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It appeared to me like reactive abuse. He was invalidating her so much she went nuts. You can hear on the recordings how she struggles to get out her thoughts clearly to him that he made her doubt herself so many times, and she ended up losing her ability to even argue. She lost her sanity. As someone who was in an abusive relationship she looked exactly like someone who was sensitive and was gaslit over and over until she snapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/22 02:58 PM
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I'd be turned off it were just 1 tbh. It offers no sense of security for me. Yeah you can find someone to casually have sex with and then move on but that still takes effort. I feel like if that amount of effort is too much for a man its a giant red flag and will tell me all I need to know about the relationship to come. We're allowed to have these judgments because experience has taught us what to look for.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 10:20 PM
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My vote is for Gislets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 04:17 AM
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I would think of it more that a lot of people try hard to overlook things that are red flags, and that's unfortunate for the person who does that because they're the ones living with the consequences of their blind eye. The goal isn't to find someone willing to ignore your red flags, thats red pill. The goal is to acknowledge your flags and work hard to remove them by doing introspective work. Work on yourself instead of blaming people for paying attention to the red flags and protecting themsel…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:23 PM
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Dont compare yourself to other men who are married, because you dont know if theyre (both of them) even actually happy. Most people are more concerned with their marital image than to discuss the true health of it with others, including their own friends.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 12:33 PM
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I don't really agree with how you worded this here. It sounds as though you're still condoning some mind games. Did you mean to say "take things slow" and "dont smother her"?
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 05:13 AM
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That's also why they hate us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:48 AM
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F yeah. We're not the ones who can't reach our buttcrack when we wipe. We dont support being the laziest version of anyone, man or woman. We believe in everyone being the best version of themselves and not settling for less than that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:46 AM
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Wait no! We'd HAAAAATE it!!! 😩 pleaseeee doooontt!!!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:01 AM
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Good move. Sorry this happened, I know that must have been hard. Even when the guy knows he has a problem, its still always going to e a problem. It'll always be there tempting him, and he already had severe brain damage from it so its a long road to recovery, if that's even possible. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 12:31 PM
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Ugh that's horrible... so sorry you're going through this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:06 AM
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Maybe she's dumb? I mean, this is horrible, but maybe she's too dumb to realize why? If it were me I would say, hey I really don't like this. Delete my profile please and please not share photos of me anywhere again. If she gives you a hard time or doesn't immediately apologize, she's not a good friend. I'll admit that I have done dumb things sorta (not to this level) like this before in the past, but because I was dumb and didn't realize how that would make the person feel. Im autistic though, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:32 PM
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We're talking about providing for all of our needs, not just money. I think as long as the man has a reasonable salary and is willing to step up in other areas to make himself a higher value man, that value compensates for the difference in a high earning salary wage of the woman. It just wouldn't work if the guy works at walmart and she works on wallstreet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:19 AM
3

Going to agree with this. Its hard feeling sexually frustrated but it is what it is. Many women want children and never get to have them, Some would say that that was a substantial goal of their life that they never were able to achieve. But they must go on and learn to love living their life without reaching their goal. Try getting to a place where you're happy with yourself no matter what.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/21 03:50 AM
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I agree with this. And honestly the best thing you can do is genuinely care about people outside of what you can get from them. Women are really good at detecting intentions and we dont like feeling like we're some sort of prey or conquest for sex. So make sure your intentions are pure and you're okay with being just friends with women. Friendships sometimes blossom into more, and sometimes they dont. Just dont have any hard feelings if they dont. You dont want a relationship with just anyone, y…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/21 03:43 AM
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Men don't need to be "kept" either. It's the other way around lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:49 AM
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I dont pack my husband a lunch. He makes dinner usually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:48 AM
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Fuckin yes. Lol ive even had them literally ask me why guys always fall head over heels for me. Well because I dont fall head over heels for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:45 AM
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My husband is getting rusty lately, and I had a talk that I wasn't going to ask for things anymore from him because I am tired of disappointment. I went shopping and came home with flowers, and he said ooo pretty! I said I know! Theyre for me 🥰! He said he was sorry for not buying me flowers, and i said thats ok, I really enjoy to show myself love. This man has been trying much harder to take care of me since I showed him that I am worth it because I will take care of me regardless. Show yoursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:10 PM
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Hmm sounds like pickmeisha married a NVM and had children. Poor girl....this is what happens when you perpetuate a cycle. Now her son is a NVM and lets hope her daughter didn't end up a pickmeisha too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:19 PM
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Now it is feeling like they Intentionally wrote Titanic the movie in order to attempt to rewrite history for sake of their guilty consciences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:11 PM
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Lmao so he wants all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment of one and without any effort on his part. Got it lol. Dumb scrote 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:40 AM
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Poor pickmeisha.... she hates herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:31 PM
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We knew it was bad when we saw how invested he is into video games. I'm honestly surprised he bothered to even answer her questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:54 AM
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Yes, please talk more crap about us! That way all your poor girlfriends find out we exist, thus discovering the light in the darkness! Lol I love how more and more women are putting up with less and less crap 💩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:40 PM
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This makes me want to barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:22 PM
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The whole premise of the title is to lure the pickmes in and then show them the truth! We're not bitches, we just love ourselves enough not to take any shit 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:40 PM
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Send her a link to this group. I would just say, hey im part of this awesome group and I really want you to check it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:52 AM
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We need a venn diagram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:25 PM
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I hate the word prude. It is a derogatory word designed to take away the positivity of its origin. The word prudent is defined as: acting with or showing care and thought for the future. Wow. Doesn't that say it all? What they are saying to you when they call you a prude, is that you care about your future, and you shouldn't because they dont see your future worth caring about. They see your virtues as a direct attack on the lack of theirs. They are saying that access to your body is a minor dea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:33 PM
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Im still mourning over my 20s. So much time wasted on scrotes. My wish is that every woman can save themselves sooner than I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:19 AM
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Me looking at Europe 👀👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:01 PM
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Even in my marriage I say no to my husband. Just because we are married doesn't give him rights to my body. If I am not feeling it, it doesn't happen. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:04 PM
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Don't they know we remember EVERYTHING? 😂 of course not! 💁‍♀️ they FORGET everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:53 PM
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Would you give a man you just met a key to your home? No? Than why would you give away something so valuable to him such as your body? Not only has society tried to cheapen sex, THEY CHEAPENED US! They look at us like we are pretentious for saying that our own bodies are valuable temples! I can literally see the incel eyes rolling as we say that sex with us is a gift, a VERY valuable gift that only should be shared with someone who would handle it with care and that we trust. Just like the key t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:58 AM
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This is it right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:13 AM
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Just throwing it out there, we don't actually need them to carry on as a society. The only thing we need to fertilize an egg as the x or y chromosome provided by sperm and that half of the dna attached. We coupd literally insert an egg into another egg (its been done) and the result would always be a girl. We could effectively just phase them out if we wanted to. They need us. We dont need them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:38 AM
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So this isn't exactly wholesome but needed a free award so it gets some attention. This right here is exactly why they hate the term scrote. Because it brings them into equivalency to what they value women as and they cant stand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:18 PM
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Oh they absolutely know it's degrading. That's a whole genre. They don't actually have any dignity though so they don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:10 PM
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When I used to use OLD I immediately blocked guys who asked for pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:42 PM
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I hit the reply button, I don't know if I would call that "contacting" you, but 🤷‍♀️ ok... and its kinda you who has been "splitting hairs" about it saying I am shaming her, but again 🤷‍♀️ok....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:21 PM
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I said dummy, first off, not stupid. It was a cutesy way of pointing out her dumb decision. I feel like you're spending a lot of time being overly offended over this. It was more about her action than her overall intelligence. And you did say it was "expressing her sexuality" which the comment was deleted, (and for good reason) so you did sortof condone it. Not sure why you're trying to pin me down on this so hard if your so "anti shaming"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:17 PM
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I think you're spending your energy focusing on the wrong area of my statement, but I'll clarify. Yes, its DUMB to send nudes to a guy that clearly sees you as "just a fling". You can do dumb things, and redeem yourself. Welcome to FDS, where we've all done dumb things for men yet we're on a better path now. Im not about to condone that behavior because all it does is set the standard that we fight so hard against here. If you aren't with us, you're against us. I'm not happy about women who acti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:04 PM
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I disagree. Expressing your sexuality is great, and there are many wonderful and non-degrading ways to do so. Sending men nudes is not one of those things. That's the false empowerment thing we have been talking about. Nudes aren't for us, its male fap material and it objectifies us. Its non-moving porn. And I am not shaming her, but let's not make excuses either. We need to level up also. We can't do that if we don't also hold ourselves accountable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:08 PM
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For real. There's more than one dummy in this story. Ladies please no nudes. Dont ever give these scrotes leverage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:19 AM
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I can't wait my daughter is old enough to understand how amazing she is and I am damn sure going to take her to the FDS school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:36 AM
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"That's such a coincidence! I ate a laxative today because I don't give a shit!" - what I would like to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:22 AM
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And you know what? The few women that have snapped were treated like monsters. Look up the real story of Lorena Bobbit when you can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:55 PM
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Yeah that's what I consider dad bod. My husband just acquired a little bit of softness in his belly and lovehandles. His arms, chest, and legs are still amazing. I honestly enjoy the little bit of squishness there. We got out of shape together being mutual parents so his extra weight is earned from being a great dad and partner by sacrificing his workout time to do his part. We have 2 babies under 3 so its hard to find me time, and I love that thats the reason we are out of shape, and that its n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:04 PM
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That's what it means to me. Obese bod is still obese bod lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:59 PM
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Also thank you for the compliment to my husband. He enjoys all the feedback from FDS btw. He uses the advice here for women to better himself. He is really outraged at how women are treated and has identified the effects of the patriarchy in his upbringing. His goal is to become the epitome of HVM in my life, (shh... don't tell him that's what makes him a HVM already 😂).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:52 PM
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I say we rename the latter to deadbeat bod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:20 PM
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All this just makes me hate men tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:48 AM
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I agree but there is an exception. My husband got his dad bod because he sacrificed his jujitsu training and regular workouts to do his part with our babies. He comes home from work and immediately takes over for me, and lets me take a break. He cooks dinner, and then does the dishes, then puts our son to bed. It's definitely not easy juggling a toddler and an infant. He tells me all the time how he loves my mom bod, because he sees all the sacrifice I made to be a mom in it, and that makes him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:10 AM
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I started referring to the pile of clothes my husband left on the floor as his nest, and he became self aware that he was acting like an animal by doing that and cleaned it up. He has been more conscious about leaving piles on the floor since. I wish I could say that me complaining was enough motivation prior to that, but at least his desire to not be compared to an animal motivated him. The fact this guy is proud of literally sleeping in a pile of clothes and declares it a nest is absolutely in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:16 PM
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An app would be the best thing honestly. An entire platform just for us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:16 PM
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No problem. So glad you are here! We are here for you! ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:20 AM
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The more time you waste with losers the more time you're throwing away. An HVM will know exactly how he feels about you within 1 to 3 months of dating. You should already know that he is a HVM by that time if you follow the guidelines here. If there are any, and I mean ANY red flags, you dump and don't look back. Saying that you feel pressured because of time to have children is a real emotion but that causes desperation an LVM can smell that from a mile away. You're setting yourself up to get h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:11 AM
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Literally had a "friend" help me through a break up by being someone that I could talk to. The moment I started dating someone else he got pissed at me for "using him as my emotional buffer". What the actual f...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:30 AM
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An excellent example
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:49 PM
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Yeah that and all the mediocre scrotes get the most hot beautiful women. somehow they always like the losers regardless of how much the guy is just average and shitty the entire movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:32 PM
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My mom is a pickmeisha and she tries to give me relationship advice. Lol no thanks mom. I have told her, no offense mom, but I don't want a relationship like yours. You're not really in a position to give me advice when you're ok with being treated the way you are. You allow yourself to be abused and so I can't trust that you know what's best for me when you don't even take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:27 PM
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Here's that past due recognition you deserved! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:27 AM
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The irony is hysterical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:59 PM
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I tell my husband what's bothering me but I went into defensive mode after so much lvm abuse and I have yelled at him instead. Allowing myself to be vulnerable with him has had better results. That sort of advice only works with HVM. LVM will hate you for making them feel accountable and treat your vulnerability as weakness. I have to unlearn so much shit now that I finally have a healthier relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:34 AM
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Even now this completely resonates with me. I told my husband recently that I was afraid to cry in front of him because I didn't want to annoy him with being needy or being too sensitive. I felt like he would truly be angered that I had emotions of sadness attached to his behavior. He looked at me entirely confused and said, it makes me sad that you feel sad, why would that anger me? And I realize how completely fucked my mind has been from dating shitty LVM misogynists in the past that I have b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:07 PM
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You can tell just by "lottery winner". Run far away from any man who plays the lottery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:17 AM
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100%. We cant force men to change. They have to want to. FDS 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:25 AM
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Boom! Someone promote this queen right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:27 PM
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This literally made me giddy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:44 PM
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Beards are the OG mask of mankind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:59 PM
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Theyre all bald under them hats lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:58 PM
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His sex was so bad it didn't even register as sex in your memory 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:04 PM
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It's when he he peaked. Clear warning sign that he is done growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:41 PM
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They keep pushing until they hear a yes honestly. No doesn't seem to do anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:42 PM
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I dunno. I think im about done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:52 AM
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I can confirm being single is way better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:32 PM
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Well he's a guy so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 12:24 AM
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Khakis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:37 PM
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Funny, this behavior would absolutely not work on lvw me let alone hvw me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:18 PM
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Why do they keep getting away with it? Because you let them. DONT HAVE BABIES WITH LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:49 PM
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Hahah! Glad we leveled up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:38 PM
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Thanks! meu HVM é brasileiro 😜 kkkkkk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:34 PM
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This is why I joined the sub. I followed the principles and found a HVM. Now it's my mission to save other women from NVM/LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:21 PM
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Haha i like that term. Hatfishing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:17 PM
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Both! Wearing a hat too much will damage the hair and encourage thinning hair, however most guys I know who constantly wear hats are going bald, and that's their way of hiding it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:55 AM
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Fn dude I dated who always wore a hat. Guy was BALD underneath. Like left the sides like he had a neat haircut, but he was totally bald right down the middle. Found out one day when I went to see him and he wasn't wearing a hat. My face was like 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:23 AM
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My husbands name is Dom lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:31 PM
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Lol my husbands name is Dom. But he's the sub 😉😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:30 PM
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Pass. He still lives with his mom. Jk obviously 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:21 PM
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Whoops look like a scrote was here 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:32 AM
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They're mad because of exactly what OP said. They know they cant provide that security yet they still expect to get what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:24 PM
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I got banned from breaking mom too lol what's funny is their whole "judgement free zone" statement, and then they ban people who don't align with their views. Sorry your relationship sucks Karen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:31 PM
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God this is so disgustingly true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:30 PM
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My husband also agrees with this statement. He acknowledges that everyone has standards and deserves to have them met. Men primarily want sex, women primarily want security. This isn't a secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:27 PM
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So true. My husband is short. I married him because he is a HVM, not because of his height. Tell an incel that and theyll be mad it wasn't them though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:23 PM
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That's true. When I went to meet my husband my friends gave me a hard time because I met him on the internet, so when we started dating officially I told no one because people are so critical. The next thing you know we got married and I didn't even tell a lot of people until after we were married lol I can understand not wanting to tell your friends every time you go to meet someone. My husband is a HVM thankfully, and I recognized the signs he was right away, but not everyone understood that a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:33 PM
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Haha! That's a good way of looking at it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:23 PM
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I used to write a note with the guys name and phone number, location I was going, in a book and leave it on my dresser before sneaking out to go see a guy. That way if I died they would catch him at least. Really dumb now that I think about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:53 AM
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Gospel!!!!! 🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:02 AM
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Same. Period cramps completely disappeared for me after my first born. Thank God because they used to be as bad as labor pains at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:40 PM
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Okay thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:17 PM
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Wait what did i miss!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:33 PM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 yasss queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:25 PM
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I cannot figure this one out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:42 AM
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Amen! 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:16 PM
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Here's the thing though, if you aren't on the same page STOP TRYING TO MAKE HIM. You're wasting your time and energy on the wrong guy. I know most of us have spent far too much time, YEARS even, trying to get a man to commit and be who we think he should be towards us. We wait for them to treat us the way we yearn for, so much so that even a little crumb of affection has us floating on a cloud of ecstasy. Being a pickmeisha is exactly like this. Its an addictive hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:50 PM
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Well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:41 AM
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An ex boyfriend called me thunder thighs and thought it was "cute" to tease me. I literally became unattracted to him in that moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:21 PM
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I didn't want to know this existed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:34 PM
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You can just click the hyperlink (blue text) they put in the instructions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:25 PM
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It's actually easier to moderate. We require proof you're female to be in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:19 PM
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Their logic doesn't make any sense. They also want to be part of the lgbt community. Nobody wants them in their party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:43 PM
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Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:12 PM
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On any libertarian principles site ive read were pretty clear that its only ok for consenting adults to be with each other and no one should be hurt as a result of freedoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:19 PM
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If you look over our polices we are only ok with consenting adults, and activity that doesn't hurt anyone, so pedos dont qualify
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:18 PM
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Everyone is crazy, so in order to avoid that, youd have to just be non political, which is frankly stupid. Pedos are libertarian? First im hearing of a political affiliation associated with them. Is that based iff the notion that they should be able to do whatever they want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:40 AM
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Oh man... i used to say I was perpetually setting my men up for their next girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:39 AM
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Every woman should be a libertarian whom believes women belong to no one but themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:37 AM
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I think some people just decide to have the kids so that chapter is over and done with and once they are grown they divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:40 PM
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Exactly. Complete double standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:36 PM
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One of the best things about my husband is that he doesn't judge women who are literally with a man for his money. He says that its a mutual understanding of what each other's needs are, and so there's really no problem with that. You can love someone for the needs they fulfill. A concept that people wrinkle their noses at, even though Im willing to bet they're unhappy in their relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:27 PM
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Too true. I told my mom when her boyfriend's nephew raped me and she said not to tell the family because she didn't want to create drama. Then in about 5 years she happily tells me he's getting married one day. Im like wtf? Did you forget? Why would you think I want to hear that?! My mom is a massive pickmeisha btw. She would eat shit for her boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:35 PM
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Exactly. Filled with teen this, stepmom, step brother that etc... sickening...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:30 PM
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Yep. It was the wrongness of it. Taboo is where the porn industry leads young men and very few ever return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:11 PM
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Yep. There wouldn't have been a whole "jailbait" fetish to begin with if that were true since the different is legality, not a huge age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:03 PM
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What it really means is men get off on the wrongness of things. So even if they lowered it theyd still want it to be barely ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:01 AM
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Ok but dont bring the kids into it... that's not cool to do to the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 02:25 AM
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I figure it's a tree because it bears fruit. Bushes just produce berries. I have a fully mature beautiful fruit bearing tree down there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:56 AM
25

This is why i dont shave my woman tree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:51 AM
5

Who the hell would spend 11.5 years with someone to achieve commitment? As if asking us to withstand your dragging ass feet for 11.5 years isnt one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:26 PM
36

Sometimes they're none of those things and yet we still crave their approval. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:35 AM
15

This is the embodiment of this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 07:09 PM
36

They guy who raped me in college is married with kids now. Poor girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:49 AM
34

A guy I dated told me he was an asshole and a liar, and he didn't want to date me because of that because he said he would end up hurting me. Stupid me was like 🤔 well an honest non asshole man would be humble enough to say that about himself and spare me right? 🤦🏼‍♀️ no im a dumbass. He was a liar and an asshole 😂 I should have believed him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:47 AM
21

She better let him have sex with her when he wants her too also 🙄 can't forget that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:35 AM
3

Well actually I married him because no other guy ever talked to me that long. My husband loved talking to me so much we would stay up until 2 talking every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:30 AM
21

Part of this specific sub encourages women to also better themselves to be worthy of a HVM. You must yourself be a HVW to attract a HVM. They might think we're all crawling around in rags with powdered donut dust on our upper lips yelling about men and feminism, but on the contrary we hold ourselves to the same standards we expect in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:05 AM
39

Pretty much if we have any standards at all we are labeled as shallow. Moral of the story is to not listen to what the LVM bitch and moan club says, and you go ahead and set your sights as high as you want and need, and don't EVER settle for less. At the end of the day unless you're going to marry that pos judgmental person who calls you a gold digger or shallow, (dear God no), it doesn't matter wtf they think. They're only doing you a favor by exposing themselves as a worthless individual and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:43 AM
127

This is why it isn't shallow to want a man with money. If you want a high maintenance woman you better be able to provide that maintenance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:05 PM
12

Couldn't have said it better myself. ALL OF THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:31 PM
96

"Women are complicated".... no they aren't, you're just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:33 PM
5

He literally in these words wanted me to "dress up like a whore". And not even a "classy" whore. He literally wanted me to look like a back alley crack addict prostitute. Like with the bad raccoon eyeliner and tube tops and everything. Him even asking me that made me sick to my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:42 AM
43

God i relate to this so much. 7 years i wasted with a massive pervert. 7 years as he lied to me and continued to choose porn over me. 7 years I stood by as he wanted me to degrade myself to even remotely turn him on. Those years will haunt me, and is the reason why FDS is so important to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:50 PM
27

Some women genuinely feel a stronger attraction to some sort of validation from a man who views them as unworthy of admiration. In other words, they get off on the small amounts of positive attention they get because they've been starved from approval. Its like when you dont eat all day and then when you finally do everything tastes amazing just because it's food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:12 PM
19

Me too unfortunately. Im way past my pickmeisha stage now thankfully, but I had a solid run of it for most of my life. It's my mission to try and rescue other women from the mistakes I made now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:37 PM
47

I can see why she's the ex friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:19 PM
62

Im sure she really felt like she couldn't do any better, she probably blamed herself for his behavior, made excuses for him that "that's just what men do", and also is convinced he can "change" and that he "really loves her" 🙄...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:17 PM
71

I bet you she even blamed herself for it and apologized to HIM for his behavior. This kinda crap makes me so mad to see...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:14 PM
17

Hell no. Part of my strategy is to take extra long if that happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 10:52 PM
0

He's right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:15 PM
51

Its not impossible not to watch it. My husband and I both have struggled with porn addiction. We both know its wrong, damaging, and we have a lot guilt about it. We are both Christian. We came up with a system to help us. We mark the calender every day we make it clean and confess to each other if we slip up. Its worked really well. We arent "cured" but my husband had never gone without masturbation so long in his life before. The longest I have is over a year. I have backslid since then obvious…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:21 PM
7

Mm that makes sense in many ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:12 PM
11

I like this. Thursday or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:45 PM
14

It's more than borderline. It's 100% abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:54 PM
78

This is how I got my husband to stop asking me for anal sex. I told him i would if he let me put my finger up his butt. He said ok. I gloved up and he did NOT enjoy it. Lol needless to say, that's the last I ever heard of anal sex from him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:51 PM
39

Unfortunately reddit is filled with a lot of neckbeard porn addicts, and pedophiles. Some of which are creeping on this sub as we speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:25 PM
14

I think we've lost sight of what it truly means to be a man. Being a man is supposed to be a positive thing. Unfortunately it's become hard to find a real man, because a lot of them are immature and are nothing more than hairy boys with an attitude problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:23 AM
23

At best you turn into a frog. Most turn into flies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:59 AM
24

Oof I felt that from here. Girl has the wig on and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:32 AM
3

This shit right here. This is gold standard scripture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 07:02 PM
42

I had the ex that thought I was "too beautiful" and I was going to cheat on him. His constant paranoia ruined the whole relationship because his goal was to destroy my self esteem so I wouldn't leave him for someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:17 PM
55

I remember how much I would have squealed with joy if my ex ever proposed to me. I was obsessed with him because he never gave me what I needed from him, so I just held onto anything he gave me like a starving dog being thrown a bone. I look back now and thank God he didn't propose because I would have said yes and still would have been miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:30 AM
10

Basically, yep. He also played WOW... Paid for a subscription to it, but apparently couldn't afford his electric bill. Loser level 1000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:38 AM
99

Omg... One time a guy took me to Sonic, except I had to drive because his truck was acting up, and then when we got there he didn't have enough money for 2 meals so I ended up buying him his food. Wtf. Yeah that didn't go anywhere after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:27 PM
12

I personally like that the dildo can't talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:08 AM
56

If a woman respects herself, she's not gonna put up with any bullshit you try to pull with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 05:57 AM
16

thanks💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:13 AM
129

They're afraid that he will leave if they don't put out. Boo, he ain't worth shit if he is expecting you to be his sex vending machine. Sex is not even a prize for being "a good boy". Sex is supposed to be something you want to do, not something that you feel you should do. It's not a reward. It's not even a damn privelage. It's a handshake with genitals that both people meet in the middle with. Furthermore, dont shake no man's dirty ass dick hand with your beautiful manicured chacha if you don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:46 AM
7

Holy crap. Bullet dodged. Good for the queen who smelled his shitty attitude a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:41 PM
3

All I have to do is look at any surviving photo of an ex. Barf 🤢 all the years I wasted with pond scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:11 AM
29

My husband kept asking, so I told him only if I could milk his prostate. Wouldn't you know it that man hesitantly let me stick a lubed up gloved finger up there, but has never asked for anal, ever again. He now knows... Lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 05:03 AM
5

It would be more accurate at least lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 07:51 PM
22

Marriage is the staple of commitment because it's a pain in the ass to get divorced. Anyone who says they are committed should have no problem getting married if they mean what they say. There are nothing but benefits to marriage if both people say what they mean when it comes to commitment. Otherwise, they like the idea of "playing house" with one foot always out the door just in case they don't like where it's going. That's not an actual commitment. Commitments aren't temporary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 02:08 PM
65

My ex used to say "I'm an old soul" because he was boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 12:30 PM
12

I followed up my seven with a 3, and during that time I picked up a copy of "why men love bitches". That 3 probably would have been a forever if I didn't read that book. Dropped that loser like the bad habit he was and got to work on me. 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:36 AM
14

I did a seven 😬....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 04:00 PM
1

Yeah the pics of me with makeup were also the ones that said I looked older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 12:47 AM
25

Now you're talking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:38 PM
11

Mine said anywhere from 22-28 on several pictures I chose, and I am 33. My poor husband, got anywhere from 29-51, and he's 34. I always feel like he looks very young for his age so I am not sure how accurate Microsofts site is lol but either way Todd is disgusting and ugly and definitely not "young looking".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 06:09 PM
23

Probably wont get better. Porn is a very hard addiction to break and has very permanent side effects that of which even years of sexual therapy may not fix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:34 AM
12

Are the tissues for the amount of shits I give for his tears or his dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:32 AM
10

Stop imagining how emotionally misunderstood your man must be, and take it for exactly how it is. He isn't thinking about what he is doing even half as much as you are. If he's acting like a douche it isn't because he's scared of being hurt like he's some sort of delicate peach. He's just an asshole. There's not a whole lot of layers there like you imagine it to be. Ain't nobody got time for that. You're worth more than all that. Would you invest in a boat with a large hole in it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:29 AM
11

Ewww yeah... Dont bring those awful memories back pls lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:55 AM
11

Lol yes, but he is in his 50s, divorced with 4 kids, has a drinking problem, and he isn't like my husband at all so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 08:11 PM
13

They exist! My husband is one of those diamonds in the rough. But i had to stop wasting time with all the garbage to be available for him. A good man is intentional and doesn't play games, and doesn't want to lose you when he finds you. He proposed to me after 2 months. He never once made me wonder how he felt. He tells me he would die for me. He tells me how beautiful, smart, and special I am. I have the best life now. I am a stay at home mom, he works hard for us all day, comes home and cooks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:29 PM
4

Hells yeah. While you waste time with a loser, the man you deserve is getting snatched up by a wiser woman. No joke, these principles are law. My husband proposed to me after 2 months of knowing each other because I transformed myself with the principles that are taught here. He is the guy I wished everyone else was years and years before I learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 05:33 AM
17

I love this book. It absolutely changed my life. It's so effective, that it's on my bookshelf in plain view where my now husband can see it, has asked about it, and I had no shame telling him all about the premise. That's how much it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:45 AM
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