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Find an interesting event/activity and ask her out nicely. If you know what she's interested in - even better.
/r/seduction11/07/20 11:37 PM
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About time indeed.
/r/seduction13/08/19 02:34 AM
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He got married in April. I accidentally crashed his wedding party. Most movie-like situation I have been in for sure. It was a Monday and I had decided to go take a salsa class alone in this very unknown bar in an unknown neighbourhood. The second I walked in, I saw him at the door in a suit and we were equally surprised that the other person was there. We had a couple of steamier encounters after that but for the past two months he's been very slow to reply, distant, etc. We do text less but we…
/r/seduction04/08/19 10:16 PM
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SilverMarinus Entirely depends on the girls you're after. If somebody makes intelligent jokes on a first date with me.. that gives him 100+ brownie points. Better than a 6-pack, better than new clothes, better than pretty much anything you can make a good first impression with.
/r/seduction02/04/19 05:38 AM
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Tell her you make amazing cocktails and you can make her something special. Good pretext to take her to your place and make her a nice drink. Nice drinks, your place, you could do the rest.
/r/seduction30/03/19 01:06 AM
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Do you like her in general? More than just a hook-up? I have made some amazing friends through tinder and I still keep in touch with many of them. If you are fine with friendship, sure. Keep it. If you're not interested in her more than a one-off fling scenario, no need to waste your time waiting for a premium steak knowing that all you'll ever get is a cheap hot dog.
/r/seduction30/03/19 01:05 AM
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Tease her back. Joke around and see where it goes.
/r/seduction30/03/19 01:02 AM
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Tell her "cool. let's hang out tomorrow, x o'clock, y place." If she flakes more than 3 times.. next. If she was that interested you would be meeting her and not wondering why you're not meeting her.
/r/seduction30/03/19 01:01 AM
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lol. truer words haven't been spoken, female here.
/r/seduction06/09/18 11:00 PM
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Be natural and try to build up a conversation around a light subject. Smile and be confident.
/r/seduction06/09/18 10:49 PM
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If the definition of "alpha" is confident then the short answer is yes, you need to maintain your confidence and not let women bitch you around. That applies to both sides of the story, men or women regardless. Maintaining self worth and self respect is probably the healthiest thing you can do for yourself and for your relationship.
/r/seduction06/09/18 10:48 PM
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Next time be direct. Ask her " Hey, how about we meet 8pm Tuesday at place X". It doesn't get any simpler than that. If she doesn't reply, she's not interested.
/r/seduction01/08/18 02:22 AM
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Nothing wrong with being nice. It all depends on how you set the boundaries of your relationship with the girl in the beginning. Two scenarios here: 1 You act as a friend from the beginning which could lead to either: a) You become her friend as time goes by and remain a friend. i.e. Some of the guys that I've met have acted like friends in the beginning so I've had a much easier time friend-zoning them if I don't want to get involved with them any further. We started as friends, we remain frien…
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:41 PM
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Give her a precise time and place. Say" Friday. 7pm at place X". That makes you sound more confident and more manly. I absolutely love it when a guy can take charge. Plus, it also makes it less likely for people to bail out if you keep it loose.
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:26 PM
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Definitely not limiting yourself. Day game is so much more effective in building a connection with someone. I'd say it's also more fun. I'm 22 and while I've done Tinder dates, 99% of the time I'd prefer meeting someone in person during the day.
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:24 PM
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Even if you text her something extremely simple and generic such as "Hi, this is X, we met at Y. Let's meet up this weekend.", if she's interested in you, that's all it takes. Remember girls like to label guys they don't like as awkward, annoying or creepy if they don't like the guy. If they like the guy, they would be thinking "..finally here's a sign of things going forward". So, I'd say don't overthink too much and focus on being fun to be around in person. Re: calling, if someone takes my nu…
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:21 PM
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Make eye contact. Then go talk to her. Say something like "Hey, I keep seeing you in the library so it feels like I already know you...soo. I thought I might as well introduce myself haha. I'm "...". Then she will introduce herself. You can then ask her what she's been working on and take it from there. Keep it light.
/r/seduction07/07/18 11:53 AM
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Perhaps she didn't take you as seriously at the time. Or maybe she was in a relationship but she's now single. Nothing to lose. See for yourself.
/r/seduction06/07/18 07:05 PM
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Truer words haven't been spoken.
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:23 PM
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Salsa class. If available, bachata class - even better. Creates instant connection and eliminates awkwardness that comes with being sat face to face at a dinner table when you don't really know each other that well.
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:21 PM
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Use an excuse that you have to pick up something and then go to place X. This way she knows it's only temporary that you're going to your house. If you decide to stay ...then that's a totally different story. Female here and has worked for me.
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:18 PM
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Reverse engineering.. It's interesting to hear what people have to say about certain topics on both sides and understand why they act the way they do. Also, most of my friends are male and I've often been told that I should share insights to benefit a larger audience.
/r/seduction13/06/18 02:38 PM
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I am a female, yes. Last sentence describes my own feelings but I can tell you a lot of other females my age think similarly.
/r/seduction12/06/18 09:23 PM
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Has there been anyone with whom that didn't happen? If yes, why? Start reverse-engineering the situation and then you'll see what the variable is.
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:45 PM
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Use texting to arrange logistics. If you live in the same city, ideal case scenario you want to be talking to her in person. If she's not responding quickly either 1) she's genuinely doing something else (e.g. on a date with someone else at that time, at the gym, etc.), 2) she's trying to play the game, or 3) you're not on top of her priority list so she doesn't care too much whether she replies quickly or not. As a female who's a lousy texter, for me it's usually a combination of 1) and 3). Tha…
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:43 PM
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Ask her out to go for a run or something
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:28 PM
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Yes, it definitely helps. Gives you a larger pool to choose from as there's a lot of women out there who'd instantly rule out a guy who would be shorter than them if they put on heels. Surely, you can't only rely on being tall and there's plenty of other aspects to work on. Still, meeting a tall dark stranger is a thing for a reason. Last time I checked "meeting a short dark stranger" wasn't really part of popular parlance haha
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:25 PM
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A mysterious approach wouldn't necessarily mean keeping quiet in the corner. I have been told I'm quite mysterious and I tend to talk a lot. Being extroverted and sharing stories, anecdotes, opinions, and ideas still doesn't mean you are revealing much about your deeply personal issues. It's an art in itself to talk but also not say too much about who you really are. Here's where the air of mystery can co-exist with extroversion. As a female, I would consider confidence to be number one quality …
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:20 PM
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There's hardly any way you can compare yourself objectively with any other possible guy who could be after the girl you like, as there are infinite possibilities. What you can do, however, is be the best possible version of yourself. If that's not good enough, then what is?? Take good care of yourself, have an exciting life that will make her want to be part of it, and be confident. I once dated a guy who was only a few cm taller than me and yes, I am into taller men and he was very short. Wheth…
/r/seduction11/06/18 12:05 PM
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Not creepy at all. A lot of the time, it will actually make you more desirable to girls in their 20s. You've heard it all before, maturity, stability, looks, etc. Still.. it all goes down to what your approach is. If you're somewhat awkward about it, then no matter whether you're 33, 23, or 53..the whole thing would look and feel awkward. No need to worry about the age gap too much if your interactions flow naturally. As a 22-year old, I would probably be 80-90% more likely to be interested in s…
/r/seduction11/06/18 11:56 AM
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If we know you're interested, we'd probably be braver. No one likes being rejected or hitting massively off the mark, hence knowing that there's interest on the other side makes it safer for us to show vulnerability. That being said, some girls are better at showing obvious signs of interest than others and this is where it gets more complicated reading between the lines.
/r/seduction11/06/18 11:48 AM
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Caress her gently while you're watching the film. Doesn't need to be that sexual right from the start. Caressing her arm for example..might look like nothing to you but that lets tension build up naturally and helps her get comfortable with your physical touch..plus, as stated below.. it's a subtle turn-on
/r/seduction23/04/18 01:05 PM
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No matter what you read/ hear.. can tell you that women generally like guys who appear confident. We'll never see what you've been through to get there but we'd appreciate the final result
/r/seduction23/04/18 12:50 PM
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Before saying anything else, your insta profile will be a tiny bit of your game. Some of the top guys I've dated had put 0 or very little effort in their insta. Still didn't make me want them less. Your online brand is important nowadays indeed. I would also say it depends on what demographic you're trying to market yourself to. If it's girls in their teens/ early 20s.. probably a good online presence would help to some extent. Others..maybe not as much. Anyways. To answer your question: You can…
/r/seduction23/04/18 12:41 PM
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Was rather curious what the situation looks like from guys' perspective. Decent range of opinions on the thread generally pointing to the fact that yes, some unconfident men are ..though decent men would rather have someone who knows what they want than a poppet.
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:41 PM
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traditional feminine means submissive & easier to control?
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:37 PM
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Very good point. Most of my relationships have been with guys who are rather beta and it has worked out well. Have tried dating guys who are more dominant than me ..generally it hasn't worked well and there have been two types of results: a)it has worked out for a while because we are "in tune" but at a certain point the relationship has failed because he failed to get to my feminine natural core or b)hasn't worked out at all because it was a domination fight.
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:35 PM
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Would you say most men then prefer to go for the safer option of an average girl because it's a safer bet rather than risk it and try to aim high?
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:25 PM
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Look up utilitarianism and then think again.
/r/seduction26/02/18 03:15 PM
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Don't text dirty. Talk dirty. She's got about another 5 guys sending her the same texts. Few would have the courage to whisper that into a girl's ear.
/r/seduction25/02/18 05:58 PM
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I actually prefer "weird" guys, or guys that have something about them that sets them apart from any other generic lad out there. Being quirky and being confident about it can surely get you more attention than being one of the many. Use it as a strength rather than trying to dilute your character to become more likeable (in fact more likeable to whom? - being average would only get you average girls or even worse)
/r/seduction25/02/18 05:56 PM
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Very very nicely put. As a female here, I would definitely agree. I wouldn't find it creepy in any way if I am out with a guy that I like. In fact, women usually label the guys who stare at them intently and they don't like as "creepy". Those that stare intently and women do like are "hot".
/r/seduction25/02/18 05:52 PM
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Go for it. You loose nothing. Find an event or activity you think might be interesting and go together. Spend some more time with her and see if she's really what you thought she was. Fingers crossed she likes you back too.
/r/seduction25/02/18 12:48 AM
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Maybe she's going through busy times right now. Still, rule of thumb is, if a girl really likes you she'd definitely make the time to reply. I myself am not the best texter of all times and it might come across as if i have no interest or marginal interest if you read my texts. Bigger picture though - keep text minimal and use it for logistics. Unless you are in a long distance relationship, you're better off arranging a time to meet and having some proper conversations instead of sending each o…
/r/seduction23/02/18 12:08 PM
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If you really like the girl and want to spend time with her in the future, a hook up in the club may not be your best option. Invite her to some new activity you've been meaning to try, say a capoeira class or a dance class. Very easy way to build physical contact. Also, keep in mind that the girl won't be there forever linking you. Take action before it's too late and try to have fun with it.
/r/seduction23/02/18 12:05 PM
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There could be many reasons - she has just got out of a relationship and is not over it yet, she is having way too much work, which she can't cope with (mind you, even if that's the case she would definitely make time if she's that into you), someone more interesting has popped up, etc. If you don't get a response 2-3 times, chances are she's not interested. P.S. Girls too often wonder why guys lose interest so you're not alone haha.
/r/seduction21/02/18 11:56 AM
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What worked with me was that a guy asked me to study together for an exam. Instead of the library, we went to a cafe, where we spent a few hours discussing course work, good eye contact. He then slipped in that he was getting hungry and wouldn't be opposed to grabbing a bite before we finish off for the day. We went to a place next door and grabbed some food. From then on, we chatted/flirted for a while and moved onto a bar close to my place. After two drinks we went to my place and sat at the k…
/r/seduction21/02/18 11:47 AM
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Practice makes perfect. As cliche as that is, it's also true. Women love the attention that you give them by asking them out, so rest assured, sooner or later you'd be successful.
/r/seduction21/02/18 11:38 AM
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Simply ask her out and meet up again. Go do something fun instead of the regular coffee date though. Go see a weird exhibition, try a salsa class, etc. Gives you a chance to see what's up next.
/r/seduction21/02/18 11:36 AM
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Call her. Gives you extra points by default.
/r/seduction19/02/18 05:04 PM
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Bulgaria is a hidden gem. Not many tourists go there, hence women are extremely excited to see and be around foreigners. Bulgarian women tend to find foreign men interesting and would treat them extra nice just because are foreign. Bonus 1 - you would stand out, unlike other cities such as Prague and Budapest which get tons of stag parties, backpackers, etc. Bonus 2- women are extra keen on foreigners by default. Bonus 3- women are very good looking on average. Bonus 4 - nightlife is up to very …
/r/seduction19/02/18 04:46 PM
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Keep text minimal and use actual real life conversations to say all the things you want to say. I would rarely take the time to write a super long response back a guy I am not in a serious relationship with. Chances are the girl that you're texting has 10 other guys texting her that day. She wouldn't take the time to reply to all of them with a super long text back. So, use text as a means to an end, not an end in itself.
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:30 AM
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Useless to spend money and time on sad places like those. Go out in the daylight and chat to a cute girl sitting by herself in a coffeeshop. Way more natural.
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:27 AM
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Very true that even if a girl doesn't like you she would definitely like the attention that you give her. Even if you get rejected, don't let that get to you. What we like is a confident guy who is "a man enough" not to be scared to chat to a girl he likes. Practice makes perfect I'd say. You might think you sound/look awkward in the beginning but probably you don't. You won't be awkward unless you make it awkward. Over time, approaching women will become second nature. What usually helps with m…
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:26 AM
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Body language, eye contact, laughter, not looking at her phone, asking questions about you
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:19 AM
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If you put minimal effort, expect minimal return haha. While it is true that girls will make it easier for you if they are interested, sometimes they are up for playing the game and seeing whether you'd take the time and trouble to pursue them. If a guy didn't bother to initiate and only waited for me to make a move, I'd probably think - if he can't be bothered, why should I be?! Bottom line, it all goes down to reciprocity.
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:15 AM
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Focus on your "niche". No need to score numbers. Even though it's college it doesn't mean people should act animalistic. Become the best possible version of yourself and invest time in girls that are really worth it.
/r/seduction19/02/18 01:12 AM
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Advice from a female here - keep text as minimal as you can and use it for logistics instead. When you meet, let the conversation flow naturally and try to blend in the topics you're discussing so that your conversation doesn't sound forced or fragmented. For example, you're talking about the kind of music she likes and she says she enjoys jazz. Then you can say that you hate it when people who enjoy a particular type of art are labeled as snobbs because you've heard that many times when you con…
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:35 PM
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If you want to hang out with her, be direct. For example, "Hey, I'm going to XYZ jazz bar with a couple of mates on Saturday at 10pm. Would you want to join in?" You lose nothing by trying instead of having useless conversations which will lead you to ask this same question. For reinitiating conversation - send her an image/something to comment on, e.g. article which you found interesting and ask for her thoughts, a song you came across in your spotify discover weekly, which you think she might …
/r/seduction15/02/18 11:25 PM
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You'll see the difference yourself! It might seem more difficult because you rely on yourself 100% and what you say has to make at least some sense since you can't blame it on alcohol haha. In reality though, day game is a walk in the park once you get past that anxiety stage because girls are less defensive and it would probably be easier for you to "crack the code" eventually. Also, it helps you stand out from the crowd of just any other average guy who's complimenting chicks at the bar.
/r/seduction15/02/18 12:24 AM
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I wouldn't recommend spending so much on coaching schemes of such sort. There's plenty of material on reddit and youtube, which we all know is free. Practice makes perfect. Also, perhaps get someone from your female friends to help you out with that. I used to give tips to my male flatmates and it worked out beautifully when they needed a female perspective on issues they were facing.
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:52 PM
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Women sometimes feel the same, trust me on that. As mentioned below, focus on creating an exciting life a girl would want to be part of. Reading, podcasts, travelling, arts, sports, the list goes on and on. Also, what I have noticed is that most of the guys which I have had some potential with, I have met during the day or in some very mundane circumstances - in a queue for a gig, waiting for public transport, in a coffee shop, in a dance class, etc. Point being here is that oftentimes women don…
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:50 PM
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Look up a place/activity and choose a time. For example, "Hey, I'm going to xyz photo exhibition on Sunday. Let's meet up at 4pm and go together?"I love it when guys are direct. Exudes confidence. Giving the time and the place makes it direct and gives her two options- accept or offer an alternative. This way, you're not going back and forth with ..what are you up to..are you free, etc.
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:42 PM
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What usually works well is: Making the girl feel comfortable with physical touch gradually and naturally - this means that you don't initiate physical contact out of the blue. this is where a lot of guys screw up by going for a kiss out of literally nowhere. maybe make a comment about her ring and inspecting by taking her hand and looking at her ring up close. This way you've already built that physical contact naturally. Laughter - I can't stress this one enough. Girls enjoy spending time with …
/r/seduction13/02/18 10:50 PM
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In case you find yourself at a loss to know what to say, you can always ask questions and let her do the talking for a bit.
/r/seduction13/05/16 07:47 PM
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My best advice would be pretty simple: talk to the girls that catch your eye. Most of the time, it doesn't even matter what you say. I remember maintaining eye contact with a guy I would randomly see several times a week in Starbucks. He never dared to come to me for months. In the end, I went up to him and turned out he was moving to a different country in a month. And boy, I liked him so much. I'm not saying you should go for the regular pick up lines with every girl you see in the library but…
/r/seduction13/05/16 02:28 PM
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Eastern European women do prefer dominant men for sure. Can speak from personal experience. That's just the way the culture has come to be. Also, feminism is almost non-existent haha.
/r/seduction13/05/16 02:11 PM
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True that. Haven't thought about it from that perspective until now but...incontestably true. To me, guys would come across as 5 times more manly if they come to me and ask for a salsa dance than trying out the regular let me buy you a drink and tell you you're beautiful stuff.
/r/seduction13/05/16 12:10 AM
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Smart choice! I have a couple of British friends, most of them hopeless with salsa and hopeless with seduction haha. Keep up the good work, that is with both salsa and women :D
/r/seduction12/05/16 10:43 PM
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Very common pattern, indeed. As a female, can tell you most of the time I engage in flirting with guys is because a) I get a kick out of it, it's fun b) I am directly interested in the person (wouldn't be flirting unless I found that person appealing in the first place, that's when they become the "friend" right away) c) I need attention and validation Option a) could be considered as me playing my favourite sport every now and then. Not that I intentionally try and fool someone into believing I…
/r/seduction12/05/16 09:10 PM
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Makes a lot of sense, yes. Have noticed that with my Latino friends, ex boyfriends too. In fact, that comfortableness with proximity and touch and the ease with which natural seductive behaviour happens has made me quite sceptical of other relationships where I have not had that type of experience. Do you reckon it could be learnt or it's simply being born with or without it?
/r/seduction12/05/16 08:10 PM
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Very good point indeed. The European culture is certainly based on the individual and would rather promote individualism as the norm. Could be seen in dancing too. Think of the way people do popular dancing in The Netherlands and say, Colombia. The Dutch would go for electro/dubsteb sound where people dance by themselves freely, whereas Colombia and countries alike would do dancing such as salsa, bachata, etc. in couples where the male is the leader, seducer and the woman is a follower. Have als…
/r/seduction12/05/16 08:06 PM
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I have noticed that Latinos have more pronounced femininity and masculinity in their behavioural patterns, i.e. women in Chile, Brazil etc. might be more in touch with their feminine side compared to their counterparts in let's say Sweden or Germany. Likewise, men in Latin America would play the "macho man" who comes and saves them when in trouble. Those are just general observations of mine as an Eastern European (somewhat similar to Latinos culture) living in the UK (Western type).
/r/seduction12/05/16 08:02 PM
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As long as it doesn't get taken to extremes, yes
/r/seduction12/05/16 07:59 PM
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Definitely agree. I do salsa myself and have come to the conclusion that proximity + intimacy involved in salsa work wonders. Surprised how salsa has not become more popular than regular bars/clubs game haha.
/r/seduction12/05/16 07:58 PM
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