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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:10 AM
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Great job!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:43 PM
59

I pray you didn’t respond to him. There’s nothing more painful to them than our indifference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:39 PM
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Thank goodness somebody said it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 09:41 PM
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If only the US could prioritize the mental health of our children enough to have a campaign like this. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:50 PM
2

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:45 PM
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I’m deceased at that giraffe 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:41 PM
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Got zombie apocalypse vibes from this post haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:37 PM
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It’s so painful to look back at our old Pickmeisha ways. But the beautiful thing is that we have a new lens with which to view life, thanks to FDS ❤️ Bad behavior no longer looks like passion and spark, which is a huge blessing imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:36 PM
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Time to focus on your hobbies, friends, and passions OP! The more he senses that you’re living your best life with or without him, the more he will be drawn to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:34 PM
14

EXACTLY 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:33 PM
28

Ughhhh a wild pickmeisha appears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:31 PM
75

So freaking condescending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:01 PM
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Eww yeah that’s not a good age gap there hun! You dodged a bullet (I hope you’re not still talking to him)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:59 PM
32

Nevvvver too snarky with asshole scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:23 AM
2

Yeah definitely don’t go it alone through this babe, you deserve to have support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:46 AM
8

This is so incredibly important for us to remember! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:44 PM
8

Thank you! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:37 PM
2

Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and family for assistance after your surgery! You should not have to go through that alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:31 PM
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OLD is a huge waste of time. I’ve been on nearly 50 dates from them, and not a single one turned into a lasting relationship. You’re better off being patient and meeting someone in the wild. I know it’s tough rn with Coronavirus, but maybe there’s a socially distanced gathering you can go to with friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:52 PM
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SLUMP BUSTER??????! My god I’m going to lose it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:47 PM
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Love the quote! Don’t love the “word porn” listed at the end. The porn industry has permeated all facets of our culture, even literary culture obviously 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:42 PM
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This is the perfect metaphor! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:37 PM
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543 PEOPLE LIKED HIS TWEET????!!!!! Even more proof that TikTok normalizes pedophilia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:33 PM
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It’s SO obvious that she was playing mommy for him until the baby came along. To think her husband feels threatened by his OWN SON??! Sheesh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:31 PM
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Exaaaactly 👏🏻👏🏻 Never again will I ever send detailed paragraph texts to a scrote who can’t even string more than 5 words together haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:49 AM
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1) get a therapist (CBT preferably) 2) do some self focused gratitude journaling (check out my post history for a great tip on this) 3) keep reading FDS There are many other things that help, but these three absolutely changed my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:16 AM
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Cheers to that! 🍻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:19 AM
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THANK YOU! Why waste our time on people who view us as a second thought? 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:02 AM
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Ikr?! It’s so obvious he just wants to turn the convo back on himself. Ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:55 AM
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Rest assured ladies. He DID NOT get a reply back from me. We need to remember that random messages like this are only sent by bored, horny, noncommittal men! Also CRINGE at my pre-FDS Pickmeisha communication style of olde 🤡😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:41 AM
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Yeah that’s gonna be a NO from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:16 AM
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Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this. I just printed it out to read over and over again. Pornography is truly a plague upon our nation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:16 AM
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The ACLU has been in bed with some pretty terrible globalist entities for ages sadly :/ Can’t trust anyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:15 AM
2

He was a terrible conversationalist and lacked depth. I couldn’t even fathom the level of mind-numbing boredom a lifetime with him would bring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:58 PM
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THIS A MILLION TIMES! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:50 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:25 PM
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Yuppp. That’s the really sad part. These men will beg for us to sleep with them, and when we finally give in, they immediately lose respect for us. It’s like 🤨🤨🤨 I thought YOU were the one begging for this??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:06 PM
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Yeah it’s no surprise these scrotes only think with their peepees!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:01 PM
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I absolutely LOATHE that picture. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:00 PM
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In my experience, men are initially drawn in by a beautiful appearance. But, they won’t stick around unless you also have a beautiful personality. I swear, once I let go of my cripplingly low self esteem, my whole world opened up! (Romantically and socially)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:59 PM
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Time to work on that self esteem babe! Read the darn handbook and manifest that Queen energy within you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:05 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:18 PM
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It’s called Matching Energy/Effort babe! Never EVER send paragraph messages to a man who can’t even type out more than 10 words to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:10 PM
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Yup! Hopefully he isn’t lovebombing her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:28 PM
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OP. Yes there is a way to overcome this. Have you ever considered trying out sex and love addicts anonymous? Look up the free video sessions in your area. You can attend and never turn on your mic or video or even share your name. Give it a try
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:40 AM
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Thank you for saying this 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 There is nothing remotely empowering about that song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 04:56 AM
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That was a perfect example 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:14 PM
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Awe I’ve met Miki in person before! She’s such a lovely person. Had no idea she was a forever GF tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:42 PM
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Also OP, don’t forget that it’s really hard to truly assess whether a man is “good” or not until you get to know them more. It’s always a safe bet to assume men are LVM until proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:26 PM
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Gurl. Don’t waste your time giving this man your valuable time and emotional labor when he’s not contributing a meaningful presence in your life!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:22 AM
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Hahahahahahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:40 PM
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I used to be exactly like that too! Something that has really helped me, is focusing on the fact that most men have ZERO empathy for us (they are literally incapable of it). They DO NOT have the same considerate and kind thoughts that we have for them. When you focus on that fact, it can actually make you quite angry, because it shows just how selfish and inconsiderate men truly are. It really makes saying “NO” to them wayyyy easier. (Of course, be careful in situations where physical abuse coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:38 PM
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Not a huge fan of the repetitive calling of women “Hoes” in this song. Not very HV imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:27 PM
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Do yourself a huge favor babe, and read the darn Handbook! There’s a really good reason why we veteran FDSers always say that 😌❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:14 AM
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NEVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS OP. You will ALWAYS regret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:05 AM
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Smh. So predictable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:39 AM
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Gurrrlll I feel this so hard. Let me guess. Your female colleagues have no problem respecting your boundary of not calling your personal cell? I’ve found when I am in charge of certain projects at work and communicate instructions to the team, the men RARELY remember the instructions whereas the women ALWAYS follow the instructions to a T. I can’t even tell you the number of times I’ve had to remind my male colleagues to do the same stupid things. My theory is that men, by default, just don’t vi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:23 AM
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THIS! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:40 PM
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😭❤️❤️👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:14 AM
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Thank you for the reminder! And congrats on your perseverance! Such an inspiration ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:10 AM
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Good on ya babe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:55 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Be careful not to outright tell men your strategy though! That only gives them the blueprint to manipulating you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:50 PM
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Love this!! There’s gotta be an FDS book published in the future! 📚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:32 PM
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The look of pride in her eyes 👑❤️ love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:03 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:33 PM
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🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:36 AM
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I FEEL CALLED OUT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:22 AM
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Ooh tell us tell us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:07 AM
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😂😂❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:56 AM
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You can sign up for music lessons and take them remotely! I’ve been taking voice lessons this whole lockdown :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:55 AM
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Yeah OP! Is there any way you can move in with a friend or family member for a bit??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:28 PM
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I had a lot of success meeting men on coed sports teams through Zog Sports or NYC Social! It’s a really organic way to meet people (plus they have kickball or bowling leagues that are super low key too!) Dating in nyc is a sh*t show. Keep in mind that most men that live there are not looking to settle down, so you need to be EXTRA vigilant. Don’t be fooled by wealth, prestigious jobs, or good looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:15 PM
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So happy that you are in a good mental space about this! ❤️❤️ I really do think it’s about time to break up with him though. A drop off in communication is a really bad sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:05 PM
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It is not about the amount of time you wait. It’s about the level of commitment he is showing towards you. That level of commitment could take 3 months, or 3 years! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:15 PM
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YUP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:35 AM
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I hope you do! Time spent mastering things you’re passionate about is ALWAYS worth it! Time spent going on meaningless dates is not always worth it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:10 PM
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Gurrrrl sounds like your #1 hobby since your breakup has been dating and spending time focused on other people than yourself! Yes, it can be fun. But, it’s also a huge distraction from yourself and your goals. What are you deeply passionate about? Writing? Yoga teacher training? Starting a cooking IG page? Do that! Focus on your passions and hobbies and before you know it, you won’t be able to give dating apps the time of day. You will also generate deep fulfillment from within yourself, which c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:20 PM
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Don’t sh*t where you eat OP! Never ends well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:57 AM
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Nurture an interesting hobby that you’re passionate about. There’s nothing more attractive than a person who is passionate about life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:53 AM
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Yeah OP needs to drop this “friend” like yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:51 AM
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My parents have been married for 35 years and my dad STILL bends over backwards to get her unique and special gifts for birthdays and holidays. Randomly buys her flowers to cheer her up. HVM exist y’all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:48 AM
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Proud of you! Never hesitate to reach out to FDS :) we are here for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:48 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 keep on growing babe! It sounds like you’re on the right path (especially not entertaining assholes like that guy anymore!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:18 PM
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You are NOT the asshole in this situation babe!! He has sooooo many red flags. DO NOT meet up with him please. You will regret it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:14 PM
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The most beautiful women often have the worst self esteem issues (I’ve seen). It’s an unfortunate side effect of being valued only for your beauty your entire life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:58 PM
9

More proof that US Magazine is propaganda garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:57 PM
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Oof. He’s wayyy too interested in her time and attention. It’s time to step away babe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:21 AM
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Makes my heart happy! Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:14 PM
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Stick with the FDS babe! It really works!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:36 AM
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Or a clown 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:35 AM
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Getcha head out of the clouds OP! 👏🏻👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:28 AM
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Read up on the scarcity mindset my dear! Don’t fall prey to it - logical fallacy ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:25 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:22 AM
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Yeah. I don’t think it’s safe for us to share personal info like this on the sub. It makes lurkers much more likely to doxx us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:20 AM
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Lipstick on a pig is still a pig. I try to avoid assigning ownership of female interests to one political party or another. Let’s unite as women, regardless of our political views 🤝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:16 AM
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THIS. OP. This sub will never stoop to the level of TRP or r/seduction with silly games like negging. Read the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:09 AM
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No man is entitled to knowing your sexual history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:06 AM
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Truly. I rly don’t agree with any young woman glorifying being a “hoe”. That’s not HV at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:50 PM
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Truly. And you can just tell that he’s an inauthentic, narc kind of guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:25 PM
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God that guy SUCKS!! Why are these gorgeous ladies fawning over him so much??! Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:10 PM
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Don’t minimize your needs and wants babe! There’s no “right” way to be a feminist. Your standards and boundaries are wayyyy more important that someone thinking you’re not “progressive” enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:55 PM
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Truly! It’s important to surround yourself with HV friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:50 PM
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Sounds like they are major pickmes. You dodged a bullet here! Don’t go back to him! HE’S the one body shaming YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:24 PM
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Using a pet name is also a sure fire way for a man to never mix up the names of multiple women he’s dating. Tread carefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:20 PM
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DUMP HIMMMMMMMM pleasefortheloveofgod
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:17 PM
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God it’s so f**ked 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:15 PM
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Ewww. Men who feel the need to TELL YOU all of their best qualities are a big red flag to me. I prefer I man SHOW ME who he is instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:10 PM
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Don’t beat yourself up babe! Every romantic endeavor teaches us a new lesson about life. This particular experience is going to give you SO MUCH wisdom ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:07 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 this makes my heart happy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:04 PM
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Yesss that sub is a treasure trove of insight into the incel mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:03 PM
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Yeah OP :/ It really sounds like he’s just “in town” and wants a cute girl to potentially hook up with while he’s there. Ugh. Definitely DONT reach out to him. I’d reconsider seeing him if he planned something like a dinner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:02 PM
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Thank you so much for posting this. The scariest thing about this is that the porn industry is estimated to be worth around 97 Billion dollars (more than all sports channels combined). This makes them a HUGE political lobbyist with the power to sway laws and governmental practices to benefit them. There’s no question that they are in bed with the big tech companies too. We need to keep a serious eye out for further pro-porn propaganda on these platforms. How do we best fight against them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:41 AM
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This is SO GOOD! Really hits home the value in waiting for the right man to come along, rather than throwing ourselves at the first guy that shows us interest out of fear of being alone. Love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:35 PM
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You’ve got this OP! Continue on your journey with FDS and you will seriously thank yourself later!! It has really changed my outlook on dating ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:38 PM
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This works really really well! Especially for sex and love addicts (which OP might be tbh). “Addiction is isolation. Recovery is connection.” Allow your family and friends to help you heal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:56 PM
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Wants the benefits of a therapist and best friend without the strings attached. Ugh! The audacity of these guys. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:32 PM
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That is incredible. Love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:40 PM
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Gurl I was thinking the same thing. It’s obvious that the porn industry has its fingers in the reddit pie. They want to influence young people to get involved in their fucked up antics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:28 PM
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*cries in poor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:18 PM
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I also want that life too! A therapist will just help you let go of that all-encompassing desperation that we feel sometimes when it come to these topics (finding a man, starting a family, getting older). I am still well on my way to achieving my goal of finding a good man to start a family with. The main difference is that I’m no longer tortured by the fear that I won’t ever find that. Does that makes sense? You should give therapy a try! Don’t knock it til you try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:09 PM
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It really seems like you are suffering from cockhold syndrome. You deserve so much better than what you’re putting up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:07 PM
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Ooo! Tell us how it goes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:09 AM
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This is something I’ve been working with my therapist a lot on lately. She’s really helped me let go of that nagging feeling that I’m “incomplete” somehow without a husband and kids. Have you tried therapy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:05 AM
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Girl this was so well worded. Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:04 AM
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Proud of you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:13 PM
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OP! Is there an outdoor meetup group in your city? That makes it way easier to social distance while also meeting new people! I bet they have some fun hikes/adventures planned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:05 PM
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Your response to him was perfect! Block and NEXT! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:49 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:17 PM
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Not wrong! Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:55 PM
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GURL! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I hope you exposed him on FB!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:43 PM
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AND the FDS Handbook! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:39 PM
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I love perusing that sub as well as r/breakingmom for the perfect reminder why I’m not rushing into a relationship anytime soon. Imma do everything I can to avoid the dumpster fires in those posts ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:36 PM
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FOR THE NEWBIES IN THE BACK! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:33 PM
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Perfectly worded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:17 PM
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His relationship with his mother is a HUGE indicator of the relationship he will create with his future wife. Keep that in mind if you pursue something with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:35 AM
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Hun it’s like the MOST POWERFUL O you’ve ever had. Your whole body shakes for like 10 seconds straight. Google it and learn how to give yourself one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:19 AM
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Honey. Go to r/relationship_advice if you want shitty dating advice that doesn’t benefit women in any way. Avoiding emotional paragraph texts is in the FDS Handbook for an important reason. Sending them shows that we are wayyyy more invested in the conversation than men are. Plus, these scrotes are usually too far gone for our words to change their minds anyway. Please understand that the tough love on this sub means that we truly care about you being empowered in your interactions with men. We’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:20 PM
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Thank you. Idk what the heck is up with all these brigading newbies trying to take over this sub. Sad to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:11 PM
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Please quit making excusing for his shit behavior. It is obvious he DOES NOT respect you in any way. Plus, do you really want a “TrapLord” to be the father of your children and eventual defender of your family and household? Imma say NOPE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:03 PM
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Yupp. A HUGE breakthrough for me was discovering the G-spot orgasm 😳like, idk how the heck I lived without it before!! Men have alottt of trouble stimulating that region too, which makes me even less likely to dwell on the thought that they can give me more pleasure than my own damn self haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:08 PM
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Yupppp. I was just about to say this. Couples who feel the need to post performative stuff like this on social media often don’t have that great of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:01 PM
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We all need to remind ourselves that sex with men DOES NOT equal sexual pleasure. Have any of y’all explored sensuality with yourself? I’ve found that I have wayyyy more consistent and powerful sexual experiences by myself than with 99% of the sexual partners I’ve had. We tend to build up the thought of sex with men in our heads, and it rarely lives up to the hype (imo).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:49 PM
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THANK YOU!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:43 PM
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So proud of you OP! If it ain’t a “f*ck yes!” then it’s a “No”. 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:23 PM
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Honey. No. Little do you know, your silence and indifference is the REAL way to hand a guy’s ass back to him. Long, emotional essay texts just AINT IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:02 PM
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Ugh! The truth always comes out. They are such liars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:49 PM
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THIS. The paragraph texts are so CRINGE. OP needs to re-read the handbook section about MATCHING ENERGY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:47 PM
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OP. Please please PLEASE never write a paragraph text to some scrote ever again. It’s a waste of time and your words will do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to get through to them. Please don’t do this next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:16 PM
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Yup read up on it. China has been spying on the children of western countries with the app. Fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:49 PM
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gurl. PLEASE read the handbook. You broke an insane amount of rules and (unsurprisingly) got bad results because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:19 PM
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YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO HARSH TO A FUCKBOY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:34 AM
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Sad that it’s spyware thoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:33 AM
11

THIS! Plus, you’re not leveling up if you’re focusing all your free time on dating and seeking validation from men. Time. Wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:31 AM
6

Lol! Just slow fade him and forget him. Not worth your time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:26 AM
8

Lol it’s so obvious that he just wants servitude from the women in his life. I refuse to believe that a GROWN MAN can’t even heat up some soup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:29 PM
17

Aba and Preach are awesome! I love their takes on things ❤️ they can get a little anti-feminist here and there, so beware
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:37 PM
22

Eww what a jerk. We can’t live our lives in fear of this though ladies. If we vet our men well enough, then we should have a good idea of his character
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:33 PM
3

YAS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:30 PM
1

The fact that you’re concerned about a neg he threw at you is the real concern here. Why do you care so much what some scrote from Tinder thinks about you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:02 PM
2

I mean.. he SHOULD go away for good. That’s the ideal situation here She needs to work on her codependency and lack of self esteem. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:00 PM
1

How the eff would they know if they were “false” 911 allegations though???? Like wtf??? I can see that bill going wrong really fast. That is another way to harm rape and sexual assault victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:57 PM
1

Get a Subleaser babe! You can still collect the security deposit you put down. Do it for your wellbeing and peace of mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:55 PM
2

Little does she know that blocking him without warning will ACTUALLY get her point across the most. No amount of essay texts will get men to understand the severity of their actions. She needs to get this through her head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:48 PM
6

Sometimes ya gotta hit rock bottom to finally make a change in your life! Sending you love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:13 PM
3

We shall write this on a note pad and tape it to the bathroom mirror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:34 PM
3

Also the “omens” comment. Gurl RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:14 PM
1

I really hope you QUIT TALKING TO HIM after this convo. Please don’t waste any more damn time on talking to men like this. He is obviously trying to neg you. Don’t let him win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:12 PM
3

Ugh. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:08 PM
2

You’ve got this babe!! We’re here for you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:45 PM
3

Yes exactly!! And don’t forget that therapy is a REALLY GOOD maintenance strategy for leveling up. Even if you don’t think you have “serious depression or anxiety”, therapy has a way of revealing blindspots in our Psyche that are holding us back in ways we can’t even see! Try checking out ZocDoc and searching for therapist in network for your medical insurance. That’s a great search tool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:22 PM
2

Gurl. You’ve just undergone ALOT of major life changes! New city, Freshly graduated, COVID, New job, Current global social unrest There is NOTHING to feel guilty about with venting to a therapist! The fact that you DO feel guilty about that is a major sign that you need to improve your self esteem honey. You are paying them a pretty penny, and they get a lot of value out of helping people improve their lives. Just imagine a world where you no longer feel so romantically desperate, where you actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:14 PM
3

Sounds like you have some major emotional and self esteem work to do babe! Have you ever considered getting a therapist? I used to feel exactly like you, but after 6months of therapy, I am insanely happy being single. I actually prefer being single to being with any old LVM. Please try it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:06 PM
34

Omg are you me? I feel the literal exact same way. If it weren’t for a major mental breakdown (after getting played by a LVM) in January, I never would have “woken up” to the dangers of my PickMe ways. Something you need to remember though, is that WE were the beings that persevered and learned through those challenges. The men that hurt us have NOTHING to do with our growth. They are just a useless bystander. It was OUR own fortitude and resilience that taught us those beautiful (and difficult)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:46 PM
3

I don’t know him personally, but I’m a huge fan. He’s one of the only public figures who is (trying) to teach men to improve themselves and better their character. I understand why this sub might not like him tho 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:49 PM
3

You’re trolling almost every post I’ve read today. If you dislike the content of FDS posts, then please leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:47 PM
4

Yo u/TheOGJammies this newbie is hijacking a lot of posts with negativity. Let’s take some action here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:10 AM
6

Omg I am so incredibly proud of you babe!! I’ve also been in therapy for the past 8-9 months, and it’s completely changed my life. Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 04:07 AM
27

So effing truuuu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:58 AM
4

We trust the judgment of the FDS founders and mods. The rules of this sub are there to protect its members and uphold the FDS guidelines, so obviously there was an issue with your comments if they were deleted. You're welcome to start your own subreddit with a different set of rules if you like! Or, air your grievances with the FDS mods on the weekly pinned "discussions" thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:42 PM
12

Great! Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:37 PM
41

Ugh! Never waste your time with a "Poly" guy. It's just their excuse for cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:15 PM
2

There are strongly delineated rules on this sub for a reason <3 Every sub has their rules. Do you have an issue with any of the guidelines in particular?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:12 PM
3

Plus they’re more rugged, love nature, tend to be healthier mentally and physically, and usually aren’t psychopathic narcissists like most men in nyc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:19 AM
3

Gurl yes. I also was not a fan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:37 AM
1

Next time I wouldn’t respond to him after his last message! Keep him hanging. Also, he seems suuuuper LV to I’m a fan of blocking and dumping him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:33 AM
35

Idk tho.... I’ve been treated reallyy well by plenty of men who I’m definitely not interested in lol. But I get the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:02 AM
3

Idk OP....if he randomly brought up that comment unprompted..I would be VERY cautious about this. Ask yourself why he felt the need to compensate in that way by telling you he is a good man? A truly good man can show you with his actions and doesn't feel the need to remind you of what a good man he is. If a guy feels the need to tell you he is "not into physical fights", he is most likely compensating for future abusive behavior towards you down the line. Tread carefully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:48 PM
76

Ye and peace out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:41 PM
7

I rly hope you blocked himmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:40 PM
17

Those edits with people shaming her for being “fatphobic” ughhh Reddit really has an issue with women who have standards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:05 PM
16

We love a neuroscientist Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:19 PM
2

Ur not missing much lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:00 PM
13

I always take a close look at the close friendships he keeps. Do all of his friends seem LV? Why would he be any different than them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:01 PM
7

Yuppp Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:55 PM
2

fr tho, like I thought that app died out long ago lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:52 PM
2

I think 30 is the line in the sand for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:51 PM
5

❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:51 PM
6

My god that was powerful! Really wish it wasn’t a L’Oréal commercial tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:27 PM
22

Yeah it’s sort of crazy how many fake FDS-bashing posts I’ve seen lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:23 PM
32

Yupppp. No one is entitled to that information from us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:16 PM
11

Here’s a Pickmeisha gem from the comment section: “ I'm a German woman who came across this video accidentally. I had a good laugh and must say that you are totally right. Many women have become picky princesses, they think they deserve it all. But most of these women are not going to be happy, since there are only a few men out there who fulfill their standards.” Sooo cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:14 PM
2

Lol I didn’t know people still used that Whisper app 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:09 PM
23

Damn! Sounds like a dream guy! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:09 PM
6

Oof. Yeah. I would say that’s a dealbreaker. But it’s up to you. If you have a low libido, then that might be fine. But...it’s a huge red flag for me if a man is consuming extremely pornographic content depicting women in demeaning situations all day. That impacts his psyche
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:45 PM
2

No I haven’t! Is it a subreddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:42 PM
16

Yet another case study proving that HVW should NEVER travel to visit a boy they are dating. They NEVER appreciate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:20 PM
12

Nooope lol, dolly is like my second cousin four times removed. So I’ve never even met her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:17 PM
2

Wasn’t your dream guy after all. NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:58 PM
1

“As much as I enjoyed being treated like shit” umm excuse me? That’s a terrible way to view yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:57 PM
12

OP he is most definitely using you for sex. Hence why he only cares to be a good communicator with you when sex is involved. What would happen if sex was off the table? Do you feel obligated to keep allowing him into your body? Tbh, you don’t really know him all that well if you’ve been doing long distance during quarantine. Please read the FDS handbook and regain your self worth. Mediocre, disrespectful sex is just not it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:51 PM
2

We’re so happy you’re here! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:48 PM
26

Fun fact, I’m related to her haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:46 PM
3

YAS ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:49 PM
6

Ugh. He was expecting some self deprecating reply. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:50 PM
2

We’re here for you OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:13 PM
4

Omg this makes me so incredibly happy! Congrats OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:12 PM
21

Yuppp. They will always use that delicate information against you in the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:12 PM
27

THERE’S NO ONE NICER THAN A MAN WHO HASN’T F*CKED YOU YET Raise your standards sweetie. Read the FDS handbook and allow our teachings to inform your future decisions about men. You will not regret it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:10 PM
12

LOL omg I went out with an LVM back in January who legit wore platform shoes!! 😂😂 thought I wouldn’t notice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:55 PM
11

We love you too!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:22 AM
40

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:20 AM
40

Ugh. She better leave his ass in the dust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:40 PM
25

Omgggg how did she respond to that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:27 PM
5

Awe cute. Is he dead? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:47 PM
11

Lol! Ideally, this is the influence we could have on men in our dating life 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:42 PM
5

Lol! Their husbands ARE immature children 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:40 PM
6

Who is Pietro?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:36 PM
3

Yuppp. If he brings something random like that up unprompted, it’s because he’s trying to compensate for his poor moral compass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:31 PM
8

Lolll he was projecting soooo hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:29 PM
2

Yet another sample of a NVM disposing of his SO’s belongings. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:36 PM
7

do you are have stupid 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:44 AM
1

Fair to who? HIM?? Babe you need to keep your priorities straight. You come first. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:01 PM
3

What is an NP link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:14 PM
42

Ikr?! His voice is soooo cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:52 PM
2

Omg YAS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 01:05 PM
9

Oof. That’s sooo rough. They were definitely not on the same page and it screwed them over in the end :/ I never liked their podcast, but I do feel sorry for them as women in the entertainment indo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 12:36 PM
24

Hmm. Idk about that take. From what I understood, the hosts weren’t satisfied with the compensation they were to receive, so they tried to renegotiate, but barstool fucked them over royally and refused to pay them what they requested. I think there’s a lot of misogynistic slander going on towards those women. Hate em or love em, I don’t think that’s right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:26 AM
79

I just wanna scoop him up and put him in my pocket! Such a cutie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:17 AM
7

UGH I AM CRINGING “If having a partner slightly below your original standards will make you happier than being single, then yes. That should be her choice to make, but a choice she should be given the chance to consider. People act like settling is the worst thing in the world, but that’s not necessarily always the case. Just because real people don’t always fit the imaginary boxes in your head doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them. Maybe she can find a man who’s career-oriented and inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:10 AM
47

This is sage advice! Thank you thank you ❤️ As a 26 y/o, I get really caught up in the scarcity mindset that “all the good ones are going to be taken” if I don’t settle down soon. But it’s really great to hear that you’re still having successes at 38!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:56 PM
6

Omg how did it end up for you? How are you doing now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:53 PM
29

You are GOALS ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:50 PM
12

Babe, you’ve gotta get real comfortable with being labeled “difficult” by LVM. Quit trying to be accepted by these scrotes in the first place. They will ALWAYS throw rocks at things that shine. It can be lonely at the top sometimes, but it means that you aren’t going to waste your time anymore by those lowlife bottom feeders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:39 PM
2

My advice would be to walk her through some hypothetical romantic/intimate situations (of course, don’t go into the gory details): 1) being pressured to have sex and how she should respond. Practice a firm and resolute “NO”. 2) what it feels like to be ghosted by a boy who just used you for physical means: 3) if applicable, what it would be like if she accidentally got pregnant or got an STD and how it would affect her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:33 PM
84

Um BABE. He is obviously using you for sex. DONT FALL FOR IT. Block block block. Please. For the sake of your sanity and dignity. Leave this scrote in the dust. You literally have your whole beautiful life ahead of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:40 PM
6

Lol! Me a year ago hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:35 PM
5

And he just screams LVM to me. Oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:27 PM
2

So happy to have you here!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:20 PM
11

Oooof. This hits home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:19 PM
1

I love the way you worded that! It’s so true ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:14 PM
80

Oof that word alone made me cringe so hard. It almost infantilizes it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:16 PM
53

SAME! When a man is obviously reaching out with low effort, doesn’t want to plan real dates, or has a breadcrumbing communication style, I gtfo and don’t look back. It’s so incredibly freeing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:03 PM
80

I’ve legit seen her in person before, and she’s just as skinny/beautiful as she is on IG! It’s okay that some women are just born incredibly beautiful. HVW don’t need to tear other women down to make themselves feel better imho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:34 PM
20

This has been posted on FDS many many times!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:19 AM
1

Also OP! I’m not sure where you live, but there are usually free suicide hotlines in every city that you can call (even if you’re not suicidal). You can just call them to talk it out for a bit. Hope that helps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:17 AM
3

Do you not understand that that’s the way all subreddits work? They have RULES for a reason. Please read the FDS handbook before commenting in the future 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:15 PM
2

It’s the rules of the sub babe. Get used to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:10 PM
3

Yeah, this goes directly against the FDS Handbook. I’m sure you’ve had successes with asking guys out, but that is hardly grounds for the rest of the FDS community following suit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:25 PM
66

Yupppp Every time I made the first move with a guy, he thought i would just be an easy lay. Such lies in that original post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:02 PM
45

GOOD RIDDANCE! Please please please don’t ever get back with this scrote. He will only waste your time and steal your vitality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:16 PM
11

OP! It really seems like your tendency to “entertain people” and “keep them interested” stems from some deep-rooted low self esteem. Do you feel that who you are as a person isn’t enough to keep people around? A mindset that really helps me in dating is to approach every man from the context of you being a CEO interviewing a potential candidate for a role on your team. Always be analyzing his responses, quietly maintaining your composure and dominance in the situation. Treat his communication wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:11 PM
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It’s always a red flag to me if a guy puts down all of his exes, or shirks all responsibility for the relationships ending. He will ALWAYS treat you the way he treated them ladies. Don’t think you’re “different than other girls” lol 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:40 PM
1

PRO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:38 PM
25

Ugh! I definitely think it was the husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:16 PM
4

It’s because most Docs get a cut of whatever drugs they prescribe. It’s so twisted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:09 PM
19

And yet, women are forced to see-saw from one BC method to the next, ruining their mental and physical wellbeing in the process. All the while, men are like “bUt I cAnT fEeL aNYtHinG wITh a cOnDOM” 🙄🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:18 PM
19

Yeahh the Paraguard has all sorts of terrible side effects too. I’ve rarely met a friend who hasn’t had debilitating cramps or unending periods from the darn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:33 PM
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It totally sends the message that men have the right to determine a woman’s contraceptive preferences too... so effed up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:30 PM
26

ikr?! Like wtf 😳 The general message of the article is a positive one though. I’m super stoked to have another non-hormonal BC option! Also interested to see potential side effects - new pharmaceutical products always do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:28 PM
5

Sadly, that’s the case with most pop music these days. Only a specific lyrical narrative is allowed to make it big
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:20 PM
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“If you have a guy who refuses to use a condom, this is a great option,” she added -Dr. Lauren Streicher, medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause in Chicago. The fact that a FEMALE GYNO is spreading a misogynistic message like this makes me lose all faith in humanity. If he refuses to wrap it, and you don’t have other contraceptive methods, you should NOT ALLOW HIM INTO YOUR BODY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:31 PM
29

THANK YOU!! I’ve about lost my damn mind with all the male sympathizing in this comment thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:47 AM
9

“You seem like a lot of fun” RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:19 AM
5

A real man right there!! A true ally and partner to his woman ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:57 PM
18

Read up on the sunk cost fallacy! It seems that your brain is falling prey to it ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:55 PM
2

Oof. Another reminder to be mindful of your alcohol intake ladies!! Please don’t be putting yourself into dangerous situations with men while you are drunk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:54 PM
46

OP! I would be very cautious about committing to having sex with him so soon. I assume you’ve been doing long distance this whole quarantine, so how well do you actually know this guy? I rly don’t think three months of texting and video chats is enough to really get to know someone’s character. I would hold off for a while longer until you have a substantial number of IN PERSON dates under your belt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:40 PM
7

Yupppp. Esp when your value has been measured by your outward appearance your whole life. That f*cks a child’s mind up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:15 PM
15

Damn. Mo’nique absolutely rocked that scene. Sent shivers down my spine. What a challenging role to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:14 PM
11

She prioritized her reputation over your physical and mental health. I’m so Incredibly sorry that happened to you babe. Now it’s your turn to break the cycle of abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:06 PM
1

I would tread very cautiously my dear. Who knows. Once the quarantine is over, he could just leave you in the dust bc he no longer needs the emotional outlet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:11 PM
5

Pewdiepie dropping some FACTS?! 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:07 PM
5

Yes. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:04 PM
1

Do you think you might be a victim of love bombing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:03 PM
1

Omfg this would make for some reallyyyy good YT content! Do it OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:00 PM
44

Truthfully. And the really sad part is that they raise emotionally stunted boys and traumatized little girls. It breaks my heart. One moment of honesty can change the course of the whole world. People just have to overcome the fear of their reputation getting a bit tarnished in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:48 PM
62

Ladies!! Be extremely careful about the privacy settings of your IG pages when following the FDS page. Some of you on there have some extremely personal info up on there. We can never trust these misogynistic scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:39 PM
15

Sometimes the most conventionally beautiful people are the most internally tormented :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:31 PM
56

Oof babe, I am beyond sorry this happened to you 😞 There’s something so wrong about mothers covering up for the men who assault their daughters. I want to know what goes through their heads? “Keep the peace, sweep it under the rug”??? It baffles me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:26 PM
15

I just wish there were good, non-hormonal methods out there that don’t require us to barbarically insert a piece of metal/plastic into our uteruses or get depression from taking a hormonal pill. I’ve been considering the Caya Diaphragm for a while, but it’s damn near impossible to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:13 PM
37

I had one for a while, but I had alottt of complications with it :/ It’s sad that women have to literally insert something into their uteruses in order to have sexual freedom these days 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:43 PM
23

This woman is an absolute angel and I could listen to her talk to me all day every day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:34 PM
9

This is especially challenging for us since we live in a world of social media! Don't ever forget that every relationship post you see online has been particularly edited, manicured, and captioned in order to appear a certain way. Couples who feel the need to validate their relationship online rarely have a well-functioning relationship to start with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:04 PM
5

Yeah, these scrotes don't deserve any more benefits than the ones we already bring to their lives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:59 PM
14

And not just in a romantic context either. We’ve gotta get real comfortable setting boundaries with our friends too! Don’t be a doormat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:06 PM
55

I struggled with a lot of anti-feminism before finding this subreddit too! We’re happy to have you here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:28 AM
40

This is too accurate 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:54 PM
20

Sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:53 PM
129

“Ugh I can’t c~m from sex. Can you j~rk me off?” 🤡🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:45 PM
9

Truuuuue! I’m really glad you said that. Since he and I have only been on a hand full of irl dates (before quarantine), I haven’t been too distracted by his looks. Being physically isolated from him has actually really really helped me be objective about dating for once 🤔 quite a good observation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:32 PM
6

That’s a great Q. I wouldn’t say there’s anything “clouding” my judgement at all. He’s serving the purpose of showing me attention during quarantine, which is fun for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:28 PM
16

Oh totes girl! I appreciate you asking! I’m keeping him around as one of the plates I’m currently spinning. I’m 100% aware of the parts of him I’m not a fan of, and I’ve been extremely clear with myself that no sex will be had and no feelings will be caught. It’s fun to keep him around for the time being as distraction during quarantine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:24 PM
16

Ugh. The guy I’m talking to rn calls me “sweets” and I absolutely hate itttt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:30 PM
9

ME TOO! LIKE WTF?!!! ITS HER OWN 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER?!?? I swear to god I hope that post wasn’t real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:27 PM
15

Yeah. You can sense the desperation in her post too. NEVER make a decision out of desperation ladies!! It never ends well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:26 PM
4

“All of you” rly means “your lady parts” tbh 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:20 PM
10

🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:19 PM
9

My ex would always threaten breaking up with me during a fight. It was so damn manipulative! One day, I finally had had enough and I accepted his threat as real and walked away from the relationship. He was literally surprised pikachu 😂😂 still probably is tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:17 PM
7

Omg T GOD. I was about to lose my sh*t if she stayed with that scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:53 PM
9

I really like that term “micro messages”. NOTHING gets past the wisdom of our psyche. She is always observing and watching the way we treat ourselves in moments big and small ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:49 PM
40

I’m actually dealing with this rn with the guy I’m currently talking to. He’s incredibly handsome, tall, athletic, full head of hair. But he has some major emotional baggage and immaturity issues which are a huge turn off unfortunately. I’m SO glad that I’m not allowing his looks to cloud my judgement of his character! Thanks FDS❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:48 PM
13

I absolutely love this woman! She rocks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:43 PM
16

This is so true. People are just magnetized to me when I’m feeling confident and content with myself! It’s crazy how different my energy is when I’m insecure and feeling down on myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:42 PM
1

Yeah! I bet there are a ton of co-ed sporting teams around Australia too! Where I live in the states, I have friends who are even on kickball or corn hole teams 😂 so if sports aren’t your thing, there’s still a ton of fun ways to get involved in a team
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:40 PM
7

I quit an incredibly toxic job, got a job in the field I’ve always wanted to be in, increased my income by 15%, created an incredibly supportive group of girlfriends, started taking vocal lessons, became the lead singer of a band, started a music production class, began a meditation practice. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:48 PM
5

What the heck sub is this on?? Scary stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:55 PM
11

It’s baffles me how entitled these scrotes feel to know our entire sexual history. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:49 PM
13

Lol I love that answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:48 PM
24

Oooof. Sounds like a pornsick bf you’ve gotta dump soon!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:37 PM
20

This guy has the grammar of a 2nd grader NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:35 PM
203

“You’re putting yourself up on a pedestal you don’t deserve” -every LVM who encounters a woman with standards who knows her worth 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:35 PM
42

I would stray away from trying to wedge yourself into locations that you wouldn’t normally frequent, in the hopes of meeting a HVM - that’s pretty Pickmeisha-y What I recommend, is going to events surrounding a hobby or passion you have. There will be tons of men attending those events that have similar interests to you! imo, that’s a wayyyy more authentic way to connect with someone than awkwardly hanging around at a golf course in the hopes of being noticed by an HVM. I’ve had a lot of success…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:33 PM
2

Gurrrl YAS! Praise be to the HIIT gods!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:26 PM
14

Omg yes please please please reach out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:28 AM
16

Are you me?? Haha Like fr fr, I totally resonate with everything in your post :) It’s so important that we get time alone to focus on ourselves. So many women lose sight of their goals bc they’ve been distracted by men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:57 PM
32

LOLLL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:26 PM
43

Ugh. This girl needs to WAKE UP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:11 PM
17

Damn! I’ve never had even one proposal haha, but cheers to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:25 PM
15

Woof! How many proposals have you gotten? 🙏🏻🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:57 PM
1

Oof. Yeah. It sounds like he’s love bombing you. It’s way too soon for him to be saying those hyper-affectionate things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:00 AM
15

Nope. I have never gotten back with a boyfriend before. And I’ve had about 4 serious relationships in my life. I take breakups very seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:02 AM
3

The fuckboys run away from me like the plague. It’s the best thing ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:59 AM
1

So happy to have you here OP! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:48 AM
12

Imagine how it will feel to text him an essay giving him a piece of your mind. And he responds “K”. It’s highly likely. Men don’t give a F*CK about our emotions honey! There’s no amount of words on a screen that will get something through their thick skulls. He will probably brush you off and tell his friends what a psycho his ex is. Don’t waste your time or energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:40 AM
11

MIXED SIGNALS = NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:34 AM
12

THIS. OP, you’ve gotta quit focusing in on him too much. You’ve never even met the guy and you already seem like you have a major crush. Keep in mind that this man could quite possibly look and act nothing like his tinder profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:34 AM
31

I quit them cold turkey. It’s the only way I can truly move on and heal. I honestly don’t know how other women move on from their exes if they’re still in contact with them/seeing them 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:29 AM
23

Wait. So you’re still with this guy????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:12 AM
3

Zammmmmm he’s got me all hot n bothered lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:51 PM
24

I’m so glad that posts like these are becoming more common on this platform. But we’ve still got a lonnnng way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:39 PM
14

I’m SO GLAD you found that out NOW before you’re 4 months in and starting to like him. I’m going to do my research on guys going forward too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:32 PM
24

THIS! I’m floored at how many FDSers in these comments are condoning this blaring red flag! If this guy is not responsible enough to take care of his debt, how in the hell is he going to be able to help take care of his woman or future children?? This would be a dealbreaker for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:22 PM
31

Again for the male lurkers in the back: WHAT WALL??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:09 PM
30

UGH! You can just see the porn sickness in his EYES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:05 PM
6

SAME!! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:03 PM
37

CRYING!!! 😂😂😂🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:01 PM
48

We’ve gotta start using this term for fuckboys!! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:54 PM
2

Amazing! I hope it goes well ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:52 PM
2

Ah! Yay! You put a smile on my face :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:45 PM
2

Truly! The journey to knowing ourselves is (I think) one of the main reasons we are all here in earth. It’s no easy task by any means, but it is a worthy one :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:45 PM
1

Omg that’s not selfish at all! We all have different methods that work best for us :) did you try adding the sentence of self gratitude in there? I’ve found that that makes the statements hit a bit differently in my mind ❤️ Also, I tend to write some of the same items every day. There’s nothing wrong with that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:44 PM
2

This is so beautiful ❤️ I’m writing this on a notecard and taping it to my bathroom mirror!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:41 PM
1

Oooo yes! I love that idea too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:36 PM
2

❤️❤️I hope it helps you just as much as it has helped me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:36 PM
22

Excuse me hun? You have nothing?? You have YOU! Beautiful, accomplished, loving, YOU! Forget his loser-ass. I’m so so so sorry that you’re going thru a tough time rn, but I really hope you’re talking to someone about this and focusing on improving your outlook on life. Maybe see a therapist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:31 PM
2

Omggg TIL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:27 PM
1

😂😂 I love when “yeet” is used as a verb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:26 PM
3

Hope you left him on read and unmatched!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:15 PM
15

The comfort zone is hard to leave! Just do it. It’s so much better on the other side ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:14 PM
2

Crying 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:12 PM
30

Omfg babe. That was ROUGH to read😣 The fact that you can look back on those times through the lens of having self esteem is a true testament to how far you’ve come!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:07 PM
47

This is so true. My last bf heard me singing in the kitchen while I was making breakfast one day and he said “ugh, don’t quit your day job”. At the time, it really hurt my feelings and I felt really belittled. But for the past year and half since I’ve broken up with him, I’ve taken voice lessons and am now the lead singer of a band. Who’s laughing now a**hole?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:52 PM
81

This happened to me ALOT when I was modeling professionally. I would do test shoots with moderately well-known IG photogs, and 9 times out of 10, they would demand I take off more clothing, or they would outright come on to me. It was disgusting and totally discouraging, because I was looking at these shoots as a opportunity to grow my modeling brand. But these scrotes saw it as an opportunity to get laid. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:50 PM
3

And then men justify LITERALLY BLACKMAILING these women by saying that they “want to teach them a lesson”. Jesus Christ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:07 AM
8

Gurl YAS! As women, we literally have to view ourselves as another person in order to truly have forgiveness and compassion for ourselves. It’s so twisted. This has really worked for me though. Especially with guilt around past sexual trauma. I imagine a younger version of myself in my mind. I give her a big hug and forgive her for all the challenges she has faced. That young girl was doing the best she could with what the limited information she had at the time. She deserves deep nurturing, for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:54 AM
4

QUEEN!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:43 AM
5

But then that means that she’s been giving him oral this whole time tho.... ugh I hate that double standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:33 AM
7

Love her energy in this 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:22 AM
14

Exactly this!! The bar is literally through the floor rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:21 AM
22

Wonder if she’s even a real woman? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:02 PM
13

I think it’s something even more insidious. I think she’s being compensated heftily to write and publish this pickmeisha garbage. All to further the political goal of keeping women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:02 PM
177

Sadly, a majority of these female-focused magazines are actually run by the male CEOs who also write GQ and men’s health. Sick and twisted that they are the ones telling women how to act in their relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:59 PM
6

I remember that one too. It makes me so angry that men are regulating what the women on this platform can and can’t say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:11 PM
2

Omg this video is SPOT ON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:32 PM
184

Don’t let them go for months just using you for sex ladies!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:00 PM
4

YUP. Men in power propagate this pickme content on purpose. It’s disgusting and the women of the world need to wake up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:34 PM
32

Oof. This one hits home 😞 I was obsessed with getting one of these when I was about 13 or 14, because I felt that I looked disgusting down there. It’s incredibly sad that little girls are taught these things by porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:17 PM
25

It’s not news to me that misogynistic books, music, and movies program young women to behave a certain way. Question is: is it a purposeful tactic to keep women (esp underprivileged women) down? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:03 PM
44

Exactly! This man is extremely HV! What a beautiful expression of love for his sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:48 PM
6

Yoooo I just found her comedy IG page! It’s called @the.kouncil ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:43 PM
27

While this song is good, she’s got alotttt of other Pickme songs that just ain’t it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:31 AM
32

Nahh babe. Block his sorry ass and move on with your life. Also, read the handbook when you get a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:24 AM
126

This woman is INCREDIBLE!! Love her so much. Anyone know her IG?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:23 AM
18

THATS SOME QUEEN SH*T!! 👑👑 Love this story so so so much. Keep slaying babe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:20 AM
1

It makes me cringe so much to think how these young, impressionable girls are making LITERAL PORN that will be permanently on the internet forever. So sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:51 PM
12

Please read the FDS handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:07 PM
6

Yeah they give zero shits about anyone but themselves. Let’s be real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:00 PM
153

My view is that little boys learn how to treat women by watching the standards and boundaries of his mother. If he repeatedly sees his mother sacrificing her boundaries and getting walked on, then he will expect that behavior from all other women too. Yet another reason why FDS is so damn important. It literally has the power to liberate women as well as the men that those empowered women raise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:59 PM
83

These clown memes are just the absolute best 😂😍🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:51 PM
8

Why do care so much what these scrotes think of your actions? Give them an inch and they will take a mile my dear. The reason why FDS pushes blocking so much, is because we rarely get over a man who continues to constantly contact us. Rip the bandaid and be done with it babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:57 PM
2

Girl, please read the Handbook and dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:26 PM
6

Yeah, my vote would be to not respond to him at all OP! Don’t feed his ego in any way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:19 PM
40

LOUDER FOR THE LADIES IN THE BACK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:22 PM
4

This woman’s queen energy is TANGIBLE thru the screen. Love her ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:07 PM
32

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:06 PM
13

Fr fr that is the energy we will bring into the rest of 2020 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:06 PM
29

Ugh that writer irks me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:02 PM
58

The symptoms of a male-dominated platform
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:02 PM
9

Praise be! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:33 PM
2

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:38 PM
41

Sad thing about that picture tho...ALOT of guys know how to maintain a facade of “respecting you” just to get in your pants. Despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:20 PM
4

I highly recommend you get a therapist babe. Obsessing over someone who is not in your life is a huge waste of your precious time. I had ALOT of trouble with this recently, but therapy has really helped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:16 PM
59

Gurrrl. His actions ARE NOT matching his words. Run. Get out. This is the classic strategy where a guy will tell you meaningless platitudes that sound nice and caring on the outside, but then he NEVER follows through on them. Don’t fall for it sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:15 PM
42

That is a fabulous article
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:11 PM
2

Ya know. I’ve been thinking about the same thing a lot lately too. I’ve been considering starting a YouTube channel for girls. Sort of as a dating/self esteem podcast with FDS principles. YT is a really powerful tool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:52 PM
3

Saaaame! I wish the whole world of females could have FDS knowledge. Imagine a world full of empowered women who don’t take shit from men. We’d be a total force to be reckoned with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:31 PM
79

There needs to be a global FDS movement that helps educate the younger female generations about this. Because it is SO obvious that they are being institutionally programmed to acquire behaviors that don’t serve them well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:28 PM
67

PRESSED LIKE A PANINI 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🥰 I’m filing that one away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:25 PM
1

I’ve taken up vocal lessons, which has seriously gotten me out of my comfort zone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:11 PM
25

Jesus that’s sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:59 AM
21

Smh And all the comments are full of Pickme moms making excuses for their husband’s bad behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:53 AM
146

I really hope she has a following on tiktok because young girls need to be aware of how cringey being a Pickmeisha is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:46 AM
6

Wow! If only I had FDS when I started dating ten years ago! How much pain and trauma that could have saved me. We are happy to have you here young grasshopper!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:32 PM
12

Hahahahaha that is my new favorite diss 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 02:21 PM
26

Good riddance! Proud of u bb ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 02:18 PM
2

😂😂 sometimes we gotta give a little tough love! Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 02:13 PM
1

Thank u thank u ❤️❤️🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 02:12 PM
9

Just stick to those high standards babe! “Losing out” on those LVM becomes like water off a duck’s back when you have self worth and self esteem. It sounds like you’re well on your way to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:06 PM
21

Omg you’ve got this babe!! We are here for you throughout this process. Remember that he is not the last man you will ever love, and that there is an incredible man out there who will treat you way better than he could!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:02 PM
9

THIS. We all just gotta realize that trying to please others is an IMPOSSIBLE TASK. How about we please ourselves for a change? 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:00 PM
8

Thank you for that ❤️ I am doing incredibly well. Therapy, self reflection, mindfulness and FDS have totally reframed my view of myself. I have interesting hobbies I put my soul into, I prioritize my needs and values above all else, and I can truly say that I’m OK with remaining in solitude for as long as it takes to eventually meet the right man. This is a stark contrast from who I was even 6 months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:14 PM
2

Oh it’s definitely not all women’s fault. But, I’ve found that alot of women overlook blaring red flags because they are so desperate to find a mate and start a family. So it’s no wonder they end up unhappy, with a terrible man, and posting over and over on subs like BreakingMom. If they had applied FDS principles from the GET GO, I seriously doubt they would have chosen the men they ended up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:09 PM
7

That makes my heart happy ❤️ FDS truly works. I am living proof!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:03 PM
3

Wow. This really hit me in the heart. This woman just got a new fan!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:56 PM
2

Love this. Also your username is amazing ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:49 PM
130

Omfg this need to be a part of the handbook at this point. There are way too many FDS newbies who think their “clap back” posts are somehow empowered. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:40 PM
19

Same! I really love my solitude. Would much rather be alone than in a toxic romantic relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:59 PM
6

Like a puppy or some plants!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:51 PM
6

THIS. Please don’t give them more of an ego than they already have!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:51 PM
3

Hahah so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:48 PM
43

We all deserve a partner like this babe! You, me, every woman on earth! I know we can find men like this :) we just have to be selective and ruthless with our standards ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:48 PM
118

Yeah :/ I had a really fucked up babysitter back then. Once she showed us (my sister and I) that stuff, I became extremely infatuated with finding more porn. I’d say I was addicted to porn and masturbation from around age 5 up until my first relationship at age 16. The porn addiction soon became a sex addiction with that bf though. Once the internet became a thing in the 2000s too, It became that much easier to find porn. Porn really distorted my view of sex and what my role in a relationship wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:35 PM
79

God. Yet another example of a man ditching his wife when she falls on hard times. Fair weather friend much??!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:46 PM
6

James Deen is a sick fuck who deserves life in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:45 PM
44

Actually he’s wrong about the female orgasm not having a reproductive purpose. When women orgasm, their vaginal canal contracts and assists semen in reaching the egg in the Fallopian tubes (sort of a “sucking” motion). So, if a couple is trying to get pregnant, and your woman is orgasming consistently, she’s more likely to get pregnant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:42 PM
18

It takes so much courage to express your true values and beliefs on social media babe. The fact that you’re doing it at such a young age is super inspiring!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:36 PM
28

I LOVE YOUR QUEEN ENERGY OP!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:35 PM
93

As someone who was forced to watch porn by a babysitter at age 5, I completely agree with this message. Porn is a sickness in our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:34 PM
3

Yeah. I agree that FDS can appear harsh to the untrained eye. Sadly, many of us women need that tough love to snap out of the Pickmeisha programming that’s been shoved down our throats our whole lives, ya know? FDS sure as hell helped me heal and build an insanely high self esteem the past 4 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:52 AM
60

Ugh no no no NO. There is just too much NO in that post. 1) huge age gap 2) dude is not divorced yet 3) challenges your parenting style 4) financial inequity This girl is pickmeisha X10000000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:02 AM
2

Collect as much evidence as you can and secretly start planning your escape from this relationship. Because this man seems like the type to get violent and nasty. Be careful babe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:59 AM
8

Yuuup. NEXT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:54 AM
10

Ugh that man’s FB is vile 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:53 AM
20

🔥🔥🐶🔥🔥 “This is fine” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:44 AM
8

Yuuuup. They auto-ban us due to “high amounts of toxic behavior from member of our sub” lol imo, they just don’t want to listen to the tough love that FDS has to offer. A lot of the women at breaking mom seem too attached to being the victim in their situations that FDS seems alien to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:41 AM
77

I always tell my girlfriends this metaphor for putting themselves first: “When you fly on a plane, in the safety pamphlet, it always says to put your oxygen mask on FIRST before helping someone else with their mask.” The same rule applies for women in relationships. If YOUR needs are not taken care of first, you cannot possibly have a stable, well-functioning relationship (friendships or otherwise). ✈️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:14 AM
7

Omg riiiiiight I totally forgot that Breaking Mom auto-bans all members of FDS! So twisted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:00 AM
14

Babe! Your pickmeisha is showing! Please envision a future day where he is your ex and threatens you with posting your nudes online. It’s likely to happen. Men can be soooo evil, and you have no idea that he is your “forever”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:37 PM
4

Good theory! I wonder if it’s true 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:14 PM
18

“But muh dick” 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:39 PM
12

They need to give her the peace and quiet she deserves! Sheesh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:27 PM
28

Right???! Just one more huge reason to intensely vet the men we date! LVM until proven otherwise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:54 PM
20

Yes! I was wondering the same thing too. It’s obvi that some posts like this are trolls just to get clicks. But idk. It seems like an incel would be more likely to post this on r/relationship_advice than r/breakingmom I like your skepticism :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:53 PM
14

Wait, is that her mom doe? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:41 PM
90

For real! This is a super diverse sub ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:38 PM
14

T GOD he’s your ex now honey! Good riddance!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:37 PM
24

Yuuuup. That’s what really got me about this. She is so stuck with this inferiority complex for this scrote. She has no idea of her worth and value! I invited her to FDS, so I’m praying that she joins and that we can help her out 🙏🏻🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:36 PM
19

We queens are a work in progress honey! I’m so proud of u for getting out while you could. It’s insane to me how men can be SO WRONG about female anatomy 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:35 PM
60

Truly! Like, how tf could that female boss not feel like an absolute trash human being? I really hope she does. Also the “it’s because your vagina is loose” comment from her husband sent me over the fucking edge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:28 PM
66

Full text: “My former boss is the other woman My partner and I have a three year old daughter together. After I got pregnant with her, I found myself subtly being pushed out of my former job through micro aggressions and exclusion from projects. So I decided to quit and not fight it because my pregnancy was so physically draining and I just wanted to stay in bed until I was healthy again. After giving birth to DD, I took four months to get back on my feet. Around that time, my husband told me th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:15 PM
22

There’s no way that an anonymous woman on the internet is going to change these man child brains honey! Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:51 PM
7

Aaaand Cut! I hope you left the convo there! No need to add fuel to the LVM fire. They thrive off of this BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:50 PM
33

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:48 PM
4

Yeah don’t even apologize to that trash. Walk away girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:21 PM
3

Exactly!! This is covert porn propaganda. Sheesh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:40 PM
-24

Though I admire each of these women IMMENSELY for the boldness they embody, I don’t think we should politicize this sub :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:37 PM
29

Agreed. More like all males!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:34 PM
9

We are so proud of you babe!! You are such a shining success ❤️❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:29 PM
40

I’d rather spend time with myself, achieving my goals and improving my wellbeing. Why waste another second on a low value person?! (friends included!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:03 AM
157

I would change the “life may be lonely” to “solitude doesn’t scare me anymore”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:27 PM
2

THIS. This is the only response FDSers should be giving to scrotes who communicate this way imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:24 PM
2

She is giving me that QUEEN ENERGY! 💪💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:53 PM
5

You got this babe! You are well on your way to queendom 👑 The first and most challenging step is recognizing the error in your past dating strategy and committing yourself to operating in a new way. It sounds like that’s exactly what you’re doing! Proud of u
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:45 PM
23

LVM will say LITERALLY ANYTHING to continue having sexual and emotional access to us. It’s disgusting and manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:43 PM
28

Exactly! And it totally ruined the mood for the rest of the double date we were on. So awk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:16 PM
99

Oof. This was my last bf. He literally could not get along well with others. Would always be starting arguments and saying rude and borderline hateful things. (he once told my Korean friend that he thought all Asian food was disgusting and inferior to other cuisines). Thank god I’m over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:14 PM
16

She is a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:49 PM
9

cute love note 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:02 PM
5

Ugh! I am in the middle of this right now with a guy *cries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:59 PM
2

Gurl! Singledom is the PERFECT time to pick up those hobbies or interests that you didn’t have time for when you were focused so much on a relationship. Always wanted to take a yoga training? Do it! Always wanted to learn a new instrument? Do it! Want to put more time into your female friendships? Do it! Being single is an incredible opportunity for self mastery. Esp since there’s no longer a Narc LVM sucking all of your time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:02 PM
20

Exactly! I fell prey to the “have sex whenever you want and men will still commit to you” LibFem garbage for wayyyy too long. Thank GOD for FDS ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:28 PM
31

*as well as have sex on the first date Can’t forget that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:27 PM
1

Oof. First red flag was that they were only together for 5 months before moving in together. Bad choice on her part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:47 PM
19

And NEVER look back honey! Time to heal and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:27 PM
11

I hope you left that dummy on read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:24 PM
16

At least we have some queens in the comment section setting her straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:40 PM
2

And LVM free! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:40 PM
18

Yeah lol the inspiring music is super deceiving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:54 PM
10

This subreddit has completely changed my life too! I am beyond happy to have found you ladies ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:44 PM
19

Since No Fap is the #1 online community for recovering porn addicts, it would be a pretty big deal if they were de-platformed. The silencing of No Fap would also signify a greater war against those recovering from porn addiction and would show the amount of totalitarian overreach the porn industry currently has in our society. Scary stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:32 PM
17

Holy fuck that first song tho... It’s so obvious how the media tries to brainwash us to be pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:46 AM
72

It’s worse than we think: “Worldwide, pornography is reported to rake in anywhere from fifty-seven billion to a hundred billion dollars annually. In the United States, it generates more revenue than CBS, NBC, and ABC combined and more than all professional football, baseball, and basketball franchises.” Read the article here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:34 AM
17

GOOD RIDDANCE! Girl, call your friends. Call your momma. Have a really good cry. And remember that someday soon you will fall in love again ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:57 AM
16

No. I’d say it’s more so due to all popular Hollywood movies. There are countless scenes where the female protagonist will be crying, and then her male counterpart will come to console her. 9 times out of 10 they end up fucking. Seriously. You’ll notice it next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:54 AM
20

I get that. All I know is that 9 times out of 10, the issues I noticed in a man from the very beginning ended up being the very things that broke the relationship up in the end. I was just too naive and insecure to deny a potential relationship in the nascent stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:55 PM
4

That’s a lie our brains tell us honey. Don’t fall for it! Don’t waste your life away with a man you’re not crazy about. Just my 2 cents!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:43 PM
16

Does your internal voice ever give you signals when first getting to know a guy? Listen to them!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:14 PM
2

Again for the ladies in the back! 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:56 PM
279

They always conflate our ability to attract sexual attention from men with the ability to have a real relationship with men. We all know there’s a huge difference and that finding a high value partner is extremely challenging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:15 PM
3

Some people just can’t take responsibility for their lives. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:29 AM
3

Yuuuup. Hiding something obvi!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:27 AM
1

I think it’s this https://instagram.com/kyra_.ann?igshid=q8ow3bnokxd7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:16 AM
1

No. She is being completely reasonable by getting angry that he’s being a lazy fuckwit around the house! Advice for you and her? Read the FDS handbook. Like ALL the way through. Don’t skip any parts. And then return to this post once you’re done lol. You’ll have a fresh set of eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:24 PM
2

Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:22 PM
17

Don’t get caught up in a scarcity mindset! There are many many MANY more men who will treat you just as well as he is. It sounds like you guys are not intellectually compatible, which could be torturous for the rest of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:08 PM
2

Gotta put your needs and financial stability first honey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:49 PM
5

Also, if your man is making 2-3X more money than you, that should be reflected in the proportion of the rent he pays. ESPECIALLY if he insisted he wanted to live in a more expensive place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:28 PM
3

JEEBUS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:25 PM
7

Don’t fall for ANYTHING until you have a consistent number of in-person dates under your belt. Him saying this so soon is definitely a red flag. Please read up on Love Bombing . It sounds like he is doing this to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:32 AM
2

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:17 PM
3

DELETE him from your life. Why are you wasting time with a MARRIED SCROTE???!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:54 PM
17

Think of how many crushes you’ve had in your life! There is always going to be another interesting man around the corner to catch your eye ;) I think one of the points of the post is that a scarcity mindset does us no favors, and that we should overcome that to create a true sense of self worth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:13 PM
9

Are you in therapy? I’ve been seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist for the past 6-7 months and GURL. I cannot stress to you enough how much this has improved my sense of self worth. 6 months ago I was lonely, depressed, and felt shitty about myself 99% of the time. But now. I am so deeply in love with who I am. Please please please try therapy! It really works. I don’t even recognize myself from 6 months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:12 PM
18

TIL: Portmanteau = a word blending the sounds and combining the meanings of two others, for example motel (from ‘motor’ and ‘hotel’) or brunch (from ‘breakfast’ and ‘lunch’).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:58 PM
5

HUNTY. Get yoself OUT of the SCARCITY MINDSET! And quit feeling sorry for yourself. Level up and be the queen that you are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:16 PM
1

It goes against FDS ideology to give men the benefit of the doubt honey!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:50 PM
1

I would caution you about moving to a bigger city solely for the purpose of “improving your chances” at finding a man. That’s a really desperate thing to do. I’d recommend you find an amazing job in your field, and then move to a new city that way! Then, you’ll have your passions and goals in line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:49 PM
3

FAKE. It’s obviously an attention-getting ploy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:43 PM
22

32 and still living at home is a huge red flag. Sounds like your sister can do way better! She needs to realize her worth as a young, beautiful woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:13 PM
15

Ugh. That subreddit is full of misogynistic incels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:08 PM
6

It’s okay babe! We all have moments of weakness. Forgive yourself and move on. Better yet, delete his contact and unfollow all of his social media. Rip the bandaid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:05 PM
2

I second the going to therapy recommendation. The past 6 months of therapy literally transformed me Into a confident, self-assured, positive woman. OP please please please give therapy a try! Just a few sessions! I highly recommend seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist too. It will help give you that inner confidence and strength that women (and men lol) are super attracted to. I think that’s the one thing missing!
/r/askFDS30/03/20 12:10 PM
2

u/smsussma come join us here at FDS! Sending you a hug ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 10:26 PM
28

The best answer to this is “I’m choosy about who I let into my life” then smile cutely and walk away ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:34 PM
8

Manlet is such a hilarious word 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:31 PM
22

Your indifference is the greatest blow to their ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:30 PM
9

It’s like RAY-EE-AAIIIN ON YOUR WEDDING DAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:28 PM
2

Omg tell usssss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:15 PM
1

I like this ide
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:07 PM
9

Did he approach you??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:20 PM
3

I especially liked the “offer to go with her to the first few sessions and wait in the sitting room” part and the “do some research to find her a therapist in your area” part.
/r/askFDS23/03/20 06:25 PM
3

Here are some tips I found on Psychology Today’s website: Be Sensitive To Timing And Place Don’t start this delicate conversation in front of other people or where others can hear as this may cause discomfort. And avoid grouping up in an intervention-style conversation as people do on TV shows. Allow the person struggling to decide whether they want others to know. This way, they feel respected and in control of their own treatment. Also: Avoid talking to someone when they are in a bad mood, tir…
/r/askFDS23/03/20 06:14 PM
7

Next time just block with no explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:43 PM
12

Has she ever considered going to therapy? It sounds like she has some major signs of depression. Maybe you could offer to see the therapist too (at a separate time), so she doesn’t feel put-on-the-spot when you ask her about this. Therapy seriously changed my life, and I think it can really help her too!
/r/askFDS23/03/20 01:06 PM
19

Yes! We've gotta have more grace with ourselves and forgive ourselves for the romantic mistakes we've made in the past. We are ever-evolving into the goddess we were born to be <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:26 PM
52

Hence why we should NEVER ask for dating advice from a MAN! Their advice will only benefit men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:23 PM
2

Exactly. Down time is the best time to focus on optimizing ourselves! I really enjoy meditating or writing lyrics and trying to sing. Do you have a hobby that makes your spirit come alive? Also, therapy has really helped me achieve a more positive outlook on life, so you should look into that
/r/askFDS20/03/20 06:05 PM
12

I admire your goal to level up. This is also a backbone of FDS, as you have probably seen. From your post, it seems like your actions and words aren’t aligning. You say you want something serious, but you’re planning casual ice cream and drink dates. You say you want true depth and connection, but you’re engaging in sex on the second date. If you REALLY want to find your dream woman, you’ve got to start matching your actions with your words. Enter the dating realm as a whole person and stick to …
/r/askFDS20/03/20 02:13 PM
5

Yes he is low value, but GURL. You DO NOT owe any scrote a peek into your sexual history. Get on your queen shit! Don’t ever feel pressured to share about your sexual history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:03 AM
2

How do we see post history?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:14 PM
7

Haha I’m in your city too ;) Girl I feel you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:26 PM
9

Omg this is YOUR neighbor? Ah! So cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:09 PM
14

Would much rather seek support from you ladies than any scrote from my past during these trying times!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:51 PM
19

Social media makes it SO HARD to not stalk someone and become super infatuated. I’ve made it a new goal to NEVER google a guy before we go on the first date (or even during the entire beginning of the relationship for that matter).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:10 PM
5

Tinder is wayyyyy worse lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:57 PM
3

Never too late to start manifesting that Queen energy honey!! 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:57 PM
6

And even THIS DICK WAD had a loving girlfriend. SHEEBUS 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:14 AM
7

Waiting for him will be a HUGE waste of your time honey. NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:05 AM
14

Gurl NOPE! I went on a date with a Yale guy recently. He tried to get me to hook up with him IN PUBLIC in THE GRASS in a PUBLIC PARK!! First date! Don’t be fooled by the “good job” or “great school” BS. Only allow their behaviors to inform you whether they are HV or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:26 PM
6

Yuuuuup I pursued my last LTR. Ended with him manipulating the fuck out of me and disrespecting me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:10 PM
300

THIS! we ladies gotta QUIT SENDING EMOTIONAL PARAGRAPH TEXTS!!! Edit: thank you for my first Gold kind stranger!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:56 PM
4

NOPE. Don’t do either of those things. It goes against FDS ideology to text a man during a “no communication” period. Also, NEVER travel for a man you are just getting to know. You NEED to understand how valuable you are as a beautiful young woman! You have something so beautiful to offer a lucky HVM. Don’t go being desperate by putting in so much effort!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:46 PM
2

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has CHANGED MY LIFE!! It seriously gives you the tools you need to overcome all the negative thinking in your head. Do a search on Zoc Doc for CBT’s that are in network for you! My sessions were $50
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:25 AM
1

Honey go see a therapist!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:01 AM
4

Start small! If a friend asks you to do something for them that you really don’t have time for, try saying “no” for once! If your nail technician is screwing up your pinky nail, and you know it’s going to bother you to look at, ask her to fix it!! If a person says something you deeply disagree with in conversation, have the courage to say that you disagree!! Exposing yourself to every day moments of confrontation will help you SO MUCH in overcoming your pushover tendencies. Before you know it, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:58 AM
18

Purell gotta know to never respond with an emotional essay! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:23 PM
3

DELETE IMMEDIATELY. GIVE NO EXPLANATION. for the ladies in the back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:25 PM
8

Have you let this man go yet? Please delete his number and start the healing process! His inability to communicate with you for a week is UNACCEPTABLE! Please take it from me, waiting for a respectful, kind man who ACTUALLY cares about you, to lose your virginity to is SO worth the wait. Be patient honey! Read up on how a Scarcity Mindset is holding you back from happiness and true connection in life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:24 PM
4

Love this! You got this babe! So proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:09 AM
3

AND SO SHOULD YOU HONEY!!! You are a queen and are worth 1000000x more than any 19 year old scrote around you. Don’t you ever forget your worth or try to appeal to the male attraction. This will only end in heartbreak for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:46 PM
1

Journaling helps a lot! My therapist instructed me to write 5-10 things in my journal every day that I am thankful for. But then, I have to write a positive quality about myself that caused those things to be. For example: “I am so grateful that I have a roof over my head and a cozy bed to sit in right now. I have worked so hard to be able to afford this beautiful apartment, and I have kept it so clean and tidy! I am so impressed with my high level of discipline and hard work”. This seems silly,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 12:41 PM
2

Please start seeing a therapist!!! It will seriously help with the depression and loneliness you are feeling honey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:39 AM
39

Gurl don’t let your horny mind fool you. MOST sex with men is less than satisfactory, and you know this. The REALLY GOOD sex comes from deep intimacy and trust. And yes we crave that. But...please don’t get caught up in trying to create that intimacy out of a hookup or hinge date. It will only end in heartbreak for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:35 AM
11

THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:35 PM
10

Mhmm. That’s literally the easiest image to download from the internet. Also, what self respecting woman would send a picture of her boobs as proof?? Yeah, I smell a rat here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 09:00 PM
2

Still vet him to make sure he puts his money where his mouth is. The horn dogs will say or do literally anything to get in our pants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:40 PM
12

What if OP is a actually a lurking scrote who wants to derail our subreddit 🧐🧐🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:35 PM
5

Ehhh, I disagree. I’ve noticed that there are very FEW truly “beautiful” women in porn. Most of them have fake tits, cheap clothing and caked on makeup. They’re really more of a spectacle that a real woman, which makes them easier to objectify in the male mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:59 PM
2

Lol😂doesn’t make me sad one bit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:57 PM
16

I feel ya, but don’t fall prey to their tactics. It’s in their best interests for women to loosen their standards and boundaries. PLEASE read the FDS handbook!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:25 PM
16

A literal hand cuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:19 PM
9

It’s bc we care about u bb ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:53 PM
7

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:52 PM
29

Never ever respond to LVM with angry essay texts! It lets them win. Don’t do that next time honey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:53 PM
5

THIS! She shouldn’t have sent that long angry explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:52 PM
11

Yeah, don’t ever give them the satisfaction of a triple text or essay. It only reflects negatively on you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:47 PM
22

There’s no one nicer than a man who hasn’t slept with you yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:28 PM
1

That’s some QUEEN shit right there! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:00 PM
25

And now she’s all giddy from the proposal and has totally forgotten about how shitty he acted. Yeah ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:21 AM
5

Yuuup. I made this mistake recently too. The asshole begged me to hook up with him IN THE GRASS at a public park on our first date. Ew. No thanks YALE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:25 AM
47

But then what about the OP? She just forgot all about how her now “fiancé” was making her wrong for standing up for herself at the dinner?? Red flags all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:20 AM
1

What is 44 points?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:27 AM
24

GURL! I also suffer from developing obsessive crushes on guys. It’s the absolute worst. Here’s what has really helped me get over my most recent one: 1) Make a list of standards you require in your future husband/mate. They can be physical, but also include non physical ones like “he is man of integrity who does what he says he’s going to do” or “he wants to have a family some day just like me”. One of my top ones is “he is a great communicator and I never feel confused about his intentions with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:54 PM
4

Girl I totally resonate with that. I live in a huge US city, and I often feel super lonely too! Here are a few things that always make me feel better no matter what :) 1: Get a pen and paper and write out every single negative thing that’s swirling around your head. Seeing these thoughts on paper actually shows you how silly and untrue they are! 2: Exercise. Even if it’s some quick stretching in the morning or a short walk, this never fails to clear my head of negative thoughts. 3: Refocus your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:40 PM
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Imma say a hard NOPE to this. If you have no interest in dating right now, forcing yourself to date is an immense waste of time. When you’re feeling negatively about dating, but still have the urge to force yourself to do it, there might be a possibility that you’re using dating as a distraction from yourself and your life/insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:43 PM
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❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:26 AM
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I just purchased “all the rules” by Ellen Fein. Is that a good place to start?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 12:25 AM
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Continuing to see him is an immense waste of your time! NEXT! PS. 99% of these friend zoned guys will continue to pursue you covertly during these meetups with you. Even if you’ve communicated that you want to keep things platonic. It’s disgusting. You should be spending that time on yourself or with a different man who you are ACTUALLY interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:50 PM
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Gurl YAS! I agree with this 100%. I have been going to therapy to mitigate these obsessive tendencies and it’s truly helping. Of course, I do still get triggered here and there, but I’m definitely trending upward towards eliminating this tendency. I implore any woman struggling with the same issues to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:40 PM
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Ugh I wish I were the same way 😭I have a major problem with developing obsessive crushes on men I’ve only met a couple of times. It’s like I’m addicted to the idealized versions I make of them in my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:32 PM
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Girl, I felt this so much. I’ve also been dealing with a lot of loneliness. I live in a huge US city, and making real friends is a huge challenge for me too. One of the best things I’ve ever done for myself is to join a co-Ed sports league. Are there any of those where you’re living? Even kickball or billiards leagues could be a great way to meet people if athletics aren’t your forte. I made a couple good friends through a soccer league and even ended up dating one of the guys from the team for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:43 PM
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Honey! A good job and a masters program don’t mean crap when your self esteem is so broken. Please please PLEASE invest in a therapist. It sounds like overcoming your insecurities and negative views of yourself could be the true key to your success ;) Sometimes adding more things to our resume is empty and lacks true meaning. Ya know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 05:11 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:52 AM
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Where do you live? I’m in nyc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:22 PM
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T God he got lambasted in the comments. Phew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:04 PM
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I was exactly in your head space at the beginning of 2020. Here’s what you can do to eliminate the negativity and manifest Queen energy: 1) Go to therapy. DO NOT skimp on taking care of your mental health. I can see you have a lot of negative perceptions of the world in your post. Not only will this negative thinking push good things away from you in life, it will also push potential new relationships away too (both romantic and friendly). I can confidently say I’m 90% back to my normal, positiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:28 AM
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the EGO on this asshole 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:14 AM
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Your friend is going to learn eventually that casual sex is not the path to go down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:12 AM
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Gurrrrl good on ya with those 50+ matches! 🤘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:12 PM
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I cringe to think about how duped I got the last time I slept with a guy on the first date. I was totally drinking the LibFem Koolaid 🤡😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:44 PM
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Is there a way we can somehow “market” this subreddit so more women can reap the benefits of this ideology? I seriously think this subreddit is the antidote to 90% of modern female woes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:09 PM
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You are SO YOUNG my dear ❤️❤️ It is in the most challenging moments that we build the most “muscle”. Does that make sense? Think of every moment that you overcome that insecurity to settle as another step closer to your end goal of being with the incredible HVM of your dreams! Don’t you dare settle for some jerk just because you feel insecure and your family is pressuring you (which is a whole other issue in itself). Any decision made from a place of desperation is not a GOOD DECISION! Also.. if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:20 PM
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I can’t believe someone’s OWN PARENTS would advise their daughter to just settle down with some LVM who shows her interest! Sheesh. Don’t get down about it babe. I’ve actually met some amazing men through new career moves! So you never know where you might meet someone ;) Also, worrying about that kind of stuff actually causes negative things to manifest in our lives! Focus on you, your dreams and hobbies, and you will meet someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:41 PM
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It can be really scary to think about the future and the potential ending of our “fertile window”, but getting caught up in that negative, scarcity mindset does us no favors my dear. Modern medicine is incredible (fertility treatments, freezing eggs, etc), so don’t let that worry fill your mind too much ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:29 PM
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I seriously considered getting a black market labiaplasty in high school because of the shame I felt about my “outie”. Thank god I’ve learned to love that part of myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:27 PM
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Do not. Repeat! Do not go home with him. Stay sober on the date, and keep your wits about you. Imagine how you will feel when he ghosts you after you have sex for the first time. It will feel terrible, I promise you. There is no gain from sleeping with him earlier than is appropriate! Please please please wait it out my dear! Especially if you are really looking for a relationship with someone and not just a hookup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:21 PM
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Lollll that never stopped me in the past
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:19 PM
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Exactly. I did sleep with a guy like this, and it caused me to have a mental breakdown when he eventually lost interest. If it weren’t for that experience though, I never would have found FDS. I’m so thankful to be here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:48 PM
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Yeah, I think befriending guys in a non-romantic setting is the best way to build a true connection with a HVM in this city. I’ve found playing on co-Ed soccer teams to be a great place to meet guys (of course, The one man I actually did date from the soccer team turned out to be polyamorous. Ugh!) I also work at a tech company, which is male dominated. But it’s definitely not in my best interest to mix work and romance :/ I have a feeling that there are many attractive, HVM here that are in fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:45 PM
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Ugh girl! I’m living in NYC too! It’s a beautifully challenging city in so many ways, but I never anticipated how difficult dating would be :/ Most of the men I’m attracted to are not looking for a relationship. The one man I actually dated long term was super LV (which I didn’t know until I joined this sub). Any tips you have for dating here are much appreciated. I have trouble not falling into a scarcity mindset quite often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:25 PM
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Hmm. You’ve never encountered super attractive guys that also exhibited LVM behavior?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:21 PM
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Ugh. I’m aware of all of those things stacked against me 😣 But, I really don’t want to give in to the scarcity mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:16 AM
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Yuuup. Or I’ll lose (or never develop) sexual attraction to him. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:15 AM
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Have you tried to show your friend FDS? Sounds like she could really have a breakthrough moment and overcome this asshole if she were only aware of this ideology... Of course, most of us will only make positive change in our life of our own accord :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:02 PM
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Agreed! I can’t second guess myself on the physical standards I’ve set for my future partner. It might take me longer to eventually find a viable man, but it’s sooo worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:07 PM
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So true. I encounter this all the time dating in NYC. Tons of attractive men all around, but they’re all here to screw around. It’s maddening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:06 PM
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That’s true. So the non-physical qualities have the potential to increase their attractiveness over time. Have you ever dated a man that didn’t meet your physical standards initially, that later on became very attractive to you because of his other qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:05 PM
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Exactly. That’s my problem. Since I’m conventionally good-looking, my standard for looks in a mate are quite high. So when I go into the dating pool in NYC, I rarely meet a man that I’m physically attracted to who also shows me HVM qualities (while the men who are way less attractive than me roll out the red carpet). I try not to get in a scarcity mindset about it, but it creeps in at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:03 PM
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Other than that it espouses a narrative that is detrimental to the physical (and mental) well-being of a majority of women? Read the FDS Handbook babe! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:42 PM
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I’ve met some incredible guys through joining co-ed sports leagues! There’s something super organic about being randomly placed on a soccer team with a guy, and gradually getting to know him throughout the season ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:02 AM
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Gurl you’ve gotta eliminate him from your life completely. Don’t get pulled back in to his shitstorm! Lose his number. Block his socials. Fr fr!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:37 PM
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Ah yes! Journaling about the interactions we’ve had with these men can really keeps things in perspective! Especially when we feel really infatuated with someone. I made a list of pros and cons of this guy that I was obsessing with a month ago, and I realized that literally the only redeeming qualities he had were that he was super sexy, and funny sometimes. The cons were huge red flags (like he’s not financially stable, constantly mocked and negged me, love bombed me then went cold later on, li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:58 PM
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Girl YAS! So proud of you for overcoming that urge to seek validation from his lovebombing ❤️this is something I’m also working to master, so you’re quite the inspiration! Please keep us updated on your progress :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:01 PM
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Hmm. Seems like a lot of intensity at a very early stage in the relationship. You are completely correct in your skepticism. Are you familiar with the term “Lovebombing”? You should really check out that chapter of the FDS Handbook and see if his behaviors mirror any red flags in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:13 PM
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I really agree with this sentiment! This needs more upvotes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:52 PM
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Keep us posted on how things end up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:49 AM
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You should check out the “don’t give men the benefit of the doubt” thread in the FDS Handbook. It seems like you’re giving him too many outs my dear! Be ruthless in your judgement of men. And never EVER put yourself down by saying you’re “not a model”. Gurl you gotta start manifesting that queen energy because you are one! ❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:40 AM
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Okay okay! 👍Keep us posted ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:55 PM
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So incredibly happy for you babe! It’s crazy to think that most of us haven’t had an un-medicated menstrual cycle in like a DECADE! 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:54 PM
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Recovering Pickmeisha here! 👋I was legit consuming TRP content constantly for 6 months (I was depressed and addicted to it). And I was wondering why I was lonely and angry and not having any successes in dating. I’m beyond thankful I found this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:21 AM
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I went off BC over a year ago and I’m never ever going back. It’s so incredibly freeing! I’m so in tune with my cycle now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:00 AM
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Don’t get too caught up pining over an ideal version of him you have in your head :/ i just went through this with a guy I was crazy crushing on. And he turned out the be just another LVM who ghosted after we had sex. It truly sucked. Crushing/obsessing over a guy never does us any favors babe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:00 AM
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THIS. I get all caught up in feeling jelly of all the couples, but then I actually see the dudes these ladies are with, and I’m like EW! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:55 AM
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Or also a great time to practice your breakup-over-text technique!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:52 AM
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Girl I totally feel you on this. Most of my friends are in LTRs, and sometimes I get caught up in negative thinking about myself and how lonely it can be dating in a big city (NYC). One thing I’ll point out from your post though, is that you mentioned your friend’s bf SEEMS like a HVM. One thing I’ve learned in life is nothing is as it seems! Every person, and every relationship, has challenges and baggage. He can be bringing her flowers on V-day, just to be less-than-doting behind closed doors.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:47 AM
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Lol this guy can’t even spell right. LVM! 👎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:36 AM
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Thank you for this. I really needed to hear it. I'm coming off of a guy ghosting me after we had sex, and I've been beating myself up about it so much. But, I never would have found this incredible community if that traumatic experience never happened!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:28 PM
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Thanks for the info!
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:10 PM
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Truuuu
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:09 PM
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I can totally relate to some feminist ideals being extreme. They turn me off too! I just feel a majority of women who are passionate about women's rights are more moderate than that, and actually have progressive thoughts about men's rights too 👍🏻
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:07 PM
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Whelp. We can agree to disagree. I'm not here to blow smoke up anyone's ass. More so to have some great convos with open minded people passionate about men's rights 👍🏻cheers
/r/MensRights13/05/17 07:03 PM
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I don't think there's a "correct" way to show your support. As someone who is seriously passionate that men's rights groups and feminists can see eye to eye somehow, I find your comment to be detrimental to that cause. Why would you want to potentially scare women away from your sub who have an open mind to your issues?
/r/MensRights13/05/17 12:41 PM
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Thanks for your reply! So I did some research and found that one huge reason that some women's communal restrooms aren't being converted is because of a fear that sexual assault might increase if women don't have a space to change tampons, pass out drunk, etc. This article sums it up well: http://socawlege.com/the-case-against-fully-shifting-to-gender-neutral-bathrooms/ Although, I don't agree that fear of sexual assault upon women should be incorporated into these bathroom changes, it does seem…
/r/MensRights13/05/17 12:32 PM
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Haha that's funny 🌟
/r/MensRights13/05/17 02:12 AM
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Definitely reasonable to ask about vibrator use. The reason the female orgasm is difficult to achieve is largely biologically related though. The clitoris is not directly stimulated by vaginal sex. Yes, vaginal (g-spot) orgasms are possible, but they take a lot of time and effort. So women are just biologically less adept at having quick and frequent orgasms. In terms of female vibrator use and issues with orgasm, I found this medical forum: http://chickrx.com/questions/does-using-a-vibrator-mak…
/r/MensRights13/05/17 02:11 AM
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I wouldn't necessarily generalize all feminists to think that men wouldn't be affected by having their restrooms changed like that. Of course, this isolated case in UCSB seems pretty unfair to the male population. But it took a the whole UCSB administration to enact those restroom changes, not just feminists.
/r/MensRights13/05/17 02:00 AM
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Ahhh I learned something new today 👍🏻Thank you. I know a lot of people struggle with this issue, and I'm all for opening a broader conversation about men's sexuality and sexual issues.
/r/MensRights12/05/17 10:03 PM
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The image could have been referencing gay male relationships too! 👍🏻
/r/MensRights12/05/17 09:36 PM
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Agreed! The link they drew there was totally wrong. It does cause issues with intimacy which is really sad. Had a boyfriend in college who couldn't orgasm during sex because of how often he masturbated and watched porn before me. I was kind about it, but it definitely made me feel like I wasn't pleasuring him correctly and such
/r/MensRights12/05/17 09:35 PM
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I feel like romantic comedies can appeal to both men and women! Just as porn appeals to men and women too 👍🏻Some of the aggressive gangbang stuff gets a little scary for me, but to each his own
/r/MensRights12/05/17 09:33 PM
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The funny thing with this whole "gender neutral bathroom" movement is how awkward bathroom encounters can get. As a female, the last thing I would want to do is take a crap with some cute guy peeing at the urinal next to me. Not to mention I would definitely feel a little scared of being somehow inappropriately approached. It's a tough issue
/r/MensRights12/05/17 09:31 PM
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I agree that some feminist extremists really degrade male sexuality. But, most feminists don't think that way. Also, what is TRP?
/r/MensRights12/05/17 09:24 PM
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I'm all for men's rights, as a woman. I'm not sure the feminist/men's rights subreddits help facilitate open conversation and understanding between the two groups though.
/r/MensRights07/05/17 04:44 AM
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Echo chamber
/r/MensRights07/05/17 04:31 AM
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