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Online dating works great. My favorite is social media (i.e. instagram) it's free, it won't waste too much of your time and you can talk to multiple girls at the same time. I guess if you're translating your online game into dates you do know how to talk your way around women behind your cellphone/keyboard. Think about how you're doing it face-to-face though. Maybe you're not being honest about it: maybe you've developed this confident persona online and then can't bring that same persona out in…
/r/seduction02/01/20 08:04 PM
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You don't need to be a girl to understand that if she's into you she'll probably react well to it. That's it
/r/seduction30/11/19 04:22 PM
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My advice, go out and socialize more. Have some fun with your friends and try making some conversation with women you find attractive. I feel like you lack some socials skills, leading and calibration besides being there to listen and take to other people's shit.
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:21 PM
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It's good that you're authentic but maybe take a moment to acknowledge if what you are is really good enough. Sometimes the ego gets too involved while in self evaluation. There's always room for improvement. Good luck bud
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:14 PM
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Reading this it seems like you've got that kind of attitude that gets you friendzoned instantly, that line about people choosing you to talk about their problems somewhat reveals the way you behave in social situations. Honestly dude, I recommend you reading "Models" by Mark Manson and just see where you fit and what needs to change. It will help you
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:00 PM
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I meant what does one have to gain in going on a date as opposed to just bringing a girl home from the club or just talking your way through over social media. At least for guys who are comfortable enough already around women and don't need practicing per se. Assuming the purpose is just sex, why should you spend that much time going around town from venue to venue if you can do it from a phone and get her home by messaging from your couch. That's the discussion I'm trying to have
/r/seduction29/08/19 07:27 PM
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I see what you're saying as far as practicing goes. Although don't feel like you need to read that much and it can get overwhelming for some High school, college and so on are great environments for practicing being sociable. Calibration is a key factor in my experience. Still, if you're doing alright and not acting weird around girls, are there any advantages in dating or is it just a matter of taste?
/r/seduction29/08/19 06:54 PM
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Attraction works as a kind of mirror to your identity, be honest with whom you are and ask yourself some questions. Am I holding too much negativity within? Am I prone to drama? If you're answering 'yes' to these kind of questions then I assure you you're attracting people who won't do you no good. Self-awareness and introspection will always give you some hints on whether or not she's a good match. Personally I wouldn't date women with that kind of history because issues like that take a really…
/r/seduction22/07/19 10:22 AM
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Awesome bud, let this be an example for all the guys out there thinking a compliment or two will "give your power away" and ruin your chances. Confidence makes you happy and positive, therefore being an asshole is not a sign of confidence. Cheers!
/r/seduction12/07/19 08:19 AM
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Bud you have some deep self-esteem issues. Why get so riled up because my opinion doesn't match yours? I'm talking from experience bud, luckily have a lot of great friendly relationships and from what I've seen even the worst looking dudes are getting women. Actually said it before in a comment somewhere in Seddit, a great friend of mine who is REALLY short and not good looking gets girls. Another friend of mine is basically morbidly obese and was dating a really cute girl back in high school (a…
/r/seduction10/07/19 07:29 PM
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How the hell is being playful based on how you look? You're correlating a physical thing to a personality based trait. Attraction is not just built through the way you look, it's more about how you behave than anything else really. That's why you'll see really good looking guys fucking it up with women, behavior will always be more powerful than a pretty face and a set of abs. Also, I didn't say not to invest bud. Do not invest too much. There's a big difference between the two.
/r/seduction10/07/19 07:01 PM
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Indeed! People tend to take life so seriously and then wonder why are they so stressed out most of the time. Enjoy the ride!
/r/seduction10/07/19 11:24 AM
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Oof
/r/seduction10/07/19 07:46 AM
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You can go ahead and pm me if you prefer bud
/r/seduction09/07/19 09:46 PM
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Not at all, I'm responding to the fact that guys are cultivating a fragile habit of asking for basic advice while they should be trying to figure it out on their own. How will a man end up if all his problems are dependent on someone else's answers? There's always time to learn things even if for just 10-15min a day, if you say you don't then you're just making up excuses. I actually think I'm giving out solid advice because true confidence is aknowledging that you can rely on yourself to move f…
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:37 PM
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Nah bud, I actually agree with you and have said it time and time again on this sub. What you say doesn't matter as much as how you say it. Just think we should point out that we're living on a different age where a lot of women embrace a resentful life and can actually take it the wrong way, advising other guys that you can say anything can be really detrimental if their delivery is not on point.
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:28 PM
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"yeah, i am a dirty boy" Hahaha you're killing me bud. I'd say she's definitely showing some interest then, if you're into her next time you're there make your move! Watch out for costumers or near by employees, make sure she's alone or try and isolate her for a few minutes. Cheers
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:55 PM
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Is she into you or is she just doing her job and being nice to costumers?
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:33 PM
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Wasn't talking about you buddy, it was a generalization made about people who game from a perspective of validation. If it fits you it's time to invest in yourself and work on that self esteem. Good luck
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:30 PM
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The only off putting thing about your face is the fact that you're not smiling. An easy going smirk works wonders for any creep out there jk Approach anxiety -> exposure therapy/baby steps. That's it, cheers
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:11 PM
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The worst they can do is actually pepper spray you, or scream rapist, or call the police, or tell your uni board that you're approaching women and get you expelled.. A lot of bad things can happen. Watch out for that "outrageous" shit you say
/r/seduction09/07/19 06:58 PM
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It depends on where you're coming from. Seduction/sex for the sake of getting validation from women is a really nasty mindset that a lot of guys cultivate and don't even aknowledge. You're needy and insecure. Seduction from an overall healthy perspective is mostly just a matter of being attracted by someone and taking action solely because you're into some other person and not trying to compensate over any personal issues. Your intention is what defines it as "right" or "wrong".
/r/seduction09/07/19 06:55 PM
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I know a guy that's having that "whore phase" for years now. He's over 50. Also, you don't need a decade to figure how to handle yourself with women. Learn a few basic PUA concepts (eye contact/body language, push-pull, escalation and calibration) and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Read "Models" by Mark Manson. Cheers
/r/seduction09/07/19 06:31 PM
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Here we go again ..... ......... ........... Don't shit where you eat.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:57 PM
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Let this be a lesson for yourself buddy. You ain't getting any women until you become a man, this insecure behavior repels anything that walks on two legs. Maybe try the ones that have four of those, get a dog
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:56 PM
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It's the same thing bud, you're in a relationship and think about other women. Stop worrying about shit you can't control and work on your insecurities because this post is just a report on how low your self-esteem is. I'll tell you right now that your girl will get fed up with that kind of fragile behavior and will either leave you or just let the relationship roll and everything will become resentful and toxic for both of you.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:54 PM
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Because the issue is never about having game but rather confidence and self-esteem. Guys spend week after week reading about it but work very little on themselves, their emotions, social relationships and overall purpose. If they did, game wouldn't even be a concept you'd think about in the first place.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:27 PM
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So you think about other women but get mad if your girl does it as well? What a fucking hypocrite. We're human, get over it. Let me tell you something, if she cheats on you then you just go on with your life and cross out one less shitty partner. Also, your insecurities will get annoying af and she will end up really wanting to break up or cheat.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:16 PM
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Absolutely not, the key here is just not investing too much on a girl which you were doing at first. Now you don't invest at all and can't even compliment or hangout even though you want to. Be genuine not only with other people but with yourself first, look for the balance in that nice guy - douchebag spectrum. Don't act like an asshole because deep down you're not. Everyone can tell, you know it as well.
/r/seduction06/07/19 06:24 PM
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That's part of a relationship, if people are texting and hanging out all the time than it starts to fade away. It's like anything else really. Wouldn't you get bored of just constantly doing something for two years straight? You both should have your own time to invest in your own interests, that's how a relationship remains healthy. It brings out the best in you, it keeps you in a good mood and never too invested in her - which is a complete turn off. Take it as a natural thing and enjoy your l…
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:54 PM
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Don't. If you're not a model that does it as work then it will probably just come across as try hard.
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:40 PM
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Let me tell you something, that book is old and points out really cheesy old-school game that is mostly wortless. My advice, learn a few basic concepts like body language/eye contact, push-pull, calibration and physical escalation. Then just work with your mindset, mood and your purpose. Also, keep in mind you should always be more invested in yourself rather than others (which by the way doesn't mean you don't care about other people and act like a douchebag). That's it, read "Models" by Mark M…
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:38 PM
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It's more important in the sense that having a greater social life implies you know how to handle yourself better in different situations and with different personalities (adds to your social calibration habilities). It also means that you'll probably have more interesting ideas and stories to share since you're dealing with more people. And above all, it means you're cultivating more experience in regards to your communication skills and overall comfort and confidence. Always reach for quality …
/r/seduction06/07/19 11:59 AM
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I've had women approach me plenty of times either in real life or social media, chances are you and many men out there had them hit you up as well. Women also approach, of course they'll always be more reserved than men in that regard but still, don't think they won't. If you're gaming just for the sake of gaming then it's always about ego and validation. If you need to be with girls every time you go out then it's needy behavior. I know we are sexual beings but that's not implying you have to c…
/r/seduction06/07/19 11:47 AM
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That's nonsense bud. I've been with a great girl and still looked at other women across the bar because they're hot, that doesn't mean I'm going to ditch this one out just because I'm physically attracted to some random girl. It's a plain regular thing to look at people you find attractive, doesn't mean shit. I'll still say it, it's an ego thing. So many women out there and you feel the need to disrupt a date just so you can see if you're doing better than some other guy, it's called validation …
/r/seduction06/07/19 11:03 AM
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I'm assuming you're a younger guy so I'll just talk to you like you're my little brother right now, this is not meant to put you down just want to get some sense in there. Read again what you just posted because you sound like a fucking idiot. This is the challenge more fragile and insecure men tend to have when trying to convey they're "alphas", they try hard as fuck to portray being a badass mf - It's just "beta" behavior. Sure you can become more attractive to girls by not being so invested i…
/r/seduction06/07/19 09:55 AM
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Why would you disrupt a date? That's an ego thing bud. Also she'd probably reject you even if she was attracted just to maintain a good social image.
/r/seduction06/07/19 09:29 AM
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No pun intented but you forgot about the D. d) she's not interested.
/r/seduction05/07/19 11:11 PM
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Take it personally and send her to the couch? What the fuck is that? The proper course of action is being a man and just get some sleep.
/r/seduction05/07/19 02:03 PM
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Go out and have fun, throw some good vibes in there and don't try hard to make her like you because she already does. Enjoy the interaction for what it is and socialize with her friends as well.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:59 PM
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Bud don't waste your time with those shitty labels. Every man has "alpha" and "beta" traits, that's why you'll watch a really fragile "beta" gamer turning into an incredible leader while playing online. Confidence is a thing you cultivate on a daily basis until you're dead, you can't just work on it for a while and think it's going to last forever. By investing in yourself you'll get there, it's a matter of consistency. Never portray being someone you're not, be genuine and work on improving you…
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:51 PM
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If you feel like your issue is not conveying being manly enough (whatever that means) just work on those traits. Lead more, speak louder, lift some weights, maybe buy different clothes and grow a beard.. It's more about how you behave but working on your appearance can actually help you with that. Anyway, don't be a douchebag but also don't invest too much on other people. You got your own life to deal with.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:38 PM
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Gaming to "build a solid base of confidence" is just another way of saying you're in need of validation from women. You don't even want them, you just want that momentary high of "yeah..I'm great and women love me". Honestly, just going out with the intention of meeting women and fuck them is also somewhat needy behavior but that's my personal opinion. With time I realized that it's healthier to just go on with your day and do your own thing, if you see someone you're really attracted to go for …
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:33 PM
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From what I'm reading you already got it buddy. Maybe you're just too invested in other people so spend more time doing things for yourself. Invest in your own interests and hobbies, experience new things. Being a "nice guy" is just a term for being needy and manipulative, confident men are positive and empathic naturally. No real issue in being a good guy.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:23 PM
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Stop texting and move on. You're being needy, don't play a fool out of yourself.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:15 PM
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Mark Manson. Only book you really need
/r/seduction04/07/19 07:56 PM
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brah
/r/seduction04/07/19 07:52 PM
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You already know what you should be improving, now act accordingly.
/r/seduction04/07/19 07:37 PM
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I find myself constantly texting or showing my boyfriend (34M) pics of sexy women or pointing them out irl to beat him to the punch. I catch him looking at women including video game characters with the oversized breasts and thin waists and I get jealous. This is shitty behavior. Emotionally stable people don't act like this and fortunately I think you've already realized that. Also, you may be keeping quiet but the root problem is still there, not demonstrating it to your partner is no solution…
/r/seduction04/07/19 07:33 PM
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Go to a therapist. The fact that he is not breaking up with you for that shitty behavior tells me he's not doing so good himself. Maybe couple therapy or just therapy for each one separately.
/r/seduction04/07/19 07:26 PM
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There's a lot more to it. How about just plain old social conditioning? A girl is raised by loving parents, she goes to school and get's bullied (maybe she's overweight, maybe she's not so mature etc.) the thing spreads for years and her huge drop in self-esteem establishes really negatvity and needy behavior. Now she's in need of constant validation, now she ends up with guys that treat her like shit..There goes the loving father.
/r/seduction04/07/19 06:51 PM
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Stop looking at people when they workout unless you're their spotter, it's annoying as fuck. How about you just talk to her after/before the workout at the lobby?
/r/seduction04/07/19 06:43 PM
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People talk a lot about the differences in standards of time and society but they're usually not honest about how humans are less and less able to communicate in real life and more prone to self-esteem/confidence issues. I did a rant a few days ago about how my grandpa was doing the push-pull "technique" organically, all this PUA shit you read about is just a representation of how naturally confident men behave. Less and less guys out there have an established confident and positive mindset, bac…
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:44 AM
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Then what? Are you expecting to date a girl, bring her home and have sex with the cap and sunglasses on?
/r/seduction03/07/19 07:01 PM
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Absolutely buddy, I like to push towards real-life connectivity because a lot of the time people who dwelve too much in videogames are really prone to isolation. If you find hobbies that get you with other people that's brilliant but there's nothing wrong with stuff that you enjoy by yourself, specially if it gets you out of the house!
/r/seduction03/07/19 06:52 PM
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You took the single biggest step into overcoming that shitty mindset which is aknowledging that is part of you and that you need to work on it to establish a happy and healthy life. Now I don't like giving pads on the back specially because you don't need them right now. What you do need is some practical advice on how to be a better man and build up that self-esteem and positivity, because a lot of that resentful behavior comes from insecurity. Create a daily routine that involves: meditation -…
/r/seduction03/07/19 06:08 PM
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It's not so much about what you say but how you say it. How are you conveying yourself to the other person? I prefer just being straight up honest about my intentions and think that's actually conveying attractive behavior. You're showing confidence and decisiveness right at the start and doing what some conceptualize as "polarizing" the interaction. Anyway, at night eye contact & body language vastly exceed conversation so once again, how are you conveying yourself?
/r/seduction03/07/19 04:56 PM
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You're the only who can answer this, take some time to put things into perspective and be true to what you really feel. I don't think it is laziness because being lazy is just a sum of excuses and bad habits. Maybe you're affraid of rejection or some sort of embarassment, maybe your energy levels are low because you don't have a good rest or don't exercise, a lot of things to question. Do it and find the answer for yourself bud
/r/seduction02/07/19 04:38 PM
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It works. If it isn't working for yourself then try different approaches. Go out more.
/r/seduction01/07/19 07:22 PM
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Always be yourself. If you think that's not attractive enough spend time investing in who you are. Becoming that guy will always surpass trying to imitate him.
/r/seduction01/07/19 07:21 PM
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If you're happy then there's no problem at all, that's what everyone's aiming for right? You don't need to have a girl just for the sake of it.
/r/seduction01/07/19 12:59 PM
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Actually it's not so much about looks but rather emotional stability. Women with deep self-esteem issues will be in need of constant external validation, so she either is into you and plays along or her lack of confidence makes her roam around for attention. There are plenty of attractive girls out there that flirt for validation, even with supposedly unattractive men. Also, a lot more men out there that you'd think following those same needy patterns. It's up to you to do your best and look for…
/r/seduction01/07/19 12:51 PM
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Only thing you need to have sex is a penis and a vagina. Or a penis and an asshole. Or perhaps two vaginas. Setting only matters if you're going to get caught and arrested for a public offense.
/r/seduction01/07/19 10:06 AM
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This is a perfect representation of why "game" by itself is meaningless. You either become a naturally confident man and cultivate your own interests and relationships or just crawl alongside women with an ingrained mindset of neediness. First one is ultimately happy and attractive while the latter ends up in shitty relationships and a boring and resentful life.
/r/seduction01/07/19 10:02 AM
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First of all, do the best you can with your physical appearance (go to the gym, wear clothes that fit and match, grooming and so on). Looking better will help with your self-esteem so that's already a kind of 2 in 1 when it comes to be attractive. What Manson points out - and in my experience is spot on - is the fact that behavior is the single most important factor to becoming attractive. And although things like social status, money and looks can be a turn on and get women more receptive to in…
/r/seduction01/07/19 09:39 AM
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You can do whatever you want buddy but do you honestly think you'll manage to get a threesome during the day with random girls you just met? Haha
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:57 PM
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Chances are you going to fuck up if you try getting all of them at once. It's hard enough to bring two friends home, let along three. Just go for the one you're more attracted to.
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:24 PM
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Never heard of that before but human relationships are still going so, millions of years have passed by and the pattern is still present. Anyway, you can go ahead and isolate yourself but you'll never be a happy and functional man.
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:14 PM
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There's nothing wrong with having time for yourself and to focus on your own ambitions, it's actually a great thing. But drowning in that without sparing some time to cultivate relationships will fuck you up. Human beings are social creatures, it's in our nature to socialize and establish proximity with others. No amount of hobbies and money will ever surpass that. Nature always wins.
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:00 PM
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Don't be so bitter about it. Eventually we all look for some sort of validation from others - family, friends, teachers, coaches, boys/girls we're into and for some even random people they don't actually know. Being so judgemental won't help you in anything besides getting yourself to isolate from others and we all know how unhealthy that is.
/r/seduction30/06/19 08:53 PM
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A lot of things wrong with that mindset buddy, you shouldn't be getting with women just to prove a point. Seems like you have some trauma related to your up bringing. My advice, seek a therapist and sort that shit out. Other than that it may be a positive thing to establish some friendly relationships with girls. Try hanging out with them, maybe you'll start to realize how they're just human like yourself, with their own flaws and strengths.
/r/seduction30/06/19 08:35 PM
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Yes. Always be friendly to everyone around the person you're interested in, make them part of the interaction instead of ignoring them. You can even make her friends part of the flirt and making it fun for everyone. If you're handing out good vibes it could actually become easier to attract someone since her friends will actually "help out" and push her towards you.
/r/seduction30/06/19 07:54 PM
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Amen!
/r/seduction30/06/19 07:01 PM
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Some people will say that being direct gives your power away. When guys talk about giving up power I cringe. Life is not a fucking Marvel movie. Since when is being honest about your intentions and open about your romantic/sexual interests making you powerless? Is there any power in being a manipulative cunt and going through canned gimmicks to fuck a girl? Be a man. By the way, you can also be mysterious and exciting without being a trickster. How about the "power" in going to a girl you've alr…
/r/seduction30/06/19 06:52 PM
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Stop putting yourself down like that, if you're progressing in anykind of aspect in your own life then it's a reason to be happy and proud. Congratulations
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:10 AM
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I feel like understanding the theory and application of a few basic PUA concepts won't hurt you but just building that positive foundation you get from "Models" is enough to push you forward into becoming the best version of yourself - which will lead to being more attractive and overall better with women. A lot of people out there are getting stuck in that self-help and PUA loop when there's really only so much you can learn and apply. It's cult-like and it drains a lot of your energy and focus…
/r/seduction29/06/19 09:41 PM
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Above all eye contact represents you as being a confident man and comfortable with your interactions. That's attractive by itself. It also creates a more intimate connection between you and the other person. Just do it
/r/seduction29/06/19 07:41 PM
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My advice, don't shit where you eat.
/r/seduction29/06/19 07:21 PM
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Make her laugh three times...... do a spin, drink half a glass of ice cold water and chant your national anthem. It's how you unlock all weapons on GTA: San Andreas.
/r/seduction29/06/19 07:04 PM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:39 PM
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There could be an issue with this. You see, even though you shouldn't be hanging out with fake friends at all do not isolate yourself completely and spend your days off playing video games and being lazy. Of course you don't need to be active at all times but if you're spending entire weekends just chilling that's not really productive. Socializing is an important aspect of an healthy lifestyle, isolation will begin to ruin your confidence and hability to interact and cultivate relationships on …
/r/seduction29/06/19 10:38 AM
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Haven't read anything on the subject but there's a few techniques I'm aware that you can just google or so. There should also be a lot of really informative videos on youtube about it and may be easier to comprehend with practical examples. Try looking for "public speaking skills", "speech dynamics/techniques" and so on. Anyway, don't focus too much energy on that. Calm and confident does the trick, some good body language (like hand gestures and some face expressions) to the mix and you're good…
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:51 PM
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Appreciate it buddy!
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:03 PM
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If you remain calm during an interaction then your speech will naturally be slower than the fast stumbling words of a nervous person. What I'm trying to say is don't confuse calmness with talking like a stoner, that's what I meant. Slow-motion as in really slow, it's really just a matter of common sense. If you're still struggling with this maybe go watch a few youtube videos of confident man archetypes (like famous actors or even public speakers) and see how they handle their conversations/inte…
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:54 PM
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It's also called being needy. Mass texting old numbers just to try getting something out of it is a really awful mindset to perpetuate, probably the reason why you're struggling in the first place.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:43 PM
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It's absolutely common to get nervous when approaching since you're dealing with a lot of different ideas/feelings at the same time. Just keep in mind that being rejected is also a really common thing and don't take it personally, maybe she's not into you (matter of taste), maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe it's just not the right timing for her. Conveying confidence will definitely help with your interactions but sometimes things are just out of our control, accept that and it will become easier…
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:40 PM
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If you convey passion when you talk about any subject it will most likely trigger an attraction response from any person, be it man or woman. Just break out from having any sort of dull tone and other traits that bore people out like lack of dynamic in speech and really slowmotion sentences. Also work with your hand gestures and overall body language. Although similar interests may work in many ways it's not actually a key point in attraction. The way you behave is, I could go on about sports fo…
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:30 PM
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Struggled with the same problem myself and came to realize that I wasn't really living a great life and that translated into not smiling at all. For some it's a matter of being somewhat unhappy, others may feel insecure about it because they see it as a sign of weakness/not a manly thing but they couldn't be more wrong about it. Smiling and happiness overall is a perfect representation of how a naturally confident man feels, he knows how to handle negativity and is never trying to compensate by …
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:35 PM
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Basically almost any place is appropriate to meet women; There's no need for strategies if you know how to handle yourself and be socially calibrated; There's nothing wrong with paying for a date, just don't use money as a tool to make her like you - because she won't; Last 3 points can be answered with the same argument for the second point - Know how to handle yourself and be socially calibrated.
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:21 PM
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Smiling puts a stranger at ease, it sends a subsconscious message that you're not a threat. Also, it is an indicator that you're happy, confident and putting out good vibes. There's a lot of scientific data that backs it up but let's just get some common sense in here - eveyone prefers to interact with someone who's showing some warmth and brightness rather than a poker faced dude, even if he's a great guy at heart. It may seem weird at first if you're not used to it but I assure you you'll see …
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:08 PM
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Is that an IOI or is she just being nice?
/r/seduction27/06/19 07:47 PM
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Indeed. I'd like to add that although it could be helpful to understand a few basic concepts about technique and theory at first (specially for more out-of-touch and insecure, needy guys out there), you should come to realize that excessive studying will diffuse your attention from what's really important in order to be good with women and enjoy a better life overall - becoming a naturally confident guy as opposed to mimicking "him". I'd advise you to read Mark Manson's "Models" to understand be…
/r/seduction27/06/19 04:35 PM
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In this case cultivating confidence is a non-answer. Why? So confidence is the belief in your ability to produce a favourable outcome in a particular task, based on your past performance at a similar task. Confidence is not only based on your past performances. It's an overall state that helps you handle any sort of situations to the best of your abilities, so yes cultivate it. ​ Okay, so do we go into that task randomly flailing around and hoping for success? No - we have two hundred years wort…
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:29 AM
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I've had the same kind of bad feeling when I've slept with random women, also felt really good about it on other occasions. Maybe you're fucking to try and compensate over something else and it unconsciously feels wrong - you wrote about being frustrated and losing control over yourself when in absence, maybe you're not getting with girls you really "vibe" with.. only you can answer it dude. Anyway, like I said. If it feels good go for it, if not just take some time off and work with those frust…
/r/seduction26/06/19 10:17 PM
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Casual sex is a natural thing, it happens between other species as well as our own. Although human beings have established moral values and romantic ideals it doesn't mean that we're on the right track. Nature knows best, it has been working on itself for millions of years and no amount of social conditioning will ever surpass that. So be careful about how you digest what you listen to, great speakers like Peterson himself have amazing public speaking skills, persuasion techniques and so on. Som…
/r/seduction26/06/19 09:33 PM
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Although I 100% agree with always being genuine and honest about who you really are keep in mind that this should never mean lack of commitment to improving yourself as much as you can.
/r/seduction26/06/19 01:51 PM
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Being rejected is a normal thing even if your interactions are great. Sometimes they just don't find you attractive (matter of taste), maybe they do have a boyfriend or it's just bad timing overall. Take a look at how you handle yourself with people. If there are things you should be improving (like eye contact, communication skills, escalation etc.) then focus on that before you go approaching again.
/r/seduction26/06/19 10:56 AM
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If you know how to handle yourself with women then just approach her. How about you get honest and say something like "Hey, I saw you from over there and thought you were really cute. Had to come and say Hi". Then let it roll. When she's with other friends just be polite to them as well, don't focus all your attention on her because things can get uncomfortable if you leave other people out.
/r/seduction26/06/19 10:51 AM
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I have friends that are short beyond average and not so good looking yet they still get girls, got friends who are really overweight and get girls as well. I also know really handsome dudes who are struggling to even interact with women. What does this tell us? Behavior works far better than looks. Of course being attractive can get women to be more receptive at first but if you can't handle yourself socially it won't really matter how good you look, specially with high quality women (which are …
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:09 AM
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Never meant to put you down dude, Being genuine goes a long way in your social relationships. Trust me on this, if they get turned off by it than are they really good enough for you? It works as a filter. We should have high standards about the girls we date and the friends we hangout with. That in itself makes you more attractive to the women around you.
/r/seduction26/06/19 07:51 AM
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We're fucking around, talking about sexual subjects and not in a formal way like all you fucking robots here First of all these kind of judgements are not doing anything for you. Second, if you're spending time talking to a girl you're into and feel like you're wasting your time then you're either needy and expect validation from this girl or you're just being a pussy and try to find external excuses to why you can't handle making a move.
/r/seduction25/06/19 07:35 PM
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/thread. Move on
/r/seduction25/06/19 04:23 PM
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I think it's bad advice, not trying to put you down dude but we should be pointing out that it's better to become that guy instead of putting on a mask and trying to appear like him. Women will be turned off if they picture you like a confident guy and then you come up and show traits of insecure, needy men.
/r/seduction25/06/19 04:12 PM
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You said some nice uplifting things at first and then just fucked up with those "texting guidelines". You should be answering whenever you have time and feel like it. Being so methodical about how much you should wait and text back is just another representation of how highly invested and needy you are. Which is funny because you do those weird techniques to come across as not highly invested, not needy. See where I'm trying to get at? If you're not that guy, trying hard to convey otherwise will…
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:54 PM
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And people are still paying crazy amounts for "text guides". Listen to this dude and write it down.
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:20 PM
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In my opinion you're putting way too much effort on approaches. The more you focus on approaching the more valuable they become to you, thus putting you in that needy state in search of daily validation which overall makes you look less and less attractive - adding up to more rejections. Make yourself the priority and keep investing on those kind of healthy habits you mentioned. I'm not telling you to stop approaching all together but rather just go for the ones you really feel attracted instead…
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:10 PM
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Maybe she's shy. Maybe she's just not interested in you. Try teasing, make assumptions to spike her up. Either way if it's not going any further than that perhaps it's time to move on and stop caring about it.
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:01 PM
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I'm sure it is but going down in that self-victimizing spiral will not do you any good. Get healthy and reclaim what's yours. Read "Models" by Mark Manson while you're bored out of your mind in that hospital. Very uplifting way to build a strong confident foundation.
/r/seduction25/06/19 01:23 PM
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Your priority right now should be getting healthy. As far as I can tell you already understand that being in a more balanced state of mind helps you with women, higher quality women, so don't derail yourself from overcoming depression.
/r/seduction25/06/19 01:16 PM
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You have to convey intention and show sexuality. Work on your teases and calibrated physical escalations.
/r/seduction25/06/19 01:09 PM
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I wasn't even thinking about STD's buddy. When a person develops drug habits or any kind of unhealthy obsessions it's a clear message that this person is not emotionally/mentally stable. For me that's a turn off, we should be building better standards that go beyond appearance. I've brought way too many fucked up women back in the day to my place just to get off, was it worth it? Maybe for 20 min. Other than that it's just a headache in the making.
/r/seduction25/06/19 01:05 PM
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You should be happy you're not getting with a junkie.
/r/seduction25/06/19 12:55 PM
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The way to overcome approach anxiety - or any fear whatsoever - is by doing exposure therapy. Work your way up until you're comfortable with approaching and interacting with women. You do this by overcoming small steps at a time. A practical example would be: Start by doing locked eye contact with anyone you see going around your day (men and women), don't move your eyes away until they do first; When you're comfortable with eye contact, keep on doing it but add a smile and perhaps an easygoing …
/r/seduction25/06/19 11:47 AM
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Emotional stability and sense of humour. Nothing builds a better partnership like no drama and a lot of laughter/good vibes.
/r/seduction25/06/19 11:12 AM
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So you see her as "girlfriend material" but want to start off by being dishonest. You realize how counter-intuitive that sounds? This is manipulative behavior and it boils down to being a needy guy. Of course it can work for a bit but overall you'll just start losing women because they see right through the bullshit once they really get to know you. My advice, be a man and own your shit. Easier to be turned off by a manipulative needy guy than a guy who didn't have a girlfriend before.
/r/seduction25/06/19 11:05 AM
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This is one of the reasons why one should work on himself and lay a strong foundation of confidence and non-neediness before going all in with approaching. First you have to realize you'll inevitably get rejected by women at some point. Maybe your approach wasn't the best, maybe she really does have a boyfriend, maybe it just wasn't the best time to do it. All in all, keep in mind that it's most likely not your fault that she rejected you. By the way - not being her type is not a flaw, it's a ma…
/r/seduction24/06/19 09:11 PM
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The type that are really over dramatic, the ones that blow up your phone when you take time to text back, the ones that start arguments over nonsense, get jealous and over react. Basically really needy and manipulative girls
/r/seduction21/06/19 06:55 PM
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Hey man, honestly I'm not even sure what emotional intelligence stands for and I'm always really skeptical about books that are somewhat paralel with self-help. Actually the only book I usually recommend on this sub is "Models" by Mark Manson, it lays out a great foundation that goes beyond techniques and the usual pua gimmicks. Not sure if it is what you're looking for but def give it a read if you haven't yet!
/r/seduction21/06/19 04:17 PM
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100$ to understand texting. PUA's are better at manipulating men rather than women.
/r/seduction21/06/19 03:03 PM
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Love this! Binary is the way to go haha
/r/seduction21/06/19 01:49 PM
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Those responses reinforce the fact that attraction is not something that logical and that's why a lot guys struggle when they're overly fixated on learning game theory and technique. Also, I'd like to point out that there are way too many men out there getting obsessed with getting away from that "nice guy" concept. What they don't realize is that good manners, empathy and an overall positive mindset don't make you a "nice guy". Being needy and a pushover does. As a result you got insecure confu…
/r/seduction21/06/19 09:44 AM
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Do you really think it was because you're leaner or because you're feeling more confident with your cut and that changes your overall approach and presence? I'm saying this because some girls prefer leaner guys, others really like the bulky dude so the attraction is kind of a variable - either way, you're working out so that gives you instant value. I think what's really happening is that you feel better like this and therefore your approaches are significantly better, also, you've spent more ti…
/r/seduction21/06/19 08:27 AM
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I think what's happening is that girls are feeling really uncomfortable and just lay out a fake number or give their real number and don't connect because they're probably fearful at that moment and just want to get out of it asap. Go out alone our with other people.
/r/seduction20/06/19 06:49 PM
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If you're in need to get out of your comfort zone and practicing your social skills then probably you should get some time off to approach. Other than that just stick to going through your day and approach only if you're really attracted by someone you passed by. Key factor is always remembering to not take rejections personally and enjoying interactions for what they are.
/r/seduction20/06/19 06:09 PM
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Building confidence is something you need to work by yourself, you'll never get truly confident because of something or someone else. Don't be someone's project, be your own project. How the fuck is this even being debated? Take this kind of advice and watch how it goes. See how life and people treat you when don't take action to make yourself the best you can be, see how it goes if you remain insecure and in comfort zone throughout your life.
/r/seduction20/06/19 12:42 PM
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That's exactly the mindset you should stick with every time you meet women. By the way, let me just rephrase that second paragraph - Then what happens? She either get's aroused and starts escalating on you; you try later on and she's receptive; you try later on, she keeps on stoping you and then you just stop it all together and move on.
/r/seduction20/06/19 08:36 AM
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You might be right about it. And you might actually escalated properly. The thing is, if she's not so receptive about it you should calibrate and stop. Instead of trying to hard to get with her (this demonstrates neediness) you should just ignore and stop it right there, start talking about something else like it's nothing. Then what happens? She either get's aroused and starts escalating on you or you try later on, she keeps on stoping you and then you just stop it all together and move on. Som…
/r/seduction20/06/19 08:19 AM
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You're doing this from a wrong kind of mindset. You want to be with her because she got away from you in the past, it's an ego thing. Ask yourself if it's worth it to be with someone you already know how they'll turn out to be, specially if your reason is just a way to cope with past rejections. Let me put it this way, sometimes analogies work better: Last week I went down town to eat in a restaurant I've never been before, the place looked great but the food was bad and expensive. Will I go bac…
/r/seduction20/06/19 08:09 AM
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Just because you're friendly doesn't mean she'll suck your dick. Meditation is an amazing skill and it can definitely help you with most of the things you deal with in life, being positive is a great state of mind overall but that doesn't mean you can handle yourself in all kinds of social situations. Of course people will prefer to interact with someone who's in a good mood but you need to be able to calibrate according to the context and mood of other people as well, you need to be able to esc…
/r/seduction20/06/19 07:50 AM
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This reply is awful. To any of you insecure guys out there: never submit yourself to a pity fuck, never become a girl's lab rat. Confident guys know how to treat a woman because they respect people and have empathy towards others, if you think a douchebag is confident then think otherwise. He's just compensating over some deeper issues. Any needy guy won't be able to mantain an healthy relationship, he will just be lead on and manipulated by women until it all becomes too sour to deal with it. A…
/r/seduction20/06/19 07:30 AM
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They're dead from the start. If it was really helpful then why would you keep on watching they're stuff for years? It's PUA/Self-Help, they don't really want to help you, they want to get you on their infinite loop of momentary high without really giving you a simple pragmatic approach on how you should improve yourself so the cash keeps flowing in. Everything you need to comprehend is already out there - a lot of times you naturally know what you should be doing but don't actually take a stand …
/r/seduction19/06/19 03:05 PM
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There's plenty of good advice around Seddit. You just have to filter out the shit, the marketing and the trolls.
/r/seduction19/06/19 02:53 PM
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Absolutely. Building your confidence is a gradual process, you don't just wake up one day and become what you wish to be. You take it step by step and build it up. One thing that a lot of people don't realize though is that true confidence is not a thing you just work on for a while and then you got it for life. You should always be cultivating that essence on a daily basis, the only difference between building it from scratch and keep the momentum going when you're already a confident man is th…
/r/seduction19/06/19 09:41 AM
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Quality post buddy!
/r/seduction19/06/19 08:35 AM
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How about you just be a grown-up and own your shit.
/r/seduction18/06/19 09:56 PM
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That's bullshit and I've seen it with my own eyes. I've seen really good looking guys get blown-off because they lack confidence and social skills, I've seen ugly dudes getting great girls, hell I even know about a dude with no arms and legs that got married and had kids. Just because you're not good with women don't blame it on your appearance, your shitty negative needy behavior is what's repelling women. Work on yourself.
/r/seduction18/06/19 06:03 PM
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Don't you feel attracted by other women even while being in a relationship? It's a natural thing, it only becomes a problem if she cheats on you.
/r/seduction18/06/19 04:37 PM
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There's no real ratio, conversations flow naturally. But if you're asking more questions than giving your own input most of the time then it's probably best that you start working on your communication skills. Understand the concept of multi-threading, open questions, assumptions and other related techniques. Be comfortable with laying out your opinions or just ramble about your experiences, if you feel like you're not interesting enough to talk about yourself or other subjects, cultivate that b…
/r/seduction18/06/19 01:57 PM
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It really depends. If you're hanging out and talking to her regulary then you're the best one to understand how she could react to it. Anyway, overall it's just a matter of timing, mood and delivery. My advice would be keep it natural and genuine, don't force anything you're not willing to convey in person. Congruence is a big thing for people.
/r/seduction18/06/19 01:38 PM
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Then work on your communication skills. Understand the concepts of multi-threading, open questions, active listening and genuine interest, assumptions and other related techniques. Work on your speech dynamics as well (tonality, silent pauses, change in rhythm etc.). Better body language and eye contact will help you as well.
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:58 PM
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It depends on what you're trying to do. If you're looking to improve your confidence with women, making new friends it's a way of you practicing your social skills. That's fine. But don't waste your time entertaning women, you should have the hability to enjoy an interaction and get some humour naturally in there. Definitely not doing it like some jester that is going around being funny thinking it will attract girls.
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:45 PM
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So you do have fine social skills. Just need to be comfortable enough to lay them out with new people. So it's a matter of building up that confidence and comfort when talking to girls as opposed to improving your communication skills. However, if you do need to work on your communication skills understand the concepts of multi-threading, open questions, assumptions and other related techniques. Good luck buddy
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:18 PM
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Well then probably you're not doing it right. I'm not trying to put you down dude, just being honest about it. It's an ongoing process but you should be seeing a lot of results by now. Change your approach if you're not happy with the results you're getting.
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:11 PM
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Advanced mode is just another way of telling you're completely comfortable with yourself. Non-needy and naturally confident. Genuine and not a douchebag. Don't fall for who's promoting "advanced techniques", that's just bs.
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:03 PM
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You should be more ambitious buddy, even if you feel like the odds are against you. Take some time to aknowledge what are the traits that are limiting you, write them down and desmistify what you can do to improve them. Maybe you're not doing the best you can image wise, maybe you're not comfortable enough to talk to girls, maybe you're showing neediness and getting blown out or friendzoned. Maybe it's a bit of everything! Good news though, you can work and improve on every single aspect to some…
/r/seduction18/06/19 11:59 AM
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It matters in the sense that it is an attractive trait for women if you have a lower sounding voice. However, it should come across as being your natural tone. Some guys go all in with this and sound just how they really are - insecure men trying to over-compensate by speaking like a sargeant. If you feel like your voice isn't lower enough you can train it. Also, a lot of times if you are over-excited when speaking your voice will tend to be in a higher tone. Remain chill. Another thing that see…
/r/seduction18/06/19 09:34 AM
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People tend to create this perfected version of whom they're into and most of the time it really doesn't match who the other person really is. Take some time to think about it and realize what's real and what's a construct you created by being too caught up on your fantasies. Maybe you'll realize this was just a projection of you're neediness. If you understand it on a logical level then it will be easier to get over it. Also, invest your time in yourself and with your friends. "An idle mind is …
/r/seduction18/06/19 09:07 AM
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It's just casual flirting, everyone does it even on an unconscious level. Have fun with it. You even realize it's helping you....no need to be bitter about it
/r/seduction18/06/19 09:00 AM
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If they answer you, do not believe them. An "alpha" wouldn't aknowledge himself like that, right? Haha. For real tho, these terms are futile and a lot of times men won't have a clue about what that's supposed to mean, then you start getting insecure guys acting like bossy douchebags to prove some point. Women don't like jerks, they like true confidence - which is related to being non-needy as opposed to being an asshole. Most women will see right through that masked bullshit and be turned off by…
/r/seduction17/06/19 10:45 PM
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Is it because you're handsome or are you just gaming too much?
/r/seduction17/06/19 10:27 PM
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If you work your way into cultivating these fundamentals game will just be a natural outcome of what you truly are. Most if not all of the techniques you're learning about are a organic display of how a naturally confident, attractive man behaves. Approaches, body language, push-pulls, communication skills.. All this stuff wasn't invented by some PUA pioneer, it was observed and documented so that out of touch men could embrace those same patterns of behavior. That being said, invest in yourself…
/r/seduction17/06/19 01:35 PM
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You got it buddy! Be present, be genuine and have fun. It's a mistake to get obsessed and way to caught up on game technique and theory, people are just draining themselves and not enjoying interactions for what they are. Keep it going dude!
/r/seduction17/06/19 11:52 AM
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Exactly!
/r/seduction17/06/19 09:41 AM
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Last time I was at a techno club with my buddies there were a lot of girls around. I was not trying to pull anything, just really enjoy my time with the guys. Anyway, went up to a girl to ask for a lighter (no other intention whatsoever). Her friend was staring at me and then proceeded to approach me and hand me out a couple of stickers (she was part of the crew promoting the party that night). We casually spoke for a second and I complimented her on her looks. Her friend came right away and pul…
/r/seduction17/06/19 09:36 AM
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Seems like you're missing out on some deeper connections with people. It's hard to cultivate great friendships if you're always on the move.
/r/seduction16/06/19 11:10 PM
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How do you know it's a lie?
/r/seduction16/06/19 11:06 PM
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What that print shows: too many questions; last answer is really butthurt and overreactive - conveys neediness.
/r/seduction16/06/19 08:19 PM
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Throw her things away and move on. That's the only advice you should be getting on your post.
/r/seduction16/06/19 08:17 PM
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You do realize you're saying that by the time you're 28, it's too late to be with different women.. That's ridiculous buddy. Do whatever feels right for you, if you really like that girl and things go great, why would you get away from having a relationship? Just be honest about what you really want A good friend of mine was married for over 15 years. He changed his lazy ass married behaviour, start grooming and going to the gym, started really investing in himself. Now he's way past 50 and is g…
/r/seduction16/06/19 01:26 PM
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Don't get annoyed, get away. Some people are emotionally unstable and insecure so they feel the need to manipulate others just so they can have that ecstasy of being in control and having others want them. It's another face of what neediness looks like.
/r/seduction16/06/19 12:10 PM
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It's a great read! People who focus way to much on pick-up technique should take a look at the first few chapters of this book.
/r/seduction16/06/19 11:04 AM
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Try dressing up a bit more adultish. Maybe your behaviour is also something you could work on, a more calm and secure vibe tens to be a sign of an older and more mature man. But hey, having younger features will help you out on the long-run. Will be easier to attract women when you're pass your 30's and still look fresh!
/r/seduction16/06/19 10:15 AM
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You didn't really get what I said. It's not that cold approach doesn't work or is a bad thing per se, I do it when I find a woman attractive, it depends on how you're able to deal it it because most of your interactions will end in rejections unless you're good looking and have great game. So what did attract women for millions of years, when we were just small hunter-gathered tribes?(civilizations is just over 10 thousand years old, a tiny spectre of human existence) There was no real material …
/r/seduction16/06/19 09:46 AM
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Bow? Are you posting from the XVII century?
/r/seduction15/06/19 07:51 PM
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I'd say something along the lines of exposure therapy. Instead of trying to go all in with a girl you find attractive, start by overcoming small boundaries daily. For example, start by doing eye contact with random people on the street. When you feel comfortable with that, start smiling/saying "hi" while you're just going through your day. Step by step you'll begin to realize it is not a big deal and it will actually improve your confidence and overall mood. After that, maybe stop a girl and ask…
/r/seduction15/06/19 02:30 PM
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Come on buddy, it's just common sense. How do you remove interest? Stop showing interest, be dry or ignore without being rude. Just like a regular person does when he's/she's not interested in someone or something.
/r/seduction15/06/19 12:43 PM
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Why should you care? Are you going to fake it and manipulate those girls just so you can sleep with them? That would just really ruin it for you. Be a man.
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:49 PM
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You just answered your own question. Be honest about it. How do I let the girls know I'm not looking for something serious?
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:40 PM
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Just throw a compliment out there that conveys you're attracted to her and don't over use them because that comes across as needy. You can use all these techniques but if you're just shooting them up with an insecure vibe that will automatically show that you're not that "high-value male" you're trying to portray. So unless she's fucked up or has some deep emotional issues and insecurities all those gimmicks won't work. You see what I'm saying?
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:35 PM
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At the time she could've embraced you just because she was down and feeling the need to be sexually validated by someone, even though she's not really attracted to you. There are a lot of variables but you'll definitely get your odds up if you work on yourself. For me, the one true "bottom line" is - Some girls will like you, some won't. You can be the most amazing human being out there and some women will reject you anyway. That's it, never take it personally.
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:21 PM
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What's wrong with showing interest? You have to do it, othertwise things will just become platonic and your chances of getting something out of it (besides a long boring conversation) are gone. You should be showing intent, even if you go indirect while opening at some point you have to do it and shouldn't be waiting much to. Women are really intuitive beings, if you're coming in with a lot of random indirect shit just to get them to talk and after a long while start showing intent they can real…
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:11 PM
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Hey buddy, you're really overthinking this. Bottomline it is just a night out with a girl you enjoy being with, only a change of scenario. Anyway, don't want to leave you hanging there: 1) Go with the flow but try to lead and escalate if you feel like making a move or at least sense her attraction. 2) Shirt/polo is fine either way, I'd say no shorts but really it dependes on the context. So search the club over facebook/instagram and take a look at the pictures, what are the other guys mostly we…
/r/seduction14/06/19 04:00 PM
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You should be demonstrating intent directly by doing, for example, a compliment. You can do that by approaching directly or doing it a few minutes later on in the interaction (if you opened indirectly). Direct sexual intent can work if you escalated properly and she's really responsive. You can do this in daygame but I assure you the odds play in your favour if you do it by night because girls are naturally more receptive. I too am not a big fan of clubs but let me tell you something, last 5/6 t…
/r/seduction14/06/19 01:08 PM
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Are you showing intent? If you feel like you're just putting out a friendly, platonic vibe then put more focus in physical escalation, teasing and of course showing direct sexual intention. Also, it's probably time to start going out at night. Change the logistics, nightime (bars, clubs etc.) is when people are more sexually receptive and in an overall good mood.
/r/seduction14/06/19 12:25 PM
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That fact that you're honest about your own "flaws" is probably the biggest step on overcoming them and improving yourself. Most people rely on defense mechanisms to avoid taking responsability for their own failures (blaming others etc.) so more power to you brother. I'd advise to take a look at "Models" by Mark Manson, first few chapters could be really helpful for you right now. Cheers
/r/seduction14/06/19 11:39 AM
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There's nothing wrong with you per se however, you do come across as too invested, needy and overreactive. Think about it, if you look good then it's just a matter of behaviour. Change that.
/r/seduction14/06/19 08:32 AM
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It is. The only difference being the greater amount of people that invest in self-development as opposed to pick-up
/r/seduction13/06/19 09:20 PM
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There's only so much you can talk about in pick-up. There's theory, there's technique and everything is basically out there by now, recycled a thousand times. It's a dead and oversaturated market, that's why coaches/companies shift their business elsewhere.
/r/seduction13/06/19 07:53 PM
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If you're working on being the best you can be then extroversion will come naturally. The traits you should be cultivating to improve yourself are also the one's that get you closer to people, be it intelect (in a interesting not pretentious way), humour, tranquility/well being etc.. All these characteristics have a role in your overall confidence and mood so that will definitely improve your hability to socialize. Keep in mind that human beings are social creatures and isolation is not a safe e…
/r/seduction12/06/19 10:03 PM
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That "maybe" is a shit-test/playing hard to get. You should never react to it in a serious manner. Ignore, tease or just be playful with those kind of comments.
/r/seduction12/06/19 07:44 PM
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If you got the number by the pretext of a school group chat then you shouldn't try to sneak your way in by texting her. Women aren't stupid, she'll get the feeling you got an excuse to get her number and flirt with her and that will definitely lower your value in her eyes. Interact with her in person.
/r/seduction12/06/19 07:33 PM
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You shouldn't question her "maybe" in the first place. Comes across as needy. That being said, I'd leave it at that and look for other opportunities to take a stand in the future.
/r/seduction12/06/19 07:11 PM
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If you feel like having sex (which, as a man, you probably will) and you comprehend she too is willing to have sex with you, why would you deny it to "build sexual tension"? That can take a turn and make her lose interest.
/r/seduction12/06/19 06:57 PM
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My advice, be direct with your intentions. You don't have feelings for this girl, just attraction and nostalgia. Cut the small talk shit and tell her you want her. If you get friendzoned, move on. You're just 18, so much opportunity around to "do some fun shit".
/r/seduction12/06/19 06:46 PM
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Trying to be interesting and meaningfull is try-hard. Be yourself. If you feel like you're not interesting enough then start cultivating that: read books, learn about different topics, experience new things. As far as communication skills go - understand the concept of multi-threading, open questions, tonality and speech dynamics. Be present and actively listen to her, let her invest in the conversation, make her talk about what she's interested/passioned about while still giving your input and …
/r/seduction12/06/19 06:21 PM
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