I am 32. Married for almost 11 years now. FUCK

Friends of mine are hitting the wall hard. Its a damn car wreck out there. Friends who were in decent shape, kept themselves together, lost weight, whatever... and life just crept in and smacked them upside the head.

A friend of mine married a beautiful woman. Solid 8/9, great marriage material etc. A decade later? She just started to slip. From a solid 8... to 7.5.... to.... 6ish now.

Why? Not for lack of dieting, exercise, or putting on a few pounds. Some take good care of themselves.

But a woman just starts to fade. An above average woman becomes average. From "if the opportunity presented itself I would consider breaking my vows" to "meh".

And it just started. Hitting mid 30's is a death sentence for many women. Now, I see some stunning 30 year olds. Who take good care of themselves. But it is a rarity.

But the men? If they are not improving, they are at least not FALLING. Men tend to age slower... build momentum....

But you can see it in the man's eyes. The realization that they are in a sexless marriage with a women who is less and less beautiful everyday. and they are only getting started in life.

I was with some friends and one of them mentioned their premarital counselor (fuck those things- unnecessary bullshit really). But this counselor spewed some wisdom "More sex is always better". Told these two to fuck like rabbits until death do you part.

The other women in the room? Started shitting on this idea "Oh, I don't have time for that!" "Is he going to come and do our laundry?" "I wont be able to walk the next day." Just spewing bullshit.

You could feel their husbands balls shrinking up inside their soul.

The wall is strong. It is sad.

Another friend talked about how she hated pictures that were taken of her recently. I saw the pictures, professional photoshoot, real high end shit. The pictures looked great. Really put her in a great light. Made her look beautiful for her age.

But they did something to her. They put a really strong mirror in front of her and she realized she is getting old. She is post-wall. No matter how much hair, make-up, jogs, etc... she is falling for the rest of her life. I tried explaining to my wife that this friend was just said because she now realizes she is old.

How can women put the wall off? To each his own but I have noticed the #1 factor in putting that physical wall off is muscle definition. Increasing weight lifting to create a more feminine, strong, defined body. Takes the sag out of the face and shoulders. Developing a strong inner life, become an enjoyable person to be around also helps. But physically? Get that body working.

But fellas... keep working. It takes time, but when your SMV increases, when it surpasses your SO... you life will become much more fantastic. If your SO wont step up to the plate... you have options.

Women... their options lessen everyday. Just saw wedding photos of a high school friend who got a bit chubby, then lost a ton of weight, became a damn fine specimen. And kept it off for a good stretch of time. About 5 years. She went from a 5ish or so to a solid 7. 8 if you live in a small town. Putting off that wall. Great body... just long enough to find a man and eat some ice cream.

The wall is strong. that is why women will do ANYTHING they can to keep themselves above you. They will scratch and claw at your soul until they can cling on to that last semblance that they are a special snowflake. They will take every last vestige of your manhood just to watch you beg for a little bit of what they have left. Of course, by actually improving themselves and become more sexually aggressive, they could put that wall off for a while... but you know.. that would be logical and all.

Keep working. Keep improving. Every day. MOST of you will find your SO will kick her rear in gear to keep up. Like magic.