Smoking husband

lightcobaltblue · 2021-08-18T18:56:13+00:00

My ex used to smoke occasionally and I couldn't stand the smell. I physically couldn't be near him, no sex or cuddles and kisses. That motivated him to never smoke before we saw each other. So I agree, being clear with your boundaries will maybe help.

sunnyleaf9 · 2021-08-18T16:51:45+00:00

Do you know what caused him to pick up smoking?

My boyfriend started as a "social smoker" and I saw the beginnings of a daily habit. I HATE the smell of smoke and it's a huge turn off for me, so I wouldn't kiss him or be intimate if I could smell even the faintest amount.

HE was the one to make the decision about what he'd rather have. Although I was firm in my boundaries, I kept my inner happiness and feminine energy, which included absolutely no suggestions, hints, or controlling behavior.

I don't know if this would apply to you, but since he started as a social smoker, I saw the greatest change happen at social events. When I have a drink or two, he knows that means I will get especially frisky and he absolutely loves it. When faced with the opportunity to smoke with friends or have me all over him, I think the decision was very easy to make.

Thorusss · 2021-08-18T09:27:03+00:00

On easier path than outright quitting might be to get him to switch to a tobacco heater like Iqos. I would estimate the smell is only 10% compared to cigarettes.

LilCinnamonRoll_ · 2021-08-18T09:34:27+00:00

It comes from the tongue and throat. He needs to gargle and brush his tongue and gums every single time he smokes. Changes his shirt and clothes. Washes his hands. Make this the criteria for continuing to smoke. If he wants to be a child and have an expensive disgusting habit then he can be treated like a child who needs to bathe.

FlouncyMcTwinkle · 2021-08-18T13:22:47+00:00

As unattractive as you might find it, I think the advice to stay in your lane is the advice you need. Nagging him and emasculating and childifying him further by forcing the cleanliness routine suggested earlier is going to make him even less attractive to you. Endless nagging will make him resent you and destroy intimacy. Waft around some room spray and aboid him if he comes over with his advances. Try sneaking nicotine patches surreptitiously on his ass pretending to squeeze his butt and hope he doesnt notice. Maybe leave some nicotene gum around to tempt him. But don’t make yourself his Mother.

BlunderbusDriver · 2021-08-19T16:46:13+00:00

Remember this one:

Guy gets asked "You smoke after sex?"

Answer "I dont know, I never looked."

CheeseMonger96 · 2021-09-13T22:14:15+00:00

Have you tried Laura Doyle's trick of saying "It's not like you to be controlled by cigarettes". "It's not like you to [fill in blank]"? Always wondered if this would work but never personally had an opportunity yet. The idea being that you enforce a positive image for someone and if they want to live up to it, they get on with it. It's nag free and more supportive and kind.

Title	Smoking husband
Author	tvapoangnoll
Upvotes	15
Comments	9
Date	August 18, 2021 6:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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