| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 360 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️ | CULTURAL MISOGYNY | w1tchyw0man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:07 AM |
| 223 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive. | MALE DEPRAVITY | w1tchyw0man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 11:22 PM |
| 176 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life. | TRIGGER WARNING | w1tchyw0man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 09:14 AM |
| 121 | Met my boyfriend's female friend yesterday and she treated me like shit to my face. Am I overreacting? | w1tchyw0man | /r/askFDS | 21/02/22 12:51 AM | |
| 113 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken. | w1tchyw0man | /r/askFDS | 10/01/22 11:19 AM | |
| 44 | Dating someone with a deceased ex. | w1tchyw0man | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:19 PM | |
| 1 | Woman buys her bf a ps5, he screams at her for eating the icecream?! | MALE DEPRAVITY | w1tchyw0man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:51 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 16 | I want all the “FDS SHOULD STAY ON REDDIT” users to see exactly what they’re supporting. EXTREMELY NOT SAFE FOR LIFE.Jesus fucking Christ. Like I don't even have the words..... Is this shit that should be checked by the police? I don't understand. How are the women okay? Are they even Alive? What the fuck is going on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/22 07:00 AM |
| 5 | I want all the “FDS SHOULD STAY ON REDDIT” users to see exactly what they’re supporting. EXTREMELY NOT SAFE FOR LIFE.What is it? I'm too scared to click on it 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/22 06:08 AM |
| 26 | I’m the girl who exposed him to his long term girlfriend. I believe he has more victims.Mate. You sound like a proper pick me. You're trashing everyone that's pointing this out and I gotta ask why are you even bothering with this sub in the first place? You're obsessed with this guy. You didn't have respect for the girlfriend, and now you aren't even respecting yourself. You literally kept a cheater because you thought you were more special than the girlfriend? Like no. No no no no noooooo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:20 AM |
| 37 | I’m the girl who exposed him to his long term girlfriend. I believe he has more victims.OP I stopped having sympathy for you when you took a known cheater (literally you found out he cheated on his ex with you!) back??? Like just stop with the circus. You brought it on yourself for going back to this clown. He showed you his true colours at the start. Are you all that surprised he treated you like shit? Why did you think you were more special than his ex gf? That's peak pick me behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:50 PM |
| 7 | What the fuck is w one with my friendYour friend and this guy are LV as f*CK... next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:04 PM |
| 84 | Beware of the solo male traveller to certain regions of the world.It's actually a good indication that he's probably a pedophile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 05:38 AM |
| 38 | Met my boyfriend's female friend yesterday and she treated me like shit to my face. Am I overreacting?Thank you sis ! I have taken the day off work to be sad and be in my feelings. I'm saving your comment to sit with it and really try and understand what's happening here. I really appreciate your support | /r/askFDS | 21/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 74 | Met my boyfriend's female friend yesterday and she treated me like shit to my face. Am I overreacting?Thank you. It was so weird. Don't worry I am so angry at him too and I think he has a huge part of blame as well. I don't know why but being treated by another woman like that because of a MAN hurts a lot | /r/askFDS | 21/02/22 02:04 AM |
| 36 | Met my boyfriend's female friend yesterday and she treated me like shit to my face. Am I overreacting?He is. But I'm so angry at him too. | /r/askFDS | 21/02/22 02:03 AM |
| 78 | Met my boyfriend's female friend yesterday and she treated me like shit to my face. Am I overreacting?PS. she is also around 20 years older than I am and is nearing her 50s. She is in the same field as me. It's a very niche field and everyone knows each other and she's in a position of power so I'm also just devastated and scared that this will affect my career. After seeing how awkward the conversation between us was and how upset I am my boyfriend is going to cut her off. I don't know why I am so upset though. Something about this cut me like a knife. I think it's because I spent a year thinki… | /r/askFDS | 21/02/22 12:58 AM |
| 14 | Traits of a man with BDE (big dick energy)Sorry, am I missing something? Nothing about this guy says he's HV. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:48 PM |
| 7 | Zero Effort Valentine’s DayThis is going to cop flack but I'm in a country where Valentine's Day is considered a bit trashy here, and as such I personally don't celebrate it. But my boyfriend buys me flowers and gifts out of the blue. The weekend before Valentine's Day we had a beautiful weekend away out of town. He didn't do that because it was Valentine's Day weekend. But he did it because he is wanted to spoil me regardless of the day. Does your boyfriend do these things outside of V day? Also if you celebrate V day an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:40 PM |
| 9 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsAnd the critics can disagree with me sure. The academy has lost credibility over the years so me not matching their opinion doesn't really mean anything to me. The message of the film is great sure, but I didn't find it amazing at all. Just like the hype with marriage story - crap movie. A better movie with a similar plot line/message was Revolutionary Road. The difference in movie quality is subjective and that's the point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 6 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsPromising young woman was good but tbh it wasn't great?? I think it's a weak movie to shit test with but I also can't come up with any other alternatives at the top of my head though.... But again that's just my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:18 AM |
| 8 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsOk, I literally hate all of these movies because they did nothing to the original films (I loved the original star wars films) and I hate remakes. Always have, always will. For me personally it has nothing to do with the female leads. I also generally hate hollywood blockbusters. Especially the avengers and Marvel movies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:17 AM |
| 117 | How'd You Find FDS?Thank you! I know Reddit gets a bad rap because it's like the trashy part of the internet lol. But it has changed my life so that's something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:21 PM |
| 517 | How'd You Find FDS?One of the women here reached out to me after a post I wrote in another subreddit and basically saved me from an abusive relationship. That's how. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:13 AM |
| 7 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive.🤦🏼♀️smh nice reach. These "dumb boomer women" are not dumb because they are boomers. Lol. They are labelled as "dumb" because they are pickme trash enabling abuse of other women. I'm amazed that out of the entire post the thing you seem most cut up by is that? Yo, I'll be a boomer soon in my life too. I just hope I'm not a dumb abuse enabling boomer though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:13 AM |
| 19 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive.Yeah nah sis. I don't see anyone here putting women down because of their age. They are putting these women down because they are ENABLING THE ABUSE the daughet. Plain and simple. ENABLERS. And enablers absolutely should be called out. I'm (just like most people here) are revolted that the mother's here haven't told her to leave an abuser. Like.... He needs to watch porn while she gives him a BJ???????? It's time we stop excusing this kind of fucking abusive bullshit and empower women for a bett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:30 AM |
| 4 | "The Tinder Swindler" on Netflix is a parade of red flags 🚩🚩🚩Yes this is so true. Happens often here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:02 PM |
| 141 | Married Man Messaged me on Facebook - what should I do?Lol I'm gonna sound like a bitch but personally I'd bait him and get him caught saying something inappropriate. Then I'd screenshot and tell his wife 🤗🤪 | /r/askFDS | 10/02/22 06:44 AM |
| 43 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️This was on a holistic women's only FB group. It's hellfire everywhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:28 AM |
| 57 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️All the comments on this Women Only FB group are recommending other porn sites and praising the mother for being interested in educating her son. Turns out she's just looking for other "female friendly" porn sites. FFS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:18 AM |
| 6 | Love it when a friend reminds me how much OLD sucks. I appreciate that he showed himself so quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:21 AM |
| 7 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Happy birthday and congratulations for getting rid of trash 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:43 AM |
| 31 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?A girl on this sub commented on a post I made in another. She saved me from an abusive relationship so yes, it is worth it. I'm frankly grossed out at your assumption that pickmes aren't worth the trouble or that they need a shoulder to cry on pretty dehumanising. You're not better than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:23 PM |
| 11 | Casual Sex ConfusionI was like you until I realised the best sex I ever had was with the men I loved. Two men in my life fit this criteria as opposed to MANY MANY others who having sex with was good, exciting at times but more often underwhelming. I didn't realise what kind of sex I was able to have until I became more selective with my sexual partners. It improved sex. Orgasms were juicer and more intense thereafter. I don't mean to come across the wrong way when I say this but reading your post made me think that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 09:10 AM |
| 29 | Looking for reassurance that I didn't jump the gun too quickly in blocking.Girl you did the right thing for sure and don't waste a minute more feeling upset that you had boundaries. Men like this, and men who expect women to just put their bodies out like that, don't deserve a second of our time. Congratulations on the blocking babe ✨ | /r/askFDS | 17/01/22 01:24 AM |
| 9 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken.Thank you. I think this reply really echoes how I'm feeling. Because I don't actually give a fucking shit about how sad he was, in my mind there is never ever an excuse for doing what he did. And yes he has crushed me and whatever person I thought he was doesn't matter because he was capable of using someone (literally buying them) for his own sexual gratification. It makes me sick. | /r/askFDS | 13/01/22 03:24 PM |
| 41 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken.Thank you. That's a really good perspective for me to reflect on while I make my decision | /r/askFDS | 10/01/22 08:18 PM |
| 20 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken.Thanks for this. It's given me something to think about | /r/askFDS | 10/01/22 08:18 PM |
| 12 | Found out boyfriend used a prostitute 13 years ago. Heartbroken.Thanks hun ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 10/01/22 08:18 PM |
| 9 | What to do?This is 100% the right answer to OPs questions. There is so much to unpack that a bunch of strangers on the internet cannot answer for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 04:08 PM |
| 10 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequences100% this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:52 AM |
| 11 | Men who watch porn are losers.Omg lmao I busted out laughing at this 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Hey, thanks so much for this explanation. It means a lot coming from someone who has also experienced this. You aren't rambling.... these are all very valid points to read about. I will keep my eyes peeled. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 09:39 PM |
| 0 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Hmm why though? How is anyone going to predict a cardiac arrest on the woman prior to breaking up? | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 09:36 PM |
| 4 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.I understand that on this subreddit it's considered a red flag but I find it cringe worthy to be asked to be someone's girlfriend. I'm either their girlfriend or I'm not. I don't want nor need to be asked it but that's just me | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Gosh sorry I just properly re- read the bit about your trauma about something someone did to you....... I'm so so sorry that's happened | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:57 PM |
| -3 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.He assumed lol but I liked that tbh | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:55 PM |
| 5 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Sorry I should clarify - he hasn't had anything serious that went past 1 year since. They were together for 8 years. We have been together for about 3 months but knew each other briefly a few years back due to work. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:50 PM |
| 6 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Yeah, these thoughts went through my head too but I wondered whether I wasn't being sympathetic enough to his situation. It's a really heavy story. I'm especially wary about that last part you mention - about the idealization of her that I will never live up to. I mean how can you complete with someone who's dead you know? He has definitely been to and sees a therapist btw. That I know | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:48 PM |
| 16 | Dating someone with a deceased ex.Thanks for this. He definitely spent the decade dedicating his life to his work thereafter, and as a result this made him very successful in his job. I suppose it is too early to tell. He is HV in many ways. He called me his girlfriend (early!) to friends and that kind of thing. | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 01:31 PM |
| 4 | How to support friends while being honestWhat's happening with their relationship now? Is she struggling? | /r/askFDS | 16/03/21 12:40 AM |
| 31 | My man is being weird as hell around me because he's 'comfortable' with me, I don't know what to do -This is classic narc behaviour. I know because my ex is one. Cut this off before it escalates to something even worse. He just doesn't respect you | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 12:44 PM |
| 45 | Broke up with someone because of how my standards got high due to FDSHe sounds violent as hell. You probably saved your life by blocking him!!! Good job 👌🏾 | /r/askFDS | 13/03/21 01:02 AM |
| 12 | Need pep talk pleaseI know how it feels. In my case I was abused by him, and was told that I taught him how not to treat someone and that now he knows how to treat the next one better. He cheated with the new one, and moved in with her 4 weeks after our break up. Hurts like hell | /r/askFDS | 05/02/21 02:22 AM |
| 3 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedHorrifying. She's dealing with a narcissist or potentially someone with full blown NPD. He will control her entire life. She needs to be saved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:18 AM |
| 76 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedHe's a narcisisst. My ex was the same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:17 AM |
| 62 | Not sure if this was posted before, but I feel most of us can emphatize...Damn I missed the comment 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 01:50 AM |
| 17 | The last thing he did. Rest his soul.Busting out laughing 😂😂😂 you are a Boss Bitch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:35 AM |
| 9 | Why do men make idols of these emotionless, pseudo-deep characters that are almost always narcissistic and disrespectful towards women?Can someone explain Donnie Darko? Narc ex loved that movie lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:29 PM |
| 20 | Why do men refuse to break up with you when they are not into you?Gosh I needed to read this. Mine "discarded" me for someone he felt was better and someone he wanted to do better for. Made me feel ill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 05:03 AM |
| 23 | You shouldn't whatsoever.Omg the eating dessert one triggers me. Once on date night my LVM ex called me Guzzle Guts when I ate the desert we ordered. I weighed 45kgs btw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:36 AM |
| 22 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Seriously this 100%. Blunt but the truth that so many need to hear. I learnt this lesson the hard way after 4 years and 14months of abuse but we just need to be accountable too. Get the fuck out when it's not working | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:37 AM |
| 18 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Yes!! This happened to me and lesson learnt. 4 years, a broken off half engagement (?) And when I mentioned I didn't want to stay a girlfriend forever he cheated and ran off to live with a co-worker 🤷🏾♀️ ya just can't make this shit up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 5 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.Nah screw that girl. I'm with you. I'd want to pleasure my partner just as much as I'd expect them to pleasure me too. It's fucked up bro's who think the way your ex thinks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:18 AM |
| 21 | Approved commenter. How would you feel/react if a guy friend that you have shown no interest in, asked for a foot massage.Girl, you need to re read this entire paragraph that you wrote. Is this someone safe you really want to keep in your life? It's a hell no from me | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 01:06 AM |
| 96 | Approved commenter. How would you feel/react if a guy friend that you have shown no interest in, asked for a foot massage.Block this guy. He is not respecting your boundaries. This is super creepy actually | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 12:20 AM |
| 10 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.So gross! Your friend needs to leave! My ex actually started off gifting me heaps of things. Expensive date nights, lots of presents for birthdays and Christmas. Then he changed after 2 or 3 years of seemingly HV behaviour. Ended up being a sociopath. I can see him showering the new girl the same way he did to me. I just wonder if she'll one day see the version of him that I got. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 02:52 AM |
| 2 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thanks! I love Dr Ramani. Her videos have been helping me cope the last few months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:55 PM |
| 21 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.He was a narcissist and abused me during the last 13 months of our 4 year relationship. He ended up cheating on me and moving in with the new girl 6 weeks after leaving. Check my post history. I even posted on FDS about the experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:23 PM |
| 61 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.He earned $250k+. Told me he doesn't believe in birthdays. Guess who's buying the new gf everything for her birthday? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:01 PM |
| 60 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.A croissant and a dog walk in the park on my birthday where I cried. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.It really does! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:01 AM |
| 1 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you! Yes, we do make it here after people suggest it. It was an eye opener, and it wasn't till I became a member of this sub that I truly realised I was worth it. I lurked for a while before I was comfortable enough to engage in any discourse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:00 AM |
| 1 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.This was so comforting to read. I love Tori Amos too. Thank you so much 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:58 AM |
| 3 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you so much 💕 I really like "Fearless" too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 3 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Ohhhh so great. I love love LOtR! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:54 AM |
| 3 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Sorry to hear that happened to you too. I think those of us who were raised by narc parents, are more susceptible to being in relationships with narcs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:53 AM |
| 1 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you! 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:52 AM |
| 3 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you! That's awesome, I've learnt a new word today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:51 AM |
| 2 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you very much 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:51 AM |
| 3 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you so much! I didn't leave so I still feel a lot of shame around that. He actually cheated and left but I am grateful that I'm finally out of that vicious cycle! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 10:26 PM |
| 11 | I want to thank you ladies from the bottom of my heart. You guys potentially saved my life.Thank you SO much. 💛 It really does take a survivor of narcisstic abuse to know just how deep the pit of hell goes and how hard it is to leave. In the end I didn't leave, he left me for someone - which I regret not having the strength to leave. But I am thankful for him fucking off anyway. I still wake up having panic attacks, and suffer anxiety throughout the day. I am really nervous ALL the time. My self worth has really taken a huge blow after all that I endured. I think what upsets me is tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 6 | I made a post in one of my facebooks groups asking for advice, and my boyfriend saw it and blew up and said that he's done. I don't know what to do.He's narcisstic and manipulative. This is dangerous behaviour. Please leave. Find your self respect and don't look back | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 18 | Another heartbreaking sub- Waiting_to_wedI was there and this was me at one point. Having been discarded I can see how wrong I was to keep hoping bed change but most of these women were being emotionally abused and gaslit into feeling they weren't enough. I wouldn't judge them for the insidious abuse they go through over time because THAT is how they believe they have no other option. Happened to me. After a ring and 4 years of abuse later I got discarded by my narcisstic ex and he's moved in with someone he cheated on me with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 33 | How long should it take for him to ask you out again?Girl stoppppp hanging out.. He should've asked 2 dates ago | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 03:38 PM |
| 3 | One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread belowLol he loved to spend money on himself when it was something he liked. Just never on anything I liked because he doesn't like investing in things he doesn't like.... So fucked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:36 AM |
| 7 | One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread belowI have a nickel allergy so can't wear anything that is plated. Even silver irritates my skin. My NV ex thought I was bullshitting until I paid for a $500 allergy skin test while I was a poor uni student (he had a high full time job at the time), which proved my nickel and cobalt allergy and my dermatologist told me I was safe with pure gold jewellery. So I've been wearing 14k and upwards since. It's been a game changer for me. Better investment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:13 PM |
| 5 | One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread belowYes sister I am right there with you!! Neglected myself, didn't buy nice things for myself in the hope that he'd know me well enough to spoil me. Nahhhh he was a cheapass loser (despite being on a 250k+ salary). You're doing great!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:09 PM |
| 90 | Found violent and incestuous porn on partners phone xmas eve..Having seen your posts on other relationship centered subs I am seriously concerned for you even more so because of the advice you're getting from frankly, fucked up strangers who I can see are excusing this behaviour. Your partner is not fit or safe to be around you or your children. He has actively hidden this from you for how long exactly?? Like just no. Don't even think about it. Leave immediately. | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 10:15 AM |
| 5 | Julian Casablancas, left his wife of 15 years for a 21 yr old roadie.Honestly, reading this shit makes me glad my LVM ex left me. Ya truly did me a favour babe, thank you 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:55 AM |
| 13 | Can’t even imagine an HVM even in my fantasies.I am the same, post 3 months No contact after I got discarded after a 4 year relationship. I realise now I was abused for the last year. It's scary. I don't know how they just move on from woman to woman. Meanwhile I am left feeling so used, abused and with a complete inability to trust anyone ever again. | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 09:43 AM |
| 17 | How do I get mad at him?I'm gonna be harsh, but it's pretty self explanatory. Block, delete, move on with your life! | /r/askFDS | 24/12/20 10:25 PM |
| 2 | When he turns LVM after a yearIt's a pretty long and damning story and I'm too emotionally exhausted to write it all out again. I suffer from PTSD and severe swings of wanting the person back too because I was hooked and abused for as long as I was. If you want you can check out my post history but there was one from a few months back which I wrote in r/askwomen | /r/askFDS | 23/12/20 10:32 PM |
| 60 | When he turns LVM after a yearMine turned into a narcissistic sociopath after 3 years. 3 whole goddamn years. The fourth year shook me to the core because I simply did not see it coming. That or I was gaslit. But I know at the very least he was HV for 2 straight years at least. It's terrifying. | /r/askFDS | 23/12/20 01:23 AM |
| 41 | Just a Lil tipHonestly this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 01:35 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: don’t beg!Honey, me too. I am SO embarrassed with myself for begging. But a post I made on another sub led me here and I am so grateful for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:06 PM |
| 10 | Is stinginess related to job?My ex earnt $250k+. Did not even buy me a birthday present and was cheap as shit with everything. Wouldn't even like the heater on da fuq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 11:31 AM |
| 8 | I replied to a comment and got a nasty PM. The poster didn't want to be her insecure husband's unpaid therapist. The commentor disagreed. Apparently I deserve to be mistreated for not...allowing myself to be mistreated? My reply is probably harsher than I meant, but I have no regrets. 😂Damn this hits home hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:33 AM |
| 39 | Would you consider this a red flag?Drop him | /r/askFDS | 01/12/20 12:50 AM |
| 86 | Your egg is chasing a sperm KM 🤡🤡Suck his titties tho 😭😭😭😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 10:05 AM |
| 48 | Forever GirlfriendHmm this might sound harsh but I'm a little confused by this. You start off saying you don't know how you feel about marriage, but talk about how you kind of resent him for not popping the question already. It sounds like deep down you do want marriage but may feel ashamed to admit this to him. If this is the case think about why this is? There's no shame in changing how you felt previously but you really need to let him know clearly what you expect moving forward with the relationship. Has he m… | /r/askFDS | 27/11/20 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.Thank you 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:36 AM |
| 21 | How do you ladies handle flashback of happy memories?Hmm I'm going to be devils advocate here and say I don't agree. I'm in the same boat as her. I was abused by my ex though so not sure if that just makes it harder to not think about them. But I took up pottery, swimming, gymming every single day. Working overtime. Seeing friends more. Reading more. And it just hasn't really changed how much I think of him. Good and bad... | /r/askFDS | 26/11/20 07:40 AM |
| 64 | Examples of disrespectMy ex did three of these - Keeping in contact with some exes who he didn't tell me he was still speaking to. - not telling one of them he wasn't single. His excuse was that he wanted to see her in person before he told her. - discussed relationship details with female friends (friends who had feeling for him) And after all this, he would say I was jealous and insecure. No fuckwad, you're just disrespectful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 13 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.Yep. No justice. I can't even think about dating again, let alone touching another person. The trauma and the sadness is beyond unbearable. To think that he'd be spoiling another person now, when he couldn't even do anything nice for my birthday this year just hurts so damn much. Years like this make me think God doesn't exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:54 AM |
| 16 | Dating around after a breakup is not a substitute for therapy.Thanks, I really needed this. It's been 2 months since my ex stole photos off my phone for dating apps which happened as he broke up with me. I was gaslit non stop for one year straight. A failed non engagement, the works. I find myself demanding and wanting justice, because he essentially got away with abusing me whilst every female in his life puts him on a pedestal. I'm in therapy, have spent thousands on it already. I'm going to the gym every day. I still feel incredibly horrible and alone a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:35 AM |
| 6 | NVM stands up forever girlfriend at their wedding and is elated when she says she will never bring up marriage again. Calls her "wife" in public to continue to rub salt into her wounds.Lol what a fucking dickhead. So glad you had the strength to leave that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 126 | NVM stands up forever girlfriend at their wedding and is elated when she says she will never bring up marriage again. Calls her "wife" in public to continue to rub salt into her wounds.I could have written this except I didn't have a child with him. We planned the engagement and everything and when it came to proposing he said he felt forced. A year of compromises later he would discard me and jump on tinder. Fuck that shit to hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:31 AM |
| 53 | I think I found the queen of pickmesHonestly one of my colleagues is like this. She thinks it's sweet and that it's nice that the married dude knows he's in the wrong and is trying to fix himself by doing anal with her?!?! She's 25 and yes they meet time to time. She's pro open relationships etc. just FYI | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:22 AM |
| 6 | The partnership is about working together 🤗 he's making the mess, and I am cleaning it. But seriously, I can't imagine how harmful it is for the young girls to hear such things said by an authority.WTF is she for real? 🤦🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 10:29 AM |
| 102 | Is this behaviour ok?Decline. He was only interested in sex at the start, so you know what he's looking for regardless of if he treats you for dinner. | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 05:26 AM |
| 9 | Extremely toxic relationship- any advice appreciatedOh and you will definitely need to go to therapy. It has helped me deal with the psychological abuse. I would also recommend watching Doctor Ramani videos on narcisstic abuse on YouTube as well. Good luck | /r/askFDS | 02/11/20 06:36 AM |
| 16 | Extremely toxic relationship- any advice appreciatedOk, you're dealing with a narcissist. I was with one for 4 years. The longer it goes on, the more your mental health will deteriorate and you will feel like you're dead inside. I know the fear you're talking about but wish it ended sooner. Make sure you get all your finances in order, trust a family member/or close friend of your plan and look to them to find a safe haven for you. If he's spit on you before I wouldn't put it past him to get violent which is why it is imperative that you DON'T te… | /r/askFDS | 02/11/20 06:34 AM |
| 19 | Confronting BF on Settling DownThis happened to me. My boyfriend actually said he'd propose, changed his mind, said he wanted to wait until sorting out his dream career. I stayed when I should have left. The week after he got accepted, he discarded me. That's 4 years I can never take back. | /r/askFDS | 28/10/20 11:46 AM |
| 4 | Really?! If you injure a woman during sex, she should be more soft spoken around you?! Christ...Yep. These screenshots do nothing and reinforce the scrote mentality. Make it stop please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 3 | I can't read relationship subreddits anymore...Farkkkkk me. This is my ex to a tee, he told me gift giving isn't his love language (dude didn't even buy me flowers or a birthday present for my birthday) and that I have to accept him the way he is or gtfo. Smh 🤦🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Yet another LVM who will be damned if he allows the woman he claims to love to feel special by having a nice wedding, committing to her officially, and making sure that all their friends and family know it.Thanks. Yep that's exactly it. For so long I felt ashamed to want to get married. Ashamed for wanting nice things and wanting to go out and get a birthday present and somehow this guy made me normalise a sub par effort outside of the house just because he cooks and cleans 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:59 AM |
| 12 | Yet another LVM who will be damned if he allows the woman he claims to love to feel special by having a nice wedding, committing to her officially, and making sure that all their friends and family know it.Lol this one hits a nerve because I am currently trying to remove myself from a shit situation that reminds me of this one. I'm of Indian descent so marriage is a huge thing for our culture (I can't even move out of home before marriage - yes patriarchal bullshit that I'm fighting the battle) but the bf of 4 years is white. Whole relationship I told him marriage was important and I probably won't be able to move out with him till marriage. Last year we agreed to get engaged and then last Decembe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:35 PM |
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