Does making the first move on a guy or asking him out (not for sex) a pickme move?

DazzlingMolasses7 · 2020-05-13T16:20:37+00:00

Pls read the handbook.

To answer your question, no, fds doesn’t ever recommend asking the man out first. Or chasing men.

2020-05-13T17:55:15+00:00

Good way to get pumped and dumped.

balladwilds · 2020-05-13T16:31:25+00:00

we never EVER chase men

Throoooowawayyyyy55 · 2020-05-13T19:33:11+00:00

Never ask a man out. Period.

You can give subtle hints like smiling and prolonged eye contact to signal you’re interested, but ultimately it’s up to him to take the initiative.

The rationale comes down to men valuing what they earn. If you ask him out you’re essentially throwing yourself at him which eliminates all the work on his part. Part of the vetting process is confirming a man is interested in you by the effort he puts into creating a relationship. So don’t sell yourself short!

West-Cook · 2020-05-13T18:57:24+00:00

Don’t put your cards down on the table. At most, fan your cards flirtily, allowing him a mere glimpse of what you have in your hand. If he’s interested in what you’ve got, he’ll raise his bet.

throwawayitst · 2020-05-13T18:19:54+00:00

Hinting is better if you really wanna do it. And yes its not a good move and the only case it works is if they guy wanna gonna do it anyway and you just did it first. It can hinder him from loving you

featherflowers · 2020-05-13T19:25:56+00:00

You should also read "Not Your Mother's Rules" by Ellen Fein & Sherry Schneider. It gets very specific and in depth about texting, messaging on social media, etc. Never pursue a man it only leads to heartbreak.

Title	Does making the first move on a guy or asking him out (not for sex) a pickme move?
Author	MakeYourLemonade
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Comments	14
Date	May 13, 2020 3:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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