02:13 AM
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You can barely even call it wood. Its particle board and basically sawdust. If it was actual wood it would be less shitty furniture.
/r/MensRights21/04/21 05:33 PM
2

Can anyone translate the first one? Although, the second one is enough for me to stop going to IKEA completely.
/r/MensRights21/04/21 05:23 PM
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1 marriage 1 divorce I'll never do it again. I imagine most responses will be similar, men who were less abused and traumatized are more likely to marry again and less likely to be apart of this subreddit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 07:40 PM
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Thanks, I used to do a #2 but switched to a #1 last week actually and its sooo much quicker and faster upkeep and while I miss the long hair I had in my teens, I'm embracing it.
/r/MensRights19/04/21 06:12 PM
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You are getting divorced. Stop thinking about her feelings or what is fair. It's not fair that she married you and committed to you and has now decided to leave you. I'm surprised she is only blaming you for going to an attorney first. I'm sure by the end of it she will blame you for a whole lot more. You need to worry about what is best for you and act accordingly. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/21 05:07 PM
188

I hate that I have no hair.
/r/MensRights19/04/21 03:37 PM
14

yeah, and she HATES having to pay it every month.
/r/MensRights18/04/21 02:16 AM
28

I remember first hearing the word "manimony" from my ex's male lawyer trying to shame me. Fuck that loser. Give me my money bitch!
/r/MensRights18/04/21 01:45 AM
2

It's a tough pill to swallow, but its another reason not to date single moms.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/21 08:20 PM
3

Someone made a similar comment to this a couple years ago on a post of mine... and lo and behold she was already dating. I was just too stupid to accept it or see it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/21 08:18 PM
8

To be totally pedantic. The average IQ is 100. If everyone suddenly got smarter or dumber, the average would still be 100, that's just the way IQ is measured.
/r/MensRights12/04/21 04:24 PM
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yep. it looks like abandonment to a judge when you try for 50/50 custody of your kids. My lawyer advised me to stay in the home and that is the advice you will get from others who will comment and post articles about it on here. Unless you have physical evidence of serious abuse, don't leave.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 01:03 AM
2

You are making incorrect assumptions about how a lot of those things work. If there are more people buying groceries then one of them is working that other checkout stand checking more people out. people move out to less developed areas. small towns become big towns, big towns become small cities and small cities become big cities, but its not like it happens over night. places grow and expand to accommodate more people. Experts believe the earth can support 3 billion more people in terms of how…
/r/MGTOW219/03/21 05:20 PM
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Legal Advice gets locked a lot actually. Once there has been sufficient advice given or if it goes too off topic or if lots of bad advice is given.
/r/MensRights18/03/21 06:09 PM
3

A lot of your responses on here are about your guilt and trying to make amends for what you did. That would make sense if you were both trying to fix the relationship. Let's be clear. THAT IS NOT HAPPENING. She is exacting vengeance. Are you an idiot for fucking around on your wife? absolutely. Don't make it worse by folding over and letting her fuck you over cause you feel bad. so what if you told her you wouldn't get a lawyer and that you agreed to her conditions. You are allowed to change you…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 02:38 AM
1

how long have you been married? two months? you aren't gonna get much. two years? still not much. twenty years? yeah you should be getting half of everything.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/21 11:48 PM
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She is playing the victim, its pretty common for women to do in divorce regardless or how or why the divorce is happening. This is the reason you unfriend and block them. Don't rent your head space to them when they aren't paying rent.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/21 04:50 PM
1

Regardless of who initiates the divorce or who's fault it is, the women get the shared friends 99% of the time. Women stick together better. They also play the victim. They will turn everything around to make you look bad. Be prepared to lose all shared friends.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/21 03:46 PM
7

This post hit home. I have been divorced for about six months. I have all the evidence of my wife's infidelity and a 4 year old who luckily I have 50/50 custody of. I don't know how things will go or what the future holds but when she starts to lie to my son about why our marriage fell apart I am gonna have the evidence to prove her a liar and a cheater.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/21 08:20 PM
0

I don't know. I've ghosted a few fatties myself. When you end up with 50 more pound irl than what your photos show....
/r/TheRedPill12/01/21 07:56 PM
3

I used to think white men who dated Asian women just couldn't get a white women, now I realize they are smart enough not to.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/21 04:14 PM
1

You've got a lot to unpack there. I will say the one immediate thing that popped into my head. Don't listen to the feminists telling you to be feminine. Generally speaking don't take advice on how to be a man from a women. What the fuck do they know about it? Just like you shouldn't go and ask a Republican about the goals and desires of Democrats, or vice versa.
/r/MensRights29/12/20 10:20 PM
1

The post literally says “I am 83”
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/20 06:16 AM
1

I like looking at boobs as much as the next guy, but this doesn't belong here.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/20 09:32 PM
1

what's SUP?
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/20 11:50 PM
4

The best revenge is to be totally indifferent to her, your competition shows you still care about what is going on in herlife and that you want to be better than her. You shouldn't know how she is doing or if she is dating someone or how much money she makes. You are still letting her have influence on your life and she still in a way has control. Cut her out. I've heard it said on here before, don't rent head space to her. The way to show that your don't care about how she is doing is too not t…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/20 06:06 AM
1

The issues she has with you are not admissible because of how she found them? This is a relationship, not a fucking court of law. Sounds like you need to start taking responsibility for your actions regardless of getting divorced or not. It sounds like her mistrust was well placed. If you have to keep so much private from her maybe its you who can't trust her cause you are doing dumb shit you have to keep hidden. The main issue is you have stuff to hide, not that she is trying to find out what t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 07:12 PM
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you can't rebuild a relationship if you are doing the building and she is tearing it down. You work on yourself and yourself alone. You trying to fix things with her will likely harm any relationship with her. Do your own thing, man up. She doesn't respect you and you going back to "work on the relationship" only proves to her that she doesn't need to respect you. If you do want her back, the only way that happens is if you move forward in your own life without her. She isn't gonna desire the cr…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 06:52 PM
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i dont get it
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/20 07:15 PM
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I think he got his exchange rates backwards. The custom in China to pay a family for their daughter's hand in marriage is not even close to that high. Chinese do save up their money, but a factory worker isn't gonna have 70k to begin with.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 04:50 PM
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FYI, the term is kowtowing.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 04:29 PM
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Why are you giving reasons/excuses to anyone?
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/20 06:00 PM
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Tell her to pound sand. Yes kids need consistency, but that doesn't mean rules have to be the same house to house.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/20 05:56 PM
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The person who said that probably doesn't have kids they like and they see their own kids that way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/20 02:04 PM
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and how many will meet up with her and she is 50 pounds heavier than her photos are showing. I get it. we can't get to the gym anymore with covid but damn woman have some self control.... sorry, I had a bad date on Monday
/r/MensRights02/09/20 03:46 PM
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WELL ACTUALLY. Feminism refers to the ideals of the movement while feminist refers to the people with those ideals. It is entirely possible and reasonable that you could hate the ideals while NOT hating the people who hold them.
/r/MensRights02/09/20 02:39 PM
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I was in a very very similar situation. She may not be cheating now, but she will if the opportunity presents itself. You need to man up. Start taking care of yourself and don't give a shit if something gets spilled on the carpet. Stop kowtowing to all her stupid bullshit. Go out and start having your own social life without her. (this does not mean to cheat or have an affair) Read some self help books, starting with "No More Mr. Nice Guy" Change your life to what you want and then she can decid…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/20 08:50 PM
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be careful saving up, half that money might go to her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/20 08:57 PM
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just make sure you keep gathering all this evidence. Who knows what will be enough, but the more you have the better your case.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/20 08:50 PM
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Don't say anything until there is something to say. Until its happened and you are legally divorced keep your mouth shut, that's what I would do and am doing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/20 07:02 PM
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I've heard stories of men who keep a recording device on them at all times like 24/7 so that when they get accused they can prove their innocence.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 02:56 PM
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Hopefully you are still getting some exercise even with the gym closed. Everybody needs it and it will help you mentally as well as physically. Bare minimum do some push ups sit ups and something to get your heart rate up. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 08:07 PM
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Sounds like you need to spend sometime working on yourself. If you are unhealthy mentally with anxiety and depression you aren't gonna have good relationships with those around you. Divorce might rid you of your current spouse but if these root issues aren't fixed you'll only carry them to your next relationship. You can't control or fix other people and I don't know what other issues or problems your marriage is having but work on yourself and fix your issues and you'll have a new perspective o…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/20 06:18 PM
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AWALT. They all play the victim in the scenario, every goddamn one.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/20 02:21 PM
1

who cares about proof? what does it matter? She probably doesn't respect you. It sounds like you have a decision to make, do you wanna earn her respect back or move on in your life with out her or continue down the same crappy path you are going down now. Go look up married red pill. It will put you in a better situation regardless of whether you stay or go.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 02:16 PM
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That's awesome! Good luck with your market crash! (I'm hoping for some discounted stocks as well)
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/20 08:32 PM
1

Don't get married a first time if you can help it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/20 02:31 PM
1

DING! DING! DING! Fuck me we have a winner here! Glad to hear you are at the end of it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/20 03:18 PM
2

So she gives you tests and you know they are tests and you still fail them?? It could be that this is why she isn't interested in you sexually. Look up married red pill.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/20 10:22 PM
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So they win by getting a reaction and making you angry. How do you think a true man would respond to females making fun of him? He would ignore them and TRULY not care and not get upset. Your later comment mentions how anything you say is excuses. You are right, you don't answer to these women, especially when they are acting the way they are. Confidently ignore and avoid them, but certainly don't answer their questions when they haven't given you any reason to give them the time of day.
/r/becomeaman03/06/20 05:04 PM
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She is in the basement where I have moved to and working out with a zoom meeting online. It was my birthday last week and we only have one kid, but its the same other than that.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/20 02:20 PM
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I haven't followed your story, but get yourself some counseling or a good friend you can really open up to. I don't know your situation, but either way this will have an affect on you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/20 10:59 PM
1

A couple things. You probably can change her desire for you. Maybe you don't want to, but its pretty gratifying to turn the tables and create that desire regardless of your end game. and I can understand not wanting a physical relationship but then who cares if she is playing with herself? It sounds like you need to work on yourself and take care of your needs and not worry about her and her bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/20 03:02 PM
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What are you gonna confront her for? masturbating?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/20 02:52 PM
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go back and read the post. I'll wait.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 08:42 PM
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Did you even read the post?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 08:32 PM
1

The asking permission thing is soooo huge. It's so freeing to realize I don't have to get her ok on minor things and I can just make the decision myself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 11:12 PM
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my wife makes 80k more than me and we tried mediation and it didn't work. someone told me that men don't want to pay alimony 90% of the time but women don't want to pay it 200% of the time. A mediator can't force it on her and she won't give it up. If its important to you, get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/19 10:21 PM
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Focus on who the person you were with for who they really were. That helps. I need more of this. I've realized I am in love with the fantasy of my wife, not who she really is or how she really behaves.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/19 03:24 PM
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Being in the house is likely a comfort to her. If it isn't causing you any problems that she is there when you aren't I would let it slide. When it is her weekend with the kids and you can arrange it, let her stay at the house and you go and be elsewhere doing fun shit you want to do anyway, this isn't for her benefit but for your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 06:00 PM
1

If you aren't getting sex you don't need to work on the relationship. You need to work on building attraction. If you build attraction you wife will be more willing and the sex will be better.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 11:50 PM
2

Your post is impossible to understand or comprehend. You need to provide more detail and be more specific if you want anyone to be able to help you. You might also consider posting something to the legal advice subreddit.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/19 09:51 PM
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I feel very similarly. Your post helps. I hate her and love her in the same moment. She has treated me so terribly but I still yearn for her. She is 100% a drug to me and I'm an addict and now she is cutting me off. Time for rehab.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/19 05:24 PM
1

i know that a husband from the real housewives of Beverly hills killed himself. but I haven't heard of any others.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 10:51 PM
3

A lot of contestants commit suicide after the show." Where did you hear this?
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 07:39 PM
1

soon to be ex
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/19 07:26 PM
1

my STBX said just the other day, "I shouldn't have become a mom." Super eye opening statement.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/19 04:46 PM
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someone said this on my first post on here. I thought, there was no way there would be someone else, she wasn't like that at all! Yeah, there was someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/19 03:54 PM
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Maybe when looking for a spouse, it was a mistake for you to just consider their ability to have sex. You should have looked deeper to someone who could offer more than that.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/19 09:28 PM
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Your accountant is going to know if you have to report it to the IRS, not if you have to report it to the court. I would be asking a lawyer. It also really depends on what the side gig is and how you get paid for it. If your gig is generating any tax forms you probably should be reporting it to the court. If you are playing with a band in bar for a couple of hours every few weekends and the owner just gives you some cash.... Well I wouldn't report that.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 07:05 PM
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Just read a study about how men are affected by breakups for much longer than women and women feel more immediate pain and then get over it. 8 years is a long time and hopefully time has made it better and will continue. You might consider seeing a therapist, cause you are right, support for men just kinda sucks. I would also say that rejoining the dating pool can help you realize your ex wasn't all that great and a lot of it is just in your head.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/18 07:31 AM
1

a calendar/timeline of when events were discussed and did or didn't take place would also be useful. That can summarize things and then have texts and social media posts and the like to back that up. That's how I would do it if I was trying to show negligence.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/18 08:42 PM
1

That's a good plan, I wouldn't rely on her to do ANYTHING.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/18 05:24 PM
1

My best friend sounds just like you. His ex has bi polar and was constantly doing stupid crap like you described. He kept going back to her with her often cheating on him. She finally divorced him, it wasn't his choice. He remarried a nice girl and besides having to share custody she is out of his life. He was also very forgiving, to his own detriment. Give her the divorce and stop trying to get her back. She will probably change her mind down the road and try and get you back. You should find s…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/18 08:47 AM
1

I'd still hold onto any and all evidence. You might be in one of those 13 states. You might also get gaslighted by her. If it was me, the texts and pics would help my resolve to move forward with the divorce. It does you know harm to hold on to evidence until everything is settled. If she later finds out you have that evidence it could be compelling for her to not drag things out due to a fear of you sharing that evidence with others. DO NOT THREATEN THIS! You don't want to blackmail her, let he…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/18 04:09 AM
1

I think a lot of your concerns and questions would be best addressed by a divorce attorney. Meet with one again and have your list of questions ready. I wouldn't take any action on this until you have met with one. You don't want to do anything that would jeopardize a clean and successful break. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/18 09:22 PM
1

I would stay out of my brother's business and let him figure it out. Then be there to support whatever he does instead of trying to influence what you think he should do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/18 09:27 PM
1

she has the right to take it away while she is parenting, not much to do there. How is she tracking his location? Does she have his login info? Also, how old is your son?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/18 08:14 PM
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Your second to last sentence said "one change" (i assume you meant chance) and your next sentence mentions how doing it after is more difficult, implying more than one chance.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/18 03:56 PM
1

Instead of arguing 50/50 versus 60/40 take a look at an actual calendar and see what makes sense. Sort out how to split up certain holidays and things like that. Things like Christmas are gonna hold more value than a regular Wednesday. Consider the quality of the time not just the amount.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/18 03:49 PM
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Your last two sentences contradict each other.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/18 03:46 PM
1

This was posted a few days ago and was reported and taken down.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/18 09:30 PM
1

I feel like you are halfway there. You are aware of your problems and you want to change/fix them. I would say to keep looking for counselors and maybe meet with a few and try them out. I understand not wanting to deal with recent grads of a local community college, but if you go to one and they suck you don't have to go back.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/18 04:17 PM
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is this English?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/18 03:49 PM
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RUN!
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/18 09:05 PM
1

Personally I would stay away. Wait till everything is finalized. You don't want to potentially give your STBX any ammunition or enflame any emotions. You might not intend to bad mouth or let certain things slip but it likely isn't worth the risk.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/18 07:02 AM
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