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THANK YOU. I will never understand how people think have a WHOLE HUMAN is less of a commitment than marriage??? And are okay with that?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 02:03 PM
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Yes. This is definitely a lesson learned that I don’t have to be nice even if they’re my friend’s brother. I was trying to placate everyone :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:53 PM
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She definitely does. I do plan on discussing it with her. I don’t have any faith in her judgment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:52 PM
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Yes. My other friends have pointed out how crazy it is to leave someone with anyone without asking, even if it is their own brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:52 PM
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Yea - I discussed this with our mutual friend. She had a rough childhood and I think she does not understand how to identify and cut off bad men. Her mom is a total pickme and I know she is trying to rise above her upbringing. I will talk to her about all of this - I just needed a few days to get some space and to get some clarity about how I would phrase my thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:51 PM
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LOL sexual energy. I once went on a date with someone I met out and the next day he texted me saying he only wanted to hang out if we would have sex on my couch. When I very bluntly informed him that I don’t have sex with men I don’t know and had lost all interest he also informed me that I give off “sexual vibes” that don’t warrant respect. Amazing the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:49 PM
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Honestly, for a few seconds I was like is this man going to strangle me? Is this how I end up on some Netflix special? I really think he will hurt someone one day :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:47 PM
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I know. I should’ve just stayed rude after insulting my job. But you’re right, I didn’t want to “cause problems” or “be a bitch”. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:46 PM
8

Oh god. I really hope this isn’t the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:45 PM
3

Thank you all for your comments and support. I am so embarrassed by this whole situation. I do plan on discussing with my friend that leaving someone alone with a man they don’t know is never okay regardless of who they are to you. She’s younger w pretty terrible role modeling in her life and I want to give her the chance to grow as a person. I obviously no longer trust her judgment at all, but I don’t think she fully understood before this that her brother is an actual predator. I give her cred…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:44 PM
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Honestly, we had all been drinking and I didn’t really think anything of it. I had no intention of being alone with him or hanging out with him and at the time it seemed harmless. Trust me, this is a lesson learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:36 PM
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This is v surprising bc the nerds I’ve dated were so eager to learn I just trained them and to this day were my fave partners 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:11 PM
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Ik. My sister was like why do you ex people after only the first picture. I’m like if there’s LITERALLY no chance of my being attracted to them, why read it? I totally get that some of the men I really liked I might not have swiped right on, but why settle on an online platform??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:21 PM
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My two main, formative relationships both were with men (very randomly) got super paranoid that I cheated or was flirting with other men. I found it baffling but put up with it. Guess what? Both of them cheated on me 🤡. Never put up with this!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:13 PM
43

He murdered his OWN CHILD???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:08 PM
22

TWENTY YEARS FOR THIS??? What a fucking joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:11 AM
23

I think sour taste of their inadequacy is my new favorite phrase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:42 AM
26

I am present for many births for a living and since the rules have changed to only having 1 person I have been surprised to see that overwhelmingly women are not picking the father of the baby. Sometimes even married couples. I thought about this myself and honestly the fathers are usually totally useless once things get tough - I think if I was only given one person I’d pick one of my sisters. I don’t think men really just don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:29 AM
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I know!! I am recently single and attempted to establish a mutually respectful relationship to have sex without attachments and HE told ME that he thought it was going to get too messy! Like...why? Because men are such trash that they can’t even guarantee hanging out occasionally and having safe sex and not being a complete piece of shit???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:42 AM
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Ugh. It physically pains me to think I stayed w someone who told him friends about fun toys and things I brought into our sex life. Like how did I not realize he had 0 respect for me??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:39 AM
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Lol my best friend’s little brother is going to college soon (he’s like 12 years younger) and I was pushing her to talk to him about consent, relationships, and being respectful towards women / a good lover. She agreed but feels too embarrassed to talk to him about it!! It’s ridiculous. She said she’ll make her fiancé do it, but I don’t really see why normalizing talking about this is so controversial!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:16 PM
8

Omg gross. I don’t even go down on dudes unless they’ve done it to me bc like this shocks me not at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:05 PM
69

I distinctly remember some loser who would never have a shot w me asked me at a bar what my job was. I answered and his response was like “oh so you think you’re better than me?” And I was like ummm well now I do lol. Get out of here w that negging nonsense - gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:02 PM
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Literally crying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:11 AM
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Hahahahaha they maddddd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:54 PM
56

I mean I once heard a man say “a hole’s a hole” and I’m pretty sure that’s when I gave up on men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:39 AM
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Absolutely. I’m so over hook up culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:55 PM
165

My immediate next thought is like throw in some Netflix and sounds like a great time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:53 PM
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Lol did they think your magical vagina would lure their husband away w it’s single women pheromone??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:51 PM
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I have totally removed him. I take your guys’ advice seriously and realized how toxic it was. I learned about this from a totally random interaction and how he “treats” her from a very unhealthy period when they first got together. Thank you though for your understanding. I’ve been pretty ashamed for being so weak about this whole thing and I’m glad at least I’m not alone in being human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:24 PM
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Ten years till what?? You die?? You shrivel up and become a prune?? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:16 PM
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You go girl!! Getting out of a shitty situation is always something to be praised!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:19 PM
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For the love of god - if my life is worth anything - PLEASE do not validate these men. They will push you to your maximal limit until you are begging them for validation and it is not worth it. Find someone who values you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:01 AM
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So I always recommend IUDs for patients who don’t tolerate any forms of birth control, but I’m assuming this is a no for you! If so, have you looked into Phexxi? I generally don’t recommend it to patients as It is definitely not meant to be used alone (I believe it’s only about 80% effective on its own), but in combination with male condoms I would imagine it might be helpful to decrease your risk of pregnancy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:30 AM
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What a fucking trash bag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:25 AM
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Before I met my current boyfriend, this was literally what I did. My job is very demanding with terrible hours and the thought of dinner with a stranger was so painful that I just would agree to these low value things on my schedule. No makeup, no effort, and happy as punch to nope outta there ASAP. Now after FDS I get why I shouldn’t do that in the future if I’m single again, but it actually worked out pretty well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:59 AM
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I mean someone cheated on fucking Beyoncé so the bar is definitely in a ditch below the floor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:55 AM
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SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS. If you get in my space and make me feel unsafe, enjoy the show motherfucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:22 AM
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The father, the son, and the Holy Spirit of get the fuck away from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:20 AM
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Yea like ...no way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:28 PM
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:) glad to help!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:48 PM
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Just wanted to let you know - Junel is a generic for a very old BC pill called Loestrin 21. Lo loestrin does not have a generic yet! I do have a lot of worries about generics vs name brands as they don’t have the some approval process, but those two pills have slightly different dosages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:13 AM
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Lol some of the absolute worst, most misogynistic trash men I’ve ever met were my med school classmates ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:02 AM
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I also love how she left out the rest of the sentence - pointing out how men literally write us disgusting messages and are creepy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:57 AM
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“Legalize sex work so I can abuse women legally and pretend I’m not a deranged piece of shit” is what he meant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:50 AM
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THIS MONOLOGUE — it hit where it hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:49 AM
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Before I met my current boyfriend I was seeing a guy who was very good looking and was about to start a great job. On paper like a total catch. One time we ordered literally burritos to go (maybe like a $10 thing? $12?) and I forgot to thank him for paying for it because we had picked it up and just continued on with our day. After he left he was so curt in his texts and I randomly remembered I hadn’t thanked him, so I did and apologized for the oversight. He IMMEDIATELY responds with a whole lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:46 PM
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This is just one OBGYN’s experience - but a LOT of women are very traumatized after giving birth just from the experience. I am just guessing here, but I think he meant the epidural was insufficient and didn’t work despite the pain and anxiety of getting it placed and her c section was done with insufficient anesthesia and continued despite her pain and screams. I just am assuming he means that the PTSD has left her bedridden and unable to function. I have gotten in actual shouting matches with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:55 AM
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My god I fucking can’t with America
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:34 AM
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Oh hell no. I am so sick of this shit. Did she fight with the hospital? If you assert that you can only afford x amount of money and play serious hardball a LOT of times they will work w you bc it’s better than no money. I literally work in a hospital and fight w the billing people for patients and it’s ridiculous. It’s like “insurance only covers 20% of the bill” — ok except the bill is like 400000 dollars?? How?? So that your loved one doesn’t die?? It’s disgusting. I have zero respect for any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:48 PM
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Good for you!! I see way too many children used as pawns by shitty men. It seems so hard to raise kids all alone (just like carpools, activities, diapers) but I am impressed at your fortitude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:44 PM
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Lol I literally say this all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:15 PM
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Yea like if you are a man and even if your face is not particularly attractive, but you are in shape, wear well-fitting clothes, have good hygiene and are groomed, women will be interested. I definitely have dated many men who were not that good looking but took care of themselves and had good personalities and I was still attracted to them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:10 PM
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Yes. Literally went from like 24/7 talking and telling me we should run off to a Caribbean island (where I could be the local doctor and he could do freelance law things or whatever) to “I think you think this is more than it is.” Lol yea OK I’m the one who misunderstood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:44 PM
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UGH this is so fucking accurate. Scrotes gonna scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:42 PM
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There was a guy I have known since I was 12. We have always been friends and every so often I suspected he liked me. After I broke up with my 5+ year boyfriend in our mid twenties, he confessed that he had wanted something more since we were 12. That I was that “what if” girl. It was all so romantic I got totally caught up. Then a month later I was “too into it and serious”. Lol. You can’t live up to an ideal, unfortunately, and it makes you feel pretty bad about yourself afterward...but now I r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:33 AM
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Oh absolutely. He is trash, but you have to forgive yourself. Society tells men that is “funny” and acceptable...it’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:40 PM
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Well I can tell you that I train among mostly younger women and no one has ever entertained anything like a husband stitch ever. Things have definitely changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:53 PM
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What the fuck. Her parents need to take him to therapy for emotionally disturbed children ASAP before he becomes a fucking predator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:10 PM
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Can you please tell her that she should agree to open the relationship, starting dating other people, and then ceremoniously dump him while living her best life??? Men don’t need a hoe phase. If they appreciate you why would they wish they were fucking other women (who in reality do not want to fuck them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:50 PM
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This!!!! Women don’t want your cheating ass, loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:48 PM
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Lol counseling doesn’t teach someone how to be a fucking basic decent human being 😹😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:44 PM
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Lol women don’t want to sleep with you for SO many reasons, my dear, but stating that we need to be “fixed” (ignoring your clear insanity) is definitely high up on the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:38 PM
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Are you able to get that student loan? Are you in the US? Can you contact your college and discuss if there are any payment plans / ways to stay at school? Your mother is an abuser. Pick me is the least of it. No child deserves to be blamed for sexual abuse or told they are a prostitute. Your mother has made her own life choices and makes her herself feel superior by putting you down. While she may be your mother, that doesn’t mean she automatically deserves anything from you. Is it feasible for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:32 PM
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Lol if I’m ever single again I would sign up for an app w a background check
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:13 PM
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COMMUNITY DICK. Omg. Using this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:19 PM
27

Right? Things were going well w a boy who was perfect on paper and then he told me if I’m a good dancer I must be good in bed. I told him that was a weird fucking comment to make to someone you literally don’t even know and he was like “yea maybe you’re a little too uptight for me if you can’t even joke”. Lol ok dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:10 AM
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Good for you! These men who think they can have kids and not help because tHeY wOrK aLl DaY. I have friends who work in my field (like 60-80 hours per week EVERY week) who someone come home and find time to raise their kids, help cook, and participate. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:54 PM
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Lol I don’t get it. Does she even like him? Like why date this man??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:29 AM
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Don’t they all lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:44 AM
13

But a fat loser on Twitter told me this can’t be true!! Ugh just don’t know who to believe anymore 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:43 AM
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I also don’t think they realize that thanks to sperm banks I can make babies alone too 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:42 AM
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I do have fun colored hair but I still won’t hang w your loser ass 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:28 PM
6

Now this is the kind of energy I wanna see!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:23 PM
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Or it means they like to yell at and control you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:14 PM
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Yup and it takes a lot of time and therapy to realize that “better” really doesn’t have much to do with you lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:10 AM
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Lol I know...trust me we are embarrassed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:59 AM
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What???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:58 AM
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Yaaaaas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:58 PM
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Also learned this the hard way lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:41 PM
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It is not shallow to have standards!! Scream it from the rooftops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:27 PM
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Right?? I would never let a best friend make me feel like shit about myself until I cried. Would never let them say mean things about me to other people. Would never sit around and take emotional abuse and never say anything! Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:25 PM
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Lol this sounds like my mother 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:37 AM
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I seriously wish I had understood that before I spent five years with someone who basically completely devastated me for the “woman of his dreams”. This is such knowledge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:31 AM
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Holy shit - my entire college relationship has now been explained to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:39 AM
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Hedy Lamarr is one of the coolest humans to ever exist. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:46 PM
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I know. It’s like excuse me she is a doctor with a sick ass apartment. Why should she settle?? Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:20 PM
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Hahahah. Like no sweetie I very specifically do not want YOU because you are not particularly attractive and don’t have a good job. Sorry I’m not sorry I’m not interested in finding out what an LVM male you are 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:19 PM
12

Barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:30 PM
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The girl my ex cheated on me with bought him a 60 inch TV before they were even together for a year lollllll. Enjoy that tiny dick gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:32 PM
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I wish someone could’ve told this to an emotionally decimated me back in 2019 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:35 PM
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Scream it for the cheap seats in the back, my dear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:30 PM
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Lol my boyfriend is a broke ass med student and does not get mad when I expect him to pick up the tab every so often. What a clown
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:28 PM
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Holy shit. I don’t understand the universe but vibes are so real. So glad she called you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:25 PM
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Absolutely. My cousin (who is basically my other sister) decided to dump her LOSER ex bf and he was like well come get your stuff and for some reason decided he needed to be there, so we went together. 0 chance I’m leaving my sister in that situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:24 PM
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I get it. The first five years of my post college life were with one person and a lot of my formative life experiences included him, so it’s so annoying when I want to discuss something cool but it’s like oh yea and that fuck was there 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:12 PM
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Omg this is the kind of energy I need in 2020 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:50 PM
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I basically want to shout your last paragraphs from the rooftops lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:55 PM
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I literally see this every day and do not get it. I have all these girls who get pregnant by guys and are like “yea me and my boyfriend are trying” or “it just happens” and like don’t seem to care that there’s no real commitment or that they have like four other kids????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:32 AM
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Don’t they get scared they’re going to be murdered??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:21 AM
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Ruth Bader Ginsburg was a Jewish woman who triumphed at a time when both were shameful. She went to school all day, cared for a sick husband all night, and took care of a small child. She couldn’t get a job despite being the top of her class. She married a man who spoke of her like she walked on water. She changed the course of history. She is the highest value person I can imagine. I feel lucky to have shared the same microcosm of history as her. In Jewish culture, those who die the night befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:47 AM
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I wish you had told me this during my last relationship - would’ve saved me five years 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:29 PM
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Exactly. This article is like “Why you should let LVM run your life and personality.” Like lol bitch you ain’t shit. Imma sit here w my nails done and my life that I pay for and ride into the sunset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:50 PM
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Thanks girl. It’s alway nice when someone reminds me of this. It’s really easy to think it was me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:33 PM
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My niece makes me watch this silly Zombie movie w her and the lead boy in it is literally a surrogate baby from his mom was like 41 and some hot ass gay model guy she knew. She got a baby that belonged just to her and he’s like 6 2 and famous lol so I think she had the right idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:49 AM
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Gf, I had to go to therapy to get over my LVM ex. I loved that man for almost five years and he cheated on me with a dime store version of myself. I tried no contact - I tried WHY DID YOU LIE TO ME - I tried to get closure - all of it leaves scars. I wish I had stayed strong and not contacted like you. Go to therapy and see if you have stuff to get out. It is so embarrassing how long this shit plays out on your heart and mind (I still struggle occasionally a year and a half later), but if you wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:57 PM
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You fucking tell him queen 👸🏻👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:52 PM
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Yea dude - she was banished to the night (hence the Hebrew word for night, Lilah)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:47 PM
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Hello I am so here for this. “Men shouldn’t walk alone at night. The maenads can’t help it - look at what they’re wearing!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:45 PM
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Swift justice and I am here for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:18 AM
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Supposedly her friend who donated her kidney to her was pissed that she was partying so much and not taking care of herself. Can’t say I blame her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:09 PM
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Lol I dated a guy for like 5 years who had a small penis and he would make “jokes” to me that it was small and it was so awkward. Shocker he cheated on me w the first girl to show him a lot of attention when we lived apart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:29 PM
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So true. My bf’s dad was married before his current marriage but it they were divorced before his older sister was even born. The ex wife decided to move 3 hours from him bc her family was there. He would drive 6 hours round trip every Friday and Monday for legit 5 years until she was old enough to have other weekend plans. They are very close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:14 AM
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Same. I used to hVe people ask what I did to make my waist small and I was just like uh...breathe? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:26 PM
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Well I wouldn’t feel that bad for her. According to the testimony the sister in law hit the child for something related to speaking up or accusations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:18 PM
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WHAT THE FUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:16 PM
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Yea. My dad starting dating 3 months after my mom died and it didn’t go over well. He started dating this women since then and was furious when I refused to meet her within a year after my mom died. My dad is a great dad in most ways, but he can be really immature and like could kept saying he couldn’t understand why I didn’t want him to be happy. I was like idc if you’re dating fuckhead but don’t shove this stranger in my life while I’m grieving my mother. His empathy just isn’t great..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:55 PM
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You go girl. Kick his ass to the curb. POS don’t deserve none of your queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:44 PM
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Amen gf. I can have a baby by myself with some excellent sperm bank spermies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:43 PM
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Have you tried any of the Einstein doctors in the Bronx? It’s a little bit of a trip, but the girls I know there are usually pretty open minded and they definitely take all kinds of insurance! https://www.montefiore.org/womens-health-services-family-planning-and-birth-control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:11 AM
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Interesting. Where are you located? If I know any docs in the area I could recommend one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:31 PM
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It’s really unfortunate that some people just don’t tolerate birth control well. I also hated the implant and hAd it removed early and I work in the field! Are you sure your insurance won’t cover it until 21? I’ve never heard of this qualifier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:42 AM
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I think a lot of people are afraid of getting sued and don’t want to deal w the headache of a regretful patient. You’re absolutely right in that’s not a reason to not perform a procedure, but that’s definitely their reasoning. I would generally say the best bet for people who want this is to go to a residency program without a religious affiliation. Residents need experience and a lot of times fight harder for younger patients to be heard. I’m mostly speaking from personal experience but I do fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:39 AM
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Lol fuck that. Getting your tubes tied is actual surgery. Getting a vasectomy is like legit a 10 min outpatient procedure. Any guy who is married and refuses it is a dick bag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:10 PM
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I think most OBs just really worry about people in their 20s getting their tubes tied bc they’ve been burned before w women coming back in their 30s angry at them. However, I have participated in tubal ligations in women as young as 22. If you find a female provider with NO religious affiliation (hospital or practice) they will likely do it for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:09 PM
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Back when I was young and naive and full of hope I couldn’t understand why when my boyfriend would wear condoms they’d be kinda baggy and not feel good. Follow up several sexual partners later and I realized it was bc his tiny ass dick was too small for them and he didn’t even fucking know that. Sucks to suck dickhead!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:03 PM
9

I once invited a dude over to tan on my balcony and he drink beer and he told me I was clearly DTF. I told my bff this story and she was like WELL YOURE A WOMAN AND YOU WORE A BATHING SUIT!!! SEXUALITY!!!! Lol. Men are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:23 AM
7

Barffff. I’m late 20s and look really young (maybe like early 20s?) and I used to get super creeped out when old dudes would come up to me when I was younger bc I knew how young I looked. The audacity of these creeps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:21 AM
4

I read things like this and I’m so sad that there are women who let this go. I was on a journey of regaining my self-worth when I found this sub and I’m thankful there of thousands of women out there who remind me that I’m worth it. I want this woman to find her tribe!! NO ONE should ever tolerate this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:17 AM
9

Gf I was in your shoes a year and a half ago. The dating scene has changed so much—hookup culture is really rampant these days. Do not rush into dating! It takes a while to build yourself back up and figure out the kind of guy you’re looking for! Wishing you all the luck and love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:17 PM
27

If you have no commitment you can’t be unfaithful lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:08 PM
10

Lol so accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:03 PM
47

I was gonna say yup he’s a pig all right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:03 AM
4

It looks like he’s a Jesuit priest, but I really admire someone who practices what they preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:06 PM
6

Lol I love how most of these women actually still look great, they just don’t have a ton of makeup or it’s an unflattering shot. Christina Applegate is in a new show and she looks great. Also, they’re probably fat losers who couldn’t get NATALIE PORTMAN to notice them if they lit themselves on fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:30 PM
24

Well I think a reality of most straight male/female friendships is that if you were both single odds are they would be down to have sex w you if they’re attracted to you. I do have some male friends though that I’ve remained close with but there are definitely more physical barriers and respecting their romantic relationships than I would ever have to have with a female friend. I think any girl who argues otherwise is delusional lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:46 PM
4

Wait is this really true? Did he admit to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 02:07 AM
108

He’s a twat. Money doesn’t buy you class. I remember reading the route they had to travel to get to those kids and thinking it was the scariest thing I could imagine. Like lol cal Elon even run a mile?? Shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:58 PM
33

So glad you cross posted this! I was glad to see r/feminism is talking about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:06 AM
28

The audacity is seriously limitless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:49 PM
2

This is my new fave comment of all time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:27 AM
2

I mean they literally MADE A MOVIE out of Cardi B’s life of drugging and stealing from men who were seeking illegal services and men lost their shit. Where is the movie about a group of men who drug drinks to rape women?? We all know this happens all the time, but that ain’t interesting bc it doesn’t serve the purpose of making women look bad and materialistic ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:25 AM
3

Lol dude. My best friend has been with a man for a couple years now who treats her like a queen. For their anniversary, he got her a drawing of herself. However, like a real man he had taken a picture of her in one of their early dates and he said it was something that captured the essence of why he fell in love with her. And then he had it commissioned and painted by an actual artist. THAT is a painting/drawing worth gifting. LVMs suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:15 AM
1

If he doesn’t want you to meet his friends then he is not worthy of your time. Dump him and find a man who thinks you’re amazing and can’t wait to take you everyone. Also, anyone who doesn’t hold a door open for you is terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:49 AM
1

I agree. I was in a really bad place after my breakup w my long term ex and seeing him tout his relationship with the girl he left me for just broke my spirit. (I know I should’ve just deleted and blocked him, but I think I used to love to torture myself to prove I didn’t deserve anything good. I was really low before FDS.) anyway, I deleted my Facebook and Instagram and found FDS and it revived me as a person. I now have them back, but infrequently use them. I don’t think you realize how much m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:12 AM
11

IN MIDDLE SCHOOL Amazing. These men literally have no shame lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:07 AM
6

“Let’s go for a walk so I can find your burial plot and then I murder you!” Run chica!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:02 AM
1

Yea dude. Even if I’m into a dude and we are flirting and having a long convo, I wouldn’t ever suggest that we go out. The closest I’ve come since being an FDS-er is flirting and asking when they’re going to take me out and even that was a particularly dense nerd whose response was “oh! I would love to take you out! I didn’t realize you were interested!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:01 AM
6

I def learned the hard way this is like the reddest flag lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:52 AM
12

Right? Ya wanna see me hit the ceiling? “not all men” me. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:40 AM
7

Lol same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:38 AM
6

Damn girl good for you!! Congratulations on your success! (Side note, I love Starbucks too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:23 PM
21

My bf (who I met and got via FDS strategy — thanks ladies!!) cleans up after I cook without being asked because he thinks that’s fair and happily puts things away. Idk why women settle for this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:03 PM
3

Well if it’s an activity you’re actually doing together I think it’s different. I was just waiting for him to want to notice me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:43 PM
2

Ugh that’s so annoying!!! I’m sorry :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:42 PM
5

Same! But I had a friend get one and she mentioned it and it has been awesome. https://www.victoriassecret.com/vs/bras-catalog/the-t-shirt-lightly-lined-wireless-bra-5000005702?choice=98O1&genericId=11158479&limit=180&productId=46ab4cd4-4704-47f6-8943-33cba61a02e6&searchBrand=vs&searchedFor=Wireless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:16 PM
12

Side note: Jameela Jamil is cool AF and I highly recommend reading her stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:11 PM
30

It’s called “my boyfriend thinks this is an acceptable way to spend time with me and I’m too pathetic to demand better”. - signed, a former PickMe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:06 PM
4

Girl, I get it. It is heartbreaking to hear someone you loved so much totally trash you for their own benefit. There are a lot of things I could have said about my long term guy, but I didn’t. With my new relationship I took FDS strategy and just kind of deflected a lot of questions about him except that he cheated. I know you didn’t deserve that and it is honestly INCREDIBLE sometimes the mental gymnastics men will go through to justify their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:05 PM
13

Amen. Victoria’s Secret has a line of wire free bras they now make in a DDD — changed my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:02 PM
36

I haven’t worn an underwire bra in 2 years and I am never going back 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:00 PM
10

Right? It sounds so nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:59 PM
5

Yes queen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:55 PM
3

Now that is the QUEEN energy I like to hear! You go girl!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:50 AM
3

Do NOT shoulder all the blame. Relationships end because of two people, and if one of you is a big JERK who treats you like shit I bet it’s mostly him. Love yourself!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:13 PM
8

Right?? I’m like fuck dude I wish I had known this when I was her age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:34 PM
11

Loll that is stupid. The guy I’m dating now and I both had a mutual conversation that we wanted to wait a while bc we felt like we had a real connection and didn’t want sex to cloud our judgment. Good men are ok w this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:28 PM
8

Yea. For me I can be super into it, but if their penis is bigger than a certain size I like lube. But I think her sentiment is still a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:10 PM
7

Hits me right in the feels. Love yourself gf, don’t take all this pain on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:00 PM
7

Anyone who makes you feel like everything is your fault is not a partner you want in life. I learned this the hard way too. Consider yourself lucky that you didn’t have this man doing this to you forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:59 PM
11

Yea. At this point if I meet a guy who has a crazy/mean/bitchy/whatever ex I become super suspicious. The two main exes in my life I know dehumanized me like that to their new girls and in reality that wasn’t at all fair. Like is she crazy? Or are you trash? Next :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:57 PM
7

Same, girl. Tigers don’t change their stripes. Remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:54 PM
15

Yea. My ex bf rarely did sweet, thoughtful things for me. He left me for a girl he knew and (at least via social media) is basically a perfect boyfriend who is obsessed with her and does wonderful things for her and publicly posts about how much he cares. It really fucked with me for a while, but I decided that it isn’t my fault he behaved like that with me and moved on. It definitely hurts and makes you feel like you just weren’t loved, but I just keep telling myself tigers don’t change their s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:53 PM
9

Honey, let me start off saying I’ve been there and it is so horrible. I used to cry every day over someone who I loved with my heart and soul, but he left me for someone he barely knew. My advice is, lean in. Feel the pain. Cry. Fantasize that he gets hit by a truck, whatever. What you can’t do is let it ruin your heart and your self-esteem. Take this time to remember why you deserve love and why you are an amazing person. Go out there and fall in love with yourself. Play the piano, dance, have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:00 AM
4

Lol I dated a guy who said he was 6’ which is always a lie. Like interesting how in real life average height is 5’9” but on online dating it’s 6’??? Anyway, this guy put he was 6’. Obv was 5’10”. I didn’t care bc I’m short, but it probably should’ve been my first clue to a red flag that he KNEW it was a lie and was so insecure he put six feet instead.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:41 AM
4

Right? I don’t know if parents are naive or something, but I definitely will have intense child locks and make sure to be educated about how to control the internet more than a teenaged boy. This is shit is beyond damaging to children and it’s your responsibility as a parent to protect them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:04 AM
2

Please shout this from the rooftops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:00 AM
17

Lol same argument I use to prove sexuality isn’t a choice...bc why would I still be w men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:27 AM
9

I think they get confused because some women (like me) have difficulty orgasming from sex with someone they don’t have a good emotional connection with, so they assume you don’t like having sex otherwise. They dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:22 AM
4

Yas queen!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:55 PM
21

This. When they inform you that you’re “stuck up” because you value yourself and have standards...gross. I don’t need to be more humble you trash bag. I’m allowed to think that the work and effort I put into myself is worth something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:45 AM
17

That’s fucking vile. Sex trafficking is such an important issue. How anyone could not be absolutely distraught thinking someone was forced to do these things makes me want to cry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:42 PM
9

Omg this is amazing lolllllll. I didn’t know I was just a walking cock socket 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:41 PM
11

Gross. So glad the trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:40 PM
11

My bf told me he has had friends pay strippers for sex / hVe strippers come home w him but he was grossed out and said he didn’t get it. I will literally never understand men who think that would be shocking? The few guy friends I have who admitted hooking up w a prostitute usually felt ashamed of it and actively hid it from women lol so even they knew it would be a dealbreaker. But, you know, porn 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:38 PM
23

Yes girl!!! Sex is supposed to be about connection and pleasure. So glad you found the right help to undo all that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:17 PM
14

“Crusty dusty scrotes” OMG I am dead. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:22 PM
10

Ew. Send him glitter mail so that it explodes and he can never get his security deposit back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:19 PM
3

So I would argue that 99% (maybe more) of men on OLD are horrible, lol. However, I do think there are guys out there who have the same really limited sphere of meeting people that I do (work a lot, were in a long term relationship through mid 20s that didn’t work out). I actually have met a couple really awesome guys from it — but I weeded through A LOT of frogs. I mostly used cute photos that I thought showed things I like to do and fun times with friends. I like to think I’m a funny gal, so I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:14 PM
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No it’s really common. I always assumed it’s like a time constraint / can’t be naked thing. It’s alarming that anyone could think this actually is what it should be like..gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:59 PM
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Lol I know. It’s like uh most women learn from long term relationships where they get to know their partner? Even if it’s something one partner liked, it’s very likely a different one doesn’t?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:45 PM
3

It has to be right??? RIGHT???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:38 PM
16

I literally can’t even imagine my dad being okay with this...I think he would sit in the dark every day for a long time if one of his kids died
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:37 PM
11

Right?? Fucking imbeciles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:04 PM
48

Lol that’s like when you’re told you’re needy because you ask for more emotional support and attention. Like ok fuckface—I’m needy because I’m asking for the bare minimum from you? K
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:01 PM
4

What the fuck did I just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:59 PM
43

Lol I know hundreds of men who would disagree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:49 PM
2

Congrats on breaking the cycle!! Self-compassion has been such a godsend just like these ladies who have showed me to value myself!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:49 PM
8

Yea. I eventually had sex and after a few people realized it’s pretty much crap unless they’re invested and know my body 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:41 AM
5

Yes. Now that I’m in a better place I realize how much I gave and how little effort he did. I was so desperate for any little inkling of love and thought he left me because I’m terrible. He treats his new girl a lot better and it really fucked with me for a while. Now, though, I agree. He did me a favor. I would’ve let myself spend even more years trying to earn his love and I know this would’ve happened eventually. Hoping to make 2020 a great year ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:37 AM
5

Thank you! It’s been a really, really rough road but I’m so proud that I’m learning my worth. You ladies have really opened my eyes to what a good relationship really is and I’m so grateful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:32 AM
16

A guy once insisted I send him a snap chat because he “wanted to see my cute face” after I repeatedly told him no. I never spoke to him again and I’m glad that I was in the right..I don’t always have the best instincts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:43 AM
4

This comment is amazing. Loveeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:42 AM
6

Get it girl!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:30 AM
5

Please run. That shit is toxic and no genuinely good human who respects women would look at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:25 AM
4

I feel like almost everything has been said, but I have a big one that any time I’ve ignored I’ve regretted. He needs to have at least 1 friend he’s known since fairly early childhood. I know people move and army brats and blahblahblah, but I have found that even people who moved at age 9 who were cool, lovely guys somehow kept in touch w at least 1 friend. Don’t care if they’re girls or guys since I’m childhood everyone is the same. I get very skeptical if you can’t have a friendship that withs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:22 AM
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FISCALLY CONSERVATIVE BUT SOCIALLY LIBERAL. Literally that was most of the men I met between 18-22 and I was single once I grew a brain...shocker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:16 AM
3

She will!! I was young and naive and I did the same thing. I promise eventually she will figure it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:11 AM
4

I totally agree. I’m tiny and it doesn’t bother me if a guy is only a little taller than me if he’s a cool guy. I hate heels anyway! But being weird and insecure about it and lying...yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:05 AM
12

I love this! Me and my older sisters are besties. It warms my heart to see fellow sister BFFs ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:03 AM
5

Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:02 AM
44

Yea this used to happen to me all the time. “What are you waiting for??” Uh, a meaningful relationship where I feel loved? Men are trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:00 AM
15

I dated a guy for 4+ years and made it clear early on that I will only shave my legs if I’m in a situation where I know I’ll be publicly shamed for it (and just don’t wanna deal) and that I think my vulva should have hair. He never complained and was pretty much was just excited to have sex w me (bc SHOCKER he’s a guy and he loved me lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:57 PM
13

It is definitely alarming how many older women who tell me “good, you finish your schooling and wait until you’re old to get married!” When I tell them I’m single. Even my mom who was hyper dependent on men would always tell me I need my own money so I can always leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:51 PM
15

I’m glad you and your sister have such good taste! That’s super awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:47 PM
30

Literally came to say this. And I work w OBs who are literally surrounded by young women 24/7. If someone who has to sterile scrub multiple times a day can do it, so can your punk ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:45 PM
13

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:23 PM
1

Yes same!! I think they’re way better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:22 PM
52

Yea he posted that he misses his fiancée but he was the one helping her shoot up..I know addiction is all encompassing but take some responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:14 AM
3

I think the best condom I’ve ever used was non latex lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:37 AM
15

That article is hilarious bc I think all women here are feminist. I’m a hardcore one and to me that means I support female equality and being treated like a fucking human. What a dodo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:47 PM
35

I had a similar situation! When I first started college I went to a party and a boy flirted with me and we kissed (v harmless story). Apparently a girl who I didn’t know well who was also in an extended friend group had a “thing” with him and man did I pay for that one. Eventually like a year later we became friends but it’s like why blame a girl who honestly has no clue what’s going on? She even kept seeing that guy..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:35 PM
3

Yea I definitely have a bunch of good guy friends that I have hung out with 1 on 1 many times without any hint of sexual thoughts. I wouldn’t be shocked if they’ve thought at one time or another about hooking up w me, but we’re people and they’re just fleeting thoughts lol. I don’t think they’re waiting to fuck me as a secret reason to be my friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:20 AM
4

Yea..this is how i bob the buildered a guy for the next girl. Let’s just not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:13 PM
19

Never understood this. If you don’t want to be w me, I’m gone you fucking loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:00 PM
45

The men I’ve more seriously dated all stopped watching porn when we were together. The couple of times they did watch was during a prolonged absence but even then they told me they usually just thought about us instead? I don’t get where these women excuse all this gross porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:40 PM
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I think the amount of pain they’re in though would at least give you a couple seconds to flee. Still think it should exist bc if you rape me, I should be able to defend myself right?? Isn’t that the whole NRA shpiel?? Or is it just for white guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:36 PM
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Unfortunately some of us were raised in situations where hot/cold was normal at home, so we assumed it’s normal in all aspects of life. Then when get dumped by someone who we basically let take us for granted for another girl who doesn’t seem any better (but probably just takes less shit from them) we find FDS and realize all our thoughts towards ourselves and relationships is fucked and needs to be rewired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:29 PM
11

Hahahaha this is so true and painful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:59 PM
3

Pretty much all of my co residents have an IUD lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:25 AM
5

Find a younger female practitioner at a hospital without religious affiliation and you likely can convince them if they get to know you and think you won’t sue them later on if you theoretically changed your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:22 AM
4

You still get periods because you have both ovaries and a uterus and your ovaries go through the monthly hormone cycle and still stimulate endometrial growth and shedding, just no egg can reach the uterine cavity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:22 AM
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One of the greatest, most HVM guys I know is 5 4. He treats his gf like a queen and is a wonderful person. It’s def up to how they let it define them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:12 PM
11

Yea I always get screened routinely, but I’m also in the field lol. I just hate feeling like a snoop, but now I’m so burned from this I’m wondering where the line is of crazy jealous and just protecting myself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:08 PM
43

My ex boyfriend of five years who literally never looked at another girl and always told me how hot I was started texting a girl he worked with and left me for her. Totally shattered my heart and I would have saved myself a lot of pain and self-loathing if I had just looked at who he was texting a lot. It’s so hard in relationships. You need to trust your partner or you have nothing, but I don’t think any loving partner deserves what happened to me. I don’t really know what the right thing to do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:14 PM
9

Lol literally me and my friends discuss this all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:05 PM
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Girls attacking girls for male validation! #1 strategy men use to convince you you’re soooo different 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:03 PM
22

OmG tHaTs soOoO sHaLlOw - lazy trash men everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:01 PM
29

Ah, I see you’ve met my first love lolz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:56 PM
7

There’s actually something called the Kinsey scale about this and most people aren’t actually at the extremes. It’s kinda interesting to read about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:54 PM
33

Literally when you say it like that...how do people do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:50 PM
5

Do you have any recommendations though if you really just don’t like dinner dates? I hate sitting and eating w someone I don’t really know. Could doing a different event where they have to put in effort / money work as well that isn’t drinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:38 AM
7

Seriously lol they weren’t random dudes I found on the side of the road?? Like it is plausible to find 8 people over the course of a decade that you have a romantic connection w and sleep w. One of them was a very long term relationship where I learned my HVM was actually just a very successful and intelligent LVM who broke my very naive heart 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:53 AM
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Yea. I told someone I had sex w 8 people (I’m in my late 20s and was a virgin until college) and he was like EIGHT??? Like uh dude that’s like one a year??? How is that abnormal?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:02 PM
12

Fart in the wind is now my new favorite phrase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:38 PM
22

Basically just explained the destruction of my last relationship, lol. I’m so glad I found this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:40 PM
4

Idk why girls put up w the shit. The guys I’ve Dated as an adult know I’ve slept w other people and I know they have and we just leave it there. We are all adults w pasts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 08:22 PM
1

Amen Sista. Preach!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 08:11 PM
3

Hahahahahahahaha what a fucking idiot. Like grow up you loser. You wanted to take her to those places? She don’t owe you shiiiiit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:42 PM
5

Seriously gf see above comments. Be ruthless. He is treating you like a ducking cum dumpster for his trash dick. I was a virgin until I was older and was also super uncomfortable about sticking up for myself in these situations, but PLEASE do not tolerate him or treat him kindly. He’s a fucking fuck. You owe him nada. Tell him you don’t wanna blow his trash ass dick bc he sucks. And then laugh and move on w your day, grateful you missed another asshole !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:36 PM
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