My stats, reading, etc, see: This week's OYS for that context

Up front: I am a retard, autist, and MRP beginner. I have read the Shit Test Encyclopedia three times. I have read and re-read the fitness test chapter in MMSLP. I either still don't understand, or I am just too autistic to recognize the tests, or my wife isn't testing me at all. I'm not sure which.

Scenario: It's date night. I took her out and we had a good time but we haven't been flirtatious. I take her home and relieve the babysitter. My wife pours herself a glass of wine and sits down in the kitchen. My wife is usually anxious. Alcohol shuts off her anxiety and often makes her super horny. We usually fuck on date night. I take the wine as signal that she wants to be game to fuck but isn't feeling it yet.

I pour myself a glass too and sit down. My wife starts making casual chit chat. I try to appear interested at first, but she's talking about logistics for tomorrow, next weekend, etc. Boring. I want to tell her how I want to fuck her but she keeps talking. I end up just staring into her eyes to convey that I'm not interested in chit chat.

She says: "What are you looking at me like that for? I feel like you're just waiting for my switch to flip." I say "Is it working?" She says "No. You gotta get me warmed up first." I resisted the urge to DEER and say nothing. She looks away, clearly uncomfortable, and changes the subject back to logistics.

We did end up fucking that night, but it was a 4/10 at best.

I felt like it was a test because she called attention to my sexuality and essentially told me I'm unattractive. I figured passing meant owning my sexuality and not giving a fuck. I owned it but I didn't have DNGAF.

Was this a fitness test? If so, what kind? Did I pass? What would you have done?