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I think you are right. My wife can absolutely take care of all the logistics I take care of. She is very capable and intelligent. She is highly accomplished at work and I know she is a great employee and a hard worker. But when I forced her into the captain role she was not happy and you could see it. She had a lot of anxiety about things and it resulted in her being unpleasant towards me and absolutely killed our sex life. As she steps back into the role that she is more comfortable in you can …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:00 PM
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Without a doubt, someone who is physically fit/built can still be low value. I have friends who are in great shape and muscular, but are still extremely bluepill. But, unless you are a fictional mobster or some other unlikely character, I think that being high value and dominant will be difficult without paying attention to the physical component. As far as advice on keto, /r/keto has a ton. My biggest thing has been paying attention to my macros and logging my diet on myfitnesspal. Paying atten…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:00 PM
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I don't think the work will ever stop. And that's ok. I think that it partly doing the work itself that creates the loop. There is no such thing as perfection-- perfection is continuing to work towards the unattainable.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:53 PM
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I will be the first to admit that this is only the beginning of the process, but I have noticed that she is less anxious about things going on and more likely to turn to me when she faces uncertainties. To me, this is what it means when MRP talks about being "the Oak." Her giving up her anxieties seems to be allowing her to enjoy life more. I'm not sure if it's actually my happiness making her happier, but yes, she does seem happier.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:50 PM
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do so with enough confidence that she sees it as a new hamster-worthy nugget, and not a whiny bitching. Won't the sarcastic angle come across as whiny bitching?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 02:15 PM
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This is good. And seems so obvious now in retrospect. I am not going to lie, I enjoy the cuddling and the affection that comes with her trying to cuddle me, so it is probably what made me not think to do what you suggest.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 02:12 PM
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I'm not sure I get your comment at all. I enjoy the cuddling, but I am afraid of rewarding her rejection. To me, and I could be wrong, her initiating cuddling after rejecting my sexually is her trying to confirm her closeness to me. While it may be subconscious, I imagine her internal monologue to be something like, "Oh, well we are cuddling this morning, so my rejection of his advances last night aren't that big a deal and he loves me, etc. etc. etc." I would rather replace that monologue with …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 02:10 PM
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We are closing on a house next month and I have been working with the bank managing all the financials and getting things set up to close. The wife has clearly deferred to me as captain with all financial decisions. So what do I do? I complain to her about how much time it is taking. Captains don't complain about doing their job.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 06:29 PM
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By now you know not to bring your problems home, but there is another factor to it. You NEVER complain or show weakness to your wife. That popular Adam Levine song Would You Still Love Me The Same? The answer is ALWAYS NO. AWALT. The sooner men learn this the better. This has been my biggest bad habit to break (well, other than weight issues, but /r/keto is helping with that faster than I had believed possible). It is extremely difficult going from the "best buds, tell me about your day" mentali…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 06:17 PM
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Seems like this is pretty much the basis for keto, which I've been looking into. Though keto says something like less than 50 grams of carbs total per day... which will be a challenge, but I'm going to try it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 06:09 PM
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My biggest problem is portion control. I already don't drink soda or eat junk. We cook and eat relatively healthy - I just eat too much of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:18 PM
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Pretty well. I would say average as far as non-sexual affection (holds hand, head on shoulder, etc.). She doesn't berate me or anything, though she definitely makes a bigger deal of everyday-type screw-ups than I do (e.g. she dinged the car yesterday - no big deal... things happen. But if it had been me she would have give me shit about it). She's is very respectful in public. Sometimes nags me on small shit in private. I know that these are shit tests and that I need to work on passing them bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:18 PM
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Yes, I am lifting on a 5x5 plan. I have had some gains, but I know that is a process that will take quite a while, particularly as I am starting over a good deal overweight. I have no intention of going to dread level 8 anytime in the next year or two, and hopefully not at all. My goal is to only have to apply soft dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 04:16 PM
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Agreed - weight loss and getting in shape is my primary goal right now. I have a feeling you are right about the texting - I have tried to only initiate texting in a sexal manner, but I think you are right that is just coming across and needy. Bad sex vs. no sex is a tougher pill to swallow. I think I'd be lying if I said that i would rather have no sex than bad sex. Hunger is the best sauce and I've been on a drip feed for years. That being said, I know that I need to stop accepting behavior th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 04:04 PM
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Ha. Yeah, I think right now the fingers and cock text might get her more offended than anything. I tried a "what color panties are you wearing?" text a couple weeks ago and that was met with pure annoyance. I did power through the starfish last night and just fucked her like I didn't give a shit. I probably should I just gone about my business rather than touch her afterwards though.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 03:01 PM
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Ha. I could probably do the "like you did when i was your boyfriend" one, but not quite sure I am ready for the "my girlfriend fucks better than this" yet. My initial inclination is that I need to increase my SMV before I can pull off either of these though. It's on it's way up, but I've only been lifting for a month and a half. I'm 5'10" and ballooned up to 245 lbs over the past few years. I'm down 12 lbs now, but I know I have a ways to go before I'm not a fatass.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 02:39 PM
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Looking back on the text now I can see that maybe it came across as a bit needy. My thoughts in sending it were more to "prime the pump" and set up the expectation that there would be sex that evening (requiring her to opt out rather than opt in), but maybe I should have been more direct in that case. She's made comments about muscles and such indicating that she is starting to notice changes from my lifting, but I agree that she is still not feeling attracted to me. The common thread in these c…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 02:37 PM
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I've read MMSLP and Rational Male. I just started re-reading MMSLP since I think it will help. I agree that I need to continue increasing my SMV. That being said, the biggest hit to my SMV is the weight gain I've had over the past decade, which I know will take a while to lose. I have begun seeing results, but I can't expect her to feel sexual attraction towards me based on "beginning to see results." At the same time, I'm not going to not initiate sex in the interim just because losing weight w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 02:32 PM
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You say you want to stay with this woman. But then you say you are checking out. You need to own your shit, and the way YOU feel about her past is YOUR shit. You can't be obsessed with this handjob and stay with her. Either get over it or get over her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 06:13 PM
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See this is what throws me for a bit of a loop. "Hitting the wall" is really just a dramatic drop in SMV, right? If that's the case, then relative to a woman who just hit the wall her husband's SMV increases. Shouldn't his (relatively) higher SMV translate into improving the marriage?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 06:51 PM
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How long have you been with your girlfriend? Do you live together? To me it sounds like you are in the wrong subreddit. Edit: I stand corrected.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 04:40 PM
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I don't get it. She got a little turned on by the attention... wouldn't you if the roles were reversed? Seems like you passed her shit test (from what I understand they never stop). Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 04:05 PM
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Seems like you want validation that she missed you while you were away. I'm new to MRP as well, but seems like a big part of this whole thing is not being reliant on external validation. Get your validation from knowing that you are a badass dude that gets shit done and has a high SMV. Are you not a badass dude that gets shit done and has a high SMV? Work to become that guy and get your validation that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 08:35 PM
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Initiated sex last night. Wife bitches about how she's tired and how we always go to bed too late and that she has work in the morning and I don't... blah blah blah. I push a bit and we end up having sex. Sex is still starfish, but she was way wetter than she has been. She orgasms pretty quickly and then I finish caveman style. Afterwards we are laying there relaxing: Wife: Oh shit, I forgot my water... Me: ... Wife: Will you get it for me? I cave, at the time rationalizing that I should reward …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 01:23 PM
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Seemed like a shit test to me because she was saying it in sort of a mocking tone. I'd categorize the conversation as her "giving me shit." Maybe it wasn't actually a shit test though. I don't think my monk mode has been pouty child. I have been a bit quieter than usual and have not made any sexual advancements other than to go for the 10 second kiss from MMSLP most days. I've been cheeful around my MIL who is staying with us for a couple weeks and with our young baby.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 07:34 PM
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Ate too much on Wednesday while out with guy friends. Being fat is a huge issue for me and something I really need to stop. I've been consistent with my lifting, but I slipped on food on Wednesday. I am going to be more diligent about the food I consume and not have a similar slip the next time I go out with friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 01:05 PM
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Yep. Only two weeks into my lifting routine, but I am starting to feel strong again, which is something I think I had forgotten how to feel. Going to our condo's gym right now, but will be joining a gym soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 05:22 PM
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Clearly the latter. I think you captured exactly what I have been thinking. I have been disgusted at seeing what I've become. I have gotten fat, I drink to much and I have been lazy. About the only area I haven't disappointed myself is professionally, and I could likely be doing even better there if I fixed those other parts about myself. I guess my question is what should my interactions look like with my wife while I am following the MAP and increasing my SMV?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 03:35 PM
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Kind of thought the point wasn't to raise SMV, it was to just do what I wanted. I felt like getting off and didn't feel like going to another room to do it. I wasn't factoring her in when I made the decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:51 PM
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Just read your post. No more drink for me-- I agree that it gives me an edge and makes it harder for me to control myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:49 PM
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Higher SMV than her needed for this type of behavior or no? Seems like pushing hard like that at this stage would be premature.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:47 PM
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All accurate. I will say I didn't recoil in fear and anxiety when she yelled at me. I kept going at it and laughed at her getting upset.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:26 PM
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Definitely cutting the alcohol out entirely. Hearing you guys say this affirms that decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:25 PM
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No, she is not a stay at home mom. She works full-time. We each make slightly >100k, with me making about 20% more than her. We have separate accounts and a joint account that I pay our bills out of-- I write checks from her account. But she does control most of her paycheck other than bills. With regard how "hard it was for her", I can admit it was probably a bit difficult with me being out of town for work and her having to work and take care of a 5 month old. I had already been to the gym tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:23 PM
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