ultratraditionalist Archive

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2	Saw the same girl a few times on my walks, smiled and waved today. What’s the natural next step? It's just insane behavior to tell a random girl you've randomly been seeing on regular walks that you want to fuck her casually.	/r/seduction	08/07/26 10:30 PM
11	How to handle one sided investment and dead intimacy I'm a bit of a hardliner on this, but if a woman disrespects me sexually (e.g., chick flirting with another guy in front of me), I cut ties instantly. There are two timelines here: (1) she's playing games/trying to make you jealous, or (2) she literally has zero respect for you. I don't really care where either of those two options lead, so I'm out.	/r/seduction	08/07/26 08:37 AM
2	Was I too direct? It depends. Sometimes when I get a weird vibe and feel that a girl might be wasting my time, I'll usually say something a bit controversial/sexual. If she's totally not into it, then my instinct was right that she was just wasting my time. I've 100% said worse things than "sit on my face" so depending on the context, it's not necessarily too direct.	/r/seduction	21/06/26 02:21 AM
3	Cold approach has changed my life Happens all the time. Even if I don't vibe with a girl, I can probably get her number like 90% of the time. Numbers generally mean nothing. Sometimes, a date means nothing. For a lot of girls, making out can mean nothing. For some girls, even sex means nothing (tho imo that's not mentally healthy).	/r/seduction	18/06/26 06:17 AM
207	Cold approach has changed my life Rejections are so soft, especially if you day game, it doesn't even feel like a rejection. She will excuse herself or you won't vibe at all, and you'll excuse yourself. It's so easy and fun, literally all you need to do to increase your dating by like 10x. Guys are afraid of those dramatic Hollywood "fuck off creep!" rejections which never happen. Night game is a bit more unforgiving where girls might ignore you or just rudely turn around, but you meet way higher quality women during the day any…	/r/seduction	17/06/26 04:05 AM
3	IVE HAD ENOUGH! Can someone please teach me how to Text better?! "Hi [Name], I'm not super into the apps, can I just grab your #? We'll do some drinks, small bites, and see if we vibe" Works like 90% of the time. Texting is a waste of time, so filter out the time-wasters. You're trying to get your dick wet right?	/r/seduction	12/06/26 07:59 PM
5	How do I date casually without coming across like a douchebag? As per usual on this sub, this is awful advice. You should never ever state your intentions directly. It's just a total turn off for most women, and it leaves no ambiguity (seduction/romance thrives in ambiguity). There's an old proverb: 1) Lie to people who want to be lied to, and you’ll get rich. 2) Tell the truth to those who want the truth, and you’ll make a living. 3) Tell the truth to those who want to be lied to, and you’ll go broke. This applies to seduction as well.	/r/seduction	12/06/26 06:53 PM
2	Friendship game? Imo "being friends with women" is the single worst piece of advice. It's meant for absolute social retards that have done zero grass-touching or are literally pissing their pants when talking to a girl. Most likely, this isn't you. I have a lot of friends, but I find that being friends with women you aren't fucking is (usually) a waste of time for a few reasons: A metric shit-ton of drama. Drama can be fun, but it's honestly fucking exhausting hearing women talk about this guy or that guy, or wh…	/r/seduction	07/06/26 09:01 PM
1	What to do if she cancels last minute and doesn't provide an alternative? I mean of course you shouldn't tell her you block her lol, she wouldn't even know. It's 100% the right move to block/move on when a girl is being disrespecful or annoying or wasting your time. I've only done it a handful of times, but some girls are absolute demons. Not worth the headache even if you do get the pussy.	/r/seduction	04/06/26 07:11 PM
1	100% serious: should I give up? This sub is delusional sometimes. Unless your standards are literally in the gutter (ugly girls, fat girls, single moms, 45+ women, etc.), your numbers are not that bad. A lot of people in here and in the seduction community are unironically sex addicts and use sex to fill some latent mommy issues. It really is just a numbers game and getting good at quickly filtering out the time-wasters (of which there are many). 90% non-response rate sounds about right; 90% flake rate also sounds about right.…	/r/seduction	27/05/26 06:03 AM
4	Can someone give me tips on how to approach women at bars? If she wants to talk to you, she'll make herself available: proximity, touch (an "accidental" bump), eye contact. It won't be super obvious, but eventually you'll get the hang of it. You can go the "do laps" route, but (imo) that's frat house amateur hour. I personally like to post up and see who's glancing my way. Conversation doesn't really matter, but a compliment on nails, purse, or outfit will always go a long way. Ask her the story of why she likes green, or red, or whatever. Asking out so…	/r/seduction	22/05/26 08:44 AM
2	The Only Way To Know If A Woman Really Likes You….. Wtf are you talking about? If I'm enjoying my time with someone why would I not keep spending time with them? Autistic socially-stunted nitwit mentality.	/r/seduction	21/05/26 09:22 PM
0	The Only Way To Know If A Woman Really Likes You….. Retarded advice, I've enjoyed long dates (4+ hours) many times with women I've fucked at the end of the night. It's 100% complicated and it's more art than science. Sometimes, you have women all over you that just use you for attention, and they might even "comply" for a makeout but will never fuck you. Other times, a woman is extremely stand-off-ish and randomly decides she wants to sleep with you and date you. Rule #1 is women are illogical, so stop trying to "figure them out" and just do what…	/r/seduction	21/05/26 07:57 PM
-1	I Heard A Dating Coach Say That A Woman Making You Wait For Sex Is A Manipulation Tactic…. I really wish women would stay out of this sub, as they usually give absolutely retarded "advice." A woman that's attracted enough to you will 100% always (unless she's a virgin, a germophobe, or autistic) be "comfortable enough" for sex. It's the exact same thing like when guys say (usually after being rejected): "I wasn't that into her, anyway." Pure cope and revisionism.	/r/seduction	14/05/26 12:02 AM
3	Girl “likes” me but said she doesn’t want to have sex? Classic time-waster, just stringing you enough to think there might be a chance.	/r/seduction	11/05/26 08:26 PM
2	How to give out vibes that get me hookups or get me laid? I 100% agree and think it’s a sad life. But if all you want to do is psychopathically get laid, that’s how you do it. When anyone brags about women they’ve been with or how many they’ve been with, I think it’s a telltale sign of low self esteem or mommy issues.	/r/seduction	04/05/26 05:47 PM
5	How to give out vibes that get me hookups or get me laid? Awful advice. Thirsty guys get laid lol. The guys that get laid the most do two things: (1) constantly try to get laid and (2) hit on like every single girl at the venue. It's literally just a numbers game and the biggest horndogs almost always take a girl home. It IS cringe as fuck, but it 100% does work if getting laid is what you want.	/r/seduction	04/05/26 03:29 PM
3	Need That Extra Push My suggestion is: take it one step at a time. If you're bad at opening and you have approach anxiety, there's only one thing that will fix it: approach more. You need to scope out the room or the bar, find the woman you personally find most attractive (I emphasize personally because we all have our type, and our type will usually be most intimidating to us), and go talk to her. Over. And over. And over. Again. Like literally 100+ girls need to be approached this way. The approach anxiety will ne…	/r/seduction	28/04/26 09:40 PM
1	I think we overcomplicate it a bit Exactly, but if there's no VIBING there should be no escalation. Yep, but sometimes vibing does not lead to a positive response to escalation. I'll give an example that just happened this weekend. I've known this girl for a while, but only hung out with her socially like once. We definitely vibed last time we hung out. She's fun, easy to talk to, we shared a few intimate details but nothing crazy, smoked a joint, etc. She has an absolute S-tier body, and even though she's not exactly my type, I …	/r/seduction	28/04/26 08:11 AM
1	I think we overcomplicate it a bit You’ll often hear a girl say, 'When I first met him, I didn't like him at all, we weren't a match, he wasn't my type... but now we’re together.' How is that possible? You're conflating "normal" social interactions (e.g. in a friend group, working together, classmates) and going out at night and meeting women. I 100% agree that women (men too, but especially women) have a continuum of impression and the most high quality women you'll meet and likely date are in the first category. However, imo, t…	/r/seduction	27/04/26 10:04 PM
1	I think we overcomplicate it a bit https://imgflip.com/i/aqaqdm In all seriousness, salespeople have figured this millennia ago. Either someone is receptive to advances (sales, romantic, employment) or they aren't. Energy spent on a "maybe" is always, always, always better spent on a "yes." Blackpillers are retarded not because they're binary, but because they think certain traits are required to score with a hot girl. Women are into all kinds of weird shit. My first girlfriend ever loved my voice, my most recent ex loved that my…	/r/seduction	27/04/26 08:32 PM
23	I think we overcomplicate it a bit I like to use the "if it's not a fuck yes, it's a fuck no" test. Very rarely, you will meet girls that don't fit that mold, but it will be clear as day: women that might be very shy, introverted, "good girls," etc. But these girls will almost never be out at the bars on a Friday or Saturday night. If you talk to a girl 1:1 at night while alcohol is involved, the conversation is already man to woman. She knows you're trying to fuck her, women aren't idiots. The "we frame" and sexual convo should …	/r/seduction	27/04/26 08:23 AM
14	The 5s will reject you just like the 9s. Don’t let anyone in this group make you feel bad because you took a Loss. We’re here to uplift and help. Not laugh and point. 100% this. When you first fully integrate this thought, you will fuck hotter women more often. It's legit weird how that works and it's a huge unlock. Always, always, always, go for women you ACTUALLY find hot.	/r/seduction	18/04/26 09:56 PM
20	She said "I've never done this before"... Do they usually say that? This is what works for me: "We don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with." "Does this feel good?" Then touch/kiss/escalate/etc. "Look at me." Women love eye contact. Gently touch erogenous zones. Women aren't dumb. If they find themselves alone with you, especially in bed with you, they (99% of the time) want you to have sex with them. But women are never direct and they always want extenuating circumstances and outs. So you need to dance around the final goal by always providing pot…	/r/seduction	05/04/26 10:45 PM
30	She said "I've never done this before"... Do they usually say that? Yes, they always say that (about literally anything: kissing, touching, sucking, fucking, etc.). Your job is to make them feel comfortable and good about the situation, not judgmental or questioning. Girls say all kinds of dumb/insane/avoidant shit, it's par for the course.	/r/seduction	05/04/26 08:14 PM
9	Being direct and flirty isn't working for me. Something like "I've been looking for someone to date and wanted to say hi" is way too much pressure on cold approach imo. Women are neurotic af. Even if she liked you, she'd likely get flustered. "That tattoo goes great with your hair" is way, way better. Probably even better is "I love your tattoo, does it mean anything?" since it's open-ended. But all this doesn't matter. You're doing a great job, keep at it! In the year of our Lord 2026, the best, most reliable way to meet women is to expand…	/r/seduction	03/03/26 03:59 AM
11	What's my appeal and can I change it? You're getting more likes because women that are over 30 (and especially 35+) are desperate. Men hit their SMV peak from 35-45, women hit theirs from 20-30. Don't fall into this trap. Other than a quick lay, no serious man will want to "settle down" with a woman over 35, especially if he wants kids, so it's completely natural for male preferences to skew younger. Dating apps are fine, but nothing beats having a solid social group (of guys) you hit the town with. Being attractive is: phsique (sub…	/r/seduction	03/03/26 12:46 AM
17	She gave me fake number, but followed me on ig Girls will make out with random guys just because they're bored; it means absolutely nothing. Until second or third base, your interaction means nothing. In the case of sluttier women, even sex might mean nothing. Keep her on the back burner, send a feeler DM/text every 3-6 months.	/r/seduction	15/02/26 07:42 PM
0	newly single at 40 - is 40 an actual barrier for a guy that reduces his opportunies with younger women (late twenties to early thirties)? I'm nearly your age and have scored with 18 year olds from cold appraoch within the last year or so. Although I wo'nt sugar coat it. I've also been rejected by a tonne of them. It is what it is I don't really see a huge difference between, e.g. trying to pull a 21 year old vs trying to pull a 35 year old. Fwiw, I'm 39, decent shape, relatively successful. Younger women are often times easier because they tend to be more spontaneous, so while it's hard to pull in general, age is rarely a contribu…	/r/seduction	12/02/26 07:44 PM
1	saying “use texting just as a tool to set dates” is straight BS advice Before you've gotten to second or third base (depending on the woman, maybe even sex), texting constantly, while maybe not a bad idea (as in, might not actively lower your chances of hooking up), it's certainly a waste of your time. On the other hand, of course you should be texting and checking in on your girlfriend lol. You fundamentally misunderstood the advice.	/r/seduction	10/02/26 10:40 PM
1	How are average looking men supposed to meet women? Nah, he's mostly right. I've had so many women be into the weirdest fucking traits. Some girl was into my voice, some girl was into my eyebrows, my most recent gf was into my hands, I constantly get compliments on how nice I smell. Literally the kind of shit you'd never think about as a guy. I'd say I'm a 7.5 on my best days, so obviously don't be a disgusting slob, but as long as you're average/above-average, you can basically get any tier of woman with enough practice, work, and (of course) lu…	/r/seduction	10/02/26 09:49 PM
1	Why were men Historically Married for Resources if Physical Attraction Definitely Matters Today? Lookscoping has gotten out of hand for the past few years, mostly due to the prevalence of dating apps and the drop of in-person interaction. Women experience attraction very differently than men do and I'd say proximity makes up like 80%+ of attraction. Any guy that's ever been friendzoned likely friendzoned himself (by not escalating, not setting boundaries, etc.). No woman spends time with a guy that they aren't at least comfortable with. And comfort is half the battle. So physical attraction…	/r/seduction	05/02/26 07:56 PM
1	Shock and Awe Truly that's kind of how it works lol. Like I said, I did it one time and one girl thought it was hilarious and howled back. Energy finds energy. The advice of "be yourself" is low key true.	/r/seduction	03/02/26 09:56 PM
7	Shock and Awe Stuff like this only works in very specific situations, on very specific women, and if you have a very specific personality. I've literally howled at women and they howled back, then I made out with one of them all night, but I wouldn't write a manifesto about it. In fact, I just did it a few days ago and this time my friends got pissed at me and the girls ignored me. So your mileage may vary with my "howling opener" (seriously don't do this, I mostly do it to fuck around).	/r/seduction	03/02/26 05:10 AM
9	Irreversible friendzone? part of me wants to give up and just tell her I like her as more than a friend Who wants to tell him? (She already knows, big dawg.) Classic case of woman seeking validation/attention. Maybe there was some attraction, likely gone now, and the only way forward is to fully reset the situation. Don't talk to her for at least 1 year.	/r/seduction	02/02/26 11:32 PM
1	What is the rules/dance of texting? Until you get to second or third base with a girl, texting is a complete and utter waste of time. Texting should be used for one thing and one thing only: setting up logistics. I have no real "rules" when it comes to texting, sometimes I text fast, sometimes slow, sometimes I text a lot, sometimes I text once a week, just depends how I'm feeling. But it's important to know that it's a waste of time and can absolutely never increase your chances to get intimate with a girl. If you do it, do it to…	/r/seduction	02/02/26 11:25 PM
5	Bad nights are brutal Last night I tried to turn it up a notch, I basically just walked up to the girls and be like " I like your energy, you have a sexy vibe " right away with strong eye contact, and I had really bad results. Some girls were like "are you for real, gtfo". You have the right idea, but the execution is garbage. Listen, women know you want to fuck them. Boys have been trying to fuck them since they've been 14 years old. Making a conversation "man to woman" doesn't mean being crass or weirdly sexual, it…	/r/seduction	02/02/26 05:16 AM
4	Is grabbing her hand to check out her nails considered flirting? Wish we would just ban women here honestly. As usual, garbage advice with pointless platitudes like "don't touch strangers"--wow, how insightful. Shut the fuck up. Not to mention that there's plenty of situations in which you should absolutely touch strangers: dangerous situations where people need to pushed or pulled away from or towards things, drunk idiots in bars or clubs that need to be pushed slightly, etc, etc. Obviously he's touching her hand in what would appear is a coherent context. C…	/r/seduction	27/01/26 04:07 AM
9	what does it mean when a woman says " you are charming " I'm a big fan of "retardmaxxing" in the sense that micro-analyzing shit like this is pointless. You want to get your dick wet, right? Keep doing things that could lead to getting your dick wet. She will either touch your dick at some point or tell you no. Until then, who the fuck knows what X or Y means. Women are dumb, they are slaves to their feelings, half the time they don't even know what they want, let alone what they "mean." Some of the most successful men (with women) are absolute monkey…	/r/seduction	26/01/26 07:13 PM
2	5-7 Matches a day but no dates... I treat "going to IG" or "getting the #" as investment, so I usually try to get some investment before I suggest any concrete plans because I don't want to waste my time making plans or blocking time for someone that's not going to actually meet.	/r/seduction	23/01/26 11:48 PM
2	5-7 Matches a day but no dates... 5-7 matches a day is very good, assuming they're decent. I'd usually get that in a week, but I'm quite picky and I'm 40 with my filters at 18-30. The strategy early isn't so much "game," it's just pure filtering until you meet imo. My message (usually just copy-pasted) is "hey [Name], I'm not super into dating apps, can I just get your # and we can grab drinks, a small bite, and see if we vibe" It works ~80% of the time. I prefer phone # over ig because it's a bit more intimate and helps cut thr…	/r/seduction	21/01/26 02:25 PM
1	Gaming with mediocre looks Fantastic post, feels like old seddit :) Having an archetype is absolutely key. Try to pick something that most aligns with who you are as a person and try to go to venues that cater to that archetype. Don't be a "cute nerd" at a sports bar, don't be a "goth guy" at a jazz club, etc., or you'll be weirdly incongruent. This is sort of a more advanced old-school "peacocking." Imo people lose way more women by trying to appeal to all women than just trying to appeal to a niche. Most women are extre…	/r/seduction	15/01/26 05:11 AM
1	What the fuck is wrong with me? You have low self-worth. You do not need the validation of a woman. Women, like us, are flawed creatures with their own insecurities. Therapy can be good, but I feel for most people it's a panacea. Some of the most fucked up people I know have been going to therapy for years. What you need to do is build out an action-plan, meditate daily, etc. For example, try doing this the next year: list 10 reasons why you're awesome. In any boring notebook, just write down 10 reasons every single day; they …	/r/seduction	29/12/25 11:50 PM
3	How to communicate sexual desire with looking totally weird? For these guys it's about hiding the fact that they are gay. Using the girls to prove to everyone that they're straight. But they have to be drunk most of the time they're with the girls. ~10 years ago, I used to know a guy that was repressing his homosexuality, and his body count was over 2000. Personally, I find that many partners gross, but it's actually wild how far being a sociopath gets you with women. I'm not saying go full dark triad or anything, but try to lower how much you care (at le…	/r/seduction	23/12/25 09:56 PM
18	"No Spark" text after date The "no spark" text is actually a sign that you're doing all the right things. Showing interest, making sure the interaction has a clear goal, and setting an expectation that it should happen again (and go further). Obviously, you can't control the desires of the other person, but it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Sometimes, I've had dates like that that end in hookups at the end of the night, other times, ended up dating those girls for months, and other times, I also got the "no sp…	/r/seduction	22/12/25 05:28 AM
13	Did I ask out too soon? Until you're sexual with a girl (my personal rule is second or third base), she shouldn't even register as a potential partner. Too many women these days seek validation or will use guys as emotional tampons. Protect your space and your mental bandwidth. To clarify: getting a number, dates, and makeouts are literally meaningless. If she lets you touch her tits and/or pussy, then it might have legs. And even then, there's plenty of absolutely batshit insane girls that will fuck your brains out wh…	/r/seduction	20/12/25 09:30 PM
1	Did I ask out too soon? Yup, typo, fixed :)	/r/seduction	20/12/25 09:25 PM
2	Did I ask out too soon? This kind of autistic micro-optimization doesn't matter. You really think girls are sitting there looking at their 400 unread messages going "Damn, well he said we should instead of I'd like to, rookie mistake, I would've totally gone out with him otherwise."	/r/seduction	20/12/25 09:18 PM
43	Did I ask out too soon? None of this matters. If she's into you, she'll be into you even if you text "too early" or "too late." Outcome independence means you text (or don't text) when you feel like it. You aren't trying to coax out certain behavior or any particular result.	/r/seduction	20/12/25 08:58 PM
1	Was having a good time with a girl last night, flirting the whole time, but she said she had a boyfriend. She wouldn’t let me kiss her on the lips, but we kissed on the cheeks/neck the whole night. How do I escalate better next time? Just some self-deprecating humor to make her more comfortable. She should 100% know you’re not gay by then 😂	/r/seduction	30/10/25 01:00 PM
1	Was having a good time with a girl last night, flirting the whole time, but she said she had a boyfriend. She wouldn’t let me kiss her on the lips, but we kissed on the cheeks/neck the whole night. How do I escalate better next time? Not sure why you're getting so much hate in here lol, slultty girls are some of the most fun (just obviously use protection). With that said, we more details, what was the venue, did you change locations, did she have friends around, etc. Too many unknowns to give a definitive answer. But a few general rules: It doesn't sound like you did this, but never ask if she's single. Always assume she wants to fuck you, and push through unless it's a clear no. My go-to if a girl says "I have a boyfriend"…	/r/seduction	30/10/25 11:51 AM
2	Shot my shot at the beauty salon I split my time between LA/NYC/London; all of those cities are extremely competitive and women get hit on constantly at bars, coffee shops, hotel lobbies, or even on the street. A college campus or a small town might see less volume, of course.	/r/seduction	15/10/25 09:52 PM
2	I think I fucked up, advice on what to do better next time? It was certainly better than "I think I need space to heal." Kind of disagree with this, I think PUA culture tends to have this millennial/gen-z "too cool for school" mentality that's constantly ironic and doing something fun and being awesome, when in reality we're like the most unhappy, lonely, and sexless generation on record. I think some self-reflection and honesty is good. And in all honestly, fuck her for making out with a friend of a friend (being a slut within the social circle). A make…	/r/seduction	15/10/25 08:02 PM
31	Shot my shot at the beauty salon Nothing, good job! Some women will be into you, others won't. Not a big deal. Guys tend to make this huge deal about telling a girl she's cute and asking her out, but the average woman is probably asked out (directly or indirectly) like 20+ times a week, so it's not personal at all. She may have a boyfriend, could be lesbian, maybe not in the head space to date, maybe getting over someone, or in love with someone, or whatever. Shoot your shot confidently, and move on if it doesn't go anywhere. R…	/r/seduction	15/10/25 07:53 PM
2	What’s the WORST advice you’ve been given? "Women are good wings" or "having women friends will help you pick up other women." Women are neurotic, have drama, and are so insanely jealous and self-conscious, they will literally never hook you up with hotter women. Women in relationships (ones that might be good to have around, actually) rarely go out. So you're stuck being "friends" with a bunch of toxic party girls that feed off of your attention and literally give nothing in return. To make things worse, if you're a half-decent and succ…	/r/seduction	24/09/25 10:16 PM
1	How do you balance being aloof/mysterious and wanting to chat her up/build connection? This may get you laid but it’ll never help you keep a long term relationship. I mean this is just factually wrong. These days, you need to get laid before you pursue a long-term relationship. Women will rate you on how good you are in bed, so you need to have a few dozen throwaway lays, anyway. Ideally, it wouldn't be like this, but this is how dating in the West is. Mindgames + quick lays + seeing where things go afterwards.	/r/seduction	22/08/25 07:42 PM
1	going out solo If you go to a dance club but are extremely introverted, you will stick out in a bad way. If you go to poetry club and are extremely extroverted, you will stick out in a bad way. If you're introverted and can't (or simply don't want to) be more outgoing, go to a chill jazz club, grab a cocktail and enjoy the music, or go check out a relaxed hotel lobby, or an upscale restaurant with a fancy bar. There are beautiful women everywhere (and imo higher quality in these more intimate spaces, anyway), …	/r/seduction	05/06/25 04:09 AM
2	Going from vulnerable texting to immediate ghosting yes it sounds lame and borders on incel talk but that's how it is Doesn't border on incel talk at all, people do this all the time in business (looking for favorable arbitrage opportunities). If some gay guy buys you a drink at the bar, even if you're not gay, you're still going to be like "thanks bro, I appreciate it!" and drink it. Doesn't mean you'll suck his hog later. The problem is that buying a drink or taking someone on a (reasonable) date is pretty low investment, but spending days with…	/r/seduction	08/05/25 11:21 PM
1	Going from vulnerable texting to immediate ghosting My key goal is understanding why someone would send that message, then immediately pull back. It’s so precise and validated, it feels cruel. Like everyone is saying, it's not really that confusing. She's a typical millennial/gen-z woman and they literally all act like this. She is, without much of a doubt, fucking at least one person on the side. Maybe an old flame, a fwb, someone she feels comfortable with, whatever. The key here is that it's not you. Maybe there was a moment to make a move, bu…	/r/seduction	08/05/25 11:07 PM
16	Eye contact rule, when do know if it’s a sign? Means nothing. Literally 99% of women smile at me if I smile at them (way more than would want to sleep with me). There's no "trick" to knowing if she'll be receptive, you just have to be chill, outcome independent, and carry a fun conversation.	/r/seduction	07/05/25 08:44 PM
3	Too early to ask for a date? maybe it was too direct idk No such thing, good work! If it doesn't work out, at least you shot your shot. Regret is way shittier than rejection.	/r/seduction	07/05/25 06:09 AM
0	Feeling like shit after a date that didnt end with at least a kiss Girls love to fantasize, so not kissing on the first date can build more tension (but definitely still kino and build attraction via flirting and teasing). I also low key don't kiss/fuck until the second/third date because the girl will feel more rewarded by it. Kissing too early can also ruin her comfort, because until she knows you better, she can find any little stupid excuse to disqualify you ("he used too much tongue, he's gross" or "he used too little tongue, he must not like me", etc.) so…	/r/seduction	07/05/25 04:37 AM
1	Answers to 99% of the questions on this subreddit Complimenting a girl's necklace, earrings, or nails (while reaching in for a brief touch) is literally my go-to and has worked hundreds of times. Easiest shit in the world. Girls are SO excited to talk about the exact shade of their nails and all you have to do is listen. Easy mode. Regarding emotional resonance, a friend of mine always asks girls "what do you want to do with your life?," which I've always thought was an awesome question that really makes women open up emotionally.	/r/seduction	07/05/25 12:48 AM
2	Asked her out and she just got out of a relationship This is the right answer. Cutting out women that aren't fully bought-in is step #1 in getting a massively successful love life. It's a bit depressing, but the game is 100% a numbers game. There's a fallacy we tell ourselves: "there's not that many hot women out there" or "a hot woman would never want to be with me" and this is false on both accounts. Stop engaging with women that don't want to be with you, and start engaging with hot women that want to be with you. It's literally that simple.	/r/seduction	25/04/25 08:49 PM
5	I don’t know what happened All good, happens to all of us. Chalk it up as an L and move on. Journal if it helps you, don't beat yourself up. Seduction is meant to be fun and playful, not stressful and mechanical; that's where most guys mess up.	/r/seduction	23/04/25 04:10 AM
68	I finally had a one night stand and now i feel miserable One night stands are pretty overrated, having serious relationships is generally speaking way more rewarding. The connection is more intimate and the sex better (especially as you better understand your partner's body). Some of the most fucked up & depressed guys I know have more than 500 bodies under their belts, and one of them (we think) is suppressing his homosexuality. Casual sex will always fuck you up psychologically (women more so than men), but it's good you realize this at an early age…	/r/seduction	22/04/25 03:19 AM
1	How do you guys do this It definitely does. Once you approach like 500+ women, many of whom you thought were the "love of your life" or "the most beautiful woman you've ever seen" you realize that nothing really matters and that approaching/saying hi/getting a number is whatever. Some will be receptive, some won't, who cares. You will truly learn the art of not giving a fuck.	/r/seduction	21/04/25 07:48 PM
3	Would a 10/10 girl lose interest if she sees you give attention to way less attractive girls Second post you're making about this girl. Reeks of oneitis and desperation. Detatch, fuck other women, travel, read, work out, literally do anything else but think and post about her.	/r/seduction	17/04/25 05:57 AM
2	How to handle a girl that seems to play this game. Yes.	/r/seduction	17/04/25 05:55 AM
5	How to handle a girl that seems to play this game. Having a guy that’s there for you in person is fundamentally different than the fake attention she gets on ig. Listen, like I said, we’ve all been there: “hanging out” with the hot girl but never getting physical (apart from a long hug or some playful touching here and there). If you’re not fucking her, someone else is. You know when you’re him and you know when you’re not. Just listen to your gut, it will rarely lead you astray.	/r/seduction	16/04/25 11:39 PM
12	How to handle a girl that seems to play this game. Have you ever been with a 10/10? Once you get with one, you'll understand that there ARE 10s out there that literally want to fuck your brains out. All the time. 10s that will fall madly in love with you because you're awesome or fun or smart or something. This girl ain't it. She's either using you for attention/validation (most likely), using you as a backup plan, or just flirting with you for sport. Girls (especially hot ones) do this ALL the time. Fuck dude, even guys do this. I just sent a g…	/r/seduction	16/04/25 08:09 PM
2	Be friend with women! I'll go against the grain here and say that befriending women is, 90% of the time, a complete waste, especially women you have some sort of attraction to. They will feed off of your attention, will expect drinks, will usually not buy you drinks in return, and it's very rare you will hook up with one of their hotter friends. It's typical PUA bro-science circa 2010. The only exception is if they provide some value outside of being fun cute "party girls." I'm friends with a handful of women because…	/r/seduction	04/04/25 08:37 PM
1	There's never any point in responding to a rejection text from early stage dating (in my experience) If someone definitively rejects you, you should cut contact immediately. It's legitimately a waste of time following-up and it shows you have no self-worth.	/r/seduction	30/03/25 03:06 PM
1	Going out solo, best way to handle yourself without wingmen? Have you been here before? Yes: Ok great, I'm looking for a tour guide, what's the best drink here? Great, I'll buy two, I'll be right back. No: I'll be your tour guide, are you a whiskey or tequila girl? I know the best drinks. Are you from here or out of town? Here: Oh, a local, those are hard to come by, I bet the city is so different than it was like 10-20 years ago. I want to pick your brain for hours. Out of town: Where from? [City/Country] Never been there or omg that was one of my favori…	/r/seduction	10/03/25 05:24 AM
5	How much of your "league" do you feel comfortable approaching. Leagues absolutely exist and they manifest in the following ways: The hotter she is, the more she is entitled, meaning good chances of expecting more dinners/brunches/trips, and if you wont offer it to her, someone else will. This is kind of a dumb point because there are many drop-dead gorgeous women that grew up poor and humble. Likewise, I know plenty of ugly women that are entitled (they grew up rich, with a chip on their shoulder, etc.).	/r/seduction	09/03/25 09:28 PM
1	I never know how or when to escalate Girls will make it extremely easy for you. In college, this girl came over to study once and literally asked me if I thought her tits were nice. My ex straight up kissed me at a restaurant bar on our second date. This hookup a little while ago invited me over after our first date, decided to change into something more comfortable, and started cuddling with me on her couch. In another case, a girl I thought I was friends with (I was young and dumb) literally took my hand, stuck it in her bra so I…	/r/seduction	06/03/25 05:27 PM
2	Tired of missing signals with girls-how do I train myself to catch cues and escalate properly? Signals do NOT exist. Unless a woman says "no" or "stop" or "I don't like that" and physically leaves your presence, it's a yes. In my experience, it's almost always a yes, especially if they allow themselves to be alone with you. Just need to be confident and do whatever makes you feel good. I've had situations where I was fingering a girl in a way she didn't really like and she was telling me how to do it. Oh no, that's a bad signal! I fucked her like 20 minutes later lol.	/r/seduction	04/03/25 08:10 AM
3	Do this if she leaves you on read! This is cope. I hear it a ton, but it's quite rare that women introduce you to other women and you end up fucking them (especially hot/hotter ones). Uninterested women are imo some of the worst "friends" to have and the relationship will always be one-sided. Block/next and move on. There's 8 billion people out there.	/r/seduction	03/03/25 01:22 PM
12	DON’T SAVE HER, SHE DON’T WANNA BE SAVED. Needed this today. Just had a great Sunday date with a party girl I kind of fell for last year. A bit of one-itis there, not gonna lie. We hung out a lot last year, but I felt like I was being friendzoned so I went no contact for 6 months and re-engaged; to me, it was a challenge. Last night we had a great makeout session, but no sex (she was on her period). She drinks like a fish, didn't finish college, used to work as a bottle girl, smoking hot, lots of guy friends, no career, works as some ki…	/r/seduction	26/02/25 03:19 AM
1	I need help complimenting 10/10 girls. They're not though. I compliment nails or jewelry literally all the time, every single girl is super receptive to it (usually it involves some personal story as well). It's also a great filter: "I love your necklace, is that jade?" "It is! Thanks, my boyfriend got it for me blah blah" "Well he's got great taste in jewelry and in women, enjoy your coffee!" Next	/r/seduction	16/02/25 05:38 AM
38	A reminder that terms like conservative and religious should be taken with a silo of salt. This is very insightful. I was dating this girl that, on the first date, asked me if I watched porn. I thought it was a weird question: I watch about as much as the next guy, every now and then when I feel like rubbing one out. I'm not addicted, I don't have a "favorite" porn star, I don't pay for it, etc. Also, if I'm in a relationship, I don't (or shouldn't) need to watch porn at all. To me, it was like if I had asked her how big her dildo was or what kind of batteries her vibrator uses. Like,…	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	06/05/24 03:10 AM
10	I found a way to be happy being old and alone: Men my age are creepy old dudes anyway Most women prefer older men. At 38, I get hit on by 22-25-year-olds much more than I ever did. I look pretty young, dress nice, smell nice, and take care of myself. But once you hit your 30s as a man, the world is literally your oyster. Especially if you've been in self-improvement/wealth-generating mode in your 20s.	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	27/02/24 09:38 PM
4	Introverts, what's your strategy? There's a huge difference between being "not social" and being "introverted." I'm extremely social, but also introverted. This means that I never really feel comfortable picking up women at a loud bar or club. I can't stand yelling in someone's ear because of the booming music, annoying drunk people, and loud fuckbois. Don't get me wrong, I'll still go to bars or clubs rather than sitting at home alone, but I strongly prefer a mellow rooftop bar, a formal reception, or a posh hotel lobby.	/r/seduction	19/07/22 05:40 AM
1	3 Rules for Dating and for Life Never assume. Best way to make a complete ass out of yourself. Don't take yourself so seriously, buddy. Making a complete ass out of yourself is half the fun.	/r/seduction	15/09/21 02:53 AM
1	3 Tips for INSTANT STATUS when approaching girls While this is true, it's not the best advice to give to someone who faces challenges in their social life. It literally is though. Half this seduction/PUA shit is the exact same garbage as the fitness industry. Want to get in shape? Eat better and go to the gym. But people have gotten ridiculously rich off of peddling nonsense like P90X or the Atkins diet. People want shortcuts, kind of like your OP. "3 tips," "5 tricks," "10 rules," it's all nonsense. Living a fulfilling life takes effort and s…	/r/seduction	14/12/20 07:22 AM
1	3 Tips for INSTANT STATUS when approaching girls Yep, and all it takes is living an actual fun, productive, and social life. Leave it to the weirdos on this sub to talk about "enunciation" and "speed" and "projection" roflmao. It's like a parody of itself. Getting laid is not that hard.	/r/seduction	14/12/20 03:05 AM
1	3 Tips for INSTANT STATUS when approaching girls Easiest way to convey status is to become a regular at a few spots around town: a coffee shop, a bar, a lounge. Take her around, make conversation with everyone, and get a good table, a free drink, or a free desert. Staff knowing you is the easiest way to impress a girl, bar none. Honestly, it's a cheat code (especially with younger girls). It requires actually having a social life though, so good luck redditors.	/r/seduction	14/12/20 12:02 AM
4	It's all about will power and intelligence. i know my mentality is not healthy and that's why i am here. i try to change my mindset against girls. i wanna ask, how can i start a convo with a girl without sending dm's? for example i approached a girl irl and her cousin appeared and yelled to me. yeah sometimes i do mistakes ngl but most of the time, girls reject me without a reason before getting to know about me. how do girls expect us to meet with them? It seems paradoxical, but to get girls, your focus shouldn't be girls. Your focus sho…	/r/seduction	03/10/20 10:55 PM
6	It's all about will power and intelligence. going on dates, having dm's You're highly overvaluing going on dates or getting DMs. Going on a first date is only step 0.00001 of a healthy long-term relationship (which is what most high-quality attractive women see as their goal). Getting DMs is basically irrelevant. Look at comments at models' Instagrams.. it's mostly like weirdo 40- or 50-year old dudes. Some real high quality males there 🙄 Your "grass is always greener" mentality is not only untrue, it's also unhealthy.	/r/seduction	03/10/20 09:53 PM
26	It's all about will power and intelligence. This is untrue. Women need to be charming, presentable, feminine, often times agreeable, intelligent, etc. Also, unlike the "typical" male that just wants a quick lay, high quality women identify their goal as being in a long-term monogamous relationship with a high-quality male (someone that's in shape, charming, little baggage, ambitious, intelligent, etc.). It's hard for both sexes.	/r/seduction	03/10/20 08:45 PM
1	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Instead of manning up and debating me, you let your pride over your accomplishments make your arguments emotional and are now linking me to blogs that are mainly defending gay people. Yeah, definitely a troll. 'Ight I'm out. The only reductive thing here is your brain capacity. Yes, that was an insult. Adios my friend. I do agree that it's sad it took me this long to realize; I'm losing my touch. Made the mistake of gay-bashing, though, or I would've kept going. Hats off.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:57 PM
1	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Actually, I lectured you about your only biological purpose in life, which isn't reductive, its your actual purpose biologically. Just to be clear, I think having children is wonderful, and I hope to have some someday, but to argue that it's not reductive is simply wrong. I'll just leave you with this, hopefully it'll make a difference. If not, c'est la vie. https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/is-the-meaning-of-your-life-to-make-babies/ Fundamentally, as humans, the problem with iden…	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:42 PM
1	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? If nothing else, feel proud that you were reduced from a position of advice to a bumbling ad hominest trying to evade my words by attacking my situation. Keep in mind you first (a) lectured me about purpose (in such a stupidly reductive and simplistic way: "life is about procreation"), and then (b) argued that I don't understand basic biology, when -- let's face it -- you probably have never taken an actual biology course. But I'm the one that gets accused of ad hominems. So let's recap: you ins…	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:25 PM
2	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Being called ignorant by a homeless guy trying to get laid really cuts deep 🤡 Starting to think you're just a troll.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:12 PM
2	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Your only purpose is to procreate. Think about that. This is a very shallow understanding of the human condition. But what do I know, immigrated to the US and lived in abject poverty, my parents worked hard, I worked hard, went to an Ivy League school, and I now make six figures, live a few blocks from the beach, and basically date whatever smokeshow I please. But you're the homeless dude lecturing me about my purpose. Think about that.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:04 PM
3	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Side dish when you have them in abundance. I disagree. Unless you're married, or in a very serious LTR, women should always be a side dish. Your personal self-improvement should always be your life's focus. And don't confuse human contact with sex: plenty of people are celibate before marriage, plenty of people are asexual, etc.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 07:55 PM
5	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? Who gives a shit what pickup is or isn't about? Do you want to live a happy, fulfilling, productive life? Go out there, get your life together and thrive. Pickup has nothing to do with anything. Women are a side-dish.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 07:47 PM
31	Can I learn pickup while homelesa? I'm also in my twenties and still a virgin. This is totally normal (something like 25% of people in their 20s haven't had sex in the past year), and sticking your dick in a wet hole won't make you into a different person. You need to re-prioritize and get your life together. Forget women. Go back to school, learn a trade, build a life for yourself. Your focus on women seems like an avoidance tactic. Hope you figure it out, bro.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 07:25 PM
5	PUA, Advice for men telling you how to mimic their game, and why you need to understand yourself to meet the women of your dreams. 2020 changes into helping virgins and guys who go months without sex or years. Women reject a man based on looks alone... How in the shit is this getting upvoted? LMAO, this sub is such hot trash these days. Are mods asleep at the wheel? Or have the incels taken over? Just the fact that you believe that makes me think you're some faggot that doesn't shower or have any kind of social clout. You're a fucking dweeb that goes out for the sole purpose of "aPProaCHinG WomEn" and of course your clown-ass gets blown out because: It's fucking WEIRD to go out for the SOLE PURPOSE of…	/r/seduction	29/03/20 04:19 AM
24	Is there really any point to using dating apps at this time? I quit online dating ages ago. Tinder was decent 7-8 years ago, but it's a complete shitshow nowadays. If you can get past the "premium Snapchat" bots, the literal prostitutes, and the MtF transsexuals, you'll deal with the most insane expectations of barely-average women. This has nothing to do with the 80-20 rule people keep talking about -- you might think the extreme 1% of guys have a different experience on Tinder, but the reality is that it sucks for everyone. Make a profile using fake pic…	/r/seduction	28/03/20 05:59 AM
0	A message for guys who think they have "nothing to offer"women No, never. Look at it this way: does teasing a guy make him feel insulted? It might in like 0.001% of cases, and you simply just avoid those people.	/r/seduction	20/03/20 10:59 PM
1	A severe level of autism. Unless you actually like all that stuff per se Yeah, I like having a life. Lmfao. IIRC, Tony Hustle says... Ugh, you sound like such a loser. Totally unaware, too.	/r/seduction	10/03/20 10:10 PM
1	A severe level of autism. Bad grammar ✔️ Saying "muh" unironically ✔️ Misunderstanding complex psychological concepts like "avoidance mechanisms" ✔️ Total weirdo ✔️ Oh, I know, I must be in /r/seduction. I can tell you're uneducated, weak, not well-read, boring, and I can practically smell your stinky breath through my laptop. But I'll try to help anyway. I'm a regular at my gym, a few coffee shops, a few bars, on the board of a few alumni organizations, and volunteer weekly. I probably meet at least 30 new women on a we…	/r/seduction	10/03/20 07:09 PM
2	A severe level of autism. The PUA "cold approach" -- where you basically go out for the sole purpose of meeting random women you want to fuck -- is for weirdos that can't build a social circle and get introduced to women in a natural and organic way. You know, the way the human race has been procreating for the past 200,000 years. It's for people that have no hobbies or personalities outside of "pick-up culture" -- most of the time, these are usually people low in empathy and emotional intelligence. It's the same group o…	/r/seduction	10/03/20 12:26 AM
2	Why don't you want sex but try to get it? Man your life sounds fucking miserable. Looks like your therapist was right. Instead of tackling your problem of intimacy, relationships, and neediness, you went for the "easy way out" by paying for sex. Yuck.	/r/seduction	09/03/20 11:47 PM
13	A severe level of autism. This idea of a "cold open" is so fucking retarded (and only present on this socially inept subreddit, btw). Talk to men, women, old people, young people, kids, dogs, moms, husbands, janitors, lawyers. Talk to everyone. Once you do that, you'll realize how dumb it is to over-analyze every single interaction. You'll talk to ten cute a girls a day and you'll forget who you said what to. Be fun, be social, enjoy life.	/r/seduction	09/03/20 07:56 PM
7	Motorboat Her Tits. Problem Solved. TIL that someone being genuinely pissed off at you because you're being late without notice is called a "frame" -- lmfao, what a retarded fucking post. Somehow, the girl seems like more of a moron than you are. Until next time, you Captain of Lunacy, you.	/r/seduction	09/03/20 12:02 AM
5	So a girl tried to put me in the friend zone yesterday… Few are going to read/engage with your reply, and it's a shame. I mean this is such a red flag, it's not even funny: ...she tells me to sit down and gives me a long tangent about just wanting to be friends and all that... Either (a) the chick is crazy -- in which case, who gives a shit? -- or (b) OP is way out of line. Probabilistically speaking, it's way more likely that a dude that posted the awkward flex on /r/seduction is the weirdo here, so I'm going to go with that. If a girl (or, hell, a …	/r/seduction	08/03/20 11:01 PM
4	Lessons from Ted Bundy So you're taking cues from a violent rapist and serial murderer to interact with the opposite sex. Cool, cool, cool, cool.	/r/seduction	28/12/19 02:02 AM
15	I feel clueless and usually the guys I like have somebody. There are literally an infinite number of places to meet people outside of work: coffee shops, social clubs, bar trivia night, summer sports leagues, dance class, church, etc. Just how it's wrong for guys to say "girls prefer muscular guys," it's wrong for girls to say "guys prefer party girls." I'm a guy in my 30s with a great career where I make very good money, around 6'0 tall, multi-lingual, went to a top-10 university, and I have never (ever) preferred a party girl over a nice, decent, whol…	/r/seduction	25/12/19 09:34 AM
4	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". I really hope you come to the realization life is a wonderful journey with all kinds of ups and downs, and that women (unless she's your wife) are going to end up being a very small part of it. /u/We_Broke_Up and myself are coming at this from a very different angle, and I hope you figure everything out, man. I'd suggest maybe forgetting about pickup and just doing something that makes you happy and trying to find a community that values you -- if anything, try volunteering at a church or homele…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 03:51 AM
1	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". Come on, you’re being disingenuous. You know that’s a tiny group of people who’s as hopeless as you describe. But if dating success was simple & about shaving, showering, and going outside - dating problems wouldn’t exist. You’re basically writing the same thing as that chick on this board who tried to show is ‘the secrets of seduction, from a woman.’ I bet your next advice is “don’t be rude to women.” Of course it's not just about "going outside" -- you need to integrate in society, become part…	/r/seduction	18/12/19 03:03 AM
6	After spending so much time on theory & then taking a break from this subreddit & others, I've noticed that a lot of the 1000s of pages of advice is just a lengthy way of saying "learn how to be good at banter while owning what you say, having boundaries, and not being reactive. Then just approach". It's not that you're wrong, it's just that, generally speaking, the only people that parrot the "looks matter" mantra are weirdo black-pillers or incel neckbeards that have no style, don't shower, and play Minecraft all day. It's just a dumb and cynical mentality that has no value, very similar to solipsism.	/r/seduction	18/12/19 02:38 AM
1	What To Do On A Date Kayaking, surfing, rock climbing, go-karting, hell, even mini-golf or hiking (if on a budget) would work. I will say that even more than active dates, women prefer spontaneity. Keep in mind you can't really plan for this: getting caught in the rain, random stuff happening that might derail your plans in a "fun" or "exciting" way, etc. Basically, anything that makes for a good story.	/r/seduction	18/12/19 02:28 AM
2	Let's Discuss About This!! I don't even interrupt my friends when they have their headphones in; doing this to random strangers just shows that the guy is either (a) socially inexperienced, or (b) really rude. A compliment on physical features can sometimes work, but it comes off very superficial (and, again, socially inexperienced). Unless you can catch her without her headphones in, try exchanging glances and flashing a friendly smile. If she doesn't reciprocate, she's not interested.	/r/seduction	15/12/19 12:42 AM
16	First Solo Bar Experiencs If you don't have any stories of your own, you should consider forgetting about pickup for a few months and just live your life. Hell, I'm not even that exciting of a person and I've got stories about getting lost in a foreign city, getting arrested (for a funny reason), going to Vegas (and losing/winning thousands of dollars), a few funny sexual stories ("crazy girls" etc.), and then just a whole bunch of niche stuff like about what I do (I work in tech), what my hobbies are (kayaking, volleyba…	/r/seduction	12/12/19 03:39 AM
-6	First Solo Bar Experiencs I seriously hope no one comes on here and furiously writes down "bar topic ideas: X, Y, Z" -- for fuck's sake, most people learn how to carry a conversation in elementary school.	/r/seduction	12/12/19 03:10 AM
13	First date from irl pickup This is bullshit moralizing, and you're just reinforcing retarded behavior. I suggest you really take stock. We say little white lies in conversation literally all the time. A friend says "man, I have a KILLER headache" and you reply "yeah, I know what you mean" -- but do you really know what he means? A friend brings up some new movie and you reply "yeah, I heard that movie was good" -- even though you didn't. It's a well-studied phenomenon; here's an article about it: https://www.wellandgood.c…	/r/seduction	09/12/19 01:57 AM
14	Remember, if someone wants you in their life, they will make both the space and put in the effort. My general rule of thumb is if acquaintances flake on me twice (either not meeting up at the designated location/time, not being responsive over text, or rejecting plans without rescheduling), it's game over. This goes for both girls and guys. Absolutely zero exceptions. I have an active social life and I'm great to be around, so saying "their loss" is an extreme understatement. To be honest, this has nothing to do with seduction or dating, it's just basic self respect. I've done the same in bus…	/r/seduction	08/12/19 11:32 PM
2	The truth about dating women - A woman’s perspective Forgive me if I don't take advice from someone that failed at one of the most important relationships they've ever (attempted) to have. It's like getting a dropout's advice on how to get a PhD.	/r/seduction	07/12/19 03:05 AM
1	Even as an attractive guy Tinder is a waste of time Do you sexually escalate right away? The short answer is yes. You do this by prolonging eye contact, touching (even if it's a gentle handshake), playful banter (push/pull), and getting her to share things about herself. Basically, anything that you wouldn't do with a guy is sexual escalation. A lot of this is implied and you might end up asking yourself "wait.. did I just sexually escalate?" -- if you just did something you wouldn't do with a guy, the answer is probably yes.	/r/seduction	06/12/19 10:54 PM
1	Even as an attractive guy Tinder is a waste of time Having a goal whenever you initiate a social interaction is important, but the goal of "I want to fuck this girl" or "I want to get her number" is a shitty goal. She might be hot, but she might be an entitled asshole. Or she might be a lesbian, for all you know. Your goal should be "I want to make this a fun interaction and get to know her better" -- this is usually the same kind of goal you'd have when talking to a guy. The main difference is that you'll also sexually escalate when given the op…	/r/seduction	06/12/19 09:14 PM
2	Even as an attractive guy Tinder is a waste of time Assuming you're middle/upper-class, as you get older, you'll attend more and more events that will have some dancing competency as an expectation (weddings, galas, balls, etc.).	/r/seduction	06/12/19 05:47 PM
6	Even as an attractive guy Tinder is a waste of time Tinder and Bumble were great about 6-7 years ago, but they are complete and utter trash in 2019. The time spent swiping you should spend going out and doing fun things. Since you're at college, I strongly suggest dance classes or joining a dance club: Bettering yourself and getting fun hobbies is the best way to meet people. There is always a surplus of women at those kinds of events; I'm not kidding, women will often take turns "leading" while they dance with each other due to a lack of men. As…	/r/seduction	06/12/19 05:30 AM
24	Even as an attractive guy Tinder is a waste of time No courage needed. Start talking to people. You'll instantly see if you vibe with someone or not. "Get away from me, freak" is only something you see in Hollywood movies. Those kinds of rejections are so rare, they basically don't exist (especially during the day and in public places). If a girl isn't into you, she'll politely say "thanks, but I have a boyfriend." Girls are socialized to be non-confrontational. As a man, you have literally nothing to fear.	/r/seduction	06/12/19 04:21 AM
4	How do I communicate high value to girls The absolute best way to demonstrate high value is to not demonstrate it yourself at all -- but to let others demonstrate it for you. This means actually being a popular, fun guy that people enjoy spending time with. It means briefly interrupting a conversation you're having with her because someone wants to say "hi" or shake your hand. It means asking for her number not because you memorized a line, but because you really do have to go do other things but would like to keep in touch. Social pro…	/r/seduction	03/12/19 04:06 AM
14	I'm outgoing and funny but never close. Need tips. Best seddit advice I've seen in years, wish I could upvote 100 times. Us men (especially intelligent ones) over-complicate the simplest processes. The easiest litmus test for whether or a girl likes you or not: proximity. If she's not into you, she won't be near you. It's fucking simple. Unlike all other "signs" (eye contact, flirtyness, etc.), proximity is the best indicator (even shy girls will sit close to you if they're into you, even though they might not make eye contact or talk much). The…	/r/seduction	24/11/19 09:18 PM
2	Today i tries my first attempt at day game. It met this girl at the gym, and we just started talking. Even though it failed, i think this goes to show, that it's all about being confident and having great interactions. Not getting laid.. Probably because he asked her a weird ass thing like "go to the gym together." How the fuck is that a "weird ass thing" ... do you have any friends (male or female)? And you're getting upvoted too lol; this sub is literally a bunch of on-the-spectrum freaks. It's basically a trope that guys/girls that work out together end up banging.	/r/seduction	18/11/19 01:54 AM
9	Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual Conversations I think you'e confused. A social interaction having patterns is far-removed from being a solvable mathematical equation. Of course there's patterns (there's also patterns in music and poetry, by the way), but social interactions are fundamentally a creative process.	/r/seduction	16/11/19 12:04 AM
16	Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual Conversations Because talking to girls is a creative (not a technical) process. There's no "formula" for writing a sonnet or composing a symphony. Similarly, every girl is different and every interaction is more akin to improv than a script. Same reason why geeky people rarely have non-geeky friends.	/r/seduction	15/11/19 11:21 PM
4	Stop Watching Porn Several scientific studies have shown watching porn is almost identical in the brain to drugs like cocaine. Correction: porn addiction is like cocaine addiction. Read the fucking papers; but you probably won't because you're lazy and dumb. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/ Quitting porn won't make you a Chad The fact that you seriously believe in internet memes like "Chad" and "Stacy" is reprehensible. It also indicates that you're either 15 or an incel without any real-world…	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:53 AM
0	Stop Watching Porn has similar effects as cocain in the brain This is an extreme oversimplification and incredibly disingenuous. A lot of things make your brain flood with dopamine, including petting a cute puppy. Why wound anybody refuse to be my friend just because I don't watch porn? That's not what I said. I just said your obsession with not watching porn gives off a very weird vibe. And that's why no one will want to be your friend. I can't cionvince any body to stop self harm. This is delusional. What's the …	/r/seduction	13/11/19 12:27 AM
10	Stop Watching Porn This nonsense has go to stop. Masturbating has been around for as long as mankind has been around. For example: when I drink heavily, I will occasionally bum a cigarette off of someone and smoke it. Being addicted to nicotine (say, smoking a pack a day) is one thing, but smoking a cigarette a few times a year is a completely different thing. If you feel like you're addicted to porn, that's a completely different issue. You can be addicted to plenty of things: nicotine, coffee, or candy. People a…	/r/seduction	12/11/19 11:46 PM