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vitrael2/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/24 06:24 PM
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vitrael2/r/askMRP22/11/23 07:46 PM
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Your men's group does sound kind of sucky, but you are part of the group too, so the responsibility is yours. Groups are supposed to produce deepening relationships, which in turn facilitates personal and spiritual growth, but you cannot get out what you don't put in. If there is someone in the group who is "close friend material" I would recommend investing heavily in that relationship and being very vulnerable with that person. Else lean on your existing close male friendships if you have them…
/r/RPChristians07/05/24 02:34 PM
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I do have that men's group as accountability but I really do not see it as helpful. Why not? Previous goals: Failed every one How is next time going to be different? I can be sitting in dead silence, hands together, head bowed, eyes closed praying and I will forget that I am praying after like 20 seconds. Pretty common problem, just acknowledge that your mind was wandering and come back to it. Don't ridicule yourself like this: my focus is still trash Everybody starts out that way. You are in th…
/r/RPChristians06/05/24 02:31 PM
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Yeah, that's what I think too. The reason that the disciples are scandalized by Jesus' teaching (Mat 19:10) is because he sets the bar so high to get a divorce. I'll pray over your situation. Don't do anything stupid. And remember God has grace in store for you whatever happens, even if you screw up and sin.
/r/RPChristians02/05/24 10:21 PM
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Based take, you are doing the Lord’s work! If it happened in the heart does it already de facto count as adultery? I would encourage you to practice discernment. Would Jesus give grounds for divorce to everyone who commits adultery of the heart? What do you think?
/r/RPChristians02/05/24 09:30 PM
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what would be a Christian way for a husband to move on from her? Matthew 19:9-11. I always thought verse 10 was hilarious. But Jesus' reply in verse 11 is sobering. You probably don't want to share this thought with your wife since she might just screw your brother openly to give you grounds for divorce ;)
/r/RPChristians02/05/24 08:55 PM
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Whether she really did bang him or not, the conversation sounds like an ILYBINILWY speech. Your brother does it for her, you don't, and she wants out. Horrible place to be. Sorry you are going through this. Should I leave space for this repentance? Or should I just move on? Yikes. If you both have an abiding faith where repentance and forgiveness can happen, that would be awesome. But there are two problems: It requires both of you to genuinely die to self in this situation. Very hard to do with…
/r/RPChristians02/05/24 02:25 PM
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Seems very likely she is banging your brother, and if true then that's grounds for divorce. What do you want from this situation?
/r/RPChristians01/05/24 02:16 PM
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Very quick update, first OYS in 3 weeks or so. I believe this is #24. PHYSICAL: Upper body strength is back at 100% of my 20s/powerlifting days. Lower body strength is about 90% of the way there. Up to 193lbs BW, still have six pack. Diet has been solid foundation plus lots of force-feeding trying to gain weight. I can't remember the last day I didn't eat ice cream, it was over 2 months ago for sure. Kind of ambivalent about bulking through the Summer to get big, vs. maintaining for a while and …
/r/RPChristians30/04/24 02:03 PM
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Physical Training Current Stats: 5'9" 184lbs Nice work. Losing 2lbs/week for 2 weeks. Stay on track.
/r/RPChristians24/04/24 04:36 PM
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She whines when I say no. She argues... Fitness tests. Stop failing and interesting things can start happening. It's your place of power to be initiating, demanding what you actually want, pushing through resistance, getting rejected (repeatedly), and NGAF. Of course she will hate this process. It is YOU regaining YOUR personal power. Fitness tests will come constantly. She wants to know, are you for real? Fail, and nothing changes. Going back to porn is also failing. It just feels odd to not an…
/r/RPChristians11/04/24 04:14 PM
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I had moved my calorie goals from 2100 to 2400 as I was no longer focusing on major cut, but moderate cutting with bulking. This not a thing. You cannot go down and up at the same time. Personally, I think if you have no abdominal definition (~20% BF) you should be cutting until you have solid definition, and then maintaining that weight for a few months. Physique is 80% about leanness and 20% about muscle size, symmetry, and proportion. If "look good naked" is one of your goals, do not bulk at …
/r/RPChristians10/04/24 03:19 PM
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Physical Training Current Stats: 5'9" 188lbs, You were 190lbs a month ago and 188lbs today. At >20% BF you need to be more consistent with the diet, or you're just spinning your wheels, wasting time. Diet: Lots of drinking and poor food tracking with a major industry event. I think I stayed around 2400-2500/day average. Didn’t gain any wait or have any change in BF%, which was a major win for how poorly I was able to track and missing a few workouts. Pure DEER. Initiated Saturday she asked to be…
/r/RPChristians09/04/24 04:32 PM
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OYS #23 Haven't done one of these lately. Here are some updates. Physical Training: E1RMs based on training lately: Squat 315 Bench 285 Deadlift 385. Still have six pack abs at 190lbs. Gaining weight right now. Trying to get to 200lbs. Professional: I got and accepted an offer from a new employer. New job will pay 20% more. My current employer said it would counter offer, but I said no, thanks. It's time for me to have a new challenge. Financial: Doing great. Now on track to be debt free in abou…
/r/RPChristians08/04/24 03:41 PM
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I'm all for hypertrophy training. Just remember that those big 4 should still be going up over time. You can improve your physique a lot by adding accessory exercises to hit muscles that the big 4 don't hit very well (medial delts, traps, lats, arms). But you shouldn't neglect heavy compound movements. 100% of guys who are big are also strong.
/r/RPChristians03/04/24 02:19 PM
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Refractory periods are real, but that's not what you are describing. Your wife just doesn't want to have sex with you. When my wife orgasms, I am pumping away again 15-30 seconds later, and the increased sensitivity post orgasm is a plus for her.
/r/RPChristians02/04/24 06:46 PM
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Then I guess I am seeing normal human interactions instead of fitness tests. Makes sense. Tests are normal human interaction. There I go DEERing Yep. Unattractive. how was I supposed to respond to this supposed third fitness test? First, pass the earlier tests so you decrease the chances of LMR. Search LMR. There are different approaches for dealing with it and you need to calibrate for you. Just remember LMR is always a fitness test and she wants you to pass.
/r/RPChristians01/04/24 09:01 PM
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Unfortunately, she was so aroused that she had an orgasm with me barely touching her and then claimed that her home body was "too sensitive" to keep going. She kept apologizing for it. She wasn't aroused. No other initiations, it was an exhausting weekend with stuff all day every day. We both just wanted to sleep when we were alone. You had energy for porn. Why not energy to initiate? You are still afraid to initiate, but your ego won't let you admit that. So you hamster that you are too tired. …
/r/RPChristians01/04/24 05:17 PM
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I just end up running on the hamster wheel with her and never really transforming that energy into happy feelings again. DON'T ANALYZE YOUR WOMAN. It's the title of the chapter in the book we are talking about. Re-read until you have internalized it. Of course she gets shitty feelings from you when you do exactly the opposite of what works.
/r/askMRP19/03/24 06:15 PM
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Fogging requires you to listen and validate something you heard, aka empathy. It doesn't matter what the nail is. It's not about the nail.
/r/askMRP19/03/24 04:36 PM
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You can listen for a while and display empathy. You can also shunt more important conversations to a later face-to-face. Don't overthink this. The point is that it's not about the nail.
/r/askMRP19/03/24 12:55 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 35 years old, 6'2" 190lbs ~15% BF, married 10 years, 3 kids Physical Training: Lifts this week, Squat 255x5x5, Deadlift 325x5, Bench 205x9. Goals here right now are to get back to my late 20s levels of strength (~1,100lb s/b/d at under 200lbs). Currently trying to gain weight. Professional: Goal is looking to get a 15% raise. I have a final round interview for a new job this week that looks really attractive and promising. I'm prepared for the interview and whatever offer they mig…
/r/RPChristians18/03/24 09:20 PM
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Nice work again with the diet and lifts. Consistency is king there. Currently reading... WISNIFG (18%) Glad to see you started that one. Look for opportunities to practice, both in and outside your marriage. When in doubt use STFU. She surprised me by... going cowgirl... but the standard should be me in control. It might be helpful to think about this as "taking the lead" as opposed to "being in control." You need to be a leader in your sex life, yes. But that doesn't mean you need to be in cont…
/r/RPChristians18/03/24 08:33 PM
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You are posting looking for feedback on a sexual strategy subreddit because you want to be single? You're just rationalizing inaction.
/r/RPChristians17/03/24 01:07 PM
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I would like to be in a position where I'm happy to live and die single. There is nothing about this goal that precludes you from pursuing women. In fact, this is exactly what you should be practicing while you are in a relationship with a woman. You're just rationalizing inaction.
/r/RPChristians15/03/24 01:30 PM
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I feel like I'm getting the whole point of OYS wrong. This is feeling more like a journal than a list of areas I need to improve Because that's what it is. You say you want to get married, have a sex life, have a family, etc. What is your plan for making any of that happen? What did you actually do this week towards those ends? I didn't see anything. Personal development (training, diet, spiritual discipline) is necessary but not sufficient. You need to get out there and meet women. I don't know…
/r/RPChristians14/03/24 01:22 PM
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It's a long road It will be shorter if you stop DEERing everything. You wrote three long paragraphs about sex just to say, "I'm still not leading." Another thing slowing you down: you're 5 weeks in and still haven't finished NMMNG. You haven't even started WISNIFG, which takes only a few hours to read. The sooner you read it, the more time you will have to practice the skills in the book. A lot can change in 6 months.
/r/RPChristians12/03/24 08:54 PM
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Nice work on getting all the lifts up this week and still losing weight. If you stay on track for a couple of months you will look completely different. I should have ended it and said that I enjoy sex with her, but her bossing me around like that doesn’t work for me... Remove the DEER. She's not stupid. She does not need your explanation to figure out why. I told her that her ordering things around was what ruined it for her and that she has to not think so much and not try to control me or sex…
/r/RPChristians11/03/24 08:48 PM
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Mission: Be directly on indirectly involved in rescuing 10 men from betadom (living as weak men which is not honoring to God). But in the same post you say you are getting duty sex, you are a scared nice guy, feel weak, aren't lifting, and plan not to meet your own goals next week. Look at Luke 10:38-42. Consider: When is it good to serve others? When do you instead need to serve yourself?
/r/RPChristians06/03/24 02:22 PM
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Having options, and being emotionally ready to have options: those are two different things. Like with everything else, it helps to know what you want. What the fuck is this? Seriously, reread it and try to fit it into red pill. Allow me to clarify. Don't get oneitis for a new option. This happened to me because of emotional immaturity. Be honest with yourself about cheating. Would it be fun? For me, the answer is definitely yes. But I wasn't honest with myself about it, right up until I had ano…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 12:50 PM
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OYS #18 Mental/Emotional: Almost everything is in the field report already. It seems like most people think I am just here for validation and that it's not value added. You might be right. Relationship/Sex: Hysterical bonding sex morning and night. I did cancel the retard overt dread plans I made. It was too toxic to the relationship. Meta: I'm out. It's been real.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 01:00 PM
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I thought it was a good story. If you don't think it adds any value, remove it. You're the mod here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 12:45 AM
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Just sharing notes. If it's not value added for you, use that downvote button.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 12:40 AM
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More than half of the story is about avoidable mistakes because I don't have frame. That's why the section is called "a loss of frame" in bold. It might have been hard to read through your silly regex highlights.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 12:31 AM
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This is an anonymous place where you will come away sore from getting your balls busted but you will actually improve if you lay out how shitty of a captain you are and don't pull punches. That's exactly what I am doing. Did you read this post? It started with: I'm just another lousy husband who didn't lead. And ended with: I'm an emotional child. Don't be like me. In between it I wrote you paragraphs about how I suck and have no frame. Do I need to fucking bold it for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/24 10:03 PM
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The feelz do add value. Before I was just a guy doing things he read about on the internet because he wanted to feel more confident with women. Now I feel like a man who strange women want to fuck. A man who has options. Why did I create that covert contract? I was afraid I would have to actually honor my commitment not to dip into strange pussy. I didn't trust myself. This is one of my deepest fears. My father blew up my family of origin with an affair. Circumstances not that different from min…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 02:20 AM
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Why did you allow it to happen? For all the reasons that most guys let that shit happen - you had a covert contract. So where's the covert contract here? What did you want from this new bitch? A girlfriend, perhaps, or those feelz it generates? This is a really good question worth the reflection. Thank you. When I wrote OYS #9 I said the goal was just to meet women to practice game and that I was not looking for a side piece. I really meant that. I was just aware that talking to attractive women…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 11:08 PM
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How are you doing with STFU?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 09:52 PM
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Once you're done punching yourself in the nuts for taking your stupid feelings seriously when they run counter to your goals, maybe reassess those goals. And/or reassess how great your bitchy wife actually is when all it takes is an hour of decent girl game to turn everything upside down. This experience shows you are absolutely starved of decent female attention. Just like the divorcees that wife up the first girl to touch them post-D. 100% all of this. Also this woman is married. So the experi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 06:37 PM
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This is the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 06:17 PM
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I agree with everything you said and reached the same conclusion. I said I got seduced because I let myself get bowled over by girl game. But yes it was me playing with fire from the start.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 05:48 PM
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It is only my fault that I allowed myself to get seduced.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:39 PM
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OYS #17 Five months into this journey. Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids Mission Not yet Objective/Direction Enjoy life, be a man Read: TRP Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, 48LOP, TAGR Reading: Nothing this week Physical 6'2" 190lbs (-4) ~15% BF (visual) Training: 17 days into the 10,000 kettlebell swing program. Diet: Switched to slight cut Mental/Emotional I got seduced by another woman I just met back around OYS #9. My goal at the time wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 02:28 PM
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If you are having great sex all the time, why would you turn to pornography? I think it's precisely the cure. I'm Christian too, and was a pornography user for 20+ years. It was easy to quit when I brought all of my desire to my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/24 07:09 PM
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Initiation and sex in general are met with extreme anxiety from wife lately. Have been struggling with staying cool and not feeling butthurt when rejected. I have clearly stated in the past that I need more and better sex if I am to stay in this relationship Gee whiz, how do you think these things are connected Rambo?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/24 02:43 PM
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I am a Christian so absent (a) infidelity on her part or (b) her being an unbeliever who is requesting a divorce, I do not believe that divorce is an option. Besides that, if you got divorced, you would bring all your problems with you to a new relationship and end up back where you started. She accepts that I am doing a self-help regimen Translation: You sought validation from her by telling her you are working on improving yourself. How much are you using pornography?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/24 02:27 PM
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If you haven't read No More Mr. Nice Guy, start there. I had to read it three times over 3 months before I really "got it."
/r/askMRP15/02/24 05:05 PM
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Use /r/askmrp and cut the shit
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/24 03:37 PM
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I have had WISNIFG for a while now, have not read it yet. I have no real need for it now/interest in the contents. missed 4 workouts The meeting with the PT was canceled same shit last time I don’t know if I pass shit tests or not, but I am honestly much happier not thinking about it. Later she sat next to me... I got uncomfortable. I play video games to escape my reality my heart is split on which direction I will be heading Looks like you chose a direction already. Do nothing, be a fat fuck, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/24 02:06 PM
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Glad to see you made it to OYS #2. You are tackling a lot of different personal issues at once. Don't get discouraged. Keep showing up for yourself.
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 08:57 PM
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I feel like deadlifts are going to be left behind with just 1 set per week That one set should be hard enough you won't want to do any more. Squatting also builds your deadlift. How is it not a dancing monkey act if I just do it to alter her behavior? Do things only because you want to do them, and have no expectations for how she will respond. Otherwise it's a covert contract. We went to a restaurant and had too much food Dinner and movies are the date night defaults. Do you want your life to r…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 06:27 PM
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Less than 1 month
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 05:09 PM
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Taping?
/r/RPChristians14/02/24 04:24 PM
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I really hope that I can reach your level someday. Six months ago I was doing all most of the same stupid shit you are doing. If you apply yourself to this the same way you have applied yourself to making money, you are going to do just fine. Is there any way to better internalize concepts? Read -> Plan -> Practice -> Reflect Skipping "plan" and "reflect" is possible but probably slows down internalization. I like to use my OYS for the plan and reflect part. Your (lack of) boundary around the mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 02:27 PM
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Started lifting around a year ago. Unfortunately I have a scoliosis (curved back) and kyphosis (rounded back) Lamar Gant says hi. I'm over $300K/year post-tax Oh boy, another one... Wife is a SAHM so gets a $3.5K/month allowance from me for her own spending, but she regularly goes into credit card debt I have to bail her out. She promises to repay this to me in the future, but then guilts me into forgiving it when it comes to deducting the amount from next month's allowance, and I have usually b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 01:46 PM
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You should be training to failure or close enough to it to know your maxes. I didn't ask if you loved her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 10:47 PM
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literally physically write my mission, workouts and quick thoughts/goals at least 6 days a week in a journal Then why haven't you posted any lifts yet? Afraid to post shitty lifts? That's ego. When your wife says she is resentful for you not making more money so you can travel and (could have) had a third it stings. I get wanting to make more money. I'm in the same spot. But make sure you are doing it for you, to enable things you want. Do you actually like this woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 10:18 PM
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This triggered a meltdown later where I felt the need to intervene. I provided comfort and then caveman'd. If you skip the intervene + comfort part, more interesting things might happen. At least that was the case for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 08:16 PM
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I tried a bunch of different plans with porn that didn't work. They were all variations on "chains" or "wax" from 207 - Perseverance, Sin, and Fitness Tests. The problem with "wax" is that sexual impulses will never stop coming. The problem with "chains" is that access to pornography is so easy and so ubiquitous that any chain can be slipped. Part of what's valuable about the discipline of planning is that when you plans fail, you have something to evaluate. Why didn't the plan work? What ended …
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 08:00 PM
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I think the personal resolution to just stop is great. It is the necessary first step. I find I have greater success in the areas where I also have a definite plan. I had to develop plans for when I felt tempted to use pornography, or when I got sexually rejected, or when I didn't feel like training, or when my wife sprang some new expense me, etc. I even make plans about exactly how I want sex to go now, or else I don't initiate. The areas where I am struggling are the areas where I don't have …
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 05:18 PM
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My porn use is a huge obstacle because it allows me to not work toward a life I actually want Amen. Been there. She put me off because she wanted better prep time… I view this as a rejection but she made good on it after getting ready and it was pretty phenomenal. This is not a rejection. I like to say, "Go get ready for me," or "You've got five minutes." I see that my mind begins to justify my sin by motility explaining my faith away. That my guilt in sin shouldn’t exist because it’s all made u…
/r/RPChristians13/02/24 04:03 PM
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But you wrote: My mission is to get back to a good sex life, preferably with my wife. This is a bad mission whether your wife is faithful or not. But considering she's getting fucked by other dudes, it's shameful. Iron rule #7.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 02:52 PM
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You got ILYBINILWY eight months ago. Sex is still bad or nonexistent. The obvious diagnosis is she loves cock, just not yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 02:30 PM
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OYS #16 4 months into this journey. Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids Mission Not yet Objective/Direction Enjoy life, be a man Read: TRP Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, 48LOP Reading: Think and Grow Rich Physical 6'2" 194lbs ~15% BF (visual) Training: 10 days into the 10,000 kettlebell swing program. Some lifts from this week: Squat 275x3 Bench 225x4 Deadlift 315x5 2,800 x 24kg kettlebell swings Diet: Taking a break from gaining, eating at …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 02:00 PM
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Told her that I plan to have a long and happy future with her. Which was completely unnecessary... I told her jokingly that I feel manipulated but I liked it so I bought the damn tickets to the event. But it's not a joke. It's an overt contract, sex exchanged for time. Is that the relationship dynamic you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/24 10:26 PM
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This is a great example of a we don't do that question.
/r/askMRP12/02/24 03:10 PM
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The problem is I can't save enough at this salary to do much besides to pension, max HSA, and a little extra into 403b (can't max it). The pension screws your beneficiaries if you die early, so I don't like it being my biggest savings vehicle. Whatever I do I need to make more money first. There is more money out there elsewhere, especially public sector.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/24 05:10 PM
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Your lifting is worth more than $10 a month. What you are willing to invest in yourself (or not) says much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/24 07:29 PM
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Squats 185x6 OHP 135x4 Bench 175x4 Oh, that's a decent OHP (all smith machine) Nevermind. Looking good is great and smith can help with that. But smith machine shit is never going to develop strength, i.e. what you need to manhandle your wife to the nearest suitable place for fucking. If you are bothering to lift, you might as well get strong. Save the smith machine for accessory work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/24 06:39 PM
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Counting calories is laborious and probably a waste of time for you. sweets are my medication Just completely cut them out. Throw them all away and don't buy more. Eat real food, something that grew. No calorie counting necessary. Guarantee that will make a huge difference in 4 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/24 01:26 PM
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Sounds like you fixed your fucking. Congrats. This being the case, you'll find little value in continuing oys. Commenting on guys can be helpful in staying sharp though. I hope you're right. I don't feel ready to declare victory. My sex life was in the toilet for a long time. One year? Five years? I don't even know since I was in denial for so long. And furthermore I was a career beta for the entire 17 year relationship. This two weeks of smooth sailing comes right after a nuclear meltdown. If O…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:48 PM
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OHP - 60 - 10X3 / Squat - 240 - 12x3 / Bench - 100 11x3 / Pull Up - 30 - 10x3 Dumbell Deadlift - 140 (Two 60's) / 9x3 How can your squat be 240 for 12 but deadlift only 140 for nine? My guess would be you are not squatting to full depth. PS: 60 + 60 = 120
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 06:16 PM
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bet on yourself Roger that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 06:11 PM
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I'm a middle manager reporting to a director. My current job is insanely secure. We're public sector. People just don't get fired, except for heinous misconduct or total failure to perform (and even then sometimes not). I have a great reputation here. Without ego I can say I have been a transformational leader here. They will never get rid of me, but they probably won't do much to keep me either. We're fucking broke, bleeding cash, shrinking headcount through attrition, have been doing this for …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 05:19 PM
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OYS #15 5 months into the red pill. Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids Mission Not yet Objective/Direction Enjoy life, be a man Read: TRP Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, 48LOP Reading: Think and Grow Rich Physical 6'2" 194lbs (+12lbs since OYS 1) ~15% BF (visual). Some lifts from last week: Squat 255x9 Bench 205x9 Chinups BW+35lbsx8 DB BSS 60sx11 Suitcase deadlift 225x1 I'm 5 days into the 10,000 kettlebell swing program. I will take the res…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 02:38 PM
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Very true, I am probably just pretty desperate in general and looking for community support. Trying to add context is probably me trying to solicit empathy too. I get this completely. For me, the value I have got from support on my OYS is that it's different from what "support" looks like in most places. Instead of coddling empathy or platitudes, the support has been actionable, results-oriented, no BS masculinity. That's infinitely more helpful and useful to me. I’m very much in a “Looking to t…
/r/RPChristians07/02/24 12:05 AM
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What are we supposed to do with the context? Porn is bad. Weed is bad. Nicotine is bad. Having no money is bad. Bitterness about your father is bad. These are problems regardless of context. I agree about No more Mr nice guy as a great next book for you.
/r/RPChristians06/02/24 11:31 PM
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I read the rest of your context too but I don't see what it has to do with OYS. First you blamed your father, then your girlfriend. There was nothing in there about what you want from your work/finances, what you have done so far, or any plans for the future. You should be able to write something for those by OYS #2.
/r/RPChristians06/02/24 11:01 PM
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My advice here would be to work on your Mission during your downtime at work. Because your Mission will (hopefully) be a guiding factor in choosing your next role. I agree 100% that's what I should be doing. But at least since I started the RP journey 5 months ago that's where a lot of the time went: reading, reflecting, writing, trying to fix myself. I feel like I have mostly cleared the Nice Guy obstacle now, so I can't use it as an excuse for avoiding mission development. I really want my car…
/r/RPChristians06/02/24 10:55 PM
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Worrying about what your wife thinks... when you are single? AKA occupying the frame of an imaginary woman. Matthew 6:34 dude. One day at a time.
/r/askRPC06/02/24 02:10 PM
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it feels like I am preparing and working hard to revise all the topics for an exam in order to pass it and get a medal, only to be left witnessing people get the medal without giving the exam at all. (Not a good analogy, I know.) It's a perfectly good analogy. But within the framework of your faith, you are winning the heavenly medal from your god. Your secular brethren are winning a worldly medal. They are competing, but in a different race with different rules. Recognize that you are choosing …
/r/RPChristians05/02/24 08:14 PM
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Some doctors I have talked to have advised that I am getting to the point in my life when I should not be doing squats or deadlifts anymore (38 YO) This is generally the attitude of doctors (especially GPs) who see their purpose as "get patients out of the office and keep them out." If something hurts they will tell you to stop doing it. Forever. If you can get a referral to a sports medicine specialist they will probably tell you the exact opposite. They know that unless you spend the rest of y…
/r/askMRP05/02/24 04:10 PM
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OYS #15 5 months into the red pill. Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids Mission Not yet Objective/Direction Enjoy life, be a man Read: TRP Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, 48LOP Reading: Think and Grow Rich Physical 6'2" 194lbs (+12lbs since OYS 1) ~15% BF (visual). Some lifts from this week: Squat 255x9 Bench 205x9 Chinups BW+35lbsx8 DB BSS 60sx11 Suitcase deadlift 225x1 I'm 3 days into the 10,000 kettlebell swing program. I will take the res…
/r/RPChristians05/02/24 02:24 PM
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Maybe OP is Alan Thrall tho
/r/askMRP04/02/24 02:52 AM
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STFU
/r/askMRP03/02/24 11:00 PM
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Why would you write all this shit and post it on MRP of all subs, just to say you need a better social life? It doesn't add up. If you don't know what you want there's not much point asking for advice how to get it, mate. I'm super curious though what would motivate a young high earning jacked guy to marry a rich old single mother. It feels like some part of the story is missing. Sidebar has the answers for your marriage.
/r/askMRP03/02/24 09:24 PM
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What are your lifts Mr. Elite Shape? Are you fucking? What stupid stuff are you doing that you didn't mention? What do you want? There's a link in the sidebar that says "ALL YOUR ANSWER ARE HERE." I recommend you try clicking it.
/r/askMRP03/02/24 07:47 PM
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What has this got to do with MRP?
/r/askMRP31/01/24 10:08 PM
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Well I will challenge you right back and say you have no excuse to be "stuck" for the whole pregnancy and newborn phase. The important work is YOU and your inner life. The pregnancy doesn't prevent that. The improved sex life is just an external expression of something that changes on the inside. Having sex 3-5x a week is great, but I still have a lot of internal transformation to do.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 06:16 PM
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Either way really happy for you in the music front. And the wife/sex front. And the lifting front. Dude you’re doing well. Ehhh... stay tuned, watch me find a way to blow it all up.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 04:46 PM
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I see that I have to stop being afraid of making changes. Bingo. I have had the same problem a lot lately. I want to do X but I'm afraid it will make my wife mad. What has helped me is planning all the way through. If it's sex, I plan how I want the sex to go, how I will approach, what I will do if she resists, etc. If it's a hard conversation I plan how I'm going to say it, what tools I will use if she asks questions, starts a fight, etc. The first part is noticing your resistance to getting wh…
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 02:12 PM
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I think music could be a part of my mission for sure. I just need time to really be sure what's in/out. In my best case scenario my career (which is not musical) is mission aligned so that the place I spend most of my time is also missional.
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 01:55 PM
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unsubscribe
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 11:02 AM
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More dragon chasing. Nothing wrong with enjoying your free time doing things you like, but I would suggest putting that effort into Mission and evangelism instead. Just adding another thought onto this. Music is 85% about church for me. I enjoy music for its own sake but church is the main way I get to play music for other people. It's been a great avenue for inviting to people to church too. "Come watch me play." I get to play-act at caring that people see me, and if they come they end up seein…
/r/RPChristians31/01/24 02:22 AM
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you’re still chasing the dragon. 100% that is correct. I have enough wisdom to recognize it, but not enough to step off the ride. I would suggest putting that effort into Mission and evangelism instead I know that's what I need to do but I haven't found my mission yet. You can’t force anyone to step up. What’s stopping you? Could be a great springboard to developing your Mission. “It’s something I need to pray through this next few months” is hamsterese for “I’m going to avoid making a decision.…
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 08:38 PM
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Any attention I get from females at all are considered huge affronts in my relationship. In the future, this should work to your benefit. So when I start to do that even more so if I do so openly it will either end my marriage or change it in a way I am not equipped to handle. If you are high value your wife is not going to leave you for flirting. I agree you should be cautious during the pregnancy and the newborn phase though. Comfort and security are at a premium for her right now. But that wi…
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 05:17 PM
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Edit: Oops, profanity filter I am somewhat confused as the whole notion behind adopting RP seems manipulative and covert contract like but that could be from how I have approached it. This was exactly my experience. Covert contracts were my usual MO, so when I started trying to "apply" RP, I just ended up creating new, different covert contracts. For example: "If I game my wife like this, she should have sex with me." I am still catching myself doing stupid stuff like that. The hard part is not …
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 04:14 PM
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I didn't do all of them. The ones I did do were solo. They could also go in an oys.
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 11:24 AM
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Allen was not playing catch and release. We know that because he brought it up to his therapist. If he was redpilled it would be a fun experience, even without the sex. For Allen it was a regret.
/r/askMRP30/01/24 02:05 AM
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The point is that he wanted to have sex with her, but turned her down when she invited him to her room. Why he did that is irrelevant. Regardless of how he rationalized it, it was a nonsensical thing to do. The point is that nice guys set themselves up to fail.
/r/askMRP30/01/24 12:07 AM
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Listened to NMMNG for the 2nd time. I've gotten worse (more aware?) since the first time I read it. Guilty of way too many nice guy behaviours that I couldn't even remember from reading it the first time. You probably just recognize the behaviors more now than you did on your first read through. That means you are doing better, not worse. At least that's how it was for me. On the first read through I was just rationalizing how the book was not accurately describing me. Then I thought about it, w…
/r/RPChristians29/01/24 04:15 PM
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OYS #14 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: MRP Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP Reading: 48LOP (LONG) Physical 6'2" 194lbs (+10 since OYS 1) ~15% BF (visual). Some lifts from this week: Squat 250x7 Bench 205x9 Chinups BW+30lbsx8 Next training cycle will be super back to basics. Goal is to get my squat/bench/deadlift back to where they were in my 20s (350/275/480). DIET: I still have some room to go on this mass gain pha…
/r/RPChristians29/01/24 04:10 PM
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This is a case of what you win them with is what you win them to. There have been many here who have argued that foul language is okay for Christians to use. And yet even worldly, unsaved people know that Christians are not supposed to speak that way. I can't help remembering this conversation I had with a student from India. "You're a Christian?" Yes, I say. "So you don't swear or anything like that?" I was really puzzled why this was his first question about my faith. To my view, saying or not…
/r/RPChristians29/01/24 01:52 PM
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Then read it, think for yourself, reach your own conclusions, and post them here.
/r/RPChristians26/01/24 02:01 PM
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Nice try, author of "Lies men believe..."
/r/RPChristians26/01/24 11:30 AM
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What part of "women will be banned on sight" do you not understand?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:47 PM
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Every time she rejects sex it follows this script. I usually let her have the comfort. But she also gets the message, "yes please keep rejecting me sexually and I'll still be your big teddy bear." I was glad something different happened for a change. I don't think it's necessarily bad to "fail" a comfort test once. If I failed at all, I failed forward. What is my alternative option? I thought about this a lot. Let her cuddle and tease her about it? She probably would have melted down the same wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:45 PM
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Crazy can be really fun. Just ask /u/HornsOfApathy. Why do you think Amber Heard married Johnny Depp? And then after proving to one of the most publicly crazy bitches of our time, she still dated Elon Musk? It's for exactly this reason I'm so underwhelmed by her reaction this week, racing out to get an SSRI and going back to therapy. Maybe I'm just rationalizing. I don't know. I'm as crazy as her at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:18 PM
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Stop writing victim puke and do the work.
/r/RPChristians24/01/24 07:22 PM
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Bitch be crazy. Fucked her good last night, she is chipper as can be today and currently mopping my dining room. For all I know she might threaten to divorce me by sundown.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 07:11 PM
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Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:56 PM
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I predict your Dancing Monkey strategy of treating disrespect and shitty attitude with AA/AM will backfire. If it does, you know where the nuke is. I won't pretend I understand why but I do have the nuke at the ready if needed. Don't short-change your results dude. Most guys never have their bitches fixing their shit. Of the minority that do, most have to drag them there kicking and screaming. Fair enough. I just think she is working on the wrong shit. She needs to be in the gym, not therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:32 PM
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Ephesians 5:22 is in the NT and it's the reddest verse in the entire Bible. It's really the church that failed men.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:27 PM
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Use /r/RedPillWives/, this is a male only sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:20 PM
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Results seem to have been almost comically quick. Results? The only thing that has really changed is that my wife is in high gear about sorting her own shit out. That wasn't my goal, it just happened. To the extent I wondered if this was fake merp fantasy writing. It's highly edited down and plays up more of the things I did right than wrong. Like in retrospect, for that punishment spanking, I definitely should have teased her about getting angry. Instead I basically just told her to GTFO. Misse…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:16 PM
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In short, an affair is net negative in my frame. Catch and release is definitely helping me internalize a sense of value I didn't have before.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:04 PM
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lol she was already wet AF from blowing me. I was reading Genesis 4:7 last night and it really stood out that God specifically curses man not only for eating the forbidden fruit, but for listening to the woman. Never noticed that before.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 04:00 PM
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what did you the tools you use tell you about your terrain? Had to think about this. I am still basically retarded so maybe my analysis is way off base. I interpreted the cuddling as a shit test. Pushing her away was engaging on her terrain. I could have passed the test from higher ground by teasing her for example. This is a reward It really was not. She had told me she didn't want to be punished and was completely livid that I did it anyway. No you just wanted D/s to provide you with your nice…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 01:44 PM
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Thank you. I can see how Sunday might have been a little more fun if I used other tools in the toolkit.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:35 PM
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Nobody who has a life cares what "influencers" say.
/r/RPChristians24/01/24 02:14 AM
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I think it was a better time to verbally nuke than STFU. I agree the text game with this other woman is just about validation, but I recognized that already and validation is nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 02:13 AM
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MRA is literally feminism for men. TRP is just sexual strategy. Both men and women can be red pilled. Blue pill is just belief in "romantic love" above everything else. Neither of them is inherently political like feminism or MRA. Why would you bother responding to nonsense people say online though? It's a complete waste of time.
/r/RPChristians24/01/24 12:29 AM
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OYS #13 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, RPChristians sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP Reading: 48LOP Physical Training 5 days/week and eating 4,000kcal/day. Up to 192lbs BW, +9lbs since OYS #1. Relationship & Sex Yes I know this section is long but I have found other's notes helpful, so I am sharing mine. I stopped all caretaking. Monday: Got rejected, DNGAF. Later she came looking for sex. I started fucking her, but she just sob…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:22 AM
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So me clapping back at a joke about say, my height (short king) isn't a break of frame, being actually butthurt and responding out of butthurt is a break of frame, right? "Clapping back" and "being butthurt" are both reactive. People with control of their frame aren't reactive. I know a guy who is like 5'5" with giga frame. He makes fun of me for being tall. "How's the weather up there?" etc. I am sure if you teased him he would just A&A.
/r/RPChristians23/01/24 10:14 PM
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Yes. After you die, let me know whether my hamster was right.
/r/askMRP23/01/24 07:48 PM
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I figured as much, or you would have celebrated your victory in your OYS. 207 from the sidebar is really good on this subject. Most guys struggling with porn are going with wax or the chains. This almost never works. You need to fill your life with better things to do. As the author wrote: "Why leave what's great and healthy to get what's mediocre and will kill you?" Stay centered on Christ, or get centered if you are not. Whenever you feel the BS envy that's eating at you ("I'm a 34 year old vi…
/r/RPChristians22/01/24 06:27 PM
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It's the same with lifting. "Big, lean, natural, choose two." Everything about human condition is defined by finitude and limitation. But strangely that is the only way that interesting things can happen.
/r/askMRP22/01/24 06:17 PM
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Derp, you're welcome, now read the side bar material again because you seem to have forgotten the basics. Edit: nevermind, you never even read WISNIFG. Suspect you never read the sidebar. Add that to "pornography addiction" mentioned in this post and I'm beginning to think you're just kidding yourself about your great sex life.
/r/askMRP22/01/24 04:47 PM
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My dream is to get to the point where I can go get drinks with a buddy or go on a work trip and she doesn’t mind, doesn’t complain, doesn’t text or call to check what I’m doing. That's easy. Be more beta. You'll get your "dream." And probably lose awesome sex in the process.
/r/askMRP22/01/24 04:10 PM
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I think I handle this okay, but at one time, miss burst with 'I'm losing respect for you sitting on your ass all day doing nothing.' I responded with some comfort. Not an occasion to provide comfort. Besides that, everything you called a "symptom" just sounds like a woman being a woman. Not sure what the problem is here. miss started going out with friends more and pay more attention to her looks What's wrong about that? It feels like you were afraid to come out and say what you are actually con…
/r/askMRP20/01/24 07:59 PM
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What about that pornography usage?
/r/RPChristians20/01/24 06:11 PM
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My wife blew up when she initially found NMMNG years ago. I would love to be a fly on the wall for that conversation. How dare you read a book about getting what you want?! Hopefully you had read WISNIFG already. "What's wrong about getting the life I want?"
/r/askMRP19/01/24 06:31 PM
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Honestly, who cares? My car has that annoying feature where it pairs automatically and starts my Spotify, even if it wasn't running on my phone. Usually it pairs my wife's phone first, but one Sunday morning on the way to church, she left her phone at home. Guess what my car did? It started playing PFP and put that cringey, sort of hot cover on the dashboard in full HD. My wife asked about the book. I told her what it was. What happened? My wife laughed. We went to church and had a normal Sunday…
/r/askMRP19/01/24 06:26 PM
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The fact that you are even asking this question on /r/askmrp says that you are more nice guy than your ego is ready to admit.
/r/askMRP19/01/24 01:34 PM
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Guys, he started lifting 3 months ago. He is SO ready to get out there and slay pussy. Won't somebody just please HELP him decide if that's what HE WANTS!? Seriously though /u/alldownhillfrhere, this post screams oneitis for this girl who is, by your own description, pathetically low SMV. And you're not even engaged to her. If you really wanted to go out there and get laid, and if you really COULD actually do that, you wouldn't be posting on /r/askmrp asking for validation from random internet s…
/r/askMRP18/01/24 03:37 PM
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Whether your boundary was a smart and necessary one or not, and what to do with the relationship going forward, is completely up to you. I'm just saying if you want to set a boundary, you need to enforce it. You don't need to explain why you're enforcing it. That is counter productive and just invites arguments. Read WISNIFG.
/r/RPChristians18/01/24 11:51 AM
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Ah yeah I pruned them after many OYS. 6'2", 192lbs, 15%bf, 1100lb powerlifting total
/r/RPChristians18/01/24 11:46 AM
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I explained... Literally the E in DEER. Stop that. she said I’m being insecure and controlling but I didn’t even tell her to delete him If it was a boundary for you then why didn't you enforce it and tell her to delete him? I just am upset she broke the boundary. I explained that to her. You DEERed again while refusing to enforce your own boundary. She told me in a moment of anger she’s going to proceed to do worse if I don’t let this go as she didn’t do anything wrong. Fitness test. How can I a…
/r/RPChristians17/01/24 07:41 PM
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Everybody wants their wife to be a porn star in the sack. But nobody wants to be married to a porn star. Your preferences are not special, they are standard. Growth happens in places of discomfort. Break the porn comfort cycle already!
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 11:12 PM
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At 1,800 kcal a day your lifts are going to hit a wall quickly no matter what. You should be losing weight fast at those macros. I'm right around 191lbs and I maintain at around 3,000kcal. At 2,500kcal/day I was able to cut to 175 or so. Briefly I was at 2,000kcal/day and I hit 169 and single digit BF. You are eating even less than that... consider adding food. I agree the greyskull LP will be a better choice for you. Your lifts are still beginner territory. 5-6 days/week training is not necessa…
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 10:11 PM
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I should be unbanned for next week's OYS
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 09:46 PM
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Rule 9 of course. Deserved it. I fell into the trap described in Sex and the obsession thereof. It was holding me back. After a lot of verbal abuse (I mean from MRP) and some particularly lousy sex it sunk in. I spent 98% less time thinking about sex this last week and used all the time to play guitar.
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 09:28 PM
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OYS #12 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP Reading: 48LOP Posting here while on an MRP temp ban... Spiritual 100% on fellowship, prayer, assurance of salvation. 90% on scripture study - missed a day or two. 50% on devotional and memorization. I miss this as often as not lately. 10% on evangelism, I don't put in much effort in this area. I'm currently working through my understanding of headship, and moving aw…
/r/RPChristians16/01/24 05:01 PM
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Why do so many young men in church believe their sexuality is wrong? Because they're getting puritanism from inside the church and feminism from outside. So many church leaders are afraid of sexuality. In their messages they will only pay the briefest lip service to it. Then, moments later, they will contradict themselves and associate all expressions of sexuality with "the flesh." At least that's what I see in mainstream evangelicalism today. Add to that the feminism coming from the outside, an…
/r/RPChristians13/01/24 06:10 PM
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1 Corinthians 10:31 and Matthew 16:24 are "empty platitudes?" Your other examples are valid answers to the question "what does it mean to live for Christ?" So to would be any and every variation of the statement "serve God and people." Every valid answer is going to be heuristic to some degree. I think they're only platitudes if we repeat them mindlessly.
/r/RPChristians11/01/24 07:04 PM
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Dude, she's pregnant. Women are normally crazy, but pregnant women are extra super fucking BATSHIT crazy. And they can't possibly help it. One time when my wife was pregnant she went straight Incredible Hulk on me and broke the railing off the stairway. Why? IIRC she was angry, wanted me to be angry back at her, and I wasn't. Real serious offense, I know. CRACK, no more stair railing. As /u/Kevlar__Soul already said, your timing sucks. Everybody in your situation would be better served if you wo…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 09:26 PM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:49 PM
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Thank you. I appreciate the play by play breakdown because I'm literally retarded in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:47 PM
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I have gained 20lbs since I took those pictures and still have abs. I'm not quite that defined right now but I should be coming in looking like that +10lbs of muscle this summer. Long term the goal is a lean-ish 200.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:44 PM
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Hell, she even said she didn’t know whether she wanted to have sex or not after implying (via shit test) that she didn’t. She was just checking you and you have a womanly response (“Then I don’t want to either”). Point taken Starfish - what’s your definition? From my OYS #8: "Ugh, you're going to make me get up again to clean up?" She just layed there hiding her face with one arm. Horrible. What I'm calling starfish is 1. no eye contact 2. no vocalization 3. no movement. She might or might not d…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 03:10 PM
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Until your girl is 100% in-line, in lock-step, I agree with Razz that proactive comfort sends a confusing message to all involved. +1 The crying bit? Gets me hard too. For me it's specifically when she cries because I've exposed some vulnerability. It's weird. Your woman sounds pretty emotional, mine is too, and personally that's pretty fucking hot because I love some crazy. She's 100% certifiable and that's how I like it. Some of my dude friends have wives who are super cerebral and analytical.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 02:59 PM
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OK so, help an autist out. This is the exact scenario: Wife has just shown contempt for me. Now she is naked and asks "Are you coming to bed?" I don't want to fuck anymore after such disrespect. How do I STFU my way through this? "Are you coming to bed?" "No" "Why?" "..." I think this would have gone the exact same place it went anyway. Her demanding over and over again that we have a conversation, and me saying no for 20 minutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 02:19 PM
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Comfort is useless. Especially in your situation. Drop it. You don't necessarily have to make an effort to kill it all, but don't make an active effort. Ever. I'll think about that the next time she does the retreat and cry move. Initiate when you want to fuck, no matter her "mood". Escalate to an iron clad hard no every time. If you get starfish, zip up mid fuck. Say "this isn't working for me. We will try again later.". Sounds solid, thank you. There were multiple times this week I didn't do t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 02:12 PM
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Where did I verbally barf? If anything I feel like I have taken STFU to its absolute limit without being autistic. Monday (last night) was basically just her demanding that we "have a conversation" over and over again, while I repeatedly said no.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 01:43 PM
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OYS #11 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, Intimacy & Desire Reading: 48LOP Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Build frame Objective: Game attractive women (complete) Objective: Be jacked - Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Become sexually irresistable and dominant Objective: Leadership / Some identity shit Objective: Be fun Build Frame I faced a lot of sexual resistance and rejection th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 11:20 AM
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I'm glad I brought up the topic because I feel less like a monster knowing other people are like me
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/24 05:47 PM
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Just tell them you're single. It's not a lie. It's as much information as they need. Why would you need to discuss the details of your divorce timeline with a woman you've NEVER MET? Get a date. If you can't get a date /u/FutileFighter was right.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 06:00 PM
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In the 14 hours a day you aren't working, sleep for 8, lift for 1, that leaves 5. Use some of that to go places, meet women, and ask them for dates. What else do you want me to say?
/r/RPChristians06/01/24 11:56 AM
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Ideally, I would like %100 custody of my kid Then you can pick him up because you want to, not because your stbx needs you to.
/r/askMRP05/01/24 06:39 PM
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I think "mental models" are irrelevant. You are talking about habits. You are habitually getting emotionally reactive. Every time you let yourself get off your emotional center, you're reinforcing that habit. The way to change is to start noticing that you got off your emotional center, then find it again (apply whatever "mental model" you want here). The more you practice that, the faster you will be able to do it. Eventually you can habituate that process and become more non-reactive. Side not…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 05:00 PM
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it’s not something I really want to do Then don't do it. I almost have to do because I think that I owe her You don't. because I wasted 13 years of our lives. You owe it to yourself not to waste more of your life doing shit you don't want to do. She is also taking a job that will require her to work late and so she won’t be able to pick up our son after daycare and has asked if I could pick him up, then she would get him after work. You are splitting custody 50/50 but she wants to make you respo…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 02:19 PM
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I don't necessarily think that more BJs will translate to more sex. I just think BJs are awesome. If they're "on tap" why not go for it every night?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/24 11:39 AM
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If I were in your shoes I would probably tell her to blow me every night then. Then see how she acts when the BJs become what you want instead of what you'll settle for. Getting 4-5 BJs a week sounds pretty rad to me. When she starts to tire of that you can generously offer to fuck. I haven't read all of your backstory OYS. Are you confident that for all these super late nights she is pulling, she isn't stepping out on you? Never being home until late, plus never wanting to fuck is a pretty bad …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/24 01:51 AM
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In general, sex every other week and blow jobs on tap I'm super curious about this. How can blowjobs be on tap but it's so rare to fuck?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 07:25 PM
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Yes, read WISNIFG. Then think about this: I only initiate when I am fairly certain I won't get rejected In light of what you learned from NMMNG and WISNIFG. Like so many guys you are ashamed of your sexuality. Your LTR knows it. Like you said yourself... I don't have any self-respect
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 07:16 PM
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Funny story, that role play sex that I wrote the field report about? I did that immediately after re-reading the sex chapter in Pastor Tim Keller's book The Meaning of Marriage. Like I read it, put the book down, picked up my phone, and texted my wife that interview line with NO PLAN. I made the rest up in an hour.
/r/askMRP03/01/24 05:46 PM
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Three four times a month is fine by me and it's not mannequin/starfish like pre mrp. You just said in your last OYS that it had been two months since you fucked your wife. Don't give me any bullshit about how I'm different from you because "sex is not your main focus." Stop kidding yourself dude. Why are you even posting?
/r/askMRP03/01/24 04:02 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 03:40 PM
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I wanted to post this here because I feel like admitting this to people in my life would blow it all up. That won't happen. Or, if it does, they were false Christians anyway.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 03:06 PM
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Masturbation isn't explicitly mentioned or forbidden in the scriptures. No, that is not what Genesis 38:8-10 is about. Pornography and other sexual fantasies about women are clearly "adultery of the heart" [Matthew 5:27-28]. That's a separate issue from masturbation. WHAT DO I DO WITH A HOMELESS SEX DRIVE? IS REPRESSION THE ONLY OPTION? Get a woman in your life. I'm asking what I should do in the meantime while experiencing this "gift" of singleness. Channel the energy of your sex drive into you…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 02:38 PM
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You did 4 OYS in 2 years. The last one was 2 months ago. No work. Your last posted lifts like bench 120x10 and deadlift 185x12. After 2 years? Pathetic. No work. Your last OYS you will still complaining about covering basic foundational nutrition like 1g protein per lb body weight. No work. Your last OYS you said your house is a mess. You are obviously not a leader in your family. No work. Dead bedroom. Not doing the work on your sex life. No work. You don't understand the sidebar materials. No …
/r/askMRP03/01/24 02:30 PM
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I didn't understand your question. You definitely have no reason to envy me. My faith is small and academic. I can go through a prayer ritual to feel and experience my faith, but it takes effort.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 02:23 PM
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It doesn't "seem" like a work of fiction to me. Pie in the sky religion seems like a fiction. So does the licentious materialism that pervades our culture. The Bible isn't either of those things. I'm definitely not "indoctrinated." I was an atheist until I was nearly 30. I had never read the Bible before. I decided to study it deeply. I've spent my thousands of hours reading scripture, discussing, reading commentaries, memorizing scriptures, and testing their application. So far I don't have any…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 12:44 PM
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You are talking like someone who has never read the Old Testament before. You might as well get right down to it and read Joshua, and see how YHWH commanded the genocide of virtually every inhabitant of over 30 cities. It'll either break your naïve faith entirely, or force you to come to terms with who God really is. Don't forget Jude v.5... that's Jesus killing the firstborn, crushing the Egyptian army in the sea, and consigning an entire generation of Israel to death by desert wandering. Never…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 12:16 PM
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You agree that your own question in your post is pointless. Cool. You're not getting "yes/no answers" because anybody who has internalized the sidebar material knows that your question is pointless. The fact that you asked this question means that 1. you're sexually frustrated and 2. you haven't internalized the sidebar material.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:20 PM
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I won't be going to any munches. I'm exploring the full alphabet soup of BDSM but it's all within my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:15 PM
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Ministry: hit a major set back here. During my Bible reading I ran into some verses in exodus and deuteronamy that have me doubting the whole thing. God endorsing slavery by creating laws for them to follow, his focus on feasts, his jealousy and even specifically laying out a law for how a woman should be treated should she grab a man’s balls in a fight has me doubting Christs involvement and that the old/new have little to son with each other. Really dude? Jude v5 says Jesus personally destroye…
/r/RPChristians02/01/24 09:53 PM
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It's funny how easily kinky topics can devolve into a verbal slapfight about the meaning of a word, in this case "sadism." I'm also completely sidestepping the distinction between M/s and D/s. I just don't care. What matters is what happens in the relationship interactions, not the words we use to describe those things. We all like whips, knives, and restraints... let's celebrate.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 09:31 PM
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This particular friend would never read a book and has intractable verbal diarrhea. He would get the audiobook, put it on 2.5x playback speed, jump in his car, listen for 20 minutes, then "hey Siri, text my wife, I'm reading this interesting book that vitrael2 told me not to tell you about..." It was more of an opsec concern to talk to him about my marriage than it is to text other women. Now go build up those legs chicken man. Appreciate you calling my bullshit here. I squatted like 300x8 and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 07:48 PM
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Supposedly you are 2 years into your journey. You clearly have not internalized the sidebar. Your lifts are pathetic. You are still in a dead bedroom. You haven't done shit. Keep it up. In another two years nothing will change.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 06:58 PM
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Acknowledged re: new pussy spell. I can see a risk of new covert contract BS popping up at this stage like, "I'll be this kind of guy so you fuck me like that kind of bitch." In fact I can already see some examples of how I'm thinking that way. I went through a version of this before I started OYS last year. I started dating my wife again and started fucking more & better. It seemed good at the time, but it quickly devolved into a dates-for-sex covert contract. You yourself have said that it's t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 05:46 PM
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Although I am still technically married, I do wonder if I should continue posting here since it is not salvageable. OYS is for you, not for your marriage. Are you salvageable? What ever you do, keep lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 12:07 PM
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OYS #10 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, PFP, Intimacy & Desire Reading: The Dominance Playbook Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Build frame Objective: Game attractive women Objective: Physical training - Be jacked - Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Become sexually irresistable and dominant Objective: Some identity shit (new) Objective: Be fun Objective: Tell stories Build Frame Good wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:57 AM
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Read the side bar material. Post in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/24 12:17 AM
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Basically a tall man has all the options available, the shorter you are the smaller your overall pool of possibilities. and sadly its not a linear function imo. That's a nice self-limiting belief you've got there. I'm 7 inches taller than you. I can make myself unfuckable too. I'll just quit my job, move in with my parents, and complain about all the things I can't control. Do you think Bruno Mars has any problem getting laid?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 09:24 PM
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There is no problem with your wife wanting it also, but the trick for turning this from a role playing LARP to who you are is doing it because that's what you want not because you are doing it for her. I see what you mean. But I really feel like I'm seeing my wife fall in line with the direction I steer, rather than her placing her hand on the wheel so to speak. It's happening both inside and outside the bedroom this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 07:43 PM
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Your whole stupid post is about "if I put lipstick on a pig, is it still a pig?" She moved away from her hometown to be with me. Who cares. If a pig moves from China to your backyard, she is still a pig. She's been loyal to me. WTF does this even mean. She's not in shape. She does not put effort into your relationship. She is not feminine. Your sex life sucks. These are your own words. A loyal pig is still a pig. My friends love her. Maybe she can sleep in their backyard then? She does some stuf…
/r/askMRP30/12/23 08:30 AM
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I don't want to get stuck at the "fake it 'til you make it" stage. I don't think I will either. It drives me absolutely crazy to feel a lack of personal integrity, and I've felt that way these whole three months. I can't live with two different stories in my head about who I am. Sooner or later one story will win. The balance of power has been shifting inside me. I thought the experience from this FR was just a good illustration of that actually happening. To demystify "congruency" somewhat, my …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 08:15 AM
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There are a few things about role play that I suspect will make it a special ace card for variety in my marriage. I enjoy storytelling for one thing. The multitude of possibilities for role play are endless, and I have fun spinning those threads. For another, role play doesn't strictly require isolation + escalation. It can be done covertly between us in public, around our kids, etc. This solves a lot of the "available time & space" problems that have kept my sex life confined to my bedroom at 9…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 07:53 AM
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Username checks out.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 05:57 PM
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for the lazy
/r/askMRP29/12/23 05:57 PM
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tfw strangers on the internet have more insight into my inner life than I do
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/23 05:43 PM
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Putting hope in my wife ovulating was just the latest new way for me to not take responsibility for getting the sex I want. That's what I meant by "trying not to get my hopes up." The idea of following her cycle had not occurred to me until I read MMSLP a few months ago. I haven't tried it because she hasn't had a new cycle. But yeah, with just a little thinking it becomes obvious how it is another covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/23 01:17 AM
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I agree that I'm outwardly checking the nice guy behavior while still dealing with the same internal nice guy conditioning. If I knew how to throw the nice guy switch to "off" in 9 weeks, I would. I disagree that I haven't owned anything in my post. You can call all my honestly owned shit "pity seeking" and all of my positive steps "pompous" if it gets you off. I don't think it's adding value, and neither is parroting "you suck, you're pathetic, read NMMNG again." I'm not here to satisfy your im…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 06:07 PM
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I don't actually have very much "bad behavior" to deal with from my wife. She's really hard working, responsible, typically respectful, and a great mother. Mostly the thoughts of leaving her come up from sexual rejections. I know it's counterproductive fantasy, that's why it's in my OYS to stop doing it. Maybe my writing style just isn't coming across well, but I seem to have attracted lots of responses this week telling me that I should stop doing the things that I resolved to stop doing. Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 05:46 PM
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I already read NMMNG twice like it says at the top of my OYS. I know emotionally spiraling at repeated rejections is not the man I want to be. That's why I'm owning it in my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 10:19 PM
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UTI != STI
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 08:48 PM
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"Trying to lower my expectations" is probably more realistic
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 05:30 PM
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I called her a slut and received some backlash. I thought it was too much dominance at once, without enough emotion. Some women just aren't into that specific kind of degradation. It's not necessarily a DEVI problem but may have more to do with how she thinks of herself. My wife likes it if I tell her she sucks dick like a slut, or is slutty for me, or is my slut... but not if I call her a slut. She is likes being a bad girl, dirty girl, filthy girl, but not disgusting. I think it's just good gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 12:32 PM
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OYS #9 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, Intimacy & Desire Reading: Pook, Practical Female Psychology Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Build frame Objective: Meet attractive women (new) Objective: Physical training - Be jacked - Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Relationship & Sex - Become sexually irresistable and dominant Objective: Be fun Objective: Tell stories Build Frame Actions for …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 12:18 PM
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you're could be right, but help me understand, what is wrong about not knowing how to hold a conversation?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/23 08:59 PM
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I cant quantify "knowledge" That's because "knowledge" is a generalization. Knowledge means useful, contextualized information. There has to be some SPECIFIC knowledge that you want. Ask yourself "why do I feel like I need more knowledge?" and when you answer, "Because I don't understand X, Y, Z..." start making your list of questions you can't answer. Boom, you are now quantifying your knowledge goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/23 02:53 PM
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You don’t know if your dinner tastes good until you take a bite. Responding 30 days after you wrote this. I couldn't get my head around being the prize at the time, so I didn't understand your analogy. I finally started to figure some shit out. Recently I took a bite of my dinner. It sucked, so I refused further service. (OYS for context) She spent the whole next night trying to "qualify and assure her sexual value." Funny, just what you said would happen when I became the prize.
/r/askMRP21/12/23 09:43 PM
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How is reading books a life purpose? It's like saying your purpose in life is to eat food. Books are read for a reason, either to learn something, or to be enjoyed for their own sake. It can't be that you are reading for the pleasure of it or there would be no need to set a goal. If you have something to learn, wouldn't it be better to pick the right books and study those deeply, rather than set an arbitrary goal like 50 books per year? If you don't know what you want to learn, then you'll never…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 02:39 PM
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I'm married and although I will welcome a sexual interaction from other women, I won't initiate with any one other than my wife... still can't get my mind off of hoping she escalates - which in all likelihood won't happen Living in the frame of a woman who has no sexual interest in you. Three months after getting married. Why? The insecurity and need for external validation run deep for me to be honest and is the biggest area I need to improve... Other than that I read BANG on the flight and sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 08:01 PM
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I know MRP often advocated for not divorcing (due to legal I believe) - does MRP feel the same way about breaking up? Divorcing / breaking off your LTR is a bad choice when you suck and have no other options. Instead you could develop yourself while remaining in the LTR and using your woman as a "sparring partner" (for now). But if you are done with the relationship, are attractive, AND you have plates to spin then what are you waiting for?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 11:52 AM
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You are ~12% BF, several weeks into a diet, AND you had COVID. Of course you lost some reps. Don't worry about it. You are almost certainly not losing muscle. Sometimes BW measurements go down but waist measurements don't. There are lots of reasons that could happen, even when everything is going right in a diet. I am at a slightly higher body fat than I wanted to be (~12% vs. ~11%) The only way you could really know your BF % accurately to 1% is to get surgically dissected. Relax. Remember that…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 11:42 AM
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I didn't say anything about blame. You're right though, it could equally be the Museum of Cucks, and that would be a better educational experience for the male ticketholders.
/r/askMRP19/12/23 11:30 AM
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OYS #8 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, three kids ages 6, 3, and 1. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, WOTSM, MAP, Intimacy & Desire Reading: Pook Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Build frame Objective: Tell stories (new) Objective: Physical training - Be jacked - Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Sex - Become sexually irresistable and dominant Objective: Professional - skill up for the next job - removed goal for now Objective: Put household budget to work to a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 11:24 AM
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I hadn't seen that post before. It's like a museum of whoredom.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 08:54 PM
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Because it usually means she's in love with somebody else.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 07:32 PM
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Since I neglected my wife in the past and overly criticized her constantly, should I do things like compliment her now? Even knowing that she plans to leave me? Do I shower her with gifts? Stop talking about what your wife might want. Stop thinking about what she might want. Focus on yourself. What do YOU want? What do YOU need to do for that to happen? If any of your answers start with "I want my wife..." just fucking stop and start over again because you're doing it wrong. And post in OYS, a n…
/r/askMRP18/12/23 03:04 PM
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I got a humanities degree and they got CS degrees. I aimed for management positions where I was, while they aimed for individual contributor positions elsewhere. In short, they gave themselves a wider field of better opportunities.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/23 02:07 PM
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At your weight the plan can be as simple as: keep protein high (like 200g or more) and cut out all the stuff you already know you shouldn't be eating. That will get results for months if you stick with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/23 04:00 PM
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Height 6'4" 254lbs, 22% body fat Squat 95 x 8, DL (Hex bar) 185 X 8, Bench 155 x 8, press, 95 x 5 22% bodyfat would mean you have like 200lbs of lean mass. With these lifts, there's no way. You are likely 35% BF or even higher. Working out 5x per week is a great start but you need a diet plan too. You are eating too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 07:59 PM
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There's still urgency for you, especially if you decide you want more than 1 kid. It's a horrible idea to start having kids in a strained, sexless marriage. Based on experiences posted here, it usually takes at least 6-12 months to make big progress in a sexless marriage. How long it takes depends on how fucked you are and how hard you are willing to work. Kids are going to be at least 18 months apart because biology. After age 35 female fertility starts to fall off rapidly. Medical complication…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 07:09 PM
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I like the idea of kids, but I'm still on the fence. We are both busy people, so kids would definitely put a wrench in the spokes. You're 37 years old. Unless your wife is much younger, you better get off that fence soon. Her fertility window is basically over at age 40. If you don't want kids, then it's no problem obviously, but if you do your time is short and your marriage is frankly in a horrible condition to get started.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 06:31 PM
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Mission: I want my business to grow to $250k a year minimum next year. Get in better shape. Get my knee fixed so I can get back to Jiu Jitsu and squat again. Spend more quality time with my dog. This isn't a mission, this is a list of objectives. Reading: I have limited time, so it would be great to finish 1 book every 2-3 months. How do you expect to "crush it in 2024" if you take 5 years to read the sidebar? Less excuses, more reading. Relationship: Overall, my marriage is pretty good except a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 02:14 PM
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Nobody is answering your stupid question because you obviously haven't read the sidebar. Your answer is in WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 02:04 PM
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I know. It's not that. I did have a touch of the good lover syndrome, but for me it looked like: Wanting every sexual encounter to be a 9/10 or 10/10. I got over this and accepted that sometimes sex is going to be just OK. Always taking responsibility for her pleasure. I got over this and started letting myself finish without making her cum repeatedly... or even at all sometimes. Not asking for what I really wanted. I got over this and everything is on the table. Fucked my wife in the ass multip…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 06:35 PM
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Why does anybody enjoy anything sexually? It's fun, it's different, it feels good in the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 03:48 PM
1

Alright I'm done deering, I added a leg goal for the training cycle that won't give me back pain. Unilateral stuff is always OK for me so it's a BSS goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 03:33 PM
1

I personally enjoy making her orgasm through intercourse. That's all. It's not about what she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 02:16 PM
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Life = journaling Work = note taking
/r/askMRP13/12/23 07:13 PM
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Use the company as it would use you, and it will be a bountiful partnership. This is the key takeaway for me. I recently decided this would be my relationship with my job. You just found the right words for it. At work I do everything people expect of me and then ask for more. I have an excellent reputation for "getting shit done" but I don't have much growth. I'm tired of seeing my old interns get better jobs than me. Growth by upskilling would mean I generate more value and get better opportun…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 09:08 PM
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I train legs just don't have goals this cycle. My upper body is playing catch-up and it's more important to not get back pain again than to crush legs. I used to be a powerlifter and number chaser. Bad news. I have made more leg gains by not emphasizing my squat PR. It's 50g fat not counting fats from protein sources that are 90% lean or better. Realistically it's more like 100g daily. The carbs are mixed whole and process food. It's too much to eat without hitting really dense foods like grain,…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 05:10 PM
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SL 5x5 is revealing that I've never worked hard in my life. Yep. Been there. Keep punching it. Being strong is great. But whatever hard training teaches you about hard work is even more valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 12:28 PM
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Goal: I am still lacking in evangelism and am not sure how to start. Make a list of all the non-Christians (or disobedient/nominal "Christians") you have a relationship with. Choose at least 1 to talk to first. It's really that simple. People are equipped for different kinds of evangelism and given different opportunities. For me, it's mostly about my parents and siblings. I'm the only one who has Jesus. After that it's about friends and neighbors a little bit, but most of the energy goes to the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 12:20 PM
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Goal: cut porn out for good, it’s for losers Porn is not just FOR losers, it MAKES losers.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 12:10 PM
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OYS #7 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, 3 young kids. RP beginner Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Put life into my deepest purpose Objective: Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Skill up for the next job (new) Objective: Put household budget to work to achieve the life I want Objective: Be the source of fun Objective: Become sexually irresistable and dominant Why I am here: To be accountable to myself. To let others tear down my bullshit. To learn to better manage my emo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 11:59 AM
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Great way to waste money. We're talking about a 22 year old fucking college student who has only lived with her parents and her boyfriend. She doesn't know her state's tenant rights. Even if she were a pre-law student, tenant rights would be the last thing on her mind when her first serious boyfriend dumps her.
/r/askMRP11/12/23 09:36 PM
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More importantly, you make yourself better. The implicit message of the "FIND THE ONE" narrative is "you need that special someone else to complete you." The longer you believe this, the more life you will waste. Only You complete You. Or, if you're spiritually/religiously inclined, your God(s) perfect you. Never put a woman in the place of God or yourself.
/r/askMRP11/12/23 09:32 PM
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I would shit on him some more but at age 24 I was also completely useless.
/r/askMRP11/12/23 04:41 PM
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I’ve worked on myself and I am ready to find that one perfect person, and she simply isn’t it. There is no perfect woman. The sooner you get that "FIND THE ONE" bullshit out of your head, the better. Edit: also you posted about this in /r/relationship_advice 26 days ago. Wtf are you waiting for? "I decided to break up with you. You have until the end of this weekend to move all your stuff out to your parents place." Conversation over.
/r/askMRP11/12/23 03:18 PM
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So let me get this straight: your wife is depressed, stressed, stubborn, egotistical, flabby, on SSRIs, smokes weed, watches trash TV, pays no attention to you, and you "DNGAF" and came here making sure we know it. Which one of you needs a reality check?
/r/askMRP10/12/23 05:22 PM
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paging /u/RedRum-My-Ego who didn't own his shit this week
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 07:04 PM
1

lol, I'm in the wrong field I guess. What do you do for a living?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 06:08 PM
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my wife does not have a credit card. This part I don't understand. Aren't you just throwing away free money in credit card rewards? I get a 2% cashback reward on everything with my credit card. We just never carry a statement balance so never pay interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 03:08 PM
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I started using YNAB just a couple of weeks ago. It has been a game changer. Now I enter every transaction I make down to the penny. I make my wife do the same. I budget every dollar and every cent we have ("give every dollar a job" is rule #1 in YNAB). I didn't think I was wasting $1,000 per month on stupid shit, but it turns out my wife was. I want to know what spending cuts you’re making after you saw the overview of your entire financial picture. I stopped my wife wasting money on pointless …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 12:26 AM
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instead of "should", creating goals and wallowing in and around them, focus on action and doing now. Your expectations are projections of what you "should" be due, if you perform certain actions. I have a 1-year plan of specific work objectives that contribute toward my goal of being promoted in the next 5 years (not in 5 years). I am already doing those things. It's the same as wanting to get to 205lbs and 10% BF. It will take me several years to get there, but there are things I am doing right…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 03:51 PM
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Not sure I understand what you mean. What's the connection between setting a professional objective to get promoted and validation seeking through sex? I appreciate the puzzle to solve but I'm dense and not getting anywhere with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 01:23 PM
1

Alright, fuck. I see it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 05:57 PM
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You don't "get" sex. You become a man who fucks. One of those scenarios is within your control. I don't ever "get" sex. Then what is Game for? Female sexual availability (and unavailability) is real. Thus we use Game so that we "get" to fuck. Game is under our control. The female response to Game is not. It's not a godamn gift to you. It's a gift to her. It's a mutual gift. Any other view misses the agency of men or women.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 05:25 PM
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OYS #6 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, 3 young kids. RP beginner Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Put life into my deepest purpose Objective: Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Get a 10% raise. Get promoted to director before 2028 Objective: Put household budget to work to achieve the life I want Objective: Be the source of fun Objective: Become sexually irresistable and dominant Why I am here: To be accountable to myself. To let others tear down my bullshit. To learn t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 01:14 PM
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That makes sense. But still, 690 leg press for full ROM would mean you should be squatting at least in the 400s, even for the "easiest" versions of leg press. It's just a VERY common mistake for people to overload leg press and do minimum ROM.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 10:25 PM
1

I was just reading Way of the Superior Man and it really clarified this point for me. We all have a mission, and we have a life outside of our mission. But most men fail to live their mission out because they spend their whole lives waiting for some later time when "I'll be able to do the things I want." But the time never comes. Meanwhile, the man gets smaller and weaker the longer he is off-mission. He uses every excuse (especially family) to avoid doing the necessary work, saying he is puttin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 09:31 PM
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Leg Press: 690x10 DL: 225x10 Zercher squat: 185x10 You are probably doing the bare minimum ROM on the leg press. Like 1/4th knee bends. Otherwise these numbers make no sense. Drop the weight a LOT and try to increase your ROM. Check this example at 3:00 minutes for a full ROM leg press position.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 08:58 PM
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As long as the plan remains for him to stay home with you, you are passing. When she gets home and sees it was no big deal, you passed entirely.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 08:41 PM
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Hold up there. If she is into plugs she is in on the ass stuff. any reluctance there is ASD or the married Christian version of that (assuming she is christian as well?). I bet you could go as far as you wanted with anal as long as you didn't ask and just went for it. There's a big difference between enjoying a medium buttplug while you're getting fucked, vs. getting a fucked in your ass with a decent size cock. I did "just go for it" this week and was past her limit. Maybe we'll get there but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 06:36 PM
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Literary fiction mostly. I like scifi too. The only real work I have done since college is to read great novels, e.g. the works of Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, Steinbeck, other giants. I am reading more than I ever have and it feels like it will help me hone my craft when I'm back to it. Also looks good that you are killing the validation seeking. What do you attribute your success here to? It's only a partial success. But some things that contributed: * Intentionally self-validating. "I am awesome, I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 05:00 PM
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Word. I'll be praying for you, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:26 PM
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Successful Initiations: 0/0 on my end. My wife did try to initiate last week. I could tell it was dutiful and did not allow myself to get deluded into thinking she could physically handle it. I was correct as she vomitted like 5 seconds later. I was complemented for my wisdom… WTF man, lol monk mode til I get my stuff together. 0 initiations is going to result in 0 sex of course. How can this align with your goal of exploring and satisfying all your sexual desires? Exactly what stuff do you need…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 04:01 PM
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If you spend your whole life failing, that is not growth. Failure is only a part of growth if you allow failure to be your teacher. This is necessary for growth in any area of life. Once you are completely successful in some task, e.g. "batting 1000 on shit tests," that is ALSO not growth. That is maintenance. is something I can bypass by being more OYS. I don't think anyone can bypass failure on the road to growth in any area of life. I'm not an "MRP vet" but I think this is just basic knowledg…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:47 PM
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How is moving from a weekly OYS to every 6 months going to help you realize your life's vision? I have some hesitations about pursuing those pursuits, but I'm not clear yet whether its merely a 'fantasy' or whether I'm fearful of pursuing it or whether my rationalizations of not pursuing it right now (due to higher priorities) are legitimate. Life isn't so simple as 'drop everything and pursue your dreams' commonly evoked. I get this 100% but it's still just an excuse I already spend 1 hour a da…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:39 PM
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She is going away for a few days soon and suggests I will find it too hard with him, and he should go with her. Shit test
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:30 PM
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OYS #5 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, 3 young kids. RP beginner Mission: Achieving personal greatness Objective: Put life into my deepest purpose Objective: Achieve 200lbs BW @ 10-12% BF Objective: Get a 10% raise. Get promoted to director before 2028 Objective: Put household budget to work to achieve the life I want Objective: Be the source of fun Objective: Become sexually irresistable and dominant Why I am here: To be accountable to myself. To let others tear down my bullshit. To learn t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 12:52 PM
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I'm not sold on the way Glover presented the topic in NMMNG. I'm default nofap because masturbating is boring. Pornography is exciting, but addicting and deluding, so I don't use it anymore. I work out my sexual energy with my wife. If your wife rejects you constantly and you have nowhere else to go with your sexual outlet, by all means jerk off if you want to. But don't expect it to solve any of your validation or desire issues. Masturbating in this situation is symptom management, not a cure.
/r/askMRP27/11/23 04:42 PM
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It should be the other way around. You are the prize and she needs to present herself to you as a sexual option. How does the jive with the other two people who responded? They both said some version of "just take control and tell her it's time to fuck now." That sounds like it's also "qualifying and assuring her sexual value without her needing to sell it to me."
/r/askMRP22/11/23 08:34 PM
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Stop trying to calculate her for your own benefit. "O0o0oo look, she poured some wine at the perfect time to indicate that she wants to get in the mood to fuck." You are probably right, probably... congrats on (potentially) picking up the pattern but what use was this information to you? And more importantly, what does it say about your relationship? That I'm not very attractive, but I already knew that. Also, why are you not flirting with your wife on a date? Is it because you were too busy fli…
/r/askMRP22/11/23 08:31 PM
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That would be way more dominant than my usual approach. Yeah it probably would have worked better. But I rationalized that I shouldn't since her pouring the wine was a way of saying she wasn't interested yet.
/r/askMRP22/11/23 08:28 PM
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You are constantly criticizing your wife, she hates it, and she is not complying. She's stressed out, her pussy is like the Mojave desert, and you are the one who makes her feel that way. And yet you are asking "how do I initiate when she's like this?" You are smacking your head into a brick wall, then going online to complain about a headache.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 05:04 PM
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Anger is not bad. In fact, seize it while you can. You've been conditioned to think of it as bad, but actually is one of the best ways to make actual change. I agree anger is useful, and I definitely channeled anger usefully in OYS weeks 1-3. But I also sometimes used anger badly (i.e. I got butthurt) and set myself back. What I was trying to do this week is not let anger carry me away and make me get butthurt. You're right though that I should welcome the anger as often as it comes as fuel for …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 04:39 PM
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Technically they are traded. A father who is the prior owner literally gives the daughter away. Father/daughter is not the same as husband/wife. It is property that we are forbidden from sharing or giving away after that exchange. Then it's not property. A man leaves his family, a women is given away. I’ll look for more scripture. You're not going to find a scripture that says wives are property because it doesn't exist. Is not not widely referenced that in marriage Christ is the groom and the c…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 10:01 PM
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Property can be freely given, traded, or inherited. Can wives be freely given, traded, or inherited? Of course not, see Matthew 19:6 for example. This alone proves beyond a shadow of any doubt that wives do not "belong" to husbands in the same way that property "belongs" to them. Well, the church is technically Christ’s property Chapter and verse? Respectfully, if you can't cite scripture to make the point, I don't want to hear it. We can talk more via chat if you want but there is absolutely bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 09:11 PM
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I read a lot of the top posts on that sub and there is some good content. It seems their community had mostly moved to Discord however. Some of their mod team I have seen posting in this OYS. I have some hermeneutical objections to what is considered sound doctrine by the mod team. For me the issues are serious enough that I won't look to them as a spiritual community. Although I would love to have something like that, since nearly all the married men who I am close with at my church are still b…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 08:02 PM
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I identified with a ton of your shit. I'm the same age, have 3 kids, am a Christian, bought into the gynocentric worldview, carried the gynocentric thinking into my faith, failed in my duty to headship in my family, used to struggle with porn, failed to produce in my creative endeavors (mostly writing) etc. etc. I’m real messed up in the head on this one. I am am addict in every sense. I even realized that I was looking for validation through a couple of my replies on my recent victim puke. I ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:00 PM
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Writing this out I guess I already know the answer: If it’s important TO ME, clean shit up, STFU and go about my day. Never mention anything about it, and showing how I want it by example. Also, praise good behaviour when it happens. Although “good job putting food back in the fridge” doesn’t seem particularly praise-worthy… Never praising good behavior is a subtle punishment. You don't have to praise her every time. Look up schedules of reinforcement. This topic is covered briefly in NMMNG and …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 06:48 PM
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If she fucks/sucks you all the time because she wants to, you are training your slut. If she fucks/sucks you all the time to keep you from watching porn, you are negotiating desire. You might say "it doesn't matter to me as long as I get fucked and sucked." But negotiated desire isn't going to have staying power. You will have to teach her to want it. It doesn't matter what you said or what she said. It matters what you are doing. Right now it looks like you are getting more pussy as reaction to…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 06:14 PM
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OYS #4 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, 3 young kids. RP beginner Mission: Achieving personal greatness Why I am here: To be accountable to myself. To let others tear down my bullshit. To finally get to 200lbs/10% BF. To learn to better manage my emotions. To get a handle on my career and financial life. To improve my sex life. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG x 2, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Intimacy & Desire Reading: Just finished WISNIFG. Objective for the week: Have MAP and Way of the Superior Man on deck. Start…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:00 PM
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Wristwatches. You are never "required" to wear them, but why wouldn't you? A good-looking wristwatch can make any look better, and it can't spoil any particular look either. A nice watch looks equally attractive in the board room or at the poolside bar. I can't afford a Rolex, but I got a pretty sexy looking watch for about $200.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/23 01:26 PM
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OYS #3 Background: 35yo, married 10 years, 3 young kids. RP beginner Mission: Awesome Dad, Badass Husband Why I am here: To be accountable to myself. To let others tear down my bullshit. To improve my sex life. To finally get to 200lbs/10% BF. To get a handle on my career and financial life. Read: Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, Intimacy & Desire Reading: WISNIFG, re-reading NMMNG Physical Training: Current stats 6'2" / 186.5(+1) lbs / ~12-15% BF. Goals here: Get to 200lbs at ~10-12% BF. Week 4 training …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/23 03:27 PM
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This has been my experience too. 3+ years of 24/7 WFH with a SAHM was a trap. SAHM and I are together all the time in a domestic sense but almost never alone and romantic. I let our lives get monotonous and boring. Pick up toys, do some work, change diapers, take a video meeting, tell kids to stop screaming, read my email, put the kids to bed, repeat. I should've been at work crushing my career but instead I put myself on the back burner. On the outside it looks like I'm "serving my wife" but I …
/r/askMRP14/11/23 04:21 PM
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6ft6 270 15% bf Unless you look like this you are completely full of shit brother.
/r/askMRP13/11/23 10:35 PM
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Got it from the library today. Also going through NMMNG a second time
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/23 10:21 PM
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I read that one too and am more ambivalent about it. I don't have an empty life where sex is the only thing that matters. I have an overfull life with almost no time for sex. If I don't prioritize it, it literally does not happen at all. I used to get around this with pornography, which is just one way of deprioritizing your own sex life. Once I removed that, I ran into my wife's disinterest. It doesn't matter if I can give her mindblowing orgasms every time, she treats it like it's a chore.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/23 01:25 PM
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100% this yes. I read that a month ago and was convicted. I think I also just want lots of sex though. In the diagnostic scenario, I would 100% take her offer, but I wouldn't enjoy it as much as I should. We've actually had sex like that fairly often and I know I let it be more mediocre than I should because of the "good lover" validation mostly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 06:02 PM
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There is simply no need to claim that you’re 180lbs at 6’2” and “at your genetic limit”. I feel attacked. For real, I used to be 200@6'2" but too fat. I dieted down to 169 and I thought I looked great. But over time I came to appreciate that having chiseled abs is not an excuse for having no mass. A 6'2" white guy like me needs a lot more mass to not look like a qtip. I'm 186 right now and should be 195-200 by end of February. I will be maintaining in March and cutting back down in April-May. Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 05:53 PM
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"lay like tile?"
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 04:30 PM
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I haven't read much of the Dalrock blog but I'll give it a look over. Thanks. My thought on this is that Evangelicals take the Word as truth as best as it can be understand and then try to live accordingly. The problem is that the way this gets deceminated down is many times the exact opposite to how we are naturally created. So begins a constant battle between what they call 'spirit and flesh'. All men's groups I went to were whine fests. "I'm just struggling with..." Well, I believe in the bat…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 01:13 PM
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The cool thing is you can simultaneously be some combination all of these and none of these at the same time. Being an evangelical Christian (only for the last 6 years or so) we get taught a lot that faith is supposed to be the center of our identity. In a hub-and-spoke model, faith the hub, everything else is a spoke. We get told that the truest expression of our faith is to live like Jesus. The problem with this is that none of us are itinerant preachers living in ancient Palestine. We get mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 09:34 PM
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But you haven't read WISNIFG or NMMNG because you're reading that other crap. Did you look at the READ section in my post? lol
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 07:23 PM
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Point taken but also there are 5 "to do this week" so don't tell me there are no action steps. If my action steps suck feel invited to tell me how.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 03:06 PM
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Yeah, I would say you pretty much have me pegged. My closest guy friends are all in the church, and at best they are the same way. My own father is a mess and no brothers. No role models. The "Married Sex" book (which I just finished) is blue pilled. I'm not stupid, I know how to read books skeptically, integrate what is helpful, and critique what is unhelpful to refine my own understanding. On this book I am working through the tension between RP attitudes on sex vs. the mainstream evangelical …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 02:47 PM
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I literally have actions to take listed at the end of each section and none of them mention my wife. Whose post did you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 01:18 AM
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OYS #2 Background: 35yo, married, 3 young kids. RP absolute beginner Got banned 2 weeks ago for whining about morality of RP. Thought about this a lot. Read somewhere "Do not put project your Code of Honor onto reality." Been faced with a lot of reality in the last 2 weeks. Living a strict interpretation of my moral code isn't getting me the life I want. The issue is not "RP is immoral," the issue is "I want an excuse for sucking." Mission: Self discovery Why I am here: To be accountable to myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 08:14 PM
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You have accepted Satan into your heart. There is no hope for you but repentance and worship of Jesus.
/r/RPChristians26/10/23 06:02 PM
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I wonder if it is really the true religion that why are Christians failing so badly at upholding their morality? Why did Peter try to do Satan's bidding in Mark 8:33 / Matthew 16:22? Why did he deny Jesus in Matthew 26:72 / Luke 22:61 / Mark 14:72? And why would Jesus build his church upon someone who fails so badly? Also Islam has belief and trust in Jesus as a Messiah and as a prophet of god just not son of god or god himself. Islam denies Jesus' deity, His sonship to YHWH, His death on the cr…
/r/RPChristians26/10/23 05:24 PM
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Christianity isn't about faith in other Christians. It's about faith in Jesus. If you trust in Him you are saved.
/r/RPChristians26/10/23 04:20 PM
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OK, so should I grab my wife's butt or not? lol forgive me for being dense
/r/RPChristians26/10/23 03:08 PM
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Lol not sure why you're angry and I missed the part where I made excuses for anything. But it turns out religious people actually are different from nonreligious people, in case you didn't know.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 01:23 AM
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Literally just gave you a concrete example in Matthew 5:28. "Two in the Kitty" rule would be doing exactly what this verse forbids. If you don't understand then study the Bible.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 11:56 PM
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I'm a Complimentarian. I think women were created to help Man become fully Man [Genesis 2:18]. Everything in my personal theology agrees with the fact there is a M-F sexual dynamic. I think that we should understand and even exploit that dynamic insofar as it benefits the married M+F in their mission to glorify God. Yes, I am one of those weirdos who believes in fucking for the glory of God. Yes, even anal and BDSM. I believe in the Bible but not puritanism. My wife is into the same stuff (AAA++…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 09:43 PM
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I monitored everything I ate for the past week and I am consistently getting 160-180g protein a day but averaging around 2500 calories a day and I likely need to be eating more to keep gaining weight. I'm your height and weight and I maintain at about 3,200. Get those numbers up. DL 214... Bench 122 My wife deadlifts more than that for reps and she doesn't even train. WTF have you been doing since May? You have no business switching off of an LP. You do not need "more volume." You need to try tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 08:09 PM
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OYS #1 Background 35yo, married, 3 young kids. RP absolute beginner. Mission Put my false self to death, so I can discover the Real Me Reading NMMNG, MMSLP, MRP Sidebar Why I am here I want to fuck my wife more often but can't deal with rejection. She wants 100% confidence but I haven't got it. She fantasizes that I would sexually dominate her but I don't know how. I want to unlearn validation seeking behavior. Physical Training 6'2" / 183 lbs / 12% BF Goals here: be healthy and look sexy as hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 04:25 PM
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