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| 6 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.Look, this is about having a happy and healthy relationship and I can promise you that if you have a quid pro quo relationship, it won't be happy or healthy. I can't do things for my husband in hopes that he then does things for me because I'm always going to be numbering my hopes and desires in my mind and noticing when he doesn't meet my expectations. I used to have a bad habit of thinking about what I hoped he'd get done during the day when I left for work, 'gosh, I hope he cleaned the kitche… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 07:09 PM |
| 5 | My friends are demanding me to apologize for the changes I've made in my lifeExactly. When you use non-RP terms, many people agree with you, especially when they can see how happy you are. There is no reason to be so "outspoken". | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 03:06 AM |
| 9 | My friends are demanding me to apologize for the changes I've made in my lifeIt could be several things. First, it could be that your changes are intimidating to your friends and they are looking to pull you back in the fold. Second, it could be that you are doing what my newly vegan friends do- inundate my Facebook page with their new religion and intolerant that I don't share their views. My guess is that it's probably a little of both. You know they are progressive and you are shocked when they question your RedPill posts??? Like HappySnowGirl says, you baited them, d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 03:03 AM |
| 1 | A more detailed discussion about her cycle and how to use it to your advantage- also a lady's experience.I did a quick google search, so obviously something you can also do as well, and there are some non-hormonal treatments that she could use including mild steroids and a medication called nafarelin, which is a nasal spray she takes throughout her cycle. I'm not a medical provider but I thought I'd mention it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/15 04:38 AM |
| 1 | A more detailed discussion about her cycle and how to use it to your advantage- also a lady's experience.PMS usually starts a few days (2-3) before the period and should resolve the day she starts her period. PMS is due to the fluctuations of hormones which levels out once the period begins. Cramps typically start the day before or the first day of the period and stop a day or two into the period. They are usually the worst on the heaviest flow day and get better from there until her period is over. Cramps are typically caused by the cervix opening to let the blood out and by the contraction of the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/15 04:22 AM |
| 1 | A more detailed discussion about her cycle and how to use it to your advantage- also a lady's experience.The pain could be because of all sorts of problems, such as endometeosis. Unfortunately that is hard to diagnosis without exploratory surgery. Some women have luck with perscription pain meds and muscle relaxants. Some women have less pain if they use pads instead of tampons. Heat is usually good- heating pads, hot baths, and those chemical reaction heating pads that you stick to her underwear. I am skeptical but a few of my friends swear by acupuncture. The pain is closest to really bad diarrhe… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/02/15 05:10 AM |
| 1 | A more detailed discussion about her cycle and how to use it to your advantage- also a lady's experience.Even women often think their sexual desire is a mystery. Truth is, most women are totally predictable. Cd 14, I am ready for anything- especially sex god stuff. Cd 20...meh. Like clockwork. Mother Nature is powerful. But I would take a glass of wine and a good bar of chocolate over midol any day. ;) but yes, I would melt if he "just happened" to pick up my favorite chocolate/treat that day, and yes, I would be very pliable in the bedroom after that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/02/15 09:08 PM |
| 1 | How to build boundaries during your transitionThis was wonderful and useful in many areas of life. Thank you for taking the time to write it all out. Boundaries make me feel safe in myself. I know he won't tolerate something so I am held to that higher standard. Being a crazy woman doesn't feel good even to the woman, boundaries help us stay calm because we know we can't go there so we just don't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/02/15 08:12 PM |
| 5 | I am truly fascinated by a females natural ability to create an assemblage of orbiters, betas and alphas to tend to her different "needs".So are you faulting her for not using a guy for his money and instead figuring it out on her own? | /r/TheRedPill | 11/02/15 04:40 AM |
| 4 | My husband has suggested I start taking therapy and anxiety medication. I'm hesitant.What a bunch of internet strangers have to say shouldn't have nearly the weight of what your husband says. If he makes a reasonable request (and meds and/or therapy when you have a significant mental illness is reasonable), you should at least give it a try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/15 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Shit test during sex...Suggestions?From a woman's perspective, if I brought up a table of hot girls during really good sex, I probably want some sort of dirty talk. It turns me on when I see women want my husband. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/15 02:01 AM |
| 5 | How NOT to act..I would add, "we can do whatever you want to do!" and "whatever makes you happy," or "as long as you are happy, I'm happy,". | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/15 01:54 AM |
| 2 | How many got debt along with the girl?I see my husband's schooling as a smart investment. To humble-brag, he said that he never cared about money or career before me and wanting a family with me, and our relationship inspired him to step up. He picked computer programming because he's good at it, it pays well, and he wants to support his family. swoon :) I don't feel any resentment about living extremely frugally and supporting us. He has gotten straight As in school, and is graduating this summer after only being in school for 2.5 … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/15 09:11 PM |
| 2 | How many got debt along with the girl?My husband and I are a mixed bag. I had about $15k of student loan debt with a masters degree that I do use and need, but a credit score over 800, and financial knowledge given to me by very savvy parents. Husband had no student loan debt but no degree, 300-ish credit score, and zero financial knowledge that was also a gift from his parents. He is graduating this summer with $40K in student loan debt but in a marketable degree and he will start with a higher salary than I have after 8 years of e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/15 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Saying no to bad sexSure. Understandable. It will get better if you listen to these guys and I believe your wife will be much happier in the bedroom too. Good luck. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/15 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Saying no to bad sexI had terrible troubles with hormonal birth control. It killed my libido but as soon as I got off of it, my body roared back to life. There is nothing like ovulation week, it feels so good and so sexy. If her libido is down even after stopping the hormonal birth control, it probably wasn't the birth control. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/15 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming financial issuesIn about 6 months I will probably be in the same situation you are, Baker. My entire relationship/marriage I have made more money but he is graduating this summer in a field that he will start at a higher pay grad than I have now. I'm nervous about how I will react to this very good thing. I fight being vulnerable already and I'm going have a hard time 'losing value' even though this has been the plan all along. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 09:22 PM |
| 8 | A good reminder: "not letting yourself go" isn't just about looksI think as soon as you realized that you overreacted you need to apologize. Try to do it immediately and not wait until later in the day because the sooner you can pair being sorry and admitting your mistake, the easier it will be to have that thought before you say the bitchy thing. Getting into an anxiety/guilt cycle isn't helping anyone. I think you sound anxious, not mean. Anxiety and controlling often go together because in your head getting the right toothpaste is VERY IMPORTANT and if you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 09:15 PM |
| 8 | A good reminder: "not letting yourself go" isn't just about looksIf my husband is clearly and totally wrong on something, I'll tell him. For example, if we are at the store and we like Crest toothpaste, and he grabs Colgate toothpaste, I'll let him know that we like and use Crest. "Hey love, did you mean to grab Colgate instead of Crest?" and leave it there. If he wants to go back and get Crest he will or if he doesn't, he won't. This is a really small and silly example but I don't think just allowing a man to be wrong simply because he is a man is fair to an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 08:15 PM |
| 5 | How do I approach the subject of weight loss with my fiance?The one thing we aren't allowed to do with anyone but our romantic partner is have sex. We can see movies or have dinner with friends, we can have platonic roommates, we can pay for massages, but we can only have sex with a SO. Think long and hard before tying your life to someone you don't want to have sex with because that means you never get to have satisfying sex ever. He has great qualities, that is lovely, and sometimes a woman can fall in love with and be sexually attracted to someone she… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 01:58 AM |
| 8 | cute but warm sleepwear ideasAdorable! I could wear them over leggings! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Have you talked your man out of a passion of his and did it turn you off?I've never talked Husband out of a sport or hobby but I can imagine having that urge if it were a particularly dangerous one. It would be a real struggle to me to know Husband's life/health was in danger. A friend of mine, her husband is in the armed forces and when he is deployed she suffers greatly in fear for his life. We've had many talks about how she manages and communicates her fear. Sometimes she has the urge to tell him she can't stand the fear any longer and he needs to get out, but sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/15 07:25 PM |
| 5 | Embracing Femininity and Sensuality: How About... African Waist Beads :)Thank you for sharing! I really enjoyed hearing about them. I don't think I can pull them off but I've seen women wear them and have admired the look but I had no idea about the entire culture behind them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/15 07:19 PM |
| 2 | I tied her up tonightI don't know how to help you achieve it, I will leave that to the husbands, but I can tell you that as a woman I am not sore the next day if I am truly turned on and ready to go before intercourse. If I am not and we have to supplement with a lot of lube I am sore the next day but never for two days in a row. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/15 07:18 AM |
| 5 | 3 Weeks in and Loving itI can imagine your wife right now bragging to her girl friends about how awesome her husband is. Prior to RP I have no idea how important sex is to men and I think many women don't know. Men need to have sex to feel loved and supported and women need to feel loved and supported to have sex. I think many marital issues come down to that right there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/15 07:05 AM |
| 1 | How to communicate with HusbandGood point. I don't like messing up but trying too hard to be perfect can remove all of the fun. I think my instinct to directly communicate is being supported by the community. I think it just threw me for a loop when I saw advice from that post that endorsed conditioning her husband instead of talking to him about the problem. It is a constant struggle for me not to be controlling so I wanted to check myself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/01/15 01:56 AM |
| 1 | How to communicate with HusbandThat's interesting. There's nothing that I'm frustrated with with Husband. If I'm worried about something I just tell him that I'm worried. My concern was the communicate less thing, but now that I've gone back and look at it, that advice was geared towards men, not women. I will keep in mind 'this really bugs me' if something should pop up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/15 02:00 AM |
| 1 | How to communicate with HusbandIf your wife is upset or frustrated with something you are doing, how do you like for her to handle it? I sometimes have trouble noticing if I'm shit-testing or bring up valid concerns. I also over-think everything :) . | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/15 01:48 AM |
| 2 | How to communicate with HusbandThis specific situation didn't apply to my husband but if it had I think I would have said something like, "The mayo went bad because it was left out. How would you like for me to handle food items being left out?" or if I were frustrated I might tell him something like, "I'm frustrated because the mayo was left out and I'm worried about staying on budget for food,". I don't know if that's aggressive or just giving him information about myself and my thoughts. Is that bad? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/15 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Occasional... TransgressionsIf he is not committed and therefore allowed to have sex with other women, you are his plate. Maybe his live-in plate that shares bills, but still his plate. If he marries you and is allowed to have sex with other women, then you have an understanding. But it sounds like he isn't willing to marry you even if he is allowed 'occasional transgressions', and that should tell you something about his level of seriousness about you. Personally I could never do this and from how much anxiety all of this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 11:16 PM |
| 13 | Occasional... TransgressionsI am concerned that you are a plate. If you don't want to be his plate you need to move on. You've been together a year and a half, if he isn't certain and ready to commit, he will never be certain and ready to commit. He broke up with you because he is unwilling to be monogamous. You need to believe him that that he doesn't want a monogamous relationship and you need to believe yourself that you do. We do recommend that you not sleep with a man until you have the commitment of a monogamous rela… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone here ever 'settled' for a guy? How did it go?It means that you need to be able to be the level of woman who would attract the level of man you want to date. If you want to date someone who is in the top 20% of intelligence, looks, income, and personality, that means he is in the top .16% of men (math is not my strong point, someone feel free to correct me), so if you aren't in the top .16% of women, your standards are too high. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 09:14 PM |
| 6 | Occasional... TransgressionsI'd argue that if it is understood in the relationship that outside sex is not allowed, even if the woman doesn't have explicit knowledge of the cheating, it poisons the relationship due to everything that must go into keeping it secret. Cheating without the woman knowing requires at the very least lying, and lying breaks down a relationship and destroys intimacy. Cheating and not being caught requires STD checks, prevention of pregnancy, and taking at least some amount of resources away from th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 09:08 PM |
| 4 | Do you honestly enjoy sex everytime?Have you ever enjoyed sex? From other posts it sounds like it always hurts and, I'm not a doctor, it sounds like you aren't getting physically aroused. Just as a man's penis fills with blood when he is aroused, your vagina should fill with blood. Your vaginal walls should tent, the labia will open, and the tissue will be plump and flexible. You should also create secretions that lubricate the skin. It should be enough lubrication that your labia and vaginal walls get slippery to the touch. If th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 07:26 PM |
| 8 | I Wasn't Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn't FairI saw this when it first hit 2x and it made me very angry. First, the wife never says she apologized for being so awful. Second, she was being abusive. I mean, great that she came to the realizations that she came to, but if the gender roles were reversed everyone would be screaming that he was being abusive and she should leave. Her behavior was inexcusable. She was awful awful awful. I do hope she has turned her life around and started being decent but ugh, what a terrible harpie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 03:24 AM |
| 1 | One-itis.He may be dark triad. Dark triad men are like a bad addiction for many women. True dark triad men are not marriage-quality men. Cut all contact, delete all social media contacts, block from phone, etc. It hurts but the more completely you break things off, the sooner you will feel better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 03:16 AM |
| 0 | Communicating without nagging?I disagree with your advice. It is not passive aggressive (as you said above) to talk to your captain about a problem. It is passive aggressive to purposefully create a situation in which he would want something and not have it in order to teach him a lesson. That's manipulative and treating your captain like a child. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Communicating without nagging?I'm a big fan of just talking to him. Say it simply, respectfully, clearly, and without that horrible tone that we ladies can get. Ask him what you should do about it and then take his advice. Something like, "Hey honey, now that I'm making dinner, I've noticed that you tend to leave food out after making a snack. Sometimes it goes stale or bad before I notice it to put it away. What would you like done about this?" and then shut up. (I tend to want to blather on like, "and I'm totally not upset… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 02:18 AM |
| 1 | My sister: "I feel like I could gain 100 pounds and my SO would still stay with me". I'd like your advice.I know know. I guess I'd just say she should talk to her boyfriend. Tell him how she feels and then see what he does with it. If he can step up he will and if he can't he won't. And if he can't step up then she needs to decide if she can be loving and faithful and if she can't she needs to leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/15 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Sensitive SO, how do I improve the situation?It's hard and you won't be good at it at first but start being aware of it and practice talking yourself down. Just like with anything worth doing it will take a lot of practice. I promise it is worth it because even if your relationship with this SO ends, this will happen in all of your relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/15 12:39 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill Woman and a Career.Absolutely. Maybe try a post on repill_couples or asktrp. My understand is though that it is a problem for the women, not the men. It's the women who lose attraction. Plus, like I said, for us it is temporary, so maybe that's why I'm fine with it now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/15 02:41 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill Woman and a Career.What do you think an appropriate RP response would be or what did you imagine we'd say? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/15 12:35 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill Woman and a Career.The reason you got the 'do what works for you and your man' is because your man has no problem with the situation. If he was unhappy, you'd get a different answer. I'm now wondering if it does bother you more than you were letting on. If you making more money than your man is a deal breaker for you, then you have some tough choices to make. You are either going to have to make less money or break up with him and attempt to find a higher earner. Ask your husband what he wants you to do and then d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 11:39 PM |
| 1 | "Send me a Selfie... No, a sexy one."I never sent a sexy selfie until I was married and even then I get nervous. I don't understand technology and I know there is some sort of 'cloud' where pictures can be uploaded and stored and hacked or something, no idea really. However, as a married woman, it is fun occasionally to send a sexy selfie. Husband seems to love it even though I don't know that I feel like I look all that sexy in them sometimes. It's an ego boost! But I don't recommend it at all unless married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 10:28 PM |
| 1 | The Hierarchy of MenI totally see my man as a prince charming so I have trouble imaging that they don't exist. Well, I will admit that I think he also values me for my body, not just my sparkling conversation. ;) I do have one question. You said that in the Marriageable Men that They do not mess up What does that mean? My question is because I don't expect perfection from my husband. He is allowed to break a dish or overdraw the bank account because he is human. I don't see that as an avoidable thing, that occasion… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 10:16 PM |
| 3 | The Hierarchy of WomenI really don't think you should even consider having kids with this person. If you are married or not, if custody/visitation comes into play and she has that attitude you may be in for a long fight. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/15 10:10 PM |
| 3 | The Hierarchy of WomenI totally agree with this. I just couldn't have a child with someone who wouldn't marry me even though logically I can understand the man's concern. Certainly I agree that marriage is a risky business. However, I want to at least downgrade my career to raise our children. I want to give everything to my SO but if he isn't my husband I don't think I can do that. I just don't think you are likely to get a good woman to have children with you without putting a ring on it. That said, get a good pren… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/15 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Sensitive SO, how do I improve the situation?I agree with the other commenters that your examples sound nit-picky and controlling and he doesn't sound overly sensitive. Control is almost always linked with anxiety. I battle The Control Freak inside my head a lot. Husband is much more laid back than I am and sometimes I go to Crazytown internally. This is how it would have gone for me and I think it went for you. 'I asked SO to take out the dog, he didn't take out the dog, if he can't take care of a dog how will he take care of our kids, if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 09:49 PM |
| 1 | The Red Pill Woman and a Career.I just wanted to chime in even though this is an old thread. My husband is a full-time student and sometimes works and sometimes doesn't, depending on internships/school load/etc. I work full-time so 90% of our household needs are paid for by me. This is a different situation because we know it's temporary (he graduates this summer!) but for our entire relationship thus far I have made more money than him. He will make more money than me once he starts working in his field of study. I really thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 09:33 PM |
| 3 | RPW with mental health issues. TL;DR: I'm batshit crazy and it's ruining my relationship. Has anyone successfully managed their mental health problems to have a happy red pill relationship?It's part of her job to be on your side and to let you know she is your ally. In therapy it is important for the therapist to have unconditional positive regard for his/her clients. However, the therapist should be able to tell between short term satisfaction, being told you are all right and your husband is all wrong, and long term satisfaction, having the type of marriage that works for you. She can still show positive regard for you (meaning, thinking you are a good person) and help you stop … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/15 09:09 PM |
| 6 | RPW with mental health issues. TL;DR: I'm batshit crazy and it's ruining my relationship. Has anyone successfully managed their mental health problems to have a happy red pill relationship?If your therapist is 'hating' on your man it is because you are complaining about your man. She only knows what you tell her. Have you told her all of things you say to him? Have you been honest how you treat him? If you said, "I criticized my husband a lot for nothing, for his weight, for not being XYZ," there is no therapist who would reply, "well you need to tell him to do more around the house,". I'm pretty sure if you said, "I've been a really bad wife to my husband, I love him, and I want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/15 01:38 AM |
| 3 | RPW with mental health issues. TL;DR: I'm batshit crazy and it's ruining my relationship. Has anyone successfully managed their mental health problems to have a happy red pill relationship?Ooosh, BPD is a rough one. It's rough on your husband and rough on you and I admire you both have gotten through 11 years of that madness. In my opinion, RP type relationships are actually wonderful for mental health issues in women IF AND ONLY IF you have an extremely good captain. Someone else said this and it's true, you both are playing this on hard mode. With BPD diet and exercise isn't going to cut it, this isn't just depression or PMS. This is a personality disorder which means that every… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/15 01:13 AM |
| 10 | Parents are influenced by modern society too much and are very disappointed. Here's why. Need input.I understand why your parents would be disappointed that you didn't graduate college. You went for two years and then dropped out shortly after you started dating- I'm sure that was a huge red flag for your family! Plus, depending on where you went to college, you may be in debt from student loans or your parents may have spent a lot of money on your tuition only to have you quit. The plan you and your man have is a perfectly fine plan but sometimes life doesn't pan out so neatly. You need to ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/14 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Opinion on relationship situation pleaseWhen he has his kids and I don't have mine, we always spend time together at his request. But when it's me and my kids and he is alone, he really doesn't come to my house or involve himself in our lives at all. He chooses to just hang home alone I think this is what's going on. When he has his kids he requests that you come over. You don't request that he come over when you have yours. How is he supposed to know you'd like him to? If you have asked and he has declined, it's safe to assume that h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/14 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Advice about sexHe is 33. We've been married a little over a year. He is a full time student and gets straight As- so mentally tiring, not physically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Advice about sexThat's a good idea, the not asking. I think I've been scared and tentative and if I want to do it, I should just do it. I doubt he'd shut me down. ;) Also, sometimes when I feel really guilty he will ask me if I would blame him if he had male infertility factor and I immediately realized, no, of course not. It would be 'us', not 'him'. But his sperm count is really high, so it's all me and it's hard being the one 'at fault'. He's really compassionate and I just need to accept it and be grateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Advice about sexOh no, I trust him completely. He is an unbelievably good man. Whenever I ask what he is into, he says that he's into the woman being turned on. In porn, in life, what gets him going is the lady being turned on, and he knows me so he knows when I'm pushing myself, and it doesn't do it for him. He's happier waiting it out and letting the tension build. I just need to trust that he's okay with it and not secretly wishing that he married someone without a broken vagina. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Advice about sexThat is true, it is temporary. Sometimes I lose sight of that and get overwhelmed. This. Is. Temporary. Someday, this will be a memory, and when it is, it won't hurt as much. It will simply be something we survived. In the meantime, I need to trust him and be grateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Advice about sexThank you for your reply, it was beautifully said. I hope you are feeling better, and you have nothing but good health in front of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/14 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Decide to be HappyThis is a great post because while most of the women here are in happy relationships, I have a few personal friends in varying degrees of unhappiness and sometimes I don't know how to support their marriages and their happiness while not bad-mouthing the husbands. When I read this I immediately thought of one of my good friends, I'll call her Sara and that she could have easily wrote the letter asking for advice. Sara's husband is a functional alcoholic and sometimes emotionally abusive. Sara is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 08:50 PM |
| 1 | "5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage"Any chance he is asexual? He doesn't want sex, sexual activities other than P in V, and he isn't looking at porn. Asexuality is starting to be seen as a sexual orientation, just like heterosexual or homosexual. That means that it probably can't be changed. If this is the case you have to negotiate or leave him for someone who shares your sexual orientation. Asexuality does not affect his gender identity- he would still do "man things". Also, get his testosterone level checked. Even if it is in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Men that do housework have less sexThe study you mention has gotten a lot of attention but there has been some critiques, the first being that the data is pretty old- from the 80s. The second being that it is a correlational study, not causational. We cannot conclude that it has anything to do with housework. It could be that the households where one parent stayed home with the child (overwhelming the wife), that she did more housework but there was less tension that with two working parents. Or that in households where the coupl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Porn IS better than the average womanAny time I've heard of a woman complaining about her man watching porn it is because she is worried that he will compare her to the girls in the porn and find her lacking. I always think that if you take care of your looks even a little and you are an enthusiastic participant, he might still watch porn occasionally but he will prefer sex with a real life lady. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Getting through the hard stuff together in a marriage- maybe a FR?I'm willing to do whatever it takes. Donor eggs/surrogate costs about the same as newborn domestic adoption and has the advantage of being able to chose the egg donor from a data bank. You can choose a woman who looks like you, has a high IQ, good family history, etc. Then you can use a surrogate that you trust to take care of herself during the pregnancy. It's certainly an an option. We have lots of testing, medications, and interventions to try before that option. With medical technology and m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/14 11:00 PM |
| 5 | Those celebrating a long, happy marriage, what was the kicker to change the dynamic?I haven't had a long marriage but before my marriage I was in a 12 year relationship with a man that dissolved, which was my catalyst for realizing that I need a change in the way I conduct/act in romantic relationships. In my previous relationship my boyfriend was incredibly beta. Part of that was my fault because his very beta-ness attracted me to him and partly because we both structured the relationship to where I was 98% in charge. Yet I loved him so much. He was funny, smart, sweet, loving… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/14 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Getting through the hard stuff together in a marriage- maybe a FR?I'm so sorry you've been through this and more. It's hard to describe to other people who haven't been through it how awful it is. The advice to find a stopping point is great advice. I'm not 100% sure what that point is for us yet. In situations like this, hope is not always helpful. I found a IVF program that offers a money-back guarantee if it doesn't work in 3 IVF cycles. I'm thinking that completing a program like that is the stopping point for fertility stuff, but we need to exhaust every … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/14 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Getting through the hard stuff together in a marriage- maybe a FR?My progesterone has always tested okay but I am on supplementation anyway after ovulation. I have normal cycles, ovulate each month, but simply don't get pregnant. Next cycle we will be doing exhaustive testing of all sorts of crazy stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/14 05:49 PM |
| 2 | This is What is Wrong With the World TodayHonestly that woman sounds ill- like depressed or has a thyroid problem. Who has no passions whatsoever? It sounds awful to live that that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/14 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Quick question I'd love your perspective on.I wanted to let you know the tumors came back as benign! We are so happy! They have been removed and she is doing great. I am so happy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/14 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Quick question I'd love your perspective on.I decided to just talk to him about it in a pleasant manner. He understood but said that it isn't his habit and he would try but if he forgot I could remind him respectfully. I realized that I really don't want to remind him, it makes me feel naggy and motherly. I told him that, and we both agreed that he would try to remember but if he forgot and I chose not to remind him, that is my problem not his. I am also working on realizing that he doesn't get upset with me if I accidentally break someth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/14 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Quick question I'd love your perspective on.Thank you. I have a vet I love and the prognosis is good. It is a growth on her skin that hasn't spread, so I'm hopefully a simple surgery will cure her. It does throw me into a tailspin, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Quick question I'd love your perspective on.Yeah, I'd love to find a way to bring it up without me telling him what to do, you know? Lead by example and maybe show him. Or maybe asking him to help me clean up after he cooks? (Knowing my husband, he wouldn't mind. Sometimes he is just oblivious to the mess, not intentionally neglectful.) I don't ask him to help me when I cook because it's almost done. I don't know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Quick question I'd love your perspective on.Thank you for your response! I like the idea of going in and starting the cleaning process while he's cooking, especially with music. Sometimes when he cooks I am not home (which is why he is cooking, because I'm working late) but when I am home, this is a great idea. If this (when he cooks, you do the dishes) has been an established part of your routine for any length of time, it seems odd that it suddenly started to bother you to the point that you feel the need to bring it up. How long has th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Great blog post about how men are portrayed in the media and how it has led to them being disrespected by their women.True story. My husband was talking to a door-to-door salesman of security systems and I wandered over to listen. The salesman says, "is this the boss?" to my husband, regarding me. I wish I would have said something but I'm a non-confrontational person and I just ducked my head a bit out of shock and embarrassment. My husband said, "this is my wife". There is no way the salesman would have said that if he'd been talking to me and my husband came over, that would have been considered sexist, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever feel embarrassed doing red pill stuff?Occasionally I wonder if anyone things I'm a doormat or worse, mothering my husband. I wonder if they think he's lazy or can't do these things for himself. And then something will happen, like the other day I asked him what he wanted to drink and he said he wanted an Old Fashioned and I told him where the bourbon was and he looked so sad and said, 'but I like it better when you make it', and I realized how much he appreciates what I do and if I stopped it would be a real loss to him. So I decide… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 04:35 PM |
| 4 | I think you ladies will appreciate this photoshoot.Modcloth.com has some cute retro stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/14 04:29 PM |
| 2 | For the newly redpill, what dropped the veil?My personality is fairly quiet alpha female (I am sure there is a correct terminology for this, but I don't know it), in that I am above average intelligent and above average emotionally intelligent, I make good decisions and I'm a natural leader. For all of my adult life I have felt on high alert, ready to address and tackle the next problem. I realized that while I can make all of the decisions, I don't want to. I want a man that I can rely on and trust, that I can relax into. I want to be abl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/14 03:57 PM |
| 6 | What makes you want to leave one father figure for another?Your question can be answered one of two ways, so I will endeavor to do both. I think you misunderstand the real life dynamics of most of the relationships on this board. 99% of the time agreement can be found after discussion and communication between my husband and me. We are similar people and not only do we love each other, we like each other. If one of us is feeling especially passionate or has a greater mastery, we naturally flow towards that person's preference. The knowledge that we aren… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/14 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if this belongs here, but how to interact with other women behaving inappropriately?First, your weight is a very healthy weight- a BMI of 21.5. Going down to 120 would put you at 19.4, still considered healthy. I just want to point out that 135 at 5.6 is far from fat. If you are trying to get pregnant, I don't know if going down to almost underweight is the best idea. If your doctors are okay with it, who I am to say of course. Does your husband like your current weight and body? If you can't take the other ladies advice and enjoy the fact you have a desirable husband, I like t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/14 01:42 AM |
| 7 | RPW's view of beta orbiters?This is my perception and experience as well. The majority of women I know assume that if a man is kind to them and acts like a friend, that he wants to be her friend. Looking back on my life, I had some orbiters and didn't realize it. I thought I had made it clear that I wasn't interested in romance by keeping the message consistent- insisting on paying for my own things, dating other people, trying to help him pick up women, etc. In my mind we were just friends with no sexual interest in each … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/14 03:40 PM |
| 1 | On looking "younger" while still in 20sIt sounds like people have guessed you to be 28 for the last 6 years. So maybe people will continue to guess you at 28 until you are at least 28. I know a girl who is very beautiful and sophisticated and looks older than she is- but because of the reasons you mentioned for yourself- not because of wrinkles. I met her when she was 18 and I would have guessed she was mid-20s. The only thing I can say is that she did act a little jaded, kind of 'too good' at times. I think this is because she hung … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/14 10:42 PM |
| 3 | Marriage Without Being MarriedI don't know all of the legalities behind your decision but I respect it because it seems you have thought it out and have good reasons for it. I would add that it strikes me as a bit of a shame because there is something wonder and special about being married. It isn't just the ceremony, although that was wonderful too- standing up in front of your friends and family, making promises, giving vows. The marriage added weight and dimension, a real promise of one of us dying in the arms of the othe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/14 10:35 PM |
| 1 | What makes a man a "good man" for a RP relationship?I really love this, thank you. I'm stealing it for talking to my sister about looking for a guy. She's focused on all of the wrong things, in my opinion- his taste in music, his hobbies instead of looking for a good man. You put into words what I have been trying to communicate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/14 05:46 PM |
| 5 | Stacy’s SculptureI think this is a fine metaphor for The Wall and there may be a good moral of the story in there, but it does taste a little of a scorned young man's revenge fantasy to me. "Darn that beautiful Stacy! She'll turn 30 and make poor fashion choices, and some guy who is less awesome than me will marry her and put her next to the kitty litter! She'll be sorry then!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/14 05:44 PM |
| 7 | Question to the currently married/engaged women..I left a 12 year relationship. Here is what I wish I would have known. Love is not enough. You must respect and look up to the man you are with. You must feel lucky to be with you and you must feel like being with him makes you a better person. He inspires you to be your best self. I kind of feel like - I think he's a catch, and I'm probably really lucky to have him. But I don't KNOW that for sure, cause I haven't met/dated enough men to really be sure. That's bullshit. You know if he is a catch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 04:12 PM |
| 9 | Long Term Relationship BarbieLast night my husband mentioned that I didn't kiss him on the back of the neck as much as I used to. He wasn't being mean, just mentioned it in passing in a conversation. My goal today is working harder than I have been. Yes, I've been really sick with the flu, yes work is stressing me out, yes I'm trying to get caught up on housework from being sick. Does any of that matter? Not if my husband doesn't feel loved and cared for. Today I've sent him a sweet text, tonight there will be a nice dinner… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Job ProblemsThis is a hard situation for everyone involved and good for you for not getting caught up in your own anxieties about it. You've already received lots of amazing advice, the only thing I'd add is to remind yourself that 'this too shall pass'. He will find a better job if he keeps trying, it's just a matter of time. Keep your frame and you won't have a bunch of emotional baggage to work through once he does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 03:34 PM |
| 2 | How to "femininely disagree" with your S.O./husband?I think most people become frustrated in a conversation when he or she doesn't feel heard or like you aren't listening. Most conversations turn into arguments when one or both people aren't feeling heard and even difficult topics can be discussed without fighting if both people are feeling heard and understood. If your husband is getting frustrated it may be because you either aren't listening or you aren't showing that you are listening. Bakerofpie hit on this perfectly. If you are usually play… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 03:29 PM |
| 7 | For the women in LTR/Marriages. How often do you initiate sex in your relationship?I initiate about 30%-50% of the time. In my past relationship I initiated 80%-90% and I HATED it, so I can understand your fear. I would say to increase the likelihood of your husband initiating, never turn him down and respond enthusiastically every time. I also loved the advice from other ladies about initiating affection instead of thinking of it as initiating sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/14 08:56 PM |
| 2 | So glad I found this sub! Have another question. ..I hate negging too. It reminds me of mean girls in high school. My boyfriend negging me is a deal breaker for me. I know some girls like it or it builds attraction for some, but it is just the worst to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/14 08:38 PM |
| 4 | Girl in mid twenties "forgets to take the pill". Her BF should obviously have known that as they hang out together all the time. She does not want to take Plan B because she is "curious" about the process of pregnancy.This girl is nuts. She has a morbid curiosity about what an abortion is like? (She said so down in the comments.) She's either trolling or completely insane. Please guys, wear a condom every time, even if she says she is on birth control. God only knows what kind of diseases this girl is carrying around with her. Does she want to know what having herpes is like too? | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/14 10:28 PM |
| 6 | Divorce risk calculator22% here. Not too bad. I'm pretty nonjudgemental about what others do but stricter with my own actions. Not sure how that skews or doesn't skew the outcome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 07:19 PM |
| 3 | His Promise Would Not Be DeniedTo be honest, this sounds like a fantasy novel. The woman runs, resists, pulls away and is healed by a good man's love. I don't doubt it happened but I think the popularity of it speaks to what women believe about love and good men. Is it RP? I think it's RP to be persistent, steadfast, stoic and sure about what you want and make it happen. Is that what this man did? Or did he put up with wild shit tests and fail every one? I don't know enough to say if this is RP. I hope they are happy and rais… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Adding value to yourself and those around you...I highly recommend In Defense of Food for that aim. It isn't a long book and is well written. I found it entertaining but maybe because I love food so much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/14 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Adding value to yourself and those around you...What an amazing gift you have! That is really inspirational. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/14 01:04 AM |
| 9 | Adding value to yourself and those around you...Food is at the center of my life. I love growing food, harvesting food, shopping for food, preserving food, cooking food, feeding my loved ones food, and eating food. Growing up my parents were not 'food people' and still around. They are more likely to microwave something quick than spend time in the kitchen. Even holidays don't have big food traditions (grandma's cheesy potatoes or aunt Becky's chocolate cake) or cooking big meals. I learned to cook in college by watching Food Network and my p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/14 12:45 AM |
| 37 | How Women Can Avoid Hitting The WallIt seems that most articles about The Wall are very scary- that a woman's entire value will plummet into nothingness no matter what, that a 20 year old's value will always be greater than a 40 year old's value. A beautiful 20 year old girl is like a vase of flowers- valuable simply because of her beauty. If that girl does nothing of value as she ages, her value will naturally wilt along with her youthful looks. I think the 20-somethings who are obsessed with The Wall misunderstand that it isn't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How Women Can Avoid Hitting The WallI am allergic to chemical sunscreens but I use physical sunscreens and so far haven't had issues. I don't know the research but my guess is that physical sunscreens would be less likely to cause illnesses like cancer because they are not absorbed into the skin- just sit on top. This is the one I like the best. I only wear sunscreen on my face, neck, chest, and back of my hands and let the sun hit the rest of me unless I am going to be out all day. I'm pretty pale and will burn. Otherwise I do al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Are men welcome to post here? Why do I find this subreddit interesting?I enjoy having some male opinions here when I ask questions and I like their views on the articles. Welcome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Should Not Run. The first release of this article was attacked by feminists who deemed it "misogynistic", so the no-nonsense author edited it, adding even more scientific insight and unconventional wisdom.Fascinating. A few years ago I tried to start running and got up to about 3-4 miles several times per week. I enjoyed some benefits- sleeping better at night, increased energy, not feeling winded going up long flights of stairs, but I got crazy hungry and ended up gaining weight. I do not love running enough to gain weight from it! I stopped running all together and started yoga, which was awesome but I missed the cardio benefits- specifically the sleeping better and the not getting winded. Now … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 05:13 PM |
| 5 | How Women Can Avoid Hitting The WallGreat article. It articulated something I had felt intuitively but wasn't able to figure out how to say. Stay connected with life, stay positive, focus on health, joy, fun, playfulness, love, all of the good things in life. That sounds pretty lovely to be that person and those are the type of people I like to be around, too. Weird how that works. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 04:36 PM |
| 1 | My friends dish about their men and I'm failing in steering the conversation. Help?I agree completely. For some reason I read your above post as that your friendship has gotten distant and I assumed it was distant emotionally, not physically. My closest friends are scattered across the country and abroad too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/14 05:48 PM |
| 2 | My friends dish about their men and I'm failing in steering the conversation. Help?I strive for honest communication with my real friends. If it bothers you, say something. It's cool and acceptable to to complain and bash husbands/SOs in our culture but that doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. You are allowed to say something to them that it makes you uncomfortable. You can frame it however you want. I've spoken with a dear friend about her tendency to be negative about her husband. The more we talk about the negative, it causes us to think about the negative and the neg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/14 05:41 PM |
| 2 | My friends dish about their men and I'm failing in steering the conversation. Help?If she hasn't ever said anything negative about your relationship, why has she been so downgraded in your life? Just no time? Natural evolution? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/14 05:36 PM |
| 2 | What do you have planned for Spring?I just started my seeds for my garden. semi-annual purge and organize. get pregnant (that should be number one) sit outside on my porch run outside bike rides with the hubby after I get pregnant because he's not supposed to ride a bike before get caught up at work (booooo) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 02:27 AM |
| 1 | how to be a good first mateThat's what I reminded myself of. No one is perfect. And now we know the roof is too steep! ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 02:15 AM |
| 0 | how to be a good first mateThis is very cool. Thank you for breaking it down like that! It makes perfect sense when you put it like that. I hesitated to offer the tarp idea because I thought I was over-stepping the 'no decision' rule I had set up for myself but then decided it was silly to allow further damage if I had an idea that might work. In addition, we found out the damage was more extensive anyway and we needed a professional. It turns out that even if the roof wasn't too step, the repair was too extensive. Booooo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Found This Sub Today, And It Makes Me So Happy. But What About Its Counterpart?Married Man Sex Life- I think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 02:02 AM |
| 3 | The Ultimatum FantasyI'm a little confused by this. I agree with the fantasy world premise but the example doesn't add up to me. RPW says that to strengthen LTRs, be a good woman. The woman in the song sounds like a good woman- cooking for her man and being sexually available, but the man is a charming devil and breaks his promise to her to marry her and she is laying down an ultimatum to follow through or not. Would we advise her differently? Frankly, it sounds like she is a plate who thought she is a girlfriend an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/14 06:58 PM |
| 3 | "10 Marriage Tips Every Wife Needs to Hear," from a woman's blog. (Hopefully not a repost)I really enjoyed this. Thank you for posting. Usually I am turned off by Christian RP(ish) posts but I thought this author did a good job of not alienating the non-religious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/14 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Field ReportI agree. Writing it out was really helpful because it showed me how silly it is to hesitate to give a suggestion. He delegates, I do what he asks and give information and suggestions but he makes the ultimate decision. Repeat 100X. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/14 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Field ReportThanks for chiming in, I really appreciate a guy giving his views. I will keep in mind that giving a suggestion is not leading from behind, which was my concern. I absolutely prefer him to be in charge in the bedroom and so does he. I like your suggestion of how to take the edge off of a potentially emasculating issue, like suggesting how to fix the roof or what to do about a home repair. I also do try to take care of the house, laundry, pets, and food in order to help him have as much time as h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/14 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Field ReportThis is not a game. This is my marriage and working to keep it strong and healthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/14 06:02 PM |
| 1 | For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?Implantation bleeding occurs for different amounts of time. It could be just one tiny spot of blood one day or it could be days of spots of blood- why women call 'spotting', or, more rarely, it could be several days of light to medium flow of normal red period blood. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/14 06:01 PM |
| 1 | For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?Ovulation is the process of the egg leaving the ovary. The egg can only be fertilized after the egg leaves the ovary and the egg dies in 12-24 hours after leaving the ovary if not fertilized. Sperm can live inside a woman's body waiting for the egg to come out for up to 5 days. That's why sex on day 9 could get a woman pregnant- the sperm hang out waiting for the egg. If the egg hasn't been fertilized 24 hours after ovulation, it dies and is not able to be fertilized. It travels down the tubes f… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/14 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Doing (sexual) things to please your man (Is this the right place to discuss this?)It's all about communication for me. If Husband desires something in the bedroom I want him to be able to talk to me about it just as I want to be able to communicate if there is something I desire. We both want to please the other person but if our desire to please is overwhelmed by aversion to the sexual request, the answer needs to be a 'no' for all of the reasons margerym listed. I do want to add that if one of us says 'no', it is without judgement or disgust. If the act is something that I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/14 04:54 AM |
| 2 | For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?I read your update and if she is pregnant and she plans on keeping the baby, ask her to find out her "beta numbers" (I know, I know, 'beta' very funny). The higher the number the longer she has been pregnant. A small amount of women have mild bleeding at regular intervals during their entire pregnancy. That's how women can be 6 months pregnant and not have known until suddenly their bellies pop out. It's possible, albeit unlikely, for her to be several months pregnant. If she plans to keep the b… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/14 04:37 AM |
| 3 | For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?If a woman has a normal 28 day cycle, The first 4 days of her cycle is her period, pre-ovulation is usually around 10 days more, ovulation occurs on day 14, and then 14 days until her period. Women are fertile for up to 5 days before and including ovulation, but within 24 hours of ovulation she is no longer fertile. So in other words, a woman with a normal cycle is fertile from day 9-14, and not after. I hope that helps you do the math. Implantation bleeding occurs in about 10% of pregnancies an… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/14 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Field ReportRight. That makes sense. Sometimes I feel giving him all of the information is like trying to covertly lead him, which is really really dumb. Does anyone else feel like they need a remedial red pill? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 11:46 PM |
| 7 | For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?I am a woman who is trying to get pregnant so I know way more than I ever cared to know about the baby-making process. Most women are fertile 12-17 days before their period, if you had sex with her 7 days before her period, it is unlikely she is pregnant with your baby. Also, most pregnancy tests can't come up positive until about 10-18 days after ovulation (which is 12-17 days before her period). I agree with everything Archwinger said about how to handle it and that it's unlikely a woman who i… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/03/14 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Thread: What's your favorite beauty secret?I have an allergy to chemical sunscreens, which most sunscreens are at least partly chemical, so finding a sunscreen that doesn't cause itching and burning to my face has been a challenge. We all know how important sunscreen is, so it was an important find for me. I use this. It's a physical sunscreen and spf30. No burning or itching so far. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Curious about the Red Pill Perspective on opposite sex friendships.I'm pretty late to this party but my answer is in the 'yes' category. I believe true friendship- not acquaintanceship- is rare and a beautiful. I don't have any male friendships but my husband has a very good friend who is female. They are very similar people. They have the same interests and he is in school studying to do what she just landed a job in. She is one of the most intelligent people I have ever met. She is supportive and respectful of our marriage, always subtly and overtly respectin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 04:52 PM |
| 17 | I am forced, by circumstance, to do many "manly" things around my home, how can I make my husband feel more manly?It seems to me that masculinity and femininity are states of mind more than they are describing actions. As long as you are in a feminine state of mind and he is in a masculine state of mind, it still works. A masculine man can wear pink and do the dishes and still be very masculine. A feminine woman can haul wood and change the car oil and be feminine. If the balance of power it still tipped in his favor, then I doubt he feels emasculated. He might feel badly that you have to do those things, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Tips and Tricks for Sexy HairI have discovered headband curls. It takes about two minutes in the evening, sleep, and then in the morning you have lovely bouncy curls. Protip- use a bandana instead of a headband so you can untie it and pull it through the curls instead of having to unwind them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/14 12:29 AM |
| 2 | For Your Love of FamilyLearning to love food and cooking has been a transformative journey for me. I was not raised in a 'food=love' house. Neither parent enjoyed cooking and dinner was almost always phoned in- microwaved canned veggies and a piece of meat baked until dry. I didn't think I liked to eat as a kid. I learned to cook in college while watching Food Network. It started with putting shaker cheese and Italian seasoning in my jarred pasta sauce...I was amazed at the difference and hooked. Now food=love for me.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/14 06:10 AM |
| 6 | Dedicated to the Young Women of Reddit, the Smartest women in History, Determined to Remove their Genes from the FutureI AM TRYING!!!! Ugh, everywhere I go it is babies babies babies and we are trying to make a baby so in my head it is babies babies babies! There is no escape! Lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 09:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies stay feminine in the winter?I don't find it hard to stay feminine in the winter. I wear cute coats that are warm but have a distinct waist, like a wool peacoat or a puffy coat with a belt. Scarfs are super cute and warm, there are plenty of cute hats and gloves to be found. My winter uniform is either skinny jeans and a form fitting knit sweater with booties/boots or a dress with a cardigan with knit tights and boots. I often leave my scarf on all day for a warm accessory. Hair done, makeup on. What exactly are you having … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 05:25 PM |
| 1 | What's your favorite exercise move? Do you have a video link or photo to show it?I am currently working on achieving forearm scorpion: https://files.nyu.edu/ecw278/public/submit.jpg One of my more recent poses I have achieved was full king pigeon:http://www.yogatrail.com/yoga-poses/media/2013-01/yoga-pose-king-pigeon-pose-1263-1.jpg | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 12:47 AM |
| 1 | A career decision in a red pill relationshipI read all of the messages and it seems like there isn't an issue yet but there might be. Your husband wanted you to apply. You applied. Your husband wants you to go interview. You should go interview. If you get an offer, you and your husband can go to the city, look around. You can look at what kinds of houses/apartments you can afford. You can get a feel for your coworkers and the areas. I live in an area that does not flow with my personal or political beliefs and while it'd be nice to feel … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Women hating feminine characters/celebrities and idolizing characters/celebrities that men find unattractiveThat's a good point. Upvote! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 11:53 PM |
| 16 | Women hating feminine characters/celebrities and idolizing characters/celebrities that men find unattractiveI'm an actress and I get cast to play the sweet, girly, feminine roles and I always want to play the funny, bad girl, bitch character. It's just so much more funny, the lines are better, and usually the sweet girly girl has very little character arch- at the beginning of the play she's sweet and girly and at the end of the play she's sweet and girly. I want to transform through an arch. The sweet and girly characters feel flat, all sugar and no bite. My favorite characters are the ones that are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 11:51 PM |
| 6 | How am I supposed to be a good wife when my husband isn't home?Specific advice for you: When he is home, make it very enjoyable for him. Do whatever you have to to not get snippy, have the house clean, your daughter fresh and dressed, and you looking nice. I wouldn't blame him for staying away if whenever he comes home he is assaulted with a dirty house, wife, and daughter and his wife snips at him. I know you feel like it'd be different if he were home more, and I tend to agree, but from his point of view, you could understand why he's not motivated to be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 08:42 PM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to be a good wife when my husband isn't home?Where does he stay during the week? How does he feel about your living situation? What does he think the solution is? What is his long term and short vision for your family? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Why the Highest Heels are the SexiestI adore a tall woman who owns it. I think it is like seeing runway models. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Why the Highest Heels are the SexiestLove a sexy heel! I have small feet (size 6 US) to begin with, so I'm lucky. I have tiny baby hands too, though, and I wish I had those long shapely elegant fingers. I'm 5'5 so it isn't even proportional. I used to wear heels every day but since getting into yoga I've seen how heels shorten my tendons and make certain poses more difficult. I now wear flats boots sometimes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 06:09 PM |
| 9 | Avoiding, spotting, and resisting players: advice for young women.Yeesh. Abstinence before marriage was never a goal of mine, especially extreme abstinence. "do not participate in even mild sexual contact, such as making out, with any man to whom you are not engaged." I agree with keeping your number small but my husband would not have waited until we were engaged to make out. I have trouble imagining the type of man I'd want to marry being okay with that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/14 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Help!! Moving from full blown feminist to swallowing red pillI'm not going to lie, it is tough and lonely sometimes. I want so much to freak out and have a big old pity party some days Thanks for that. Sometimes I really want to throw a fit and my hands in the air sighing, 'do I have to do everything?' and give my husband a To Do list. But I chose not to. It's nice to know even for the established RP ladies it sometimes is hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/14 04:35 AM |
| 2 | "Self-fulfilling negative prophesies" or "Dumb bitch or mean bitch: Pick one"Agreed wholeheartedly. It's about respect and so many people do not have it for their romantic partners, and women are somehow encouraged not to have it for their spouses. A few days ago my husband and I were in a thrift store and in speaking with the employee, I wasn't clear on what I wanted. My husband clarified and said, "my wife wasn't clear" and the employee said, "careful, I don't want to tear her off of you like a cat!". I stuttered something like, "I'd never do that", but the employee (w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/14 04:30 AM |
| 2 | "Self-fulfilling negative prophesies" or "Dumb bitch or mean bitch: Pick one"Love that quote. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/14 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Valentine's PlansAwwwww! A mixed tape! I love it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/14 04:22 AM |
| 1 | On Planning a Several Course MealI have an adorable frilly apron. I wore it when I first had my husband over and he said he fell in love with me then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Valentine's PlansLast weekend my husband surprised me with a pampering day as an early Valentine's Day celebration. He got me a massage and then took me to dinner! It was wonderful AND I didn't plan any part of it! Usually he's game for "whatever you want", when truly what I want is for him to make the plans. So it was double special because he planned it and it was incredibly sweet. So suddenly I'm upping my game for Valentine's Day. I usually cook a nice meal but I'm pulling out the stops. We are having oyster… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 08:18 PM |
| 1 | [Critique] Make my profile attract a red pill woman!I'd date you because you like to travel, are a scientist (I love science and you have a career, not just a job), like to exercise and cook. It says that you are interested in LTRs. I don't hook up so that'd also be a plus for me. I wouldn't get the idea from your profile that you are RP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 07:02 PM |
| 1 | [Critique] Make my profile attract a red pill woman!I'd date you but I wouldn't think you were RP. You use a lot of words and story telling devices in your profile. Sometimes it feels a little pretentious. The question is 'what are you good at' and you tell a story instead of just answering the question. The first line is good, the rest sounds a little douchey. The same with the level of detail on the 6 things you can't live without (WTF is aeropressed?). If your six was coffee, family portraits at Christmas, cooking delicious food, mountain biki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Did your parents relationship make you a RPW?I have a similar story as many of you. My mom is in charge in my parent's marriage and my dad follows the "happy wife, happy life" motto. Their marriage has been difficult and I don't want my marriage to be anything like it. Where my parents differ is that my dad suffers from depression and PTSD from his experiences in Vietnam. Growing up he was emotionally volatile and my mom was the stabilizing force in the family. They would fight terribly and I know she was unhappy. I sometimes wonder if he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/14 07:02 PM |
| 2 | "Sometimes the First Officer actually overrules the Captain in a crisis and gives the crew an order" -MMSL Primer- Have you ever needed to overrule your captain? Why?What part of RP works for you? If you and your husband disagree, who gets final say? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/14 05:56 PM |
| 4 | "Sometimes the First Officer actually overrules the Captain in a crisis and gives the crew an order" -MMSL Primer- Have you ever needed to overrule your captain? Why?I have followed my instinct instead of going with his direction. It was a crisis to us. Our dog was very ill and after seeing the vet a few times she had an appointment the next day while my other dog had a normal yearly check up appointment that same day. I asked Husband if I should just take the sick dog in place of not sick dog and he said to wait for sick dog's appointment the next day. Husband went to work and I fretted attending to sick dog all day and I ended up taking sick dog to the vet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/14 05:50 PM |
| 2 | I wanted to dedicate this post to all of the RPW ladies that helped me in my previous post.Hm. So. I think I understand where you are coming from. First, let me say I'm also trying to get pregnant and if my husband's diet might be part of the problem, I'd be struggling. The desire to have a baby sometimes takes over and I turn into a crazy person. My husband took a hot bath a few months ago and I burst into tears and between crying and apologizing for being so upset I explained to him that heat is very bad for the swimmers. I can imagine I'd be twitchy with the whole diet thing. If it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/14 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Hi RPW, new face here! I know my post might seem out of place, but I hope you can provide some help.Here is the thing. RPW is about respecting your man. I think you need to start respecting how he wants to eat. Acting like he needs you to change his eating habits sounds very mother-child to me. I realize you want to cook more sophisticated meals but he doesn't want them. If you respect him you will do that for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/14 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Women In Tokyo Threaten Not To Have Sex With Men Who Vote For A Certain Candidate. This is one of the worst things I have seen.Very Lysistrata of them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Women In Tokyo Threaten Not To Have Sex With Men Who Vote For A Certain Candidate. This is one of the worst things I have seen.It is a stupid solution that is getting press because it is inflammatory. I'm more interested in the politician that thinks such a thing. I am wondering if his views are consistent (periods=bad judgement. Therefore post menopausal women are perfectly fine decision makers) or if he is using concerns about PMS to justify beliefs he already held. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 04:06 PM |
| 0 | Women In Tokyo Threaten Not To Have Sex With Men Who Vote For A Certain Candidate. This is one of the worst things I have seen.I wonder if he'd be okay with a woman on a type of birth control that takes periods away all together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 03:27 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever disagree with some stuff certain RP men say about women?There are things that I don't agree with at this time but there are many things I agree with that I can't find elsewhere. Overall, I want a strong dominant partner whom I trust with my life and I think this is a way to achieve that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Advice NeededOh no, I thought it was a very useful quote, not because you are the OP. I know you aren't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Funny Friday? This chick thinks that Disney should make a movie with a fat princess...Seriously where does that information come from? Fat isn't just a benign substances that simply lays under the skin, it interacts with the body in potentially very negative ways. It's like saying "smoking doesn't equal unhealthy" because there are outliers who smoke their whole lives and don't have negative health consequences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Advice NeededIt sounds like you really respect your man. I'm just worried about this long term because you are so isolated and from the outside it seems like your isolation has been at best thoughtless and at worst systematic and intentional. You weren't responsible four years ago with social media so you lost having a lab top, disagreements with your family has limited your family time, you don't work outside your home, you don't have friends, you work out alone instead of with a group. It puts you in a pos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Really Need Some HelpFrom what you have described it does sound like he uses sex to control you and/or punish you. It might be a throwback to his mother or might not be, I don't know, but ultimately it doesn't really matter why he is doing it. I can't see why someone who is in control of a relationship would need to resort to passive-aggressive means. I wonder what it would take for him to feel in control. If his needs are affection and admiration, make sure to give him an over-abundance of both of those. It sounds … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleGroup. Projects. Bane of my grad school experience. I don't think it was the introversion that got me, it was the perfectionism and doing decent scholarly work. I walked out of a class once that demanded a group paper. Ain't nobody got time for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleA fellow INFJ! I rarely meet other INFJs (or at least know I met them). I can see how Occam's INTJ would be a wonderful compliment to help you not drown in your feels or intuitions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleYour husband's type is my tribesman. I can totally see that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleOh yeah, totally. Didn't mean to come off defensive if I did. side note. There are subreddits for the types?!?! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleThis was very cool. My husband is my 'compliment'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:55 AM |
| 2 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleMy husband is an INFP (very borderline on the introversion verse extroversion) who was very good at picking up women. According to him he "acted like she was the only girl in the world" (very non-TRP!). He is also charismatic, funny, handsome, talented, and a straight handsome masculine man in the theatre community, so his barrel was full of fish. In my experience, being the focus of his attention made me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world. It was addictive. Edit: But I could … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleHowever, do note the Myers Briggs is an entirely non scientific description. Some studies show that above 30% of people who retake the test land in a different category. As time goes on, that number hovers around 50%. As in, not particularly reliable.... and hence, not necessarily robust or meaningful. LOL. Says the INTJ. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleI am an INFJ. It is the counselor, protector, idealist. I feel it describes me surprisingly well. We are systematic outwardly but rely heavily on intuition and instincts but we are usually right. I've been asked if I'm psychic but I don't believe in psychic abilities but in logic and extrapolating intuitively from that logic. If you feel X, it makes sense you would also feel Y. We are highly sensitive to conflict, strong value systems and a low tolerance of cognitive dissonance. According to thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?I'd seriously look at the ADD meds and possibly getting the baby out of the bed. I know co-sleeping is important to some couples but a lack of desire is difficult to deal with in a marriage, and I know you want your son to have an intact family. Sometimes desire takes work and sacrifice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 02:01 AM |
| 4 | Really Need Some HelpDo you remember your husband's top emotional need? What is it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/14 03:53 PM |
| 2 | I'm new to this and I would like to understand TRP a bit more. It seems there's a variation in peoples life styles with this. What does it mean to you to be in a red pill relationship?I'm wondering if he is free to be selfish because he knows you will reign him in. If you gave him freedom to lead, told him you will go along with any plan he makes without complaint, would he really make selfish choices or would the weight of his family's wellbeing give him pause? I'd like to recommend the book Surrendered Wife for you. It will give you a good 'how to' foundation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/14 01:54 AM |
| 2 | I'm new to this and I would like to understand TRP a bit more. It seems there's a variation in peoples life styles with this. What does it mean to you to be in a red pill relationship?It sounds like you don't trust or respect your husband and maybe he isn't trustworthy or makes respectable decisions right now, I don't know, but I know either way that is a problem. I know that in my life I tend to create relationships where I'm in charge- friends, family, and romantic partners. When I treat people like they aren't trustworthy, then they tend not to act trustworthy. If I treat someone like he or she is incapable of making good decisions, he or she tend not to make good decision… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/14 01:51 AM |
| 1 | I'll need a female opinion on this: My GF of 3 years just left me because apparently I was "too alpha" for her tasteThat makes sense, thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 11:32 PM |
| 9 | I'll need a female opinion on this: My GF of 3 years just left me because apparently I was "too alpha" for her tasteI think the goodness of fit between people matters. I've seen it said that dominant females need more dominant men, so it would make sense to me that a softer woman might not be a good fit for a dark triad man. I'm a woman who gets hurt easily and a dark triad man would blow me away. I'm a newbie at this RPW thing, so clarify to me, is choosing to hang out with your friends consistently over her and not listening to her when she speaks considered alpha? When my man is dominant it makes me feel l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 10:37 PM |
| 2 | Fiance wants a prenup...what do I do?! I'm so sad and insulted.I'm seeing that you have two concerns: 1. the fear that he will leave you and the prenup makes you think it will be easier for him to leave you. 2. the financial issues outlined in the prenup. It seems like the first issue is the issue you are most concerned about, not the actual money/assets. It is the implications of the prenup that are concerning you, not the prenup itself. Am I correct in my interpretation of your post? This comes down to trust, trusting your fiancee to be a good honorable m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 08:34 PM |
| 3 | lazy, unmotivated boyfriendHas she spoken with him about her concerns? I don't mean yell but respectfully opened her heart to him and shared her fears and her love for him? Does he know she is unhappy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 07:59 PM |
| 3 | What skills are important for a RPW?Hm. I don't differentiate between what skills a RPW needs and what skills a woman needs- RPW are aware and acknowledge that their value is intrinsic and extrinsic instead of simply intrinsic. Cultivate skills that are useful in daily life. I love to cook partly because it is a way to show my love. I don't enjoy cleaning but it is certainly a useful skill. I enjoy figuring out natural and inexpensive alternatives to commercial products. Be a good listener and care-taker to the people and animals … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 07:54 PM |
| 1 | (GBG Book Club) The Surrendered Wife: Foster Friendships with WomenI'm fortunate in this one. I met my group of girlfriends in middle school at a wilderness camp and we would reunite at this camp every summer and keep in contact with letters during the year. We are now scattered throughout the country but we all get together twice a year, and in smaller groups more often. They have transcended friendship for me into some sort of family-type relationship. It is partly so rich because I have deep friendships with women who I probably wouldn't meet (different soci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 07:36 PM |
| 4 | If any of you hens find TRP to be a little too raw...(crosspost from TRP)Hahaha, no you are a mod! That's a good point though, I really like it when the guys come over and give their perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 12:19 AM |
| 19 | If any of you hens find TRP to be a little too raw...(crosspost from TRP)That makes a lot of sense, thank you for the post. I don't go over to TRP because it makes me want to argue and I believe people should have their own space to talk and discuss without an outside running in and saying 'NO! That's not right!'. It would be like walking into someone's house and criticizing the decor- rude. I hope all of those RP gentlemen find what they are looking for and what will make them truly happy long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 11:47 PM |
| 3 | How Feminists Attack the Traditional WomanSo what, in your opinion, makes someone a real feminist? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 11:39 PM |
| 5 | How Feminists Attack the Traditional WomanI've been so fortunate in my life to be surrounded my strong capable women (mother, grandmother, female friends) who are accepting of all choices- career, stay-at-home-mom, have kids, don't have kids, etc. Until I started looking at online feminism I really felt like that is what feminism is- choices for women. Online feminism is very different from what I encounter in my real life and I'm so grateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 08:45 PM |
| 3 | How Feminists Attack the Traditional WomanIt makes sense because it's all about fear. The fear is that people will point to Michelle Obama and say 'see, evidence that educating a woman is useless, all of that education has gone to waste because what she values most is being a mother and wife', and many women want to be educated and have careers. Some feminists see traditional women as threats to their non-traditionalism, fear that somehow another women's choices will reflect upon them and reduce their own choices. If I've learned anythi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 08:43 PM |
| 1 | How come the unrealistic image of male models isn't scrutinized?This is really fascinating, I haven't heard this theory before. You might also find complete androgen insensitivity syndrome interesting. These XY individuals are immune to male androgens and develop to look female. The part that is relevant is that these 'women' are often more beautiful than the average woman- tall, long slim limbs, clear skin, larger teeth. Apparently there is a higher number of androgen insensitive people as super models than the general population. So the most beautiful wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/14 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Watching porn in a relationshipDisclaimer: I do not care if my husband looks at porn or masturbates. It has never been a problem for me. I don't think it's fair at all for her to ask you to stop, I don't care that she does it herself- although that makes it hypocritical as well. You shouldn't have to stop because it bothers her. Her feelings are irrational. Tell her respectfully and firmly that you will do it when it want. End of story. She has the right to feel upset because we all have the right to feel whatever we feel, bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?Big floppy hats can be adorable and feminine! I'm a pale girl (don't look directly at my legs in the sun, it will blind you) and I wear a 60's style bathing suit and big floppy hat. I get lots of compliments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?I miscarried too. Accidentally pregnant at 32, jeez. Totally rewired my brain and now I'm baby crazy. Now officially "trying". It's rather awful, actually. I always thought it'd be fun. The sex is good. The anxiety/tension/buildup is bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?I've started the OCM (oil cleansing method) and my skin is much better. Sadly, it hasn't helped my hormonal breakouts. BAH! I'm going to try that honey mask and turmeric mask. But my skin is very soft and moisturized and my breakouts have not gotten worse! My oily skin has been a godsend on slowly down wrinkles but murder on breakouts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 03:28 AM |
| 1 | [BP Example] Is he easy going?This is a great topic. I don't want my friends and family in my business but I'd like to know how to handle those little comments like, 'haha, the wife is always right!' or something like that. I want to show that isn't how we function. I don't know that they know I defer to him but I at least don't want that disrespectful talk flying around. I also love how you said that last part: I want to have someone who knows what he wants in his life and strives for the best that he can have, rather than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 03:04 AM |
| 1 | I've got a big challenge for you ladies. I'm in need for some serious help, advice and guidance.Flirting is over-rated. I think smiling, being friendly, and genuinely being interested in the other person is much more effective. People are incredibly interesting if you pay attention. Ask open ended questions and then follow-up questions, smile and compliment a man if you are romantically interested in him. Concentrate on being a good conversationalist instead of trying to flirt. If English is not your second language, that might be hard but then you have a cute accent going for you, so that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 11:56 PM |
| 1 | I've got a big challenge for you ladies. I'm in need for some serious help, advice and guidance.Welcome. I think knowing you want a LTR is a good first step. Remind yourself that this is a goal of yours in the next three years, and act in ways that are conducive to that goal. If you find yourself doing something that goes against that goal, stop it. To attract a man, being pretty and well groomed is important. Keep working on your fitness and your body. Maybe try dressing even more femininely- cute tops, slim jeans, no sneakers, even dresses. If your hair is thick and pretty, the length is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Question for RPW from a man, regarding the odds of meeting a women like you?Newbie here. I came to RPW myself and I am using these philosophies in my actions to better myself and also to inspire more leadership in my husband. I've always been a take charge type of person and I took charge so much in my past relationship that he just sorta rolled over and let me do and lead everything myself. I recognized that potential for this relationship as well- I exude capability to the point that I get taken for granted, "Wendy-fly can do it, don't worry about her!". I felt lonely… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?Aaaaand I just went a flossed because I was not practicing what I preach on the taking care of my gums. I hate flossing! Thanks for the motivation, my mouth feels so good now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 10:13 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone else noticed the trend in this community?I love how this community encourages being positive about your marriages and husbands. So much of the time I feel we are encouraged to bitch about our spouses and often receive the 'you go grrrl' or 'leave him!' response. Seriously? Leave him? We. Are. Married. I also really enjoy the emphasis on keeping ourselves physically attractive and promote lots of sexy times with our husbands/SOs. Weird how increased sex leads to loving feelings... ;) For those of you ladies who are looking, keep your gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else noticed the trend in this community?I agree with dana. Post and see if maybe we can help. But I will warn you, don't argue. Just take it in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else noticed the trend in this community?YAY! I'm so happy for you and your husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?That might be RP advice but that's not RPW advice. We have seen many examples of loving life-long RP marriages where both members are happy. I'm sorry you haven't had that example in your life. The advice for us to stock pile away money for his eventual betrayal is absurd. That's not what marriage is about and it would be a grave betrayal by me to keep my bags packed and a hidden savings account in my name because eventually he will disregard our live together- our children, our home, our famili… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, is there a way to gracefully approach 'the wall'?Obviously take care of yourself physically- moisturize more than you think you need to, especially if you don't have oily skin. Jump up to a daily spf30 daily and remember to apply to your neck, back of hands, and decolletage. Exercise multiple times a week and work to keep your muscle mass- weight training or a strength based exercise. Wear sunglasses anytime the sun is out to prevent squinting. Take care of your teeth, keep your gums healthy and your teeth white. Here is the thing though, you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Harvard study: Single parents are largest hindrance to the social mobility of childrenI think we are on the same page, then. I'm not saying she is a good role model, nor did she make choices I think any ethical man or woman should make. It is not the choice I'm planning to make when I have children. A woman once told me that you can have it all- a loving marriage, actively raising your children, and a fabulous career- but you can only have two at a time. I'll sacrifice my career if one of those has to go. I'm not sure though that she'd be getting less criticism if she had stayed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/14 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Harvard study: Single parents are largest hindrance to the social mobility of childrenI wish there was more acceptance of women staying at home. I can't seem to figure out what is viewed as worse, a woman without a higher education who stays at home (gold-digger, dependent) or a woman with a higher education (wasted time and money getting a degree she isn't using). | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/14 09:00 PM |
| 3 | (GBG Book Club) The Surrendered Wife: Relinquish the Chore of Managing the FinancesIt is interesting because this one seems more controversial than others and it's one that I can see would probably help my marriage and we are working towards it. I was taught from birth how to manage money- my grandfather was a banker and for birthdays I got bonds instead of money or gifts. My husband, on the other hand, was raised by lovely but financially fly-by-the-seat-of-their-pants people and was never taught anything but pretty bad habits. Over the years we've been together he has gotten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/14 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Harvard study: Single parents are largest hindrance to the social mobility of childrenWomen are criticized for "wanting it all"- wanting the high powered job while getting to leave early to see little Timmy's soccer game, while men with high powered jobs sacrifice family time for his career. I agree with that, high level jobs require sacrifice. But as far as I can see Wendy Davis did that- she put her career above her kids, she made the sacrifice. At the very least, that woman is doing what it takes instead of asking for special allowances because she is a woman. (I don't know if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/14 08:44 PM |
| 7 | V-Day and EntitlementOh, agreed. Also, I don't know any other holiday that is so painful for so many people. Single people hate it, newly dating people are stuck in an awkward situation of how to handle it without scaring or pissing off the other person, and married people are over it. I'd say the sweet spot for enjoying Valentine's Day is having been dating 6 months to 1 1/2 years and being a female. The only thing that would irritate me on Valentine's Day would be to receive a dozen roses. Please don't spend $50 o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/14 07:51 PM |
| 2 | (GBG Book Club) The Surrendered Wife: Express Your DesiresI think you are right, this is a fine art and I'm still learning it. Right now I'm focusing on my motivation and tone of voice. If I'm honest with myself, my motivation is often 'I want what I want when I want it exactly how I want it' instead of 'I am communicating a desire to my husband and I'm open to the outcome he deems best'. I am guilty of having a picture in my head and having internal temper tantrums when reality doesn't match up with my picture. Sometimes I realize I'm trying to contro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Sexy Winter Fashion!Would it matter to you what your woman wore if you were in a LTR? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 10:24 PM |
| 4 | On retaining classy RPW frame when everyone and their mother is trying to convince you otherwiseI am the same way about the silence. I have learned though that the whole experience is better though if I endure it. I now smile and look at him, as if it is perfectly normal for him to speak first. I especially love it when he orders for me in restaurants, it makes me feel all fuzzy. It is one of those, 'this rp thing is totally real' moments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 04:18 AM |
| 3 | On retaining classy RPW frame when everyone and their mother is trying to convince you otherwisePlanning our wedding was interesting. We didn't do the normal 'all about the bride' thing. It was about our love, us as a couple. The wedding cost us less than $200. My husband was involved at every step and you could just see the confusion in everyone's eyes. I too had to channel phone calls his way. I've been working on making sure I don't talk first so my husband is the first to speak. It seems to set a tone that he is in charge. If we go to the bank, order in a restaurant, or are considering… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about weight/weight loss, dieting, etc?I never bought into the low-fat craze, always eat foods as whole and unchanged as possible but I need to add more fermented foods to my diet. I've made my own yogurt and it tastes good but it's always much thinner than even the all natural no thickeners local yogurts I find in stores. It is like the drinkable yogurt. Any tips for making it thicker? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 07:35 PM |
| 2 | RPW is both improving and hurting my relationship at the same time...?I'm an INFJ and very strong on the J side- the planning ahead side. My husband is very strong on the "P" side. When I say I'm going to do something, it is set in stone, you can set your watch by it. If he says he's going to do something, the translation is "I might do X" or "X seems like a good idea" or "Wouldn't X be nice?". I've had to remind myself again and again that my J is no better than his P and there is no one way to do something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 06:12 PM |
| 3 | RPW is both improving and hurting my relationship at the same time...?That's a great idea. Instead of focusing on what he can do to make your life easier, focus on what you can do. Slow cooker meals, cleaning tips, etc might make you feel less exhausted and less resentful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 06:09 PM |
| 3 | RPW is both improving and hurting my relationship at the same time...?The next step in this was for me to realize what I'm comfortable with letting my husband do and what I'm not. I do NOT want him doing dishes because he sucks at it. Haha. I used to get furious when I would try to get out a cup or plate and find that it was still crusted with food which I then had to soak and scrub off because it had gotten baked on in the dishwasher. I don't want him to do the cleaning because it won't be done to my satisfaction. This also used to annoy me. Why can't he just act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Post: Ask All Your Urgent Questions Here!I mean a woman's intrinsic and extrinsic value. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about weight/weight loss, dieting, etc?All of this antibacterial crap is so terrible! How are you feeling now after doing all of that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Post: Ask All Your Urgent Questions Here!Thanks for this! I have a question but don't want to start a thread for it. I'm new here. I love how pro-man it is here. I'm wondering if there is a consensus or a spectrum of beliefs about women's worth. What is the consensus or range of the spectrum? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Attraction to dark triad men?I don't think of myself as someone who is attracted to dark triad either but I realized that those traits can play out in many different ways. I'm not attracted to the con man, bad boy biker, criminal, or arrogant business man but I am attracted to the Sherlock Holmes character on the BBC TV series. He is all of those traits in a very different package than I usually think of. That being said, in real life, I'd be attracted to Holmes for 30 seconds and I'd fall in love with Watson. But as a TV s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Team Woman vs Team Her Man, Why RPW generates so much hostilityI went looking for the thread and I couldn't find it. I'm just curious now. What would your response have been to the woman? Edit: I'm worried that sounded combative. Honestly curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk insecurities and how to not let them get in the way of happiness?Interesting on the energy thing! I know I can relate to worrying if my husband will put up with my character defects forever. I try to know what they are and work on them, but I know I'll always be imperfect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk insecurities and how to not let them get in the way of happiness?I'm secure in my looks. I'm much prettier today than I was 10 years ago due to knowing what the heck to do with myself and I'm comfortable with the fact that I won't be able to say the same in 10 years. I'm growing as a human, becoming more complex and interesting, while trying to stay physically fit and taking care of my skin and looks as best I can. What makes me insecure is if I can't, I don't know... stay vulnerable? What if I can't deal with my anxiety and become my mother? Anytime somethin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 07:01 PM |
| 6 | Need some (sane) womanly advice: My wife asked me to make our marriage more traditional. What steps can I take to transition from a modern marriage into a traditional one, and how gradual a transition should it be?We are making some changes in our marriage as well and I'm the woman, so maybe I can offer some insights. When I'm in charge in my marriage I feel comfortable but not happy. Comfortable works for a long time, and in your case it seems to have worked for 11 years but now she wants to be happy. I hope she realizes she is going to have to give up on being comfortable for a long time before she can be both comfortable and happy. That's the nature of growth- it isn't comfortable. My concern is that y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 06:50 PM |
| 5 | Married and happy, but husband wants to swing with me?This... this is a hard one. It doesn't sound like you are comfortable with this idea. I just can't see it being a good idea if you aren't 100% comfortable with it and I hope your husband agrees with me on that. Swinging is something both people need to be on board with and you aren't. Talk to him and listen with open ears. Don't be formulating your arguments while he's speaking, just listen. Why does this appeal to him? Then hopefully he will be able to hear you when you speak about your thought… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 06:24 PM |
| 1 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?There is no people, there is only one person. You only allow a good man of your choice to influence you, a man you are happy and proud to be with. The vast majority of the time for me this doesn't come into play. He has his expertise, I have mine. If we disagree we discuss it respectfully and we both strive to hear the other person's opinion and viewpoint. Usually this is where it ends because we come together on a decision, if rarely, we still disagree he gets the final decision. He is the visi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/14 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?I pointed out exactly what she said that you took to mean something else and you responded by calling me an insulting name. I should have clarified that my previous comment was sarcastic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/14 12:07 AM |
| 1 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?I agree that you can be in charge of yourself without being lonely; that was not the question. I asked why submission is a threat to self-respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/14 12:04 AM |
| 2 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?How surprising it is that you were banned because you are such a gracious, polite, and well-spoken person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/14 12:02 AM |
| 1 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?I would ask why submission is such a threat to self-respect. Only respecting yourself if you are in charge seems like a hard and lonely way to live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/14 11:54 PM |
| 2 | How can someone have high self-respect, and choose to be/like being submissive at the same time? Isn't subordinacy the default coping strategy of the weak?No, she said He's better at not letting his emotions get in the way of coming up with the best answer She did not say he is better. This is why you were banned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/14 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on how women love differently than menYes. I read a lot about media effects on women's perceptions and expectations but not much on the effects on men's perceptions and expectations. I'd like to read/hear more about that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 10:21 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on how women love differently than menYes. I was 17 and I'm 32 now. 2. Yes, he does have a special place in my heart and he crosses my mind. He is in the military and whenever he comes into town we make it a point to get dinner. If he ever needed anything, I am there for him and vise versa. Romantically, I have zero inclination or interest. We've had many chances to get back together but neither of us are interested. I may be an outlier, I struggle sometimes with finding loyalty like I give. I joke that I bond for life. I am this wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on how women love differently than menThat's a really interesting point. It gives me a lot to think about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on how women love differently than menIt's easy for women to get laid, I agree. I disagree though that the experience of lost love is easier for women. I grieved terribly over my 'first'- my first love, the man I lost my virginity to. I cried so much that I tore the first layer on my eyes. I grieved for a long time and I think about it with fondness but also with the knowledge that he and I could not have worked out, we were too different on values and goals. I can't agree that The virginity takers in your life aren't with you in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Self-improvement thrifty style!I'm very careful with the canning. I don't have a pressure canner yet so I'm stuck with water bath canning but with the pickled products, the vinegar is an excellent preservative. The tomatoes are on the line acidity wise so they get an added burst of acidity with added lemon juice. Then properly canned in a water bath. I'm melting raw shea butter, adding some almond oil and then alternatively whipping it with a mixer and cooling it. I'll let you know how it goes. As far as the natural makeup, I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Self-improvement thrifty style!I do some gardening and canning and this year I canned 35 cans of tomatoes and 12 jars of pickles. I would love to learn to sew better (at all). I'm making my first batch of whipped shea butter lotion tomorrow. Any tips? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Self-improvement thrifty style!Ooooo, love the French wardrobe. I've been trying to do that and sometimes I balk at the prices, but I know if I can just get up the muster and do it, it will be less expensive in the longterm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 02:52 AM |
| 1 | When your RP man disappoints you?I think fostering gratitude and noticing all that he does right is important. It's easy to take something for granted that is done well all of the time but it is just as important to resist that. If you have gratitude for the things he does well and notice the times he doesn't let you down, your brain will not allow you to overreact because it will be a drop of ink in an ocean of clean water. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Introducing MyselfHey there! You are singing my song. My husband is a full-time student and I currently make all of our money, I also have historically been the decision maker. Here is what I'm learning- my control is about anxiety. I feel that if I don't do it, it won't get done. The problem is that I have created that reality for myself by managing, manipulating, and controlling everything. I don't mean that I do it meanly, it's just what I do. I have a clear vision of how things must be or should be, and then … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/14 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Christianity and the Red PillRight now I feel more uncomfortable than anything, but most things worth doing are hard in the beginning. We haven't talked about it yet but I plan on telling him that I'm proud of him, he's working very hard, and I know it will be okay because I believe in him. Then I'll probably do an hour and a half of yoga to relieve my stress. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 07:20 PM |
| 11 | Christianity and the Red PillOr is it that the similarities between conservative Christian values and RPW's values simply make it easier for women of women of the Christian persuasion to digest? This is my theory as well. I'm not a Christian nor do I have any ties to the bible. If something is said in the bible it means about as much to me as something said in Harry Potter. It might be interesting and meaningful to other people and I respect that, but it doesn't impact me. For me this is about not repeating my past mistakes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 05:42 PM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I believe communication is great but often things can be resolved through different actions, so the idea of not talking about it (nagging) makes sense to me. Treat him like an alpha, he'll be an alpha. Did I get the gist? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 06:38 AM |
| 5 | Raising RedLead by example. If you show her an example of a happy, healthy relationship, that will be the most powerful thing you can do. As a step-mother, your direct influence may be limited depending on your relationship with her and any time you spend telling her 'how it is' will be wasted and may go against your intentions. Show her how it is and the lesson will stick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Hi there, new here. Intro and question.I'm really new here as well. I know he says he doesn't mind and trust is a non issue between us. The thing is though is that he is not very assertive and won't say no to me. This is what struck me the most in your post. Right now you can't trust your husband to tell you the truth if he minds you leaving for a mini vacation. I've been in a relationship where I couldn't trust my partner to tell me if something was wrong and it caused me a lot of stress. Friends would tell me how lucky I am to have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 06:25 AM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?As a man, you dominating in the bedroom and your woman taking care of your needs in the home inspire you to take up more of a captain role in life? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 09:11 PM |
| 6 | AskMen: Unfeminine women are unattractive. Big surprise.I've always been very feminine and dressed femininely. Many women and some men immediately assume I'm weak. I find it sad that we see feminine qualities as weak and masculine qualities as strong. I just keep on being myself- feminine and competent. Anyone who knows me for much time at all can see that I am not weak. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 09:09 PM |
| 3 | What nice things did you do for your partner today?Thanks. I'm really hoping this month is our month. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 09:03 PM |
| 3 | What nice things did you do for your partner today?Wow! Achievement unlocked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 09:03 PM |
| 24 | AskMen: Unfeminine women are unattractive. Big surprise.I wonder why it's such a taboo and anti-feminist for men to not be attracted to unfeminine women. I'm not attracted to men in dresses and no one seems surprised by that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Candace Cameron Bure Explains Being 'Submissive' To HusbandI know this is old, but I wanted to comment. I think for me it helped when she said "I will follow him even if he makes a bad decision" because that's the mindset I need to have. I have trust issues and my husband is not perfect. There will come a time where he will make a decision that I disagree with and in retrospect I will have been right. It is inevitable if we go on to live the 50 years together I am hoping for. That being said, if I were making the decisions, it would happen just the same… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 07:41 PM |
| 7 | The Little-Sister ZoneWell, I'm not sure why this is happening to you other than you inspire these men to be protective. Do you want to go from 'little sister' to 'girlfriend' or do you want men to simply stop doing this to you? If you want to go from little sister to girlfriend, maybe try to increase your sexiness. Please don't misunderstand me, I am not saying to try to sleep with the man, I'm just saying to decrease the little girl vibe and increase the natural sexual being vibe. Continue to dress modestly but may… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 07:36 PM |
| 6 | What nice things did you do for your partner today?I am cleaning the house today and he is working on snow removal and getting ready for school tomorrow. Tonight I'm cooking dinner and I'm going to pack a lunch for him and set up the coffee machine so it will be ready for him in the morning. We are trying to make a baby and we just finished up with my fertile window so not having sex with him is the nicest thing I can do... ;) Maybe just a massage tonight and cuddling on the couch watching netflix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 07:21 PM |
| 1 | The fine lineI gotta agree. This just isn't adding up. People don't hand out abuse hotline cards for no reason. And even the most beautiful woman in the world knows how to exude an air of unavailablity in a way that men understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 06:51 PM |
| 4 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?Thank you for your input. I completely agree he has to find his own groove as well. He's never going to be someone like Dana's husband who "bosses people around in his sleep" and I'm okay with that. He's really happy with our marriage, as am I, but I'm having some nastily familiar old emotions come up that I had in my past LTR where I feel drained and resentful at times because it feels like it is all up to me. I love that he wants me to be happy but sometimes what makes me happy in the long run… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 06:44 PM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I trust my husband to tell me if I'm being annoying. I'm such a naturally take charge person, I probably should try to err on the side of being too passive, knowing that I probably have inability to actually be too passive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?He likes my juxtaposition of strength and femininity. He likes that I am sweet, pretty, and wear dresses while knowing how to set up a 401k, buy train tickets in a foreign country, and am calm in the face of a crisis. I see a problem, I fix the problem. It doesn't occur to me to rely on someone else. I don't want to change the rules on him and him to be confused or let down. I have talked to him about wanting him to make more decisions, to "take initiative" but I think I lack the vocabulary to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 06:34 PM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?It is the start of the semester, so my area of study is How To Not Talk About The Future 101 unless he brings it up. The semester is four months long, so that'll be my task. That and making sure he's well taken care of. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 04:41 AM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?Exactly! I've had these moments as well. He can lead and is a great leader and when I hold my tongue, it works out. But I swear I can feel my unspoken words choking me. I just need to repeat to myself to surrender, surrender, surrender. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 04:38 AM |
| 2 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I get anxious even thinking about this, which makes me realize you are right. It's so damn vulnerable. What if he doesn't step up? (rhetorical question) It's all about trust, which is one of my big issues. Ugh. I'm so uncomfortable, which, again, is how I know it's the thing I need to do. What should be his duties and what should be my duties? If he is neglecting a duty, what should I do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 04:31 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?He is very chill and I'm less so. I do notice more and that's part of my problem. I notice it, he doesn't, and I'm trying to figure out what is 'taking control' and what is 'taking care of things while he does his schooling'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 03:59 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I think we might need to talk about whose job is what, maybe? I would like to be the one to take care of the pets because it makes me anxious if they go without. But then I try not to be domineering so then I try to step back. I'm obviously sending very mixed signals. I'm very happy to take on the household stuff, including pets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 03:57 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?This is an excellent way to word it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 02:41 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?You are probably right. I may have made it too easy for him. I try not to shit-test or do those things that women do to test their man. I don't want to complain when he is working so hard on his degree for US, but maybe I've gone overboard with taking everything else on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 02:41 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?Oh, I agree with you. I just have no idea how to do this exactly. I've always been labeled 'a natural leader', and I am. I enjoy leading, mentoring, teaching. But not in my marriage. Sometimes I think to myself 'yes, I know the pets are 6 months overdue for their shots but I am letting him lead!' but then nothing happens. Then I think 'am I expecting him to be psychic? That's not right.'. So honestly, I am lost on how not to lead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 02:36 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I will look into the book, thank you. He has a clear vision of where he wants to be in 2 years- gainfully employed, with a child, maybe working towards living off the grid, good friendships and food. This is a good example though of where I take the lead. He would like to move back to his home state and we currently live in my home state. He has said that if I'm not okay with moving he won't look for work in his home state. He feels that he can be happy anywhere and he isn't sure if I want to mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 01:21 AM |
| 3 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I like being in control, having the leg up, but the consequence of being everyone's rock is the burden aspect. I'm learning that more and more it isn't working for me. It is a slow process, like untangling a knot, to figure out how to stop doing this. No, I don't like it anymore. I especially don't like it in my marriage. Although I wouldn't say I'm nearly as much this way in my marriage. I have recently discussed with him how I feel. He said he understood and that he acknowledges that taking in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 01:16 AM |
| 2 | The fine lineThe more people find out about our relationship the more they think they can have the same by having me or worse "saving" me. I'm sorry, I'm confused by this. Can you elaborate? Do people thing you are being abused? So they want to steal you or save you from your abuser? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 12:47 AM |
| 4 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I started reading her blog! It's part of my inspiration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 12:37 AM |
| 2 | The Inevitability of Female SubmissionI thought we were talking about ways that men do not submit. Everyone has someone they submit to when we talk about employment, even the CEO or president. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 08:53 PM |
| 2 | The Inevitability of Female SubmissionI too am self-employed, and am able to support myself on my earnings comfortably. I've always been stubborn and unyielding, unable to follow a rule unless it made sense to me. But I have found someone who deserves my submission (by the author's definition) and that's more important to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 06:43 PM |
| 2 | The Inevitability of Female SubmissionI really like this author's definition of submission. "In reality, submission is putting the interests of someone or something else before your own, without even thinking about it." Submission has always had a bad connotation for me but under this definition, it's something I strive for each day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 06:18 PM |
| 3 | A friend posted this on Facebook.. "40 Little Things You can do to Please a Woman"I love that. I like looking to myself to make my husband as happy as I can. The happiness always is contagious! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Feminist stumbles into RPW. Agrees with a LOT of points. Confusion ensues. Please help!!I feel similarly to you. I'm coming to understand that perhaps the world is not so black and white that there is only one philosophy that works or should be taken into account. Perhaps I should learn and keep my eyes open and not get stuck in a single mind frame, bettering myself. I don't need things to be One Way or The Other. For me, wisdom lies somewhere between. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 05:33 PM |
| 1 | When husband is being a jerkJust to clarify- the wee girl, is that you or your daughter? In either case I would say give him a day of relaxing and then see what happens. If after a day he is still to busy, talk with him nicely about it. No accusing, just talking and see where that goes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 12:07 AM |
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