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DISCUSSIONthelittlestpotato/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 09:19 PM
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DATING ADVICEthelittlestpotato/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 07:18 PM
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DATING ADVICEthelittlestpotato/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 06:48 PM
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Sure it is. I'm jealous of my sisters' sometimes. But I think that you're letting it get a bit out of hand. Of course I don't know you, but I do think it's healthy to talk things out with a professional once in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 03:20 AM
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Therapy sounds like a good start. Your self esteem doesn't sound like it's at its healthiest state right now, and I think that would really help.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 01:17 AM
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This is a mistake I see way too often. If you are looking for a serious relationship, be clear about it from the start. Hooking up with someone casually really isn't the way to start a relationship. Not saying it's impossible, but it does send a confusing message. Some people enjoy purely physical relationships. There's nothing wrong with that, and if that is how your friend is, he is entitled to have his preferences respected. If you want a committed relationship, you need to be clear about you…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 01:14 AM
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I'm probably a bit of an outlier, but as long as they have drive, their actually earnings don't matter much to me. I'm naturally very frugal, and want to live on as little as possible, but am also driven to creating my own income. We are both freelancers and contract workers, and precarious employment is not new to either of us. I think it all comes down to your own views on money, and how much you need to be comfortable. It varies from person to person.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 03:22 AM
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I think intent does matter. Posting a picture because you like it isn't necessarily in poor taste. Posting a picture because you're seeking validation is sad, because the validation is shallow and not solving the root of the problem. If you are feeling insecure, you need to tackle that head on, not dance around it by trying to fish as many compliments as possible. For me, compliments from my partner are so much more powerful, but having a good mental state is far better than anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 04:12 PM
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Figuring out my hobbies (beyond the shallow things like reading or window shopping)! I have the bad habit of just picking up whatever my boyfriend is into instead of forming and developing my own interests. This leaves me a little lost to my own identity sometimes, because I end up being so focused on what my boyfriend enjoys. Especially because I eventually come to truly enjoy those hobbies too! To combat this I've started putting real effort into exploring my interests that my boyfriend isn't …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 03:00 AM
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I'm not that far out of my teenage years (I'm 21), and I remember high school all too well... I did actually have sex when I was 15, and I wish I had waited. I felt like I was SOOOOO mature, but in reality, I was still such a child and I made so many painful and awful life choices. Boys in high school are really horny, not gonna lie. To me personally, it sounds like your boyfriend is about to start a campaign to guilt you into sex. Now, I might not be correct, but this has happened to me in the …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 03:32 AM
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Very much agree with this! The "36 questions" experiment didn't necessarily conclude that those 36 questions will definitely get someone to fall in love with you, more that when people share intimate details about themselves with another person, they feel closer with that person due to their shared connection. You don't need a script to do this. Not to mention many people don't want to delve into a lot of the dark, philosophical aspects of themselves during the second date. Nothing wrong with ke…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 09:03 PM
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I just read the book "Lazy Perfection: The Art of Looking Great Without Really Trying" by Jenny Patinki, and it honestly changed my life. She makes it sound so easy and accessible! The book covers makeup, hair, and how to dress. Youtube can be great, but I've never been able to really understand what they were saying. You can also research to see if there are any beauty schools near you, or other places that offer makeup lessons. Another book I recommend is "The Little Book of Skin Care: Korean …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 12:15 PM
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Didn't have the best introduction to men when I was younger, and it resulted in me making some very poor choices when it came to who I dated. As a high school student, I dated a guy who was very manipulative. We both suffered from mental illness, and for a while it was comforting to have someone who understood my struggles. But as I began healing at a much quicker pace than him, it began to feel like he was holding me down. So I tried to break up with him, and thus began nearly two years of mani…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 12:08 PM
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I have had two female therapists in the past and they were great! I'm seeing another one right now, and I find her to be really helpful. I don't necessarily know what you're expecting from therapy, but as a Social Work student I'm going to try and dispel some myths. No therapist worth anything will judge you openly. They might think something inside, but they would never say it out loud. Politics really isn't that big in therapy (although some would disagree). Their main goal is to help you! I'v…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 12:44 PM
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See, that's the one that really stings. I didn't really get to bring that up last night, so I guess I'll do it today. To be fair, he does foot most of the costs in our relationship. If we did keep tabs on literally everything, I think he would have definitely spent more money on me than I have on him. However, the difference is the source of the money. I'll talk to him about that today.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 02:29 PM
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If it wasn't for the whole money thing, I would consider him to be pretty close to perfect. A lot of the differing opinions on money do seem to stem from the fact we are from different financial classes. He's never had to worry about money and he's never really had a role model when it comes to saving money. He kinda has to learn from scratch. The good thing about him though is that he doesn't want to cause me excess worry, so after talking to him about it last night, he has shown me many differ…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 02:26 PM
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His family is very wealthy, whereas mine is very frugal. My parents came from the projects, and although I know we are in a very comfortable place, my parents are not ones to throw money around. The class difference really comes out when it comes to money. For my family, jobs are really all about the money, while his parents encourage him to get experience and connections instead. So the emphasis is on finding himself, instead of making money. Being frugal has never been taught to him. It's hard…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 02:23 PM
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He actually has a very high chance of having ADD, as his dad has it. That's another reason why it feels so bad to be frustrated with him. We had a very good heart to heart about it yesterday, where I basically cried my eyes out and spilled all my insecurities. His family is very wealthy, whereas my family has struggled with money. I suppose the class difference really comes out when it comes to money.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 02:06 PM
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Therapy all the way, and medication if you need it. I have struggled with mental illness for most of my life, and I fall back into slumps if I'm not careful. After a particularly sudden and violent downturn in my mental health, I reached out to my family doctor, who prescribed me a very mild medication. It helps regulate my mood, and there is no shame in it! It helps me function like a normal person, and I am grateful for it. On top of the medication, I've been attending therapy sessions at two …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 06:04 PM
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Here's the third and, in my opinion, best way for relationships to develop. You meet someone you like and who you feel could be a good match for you. You get to know them, not as a friend, but as a prospective romantic partner. There is a difference. Although I started dating my current partner in high school, I already knew the difference between being friends with a guy, and getting to know someone (vetting) for the hopes of dating them in the future. Once you've vetted enough, and the feeling…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 03:10 AM
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I'm with my high school sweetheart, and we were (and still are) both very liberal with our "I love you"s. Neither of us remembers who said it first, but we used in probably a couple days in and haven't stopped! I don't think there's really a right time to say it. It's different for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 04:24 AM
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He's been very supportive! We've been going through the pros and cons together, and he's helped me think about a lot of other different ideas. He's also a free spirit, so we do understand each other better than anyone else I know.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 10:21 PM
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No clue! I do want to get married and have kids, but next to that I don't really know.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 10:18 PM
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It does sound interesting, but I'm not looking for a full time career just yet. The thing I like about DCL is that it's contract work.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 10:18 PM
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Ain't that the truth... He's still very open minded and supportive, so he's helping me weight the pros and cons to see if it's worth it, and how we'd schedule time together if I did decide to go. We're both relatively realistic, so if the distance seems like too much then I'll definitely let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 10:17 PM
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I think in this context, what other people think isn't important at all. I had cosmetic surgery done before, namely having a mole removed from my face, and even that simple procedure made me feel so much better in terms of self confidence! I think there is nothing wrong with enhancing your look, and this includes plastic surgery. Even complex procedures, like breast implants or nose jobs, can be done in a way that looks natural and beautiful. If you feel like doing something to your body would r…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 10:25 PM
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I remember when my boyfriend was failing out of his program. He never made it to class, half-assed his assignments, and was basically a horrible student. The root of the problem was that his program just wasn't for him. It would have set him up for a high paying career, but at the end of the day, he wasn't interested in it and found some of the underhanded methods used in the industry to be disgusting. He has since changed into a program that he really loves and is thriving. The point of what I'…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 02:55 AM
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I have a vitamin C toner from Avalon Organics and Thayers Witch hazel toner (rose scent). The Avalon Organics one is really good, and I use it when I'm breaking out, while Thayers is gentle and good for everyday. My skin is SO sensitive, so once my skin is used to something, I try not to change it up.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/18 04:31 AM
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I literally use only three products and my skin is at it's personal best. For a natural glow, eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. My skin always looks more dull when I'm not getting enough produce in my body. I think what makes the most difference in terms of skincare products is my toner, which I apply with a cotton round (you can get reusable ones to be kinder to the earth). I think the act of swiping it on really gets the grime off my face.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 09:02 PM
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I don't actually use any birth control other than the pull out method! However, I've heard about that book before and have been wanting to read it and try that method out. I've just been a little slow to do it because it costs money and our current method has been working rather well for us.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 07:50 PM
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I go through bouts of really not feeling sexual at all. I am not sure if it's hormonal or mental, but they hit very hard about once or twice a month. Although I want to be the kind of woman who is always ready for sex, especially since my boyfriend has a high libido, that doesn't always work out. There have been times where I tried to force myself into the mood, and I ended up bleeding from my vag because I couldn't relax enough and he tore me. So... haven't done that again. Sometimes I'll do du…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 12:03 AM
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This sounds less like a problem with hookup culture, and more like you are in need of validation (not a bad thing!). Yes, hookup culture is terrible for a bunch of reasons that other people have covered, but it feels to me like that won't be enough to make you feel better. If you're feeling a little down about your body, remember it's never too late to get back into it! My body has definitely changed over the course of my years at uni, but good diet (most of the time, let's be realistic) and sma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 03:10 PM
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Talk with him! Make sure that you are on the same page about what kind of vacation both of you want this to be. Ask him what would help make this an awesome trip. Does he want to hang out all the time, or would he like some time to himself? Will evenings be spent out on the town or quietly at the hotel/air bnb/resort/etc.? Is this trip going to be about romance, or adventure, or relaxation? Having expectations set before hand can really help minimize the stress of traveling, as well as get rid o…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 10:02 PM
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One, stop dissing soy milk. That is my least favourite stereotype and the scientific reasoning is flawed. Two, what are you doing to encourage men? Are you asking to hear their opinions and encouraging them to be open with you? Are you giving them a place to be themselves without judgement? Not every man is going to be the stereotypical "alpha male", but that doesn't mean they don't deserve kindness and respect like everyone else. And three, stop obsessing over finding a masculine man. I think t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:11 PM
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You don't need a car to be independent, nor is it a bad thing to be able to rely on others from time to time. People have their own reasons for why they might not have gotten their drivers license right away. He is working towards his and he's most likely going to get it next month. Obviously if it's such a big issue for you, move on. Just know that it's a YOU issue, there's nothing inherently wrong with a man who doesn't drive.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 03:52 AM
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I am a young woman, and while my mom wasn't the perfect mom, she did do some things right. For one, she exposed me to a lot of culture. She took me to the ballet, the opera, classical concerts, and theatre productions. She encouraged me to pick many artistic hobbies including dancing (ballet, tap, and jazz) and violin which she got me to stick with until I graduated high school. These hobbies taught me a lot about self-discipline and made me a lot more graceful physically. She also made sure I t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 09:49 PM
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Hmmm, I am no expert, but I do not think you're as RPW as you think. Firstly, neither of you are wrong. While some problems do only require figuring out a solution and moving on, sometimes emotional needs must be met as well. Secondly, it sounds like you aren't actually letting him lead. You're telling him what to do and then getting mad about it. Basically, you're telling him he's not enough and that he has to change, instead of looking at yourself and how you could make things better. Not to m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 08:29 PM
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No offence, this makes me sick. I can't really add on since a lot of other people have covered the basics, but I will agree that this person you're with sounds incredibly shallow and out of touch. Whether or not you birth the child, being parents is about teamwork! You are not a nanny. Heck, I'm a nanny and I get more say in my charges' lives than your husband seems to be planning for you to have in your child's life. This reads like a list of red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 08:04 PM
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I am a wee gal, standing at 5'3" and weighing 113lbs. My boyfriend, in comparison, is a mountain. He is 6'3" and 210lbs of muscle. He is very physically playful, and we both enjoy it. To keep my bones from getting cracked, I am very vocal. The minute things get painful, I tell him (screech out), "gentler!" or a less dignified "ouch!" and he'll pull back and make sure I'm okay. After the first time he hurt me by accident, we sat down and I told him about how much smaller I am. I emphasized my "ba…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 08:02 PM
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Hi! Not married, but talking about it all the time. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, but some time after the first year we decided that we were going to get married in the future. I've always been very candid with him, and he has been that way with me. I don't remember who brought it up first, but we talk about marriage and children openly and often.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 02:36 AM
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Not going to lie, it's all about religion to me. I was raised to believe and personally believe that marriage is a covenant before God. To me, it is the ultimate sign of commitment to my spouse, because I'm declaring my love and faithfulness to him not just to our families, but to God himself. I also heard it's healthier for children, and while I have not actually looked into that, I do think children feel more secure when their parents are a loving and loyal team. Add onto that all the points b…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 01:06 AM
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I'm very minimal with my daily routine. I wash my face with water, apply a witch hazel and rosewater toner (Thayers) with a cotton pad, and then a sunscreen moisturizer. I'm currently using Neutrogena, because it was on sale and doesn't make my skin break out. At night, it's the same but with aloe vera gel instead of sunscreen. Sometimes I'll use a 5% AHA acid (Ordinary brand, very cheap) to exfoliate gently, and a bit of facial oil (rosehip seed oil) if the cold temperatures are drying my skin.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 02:37 AM
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I agree with the people saying that your kids will be fine with a babysitter. Vet them properly, get references, or yes, ask a friend that you trust. If you don't make time for your husband, it's going to make a mess of your relationship. Your children will eventually grow up and move out, but your husband will be with you until you die. That's the relationship you need to work on the most.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 08:36 PM
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I saw that on my recommended, and I'm just waiting to finish my midterms before I go and binge it. She looks like she's having a great time, and I do love the Halloween season. Also, thank you for sharing the book! I'll be checking that out too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 06:22 PM
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I actually hate crying in front of my boyfriend when he upsets me because it feels manipulative, even when I'm not trying to be. I do express my feelings openly, and don't hesitate to cry when it occurs naturally in other situations (I'm a deeply emotional person, and crying helps me feel better mentally and physically), but I dislike crying during arguments. I much rather use physical touch as a method of connecting. Often, in the middle of a fight, all it takes is a gentle touch to help us rem…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 06:20 PM
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Yeah, this is great advice! Thank you so much, I will talk with him today. Definitely don't want to overdo it and freak him out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 11:40 AM
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Lots of good points here. I definitely can see the importance of not overdoing it. I will keep an eye on him, and let him know that I do worry about his health, but I don't think I'll do anything too meddlesome. Having thought about this overnight, I now see that this is something that he needs to work through mostly by himself.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 11:38 AM
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Very rarely. I'd say we're both social drinkers (a shot at a party, wine/cocktails with dinner), but he's definitely got a better handle on it than me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 11:36 AM
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Yeah, money could be a factor... His new place is not close where he used to live, so he did lose his job when he moved. Also, being a full time student doesn't leave much time for money making. The eating disorder comments are freaking me out a little, but I do understand that there are limits to what I can do if that is the case. I'll keep an eye on him and see how things go.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 11:34 AM
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I feel this post on a personal level! I'm almost 21, but plenty of people mistake me for a 13 or 14 year old. Honestly, I don't know if this is helpful, but don't worry about it so much. Men aren't one hive mind with the same preferences. Work with what you have, and be secure that a man who is interested in you is interested IN YOU. We can't all look like instagram models, but the nice thing is that not all men are into that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 12:38 PM
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Hello love, I'm so sorry to hear about your horrible experience... That being said, I did not bleed at all when I lost my virginity. In fact, bleeding is not really normal at all. The only time I've bled during sex is because my partner was being too forceful and penetrated me before I was warmed up. Even then, my bleeding didn't mean my hymen disappeared. The hymen is more of a flexible ring, and it does stretch and thin with time. You cannot lose your hymen, because it's not something you can …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 12:25 AM
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I think a lot of the time we don't really have realistic opinions of ourselves. Just because you aren't stunning or have the face of an Instagram model doesn't mean that you are ugly to look at. Average is called average because that's what MOST people are. Most people don't look gorgeous, and that's perfectly normal. Focus on embracing your best self. Work out, eat healthily, take good care of your skin, try different makeup techniques if you enjoy them. I find my face to be okay, and I do stru…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 03:12 PM
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I've been doing long distance for 3 years now, and I'm happy to say that it does get easier with time! I think what helped me the most when I was missing my SO was actually giving both of us space. Rather than text him non-stop, I found myself hobbies and activities that I enjoyed so much that I could focus on them for hours. Reading interesting books, researching topics in depth, baking, sewing, going on nature hikes, working out, dance classes, etc. all helped me build a day-to-day routine tha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 04:55 PM
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I'd say aim for a man who is just as, or more, career oriented than you. Male doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc. understand, and even value a woman who has a good head on her shoulders. My boyfriend's dad is a doctor and his wife used to work as a consultant for the Canadian Space Agency. They both worked hard until he started to make more than enough for their family to live on, and then she decided to stay at home. A friend of mine has a mother who's a doctor, and a dad who's a lawyer. They wor…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 04:46 PM
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There's plenty of other options between artsy hipster dudes and MAGA wearing frat boys. I think you're tricking yourself into believing that your options are limited, when they probably aren't. I would say that you should be more open to dating someone with different political views. They don't have to be hard right if that disgusts you, but being exposed to different opinions can do great things for you as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 04:25 PM
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What's the deal breaker about video games? Why are you so disgusted by it? My boyfriend loves playing video games, and TBH, I'm not a fan of them, especially COD. But he loves them, and I respect that he can get joy out of them, even if I don't. I even play with him a couple times, although on most occassions I kindly tell him that I am really not interested. I completely agree with the comment saying you need to either leave or suck it up. You need to be honest with him about your disinterest i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:16 PM
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For me, what helped the most was getting comfortable with being completely vulnerable. I did do other things, such as dressing nicely every day (accentuating features I know he likes about me), and smelling nice. Showering often and (lightly) applying a body oil, perfume, or scented lotion can make a woman more appetizing. However, what really changed the game was getting out of my head and doing what feels right. To do this, I worked on becoming 100% honest. When my boyfriend asks me what's wro…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 02:53 AM
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As a wee Canadian gal, I am in sweatshirts probably more often than I should. For one, it's freezing cold most of the year, and second, my job isn't one I dress up for. As someone who works with young children, sweatshirts are great for keeping me warm (I have the body mass of a chihuahua) and I don't cry when they inevitably get stretched and stained (children are a little gross). That being said, I do try to wear sweaters or cardigans when I can. Not everyone's style is gonna be pastel cardiga…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 02:29 AM
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LEAVE!!! Now, not to say that people who have been abused should be blamed for it, but you shouldn't have to suffer because of someone's past. I will say what others have probably said, and that is THIS WILL HAVE CONSEQUENCES. This kind of trauma doesn't just leave you, not without strong intervention by trained psychologists. Can you imagine being married to this person, having kids with this person, knowing all this? I should hope not. You are NOT a bad person for not wanting to stay with some…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 12:43 PM
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My boyfriend loves it that I shoot guns with him, and that I love mountain climbing and building things (woodworking is fun!). Being feminine is more of a state of mind, and not your hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 10:56 AM
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When I started dating my boyfriend at the age of 17, he wasn't sure if he wanted children, and I was okay with that. Now, at the age of 20, he is excited and so ready to have lots of children once we're married. As a teenager, being with a guy who didn't want children didn't matter to me, but now that I'm getting older, it has become a matter of extreme importance. Luckily, my boyfriend changed, but I know that if I was choosing a person to date right now, I'd pick someone who wanted kids just a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:41 PM
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I completely agree with this! Although it's taken me time to fully understand what "sparks joy", Kon Mari has really helped to to pare down on my belongings. I got rid of piles of trash and donations, and my room, although I still view it as a work in progress, has never been cleaner. I also make it a habit to tidy up every day. Either in the morning or at night, before I go to bed, I empty out my purse entirely, put the contents back where they belong (wallet and glasses in my bedside drawer, h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 02:57 PM
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If you're in a region without many mosquitos or biting insects, that sounds like it might be fine. If there are plenty of biting insects around though, I would definitely go for function over looks. While it might look cute to wear a dress, it's not cute to have to bite back complaints after your ankles have been ravaged by biting insects. This also goes if you're roughing it in a tent. A little nightgown might sound cute at first, but when you're staggering through the bush looking for somewher…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 11:39 PM
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As someone who has been recovering from mental illness, it's been so important to me to become a brighter, happier person. Something that has really helped is embracing silliness. I think a lot of us try to hard to be "mature" to the point where it's a joy-kill. No need to be manic about it, but if there's a chance to be childlike and joyful, go for it! If you see a dog, and you really want to pet it, go for it. If you are happy or excited or absolutely thrilled by something, let the world know.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 01:23 PM
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I'm in Europe right now visiting family (Hungary specifically), and I will say straight up that things DO NOT get any better. No matter where you go in the world, there will always be the same sort of array of men. In fact, every time I go to Hungary, I DESPERATELY miss the men back in Canada (where I live). And I live in Toronto, so.... I would suggest you get out of the small towns if you'd like to see a bigger variety. There are quality men no matter where you go, all you have to do is find t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 05:25 PM
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Really? I didn't get that vibe at all. I quite like those books. Some of the tips are strange, but I think the overall message of removing clutter to make cleaning easier to be very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 02:56 PM
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Woo boy, this is going to sound so harsh, but I really feel the need to say it. I do not know the backstory, but based off this and your last post, I'm going to say that I don't believe you are actually trying at all. You don't want to see him as attractive (perhaps because you secretly want a reason to leave him) and so of course you never will. I cannot see a single example in your posts where you have expressed ways you are trying to lift him up as a man, and a LOT of examples where you clear…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 12:45 AM
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As others have said, aromatics are the way to go. Spices, herbs (especially fresh ones), and other strongly scented ingredients give wonderful flavour and scent to the finished dish. Other scents that I really enjoy are fruit scents and the smell of vanilla and chocolate. A couple of my go-to sweets that make the whole house smell wonderful are jams, preserves, pies (especially pumpkin, apple, or raspberry), crumbles and crisps (peach is especially good), pumpkin muffins (with plenty of cinnamon…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 02:34 PM
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I have also done my research, and I will say that while it is true that couples who live together prior to marriage do have a higher risk of divorce, correlation DOES NOT equal causation. So while the risk is there, it is not caused by the act of living together. Rather, the risk of divorce seems to rise when couples move in together without discussing what they want their future to be. This causes problems when one person is looking for marriage, and the other just likes having someone to help …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 08:42 PM
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I don't know if I can be much help, but I will add a couple things that help me when working with challenging children. The first piece of advice comes in two parts: the first is to find a way to vent your emotions (journaling, therapy sessions, talking with others, support groups, etc.) and the second part is to find the good in the situation (so extremely difficult, but it gets easier with practice). Even if you can only come up with superficial answers at first, I find that focusing on good m…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 08:36 PM
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I think that while your observation is correct, your reasoning is most likely off. As others have mentioned, similar career types tend to marry each other, and rich/successful men tend to also have rich/successful wives. My own boyfriend, who was raised in a very wealthy family, has raised my career expectations. While I was content to simply be a nanny, his dream is for me to get a PhD. While it is true that men are not obsessed with how much money their spouse makes, most men also don't want a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 04:00 PM
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I agree with the other comments that the root of the problem is you feeling insecure due to your status as a SAHM. Develop yourself, and find out ways to make you feel good about being you. Try new things, or reconnect with a hobby/passion/talent you might have neglected over the years. Remember that you have the loyalty of the wonderful man you've married, and there is a reason for this! When things get tough, sometimes it's good to remember that out of everyone, your husband chose you. There w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 03:50 PM
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I'm a university student, so not too far from my high school days. If you would like to change how you interact with boys your age, try seeing things from their point of view. How would you like them to feel? It's easier to change your behaviour once you have a set goal in mind. Not every guy wants the same thing, but I go by a general rule of respecting the people I'm around, no matter the gender. This includes not making mean "jokes" about them, not gossiping or swearing, not talking over them…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 12:26 PM
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People show their love in different ways, so I wouldn't fall into the trap of comparing your partner to others. My boyfriend is not the one to give gifts, and I learned that if I want something, I need to ask for it. After saying once that I would love a gift from him, I shut my mouth about it and focused on being kind to him. One month later, I was lamenting about how my running shoes absorbed water, but that I didn't have enough money to buy new ones. Out of nowhere, he suggested he buy me a n…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 05:05 PM
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I agree with other comments saying that he sounds like major pain. Try to save the business, but if you can't, just leave. He doesn't seem invested in your relationship at all, so no need to stick around. I am also a pretty emotional girl, and sometimes it does mess with my head. However, my boyfriend is also quite emotional, so he knows how to help bring me down if I do get out of hand. Even if he wasn't, most people are able to understand that it is normal for people to be emotional sometimes.…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 02:00 PM
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There are consequences to dating an older man, and it's not smart to pretend that there aren't any. Aging will naturally bring along health issues, and no matter how you slice it, you will eventually end up having to care for your husband. Even your libidos might not be in sync, which is a problem my aunt, who is married to a divorced man 21 years her senior, has experienced. She is in her early 40s, and still desires sex, while he is in his early 60s, and isn't as interested in sex anymore. He'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 01:51 PM
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I do my best to read as much as I can, and love to bake. I recently switched to veganism with my boyfriend, so now I have to master the basics all over again! It's kept me busy. I am also an avid target shooter, and I am very good at it. I've been branching out into skeet shooting as well, and am aiming to do it competitively very soon. It's not the most feminine hobby ever, but it makes me feel amazing, and I get to do it with my boyfriend. My main passion is also my job! I have been interested…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 02:15 AM
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My boyfriend is quite similar, in that talking with him about my interests is a lot like talking to a wall. But as I get to know him deeper, I realize that while he often shows very little outward interest in my hobbies, he has other ways of showing he cares. He does remember everything I do, and when I have a show or concert, he will buy a ticket and show up. He might not listen much to my excited ramblings about my topics of interest, but when I express anxiety over what to do my masters degre…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 02:09 AM
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Wow, real Alpha male right here, I'm trembling...
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 07:01 PM
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My fear of guns was based entirely on ignorance. Being behind the gun, understanding how they worked and how to use them safely, gave me a new understanding about them. It also challenged my perception about the kinds of people who own guns. It's not just angry white men, or veterans, it's people of all different backgrounds. Once I realized how safe shooting could be (I do skeet shooting as a hobby now), the whole mindset of guns=inherent danger/evil didn't make sense anymore. It was life chang…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 12:56 PM
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I am from Canada, and my boyfriend and I are both gun owners. However it wasn't always this way! I used to be pretty anti-gun myself, and when my boyfriend and I first started dating three years ago, neither of us were interested in them. Fast-forward a bit and he became really into target shooting. Being the kind of girl who enjoys sharing her partner's interests, I decided to put aside my distaste for guns and put effort into enjoying them. Lots of research and many days at the gun range later…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 08:28 PM
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Hello! Plant based eater, but not living the vegan lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/18 09:50 PM
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I never noticed it ending, but at the same time I see that our relationship has matured over the last three years. If anything, we've become more passionate, more caring, and more comfortable with each other. Yes, there are times of stress, as in any relationship, but overall time has only brought us closer together. When you put effort in, a relationship will always feel fun and fulfilling.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/18 03:02 AM
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As someone who feels like I gave my virginity away too early, I say cherish it! No guy worth dating would be freaked out by you being a virgin. This should only make you even more precious to him. Also, sex is something that gets better the more you do it with one person. Having sex 10 times with 10 different guys will never feel as good as having sex 10 times with 1 person you truly love. Waiting for a serious commitment before having sex is not silly, it's smart! No matter what people say, sex…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 04:55 PM
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