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Cheers for that!
/r/seduction12/10/16 04:35 PM
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Incredible post, and love the other articles on your site. Some of the best I've read in this subject. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:21 AM
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So kind of you to say! Thanks very much, mancozbi!
/r/seduction29/07/16 02:52 PM
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Yeah i get that, if you'll notice I put a caveat at the end of the article that I kind of hate giving this advice and that it works. Honestly, I think if you are genuinely really busy and involved with your life, it's not disingenuous to prioritize other things over texting and in doing so randomize your response times. But regardless, I respect it if you're not into it
/r/seduction29/07/16 01:06 AM
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hahahaha. Dude that's genius, can I write about you?
/r/seduction28/07/16 08:13 PM
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Great one! I feel like that has happened so many times to me, minus the actual getting with her part. Good work. How old are you/ was she, if you don't mind my asking? Cyprus is a lot of fun, enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction17/07/16 12:43 AM
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Your username is wonderful. Also, if everyone would just follow these, they could shut the sub down. Good post.
/r/seduction08/07/16 04:01 PM
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My guess would be that you are actually doing just fine, and that the perceived inability is in your head. That said, the best conversational advice I can give you is to be interested in other people. See what you can learn from them and how their minds work. Ask a lot of "how" questions—"How did you get involved with that," "How do you feel about that," etc. r/socialskills gives some good advice, too. Again, though, I wouldn't stress much about this. I think the vast majority of people have sim…
/r/seduction06/07/16 01:13 AM
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One of the best posts I've seen on here. Thanks for taking the time. Out of curiosity, now that you've slept with a bunch of women, do you think it would be easy to settle down if you found the right one? Or do you think you'll keep needing to chase the next new girl? This is something I worry about with myself. Cheers!
/r/seduction30/06/16 04:03 AM
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Hey Woujo, Really inspiring and insightful (albeit kind of terrifying) post. Thanks for that. I've mostly struggled with career type stuff since college, mostly for the reasons you said. What do you wish you had done differently and what did you do right career-wise? Any advice for someone who doesn't feel comfortable in a 9-5 environment? Thanks and all the best.
/r/seduction22/06/16 09:18 PM
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That makes sense. I would definitely try to practice on literally everyone you talk to/ meet. Any interaction can be an opportunity to get better and try new things. It is tough sitting across from one another, I had a similar date recently actually. I think body language/eye contact become even more important, and you should definitely try to create a reason to get close to her. Off the top of my head, you might get up to go to the bar to order a drink, and touch her shoulder, leaning close and…
/r/seduction20/06/16 06:15 PM
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Hey thanks for sharing the video. Definitely agree that sexual tension is hugely important, though I've definitely had first dates without much sexual tension that led to successful 2nd dates and beyond. Curious to hear what you think of this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4o3ke9/techniques_ive_picked_up_for_using_kino_and_body/ I think that's a lot more aligned with building sexual tension. I wrote it with second dates in mind, but the principles definitely apply to first dat…
/r/seduction19/06/16 03:58 PM
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Haha no worries man
/r/seduction15/06/16 07:48 PM
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Thanks glad you liked them! Yep that's exactly what I meant.
/r/seduction15/06/16 06:40 PM
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Thanks man, glad you enjoyed.
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:38 PM
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I spent way too long looking for a video of this but couldn't find something so i'll just try to describe it: Think of it as a gesture when you're speaking, and just barely extending and touching the person. You shouldn't do it a lot, just when you're emphasizing a point or saying something specific to them. For example: "Danielle, you HAVE to order guacamole. If you don't order guacamole what's the point??"
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:38 PM
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Thanks! Appreciate it.
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:08 PM
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My guess would be this is a mistakenly placed comment; otherwise you're really next level!
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:08 PM
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Very kind of you to say! Thanks.
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:07 PM
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Sweet! Glad you found it helpful. Let me know if something goes particularly well. Good luck!
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:07 PM
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I think if that's your goal, you should start with some of the things I listed and then as the date progresses, and if she's reciprocating, increase the frequency/duration/sexuality of the touching. So you might put your arm around her, or hand on her thigh, or lightly rub her back. Also, get really close to her, and make a lot of eye contact. If you're in a loud place, use it as an excuse to whisper in her ear.
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:06 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:03 PM
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My pleasure! Glad you enjoyed it. That is huge, you should absolutely project the tone for the type of relationship you want. Otherwise how could you be upset if it doesn't go anywhere?
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:03 PM
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Woohoo! Glad you found it useful! Good luck.
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:01 PM
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I thought you were being sarcastic at first but I think this would actually work yes
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:01 PM
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That's interesting and good to hear your perspective! Makes sense, thanks for sharing
/r/seduction15/06/16 05:00 PM
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I think this can vary girl to girl and how you met, I've had relationships with girls who don't like kissing on the first date. But yeah, if the date went well, she definitely will be expecting it. If it went poorly, she'll be actively trying to avoid it.
/r/seduction15/06/16 04:59 PM
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That's a good point. Certainly depends on the situation and what your goals are. I kind of like waiting until the end because the building tension can be really fun, but it does add to the pressure.
/r/seduction15/06/16 04:58 PM
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That's awesome, the last bit is definitely a quote to live by
/r/seduction03/06/16 10:41 PM
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That's a good question, and sorry about the injury, that's rough. It sounds like you're doing well with the what you've got right now. In terms of career/academic goals, If you usually have access to a computer and you can type easily, I would really encourage you to start a little online business. You'll definitely learn a ton, you might make some decent money and it's really fun. You can start something for <$100, and there's a huge number of resources out there for it. I've done this with the…
/r/seduction03/06/16 10:39 PM
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Wow, thanks for writing that, that's awesome. I'll definitely give it a shot.
/r/seduction03/06/16 10:28 PM
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Hope so! It's a really powerful system, it's definitely helped me a ton
/r/seduction03/06/16 05:45 AM
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Nice! How did you find you came to know yourself?
/r/seduction03/06/16 05:45 AM
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Thanks! So glad you enjoyed it.
/r/seduction02/06/16 06:37 PM
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Would love it if someone did that and recorded their experiences, it would be super interesting
/r/seduction02/06/16 06:36 PM
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Yep I'd agree. I think for lots of people though, building good habits in peripheral things (exercise, work ethic etc.) helps them actually go out and do things that make them nervous.
/r/seduction02/06/16 06:34 PM
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I've thrown up from smoking (no alcohol or anything else involved), and felt really faint to the point where I collapsed. Really strange, but it's just not something I've enjoyed much
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:58 PM
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That's awesome. I think that is a mindset that a lot of people struggle to attain, but it's a beautiful thing to have that basic level of self-worth
/r/seduction01/06/16 05:57 PM
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Dude YES! You are the MAN!
/r/seduction01/06/16 05:56 PM
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Super interesting. Never done ecstasy (I've had weirdly bad experiences with marijuana so I've never done any drug "harder" than that) but it'd be awesome if drugs like these could be tweaked to lower the potential of negative side effects. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction01/06/16 05:56 PM
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Glad you like it! I am starting to think more and more that confidence is a skill that you can build strategically, and something that everybody should work on
/r/seduction01/06/16 05:55 PM
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That's awesome! Also, my instinctive reaction when I read that you salsa danced was to flinch and think "man, that sounds scary." Probably means I should sign up for salsa classes!
/r/seduction01/06/16 05:53 PM
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Oh nice, yeah if you do it in a non-aggressive way it wouldn't be awkward and very informative. Jealous of dutch girls! They're beautiufl
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:15 AM
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That's funny, I didn't realize that "going Dutch" actually had a basis in reality! Thought it was just a saying. Interesting about your experience with kissing on the firs date. I guess my thoughts on it are like this: If there's really good chemistry and you feel like you want to kiss her, go for it, it'll be good. If it was a good date and you like her but don't feel amazing chemistry just yet, just wait, because it will build the sexual tension and make the second date better. If it was a bad…
/r/seduction29/05/16 08:25 PM
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I think this is a good place to start, if you feel up to asking a girl out. If not, I'd suggest you just start making an effort to talk to more people, without a goal in mind. Just talk just to talk to them. As you feel more comfortable with people, you'll feel more ready to pursue girls in a romantic way. Good luck!
/r/seduction23/05/16 12:37 AM
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Ya know, remarkably enough, not 1 second date! I figure I might have some luck with the next hundred, though
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:47 AM
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Haha shoot hope it went well!
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:47 AM
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I like The Maiden, Murphy's Law and Committee a lot! Though I'm still quite new to the area.
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:44 AM
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Ooh yeah that's a really good point, I should add that in. I think guys in general probably underestimate how nervous things like this can make girls feel (I know I have). Something similar that comes to mind is on a date several years ago, I arrived at the bar before the girl did and ordered a beer. I thought I'd text her and ask her what she'd like to drink. She texted back "Oh no thanks I'm fine." It took me a moment to realize that from her perspective, she had no idea if I was a trustworthy…
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:38 AM
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Glad you enjoyed it! Good luck.
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:33 AM
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Making me blush! Glad you enjoyed it.
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:33 AM
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Thanks! So glad you enjoyed it. I would agree with the kissing bit. Also I think that as I've gotten older and more experienced, oftentimes it makes it more fun for me to wait to kiss a girl, to build up the excitement and do it in an intimate way. This is in stark contrast to life as a college freshman when I would be in a hurry to try to make out with whatever relative stranger I was dancing with, haha. Things change!
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:30 AM
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bump
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:27 AM
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So glad you enjoyed! Thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:17 AM
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Yep very true. The thing is it is so tough to have that mindset when you're first starting out, or when you've never kissed a girl, or you're a virgin and it seems like all your friends are getting laid. I'm going through a bit of a similar learning curve with entrepreneurship/sales at the moment and keep trying to remind myself to relax and be outcome independent. Cheers!
/r/seduction21/05/16 02:15 AM
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Glad you enjoyed! Good luck.
/r/seduction21/05/16 02:12 AM
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No worries! Not certain exactly but right around 20
/r/seduction21/05/16 02:12 AM
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Hehe good question. I'd answer it like this: A date doesn't have to lead to anything to go well. I've had plenty of dates that haven't led to a relationship or sex or anything, but were an enjoyable use of 90 minutes of my life This is over 2 years, so averaging about a date a week. Having had a couple of rough breakups in college and being generally pretty happy on my own, I haven't been looking to settle down with a girl. I don't see dating as a means to an end, but as fun in and of itself Lot…
/r/seduction20/05/16 05:16 PM
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Hahaha wow that's so nice to hear! Thank you! Yeah i think this sub has a ton of advice on it that's incredibly useful, but I think the tone of it doesn't fit well with perhaps 75% of the readership, who want to learn to be better with women but don't necessarily want to be full-on pickup artists. A separate subreddit for this type of reader would probably be a good idea. Adding to your point about kissing; I didn't kiss the woman I'm dating now until our third time meeting one another. The more…
/r/seduction20/05/16 04:58 PM
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This is absolutely the best mindset to have, but I think it's really tough to truly buy into it when first starting out. I think most everyone has to deal with the initial discomfort, kind of like plunging into cold water
/r/seduction20/05/16 04:50 PM
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Good question. I only really started going on dates the year I graduated from college, though college is a great setting to start dating (especially because oftentimes girls are used to guys just texting them when drunk, so going on a proper date really can set you apart). I started out using dating apps a lot, was too timid to really ask out random girls in person. As I grew more comfortable with the process I gained confidence, and saw that women responded when I was just aggressively myself--…
/r/seduction20/05/16 04:48 PM
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Congratulations! That's awesome and really cool to hear the results in your dating life.
/r/seduction18/05/16 08:35 PM
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Good post, thanks for sharing. Were you nervous at first using Tinder? Did it change your mindset at all? I also used Tinder and ended up getting way better with girls, curious how it went for you.
/r/seduction11/05/16 03:24 AM
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Oh that's awesome! What sort of analytics do you work on? I just thought it gave a ton of interesting examples of their data being leveraged, and it's a super interesting dataset. I had read a lot of books about the power of large datasets and modeling (signal and the noise, supercrunchers, etc.) but I thought Dataclysm was great because you actually got to see the results. It's really like a summary of the most interesting things you'd learn if you worked as a data scientist for a couple of yea…
/r/seduction06/05/16 10:21 PM
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Ooh I like that one!! Thanks for sharing. Reminds me of this one I heard, which isn't really in the right tone for talking to new girls but it's super interesting: "You're wandering around the halls of a tall apartment building. You look out the window at the courtyard and to your horror, you see a man shoot another, younger man in cold blood. You're paralyzed with shock, and can't look away. Suddenly, you see the murderer look up at you and you make eye contact. He points at you, moving is fing…
/r/seduction04/05/16 04:47 PM
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Haha i'll let him know-- I wouldn't mind checking out vancouver myself, seems like an awesome place, maybe we'll road trip
/r/seduction04/05/16 12:07 AM
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Spot on. A good example of this I've seen is a friend who will talk to girls at a bar, and if he gets rejected he'll laugh and say "but wait!!! I love you!!" He has a good time with it, the girl usually thinks it's funny and often times he closes them. If not, it's a hilarious story for us to laugh about.
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:05 PM
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I'll reiterate, I think you have to approach this playfully and for what it is: a game. I've dated lots of "grown, intelligent women," and the ones that I enjoy being with appreciate playfulness and frivolity at times
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:26 PM
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Good glad you found it useful!
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:23 PM
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Good point. And it's getting more and more accurate at an ever-increasing rate. It's definitely something to be treated carefuly
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:22 PM
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haha. To clarify, my sex life in 5th grade was purely theoretical. The game was still funny, though
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:20 PM
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Yup! It 100% is corny. But it's also fun. That's why I really recommend not taking this kind of thing super seriously. We're hitting on girls here. This isn't a SWAT mission. Let yourself be goofy! That's how I approach it, at least
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:19 PM
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Haha that's funny-- pretty interesting article too! Thanks for sharing
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:15 PM
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Interesting that shoes were rated as the most important clothing item. As a man, I almost never notice the shoes a woman is wearing.
/r/seduction01/05/16 10:21 PM
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Gotcha. Being specific when asking is a really good idea, lots of guys miss that I think
/r/seduction29/04/16 02:00 PM
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Yeah I wouldn't think it would actually work I just think it'd be kind of funny! I'll let you know if I ever go for it
/r/seduction29/04/16 01:59 PM
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Good insights! Everything gets so much easier when you're having fun. Thanks for posting
/r/seduction29/04/16 01:57 PM
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Haha yep. Agreed. Wonder if anyone has ever bought facebook ads to advertise themselves? I kinda want to do it just to see what would happen
/r/seduction29/04/16 03:50 AM
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Gotcha. That makes sense. I think generally if a girl actually tells you that she'd like to get to know you better before meeting, that shows she is open to meeting. I find that usually women who aren't interested in meeting up at all tend to just stop responding.
/r/seduction29/04/16 03:48 AM
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Awesome, sounds like you've got a good system. Definitely good advice about treating it like marketing or job apps. I always feel a little weird when I start to apply marketing "funnels" to dating but it's such an apt analogy :)
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:53 PM
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Thanks for sharing your experiences, that makes sense. What sort of dating platform have you used mostly, if you don't mind my asking? I think it varies a lot from app to app, website to website. And i do agree that messaging more will show both of you whether or not you're compatible. However, I think this can be accomplished better just by going on a first date-- it's faster, it's more fun, and it's good practice. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment!
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:42 PM
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Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for taking the time.
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:40 PM
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I wouldn't worry about that. I think that there is always value in learning about anything, even "weird or unrelatable things." And there's no use forcing yourself to change what you find compelling. There's just not, it won't work. What I think you'll find is, if you delve deeply into things and learn about them (and go beyond your comfort level with them), you'll see principles that you can apply to many other aspects of life. This will shine through in conversations you have.
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:38 PM
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Exactly!
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:30 PM
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Nice. Definitely smart to move off the app as quickly as possible. How long would you text before asking to meet?
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:26 PM
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Interesting-- I don't have experience using match, what do you think it is about it that makes you successful?
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:25 PM
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Awesome insights. Especially love the bit about picking up the phone and calling-- it's amazing how terrified some people are of talking on the phone, and how just by calling you can come across as extremely confident. What platform/site/app do you use? And what would you estimate the % of girls who give you their number vs those who refuse/ stop talking? I ask because I feel like I would see a drop in successes if I asked for a number that quickly, but maybe I should give it a shot! In general,…
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:24 PM
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To become a better person, I really recommend The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. It goes into the science behind building habits and gives really good insight into how to develop habits that change your life. To become a more interesting man, read a lot about whatever interests you! Since you're probably interested in dating/ seduction, I recommend reading Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari (lots of girls have read this too, making it a good conversation starter) or Dataclysm, which has all kinds …
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:51 AM
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"Why is each generation unhappier than the one before it? Why 50 years ago, did they not have a pill for everything? Yet people were happy. " This is so blatantly untrue. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/02/study-each-generation-is-happier-than-the-last/272937/ As an aside, modern antidepressants were invented in 1955 (61 years ago).
/r/seduction27/04/16 05:55 PM
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What bothers me about this article isn't that I disagree with it (though I certainly do). It's that it's suchhhhh a tired, cliche argument, and the writer doesn't seem to be aware that it's been made literally thousands of times.
/r/seduction27/04/16 05:26 PM
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Good for you. That's a much more productive reaction to technology creep than writing a hyperbolic blog post filled with cliches and generalization. Best of luck, I hope it boosts your quality of life.
/r/seduction27/04/16 05:24 PM
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Absolutely. Being physically out of your comfort zone helps take you mentally out of your comfort zone as well.
/r/seduction24/04/16 07:28 PM
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Love it, thanks for posting. Especially the bit about making it a habit to do the thing that causes you anxiety-- I've never thought about it like that but it's brilliant. Could you talk more about emotional regulation and music? Never heard that.
/r/seduction24/04/16 07:25 PM
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Never thought about it like that but I think you're right! Persistence is attractive. I think people confuse it with desperation sometimes, but they're two very different things.
/r/seduction24/04/16 07:14 PM
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Ooh I like that one. I feel like the way she responds gives you pretty good insight into her personality
/r/seduction24/04/16 07:13 PM
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Good question. Honestly, I wouldn't put much effort into crafting a message, because the fact that they don't have anything in their background means they likely aren't very invested in the app and perhaps don't check it often/ aren't interested in actually going out. That said, I think you could have success by asking them for a recommendation: "you look like you would have good taste: where should I take my mom for mother's day brunch? Somewhere with good french toast"
/r/seduction23/04/16 10:01 PM
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Honestly I don't even want to think about that. It has been super expensive. But it's been a lot of fun, I really like going on dates and it's made me a lot better at talking to people.
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:58 PM
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Yep, I've found that girls I've met through Tinder have been just like girls I meet elsewhere. They're just people, and I think Tinder is ubiquitous enough now that there's not much difference.
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:56 PM
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Thanks very much! So glad you found them helpful.
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:55 PM
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Thanks man I appreciate it! Yep, basically there was a big crowd waiting to get drinks at either end of the bar, and it was clearly going to take some time to get served. I figured the hot girl would have a better chance of getting the bartender's attention than me anyway, and it ended up working out!
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:55 PM
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Awesome! Glad to hear you've had a similar experience of it transitioning to real life. For me, it really opened my eyes to what was possible with girls, and made the whole process so much more fun
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:53 PM
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Nice, I think that's the way to go
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:52 PM
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Super good advice. Saying things that you think are funny is a really good way of sorting who you'd actually get along with. And it can be really amusing
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:51 PM
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Thailand it was! Cash out my friend
/r/seduction23/04/16 09:50 PM
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