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Have your own thing (interests). Then you always have something to talk about. Eg. art, music, science, fashion, even game itself.
/r/seduction09/05/19 01:49 PM
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Maybe you just need to relax and let things happen instead of forcing it. I don't think you need a pill. You need to feel relaxed and good. Here's my suggestion. Go to the gym right before banging and work out but not super hard so that you're tired. Just do like 1-2 sets to get the blood going. Then take a shot of something. Her too preferably. Then bang. (You don't even need the gym just do a walk, then 20 pushups 20 situps 20 crunches. Though ideally you want bicep curls and shoulders, you wa…
/r/seduction23/08/18 03:14 AM
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For a beginner it's good
/r/seduction15/08/18 02:16 PM
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I think what went wrong is you took it too serious. She's just playing. It's like a shit test. Flip the script on her and make her earn yours. The last comment is kind of weak since you basically gave her the ball and said do something. Never ask the girl for compliance or to take the lead.
/r/seduction12/08/18 03:29 AM
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Don't try too hard. Just give her what she wants
/r/seduction12/08/18 03:25 AM
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It's a lucrative business
/r/seduction10/08/18 07:15 PM
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lol whatever you are, own that thing. Play it and kino escalate meanwhile
/r/seduction05/08/18 04:48 PM
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I am in a very similar situation as you. Late 20s. Looking to find that LTR. I keep thinking I want at least this level of woman who is at least on par with me in certain ways that I think are important. I've been also going through basically a super long quarter life crises that's lasting several years. Trying to find myself who I really am. And what I uncovered was something I didn't like. I realized I am a certain way and am only attracted to certain people. I finally understood that there re…
/r/seduction30/07/18 03:38 AM
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Everyone has potential. I'm not saying you don't have potential. Just at your current level right now that's what you have. Sure if you changed your lifestyle and became someone better/new those girls that are attracted to you will also change. I've done that as well. The issue is maintaining said lifestyle. Much more effort than I realized.
/r/seduction25/07/18 10:57 PM
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Yea that's your girl(s). Going higher is too much for you. Not because of looks but more because of lifestyle/laziness/your energy level.
/r/seduction25/07/18 02:11 PM
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Biggest lesson towards this I learned that applies to everyone is that you attract what you are, not what you want. You can easily hookup with a girl that’s like what you truly are. Do you have girls in your life that like you for you?
/r/seduction25/07/18 01:56 AM
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No response
/r/seduction24/07/18 02:35 AM
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damn I think you are ahead of your time, but I can appreciate it
/r/seduction22/07/18 12:21 AM
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Your issue might be that your goal is to bang and people can see it from a mile away. That kind of thing is for tinder, bars and clubs, etc. It's not attractive. A better idea might be to oursue your passions so youre at those places. Or to have no preset goals other than to have fun, have a great time, and make friends. One of the core principles is independence from outcome.
/r/seduction21/07/18 10:15 PM
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I feel your pain. I was fresh out of college just 4 years ago. Usually the first year is the hardest because it's such an adjustment. But as you grow make sure you learn quickly to become a veteran/senior person as fast as possible. The work will become easier. The slack you get for being senior increases. You get more days off with higher positions. IMO once you're full time life becomes all about the vacation days and using those to the maximum benefit (combining with holidays, taking amazing …
/r/seduction19/07/18 02:57 PM
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Does your job let you work 10 hour days? Then you can take fridays off.
/r/seduction19/07/18 01:36 PM
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Usually this takes even more hours of work though than a regular job.
/r/seduction19/07/18 01:35 PM
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This one too lol
/r/seduction17/07/18 11:16 PM
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comparison is the theif of joy
/r/seduction14/07/18 09:57 PM
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I try to find opportunities to talk to people. I realized I don’t like living alone at all. Most of the time I’m going to grocery store or Starbucks. Luckily this neighbor just moved in next to me. We talk on our shared balcony area. I kind of drifted from my two groups of friends so I am at square one again. God i want to talk to people. I never felt this way before but I want to recreate that at home atmosphere. Where I can talk to people whenever I want about random stuff. Some reason it’s so…
/r/seduction12/07/18 03:29 AM
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It sucks man. But I think you already know the answer. It's weekends and night game. If you're too shy for those then grocery stores, gas stations, clubs (dancing, yoga) on the weekends. Volunteering could be a big one, but like you said it's all old people. Honestly absolute best way to find girls is to meet cool guys who will then get you invited. Girls will go to the most exclusive thing you can find. That's where they'll be. That's why you don't know where they are and can't find them. You a…
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:51 PM
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The way I think about it is you have to keep taking little bites to get stronger. Eventually they will stack up to something.
/r/seduction27/06/18 08:51 PM
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AFC: answers the questions honestly PUA beginner: makes it a joke or twists it to something like meeting people PUA advance: doesn't answer the question or says something vague like "do cool stuff" and get her to invest
/r/seduction21/06/18 08:39 PM
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Raises your wanted status
/r/seduction18/06/18 06:04 PM
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Why is it getting the girl like she's some kind of object. It's two people meeting. Sorry that's always bugged me.
/r/seduction15/06/18 03:55 PM
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I am an expression of divine love.
/r/seduction14/06/18 06:11 PM
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Is it really worth it? I got it for free when Zan was giving them out but never felt like reading it.
/r/seduction14/06/18 02:07 AM
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Don't try to skip being an amateur though.
/r/seduction13/06/18 05:21 PM
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May not want to listen to that advice. I don't think it makes her the reward. That's using logic which doesn't apply here. Complimenting has worked for thousands of years so if it's working keep doing it.
/r/seduction13/06/18 05:15 PM
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I think you're thinking too much into it.
/r/seduction13/06/18 05:14 PM
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Work can definitely take a lot out of you. Studying/college was nothing compared to having to solve problems for hours straight. People constantly calling you etc. Can take a lot out of you. Have to fight for a balance. Find opportunities for fun.
/r/seduction13/06/18 04:06 PM
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Don't reveal everything at once. Follow the example of tv shows, leave epic cliffhangers. It doesn't have to be something "major" just don't reveal everything about yourself all at once. So there's always something new to discover.
/r/seduction04/06/18 01:45 PM
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When the student is ready the teacher will appear
/r/seduction02/06/18 12:39 AM
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It makes sense. It doesn't do anything for yourself to put someone else up so it sounds like you have an agenda or are sucking up to them.
/r/seduction01/06/18 02:40 AM
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Put $2500 towards going out.
/r/seduction29/05/18 09:02 PM
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Yea that's why I setup my 100 sets thing in that sub. I want to just go for it. I have to decide I don't care if I'm moving from here. Things will need to line up and I'm sure they will fall into place. But I need to approach is the most important piece.
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:51 PM
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You have to sign up for a free trial to Audible
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:12 PM
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I'm starting to think a lot of these missed opportunities are really your subconscious thinking it wouldn't work out. Like for eg. later you thought she would be too far away. I have a ton of trouble with these because I think I don't want to stay where I live currently so I subconsciously pass on opportunities.
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:08 PM
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I do have some goals. They are mostly material in nature. Like a new car. How did you find your goals/purpose?
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:42 AM
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I find that no matter how much I expand my comfort zone always returns to the normal default. One year I will be going out constantly. Then something will happen that will set me Waayyyy back to before where I started. Then I build my way up to that point again and start going out. Only to be hit even harder back down. It's the same with girls. I start off hot but it's always fleeting until they lose interest again. I tried to maximize my life as much as I can by cutting stress, eating healthier…
/r/seduction06/04/18 03:38 AM
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All I'm saying is talk to people who are interested in YOU. Give them a chance. Maybe they will win you over. Stop chasing people who don't like you.
/r/seduction25/03/18 06:30 AM
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Listen to lingeringgnome it's hard at first but after one you'll be fine and actually find that you enjoy it. People are always whining and complaining asking why there's no opportunity for them but there is you are ignoring it.
/r/seduction25/03/18 03:48 AM
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Those are the ones you need to talk to.
/r/seduction25/03/18 03:43 AM
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you fool
/r/seduction13/03/18 12:46 AM
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let fear be your compass
/r/seduction10/03/18 07:27 PM
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Sounds like she doesn't trust him. His intentions aren't clear.
/r/seduction07/03/18 01:06 AM
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Send another meme
/r/seduction04/03/18 05:06 PM
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I agree that luck has a lot to do with your beginning in life. That said I have had success if I am continually applying myself to creating positive momentum the other direction. Anyone can do it.
/r/seduction26/02/18 03:17 PM
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Who decided that?
/r/seduction26/02/18 03:15 PM
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Happened to me. Can confirm much better dancer.
/r/seduction23/02/18 02:55 PM
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I would do it, but make sure you are careful not to make it a relationship. Be friends with benefits and she will keep interest in you. Anyways that's been my experience. What's the point of being friends if there's no benefits? There always has to be some kind of unspoken exchange. Be it sex, money, mutual friends, mutual goals/ideas. Find out what her goals are with you. Is it because you are mutual friends with some other people? Or maybe she sees you as a fuck buddy. Or the girl will get bor…
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:40 AM
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But if you didn't fuck her then you risk losing her interest as well. I had a girl who was/is my friend and I thought it was all that there was. We hung out constantly. But after many times I didn't escalate she started losing interest. So do fuck your friends. Just don't date them officially.
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:39 AM
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+1 for Clark's boots. Had a girl compliment me on them. Felt like a million bucks. Ended up going to her house another day. Come to think of it, she gamed me lol.
/r/seduction21/02/18 04:07 PM
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View it as sharing positive energy instead of you are attacking them. I think you are afraid of imaginary scenarios. Be okay with the worst that can happen.
/r/seduction21/02/18 04:03 PM
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bring them to earth with negs
/r/seduction19/02/18 08:59 PM
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I'm still 95% sure it was a fake account. And it made me feel weird because it was the first "money" one. Idk wanted to talk about it briefly. It's not a huge deal. But yes I have been getting TONS of rejections this year cuz I'm actively putting myself out more. I'm 29, but I'm terrible at game.
/r/seduction19/02/18 02:01 AM
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It's not that easy when it's you she's asking. And you've been talking for a bit.
/r/seduction19/02/18 12:34 AM
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pimps
/r/seduction18/02/18 04:48 AM
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I guess it comes with experience. I feel like I can talk forever about star wars. But I can't really talk much about for example dance. Since I'm newer to dance. And not THAT into it. I haven't seen all the videos. I just like to dance socially and that's it. The instructor makes all kinds of jokes in dance class because she knows the nuances of dance. She can be bubbly and talk all day about it and the dance world. So everyone flocks to her. They all find it relevant and funny. But I'm not that…
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:57 PM
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About being funny, I have an issue where I think I'm really funny but it's more self amusement. Other people don't think it's funny, but I am laughing my face off. Kind of a weird issue because to me I'm 100% certain it's funny so I say it. And it ends up making everyone weirded out or the other person doesn't get it. I'm not sure exactly where the issue is so I end up filtering myself. Is it possible to turn self amusement into something more relatable? If this makes sense. An example would be,…
/r/seduction22/01/18 04:03 PM
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The whole concept of cold approach pickup is considered mechanical, slimy, and even creepy because it spits in the face of the notion that love is something that just happens. Are you saying there's no truth to this?
/r/seduction14/01/18 04:08 PM
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Thanks, I think I know what you mean by networking events. I think conferences are probably a great place for that as well.
/r/seduction05/03/17 08:43 PM
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Thanks man, kind of interested in hearing about the places to work.
/r/seduction05/03/17 08:42 PM
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tldr?
/r/seduction18/12/16 05:57 PM
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That doesn't make any sense
/r/seduction16/12/16 07:46 PM
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I dictate therefore I am
/r/seduction11/12/16 09:19 PM
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No pressure
/r/seduction08/12/16 08:05 PM
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That's exactly me
/r/seduction04/12/16 02:57 AM
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Shift your paradigm of coming from abundance. Understand what that means and how to do it. This would be the one thing because it all starts and ends with this. Take way better pictures by looking up guides for 10 minutes if you are doing online game.
/r/seduction30/11/16 04:48 AM
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After talking to a bunch of girls and approaching I've found that my standards are going up. Except I haven't f closed anyone yet. Then I will go to lunch and have the easiest time flirting with the 4 behind the counter.
/r/seduction30/11/16 04:36 AM
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Girls won't care if you're cool with it. Try dimmed lights. Works very well as you can't see small stuff. She will think it's any old apartment. At the very least have drinks ready to go hahaha.
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:37 PM
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It shouldn't feel like work my dude. It should feel effortless and FUN. IMO if you're feeling wrong about something don't do it. That isn't the same as excitement. You know when it's wrong. Maybe you're not actually attracted to the girl that's why it feels like work.
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:05 PM
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You know what you have to do
/r/seduction26/11/16 12:39 AM
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Take a break. Maybe even set a time limit of 2 weeks or whatever feels right. And don't stress about "missing out" as you're on vacation for the 2 weeks from game.
/r/seduction25/11/16 07:45 PM
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I had this issue as well. For some reason I would think it's our "destiny" to be together when a girl showed me a little interest. Now I realize there is no destiny really. In that sense anyway. So my solution is I always think of Palpatine when he tells Luke it's his "desitny" to turn to the dark side. It's like no dude. Get outta here with that destiny crap. I'm a jedi, bitch.
/r/seduction24/11/16 11:40 PM
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No I learned a lot actually. Definitely good moves in here to prevent people trying to steal your girl. I'm a beginner so I can use all the help I can get hahaha.
/r/seduction24/11/16 11:34 PM
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If you catch yourself whining, like "I don't go out much" or something, catch yourself and say how you're going to change it. Like "I don't go out much... Though I'm doing my best to change that" or something like that. Almost exactly like you would answer a greatest weakness question on an interview.
/r/seduction24/11/16 11:25 PM
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Things don't change overnight. Sometimes it does take years.
/r/seduction23/11/16 08:07 PM
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I've watched Julien's thing after d/ling it (to test it out) and I couldn't watch past the first video. It's him saying all the same stuff you've heard before but I would say it's even worse production quality than their youtube stuff, which can actually be exciting sometimes. I was going to buy it or attend his "tour" to make up for it but it was really boring and bland. And he canceled his tour date in my city.
/r/seduction23/11/16 05:35 PM
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Would like an answer as well. I had a girl try to take the men's part in a dance after the dance lesson. It felt really weird so I excused myself.
/r/seduction23/11/16 05:31 PM
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The whole thing is an ad for his site.
/r/seduction23/11/16 04:46 PM
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I think you should. I doubt anyone at work will care enough to creep on your internet posts.
/r/seduction23/11/16 04:41 PM
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Post it man. You could help a lot of guys out.
/r/seduction23/11/16 04:24 PM
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Ya'll a bunch of babies hahaha
/r/seduction23/11/16 02:02 AM
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haha damn. Thanks man. I need to get in the gym more. Did some approaches last night. Made some friends. This is so much fun now that I'm starting to get into it. hahaha
/r/seduction15/11/16 02:51 PM
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Yea man. What I do is I will go to the parking lot of the place I want to go to. Then I will chill in the parking lot till I feel like going in or not. If I still don't want to go in, then I'll leave and that's that. Most times I end up going in since I'm already there. You can play a phone game while you wait to take your attention. Can you expand on what you mean by being hot? How do you get the girls over quickly? I feel like they always want to "talk" over text.
/r/seduction15/11/16 02:41 AM
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Same here hahaha. I'm trying to get into some nightgame here and there going out to my local bars. I'm having 0 lays currently but I'm getting numbers/texting/approaching/good responses/dates all those stats are going up this year. How did you get the two girls over? Internet game?
/r/seduction14/11/16 09:56 PM
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Wow great job. Do you do mostly night game?
/r/seduction14/11/16 09:34 PM
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How long have you been gaming? Getting any results?
/r/seduction14/11/16 04:16 PM
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Yea I agree. And man I wish I could be the zone permanently. I'm moving towards that hopefully. But when I have it man it's unstoppable.
/r/seduction14/11/16 03:15 PM
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The girls don't look at your stories. You end up looking at theirs. Like I said only one girl looked at them. Though she was very receptive when I sent her messages.
/r/seduction14/11/16 03:23 AM
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Yea I messed that up long time ago. Been texting her for 2-3 weeks now. She doesn't respond back when I suggest a meetup. But she will text me back when I send funny texts.
/r/seduction14/11/16 03:20 AM
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I haven't fapped in 4+ years though
/r/seduction14/11/16 01:54 AM
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Most recent one(s) I actually met online though. Never met them in person. Trying to setup something
/r/seduction14/11/16 01:54 AM
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Get closer to their ear. I'm not an expert in bar/nightclub but basically the little experience I have is it's really easy to approach and start talking in the girls ear or simply get them to dance with you and very little words needs to be said. It's body language
/r/seduction13/11/16 04:10 PM
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I tried snapchat and ended up deleting it. It has to be about you and not about the girls if you're going to do it. For me it was to get girls and I think that's a mistake. I added all the girls from tinder (20-25) and started making stories. Only one girl ever followed my snaps. She was ok cute but nothing crazy. Most girls will not watch your stories UNLESS you know them already. So therefore, unless you are making a story JUST to make a story then go for it. Spending time making a story for 1…
/r/seduction13/11/16 04:03 PM
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why would you say it wasn't a date? I wouldn't say that at all... Good call not saying it. But sounds like a good job. You avoided the weekend and gave her something fun to do on a Monday. Just go for the kiss after and you should be all set. I'm currently texting this one girl. She's mad cute. Wish me luck haha Oh and don't spend too much time on the lunch or whatever. 30 mins is all you need. Maybe even use a timer on your phone lol. Then lead her out and kiss close outside (or in the car). Th…
/r/seduction11/11/16 04:43 AM
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What did you say? And what did she say back? For my reference please
/r/seduction11/11/16 02:16 AM
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What did she say? Did you do it?
/r/seduction10/11/16 05:47 PM
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What do you mean? I just said it: "Awesome. Sounds like you're pretty busy. You should text me when you get back." Then you can also add "I'd like to take you out" at the end of that. Up to you.
/r/seduction09/11/16 03:54 AM
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Awesome. Sounds like you're pretty busy. You should text me when you get back.
/r/seduction09/11/16 03:43 AM
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Yo man. Same thing here. Literally happened just now. Beautiful conversation, but as soon as she asks for MY number I freak out and say something really mean without even thinking about it. Like wtf brain. She stops saying anything. I just say sorry that was mean. I asked a girl out over text the other day (different girl) but I am dreading that she says yes. She hasn't replied yet and I hope she never does. I have no idea wtf is going on. But I feel you. It's this fear of success . And it's har…
/r/seduction09/11/16 03:08 AM
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No sweat man. Actually this sounds better than it was now. I'm no expert but I would say something like "I can do a lot in 3 hours ;) You should hang with me after class. I'll come pick you up on Thurs. We'll get a coffee.(or whatever you want)." Yolo it. If she says no then you risk being fucked. But isn't that always the risk anyways. Then you try for the longer one. Though in my experience I'm not able to get them that week because it's just too little time. One of my best f closes was simila…
/r/seduction09/11/16 02:52 AM
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What was the last things that were said?
/r/seduction09/11/16 02:38 AM
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Maybe she is seeing how you will respond, but if a girl is interested you know it. If you don't know then she's either neutral or not interested. At least that's my experience.
/r/seduction09/11/16 12:51 AM
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You don't need any skills. Go take action. Delete tinder and delete any social apps. Get off the internet. It's sapping your strength. Go outside. Talk to everyone.
/r/seduction05/11/16 10:20 PM
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Congrats! What was the biggest thing that got you from 0 to 1? I would be interested in hearing that and how fast you went from 1 to 2.
/r/seduction03/11/16 08:41 PM
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There's a lot in this post I don't agree with. "and the price is hard, hard work. Nothing valuable comes for free." Especially. Everything in life should come easy and naturally. It should really be effortless. Once you reach a certain level the "work" isn't work at all. You don't see as that. You want to go out.
/r/seduction03/11/16 08:04 PM
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Happens all the time. You put in all the work and the chill guy grabs the girl.
/r/seduction29/10/16 07:06 PM
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Similar to The Power of Now type self-help is Vadim Zeland's books. Here is an audio book. Though I only recommend the first one or two. And take it with a grain of salt. The main ideas are to lower importance and don't be part of pendulums (organizations or groups or behaviors) that are hurting you.
/r/seduction27/10/16 06:19 PM
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Yea I agree. We place too much importance on sex that's why we don't get any. You have to let your soul do the searching. Not your mind. It has to feel right. Like I was saying earlier, it should feel effortless. Everything in life should be this way. It should be fun and easy. Otherwise something is wrong and you're not following your soul's path. Your mind can come up with a million solutions to a problem you give it. But it's all vain. Ask your soul what feels right and do that. Kind of what …
/r/seduction27/10/16 01:51 PM
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Trying man. Always going out whenever I can.
/r/seduction27/10/16 01:47 PM
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Except that organic relationships don't happen to everybody. I've only had a few ever. Though you're absolutely right that when everything aligns it's beautiful. That's actually why I like Luke's teachings. He barely does any cold approaches. Basically 0. And just employs the organic relationships. I wish I could find ways to become better at doing this. Honestly is should be EASY. The whole thing should be so freaking easy. But it's the internet and our addictions that have become our habits th…
/r/seduction27/10/16 03:20 AM
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I am wrestling with this myself. Usually I get my first opens by doing compliments. Eg. "Hey I like your hair" or some stupid thing "Hey I wanted to come over and say because you're cute." I will get the girl to smile and possibly laugh with just those little things. Here's the thing I learned though. When you say that you are giving your energy and showing your intent. I have to test this still but you want to continue to GIVE energy. Don't expect returns. Don't ask me for examples as I haven't…
/r/seduction26/10/16 04:17 PM
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Holy crap. Thanks. I needed to hear this.
/r/seduction24/10/16 04:07 PM
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This sucks man I feel you. I am not that great yet myself so I experience this on a daily basis. Where I am talking with a girl and everything is going well. Then I'll say something off literally one line and they will lose all interest. Thing that is so hard is to let go of importance as you are just holding a falling blade. What I do is don't place any importance on the girl's lack of interest. Flip the script. As though it's all about you. Show your intent clearly for what you do want. If thi…
/r/seduction24/10/16 03:57 PM
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Guys take the lead. Embrace this you'll be way better off. I'm not an expert at all but from what RSD Luke teaches it seems that she isn't as invested in you. It boils down to that. Kind of crazy how the world works that way. The girl can still get with you while not being as invested just for fun.
/r/seduction24/10/16 02:17 PM
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Just thank god you didn't try and miserably fail to game your neighbor or co-workers. Luckily my neighbor I don't see her that often. Same with the co-worker. But man what a FUCKING mistake. But yea. Don't crap where you eat.
/r/seduction23/10/16 04:07 AM
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I'm doing this. Will report back. Edit: Dang only got groceries
/r/seduction23/10/16 03:02 AM
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Thanks man. Congrats. I feel like I'm just now able to actually approach girls cold and actually talk to them. Still no lays though.
/r/seduction23/10/16 01:35 AM
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So are all your approaches cold? Have you had a gf in these three years or decided not to?
/r/seduction22/10/16 11:19 PM
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Have you found that you've stopped feeling/thinking about girls reactions as you've progressed? What about girls in general? How often do you think about the game/girls, and did it decrease over time?
/r/seduction22/10/16 10:29 PM
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Well it's both really external and internal. You cannot simply wish for girls and do nothing. But it starts internally. Once you realize that NOTHING is important. Any idea you have. Self worth - not important. Good mental state - not important. ETC. You should listen to your feelings instead. Though they're not important either. Especially if you feel strongly about anything. Remind yourself.
/r/seduction12/10/16 01:41 PM
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I never tried it so I can't recommend it or not. I'll tell you straight up that you don't need anything external. That it's all internal.
/r/seduction11/10/16 12:55 PM
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Nothing is important. Everything just is. You are no different than a blade of grass or a grain of sand on the beach. Do you think a blade of grass cares about anything? But yet it can thrive like no other. Weeds can grow to giant proportions but we call them weeds. There are more blades of grass than there are people. Are they more successful than us? Don't assign any more importance to anything. You need to get out of your own way. Once you let go of everything you can start over. There are no…
/r/seduction10/10/16 03:11 PM
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Bro. All the stuff you mentioned is not important. If you were to forget about it, you would be better off. I'm not some pickup guru, but I can tell it's hurting you. So why cling to it so tightly? If your life is a wreck I would suggest trying nofap and really giving it a shot. It's what helped me turn my life around. I got "rejected" like 10 times yesterday. But it was fun dude. I don't even remember all of what happened. Because it's just not important. Nothing is really. I just know I approa…
/r/seduction09/10/16 02:07 PM
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The most success I ever had was when I was part of a volunteer group. But I can't find a group like that here. I've moved for a job to the midwest. Most groups are full of old people. Young people can't get out of their house to do anything.
/r/seduction08/10/16 01:47 AM
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Book of Pook Thanks, I will check out the book.
/r/seduction08/10/16 01:21 AM
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Thanks. I like your comment. I do, do it for me. And I am aloof lile I don't put any importance if she texts me back because I don't have any expectations. Side tangent is I don't get how girls can treat me like a prize when they don't put in effort. Especially at first. It's on me to lead. They just respond to me. My friend said you should reduce the number of questions and stick to comments, but they just stay quiet if I say a comment and don't lead with questions. Maybe I'm not creating enoug…
/r/seduction08/10/16 12:24 AM
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Yea I never understood how a guy can treat a girl like shit or care less. They don't ever put in any effort. It's like you have to lead or nothing.
/r/seduction07/10/16 11:42 PM
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Dang man, I'm not that advanced. I usually just go up and say they're cute and ask if they're single. Then I mumble my way into a conversation based on the situation.
/r/seduction07/10/16 11:37 PM
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Of course it's just me..
/r/seduction07/10/16 11:30 PM
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Yea. I definitely need to. But I can't stop thinking about it. I drive myself crazy lol
/r/seduction07/10/16 11:20 PM
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Why three of red? Get a red, white, and vodka. Diversify bro
/r/seduction07/10/16 10:43 PM
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If she's already at your house man, not sure how much difference having a comic book or action figure on your desk will have. If she's at your place you just need to watch a movie and seal the deal and don't sweat the small stuff.
/r/seduction07/10/16 10:42 PM
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I feel like I always try to make same day plans and it hasn't worked for me once. You need to plan it way ahead of time. At least 2-3 days. Not next day either. Of course I am free and I would love to meet the girl same day, that's when I want to meet her. But they never go for that
/r/seduction07/10/16 10:39 PM
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Might want to not approach at work then.
/r/seduction26/09/16 08:37 PM
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Don't be so sure of that last part. I will sometimes go to public places but have no intention of talking to anyone unless I am feeling good. I am just bored and want to feel like I'm around others. But actually want to be left alone. Like yesterday I went to the fair but didn't approach any girls cuz I didn't feel like it. My mood was meh.
/r/seduction25/09/16 05:00 PM
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Can you explain a bit? I might be in a similar situation at some point.
/r/seduction25/09/16 04:22 PM
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Good job man. Keep doing it. Not everyone is always open to people at any given time. Happens to everyone including you. You'd have to change her mood, not her mind. I bet if you made her laugh she would respond differently and more receptively.
/r/seduction25/09/16 04:09 PM
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Nah but keep trying lol
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:57 PM
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I have eye contact down but I suck at everything afterwards lol
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:52 PM
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Yea I usually do a situation opener if I can. Like the Ren Fair girl was all dressed up like a lady for medieval times and I was going to compliment her on her costume.
/r/seduction24/09/16 11:48 PM
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Fuck man I'm right there with you. Except I can't approach. It's just so weird and when I do it's like shutdown or run away mode. I went out today to the Ren Fair and there were girls literally eyeing me as what I thought were IOIs. Like eye contact and stuff almost like checking me out. And I still did NOTHING. And the girls were by themselves!!! FML. I just got home and I'm not beating myself up or anything because I had fun, but I possibly missed to opportunities for easy cold approaches. Wha…
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:54 PM
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Just start saying anything and eventually you'll get good.
/r/seduction24/09/16 10:48 PM
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What's your profile like?
/r/seduction13/08/16 04:08 AM
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This will be grizzly.
/r/seduction28/07/16 03:56 AM
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This is good stuff. Never though about it in terms of laughing and attention. But it sounds so right now that I think about it. Because my friend did have those two things going for him. I think the "ARE YOU HAVING FUN AND ENJOYING THE CHAT?" is so important for me/ my sticking point.
/r/seduction28/07/16 03:40 AM
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I don't kiss and tell.
/r/seduction16/03/16 07:15 PM
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Met up for a coffee. She was exactly like her pics. She couldn't stop talking about work. But it was fine. We then went to the mall nearby. I was hoping to take it to my place but she had to go see friends on other side of town at 2 (as she told me at the start). Texted her later. She said she hurt her foot or something and couldn't hang. Didn't think she was being dishonest. Messed up by sending her a weird text when I was having a headache. Texted her inviting her over. She said she's not like…
/r/seduction15/03/16 11:44 PM
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Well I was thinking list of names with total money spent, but pictures would be even better. If you can post a picture of before / after and do a list of all the new clothes you bought. Asking a lot I know but it's for science. Anyways it's up to you. You can even make a whole new post and reap the karma.
/r/seduction15/03/16 11:20 PM
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It depends on which instructor resonates with you. Personally Luke is my favorite because he came from software engineering so he explains stuff like an engineer would. Besides RSD I also check out Honest Signals and recently found Johnny Berber Coaching. Johnny is probably the most like me instructor in terms of how women respond to his game. He's basically me because he's doing nofap and I've been doing it for years now. Has the same issues with anxiety. His game resonates from a place of raw …
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:06 AM
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Don't even need to say anything really
/r/seduction15/03/16 03:33 AM
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RSD has changed from when the Game was first published. They basically cut all the outer game and focus wholly on inner game of improving yourself. But the top of the list from their own mouth is going out. Experiencing life. Getting reference experience. That's why I've stuck with them.
/r/seduction14/03/16 06:17 AM
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Same problems here. That sub has all kinds of styles.
/r/seduction13/03/16 10:08 PM
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Can you share what new clothes you bought please?
/r/seduction13/03/16 10:06 PM
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Maybe it's a defense mechanism and she's scared to let others in. I've had this with a previous GF. She opened up over time but it took her 2 years lol. But inside they do care. Try to talk to the person inside if that makes sense. A psychiatrist/psychologist whatever is the right one may be able to help with this. My suggestion is don't do anything for a bit and let her realize she needs to make a change. But it has to be slow and comfortable for her. Create a safezone for her and try to work i…
/r/seduction13/03/16 04:58 PM
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Good tips. I need more outdoors stuff I think. As a guy I was never great at taking pictures or liked having pictures taken of me. Now pictures matter so much it's crazy.
/r/seduction13/03/16 04:52 PM
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Thanks man appreciate it. Good luck to you.
/r/seduction13/03/16 03:06 PM
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Don't forget the smilies. ;)
/r/seduction13/03/16 03:05 PM
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Quick recap after getting home: I'm really proud of myself for having the courage to go out. It was just fine. I felt fine. Was a bit in my head at one point and started thinking how it sucks being alone here, but I looked around and there was a bunch of guys like me haha. Just standing around. At least I made myself look as good as I could. I cold approached. Had some girls take my picture to post on tinder. And in general got some good pictures. Mostly just talked to people with light convos. …
/r/seduction13/03/16 06:49 AM
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Can't believe I've been here for over 3 hours. Kind of bored now lol. Haven't talked to anyone in a while ah well. Might get outta here soon and go grocery shopping. Don't really see much people being social with strangers. Mostly their own groups. So much value in having a solid social circle.
/r/seduction13/03/16 04:35 AM
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Going pretty well. Don't feel so anxious. Have cold approached some people and took some photos. Girls are giving no IoIs much ah well. Gonna stick around a while see what happens. Mostly just standing around or moving from place to place. This is a really nice open place so lots of room. Pretty nice. I def came a little early. No ones even drunk or anything. Good shows though.
/r/seduction13/03/16 03:13 AM
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Can you share how did you take your tinder pictures please?
/r/seduction12/03/16 10:05 PM
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Agree that there's ups and downs. It's so weird because I will have all this success then later as I'm contracting I'll still expect getting more and it's like grasping at quick sand. The more you try during contraction the more you'll sink deeper. It sucks because I'll think, am I really moving forward? Who am I if I have this burst of good then all this bad. Just have to recognize where you're at. And the key I found is focus on the positive instead of the negative.
/r/seduction12/03/16 09:35 PM
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Leave texting for short quick quips and (mainly) logistics. Leave talking about stuff outside of texting.
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:15 PM
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Not sure what you're looking for, but that's what I did. There was always groups from class who made friends and studied together at the library. We got a lot of studying in but it was social as well because we hung out together too. Second option, find girl in class and ask to study together at the library. Then actually study. Afterwards is up to you.
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:12 PM
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study buddy
/r/seduction12/03/16 06:58 PM
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Seems so lame to have these rules. She's going to find out who you really are , why not start with that? I guess it can work as a crutch for a bit but it's definitely a crutch and fake. I'm not going to be bringing yoga stuff if I'm not going to yoga.
/r/seduction12/03/16 02:33 AM
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You're saying crap night, but I'm only seeing positives here. You had the courage to go out. You had the courage to ask her to dance. You had the courage to call her. You had the courage to express yourself. She even called you back. You should have played it cool right there and laughed and joked about the "seeing someone." Tell her you're more important. And why is she calling you instead of him. Show confidence like it's no big deal. Keep holding down the fort. Even though it didn't work out …
/r/seduction07/03/16 07:52 PM
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friendzoned
/r/seduction07/03/16 07:37 PM
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Just read this and wanted to reply. I actually do have a job that I want. I was really lucky to be where I am. It's a great gig honestly. It's still a job though. Even though it's an awesome job all the stuff I said can still apply. My only gripe is that I'm still getting used to the 8 hour work day. It sucks. Sometimes there's big (awesome) projects that require you to pull 50+ hour weeks. They can drain you. We get a lot of good stuff at my work though. Like we can go to the gym during the day…
/r/seduction30/01/16 04:04 AM
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Don't rush to get out of college. College is the time to meet girls. You'll realize having a "stable" job is the worst since all your time and energy goes away. You won't be nearly as social as you were in college. You'll be stuck with your office crew for 8 hours a day the rest of your life. When you get home you're tired and don't want to do crap you don't have to. It really sucks to try and meet girls when you're in the middle of nowhere with only a few girls total who have all been taken 10 …
/r/seduction09/01/16 07:31 PM
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I've been doing NoFap for over three years now. (hard mode) so I haven't orgasmed or PMOed in that time. It does help a lot of things, but honestly if you're looking for a magic pill this just isn't it. I would say it definitely gives you a little boost with energy, concentration, and just being present in the moment. I've finally started considering going out and getting girls. Trying to see if the nofap hype gives real results. Let me just say the reality hits you hard. I've done nofap for ove…
/r/seduction13/09/15 02:51 AM
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