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Hahaha I love it. Give me all the spicy women-made memes 🤌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 02:34 PM
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I get the frustration that creates those posts but I really appreciate you saying this. It makes me feel icky. It's one thing to find someone irritating but I've seen some super vitriolic comments within the lines of "I don't even care what happens to her" in terms of harassment/assault/etc. Borderline if not outright victim blaming women for being in the pickme phase almost all of us were in at one point. Solidarity is Solidarity. IMO you don't have to Like your sisters but you should Love them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 05:55 AM
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So many props to this woman for coming forward and publicizing her experience and the others' who came forward, despite the literal harassment (she kindly called it 'bullying' in the article) she recieved. Women who whistle-blow on sexists and rapists deserve protection and anonymity for this reason. Please protect your sisters who speak up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 06:54 PM
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Legit 90% of my ""discussions"" with men. Reminds me of the 'playing chess with a pigeon' analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:57 AM
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The latter. It's extra pitiful considering you can block RedditCares and not even have to see the messages. Salty lurkers just screaming into the void here lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:35 PM
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Do they really not realize what kind of self-burn this "advice" is? Or do they so completely lack self respect they just don't care?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:34 PM
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It honestly seems as though many male doctors become doctors for prestige and adulation. I’ve had so many mediocre to downright alarming experiences with male doctors over the years. Sigh. And this is why I literally only seek out female practicioners. My GP and all of my specialist providers are women. My care is beyond quality compared to the appalling treatment I've gotten from male doctors (including a life-threatening misdiagnosis from one of them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:17 PM
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And this is why choice feminism is total cancer. They use the "feminism is about ~choice~" lie to propagate everything from sexual abuse via sex work to this kind of disgusting display of reducing women to broodmares. It's completely devoid of logic. Also in the same vein: libfems who lash out at anyone who criticizes a religion for being inherently misogynistic -- "she CHOOSES to submit to her husband" and such. Modern-day self proclaimed feminists just throwing dirt on feminism and every woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:50 PM
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Amitheangel is gold for these kind of satire posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:12 PM
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I've seen a similar pregnancy announcement in a Facebook group and I remember how many stupid comments I saw. "You'd have to be country/breed animals/work on a farm to understand. It's not sexist it's country culture." Like no, buddy...there's nothing to 'understand,' it's pure garbage. Your "culture" oozes misogyny and for this reason it is objectively trashy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:06 PM
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I'm so glad you mentioned true crime on YT. Coming from someone who is true crime obsessed it's fucking disgusting how many ""creators"" lazily rehash the same huge murder/SA stories and monetize the videos. Endless content of just crappy voiceovers reading directly from articles while pictures of the victim and shitty stock footage plays. And a majority of them are featured on these borderline gimmicky "horror" channels. It's so insulting all the way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:35 PM
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That's delightful! Not knocking couples therapy as a whole for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:51 PM
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boomeranging dumbass Too perfect. Love it hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:59 AM
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One of those bunk-ass 'couples therapists' that eat up narc behavior and use terms like "withholding sex"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:54 AM
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Read the handbook and get yourself out of there sis!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:53 PM
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This is an insult to Uncle Fester 🤣 he worshipped Debbie at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 12:28 PM
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I'm wheezing. Like a ballpit, with 10x the bacteria and stench.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:55 AM
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Or "Twin flames" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:48 AM
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sexual acts just come naturally with the right partner This is the truuuuuth. Don't fuck with a man who thinks sex has a script, or wants you to perform for him like a pornstar. Sex is exploring each others' bodies and communicating what feels good. It's really that simple. We don't need all the gagging oral backwards cowgirl bdsm shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:53 AM
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Thanks queen, I added a disclaimer in case this is buried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:09 PM
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FB messenger- click on the profile image of whoever's conversation you want to search. It will bring up a page with menu-like options and "Search In Conversation" is there Snapchat- you can't. The best you can do is look at his recent searches. Also take a snap with his phone and press the => button in the bottom right. It won't send the snap, it will take you to a page of friends to pick from and it will show you who has been recently snapped (even if he deleted the message thread) Standard tex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:36 PM
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Ahhh I get what you're saying, my bad. I'm sorry for being prickly. I agree, wanting to leave is absolutely enough. If you're looking for a reason and proof to leave him, it's already over. Bow out with dignity, don't subject yourself to what you already know you're gonna see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:34 PM
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Again, I'm talking about it as a vetting strategy, not something you only do once you are paranoid or suspicious. Vetting never ends. Snooping protects us from men who happily bring home STDs, men who have secret depraved fetishes, men who are addicted to porn. Please read some of the comments here. Some of us would be straight up unknowingly married to r*pists and pedophiles if we didn't snoop and just took them at face value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:32 PM
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Ahhh yes, the classic "male feminist"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:15 PM
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I am so sorry, what a fking scrote. And that's exactly why there's no shame in snooping. He certainly felt no shame when he was watching porn and endangering your health, and you would have never known otherwise. Protect yourself at all costs. I'm glad he's an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:04 PM
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I don't believe in "the right to privacy" with an intimate partner. Privacy about what? Intimacy means my mind body and soul are at risk. BOOM queen, beautifully said and I agree. I'm wracking my brain for an example of something I'd want to keep secret from my partner and I'm coming up empty. I don't understand the point of being a unit as a couple if someone looking at the other's phone is going to decimate trust. My fiance and I will thoughtlessly hand over our unlocked phones to each other f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:35 PM
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That's a good question. Someone in this thread suggested watching them put in their passcodes, even if it's just catching a glimpse and memorizing one of the numbers at a time. May take a while though and it's possible they switch up the codes sometimes. Face ID will usually still work if he's sleeping. My ex slept hard enough I could just put his finger on the scanner to unlock it with a fingerprint as well lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:02 PM
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Oof how right you are 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:55 AM
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I respectfully disagree. I recommend it as a regular vetting strategy, not something you only decide to do once you become suspicious. I said elsewhere in this thread-- I don't care if someone snoops on my phone. I have nothing to hide and I wouldn't care if a man did it. I think maybe we have a different perception or value of privacy, which is okay. But yes, both ways. If a HVM is courting me I honestly do not give a shit if he chooses to snoop. Nobody likes being lied to or having their time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:53 AM
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Dummy account is a great idea, thank you. Isn't it insane how they'll cheat and create elaborate lies instead of just manning the fuck up and breaking it off with us?? Dear god. Like go be the community penis you dream of being and leave me out of it. I'd rather be dumped a thousand times than be played a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:11 AM
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I'm glad you looked so you knew the truth but in that same breath I am so sorry. I can imagine how eviscerating it must have felt. Five years...it takes a fking sociopath to maintain that kind of split identity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:49 AM
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I've spoken to a surprising amount of men who claim to be ashamed of going to the strip club. Saying it was dirty and weird and the strippers fake-flirting with them was sad. Like yeah buddy, literally what the hell did you expect? Of course it's not very glamorous when you realize the strippers hate you and they're only smiling so you'll pay them. Ironically they can feel badly for being 'reduced to an ATM' by a stripper but they have no qualms with reducing those exact women to their bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:56 AM
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Ooooo that siri trick is new for me. Definitely keeping that one in the back pocket
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:36 AM
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I'm glad it was a good contribution! You're absolutely right, technology's role in dating is becoming increasingly unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:31 AM
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I'm pretty sure they already are lol. There are some ghost comments on this post already, probably from automod removing scrotes 😂 Is it that weird to say I wouldn't give a fuck if someone snooped my phone, and I don't understand why people get so worked up about it? I have nothing to hide and I know what I've said and I'll stand by all of it. Anyone who knows me could go through my phone while I'm dead asleep and it wouldn't rustle me one bit. A fucking stranger could do it and I wouldn't even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:24 AM
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Thank you!! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:07 AM
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Hahaha I hope it isn't too excessive 😂 I've been played by some real sneaky scrotes, the shit they do to hide their depravity...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:42 AM
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You said it perfectly. And I love how this lesson reflects in all FDS teachings. Dumping a scrote, blocking and ghosting, or simply turning off chat requests and DMs-- it's all about cultivating peace of mind. Can't level up without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:01 AM
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He tries really hard. Last year(? maybe before) he released an Eminem diss track out of nowhere. I don't like Eminem but that's so obviously career suicide. Just for attention. Scrotes will do dumb, desperate things to stay relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:50 AM
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the bar somehow finds a way, sinking and settling to the bottom of an ocean trench
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:43 AM
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Sex pests. The worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:48 AM
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I had a pickme friend who would turn the tables on her flings just like this. Made sure to get off before them and ended sex there every time. Pissed off soooo many dudes. I don't agree with hookups and I had to eventually cut her off cause she was toxic af, but honestly. The butthurt from those men was Legendary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:59 PM
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❤ much love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:36 PM
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I agree. It's not a thing on a societal level for sure, and it's not a thing on a personal level either. This sub as an example is touted as a misandrist sub...when the scope of this sub includes strategy to find HVM. Dating is literally in the name. I know many women who avoid and carefully judge men but like you said, that's not hate. It's hardly an active choice for many, more like a defense mechanism and trauma response we have developed and/or been forced to adopt for our safety. ETA so man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:28 PM
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Just remember Queen, you are not scary/intimidating/unapproachable. People feel intimidated all on their own and they shut down like that because they are insecure. I'm sorry & I wish you immense luck with finding some like-minded women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:42 PM
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Size totally does matter. You don't have to like huge dicks to say it either. It matters to me in the way of I don't want a super huge one and I don't want a small one either; I prefer the classic mid-sized peen. Some of us will not be able to enjoy it if it's too big and painful, and some of us like vaginal intercourse and can't get that from a micropenis. There are plenty of reasons to care about it. People who gripe about "size queens" and try to make you doubt your preferences are grossly in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:25 PM
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I'm so happy the police are taking it seriously. Bar on the ground standard but at least you don't have to worry about the victim shaming shit they try to pull sometimes. I hope they find him and lock him up sis. Keep being strong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:07 PM
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This is the way. She is absolutely in danger. Leaving (or the threat of it) is often what triggers violent/abusive men to begin to act on their fantasies, and if they've already begun acting them out then trying to leave them turns up the heat x100. She needs to quietly, quickly leave, and remove him from every aspect of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:01 PM
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I can't have a CC in my state (I'm on record as hospitalized for suicidal ideation as a teen after I was groomed and r*ped, how painfully ironic) or legally carry a sufficient knife as a weapon, so I've been looking for a place to learn BJJ or something similar. Mace and keys between the fingers are not going to save us every time, we know they don't. I see BJJ women my size taking down and even restraining men twice as big. I'm small and easily overpowered, so if they're going to nerf my abilit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:51 PM
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Maybe try messaging them personally instead of using modmail. They've said before to do so if you really need contact, and they also said that bans happen accidentally or automatically via automod all the time. There's so much misogynistic abuse in the modmail they usually won't see anyone messaging trying to ask or appeal their bans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:17 PM
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If I can’t work out their stance (or think they are lying), I also mention how studies show a strong causal link between watching porn and erectile dysfunction. That part. A man who watches porn will feel attacked by this and you will be able to see it in his body language and microexpressions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:00 AM
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I ditched a pickme friend who was always taking sneaky shots at me for "being prettier" and "getting more attention." It was really frustrating because she was VERY beautiful and had no reason to feel competitive like that. It was self-fulfilling, she ended up driving people away from her because they could smell her insecurity and see her making jabs at me. Like sorry dude, it's not my fault people latch onto the more personable one of the two of us. That's just how social interaction works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:53 AM
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FLUS is good for this! It isn't very active but it definitely fits the bill. Wondering if it's okay to crosspost between the two subs because there's a lot of level up strategy posted here that would be great there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:39 AM
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Most of them do, I never assume otherwise when meeting a man. But for some visible red flags: calling women b!tches/sl*ts/c%nts or any other misogynistic slur you can think of talking shit about sex workers (ironically. it's a projection of their shame) sexualizing us in completely benign situations. e.g. men who are disgusted by public breastfeeding expecting you to completely shave or wax your pubes being violent with you during sex, or asking/making you do uncomfortable perfomative things dur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:35 AM
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It's a trap. He harasses her into not showering. She starts to stink. He harasses her for not taking care of herself. Rinse and repeat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:27 AM
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I used to have a big problem with accepting money or gifts from people for this reason. My NVX held that kind of stuff over my head at every opportunity. Every act of kindness was just a tool to manipulate me later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:25 AM
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I have an especially hostile reaction to men like this who call women b*tches. They know it cuts differently coming from their mouths. I would have left without a word and instantly cut off those friends who introduced me to such trash. I understand OP for (I'm assuming) keeping the peace for the evening but those 'friends' have demonstrated their lack of care for her and they will do it again if given the opportunity. Fuck that, stomp it out before it gets any bigger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:29 PM
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"I'm just telling it like it is"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:11 PM
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I made a post a while ago saying women are funny af and quoting another FDSer who said "geriatric asscheeks." Upon seeing "bubonic banana" I've decided to just keep a list of extremely rare and hilarious insults y'all come up with. Thank you for that OP. I'm so sorry you can't even make a damn living without having to worry about predatory scrotes. I can't imagine how leery and gross this guy must be if your coworkers collectively noticed on their own as well and felt the need to protect you. Us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:26 PM
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That's really cool, thank you for sharing that. It's bananas how heavily we're gaslit into questioning our own reasoning and deduction skills-- trying to dumb us and our intuition down. I think they know our senses are acute and they rightfully percieve it as a threat to their LV attitudes and behaviors. So they shut it down asap. And no not unnecessary at all! I love how intelligent you and the rest of the women in this sub are. Always willing to converse and share ideas, it's so nice😭♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:00 PM
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And they really get mad at us for "reading into it too much" or "misunderstanding" them. Like nahhhh lol, once you see it it's pretty clear, and you def can't unsee it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:06 PM
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You're right. IMHO he's needy for even bringing up "love languages." He's so lazy that he needs her to establish and define the most basic desires of any healthy relationship. "How much can I get away with"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:57 PM
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21f and 53m did it for me 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:39 PM
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You can read it in their faces for sure. I've got a 100% success rate at sussing out trashy men based on their appearance and microexpressions. They wear their thoughts on their sleeves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:03 PM
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They have no empathy. I wish I could give a better explanation but that's really it imo. No empathy, no conscience, no capacity for sympathy. In a group of mine a woman shared a story in which her husband coerced her into sex(RAPED her) just a little over a week after she vaginally birthed their child. After she was told to wait at least 6 weeks. She said it was painful and she cried and he kept going and still got off. Scrotes are complete fucking animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:57 PM
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The only therapist to ever recommend it to me was working for a Christian-based practice. The fact it was religiously based was very covert and I had no idea at the time. I was a young teen so I internalized some really shitty stuff that my current therapist(I LOVE her) is still helping me unlearn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:46 PM
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Can you even imagine just...being like this?? Like holy shit. Living in a delusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:28 PM
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Ugh they're always after the next 'score.' Bet he (they*) reached out to multiple women as well. Edited for typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:21 PM
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Negging. 🙄 they think they're so clever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:18 PM
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Literally. Thinks he's a genius for discovering emotional intimacy and describes it as a manipulation tool to get sex. Grote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:17 PM
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Not to disagree with you, but I find it alarming that his only motivation to fix his marriage was getting sex from his wife. I can appreciate growth but when it comes from such dishonest intention it seems rotten from the start. In one of his comments he talks about how awesome it is that she's converted from "vanilla" to pro-BDSM and he's getting laid 2x a week or whatever. Sets off alarm bells in my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:02 PM
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Yeah I can't help but roll my eyes at people who say a relationship is "childish" over things like this. Same with "simping." Those people have a depressing concept of affection and love. Like the man in this post, they don't understand or naturally practice emotional intimacy. Maybe love notes aren't their cup of tea, which is fine because intimacy looks different for everyone, but there's nothing immature or childish about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:56 PM
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"Three therapists told me I'm wrong so I thought I'd ask reddit for another opinion" 😂 I hate these mfs ETA I'm sure it goes without saying, but seriously, it's not a joke or hyperbole when FDS says to never to bother with cOmMuNiCaTiNg or couples therapy. This is exactly what happens. They either use their narc skills to manipulate the therapist against you, or they fail to absorb not one, not two, but THREE fucking professional opinions that call them out for their toxicicity. Don't even waste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:51 AM
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That's awful. I'm so sorry. I don't keep in touch with male friends for this reason. Old classmates have tried hitting me up over the years and some of them I truly thought wanted to reconnect-- but no, they just percieved me as fuckable enough to chase for a while. Very unfortunate because some of them were wonderful boys and good friends to me. But now as men they send unsolicited dick pics and only kept me around as a slow&covert conquest for pussy. Nooo thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:47 AM
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If men truly love anything, it's definitely tearing down women they hate for being out of their league. I've had so many pitiful chat requests from young accounts, obviously trying to doxx me based on their questions, and it's wild. They hate that we avoid and ignore them because scrotes are obsessed with getting attention from women, no matter how they get it. So they'll do whatever they can. They crawl into our inboxes, try to play secret agent by larping as women in this sub, doxx us, and pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:10 AM
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When I was 14 I had a super cringey anti-feminist "egalitarian" blog. You would not believe the amount of grown men who sent me dick pics, tried to get me to video chat with them, groomed me. I was like a walking neon sign that said "I will gladly tolerate sexual harassment!" I still feel so much embarrassment and regret over those days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:05 PM
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Quite ironically I prefer short/smaller men -- they get excited when they hear this, and then instantly deflate or get angry when I say it's because I've been abused, and I won't ever again be with someone I can't defend myself from. Not to trauma dump, I just know that this is perfectly reasonable and scrotes STILL find the mental energy to give me shit about it?? It's a fucking instinct I have developed for survival and self preservation. I'm a smaller person and relatively vulnerable, so I ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:16 PM
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My ex told me his ex physically and emotionally abused him. I was so sad and heartbroken for him until he started beating me and I realized he lied about all of it. I wondered about his ex and her kids and how much violence they had to endure. Another instance-- An old pickme friend of mine was dating this secretive dude who wouldnt be seen with her, she was letting him live with her from the start, he gaslit her into a "poly" relationship (with another woman, he said no guys of course) and obvi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:08 PM
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Seriously the way they leer at us is THAT disturbing. You can see how unhinged they are in their eyes. Scrotes would roll their eyes and say this is dramatic but we have remarkably better intution and EQ than them and we're excellent at making snap judgments when it comes to men staring at us with their dead eyes. We know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:06 PM
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It's ok I'm over it, I just thought it was a helpful anecdote♥ cautionary tale, scrotes will never miss an opportunity to be gross. I did find my boy:')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:09 PM
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I did! Seven hours of running around town and hollering for him later 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:07 PM
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It doesn't even have to be a date. A few days ago I was out looking for my cat that got out and I made the desperate mistake of asking some fucking scrote down the street if he'd seen him. He ignored everything I said and kept grinning, looking me up and down, no eye contact or response. I was like 5 hours into looking for this kitty, it's boiling outside and I'm running around looking for him nonstop, sweating, stressed out and asking randoms if they've seen him. Obviously a mess and this piece…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:29 PM
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No kidding! I've witnessed bi men literally fucking lamenting over not being constantly objectified and unicorn-hunted by couples like bi women are. If you as a woman talk about how hard it is to find bi/gay women, tons of bi dudes will feel the need to jump in and declare it's even harder for them because bisexuality is "more accepted" for women..which again, it isn't, we're still completely reduced to our sexuality and treated like objects. I could go on about this forever but it's generally j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:50 AM
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I'm bi and this is very true in my experience. Every bi community I try to participate in is eventually on some UwU soft and coddly shit towards men, and they shoot down 'radical'(barely lmao) feminists every time. A while ago I saw a thread asserting bisexual feminist women are awful and exclusionary for making memes about liking women more than men. "Nobody hates men more than a bisexual woman" among other waaaa-ing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:35 AM
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Same. All I wanted was intimacy. And the only intimacy scrotes know is sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:27 AM
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He'd probably just enjoy it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:24 PM
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This dude is so lazy he outsourced his gaslighting 😩😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:15 PM
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A 44yo celebrity man who's never been married is one of the fattest red flags I've seen lmao. Sounds like he's so irredeemable not even a pickme would take one for the team 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:12 PM
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THANK YOU that shit made my skin crawl. I encourage everyone to refer back to this if you're ever thinking misogynists are just maybe dense or misunderstanding. Most of them are acutely self-aware of their depravity, and they just gaslight it away by playing dumb when they get called out (viewed in his second tweet here).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:04 PM
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😂😂 YES I make a point of icing out men who repeat me. They're so used to being praised for it, you can see how uncomfortable they get when you say stuff like that! "That's what I just said" with a flat unimpressed face is my go to hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:46 PM
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😂😂😂 on god this is how they operate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:30 AM
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Men still fucking steal our ideas. We're full steam now in the workforce and higher education, so scrotes have plenty to take from. They still boldly try to weasel their way into getting credit for OUR projects and accomplishments. They happily take praise for OUR work. They repeat what we said but with 3x the word salad and they're lauded as such incredible thinkers while we're thrown to the wayside. This is part of why I fucking hate being around men generally, they have ALWAYS stolen the frui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:56 AM
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Yes! Remind yourself most men (especially hookups) are intending to use your body for their own masturbation. Honestly I wouldn't even feel safe hooking up...men are grossly into BDSM in the mainstream. There's a great likelihood he will be some kind of violent during sex (hitting, hair pulling, spitting, choking etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:27 PM
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A cautionary tale. I hope you and your son are living abundantly in a home full of love, far away from that rapist scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:14 PM
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Just keep reminding yourself how unsatisfying sex with men is. Give yourself a real orgasm and think hard about how much better it is than some unfulfilling sex with a strange scrote. Relapsing back into hookups will only lead to pain and disappointment, I promise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:09 PM
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"Of course I would!" They say, as they plan to use her for an easy lay and then tell their friends afterwards that she was a 'butterface.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:05 PM
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Sealions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:03 PM
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This always gets me. "Women always go for assholes! So why do I keep getting ghosted when I act like an asshole?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:02 PM
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The questions men ask women on those subs are pure fking cringe lol. So obviously fishing for karma and only the answers they want. Top comments are always men larping as women or men speaking on behalf of the women in their lives. Males choose to exist in a GIANT echo chamber in which they all play their parts in keeping it established. Another example would be male mods of feminist subreddits, and their censoring and banning of women who are speaking their truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:59 PM
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Work on becoming your own friend. Easier said than done of course, but it can be done. Dig hard into your hobbies, recognize your needs and wants, do things to make yourself happy like you'd do for a friend. Practice being shamelessly 'selfish.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:49 PM
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Lol during my parent's divorce my estranged father was posting on Facebook publicly slandering his lawyer, accusing her of extortion and other crazy shit. She could have dropped him as a client but that would restart the whole divorce process (and they were 3yrs in) so out of pure kindness to my mother she kept him as a client and finished out the divorce as quickly as possible. She made sure to do her best to blackball him from ever getting another lawyer in that city, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:18 PM
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People today love to treat other people like a piece of furniture It's insane right? Surrogacy is giving the gift of life. That's fucking profound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:56 PM
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"Self -asteam" oh my God lol I can already tell you were(are) profoundly out of this man's league. It's crazy, all the goodness men will throw away so they can clutch their fucking porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:18 PM
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I don't think anyone takes issue with your situation tbh. Or at least I hope not, it seems like everyone is happy with the outcome and the surrogate is still happy and supported by y'all as a family member. That's so lovely and sweet, you guys gained a whole family not just a baby! The commercializaton of surrogacy is the problem, especially when people turn to developing countries or generally impoverished women to exploit them for their reproductive ability, and then they're cut off and never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:04 PM
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Agree. Look at sex tourism, and then look at people who seek out surrogates from other countries. It's the same, sorry not sorry. People want cheaper easier sex(more like r*pe), cheaper easier pregnancy. Anything a woman can naturally offer, has been or will be commodified. I'm honestly surprised there aren't people out there hiring random women with 18yr contracts to completely raise their children at this point-- I assume when men run out of pickme girlfriends to do it for free they'll start p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:00 PM
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Reminds me of blood/plasma clinics that pay you for your fluids. Can anyone do it? Yes. Does everyone do it? No. It's largely impoverished individuals who desperately need the money. They literally set up these clinics in low-income areas purposely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:50 AM
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You said this beautifully! Truly listen to men and take it seriously when they say little things like that...he's telling you exactly the kind of person he is. They'll try their crappy little "it was a joke" backpedal, they'll try saying you're overreacting, reading too much between the lines. You aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:20 AM
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Seriously, if I pay for a membership anywhere I'm freaking using it. There's a reason I bought it, I'm sure as hell not leaving because someone is harassing me. Scrotes be damned. And yes exactly! That's just passing along the problem when it could be easily fixed if everyone (MEN) would just appropriately shame and punish these predators. They'd love for us to just scamper off to a new gym with our tails between our legs so they can continue to prey on women and avoid accountability. Eff that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:28 PM
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pausing once in a while to prod some reaction out of me Lol I hate this. They stop and look at you expectantly and wait for you to cave and fake some laughter out of pressure. I fucking refuse. That polite chuckle is their confirmation to keep making awful jokes. I would rather heckle them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:54 PM
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In his mind you were embarrassing him. You were just happy to make everyone smile but he saw it as you one-upping him and stealing the spotlight. It's so pathetic! A HVM would laugh with the rest and be delighted to tell others how funny you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:50 PM
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Omg yes lol. Ever asked one to explain and they realize what's happening and they instantly start backpedaling? That's gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:17 PM
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I have cataplexy. When I experience strong emotions sometimes random muscles just go like...limp. Men have given me some good chuckles, but only women have been able to give me such a strong surge of laughter and emotional high that my muscles start acting up. An old friend of mine temporarily disabled me for like 10 minutes because she refused to stop making me laugh so hard. The fucking BEST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:14 PM
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That's so awesome, I really hope it takes off! The world needs good, fresh comedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:10 PM
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"I hate my wife" loud applause
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:08 PM
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Seriously, the vast majority of male "humor" I've witnessed is just punching down. Not even remotely funny and such a lazy attempt at comedy. I tried to watch a Bill Burr special and I couldn't take any more once he started joking about beating his wife. It's just always the same tired shit. It's not funny in the first place, and it's been rewritten and performed by thousands of men at this point. It couldn't possibly be drier and unfunnier but men still clap like seals every time another male c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:03 PM
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Geriatric asscheeks 😭😂 this sub is on one today I'm losing it lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:21 PM
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💀💀💀 I'm dying send help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:20 PM
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Saying men experience "interpersonal violence" as opposed to "intimate partner violence" when talking about DV is a fat red flag for "men experiencing violence at the hands of other men." I'm interested in the study that produced that number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:09 PM
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"Why would you keep going back to the same gym?" Speaks volumes on their fucking entitlement. Yes, you're right, the sexual predator owns the gym now. I'll just cancel my membership and get a new one at a gym 20 minutes out of my way. SCROTACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:04 PM
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I got absolutely roasted for saying this in a libfem group. I doubled down and said it's also a pedo red flag when men say they're disgusted by an adult woman's labia. Insanity ensued, a bunch of women who allegedly recognize r*pe culture telling me to ease up and let men have their "preferences." Also a lot of them telling me it's "heavy-handed" to compare them to pedos. The amount of denial is toooo daaaamn hiiigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:01 PM
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You're not a "cool chick" to the male gaze but I hope you know you're still actually cool as fuck. In a real, lasting way. The stuff you do, you do because you like it. You aren't performative. You aren't insecure about what people think and say. Paris Hilton voice that's hot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:25 PM
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I once had a woman get mad at me because I placed the check near the man with her. It wasn't even on purpose, I just quickly walked by the table and set it down on an open spot and continued on my way to another one. She took great offense apparently and when I came back I got half of a word out befote she cut me off saying "it's 2019, I can pay for my date." Like... okay pickmeisha, please continue to berate me and make my job harder because you have to announce how Cool and Modern you are. I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:14 PM
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likely with ED Bingo. He wouldn't 'rather' jack off to porn...it's just the only way he can cum now. Betting he's got weird pornsick fantasies he projects on her during their weekly sex so he can keep it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:42 AM
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Yeah as a bartender/server when someone said "separate checks" I NEVER offered to split it down the middle, that's weird and something people will specifically ask for on rare occasion. Just separate the meals normally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:12 AM
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You just know he showed up looking like a slob, or nothing like his photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:08 AM
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Amazing how they can't stfu about women "using us for free meals!!!" When I have NEVER seen a real example of that. We got women like this OP who hear that rhetoric so they enter a date already feeling like a burden for eating and thusly offering to pay for themselves. Meanwhile I have witnessed PLENTY of men do shit like this. They beg borrow and steal from women they hardly know, with no conscience, and in situations like this it is obviously already premeditated. Men. Are. All. Projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:01 AM
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I believe it. Scrotes will do literally anything to get their stanky feet in the door. Whether he pulled it from your computer or your phone number, it's very disturbing either way. Probably a good idea to protect both-- maybe consider a throwaway number from an app like Textnow and get that privacy screen for your laptop. Can't be too safe!! ETA if you use facebook, don't let it track your location. It will recommend strangers as friends if you're both in the same area. You may pop up on some s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:49 AM
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Men do always have their intentions, to the point it is necessary to never assume otherwise so they don't catch you off guard. When we know this and preemptively reject them their egos are shot, so they'll act like there was never any intention and accuse us of just being self-absorbed. Frankly it's the best way I've gotten men to truly leave me alone; they think I'm a huge b%tch when they walk up and say "hi" and I just respond with a "no" and end it instantly. They walk away sputtering and hum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:40 AM
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You'd be surprised. There are a lot of websites that compile this information. Most of them you have to pay for, but they can and will give out full names, addresses, criminal history, and even social media accounts. All from a phone number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:15 AM
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Ain't that the truth. Took me a legit year of FDS practice to become quick enough on my feet that I don't instantly revert to politeness. It's even more disgusting now, fully witnessing men try to exploit the nervous/fawny demeanor they have forced upon us. It's why they go nuclear rage-mode when we see through it and assertively reject them. They're spoiled by a society that tells them they're entitled to our attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:10 AM
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It wasn't really an argument, just an observation. They play it like it's about their wellbeing but yes, it's just another 'ownership' thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:06 PM
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This doubly sucks when you have a diagnosed mental illness and the knowledge of it is leaked out there. I can take my 4 pills a day on time, talk to my counselor every week, talk to my psychiatrist every month, and get the OK from them telling me I'm in remission from my illness...but god forbid I get frustrated or angry with anything, because no matter how stable and perfect I am, I'm still inherently viewed by men and their LVW orbiters as cRaZy. They treat me like a ticking time bomb and thus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:43 PM
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I hope he is too. She really seems over the moon with him and he helps her with training, nutrition, etc. which are SUPER important for bipolar people, we need that shit just like we need our meds. From the outside he looks like the image of HVM stability that she can truly benefit from. She has been through the wringer, I want so badly for her to be with someone she deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:29 PM
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I know everyone is trying to be gentle here because this is a tough situation, but I will go ahead and be the one to tell you I'd personally get an abortion asap. Carrying the pregnancy and giving up the baby for adoption is of course an option, but it may be a rough one due to the scarring. If you really want another child of you own, you do now know that you can get pregnant still. If you keep this specific fetus you risk even more attachment to this man-- and that will not be conducive to rai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:20 PM
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I just ugly laughed at this 😂😂 we're reaching impossible levels of mansplaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:57 AM
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I know it's super hard to get past but please don't feel bad for moving like that. He was the one who made you uncomfortable. A normal person just wanting to work out wouldn't have plopped down next to you in a row of empty bikes. It really boggles me how broadly society has gaslit us into thinking we're the rude ones. You did nothing wrong sis, that guy was a fucking weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:49 AM
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I'm short and small too and I'm really glad you said this! I've been approached by so many old dudes with mega pedo vibes. Really adds an extra layer of depravity. I know the grass is always greener on the other side but damn I do totally fantasize about being tall lmao. I wish to leer down upon scrotes and intimidate them like they do to us shorties every time😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:22 AM
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They're really the ultimate pickmes😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:05 AM
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This is part of the unspoken emotional labor women and girls must employ every single day. We have to constantly know who/what is around us, we have to make split second decisions to protect ourselves in seemingly benign situations like this guy described(the gym, a bar)-- because we know many of our murdered sisters ended up that way for simply rejecting a man. A man will "manspread" on a bus or train and take a nap with some headphones in, because he has no fear of being groped/sexually assaul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:02 AM
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The same way fathers threaten their daughters' boyfriends, to the point of cleaning their guns out in the open when the boy comes over. From that perspective men are actually very open about how dangerous they are. A teen boy is such a threat you'll haul out a shotgun to intimidate him? Yikes. That's bleak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:07 AM
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"I swear this came out of nowhere, he's usually the best husband!" After he assaults or insults her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:15 AM
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If I could upvote this a thousand times I would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:11 PM
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Bookmarked! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:07 PM
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It's because they don't want to be better. The ones who trauma dump are too lazy and impatient to do the hard work, and they always have excuses. It took me months of dead-end searches and attempts to get into a proper clinic for therapy and medication management for my disabling mental illness(es), but I white knuckled it and fucking did it anyway because I wanted to change badly enough. Being ill didn't take away my ability to empathize and see how much I was burdening those around me. It's a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:00 PM
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Rely on them? "Leech." "Golddigger." "Nag." Do it yourself? "Men like to feel needed, you know." "You're gonna die alone with your cats."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:07 PM
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Pregnancy breaks bones, triggers diabetes and autoimmune disorders, makes teeth fall out, makes you unable to smell or eat anything without puking. Men who don't care for their pregnant wives are beyond scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:43 PM
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Right lol that response was a not so thinly veiled "yes" as far as I'm concerned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:48 AM
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God I hate this so fucking much. A summer night is my absolute favorite and there are nights I'd love to be out but I just can't because it's not safe. This is a small creepy town I live in, where multiple women have been murdered by partners and randoms in the last 2 years. I'm 5'5 110lbs and I've been grabbed at night before while walking. Sometimes find myself sitting by the window and looking out, just pissed off and feeling caged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:37 PM
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I totally understand being excited by FDS ideology and the sisterhood here, but it seems like some women anticipate the change overnight without work or accountability. Having your eyes opened is one thing, doing something about it is another. In reality it is a massive shift of paradigm they're seeking and FDS is only a tool in the kit of what it takes. It's taken me a year of lurking and abiding by the handbook, participating in my therapy weekly, taking my meds every day as prescribed, and st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:20 PM
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I'm assuming the latter. Men have a massive fear of being humiliated by women, and that large-scale rejection is absolutely perceived as such. Edited for typo:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:09 AM
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Yessssss. I love this. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:00 AM
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I had to cut off my pickme friends because of stuff like this. It sucks and can feel mean to do but it's seriously detrimental energy when you're trying to stick to your principles and level yourself up. A couple of them eventually became resentful of my growth, or the fact I stopped giving them free therapy for their problems with men that they could have avoided if they'd just listen to the advice they asked for. Friends don't make friends go through the same emotional labors over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:46 PM
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Makes you wonder why like 70% of all BPD diagnoses are women. It's literally a trauma-based disorder. Either they're discrediting women en masse or women are being traumatized en masse. A bit of both, likely. ETA thinking on it, I'm leaning more towards mass discrediting/a new wave of "female hysteria" diagnoses. BPD is trauma-based yet it's deemed a personality disorder and put next to toxic nearly untreatable cluster B illnesses like narcissim. BPD is incredibly similar to CPTSD but we don't c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:38 AM
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You can actually take lithium for years and a lot of bipolar people do -- not to nitpick or be pedantic, I ONLY say this to support your point that she is mentally stable. It's beyond absurd she's been on it for as long as she has and they're still trying to say she's not sane. It's one of the most efficient and neuroprotective drugs for us, we can go into remission under it. I'm under the FIRM belief her symptoms of MI are pretty much gone. Any instability we see is a pure reflection of the abu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:33 AM
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Some people have valid reasons for not liking cats -- allergies, trauma, health issues, the smell of cat litter, anything like that. But the thing is I don't think those people hate cats. It seems like they just dislike them and wouldn't keep them as pets. People that say they truly hate them do give me that weird controlling vibe, because most of the people that say that are big fans of dogs. Like of course a jerk would highly prefer an animal that still madly loves them even when they put shar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:12 PM
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You know FDS has sunk in when "you look expensive" stops sounding like a neg and is now a glowing compliment 😌 like are we really expected to feel bad for taking care of ourselves and looking good? Please lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:45 AM
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Down to the moment people saw her liking all the tweets calling her dad a pedo, when it all blew up. I feel so sick for her, she is obviously disgusted by her own father and cannot escape because of a misogynistic cage. Nobody cancelled T.I. and he's probably still on his bullshit, just like Chris Brown recently got his millionth allegation of beating women. It never ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:08 PM
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As someone with BP like Britney has, I understand lithium to a degree. We often get put on sedatives like that. That being said, she was most likely on a STAGGERING amount because damn, the lights looked burned out upstairs in so many of her videos, if you get what I mean. I'm on a sedative like lithium and I still have plenty of energy and life in my eyes. I fear she's a victim of over-medication or polypharmacy. Also as an addition: bipolar is a degenerative brain disorder, and so far lithium …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:12 AM
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I'd venture to say he'd actually be a catch if he was dating women his own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:05 AM
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There are subs that mute or auto-ban people who participate in and mention FDS. Big, frontpage subs like AskReddit. Mind you, these same subs don't ban participants of actually horrifying subreddits like DeadEyes. Makes the picture of how they view women pretty clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:22 PM
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I have one male friend and it's only been successful because we've known each other for years since we were kids. That's my theory, at least. We have no attraction to each other and I actually have been helping him level up for the dating scene. This situation tho? PURE luck. Every other male 'friend' I've had was just waiting in the wings to shoot their shot at me. I don't think I'll ever be able to (or want to) befriend another man. Once they hit a certain age or some point in misogynistic soc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:06 PM
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The second time, I texted him "I can't see you" and he started waving frantically, I just kept looking around and past him then I left lmao 😂😂😂😂 I'm wheezing. You fucking queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:44 AM
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Omg vile, I'm so sorry. Every judge I've ever met was incredibly gross like that, even when I had to testify against a grown man who had molested me. I inherently won't trust males in the justice system anymore. & If I had a dollar for every man who abandoned his child just to tell other people (usually his new gf) "she's keeping my baby from me!!" Lmao I'd be rich. Tale as old as time it feels like, I can't believe people still eat that shit up. If a man truly can't get to his kids after trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:37 AM
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Exactlyyyy they're not worth the dignity of a response or acknowledgment. They start their shit and I instantly just 😴 grayrock and cut off. Being ignored and shooed away is poison to narcs and gaslighters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:22 PM
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A man telling me I'm 'lying' if I share trauma like this is barely noticeable anymore. It garners nothing more than a dismissive hand wave from me and I just keep it moving. Shoo, fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:30 AM
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And scrotes and libfems are STILL passing around the myth of "the american courts favor women in custody cases!!" My eyes roll into orbit whenever I hear this, like no fam, it's surprisingly easy to get those rights even if you're a neglectful abandoning father. Not sure what world they're living in because 1. Statistics don't even support that claim, and 2. I know plenty of women who were taken to court and fucked over by their deadbeat babydaddies who disappeared for months or years. Worse yet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:15 AM
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I love this post! If I may add: Inversely, watch how he behaves when you're the one driving. Is he a backseat driver? Does he grab the wheel? Does he lean over and hit the horn? My NVX was a psycho who did all of these things. I remember once he grabbed the wheel and VIOLENTLY yanked it and almost caused us to wreck. Then he started screaming at me for "almost hitting that car" (there was no car, gaslighting scrote). They have endless audacity, never underestimate it. Is he pushy or controlling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:12 PM
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Anxiety and relationships go hand in hand. 🤔 mmmnope. Did someone with codependence issues write this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:08 PM
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He might have a head injury. Has he fallen lately? I cackled. They REALLY try this shit, it's unbelievable. There was a story that went viral on reddit maybe a few years ago? But this woman was dating a physician and he was literally drugging her with pharmaceuticals, r%ping her too if I remember correctly. There was evidence of it EVERYWHERE and she still felt the need to address reddit, because the scrote had worn her down so badly. A top comment came to the conclusion that she just has bedbug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:32 PM
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Yes, it's very obvious too. Ohio attempted to ban abortion and birth control when that rash of anti-abortion bills popped up. It literally only implies one thing...we've seen just how transparent they are about the desire to keep us pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:45 PM
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Creating life is godlike ability, if not just super cool on a scientific basis. Pregnancy would be very high risk for me so I don't really want it to ever happen. I'm on my second IUD and life is good, kids are lovely but I don't want any of my own. If I was able to carry a healthy pregnancy I'd still want none of my own, but I would definitely consider surrogacy in some specific, close situations. Literally giving the gift of life -- a powerful and grossly underestimated position we have as wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:11 AM
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Thank you for this post. This sub can be really US-centric sometimes (not maliciously, of course), so I really appreciate the perspective and experiences from other cultures. Beautiful that FDS reaches so far. We all want the same love, respect, and equity. I am not Desi, but is there anything I can do to help from America? Are there any women-focused charities or groups I can donate to and spread the word about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:14 PM
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I love this update thank you for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:03 PM
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Thank you angel, I am too!!! I give immense credit to the FDS ideology and all of the wonderful women here. It was a bit over a year ago I started as a humble pickmeisha lurker, and within some surprisingly short months I have legit never felt better. Even more lately after making this throwaway to wholly participate in discussion. Taking charge of my mental health was one of many things everyone here motivated me to do in order to level up. This sub has saved my damn life, not exaggerating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:18 PM
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Even seemingly decent men will do this crap. They have literally no idea how to open the floor for conversation and air their emotions, so they wait for us to start and then they rapidly derail into their own BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:06 PM
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I have a 'genuine' (totally for lack of a better word) mental illness that will never go away and this STILL rings 100% true. Once I was completely medicated and attending therapy, I realized I was still having emotional breakdowns one after another. And I realized they weren't coming from an internal place anymore. I wasn't the problem, the people surrounding me were. Ironically it was all of them calling me cRaZy and gaslighting the shit out of me, that made me get back on my meds. I was despe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:00 PM
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About $15k, damage done over the course of a few months. I recouped most of the liquid cash but I STILL have a $5k eviction collection on my fucking credit report because my NVX was taking the rent money I was giving him and spending it all on cocaine. I've been knocking down all of my debt, that's pretty much all I have left now. Hate it. Got me completely blackballed from renting in that area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:52 PM
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So predictable, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:08 PM
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A massage after a hard day? Dick poke. I love a good massage but men cannot seem to figure it out and I hate it. Sometimes they give you a halfway decent one, letting you really settle in, and then they turn into sex pests straight afterwards. As if the whole time they were viewing it as foreplay instead of a loving gesture. Like yeah, sure dude, fuck the whole point of getting a massage. Proceed to jackhammer away and crush my lower back, and expect me to do squats on your dick for 10 minutes s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:24 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. If you'd like any advice, I'd recommend a full send on the idea of living alone. You don't have to live like that forever, you may discover a HVM years after living by yourself and then start a new phase of your life with him in it. But the idea is that you love your own company so much, you stop worrying about men entirely. And that's completely ok. A HVM would be the one courting and pursuing you, so frankly don't worry about looking too hard or trying to snag one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:21 AM
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♥ :') seriously my pleasure queen! god I love this sub. The best energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:47 AM
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I'm sorry, you said "let's talk about it" so I thought my comment was valid. If you're struggling with solitude read my comment as this instead -- take it as a good setup to focus on yourself. Even the people we love can be exhausting on a bad day. Solitude is wonderful sometimes to recharge and revisit ourselves. ETA rereading this thread, I can totally see myself coming across as gloating or rude. Again I'm genuinely sorry, I didn't intend to derail or be mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:06 AM
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Exactly. And Ethan is frankly annoying in the fact of how much credit he refuses her even after all of that. She stuck around and LAUNCHED his channel to new heights and I have yet to hear him come out and truly say that. It's always vague appreciations to set the stage and then he goes on to trash her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:03 AM
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I fucking love solitude so it works for me lol. All the time in the world to work on myself and not worry about anyone else 🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:09 PM
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He still treats Trisha like trash. She's quite open and vulnerable with him about her mental illness, yet he'll openly take advantage of this and get her riled up so he can upload a clip of her freaking out and walking off the podcast, which he then profits off of directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:21 PM
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I am not leaving my SO Then why even ask for advice, honestly? She's describing breakup/divorceworthy shit and she knows it. I hope she decides to stop taking the abuse someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:16 PM
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How many women were labeled "bridezillas" when in reality they were freaking out juggling a whole wedding with no help from their grooms?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:12 PM
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Yeah, they make everything about themselves. Everything is either an insult to them or a bid for their attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:32 PM
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Fellas, is it girly to have decent skin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:30 PM
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After the r*pe sub was banned for being literal evil it was recreated as a space for survivors. The people in there are desperate to reach out for support and be heard but they regularly warn each other to NOT respond to any pms and chats. Because sick fucking freaks like this guy get off on it and even doxx victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:35 PM
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Exactly!!! Yes!! This drives me insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:20 PM
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I've seen it the most in boymom communities. They throw away the fact that porn is horrible in 38589374 different ways and say something to the effect of "you're going to give him a complex by shaming him for having sexual thoughts." Which is such BS, watching porn =/= having horny thoughts. But the commodification of women is so painfully ingrained, it's excusable to say someone's consumption of it is just equivalent to fantasizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:22 AM
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If it helps, I wrote that from the perspective of being molested at 3yrs old. It deeply fucked with my psyche, I also sought out internet porn when I was around 11yrs old because of how early my sexuality (or really lack therof) was warped. I was repeatedly raped during my teens because I had nooo idea what healthy sex was. I thought I was just...never supposed to like it. This is a such a heavy topic, I'm really glad what I said resonated with you. It took me years to recover but the veil was l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:14 AM
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Used to be that these kinds of things were HUGE red flags for sexual abuse. Kids shouldn't even be able to conceptualize sexual assaults and act it out, it has to be learned. But porn consumption (especially the hardcore mainstream shit) and sexual abuse have similarly traumatizing effects on young minds. Whether they're experiencing it or seeing it, they're internalizing the same concept of rape. I usually get hella bashed in libfem spaces for saying this so thank god I'm here, but fr, letting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:57 AM
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Because women constantly have to prove themselves. I've noticed LVM and LVW even, making it about themselves. Thinking I want an excuse to pretend to not hear them or whatever. They talk at the left side of my head and yeah I "hear" it if they're being loud enough but it's still garbled nonsense 9/10 times, so I just keep it moving like I never heard them. I don't play those games and I don't talk to people who can't respect my disability after 1000 attempts to remind them. Sometimes it feels li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:50 PM
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Men are so fucking disgusting toward mixed/multiracial women. Using "exotic" as a descriptor, saying shit like "call me papi" 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:34 PM
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They do this with disabilities too. I'm deaf in my left ear. I can't tell you how many fucking times some dumbass scrote "tests" it. It's like the one thing men do that still actually triggers the shit out of me. Everything else rolls off my back. But doubting the fact I'm hard of hearing and trying to "see if it's true"? Fuck out of here. They think they're being sneaky -- casually talking to the wrong side of my head over and over, not caring how many times I correct them. Making me pirouette …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:09 PM
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He said he was joking He was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:02 PM
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'Right-wing men want women as private property, left-wing men want women as public property'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:59 PM
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Hilarious seeing "communist" in there because I legit just popped into the sub to rant about how much I hate male leftists, after reading an especially egregious thread. They're some of the most openly sexist scrotes I have ever witnessed. It's insane watching them go off about the alt-right and racial supremacy, and then their brains switch to compartmentalizing mode and they start using gendered slurs and whining about feminism and "misandry." Libfems also frequently align themselves with thes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:58 PM
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Oh my lord. I didn't know about this, I looked it up https://www.insider.com/russian-youtuber-reeflay-girlfriend-reportedly-dies-livestream-2020-12?amp I am sickened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:14 PM
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It makes me wonder how many proclaimed (or speculated) phenomena among women are just products/features of patriarchal socialization manifesting itself. Feels like we'll never know for sure; it seems published studies like that tend to be marked by many as uNrELiAbLe or BiAsEd just for acknowledging misogyny as a factor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:11 PM
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😒 I audibly groaned at this comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:19 PM
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The kicker is that those videos regularly get millions of views. Tons of couple/family channels doing it. Their audiences are statistically mostly children. This fad of 'prank culture' that's been going on for years largely consists of men just treating the women in their lives like shit, and literal children consume and internalize it on the reg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:11 PM
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Facts sis. It's connected to the whole "girls grow up faster" narrative. We don't, we're just held to way higher standards from birth. Also everyone should consider becoming a member of the satanic temple to preserve their abortion rights ♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:56 AM
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Seriously, why is it a woman has never "pranked" me to the point of tears or a nervous breakdown? Males have a sick idea of humor, it's more like a gross sadistic pleasure derived from causing us discomfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:26 AM
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Based Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:22 AM
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Is this one of those godawful snapchat discover stories? There's a rising trend in unfunny males thinking it's hilarious online content to 'prank' (bully) their wives and girlfriends. Every once in a while youtube will recommend me some scrote/pickme couple channel where he just harasses and bullies her and calls it a prank for views. They'll post the fights it causes, edit it to SHOW her shouting and freaking out, like it's funny? It's totally all about humiliation. Minimizing her reactions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:15 AM
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Oh God 🤢 what is it with men openly displaying their rape fantasies? They put this shit into memes deliberately so they can say iT's jUsT a JoKe to anyone disgusted by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:47 AM
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So it might not be the documentary she's talking about, but the After Porn Ends series did well to offer perspective. There are a couple of people in there who don't regret doing porn but the majority of the interviews are ex-stars talking about how the adult industry wrecked their opportunities and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:42 AM
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I've paid more to get my car fixed without batting an eyelash. Imagine being so absolutely inhuman to treat a child you brought into the world like this, over $800.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:20 PM
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I feel you, I get so tired trying to enjoy reddit lmao. It's not like we have to sort posts and comments by controversial to find sexist content -- it's usually upvoted and highly visible. I have fleeting moments of enjoyment looking at puppies or something but even the Wholesome™ subs are infested. Nothing is safe 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:54 PM
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Only use FDS and turn off chats/PMs. That's seriously the only way to use reddit if you don't want men occasionally (or regularly) scroting across your front page. In my experience, at least. There are some nice subs that are heavily moderated that I still use but they're kinda niche or very specific, like ones for mental illness support. It's mostly impossible to find content on Reddit that isn't tainted somehow by misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:26 PM
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You will be well missed here. Thank you for everything you've done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:19 PM
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You are not a failure. Don't fall into the trap of blaming yourself for a man's actions. You are better than that. Much love ♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:10 PM
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Yo I'm glad you can relate because for some reason this really sticks with me. You know it's bad when a child who doesn't even know better is still made uncomfortable by it. That's when you know it's indoctrination -- you have to hear it and see it a million times, have to have it shoved down your throat and normalized, to make you destroy the human part of you that knows it's vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:09 PM
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Facts. This is why I don't care when people call me a "misandrist" and try to act like it's some grand hypocritical statement on my brand of feminism. Misogyny is so pervasive it's inescapable, it assaults and kills us -- but boohoo dOuBLe sTaNdArDs because I called men trash. Whateverrrr lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:44 PM
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I'm an automatic smiler too. It makes me mad how we have to moderate such simple and lovely things like our smiles when we see something nice, because ""it might give someone the wrong idea."" It's one of those things that bothers me on a deep level. Stifling our own natural beautiful happiness for safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:29 AM
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it was like he inhaled his balls into himself and disappeared 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:10 AM
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This post reminds me of part of the interview with Sandra Scott ("Tiffany Million") in the After Porn Ends documentary. She's very politically inclined now as a libertarian feminist, and she's predictably very well-spoken and intelligent. At some point in the interview she becomes darkly humorous and a bit somber over her wish to hold office that will likely never come true, saying something to the effect of: "I'd love to run for office but I can't. I can't be a politician. There's just too many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:49 AM
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Rape scenes in movies Yeah I sincerely fucking hate this. A while ago I was looking for new movies/shows after finishing a series, and I couldn't stop running into stuff with these scenes every. time. for like a week straight. I kept looking for stuff to watch and ended up turning it all off because of straight up gratuitous assault scenes blindsiding me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:36 PM
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This is super irritating behavior. Literally childish. After it goes on for so long you eventually snap because he's openly doing everything to not take you seriously, over and over, and then you're gaslit instantly for "freaking out over a joke." It's like a double-tiered con. Turning everything into a stupid joke enables them to not only blow off and minimize what you're saying, but also shirk off accountability for being insensitive and useless if/when you call them out. Edited to fix typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:51 PM
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The first time a libfem went off on me for supporting women's self-defense my jaw actually dropped. It wasn't even an "I disagree," it was "What the fuck is wrong with you? Victim blamer, we need to teach men not to rape." Which is just...the craziest shit I had ever heard. You cannot "teach" a rapist not to rape, they literally do not care. There is NOTHING victim-blamey about telling women they should be able to defend themselves when statistics clearly display the necessity. Liberal feminism …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:30 PM
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Is the person who made that post even bisexual? Because when we feel discriminated against on the basis of our sexuality we call it biphobia, not homophobia. Makes me raise an eyebrow, looks like someone trying to just generally rile up the LGBT community as lazily as possible. Regardless this is ridiculous lmao, today scrotes are now offended by spins wheel ...basic sexual health that they'd understand if they ever went and got tested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:01 PM
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Wow what the fuck. Thank you for that tip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:30 PM
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Cavity searches and strip searches are so vile to me. TSA/customs is guilty of doing this shit to women as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:23 PM
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My stomach turns every time I'm reminded of this story. Sickeningly oppressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:48 PM
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I've been done dirty by some female officers. When I was a young teen I was groomed and molested by a man in his 30s and an officer pressed charges against me for being "unruly" as the scrote had me sneaking out so my mom wouldn't know. I ended up on a super strict probation for years until I was a legal adult. Like...really strict, comparable to house arrest, it was senseless. When I was even younger my mom was divorcing my father who was an officer in our county (he had been cheating on her an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:43 PM
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Lmao him calling her "adorable" was the universe sending a message to her saying STOP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:55 PM
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He doesn't want to wear a condom and that's apparently fine and worth glossing over, but her obvious hesitation for tubal ligation doesn't mean shit? Cockholm syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:48 PM
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Fake apologies and dumb statements men use when you confront them about their objectively hurtful behavior: "I'm sorry you took it that way" "I'm sorry you felt like that" "I didn't mean it like that" "You just don't get what I'm saying" "We should talk about this when you calm down" "You're blowing this out of proportion" "Okay whatever, you're right I'm wrong" Feel free to add more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:43 PM
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Thank you queen! I've gotten this far, no way I'm ever giving up ♥💪 the leveling up process has honestly saved my life. I joined FDS about a year ago (before I made this throwaway) as a different woman, unmedicated and fragile. I don't even know her anymore. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:19 AM
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Oof, been there. This is another reason I support snooping. Search your name in his messages and take a peep at how he talks about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:10 AM
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Loooooollll I audibly laughed at that edit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:07 AM
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She has poor boundaries, and will create situations you don't want to be a part of Last year I started phasing out a friend who was extremely guilty of this with no regard towards how it made me feel. She was in an LDR with a guy a state away, and we were all well acquainted. Eventually she would come over to my house like 3 times/week (without asking or warning, just showing up and pounding on my door while I'm busy or asleep) and she would often video chat with her bf and we'd all casually tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:53 AM
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These men never actually take charge of their mental health. They love being able to play the "nobody cares" card because it's an excuse to avoid treatment and continue their toxic actions. They whimper and whine about society stigmatizing them, as if that takes away the option to get their shit together. It genuinely pisses me off -- I've rebuilt my fucking life taking care of my mental health. I can become literally psychotic if I'm not mindful of taking my meds. I've lost longtime friends. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:32 AM
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Some gynecologists go as far as trimming/shortening the strings because abusive partners pulling out IUDs does happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:31 PM
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Ugh my ex would piss and moan about my vibrator saying 'how can I compete with that', but then when I wasn't home he'd wank to porn. Like hey buddy how tf do you think I feel when you deathgrip your dick to videos of women that look nothing like me and do things I would never do? When your dick eventually stops working mid-sex because porn has fried your brain? It's proven that porn usage in a relationship causes negative self-perception in women and as a naive codependent pickmeisha I definitel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:25 PM
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I've gotten into lengthy arguments with people over this topic. Men are objectively worse drivers. Women are more likely to get into small fender-benders whereas men are much more likely to get into car-totaling wrecks. At the VERY best when presenting this information I've gotten a man to say "well then men and women are both equally bad drivers."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:07 AM
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Ironic how we're apparently the b!tchiest while PMSing...you know, that time of the month, where extra testosterone is one of the main reasons we have such mood shifts and irritability. Edited for formatting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:03 AM
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I was taught in school to always use it, and then when I get out of highschool I'm hearing it's optional, haha. I know you don't have to use them, but sentences "flow" a lot better for me when I see them. Probably just from being taught that way but I truly stumble over a sentence that doesn't have the oxford comma where there could be one. Edited to fix typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:49 AM
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I've never understood the dying alone thing, it's literally just nonsense. If I'm truly alone on my deathbed why would I give a single shit after I've lived my life to the fullest and love myself completely? Just sounds like laying down for the ultimate nap, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:56 AM
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I recently found Kurtis' channel and I dig his content a lot. So so so refreshing to see one of these male youtubers with millions of views NOT being a misogynist. The bar is so low in that sense but I really like how directly he calls out other men. Y'know they won't listen to a woman. D'Angelo Wallace is good too from what I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:48 AM
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Hahaha I specifically love that Dave Chapelle bit. I'm not a fan of being compared an object like money but I think he probably broke through the empathy barrier to a sizeable amount of men by using that metaphor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:24 AM
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No shade 😂 I still do it sometimes too. Over time I've just found a healthier relationship with food, eating fuller meals and taking the time to prep/cook for myself when I can. When I eat these little depression meals my stomach is always grumbling an hour later and I feel like crap for a while. Headaches and bloating from random snacks. Eating whole & satisfying meals at roughly the same times every day has done wonders for my mental illness, as well as a good sleep schedule. Like I'd rank the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:13 AM
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Thank you angel!! 'Depression meals' are kind of a meme, a lot of depressed people joke about the lack of desire or ability to eat/cook/buy food. Basically super low effort meals to the point it's not even really a meal. Something like a bag of funyuns, a fruit cup, and a packet of tuna all on one plate and that's dinner lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:08 PM
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Aww, always listen to mom. My mother and I butt heads like crazy but I love her so dearly and I love taking her advice! She's always right about these scrotes. I didn't listen to her for years and now I basically ask her for a second opinion on anyone I know 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:05 AM
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Lmaooooo nOw i hAvE tO wAtCh My BeStFriEnD wALk aWaY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:01 AM
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Ew, the way he is martyring himself to excuse throwing a pity party over ruining his own marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:48 PM
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I always wonder about this when I see people falling over themselves to praise some dude who says he's a SAHD. You just know he doesn't deal with the shit that the majority of SAHMs do. He isn't expected to give up his personhood, passions & interests, and freedom because "well he's a dad now" unlike mothers who are crucified for getting a babysitter and going out to a bar or whatever. You know he still has an active social life, you know his wife spends plenty of her off-time helping with the k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:59 AM
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😂😂😂 This is fucking mint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:50 AM
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I'm so happy when young women like yourself are wise to this. I sooo badly wish I had understood it when I was 19, had to learn the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:18 AM
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Yeah it's a bit ridiculous how many self-proclaimed straight men enjoy overtly bisexual fantasies like MMF threesomes and cucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:13 AM
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Are you me?? Hahah god damn sis I feel you so hard. Cheers to being better now, and being able to share with the ladies of FDS. The love here is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:48 AM
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Exactly. I made the mistake too many times of being too open. The hardest thing for me was realizing I don't have to disclose shit to anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:46 AM
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I'm glad you're here now and knowing the truth. And I agree it isn't talked about enough. Men always frame mentally ill women as abusive burdens ("don't stick your dick in crazy") when in reality we are statistically much more likely to suffer abuse at their hands than being the ones doling it out. It's high-level gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:44 AM
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Irredeemable scrotacity, I'm so sorry. They really have no qualms playing with our realities, it's a new level of insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:41 AM
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I think of this every time I see someone trying to normalize strangling during sex. Kink in general, really. When abusive kinks and fetishes become so mainstream that a man's defense of "she was into it" is probable enough to dismiss his murder charge? And scrotes, pickmes, and libfems all alike will cry "kinkshaming" towards anyone questioning the validity of that defense. It's objectively sick. Society is so deeply fucking ill with misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:41 PM
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God, and they'll hide their porn usage and fucked up kinks and fantasies for years if they have to. Men rape their own wives under the guise of shit like "we tried BDSM to spice up our sex life."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:06 PM
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Preach sis, therapy is a tool that every single person can benefit from!!! I'm so sick of people asking me wHaTs wRoNg or acting like it's taboo if I mention having a counselor. Humans are incredibly complex and there is no life in this world free of stress or grief that therapy couldn't help. Regularly attending my sessions and taking them seriously has been a huge part of me leveling up and I'm not afraid to say I needed it 👌 & in my experience people who deny therapy are often those who need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:55 PM
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Marriage can be a safeguard for women who are SAHMs, or childfree women who don't work and feel comfortable maintaining/managing a home while their husband provides financially. Different strokes for different folks; point being marriage is a good way to get the assets and finances you are entitled to for your unpaid work in said marriage. If a woman truly wants to be a SAHM that's great, but she will have no financial agency, no assets, and a gap on her resume, while her husband accumulates fun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:42 PM
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They also like taking a 'strong woman' and tearing her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:19 PM
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Saved that infographic, thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:18 PM
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It's funny how they'll endlessly bully us about our boobs until we get implants, and then once we have them the misogynistic school of thought changes to "you're just plastic" "fake" "lying"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:09 AM
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tHiS sTuDy Is UnReLiAbLe!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:06 AM
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50%? I'll settle for 100%. Sperm is what causes pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:17 AM
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I think men who say this are being very open about their unhealthy compartmentalizing. They'll claim to be the logical sex when it benefits them, and they'll truly believe it. They will simultaneously believe they have an 'animal' (illogical) nature when it comes to sex -- "post nut clarity" implying horniness clouds their minds/judgment. They are simply a jumble of broken personality fragments, a series of cognitive dissonances centered on not taking accountability. They're not even LVM they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:24 PM
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I am SO SICK of the "men aren't allowed to show emotion" shtick. It's literally a complete lie. Men scream at their goddamn video games when they lose. They have meltdowns and start riots over their favorite football teams losing. They are constantly allowed to express their emotions; the fact the word "hysterical" is coded to women but not men tells you all you need to know about which gender is allowed to show more emotion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:45 AM
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Men will leave you when you need them most. Never forget this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:39 AM
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Fucking YES queen. I have bipolar1 and I go through some nightmarish shit. But am I weak enough to project that on others? Nope. I got myself medicated, I got myself into therapy, I cut out all the people who are bad for my mental health, and I'm healing on my own accord. Expecting people to bend to your will and walk on eggshells is NV behavior. Every LV/NV ex I had made such a cushy emotional profit off of me trying to be ~sympathetic~ to their trauma and triggers. They never went to therapy o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:36 AM
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Multiple genuine terrorists have been shown to consume (or create) incel/redpill/manosphere media, or have histories of domestic violence. Sexism is so closely entwined with terrorism because it's executed so similarly. Power-playing intimidation and antagonization meant to induce fear. Women are constantly terrorized by men and they really grow to enjoy that feeling of invoking terror/helplessness upon others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:20 PM
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I blame porn. It's more accessible than ever and boys are often surrounded by men who normalize it. The newer generations are increasingly sexually traumatized from it; a rising number of men in their 20s have erectile dysfunction for example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:32 PM
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I've seen a bunch of "male feminists" calling women pickmes too and every time it's pretty transparent as misogyny like this. They don't even know what it means or its significance, they're just little weasels trying to find any way to bash women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:55 AM
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I love how they effectively expect us to carry out the task of creating offspring by ourselves. They really just dump their load and shrug at the fact you're 3D printing a human for nine months and then pushing it out (or getting cut open) in complete agony. I despise men who complain about their pregnant wives for being "moody" or having "pregnancy brain," or how tiring the delivery was, or how the newborn is such a handful and he never gets any sleep. Your wife has AT LEAST been getting her in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:12 PM
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health benefits too real lol. Even as a top creator making $5k a week, in the states that runs out pretty fucking fast if you have any kind of health issue or medication to afford. FFS a month of ONE of my pills costs 4k out of pocket, not even including appointments and other medical costs. And since they're allegedly bankrolling off of this $$paid dick sucking$$, they sure aren't eligible for state/government insurance. Voluntary sex work is just a big steaming pile of long-term self harm and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:10 PM
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Sounds about right. I wish I could say I'm surprised but when you see the front page of a site like Pornhub you can pretty safely assume the worst. I know nothing about OF creators but I can guarantee all of the "top creators" participate in one or more of the following: dressing like children/acting like children/"ageplay" letting men piss and spit on them letting men choke and hit them violent bdsm with objects (such as clamps and whips) titles like "BARELY LEGAL" or "TEEN"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:11 AM
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It's wild we even need people to vouch for it. If sex workers were 100% transparent about the job it would look like shit, so they lie to others and themselves about how it's fine. And then they'll try to glamorize the remaining facts like "I'm a top creator and I make $5k a month" as if they didn't make that $5k dressing up and talking like a child in some custom content for a married man. Because you fucking know those top creators are catering to any and all depravity for that almighty buck. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:15 AM
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The onus of birth control and testing and general sexual health is literally always on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:04 PM
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Yep. I have a trauma disorder and I'm bipolar. When I'm fully-blown manic my hypersexuality is horrible. My late teens consisted of self-harm through casual sex and a chorus of pickme libfems cheering me on for sticking it to purity culture or whatever. I can't believe the insanity of it now that I'm medicated and looking back. Why, why, WHY did they let me do that? Why did they tell me it was okay and 'empowering'? It exacerbated my mental illness and trauma tenfold. I'm a lot better now and no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:00 PM
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Lmfao I'd love to see a thread like "women, what's the most awful pick-up attempts you've ever experienced?" and see how many of them directly line up with the men's stories in the rejection thread. It's absolutely crazy how they see their words and actions in their heads vs. how they look in the real world. Absolutely deluded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:13 AM
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But a lot of fast scrotes see FDSers as a ‘challenge’ to crack & target us for our high standards deliberately - so watch out for those wolves in disguise. Trust your gut. Ain't this the truth. I'm so suspicious of men who shower me with the "I love an independent woman" compliments because they always turn out to be like this. Men love treating us like a conquest for themselves and their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:28 AM
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