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| 18 | To kick or not to kick?That was my thought exactly. Plus according to our conversation we just had, I told him it was odd to me to be saying he missed me when we’ve only been on one date? And then later on in the conversation he said we “weren’t dating yet”, so I’m sitting here like “okay...so why would you say you missed me? Make it make sense!” Yeah this one is getting ghosted. | /r/askFDS | 23/10/20 06:03 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I feel that so hard, the “disappointed but not surprised bucket” 😂 I think for those of us who have been on OLD for some time, it’s really obvious when the energy changes, but these LVM continue to think they’re being so smooth lol. I especially find it suspicious when they delete the app prior to meeting up with you. It just reeks of “I met someone else but I’m still gonna try and get this one on my plate” energy. I posted more detail as to what led me to block him sometime last week on FDS, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:32 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020This exact situation happened to me recently! Started off great and he had fantastic qualities until the texts started becoming more delayed. I knew just by having a strong gut feeling that he met someone else, so I just blocked him 😂 Funniest part is that he had the audacity to reach out on Instagram to confirm what I already knew, and apparently their connection was so great that he “deleted the app for her” 🙄 He then attempted a bullshit apology and an offer to be friends. Cracks me up that h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 05:29 AM |
| 35 | Been wondering for some time; how many neurodivergent women are here?Fellow ADHDer here who was diagnosed recently after spending years wondering what was wrong with me: I am so SO glad you managed to pull yourself out of a bad situation. From here you can only go up! And if you’re ever feeling like you’re struggling please don’t hesitate to reach out, I know exactly how it feels sis. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 05:04 AM |
| 6 | Saying a man will act right for the “right woman” is deeply misogynist and a huge lie.I remember subscribing to this BS narrative pre-FDS and blaming myself after seeing that my narcissistic ex couldn’t treat me right, but he for sure could treat his new girlfriend right in all the ways I’d begged him to do. But ladies, here’s the thing that’s been proven again and again: a low or negative value man will never change, and some(like my ex) are happy to stay delusional thinking that they’re not the problem. His mask tends to fall off about 6 months in. I know this solely through th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Thank you FDS for teaching the importance of listening to your gut feeling!It’s funny because we had been talking jobs and he just got into a new job, and I had mentioned that for my next job I’d like to be with a Fortune 500 company...well the interview was with a company on the list 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:34 AM |
| 68 | Just watched American Murder: The Family Next DoorI also noticed that these behaviors seemed to start when he lost weight some time after they got married, which to me reeks of him getting into better shape to seek a mistress. He also didn’t look super ecstatic over the pregnancy announcement. And like others have said, he has those dead eyes devoid of emotion. I don’t think Shanann picked up on those because she had just gotten out of an abusive marriage when they met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | The ”Dogpill”, AKA They think we reject them to fuck dogs.Projecting at its finest 😂 I’ve seen more examples of men treating their (usually)female dogs as more of a girlfriend than their actual girlfriend/wife over women supposedly “wanting” a relationship with their dog...these guys really love grasping at whatever they can to try and seem better lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Still, if he was as interested as he claims he would at least attempt to keep in touch with me. Even like a "hey, hope your day went well!" or something. He's being blocked by the end of today if he doesn't initiate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020We did agree on a time/location for Friday, but I'm used to at least the effort from his end to chat a bit during the week leading up to the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Yeah, I’m gonna give it a day, if by tomorrow I’ve heard nothing I’m cancelling and blocking. He’s been actively trying to plan a date but I’ve been busy. I agree with you though, you’d think that for that “effort” he’d definitely want to keep my interest. Oh well, you know how it goes. No guy is as nice to you as the guy who wants to have sex with you 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:54 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Using OLD to practice vetting, and one of them seems into me. He's asked me out on a date, but basically said "I'm excited to meet you! I'll see you Friday, have a good rest of your week!" I'm considering blocking him because based on what he said it seems like he has no intention of speaking to me till then, and I don't really care to entertain someone who doesn't want to at least keep in touch up until the date. Maybe I'm being too relentless lol. What do you ladies think? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 75 | Stop being batgirlI saw another version that said “you aren’t a cockroach” 😂 Either way, fuck seeing men at night, I made that mistake wayyy too many times when I was younger and the lack of sleep for mediocre dick isn’t worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Interesting...still researching the validity but this is why we protect ourselves!Cause of death being ventilators is untrue. They are to keep patients alive because COVID does a number on the lungs. What you said sounds more like fear mongering, but I’m not going to argue that today sis. I have family in the healthcare department who have COVID patients and I do my research every day, which is why I questioned the validity of this when I first posted. Best wishes. EDIT: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/factcheck/2020/05/05/covid-19-fact-check-coronavirus-mortality-rate-mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:02 PM |
| 1 | I’m Dating Myself100%!! She’s a handful as it is but I love her so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:48 PM |
| 4 | I’m Dating MyselfI’ve been spoiling myself with small gifts, nursing a broken foot and recovering from that, and just taking better care of myself and my skin. But a lot of my time has been dedicated to my new kid—a Siamese kitten. She’s a whirlwind for being 8 weeks old, and since I now have an healthy outlet for my nurturing side, it’s pretty much done away with me wanting to deal with men for a long time, even though everyone else is getting married/engaged (one i thought was going to be a forever gf for sure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Interesting...still researching the validity but this is why we protect ourselves!Thank you so much for the clarification and education from a scientific standpoint. I didn’t know that bit of information about research letters being held to less rigorous standards! And agreed. I only see LVM’s displaying such a lack of empathy, so all the better to stay away from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:55 AM |
| 8 | There’s nothing wrong with being alone and taking time for yourself!I think this is from Jigsaw, but I’m definitely gonna give X a watch! He seems really awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Interesting...still researching the validity but this is why we protect ourselves!Interesting. Thank you so much for your information. 😊 The news article cited this as the resource, but I’m not entirely sure if JAMA is a valid scientific journal? https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2765654 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:23 AM |
| 12 | Interesting...still researching the validity but this is why we protect ourselves!That, and the overwhelming amount of LVM that just want to “spread their seed” without actually raising the child they helped create. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:19 PM |
| 10 | Interesting...still researching the validity but this is why we protect ourselves!Agreed!! I plan on being childfree myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Le sigh. I hate guys who get up on their high horse about college degrees.Yeah he's been blocked and deleted. This was an early morning mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.Probably why he’s single at 30! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:23 AM |
| 10 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.I’m surprised this wasn’t my ex, because he did something similar with another person physically being there instead of a video. And people say I’m a “man-hater” like yeah of course I can trust men after hearing my ex have sex with another girl while I was a few feet away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.It’s definitely pornsick language when it’s mixed with the other red flags here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:51 PM |
| 10 | I’ve been texting a guy on OLD for a couple days and he said I can totally text him anytime. Should I, or should wait for him to text me?Oh hey, I’m doing the same thing! I’m not interested in dating bc I’m happy being single, but to pass some downtime, I’ll use FDS on my matches. I just think it’s sad that so many men on OLD are doing this BS, usually within the first day of knowing each other, which is waaayy too quick. They expect women to chase them by leaving their number for you, because they expect you to be another PickMe. I used to send back my number in response and make him make the first move, but now I just refuse an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.He literally said beforehand that he liked that we were five years apart, and my first thought was “well that’s a little strange, let me clarify”. Then he spewed this bullshit lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:10 PM |
| 58 | Maybe means no. Men will move mountains if you're important to them. Don't settle.This reminds me so much of my dad. My mom is from Mexico-he met her through her older sister, because he was friends with her boyfriend at the time. My aunt had already finished college and was working on transferring her doctorate’s to the US equivalent. My mom agreed to date him, but told my dad she was very intent on finishing her master’s back in Mexico, so my dad was happy to do so, despite that distance. Ladies, my dad, AFTER WORK drove straight from Los Ángeles to the Mexican border and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:16 AM |
| 40 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.That’s where the alarm bells started going off. Just the word “dominant”. He also mentioned that his last girlfriend was Latina, and so am I, so I was like “great he fetishizes us too” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:07 AM |
| 62 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.That’s what I thought. You don’t have “dominant” and a provider in the same sentence. That’s too bad, he seemed decent until this text. His loss for being depraved lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:29 AM |
| 197 | Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.He then gave me his phone number after, like he’s expecting me to chase him. In your dreams bro. EDIT: he has been blocked. There were too many red flags I couldn’t ignore, included what seemed to be a low key fetish for Latina women and a sense of blatant entitlement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:25 AM |
| 8 | Finally an ACTUAL HVM, Not Some Idiot that Gets Praised for 'Babysitting' Their OWN Kid!!This entire thing just reads as creepy. I highly doubt he would have helped if she wasn’t attractive, and he LIED. A true HVM would not have done that, I’m sorry. He did it for his own self interest and she was lucky he wasn’t a kidnapper/rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 2 | My reaction to LVM who want to go on a isolated hike/walk “date” even though they’re a total stranger to me:https://www.lookhuman.com/design/41834-bobby-hill-self-defense-dojo/3600-athletic_gray-sm?gclid=CjwKCAjwxqX4BRBhEiwAYtJX7a-De4fU8-9Rzd2S2vYQQxnR8VDWKSEQZAkeEuao-j2Jx-yn2IY3DxoCOxcQAvD_BwE There’s also tanktops! Super comfy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:52 AM |
| 2 | My reaction to LVM who want to go on a isolated hike/walk “date” even though they’re a total stranger to me:YUP. Camping...in a most likely isolated area? Sure, I won’t be possibly murdered or raped or anything! I just ordered a shirt with this pic because it was too great not to have lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:48 AM |
| 47 | Pre-FDS me would have been chasing this loser LOL “ur really weird”1990...Nazi Germany...OP was this dude from the Man in the High Tower universe or something? Cause that’s all I can think of lol. But either way, great job with that response! Reminds me of the scrote I said those words to when he thought a drink “hangout” was sufficient, and got mad because I said a restaurant is more my thing. 😂 EDIT: Remember ladies, having standards is JUST LIKE living under a dictator so just don’t do it mmmkay? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 05:55 PM |
| 5 | “Uh, hi? Are you ignoring me?” Yes, yes she is.I wanna make this into one of those posters that just has stylized words in a giant font and then hang it in my room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:13 PM |
| 9 | Another woman (and everyone who agrees with her) gets torched for being a big ole meanie to her shitty ex-husbandI’ve made six to ten hour drives through the boonies in CA and AZ, and while there are truck stops/gas stations, they are few and far between. Some cities are even KIND ENOUGH to warn you and say “hey there won’t be any rest stops, food, or gas for the next 50 mi so be prepared”. I’ve done these drives with like...two red bulls and some chips or beef jerky. This dude was just being dramatic. Exhaustion? I’ve been tired enough from exhaustion and may not remember HOW I got to a specific place whi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | "When was your last relationship+why did it end?"See, that’s where it gets tricky too! Some people really feel the need to just know absolutely everything that an answer that should just be left at that is questioned to the extreme, exactly in the way you phrased it for a “my ex died” situation. I feel like those were extreme cases of kids who never stopped asking “why” to every single answer 😂 Obviously, in most cases it is a case of massive insecurity, like what u/Fatt3stAveng3r said. But I also want to discuss the notion that most relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:25 AM |
| 2 | "When was your last relationship+why did it end?"This question was within the first five minutes of chatting online. It’s much easier to switch the subject in person, and I’m good with boundaries three years out and in recovery, but I’m always at a loss when it comes to messaging on OLD. Either way, this particular LVM took himself out of my matches when I wouldn’t give details, so better for me. But I will keep your response in mind for the next person who does ask. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 2 | "When was your last relationship+why did it end?"I wish I was lying too, I triggered myself digging all this back up, but I had to at least tell the story of how bad it really was. And I mean, if you live in Las Vegas I have the receipts for you to go ahead and do so, because now he’s also a deadbeat father to a girl he took advantage of when he moved out there. She was the one who contacted me after finding his aggressive messages to me on his phone, and she was kind enough to delete all nudes and the sex videos I never consented to. I’m glad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 17 | "When was your last relationship+why did it end?"That is exactly why I don’t want to share, but the they always assume something went wrong on your end and press for more info. Like why does it matter to you so much? One guy literally said he couldn’t get to know me without knowing my past so I blocked him. I don’t need to prove myself. Honestly I wish my ex was dead so I might just say that. Distance brings in too many bullshit questions like “well if you were ever to live in the same place would you seek them out?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Why do men think we’re dumb enough to believe the lie of “I’m not here often/don’t check this app often, so can I have your snap/insta/etc?”I feel like a majority do it to get you off the app as soon as they can to either spam you with dick pics or speed things up because of bad intentions. I used to do the same as you, and besides the barrage of messages, 99.9% of them were LVM just looking for a quick lay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:47 PM |
| 12 | They want us to be legbeards so bad, but we're not: FDS Humble Brag / Femcel Theory Debunked!This makes me incredibly happy. I’m more of the girl next door with a curvy body (blessed in the front and back) that I used to hate, simply because I used to be compared to my friend, who has a beautiful face and thin body. But honestly this sub has helped me realize that it’s life is not a fucking competition for shitty men, and that I never needed to compare myself to her. It’s helped us both realize that we don’t need men, and that we can both vet them ruthlessly because a majority of the at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Is this lvm behavior? He's been going out but taking precautions. We've had great conversation so far so I'm not sure...So essentially he’s got no hobbies of his own and thinks he’s invincible, so he decides to go and do hood rat shit with his friends or whatever? The “running around town” will soon become running around with other women while you’re none the wiser if you become stuck in a relationship with this dude. I hope you’ve blocked him sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Girl, runSTOP that’s exactly what I thought!! This poor woman, I feel so bad for her. Like why do women think this is valid behavior from a grown ass man?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 03:42 PM |
| 1 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.Yesss!! I’m honored you did. Normally I’d never respond but today I was feeling petty 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.I totally get it. Usually the reason why I put in that emoji is because I’m laughing at the audacity. I rarely use emojis when I’m nervous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 02:19 AM |
| 6 | Why do men think we’re dumb enough to believe the lie of “I’m not here often/don’t check this app often, so can I have your snap/insta/etc?”This is true. I told my brother about this issue and he said girls do it but just so they can get more followers because they know thirsty scrotes will follow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:58 AM |
| 11 | Why do men think we’re dumb enough to believe the lie of “I’m not here often/don’t check this app often, so can I have your snap/insta/etc?”SAME. Some scrote tried to tell me that today and I was like “boy I know your game and that’s a goddamn lie. Goodbye.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:57 AM |
| 20 | Why do men think we’re dumb enough to believe the lie of “I’m not here often/don’t check this app often, so can I have your snap/insta/etc?”“Looking for something serious”=I’m gonna make you think I’m falling in love with you until I get sex and then I’m out BecAuSe i wAs nEvEr aTtrAcTeD in thE FiRsT PLAcE oK? Edit: because I am pressed about this too, “looking for friends” on a DATING SITE. Like okay clearly you want friends with benefits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:56 AM |
| 18 | Why do men think we’re dumb enough to believe the lie of “I’m not here often/don’t check this app often, so can I have your snap/insta/etc?”Thank you! I just couldn’t handle it anymore in my younger days when I was more naive. I’d willingly give away my number/Snapchat and all I got was a dick pic+ “you wanna come over and sit on it?” Like no sir, you really have nothing to offer. So now I’ve made it a policy to not give a man my number at all, and if I do it’ll be a fake until he proves his worth to have my actual number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:54 AM |
| 36 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.He was blocked after his message lol. I do not have time for scrotes his age to be disturbing my peace. 32 and ghosting women is pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:51 PM |
| 38 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.I try not to let it bother me, but it’s like “why bro”. I legit forgot about him and the date was so insignificant that I didn’t really care. He was just salty that some other dudes hit on me in front of his face as I walked into the beachside bar we went to. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:35 PM |
| 107 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.“Friendly hello” my ass you just realized you couldn’t find anything other than pickmes and you got bored. I’m not entertaining it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:27 PM |
| 38 | The first and last date I ever had with this dude was sometime last year...I actually forgot about him until he messaged me today.Like I get it you probably couldn’t get any after traveling the world and then having to come back because of COVID but don’t hit me up after ignoring me for so long asshat. I hate when people disturb my peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:26 PM |
| 27 | Pick-me garbage with 24 AWARDS saying women are ungrateful and we just don't know how to talk to menI went through her post history...definitely a woman, and from the one picture she posted from 1981 where she seemed to be maybe 10 or younger, she’s on the older end. Edit: After reading through some of her posts it would be insensitive of me to say what I said. There’s a valid reason for her to act like this—I just feel sorry that this is her world view due to what she went through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 12:03 PM |
| 17 | I said what I said 🙋🏽♀️I called a guy a boy and when he responded to an argument I’d made he kept saying “big boy 😎” He wanted me to applaud him for being fake woke. Like....do you want me to call up Pampers and tell them I scouted their next “big kid” for the toddler diapers? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Couldn’t use anything other than “cute” to describe my non-cutesy art. Mmkay.OkCupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:15 PM |
| 17 | What does this even mean? I can't figure out how either "I saw The Avengers in a theater" or "I like watching Friends" makes a woman less "girly," intellectual, or attractive.OH MY GOD THIS DUDE JUST POPPED UP ON MINE. The exact same profile 😂 His entire profile is just WTF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Couldn’t use anything other than “cute” to describe my non-cutesy art. Mmkay.Idk, to me it irks me because it’s typically used in a demeaning manner and I’ve worked for years against the trope of unicorns being cute and for little kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:43 AM |
| 34 | Couldn’t use anything other than “cute” to describe my non-cutesy art. Mmkay.He just made it worse by saying “I was calling the artist cute, I don’t really care what you draw” like bro you just fucked up all your chances with me 😂 And thank you so much! That means a lot! (I’m probably going to be spamming Reddit with my kitten more, especially now that she has an Instagram account lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:44 AM |
| 24 | Couldn’t use anything other than “cute” to describe my non-cutesy art. Mmkay.I got excited because he said he liked cats and he ruined any shot with me with that one comment. If you look in my post history, my art isn’t like...Pusheen the cat cute. I didn’t work 10 years on my novels/art for any of it to be called “cute”. 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:28 AM |
| 50 | And they wonder why they never get matches.I have been the female BFF 😂 I can guarantee a dude who has a close female friend is either having sex with her or has had sex with her. There’s no ifs, ands, and buts about it. They just stay “friends” because she typically isn’t his “dream girl” material, but good enough to fall back on if his girlfriend gets jealous of their suspiciously close relationship/they break up. I at least respected boundaries and did my best to keep my distance and only hang out with him if she was around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:09 AM |
| 73 | Tinder LingoGood god the hat thing is SO TRUE. I fell for that on the freaking LEAGUE dating app and I was definitely hatfished. Second date, he would tip his hat forward to scratch his head to avoid letting me see his receding hairline, but I caught on real quick. That was the last date for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:06 AM |
| 24 | And that’s the tea!Oooh I just got my first butthurt DM! These scrotes do know blocking exists right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 12:23 AM |
| 67 | And that’s the tea!Awww the poor babies how dare we call out their real intentions and hurt their feefees :c | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 08:37 PM |
| 94 | And that’s the tea!That’s exactly what I’ve done! It works like a charm, and if they give me hell I move on. Anal is bullshit. And no I actually wouldn’t entertain pegging but it makes them think about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 08:36 PM |
| 89 | And that’s the tea!Every guy I’ve been with that says he has a “HiGh sEx dRiVe” has been such a goddamn liar. Round 5 in the same day and I’m ready to go while they’re still struggling to get it up 😂 Like boy don’t talk to me about a high sex drive when you can only pump for one round lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 06:58 PM |
| 3 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:Yes, because this happened to me for six months. Do not let the guilt eat you up for doing what was right. I’m glad you didn’t give him what he wanted—he was a POS and I know you deserve much better sis. A therapist will be the best thing you can do for yourself right now. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:28 PM |
| 6 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:I completely understand, and I was in your shoes three years ago. I still have trouble some days, but I’m proud you’re taking steps to rebuild your faith in yourself, even if it’s extremely difficult some days. If it’s at all possible I would highly suggest therapy—that exposed a lot of pieces of the puzzle that I needed to be able to overcome a lot of the trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 06:17 AM |
| 21 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:I just wanted to say that to everyone here: I am so proud of you all for realizing your worth and getting out of a situation that was not meant for you. Don’t dwell of the “what-ifs”...what’s done is done and all you can do is look forward and be aware of certain behaviors. From one abuse survivor to another, a toast to all you ladies! 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:57 AM |
| 4 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:Agreed. I stayed in a situation that nearly did kill me for five years too long, but it’s a lesson learned and we are all better for it for coming out stronger in the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:54 AM |
| 2 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:You’re welcome!! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:54 AM |
| 2 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:💯 true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:53 AM |
| 5 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:I am so glad you caught him red-handed AND knew you had more self-respect to walk away and let him be in his own shit. Much love to you sis, I’m so proud! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:52 AM |
| 18 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:I completely empathize with this. My ex’s family still does not believe that their son nearly murdered me in our own apartment—I’m the evil bitch who sent him to prison for a few days. Block her number. She can go take her and her son’s toxicity and shove it up her arse. She won’t ever know the full story because I bet you ex has twisted it to make you look bad—they always do that. You don’t need that noise, and I am very proud that you’re taking the steps to move on. I’m here for you if you nee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:51 AM |
| 1 | And here we have a typical LVM getting butthurt because you have standards...BLOCKED.He was just mad because I wasn’t reciprocating his attraction to me. Like in the sense of “well if I can’t have you nobody else should be able to”. Dude had anger issues too, the last date we went on before I stopped talking to him, he casually mentioned he punches walls when he’s mad...thank god I was already back at my car and halfway out of his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:47 PM |
| 2 | And here we have a classic neg!The list I wrote; it’s in the comments here. Basically “swipe left if you”: etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:45 PM |
| 3 | And here we have a classic neg!See? I see this story repeat SO often. Dog person and person who either likes both or just likes cats move on together—soon enough the partner dumps their dog on their SO, who is now forced to take care of a dog that isn’t theirs, and it is usually poorly behaved to boot! I’m so sorry you had to deal with that sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 3 | And here we have a classic neg!That is exactly how I’ve been operating. If a guy can’t deal with my non-negotiables then what is the point of wasting my breath? And I don’t mind explaining, I like making it crystal clear that it’s not a hate I have, but a strong preference because of my personal experiences. I really appreciate the respect on FDS and how there’s none of the usual vitriol when I state my opinion 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 23 | And here we have a classic neg!I don’t hate them; I’m tolerant of well trained dogs but a majority of American society doesn’t bother to train their dogs well, which leads to the neurotic messes I’m usually exposed to (like the endless barking dogs that don’t let me sleep, the ones that have charged me for no reason, the ones that stare at you while you’re trying to just eat, the ones that claw you while trying to get all up in your shit when you have a nice dress on...etc.) Yes there’s plenty who have actually tried, but I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 11:37 AM |
| 12 | And here we have a classic neg!I have used filters, but somehow OkCupid allows dudes like these to slip past as long as I meet the dude’s filter requirements. But at least I can see the messages they send prior to actually matching with them, which saves time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 09:49 AM |
| 10 | And here we have a classic neg!Okay honestly this made me laugh pretty hard, thank you 😂 That was exactly my first thought when I saw this message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 09:47 AM |
| 22 | And here we have a classic neg!IMO I find that particular use of got damn to come from lower income/uneducated men 🤔 Most people say “god damn” but maybe I’m a high maintenance stickler for proper spelling lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 09:46 AM |
| 35 | And here we have a classic neg!Swipe left if you: • are only here for hookups or to “casually date” • are a “dog dad”(this one is specifically because I prefer cats and have been the victim of a dog attack, so I’m indifferent to them but find that a lot of male dog owners want to force me to love their “doggo” and hate cats because they’re “unfeeling”.) <—the parenthesis is not part of the list, I’m just explaining why I have this bullet point specifically. • aren’t emotionally over past relationships and still feel the need … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 09:30 AM |
| 25 | And here we have a classic neg!Not only that, but I’m guessing the high maintenance came from the fact that I have a short but direct list of “please don’t waste my time if any of the following applies to you”. 🤷🏻♀️ They just don’t like being called out when we start becoming woke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 09:06 AM |
| 67 | And here we have a classic neg!Already blocked and reported without a response to him, but damn, these short scrotes be angry about women they know they can’t get! (He was 5’7) Also thanks to OkCupid with that 85% match...algorithms suck 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:39 AM |
| 191 | I enjoy making them squirm before unmatching. My dear ladies, meet the king of Backpedal City 🤡. FYI, I wasn’t confused, I was fully aware. #CallThemOut2020!Oh my god “tell your story” like what?! I love seeing them backpedal and squirm, like...you don’t know how to ask women on a date....on a dating app...just say you’re here for sex and go dude 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 12:26 PM |
| 3 | I say, "It's mine bitch, it's just your turn. see yourself out."It is 5AM and I’m pretty sure the fam thinks I’m possessed or something because I’m laughing out loud at this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 12:09 PM |
| 3 | I moved on!Fellow big chested lady here! I’m so glad you’re seeing past the fog like I did earlier this year!! Your new goals sound fantastic ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:44 AM |
| 8 | I don’t rock up to a conversation saying “hey baldy”, why tf do stupid men think this is okay with someone you barely know? 👎🏽Had to deal with this last week, we were talking movies and me being an artist, I do appreciate animated movies, and I’ve seen a lot of them. He stated that his favorite Disney movie is “An American Tail”...when it’s actually a Don Bluth movie. So I told him this, and he was like “damn well I also liked Iron Giant, please tell me that’s Disney?” and I just said “nope”. He then responded with “aww, look at you you little artist” or something to that effect, basically comparing me to a child becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:42 AM |
| 4 | I don't know if depression is ruining my relationship or if I am.I hate being cynical, but she really needs to look out for herself. I’m all for working for a relationship with a good HVM; but this dude ain’t it. I know too many stories of too many women staying with guys who decide to magically change their ways, especially wanting to go to the gym. He had plenty of time to do that earlier to change for her, but the new gym mindset coming out of nowhere is super suspicious. More often than not the new mindset is for a new girl or just so the guy themselves c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:50 AM |
| 5 | I don't know if depression is ruining my relationship or if I am.I’m pretty sure it’s because you’re ignoring the common denominator of why you’re feeling like this...4.5 years of no change and now he’s deciding to ✨magically ✨try and turn things around? This reeks of peacocking for someone new. But again, you don’t want to listen to any of us, you just want some sort of validation to stay in a relationship that is clearly making you miserable. You could leave and find someone who can do all of what he’s doing now, but not at the last possible minute like you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:25 PM |
| 13 | I don't know if depression is ruining my relationship or if I am.Girl you’re doing it again. The rose colored glasses need to come off. We can’t help you if you don’t want to be helped. I was not asking for a comparison between your boyfriend and my friend’s boyfriend. I was trying to drive home the point that a “nice guy” shouldn’t be the reason why you stay and be miserable. Of COURSE the threat of you leaving has “made him change”. My ex was brilliant at this. He’d do all this “oh I promise babe I’ll be better” and actually showed it...for like three month… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:00 PM |
| 21 | Realizing he’s not that into youDid we date the same dude? Because that’s exactly what happened to me, even up to the sleeping on his chest while he scrolled through social media! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:53 PM |
| 10 | I don't know if depression is ruining my relationship or if I am.Have you tried to get therapy? It seems like you might be at that point where you need professional intervention. And from the last post I read that you made, it seems that you really just want to make excuses for your boyfriend’s shitty behavior, no matter how “nice” he is to you. Basic niceness is not the end all, be all in a relationship. He should be doing far more. Don’t be like my beautiful friend, wasting her youth and two years now with a “sweet nice guy”. Oh he’s sweet of course, but gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:47 PM |
| 48 | Waitress isn't playing around with sexual harassmentI would’ve decked him in the face but that was pretty amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:36 PM |
| 8 | I just wanted a wheelchair...If you do tell him this ain’t it lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:36 PM |
| 14 | I just wanted a wheelchair...Oh my god as if I wasn’t already dying of laughter this is beautiful 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 06:21 AM |
| 47 | I just wanted a wheelchair...Context: Made a public post asking for a wheelchair that I could buy/borrow off someone to use on a trip because of my surgery, and this dude apparently thought that meant I was looking for a man 😂🤣 He’s also like in his 40’s from the pic I saw... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 06:10 AM |
| 11 | ‘Shes just a friend babe, stop being so insecure!!’For real!! I’m laughing my ass off because I have been at the hands of several exes with female friends who were a little too close for comfort—good to know I wasn’t the psycho! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:44 AM |
| 12 | ‘Shes just a friend babe, stop being so insecure!!’Whew child the tea is HOT today!!! 🍵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:41 AM |
| 77 | *LVM men be like...I was trapped in this for a month (thank god), because it turned out he just wanted to get laid, but had to emotionally manipulate me into thinking he also wanted a relationship so he could get me in bed. Then claimed things were "going too fast" for him, and that I was pressuring him. Bro...when is one date (scheduled BY HIM) every week pressure? XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 10:26 PM |
| 14 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMThat’s exactly me!! I bent over backwards, made a house into a home, and every other little thing that my PickMe self thought a man wanted based off of what they said they wanted for a “perfect future wife”, and I still got tossed out. It’s like that other post on here about how when you’re a woman of value dating a man who knows he’s not at your level, he will judge you for having the audacity to like him because even HE doesn’t like himself. It’s whack! I’m tired too, and I’m so glad you poste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:08 PM |
| 14 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMHoly shit this just described every past relationship of mine with LVMs in excruciating detail. All these dudes had the same exact MO, broke or doing well for themselves. Especially the ones who are doing well for themselves—there is always a telling sign or two somewhere in their life that everything isn’t as it seems. And it’s true, if you’re just willing to throw yourself a pity party every time things go wrong instead of flipping the script and saying “hey I can do better for myself” then ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:37 PM |
| 63 | STAY WOKE, ladies. Unless you’re The One to him, men have no problem stringing you along and playing mental gymnastics. Also, no answer is also an answer.I thank this sub for helping me figure this out. I wasted literal years of my life that I could’ve been educating myself and leveling up—but hey, better late than never!! 👩🏻🎓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 10:24 PM |
| 18 | ... spot the red flags??? wtfIf you guys haven’t read the manifesto Elliot Rodger posted before he went on his rampage...well, that explains his entire worldview and is pretty much the incel Bible at this point. His sense of entitlement was insane, and he expected beautiful women to just walk up and start talking to him without making any effort himself to approach girls. When he “attempted” to approach women, he was still a wallflower, but blamed it on other men and girls. He literally threw coffee at two girls walking dow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 24 | Idiot at r/nicegirls tries to shame woman who called him out on his noncommittal fuckboy nonsense and he gets dragged in the comments insteady’all I almost had a panic attack thinking some asshole had posted one of MY texts from my past OLD days 😂 Because I have texted almost word for word what she said in the past. But after looking through the thread, I realized it wasn’t me...whew! It is hilarious seeing him get dragged in the comments for being an ass when they got the full context of the convo lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 08:25 PM |
| 20 | Girl has sex with her “boyfriend” on his flea ridden mattress. Shit makes me sadBRO WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK WHY HASN’T SHE LEFT?! Oh my god I just can’t!!! This has to be one of the worst advice stories I’ve read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:41 AM |
| 7 | The nonsense men read to convince themselves they are high valueMy ex cheated multiple times just because he was insecure as fuck and because he thought his skinny ass was the shit 🙄 The girls he cheated with were a downgrade from me (one was 20 looking like a 50 year old woman). My former PickMe self was petty though...so I got him back by hooking up with two extremely attractive men(not at the same time) after leaving his ass to go flirt/sleep with whatever manic pixie dream girl caught his eye 🤷🏻♀️ So no, cheating is not gonna earn men an ounce of respec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 05:14 AM |
| 6 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityI agree with the person who said “comparison is the thief of joy.” I’m 5’8, more leg than torso, and I love to wear heels, which intimidates the manlets. It’s why I make it one of the many things that if I decide to date a guy, he’d better be okay with my height. On the other hand, I’ve suffered insecurities all my life because while I have an hourglass figure (with big boobs, a little belly, and a butt), I can never look truly “snatched” in the waist without getting ribs removed. It’s pretty mu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯I’m ashamed to say I’ve never noticed that, but now that you bring it up...it is a pretty common narrative. As an artist it also pisses me off how art made by men is referred to as “art”, but it can never be more than a hobby for women, even if she is a successful artist with galleries. I’m glad you clarify and make them think about what they’ve said! It’s for reasons like this that I feel publishing under a gender neutral/male sounding name might be for the best to get my stories out in the wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 06:08 PM |
| 5 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Thank you! It’s just too much mental energy that I could use on more useful things. And really, I’m done bending over backwards for men who couldn’t care less about what I like. I wasted years of my life pretending to like what I actually hated, and accepted that they wouldn’t ever entertain my interests that make me happy. If my good friends can go through a day at the museum with me or sit and let me talk about some historical event at length...then the right guy is willing to do the same, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:54 AM |
| 8 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Big time. I guess if you wanna expose yourself and how uneducated you are/intimidated by women who are of substance...well, you do you boo 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:50 AM |
| 29 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯I did, I had just hit send on my response to his first paragraph just as he finished typing this BS, and then I was like “I promised myself I wasn’t gonna expend energy explaining what kind of person I am to some LVM nobody who can’t even spell at 30 years of age.” I take my writing and books seriously, and one of my dealbreakers is outright disrespect for me and my hobbies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:45 AM |
| 22 | On Trauma and MenThank you so much for posting this. I’ve gone through a lot of the same BS from LVM in my pickmeisha days, and as a fellow CPTSD sufferer, it’s never fun when you’re pushed to a place where the memories come back. I’m so happy to hear you’re getting help and healing sis. I support you 100% 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:32 AM |
| 10 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯I guess being a novelist who likes history and cultural things means you’re snooty these days lmfao...like he knew I wrote novels so I’m not sure what the hell he meant haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 08:27 AM |
| 21 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Also my favorite pet peeve: your instead of you’re 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:54 AM |
| 9 | Newsflash: Intelligent women are scary y’all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯For those wondering about my response, I had responded to what he’d said prior to this second message...but for real, I’m so over dudes who are scared of intellectual women lol 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:20 AM |
| 1 | How to explain to my mom my view on children/marrying?He intervenes and usually tries to change the subject, but he does agree that I’m being negative about guys my age. :/ He supports that I can do what I want with my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | 6 Figure Careers for a HVWExecutive assisting if you can land with a good company, the median in big cities in the US is about $70K and up. A lot of these positions require a bachelor’s at the very least, or equivalent experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 10:42 PM |
| 5 | Yesterday my [21F] boyfriend [24M] slapped me for not putting enough makeup on before we had sex. It was the first time he hit me. He apologised last night. Should I give him another chance or dump him now?I pray that she leaves this asshat. I don’t want her to make the same mistake I did. If she stays, it’s going to get worse. The first time my ex hurt me was when he twisted my wrist because I wanted to leave since we were going to be late to meet with my cousin, and he hadn’t found something he was looking for. He knew he’d done wrong and kept saying “I understand if you want to leave me now.” For me at that age, it was so minuscule that I brushed it off, but every subsequent attack after became… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:11 AM |
| 24 | Marriage for the vast majority of women has historically been indentured servitude or outright slavery. Men who think they’re “scaring” us by saying we’ll end up alone....So...what? You think you’re threatening us by offering NOT slavery?🤔You took the words out of my mouth sis! I feel this so hard 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:19 AM |
| 6 | Never date men who self-identify as “Gamers.”This is exactly why I will never date another gamer again. One was terrible with time management, didn't care to improve himself, ate like shit, still lived at home, didn't give a shit about graduating from college when he needed just an internship to finish...but he had plenty of time to game from 12-3AM every night on schedule with his (mostly) unemployed nerd friends. My ex-LTR would stay playing LoL from 10PM-6AM, and I always got the "just one more game" excuse when I called him to come to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 01:08 AM |
| 54 | More red flags than a communist parade! 🚩🚩🚩🤦🏻♀️I was just looking at her comments in disbelief...like you’re uncomfortable but you’re cherry picking what to answer to when the overwhelming majority is saying to leave? It’s like she’s really just trying to find a way to justify this dude’s actions 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:27 AM |
| 18 | Another disgusting sexual term... pickme would rather risk getting pregnant than having safe sex...I’m ashamed that I was one of this kind of kinkmeisha...all because I thought it would make a guy stay if he had that kind of special access to me 🤦🏻♀️ Newsflash: it did not. The mental gymnastics to think this is cool is not worth the risk, especially now that I’m older and realize that I’m very lucky I didn’t catch anything or get pregnant while on birth control. I hope this girl wises up and just stops doing this for her own health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Male friends? What are your thoughts/ experiences? + little storyI think I only have...two good male friends. We’ve all known each other since high school(about 10 years now), and at this point we’re literally just bros with each other. I know for certain they’re not and do not plan on trying to do anything funny with me, which I know is extremely rare with male friends. But I truly value their friendship. They’ve been there for me when I really needed them with no expectations. One took me back to my parents’ and made sure I was okay when I was separating fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 05:57 AM |
| 9 | Anyone else just done with dating?Same feeling here. I’ve officially thrown in the towel at the ripe old age of 25, and deleted all OLD apps. While my family thinks that my “negative” attitude towards dating won’t help me find a guy, I’d rather be single and happy than dealing with another LVM again, since they seem to just absolutely love the thought of me, but that’s as far as it goes(at least in my past experiences). Plus side is, I broke my foot four days ago and caused a rare fracture, so I’m looking at 4-6 months to full r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣I don’t even know why Skylar is? Nor do I care lol. And for the record I’m Latina 💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:33 AM |
| 12 | Satisfaction from scaring/intimidating men?Story of my life!! Besides some of the guys I dated (they were a different breed of LVM) a majority of guys I went on dates with from OLD were quite literally scared of me, because I was so intimidating. It used to confuse me and make me feel like maybe I should tone myself down...and I still got ghosted. I like to think that maybe it’s my dark eyes that’re so intimidating haha. Either way, I stopped stepping down just to bend over backwards and show these LVM that “hey I’m not so scawwy uwu”! F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:24 AM |
| 24 | Their is always a part of me that wants to be nice and give ugly guys a chance..Don’t feel bad. I “dated” down thinking he was a safe choice and that maybe I should give a dude who was not my usual type a “chance” (and also partly because my friend really wanted us to get together because we had so much in common). Point is, after a month of dating me, he decided that he was “never attracted” to me from the beginning. For the record I’m pretty evenly distributed for an hourglass shape, and I’m conventionally attractive. And this was coming from the mouth of a dude who had g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 07:56 AM |
| 20 | Early signs he's no good in bed or with communication11, 12, 14, and 15 are definitely the last guy I dated. Every day was a meltdown about how much he hated his job at Panera and how it was making him depressed, so I was like “find another job?” And this boy said “yeah I’m working on it but the other two options I have that would pay way better are with my stepdad and I hate him.” 🤦🏻♀️ (BIG RED FLAG HERE BTW: 🚩If he has a shitty relationship with his family, especially the father figures for no good reason other than pressuring them to be someon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:11 AM |
| 52 | Early signs he's no good in bed or with communicationI had an OLD guy promise to call me via FaceTime at 8:00. I was ready, but by 8:10 I’d heard nothing so I went back to working on art. He texts me at 8:30 saying “hey sorry are you still available?” And I said “I don’t appreciate people who aren’t punctual”, and promptly blocked him. My tolerance is extremely low even for little things like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:01 AM |
| 18 | My friend is a model on IG...here‘a an example that men will still be just as depraved no matter what 🤢I am not sure but she loves picking these ones out and publicly shaming them/sharing the really NSFW messages she gets. It’s just nasty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:38 PM |
| 7 | Was driving places this past weekend and noticed an interesting thing: some men lllove cutting you off or turn right in front of you once they see a you’re a woman. It’s like they are 💯 positive that they can do that safety just cause you’re a woman, no repercussions here. And I absolutely hate it.It’ll probably get me killed one day by some psycho who carries a gun in his car (for reasons unknown), but one of my favorite things to do is piss scrotes off on the road. Let me explain: You know those men who honk at you .2 seconds after the light has turned green? I like to mess with them by just not moving. They think their little honk is gonna make me move? Now I am considerate if there are people behind him, I only pause for a few seconds before moving along, but I’ll intentionally drive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Why do guys run when you expect them to get to know you?I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling like this. The last and final LVM I wasted my time on pretended that he was into my goals/dreams, but looking back it was a VERY shallow interest until he got me into bed. I’ve probably said it half a dozen times but I’m currently working on a novel series that I’ve deemed my life goal to publish and put out into the world (alongside my career and stuff like that). I’ve been developing the story since high school, and the characters/plot line is very near an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 06:18 PM |
| 10 | On 90 Day Fiance Rose stands up for herself and calls out Big Ed for humiliating her and lying. Reminder to not take shit from men 💅I have no clue why they would cast him at all!! It’s like they’re intentionally putting women in danger. Here’s where I read about the stuff he did: https://www.reddit.com/r/90DayFiance/comments/fal4gt/geoffrey_paschel_is_an_absolute_monster_his/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:24 PM |
| 37 | On 90 Day Fiance Rose stands up for herself and calls out Big Ed for humiliating her and lying. Reminder to not take shit from men 💅Out of those three idk who I dislike the most 😂 They’re all horrible! My mom hates Geoffrey though, when he showed up for the first time my mom was instantly like “no something about his eyes screams abuser.” I hadn’t even told her about Geoffrey abusing a past ex wife yet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 06:02 PM |
| 11 | Men finding you attractive? Be very aware, is it really such a compliment?Maybe you’re my doppelgänger 😂 But seriously!! They never want to actually get to know us, the MO seems to be “hot enough to fuck but not to keep around.” And honestly? That’s why I ignore men now when they compliment me, it’s all a mask so they can get in my pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:11 AM |
| 46 | Men finding you attractive? Be very aware, is it really such a compliment?Wow...reading that stuff about what they’d do to AOC made me sick to my stomach. I’m decently attractive for a curvy girl, and let me tell you when a guy says you’re attractive, 90% really just mean “I’d fuck you so I can say I fucked a hot girl but nothing more than that.” Trust me, it happened with my last LVM relationship(pre-FDS) where I was duped into believing he actually wanted something serious until he got access to my V. He just wanted to say he was able to get a girl out of his league… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:54 PM |
| 55 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.Okay y'all here's a story...my apologies for the incoming essay. I was one of those girls who saw my ex get into subsequent relationships after our breakup and saw how well he was treating them, with everything that I always had asked him for. Mind you, we had dated for six years, and here's a list of what happened: he cheated 10x on me (several times in our OWN APARTMENT) and it's a miracle I didn't catch anything. it's mentally traumatizing hearing the man you supposedly love moaning alongside… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 01:49 AM |
| 8 | Commitment phobiaThank you so much for this. In my dating past post my abusive LTR, I seemed to get involved with a lot of commitment phobic men. Downloaded the book just now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Facts.Oh my god 😂😂 This is brilliant and so damn true haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 07:17 PM |
| 90 | Yes yes yes yes yesI feel so horrible for laughing because this was me for six years of my life but man it’s so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:07 AM |
| 88 | Any women never went through a "hoe phase"? Or practiced voluntary celibacy and entered a successful relationship later on?Looking for advice.So basically he’s looking for a woman who he has easy sexual access to for his depravity. He may sound like an HVM on paper, but he’s definitely not an HVM with what you’ve told us he said. An HVM would respect that and not think it weird or unusual, and I highly doubt the word “corrupt” would come out of his mouth. I’m sorry girl, but you deserve better and should dump his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 11:11 PM |
| 14 | does anyone else have this loneliness that never really goes away?I’m also anxious-attached, and I used to be just like you, falling head over heels for the first guy to show me even one iota of decency, after a six year abusive relationship that gave me PTSD. Then I’d get rejected for being a huge Pickme, and the loneliness would consume me. For me personally, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and my therapist told me that those of us with ADHD do suffer from rejection sensitive dysphoria, which does make rejection feel like the end of the world. It’s something that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:44 AM |
| 20 | Why Amazing Women get Rejected by Men Who Can’t Match ThemYou know I was starting to think something was wrong with me even though I’m doing everything right, but still have a hard time in the dating world. The men come, but they don’t stay. And even for the ones I did date short term, they ended up chasing discount Pickmeisha versions of me, which I find awfully amusing. Ever since I started working on myself and became more ambitious, I’m seeing a lot more LVM remove themselves early because of XYZ reasons that have nothing to do with me and everythi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 04:41 PM |
| 28 | I tried to breakup with my boyfriend today and backed outFor your own sanity, break up with him. Even if it means just texting him “we’re over” and blocking him if that’s the easiest way to do it. You shouldn’t waste energy on a manipulative guy who can’t peacefully agree to disagree without bashing your religion and beliefs. I get it’s not for everyone (former Catholic turned deist here), but there is NO reason he should be pulling any of that shit with you. You have your life to live girl. Don’t waste another second on this waste of air. I know you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Maybe bias confirmation.. but anyone else notice HOW MANY Sagittarius men there are on dating apps?In my past experience I always seemed to get involved with emotionally unavailable Leo’s, it’s like they love Scorpios like me 😂 I don’t give too much credit to astrology but it was just funny to notice that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 06:54 PM |
| 15 | Comments are shaming the OP for not wanting to stick it out with borderline obese bf who refuses to eat like an adult even though she says she isn’t concerned about his looks and only about his health🤦♀️God this reminds me of the last guy I dated...he loved bragging about how much he could eat and how he could polish off an entire box of Little Caesar’s pizza, and I saw that shit in real time and was horrified. 🤢 I can only eat one piece of pizza, maybe two if I’m really hungry. He and his friend circle also thought it was funny that his closest buddy hated vegetables to the point where he actively avoided them, at 23 years old. I am not thin by any means, but I do eat healthy for the most part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 07:39 AM |
| 3 | Reminder: LVM say anything to get what they want.Honestly this was better than reading the news at 8:30 in the morning 😂😂 I can smell the pathetic from here lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 03:48 PM |
| 10 | More antecdotal proof that men prioritize physical type over anything else, even if they don't know it. Don't waste your time if you're not his physical type.This is 100% what terrifies me about dating these days. The last dude I dated loved to drown me in comments about how hot, sexy, beautiful, etc I was, only for him to turn around and tell my friend who set us up that he was never attracted to me. Maybe in this particular situation it would’ve been helpful for her to y’know, maybe not omit the fact that months before she set us up, they’d been going through girls he thought were attractive on Tinder, and they were typically tomboyish girls who lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 01:34 AM |
| 23 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?Oh my god there’s way too many to list, but here’s some from my abusive ex that I stayed with for six years: -willingly became the side chick to the chick he had cheated on me with after not speaking for months, and then once he was tired of her I was the main chick again -cooked/cleaned/did his laundry -drove him when he didn’t have a car -accepted the cheating and pornsickness to try and be the “cool girlfriend” And from an LD situationship where I was SO stupid (post the long term ex): -didn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 08:15 AM |
| 28 | And here we have a typical LVM getting butthurt because you have standards...BLOCKED.Oh no he followed up with “your relationships only last two weeks and then you have a mental breakdown like a crazy person” 😂 Last I checked my three relationships lasted several months to six years at the most but that was in my former pick me stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 12:23 AM |
| 28 | And here we have a typical LVM getting butthurt because you have standards...BLOCKED.He was mad because I don’t want to date him, and naturally because of the lockdown he wanted to “check in” on me because he was keeping tabs on me like...what a damn creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 11:55 PM |
| 16 | Don’t explain why you’re leaving. Just leave. He doesn’t care and it gasses him up to know he upset you. Literally ghost him from your life for maximum damage potential and move the fuck on.Man I’m so guilty of the emotional text or literally BEGGING to still be in that POS’s life! Looking back I cringe because I’m like “really?? All that emotional crap for some LVM who never even liked me in the first place?” Fuck that. Never again, I know my damn worth. 👌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Attachment StyleI definitely have an anxious attachment, and I’ve been working on trying to break the cycle of being attracted to avoidant attached boys while trying to become secure myself. When I first read about the different styles in Attached, a lot of my misery in my dating life made sense, and FDS has helped a lot with learning to weed out a lot of the avoidant men. I’m wondering though, is it even possible for someone (like me) to change their attachment type or is it something you just need to work wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | A observation on men and reading...Oh dear god you can’t write well without reading, that’s like...common sense lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | A observation on men and reading...I’m about a few months out from getting my degree in business administration from UCLA, so I’m pretty stoked. I’m definitely snobby with some of my books too, so I feel ya there. But your insight has been super helpful. Because of where I am in California, my entire city is shut down for any sort of meetup because of the virus, which threw a wrench into the meetups I was scheduled to join. :( But hopefully when this all blows over I can get myself into those social circles and find educated/well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:55 PM |
| 5 | A observation on men and reading...Man I wish I had book recommendations on some of my dates instead of news on the latest sport or video game lol. And you’re right, intelligence doesn’t necessarily correlate to a good partner, some guys use that kind of brain power for manipulation and that’s terrifying too. I’ll have to look at that book, the summary’s pretty intriguing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:50 PM |
| 5 | A observation on men and reading...This killed me hahaha 😂 Or worse yet, Catcher in the Rye: “I just...really relate to Holden y’know?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:46 PM |
| 2 | What’s your enneagram?ESTP and a tri-type 2-4-6 on the enneagram. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 12:03 AM |
| 11 | A observation on men and reading...Also a very true point. And I feel you, I like to read fiction a lot, so much that my novels I’m working on are fiction. I guess just in my experience of the guys I’ve run into, they’ve substituted their lack of reading with video games and movies, which is fine in moderation, but they were often prioritizing those above more important things like graduating from university or finding a better job. But again, thank you so much for this perspective too. Some guys really can be more arrogant becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 06:30 PM |
| 11 | A observation on men and reading...I did not consider that. I think what I meant was more like on top of other interests, because being an avid reader alone and antisocial is definitely not a good sign. Thank you for the insight from that perspective though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 04:25 PM |
| 20 | A observation on men and reading...You’re 100% right on that as well. Intellectual growth is just an extremely important thing to me. I do also watch a lot of documentaries and podcasts myself, so perhaps I should look into their thoughts on those as well during the vetting process. Thank you for bringing that to light! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.Ladies I thought we were supposed to be a community, but I saw a few comments here that didn’t sit well. I didn’t post this with the intention of “embarrassing myself” for doing what I was supposed to do, or “karma farming”, I could care less about that. I just thought it was amusing to share the absolute stupidity of LVMs and OF COURSE he was unmatched and blocked after my last message. I love FDS, but the attitude of some of y’all is really not cool to those of us who are still learning and st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.I 100% did after my last reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 09:44 PM |
| 35 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.Like bitch I just said dinner, never once did I say a five star restaurant but since you suggested it yeah now I want a five star restaurant 😂 I think he’s the one tripping reacting like this because I didn’t agree with getting drunk so he could (hopefully) get pussy lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 05:57 AM |
| 23 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.That’s exactly how I feel. I’m still learning that the best way is just to kill them with kindness/silence. Unmatch and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:37 AM |
| 50 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.Will do this next time, I’m still learning the ropes of not accepting low effort stuff like this. I did just unmatch him when I said what I said there. It wasn’t worth it even with the long period of time I was taking to answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 12:35 AM |
| 44 | I am so over this—second person blocked this week“(my name) there’s a good chance it’s not going to be me. I’m willing to find out but if it’s not I would still love to be your ally and advocate and try and help you accomplish everything you want in life 🥰” And I’ve never met him in person but apparently he’s told me he’s also dreaming about me and I’m like “okay this is creepy bye” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 05:38 AM |
| 4 | When he calls you beautiful/gorgeous/sexy, don’t believe itGod if I had a quarter for everytime I heard that...it’s like I know I’m gorgeous but you’re lying and I know it. However, I’d really like to know how to counter it properly. I usually say just “thank you”, and leave the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:58 AM |
| 3 | If he cheats on you, that’s mean your pu$$y is trash 🤦🏽♀️Oh definitely for sure haha. And like, I think it’s because he knew his dick was average size. Luckily he did care about getting me off first but definitely not the best sex I’ve had, I’ve had bigger than average and those guys have never once complained about me being “loose” so idk what his issue was 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:00 AM |
| 8 | If he cheats on you, that’s mean your pu$$y is trash 🤦🏽♀️Exactly!! Man this just reminds me of my last situationship, dude was talking about how tight I was and how he couldn’t wait to see me soon, and I was like really? And he said “no actually you’re not super tight.” 😂 Men are dumb lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 09:48 PM |
| 11 | If he cheats on you, that’s mean your pu$$y is trash 🤦🏽♀️I legit got a DM not too long ago quoting my comment from a male lurker here trying to explain why I was wrong lol. Scrotes really don’t know shit lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 09:35 PM |
| 48 | If he cheats on you, that’s mean your pu$$y is trash 🤦🏽♀️I never understood the whole pu$$y thing, especially coming from LVM. Like that’s the first thing they blame for not being able to control themselves. I hate how we’re also categorized by “tight” vs “loose” vags....like that’s not even scientifically correct? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:01 PM |
| 2 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is EstablishedThank you so much for the advice!! I will keep it in mind for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 10:50 PM |
| 10 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is EstablishedQuestion: How often should you be available to go on dates with a guy so as not to appear too available? My usual go to is once a week for an hour at minimum, but I’m not sure if even that’s too much? Do keep in mind that I keep myself super busy with friends/work/my own artistic pursuits, just so that I can avoid becoming a PickMe again. And if I don’t have anything to do on a particular day I have lied just to appear like i am busy. I was horrendously available in the past and I never want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Women who stand up for the other person in your story, even when they don't know themOh I did. I realized too that it’s very likely she acted like this because she may have ulterior motives for herself regarding the guy. She’s told me she loves her kid but sometimes wishes she was single again and with no kid (she had a kid by accident with her current husband even though he “said” he wanted to wait till marriage but I think he manipulated her). Like she clearly states her looking happy about being married with a kid in her early 20’s is kind of a lie because she missed out on p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Women who stand up for the other person in your story, even when they don't know themHoly shit. I did the absolute same when I found out some “friends” of mine still spoke and interacted with my abuser because according to them he’d always been the “class clown” and they couldn’t see how a beanpole of a guy could be physically capable of almost killing someone like me(I’m tall but curvy). I cut them off immediately. They didn’t know what it was like being held prisoner in your own apartment and being tortured because you were kind enough to put up with bullshit. I’m so glad you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 02:14 PM |
| 20 | FDS is NOT and will NEVER BE anything like The RedPill or MGTOW, and we are NOT incels. They’re playing tiddly-winks and we’re playing expert level chess.I’m so damn happy I found this sub because I spent a majority of my life being walked on as a Pickmeisha and it was really messing with my mental health seeing how a large majority of guys view women. If they wanna play the “game” of dating, we should be able to play as well, especially because we have far more to lose. On a side note, my father (a definite HVM) has watched me suffer and I told him I joined FDS, and after talking about it he is so ecstatic that women are finally taking back thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 01:41 AM |
| 28 | Women who stand up for the other person in your story, even when they don't know themIt’s reassuring to read these messages because now more than ever I’m not afraid of trusting my intuition. Case in point-my friend of ten years introduced me to a guy friend she’d only known two years. They were pretty decent friends, so when he and I started going out, he seemed awesome at the onset. That is, until a couple days before our second date, she told me “hey so A told me something he didn’t want me to tell you, but don’t worry it won’t affect your relationship.” First of all why do y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 11:43 PM |
| 20 | can’t wait to come forward with all the fucked up sexist shit that’s held me back in my career only to have libfems bash me for it bc I’m hot and refuse to take on any kind of “digestible” victim identity No wonder I’m having horrible luck in freaking SoCal, it’s horrible how entitled men are here. I’m definitely considering moving once I get my certification done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 10:57 PM |
| 19 | Dating in Asia vs the westThat’s exactly why I cut off all my previous FWB relationships because frankly, it is just that: free pussy with no strings attached. I’m not playing into that game like I did when I was 19 and super naive. Wanting to fit in as a young woman is so true when it comes to dating, and I blame a lot of society and men in their 20’s who perpetuate casual sex as a normal thing when it’s not. I had a lot of guys from 23-25 take advantage of the fact that I was young and dumb to pursue FWB relationships … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:29 PM |
| 50 | Dating in Asia vs the westI completely agree with you. For whatever reason, there’s just a disproportionately high number of guys who feel entitled to women in the States, and it seems like there’s even more of a concentration of guys like that in big cities(I’m from CA, it’s a shitshow here no matter which city you move to). I had a completely different experience going to Germany and Spain for three weeks. Don’t get me wrong, there was still plenty of fuckboys and LVM’s to be found on OLD, but for the guys who I vetted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 97 | I was reading replies from non-cheating married who were asked why they had refrained from cheating on their wives. The overwhelming response?I have a friend who is a model, and not in the sense of an “Instagram model”. She’s represented by actual agency, blah blah all that. The point is, she met a man in his late twenties who found massive success in the tobacco industry. He wined and dined her, gave her her own black AMEX card or whatever the big bucks credit card is nowadays, buys her countless high end items, and treats her like a queen. The secret? She loves him, but she never reveals all the cards emotionally. To him, there’s st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:57 AM |
| 4 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?He’s 100% still emotionally entangled and not over it, regardless of what the situation is. This was something he told me was going to go down the engagement/marriage track until she one day said she liked him more as a friend than a boyfriend after five years together(they were friends first), and that she found other people more attractive. But see, at one point in my life, when I was with my abusive ex and bending backwards for him, I allowed myself to be the side chick to a girl my ex had ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:12 AM |
| 5 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?That’s the thing, I’m wanting commitment as as long as the man initiates it and makes it crystal clear that he is worth it. But three dates is too soon for me to really know him, and for him to start a convo with a screenshot of my tinder bio and then asking me about it in an accusatory tone ? Plus the passive aggressive way of asking? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:07 AM |
| 8 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Now see, this is how I felt about the situation when this all happened last night. However, he never told me that he’s basically at his ex’s place three times a week to “babysit” the cat they owned while she “goes out so much that she’s barely home” I own cats and they’re pretty independent as is besides food and water. Also, this is three dates in and he’s sitting and telling me that he’s already exclusive towards me (see my previous comments for the text he sent me not too long after this), an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:49 AM |
| 2 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:43 AM |
| 5 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?I 100% do believe he is an LVM. I’m anxious enough as it is myself with what I have going on my professional life, I don’t need another person exactly like that to be my partner. If this was me several months ago my answer would’ve been different, but this former Pickmeisha knows her worth now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:43 AM |
| 4 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?He’s been nexted. 3 dates and wanting commitment is not good regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?That’s what I kept saying, because I know for damn sure I wasn’t going to be begging/asking him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:41 AM |
| 6 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Y’all, he’s been blocked since earlier today, but I thank you all for your valuable input. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 02:40 AM |
| 5 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Honestly idk. He had plenty of time to have this convo with me in real life but couldn’t somehow verbalize that. I feel like a lot of LVM hide behind the security of a screen because like my interpersonal communications professor said, people like him are not comfortable with having uncomfortable conversations, so they’d rather use texting/communication through another person instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 11:34 PM |
| 6 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?This repost is from earlier, but I think he’s just trying to rush shit to try and get me into bed thinking I’m just another fool. He told me this in the same convo: “But I am serious about you and I’m already exclusive towards you. I won’t ask you to do the same at this point, but if you get to the point where you trust me enough to be exclusive with me, just let me know.” Like that’s your problem honey I’m free to do and see who I want until a man worth my time makes it known that he wants to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 11:32 PM |
| 10 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Nah he’s just lonely because his ex of five years decided she was never interested in him from the start and he moved out. My mom has me questioning if that shit is even true 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:54 PM |
| 16 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?That’s 100% what my last situationship did to me because my dumb ass told him. I didn’t even mention that to this one, but he’s probably done it to other girls so I’m just “another one” to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:52 PM |
| 12 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Honestly my last situationship was like that as well. He was talking about sex on the second date when our making out got hot and heavy, but tried to cover it with “but only if you’re comfortable”. A couple weeks later he “didn’t expect me to be with him physically” and felt like I “was having sex in order to keep him”. Like fuck that noise, your dick sucked anyways 😒 I’m sorry you went through that kind of bullshit too. LVM’s have an entire handbook of excuses that they constantly refer back to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:50 PM |
| 4 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?100% facts 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:45 PM |
| 25 | I am a longtime lurker at r/breakingmom, and I suggest reading through posts there flaired “man rant” to see the extent to which LVM treat their wives and children with no respect. It will sober you up if you’re ever doubting incorporating FDS into your life.Reading through the sub definitely gave me flashbacks to my Pick Me days when I would beg the men i was with to give me any sort of attention that was 100% focused on their video games. That’s the pattern I saw on a lot of the stories there. Husband plays video games while wife suffers with kids and/or postpartum depression. I’m all for playing video games to unwind, but not to the point where you place it as a priority to the point where it IS an addiction that has gone unchecked. It’s sad that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:17 PM |
| 19 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?He was the one who set the tone and NOW he’s blaming me for it? No thank you. No moves to try and kiss me or let alone even HUG me after a date. I mean, what do you expect me to react with if I’m getting no sort of attention besides getting my food/coffee paid for? Of course I’m gonna treat him like a friend. Saying “get home safe” is nice and all but some physical touch would be more of a dead ringer for “hey I’m attracted to you”. But because of you lovely ladies, I’m no longer begging men for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:14 PM |
| 15 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?Right?! Like most guys would start a convo way differently if they haven’t heard from the girl they supposedly like. Not screenshot of tinder bio followed by “man I really feel like I’m on r/murderedbywords right now, I already wasn’t getting super positive vibes off you, but it also hurts to know this is how you felt about our dates” This gem is from the same convo: “But I am serious about you and I’m already exclusive towards you. I won’t ask you to do the same at this point, but if you get to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:10 PM |
| 15 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?You’re 100% right and I do not need that kind of fuckery right now. I feel bad for taking so long to actually take action because he did have good career minded qualities I was looking for prior to these issues cropping up on date 3/post date 3. But it’s a learning process as a recovering Pickmeisha and I know I’ll get better with the automatic vetting as time goes by. I blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:58 PM |
| 55 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?I’m just going to tell him that I don’t see this going anywhere. Besides this, he seems to have a lack of boundaries with his ex girlfriend, the relationship he mentioned in that text. I didn’t see it initially but now that I think about it, it’s a huge red flag. At first, I thought it was kind of him to babysit his former roomie’s cat every once in a while and I like cats, so I was like “oh well that’s kind of you”, but he never specified the gender of said roomie. And then I noticed he was bab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:51 PM |
| 19 | This feels like it carries LVM energy but I’m not sure. 90% of me feels like I should cut him off because he wants me to act exclusive after three dates but taking no initiative to make that choice himself. Thoughts?That’s what I felt! Three dates is nothing to me. And no, the only convo initiated was at the beginning where he said he was interested but wanted to take things slow, so at that point in my head I was already keeping him at arm’s length so as not to be extremely emotionally invested like I used to be. For the past two dates, it’s felt like just hanging out with a friend, even though he’s been paying for everything, but not really making any moves aside from that. He basically started this convo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:42 PM |
| 64 | It usually starts at home, you do not have to repeat to cycle!I actually think my parents are a pretty decent example of what a HVM should look like? It’s a shame I never paid attention to it before. My dad has always doted on my mom, and he’s remained consistent for all 27 years they’ve been married. He put in the maximum effort to prove to my mom that it was him she should choose, and my mom wasn’t easily swayed. She actually told me once she didn’t like him at first because she thought he was arrogant, but it was because he didn’t know Spanish well(she’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Strategies/suggestions to gain self confidence and increase self esteem?I 100% agree with what everyone else has said. I want to offer my two cents as someone who went through an abusive relationship and made it out alive and with plenty of lessons learned(and still learning). I’m sorry if it gets a little long. First things first, especially if you know you have depression, find a therapist. But not just any therapist! Most are happy to hand you a pamphlet to read, or they sit and nod their head while scribbling notes on a notepad, then usher you as quickly as they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 07:41 AM |
| 24 | I cannot stress this enough, young ladiesSure! Here’s a couple key points that I remember she taught me: · Be assertive. Know what you want and know your value as a hardworking professional woman. Stand your ground when men try to use their little tactics on you to try and undermine you or make you out to seem weaker than them. She said this doesn’t mean being an outright bitch either, but use common sense and discretion when dealing with males in power positions. · Have confidence. · Always be two steps ahead and never be afraid to as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:27 PM |
| 46 | I cannot stress this enough, young ladiesThe former president of my company that I worked under became like an older sister to me outside of work, and she and her husband became a part of my family during the year that she was here in the US from Germany. One thing that always stuck with me was one time when we were shopping at Yankee Candle(she loved going there so much that the people who worked there knew her on a first name basis haha). She was buying a ton of candles, and I just jokingly said “Carsten’s probably going to see all t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | How to meet guys aside from OLD?Thank you for this. I’m honestly just burned out by OLD so this will probably be the best approach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:56 PM |
| 1 | How to meet guys aside from OLD?Just an update that probably should have added: I do have hobbies that keep me plenty busy, just wasn’t sure how exactly to translate them into meeting others. I’m really into drawing, writing, trivia nights, game nights, reading, and karaoke. That being said, I finally figured out how Meetup works because I’m an old lady at 25 lol. I managed to find a few groups that match my hobbies, and I’m planning to attend some upcoming events, so hopefully I can meet some cool people (guys and girls) :) T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | How to meet guys aside from OLD?Thank you so much for this. I’m going to look into events centering around art/writing, since those are my main two hobbies. I agree with what you said too, it’s definitely worth it just to meet new friends in general. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:53 PM |
| 7 | How to meet guys aside from OLD?It’s okay, I probably should’ve done that instead of just asking the same question. My bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid the pitfalls of being "too nice"?Sorry, I’m still learning to be concise when I explain things. But you’re right—thank you for the advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:33 AM |
| 1 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?I wanted to suggest a possible book that I think falls in with the FDS guidelines, and it helped me a lot in learning to filter out NVM and LVM types: It’s called Attached, by Amir Levine. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 09:31 PM |
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