Can I learn pickup while homelesa?

ultratraditionalist · 2020-10-02T19:25:17+00:00

I'm also in my twenties and still a virgin.

This is totally normal (something like 25% of people in their 20s haven't had sex in the past year), and sticking your dick in a wet hole won't make you into a different person. You need to re-prioritize and get your life together. Forget women. Go back to school, learn a trade, build a life for yourself.

Your focus on women seems like an avoidance tactic. Hope you figure it out, bro.

UnsuitableTrademark · 2020-10-02T20:02:16+00:00

Fuck man if I was in that situation that last thing I’d be thinking about is how to get my dick wet and hitting up /r/seduction for advice. I mean would it hurt I guess no not really, do you. But is it the most productive? Idk. Sort out your life, get your mental head game in a better place, and knock of the living hell out of life. The girls will be there when you return I promise you

Woujo · 2020-10-02T20:02:51+00:00

I hate to sound like an asshole, but I really doubt that any self-respecting woman will want to have sex with a homeless guy who lives in a shelter and has bad hygiene. Even if you could make yourself look reasonable, your situation is going to show itself somehow.

Your problem is that you are stuck in a spiral of negative thinking. If you have the ability to get a haircut and a nice shirt, why haven't you gotten one by now?

You need to get out of your negative mindset first. You are not going to die alone. You are going to find a job. You are not going to be stuck in a homeless shelter for "months."

You first priority is to get a haircut, get a nice outfit, and get a job at a grocery story or something. Once you have that, then rent a room for a couple hundred bucks a month. After you have hit those 2 plateaus, which you should be able to do in a few weeks, you can start trying to get laid.

You should also focus on making a few friends first before focusing on getting laid. I'm afraid all the rejection you will suffer if you get into pickup is just going to make your negative mindset worse.

Augustan-Isidoro · 2020-10-02T22:34:16+00:00

You're homeless, being a virgin in your twenties is the least of your problems. If I were in your position, I wouldn't even be thinking about women. Unless you're a male model, women aren't gonna be interested in a guy that is homeless.

Sad_Farm · 2020-10-02T23:54:47+00:00

I could tell by reading this sub your just look for reassurance that you should learn pick up and ignoring all the other advice telling you to focus on your life. Hate to be a dick but the mindset is probably why you’re in this situation. If you seriously think you should be learning pickup instead of looking for a job or home you’ll be miserable forever. And Pick up is just dumb tricks real attraction is formed by making connections with actual people and building your life. I’ve also seen that video your talking about and that guy is a pathetic sack of shit, who drinks a four loko at 10 in the morning. no one is envious of that guy or wants to trade places with him. He is sad and I’m pretty sure even he himself stated that his life is sad. And you will be too if you dont get your shit tg. No one will fell sorry for you at that point.

-BroncosForever- · 2020-10-02T20:04:24+00:00

Just focus on yourself for now, don’t get hung up on the virginity aspect of it.

Pussy is nice but it not like it should take priority in your life.

It would be pretty challenging for any homeless person guy to end up fucking a (normal) girl, let alone someone with no experience.

I’d be way more worried about figuring out how to get a place to then take a girl back to rather than how I’d be trying to get laid if I was in your shoes.

Straight up- if you do manage to hide your situation from a chick and get it in you will feel pretty stupid afterwards. Because you’ll realize it’s really not that amazing, not enough to revolve your life around the idea of it. Especially your first few times you will suck ass at it. I remember like the first 5 times I fucked I remember thinking how I could bang my fleshlight even better lol. You will learnt the hard way that it’s foolish to work that hard just for some pussy.

Find out how to get a job and a place and then worry about pussy my dude.

But yeah you could clean up and hit girls up and then just try the best to explain your situation as you get to know them. It will be tough but if they really like you maybe they will see through it and have patience. But it will be a lot harder to hook up with girls

Ericoftheeast · 2020-10-02T21:24:39+00:00

Get your life together first. Girls will only cause distractions and increase your expenses. At least wait until you get your own room or apartment and have taken a proper shower. Truth might hurt a little but getting your life together is what is best.

apocalypticalley · 2020-10-03T01:43:28+00:00

You need to focus on yourself dude.

What kind of stupid ass priority is getting women when you don't even have your life together.

weird_watercress · 2020-10-02T20:13:06+00:00

If you've got nothing better to do with your time I would say go for it. Learning pick up is learning people skills, and that can help you a lot in a job interview and in building a life for yourself, plus it's fun. Don't worry about hygiene. Unless you stink and look a total mess it isn't as important as people make out, you can buy some new and very cheap clothes these days and this is all you need. Learning pick up is very character building too. 100% go for it.

GoldSmith64 · 2020-10-03T05:10:56+00:00

Hey just wanted to say I hope things get better for you soon. Sorry for what you’re going through. Good luck to you

Mistermistery101 · 2020-10-03T16:58:31+00:00

This is an unpopular opinion:

It is possible to get girls while homeless. In fact I had a friend use tinder/ approaching women on the streets to hookup with girls and then have them feed them and let them use their shower. He was in a very similar experience as you.

The issue you face right now is your own limiting beliefs. I can already tell from what you wrote that YOU YOURSELF don't believe it's possible. That's why you posted on here, and you got responses that you probably expected because again you don't believe it's possible.

From what you said, it sounds like you're working to find a way to make a living so I'm not going to stress you on that. Right now you're in a position where you have a lot of free time. Use that free time to practice approaching. Your main issue is experience. Talk to as many women as you can and learn the ins and out of social dynamics.

This subreddit is good but I feel like there's so many varying opinions, so it's hard to really find what's legit and what's a bunch of bullshit. I will recommend 3 youtubers. If you only follow what they say and no one else, on top of gaining experience, you will be set.

1)Mr.Locario

2)engineered lifestyle

3) Corey Wayne

Watch these youtube videos, and go out approaching endless women and you will see that it doesn't matter if your homeless, you can still get women.

But as the others have said, you should still work on improving your own lifestyle. That being said I don't think you should wait until you make 6 figures to start talking to women. You can literally do it now, just don't let that distract you from actually making your life situation better.

Hope the best and really hope you check out the youtubers I mentioned. And remember talk to women everyday. You'll get a lot of rejection, but you will learn from every experience, and grow from those experiences. It's a process. It's a numbers game. And like you said, you know you're not at your highest point. You're just trying to learn game. Imagine if you got good at game now. Imagine how irresistible you'll be once you have your life together on top of learning game.

Life is a game that you shouldn't take too seriously because you and everyone else will eventually die. What's the point of stressing over something that's not gonna matter 300 years from now. Enjoy the moment you have and try to bring joy to those around you broski.

Please take what I said to heart. Stay focused.

7GoodVibes · 2020-10-02T20:02:22+00:00

It’s been done, as seen in the video.

There will be some adjustments to fit your situation, compared to people in different situations, though.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bmav517MQJc

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-10-02T20:08:43+00:00

I would do whatever it takes to get a roof back over my head. I don't even date when I have a place but need to safe up money. Focusing any attention on dating would be wasting time you could be using to better your situation.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-10-02T21:55:55+00:00

Homeless ppl are used to hearing no(life),

Not afraid of rejection(salesman shit),

Don't GAF what you think of them(igaf),

are outcome independent (hear no,ok next person),

Are willing to keep trying til they get that sweet sweet donation(perseverance),

And the successful panhandlers have good mouthpiece (game/convo skills).

These are ALL SKILLS YOU NEED WHEN APPROACHING CHICKS.

so yes,you can Mayne.

Good luck, stay safe

IndustryImpressive · 2020-10-02T22:17:22+00:00

Two factors:

Honestly? Do it. Just don't think of it as "true" pickup. Forget about the part where you get laid, and focus on having positive interactions. Maybe you'll meet a lady that invites you back to her place, maybe not, but at least you'll get some practice.

On the other hand, I'm guessing you're in the US, and I cannot in good conscience suggest that you do cold approaches outside of strictly necessary interactions due to the pandemic. If you have to go to the store, chat up the cashier. That type of thing. That's all I've been doing. Don't cold approach randomly, don't hit the bars, and don't become a Typhoid Mary.

thedarkseducer · 2020-10-02T22:21:53+00:00

You can still pickup women but ask yourself what is your goal? Giving consideration to your situation, while you go through your conflicts on your journey itll be fun to have someone. Our conflicts makes us stronger. I’ll tell you a story. I had a friend who would literally pick up models in Hollywood. He was also homeless and some of them helped him. Personality goes a very long way but ask yourself what is more important to you now? You have A LOT to offer women you are valuable despite your status and you’d be surprised how far you could go. People here have given you good advice about focusing on yourself and rebuilding your life but they also are speaking within limitations. Anything is possible. Funny enough when I was sleeping in my car, wandering the streets at night, I still was about to pull it off and had plenty of women to rotate but I also never went into depth about my situation.

Personality Status and Looks are god when attracting women. You’re valuable but I would focus on my life and overcome my status. With being a Virgin, I also don’t see you playing the field for sex. I know you feel alone and like society has thrown you away but you’re valuable. It’s just no amount of picking up would erase those feelings and it’s not a good escapism

Revolutionary-Lab-10 · 2020-10-02T22:21:59+00:00

Hey man I’m sorry you are in this situation and I genuinely feel for you. I would focus on becoming financially stable before you even think about women. You’ve got to focus on yourself right now, a wet hole isn’t going to make you feel better in the long run.

Inoue-Orihime · 2020-10-03T06:13:03+00:00

My cousin’s now husband was literally homeless, living out of his car when they started dating. After he’d made a habit of respectfully crashing on her couch after hanging out, she jokingly asked “dude are you homeless?” To which the answer was a surprising “actually, yeah...kinda.”

He was not a weird dead beat homeless dude, just a young 20-something, really great guy super down on his luck but reluctant to run to parents for help (with no addictions).

They (cousin and hubby) now run a business together and have a 5 bedroom house, and twin boy and girl upstate. 3 years married and superbly happy, as you will be one day 🙂

earsurgery9 · 2020-10-03T08:57:43+00:00

there's nothing really too 'learn'. This isn't advanced algebra lol

Just basic social skills, mixed with showing some intent on the girls who are receptive tbh

2020-10-03T09:24:16+00:00

What I would do if I was in yourn shoes is I would just go up to a girl I like, and say "sorry to bother you, but you have a beautiful style" or whatever other genuine compliment, and then walking away. This way I'd be getting better at talking with women, spreading positivity but not putting too much focus on it. I'd start with just that and see how the girls react

Title	Can I learn pickup while homelesa?
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Date	October 2, 2020 7:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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