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6

Amen. Eject. She’s a fuxking whore and now your adversary in a legal battle
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:06 PM
9

We’ve all been there brother. Focus on yourself. You kids are your priority when they’re with you. Lift. Cardio. Get your finances in order if needed. Dress well and be clean. Blow your confidence thru the roof .Be the best you you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:15 PM
1

Every situation and circumstance is so different. my ex was an attorney herself so she knew what the deal was and I was ignorant. I figured we’d sell the house make some nice profit on it split the proceeds and life went on. Boy was I mistaken.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:44 PM
2

Selling the marital house before the divorce was finalized. Heck we sold it before she filed which gave her a war chest of cash to fight me with
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:10 PM
18

Get used to it
/r/askMRP14/11/23 09:47 PM
2

Sorry to hear this! Thinking about you brother. I went through a long costly and litigious custody battle of my ex-wife being an attorney herself. The end she got the relocation 4 1/2 hours away and it’s been pretty brutal at times traveling there in the winter. Two months ago I was driving my kids back and fell asleep at the wheel because I’ve been totally worn out and almost killed all of us. I advice. You got to know when to hold and fold. I give up on fighting this battle and just accept it …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:42 PM
2

Fight fire with fire 🔥. Good luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 09:41 PM
3

In my state it was legal as long as the car was registered in my name . Spytec
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 01:32 PM
2

I vote Thailand. I would’ve done it if I was a w2 employee . No way would I have been her plow horse till the kids turned 18 while hardly seeing my kids .
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 03:36 AM
2

47yo here. After I got out of my marriage, and through my divorce and brutal custody battle, I met a girl 12 years younger than me. We were together for almost 3 years and she had quite a few red flags and constantly had problems and shit tests from her. We broke up a while back, and I’ve always had my shit together. Lifted consistently. Cardio. In great shape. Financially successful. Well traveled. Lots of friends and social circles. These days I’m just enjoying dating a few women. I had what I…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 01:27 PM
1

Better to take the beating now while you’re relatively young than later when it’s harder to recover .
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 08:00 PM
8

Exactly!!!! After all the shit we’ve been through, what fucking sane man wants a serious relationship anymore?!? Shit I just want … relations .
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:16 PM
1

If no kids involved....leave the country like others have mentioned. I'd go to Asia
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 12:42 PM
1

Started with 50/50 and ended up with 35% and a relocation after a year long battle and $150K in attorneys costs.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:20 AM
4

How else would she be guaranteed cash and prizes?
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 03:02 AM
2

I did. She still “wasn’t happy” and ruined me on the way out.
/r/askMRP23/07/23 04:47 PM
3

NO NO NO NO NO.....DO NOT ALLOW THIS! Biggest mistake of my life. You will essentially lose your kid. I'd try to play it calm....sure honey let's just settle this other stuff first. Get the asset division and spousal support agreed upon. Then say 50/50. If she wants to move away ALL travel and expenses are on HER.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:07 PM
27

This. And don't get married in case you missed the memo.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 12:04 AM
2

You guys split the debt then
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 04:49 PM
1

No. Other than the attorneys lining their pockets a bit more. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 07:22 PM
5

And they'll impute your income for maximum spousal and child support. You're going into battle my friend. Get your shit together.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 01:26 PM
1

Great way to be. I agree with you 100% I just need to live it
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 05:54 AM
20

Nothing. Ex wife was an attorney. Worst possible adversary in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 12:39 AM
1

Good luck. They'll impute your income unless you're completely handicapped.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/23 11:20 PM
3

Do you have a lease and if so, is your name on it?
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/23 01:38 PM
1

Not a good sign brother. Been there and worse. Prepare for war. Find a good attorney and follow his advise if your STBXW is unwilling to negotiate. Unfortunately you two will be helping put the attorneys kids through private school with the money you'll burn
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 11:01 PM
14

I can't. Divorced 3 years. My ex wife swore up and down she didn't believe in divorce. Religious woman from a good family. 13 years later se files say she wasn't happy. Dead bedroom for 4 years. Fast forward to now. Get into a LTR with a younger woman. Weird feeling in gut from the first few weeks. about 8 months in lies straight to my face about her whereabouts - was with ex bf. Just not worth it fellas.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 03:59 AM
1

There’s the possibility that they’ll consider the appreciation of when you inherited it to when you’re divorcing a marital asset. Ask your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 08:06 PM
5

2nd Christmas without my kids. Seems like the pain is getting worse knowing all the lost time and memories. Sucks being alone
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 12:18 AM
1

I might consider it. Go for the low hanging fruit
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 07:28 AM
9

I just got out of a 2.5 year LTR with a woman just like that. My god - made my ex wife seem like a saint.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 07:27 AM
4

Good luck brother My ex was a attorney herself (admitted in 4 states) as well as a elected politician. I felt that outside of having a legal education myself, I was always at a disadvantage. My divorce was absolutely brutal
/r/askMRP10/12/22 04:17 PM
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8 months? You’re in the honeymoon phase and your mind is still clouded from the trauma. Take it slow
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 12:45 PM
4

This. I'd also install a few cameras in the house. You know....for "security". Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 11:28 AM
3

This. Control the things you have the ability to control and accept the fact that when dealing with another human, especially women, they’ll be things outside of your control. Proceed accordingly
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 03:04 PM
21

Not personally but an older guy that works for me did. Got divorced and subsequently divorce raped - had to sell a lucrative business. Eventually remarried and tells me " Shoot me - I made the same mistake twice"
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 02:29 PM
10

No go. I will not invite a woman nor the state ever again into my life and give up any control over my freedom, finances, livelihood or lifestyle
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 07:52 PM
5

If you're not already doing it....start lifting.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 12:21 AM
2

Find a good attorney. IANAL - But I went through something similar. If your wife and her attorney are pieces of shit, they're going to claim that as marital property. At the min you'd possibly owe her 1/2 of the appreciation. The worst they'll claim it was a gift and it's completely a marital asset.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 11:25 AM
3

Are you paying the bills from joint account or a personal account that commingles with your joint account? How much has the house appreciated since they gifted it to you?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 03:25 AM
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It fucking sucks. Talk about being depressed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 05:14 AM
1

Sorry to hear. Been there. Luckily, financially, you might make out ok. I'd offer her : Keep your deferred comp, I'll keep the house ( if you even want it ) and I'll pay off the CC and have a nice day.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 01:01 PM
2

You got it. Better days ahead. If you’re going through hell keep going
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 04:25 AM
3

OP - Sorry to hear about your situation. I like you went through a brutal and very costly custody battle and divorce, which subsequently ending with me essentially losing my kids to a relocation 5+ hours away. The stress during the whole process was monumental - way worse than the excruciating battle with cancer. I witnessed my mom endure for 3+ years, including the final miserable three months of her life. The divorce and custody battle made that seem manageable. The system/game is rigged and i…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 10:02 PM
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100% there with you. 46 and 3 years out of a brutal and costly custody battle and divorce. I want none of that anymore. I was dating a woman a bit younger than me but that has come to an end due to her ultimatum. Everything a woman brings to our life can be outsourced.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:27 PM
4

Look into ketamine infusions .
/r/askMRP02/11/22 01:23 PM
1

As others have said ….50/50 is probably your best case scenario unless you STBX is a incarcerated felon or something like that. Depression and MJ use the judges won’t even bat an eye .
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 09:27 PM
1

Get her making more money. Maybe even getting health insurance for the kids. Implement austerity measures. Make sure she doesn't have access to too much if any saved cash to fight you with
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 02:00 PM
3

Great book. I think I've read/listened to it 3x
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:25 PM
2

High earner still doesn't guarantee not getting divorce raped. Hedges a bit for sure. Ask me how I know :(
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 09:16 PM
5

Most certainly PTSD. And I most certainly was damaged from the whole long process. Between the brutal divorce and custody battle, dealing with the suffering and eventual loss of my mother, and a nightmare of a childhood, I've noticed similar issues and my counselor / therapist has said most definitely it's PTSD
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 08:16 PM
1

Probably not. Have they been commingled? The very best you're looking at a 50% split in appreciation of the asset from when you were married.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 12:49 PM
1

Cant you stipulate custody in a prenup?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 10:23 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 03:21 PM
2

Amen brother. I was fighting off false DV charges and claims of being inappropriate with my daughter. My ex was an attorney herself.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/22 01:16 PM
3

I'd put in there that say if your ex offers you FROR ( any over night) , she has to drop/pick up kids from you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 10:26 PM
2

Yeah man. Didn’t sleep much those days. The divorce was way worse than watching my mom waste away from cancer and her eventual passing. All is pretty good now. Better than I’ve ever been. Worst part is kids are 4hours away. I hope you’re seeing better days yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 12:41 PM
3

Those “gifts” could be considered income and would be factored in SS and CS to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 07:06 PM
2

Yeah man I hear you. I did exactly that. Cost me mid 6 figures and still lost.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 03:26 PM
1

If you want 50/50 fight like hell. Don't fall on your sword. I got fucked in mediation. I had just buried my mom after a 3+ year brutal battle with cancer and was tired and at the end of my limits. After a 8+ hour mediation session I just wanted it all over. I have tons of regrets and sadness. My kids are far from me and although I have much better than the EOW screw job, I have less than 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 12:41 PM
2

If you were negotiating the sale of your car and needed to get 10,000 out of it, would you list it at 10,000?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 03:44 PM
1

You could be starting off at a negotiating disadvantage. What parenting time is the STBX wife wanting to "give" you?. I'd start out offering her EOW and Wed. evenings.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 12:41 PM
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I personally wouldn’t sell the house. I got tricked into that right before my wife filed and I gave her The money to fight me and make my life totally miserable. If I hadn’t sold that house she would’ve been totally backed up against the wall financially
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 09:42 PM
16

Spot on. The traditional roles and dynamics of a traditional relationship have been eviscerated . My ex told me I was controlling when I told her I don’t date people that hang out or even maintain regular with their exes and past flings. She was 35 and I’m 45. But yes, the big seismic shift we’ve seen in the relationship realm has only helped a redpilled man have easier access to women and sex while removing all the risks .
/r/TheRedPill06/09/22 05:01 PM
2

46 here. I think it's easier. Quantity is HIGH. It's just the quality of the women in the surrounding age bracket are lower quality/more red flags.
/r/newTRP06/09/22 02:13 PM
3

Good luck! Might not save you. My ex made more than me. I still had to cut her a huge check . I’m done with having kids and I’m done taking women seriously
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 02:24 AM
2

I lost a shit load of money. I'm talking lost time with kids and the relocation.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 01:37 PM
3

I lost my ass in mediation. My fault. I was tired, stressed and exhausted. Just buried my mother 6 months previously after a brutally long 3+ year battle with cancer. I replay the 8+ hour day in my head frequently.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 01:35 PM
7

Honesty, outside of religious reasons I see no reason to marry and invite the government into your personal relationship. 2 committed people can raise children without the legalities of marriage. We're just preaching to the choir here my friend. I just got out of a relationship with a women that just continued to push for marriage after I repeatedly explained to her that I'm not entering into another marriage. The first one cost me a ton along with my children and I have way much more to lose no…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 09:58 PM
3

<pulls up a chair>
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 09:25 PM
17

Yep. Divorced 2 years and the pain still lingers. I come back here and read to remind myself what that pain was like. Even after all the shared stories of pain, money lost and suffering many men just overlook the odds of a successful relationships and marriage and willingly enter into them all the while inviting the .gov into their lives.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 09:24 PM
2

Wish you the best. I'd try to come to an agreement with her without using attorneys. You'll get a good idea about how "amicable" she's going to be when you start talking money.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 06:15 PM
1

Kids with me every other weekend, 50/50 holidays and summer; two days a week from 3-6pm. Sounds like you're falling on your sword. I did that and I live with guilt and regret. Kids average over 7 hours of screen time with their mom consistently.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 02:51 AM
13

Amen brother. I was married almost 14 years and got divorced in 2020 at 44. Went back out into the wild - the dating scene only to see it as a wasteland of messed up women. Met a girl, red flags galore, but she’s fun. Saw her Hinge inbox one day and she had no joke 30+ dms in one day. Online and dating apps is only good for finding sex.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 11:16 PM
3

I haven’t spoken to my ex since the day we signed the decree. I hope that lying deceitful wench gets what she deserves for what she pulled during the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 04:21 AM
1

I have the skills but unfortunately just not enough time to do a big project like that. Between my businesses and my kids and traveling when I can just wouldn’t have the time . Would be fun tho !
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 09:14 PM
2

I’ve thought the same. Actually a Renegade . My issue is they’re built poorly and depreciate like a rock
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 04:52 AM
4

I need to get current
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 12:56 AM
2

Sir. I think that is the best, most useful post I’ve ever read on Reddit. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 03:11 PM
1

Parental Responsibility Evaluation.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 02:48 PM
1

Wouldn’t that type of arrangement be considered a common law marriage, which a few states still recognize still. And even if a state doesn’t recognize CL marriage, I’d hate to go before a judge in that situation and possibly be deemed a marriage
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 04:01 AM
2

Spot on. What the IRS considers expenses and what the other side will claim is your "income" for support calculations is a staggering difference.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 01:43 PM
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Yup. My ex turned into a real piece of shit. She was an attorney and local/state politician. Attempt at a fake DV charge. Attempted to claim I was inappropriate with my daughter. Parental alienation. Gave my parents estate planning advice which surprisingly benefited her in the divorce. Ended up spending $125K in attorneys bills just to secure 30%. I was afraid to risk it all at trial. Namely my parents life work and savings. This was a devout catholic too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/22 01:10 AM
2

Brothers in Texas kill stepfather for sexually abusing 9-year-old sister, reports say:
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/22 01:06 AM
4

Great post man. I went through hell myself and your words are accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 03:56 AM
1

True….
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 03:33 PM
9

I’d assume you’d need some money for that
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 03:47 AM
4

A lot of good information has been posted. I’d say the most important right now would be: Implement austerity measures. Make it seem like you guys are poor She has to get a job If you want to avoid a fire sale to liquidate things, consider Refi the properties at max LTV if possible Squirrel away cash while making your best effort to make sure she doesn’t have access to too much of your money to fight you with NEVER, NEVER leave the house until the end of at all Good luck brother I fought a simil…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 03:21 AM
8

While a prenup can be an ok hedge, they routinely get thrown out for various reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 11:38 PM
2

Yep Churchill
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 07:30 PM
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Live others have already said: Get a digital voice recorder and or body cam. Also, set up cameras in the house for "security". DONT MOVE OUT. You loose a bargaining chip by doing so. Good luck man. Many of us have been there. Be ready for a false DV or other allegations. My divorce was a long 12 month journey though HELL. I know many other endure more pain, but sty focused on your goals and like my good buddy, a Marine, said: "If you're going through hell....KEEP GOING!"
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 02:12 PM
3

Here is a book worth a read: Wild at Heart Revised & Updated: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 02:54 PM
14

Your story is much like mine brother. I feel your pain. I ceded to my ex during mediation because I was just tired. I had just hurried my mother after a 3 year battle with stage IV cancer and was emotionally spent. I just wanted the emotional and financial bleeding to stop. I feel like no one was in my corner. My kids now live 5 hours away ( in the best conditions driving - the other day it took me 9 hours to get home) and I see them 1x a month, a week @ thanksgiving, a week after Xmas, and 6 we…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 02:50 PM
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Wish I would’ve found it before marrying me ex (attorney herself)
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 04:56 PM
5

Good luck brother. If she seems "amicable" now, there is a high likelihood that once she gets control of the child, things will change. I "fell on my sword" perse. I got tired. I was stressed and exhausted. My ex was an attorney herself. Not fighting like a fucking bastard for 50/50 with my kids is a regret I anguish over EVERY day. If I were you, I'd fight for that 50/50. Hire a babysitter or nanny. It'll be better than writing your ex a blank check every month for "child support".
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 02:10 PM
2

It has to be cash. Maybe start a side gig. Starve the beast.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 11:04 PM
1

How old are you? 16? 0%? Bribe? Grow up
/r/askMRP02/01/22 05:43 PM
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The tax code was written by lawyers and politicians. If you're a W2 wage earner, well, that's your first and biggest problem.
/r/askMRP02/01/22 04:30 PM
2

Yep. My ex was an attorney herself. I met her she was 3 years out of law school making $180K/yr. I always made less than her, but lived frugally and invested in income producing properties, businesses and my 401K and IRA. We were married 12 years. I always paid all the bills. All she paid for was babysitting and for the kids to go to Catholic school ( $1500/mo for both). At the time of our divorce she still had $200K in school debt, and had racked up $120K in credit card debt. She went after EVE…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 02:23 PM
2

Fuck her. Go for what you can in her retirement and impute her income at F/T.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 02:10 PM
2

Set in your mind the things you are unwilling to bend on and fight like a bastard for them. That is one of the pivotal pieces of advice I read and didn't follow through. I was stressed and tired and just wanted it over. I went to mediation ( should've never done that either ) and after 8 hours signed a shitty deal that I regret daily.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 02:08 PM
2

"Gold Digging Whores"
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 05:26 PM
1

Not sure where you are but a ring is a promise to marry, and depending where you are could be contributory to making your relationship a common law marriage. Good luck
/r/MensRights29/12/21 02:54 PM
2

Ah ok. Just be aware that you’re giving up leverage in situation by moving out. Very valuable leverage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 02:52 AM
2

IANAL - I would never move out. Hunker down. Install cameras everywhere in the house and wear a video / audio recording device 24/7
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 09:59 PM
10

Implement austerity and she needs to start working 40 hours + a week if you have any hope of not getting divorce raped. Godspeed brother I just went through mine and luckily mine not only worked, but had an advanced degree(she was an attorney) and I still took it in the pants
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 12:19 AM
16

First things first. She needs a job. Good luck brother / talk to a few attorneys.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/21 10:11 PM
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Take this mans advice. I'd have a body cam even. My ex was an attorney herself, represented by the known most unethical attorney that just destroys any hope of co parenting. DO NOT under any circumstances leave or sell the marital home.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/21 03:04 AM
1

I'd stay the fvck away from the dating apps. Nothing but troubled women there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 02:20 PM
3

Yep. Effectively lost my kids to a relocation. Signed a shitty deal. Now I get to deal with it the next 13 years. Be happy you have 50/50. Be happy your children are still close by.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 01:16 PM
1

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but…..That’s just the beginning.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 08:59 PM
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50/50 is your hill to die on if she’s fighting you over that. The rest will be assets-liabilities pretty much.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 05:13 PM
10

Problem is most women are looking for a free meal ticket. Even my ex, doctoral educated and earning a good salary, spent 125% of her income
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 01:24 AM
2

Hahaha never heard that. The ex is certainly plankton. Heck even my newer model is up against the wall facing reality but at least she’s aging well lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 11:45 PM
2

Preach it brother. Women these days are delusional. But we all know that they’ve been disillusioned by the feminist movement and social media. Almost like they’ve lost how to be a woman. Let them reap what they sow.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 03:31 PM
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Sorry to hear what you're going through brother. All of us have confronted this war, some fighting different battles. Fight for your daughter. 50/50 or die trying. I wish I did. "If you're going through hell ... keep goin."
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 03:06 AM
1

She's hiding stuff. For a reason. Start preparing for divorce. Talk to an attorney and do what you can to protect yourself. Honestly, every married guy needs to do this for what is basically inevitable.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 01:18 AM
2

Hired a supposed great attorney. Promised the world. Felt like I got screwed
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/21 10:16 PM
1

Doesn’t matter . Marital asset . I know it’s BS . Sell it and split it. Just my $.02
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 06:52 PM
1

Get him the ebook The Free Agent Lifestyle
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 06:11 PM
8

Shut your mouth and encourage her to travel more and enjoy her life. Build up more status quo of being the primary caregiver and her an abandoning mother then file
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 08:31 AM
1

It’s a risk. A calculated risk against your favor. You have a ~80% chance of either being financially and mentally destroyed through divorce or stuck in a miserable marriage while you waste your life away in fear of divorce.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 10:08 PM
2

Don’t move out and have a digital voice recorder running 24/7. TRUST ME
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/21 12:36 AM
3

I’d start cutting back on extravagant spending and really curtail the family budget. Encourage her to work more and “go out”. Record all the time you’re home with the kids. You’ll likely gonna pay a boatload of SS and CS. Good luck brother. It’s gonna get way way uglier before it gets better but just remember there is light at the end of the tunnel
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/21 12:33 AM
1

My ex was an attorney. I got shafted. Get yourself an attorney if only to review her “offer”.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 07:51 PM
1

My ex weaponized the kids against me and used them as pawns to get what she wanted. I essentially lost my kids and they lost a good father to a narcissistic person advised by a unethical attorney. It’ll probably affect me for ever.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 01:06 PM
3

I wouldn’t even enter the cesspool of online dating. It’s a wasteland of messed up, washed up women. Women leverage the only asset they have on these apps and social media. Their bodies and sex. That’s all they’re able to offer a driven successful man.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 02:31 PM
5

Yep. She actually made more than me. Only I invested in assets and she pissed away 140% of her income. I paid that out to avoid liquidating my income producing assets
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 06:33 PM
11

Lost kids to relocation. They’re 5 hours away and I only see them 5 days a month during the school year. Total - $600,000 $500/mo child support The system is anti-father
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 06:30 PM
1

Fight the relocation if your daughter is important to you. My kids live 5 hours from me and it kills me. Biggest mistake of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 01:24 PM
2

I battled with my ex for about 10 months. My legal bill was north of $100K. Still lost my kids and had to write her a huge check.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 12:30 PM
5

Good luck brother. We've all felt the fire and most of us are scarred. Some worse than others. My divorce was a brutal battle where I effectively lost my kids. My advice for you: Be prepared to go nuclear. Just because she's acting amicable doesn't mean it'll be as such. I wouldn't move out of the family house nor sell it before a judge ordered me to do so. I also wouldn't giver her custodial with you being 45/55. ​ Just my $.02
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 12:03 AM
3

First things first - did you actually agree to that EOW bullshite ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 02:21 PM
1

Interesting. Felt like I was reading the script of my own divorce. After all that he went through, ho went and got married again to a yoga instructor and has another 6 kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 12:36 AM
2

Just let him know how proud you are of him and how much you love him. How you would've loved to been there. I wish I could be at more of my kids' things. They live 5 hours away
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 12:53 PM
3

You're fortunate she's willing to come to the table. I'd still have your attorney look it over. Make sure your parenting schedule is outlined to the T! Holidays, Birthdays, Mother/Fathers day, family emergencies, pick up/ drop off, FROR, etc!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 12:50 PM
1

Been there my friend. My attorney/accountant/specialist bills were averaging $10-$12K/month. My wife was a high income earner but always spent 125% of her income. I owned multiple income producing assets and businesses. Unfortunately I effectively lost my kids in the divorce - I get about 95 overnights with them and they live 5 hours away. I had to pay her a mid to high 6 figure settlement. My attorney bills were about $125K. Offer her a CASH settlement. Work with your attorney on what 50% of th…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/21 12:42 PM
4

I feel you brother. Same story here! I hired what many said was the best. He got taken to the mat by her old bitch of an attorney. Effectively lost my kids ( both custody and relocation ) and a mid-high 6 figure settlement + legal costs
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 11:55 PM
1

I endured a soul sucking divorce. Besides dropping my ex : The biggest thing is … Live rent/utility free in an apt above my business. Paid for vehicles. Eat simple / nutritional meals which require little prep. Home gym - save time and money
/r/MGTOW219/07/21 12:30 AM
2

I have a Toyota Sienna. I can buy any car I’d like. I like you find the minivan so useful.
/r/MGTOW219/07/21 12:27 AM
2

Spot on. She'll be aging like milk from here on out.
/r/askMRP16/07/21 12:42 AM
6

44 and recently divorced within the 2 year3. I was married 13 years and have 2 beautiful kids which I love dearly. Got involved with a woman 10 years younger and am/was happy but recently we've gotten into a huge argument and I think it's over. I've just caught her too many time overstepping my boundaries and testing my limits. Lying to me and going out to dinner with exes. Seeing texts pop up on her phone from guys saying "sweet dreams". Sad because we've had some fun times together. Treated he…
/r/MGTOW209/07/21 01:17 PM
2

I was a IronWorker / Welder. We made bank but I got out of it due to fears of either dying or wearing my body out. We worked with many of the trades. I'd suggest: Electrician Crane Operator On a completely separate idea, look into becoming a barber. I have a close relative that started as a small mens barber and eventually opened his own shop. Makes more than most doctors. Free lifestyle. He say as long as he's able to stand he can cut hair and he loves it. Talking to his fellow men etc.
/r/MGTOW207/07/21 12:37 PM
8

She'll be entitled to half the value.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/21 04:51 PM
1

True story
/r/MGTOW230/06/21 12:24 AM
5

I really haven’t spoke to or seen my ex since we signed our decree back in Oct. Fuck that bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 05:45 PM
3

Me too not sure why
/r/MGTOW222/06/21 05:42 PM
2

Are there kids? Have many assets? Big income / employment disparity?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 12:37 PM
1

There are dating sites for wealthy people but you need to provide proof of your wealth either through income tax or bank statements
/r/askTRP20/06/21 09:25 PM
1

Zero. I played a lot when the original Xbox came out and we were in our 20's. Now I literally watch zero tv unless its some mindless crap the gf is watching. I spend about 2 hours a day online doing various things from work to just reading stuff
/r/askTRP16/06/21 12:15 PM
11

Pre Divorce: Cycling , Motorcross, Housework, traveling ​ Post Divorce: Working on my businesses trying to make the money back it cost me during the divorce. I do travel and with Europe starting to open back up I will be traveling more.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 12:12 PM
1

What does your wife earn compared to you?
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/21 12:42 PM
20

I really enjoy listening to the Free Agent Lifestyle. It's very basic and yes, I'm sure it repeats much of what's on the side bar, but Coach Adams conveys the principles in a way I find very reinforcing and motivational. I feel it's definitely worth the buy.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 07:08 PM
3

My legal bills topped $120k. I was getting consistent bills of $10k / mo. Not sure why any young man in today’s world would ever entertain entering the contract of marriage .
/r/MGTOW09/06/21 04:24 PM
1

Oh she does. Usually every other month she plans a trip for us. She just doesn’t have the income I do so obviously if I want to travel with her I pay which for now I’m ok with. Girls trip to Vegas …. I think I’ll start doing my own thing at that point. Some guys might not give a damn , and neither would I but like many have suggested, I’ll just pull back and do my thing without her
/r/askTRP09/06/21 01:43 PM
2

I see your POV. We enjoy each others company and for now I don't have a problem with it. I'm a busy guy and to be honest, don't have the time to maintain more women. If this one flames out, I'll remain single for a bit until the next one comes through. Now that Europe is back open I'd prefer a non American woman.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 12:20 PM
1

That's how I keep rationalizing it in my mind and how I tried to covey to her. I said outside of business I want to experience this things with her - not without, not solo, not with my buddies..
/r/askTRP08/06/21 11:21 PM
2

I feel the same. Like I mentioned we travel a lot and I feel that with me, she travels way more than she would ever be able to solo. We have fun and go many places. It's too bad they go and take a stable situation and turn it to shit.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 11:19 PM
7

I should also add that the "hypothetical" trip was Vegas.. So not a historical orcultural trip you could say.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 11:17 PM
6

Yeah. My thoughts precisely. I think I’m just gonna sit back and wait . See what her actions are. I just told her so what you feel is right and what makes you happy. We travel A LOT. 2x per month 90% on my dime. We’re going to Europe in August . What I’m saying is that I’m not holding her back - if anything she able to travel even more with me but then she goes and throws this out there
/r/askTRP08/06/21 08:17 PM
5

Did you buy a house together? My current gf is pushing this and I’m really not interested
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/21 02:53 PM
1

Great post man. Fellow 44 yo guy recently divorced and dating a girl. She's turning the screws HARD on buying a house together ( I live for free above my business ) and my wounds are still healing. My divorce was a 12 month BRUTAL battle that cost me dearly. My kids 5+ hours from me and cash payout to her to the tune of mid-high six figures. Hopefully some young guys reading this sub will learn from our mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 04:31 PM
2

I go in every four weeks to get for 4 sets of trays. At that point they check my progress. There was one time where some teeth weren’t moving fast enough so he had me keep two sets of trays in for two weeks each
/r/askTRP30/04/21 06:24 PM
2

Yes weekly changes. I had major crowding so literally the first 40 trays were moving all my molars rearward to make room to start straightening the front teeth.. From here onward my top front teeth will start straightening out and will be much more noticeable
/r/askTRP29/04/21 04:59 PM
16

Never too late to fix your teeth. I got Invisalign at 43. Currently on tray 42 of 69. Wish I would've done it sooner.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:10 PM
1

I get it . My LTR has the same shit. But then again, I have quite a few chicks I slept with on my FB…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 04:51 AM
2

If you blew her back out she would've been blowing up your phone waiting for your return. Sorry
/r/askTRP28/04/21 01:07 PM
0

You didn't fuck her good enough
/r/askTRP28/04/21 01:04 PM
2

It’s like going to Vegas and betting it all on black. Good luck man.
/r/askTRP24/04/21 01:16 AM
2

Guns are the best litmus test.
/r/askTRP19/04/21 01:19 PM
2

No worries brother. I just went through a brutal divorce and custody battle myself. I lost my kids and a shitload of money. My ex was an attorney herself so she knew very well the system and how to fuck me up
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 09:59 PM
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I wouldn’t listen to that attorney. Goes against everything pretty much anyone who’s been through the trenches advises . Good luck brother. She’s not your wife anymore. She’s your enemy and this is the battle of your life
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 09:10 PM
2

She’s branch swinging
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 09:08 PM
2

This is a trap by her to gain exclusive use of the marital residence and additional custody. DONT move out. Hunker down and file. Keep a digital voice recorder and/or body cam running 24/7
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 09:06 PM
1

I found mine on a divorced men FB page.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/21 01:01 AM
0

This. I'm 44 and was married for 13 years. Dated a girl 10 years younger following the divorce. I really liked her. We had great fun together. It appears that was possibly all a waste of time. Invest in yourself first. Don't waste precious time and money chasing these women. Like Robert says....relationships with women always eventually flame out or go to total shite.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 01:21 PM
1

You did good. I got one right now. She sucks it for like 5 seconds and then tells me to fuck her. Sometimes I don't feel like having sex. Maybe I should tell her I want a blow job on those days but damn, I just figured it was a given.lol She tells me I can jerk off on her. I just tell her no thanks.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 01:37 AM
3

Find a pro father attorney and file . Stay in the marital house until the decree is signed. Get at least a digital voice recorder or better yet a body cam to protect yourself against false DV charges.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/21 12:39 AM
1

DO NOT MOVE OUT under any circumstances. Get yourself a DVR, record 24/7, and settle in for the long haul.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/21 01:12 PM
2

Thank goodness my mother wasn’t like that. Heck, at 18 I brought two girls home and right to my bedroom and they spent the night and my mom didn’t say a peep. I used to bang the hell out of my gf down the hall.
/r/MGTOW231/03/21 12:14 PM
5

My dad is going to be 89 here in a few weeks. Divorced my mom in 96 and has been dating a doctor 20 years his junior for the better part of 25 years. To this day he tells me" Always keeps a "spare" ".
/r/askTRP30/03/21 11:08 PM
2

I was a big time cyclist . Got into racing and spent countless hours (8-10k miles per year) cycling . I loved it. Best shape of my life and lots of time to work things out
/r/MGTOW230/03/21 03:20 PM
1

I'm sorry you have this challenge but I hope it's manageable and you find a proper working solution. One of my best friends has never been out of an electric wheelchair with minimal movement of his lower arms just enough to control the chair. I'm just mentioning this option as you lead off with the money being a motivating factor along with your declining health. Use that $160K + SBA to buy a business. With that amount of cash and SBA approval, you could buy a business with as little as 10% down…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 11:49 AM
3

How is the medical system in Russia? Do they take US Cash?
/r/askTRP30/03/21 11:43 AM
1

Sometimes I get the impression that there are some real young guys / boys here. But that is ok. It’s our duty as older men to help these kids understand the trap of marriage and women
/r/askTRP29/03/21 10:38 PM
16

Tell her you’re gonna dump a bigger load on her tits
/r/askTRP28/03/21 07:16 PM
2

Yep. Should've been more ruthless and went scorched earth. My problem was I wanted to avoid complete financial ruin
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 01:10 AM
2

You're well into divorce rape territory. I'd find a and read the book "Fire Your Wife" and immediately implement it. Good on getting her working. Tough call though. I just went through an absolutely brutal divorce and essentially lost my little kids. I see them 5 days a month and a bunch in the summer. Sometimes I think I should've just stuck it out and read up more on marriedredpill and try to salvage something instead of divorcing and ruining the kids' lives
/r/MGTOW227/03/21 01:03 AM
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Yeah. I have a few regrets for sure. The first was the first time she moved out of the house with the kids while I was away on business, I should've filed immediately for divorce and asked for exclusive use & possession of the marital home and go for custody. I should've followed through on the order of protection against her. I should've fought with everything I had for my kids and let it all ride all the way to the judge instead of folding in mediation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 02:25 AM
2

I’d stall. By selling my house ( I was like you - paid all the payments but both of us were on the deed/mtg) pre divorce it only gave her a war chest of cash to hire the best attorney and fight me hard. Had I not done that , I would’ve been in a MUCH more advantageous position.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 09:33 PM
1

What are the chances of reaching an agreement with the ex? If nil, I’d stay in the house. Does she work ?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 08:52 PM
1

Don’t do what I did. Sold the house only to give the ex six figures to use for her attorney
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 07:56 PM
5

I’m 44 and recently divorced. Much like you from 17 till I got married. I slayed a ton of bitches. I feel my libido dropped off a cliff about 42. Used to want it 2+x a day every day now I’m cool with 2-3x week from my girl
/r/MGTOW225/03/21 06:27 PM
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I wish I could go back and spend some more time with my mom. She passed 2-19 after a long, long brutal battle with cancer. It was absolutely gut wrenching to watch her mind ( doctoral educated / read multiple books per week) and body go to hell. Growing up she was a depressed functioning alcoholic with high anxiety. I came home many times to find her on the floor bleeding from a fall. Always wondering how I'd find her when I got home and never wanted anyone coming over in fear of seeing my mom i…
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:10 PM
2

Although my wife earned more than I, I accumulated more assets - rental properties and businesses. She was VERY influential in our AO and when the divorce hammer fell, she paid the $15K for a PRE ( Parental Responsibilities Evaluator ) which....surprise surprise....came out against me. I see my kids only about 100 days a year and I have to drive 4+ hours to see them. $125K in attorney's fees. Mid to high 6 figure cash settlement to her.
/r/MGTOW218/03/21 02:32 AM
2

I did and it still cost me my kids and a shit ton
/r/MGTOW218/03/21 02:18 AM
1

Go watch some Goggins David Goggins
/r/askTRP16/03/21 06:55 PM
2

I'd probably just say that "clubbing" is a single persons activity and leave it at that.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 02:08 AM
2

That guy is a bad ass
/r/askTRP14/03/21 07:17 PM
2

I built businesses and bought investment properties. I bought undervalued / underperforming properties and made them great. I actually don't make much on paper. I believe my highest earning year was $120K. Nowadays, I make about $40K. I have a few mortgages on some properties and when they're paid off my income will jump dramatically. I could very easily liquidate everything now and really "retire" and live off a SWR on my investments. I enjoy having small projects and I really enjoy the busines…
/r/MGTOW212/03/21 01:16 PM
3

I’d do it . I’m 44 and am on 35 of a 69 week program with Invisalign. Cost me about $4800 usd. I always hated my smile and was having problems with crowding of my teeth.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 07:25 PM
1

I just went through a brutal divorce. Add up the appreciation of assets during the marriage and divide by 2 and that’s the number they’re gonna go after
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/21 01:25 AM
2

They’re not asking anything yet but I’m constantly growing my companies and she’s a typical narcissist who constantly tries to trip me up over anything. I’ve considered since I’m effective dealing with an attorney to tell her that is she wants to communicate with me it has to be through the attorneys.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 07:23 PM
1

Nothing in the decree nor separation agreement mentioning sharing of taxes. We do have 2 kids together and we did agree on $500/mo and the judge signed off on it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 07:18 PM
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Thanks. She hasn’t done so yet - we just signed the decree in December but I’m a property investor who also owns a few businesses and during the divorce the battle was over assets and money and how I was “hiding” money. She used a forensic accounting firm and even went as far as making the claims that monies inherited from my late mother was “income”.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 05:17 PM
3

Bill Burr is funny as all hell ​ ETA: Here's a good one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wv8TUOlPT-8
/r/askTRP03/03/21 09:26 PM
10

I'm no veteran but a 13 year marriage that ended in a brutal divorce in which I lost my kids and huge sums of money and brought me to brink of ending it all.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 02:19 PM
3

I watch it with my chick. We get some good laughs. Also Marrying Millions lol
/r/askTRP01/03/21 12:34 AM
1

Yep. She even did estate planning for my parents that.....surprise, benefited her in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/21 08:25 PM
2

I did worse. I married an attorney turned politician.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/21 08:23 PM
3

I feel some of your pain brother. I just wrapped up a long, brutal and costly divorce where I effectively lost my kids and paid a shit load of money. During the process, when many times I either thought about going rogue and taking the people out that were directly attacking me or eating a bullet, my best friend who is also a Marine and been through some brutal battles told me: "If you're going through hell......keep on going!" I remembered that quote he told me and focused on my self and my own…
/r/MGTOW224/02/21 02:20 AM
0

Game ‘em. I’m 44 and have a 33 yo and have a 29yo in the back burner. If you have your shit together they’re down for a older guy who’s good looking and doing well
/r/askTRP23/02/21 07:45 PM
5

Spot on. Great post. Even some old washed up ugly 45 year old single mom with 4 kids from 4 dads will get and endless supply of attention from desperate men
/r/MGTOW223/02/21 02:48 PM
3

Not many desirable ones left after the Hague
/r/MGTOW220/02/21 12:53 AM
0

VFIAX
/r/askTRP19/02/21 11:59 PM
1

You've possibly been friend zoned.
/r/askTRP19/02/21 01:26 PM
1

Great progress brother. I myself just endured a lengthily and costly divorce and am slowly finding my way. How old were your kids and what kid of custody did you agree on?
/r/MGTOW219/02/21 01:25 AM
1

My mom was a functioning alcoholic. Very highly educated and respected in her field, but combined prescription drugs from a rouge doctor and cheap beer every day. Every day I came home from school she was lit beyond comprehension. There were times I found her bleeding in the basement from taking a fall down the stairs. I resented it but was able to block it out. As an adult I was able to understand it better. My father cheating on here probably didn’t help. She worked 50 years at the same job on…
/r/askTRP15/02/21 02:18 PM
5

I effectively lost my kids to a relocation and terrible parental responsibilities evaluation. Now I only see them 5 days a month and every other week in the summer. Sucks. And to think I had to pay $120k in legal fees and a mid to high 6 figure settlement to lose arrive at that deal
/r/MGTOW212/02/21 04:12 AM
7

Make sure your diet is 101% on point
/r/askTRP09/02/21 07:22 PM
1

For sure. Any guy with a camera is a photographer and this chick craves attention / validation ( which ones don't it seems these days unless they're busted ugly and know it?). She has done quite a few in the past before me, and they were, at least the pics she showed me, tasteful
/r/askTRP08/02/21 05:17 PM
2

She shit tested me a week or so ago. Saying she was thinking about doing it for me Valentine’s Day. I said thanks but I’d rather look at the real thing. I asked unless you’re modeling or acting what’s the purpose purpose of the shoot?
/r/askTRP08/02/21 05:04 PM
1

You want to have fun as single man? South Florida
/r/askTRP02/02/21 11:35 PM
1

I could care less if she was cheating . Certainly didn’t want a bitch sitting home on her ass. It would’ve cost me 3x as much to get rid of her .
/r/MGTOW30/01/21 04:29 AM
2

Recently divorced here. Was married to an attorney and politician. My divorce played out pretty much to the T as what the documentary laid out. Cost me my kids and mid to high 6 figures in legal fees and the settlement. From my experiences, the divorce process has a higher likelihood to play out like Divorce Corp than not.
/r/askTRP29/01/21 03:04 PM
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My mission in life will be to educate young men of the risks of marriage and encourage them to avoid it at all costs. I'm recently divorced. Married a girl from what appeared to be a great family. Highly educated and high income earner. Career driven. Ended up losing my kids to a relocation. I'll see them every month for just 5 days. Cost me mid to high 6 figures. The bitch even went after my late mothers estate in the divorce process the fucking slime bag.
/r/MGTOW29/01/21 02:55 PM
1

My ex is an attorney as well as a politician. My divorce pretty much played out to the T as shown in Divorce Corp.
/r/askTRP29/01/21 12:49 AM
2

Yeah it’s been a process. I’d say I got involved with her too soon after the divorce while I was still healing and was probably on the needy side. But over time I’ve regained my frame. Been lifting consistently ( always been in pretty good shape ) and focusing on making money and traveling. Life is good now. DONT MARRY
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:01 AM
3

Yeah...my priority is my kids and my financial freedom ( ie my investments) Heck...mine has been....quite disrespectful I’d say. Like 4 months after we met she went away for a weekend with him and her sister & friends (supposedly ) Then there has been numerous lunch and dinner “dates”. Once even going to his house for an hour or so. Then about 2 months ago we came back from Cabo and she said she was going out to dinner with her girlfriend. Instead she went out to dinner with her ex. Caught her i…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 02:45 AM
1

Unfortunately not. Between the time with my kids and managing my properties / businesses I just don’t have the time. And at 44 I just have other priorities than investing the time into multiple women
/r/askTRP08/01/21 02:33 AM
1

Agreed 100%. Current LTR doing the same shit here. It bothered me initially but I’ve come to not give a fuck about it. I get laid and we have fun.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:56 PM
1

Diet. That's it.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:28 PM
2

If I ever got married again, here would be the requirements : Income & Net worth 2x+ mine. Crazy in the sack and does it all. Great personality and body. Into fitness & eating well, traveling. Mother looks great. This is all of course there being high mutual attraction levels.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:06 PM
2

Just my $.02 - You’re their orbiter beta bitch. I bet you buy them drinks too. Get some integrity and stop fucking with other mens women
/r/askTRP03/01/21 08:24 PM
1

She does blow. I'd say about 75% of the time before we get down. Never has she finished me off spitting or swallowing...
/r/askTRP02/01/21 12:55 AM
1

The combination of freedom and wealth.
/r/askTRP30/12/20 09:26 PM
3

Follow this advice . Coming from a guy who just went through a brutal divorce and custody battle which cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars in effectively lost my kids.
/r/MGTOW230/12/20 04:13 PM
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I know that feeling well man. So many of these bitches have these red flags. I've been seeing one with more red flags that communist China but I've detached and learned to view the situation as non committal and just for fun. She has all these orbiters and maintains a connection with her ex. I've even caught her lying to me about going out with him. Enjoy the solo time man and learn to embrace the solitude.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 02:31 PM
2

I’m in a similar situation. Recently divorced after 13 year marriage. Had my 2 kids and now I’m back out there. Just nervous about all the stories I hear about lingering pain and side effects
/r/askTRP23/12/20 05:31 AM
2

I'm sorry to hear that. If they indeed found it early and she's young and healthy she has great chances of beating it. My mom got diagnosed in May 2016. I spent a LOT of time with her. At home, going to Dr. appointments, in the hospital, etc. Spend as much time as you can with her. Tell her to tell you stories about her life. Her thoughts and dreams.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 03:59 AM
4

The problem is you have to be prepared to have a single person in a robe decide your fate. You really don't want that.
/r/MGTOW217/12/20 03:53 AM
4

Meh she's done. Tonight she went to her ex-boyfriend's house. Next.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 02:17 AM
2

Good luck brother. I just went through a BRUTAL divorce and got screwed with the kids. Sad Her looser BF won’t really matter much from what I’ve read but that mo the of custody will. Try to keep that rolling and bs her along if you have to. Godspeed
/r/MGTOW217/12/20 12:44 AM
1

Looks nice! Where did you go? I was in Cabo a few weeks back with a chick I've been hanging with for a few months. It was great. I'd go back.
/r/MGTOW13/12/20 01:40 PM
2

It’ll be even worse
/r/MGTOW212/12/20 08:55 PM
11

The government, from local to the federal level, are completely out of control. Wait till we go to a cashless society.
/r/MGTOW211/12/20 01:52 PM
2

Ah overlooked that. Outside of common law marriage laws you should be ok but still ... After my divorce I want none of any of that.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 08:04 PM
6

As a guy who just wrapped up his divorce, just DON'T. There is NOTHING in it for a man. Unless you meet a woman that has both MORE assets and earns more than you and continues to do so, you will always get the shaft in the end.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:23 PM
1

I’d own everything (only my name on house etc) no joint bank accts or anything stupid like ​ ^^ That wouldn't mean shit. In the event of divorce, all assets acquired during the marriage, and all appreciation of separate assets ( Pre-marriage ) will be split 50/50.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:22 PM
1

I love fucking my gf. I've banged many a chick in my 44 years and every time I see her beautiful body I want to ravage her for hours. With that said....there are times where I'd rather get some good sleep or do other productive shit, like work on my businesses. We fuck 2-3x week and I'm fine with that.-
/r/askTRP05/12/20 02:35 PM
3

Yeah guys in the trades don't make shit there.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 10:23 PM
4

FL is good to go. Hot babes wearing little clothing. No income tax. Pretty good gun laws/castle doctrine/stand your ground. Favorable business climate. Lived down there from 18-28. Great times in South Beach and Ft. Lauderdale. Naples is nice but not sure how good the party scene is for younger single folks.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 04:36 AM
2

When making more .... try your hardest to do so under the table. If not, you’ll just be sending more to her. You can start a custodial investment account for your son to contribute to which will, in the long run, be more helpful than sending the mother money.
/r/MGTOW229/11/20 06:38 PM
2

I always like to leave the door open. Just say “ wish you the best - keep in touch”. She might hit you up when that falls through and you can hit it again
/r/askTRP29/11/20 02:10 PM
3

Hear that. Had a nasty divorce and found myself back on the dating scene. What a F'in wasteland of pathetic women. Found an ok one to keep me occupied and here we are 7 mo later still banging like kids. I can't complain but even going down 10 years in age they have all kinds of issues.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 12:03 PM
2

Keep fucking her.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:24 PM
3

So did you wait "like an half hour" or "a few minutes"? Were you waiting inside her place or sitting in your car outside? Meh. I would've just bailed and if she asked I would've said I wasn't sure what time you were going to show and I have shit I could be doing with the time instead of sitting on my ass. But do you really?
/r/askTRP27/11/20 11:48 AM
1

He could buy citizenship in Brazil for $150,000. Better yet I'd buy a new identity.
/r/MGTOW27/11/20 11:40 AM
1

Google Hague Convention on the International Recovery of Child Support. Pretty much all the countries left that didn't sign are shit holes.
/r/MGTOW27/11/20 01:12 AM
3

I'd get an accounting degree and then an MBA.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 01:00 AM
2

Hmmm....Go on...
/r/askTRP26/11/20 08:54 PM
5

Perhaps but the question should be do they save more?
/r/MGTOW25/11/20 02:47 PM
1

Hells no. I'm 44. Been shaving my head probably for the last 4 years. I'm in pretty good-great shape and get younger chicks hitting on me frequently. Dress well, lift and get your body into shape, and have the mindset that you're the fucking shit.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 09:01 PM
4

Fuck her. My mother got stage IV cancer in 2016 and battled it 3 fucking years. I spent the last 40+ days of her life by her bedside in the hospital 9 hours a day only to have my fucking cunt of an ex wife to divorce rape me and take the kids from me. Mother > Any whore
/r/askTRP15/11/20 01:11 PM
35

They're all whores....
/r/askTRP14/11/20 02:14 AM
3

That’s what’s happening to me. Got the EOW screwjob due to a PRE that basically was a character assassination against me. Now the ex is relocating with the kids 5.5 hours away and I’ll see them Wednesday-Sunday every 3 weeks. My heart still hurts and I’ll admit I cry often. It sucks
/r/MGTOW208/11/20 02:12 AM
2

I've read another 30% remain married un unhappy. So, lets just round it conservatively - you have an 80% chance of being legally stuck in a shitty marriage and unhappy.
/r/MGTOW207/11/20 02:00 AM
1

I'd try to do both. An engineering degree is valuable for sure. You can't sell your degree though if you don't like what you're doing or you want to retire and cash out.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 01:22 PM
2

SMC can get it done but just aligning the front teeth. If you have an overbite or overjet it won't be able to correct that.
/r/MGTOW205/11/20 01:57 AM
5

I agree and I don't. I'm doing Invisalign now. 69 trays and it was $4800. I' choose to do it for many reasons. Mainly I was always unhappy with my smile and literallynever smiled. My parents were poor and couldn't afford braces. Now I can, and I want a great smile and to have the confidence that goes along with it. Another reason is I had crowding going on in my moth making it very difficult to floss.
/r/MGTOW205/11/20 01:56 AM
1

Pre COVID I was traveling to Italy 4x per year from the US. I never had any problems talking to women there, Italian or other.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 12:46 PM
2

I have my own gym at home. Love the flexibility of being able to train at home.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 12:41 PM
1

I was a union welder in NYC. We were paid WELL. There were many journeymen welders in my shop making $250K+ year. The problem is it's hard on your body. I got out and got into business and r/E investing. If you're young and it interests you, there is always a demand for it
/r/MGTOW230/10/20 05:28 PM
1

I’ll add that my ex is also an attorney herself and made more than me. Only she spent more than she made and accrued over $160k in CC debt during the marriage. I made less, saved and invested, and had all the assets
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/20 02:47 PM
2

I know it all too well. My ex used the system and her connections ( she's a politician and very connected in the community / state ) and used a PRE report that amazingly went terribly against me to get the majority of the custody of the kids. Plus she's relocating 5.5 hours away and I'll see the kids every 3 weeks now. That's on top of $100K attorney bill and a huge 6 figure payout to her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/20 07:59 PM
1

What support groups would you suggest if you know of any?
/r/askTRP29/10/20 04:51 PM
4

I agree. My ex wife is a politician. My life became everything politics. My whole life evolved around it. News 24/7. Political events. The constant bs bickering. Now we're divorced and I don't have to hear it anymore among other things. I still keep my beliefs and convictions but I will not engage in any political discussions anymore.
/r/MGTOW229/10/20 04:44 PM
2

That's what I did. I barely finished HS ( got kicked out due to truancy not bad grades ). Started a business. Sold business. Wash, rinse, repeat. I would have had to had a doctorate degree and earning huge 6 figure incomes to be where I'm at now. BUT....the biggest difference is..... I don't need to exchange my precious time to earn money. All my operations are on cruise control and I put in maybe 10 hours of work per week. I'm able to do as I please on a daily basis, and travel whenever I want.…
/r/MGTOW229/10/20 01:38 PM
2

Start a business. Use proceeds to buy rental properties. Buying a business is another option - at least you have a income stream already in place.
/r/MGTOW229/10/20 04:38 AM
1

Yeah, I need more "friends" for sure. I'm in excellent shape physically for my age. Lift 5x a week and diet( not a diet for me but the way I prefer to eat) is tight. Wake up everyday with excitement and love what I do. I recognize how grateful I am daily for my life and the freedoms it affords me. Still some lingering wounds for the divorce mainly the loss of my children. I'll admit sometimes it brings me to tears to think about it all.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 01:44 PM
2

It's great and it's a liability. Thankfully my ex was a high income earner. I had to cut her a huge 6 figure check. She also cost me $460,000 during the marriage along with my own $100,000 legal bill. Oh, and I lost my kids to a relocation and will see them every 3 weeks. My mission in life will be to inform young men of the pitfalls of marriage. I took my dads advice and married a girl that made more than I did. WAY more. I still paid her though - because I was a saver & investor and she was al…
/r/askTRP23/10/20 01:39 PM
2

I will eventually. During the divorce everything was neglected for multiple reasons - focus on the battle as well as let the values plummet. I'm rebuilding now. Signed the decree on Sept 17 and bought my first new property. Life is good again.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 01:34 PM
12

Bank that money while looking for and/or planning something else
/r/askTRP23/10/20 02:32 AM
6

Go walk around Target or something.
/r/askTRP22/10/20 08:24 PM
0

Used to drink diet coke and just tell people it was Jack and Coke
/r/askTRP22/10/20 07:59 PM
3

How to fight a bad PRE report
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/20 12:20 AM
1

The market is insane for Rolexes now. I wanted one when I was in my early 20's. I owned a successful business and I always appreciated finer things. I bought one a few years ago. A 116613LB. I could sell it for $3K more than I paid for it. I'd say if the watch is less than 10% of your net worth, buy it. They're beautiful watches.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 09:15 PM
1

Lifting. My businesses and making & saving money. Traveling.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 09:07 PM
1

I'm sure with COVID every fun city is a shell of what it once was. With that said, take a weekend trip to Denver. Fun city. Nashville is fun too.
/r/askTRP17/10/20 01:16 PM
1

Buy or start a business. You can make $100K+ fairly easily if you hustle. Real estate is the key if you want to build wealth and have freedom.
/r/askTRP17/10/20 08:44 AM
1

Deposition her?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 05:56 PM
1

I was an Ironworker for a while and between the ass busting labor and boozing it was rough. I just nutted up and hit the gym after work @ 3 or even in the morning. You just have to do it.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 02:49 AM
1

I agree. Just got back into the dating scene after a 13 year marriage. Seeing this chick now and she is glued to her phone . High social media presence + BIG RED FLAG
/r/askTRP15/10/20 02:41 AM
1

Yeah I overstated her. Probably a 7 at best. Although at 33 her body is nice, it ain't no 25 year olds body.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 02:27 PM
1

I feel I am and she openly admits it too. She used to think I was just rebounding with her. I'm a good looking, in very good shape, successful person. I love a live that makes many envious. I've opened her up to my world but unfortunately she's ungrateful. Sad because we have fun together.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 02:26 PM
1

Do you think I should call her out and confront her about her lie?
/r/askTRP13/10/20 07:51 PM
1

We have another trip planned next weekend. She paid for that one too. Maybe I should just play the game.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 07:23 PM
1

Meh. I overstated the HB9. More like a 7.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 07:23 PM
1

Not trolling. Just another fucked up bitch
/r/askTRP12/10/20 07:11 PM
3

I know. I don't show it. Drive mundane older cars and even a minivan. Small house. But I have assets and companies. I travel a lot and have freedom.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 06:07 PM
2

This time the trip was on her dime ( or at least her credit card ). I'm out. In the end it'll even out with the trips I paid for. Fucking bitches.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:26 PM
1

I wouldn’t refi. That’ll give her money to fight you
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/20 04:33 AM
0

She knew I didn't like it. She straight up lied to my face. I honestly don't give a fuck. I have a fucking good life. Not sure if I should hard next or do like BarcaLiverpool said and maybe confront her about it....maintain my frame and then hard next her.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:23 AM
-1

I kinda agree. Until I get some other prospects going I think I should try to divest while keep banging her. I've treated her well. Multiple trips - always first class. The best hotels and restaurants. It's fun and financially it's really nothing. She does pay for stuff. I feel my SMV is way high. Self made. Almost unlimited freedom. Good looking and in great shape. I just have some learning to do after getting hurt in a brutal divorce after a 13 year marriage.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:19 AM
2

Yeah man. We've had this discussion about this ex too. She says they're just friends..... Dated the guy for like 5 years a while back. Like 4-5 Years ago. She lied to me last time too. Told me they were "going out to eat". Instead they brought the food back to his place. Cute.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:09 AM
48

Yep. There's others too. Phone always face down. Keeping phone turned away. Always on silent.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:54 AM
13

Funny I started this thread from her house while I was waiting for her. She comes home and tells me all kinds of sweet bullshit nothings. Shows me how she has all my clothes ( from the trip ) all clean and organized in her drawers and closet. Revenge is best served cold. I need to get my clothes out. lol
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:52 AM
23

Yep. Done it before too.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:49 AM
19

Don't give her a second of your time if you bump into her again.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 09:23 PM
2

I love traveling and it likely cost me my marriage. Unfortunately this COVID and subsequent devastation of the aviation industry has made it pretty bad. My favorite is Italy. SO much history, culture, etc. I love Spain too.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 11:32 AM
8

Millennials and GenZ's that aren't active on social media? I know they're out there but man, that's rare
/r/askTRP04/10/20 11:30 AM
3

Bring wine! She's inviting you to her place = Most likely you're banging her.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 11:21 AM
2

Thought about checking that out but decided not to. I just endured a brutal 9 month long divorce. Essentially lost my kids. The wounds are still fresh. My mission in life will be to educate men to the pitfalls of marriage and having children.
/r/MGTOW204/10/20 01:42 AM
7

I'd say F the letters - they can all get bent. In this situation you're lucky you don't have kids. Congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/20 06:02 PM
3

Yours and hers careers and incomes?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/20 07:37 PM
2

Edward Green Allen Edmonds
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:21 PM
5

I just endured a brutal divorce over the last 9 months. Married 13 years and problematic with a dead bedroom for 12 of them. Have two beautiful kids whom I lost in a bitter custody battle. I say if you're truly unhappy - do it but be prepared for the worst case scenario. Read the book Fire Your Wife and plan accordingly. Life is too short to be stuck in an unhappy and unfulfilling situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/20 04:16 PM
9

Yeah man. The wounds are still fresh. Signed the settlement agreement Sept 25 and the kids and the ex are moving over Xmas break. I'm grateful for what I do have. 2 beautiful kids. I have my freedom and financial resources to travel and enjoy my life.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 03:14 PM
16

Here's my experience. I've posted it a few times but will continue to do so in an attempt to convince you guys on the fence to NOT DO IT. I made the mistake of marrying. She is a well educated, successful narcissist. She's an attorney and politician. I have 2 beautiful kids whom I love dearly that I've lost. My wife knew the system and the players and used it to her advantage. I got the EOW screw job along with her relocating 5.5 hours away. Here's what it cost me: -Lost my kids. -12 years of a …
/r/askTRP02/10/20 02:20 PM
-1

My plate has finger recognition and 6 digit passcode. I've been trying to see what and who she's texting. I'm a firm believer in trust but verify
/r/askTRP01/10/20 02:48 PM
18

Quick question : How do you know they're texting each other? Does she openly disclose this or are you looking on her phone?
/r/askTRP01/10/20 02:14 PM
1

It's complicated but basically told my parents to gift me monies and transfer properties into my name. Then they went after the appreciation(during the marriage) of it all. They also tried to impute the gift money as gift income and the courts have said that consistent gifts are considered income. Gave my dad "Advice" on estate planning specifically with his real estate. I was listed as a officer and was receiving incorrect tax documents. They attempted to lay the claim that my father gifted tha…
/r/askTRP30/09/20 08:54 PM
0

I fought like a bastard for 50/50 and spent about $90,000 doing so. And I had it and lost it due to a scathing PRE report that my wife orchestrated with her attorney. My wife is an attorney herself as well as a very well liked and known politician and I was up against a proverbial godzilla. I caved in mediation due to attacks from my wife agains my dead mothers estate and my fathers real estate holdings. I've resigned myself to accepting the fact that the mother used the kids as pawns in a corru…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/20 02:53 PM
3

I just got "zeroed out". And I got fucking shafted. ​ I made the mistake of marrying a well educated, successful narcissist. She's an attorney and politician. Throughout our 13 year marriage she gave estate planning advice to both my parents as well as business advice to my father. To my surprise in my recent divorce, she was going after EVERYTHING. The estate of my mom who's body was barely at room temperature. My fathers real estate holdings. All my companies. I have 2 beautiful kids whom I lo…
/r/askTRP30/09/20 01:43 PM
5

Someone who works or even makes more than you doesn't make a difference. My ex makes 3x what I make. 13 years of marriage cost me: Lost my kids to a relocation $460,000 Settlement $80,000 legal bills now and climbing 12 years no sex
/r/MGTOW223/09/20 01:31 PM
1

Want abs? It's all diet.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 12:30 AM
2

That's pretty much exactly how I roll. Commercial RE and businesses. I'm still learning all this RP shit but I live life like a fucking boss. I do whatever I want, when the fuck I want. Now that I'm divorced I answer to no one.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 08:04 PM
1

That’s my plan man. I’ve been slipping on her dossale of dread . My fault . I’m re-acclimating to the game after 13 year marriage.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 02:05 PM
2

Yeah. Never set clear boundaries. I honestly didn't care because I thought it would fade off as we dated more. Apparently not.
/r/askTRP19/09/20 04:17 PM
1

Ha. Thanks for putting it into perspective.
/r/askTRP19/09/20 04:16 PM
2

I will also add that I thought I hedged the risk by marrying a highly educated ( doctorate ) and earning mate. Didn't matter. I made less but saved and invested. She made more and spent recklessly.
/r/MGTOW219/09/20 02:43 PM
2

Where might this place be?
/r/MGTOW219/09/20 02:01 AM
5

Amen. Married 13 years and this is what I got out of it: 12 years no sex. $460,000 to the ex $80,000 legal bills and still climbing. Lost my kids to a relocation 5.5 hours away
/r/MGTOW219/09/20 01:58 AM
1

Like where?
/r/MensRights16/09/20 02:25 PM
7

I just got divorced after 13 years of marriage. No sex for 10 years Cost me $460,000 to my wife. Attorneys bill at $80,000 and climbing Lost my kids to my wife relocating. Potential $3,000/mo child support bill if their bullshite is believed by the judge.
/r/MGTOW216/09/20 02:21 PM
1

Fight with all you have. I just went through a brutal 10 mo divorce where I essentially lost my kids. Ex is moving 5.5 hours away and I'll be lucky to see them 1x a month.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/20 01:36 PM
5

Have her get a job first. Don't move out until the decree is signed or at the minimum you have a stipulation settling custody. The problem with moving out is you lose leverage in the situation.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/20 03:13 PM
2

I just lost my kids myself. I just went through a BRUTAL divorce with my ex. My ex was not only an attorney herself, but a well known, liked and connected politician. She used a parental evaluator that come back with a bull shite scathing 61 page report that was basically a character assassination on me. Now she's moving 5+ hours from me and being an owner of multiple businesses, I just can up and follow. I'll likely see my kids 1x per month. They're also asking for $3,000/mo in child support. F…
/r/MGTOW212/09/20 02:37 PM
2

Dude I don’t know what state you’re in but in most you cannot negotiate CS. She can sign your agreement to appease you and get what she wants and then 6 months she can go back to court and petition the court to implement the state mandatory CS. Tread carefully
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/20 05:21 PM
9

I feel your pain brother. I just went through a divorce where she attempted to completely ruin me financially as well as going after my 89 year old fathers company. I ended up with the EOW screw job and on top of that she said she’s taking the kids and moving 5+ hours away. Good luck man . Try to work with her even if you know she’s with someone else. My ex is a absolute cunt
/r/MGTOW203/09/20 01:41 AM
3

Coming from a guy who just signed the papers in mediation on Wednesday after a BRUTAL and costly 9 mo battle....that is very accurate. Actually the X got about 90% of total monies spent. I paid my attorney $55,000 since Nov and there is no end in sight ( Now there is the child support battle ).
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/20 08:19 PM
1

Lynn St James a long time ago
/r/MGTOW23/08/20 03:19 AM
1

That's awesome and great to hear! Did your STBXW fight you over the 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/20 11:55 PM
2

Have your lawyer write up the agreement to your liking and try to get her to sign it before she lawyers up
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/20 02:27 PM
2

Good luck brother. Stay in the house. Digital voice recorder running 24/7.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/20 12:13 PM
3

Fuck them. Just consider yourself fortunate you never took the dive into marriage.
/r/MGTOW218/08/20 07:30 PM
4

I'm going through the same thing with multiple commercial rental properties along with a business. I'm going to have to cut her a check for half the equity in it. Probably sell a property or refi. Only thing you can possibly do is strip the equity from the properties from refi'ing or taking on partner in a LLP and being the minority share holding partner. IANAL so please speak with legal council.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/20 08:33 PM
1

Find and read the eBook "Fire Your Wife". You're in a less than ideal situation to say the least. That is unless you don't mind paying alimony and child support
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/20 11:17 AM
2

Life is too short. Try to come to an agreement amicably without attorneys. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/20 07:55 PM
1

Brilliant brother. I hope it continues to work out for you! I'm in a very similar situation and will take some notes from your post. I have a real BITCH STBW and she's attempting to financially ruin me and what I've created as well as denying the children their right to a father. It's sad. I hope to be in a position similar to yours.
/r/MGTOW10/08/20 08:54 PM
2

I'd encourage her to get gainfully employed and making as much money as possible for your own sake. Read the eBook Fire Your Wife.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/20 12:39 PM
1

That looks comfy
/r/MGTOW209/08/20 11:38 PM
3

Agreed. I'm dating this cool girl, and the sex is the best ever. This is after a 13 year marriage with a dead bedroom for 12 of them. We keep our separate places and I usually sleep there. Works out good
/r/MGTOW209/08/20 11:38 PM
3

Is she a SAHM? How much more do you earn than she?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/20 11:32 PM
4

Bullshite. I "married up". My STBX is an attorney that was making $150K 13 years ago. I'm still losing my ass in divorce. Even though she's made well into the 7 figures over the course of our marriage, she has $2000 to her name and is coming after my businesses and all the assets I accrued during the marriage. Marrying up is no fucking hedge. Stay in your lane.
/r/MGTOW209/08/20 02:52 AM
1

That's the plan man. Thanks for the positive words.
/r/MGTOW207/08/20 11:44 PM
1

I hear you brother. It's almost like the state is kidnapping your kids from you. I mean, what is the penalty for kidnapping? I'd rather not say here what I'd do to someone attempting to kidnap my kids. I'm going through an absolute war with my STBXW. Read the eBook Fire Your Wife and prepare accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 06:24 PM
3

Looks beautiful. I'm from Puglia
/r/MGTOW07/08/20 12:05 AM
1

That's a pretty good one! lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 12:02 AM
1

That’s where I’m at. Dating a pretty cool girl and we just compliment each other and get along so well. We’ve had some serious discussions about the future but I will not marry again . Too much risk
/r/MGTOW203/08/20 04:01 PM
5

Yep
/r/MGTOW202/08/20 11:20 PM
44

If you haven't already done so - Read the ebook "Fire Your Wife" so as to place yourself in the best possible situation pre-divorce. As a guy with 2 small kids going through a divorce in which my BITCH STBXW is trying to deny the kids their right to a father and destroy me financially, marriage is shit. A fucking scam. Godspeed brother.
/r/MGTOW202/08/20 07:49 PM
2

Crazy. I'm living the same exact situation but much more in it's infancy. Stopped contributing to my kids' 529's doe to outrageous attorney's fees. I would WITHOUT A DOUBT show your kids the spreadsheet and explain to her that due to divorce you simply couldn't afford it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 12:32 PM
2

Sorry to hear man. I like you have met a pretty great girl and she has met my kids on maybe 3 occasions. She's daddy's "friend" for now. The kids haven't seen us physical at all but in private we're pretty involved. I think the most important thing to teach your kids that it's important to find someone that compliments you and makes you happy and vice versa. Don't look at it in a bad way.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 01:41 AM
1

Never was aware about this until I re-entered the dating pool after a 13 year marriage which included nearly 12 years with a dead bedroom. Divorce is still ongoing but at 5'8", I started to hear it often. "I like guys 6' or taller". I met my current chick and she said the same. I'd rate her a sold 8.5/10. She's 5'8" herself and I was able to not only get in her pants but have her wrapped around my fingers buying me shit and taking me on trips. I'm in shape. I dress well. I'm educated. I'm succes…
/r/MGTOW230/07/20 12:11 PM
3

This! Don't talk assets until custody is settled.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/20 11:35 AM
3

I was a union Ironworker / Welder. Great trade but rough on your body.
/r/MGTOW229/07/20 12:58 PM
1

Haha.
/r/MGTOW29/07/20 12:53 PM
6

Brother....I totally feel your situation. I'm going through it right now. Only my wife is educated and a high earner. I accumulated assets and grew my businesses during the marriage while she spent every penny of her income plus a lot more. Costing me $160K during 12 years of marriage. Now she wants half of everything, of course like your situation, her idea of what stuff is worth is exaggerated, while I'm not entitles to her earning potential that she significantly increased over the marriage. …
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 12:38 PM
10

I love mine. The utility of it is AWESOME. I just want to simplify and get down to one daily vehicle and a fun car god willing. I need something with soul
/r/MGTOW27/07/20 10:18 PM
30

I have a minivan :(. Love my kids but damn did I choose poorly marrying.
/r/MGTOW27/07/20 09:58 PM
2

I thought I was hedging my risks by marrying a high income earning attorney. Didn't work. She has nothing, has cost me $160K over 12 years, and is being a fucking biotch . It'll likely cost me a good portion of what I created. ​ My father failed me. As a divorced man himself I feel he should've warned me of the pitfalls of marriage.
/r/MGTOW27/07/20 08:42 PM
41

After the divorce rape she'll probably be living in a better house paid for by her ex
/r/MGTOW26/07/20 01:10 PM
1

Agh man. I can understand . I wish mine was done but I'm battling my narcissistic STBXW. Same shit only my wife is an attorney herself. Some days I just want to throw in the towel.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/20 02:24 AM
2

Nice work brother! I'm going through a divorce and have always been into fitness. My STBXW used to BUST MY BALLS whenever I would do anything remotely beneficial to my health. I've always been lifting and cycling/rowing and since I moved out in February I've increased it all even more. I've always heard about intermittent fasting but your post had me doing some more reading on it and I'm going to begin to do 16-24 hours fast immediately. I never realized how beneficial they are. Do you do much t…
/r/MGTOW25/07/20 12:45 PM
1

Congrats! I'm in a similar situation. Mediation coming up in a month and I have all the assets. Rental properties and businesses. I do know that she is broke - maxed CC's and $2K to her name. Hopefully she's ready to come to the table.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/20 12:28 AM
9

You fell on your sword by accepting to 70/30. 50/50 should've been your hill to die on. Maybe explore the possibility of hiring a custody evaluation? I'm going through one now and they aren't cheap - about $10K
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/20 03:29 PM
1

Well, fight fire with fire. Either you give her the money, or you give your attorney your money. I'd rather give my attorney my money. At least he worked for it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 08:34 PM
4

I'm guessing around $3-$5K/ mo pre tax.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 06:35 PM
1

Nice! Who ordered the CE?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 02:04 AM
10

Pretty much. Also in my case I had a lot of pressure to carry on my family name.
/r/MGTOW213/07/20 03:05 PM
22

I don't k now why I got married. I never wanted to. I met a girl that although was formally educated with a high income, I had other concerns. I felt that what she brought to a marriage overweighed the drawbacks. My father being a divorced man himself encouraged it. During the course of the marriage I had a dead bedroom for 12 years and she cost me $200K. The divorce will cost me a few times that. Don't marry. Don't procreate. IF you wish to have the best chances of happiness and being financial…
/r/MGTOW213/07/20 03:00 PM
2

Yep. Same here. Still ongoing but damn....my dad always said it costs money to learn. He wasn't kidding. Love my new life. Sad I only see my kids 50% of the time now
/r/MGTOW212/07/20 12:54 AM
1

My income has dropped drastically. My businesses are in the red. My income dropped from about even with hers to 1/3. My attorney says that we'll ask for SS and child support based upon the current situation
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/20 07:02 PM
1

Yeah. I thought I did well marrying a woman that had an advanced degree and had a very high earning potential. What I learned as our marriage grew was not only did she earn a high wage, she spent more that what she earned. She cost me $160K over the course of our marriage and is now asking for many times that as her "share" of the marital assets. It's bullshite
/r/MGTOW10/07/20 01:27 PM
13

My father failed me. As a man that got lucky and skated his own divorce largely intact, he encouraged me to marry. He always told me marry a woman that makes more than you. I did just that. 12 years later I'm dealing with a battle of my life. More stressful that watching my mother waste away from Stage IV cancer for 3 years. The bitch who's my soon to be ex is asking for a sizable portion of my assets of which she played no role in the risks, work and management . She's earned more than me but h…
/r/MGTOW09/07/20 09:22 PM
11

Maybe she gives a great bj and swallows.
/r/MGTOW09/07/20 09:12 PM
1

One of the first things my attorney advised me was to SHUT DOWN all social media.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/20 01:36 PM
1

I'm going to go for the jugular and ask for spousal support as well as child support from my STBXW I likely won't get it as I have a lot of assets and I'll still have to write the worthless bitch a huge check. ​ Here's to your freedom brother. Enjoy.
/r/MGTOW206/07/20 11:26 PM
10

Just to spite her I'd work a little bit longer.
/r/MGTOW06/07/20 11:21 PM
6

My STBXW served me papers.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/20 10:57 PM
2

Nice! I still have my G19 but have went to my M&P full size with Apex parts. Shoot it consistantly more accurately and I prefer the grip over my former love G19 Funny. My STBXW never said a peep about my guns but come divorce time she certainly tried to take 1/2.
/r/MGTOW01/07/20 08:36 PM
2

How does any of that mean jack shit? In a no fault state, with 50/50 the norm, unless one parent is a felon/druggie/alcoholic/pedaphile/etc it's going to go down 50/50 and assets too. ​ The judges don't care who was fucking who. Who did this and who did that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:41 AM
3

As a guy that's owned 4 houses in my life, and am currently going through a divorce and am renting, I'd say either rent if the numbers make sense OR buy a multifamily or even a commercial and convert some space to live in.
/r/MGTOW229/06/20 12:35 PM
1

After my worthless fat slob of a STBXW wastes as much as she can fighting me over what I created and built, the rest will go to my kids.
/r/MGTOW229/06/20 12:28 PM
1

Great list. Thanks for sharing
/r/MGTOW228/06/20 08:15 PM
4

Going through a divorce now and I feel like that. Tell every single guy I meet forego it. Crazy to think I'm going to have to write a check the the STBX making her the wealthiest person in her pathetic family. And it'll all be just for filing divorce papers. She didn't do jack shit for what I built and what it's worth.
/r/MGTOW27/06/20 01:17 PM
3

Sounds like my life. Waiting my eval and mediation is the 8th. All kinds of bullshite from her and constant manipulation and brainwashing. I hope my results mirror yours. CONGRATS
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 10:07 PM
1

As soon as my divorce is finalized I'm buying a 911 Turbo S.
/r/MGTOW222/06/20 01:51 AM
3

This otherwise you're looking at a raping. Read "Fire Your Wife". You need to implement austerity measures. Have her get a job too while you're at it. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/20 01:29 AM
2

I would love to but would like the back seats to take my kids for the occasional drive.
/r/MGTOW17/06/20 01:36 PM
2

Been shopping for 2017-2018 Turbo S’s . I’ll have one as soon as my divorce is done
/r/MGTOW16/06/20 09:03 PM
3

I hear ya man. The hardest part for me was going from seeing my kids every day to 50% of the days. It was gut wrenching and it still hurts although I've learned to deal with it. My advice would be to learn to enjoy and embrace solitude. It's actually quite refreshing to be 100% in control of your time now. Either alone or with your kids. Eat well and exercise. Hang out with friends. Stay busy doing something you enjoy. Maybe meet a lady friend to enjoy conversation with. Good luck. It gets easie…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 05:23 PM
2

Damn man. I feel for you. I'm close by and am dealing with the same and possibly worse. Try giving the book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fvck a read. It helped me tremendously. As well as meeting a wonderful, fun woman 10 years younger than me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/20 03:26 AM
7

She sounded like a smart woman, RIP. I will do my best to explain the pitfalls of marriage to both my son and daughter.
/r/MGTOW10/06/20 01:29 AM
20

Lower bike is a BMW S1000RR. The performance of that thing is visceral! Sadly I sold mine when my second child cam along but now that I'm divorcing and on my own, Ill own another fast bike or some performance car and not have to hear some bitch give me hell about it.
/r/MGTOW09/06/20 12:11 PM
2

My wife ( she's an attorney herself) and her attorney were steadfast from the beginning they didn't want mediation. Turned down a fair settlement offer. Now that she's exhausted the $150K from the sale of our house she want mediation. The issue is her original offer to me was the EOW ( Every Other Weekend) screw job and a split of assets ( of which I played 100% role in building ) that is more than double than what is 50/50 and IMHO that just isn't acceptable. I'll let it go to trial before I gi…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/20 01:43 PM
9

Man....I'd try some therapy or something. It's hard when they're so young....but as they grow, I'd say around 4 or 5 is when I really felt the constant demand of a baby / small child subside and the joy of being able to parent and doing things with the child being to take over.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/20 01:26 PM
5

Same here man. My STBX is making everything high conflict.
/r/MensRights05/06/20 04:29 AM
1

Spot on. Met my wife she was an attorney to be partner in a large international firm. She became a prominent, powerful and well known politician while we were married. Her world was her career, her control over people, and what she was doing next. Now I get to deal with her in a divorce and child custody eval
/r/MGTOW30/05/20 11:49 AM
-5

The gain of the inheritance during the marriage is marital property.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/20 12:56 PM
2

Do it. For your own sanity. We're social creatures and I prefer having at least a casual relationship with the opposite sex. My kids are my first priority obviously but you need to take care of yourself and make sure your personal needs are being met.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/20 07:41 PM
3

I was in a similar situation as you. Married 12 years with 10 years of a dead bedroom with ZERO intimacy and physical attraction. I met a woman 10 years younger than I about 4 months after she filed. I've had literally hundreds of opportunities during my marriage but withheld the temptations. I will say that it is ABSOLUTELY refreshing to have a nice evening together. Chatting and laughing over dinner and wine. She knows completely about my situation and at first she held back a bit and was worr…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/20 12:30 PM
8

Good post. Everyone's situations is different. I endured a sexless marriage with zero intimacy for a better part of 10 of the 12 years we were married. We're 7 months since filing. I've met a woman and we spend time together. It's refreshing to have a nice dinner together, good conversation and laughter.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/20 08:24 PM
3

I had doubts all along. Everyone convinced me that she was a great woman. Great family. Doctorate degree making bank. All that. Now it'll cost me mid 6 figures to "GMOW". lol
/r/MGTOW17/05/20 01:28 AM
2

More like the guys that get married, marry what's left and willing to marry him.
/r/MGTOW13/05/20 11:43 AM
7

I envied the movement while I was married and now that I'm going through a divorce, I completely embrace it. Worst business decision I've ever made in my life bar none. Losing my mother was 10x less stressful than this.
/r/MGTOW12/05/20 01:34 AM
3

Eject
/r/MGTOW11/05/20 12:40 PM
1

Read The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/20 12:23 AM
2

He asked me EVERYTHING. From my earliest memories to like letak said - Who should have custody and make decisions. They will ask you everything....multiple times.If you have a G/F. Plus I had to take a MMPI test - 500 questions.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 12:57 AM
2

I'm going through the same. Have the in-house visit tomorrow. ​ Any advice?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/20 12:51 AM
7

None. ​ My wife's net worth from the divorce with surpass by far all in her family. The thought of that, the fact that she played ZERO role in the risks I took, and work I put fourth, and she gets half kills me.
/r/MGTOW203/05/20 11:45 PM
2

I have 50/50 too on a 3/2/2. Lots of changes and I'd prefer a 7/7. ​ With that said, when the kids are with their mom, I workout in my gym in my garage ( I also train when they're with me ), but I also cycle a lot as well as ride my dirt bike.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/20 12:12 AM
8

Sorry man. My marriage was dead for 10 years so....there wasn't much feelings left to be hurt. ​ Read the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck". It helps.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/20 11:39 AM
1

Get the BEST DAMN attorney. My STBX filed first, but I found out who my judge was and reacted / choose accordingly. It's been the best decision I've ever made. My wife is an Attorney herself represented by the most unethical and litigious POS attorney in town. The judge has SMACKED them down on 3 occasions - especially the tired attempt of a false DV. I have 50/50 when my wife kindly offered me 80/20.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/20 12:31 PM
1

My psychologist's secretary just called me the other day to try to schedule the in home stuff. Everything seems to be moving at a snails pace, and the whole process I feel, as well as my attorney has been compromised
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/20 01:55 PM
1

No but that $100K inherited which grew to say $200K during the marriage, she's entitled to half the gains.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/20 12:03 PM
2

I have my kids but thankfully don't have to deal with the STBX. Christ ...not sure what I'd do if we had to shelter in place together. Fuck that.
/r/MGTOW210/04/20 01:31 AM
1

Lucky you! My STBX is gonna fight me over every single thing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 04:42 PM
1

Congrats. How long was the divorce process?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 11:52 AM
2

My wife started off absolutely crazy. False DV charge and all. After the judge denied her request for temporary orders, and then said that she will review the allegations of DV, if they're found to be frivolous and groundless, I'd be awarded fees and damages. Then about 2 weeks after that she got spacked down again from the same judge. She's been nice since then lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/20 01:48 AM
1

That's absolutely awesome man. Give the rest of us hope. Enjoy your time with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/20 01:44 AM
1

My STBX thinks I should only be present 20% of the time in my children's lives. Sad.
/r/MGTOW213/03/20 01:39 AM
2

I think the number are over 50% divorce rate and then add the 30% or so that remain in a shit marriage trapped in fear of divorce rape. So you have lets say a 80% chance of ending in a shitty situation. Would you board a plane tomorrow knowing it had a 80% chance of going down and you being seriously fucked up?
/r/MGTOW212/03/20 12:21 PM
1

I have a 2/2/3 schedule and although its great to see the kids every 2 days, its a LOT of moving around for them. My kids are S5 and D8 and would like to try a 7/7 or even a 2/2/5..
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/20 04:23 AM
4

No. I took my fathers advice to "marry a woman that makes more than you ". I did that. Not only did she cost me nearly $200K during the marriage, It's still going to cost me mid 6 figures to divorce her. ​ You don't need to invite the government and state into your life, relationship and bedroom and complicate your life to no end to be committed to a person.
/r/MGTOW223/02/20 02:33 PM
1

Sorry to hear that. I'm dealing with something similar with my STBX. I feel she is alienating them in many ways but the biggest are 1. She keeps telling the kids " We're moving to XYZ City ( 4 hours from here ) and daddy is staying here". Another is " Daddy is bad " - I've had both my kids tell me that the mom has said that to them. The last is the continual showering of gifts and crap food. Packages almost every day from Amazon or Target.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 12:50 PM
1

From an accounting standpoint, you're better off inheriting assets. I'm meeting with a malpractice attorney. Since there are properties in 3 states I'll be consulting with attorneys in those 3 states. My divorce attorney says it's definitely worth my time to pursue it .
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/19 07:00 PM
2

Yes. All assets had already been gifted. Divorce has already been filed.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 09:21 PM
2

My parents were divorced. Attorney wife did estate planning for each one individually. "Gifting" all to me. Gifts are separate but the gains are marital property. We're talking 7 figures in gains.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 09:17 PM
2

One is one deceased recently. The issue is she advised them to gift everything to me. Now all appreciation and gains are marital property.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 09:06 PM
2

Edited post to clarify . Specifically #2 & #3
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/19 08:59 PM
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