tvapoangnoll Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Smoking husband	ADVICE	tvapoangnoll	/r/RedPillWives	18/08/21 06:31 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Smoking husband Thank you! I''m already trying really hard not to nag him about it and luckily he is enough of a man to think of washing hands, taking chewinggum etc., trying not to burden me with his smell. Hopefully he quits really soon, I'll try to have faith in him.	/r/RedPillWives	18/08/21 02:39 PM
5	Men are not made of porcelain For some of us, it's a good thing to realize that he's a big boy. I was finding myself thinking I could not say anything remotely critical without hurting his feelings. I think it's about the ratio, the positive interactions need to weigh out the negative by far. And a lot of women need to learn how to stay much more on the positive side and think about how (and when) to say the things they are not happy about. But it's also important to not take all responsability for the other persons feelings…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/21 01:17 PM
6	Men are not made of porcelain Wow, you sound angry. I work the same amount of hours as my husband most of the time. Nagging, being resentful, demanding him to do his part did not work to our benefit, even when I was completely right about him needing to step up. Being more thankful, respectful and making more time to take care of me did help. And you know what? He does not do less, he does more now. And proud of it. I'm definitely not a slave to my husband, but I am learning how to treat him to inspire him to be a better man…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/21 10:21 AM
56	Men are not made of porcelain Thank you! I've been struggling a bit with this, started to feel like men have these fragile egos you have to tiptoe around. Helps a lot to realize they generally do react differently than women. And if they can't handle a little criticism or female emotion, that might not be a womens problem to solve but his.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/21 08:32 AM
20	Struggling to meet an Alpha. Maybe don't insist on cleaning their house, you are actually criticizing and controling him by doing that. You are telling a man that he is not doing a good job doing his own household. Alpha or not, that's not the message you want to give. Tell him you would like to help or you would love to cook, and express your gratitude if he wants you to sit down and rest. Let him lead! You don't want an 'alpha' man that can't hold up his own. I'm not sure if him not wanting you to do his chores has anythi…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/21 11:03 AM
8	Refuse help or not? I agree with you not letting him do your homework. That would be taking advantage of him and would not do you any good. But it is really nice he offered to help. And there is no reason you couldn't discuss your ideas with him, ask how he would go about it, let him comment on your first draft, things like that.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/20 01:16 PM
1	Is it okay to leave a man because you feel no passion for him? Ofcourse you can! It's not like he is wearing the wrong socks on the first date and you write him off immidiately. You really gave it a chance if you've been dating a few weeks. Only have sex with him if you really feel like it. And by the sound of it, you don't.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/20 01:04 PM
11	Snooped on my boyfriend’s phone - how to make it up to him You don't need to make up with him any more than he needs to make up to you. You did something you shouldn't have and you apologized. He did something he shouldn't have and apologized. Don't let him shift the blame and then be reluctant to forgive you. If he knows you and loves you he should understand you had bad experiences with men that can make you insecure sometimes. That doesn't make snooping okay, but it makes it perfectly understandable. People make mistakes, he clearly did too. So don't…	/r/RedPillWives	27/11/20 08:11 PM
34	Dating Retrospective - please help I'm so sorry you are going through this! He sounds like a really immature guy, wanting you to set bounderies because otherwise he will mistreat you. You shouldn't need to set boundaries. If a man is doing things you don't like, you can say so and you can let him know your wishes. But he should be mature enough to make his own decisions in life and treat you right, not make it your responsibiliy. You sound like a really nice girl, so keep being thankful and respectful. And don't forget to speak o…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/20 02:38 PM
1	What are some flirty, feminine ways to... First of all be patient! You only had sex trice, two times drunk. You could be right you scared him a little and he is not that experienced with pleasing women. You need to be careful not to become the leader in the (sexual) relationship, that scares him off more. Don't go try to make him jealous or something, only undermines his masculinity. So please compliment him or thank him for the things he already does right, in the bedroom and outside of it. When he does the right thing in de bedroom, b…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/20 08:32 PM
-1	I (23F) just found out that my boyfriend's (25M) ex (21F) committed suicide, and his actions were one of the things that pushed her to do so. Your boyfriend is in no way responsible for her suicide, not in any way. It is four years ago that he broke up with her after a short relationship. And even if he did so a week ago after a LTR, it would not be his fault. He might have been an ass back then to break up for that reason, but still it's her responsibility to deal with this in a healthy way. It is very very sad though that she felt so miserable. For you, I think it is important to find out if he still feels he would not be able to ov…	/r/RedPillWives	21/11/20 02:45 PM
37	My mother is uncomfortable with my traditional relationship Those are legitimate concerns. Her solution (an egalitarian marriage) might be different than yours, but she's right you should be wary that your man is not abusive or makes decisions that harm you. Maybe explain to her that you are still vetting him, to see if he fits the profile of a good leader that protects you and wants what best for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/20 04:48 PM
24	My mother is uncomfortable with my traditional relationship Curious what your mother is saying, what are her concerns? You respect your boyfriend and follow his lead. What about respecting your mothers opinions? You don't need to follow her advice, but there actually might be wisdom in it. It comes from a good place! Especially if she gave you redpill advice in the past, I'm wondering what she sees you or him doing that makes her worried. Don't dismiss what she is saying, take it seriously, you might discover some blind spots. See what's useful for you a…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/20 03:54 PM
17	Should I be hedging my bets? Why would you? You won't be 35 all of a sudden and you don't need years to vet this guy. If you like him and want to give it a chance to grow, go for it. Don't overthink it, you already disabled our profile because that's how it feels. Happens a lot that a guy is nervous on the first date and doesn't show how great he really is. Sometimes love comes with a bang, sometimes it comes slowly. The first might seem more romantic, but is not necessarely better. It's a lot harder to see the red flags wh…	/r/RedPillWives	26/10/20 08:51 PM
4	I just found out I'm Traditional What is traditional and what is feminist? Don't you believe that men and woman are equal? That they should have equal rights and equal oppurtunities? I bet you still do and you should. Is that feminist? But that does not mean you cannot depend on your partner, his income or his guidance when you are married. In traditional roles you are equally important for your family but do different things. That's totally fine. But I have seen too many woman end up in a bad place after their husband died or …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/20 12:24 PM
2	What to do about my LTR? My guess is the men over at MRP would say it's his fault you lost your sexual appetite for him. He's not being alpha enough. That's something he would need to work on, you can't really do anything about that. So maybe that means you should leave... Sounds like you already have made up your mind, but if you consider to stay and make the relationship better, I think there still are some things you could try. It''s pretty normal in a LTR to have the sexdrive decreasing. It's hard to have the safety…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/09/20 07:15 PM
86	How to be a wife to an alpha male Not being a big fan of living your life solely for your husband, please make sure you have a fullfilled life with or without him. Makes you more attractive too. And remember, if he really is a high value man and he chose you to be his partner, you already are a high value woman the way you are! That said, I'm sure there are things you can do to make it even more pleasant to be around you. Reading Laura Doyles books and listening to her podcasts helped me a lot. Especially in the 'sometimes just …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/08/20 07:24 PM
2	What’s the sub about? Woman and men are equal, just not the same. Also: equal opportunity, not equal outcome. Like, both man and woman must have the same rights and opportunities, but if more woman than men want to stay home to take care of the kids, that's okay. It's about honoring the differences between men and women, instead of having to be a man and adopt masculine qualities in order to be 'equal' as a woman. So if man and woman decide to work together in a relationship, they do not have to have the same role. A…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/20 06:11 PM
44	Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially? Please choose the second one! You want a happy marriage, don't you? Remember you are not married to the money, but to the man. More important than finances is that he is generous (wants to share with you) and can 'make things happen' (is inventive, able to organise resources, things like that). That's what makes him able to provide for you and your family, not the money he makes at this moment.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/20 11:31 AM
6	Podcasts about RPW lifestyle? In only know of Laura Doyles podcast (the empowered wife podcast). Can recommend it, nice to hear about making your relationship better. I would also like to know if there are other podcasts about femininity and relationships!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/20 02:23 PM