Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.

thegypsybean · 2020-07-16T04:25:33+00:00

He then gave me his phone number after, like he’s expecting me to chase him. In your dreams bro.

EDIT: he has been blocked. There were too many red flags I couldn’t ignore, included what seemed to be a low key fetish for Latina women and a sense of blatant entitlement.

cc_mm · 2020-07-16T04:34:31+00:00

"MY woman"?? Nah, next

Rebirthed_Queen · 2020-07-16T04:50:54+00:00

Older, dominant, and protective = Controlling and likely manipulative. Block and delete, queen.

passionatevirtuoso · 2020-07-16T05:05:40+00:00

Oh Jesus Christ run, girl.

There is nothing wrong with being protective or wanting to take care of someone.

But the fact he uses dominant/ pleasure here sounds creepy, controlling and he is very likely pornsick.

I got the chills too.

The really take control guys I know do not see themselves as 'dominant', they are just happy to take care of others which often translates to taking control of a situation (not a person) in order to get things done.

Other red flags:

Likes the idea of dating women much younger than him

Likes the idea of innocence/virginity

Requires his partner to be very feminine

Any Asian fetish/any preference for Asian porn (because this type of porn always portrays Asian women as being very submissive not because of the race)

Getting angry at being corrected

Monologues - when he likes to type or speak whole paragraphs

ChristmasPriestess · 2020-07-16T04:25:44+00:00

I'm getting red flags and sirens from this. Dominant and protective sounds like hes controlling and jealous. His text gave me some creepy vibes and also chills. Id say block and run for the hills!

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-16T05:30:04+00:00

“Dominant” or whenever they use “alpha” to describe themselves: sexuality and/or emotionally abusive. 100% follow your gut on this one! (Especially because he is using “pleasure”, that comes from BDSM shit, so he’s talking about enjoying making women his personal sex slaves). R-U-N!!!

Edit: a few more words.

myousername · 2020-07-16T06:54:46+00:00

RUN. This reeks of red flags and creepiness...not only because he says he likes to be “dominant” but also because he says that he “likes to be a little bit older” (I translate that as he likes to be able to manipulate and intimidate women who are younger than him with his age) and also because of the phrase “my women.” 🤢

burpleseaurchin · 2020-07-16T08:09:05+00:00

He's almost certainly a red-piller or similar manosphere cult follower, they are obsessed with stoicism and the way he lists what he can provide for you is just suspiciously robotic.

BasieSkanks · 2020-07-16T05:48:44+00:00

Be wary of men who fetishise age gaps.

spin_the_globe · 2020-07-16T07:02:17+00:00

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ironymaiden87 · 2020-07-16T05:16:22+00:00

Big red flag. G'bye.

sofiacarolina · 2020-07-16T07:00:45+00:00

Lately Ive been noticing a correlation with the philosophy of stoicism and incels/misogynists. They flock to it for some reason, I think some of the men they worship mustve started espousing it

intrepidis_dux · 2020-07-16T06:13:30+00:00

Yeah he's not going to be able to have a healthy relationship. He probably has a lot more sideways ideas. He reminds me of one I had a date with awhile back. Wanted so badly to say the right things, but it was so obvious he didn't believe what was coming out of his own mouth.

Summerisle7 · 2020-07-16T05:59:59+00:00

Gross, gross, gross. Block, block, block.

LadyGrimes · 2020-07-16T06:20:14+00:00

Means he is controlling so definitely block.

the-red_woman · 2020-07-16T11:26:44+00:00

Omg I want to vomit

spin_the_globe · 2020-07-16T14:53:55+00:00

It warms my heart to see so many women in the comments pointing out the red flags.

I'll add one more:

People like this are often high-conflict types who always have to have an "enemy" they're fighting against, so they can feel like the warrior, the rescuer, the avenger, the protector. When they don't have someone outside your relationship to be in conflict with, guess who they turn that bad energy toward?

See also: Karpman drama triangle

There are no exceptions. (Hard life lesson learned) Don't get involved.

warinmymind94 · 2020-07-16T14:27:08+00:00

He said the word dominant and then said he likes to give pleasure. RUN. Smells like a "daddy dom" kink aka abuse and deprivation waiting to happen. RUN NOW.

pissed_af · 2020-07-16T15:06:37+00:00

He tells on himself on 2 texts. If he "kind of likes" being older because he is "dominant and protective" he's basically admitting that he preys on younger women because he can manipulate them.

EntireTadpole · 2020-07-16T13:12:55+00:00

Run when they start in with that stoicism bullshit.

seraphinelysion · 2020-07-16T17:35:00+00:00

I firmly believe that any time a man has to spell out what he will do for you (emotion, communication, gifts, and pleasure) it means he won't actually do any of these things. He just likes to say he will to give you the impression he is a good man and/or to stroke his ego.

A real man will just do these things with time. He doesn't feel the need to spell it out like this.

painmakesyoustronger · 2020-07-16T13:28:33+00:00

Run like the wind

CoriVanilla · 2020-07-16T14:49:56+00:00

Yikes.

StudentNo · 2020-07-17T00:17:28+00:00

Love bombing. You dont TELL someone you like to be protective, a provider, and treat women X Y and Z. You show those things. He's probably very immature.

dalenoriah · 2020-07-17T04:10:06+00:00

I've seen a lot of examples of men using philosophical "Stoicism" and they post a bunch of quotes from Marcus Aurelius as a way to maybe make themselves look good? Or they actual subscribe to it as a type of lifestyle.

I've also found 9 times out if 10, they expect women to chase them, string them along, and then act like their somehow better than you because they think they are "enlightened".

OrchidLion · 2020-07-16T19:50:49+00:00

Women plural.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-07-16T22:44:50+00:00

"I like to be older" WHAT, run.

jebemo · 2020-07-16T23:48:23+00:00

"Pleasure" gives me the creeps when it's being said to a stranger.

Title	Do we block and move on? Something about the word “dominant” gives me the chills, and not the good kind.
Author	thegypsybean
Upvotes	130
Comments	55
Date	July 16, 2020 4:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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