Something I've noticed from 3 years of being in the game is that casual sex legitimately doesn't work for me.

Like I actually feel shitty after having sex with a random girl or even a fuck buddy to be honest with you. Like chemically shitty. Like my mood goes down. It's the weirdest thing.

The only girl I didn't have this issue with was my Girlfriend. OR when it was a girl that I saw girlfriend potential in.. cos then it didn't feel like just using them to get off.

but every other girl.. after sex... I feel crappy. It didn't matter if they were hot af.. ugly af... cool personality.. annoying.. Whatever. The end result was always this weird pit in my stomach where I felt like what I did was like.. fucked up or something. It's this weird empty feeling where you're like "what am I doing".

it's really strange cos it happens with EVERY GIRL, girls i fucked on the first night, girls i've been fucking for months.

The only reason I still do casual sex is because if I don't get laid for like 2 weeks the antsyness and frustration that builds up is worse than the temporary empty feeling of having casual sex. And the funny part is that if i haven't fucked for like a month or 2 and then finally get laid... I SITLL feel this empty feeling afterwards. It's really strange.

It makes me think that jordan peterson was right when he said that you cannot divorce sex from emotion. At this point the only reason I have casual sex is to get my fix every once in a while so to speak.

I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this phenomenon. My theory is that the bad feeling comes form knowing you used someone for sex and ultimately that is what casual sex is lets be honest. And that's happening on my side and the girls side. on a One night stand or fuck buddy thing, we're both just there to get off to be honest. I think there is just something viscerally off putting about using someone for sex EVEN IF they are also using you for sex. Even if both of you are using each other for the same reason... it just feels weird. Cos how do you fuck someone, be that close with them... and also detach emotion from it... Like you can't. I feel like the whole hook up culture is predicated on the lie that you can have meaningless sex... but honestly I don't think you can. Like literally how do you have 100% meaningless sex.. i just don't think it's possible because you're fucking inside someone lol it doesn't much closer than that does it.

i think the bad feeling comes from the cognitive dissonance between doing something that is fundamentally intimate but then being so casual about it like it was a game of tennis or something.

And the thing that makes me really really really think that is the case is that out of like the 30 lays i've had... the ONLY ONE that didn't feel wrong was my girlfriend.