~ archived since 2018 ~
~ archived since 2018 ~
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 6 | How to keep her interested in youHonestly simple af, but I get what you’re saying and like it. Thanks bro | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 11:11 PM |
| 21 | How to keep her interested in youMy question to this is: I used to be a nice guy.. never flirted, never made moves, etc. So I started having to consciously think about flirting, teasing, etc to gain interest. I’m afraid if I turn it off, I’ll revert back to nice guy and get friendzoned. So where is the line between the limiting belief and the actual need to keep at it. | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 08:41 PM |
| 10 | I’ve built up enough resentment for at least two lives through textingI’ve been thinking about this a lot and came to a conclusion that may not be news, but it led me to stop putting time and effort into dating apps. With dating apps, high value women have an insane number of options and have to make a conscious effort to respond to you. This is a recipe for getting next to no engagement. They have busy lives, and you get mixed in with a sea of other horny men. It’s not you in particular doing anything wrong, it’s the situation that isn’t the best. All of the high… | /r/seduction | 06/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I wasn’t a huge fan of the book “Game” as it felt a little too gamey/manipulative to me. If you don’t like it, try “Models” by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 10:32 PM |
| 3 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and TeasingPicture not even knowing the first step of what to say to tease a girl though. A girl may say something that fits one of these lines as they are fairly general, and you can open up a fun dialogue. I used to be too logical and boring in my dialogue, and it’s good to see examples or have something that may pop into your mind. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 5 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and TeasingIt’s like training wheels. Are there better, more tailored lines out there? Yea, but if you’re just getting started and don’t know how to flirt, it’s a great way to get comfortable. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 84 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and TeasingHahaha learn something new every day. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 03:59 AM |
| 59 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and TeasingI see what you mean. I do tend to use this one after a couple hours of conversation or on dates rather than cold approaches, so maybe that’s it. In the right situation it’s worked for me, but I could definitely see it being cringey if used incorrectly. Probably one that takes a little more fine tuning. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 03:58 AM |
| 1 | This is a great example of being confident and not putting up with somebody else's crap.Agreed calmly setting the boundary and moving on is impressive and shows he is in charge of himself. | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.1 isn’t, but I think the other three definitely increased her interest before our first date. Coming off as someone who is able to attract many women is an attractive quality. After that, 2/3 become pretty unimportant. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 2 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.I think it's really important which feelings she had at which stage. If she thought I was super sweet at the start, she may have put me in the friend category. If she still just thought I was a player, she would probably find me not to be worth the time. I intrigued her at first, then we began to build a deeper connection and she realized there was more to me than just being social. I piqued her curiosity, then satisfied her need for a deeper connection. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 6 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.This keeps making me laugh for some reason. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.That is definitely true. I just think, especially since you are married as you stated in another comment, that you are biased toward what you currently want in your SO versus what single girls currently find attractive on first impressions. Being too sweet and sweet alone isn't enough to build attraction. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 06:06 PM |
| 1 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.I think your advice is much better suited for already being in a long term relationship, so I have to disagree a bit here. I think if I had continued to give off player vibes, yes she would have run for the hills. The "but" that you mention means as we got closer she realized there was more to me, and that it was good. If she didn't like the idea of me being a player, how did I keep her interested for 6 months until we went on a date (due to COVID)? The "sweet" guy is what I used to be up front,… | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.I like to have a first date just be me and the girl. I like the bar because it has the best vibe in town that is upbeat but intimate. It wasn't that I planned to know the people there or set it up, which I think is key. If you go out of your way to show off you have friends on a first date, it will come off a little try-hard. I don't think there is anything wrong with going to a bar you are comfortable at where you may run into people, but don't go somewhere where she knows nobody and you know e… | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 05:45 PM |
| 22 | What a girl saying she initially thought I was a player taught me.I get where you’re coming from bro, but I’m 5’7” with a receding hairline. After 2 years on tinder, she is the one cute girl i vibes with. I’m maybe a 6-7/10. It was persistence, not looks. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 02:49 AM |
| 8 | I have no idea how to be anything more than just platonic friends with girlsRead Mark Manson's Models and Dr. Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy. They helped me go from always friendzoned to girls saying "he is so flirty." | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Friend zoned but she kinda flirtsI disagree and agree to some parts of the other comment. If you know you want a long term relationship, that is fine and make your moves accordingly. However, I agree not to limit your options until you have agreed to be exclusive with a girl. Specifically with this girl, those are definitely some very flirty vibes. I don't really know if she is testing you or has changed her mind, but the easiest thing to do is: be direct with her. As Mark Manson says in Models, it is better to polarize than le… | /r/seduction | 14/10/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsI would go out with friends to bars or wherever and sometimes they would go up to girls with me. I definitely found that a little bit easier because it was another person putting into the conversation. Plus, they can encourage you more. I would still try to go up to a girl I was into with or without them though. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 3 | How to introduce sex with the girls you meet/date?I didn't go in enough detail here, so you're right. Yes though, I definitely go through the motions before that: making out > touching their face and waist > grabbing their ass > going under their shirt > taking off our shirts. Then, I ask that question. | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 67 | How to introduce sex with the girls you meet/date?I’m a 22 year old college kid so hopefully I can help! You seem introspective and to know your strengths and weaknesses which is good. People seem to have gone over physical escalation, so I’ll comment on a different part. I almost always ask a girl on a date 1st. Then near the end of the date, I’ll say something along the lines of “Id be down to keep hanging out. You should come over so we can enjoy the night on the patio and keep talking.” If they say no, I just say “no worries, another time.”… | /r/seduction | 05/10/20 06:19 AM |
| 3 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsMakes sense. Everybody has their strengths and weaknesses. Social circle is definitely slower, but it can pay off in the long run. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 3 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsJust try your best with what you can. Figure out what the first small step you can take is. Maybe it is trying to meet one new guy friend or just going out in public more. It is definitely harder in some areas and situations than others, but hopefully you can make it work. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 2 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsIt definitely helps. It is a foundation that keeps growing outwards. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:24 AM |
| 3 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsThere is hope. Just try to improve yourself and max out whatever you can, and eventually you will find someone. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:23 AM |
| 3 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsMy go to cold approach is if I make eye contact with someone and they smile, I just walk up and say hi, reach out my hand, and ask their name. Super bland, but it's just the intro which girls don't care about too much. It works to break the ice initially which is all you need. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:22 AM |
| 3 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsThat is definitely true. I made a few friends Freshman year of college that helped me meet more people. I think even finding one good friend is a big step, as it allows you to go out and do stuff with someone. After college is definitely harder. I haven't reached that stage so I can't be as much help, but I'd say introduce yourself at work, while you're getting coffee, while you're working out, really while you're partaking in any hobbies you may do in public. Introduce yourself to guys and girl… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsIt is good you have a solid group of guy friends. It lets you have totally platonic relationships. I would say just try to go out around town with them. Go to a pub with them. Hang out by the pool with them. Grab a coffee and do work with one of them. It may open up opportunities to meet new girls in a variety of situations. Introduce yourself to any girls at work in a professional manner (though maybe just keep them as friends so no issues at work). If you meet any girls, invite them out with y… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsI agree. I posted above what I think is fine. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:09 AM |
| 2 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsI disagree that it isn't appropriate. I will say the caveat that girls have mentioned before they get creeped out or don't like it, but it's because it was a bad approach or the guy kept pushing for too long. Just be more casual and start the conversation out with something situational, like the long line or the dog running in circles. If she laughs or smiles, feel free to keep talking and eventually ask for her number if things go well. I think the two biggest things are 1) Don't do it in unsaf… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsVery true! Allows you to connect more with a girl and have that chemistry build. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:04 AM |
| 5 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsThanks man! I started my Sophomore year of college, and now I'm about to graduate. I started knocking on my neighbors door asking if they wanted to come to our party, and I was shaking like a leaf afterwards. Now, I can go up to most girls with minor nerves and can hold a conversation better. I am not perfect at it by any means, but I'm proud of my progress. Feel free to PM me if you have any other questions. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:03 AM |
| 2 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsExactly! I've found I've done better with cuter girls in my social circle. I definitely see how cold approaches could differ on the setting. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:01 AM |
| 2 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsVery good points! Highly dependent on the girl, and it's why being natural is the best course of action. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:01 AM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsA lot of guys would be into a gamer girl! Dating apps may work well, and you may find a guy into the same games as you. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:00 AM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsIt sounds like you are very down on yourself in your post and have given up hope somewhat. Some people definitely have it easier than others, that is for sure. However, you just have to figure out the first step. 1) Online classes do make it harder. Maybe there is a bar in your area you can go to. Maybe you could reach out to one of the old high school friends and ask to meet up. 2) Cold approaches take a lot of practice. I have done them for a couple years now and still have a lot to learn. Try… | /r/seduction | 28/09/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating AppsSorry obviously works for all people. It was just easier to type it that way as it is my personal experience. Plus, different groups may find different ways easier. For example, an average girl can do very well on a dating app with little effort. A gay man/woman may find cold approaches incredibly difficult if they aren't in a highly populous gay area. | /r/seduction | 28/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 2 | The Biggest Texting Mistake I Kept Making: Not Building RapportI think if you make a strong enough connection in person and talk about a future date, it could be a lot quicker over text. I just know that a lot of girls will flake at the sign of the time commitment of a date if they aren't attached. | /r/seduction | 28/09/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed Men? | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenI agree. There are definitely differences with friends and with girls. It is worth noting that deep down you are still the same person though, and it shouldn’t be an active changing yourself to get a girl situation. Thanks! Yea definitely certain aspects shine, and you can be a little different. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenVery well put! Much better if someone is looking to really connect with someone especially. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenThanks man. Considering I used to be 100% nice guy, it’s definitely an improvement. It was all mindset. I thought being nice and having no confrontation was the best way to be. I didn’t understand how you could be truly kind, but still have those attractive qualities and center of self. Once I learned that, I was finally able to start changing my ways. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenAhh yes! I got you now. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 05:11 PM |
| 9 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenI would say I am 60% nice guy, 30% well developed, and 10% jerk. I definitely agree people are all 3 at different times. I think these are ideals or stereotypes of each "character." Obviously, nobody is ever perfect, and each person will be their own individual self with an identity, but I think it is beneficial to try to distinguish what makes a "nice guy" and try to see why "jerks" get laid. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 07:53 AM |
| 5 | Nice Guys vs. Jerks vs. Well Developed MenIf you're confident, spontaneous, edgy, fun, exciting and getting lots of pussy and people everywhere think you're a jerk, well, you're doing it right. Jerk just has a negative connotation. Everything you described is positive: confident, spontaneous, edgy, fun, exciting. A jerk is obnoxious and rude which are the negative qualities that the jerk has, and when removed, then this is someone you would want to be. | /r/seduction | 25/03/20 07:51 AM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter