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I’ve been to a few other countries but I like it here most.Money is no longer there to use either.Thank for the suggestion.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 11:16 AM
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35 yrs married with a retirement,a little job,a nice house and money in the bank.Wife decided to divorce for reasons that are still not clear and it’s been a shit show every since.I keep looking forward to the better times every talks about.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:17 PM
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I got 2 of the 3 back
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 10:12 AM
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Not a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 07:49 PM
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“I always get to where I'm going by walking away from where I've been.” Winnie the Pooh
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:06 AM
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I was 35 years in and feel the same way.Congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 12:20 PM
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She did that pretty quickly.She considered it patriarchal so she went back to her maiden name.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 09:09 AM
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59 when divorced,a few weeks shy of what would have been 35 years.she always threatened divorce so she would automatically when the argument because I would back down(arguing was always about the kids)The last time she threatened me I said OK just do,and she did.I lost more than ever could have imagined.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 04:49 PM
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If you are a Christian,No less faithful is a good one.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 07:52 AM
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Once it’s said it’s already in the works.Take a breath,stand back and get a game plan.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 06:34 PM
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I agree with all but the last sentence.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 06:20 PM
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But not the norm.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 06:17 PM
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Start by picking a nice place to walk,then walk it faster than normal.Make it a ritual every day.Then do one push up and one sit up.Then plank for 30 seconds.Believe me your sence of accomplishment will grow and you will want more.Its like a drug.Your local Planet fitness is 10 dollars a month.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:56 PM
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It might take some time to not see women in a bad light.At this point they are all lumped in as one.Not interested.Could that change?Yes.Will that change?I don’t know.If I ever get involved again it won’t include marriage but the rest is on the table.I will never marry again that’s for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:50 PM
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I never thought about why guys are in such a hurry till you said that.In my opinion guys in general are fixers,We see a problem and fix it.Then we move on to the next pressing thing.We are not used to having to dwell on something this hard for this long.It messes with our heads.Just my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:42 PM
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Every one says hit the gym,but don’t say why.As a guy it’s an outlet.Anger and resentment can be pushed out in hard activities.Do the the gym not for a better fitness but for a mental fitness.It Fn works my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:01 AM
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I felt the same way because for years it was always about her and that part is now torn away.Its like loosing a part of your being.This goes away in time and you become your own identity.People will come to you and it will feel strange at first,Then real friends and relationships will emerge.Hang in there,good time are on the way.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:35 AM
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Great advice.Congrats on finding a new partner,that sounds exciting.For myself after 35 yrs married I’m not looking for a new relationship because the consequences where devastating in EVERY way.The gym has been a life saver for me,I feel good about myself and confident.Hang in there fellas,and put this shit behind you.Become the you that was taken away.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:08 AM
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You learn who your friends are really fast and those who care about you.Hold tight to those people,they are a life saver.Remember the past hobbies in your life and pick them up.Bucket list items brought me back,nothing to lose (already lost it all) and everything to gain.Its a well needed confidence booster.You might have to give up on your marriage but NEVER give up on yourself.Goals and dreams my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:31 AM
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It’s gonna take a lot for me,not because of the divorce because I’m good with that.The alienation she has done eats me everyday.Its taking some time and I got 2 of the 3 kids back,but the 3rd one controls the grand kids and that’s rough.That is unforgivable for me at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:19 PM
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It’s a tough transition for sure.Once you start working out and get attention from others who notice your confidence will rise and you will strive to become the man that’s actually in you.Im not there yet after 35 years,then divorce but I know it’s coming and I am so looking forward to it.Stay strong and health,things will change.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 06:33 PM
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Divorced after retirement and no longer get enough to live on so back to work I will go.I will survive and thrive no matter what it takes.You will do the same without someone holding you back.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 08:34 PM
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I have it,great read.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:23 AM
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What makes my divorce so hard I’d that I don’t know what I did wrong.The shit she brought up is BullShit.It was never an issue till now. Turned the kids against me(got 2 of the 3 back with just a conversation).1/2 retirement and investments gone and now have to work to survive. After bucket list road trip I will work and the gym is a must.Doing well but rage still plaques me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:10 AM
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Read No less faithful.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 01:09 AM
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32 years in and can pick the day everything changed.Divorce finalized 1 week short of 35 years.The change was crazy and still makes no sence to me.I would never marry someone like the person she became so I guess it’s better this way.Although I lost everything I worked so hard for this is not the end but a new beginning and I look forward to it now that I’m in a better head space.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 09:02 AM
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My understanding is that there is negotiating.Law is law and nothing else is considered.Most times men loose there ass because they will be ok in the long run because they don’t give up easily in rebuilding a life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 09:11 AM
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Bad Omens Limits
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 07:21 AM
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I will be,but wanted to prepare myself mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 05:04 PM
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I have found better times are ahead.So much to sort out and non of it will make sense to me.Coming up soon I will only focus on myself and get my head wrapped around future success.Im not sure how that will look or how it’s even possible but I’m NOT letting someone have the freedom to destroy my life.The best revenge is success and I will get there.Family,the few loyal friends I have left,music and my motorcycle are my fall backs. DONT GIVE UP.Thats what the enemy wants.DONT give them the satisf…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 06:44 PM
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I will be there for a few weeks actually.I love riding out there.I just don’t have a date yet.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 05:50 PM
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I am really hesitant about therapy at this point.I have done it a few times over the years it really didn’t seem to help.I don’t want to relive the past in my head,I already can see the things I COULD have done differently.I think I need a life coach that can encourage and point me in the next right direction.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 04:33 PM
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Family and friends have been nothing short of amazing.I forgot just how caring people can be.Its like a whole new world has opened up to me. The ride is to finally come to terms with it all and it is a bucket list item.I went skydiving for the first time recently.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:35 PM
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Divorce was finalized a few days shy of 35 years married
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:29 PM
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I will build a better life that’s for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:27 PM
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3 months into divorce and I don’t want a therapist.I know about the past and I see my mistakes.I would not change anything if I could.I am looking for a good life coach to move forward not dwelling on the past.I can’t change it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 03:25 PM
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Point taken.This person was a mutual friend of ours from childhood.I thought I was being above reproach when I asked if it was ok in advance.With that said,common sense should have kicked in and I should have not done it.My intentions were pure and would never cheat in any way.I have spent my entire construction career in diversity training and would never put myself in a questionable situation,but this SAFE on bit me in the ass for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 03:05 PM
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Motorcycle riding.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 02:46 PM
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I told myself I would never do another holiday alone so today I will attempt to make my first traditional thanksgiving day dinner with my son.I am very thankful for that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 08:45 AM
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It’s a living breathing reality for me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 02:01 AM
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Thank you for the insight.Never any abuse,emotional or physical on my part.My biggest thing was letting her call the shots with the kids even when I didn’t agree.I thought she would see the wisdom in the end.(nope)I guess I always felt she would end things if she didn’t get her way and I guess that was true.Neglectful?no way.I guess people just grow differently.I will never forgive or forget this devastating change.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 02:00 AM
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We had that talk,and if it was the same situation in reverse and I knew and trusted the guy,,,,no problem.Above all else I would have trusted my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 01:45 AM
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Great advice,thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 01:43 AM
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Sorry for the lack of info.This was my first post ever.Things were not well but divorce wasn’t on the table.I think she just needed a reason to be the bad person when she filed.I would never show her or anyone else this post and don’t care about an upvote.I just want to see if I’m seeing this wrong from an outside perspective.Everything I’ve worked for is now gone and I want to get opinions to see if I actually did this to myself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 08:16 PM
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Thank you,And I have.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:51 PM
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