tomowudi Archive

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1	Joined but not sure I belong		tomowudi	/r/MGTOW	14/10/19 03:22 PM

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2	Piers Morgan Walks Out Of His Own Show After Crude Epstein Remark From ‘Manosphere’ Influencer He barely spoke. These guys cooked themselves when confronted with their own hypocrisy. The problem with feminism is it's a gendered lens used to redress systemic imbalances with one group. These systemic imbalances exist. This is also the problem with Men's Rights, especially because the complaints are framed as if they are in competition with the complaints of feminism. The competition is unnecessary and self defeating. Men's issues are important and there are many feminists that agree, they a…	/r/MensRights	20/03/26 01:16 PM
7	Do you think a woman can be with a man who earns less, or does his hypergamy prevent it? My wife adores me. She works, I stay home and take care of our 16 month old baby. In fact I asked her if she admired as she was leaving the boy in the bathroom I was shitting in as she raced off to work just now. She got this confused look on her face as she immediately replied, "Of course, I admire you so much boy. I love you." (We call each other boy and girl as pet names). If you want to be admired, be admirable. Women can admire men for more than their paycheck, and often do. She thinks I'm …	/r/ExRedPill	03/02/26 01:52 PM
2	Why don't women text back or text back after a very long time or just ghost men after good dates that sometimes you even kiss? Men do this too. Seems like you have had some experiences that for you were unpleasant. Have you considered that perhaps your impression of these circumstances is different from what you believe those women in fact experienced?	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/25 01:11 PM
7	I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice? This is actually what most men want honestly, but it's viewed through the lens of "sex" because a lot of emotional context is overlooked because of cultural factors. Picking up women is just considered the first step because logically you can't form a relationship with someone that you haven't even talked to. So lonely and guys desperate to form a connection that will certainly LEAD to intimacy wind up fixating on what they THINK is step 1, and this gets validated by guys that want to appear lik…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/25 09:05 PM
6	I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice? I'm fatter than he is and I am happily married to a beautiful woman - so you don't know what you are talking about.	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/25 12:05 PM
19	I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice? Red Pill has the math/marketing angle all wrong. How do I know? I'm a copywriter that has actually worked in the PUA market. I've created content for those courses, and I was in charge of a coaching program for guys like you. Marketing isn't just a "numbers game" - it's a demographic game. There's billions of people on the planet - not all of them are "buyers" for every product. You don't find those buyers by pitching everyone on the planet - it's not cost effective and it's also insane to think…	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/25 01:07 PM
13	I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice? Sure, but paint me a picture of what you think a relationship is like outside of sex. Let's start there, because honestly - this is the part where dudes like you get in trouble. I'm almost 300lbs. My wife is 7 years younger than me and has always been in better shape than me. She makes more money than me - though not when we met. We have been happily together for over a decade - we met in 2012. So - working on yourself means something if you are doing so to find a partner that you will be happy …	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/25 12:22 PM
29	I went deep down the PUA rabbit hole and can’t seem to fully pull myself out despite how much I’ve moved away from red pill as a whole. Any advice? If you spend all of your time thinking about how to pick up women - what will you have in common with the ones that say yes? What will you talk about that you are passionate about that you both mutually share? What forms the basis of a relationship where you will both enjoy the time you spend together that has nothing to do with sex?	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/25 11:59 AM
4	Random Post ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Yeah you don't actually understand gender theory if you can't describe it accurately in your criticism of it. And all words are made up.	/r/ExRedPill	05/05/25 03:05 PM
4	Random Post ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Again, the pronouns thing is the equivalent of a nickname. Nicknames can be quite silly, yet it would be rude to not use the nickname they request. Putting up such opposition to using their nickname strikes me as quite hysterical. And intentionally misgendering someone is a form of harassment. If I were to call you missy or ma'am as a man, this is a form of name-calling. If it made you uncomfortable at school or work, that's the creation of a hostile workplace. That it was only happening to tran…	/r/ExRedPill	05/05/25 01:28 PM
5	Random Post ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ JP is very good in a very narrow band - but he's terrible outside of essentially self-actualization. His forays into politics are bad and make him and his supporters look dumb. The trans issue for example - he describes it as a free speech issue because of compulsory language when it its actually a harassment issue that can be best understood as using someone's preferred nickname. If you don't call someone by their preferred nickname and instead use your own nickname for them, that isn't free sp…	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/25 05:48 PM
1	Flip the Script I like a lot of this but honestly the whole Alpha male thing IS toxic. It's literally based off of wolves in captivity - not wolves in the wild. Wolves in the wild are families. They lead from behind to protect their offspring. They dominate to teach their children, not to remain the head of the pack.	/r/MensRights	30/04/25 03:55 PM
13	Reconsidering my life choices NP. I have a few autistic friends and I have found this framework is helpful for a variety of reasons.	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/25 11:42 PM
15	Reconsidering my life choices So, I'm going to offer you an alternative - and this is from someone who isn't feminist or anti-feminist. I'm just happily married, with a child that I currently have sleeping in my lap while I play Assassin's Creed. My wife is currently the breadwinner. We have our issues, but I do not envy the relationship of any man I know. And what I'm linking to are the rules I use for all of my relationships. They are feminist friendly, and they have nothing to do with the red pill which is a bunch of hot …	/r/ExRedPill	29/04/25 11:38 PM
0	Why Do Women in Relationships Expect Single Men to Date Fat People? At a certain point you should start to question your influence on the community you cultivate around yourself. My community of friends would never tell me I shouldn't date fat people and I'm a fat person. They might tell me to be realistic about my expectations, but my life is made up of my choices. That being said, your experience of fat people isn't the full picture. You seem to have a habit of making the assumption that your sample size is sufficient for you to be judgemental of people who ar…	/r/MensRights	28/04/25 05:15 PM
36	What would happen if the Redpillers had political power and one of them became president? What would their government be like? You are seeing it. Trump is a perfect example of a RedPill.	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/25 02:34 AM
6	Redpill isn't actually the issue There are plenty of examples where someone has "unconditional positive regard" for someone they find to be completely useless. I love my mom, but she is completely useless in a crisis. In an emergency she is a liability, not an asset. Love is irrational. Flip the script - can you find value in someone that you loathe? If it is possible to find value with someone that you cannot stand to be around, why isn't it possible to love someone you find no value in?	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/25 02:33 AM
4	Redpill isn't actually the issue What is the source of that good feeling and what is being exchanged when it is one sided?	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/25 12:12 AM
6	Redpill isn't actually the issue What is the source of that good feeling and what is being exchanged when it is one sided?	/r/ExRedPill	25/04/25 12:12 AM
6	Redpill isn't actually the issue We aren't exchanging value in a transactional way. This attempt to oversimplify ignores the fact that the value I get from some of what I do for her is her happiness. That's not value she is giving me - that's happiness I am getting from doing something altruistic with no concern for getting anything in return. If you stop and help a stranger change their tire - is that transactional?	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 11:30 PM
7	Redpill isn't actually the issue My wife loves me - not what I do for her. We support each other not because it's an exchange, but rather because we want the other to be happy. Shes my best friend - and she doesn't need to do things for me in order for me to enjoy spending time with her. Being a parent is work. Kids don't exchange anything with you to make up for the cost, sleep deprivation, or the sacrifices in time required to take care of them. They can never fully repay what is invested in them. I love my wife and my child.…	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 11:07 PM
6	Redpill isn't actually the issue Too limited of a view, because many aspects of a relationship are simply not transactional. Parenthood will grind that lesson into you, but that lesson begins with your relationship with yourself.	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 10:02 PM
6	Can u debunk the claim of redpiller? I'm quoting Briffault. That's not me thinking what I like - that's me knowing what his law is. You are the one invalidating knowledge because you don't like it. I'm quoting the creator of the law you cited, so either the law is BS or Red Pills application of it is BS.	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 02:26 PM
8	Can u debunk the claim of redpiller? I quoted Briffault. That's all I did. You invoked Briffaults law as true. It's also true it doesn't apply to humans, according to the creator of the law. So that's the reality. Red Pill ideology doesn't mention that when mentioning the law - because doing so would invalidate the conclusions it pushes. If you have a better example than this, show me. But the only thing I supported with this quote is that Red Pill doesn't reflect the truth of evolutionary psychology or other social sciences. It's …	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 01:04 PM
9	Can u debunk the claim of redpiller? They are accepted but RedPill doesn't understand them. Take Briffaults law - Briffault himself said it didn't apply to humans. So if you have a better example of how Red Pill is not a bunch of manipulation and toxic behaviors, I'm open. But I disagree that the ethics is in the application because RedPills framework is inherently unethical and incompatible with healthy, cooperative relationships. “There is in fact no analogy between that [animal] group and the patriarchal human family; to equate …	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 12:42 PM
10	Can u debunk the claim of redpiller? It's true that it doesn't apply to humans - so I am not sure what point you are making. This is a great example of what I pointed out, however. RedPillers will take things like Briffaults law or the concept of "Alpha" out of context and use them to justify what amount to toxic, manipulative behaviors. Alpha wolves came out of studying wolves in captivity - essentially equating "prison rules" to an "ought" about male behavior. Ludicrous. How information is used often is related to how well it is …	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 12:22 PM
10	Can u debunk the claim of redpiller? Red pill is just manipulation embedded in an adversarial framework for relationships. It's antithetical to a healthy relationship with someone, because healthy relationships are cooperative, not competitive. Constant conflict is simply unsustainable. There aren't "truths" to successful manipulation. There are simply consequences for acting like a predator. And those consequences aren't desirable for healthy individuals. There are thousands of unhealthy people in the world that want unhealthy thi…	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 11:49 AM
13	Redpill isn't actually the issue Redpill is a collection of manipulation techniques designed to prey on insecurities. It's not surprising that they will work. But they don't result in a healthy relationship because manipulation is not compatible with a healthy relationship. So red pill techniques do not work for healthy relationships with healthy partners.	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/25 11:41 AM
-2	I feel that polygamy will be more common in the near future Knowing actual women and being married myself... This is such a silly take. Working on yourself is something you do for yourself. It makes you healthier and better equipped to deal with things when life goes awry. Conflict is a part of life. But equanimity is possible in all difficult situations of you're able to focus on gratitude for what you have in the hear and now. Polygamy is hard work. It only works with really healthy people. I don't consider it to be working when the relationship is tha…	/r/MensRights	23/04/25 09:23 AM
3	Still believe that women will leave for better In my view romance and love are different things. After all, a serial killer can set up a romantic date, but that doesn't mean they are in love with their victim. We are talking about feelings - which is another way of referring to emotions. And I think emotions are best understood as a sort of language that the subconscious mind uses to communicate conclusions about our relationship to aspects of reality to our conscious mind for the purposes of decision making. When we feel safe, it is because…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/25 12:02 AM
4	Still believe that women will leave for better Of course, take your time to digest this and figure out whether there is some logical inconsistency that you disagree with, or if it's merely an alien lens that you need to adjust to. I have a lot of respect for that response, it shows you are genuinely trying to understand this instead of merely trying to cling to a belief system. Ignore the down votes because that approach to taking time is rare and indicates that you have an intellectually honest approach. As for your thoughts that my definit…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/25 08:36 PM
6	Still believe that women will leave for better What do you think love is? To me, love is an emotion - the emotion of "unconditional, positive regard." As you pointed out, parental love is an example of this, but all love is just that - there are no conditions that change how you feel. The reason abusive relationships exist, let alone persist, is because of love. The pattern of relating is unhealthy and yet the abused person doesn't want to lose what they have, which is the emotional attachment they feel. It takes a healthy person to recogniz…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/25 12:10 PM
5	Still believe that women will leave for better Also, love to hear about fellow happy couples. Love is grand and its what the world needs more of!	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/25 02:29 PM
17	Still believe that women will leave for better This is the main issue - healthy relationships begin with your relationship with yourself, and EVERY Single RedPiller isn't the best friend they need to be for themselves. They don't trust themselves. They don't set healthy boundaries for themselves. They aren't honest with themselves. And because they don't like who they truly are underneath all of the bravado and anger at the world, they can't imagine anyone else liking them FOR their foibles, let alone in spite of them. It hurts my heart to t…	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/25 02:28 PM
34	Still believe that women will leave for better Love is irrational and "better" is subjective. People fall in love with you for who you are - whoever that is, warts and all. You just have to be your authentic self. But love is not enough to maintain a relationship - it takes work. Honest communication, cooperation, and mutual respect of boundaries. The reason for this is that all a relationship is the pattern of how two or more people interact with each other. Those interactions are either healthy or unhealthy. Unhealthy interactions are not …	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/25 12:54 PM
7	Many women are attracted to psychopathic personality traits according to study Predators being capable of attracting prey is fundamentally different from the requirements of sustaining a healthy relationship. This isn't the flex you think it is.	/r/ExRedPill	28/03/25 02:44 PM
1	Bf wants 'a bj' Depends on the man. If he is interested in a relationship and doesn't have hangups about stupid things like "body counts" he's just going to be happy it's something you are willing to do with him. If he's not really interested in a relationship, he already doesn't think much of you, you are just a notch he wants to add to his bedpost. Honestly, if his attitude about you changes after a bj, it says more about him than it does about you. In a similar way, your trust issues are about you - not him.…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/25 12:40 PM
55	What is the deal with men warning against marrying career women? Every accusation is a confession. Low self esteem people need to feel better than others including their partners. Right wing people tie their self worth to their economic status. They flee from rejection to the point that they only want to be around people who will endure them no matter how antisocial their behavior is. These boys are the most fearful, weak, and pathetic people you will ever meet honestly. Their insecurity is glaring to anyone with the most basic level of self respect.	/r/ExRedPill	13/03/25 01:58 PM
2	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Well, like I said I would say the same in an FLR relationship, so not sure what double standards you are talking about. Power has no place in a healthy relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 03:01 PM
1	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Yup - relationships are patterns of relating. Healthy relating has nothing to do with power and everything to do with trust.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 02:57 PM
11	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Power has no place in a partnership. You want trust, not power. Power is what you need when you don't trust someone. Your partner is someone that will be there for you at your lowest and weakest. Think about it. If you have cancer and can't wipe your own ass, is the partner that stays with you and wipes it the one you have power over?	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 02:57 AM
2	I don't understand how people are attracted to personality I like myself. I have a good sense of humor. I tell women that I am attracted to them, but I don't take it personally if they don't feel the same way. I'm emotionally intelligent enough to recognize the difference between someone being friendly and someone being flirty. I respect these nonverbal boundaries in the same way that I respect that not everyone likes chocolate ice cream. Some women are attracted to intelligence, humor, character, or just plain old fun. If you aren't desperate to attrac…	/r/ExRedPill	26/01/25 03:47 PM
4	I don't understand how people are attracted to personality Yup, I've always been on the bigger side.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/25 07:40 PM
4	I don't understand how people are attracted to personality Not necessarily. Old people can have some very active sex lives. I'm almost 300lbs. My wife is around 160 after having a baby. Don't assume you understand what someone else will find attractive in anyone, including you.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/25 06:20 PM
9	I don't understand how people are attracted to personality Imagine being 80 years old. Why do you think couples in their 80's stay together?	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/25 06:05 PM
12	Is it really a bad thing for an ugly and loneliness bound guy to join the MGTOW movement? Growing your own way... By following a group of unhealthy people with unhealthy attitudes and ideas.	/r/ExRedPill	08/01/25 02:06 PM
6	Democrats took the male vote for granted To be fair, Trump isn't going to do anything for men. He's just going to rape and pillage our country to enrich himself, likely by selling us out to folks like Putin. A vote for Trump was a vote again your own interests unless you happen to be Elon Musk.	/r/MensRights	06/11/24 01:07 PM
-1	Democrats are advocating for Hillary Clinton replacing President Joe Biden as the 2024 Democratic nominee: Reminder of five reasons no man should vote for her That's just fear-mongering hogwash, honestly. Men's Rights will make a lot more headway once we start consolidating our issues with how they can positively impact others. That's the biggest difference between how we approach things now, from how feminists historically built up their political support. Feminists stood in solidarity with other minority groups. We don't actually need to debunk the idea of "the patriarchy", however, to point out how men can also effectively be a marginalized group t…	/r/MensRights	22/07/24 08:26 PM
-10	Democrats are advocating for Hillary Clinton replacing President Joe Biden as the 2024 Democratic nominee: Reminder of five reasons no man should vote for her One reason to vote for her. Trump will sell out everyone to personally benefit and he will continue pushing the Federalist Society agenda forward.	/r/MensRights	21/07/24 01:25 PM
1	WHY ARE MEN OFTEN OVERLOOKED AS VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE? Kind of making my point. The women most likely to get caught are the ones using weapons, which makes the consequences of their actions more obvious. If you are a cop and you someone bigger without any defensive wounds accusing someone smaller of hitting on them, it's not going to seem like a big deal. When you see blood, that is evidence that they were being seriously attacked.	/r/MensRights	27/06/24 11:20 AM
3	WHY ARE MEN OFTEN OVERLOOKED AS VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE? But none of that needs to be true for the network effect I described to provide the same result. The reality is that death and psychological trauma are the apples and oranges that shouldn't be compared. Neither is ok. Full stop. Trauma can be treated. Death can't. DV is associated with both, and it's just ridiculous to try and figure out which of those outcomes is more important to deal with, because both are unacceptable consequences. Men need more support for sure regarding DV, and women are g…	/r/MensRights	26/06/24 09:37 PM
2	WHY ARE MEN OFTEN OVERLOOKED AS VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE? Because of the fact that male aggression and violence is more obvious because we tend to be larger and stronger. It's a systemic bias thing - children hit people, but no one dies. Women can hit people, but they aren't typically strong enough to actually kill someone that way. Men can kill a woman or a child with a single punch. So get 10 domestic abusers together for each sex and you will find that the male abusers left bigger marks and caused greater harm. Because that's how the physics behind …	/r/MensRights	26/06/24 08:20 PM
1	If a drunk man has sex with a sober women, then can he claim rape? Absolutely he can claim rape, because he could not consent. Laws are written without sex or gender in mind. Will it be prosecuted and judged equally by a jury - probably not. And this is the real issue. It's not the law, it's the people. It's pretty difficult to prove someone guilty of rape beyond a reasonable doubt regardless of sex - because most of the evidence is just one person's word against the other's.	/r/MensRights	26/06/24 07:28 PM
1	Do You Agree On That Theory of What Most People Say About Cheating? There is a difference between what people may believe, and what experts who study things like social interactions have found to be true. The reality is that cheating is complex behavior - and it rarely has anything to do with the person that was cheated on. Cheaters cheat for myriad reasons, but at the end of the day its because they are seeking satisfaction that they aren't getting from their partner. Why aren't they getting this satisfaction from their partner? It could be that they crave the …	/r/MensRights	25/06/24 05:09 PM
46	I ‘40F’ think I have chosen money over dignity after 24 years of verbal disrespect. Respect without enforcing boundaries doesn't exist. If you have no meaningful consequences for being disrespected, why should he change his behavior? You have let this HABIT persist for decades - nothing is going to change unless you change it, because clearly it works for him as things are.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/24 02:00 PM
0	I don't understand why, in a theoretical world where abortion is fully legalized, men can't also chose to walk away from unwanted pregnancy You are but what you are missing is that all rights also come with obligations, and infants as human beings ALSO have rights. So custody bestows guardianship as a responsibility, and that means the parent or parents have a right to act on behalf of the child. Child support is the right a child has - the right to grow up in a healthy environment with all of their needs met. When a mother sues a father for child support, she is effectively doing so on BEHALF of the child, not for herself. All fund…	/r/MensRights	04/06/24 05:03 PM
1	Body count anxiety Married man here - at the end of the day, the only thing that should matter is what you do in the future, not what you did in the past. Sex is great. If you regret your choices with sex, that's great too, because you learned how to be a better version of yourself. Just don't make those same choices. What you have written here is a list of things that you are ashamed of, but what I see is a list of lessons you have learned about you want to be from now on and moving forward. Beyond that, understa…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/24 05:07 PM
2	How much money would it take for you to sell yourself Married man here - the truth is that unless its their fetish, no man wants to even IMAGINE that his woman would be with another guy. Full stop. Even if we are incredibly secure, and we can enjoy the fact that our partner is just enjoying the activity the same way we would, we aren't going to be HAPPY about it. Again, unless that's their fetish. Personally, I can't understand that fetish myself, but that's neither here nor there. The point being, its a pretty unfair question to ask when the fact …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/24 04:39 PM
2	Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"? LOL - impressive. My wife just asks for a courtesy flush when she comes in to use the restroom. Happy to provide value. At the end of the day I hope that you can feel as comfortable as I feel in my relationship. My wife and I both can always be ourselves, because we have seen each other at our respective worsts. We've been together (dating and marriage combined) since 2012. And we love each other more every day - I envy no one's relationship and have zero interest in trying to build what we have…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/24 09:03 PM
8	Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"? Words are nothing more than wind - actions speak much louder. The fact of the matter is, love is unconditional positive regard. When you love someone, there are no conditions that will change how you feel for them. Love is pooping with the bathroom door open, changing a dirty diaper, and sucking the snot out of your child's nose when they are sick. Love is about KNOWLEDGE - knowing who someone is at their worst and still wanting to be with them. ROMANCE is about mystery - a pleasant surprise, a …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/24 08:11 PM
1	How to explain to my girlfriend that I don't want to get married in the future but still want to be committed to her We did have our wedding - and it's all legal. When you aren't concerned about breaking up, the tax benefits to being married are great, etc. Not liking getting the government involved is a separate issue from it being advantageous to register.	/r/MensRights	16/04/24 11:48 AM
13	How to explain to my girlfriend that I don't want to get married in the future but still want to be committed to her Y'know - I went through this with my wife. When we first started dating it became clear that marriage was very important to her. So I let her know that I didn't want to talk about marriage and I likely wouldn't even tell her I loved her until we had been together for at least two years. I let her know it was because I believed it just takes time to get to know someone, and you have to get through that honeymoon phase. I also explained that I thought involving the government in my relationship de…	/r/MensRights	16/04/24 03:39 AM
3	HR complaint at my company Just keep in mind that any insular culture can become toxic. Lawyer up for sure - and make sure you document everything.	/r/MensRights	15/04/24 05:10 PM
3	Why does everyone find it funny when men almost lose their genitals? All humor is a reflection of someone's discomfort. Even knock knock jokes. Maybe ESPECIALLY knock knock jokes. It's true enough to say that the phrase "cunt punt" is objectively hilarious, even if considered vulgar. Men are especially sensitive in the crotch. Therefore it can be especially funny. Scaring girls is both fun and easy. If it's just a silly scare and they are never in danger, I don't know a guy in the world that doesn't enjoy it for how adorable, or a variety of other reasons, those …	/r/MensRights	11/04/24 12:31 AM
2	shame over talking to a lot of guys in the past now emerges as I enter my first adult relationship, how can I get over it? I'm a husband - happily married. At the end of the day, a man who is insecure isn't going to be comfortable no matter what accommodations you make for him. Because his insecurity isn't about you - it's about his own sense of self-worth. It is better to be, than to seem. So don't worry about what your guy might think, or what impression he might have. If he needs clarity he will ask. And if he doesn't, and if he's insecure, that isn't going to change unless he works on himself. It is better to be…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/24 09:02 PM
1	Girlfriend vs Fiancé duties and privileges (we’re getting married!) Oh, like the timing? Starting a family - meaning having a baby - can only be planned to a certain extent. Basically you can plan on not being careful so that a baby can happen, or plan on being careful. Introducing a baby to your life is a big deal, and not something to rush into. However, there is also no such thing as a "good time" to have a baby. My advice is to wait until you at least have a comfortable routine established in your relationship - that way you have a structure to refer to as y…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/24 03:40 PM
5	Girlfriend vs Fiancé duties and privileges (we’re getting married!) Hmm, well those are all things that are, at least for my relationship, happened before I would even consider marriage. Things like starting a family and combining finances would be discussed before I would have considered engagement at all, because if we didn't agree then we shouldn't be getting married. Zero secrets or things left unsaid - marriage is not the place for surprise revelations about your partner or how different your expectations for the future are. You don't want to be married wit…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/24 12:47 PM
1	Why are so MANY dudes dismissive of sexual assault towards their own gender??( RANT) It's because it just doesn't happen as frequently to us - so there is a goodly portion of men that only have to examine it in the abstract. It has been claimed that 100% of all women have experienced sexual harassment. This is "true enough" that women almost universally grow up scared of sexual harassment - my wife is terrified of men and of being raped and she hasn't been victimized in that way. She has been sexually harassed though. It just isn't the same for at least a statistically significa…	/r/MensRights	10/04/24 12:30 PM
13	Girlfriend vs Fiancé duties and privileges (we’re getting married!) Husband here. The reason I married my wife is because the only changes to our relationship I expected to occur was that our relationship would get healthier. I'm not sure what privileges or duties you are referring to - we only owe each other honesty and respect, and we do that by communicating our boundaries without using the language of blame. My advice to a new fiance is to understand that relationships are just how you relate - it's just a pattern of behavior. That pattern is either healthy …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/24 12:05 PM
2	Can someone explain why red pill guys are successful with dating and hooking up? Their tactics are predatory and coercive. In part that relies on lots of "attempts at bat" as well as being able to identify those that are vulnerable to those sorts of tactics. These tactics include lying.	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/24 03:44 PM
3	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood Those aren't the same, they aren't even equivalent. Abortion is about the woman's right to her body. She has a right to elect a surgical procedure, or not. Child support is about the child's right to having it's basic needs met until it is old enough to make it's own decisions. Not wanting to be a father is a decision that both men and women should consider before having sex, because there is a non-zero chance of pregnancy even if you do everything to avoid it. The fact that both men and women l…	/r/MensRights	16/03/24 12:41 AM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood That's not necessarily true - if the woman raped him then he can press charges for rape and sue for full custody. As he should because that is the best way to make sure a rapist doesn't have influence over you through your child. If she stole his semen, he can press charges for theft, and he should sue for full custody because a criminal is an unfit parent. Safe haven laws don't allow women to give birth anonymously. They allow women to give birth without it being entered into the public record,…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 04:21 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood You are missing the point. It's the person that wants custody that has the power - this means that when men want custody, they have the power. Not the woman who doesn't want custody.	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 04:18 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood Yes, because a fetus doesn't have rights. A child does. So a woman having a right to decide to take the risks of carrying a pregnancy to term or not is about her right over her body. A fetus isn't a person. A child is. If men could carry children, then the situation is different because a father that wants custody could simply die to carry the fetus to term himself, and the also sue for parental support for the child once the child is born. The situation is unfair because of biological circumsta…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 04:01 PM
2	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood Again - this is to protect the child from being a dumpster baby because women are pregnant at every birth, and it requires the cooperation of the father to prove someone IS the father. Let's put it another way. The state cannot COMPEL a man to take a paternity test. So while a woman doesn't have to disclose the identity of a father (which means she is absolving him of responsibility), a man does not have to admit paternity - meaning he can more easily evade parental responsibility. The law is de…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 03:53 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood That's ridiculous. There are 3 parties involved with custody. The mother. The father. The child. All of the fairness I am talking about is for the benefit of the child, not the mother or the father. Legally, the parent that has the advantage is the parent acting on behalf of the child. The parent that wants to give up their rights is acting AGAINST the child's interests. Children don't consent to being born, but once they are born, they have rights. Parents are obligated to their children.	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 02:36 PM
2	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood You are missing the point. It isn't about the mother's right, it is the child's right. The child has a right to be taken care of by the people responsible for it's existence. So if the guardian for the child is the mom, the mom gets support for the child. If the guardian for the child is the dad, the dad gets support for the child. The question is, who is the guardian? Is it the mom? The dad? The state? Because that's who acts on behalf of the child. Taxes pay for "wards of the state". The reaso…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 02:33 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood Paper abortion is essentially just giving up your paternity rights prior to birth. This is already something you can do - it's called putting a baby up for adoption. The problem is that giving up your parental rights requires both parents to agree to do it so that the state picks up the costs. However, if only 1 parent wants to do this, then the other parent as the GUARDIAN of the child acts on that child's behalf to get support for that child, which can result with the other parent replacing pa…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 01:16 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood I actually agree with this - there isn't a fair solution. But this is about as fair as it's going to get until men can carry a fetus to term.	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 01:10 PM
1	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood This reply assumes that women don't do these things. But the fact is that some men and women are irresponsible. Some men abandon their children for no good reason. Some men lie to women promising a relationship just to have sex. But when a baby is born, someone has to take responsibility for it - and so the laws are designed to make sure kids have financial and parental support. Your sperm, your responsibility. Your responsibility includes knowing the risks of whipping out your dick. Sometimes p…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 12:58 PM
-7	Consent to sex does not mean consent to parenthood It cuts both ways. When a woman consents to sex, she isn't consenting to parenthood. But wether she aborts or carries the pregnancy to term, she has to live with health risks and consequences of that decision for the rest of her life. Abortion is also not easily accessible in some states. Women can die from ectopic pregnancies, but in Florida it can be difficult to get an abortion even for ectopic pregnancies. Think about it this way. If men were the ones that got pregnant and had to deal with a…	/r/MensRights	15/03/24 12:25 PM
1	Guys I date don’t compliment my physical appearance The nature of "redpill" dating is a bit "adversarial" which results in relationship dynamics like this, where instead of being treated as an individual getting to know another individual, you are meeting guys who are following a "playbook" and making assumptions about you based on said playbook. Dating in general sucks because you wind up spending most of the time in the beginning dealing with assumptions about the person in front of you that are shaped by how they WANT to be perceived rather th…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/24 06:31 PM
1	No man should marry a liberal/feminist woman. My wife is a feminist - I'm an independent and she's a liberal. My wife went out clubbing, drank alcohol, and has male friends. It's not a big deal and I'm not even a tiny bit worried that she might cheat or stray. She also makes more money than I do. She's also in better shape than I am. She's also madly in love with me - we have only fallen deeper in love since we first met. Our relationship is stronger than it ever was in the past, and that is in spite of the fact that we are facing bigger ch…	/r/MensRights	12/02/24 05:32 PM
5	Tell Me About A Man Who Changed Your Life My father is my hero. He taught me that a gentleman is just someone who tries to make everyone around him as comfortable as possible. He taught me that I should always be sure that I am making decisions for myself and not in reaction to someone else, because only I will have to live with the consequences. He taught me that life is too serious to take seriously. He taught me that strong men cry when they need to. He taught me that the most important thing you can do with someone you love is to te…	/r/MensRights	17/12/23 12:45 PM
3	Is there any couples here who see eachother everyday? I see my wife every day - she's my favorite person to spend time with. I used to live with my best friend, and by the end of a year of that we spent less time hanging out than when we lived separately. I still hang out with my best friend now - my wife hangs with us and she considers him one of her best friends too. As for sex, let me put it this way - I am not interested in having it every day. I get tired, I can not be in the mood, I can be distracted because I have stressful stuff going on - …	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 03:18 PM
1	Do RP guys ever realize that grifters like Tate et al are only filling their heads full of stuff that's making them undateable? Wealth and appearance can be useful for manipulation tactics, but keep in mind that manipulation isn't the same thing as cultivating a healthy relationship. Scam artists use these tactics because they work. That's why this is considered predatory behavior. This is not in the same universe as "bettering their game" but that doesn't mean there isn't some overlap - consider the criteria being used to determine success. For example, these guys don't believe its rape if the girl is drunk, because the…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/23 04:16 PM
37	Do RP guys ever realize that grifters like Tate et al are only filling their heads full of stuff that's making them undateable? It doesn't make them undatable though. It makes them "datable" to incredibly insecure women prone to accepting abuse and gaslighting. So it's turning the chronically lonely into predatory aholes. That's why it's so dangerous - it is socializing young men into toxic masculinity - and I say that as someone who doesn't consider themselves a feminist. But when feminists are speaking about "rape culture" that's a really excellent way of describing these red pill influencers - they are proponents of r…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/23 01:35 PM
0	Talking to a man with low self-esteem The other side of insecurity is arrogance - believing that you are the best at everything when in fact, you aren't. False bravado isn't the same thing as having high-self esteem. It takes a pretty secure man who trusts you to admit things that make them emotionally vulnerable to you. Be grateful you have someone who trusts you enough to be honest about their feelings rather than focusing on how you want someone who in reality, simply doesn't exist.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/09/23 05:03 PM
3	My boyfriend seems to be into redpill At the end of the day what determines the success of any relationship is how well you work together. Cooperation requires trust and communication as well as compromise. This has nothing to do with feminism or red pill at the end of the day, but rather the sort of culture around problem solving that you cocreate - either accidentally or on purpose. My wife and I crafted the culture of our relationship intentionally - this is how and what the rules for our relationship look like: https://medium.co…	/r/ExRedPill	04/09/23 06:03 PM
-1	TV shows portray men/fathers as idiots, and one ought to be aware of this and look out for it. Even a seemingly innocuous show like Peppa Pig portrays the father as an idiot, and this has an effect on children subconsciously. Do you understand how "no" is a complete failure in answering my question? Like, it doesn't even make sense syntactically. When someone asks how, "no" doesn't apply. I don't know is acceptable. Yes is also a non-answer. And any answer that doesn't at least ATTEMPT an explanation will also immediately fail.	/r/MensRights	03/09/23 12:59 PM
-1	TV shows portray men/fathers as idiots, and one ought to be aware of this and look out for it. Even a seemingly innocuous show like Peppa Pig portrays the father as an idiot, and this has an effect on children subconsciously. Question - school shootings have been blamed on violent video games. D&D was blamed for kids turning to Satan, as was Rock Music. TV and movies have been argued by feminists to spread misogynistic ideas to young men. While these claims have very limited amounts of support, by and large the level of influence they actually have is considered to be negligible. How is this claim different from those other claims I just mentioned?	/r/MensRights	02/09/23 02:42 PM
18	My boyfriend is a red piller, help! Look at it another way - why are you wanting to commit to a relationship that you think has an EVEN CHANCE of ending in divorce or infidelity? Love isn't enough to make a marriage work honestly. The culture of the marriage is critical because the number one cause of relationships ending is when one partner holds the other partner in contempt. It could be because of earnings, political or philosophical differences, differences in relative intelligence, differences in how the division of labor wit…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/23 11:52 PM
6	Saw the Barbie movie - holy crap it was bad, but not necessarily why you think. They do this actually - they show that the Ken's aren't being brought in as equals, they are just making the first steps of full integration. The problem is that they have a clear bias in this presentation because their intended AUDIENCE has a clear bias. And its a movie... so... Could they have done it better? Sure. But this wasn't a huge Feminist play - this was a very expensive Barbie commercial. And boys in general don't buy Barbies. Girls do. And moms do. So this movie was a branding campai…	/r/MensRights	12/08/23 03:56 PM
0	Saw the Barbie movie - holy crap it was bad, but not necessarily why you think. I saw it, didn't think it was terrible. It is good writing for their intended audience. And I'm not their intended audience. In fact, I doubt anyone in this sub is their intended audience. Art is inherently subjective - and we are simply not the subjects this art is intended for. There are things I would change or could criticize - for example they could have told an even more compelling story by making the Ken's far more competent than they did - but then again they could make damsels in distre…	/r/MensRights	12/08/23 03:50 PM
2	Why has my husband not filed for divorce yet? Guy here - why did he want a divorce? There are lots of reasons why he may not have filed yet... the simplest being that it's just not urgent enough for him to go through the process. He'd have to contact a lawyer and have an interview with them and then they'd have to draw up paper-work to review... If he's still covering expenses, those expenses must not be significant enough for him to feel filing is an urgent matter.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/23 08:36 PM
2	What percentage of guys in society actually have an incel mindset? I think the 80-20 rule really applies here. I wrote up something about this: https://medium.com/@tomo.albanese/how-rape-statistics-can-create-hope-37172b6f361a Based on the ratio of estimated rapists and estimated rape victims, the WORST number (5 victims per 1 rapist) means that it only takes 3.2% of the male population to rape 16% of all US women. Not great… but this is very much a minority of both groups. This is just a 5 to 1 ratio. Using the SAME RATIO of 5 to 1, and applying it to 100% of …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/23 11:49 PM
2	another no girlfriend post If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. The fact is, relationships ARE work. They are not a possession or a thing you have. They aren't an accessory, or a service. Relationships are a process. The process is either healthy, or unhealthy. The work you put into the relationship determines the QUALITY of that relationship. If you are healthy, and the other person is healthy, and you both do the work to keep things healthy, then the relationship is healthy. If …	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/23 06:07 PM
5	another no girlfriend post Focus on making friends with a few girls first - literally juts maintaining a platonic friendship. Find women whom you can treat like dudes with long hair and boobs. Commit to being friends with them the same way that you are friends with other guys. Learn from this friendship that girls are pretty much EXACTLY like guys, but with a different perspective since they have a forest of penises to wade through most of the time. If you can do this, there are a number of side benefits that most guys do…	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/23 05:47 PM
1	Is there anyway too prove the existence of the patriarchy ? I'm going to give you a slightly different answer that will help you gain some perspective on how the patriarchy can both exist and be impossible to "prove" that it "exists". The basic concept certainly exists - we can see many examples of men in leadership positions. However, these can also be disputed or dismissed by pointing out that these leaders are also wealthy. So while there is a certain amount of "male domination" saturating leadership positions, opponents would simply argue that these …	/r/ExRedPill	19/07/23 10:43 PM
2	I'm mostly out of red pill, but I struggle leaving the "high body count" and "pair bonding" thing behind This is, at its core, a trust issue. The fact of the matter is that you can't ever really know if you can trust someone until you give them an opportunity to betray your trust. No matter how many partners a gal may have, the fact of the matter is... You could be the partner that makes her feel the safest and most loved. So, at its core, your trust issue is based in the fear that you will be rejected by someone you think is likely to get bored with you after a while. But imagine what might feel d…	/r/ExRedPill	19/07/23 08:00 PM
6	Are redpillers happy? It's often the weakest people that have the most to prove. It is the loudest buffoon that throws the weakest punch. If you need to scare others to feel good about yourself... then you must always be in fear that someone else might harm you. Redpillers aren't happy. They are hurting. That's why they hate. Hate is just a specific flavor of fear. Fear is the fight, flight, freeze, or submit response. We don't need to think about these reactions, when we are afraid, these happen instantly. Hate is j…	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/23 10:14 PM
-20	To the people that claim mra's are just as bad as feminists: I speak on both subs regularly, pushing back on false claims. I've not had bad reactions for the most part.	/r/MensRights	23/05/23 08:31 PM
-19	To the people that claim mra's are just as bad as feminists: I think there is a bit missing from your analysis. Feminism is a bigger movement than MRA's. As a result, if 20% of ANY and EVERY group are shitty extremists, there will be more shitty extremists under feminism than MRA's. That doesn't make MRA membership "better" - it just means that smaller groups have smaller numbers of shitty extremists. There is also the nature of bad actors - MRA extremists are also closely associated with white nationalism and right wing extremism. These groups will engag…	/r/MensRights	23/05/23 06:59 PM
0	"Looks don't matter" is the most BS lie women tell men. Sure, looks matter - but the issue is that people disagree on what looks is "best". I have never been a muscular, tall guy. I have also never been starved for the attention of women. Some women clearly did not find me attractive, and have laughed off my attentions. And some women found me attractive enough that were borderline obsessed with me. You can see this with scents. I am a sweaty dude. Some women find my natural sweat downright stinky. Other women have asked me, "What cologne are you w…	/r/MensRights	22/05/23 06:21 PM
1	I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed Not a diagnosis, I am not qualified. I am merely pointing out how much can change over time, and I am inviting you to reflect on how healthy your relationship is by considering hypothetical future scenarios. This stuff is all possible, and if it were true, how would it impact your feelings and relationship with each other?	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/23 02:24 PM
2	I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed Celibacy is a requirement in the Church for both women AND men.	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/23 08:50 PM
1	I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed In other words, would you still love him if life forced you both to switch roles in the relationship? Both my father and mother have dementia. It is not something that either of them expected. My mother is my father's caretaker. But prior to that, my father took care of my mother better than any man could possibly hope to take care of any woman. My mom had heart issues, was raped, and had a daughter that her family tried to take away when she refused to marry her rapist. And that's just the tip …	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/23 08:50 PM
0	I recently found out that a guy I’m talking to has a high body count and I am repulsed You are both extremely different in your experience and expectations. Honestly you might want to consider that the problem is the extremism. No sex before marriage means you don't really know anything at all about sexual compatibility because you have no idea what you want or don't want from a partner. Sleeping with more than 200 different partners means that perhaps they don't have the respect for being DESCRIMINATING about not only partners but also in their own long-term relationships. I'…	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/23 08:49 PM
2	Meeting boyfriend's toddler son My brother in law recently died. We had to tell the kids. He had only been married and knowing the kids for about a year. When we told them, they literally screamed at the top of their lungs, "What!? No! Why did you tell us? Tell me it's a joke! It can't be true! I don't want it to be true! Where is he?" Before devolving into tears and more screams. That's what you want him to inflict on his child if relationship ends in the next month or 2?	/r/RedPillWomen	14/02/23 04:10 PM
5	Meeting boyfriend's toddler son What would be fine is to be honest with him about how it makes you feel a bit insecure, but to commit to him and YOURSELF to being willing to wait until he feels comfortable. Just be candid about your feelings as well as acknowledge that those feelings don't make a lot of sense. It's perfectly fine when people have "crazy feelings" - the problem is when they ACT on those feelings instead of just saying, "I feel this way, its irrational, and I just need my partner to hold some space for my insecu…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/23 11:15 PM
8	Meeting boyfriend's toddler son You don't have a kid, so you don't understand this perspective of single parents - If they are good parents, they will do ANYTHING to prevent their child from getting hurt. If that kid falls in love with you because you are spending time together, and you and he break up, that kid is going to lose you. You aren't going to commit to spending time with your EX BOYFRIEND just because you bonded with his child. If you both break up, that kid is not going to be on your mind. But that kid will think a…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/23 11:08 PM
1	What to do if you meet the requirements of “alpha widow” First of all, grief is a perfectly normal and healthy response to a loss, even if it's not something like a death or a traumatic event. https://www.verywellhealth.com/grief-and-mourning-process-1132545 There is nothing wrong or even "sucky" about your feelings for him. There is nothing wrong about mourning the loss of a relationship that is associated with so many important milestones in your life. Those firsts - those will be the firsts you compare all future partners to. How you felt while in …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/23 04:11 PM
19	Why I am attracted to men who are the opposite of what I aspire to have? Married Man in my 40's - what strikes me about your post is that you are describing a tension between what you find attractive (preference) what you PREDICT will be the traits necessary for your ideal relationship partner (practical) In other words, you don't find what is practical to be as interesting or enjoyable as traits you have deemed to be "impractical". Or to put it another way... You don't find broccoli to be as delicious as chocolate. You are attracted to young, wreckless, lunkhead…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/23 10:19 PM
3	My Best Guy Friend is Sucked In. It sounds to me like he's going through depression, and he needs to deal with that by seeing a therapist. Potentially he could benefit from some EMDR to help him cope with some unresolved issues related to a past break-up. Seriously, depression is often expressed through something known as distorted thinking patterns. https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ He's your friend, so he may listen if you tell him to go to a therapist to work out his issues, but you may want to consid…	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/22 05:50 PM
3	With people spending less time outside and more time on social media, is the future of dating online-only, where only a select few men and women have any chance of a relationship? You need to continue that thought to its ultimate conclusion - let's say you are correct that only a few men and women have any chance of a relationship because of social media. This means that a large percentage of people will be without a relationship, meaning that birth rates will drop. As birth rates drop, so will competition for partners online and offline. However, with more people being lonely, that means that "demand" for partners will increase, which will result in more people being wil…	/r/ExRedPill	08/12/22 04:41 PM
2	Found out my (f23) bf (m26) was into red pill So happy this landed - tone can get misinterpreted online and I was trying to be direct without being accusatory. The truth is that you can't possibly know what he's REALLY like until you see him at his worst, and people are mainly at their worst when they are at their lowest. Stress, depression, being pushed to their limits... I have a test I encourage couples to consider before deciding that they truly "know" their partner. Go on a week or 2-week long road trip in a small car with two or more …	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/22 05:39 PM
3	Found out my (f23) bf (m26) was into red pill Your relationship is only as strong as your ability to be honest within it. You snooped and discovered things that are surprising. If you are reluctant to be honest about the fact that you snooped, perhaps you can understand how he might be reluctant to be honest about topics that you might find contentious. For all you know, what you read out of context just could have been him venting. How you handle this might either confirm for him that his RedPill ideas are reasonable and reliable. My a…	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/22 05:06 PM
5	Is r/FemaleDatingStrategy just the female equivalent of Red Pill ideology? Yes, its the same thing, but formulated for the feminine experience. At its core both ideologies frame relationships as competitive rather than cooperative. They use "motivational" rhetoric that is intended to make those that follow it feel self-empowered because they both target emotionally vulnerable people who have experienced rejection. Hurt people hurt people, and the same style of distorted thinking that makes the Red Pill appealing to men makes FDS appealing to women. Distorted thinking i…	/r/ExRedPill	30/11/22 04:48 PM
2	Good men should not have to pay for his girlfriend's bad choices in men. I.e I should not have to pay for what your ex boyfriend did to you. Relationships aren't a destination - they are a process. A relationship is either a healthy process of relating, or an unhealthy process of relating. There are no good or bad people - but there are healthy and unhealthy people. Your girlfriend sounds unhealthy. You may want to consider that she is too unhealthy for you to have a healthy relationship with. It may be that she is too unhealthy for you to be around. In a healthy relationship, you pick each other up when you can, and you give each …	/r/ExRedPill	29/11/22 11:39 PM
2	If a woman stops taking the pill to get pregnant, without the consent of the man she is sleeping with - is that also rape? Unfortunately there is a difference between lying about being on a pill and removing a condom when your partner isn't looking. I don't know that I necessarily agree that either is equivalent to rape either though. https://thewalrus.ca/is-it-illegal-to-lie-about-using-contraception/ This shows that it's something they are in the process of figuring out though. Essentially the main difference seems to be that women can be harmed by getting pregnant - physically it puts your life at risk, and sex w…	/r/MensRights	28/11/22 03:38 PM
5	I'm so sick of hearing RP whiney men bitch about "waiting for sex" or the "male sexlessness epidemic", as if they are entitled to sex to begin with. Happy to provide value. I have found that helping others has taught me more about happiness than anything else I have tried. As a result I have started to realize that most people are just trying to stop hurting more than they have a desire to hurt others. Nobody wakes up in the morning truly believing they are an asshole. Instead, people wake up believing that nobody else could have possibly done better in their circumstances. This perspective has been helpful in predicting accurately what some…	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/22 11:13 PM
3	I'm so sick of hearing RP whiney men bitch about "waiting for sex" or the "male sexlessness epidemic", as if they are entitled to sex to begin with. I think the distinction is more about whether or not it's reasonable for red pillers to suffer because of the lack of connections they want that they observe others have. Necessity is a really subjective concept to apply to something as subjective as emotional experience. Libido can be likened to appetite. For those with a big appetite, in order to feel satiated they will need more food than someone with a smaller appetite. If the person with the large appetite doesn't have access to food, this …	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/22 11:08 PM
6	I'm so sick of hearing RP whiney men bitch about "waiting for sex" or the "male sexlessness epidemic", as if they are entitled to sex to begin with. Trying to make sense of people who are suffering is futile. The thing that pushes redpillers deeper in to this belief system is the lack of empathy they receive regarding their issues. Complaints about not "getting sex" are SYMPTOMS of a deeper problem - focusing on the entitlement inherent in these complaints is to ignore the fact that this is a NORMAL example of distorted thinking that occurs with people who are suffering. https://edwardtraversa.com/twelve-common-cognitive-distortions/ Entitle…	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/22 06:47 PM
1	How does this subreddit get in trouble but witches vs patriarchy doesn't? It's about the proximity to violence. This response will get downvoted to hell, but the fact is that unfortunately for this sub there is a concentration of right-wing extremists who will say and do violent things, and its ultimately the proximity to violence that gets "red flagged" by both people and the algorithms. This does a good job of unpacking the reasonable limitations on "free speech" that relate to this - and its clearly a highly complex topic. https://www.popehat.com/2012/09/19/three-g…	/r/MensRights	11/11/22 07:22 PM
8	Stop being delusional and stop lying to men (how to really get women to fall in love) I'm a fairly average looking guy - my wife is a sapiosexual. She's attracted to me for my mind. I have a wide range of women that I find attractive. I'm with my wife because I love her and the way that she loves me. I'm attracted to her smile and personality and yes, her looks as well, but it's not like I don't find other women more attractive than her, because I do. Physical attraction is a "high probability hit" but it doesn't apply equally to everyone, and there are people who find tall skinn…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/22 09:25 PM
3	Are dating apps largely a waste of time? The problem isn't the "approach" at these things because priority 1 is to have fun at the meetup and focus on just enjoying yourself. Priority 2 is to make sure everyone around you is as comfortable as possible. This is simply being friends with people, getting to know them, which is like dating except that you don't know if there is a mutual attraction, which there may or may not be. But bringing up that you find them attractive is also unnecessary at these sorts of things - that's something yo…	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/22 05:43 PM
6	Are dating apps largely a waste of time? Dating apps are fine, but they shouldn't be the only place you look for a partner. Honestly something that people seem to forget is that people tend to form bonds over shared experiences - So rather than focus on dating, focus on doing more of the things you love with like-minded people. There are clubs, like sites on meet-up.com, where you can find local people in your area that share your interests. Maybe you like board games, maybe you like bike riding, or attending concerts, watching anime, …	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/22 04:46 PM
2	Help my bf has become redpilled Actions speak louder than words. You have told him that you don't tolerate anti-queer rights and anti-feminist "things" (not sure what these things you don't tolerate specifically are). And yet you tolerate him dismissing what you have to say because you are a woman - which is about as anti-feminist an action as I can think of. So you can say you don't tolerate things every hour on the hour, but when there are no consequences for him dismissing your views because you are a woman, that is your wo…	/r/ExRedPill	31/10/22 05:05 PM
3	How do I get rid of my extremely sexist/victim blaming mindset? Honestly, therapy can help with this. You probably have some unprocessed trauma around these ideas, and so you are having what's called "intrusive thoughts" about them. These are showing up for you as cognitive distortions which you are doing a great job of identifying why they are unhealthy for yourself - so good job on that! That's part of changing your mindset: https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ The trick is you have to recognize these cognitive distortions without being mo…	/r/ExRedPill	31/10/22 04:16 PM
3	Help my bf has become redpilled This isn't sudden - it's pervasive. He has clearly thought this way for a while, tolerated YOUR perspective silently without offering disagreement at the beginning of the relationship, and is not comfortable enough with you that he is no longer hiding the fact that he still believes these things. You have taught him that you will tolerate these things, at least to the extent that you are currently tolerating them. While tolerating them isn't a "bad thing" - you need to examine how your words a…	/r/ExRedPill	31/10/22 03:57 PM
6	How do I stop seeing my gf as a slut and resenting her because of it? Get some therapy, seriously. Try EMDR for something like this, or even mindfulness practices. Just sit with the discomfort and observe it, process where it comes from and be vigilant for when your "internal monologue" starts to use "blame" because the exercise is about confronting your own feelings and accepting that they are irrational. By exposing yourself to this discomfort while keeping in mind that it IS am irrational emotion, you will start to train yourself to recognize that the emotion i…	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/22 02:24 PM
3	I've been told Women think about sex in a more romantic way, how can a guy appeal to that? Romance is about mystery - essentially it's just pleasant anticipation. Something good is going to happen, but they don't know what. But "good" varies from person to person. If you want to be romantic to any woman, you have to be capable of understanding every woman as a unique individual. Because women may want romance, but what qualifies as romantic for 1 woman will be different for another.	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/22 11:59 PM
7	Female colleague at work told me "Imagine how great it would be if all men stopped existing for like, a month..." Glad you pushed back in this way. I think everyone gets caught up in outrage loops, so they don't realize when they are being irrational and simply getting swept away by our feelings. As a society we really need to step up more and help each other recognize when we are engaging in distorted thinking patterns, because these are unhealthy and unproductive. https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ Men in this sub and women in feminist subs - for the most part - have been traumatized by…	/r/MensRights	19/10/22 03:15 PM
3	Does r/exredpill believe that a woman holding another woman accountable for her actions can stop her from treating (genuinely) good men badly. Context matters - the phrase "believe all women" is a reference to the idea that we shouldn't blame victims of abuse, and that when an abused person is saying they need help, we should take that request for help seriously. It doesn't mean that women can't lie or manipulate, because they can. You can't take all statements literally, some are only intended to be figurative and thus have limits on how you interpret them.	/r/ExRedPill	19/10/22 01:00 PM
14	Can someone explain the whole alpha fucks/beta bucks thing to me? Do you think it’s real? What are your thoughts. It sounds downright terrifying. I downvoted every single one of your posts because your response lacked intellectual honesty - https://www.shanesnow.com/articles/intellectual-dishonesty I always downvote intellectually dishonest arguments because intellectual dishonesty is a cancer to the thinking person, and it should never be rewarded and always opposed whenever encountered. Personally, I think you are a troll - but I try and treat everyone as if they might actually be as they are presenting themselves on the off chance that…	/r/ExRedPill	18/10/22 10:18 PM
0	Is it possible to marry without the potential to lose half of everything in divorce? If so, how? Yes - get a healthy relationship culture and only marry when you know that you would rather deal with her at her worst than not have her in your life. Divorce rates suck because unhealthy people get into relationships before they have dealt with all their own bullshit. These folks view relationships in a weird, competitive way. If you don't want that sort of relationship, you have to actively and intentionally create a relationship culture that allows you to cooperate with someone you want to co…	/r/MensRights	18/10/22 04:13 PM
0	Can a man go his own way and still have a gf/wife? Happy to provide value - I'll also leave you with this, which is just some cut and pasted comments I've left other redditors when providing relationship advice. I base my advice off of what has worked for my wife and I, which by and large is a result of my own intent to purposefully create a healthy "relationship culture" for the two of us so that we don't end up like our parents or friends who find themselves "accidentally" in an unhealthy relationship. https://taooftomo.com/rules-for-healthy-r…	/r/MensRights	12/10/22 07:04 PM
0	Can a man go his own way and still have a gf/wife? Depends on what you think a gf/wife "should be" - how do you define these "roles"? Nobody lives life believing they are a "puppet" - hell, arguably free will isn't even a coherent idea because for every "choice" someone makes that choice was ultimately dependent upon a million little factors that were never anticipated let alone "chosen". And yet we are all sort of "enslaved" to this expectation that all of our choices "should be" "independent of influence from others" in order for us to be "fre…	/r/MensRights	12/10/22 06:40 PM
0	Girls say im very cold That is an unfair accusation that I'm guessing is based entirely off of anecdotal experience rather than exposure to a healthy population would provide.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/22 02:22 AM
3	Girls say im very cold A lot of the time when people are called "cold" it is because they are very "guarded" about their emotions. The result is that they look like they don't have ANY emotions even though they may have a LOT of emotions that they are struggling to deal with. Sincerity can sometimes require vulnerability. But if you aren't great at talking about how you feel, this can be very uncomfortable. However, telling someone how you feel about them doesn't always require words. Sometimes a lot can be said w…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/22 07:26 PM
1	Girls say im very cold But he might not have - OP seems to be a taciturn person.	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/22 07:22 PM
-5	She hulk fans blame men It's adorable that you think this is a debate. My entire argument amounts to, "There is no correct or incorrect reason to find any form of entertainment entertaining. The response by fans 'blaming men' for negative responses about She Hulk is likely a result of the small group of men that post mean shit to actresses." Your entire argument amounts to, "I don't like the show because I think it is an overly woke and anemic version of the comic book character, and there are many comic fans that woul…	/r/MensRights	06/10/22 06:53 PM
-5	She hulk fans blame men I don't need someone else's opinion to tell me if I like something or not. It's also not a stretch to say that there is probably just a small core of aholes sending mean tweets. To be clear, I'm not saying that people whose opinion is that the show sucks are being mean, I'm talking about folks halfway down this article that are essentially trolling the actress (SuperJennaTalia): https://boundingintocomics.com/2022/10/04/she-hulk-star-jameela-jamil-says-she-wants-to-engage-with-critics-so-i-can-l…	/r/MensRights	06/10/22 04:52 PM
-8	She hulk fans blame men Honestly I like the show. I don't like the character - but I don't need to like the character to appreciate how this series fleshes out the MCU. And what I don't like about the character is the same thing that I didn't like about the lead in Jumper or Wanted - they lack wisdom. They acted impulsively rather than listening to what more experienced people were telling them. I just find those kinds of people to be frustrating in general, but that's a personal preference, not a criticism of the show…	/r/MensRights	06/10/22 03:20 PM
2	29 years old. Very Successful Academically yet Unable to Garner the Interest of Females Intelligence is very useful for solving problems - and terrible at helping people FORGET their troubles. Sometimes people don't want to think, they just want to have fun and relax. When people drink, they are lowering their inhibitions along with dropping their IQ a point or two. The reason why the exchange is worth it for them is because rather than focusing internally on ideas and abstractions they are able to focus on the people they are sharing the creation of NEW MEMORIES with. Another prob…	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/22 11:27 PM
-1	attack misandry not feminism for strategy This is a good post with some good insights. I think it's also arrived at the correct conclusion for reasons that haven't been explicitly stated by Op. First of all, as was excellently explained to me by a feminist, feminism isn't a monolith, nor are feminists. Neither are MRA's. It is possible to be a feminist and a mysandrist. It is possible to be an MRA and a misogynist. To pretend that affiliation with either is definitive of an individual's character or intentions is to be intellectually di…	/r/MensRights	04/10/22 05:11 PM
1	Is it even worth the effort to debate feminists? There is no purpose to debate - especially when you haven't first taken the time to be clear about the rules both sides should use to decide who has "won" or "lost" the debate. Instead, you should try to learn how to articulate feminist positions better than the person you are disagreeing with. That way, when you disagree with them you are disagreeing with them to either better understand their position, or because you are explaining to them why their position doesn't make sense in a way that th…	/r/MensRights	19/09/22 03:29 PM
2	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? The substance of my comment instead of the strawmen you keep propping up in it's place.	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 03:13 AM
2	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? At the risk of sounding like a broken record - is that actually the substance of my comment, or is that simply your best understanding? You have spent a lot of time distorting my position. Wouldn't it be easier just to address what I actually said?	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 02:58 AM
2	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? Again, is that actually the substance of my comment, or is that simply your best understanding?	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 01:53 AM
1	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? Lol, no worries, honest mistake.	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 01:19 AM
1	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? I'm a dude...	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 01:10 AM
2	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? Is that actually the substance of my comment, or is that simply your best understanding?	/r/MensRights	14/09/22 01:07 AM
-3	Wouldn’t viewing a random man on the street as a threat be sexist / misandrist? Or it's an example of distorted thinking, which is common amongst victims of trauma. This is actually why the "systemic" part of racism really matters. So when a black person is being viewed as a threat simply for being who they are and walking down the street, this MAY be a result of trauma. Say someone was beat up by a black person, or perhaps they are a police officer who has had a traumatic experience related to a black person they had to take into custody, etc. It is entirely possible that …	/r/MensRights	13/09/22 10:00 PM
0	"But, another reason that we have so many rich, white perps [on Law & Order] is that there are no rich, white guy pressure groups. You can do anything you want to rich, white guys, and nobody cares. Really." -Dick Wolf, Executive Producer Oh sweet, summer child - wealthy white dudes are a pretty small group. If you don't believe that what one does for himself doesn't end up helping his buddies, you've already bought the bridge they are selling. Rich white aholes are one of the biggest reasons why white people in general get a bad rap. That's why the IDEA of white was actually invented - because being white is a monolithic group that when compared to other ethnicities is less specific and more easily inclusive of folks based on 2 …	/r/MensRights	13/09/22 12:00 AM
3	"But, another reason that we have so many rich, white perps [on Law & Order] is that there are no rich, white guy pressure groups. You can do anything you want to rich, white guys, and nobody cares. Really." -Dick Wolf, Executive Producer Sure - I'll even give you some very public examples of the way this works. Both Tucker Max and Steve Bannon use roughly the same mechanics in terms of socially engineering responses - https://observer.com/2017/02/i-helped-create-the-milo-trolling-playbook-you-should-stop-playing-right-into-it/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/talkingtech/2017/07/18/steve-bannon-learned-harness-troll-army-world-warcraft/489713001/ However, this also plays out in more subtle ways, to such an extent that Wikip…	/r/MensRights	12/09/22 11:56 PM
-2	"But, another reason that we have so many rich, white perps [on Law & Order] is that there are no rich, white guy pressure groups. You can do anything you want to rich, white guys, and nobody cares. Really." -Dick Wolf, Executive Producer I don't know... I work in marketing and PR. Rich white guys ARE their own pressure groups. They hire PR firms and marketing firms to manufacture social pressure all the time.	/r/MensRights	12/09/22 08:52 PM
0	Do you think "boys vs. real men" comparisons are misandrist? I mean, this sort of thing exists on "both sides". https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2021/08/09/why-calling-women-girls-is-a-bigger-deal-than-you-may-think/?sh=b8ef3d2fda5a The existence of this article is solid evidence that men and women react to being called boys and girls as potentially negative - but of course it will depend on the individual. "real" men or women are just a reflection of the "No True Scottsman" fallacy.	/r/MensRights	12/09/22 07:11 PM
2	Ex selling nearly nude paintings of me -any thing I can do? Talk to a lawyer about her using your likeness/image in her profession to make money without your permission.	/r/MensRights	12/09/22 02:08 PM
1	If males in the military have higher physical requirements and get paid the same, that is gender discrimination against equal opportunity. They should be either paid more than females, or require the same physical standards. Sure, but my point about the standards was that they didn't result in a significant variance between recruited men and women. Yes, men will outperform women on average with some of these tasks (like grenade throwing) more often than not, but if the women can reliably throw a grenade over 250 meters at a minimum, they have reached a minimum physical requirement for them to be qualified candidates. That it's easier for men to meet that minimum physical requirement doesn't mean that this should be …	/r/MensRights	10/09/22 12:00 PM
0	If males in the military have higher physical requirements and get paid the same, that is gender discrimination against equal opportunity. They should be either paid more than females, or require the same physical standards. While I appreciate your personal experience, I have a hard time imagining that the military is passing women who can't throw a grenade safely. I don't doubt that women won't throw the grenades as well as men, but this is a fundamentally different claim from the idea that ANY man would be a better, safer candidate simply because he could out throw a grenade better than any female soldier. If this is the only criticism you have to offer on my position, I don't find it to be a compelling one. Becau…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 10:28 PM
5	If males in the military have higher physical requirements and get paid the same, that is gender discrimination against equal opportunity. They should be either paid more than females, or require the same physical standards. Physical fitness, as far as I am aware, is only one component that is taken into consideration. The application process taken as a whole, from what I would assume, would result in a "net score" for each applicant that would in and of itself be gender neutral. I am basing this, however, on this after doing some quick "Google Fu": https://www.nato.int/issues/women_nato/2008-11-gender_balance.pdf The physical fitness criteria for the selection of female applicants for military service are regulated…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 06:34 PM
1	How can I learn to accept myself as a beta male? Fun fact - Alpha and Beta males in terms of wolves only exist with wolves in captivity. In the wild, REAL wolves are family packs. The leaders are the parents, and they tend to lead from the rear of the pack to make sure that the weakest and youngest members don't get left behind. Alpha and Beta males are something that only exist when wolves are kept in what are essentially prisons. It's a hierarchy structure that only asserts itself when the population of wolves is dysfunctional because it has…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/22 02:44 AM
1	Just imagine if the roles were reversed At this point I don't believe you have made any good faith attempt to understand my position as I intended that would make reiterating it differently a good use of my time. You are wrong, and I am happy to discuss my ACTUAL position if you can demonstrate that you actually understand it or at least willing to try to understand it. I suggest you read this - https://www.themarginalian.org/2014/03/28/daniel-dennett-rapoport-rules-criticism/	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 11:56 PM
-1	Just imagine if the roles were reversed Pointing out what is objectively true in one context is not a denial or dismissal of something that is true in a different context. E. G. Just because I am talking about testicular cancer doesn't mean that I am saying lung cancer isn't important too. Yeesh, that is a lot of work to misrepresent my position.	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 11:52 PM
2	There's no guide telling men to watch out for, and that hurts our views towards women Yes, this is a good insight. It's why I put together my own rules for relationships - https://taooftomo.com/rules-for-healthy-relationships-6792a14ab0fb	/r/ExRedPill	07/09/22 10:57 PM
1	Just imagine if the roles were reversed Where did I say that exhibition by women was better than by men? I specifically stated: To be clear, this is not an argument that the double standard is morally or ethically correct or an example of equality in action. The genders aren't being treated equally in regards to the social norms and how those social norms inform legal consequences for people who exhibit themselves in this sort of way. Men will absolutely face harsher consequences for this behavior, it will be interpreted as more threa…	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 10:32 PM
-1	Just imagine if the roles were reversed I'm not handwaving away anything. When we are talking about the threat one individual poses to another, that is very different from what the state itself can do to you. I actually specifically address the legal consequences when I said: The genders aren't being treated equally in regards to the social norms and how those social norms inform legal consequences for people who exhibit themselves in this sort of way. Men will absolutely face harsher consequences for this behavior, it will be interpr…	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 10:02 PM
5	i feel like blackpill is reality and there is no "detox" from it. The Black Pill and the Red Pill is a SCAM. It is predators telling vulnerable people that their problems have someone else to blame, which makes vulnerable people feel better. But it also distracts them from the ability to take RESPONSIBILITY for their circumstances - because that's the way blame works, from a psychological standpoint. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8 The way the scam works is this - they blame women for how shitty you feel and why you had shitty experiences (likely a…	/r/ExRedPill	07/09/22 09:49 PM
3	i feel like blackpill is reality and there is no "detox" from it. Look, there are two types of people in the world: Healthy people Unhealthy people This begs the question - what does it mean to be healthy? For example, if someone has an inoperable brain tumor but they are capable of running a 6 minute mile, are they more or less healthy than someone who has no diseases, but is 150lbs overweight? Likewise, who is healthier - an Olympic athlete with chronic depression and suicidal ideations, or a quadraplegic who is happy and content with each and every day of t…	/r/ExRedPill	07/09/22 09:48 PM
-5	Just imagine if the roles were reversed I agree that stuff like this is a bit of a double-standard, but it wouldn't be intellectually honest to pretend that they are equivalent. There is a bit of a difference between the implicit threat of a naked man versus a naked woman though. Men are bigger and stronger - even a naked dude is going to, statistically speaking, be more of an actual threat to someone than a naked woman. On top of that, you do have the likelihood that you are more likely to be physically attacked by a man than a woman…	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 08:26 PM
6	How would you respond to "America is a patriarchy because we haven't had a female president"? Then offer your best understanding of the definition and ask them if they agree. I have never found it difficult to get an agreement on a working definition for the conversation to happen. There are shitty folks in every group - therefore some feminists are certainly shitty and not worth engaging with. The important step is to demonstrate a commitment to intellectual honesty, since that is your responsibility to yourself.	/r/MensRights	06/09/22 02:35 PM
1	How would you respond to "America is a patriarchy because we haven't had a female president"? No one single touch point should be definitive of a complex system.	/r/MensRights	06/09/22 02:32 PM
2	I don't understand hypergamy Unconditional, positive regard is the literal definition of love - or at least it is the best one I have come across. https://positivepsychology.com/unconditional-positive-regard/#:~:text=So%2C%20what%20is%20unconditional%20positive,inherently%20human%20and%20inherently%20lovable. Love, or at least the experience as an emotion, isn't always positive. But in the cases where we feel a certain way about someone that cannot change, well that is love. That doesn't mean that we know who someone is. In…	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/22 11:14 PM
10	I don't understand hypergamy Ending an unhealthy relationship doesn't mean that your feelings for the person change. How you relate is about interactions. Love is what you feel. I still love women I would never be in a long-term romantic relationship with.	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/22 02:32 PM
11	I don't understand hypergamy So if your mother comes across a taller, handsomer, more athletic child, does she stop loving you and long to raise that child instead? Love is unconditional, positive regard. It isn't rational. What is your favorite type of music? What is objectively BETTER about that type of music?	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/22 01:40 PM
1	Why is OF not frowned upon? Sending naked pictures use to be embarrassing Feminism is about empowering women, and the only power that exists is the power of CHOICE. Feminism is also about the female/feminine experience - so it shouldn't be defined by the male/masculine perspective because why would it need to exist given that part of the reason it is needed/useful is because most other philosophies are in fact dominated by the male/masculine perspective. This is very similar to how we should expect a white person talking about what it's like to be Black should be reac…	/r/MensRights	01/09/22 03:50 PM
5	Need help talking to ”redpilled” highschoolers I would laugh at them and tell them they are ridiculous if they believe that. The only thing you can say to kids and adults that say nonsense like this is to ask them to explain how what they are saying makes sense. You don't lecture them, you interrogate their position. Men and women are biologically different (and thats why they need to be doing different things) So your penis makes your decisions for you? Do tall people behave differently from short people? These are also biological differenc…	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/22 10:29 PM
6	How many here actually have degrees in a field of study that pertains to Red Pill (e.g. Psychology, Sociology, etc). If so, what is your expertise in? Although technically I dropped out close to finishing a B.S. in psychology and had passed a therapy certification at that time.	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/22 03:43 PM
3	What if You Agree with Some Redpill BUT... Language is the vehicle for our thoughts, and so the language you use can constrain the flexibility of your thinking. We can effectively become blind to what else might be true based on the conclusions implied by the language we use. Just look at the term "Alpha widow" - this is essentially a DIAGNOSIS that you as a non-therapist or psychiatrist shouldn't feel confident in making about someone. Especially in regards to what your relationship with her might actually look like. Have you considered…	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/22 03:32 PM
8	My experience with a Red Pill Man and how to spot one in real life. Part of me wants to read this, and part of me is telling me that sometimes being selective in your curiosity is an expression of wisdom. Only time will tell I suppose....	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/22 02:21 AM
28	My experience with a Red Pill Man and how to spot one in real life. Don't conflate why men on average will tend to find younger women attractive with why RP men specifically target women under 25. I am over 40, and yes I find women under 25 attractive. But I also couldn't stomach DATING a woman that young because I don't have much in common with children. And at 25 and under, that's what men and women are to me... Children. I also find women OVER 25 and even over 40 attractive. I have seen some hot 50 year old ladies as well, and interestingly I have found mysel…	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/22 11:05 PM
2	If you want to stop boys from getting radicalized, you've gotta start making sense Sometimes it is helpful to explore your reasoning through a different lens. In this case I simply replaced references to "redpill" or "black pill" with Whites, Nazis, and white nationalism. When you read it, does it sound well-reasoned still? Does the meaning of what you are intending to say change? Can you see how it might not be convincing to your intended audience? Adolph Hitler is gone, and the impact he's had on Whites (and many men/boys in general) is incalculably bigger than what this s…	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/22 09:55 PM
1	I am an underdog in dating https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/wfuv0p/i_am_an_underdog_in_dating/iixhg82?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 You should read this then.	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/22 07:38 PM
28	Is it wrong to check and see if a girl gave me the right phone number? You want to save yourself from feeling rejected, but there are only 2 ways to avoid rejection: Not be rejected when expressing your feelings Never expressing your feelings You have no choice regarding the first scenario, and the second scenario means that you never give anyone the opportunity to do the first. Just remember that just because your feelings aren't reciprocated that it isn't personal to you. Indeed, it isn't about you at all. People have preferences. If someone likes heavy metal mus…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/22 04:07 PM
2	I am an underdog in dating It's relative. To frame it as decisive one way or the other is to misunderstand the nature of attraction itself. Attraction is like flavors of ice cream. Some people love chocolate, others love vanilla, and still others crave hamburger flavored ice cream. https://www.thedailymeal.com/eat/cheeseburger-ice-cream-new-jersey/091718 Is cheeseburger ice cream delicious? Depends on the person. This is why it is a mistake to claim that anyone including yourself is attractive or unattractive. I know dude…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/22 03:58 PM
2	I am an underdog in dating Relationships are just how you relate to someone or something - you can have a relationship with a person, with food, with money, etc. The most important relationship you have, however, is with yourself. It is your relationship with yourself that is leading you to be unpleasant to be around, because your relationship with yourself is not a positive one. You don't like yourself. You don't see how anyone else would like you because you don't like yourself. A psychiatrist or a therapist would call …	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/22 03:51 PM
9	Why is it easier for men to get with other men vs women Ever hear the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side?" Consequence-free sex - in terms of pregnancy - is going to be a lot easier between homosexuals than it is between heterosexuals. That is just one less factor that has to be considered. Beyond that, finding a willing partner is always a numbers game. The more "at bats" you have, the more you will both hit and strike out. Because women are often pursued, they have more opportunities to reject proposals. Because men are often t…	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/22 03:40 PM
1	women don't want to be judged by their body count then why do they judge men if he gets an escort. Inherently means necessarily. People can do these things, but they aren't necessary as part of dating. That they are loaded words is the point - loaded with unhealthy ideas that are best eschewed when looking for a healthy relationship. The same is true about body count. You are conflating the idea that because these things CAN signify something with whether or not they necessarily do. Having a high body count reliably requires that someone enjoys sex/orgasms. You don't have multiple partners if…	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/22 08:27 PM
3	women don't want to be judged by their body count then why do they judge men if he gets an escort. Dating isn't inherently judgemental or discriminatory. Some people like chocolate. Others prefer vanilla. These are preferences - you wouldn't say that a chocolate lover discriminates against vanilla. Likewise men and women who are ready for healthy relationships aren't being judgemental or discriminatory when they have a preference for one partner over another. Body count is very different from hiring an escort. First of all, hiring an escort for men may involve breaking the law, contributing t…	/r/ExRedPill	10/05/22 07:06 PM
15	How do I view women as individuals and Human beings? Then make a habit of recognizing that you are unfairly putting unreasonable expectations on them, because they are no more goddesses than you are a god. Start meditating to get a grip on how your emotions are very different from what is true sometimes.	/r/ExRedPill	07/05/22 03:08 PM
1	How do men become desperate thirsty simps ? Why are they like that? Honestly, women do it too. We all crave connection, attention, and validation to varying degrees. It doesn't really vary by sex so much as it varies by the individual.	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/22 01:54 PM
2	Do older men really find younger women attractive or try to get with them? I'm 40, I find them attractive to look at, it can be fun to imagine being sexually involved with them, but... I mean... Fucking kids are a trial to talk to. They have no idea about life, so fucking naive, I just don't see it being worthwhile to try and have a relationship with them even if they are great to look at. For me, young beautiful women are like a day at the museum. Beautiful art to enjoy, but it would cost far too much to take home.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/22 12:18 PM
2	How do I get rid of the toxic and hypocritical mentality that women are less valuable because of their sexual history? People find what they look for. We are often not even aware we are looking for reasons to confirm our biases, which is why we don't realize we have biases at all, and instead believe it's just "common sense". So we rarely consider the metacognitions that govern what we "observe" that are in part influenced by what we expect to find. You seem to intellectually understand that what you intuit to be accurate about these stereotypes is not only biased, but also unhelpful to you and your relationship…	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/22 05:44 PM
8	Randomly approached by a hot girl, and she gave me her number 100%. Being a gentleman requires making everyone around you as comfortable as possible/reasonable. Above all, what makes people feel comfortable is what makes them feel safe and appreciated. This simply requires being more interested in who they are than what you want from them.	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/22 03:01 PM
1	Ukrainian soldiers stopping cars and 'yanking out any man aged 18-60 to conscript in army'. Being forced at gunpoint to fight. Such is life on Reddit, lol. In my view the world is moving more this way, it's just far slower than anyone wants. But to be fair, it could be moving at lightning fast speeds and it wouldn't be fast enough - people want what they want when they want it, and the grass is always greener because contentment in the here and now is increasingly rare.	/r/MensRights	26/02/22 03:33 PM
1	Ukrainian soldiers stopping cars and 'yanking out any man aged 18-60 to conscript in army'. Being forced at gunpoint to fight. Shit - unfortunate typo. I meant over there. I'm in the US. But yes, I have a reference. https://www.military.com/daily-news/2021/12/27/ukraine-requires-women-register-military-conscription-russia-threat-looms.html Be careful - Russian disinformation campaigns are going off the hook right now. Even the conspiracy Reddit is dealing with it to the extent that they are discussing it.	/r/MensRights	26/02/22 02:46 PM
1	Ukrainian soldiers stopping cars and 'yanking out any man aged 18-60 to conscript in army'. Being forced at gunpoint to fight. Also they are also drafting women. They are dealing with an invasion there. *Fixed a typo	/r/MensRights	26/02/22 01:55 PM
10	As a Red-Pilled Guy, I had no Idea it was this Bad, and My Story Happy to provide value and perspective. Growing up is simply becoming more than what we were. The folks on this sub, they are growing out of the confines of the Red Pill because they are no longer shackled by the fear that makes them feel the Red Pill philosophy is necessary. You have already outgrown so much of it, you may find value in diving into the "opposite" of the Red Pill to see what value can be derived. In my experience, the truth often exists between two extremes. Expose yourself to t…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/22 04:11 PM
6	Redpill incels do not deserve love and are not entitled to anything AT ALL I don't clock the account for frequency, but I can say that I am not seeing anything of value here. Advocating against compassion for people isn't exactly noble, good, or useful. Hate results in an end to thinking and is typically a sign of a lack of introspection from the person spewing that hatred. Take a page out of how apartheid was treated - Red Pillers are also victims of the system they find themselves in. They are often traumatized, come from abusive relationships, and so their views are…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/22 03:50 PM
27	As a Red-Pilled Guy, I had no Idea it was this Bad, and My Story It sounds to me like you haven't gone full Red pill. It sounds to me like you were inspired by some of the initial motivational rhetoric of the Red Pill to become aware of toxic partners, and then rather than following the Red Pill for all of its teachings, you simply cherry-picked the healthiest pieces. There is certainly nothing wrong with that. I used to be a Scientologist. There is some genuinely good stuff in there, mixed in with a lot of brainwashing and twisted logic. Just because I value…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/22 03:12 PM
9	So uh… What do women want again? If you want a universal rule, you need to think of women as people. All people want the same things. We want to feel safe. We want to feel useful. We want to feel desired. We want to feel understood. We want to feel comforted or contented, depending on whatever we are feeling now. All people want these things, but the tricky part is that different people require different things to feel this way. For example, some people like to be told what to do in order to feel safe. It reassures them to be g…	/r/ExRedPill	07/02/22 04:14 PM
7	Why are a lot of red pillars dishonest ? People lie because it makes them feel empowered to get away with deceiving someone (gives them a sense of control they lack) and it helps them to avoid feeling ashamed or embarrassed by the truth. He needs to justify his belief because it makes him feel empowered, the belief even if untrue means that he is not responsible for his lack of success with women.	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/22 04:12 PM
2	My husband is always right He should get evaluated then. One of the things I lacked prior to my diagnosis and education on ADHD was a LANGUAGE to describe how difficult some things were for me that didn't seem to make sense with the other areas in my life where I excelled. There is simply no good reason not to get evaluated if it might be true. If it isn't true, at least he'll know. If it is true, he will find out why some things in his life have been incredibly difficult and have been holding back his ability to function…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/01/22 08:49 PM
4	My husband is always right I go through this with my wife, and part of the issue is that she spends more time being defensive about her position than I do. When she offers an alternative perspective, I begin by assuming she knows something I don't. As a result, I wind up asking questions before disagreeing, which leads me to spending more time trying to understand her view than I am disagreeing with it. By contrast, she spends more time defending her view than trying to understand mine. Instead of asking questions about m…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/01/22 02:45 PM
7	Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? He doesn't come from money. With the age gap he probably just wants to make sure the only reason you are dating him is because you want to spend time with HIM, rather than use him for his money. The only way he can know if you are into him is if you are willing to split the cost of your time together. If you aren't, if that winds up being a deal breaker for you, was he wrong? Put your foot down when it comes to activities that you can't afford and offer up more affordable alternatives. "Hey, I c…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/22 01:03 PM
1	Confused about date invite So we have a bit of a miscommunication - because I"m not suggesting that OP should say that. Sometimes people don't like to make decisions for a variety of reasons. My point is that rather than wondering why he is asking her to make the decision, she could just ask him why its important to him that she decides. At the end of the day, in all relationships, decisions have to be made or they are made for you by life. Either you decide to go on a date, and that includes picking the date you want t…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/22 05:32 PM
1	Confused about date invite This is exactly how I began my relationship with my wife - it is not how I began my relationships prior to getting married. Also, at the time I met my wife I was of the opinion that marriage was a silly ritual that required me to inform the government of my relationship, so it wasn't something I was remotely interested in. I told her this many times over our relationship, while she had let me know that marriage was important to her. I ultimately proposed, however, because she was willing to be…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/22 04:06 PM
4	Confused about date invite If you want to be in a relationship with someone, communication is key. As is honesty. Why aren't you asking him why he is putting the decision on you? Why not tell him that you would prefer he surprise you with his choice? Relationships aren't about "romantic effort". Planning dates isn't some magical indicator of the rest of the relationship. I used to plan very romantic outings for my now wife/then girlfriend - and I did it because I was dating. Now I am married and I don't. Neither does she,…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/22 02:31 PM
9	How do you learn to be happy caring for your husband? I think your issue is that you are thinking of it in terms of caring for your husband rather than the culture of your relationship. Relationships are about HOW you relate to something. https://taooftomo.com/rules-for-healthy-relationships-6792a14ab0fb Forget what other people might say regarding how you behave with your partner in your relationship because nobody else has to be in that relationship but you and your partner. That partnership has to work for BOTH of you, and that means sometim…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/22 11:53 PM
3	Is it possible to be a Red Pill Woman in a SD/SB Relationship? The more time you spend with someone, inevitably, the more of you they will see. To be ourselves is not something we try to do. Trying is what we do when we are trying to be something OTHER than ourselves. You are perfect just the way you are. You do not need to change for anyone but yourself, because only you know the distance between who you are right now and who you want to be. If they want something more from you than an SB relationship, that will largely depend on what they think that relat…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/22 02:36 PM
5	Is it possible to be a Red Pill Woman in a SD/SB Relationship? Never let who you are get in the way of who you might become. Relationships are simply how we relate. If you want the "real thing" you will have to be real honest. There is no substitute for knowing that someone deserves you at your best because they have accepted you at your worst. You will never know if someone will never leave you unless they have every reason to but choose not to. You just can't manipulate your way into a healthy relationship any more than you can manipulate yourself into be…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/01/22 02:09 PM
1	Why am I being treated like a monster? You should have told her the only thing getting played out was her outfit, and she shouldn't believe everything she sees on tv. But then again, I suppose having a sassy comment would have just made this into a different movie. :/ Yeah, it sucks and is backwards, but that's how trauma and anxiety work. It leads to distorted and irrational thoughts, which are endemic to bigotry.	/r/MensRights	20/12/21 03:40 PM
1	Do men really want to get married? What is a marriage exactly? What does marriage change or say about a relationship? My guess is that your answer and your boyfriend's answer will be very different. After all, you both feel differently about marriage, and so marriage must mean something different to him than it does to you. Your relationship is simply how you relate. A wedding is an expensive party that marks the fact that you have decided to formalize the way you relate with some legal paperwork. To you it may be an accomplishme…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/21 06:53 AM
1	"If a man uses protection but the woman still gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby, what are his options if he doesn't want the child?" If it gets to a court room battle, the man can sue for full custody. If the woman wants to avoid the custody battle, she can agree to accepting full custody in exchange for not persuing child support. You could also just... talk to the woman and tell her that you don't want to be a father.	/r/MensRights	03/10/21 10:45 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Fair points and questions. It comes in stages because for abortion - the personhood of the fetus is irrelevant in my view. Whether or not a fetus is a person, no person has a right to another person's organs without their consent. As a thought experiment, if you were to go up to a baby right now, and stab it in the kidneys - even if you were the ONLY MATCH for a kidney transplant for that baby, the court could not demand that you donate your kidney. Not even to save the life of the baby you st…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 09:35 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Oh please - if he's sexually assaulted then he can press charges, same as a woman. Reproductive coercion goes both ways and is endemic to abusive relationships - for which women who get stuck being pregnant are uniquely oppressed in a way that men who get stuck being a father are uniquely oppressed as a result of this type of abusive relationship. And transferring the sperm into themselves in a sneaky manner is unfortunately as difficult to prove as it is for a woman to prove that a man didn't l…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 09:08 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers That makes zero sense - consent is not fundamental to reproduction. If a woman gets raped, it's still her child. It's also still the rapists child. There are rapists who have successfully sued for shared custody. https://nypost.com/2017/10/09/convicted-rapist-gets-joint-custody-of-victims-child/ It's not a matter of anyone being "allowed to remove consent retroactively" either. I've never heard of such a thing happening. What I have heard is 2 drunk people fucking, which means neither is cap…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 06:04 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers sigh Just look up safe haven laws - with a few rare exceptions all of them allow either parent to abandon a child. But seriously - what is the scenario where the father is present for the pregnancy and birth where it wouldn't be decided between the two of them to abandon the baby? Baby's come from mommy's so again - opportunity is the issue. Likewise, men have the opportunity to simply go no contact and make it virtually impossible for the mother to go after. As easily as a woman can keep he…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 05:53 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Yeah, injustices suck - that's why minority groups push for things like changes in enforcement policy, changes in legislation, and cultural changes. But if it's legal and not gendered, then the problem is unequal enforcement, and so policies regarding how enforcement agencies respond are what need to change, not the law. If you want to help men, it's important to understand that. If it's a legal issue because the laws themselves are gendered, then that is pretty easy to deal with. Contact the AC…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 05:41 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers That's not true - again, safe haven laws are determined by the State, and with the exception of like 4 states and Puerto Rico, either parent can use them to abandon a child safely. Look at the actual laws themselves, as written. If you want to argue they are enforced unequally - sure. But this is true of a lot of laws for a lot of groups, and it's a good way to advocate if that's what the concern is. So I can get behind say pushing for safe haven laws that are more equitable in those 4 state…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 05:23 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers What people do is different from what the law requires. Please cite the law, because culturally you can't really blame people for wondering why a dude has left a baby at a fire department, but will simply follow procedure when it is a woman. These are called safe haven laws, and there are like 4 states and Puerto Rico where it must be the mother. Pretty much everywhere else in the US either parent can abandon a baby same as a mother.	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 05:16 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Usually is not always. Sometimes it is the mother. The custodial parent doesn't have to pay child support because they have custody. The child support (ostensibly) is to be paid to the child, and the custodian decides for the child how to use that money. A father can surrender his custodial rights and his parental responsibilities the same way a mother can - they put the child up for adoption or abandon the child at a fire station, church, etc. What the actual problem here is that because women …	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 01:54 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Putative fatherhood is about the child's rights - the child has a right to a stable life and it's not the kids fault the mom cheated and the putative father is the only father they know. Putative father's automatically get paternity rights, in part, because the state wouldn't want to remove a good parent from a kid just because they didn't share DNA. There are always fucked up ways these types of things can be interpreted though. The tragedy here is that you have rapists using paternity to furth…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 01:13 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Please cite a specific example of a law that you are referring to, because this is a misunderstanding in my view. As I explained in the article I linked, putting a kid up for adoption involves surrendering parental rights and in fact they do require the father (IF ABLE TO CONTACT HIM) to also surrender those rights. The only difference is that women are present at every birth, so unless paternity is established, there are fewer ways to necessarily identify who the father is without the cooperati…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 01:08 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers You are confusing opportunity with legality. The laws about abandoning a kid on a doorstep protect the anonymity of the PERSON abandoning the kid at say, a fire department. So if a COUPLE decided to abandon their kid, the father could just as easily leave the kid at the fire department as the mother. Because this is about encouraging people to not leave babies in dumpsters. In terms of putting a kid up for adoption, the father's consent is required legally, but again because of the practical lim…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 12:59 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers See the commentor above then, because he disagrees. But ironically, the fact that it's not men's problem that they can't get pregnant is why it's not women's problem that the laws favor women even though they are not written in a gendered way. That same attitude of "it's not my problem" is exactly why the state puts the financial obligations on men married to women who cheated but didn't find out until 5 years later (putative fatherhood) - because the child has a right to be taken care of and "i…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 12:52 PM
1	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers You are missing the point. It's about compelling speech - men don't get pregnant and men aren't obligated to marry a woman they lie to by saying they love them to get them into bed. The second you require that women are legally compelled to notify a man that she is pregnant, you legally are creating a way for men to be sued for being dishonest or misunderstood when initiating a sexual relationship. Compelling speech is a bad, bad, BAD idea. https://harvardlawreview.org/2020/05/two-models-of-the-…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 12:38 PM
0	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers I can't speak to France's laws - every state has different laws, let alone international differences. But again, there is no legal obligation for a man to tell a woman he is pregnant with her child EITHER. There is no legal requirement (in the US) for an adult to tell another adult ANYTHING. There is no legal requirement for a mother to know she js a mother - what you are talking about is the right to COMPEL SPEECH, which is not a right that anyone has in the US.	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 03:11 AM
-2	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers I mean, this is not the circumstances, but if it makes you feel better to distort things to make them seem worse than they are, go for it. Being sarcastic to me about the way things are is a bit silly. The fact is that everyone is being treated equivalently, but there are practical differences in regards to enforcement, investigation, and legal obligations. Men and women have the same rights, but women shoot babies out of their crotch and men don't. Babies have a right to be taken care of, and t…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 03:05 AM
-2	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers You are missing the distinction between the woman's rights and the child's rights. It is not a logical fallacy to point out that there are 3 different types of rights at work - the man, the woman, and the child. I replied to another poster - a man has the same rights to know if he is the father as a woman has to know she's the mother. The difference is that men don't get pregnant, because both have to go through the same process and meet the same requirements via the courts to initiate a paterni…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 02:36 AM
-2	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Incorrect. A man can petition the court for a paternity test. He just has to establish he slept with her, which is no different than what women have to go to in order to establish paternity. Beyond that, this is again a practical limitation. You don't really need a paternity test when the kid drops out of your crotch. And there is no more legal obligation for a woman to reveal she is pregnant than there is for a man to reveal that he slept with her. There is also no way to force either men or wo…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 02:25 AM
-9	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers Actually they are equally responsible. The difference is that women have the opportunity to drop them off because they give birth to them. This is the equivalent of putting them up for adoption. If men could give birth, they would be in a position to do so as well. I explain this in the post I linked to. "Anyone can essentially leave a child on a doorstep, and the programs that allow for this do so to prevent babies from being dropped in dumpsters. This has nothing to do with women or their righ…	/r/MensRights	30/09/21 01:47 AM
-2	I think a law should be passed that allows men to not become fathers You are still misunderstanding the way the law works. https://taooftomo.com/why-men-have-fewer-options-for-avoiding-the-financial-consequences-of-a-womans-choice-to-give-7781a765d527 Parental rights come with financial obligations. Giving up your parental rights CAN eliminate your financial obligations, but this must be agreed to by both parents as a means of protecting the child’s rights to shelter, food, safety, etc. And that’s the key here. Before the pregnancy — the man and the woman are e…	/r/MensRights	29/09/21 11:34 PM
2	Feminist GF seems unsympathetic to mens issues, sees most men as assholes. Is this a red flag to break it off? This has absolutely nothing to do with her being feminist. This is just a toxic way of communicating. Your red flag is her lack of sympathy or even curiosity about being raped in prison. You have already alluded to how you would respond to a similar report by her. So you know what sort of response would be normal if you care about someone - holy shit that's terrible and I am so sorry you had to go through that. That she didn't says far more about her than it does about her identity as a "feminis…	/r/MensRights	21/09/21 02:36 AM
30	Ex Red Pill: Myers Briggs Personality Test Male - 40 - INTP. Also, Myers Briggs is just astrology for nerds. :P	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/21 03:02 PM
1	Do women really like asshole type guys? Basically. The numbers are in their favor because they have a larger sample size, and they are less likely to be discouraged by rejection by definition. Circumstances sort of conspire in their favor to a certain extent. Self confident people have a soothing effect on others. We are pack animals, social creatures, and long before society had Tinder and grocery stores, we had body language and pointy sticks against sabertooth tigers and other people. So much of how we communicate is subconscious, …	/r/ExRedPill	05/08/21 02:56 AM
12	Do women really like asshole type guys? No, women, like men, prefer confident partners. Sometimes self-confidence comes off as assholish, and sometimes really insecure people are just easily bullied because of their own fear of rejection. As a result, assholes will be able to attract partners. Also, assholes are more likely to APPROACH potential partners with little regard for the circumstances, which increases the number of potential "yesses" by virtue of the larger sample of approached people, on average. So think about how the stat…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/21 02:00 PM
5	Do you think it's a sound strategy to use the "no contact rule" to re-attract somebody? Being clingy is a sign of insecurity. The fear of losing someone is why we act clingy. It is being around them even when they would rather have some time to themselves. The no contact rule is just a way to fake the sort of security that results in couples in a relationship having time to themselves to focus on themselves. Spend long enough in a relationship, and this is the natural progression of things. My wife is my favorite person. I don't get tired of spending time with her - unlike many oth…	/r/ExRedPill	03/08/21 11:55 AM
1	Men who're good at Red-pilling aren't actually good with women, but these people are unaware that they're narcissists ,so this ideology is appeal to their liking. Yes, but that is because they are dishonest, manipulative behaviors. And dishonest, manipulative behavior is just avoidant behavior at the end of the day. The narrative they are reinforcing is one of empowerment, and it is understood as "empowering" by the folks who identify with the pain points regarding how these guys pitch their programs. And since all of these are grounded in avoidant behaviors intended to protect their self-esteem, it is on the spectrum of insecurity of which narcissism is …	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/21 11:20 PM
2	Men who're good at Red-pilling aren't actually good with women, but these people are unaware that they're narcissists ,so this ideology is appeal to their liking. Glad to see this reply - it really hits the nail on the head. People in general strive to simplify complex issues down to a single issue, but in my experience this is an unreliable method for understanding circumstances as they are. You ultimately have to understand concepts at as granular a level as possible in order to effectively use simplified explanations to teach others about them, and unfortunately it's all too easy to conflate a simplified explanation with a foundational/irreducible conc…	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/21 09:06 PM
27	What’s up with redpill and their distain for black women? Red pill is a lot of WHITE dudes, and Red pill is pretty closely tied to white nationalist and conservative rhetoric (note that white nationalist and conservative rhetoric ARE in fact different things). So, pretty much just the baked in racism that is common amongst groups that are toxically insecure.	/r/ExRedPill	12/07/21 03:03 PM
2	Danny Trejo on toxic masculinity Definitely him at his best... just wow. For me what always stood out about Supes was how often he always holds back. "I feel like I live in a world made of cardboard..." speech... and what was brilliant about that is that it shows how truly difficult it is to have RESTRAINT when you have that much power.	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/21 10:05 PM
11	Danny Trejo on toxic masculinity I love this! Service is absolutely where it's at. I have a saying which I don't know if I heard somewhere else but it's this: Mercy is a luxury of the powerful. Because in all honesty, it is. If machisimo was all about being powerful, I can think of nothing more powerful than serving others that you could dominate. After all, you have a CHOICE to serve at that point. If you don't have a choice to serve, if you don't have a choice but to be nice, if you don't have a choice to turn the other…	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/21 10:00 PM
2	The cock carousel - a red pill fantasy? It really comes down to your relationship to self-improvement. Do you believe you need to be better than you are? Or do you believe that improvement is constant and never ending? In other words, it's the difference between looking in the mirror and thinking, "I am such a disgusting cow, I really need to go on a diet," and, "I don't like how big I'm getting, I need to set some boundaries for myself around diet and exercise." When you like yourself, you put in the work to take care of yourself wit…	/r/ExRedPill	07/07/21 12:05 PM
6	The cock carousel - a red pill fantasy? Insecurity can only exist if you are comparing yourself to others. If you think that comparison is meaningful and that you are not the "winner" - this means that not only is your metric for yourself set to an external standard, but that only the behavior and attitudes of others actually matter when it comes to liking yourself. This is twisted. It means these people are incapable of liking themselves until someone THEY like has given them approval. They are completely disempowered from deciding f…	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/21 10:31 PM
33	The cock carousel - a red pill fantasy? The fact is that insecure people are insecure because they feel others are better off than they are. So naturally, feeling rejected by women that they are attracted to, they assume that these women are getting the things they want from men they feel inferior to. These insecure boys - because most of them according to some other study tend to be teenagers themselves - are also surrounded by their lying peers. Because since getting laid is considered a way of enhancing one'se social status, boys w…	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/21 09:36 PM
0	Why is it that if you suggest men have needs in relationships you are a villain? The comment you linked to does not have the commenter being villanized for suggesting that men have needs. That comment got downvoted because it was suggesting that men look at women because their sexual desires aren't being adequately fulfilled, which is a pretty bizarre way of conflating a preference with a need. Needs are things like oxygen, without which you will die. If you don't have someone touching your penis, however, you aren't going to die. You can always touch it yourself. Sex isn't …	/r/MensRights	06/07/21 05:11 PM
-1	The comments here seem similar to something I’d find here, with the genders reversed. Maybe it’s no wonder we dislike each other I am going to be relaxing and playing videogames as I settle into my 40th birthday. So I am not interested in doing homework for you, but remind me in a few days and I'll throw together some examples - fair enough?	/r/MensRights	03/07/21 03:45 PM
-4	The comments here seem similar to something I’d find here, with the genders reversed. Maybe it’s no wonder we dislike each other Like all of them. Every single one where men are generalizing about women is no different from the ones generalizing about men. It's fucking retarded.	/r/MensRights	03/07/21 02:27 PM
-10	The comments here seem similar to something I’d find here, with the genders reversed. Maybe it’s no wonder we dislike each other I mean, like the OP said, I don't see much a difference between this sub and the other. I mean... The irony of the replies in this thread actually fucking hurts, it's so damn obvious.	/r/MensRights	03/07/21 02:05 PM
12	Anxiety with women Put it to you this way... There is simply no way in hell that OP was the only one she bullied. People who invest time and energy into actively making 1 person feel miserable are CERTAINLY doing the same to other people. They feel powerful by harming others, and so they stay alert for opportunities where others are vulnerable that they can take advantage of. "They were asking for it," mentality is a pattern of thinking that includes a certain way of relating to the world. You must lack power in…	/r/ExRedPill	02/07/21 08:08 PM
25	Anxiety with women You aren't going to like the answer, but it's going to make sense by the end of my post, I promise. You have to face your fear and increase your sample size. Right now your fear is telling you not to ask women out in general, because of a truly traumatizing experience. And let's not gloss over how traumatizing this was and the significance of the word trauma as I'm using it either. Trauma can be HUGE, or it can be minor, but in both cases it literally creates physical changes in how your b…	/r/ExRedPill	02/07/21 04:59 PM
1	The red pill made my friend hate women and now he's gay. Interesting. So do you think that if there was a subreddit extolling the virtues and taste of eating human shit, that would result in him being able to enjoy eating a steaming pile of shit squirted onto his plate? Or do you think it would still be "an acquired taste" and he might have to eat a few meals before it tasted like chocolate ice cream to him? Preferences are not about logic or rationality. We feel how we feel about things, and that often has very little with what is true about it. I th…	/r/ExRedPill	27/06/21 12:54 PM
1	My whole relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years was a lie? Love is simply unconditional, positive regard. How you feel about someone had nothing to do with how they feel about you, which is something you can never truly know. You either trust your interpretation of their feelings, or you don't. But this doesn't change how you feel, and it shouldn't change how you feel about them. Because how you feel is different from what you deserve, what you want, and what you are willing to endure to get what you want. Mourning is understandable. Learn how to mourn …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/21 10:08 PM
1	My whole relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years was a lie? Sounds to me like he's just not very competent about communicating or even understanding his own feelings. When you don't want someone to "get" with anyone... it means you want to keep them for yourself? Why? Either because you think of them as property, or you are afraid they will leave you for someone "better". He's 21... I doubt he actually has thought about why he feels the way that he feels in that way. You guys seem to have gotten together when you were both around 18, and you don'…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/21 06:27 PM
1	Men of Reddit, do you agree with the saying “only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved under the condition they provide something.”? I'm a man. No, I think this saying is untrue.	/r/MensRights	25/06/21 01:53 PM
3	Advice for teenager? The redpill teaches men to identify and manipulate insecure women into having sex with men who are insecure enough to feel good about manipulating someone into a one night stand. For my part, I only want to sleep with women that find me attractive as I am. I can't get turned on unless I know that I am turning my partner on. But I also like myself and I don't want to think of myself as a burden. You have recognized that it's manipulation and a money making scheme. Solid. My advice is to focus on …	/r/ExRedPill	24/06/21 11:35 AM
1	What questions do we need to ask men when deciding if they’re good men? Thank you, and Absolutely, but it requires recognizing them, so it isn't easy. I have a whole thing about rules for healthy relationships, and they are ultimately about how healthy relationships are the relationships we trust to bring unhealthy patterns to our attention so that we can take responsibility for them. https://taooftomo.com/rules-for-healthy-relationships-6792a14ab0fb But at the end of the day, it does begin and end with your relationship with yourself. So mindfulness practices are a…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/21 07:36 PM
2	What questions do we need to ask men when deciding if they’re good men? Happy to provide value. If others agree I can repost, but don't want to spam the forum with unsolicited advice.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/21 06:50 PM
9	What questions do we need to ask men when deciding if they’re good men? My advice - treat your dates as an opportunity to have fun with a stranger, not an interview. Dating is stupid, because dating is focused on IMPRESSING someone with who you are by being on your "best behavior". But going out to have as much fun as possible with a complete stranger is an ADVENTURE, and if you are taking responsibility for what will ensure that YOU have a good time, they won't have to. Plus, if your only goal is to have as much fun as possible with a complete stranger, if it is …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/21 05:28 PM
0	Realization about RedPill blind spots! Feeling good about your life isn't about checking boxes off that other people have decided are valuable and worthwhile. Feeling good about your life is about feeling good about who you are, which primarily is about your understanding of who you want to be. The nature of suffering is a combination of discomfort and how divided our attention becomes in the face of that discomfort. Discomfort can be physical, but it is also emotional, and emotional discomfort is fundamentally about how we feel …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/21 07:28 PM
1	Thoughts on Patrice O'neal? While a lot of truth is said in jest, comedy is about discomfort, and how we cope with it. So while a comedian can make sense as they are making you laugh... they are directing your awareness through a lens that is inherently absurd. They are highlighting the inherent absurdity of life. Because life IS absurd. We are in a rush, constantly, and yet we have no idea where we are going or why for most of our lives. And by the end of it all, we just want to slow things down because we can't keep …	/r/ExRedPill	09/06/21 11:31 PM
5	Just a rant about life and female perspective on being exredpill This article I wrote may help. It's a collection of advice I have given over the years on healthy relationships, and how that begins with you. You are young. Your life is just beginning. https://taooftomo.com/rules-for-healthy-relationships-6792a14ab0fb	/r/ExRedPill	05/06/21 12:04 PM
2	TRP grew me up in a lot of ways but it definitely stunted me in others. Always happy to provide value.	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/21 06:02 PM
4	TRP grew me up in a lot of ways but it definitely stunted me in others. The 2 year mark is a pivotal time for all relationships, because that's how long on average it takes to truly get to know someone. Relationships that last beyond 2 years are less likely to end by a significant margin, statistically. That's why I told my wife when I first started dating her that I would not commit or tell her I loved her for at least the first 2 years. I didn't even want marriage mentioned prior to us getting through our first couple of years because we needed to spend time figur…	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/21 12:22 PM
4	I have a theory of what's wrong with RP community. My humble opinion. Since emotions are literally the only things we can possibly care about - they are the vehicle of value - there is no such thing as a word completely devoid of emotion. Even apathy evokes an emotional reaction within others, because language is a tool for creating connections. You chose the best word for your understanding at the time, and that will be a continuing process. You'll learn things more deeply, and so you'll find that language is simply a "blade" with which you can slice reality …	/r/ExRedPill	24/05/21 07:43 PM
3	I have a theory of what's wrong with RP community. My humble opinion. Happy to provide value. Reality is simply too big for any single view to encapsulate even a portion of reality in its totality. I saw you had a lot of great insights, but that how they were presented may be a bit too "harsh" for some of the folks on here. I would also be cautious about how you are defining intelligence. It isn't "wrong" per se, but what we "know" can be just as blinding as what we don't sometimes. You are smart enough that alternative ways of articulating some of what you are …	/r/ExRedPill	24/05/21 07:15 PM
2	I have a theory of what's wrong with RP community. My humble opinion. Your frame has a lot of truth to it, although it's a bit harsh. For starters, keep in mind that a community, a philosophy, and a movement are very different things. And like Feminism, the Red Pill is all three. It is not a monolith. The philosophy of the Red Pill is simply feminism framed to empower men rather than women. Unfortunately, Red Pill philosophy simply hasn't had to persist through the rigorous academic discussions that feminism as a philosophy has. As a result, some of the malfor…	/r/ExRedPill	24/05/21 06:48 PM
3	What makes insecurity a turn off I think you have missed some nuance between what I am saying, and what you are hearing. So let me see if I can make that clearer. Life is complicated. What is true is not always pleasant. Women and men are equally "allowed" to be insecure, in the sense that the consequences are ultimately the same. The consequence is that people will find it less comfortable to be around those who are CHRONICALLY insecure. Meaning the less often you are secure, the more often others will be uncomfortable around …	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/21 02:36 PM
5	What makes insecurity a turn off As is so often the case, the question isn't your real question. What makes insecurity a turn off? The lack of security itself, because you can't be both afraid and horny at the same time, as a matter of human physiology. When you are afraid, your brain literally changes the way it functions to divert energy towards survival. It shuts down digestion. It slows down cognitive processing because that blood needs to go to your muscles. It shuts down reproductive functions too. After all, if you are a…	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/21 12:32 PM
5	Do you think the red pill/alpha males/incel movement is fueled by narcissists? From my understanding, narcissists are actually coping with an extremely low sense of self-worth. They simply do so by projecting and manipulation so people believe otherwise. That's why narcissists are so controlling and manipulative, because they are terrified their insecurity will be exposed to others. The "wrinkle" here is that people are not necessarily consciously aware of their issues, and so behaviors like narcissism are largely subconscious. They aren't thinking, "Oh, if I brag about ho…	/r/ExRedPill	17/05/21 06:25 PM
1	Why 'body count' is so important in TRP culture? It is probably more common than you realize. Why else do you think these guys are so worried about it to the point of talking about it all the time. Because they have had the experience of having a lower body count than their partners before, and they feel ashamed of it. Shame is just the fear of rejection. Chances are they are similar to me in the sense that I want to be the BEST SEX my partner has ever had. I want to ruin my partner for all other partners. I want my cock to be whispered about …	/r/ExRedPill	11/02/21 02:20 PM
2	Why 'body count' is so important in TRP culture? I mean... if someone told me they slept with 20 people... my primary concern would be whether or not I made it into the top 5 or 10, and then how to "up my game" from there. Ah, to be single and in research mode with Tinder - what a world kids are growing up in.	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/21 07:23 PM
2	Why 'body count' is so important in TRP culture? I don't know how ANYONE knows what the actual average number of partners is for anyone. I'm going to be 40 this year, and I have no clue for sure how honest people have ever been or continue to be about the number of sexual partners they've had. In general, there is a sense that men have a harder time getting laid than women, because men tend to be the aggressors for sexual relationships. In practice - who the hell knows. Some women are very aggressive, some men are very aggressive, and ot…	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/21 07:21 PM
11	Spotting a red piller It's pretty easy to tell. Red Pillers only show false humility and deference when it makes them "look good". They are so insecure they always have to be impressive in some way, and so they put on a show of what they think others will find impressive. So just look out for the humble brags and compliment other guys in front of him to see if he almost immediately does something to get your attention in a way that might illicit a similar, positive response.	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/21 01:26 PM
1	How to stop becoming an incel? I can only hazard a guess here but... First, therapy. You have some cognitive distortions working against you that you need help with. https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ A good therapist will go over these with you and will help you identify them in your self-talk (that bit of muttering you do now that everyone is wearing masks all the time). Not addressing these cognitive distortions with a therapist will make dealing with them much, much harder. Because each time you say the…	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/21 02:33 PM
1	Twenty year old chicks do not want forty year old guys...even if they are rich I think I may have misinterpreted your conclusion? I don't know, I post while I am pooping, so if I misrepresented your position, it was unintentional. I'm not a feminist. Buy I don't know that gratitude is ever a debt that can be owed. It is a feeling of appreciation that you express as a gift to anyone you wish to give such a gift too. I have, for example, told random women that they had a beautiful smile or laugh, simply because I felt that way and I wanted them to know that I appreciated tha…	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/21 04:30 PM
1	Twenty year old chicks do not want forty year old guys...even if they are rich I don't have any problems with your challenge - and I don't think you were advocating a ban. I just like to challenge hyperbolic phrasing and "all or nothing" rhetoric as a general rule. I personally find attachment to social status a waste of time, yet the fact of the matter is that I am also not immune to compliments, the admiration of others, etc. I don't choose how I feel even when I understand why I feel something for irrational reasons. This is true for everyone, men and women both. So I a…	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/21 04:12 PM
1	Twenty year old chicks do not want forty year old guys...even if they are rich No. In a healthy relationship, if you love someone, you support them to be the best version of themselves because that is in your best interest and theirs. In a healthy relationship, you recognize who your partner wants to be, and you work within their comfort zone to help them get their without being too hard on themselves. Because you trust their best intentions, and you understand they will have bad moments and days. You signed up for those bad days, because as bad as their bad days can be, y…	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/21 02:57 PM
2	Twenty year old chicks do not want forty year old guys...even if they are rich Thanks for saying this - (and RIP your inbox) I honestly think that escorts get to see a side of older men that dating women don't get to see that often. As men get older, sex is still a source of pride and a part of our "social status" bullshit. Meanwhile, relationships just aren't the 24/7 sex parade we imagined they would be in highschool because a partner is someone who has to put up with the bullshit you bring with you into their life. You may have to do the same, but that's sort of the poi…	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/21 02:45 PM
2	Twenty year old chicks do not want forty year old guys...even if they are rich So... I know plenty of 20 year old chicks that enjoy and prefer dating older men. I also know plenty of older chicks that prefer dating younger men. Attraction is a matter of personal preference. There are people who are aroused by intelligence, by obesity, by dressing up in costumes or pretending to be animals or babies. Different strokes for different folks, as the saying goes. I don't know how "normal" this is among women or men. I know women and men in these types of relationships who are bo…	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/21 02:34 PM
1	Someone explained demisexuals to me Labels like these can certainly be useful as a way of communicating to others that understand these labels the fabric/pallette of your experience and preferences. However, I would simply advise you not to confuse identifying with the traits a label describes with your sense of identity. You may be adequately described as a demisexual, but you may also differ in certain ways that either the label wouldn't be applicable, might be contradictory with others who identify with the label, or which ar…	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/21 07:18 PM
1	I stopped taking advice about dating and how men/women think. Shit will drive you crazy trying to figure it all out. Blame is simply the discharging of discomfort. These are all human problems that result from human flaws, which are common to all of us. Change the context and all the roles could have played out the same but with different colors and genders at the helm. Systems limit outcomes - but they cannot prevent them from being possible. I am not blaming feminism for anything. I am pointing out that philosophical systems have limited explanatory power, which is only exacerbated by the reductive nature of…	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/21 08:25 PM
8	I stopped taking advice about dating and how men/women think. Shit will drive you crazy trying to figure it all out. I think it's important to remember that because feminism isn't a monolith, the folks that talk about it generally fall into 3 camps. Philosophy Movement Culture The problems are mostly from the culture. The movement informs the culture and in turn is informed by the culture, but the philosophy is just academics doing what academics do. You have your unreasonable folks amongst the academics of course - every philosophy has their dogmatic apologists, but these are tempered by the layers of caveats…	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/21 02:50 PM
6	I stopped taking advice about dating and how men/women think. Shit will drive you crazy trying to figure it all out. That's sort of the beauty of feminism - it's all about treating people as individuals. Because it is human nature to be tribalistic. The irony of feminism and social justice communities is that they fail to recognize when THEY are being tribalistic. It's part of a language game they don't realize they are playing. https://link.medium.com/TgXEU9ooKcb	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/21 02:22 PM
41	I stopped taking advice about dating and how men/women think. Shit will drive you crazy trying to figure it all out. People that say they have it all figured out, don't. It's just the Dunning Kruger effect in action. If you think you know, the more confident you are, the more likely you have no idea what you are talking about. If Red Pillers knew what they were talking about they wouldn't spend so much time bitching about women.	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/21 01:25 PM
1	Remember lads; Never ever believe a woman. Lying is in their genes Karyotype?	/r/MGTOW	21/12/20 01:56 PM
3	I need serious help Diagnosis - low self esteem Treatment plan - Daily meditation Work on identifying and reframing distorted thinking patterns (therapist can help with this) Move towards motivating through gratitude instead of shame - e.g. instead of trying to work harder by saying to yourself that if you aren't a billionaire, you won't get laid, say to yourself how great you did for what you accomplished and realize that if you keep that up you'll wind up where you are wanting to be. Make friends with a girl. Pla…	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/20 01:26 PM
3	I don't think I am going to be normal or stable in the coming years. Financial and mental Freedom seem so foreign It is never futile, because change is the only constant. And lasting change is incremental, because the increments aggregate over time creating continuity that has to be overcome. Sometimes progress, as a result, can feel like failure. Your healthy improvements and awareness can feel like a step backwards as you start to recognize how pervasive these patterns in your thoughts and feelings actually are. Being healthier results in an increased recognition of less healthier patterns that required a…	/r/ExRedPill	27/11/20 04:44 PM
11	I don't think I am going to be normal or stable in the coming years. Financial and mental Freedom seem so foreign So, you should be seeing a therapist to talk through your issues. The brain just recognizes patterns. Some patterns are useful, others aren't, and how we feel about these patterns is based on how we felt about them in the past. In your life, the bulk of the patterns you have learned in the past surrounding women and relationships are associated with some pretty shitty emotions. That sucks, because your brain is going to rely on those until you give it new patterns to compare to the old ones. And…	/r/ExRedPill	27/11/20 03:57 PM
9	Stopped using 4chan a month ago but still very racist and sexist, how do I stop this and become a decent person? Put in the same amount of effort for twice as long as you were putting in time being shitty on 4chan - that's roughly how long it will take to replace those old thought patterns.	/r/ExRedPill	22/11/20 01:49 PM
25	I might have ruined a really good relationship. Apologize unequivocally. Explain to her that you feel she deserves better than someone who is getting over some hella crazy toxic thinking, and that you are ashamed of how you handled your feelings by taking them out on her. She may not forgive you, but that isn't the point. It's not about her forgiving you... It's about you forgiving yourself and taking pride in how you are unlearning toxic bullshit. Your shame is a sign of growth, and it's ok to feel good about growth even if you are ashamed a…	/r/ExRedPill	17/11/20 02:25 PM
1	So I feel like my mindset is reverting... First of all, stop feeling bad for how you feel. It's not that you "shouldn't" feel a certain way. It's that how we feel is often really complicated, but we tend to focus on the most intense feelings. And the weird thing is, that if you are trying to not feel a certain way, that's the intense feeling you are likely paying attention to. In your case it's "jealousy". But it's not just jealousy. It's sadness, because the relationship is over. It's a fear that you won't find someone else. It's regre…	/r/ExRedPill	15/11/20 01:07 PM
4	I’m 99.9 percent sure I will be an incel MGTOW till I die People find what they are looking for. It doesn't seem you are looking for reasons to like yourself, and so you assume that women will only focus on the parts of you that you spend the most time noticing. Which, from what you have briefly wrote seems very focused on the parts of you that you are ashamed of. But here's the thing. You are more than that and you know it. It's just not what you spend most of your time thinking about. Instead of constantly looking for reasons to trust others and be g…	/r/ExRedPill	11/11/20 03:31 PM
8	The cognitive dissonance of MGTOW Con men make money by telling vulnerable people what they want to hear, regardless of how ridiculous it sounds. Traumatized people use cognitive distortions to rationalize their unreasonable expectations as a safeguard to protect themselves from being traumatized again. Just like a bear in a bear-trap, they lash out in spite of signs that it might not be in their best interest to do so. Pain makes people angry. Anger does not make people smarter.	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/20 01:24 PM
5	My ex sent me this. What should I say? You are half right. If you want to be with a person, so be it. We are not defined by our limitations, but rather how we choose to overcome them. When people lie and cheat, they err. All people err. All of us have limitations. All of us can learn from our errors. And no error that causes harm us is as personal as it first may appear. Love is unconditional positive regard. There is no wrong reason to love someone, because you don't choose how you feel. But love isn't enough if you also love yourse…	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/20 03:41 PM
-1	My ex sent me this. What should I say? No. Don't make a hasty decision. This is something you should think about. Only will have to live the consequences of your decision. No one else. If you don't know what consequences might occur from a decision, you will have to live with those consequences forever, including the consensus of "what if I had done something different?" What if is a question that will haunt you forever. You had better get good with the answers before you are stuck with the question.	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/20 02:59 PM
31	My ex sent me this. What should I say? Why would you do that? She cheated. Either you are willing to look at it like it was a mistake and you are willing to work on trusting her, or you can never trust her again. If you can never trust her again, you are wasting both your and her time. Time you will never get back. Relationships aren't a game. They are how you relate. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. If your relationship is a game, someone wins, and someone loses. If she wins, you are a loser. So how does that make her anything …	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/20 02:34 PM
9	My ex sent me this. What should I say? More context needed. What do you want?	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/20 01:43 PM
3	Decipher this dating situation : RP vs BP As you have proven with the options you have laid out. It's a false dichotomy. If you want(ed) a relationship with this woman, you should have said to her, "Hey, so being perfectly honest, I have some trust issues. I know that guys and girls can just be friends - but to be frank I'm with you because you are amazing. So I just can't believe that ANY of these guys BELIEVE that you aren't friends. And it would be perfectly normal and human if you were attracted to some of them or had little crush…	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/20 06:33 PM
1	Decipher this dating situation : RP vs BP I prefer the second one. I prefer being able to turn to my wife and say, "Tell me I'm pretty." feeling confident that she'll say it with a smile, knowing that it was important to me. Knowing that it made me feel good, as incredibly STUPID as it was. Because I do this. It's stupid. I don't actually care about being pretty. I don't know what "pretty" actually means or looks or feels like. I don't know she even knows why I want her to say it. I don't know why I want her to either. But here's what I…	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/20 06:33 PM
3	Decipher this dating situation : RP vs BP No Pill: You were too busy playing games to be in a relationship. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Treat relationships like games, you are guaranteed to be the loser no matter what you do. Games are about competition. Winners and losers, which are defined by the rules. Relationships are simply how we relate. You can have good relationships, and bad relationships. You can have competitive relationships... And you can have cooperative relationships. You can unhealthy relationships... Or coo…	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/20 06:33 PM
1	Trying to engage with feminism and social justice in a healthy way which doesn't compromise my mental health You are being human, and the most difficult thing with being human is doing nothing about uncomfortable circumstances. It's difficult even when there is nothing that can be done. You are speaking as if the various feminist arguments, in order for you to be a good person, REQUIRE you to put in the amount of labor that you are putting in. They don't. Being a good person is about having a healthy relationship with yourself, first and foremost. It requires you to like yourself and be certain about y…	/r/ExRedPill	18/10/20 03:32 PM
3	Ladies of exredpill, do you like the strong, sensitive type of man? Both my dad and I fit the "strong and sensitive" type you describe. We are both happily married to women who depend on our strength to help them feel safe, while bragging about how soft our hearts are as we cry over cartoons and even commercials. We feel stupid, but our wives and other women from our past seem to think it's a "good" thing. You are fine just the way you are brother. Trust your own worth, any woman who doesn't see it doesn't deserve you.	/r/ExRedPill	17/10/20 01:35 PM
3	I just feel so unattractive since leaving TRP This is insightful. You use casual sex to FEEL different from "normal". But your actions don't change how you feel, they simply reflect that which you are most concerned with. The actions of Red Pillers expose their insecurity. Focusing on the body count is a DISTRACTION, not a cure or treatment for your insecurity. You are insecure because you do not accept and thus LOVE your failings. By rejecting where you are now, you deny yourself the opportunity to take responsibility for improvement you c…	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/20 07:57 PM
15	I just feel so unattractive since leaving TRP How does the number of women you actually make you a more worthwhile person? What makes someone attractive? It sounds to me like you have not actually thought about these questions.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/20 03:44 PM
8	I just feel so unattractive since leaving TRP It's practice. You are practicing how you relate and some of these emotional things are just habit. I still have cravings for cigarettes, but I quit over 10 years ago. I still sometimes have some emotional dissatisfaction that I would be tempted to cope with using cigarettes.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/20 03:04 PM
2	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. Happy to hear you are considering the alternative. That's where it begins. :-) Just start with the Same Harris Waking Up app. Totally worth it.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/20 06:27 AM
2	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. Potato chips are fucking delicious. I could eat a whole bag. I could not eat a bag of salt or potatoes though. There are boundaries, limits. These limitations create healthy relationships, because all relationships need space for the partners in that relationship to flourish together. Relationships are all about cooperation and managing boundaries. And the relationship that matters most is your relationship with yourself. The kind of friend you are to yourself is the person you will be bringing …	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/20 04:36 AM
3	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. It seems you understand (intellectually even if you can't emotionally connect with the idea) that men and women are basically driven by the same software, but the differences in the hardware make the "processes" look way more different than they actually are. This doesn't seem to be what you are RESISTING... And in my view, it's what you are resisting that is causing you the most discomfort. And the idea you seem to have the MOST resistance too is this? Looks are not as important to people a…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 08:16 PM
2	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. No problem - for context I use hyperbolic examples because they emphasize what I am focusing on. My apologies if that landed as if I was distorting your position. I didn't mean to imply that you didn't have a more moderate view than my example suggests. My point is speaking specifically to the nuance you are wanting but... I am perhaps being too direct in a way. It's not an easy thing you are grappling with, but your reply here is very helpful in helping me focus on a better way to communicate w…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 08:16 PM
2	I think we should normalize the idea that people have standards when it comes to dating. Do we normalize the idea that some people prefer chocolate over vanilla ice cream? Or is it "a matter of opinion"? Have you ever heard the phrase, "there is no accounting for taste"? It is used as an insult, buy it is actually literally true. Attraction is a form of preference. Preferences are a matter of opinion. Opinions aren't objective statements of value. They are inherently subjective, because the value is relative to the individual. And lots of shit goes into our personal opinions. People…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 12:53 PM
2	Where Do I Go From Here? Where do I start with dating? Great question. Start with focusing on healthy relationships in general. Relationships are just how you relate to something. You can have a relationship with a woman, a man, a dog, money, ideas, your job, your emotions, and your sense of self. All of these relationships can be described as healthy or unhealthy. Once you understand what makes any relationship healthy or unhealthy, and you have the skills to maintain healthy relationships in your daily life, a healthy…	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/20 05:44 PM
0	Red Pill and the 18-33 and 45-55 bracket "Self-improvement" that relies on emotionally unhealthy and cognitively distorted worldviews is no different from a pedophilic priest talking about morality through religion. Saying that people should work on improving themselves is great. But if the WAY they are allegedly improving themselves is by gouging out their eyes and cutting their dick off... that's not real self-improvement, is it? I disagree there is a central focus on personal accountability. There is a central focus on SEDATING …	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 11:17 PM
5	Attention&Drama nods And given the obstacles teens already face in talking about their emotions with their parents... Yeah. Why the Red Pill exists makes sense. In my view the best solution is to take the, "it takes a village" mentality and actually have healthy adults pointing out how perfectly normal it is to feel the way they do, and that aholes like the "leaders" of the Red Pill are just so lonely and miserable they are happy to have the company of of teens that will likely quickly outgrow that toxic mess..…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 11:11 PM
6	Attention&Drama That's actually why I joined this sub. I recognized how many young men are on here who simply lack a healthy male role-model who can explain these things to them. I am, by all accounts, a very nice man, and I remember how incredibly angry I was as a teen. I have nothing but sympathy for these young kids that are being led astray by "men" who never matured past puberty but figured out how to turn predatory behavior into a "self-help" community for the lonely, jilted, and wounded males in need o…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 11:02 PM
5	Attention&Drama No worries. I'm almost 40 - so my perspective on life is a weird mix of old-school balanced by an understanding of what is for me a completely different world than the one I spent the first 12 years of my life growing up in. But I promise you this - you absolutely will find what you are looking for. So if you look for problems, reasons to be afraid, or reasons to be unhappy or critical of people... you will find them, and that will be the world you live in. But if you look for solutions, r…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 10:57 PM
3	Attention&Drama Younger.	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 10:44 PM
5	Attention&Drama Attention and Drama. Redpillers attribute these traits to women because they lack self-esteem. They are online talking about how much women love drama - as a tool to get attention in the form of argument or validation, right? Do you not see the irony of this? They aren't COMPLAINING ONLINE because they want to be ignored. What you complain about, from the perspective of a listener... isn't that likely to be considered a form of "drama"? They are complaining that women want attention... to who an…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 10:43 PM
5	Is Dating Women Worth It? Happy to provide value. I have a sort of standard response regarding healthy relationships that I will cut and paste here that you might find useful as you embark on your adventures in dating. What a healthy relationship looks like Healthy Boundaries and Toxic Relationships Communicating without blame Dishes and blame... Why you need to care about your partner's stupid bullshit	/r/ExRedPill	12/09/20 04:46 PM
4	Is Dating Women Worth It? As with anything, you get out of it what you put into it. Dating women as the best version of yourself is an amazing experience. Dating women as the worst version of yourself is miserable and confusing. Both situations have a single common denominator. You.	/r/ExRedPill	12/09/20 02:58 PM
1	Why is it that you can’t really talk about Red pill issues on Reddit ? (Legit question, looking for answers, discussion, not looking for fight) Mechanically I would describe it as related to process of identity politics, and what I refer to as "rhetorical markers" for qualifying someone online as part of an in-group or out-group member. “Why Identity Politics Sucks and Stokes Racism” by Tomo Albanese https://link.medium.com/zm2R1HNNC9 “SJW Tribalism: How The Social Justice Community Ironically Contributes To The Problem” by Tomo Albanese https://link.medium.com/Am2uqWXNC9	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 11:05 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people Because a game implies failure, and that is a rather silly way to describe a lack of mutual attraction. I am not playing a game. I am not interested in spending time with someone merely because they are attractive. A painting is attractive. That doesn't mean I want to fuck it or care what it has to say. Museums are nice to visit, but it lacks the comforts of home. So in the sense that finding a partner with whom you share a mutual attraction is rare - sure. Mutual attraction is rather difficult,…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 10:56 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people Nope - I am an introvert. However, I do a good job of pretending to be extroverted. Quarantine has been awesome for me. I also have ADHD - so I frequently talk too much or go on too long about things most folks have no interest in. I have a hard time not interrupting others when they are talking. I can be very irritating to deal with, as I have come to learn thanks to getting medicated for my ADHD, and meditating, and spending a lot of time reading and listening to others. I didn't have any frie…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 10:42 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people "I've been with my wife for 10 years, only married for 2. I just lost 130lbs and am able to do my first chin-up. I used to date models, actresses, cheerleaders, and strippers - amongst other stereotypes of hot-chicks." You said your secret is you like yourself enough to be yourself around everyone. Yes, you did imply that confidence makes people like you. Read the second paragraph of your first post in this chain. While I can understand why you feel this confirms your interpretation, a single re…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 10:23 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people Will follow-up - making breakfast - but I think I see where you got that impression, but your conclusion is not inversely true as I would describe it. Will be back in a sec, but no, I'm not playing the numbers game as a form of desperation, either. I would consider that settling. I have no interest in someone that I have tricked into liking me.	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 06:35 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people I never said that people will like you if you are confident. I was pointing out that it effectively doesn't matter if people like you or not as long as you like yourself. Which is confidence. And confidence is attractive. Because attraction is not merely based on appearances, even though that is a component. After all, if you appear confident, that can be enough. But hyperfocusing on all the instances where that isn't true is just focusing on the negative. Yes. Many people base attraction off of…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 06:06 PM
1	Red pill only attract deluded broken people I suppose emotional intelligence plays its part - but there are plenty of people that don't like me. Whether or not people like me, I still like myself. That's the common denominator. It's the lack of confidence that does people in. When you feel awkward or weird - you can be perceived as awkward or weird. But when you say something matter of factly, because for you it is a matter of fact, people tend to go along with it. Not because it matters, but because it doesn't. Everyone is too busy bei…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 04:14 PM
5	Red pill only attract deluded broken people On the flip side - I've been overweight most of my life, and never had a problem picking up women. I've been with my wife for 10 years, only married for 2. I just lost 130lbs and am able to do my first chin-up. I used to date models, actresses, cheerleaders, and strippers - amongst other stereotypes of hot-chicks. My secret? I like myself enough to be myself around everyone, and I don't treat people differently based on how attractive I find them. I just try to be kind to everyone and to f…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/20 03:01 PM
18	Honest question, how can I avoid building resentment against women after bad dating experiences? Remember that everyone is the villain in someone else's story - even you. We often don't realize how we make others feel. Out of politeness, or a desire to avoid conflict, sometimes are worst offenses against others are incidents we are completely ignorant of. We simply never realized how it would land, and many folks simply say nothing while harboring resentment over the worst possible interpretation of our intentions. You have had bad dating experiences. Maybe it's because you were a bad date.…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 12:44 PM
3	Feel like I'm tricking girls when I am social. Is confidence a trait or something you display? You are a victim of common sense - which is not what is "obvious", but is your sense of what is common. You believe that most girls are not into what you are into. You are wrong. Girls like the same shit as guys, because girls and guys are just people. Girls like to fuck my friend. And they also love anime, and video games, and wrestling and sports. You just might have bad luck meeting the girls that are into this stuff. Add to that your pessimism, and think about every girl that you never menti…	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/20 02:06 AM
2	Dealing with regret over past misogynistic behavior Oh, I don't know about that. I think people are overwhelmed because we simply have not adjusted to how fortunate we actually are. Fear is useful for survival - but our technology has made survival the rule, rather than the exception. Instead of our ability to predict the future being focused on survival... We get to apply it to religion, politics, and social media. And by our ability to predict the future, I am talking about our emotions, like fear. Fear doesn't know the difference between a sca…	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/20 12:25 AM
2	Dealing with regret over past misogynistic behavior Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, in my view. It is the recognition of limitations that have resulted in unpleasant circumstances and outcomes that no one actually wanted to occur. Forgiveness happens when you can accept what is, without the need to blame. I think that forgiveness can be very difficult, especially when blame is easy to assign because of the circumstances. But if you want forgiveness - it is because you need to forgive yourself because you are finally resourced to understa…	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/20 12:07 AM
3	Dealing with regret over past misogynistic behavior Embrace your past, and be greatful for it. It made you who you are today, and everyday you are who you are, you are taking responsibility for who you were when times were tough a d your understanding was immature. You are human. You err. What defines you is not your strengths, but your limitations, and the way you choose to overcome them.	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/20 01:09 PM
0	Money and men rule the world pussy rules weak men. Only chicks go on a 10 paragraph rant... what an incredibly weird assumption. https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/ Cognitive distortions are a sign of mental or emotional problems. I hope you get the help you need brother. I HAVE gone my own way, and I didn't need a subreddit to tell me how to do that, and I don't need to attack you to defend my position. Isn't arguing irrationally a chick thing too? Why are you so emotional about what a stranger on the Internet thinks, …	/r/MGTOW	22/08/20 11:09 PM
1	Money and men rule the world pussy rules weak men. Yes, clearly you are frustrated because that's what you want to do, and you don't understand why you aren't "good enough". The problem is that it is not about being "good enough". It is that preference is personal, but not actually qualitative. The fact is, sometimes people are attracted for reasons that are purely emotional and related to nothing that says anything about your self worth. But the longer you keep thinking it's a contest you are losing to some ahole, the longer you are stuck with …	/r/MGTOW	22/08/20 09:30 PM
1	Money and men rule the world pussy rules weak men. But real gangsta-ass niggas don't flex nuts 'Cause real gangsta-ass niggas know they got 'em Not seeing any in this thread...	/r/MGTOW	22/08/20 12:48 PM
10	The red pill constantly cherry pick clips of women freaking out and say "HaHa MeMe GeNdEr! ThEy ArE cHiLdReN!" Here's a gif of a man in his thirties who plays video games for a living and throws his controller when he loses. ManChilds are real too. Shit, I do this of I get overwhelmed. It's not healthy and I am not proud of it. But fear, anger and frustration when not dealt with healthily can lead to this type of behavior. It's idiotic when men or women are defined by who they are in their worst moments, rather than how they take responsibility for who they are in their worst moments.	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/20 01:45 PM
4	How do I become more interesting to the woman I am trying to date or ask out? Why are you interested in dating someone that doesn't find you interesting the way you are?	/r/ExRedPill	21/07/20 03:16 PM
8	80/20 is bullshit, women don’t have high standards, they aren’t that different from us, and they don’t care about anything TRP or PUA want you to think they do And actually some of these dudes get laid more than most folks realize. Sex is primal. Sometimes people just want to fuck. If you have nothing to lose, having the balls to ask is all it really takes.	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/20 03:06 PM
6	How can I reinvent my image after expressing redpill ideas to friends? Dude, just own that shit. People have a ton of respect for folks that can be honest and laugh at themselves. And quite frankly, you will feel better just admitting it to everyone and explaining you are just glad to put that bullshit behind you. Fuck being embarrassed about making mistakes. Be a rockstar, own your bullshit, and move on all the better for having faced it.	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/20 12:59 PM
16	My ex is becoming consumed on redpill ideology and it is taking over his life. I think his mental health is compromised When his safety net and excuses are gone. His views need to actually cost him the life he wants to lead. Otherwise he has no reason to question them. The red pill gives cover to insecure guys, allowing their fear of not being enough and being alone and being rejected, and transforming it into a ritious anger and indignation at the things that scare them or that they think they can't actually have the way that they are. And then it provides an alternative narrative of the powerful "lone wolf" wit…	/r/ExRedPill	25/06/20 12:39 PM
13	My ex is becoming consumed on redpill ideology and it is taking over his life. I think his mental health is compromised This. Your last paragraph is everything. He has only learned about toxic relationships, so your relatively healthy one is terrifying to him. He needs therapy and for you to lay down healthy boundaries by not tolerating abuse. Write him a letter explaining why, until he sees therapy for his distorted thinking, that it's not healthy for you to be in contact with him. That you want a healthy relationship with him, but you don't see that happening with his current obsession with MGTOW. So you are gi…	/r/ExRedPill	25/06/20 12:29 PM
3	How to avoid becoming red pill/mgtow You are coming off like a perfectly normal young man who is trying to make sense of a perfectly confusing time in your life. It takes most of us decades to sort through our feelings about ourselves, and that has a big impact on our relationship with others. I am going to link to you some things I have written for people in the past about relationships: What a healthy relationship looks like Healthy Boundaries and Toxic Relationships Communicating without blame Dishes and blame... Why you need to…	/r/ExRedPill	18/06/20 01:41 PM
5	Do women lack respect for their male “friends” A relationship is something you do, not something you are in. It is the work you of relating to someone or something. You don't just have relationships with people. You also have relationships with objects, animals, food, ideas, your emotions and even yourself. Your relationship with money, for example, could be healthy or unhealthy. When people have an unhealthy relationship with food, they might over or under eat When people have an unhealthy relationship with their emotions, they might become…	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/20 12:51 PM
2	Found PUA notes in bf's journals Old school for sure. You have been with him for 2 years, and you find this surprising. Let me ask you this. Is there something about you that he might be surprised to discover? Something that has never come up that you are at least a tiny bit ashamed is true? Maybe you just stumbled upon his. Seems likely. Put it to you this way. In my heart of hearts I truly believe that having an identity based in your race, sex, or gender is incredibly stupid even though almost everyone does it. So it is even…	/r/ExRedPill	13/06/20 12:06 AM
2	Found PUA notes in bf's journals Do you know the name of the PUA teacher those notes would have been from? The PUA community has been around for well over a decade online. That notebook could have been when he was in his early 30's a decade before you met. As men get older, and especially after they have gotten a better relationship with themselves, their attitudes about women can change drastically. Plus, there has been a pretty massive cultural shift. So 10 years ago, you would have been 23 and dating dudes 18 to 30. He w…	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/20 11:06 PM
4	Just a reminder to anyone who hates women: Remember that men are equally as capable of betraying, lying, and stealing from you. Don't be on "team men" or "team women." Both genders can hurt you. One isn't better or worse than the other. (Story of how my best friend tried to sleep with my girl) Just remember, because it is possible for each of us to recognize our own patterns, we are necessarily capable of making each day better than the last, simply by being curious about what opportunities have become possible due to an otherwise unfortunate change in our lives. You have the unlimited power to choose to look for things to truly appreciate in each and every second of your life. That choice is always there. It is always possible. And even a 1% improvement in every moment that you remem…	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/20 12:16 AM
7	Just a reminder to anyone who hates women: Remember that men are equally as capable of betraying, lying, and stealing from you. Don't be on "team men" or "team women." Both genders can hurt you. One isn't better or worse than the other. (Story of how my best friend tried to sleep with my girl) Just a small point of contention - Most people are not out for themselves. But everyone is limited, and there are no mind readers. Fortunately, it's easy to trust everyone. You don't trust that they will mean what they say, because sometimes people are sincere in a moment but life throws them curve balls. That's just life. You don't trust that they won't fuck up, because people don't choose to fuck up. That's just life. You don't trust people to suddenly change, because as creatures of habit we …	/r/ExRedPill	11/06/20 01:52 PM
1	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it Girls also like to fuck. Think about it this way. How many women live within a 2 hour drive of you? Would you be willing to drive 2 hours for a quick fuck? If only 2% of the women within 2 hours of where you live also just want to fuck, how many women is that? And how many of those horny women that don't want to talk about feelings and just want to trade orgasms do you think hang out on tinder, want to fuck, but don't want to be treated like shit? They just want respect AND orgasms? Think if you…	/r/ExRedPill	10/06/20 01:14 AM
1	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it Great, so fuck buddies are easy. Put up a tinder profile and say that you are looking for no strings attached sex. Don't be picky, and hit on every THOT that swipes right on your profile. Relationships - you will have to do the work. The health of your relationships is a reflection of the health of your relationship with yourself. Your emotional and mental health, your relationship with food, your relationship with things that make you impatient, etc. I want to ground this a bit more concretely …	/r/ExRedPill	09/06/20 10:42 PM
1	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it Do you want a relationship, or a fuck buddy. Because a relationship is work. And your relationship with yourself, your emotional health, is a limitation on the health of your relationships with every part of your life. Which would include a girlfriend. But if you just want a fuck buddy, then you can look for one night stands. Those aren't complicated, because they are basic just cooperative masturbation. So which do you want?	/r/ExRedPill	06/06/20 08:25 PM
1	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it It is not about not caring about what other people think. It is about knowing who you are and liking who you are so that their story, when unfair or untrue, is not a concern. If I were to tell you that you have teeth that look moldy Cheetos... How does that make you feel? Is it a criticism you care about, or not? Wether or not you care is a result of how true you feel it might be. If you were to call me a liar, I would not care because it is not true. I would be curious about why you said that. …	/r/ExRedPill	06/06/20 12:59 AM
2	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it You will always find what you are looking for, but what you look for is not always useful. How you define something reveals what you believe is true about it. You define success in a way that is useless for being happy with who you are. Success is being happy with yourself, without a concern for how others might react to your happiness with your best efforts. Fucking a stranger is not going to make you happy with who you are. Especially if they think you are an asshole. And if you don't care abo…	/r/ExRedPill	05/06/20 03:20 PM
4	I've seen more people on the Blackpill/redpill mansphere be successful in dating than those that leave it You have defined success as getting laid, and the goal of dating as getting laid. This is why you fail. Getting laid is easy. You could put up a profile on Grindr and get laid in an hour. Some dude would surely be happy to dick you down. But you don't want to just "get laid". You want to have the ability to have sex with a partner of your choosing. There are Billions of women in the world, and you want to be attractive to the ones you are attracted to. I am sure you also want to be a Billionaire…	/r/ExRedPill	05/06/20 01:44 PM
21	I dumped my long term girlfriend because of TRP Don't push. If you care about her, you need to demonstrate that by respecting her boundaries here. You want to make amends, not turn into a stalker. You are not entitled to her forgiveness just because you are genuinely sorry. That's a tough pill to swallow, but it's the truth. The best you can do here is to write her an apology letter, with the understanding that the only hope you have is that your mutual friend will deliver it, and she will be willing to read it. And that apology needs to expl…	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/20 03:02 PM
3	To incel/MGTOW lurkers: I found the way out OH - I highly recommend the Sam Harris Waking up app. Fantastic lectures and insights without the magical thinking that comes from meditation and mindfulness training in other sources. And if money is an issue, contact them. They GIVE AWAY subscriptions for free because they want to help people.	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/20 09:48 PM
4	To incel/MGTOW lurkers: I found the way out Wow, big question! And the truth is that I was just lucky. The universe is vast, and so even on our tiny blue marble, so much of what we are able to understand about reality is filtered through our tiny slice of it. Think about how huge the world is, and think about how small of a space your senses cover for just a moment... Zoom out from that perspective. Imagine the size of the world compared to you. Now draw a bubble around you that covers how far away you can hear, see, smell, taste and touc…	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/20 09:44 PM
31	A PUA guy tell me that after 150,000 approaches I can get laid with any women in the world even when I looked exactly like quasimodo jaba the hut or smeagol.This sounds really fishy. He is incorrect. PUA techniques are psychological manipulation. They are more effective when the target is insecure. And not all women are insecure. While everyone has SOME insecurity, these techniques aren't universally effective because they are manipulative. Source: I am a copywriter that has worked selling PUA courses. So I have actually been to events watching PUA gurus falling over themselves competing to pick up chicks. One time I saw them all FAIL to pick up a chick that a marketer in an…	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/20 01:29 PM
1	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? I don't see from where.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 05:59 PM
1	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? Thank you. :)	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:56 PM
2	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? Thank you, and happy to hear that my points have come across as aligned with my best intentions.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:55 PM
3	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? Someone was kind enough to gild me - no worries. I am just glad to know that it was helpful to at least a few folks.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:53 PM
2	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? So glad to hear it had value. :)	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:52 PM
2	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? So happy to hear this had value.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:52 PM
3	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? Lol, it's just a funny point to pick on to illustrate how silly it is to treat weight lifting as "masculine". There is nothing wrong with enjoying weight lifting honestly. As a form of exercise, it is healthy, and you are right, it absolutely does feel good to have a healthy exercise routine. If this is also something you enjoy doing because you have managed to make healthy exercise habits an enjoyable hobby, even better. There is everything great about having edifying habits that are also enjoy…	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/20 02:52 PM
72	How do you go from casual hook ups to a relationship? Because the redpill and pick up aren't how you develop and maintain a healthy relationship with a sexual partner. They are about how you can manipulate women into giving you sex while AVOIDING a healthy relationship with a sexual partner. The Red Pill relies on the idea that relationships with women or men are inherently competitive, when they aren't. You get what you put into a relationship. You want intimacy and honesty - that is what you have to put into it. You want your partner to trust you…	/r/ExRedPill	15/05/20 09:58 PM
1	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game Hey - no problem. I don't have to experience what you experience to believe that you are an expert of your own life. The truth is that we are often so defensive of our own narratives that we will unfairly reject someone else's when there is a conflict... But as a practical point - you can trust people's expression of their feelings even when you disagree with how those feelings are rationalized. And once you do that, it's easy to find reasons why your feelings would make sense to me from the les…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 05:38 PM
2	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game It is not just a function of preferences, which vary, but health. A concept which while difficult to define is ultimately self-evident. There are many ways to be healthy. There are many ways to NOT be healthy. And health, like anything which is relative to ourselves, is a result of the quality of our relationship with ourselves. And just like our bodies and minds, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. And the health of our relationship with others is informed by our relationship with oursel…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 03:38 PM
2	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game Woof, that is just rough my dude, and I get it. Every reason you should push back on the implication that your capacity for violence is greater because of the impact your size represents. And the racial component is just adding insult to injury. But that is why I break it down into 2 distinct components like that. Because shitty people are in the minority, but our sense of how representative shitty people are of the wider population is skewed because of a weird consequence of our ability to get …	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 02:58 PM
5	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game Well what if I want to do drugs? Does that mean I am winning? I don't care if other people find me unattractive, and I am happily married. What if being an asshole and mistreating people makes me happy - does that mean I am winning every time I am mean to someone else? Does this mean that I can win by pissing off everyone if I become a dictator? Was Hitler a winner until he died? Are we ALL losers when we die? Does this mean that being the bigger asshole makes you a winner? I don't find the rule…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 02:38 PM
9	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game I said generally speaking, because in general, men are bigger and stronger than women. So that is not saying anything about a woman's capacity for violence against a man. It's just an acknowledgement of the statistical reality. I get into the nuanced of impact of an action versus capacity to undertake an action here. “Are Men More Violent? An Introspective…” by Tomo Albanese https://link.medium.com/DjqYSvPGq6 So the reasons for women not to trust men that pose an immediate threat to their surviv…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 02:23 PM
14	Women are not attracted to confidence,they are attracted to men who played the game Everyone is playing a game unfortunately. The problem is that the only way to win is not to play. What is "the game" anyway? What are the rules? All games have rules that describe the difference between winning and losing. What is "winning" in this "game"? Is that what you want from a partner? To "win" while they "lose"? Wouldn't that mean that your victory is to "win" a "loser"? The folks that are playing games, that is a game of "confidence chicken". They act like they don't care as they do th…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/20 01:40 PM
11	To incel/MGTOW lurkers: I found the way out I'm 38 - this is exactly true. People prefer to spend time around people who like themselves. They are happier, they are more forgiving, they are better listeners, and they don't drag you down into negative thinking because their natural happiness causes them to be more optimistic, and thus more solutions focused. I have always liked myself enough that I have been, what I consider, annoyingly popular. I can't get enough time to myself, because men and women both want to spend time with me. I am …	/r/ExRedPill	08/05/20 03:03 PM
3	Opening up to Women Trust is funny, because you can always trust people. You just can't trust what they say. You trust that they will be consistent in their patterns. Liars tend to lie. Honest folks make mistakes, and if someone is sad or angry, they will see a liar either way because they are more caught up in how they feel than what is true, what they don't know, and what they need to know to get what they actually want. Does anyone actually want to spend any amount of time with a liar? Of course not. But when we…	/r/ExRedPill	01/05/20 01:47 AM
6	It is true that one's personality does not change after loosing thier virginity. But if that is true, why is there such a stigma on adult virginity? Hurt people hurt people. And people that hurt will find differences to attack others for, because when you are hurt, you are scared. And when you are scared, you want to act, and you don't necessarily think clearly about what you are doing. Fear inspires immediate, thoughtless action for the purpose of your survival. Fear is thoughtless that way. And when you attack someone in your fear, you feel powerful if they don't attack you back. Heck, you might even feel powerful if they do, because their…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/20 03:09 PM
1	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. Interesting. So you have in your head a hierarchy - which I understand some people do. But certainly not everyone does. And you seem to identify as not actually near the top in this hierarchy that you believe exists. You also seem to be thinking that having confidence in yourself is somehow delusional depending on where you are in this hierarchy you believe exists. You also have a very strong story about what women want. And, as a man who has been overweight his entire life and has dated models,…	/r/ExRedPill	26/02/20 10:48 PM
8	As someone who's never been a part of or followed "the red pill", I find the redpill sub-reddit(s) scream of insecurity, trying to over compensate, and just trying to seek approval / attention. Yeah, I have always suspected that folks who have gone Red Pill are the "nerds who become muscle-bound doctors and lawyers" crowd. The folks that seemingly are making up for what they feel they missed out on in high school and college. I do wonder if most tend to be emotionally delayed honestly. Interesting insight.	/r/ExRedPill	26/02/20 10:19 PM
1	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. I don't understand your reply? I think something got lost in a typo?	/r/ExRedPill	26/02/20 10:13 PM
1	We should drop our heteronormative dating practices. Dating is tough - because you have to find someone you want to be with even when they are at their worst. That's what you are doing when you are dating essentially... killing time by having fun until you get to meet this stranger on a bad day, week, month, or year. Once you see them at their worst - that's when you know how you actually feel about them. You don't truly love someone until you've experienced them at their worst honestly. That's why parental love is so important, because they kno…	/r/ExRedPill	26/02/20 06:03 PM
2	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. I guess you've never heard of a Sadie Hawkins dance or Cougars... It might seem crazy to you, that people dingo their lives without worrying about what others think of them, and yet it happens. Not worrying about what other people think if you doesn't mean that you ignore how your behavior is going to impact them. After all, what matters most is what you think about yourself. If you do not consider how others might feel at all, you will be inconsiderate. If that is the kind of person you are hap…	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/20 10:40 PM
6	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. That is your story. That is not the way things are. You are very concerned with what others think of you. You let your fears of the rejection of women and society dictate your actions. And then most of this last reply is full of examples of distorted thinking. https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ Seriously. Read through that and reread your reply and consider that perhaps the problem isn't the way things are but is instead your attachment to the way they aren't.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/20 03:25 AM
6	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. I totally get that your biggest reason for doubting this advice is the lack of results. But the fact of the matter is, a half truth will only predict half the future. Take for example the saying, "practice makes perfect." This is a half truth. Practice does not make perfect. If you practice an art technique incorrectly, is this the path to a perfect technique? The fuller truth is that "perfect practice makes perfect". Because only by practicing without knowing if you are practicing correctly wil…	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/20 03:13 AM
17	I'm jealous of female mate choice. I want this to stop. Quite often people have stories about the way the world works that include part of the truth, but not the whole truth. For example, your experience and how it differs from the advice people have given you. However, your OWN story, in this thread, is also not the whole truth. It's not even the whole truth about your experience, because it relies on your story about WHY women react to you the way that they do. And it also includes a bit of your story about yourself, about who you are, and about ho…	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/20 01:48 AM
1	I actually discovered radical feminism through the re(tar)d pill "philosophy". So groups like these actually gives me some hope that not all men are actually exploitative lazy pigs who generalize and say extremely disgusting things about women whilst having all sorts of hidden ulterior motives. If you like science, you might appreciate how your sense of what is common can be distorted by misattributing the significance of a low saturation of bad actors can have on a larger population. I go into that here: “How Rape Statistics Can Create Hope” by Tomo Albanese https://link.medium.com/b2xSn5EHU3 There are also some rather practical differences that have nothing to do with what it means to be a man or a woman, and more to do with traits that correlate to how the common human tendencies ca…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/20 02:57 PM
0	Is it true women lose interest/attraction once they feel they have you? Men and women are mostly the same, but there are some general differences. Mostly these come down to how those differences tend to cluster by sex - but at the end of the day it's just PEOPLE. Humans. And we are really pretty much the same. What happens for ANYONE in a relationship is what happens with EVERYONE regarding life and our interests in general. The more we do something, the less novel it is, and so the less interesting it becomes. This includes sex. Now, don't get me wrong, it's …	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/20 09:38 PM
4	Help me not to fall back into red pill thoughts after lies from a love interest Feelings are weird - they don't make logical sense because they aren't logical. They are, in fact, predictions our brains make up about our relationship to everything we are aware of, past, present and future. Literally. https://www.freedominthought.com/archive/this-is-why-you-feel-what-you-feel-how-emotions-are-made And we actually have far more emotions than we actually realize in a given moment. We just aren't aware of them, because our awareness is, for a lack of a better way of explaining i…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/20 07:21 PM
0	Red pill convinced me I might be too ugly for love. is it true? When I met my wife I was 280 and I am 5"9'. I eventually got up over 330. I have since lost weight... The point being don't believe that your looks have anything to do with anything. Attraction is about preference. Some people prefer chocolate. Others prefer vanilla. And some folks prefer pistachio, and there are even people who just don't like ice cream. And none of that is indicative of the value of your preference versus someone else's. The saying, "there is no accounting for taste" is saying…	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/20 12:24 AM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled If it was about being a better person... wouldn't that mean being kinder, more compassionate, more honest, and more yourself? And the "best" partner is defined HOW exactly? What does it mean to have the best partner in a relationship? That's assigning relative value to a person, but that's value for YOU, not their actual value as a human being. And what someone means to you largely depends on what you mean to yourself. Your relationships, all of them, are reflections of your relationship with yo…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/20 06:27 PM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled It sounds like you two have a wonderful relationship where you are both very communicative. That's EVERYTHING! Trust, communication, and boundaries! I can say that for me, once I was not worried that our relationship might end because she was willing to give up her dreams of a wedding to be with me, the next question that followed was, "If I'm not worried about divorce and marriage would make her happy, why NOT get married?" And since I didn't have any good reasons outside of the expense and pap…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/20 06:01 PM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled Men do not learn to be more "alpha" with the Red Pill. That's the promise, but that's not the result. Men learn to become assholish cowards with the Red Pill - it's just branded as "Alpha". They also don't learn to become more successful with women, unless you consider using a woman for masturbation "success". Sleeping with a woman by being an asshole and emotionally manipulating her doesn't make you more desirable or a better person. It makes you a coward who is too scared to be himself because…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/20 05:45 PM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled I will second this. I consider my boundaries a GIFT I give others. I assume they want me to be happy and comfortable. When I am not clear about what will make me happy and comfortable, that makes people uncertain how to make me happy and comfortable. And when they are uncertain, they have a harder time being happy and comfortable around me. So my boundaries, my feelings, these are gifts. And they are also my responsibility to deal with. I can simply let people know my preferences, and they will …	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/20 04:23 PM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled Wrong. You are just wrong. That is like saying you jumped off of a bridge because all of your friends did. Nobody is responsible for your actions except for you. And nobody else's actions dictate your own, unless you are saying you aren't man enough to make your own choices. Your behavior is not and should not be contingent on someone else's actions. If someone acts shitty, you don't have to. And the problem with the Red Pill is that it's all about being a generally shitty person. I'm not a …	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/20 04:15 PM
1	I feel weird knowing my SO used to be redpilled Just like being a red-piller is a result of distorted thoughts about women, your anxiety is a result of your own feelings, not his actions. Recognize that he is not this way, and that your fear that he is going to "revert" is a prediction about the future that by your own admission is already unlikely. Growing means becoming more of who we are. And maturing really means becoming more of who we want to be. Have you grown? Have you matured? Was there a time where you had ideas and beliefs that you…	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/20 07:10 PM
1	They say females will NEVER date down... is it always true? Happy to provide value. And it's not just you that does this. We all do. We just don't do this forever. Growing, maturing, learning - these are ways we all change. But we don't become different people. We simply become more than we were. Trees gain rings. We gain the perspective that only time can provide. You are looking for perspective, and using it to become the best version of yourself. That's why Red Pill is appealing to you, and it's also why you are here. Because you have matured and lear…	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/20 02:01 PM
5	They say females will NEVER date down... is it always true? There is no "dating down". Did you know that they did a study regarding body odor, and when women found the man attractive, his body odor smelled good. But if they weren't, it would smell bad. And women don't tend to be as visually oriented in terms of what aroused them. Tends to, mind you. Not all women. Just more often than sometimes. Attraction is fundamentally no different from ice cream flavors. It's arbitrary. Mostly a matter of taste, rarity, security, and plain old good luck. We don't ha…	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/20 05:41 AM
6	Caught feelings for a redpilled man, not dure what to do. The answer is always the same. Just. Be. Honest. Relationships are built on trust, communication, and compassionately enforced boundaries. You like him, start there. Trust that you can be yourself around him. Trust him with the truth, your concerns, and your feelings. Set boundaries around the trip and make them clear. Make them requests too. Your boundaries should always be respected, but asking and getting agreement around boundaries is better than demanding. Certainly one is more effective. P…	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/20 08:32 AM
4	I feel so bad.... 17yo m It's way easier to be brainwashed at 17. It's a developmental thing, and it has to relate to emotions and leadership, and why people follow movements they don't fully understand. Leadership is certainty by proxy, and red pill messaging seems really certain, which is really appealing and comforting when you are 17, confused, and are still figuring out what your life will be like 20 years from now.	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/20 03:44 PM
2	I feel so bad.... 17yo m You are not your decisions. You are who you try to be everyday based on what you have learned yesterday. To be the person you are today, you had to make some mistakes. You had to make some bad decisions to see those consequences and learn from them. So you are not the decisions you regret. You are what you choose to do about your circumstances now. These things happened. You can't change them. You aren't happy with where things are at. So - what do you want to do about that, accepting that you c…	/r/ExRedPill	05/01/20 03:40 PM
4	What made you spit the pill Happy to hear I provided value. :) Nobody gets out of life alive brother. We are all here, so we might as well help each other in anyway I can. I might not be here today, with these few words that you found edifying, were it not for help from other strangers that I encountered when I had nothing and no one else. Today I helped you... Tomorrow you may help someone else. There are no random people. Everything has the meaning you ascribe to it. Even people whom you have never met. You mean everythi…	/r/ExRedPill	04/01/20 04:18 AM
21	What made you spit the pill The understanding that anger is based in fear, and that I was starting to have my identity shaped by my cowardice and insecurities as a result of this fear-based philosophy masquerading as justified anger. I go into more detail here: “Emotions As Information and Language…” by Tomo Albanese https://link.medium.com/FJYDxTbUW2 But essentially: Emotions are predictions about reality created by our brains, and are largely self-taught. Our predictions are pretty good in general, but are far from perfe…	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/20 02:52 PM
2	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. You might consider that perhaps it takes pain to cause someone to act like an asshole. Pain, or a limitation of intellect.	/r/ExRedPill	31/12/19 08:06 AM
6	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Then pay for a hooker, go on tinder, or go to a gay bar. It doesn't sound like you just want sex, because the things you are complaining about aren't sex. They are relationship stuff, and self esteem stuff. You keep talking about sex as if by having sex these other problems would go away. But that's not true. They are still there. Just like drugs, and food, sex can be a great escape for people. But not dealing with your problems means that your escape is only momentary. Escape into sex, but when…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:22 PM
19	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. So, let me put it this way. If a dude wanted sex from you, and was really nice to you, and did things you wanted to do, would you give him sex? Would you feel you owed it to him if he was being really nice to you and asked you nicely to suck his cock? If not, if you think that would be unreasonable to expect, wouldn't that be true for expecting that of a woman? Sex is like baseball, D&D, chess, and poker. It's fun, they are activities you can do with friends, but because they take time who you d…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:15 PM
3	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. It is not easy. It just seems that way. And sex without a relationship is just friction. Touch is important, but its not sex. Confusing sex with a relationship - that's part of your problem. They are different things.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:12 PM
6	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Therapy is like dieting - and as someone who just lost 82 pounds and has struggled with weight since I was a teen, let me tell you dude... It's not a short term thing. You have to do it over a long time, because emotional issues (and schizophrenia in particular) are ROUGH to deal with. For example, did you know that with schizophrenia, your distorted thoughts sound more REAL to you than they do for other people? Part of the thing with schizophrenia is that you have a more difficult time RECO…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:11 PM
5	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. By some standards I'm an SJW. I don't care that you are a white heterosexual male. I care that you are a human being in pain. People that have anger have fear. People that have fear have pain. People that have pain aren't healthy. Hurt people hurt people. And healthy people help people. This sub is mostly made up of men who were in so much pain they swallowed the "red pill" before realizing that it wasn't the medicine they needed but more of the poison that is the source of their actual …	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 05:04 PM
8	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Noone chooses their limitations. Why would you choose ANY, let alone the ones you have that are obstacles to the life you wish. But here's a fact for you... There are at least a billion people who would happily switch lives with you RIGHT NOW. Including having THIS as a problem. Think about that for a moment. Really appreciate that as shitty as things might seem right now, at least a BILLION people would trade places with you. How much shittier must their lives be? How amazing must your life be …	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 04:56 PM
12	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Get to know these and recognize how many you have just in this post: https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/ Your problem isn't that you have obstacles, it is that you are ashamed of them rather than simply feeling guilty: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en You do not have to feel this way: https://www.ted.com/talks/lisa_feldman_barrett_you_aren_t_at_the_mercy_of_your_emotions_your_brain_creates_them?language=en I am also linking to y…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 03:49 PM
18	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Gotcha, that's all rough bud, but here's the good news - you are not as bad off as you feel. Some of this is straight-up distorted thinking, which while this feels really real and the suckage of the experience is CERTAINLY real, most of it is just your brain and your feelings getting in the way of your best life. And the BETTER news is that this isn't your fault, it's normal, and it's just a fact of being human that our brains will take us off course like this in rather predictable ways. For exa…	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 03:44 PM
16	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. So did YOU go to the psych hospital and get diagnosed with a serious mental illness, or did the girl? That wasn't clear from your post? So, let me see if I got this straight - you're 27, and the last time you had sex was when you were 23. And mostly your big problem as you understand it is low-self esteem and low confidence in terms of approaching girls. And of course, like anyone, you would like to be with someone "hot", because attractive people are attractive, is that about right?	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 03:26 PM
11	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not. Context might help here. How old are you and have you ever had sex? These two points can have a big impact on how reasonable your expectations are and to what extent your thoughts are distorted and unhealthy.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/19 03:09 PM
2	Can anyone relate to this or am I alone here? This post begs the question - what do you mean when you say that you have become a Communist. What does "being a Communist" mean to you? The trouble with using labels to describe what you mean is that if you're understanding of the label is different than mine, I might have no idea what you actually mean. Can you elaborate on what your beliefs were, and how they changed? Take three core points. Perhaps describe it in values or specific policies?	/r/ExRedPill	19/12/19 05:21 AM
1	I'm a MAN who worked in CHILDCARE.. What a mistake that was! Of course not. Let's see... Once I had the temerity in a discussion to suggest that we do not need more sexual harassment laws, we need more solutions for mediation, education on social skills, and enforcement of existing ones. For that I was labeled a rape apologist and was threatened with doxxing, the whole witch-hunt. It was, super awesome. Also, I'm "ethnic" enough to have been accused of stealing. I had a 2 night stand with a girl and she burned me in effigy when I stopped answering her cal…	/r/MGTOW	14/12/19 05:05 AM
-3	Free men don't date. Trauma is often expressed by the irrational belief that a negative experience is more common than it actually is. I have no need to justify my happiness to your cynical catastrophizing of circumstances you are obviously and necessarily ignorant of in their entirety. This is not a debate. This is a fact. Rather than questioning my conclusion regarding my life because of the pain and resulting distorted thinking in yours, you might instead consider the idea that the effort of being angry over anyt…	/r/MGTOW	14/12/19 04:44 AM
-5	Free men don't date. I feel sad for you that you think peace requires solitude. Peace is the security of certainty. I create Peace in my environment because I am happy enough with who I am that my equanimity is not easily influenced by someone else's wounds. My peace is embedded in the very framework of my identity... Peace can be solid instead of fragile.	/r/MGTOW	14/12/19 02:00 AM
-10	Free men don't date. Because I'm a man and I'll go where I want. That's the point of MGTOW, right? To go your own way? Reason makes slaves of us all. Perhaps you are not as free as you think you are. Perhaps you are simply a slave to a master you have yet to become aware of.	/r/MGTOW	14/12/19 12:54 AM
0	I'm a MAN who worked in CHILDCARE.. What a mistake that was! Well I can TOTALLY understand that my dude. Kids can be... really fucking weird to deal with, especially when you meet them for the first time. But they are ultimately pretty simple to understand. They crave discipline and structure, because they are learning about reality by absorbing patterns which they will eventually use to build a framework for cause and effect type thinking. So, as long as you are consistent with them, they will feel really safe with you, and that's actually enough all by …	/r/MGTOW	14/12/19 12:15 AM
2	I'm a MAN who worked in CHILDCARE.. What a mistake that was! Again... I ran a daycare. I've never had a problem with kids liking me. Oh, some take a bit longer to warm up to you than others, and yes some kids are oppositional-defiant, but that's very different from them not liking you. That's like an actual personality disorder, and if you know what you are doing it can be handled. Most teachers, unfortunately, simply aren't resourced in terms of time to be able to deal with an issue like that because they have 40 other kids to take care of. But I've neve…	/r/MGTOW	13/12/19 11:29 PM
-2	I'm a MAN who worked in CHILDCARE.. What a mistake that was! Interesting assumptions - but no, I have been falsely accused before. Not fun. And no, I don't expect him to submit to my judgment - I'm online and I posted skepticism because I'm skeptical and why. If he chooses to respond to my reasonable, skeptical attitude of a post on Reddit made by what is to me a complete stranger... groovy. If not... also groovy. That I'm skeptical that this is the full story, that I'm suspicious that things aren't as he says is my attitude. What does a skeptical attitud…	/r/MGTOW	13/12/19 04:15 PM
-10	I'm a MAN who worked in CHILDCARE.. What a mistake that was! I ran a daycare for a year. I find your post suspicious honestly. You were fired. You don't say why, but you mention someone was taking notes. Kids will like anyone if you give them attention. And they will adore you if you let them do what they want. But that doesn't mean you were good at the job itself. Taking care of kids in a pack like that requires consistent boundaries and vigilance for dishonesty and manipulation because kids often don't even realize themselves that they are doing things …	/r/MGTOW	13/12/19 01:26 PM
-1	LOL. Women basically denies sex with husband for 7 years and this happens I don't think that makes the sort of point you want it to make.	/r/MGTOW	01/12/19 08:10 PM
0	LOL. Women basically denies sex with husband for 7 years and this happens So... this woman is clearly an idiot. 7 years dead bedroom, infidelity, and... Another redditor in that thread pointed out that the poster (who could be a man or a woman) is constantly making posts about this and seemingly has no idea how long she has been married. Meaning it's bullshit. But it is certainly believable bullshit. The tragedy here is how many dude's I see bagging on women like this shit is normal. Let me tell you, it isn't. I don't have problems like this with women. Yes, bitches b…	/r/MGTOW	01/12/19 03:45 PM
-48	LOL. Women basically denies sex with husband for 7 years and this happens 38 Updoots? Sigh so there is a strong contingent of Trump supporters on this Sub then? That's depressing.	/r/MGTOW	01/12/19 03:21 PM
3	Alright I'm joining you guys So... you don't have to go full MRA to find the shit in here that makes sense. Certainly while Feminist heavy groups can be pretty toxic for guys like yourself, they don't define those groups any more than the really toxic myogynisits define this one. There really is a happy medium out there, without having to "pick sides", which is ultimately healthier for you as an individual. In fact, I should point out that what made those groups so intolerable for you is that the middle - which is represent…	/r/MensRights	23/09/19 04:49 PM
3	Women do stuff like this and wonder why the left is losing ground... What movement am I allegedly promoting? What evidence do you have that it is not a tiny minority? Your problem is that your reply to me is hypocritical. As far as I know, it's a tiny minority. I listen to folks on both sides of this debate, and idiots are on both sides, and they are tiny minorities of both groups. Vocal minorities, but tiny. I am not "downplaying" anything. I believe, genuinely, that it is a tiny minority, for reasons that you are ignorant of and never asked about. Downplaying s…	/r/MensRights	15/09/19 09:30 PM
4	Women do stuff like this and wonder why the left is losing ground... Curious - most people in this sub are aware that this potato logic is only held up by a tiny minority, correct?	/r/MensRights	15/09/19 02:51 PM
6	I know it’s a meme and all but this shit hit me hard The only mental gymnastics here is that when you see guys clearly in pain because they feel unnapreciated in their personal lives is why you think angrily chastising anyone about how they feel is supposed to be helpful. Sounds to me like you not only disagree, you have been in so much pain for so long that you don't feel like you deserve better. And that is the saddest thing about this post. Not the guy in the OP's response. Not the thousands of people that can relate to this. But how appropriat…	/r/MensRights	18/08/19 04:29 PM
-3	I know it’s a meme and all but this shit hit me hard This explains quite a bit, that this is a meme and it's got this many upvotes. I am very fortunate to not be typical in a number of ways. I was planned. Like literally I have been told the story of how I was planned and prayed for and quite literally am an answer to their prayers. My parents put me in everything, so I have a wide variety of experiences in stuff that I am not necessarily interested in. And I am generally good enough to get complimented on how quickly I learn things, how much I kn…	/r/MensRights	18/08/19 04:21 PM
1	Wage Gap? Woof... r/selfawarewolves material right there. And honestly the arguments on this do work well from both sides because our data is not ideal for determining the current state of the wage gap. It could be (and likely is) different in different industries, and doing a holistic view of all professions by gender eschews the nuance necessary to determine the PERCENTAGE OF FIELDS where gender bias plays a role in different industries. Honestly what's always driven me nuts about this debate is h…	/r/MensRights	14/08/19 05:37 PM
1	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws u/selfawarewolves	/r/MensRights	15/06/19 03:28 PM
1	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws Great, so you agree that the right to abort is not an extra right that a man doesn't have, which is a direct falsification of a major premise in this meme. Termination of a pregnancy is irrelevant to the discussion of financial obligation for a child. Glad we're on the same page about that.	/r/MensRights	15/06/19 02:51 PM
1	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws I really don't understand what you find so difficult to comprehend here. It would be nice if you actually falsified my specific statements, which would be a rational rebuttal, rather than just reasserting baseless statements. Your entire reply is effectively, "Nu uh! Because -[insert mindless repetition of the same points rather than contradicting mine)." Perhaps you never learned this, but if you disagree with someone, the only way to PROVE you are right, is by showing how their statement is no…	/r/MensRights	15/06/19 02:39 PM
0	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws What?! No. I specifically point out how this is true even if the fetus is a person with its own rights. There's no mental gymnastics here. It's pretty straightforward... honestly this seems so incredibly SIMPLE to me I'm concerned that you would misrepresent it so badly... If you have sex, and a kid happens, both the mom and the dad are EQUALLY responsible for that child. The money that can be demanded is for the child, and legally a man can fight for full custody and demand financial support fr…	/r/MensRights	15/06/19 01:23 AM
-2	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws It's different because unless this is described in some legal precedent or case law that I'm unaware of, his premise is faulty. And that's why I keep disagreeing with you, because you are speaking as if the premise is true. It isn't. It's a straw-man. The reality is that both the man and the woman are equally responsible for supporting any child born as a result of a sexual encounter between them. They are both equally entitled to parental rights, rights which can be taken away by the courts…	/r/MensRights	15/06/19 01:16 AM
-2	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws I don't "gloss over it". I directly point out that they are two separate issues. Abortion is about bodily autonomy. Think of it this way. If a fetus is a "person," then it has a right to life. That is the premise of "pro-life" positions, right? Well, if the fetus is a person, then it has the same rights as both the mom and the dad. Not more rights, and not less. Equal. Just like if you stab a baby in the kidneys, and you happen to be the only available organ donor, even should you get murd…	/r/MensRights	14/06/19 11:59 PM
-2	Is consent to sex consent to reproduce? \| A key legal right that women have but which is explicitly denied to men by our current laws IANAL, but there is a point being missed here. Men have no say in abortion for the same reason that a fetus doesn't get a right to a woman's body - bodily autonomy. There is no contradiction here between the idea that consenting to sex is not consenting to reproduce. But when a baby is born, then that baby needs to be provided for, and both parents are responsible, unless they voluntarily give up their parental rights. If potential dad decided that they wanted to give up their parental right…	/r/MensRights	14/06/19 07:59 PM
1	Men are tired of being husbands by proxy for NO benefit or husbands directly for SLAVE benefits. Women seek out men with power and resources, so stop giving yours away for free. Interestingly enough, when I realized that and stopped pulling that bullshit, my appeal with women went way up, and suddenly I was not just hooking up with chicks, I was also just having really great, platonic friendships with them. Some of them I think of as my sisters to this day. I'd take a bullet for them, and they'd take a bullet for me. There are certainly women that seem like they are only attracted to assholes that will use and abuse them. There are certainly women who will lead men on…	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	17/04/19 07:04 PM
1	Men are tired of being husbands by proxy for NO benefit or husbands directly for SLAVE benefits. Women seek out men with power and resources, so stop giving yours away for free. I'm a 37 year old married man. My wife just turned 30. I have been married for a year, and had been dating my now wife for 9 years. The first 7 years of our relationship, she was going to college full time. She either wasn't working, or bringing in such a pittance I couldn't even wipe my ass with it. She had no previous work experience, and had never been in a relationship with anyone before we met. She was far less experienced in many ways compared to me, and so, she didn't really have a resp…	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	17/04/19 07:04 PM
2	Man who contributed 850,000 out of 900,000 lines of code vs woman who added other programmers' code. Guess who gets the credit for the black hole image? The media does it's best. It's not easy, life is complicated. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/11/science/katie-bouman-black-hole.html	/r/MensRights	12/04/19 01:33 AM
0	Man who contributed 850,000 out of 900,000 lines of code vs woman who added other programmers' code. Guess who gets the credit for the black hole image? I'm just calling it like it is. Not saying how it ought to be. The facts don't care about morality or preferences. They are what they are. That woman didn't make the media business model dependent on interest rather than utility. Neither did that guy. And neither did I. It just is. You want to change something, you first need to understand it. Projecting your frustrations with reality onto my description of it is just another form of killing the messenger. It's no different than what the media d…	/r/MensRights	12/04/19 12:38 AM
1	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... You don't choose curiosity - you don't choose fear. Curiosity is a result of uncertainty. Fear is a result of uncertainty of safety. You don't need to be curious or afraid... ideas either predict reality or they don't. The more reliably they predict reality, the more useful those ideas are. The trick is realizing when you are creating a reality you don't prefer because you are too scared to question your own assumptions. If I am wrong, I still have amazing and fulfilling relationships with both …	/r/MensRights	12/04/19 12:28 AM
-11	Man who contributed 850,000 out of 900,000 lines of code vs woman who added other programmers' code. Guess who gets the credit for the black hole image? It will end when it becomes normal, and it's not a big deal. Honestly, the best thing that could happen for equality is for the world to become burnt out by female accomplishment because it's no longer special. Once it's no longer special, everyone can go back to focusing on competing against themselves rather than groups competing against each other. No story begins, "And they all lived happily ever after." The media is in the business of telling stories that are based in truth. But if the …	/r/MensRights	11/04/19 08:10 PM
1	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... You ask some interesting questions. They may have been rhetorical, but I will answer them anyway. "Why should I care about her, really?" I don't know who you are talking about. Women, as a group, are no more homogeneous than men are. Should is a word implying moral obligation. Caring, is a word about your emotions. Moral obligation to a person and how you feel about a person are distinct things. Our moral obligations are about the standards of kindness and compassion we want to hold ourselves to…	/r/MensRights	11/04/19 01:32 PM
1	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... If you don't have certainty of outcome, perhaps you don't understand women as well as you think you do. People are not mysterious. They might think they are, but they aren't. You clearly have been hurt. I am sorry for that. Unless you can explain why I have had different experiences with women than you have, perhaps the differences stem from the differences in our expectations.	/r/MensRights	11/04/19 12:28 PM
1	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... I have not experienced this as true in my friendships with women. With my ADHD, when I was in high school, I was incredibly disorganized. I had the messiest backpack you could imagine. It was so bad that my parents offered to buy me a car if I would just be able to keep my backpack from becoming a rat's nest of papers. I couldn't do it, not even for a car. Lucky for me, my female friend would on the daily organize my backpack for me. She did this for no other reason than the fact that while I wa…	/r/MensRights	11/04/19 12:19 PM
2	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... Maybe you will. :) And yes, guilty as charged. I wrote that as a guide to help some folks I coach improve their copywriting and then threw it up on Amazon. I've ghostwritten a bunch of other stuff and I now run a writing company. So yes, I have a bit of practice with the written word, thank you for noticing.	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 10:23 PM
2	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... It's an unfortunate byproduct of how media is monetized. The industry needs a new revenue model, and they'll find it with block-chain. But... that's a WHOLE other topic not germane to this thread. :p But kudos to you for understanding why citation is valuable in spite of how poorly laws are structured around it. I prefer US copyright laws marginally, but the only constant is change. Maybe you'll be the reason it changes for the better. ;)	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 10:04 PM
2	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... If you'd like - this account isn't really "anonymous". I'm easily Googled under Tomo Albanese. :) But thanks for not plagiarizing. :p	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 09:57 PM
2	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... Lol. Just living my best life. I have learned more about happiness by helping others find equanimity than I have by self-interest. I've partied with billionaires... and I have been homeless. So, my perspective is sometimes of value, because it has helped me prioritize what is truly meaningful. So, like was done for me when I was in need, I do what I can for others. I pay the kindness I have received forward. Hopefully you will too. Love and pain are both contagious. In each moment we can choose …	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 09:51 PM
2	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... Glad it had value. Just try and remember... hurt people hurt people. Healthy people help people. If the only way someone can explain the motivations of someone else is by making them look like the bad guy... their view of the world is distorted by fear. Reality requires that MOST people believe they are good people doing the best they can with the obstacles unique to their circumstances. No one believes they are an asshole. Everyone believes their behavior is reasonable. That goes for health…	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 09:36 PM
3	guys it's that easy...just dont touch them... What did I just read here? Some dude hooked up with a girl you like for bragging rights, and she believed it was something more. When she found out it was all a lie, she reasonably felt betrayed, and so now she has trust issues. What does that have to do with you being honest with her about how you feel? If she is your friend, and she wants nothing more, will you still want to be her friend? If yes, rejection will hurt, but you can still be her friend. I was just friends with girls I was attract…	/r/MensRights	10/04/19 01:08 PM
1	#equality This is clever marketing (so long as their target demographic is women). Beyond that... meh. If this wasn't so badly photoshopped I might say "nice tits".	/r/MensRights	09/04/19 06:05 PM
1	And her friends support her behavior Yeesh dude. "As common as genuine rape accusations". I know LOTS of women that have been raped, and never reported it. I only found out because I am really close friends with them. I know a few men that have been raped, and though my friendships are just as close with both my male and female friends, women just have more experiences. What is especially disturbing is that some of these women have been raped multiple times by different men or groups of men. My wife is a counselor. She deals with c…	/r/MensRights	31/03/19 03:09 PM
1	And her friends support her behavior So you are saying that feminists don't misrepresent men by claiming that 1 psycho dude is indicative of a trend? I see this shit all the time. In fact, I have also been mistaken as a woman online. Let me tell you, as someone who has been attacked online by both groups - I really don't see a difference.	/r/MensRights	31/03/19 02:37 PM
1	And her friends support her behavior Look at the letters. It's obvious Photoshop. Of course there are people this psycho, men and women both. But in our zeal to get justice for men, we shouldn't perpetuate obvious falsehoods like this one. We don't need to make women or the world worse than it is to work towards making it better. There are shitty women out there - but it's shit like this which demonstrates that Men's Rights Activists are guilty of the same cognitive distortions as feminists. Because that's exactly what posts like t…	/r/MensRights	31/03/19 01:52 PM
0	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? I separate what the public does from what the legal processes are, and what the media does. Idiots make up about 20% of every group. And idiots tend to be the most outspoken members of those groups. And people in general are not really great at having nuanced ideas about the groups they don't belong to. And the media today relies on the conflict that emerges from that lack of nuance between groups, which is catalyzed by the idiots of both groups, to make money. You want to change the media, you …	/r/MensRights	28/03/19 05:20 PM
0	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? In the beginning I absolutely did. When I heard about the first 4 or 5 victims, I was all... "A famous black dude getting accused of rape? Yup... could totally be bullshit." But then another victim came forward. And another. And another. By victim 12, with some of them being people who did not need money or fame... continued skepticism seemed unreasonable. I stopped paying attention around victim 20. And thanks for the screenshot, now we're getting somewhere. I believe him. No reason to lie abou…	/r/MensRights	28/03/19 01:18 PM
0	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? I am not a "believe all victims without question," advocate. I am a "trust but verify," advocate. So... We don't know that the condom was used for sex with him, sex with someone else while he was passed out, or with some semen like substance in the condom to make the dude feel like he got something for his troubles. We just don't know. Heck, I don't even know if you made this up yourself, there's no citation, and I don't care about any of this enough to Google it. And yes, if this is true, this …	/r/MensRights	28/03/19 12:59 PM
10	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? Or option C - ignore your stupid gotcha ultimatum because if you really think that heresay is the only reason he got convicted, your opinion on the matter is not worth my time. So, either provide evidence that hearsay is the only evidence used to support a conviction or enjoy arguing with yourself and your hand, as I assume you are used to that sort of company.	/r/MensRights	28/03/19 01:06 AM
11	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? I hate stupid gotcha questions like this. What is the evidence on Cardi B? Don't have any? Must be the same thing, hur hur. There was a trial. There are like, 20, 30 different victims. Many of those victims had no reason to lie. Whatever evidence he was convicted on is in court filings. If you want to personally investigate the entire trial because you think Bill Cosby was railroaded, you should start there. But I have no reason to believe that Cosby didn't have the best legal defense money coul…	/r/MensRights	27/03/19 11:50 PM
27	Will society forgive Cosby if his gender switches? Cosby is a serial rapist. Cardi B is a thief. I hope, if she DID actually do this to someone, that they press charges against her, etc. But Bill Cosby had charges pressed against him. He was taken to court. He had evidence against him, and that's why he went to jail. Because the evidence that he is a serial rapist was beyond a reasonable doubt. Who would press charges against her? Who is claiming to be a victim of Cardi B? What evidence does any law enforcement agency have that could not…	/r/MensRights	27/03/19 11:02 PM
-5	Feminists want all the rights and none of the responsibilities Which would be all well and good if that was in the CHILD's best interest. It doesn't matter if one party wants the child, and the other doesn't. Kids need a basic level of support if they have a shot at not growing up as burdens to the rest of society. They didn't ask to be born into this situation. So this isn't about men's rights, or women's rights. Child support is about supporting children. Period. If guy's want to send less money, invest more TIME into the kid. That is an option. But not s…	/r/MensRights	24/03/19 02:57 PM
-6	Feminists want all the rights and none of the responsibilities In principle I agree with you, but I don't see it as feminists being the only guilty party. We've got extremists on both sides. Feminists make some fair points. They also have some crazy extremists. MRA's make some fair points. We also have some crazy extremists. Honestly, I am sick of the demonization common to both sides, and since I am not a feminist, I have fuck all I can say in those circles. But as a man, on threads like these, speaking as a man, when I see people connecting consent to abo…	/r/MensRights	24/03/19 02:25 PM
-3	Feminists want all the rights and none of the responsibilities Ugh... Consent to sex is one issue. There is nothing about consenting to sex that is a problem for men's rights. Abortion is another issue. It just has to do with whether or not a woman is required to let another person use her body for medical reasons. This too, has very little to do with men's rights. It would be like if a woman sued a man for access to his sperm. Child support is another issue. A child, meaning a human being that has been born, needs to be taken care of. If a woman chooses to…	/r/MensRights	24/03/19 02:08 PM
7	Teacher obligates students to do this project and explain why everybody should be feminist There is actually a really solid argument why men CANNOT be feminists, and this is a feminist argument. “No, Men Cannot Be Feminists.” by Louelle Denor https://link.medium.com/McoiYXHP4U “Men Can’t Be Feminists” by Bisi Alimi https://link.medium.com/xPP6bcxP4U So... why not do your essay on everyone should be feminists, based on the egalitarian argument, but that men cannot because it is actually disempowering for men to insert themselves into the conversation about female empowerment, as that i…	/r/MensRights	15/03/19 12:31 PM
3	If people can say that the reason the suicide rate among transexuals is so high because of the way society treats them. Then its perfectly acceptable to apply the same logic to suicide among men That is not the FULL reason for why transsexuals have higher suicidality though. The reason is manifold, which is why suicidality decreases in proportion to how easily a trans person can "pass" (i.e. how early before puberty do they transition). The reason people commit suicide is to escape from their suffering. People with Gender Dysphoria are unhappy with their bodies because their brains are the opposite gender from their bodies, and that shit is inescapable. Men CAN be suicidal because…	/r/MensRights	28/02/19 07:23 PM
6	Literally any behaviour is becoming harshly criminalized in 2019? Good call. As a dude, I'm all about justice, and we certainly get screwed very differently from the way women get screwed. I think it's all systemic, and it's a system that was built long before any of us had a chance to vote on whether all the parts work the way they should. Clearly they don't. Women are getting hurt. Men are getting hurt. Trans people are getting hurt. All sorts of people are getting treated like they aren't important, in various circumstances, all because as a species w…	/r/MensRights	26/02/19 12:27 AM
1	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. Agreed on the last point especially. I used to be pretty anti-feminist because there is a lot of bigoted feminists online, and having a discussion typically devolved into accusations that I'm a misogynist, etc. But unlike White Nationalists, not everything that you read online regarding what Feminism IS meets up to the controversy. I don't agree with every single point, but that's true in general regarding pretty much any source of information. Some good, some bad, some a bit too specific or a b…	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 04:10 PM
1	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. Fair enough. Agree with anyone who would rather be certain before broadcasting an opinion. Kudos.	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 03:16 PM
0	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. I would absolutely agree that MRA in general isn't bad. But we do have some fucked up people in both groups, and the animosity isn't doing anyone any favors.	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 03:09 PM
-1	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. A Voice For Men (aren't they White Nationalists now too?) - most of the PUA community, the packs of roving trolls doxxing people, threatening rape, etc. My point, which you seemed to have missed, is that the bigger the group is, the more shitty people they have. The more heroes they have too. You seem DRIVEN to only see the worst in all feminists. Seems fucking pointless. You absolutely will find what you are looking for - be it the truth, or a reason to hate.	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 02:55 PM
-2	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. That is just as flawed as asking for the number of feminists murdering men for being men and showing this: https://www.thedailybeast.com/alek-minassian-elliot-rodger-toronto-van-murder-mens-rights-incel-mra You don't like feminists that advocate for that sort of thing? Neither do I. It's just as easy for you to dismiss ahole incel murderers as it is for feminists to dismiss the toxic members of their ranks. I mean, you can dredge for the worst members of both groups, or you can compare the best …	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 06:46 AM
4	"Feminism is beneficial to men too," they say as they drink from their 'male tears' cup. Honestly, threads like this are essentially the same thing as bullshit like that. Some feminists are toxic. Some dudes are toxic. Some MRA supporters are toxic. People can be fucking toxic, and every group should have a culture where you can LAMPOON the other side to let off some steam, while still anchoring into the fact that no group should be defined by their shittiest members. I just don't have it in me to make fun of feminists or MRA's - even though there is plenty of shitty people in b…	/r/MensRights	19/02/19 12:18 AM
-8	If it’s socially acceptable for women to put “Sorry, no short men” as a requirement in online dating profiles, then it should also be acceptable for men to say “Sorry, no flat-chested women”, or “no overweight women” in theirs. sigh I disagree with the framing of this post - not the reality of the circumstances being discussed. I don't think it's socially acceptable for women to post "no short men" any more than it is for men to post "no flat chested women". I think both of those actions are fairly anti-social and indicative of the maturity of the poster. The difference is that while men tend to orient themselves differently regarding their appearance (for a wide variety of reasons), than women - and so there's a big…	/r/MensRights	26/10/18 08:13 PM
2	Meet Hitler Does it though? Or does it show that a feminists have shitty members in their ranks too? notallfeminists and all that jazz.	/r/MensRights	21/10/18 02:35 PM
1	Is Male Sexual Attention Even Pleasant? If it's one thing I have learned from reading this thread is that there is no hard and fast rule. It depends on the individual. Some people love that attention, and are not as resistant or judgmental about those they might not want it from, and there is a whole spectrum to the opposite extreme. EVERYONE falls somewhere in that spectrum. I've also learned that some men and women might not have a choice in NOT being aggressive, because aggressive behavior is risky, and risky behavior can lead to g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 02:08 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Yeah, totally own that I am likely using the wrong terminology here. Dunning Kruger, I am competent enough for this to make a certain amount of sense, but not competent enough to describe precisely what sense it makes. Never denied that.	/r/MensRights	03/10/18 02:42 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Never claimed it was a mathematical certainty that held in all circumstances. I said it was a contingent certainty under specific circumstances (e.g.such as our real world circumstances). There are formulas like that, right? Like the ones for right angle triangles?	/r/MensRights	03/10/18 02:39 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Hmmm.... I see that. But TR >=< UR should likely also be true. We don't know if UR is necessarily larger for our circumstances... but there should theoretically be a way of accounting for that.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 11:13 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Yeah, I do get that. Hence why I'm saying that this formula is contingently necessarily true so long as TR+UR > 0 - which I sort of hand-waived before I started getting squirrly with the formulas. So if TR + UR > 0 than... blah.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:57 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. But I'm too pretty to do math! :p Thanks, I'll take a look at it. It's a decent analogy, but the math definitely has some issues. :p	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:42 PM
0	The Power Of Understatement. False accusations of rape and True Rapes are connected. To make an accusation of rape is to make a claim which is either false or true. To defend against such an accusation of rape is to make a claim that the accusation of rape is false. You would not, for example, make a claim that an accusation of rape is false if no such accusation occurred. However, I suppose that it is possible, but that does nothing to push the numbers in favor of false accusations occurring more frequently than true ones.…	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:41 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. No, my primary assumption is that the total number of claims that an accusation of rape is false is equal to the total number of rapes reported. So, I'm suggesting that 100% of reported rapes result in a denial that a rape occurred. That's where I begin. And then, based on the fact that some rapes of the ones reported have been proven to be true, that at least some of those rape accusations are true. And if some of those rapes are true, and some rapes go unreported, then the number of rapes whic…	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:33 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Is it really less than or equal to though? I could see TR + FR => TD + FD, because you do have a certain number of rapists that don't deny the accusations. No idea how many that is, but it could be true. But I don't see how TD <= TR + FR.... unless TR = 0 because FR = TD.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:21 PM
1	The Power Of Understatement. Oh! That would be because TR+FR = TD+FD = All Accusations TD < TR + FR	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:06 PM
-2	The Power Of Understatement. It's necessarily true within itself, but that set of truths is contingently true. So long as all the prior statements are true than the conclusion is true.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 10:01 PM
2	The Power Of Understatement. Sweet and thank you! Will update in a moment! :D	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 09:56 PM
-2	The Power Of Understatement. I'll defer to you regarding the terminology for now. As I state, I'm not great at math. And it relies on if than statements too, so it's only provisionally true based on the truth of its supporting assumptions.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 09:52 PM
-4	The Power Of Understatement. Well... this isn't about how many false claims there are. This is just a proof that there are less false accusations than there are actual rapes which have occurred. I mean, we need a lot more research, but logically, it makes sense that there would be fewer actual false accusations of rape than there are actual rapes. Maybe you think I'm simply stating the obvious? I assure you, I crafted that today because someone was saying that false accusations happen MORE FREQUENTLY than actual rapes.	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 09:44 PM
-3	The Power Of Understatement. Ok, so I agree that false accusations occur. But I think... I think I have mathematically proven that false accusations against men necessarily occur less frequently than the number of actual rapes (in general) and raping of women more specifically. Please, please, please let me know if I got this wrong: In other words - people accused of rape, whether that accusation be true or false - must necessarily deny the rape occurred. So, by necessity, there are more untrue claims that a rape is a "fals…	/r/MensRights	02/10/18 09:06 PM
4	#himtoo Ok... so I feel like I may have addressed that, but let me unpack this a bit more, because I might not have explicitly stated this. Rape is a difficult to prosecute crime because by nature, there is little actual evidence to go off of. 1) Physical evidence is not proof that consent has been withheld or withdrawn 2) It is unlikely that there are eyewitnesses, especially in instances where consent has been withdrawn 3) From a legal perspective, the accused is assumed innocent until proven guilty. …	/r/MensRights	27/09/18 07:55 PM
18	#himtoo Yes, men have had their lives ruined by false accusations. Yes, this is unacceptable. But not every dude that is famous and accused is "Nelson Mandela". Brett Kavanaugh, from the evidence we've seen thus far, should be investigated. You know what would actually help reduce incidents of false accusations? Better ways of prosecuting actual rapes. I've brought this up to Feminists before, and while they will often stick to their cultural paradigms, they don't exactly disagree either. So... I'd be…	/r/MensRights	27/09/18 06:46 PM