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To be honest we never talked about this pre baby. We talked about both wanting children and naively it never even crossed my mind to ask how he would accommodate one within his lifestyle. I think we both assumed less "give" would be necessary than is the case right now, and I never questioned that he would be a good dad - he is, in the sense that when he's with her he's very good with her, it's just not as often as I assumed it would be. He is going out much less than before - he used to go out …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/23 06:18 PM
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I see where you're coming from, but I guess I feel that a traditional wife, in that sense, wouldn't be going to work at all? Whereas I will be. She'll be at nursery. And I take your point about date night, probably a very valid one...
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/23 04:39 PM
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Yes I think you're probably right. He doesn't see her on her own.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:29 PM
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So I've asked this before. They all met travelling so he says it's always been the case that she doesn't invite their partners, but they're all quite chilled out so I don't think anyone has brought it up before. It's made a bit muddier by the fact they all have children, so I think if they come out by default their wives have to stay at home and babysit.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:28 PM
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Also I might try that again tonight and just say look, I'd have liked to have been there tonight, I think I'd have enjoyed it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:17 PM
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They literally just go for drinks or dinner together. I like that idea but I think the issue is he already knows now that I don't like her. I've tried a similar response in the past and his reply is "well you wouldn't want to come if she did ask you". But I like your edit idea, maybe I'll try that next. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:14 PM
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Don't know if you have them in the States but I love by Shark vacuum, it's awesome! And it has a setting for wood floors. We have a tradition where we go on like a Christmas date just the two of us :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:05 PM
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Thanks for replying. Very nice advice! The thing is I don't get why he thinks she's a bit weird too and still wants to hang out with her? But sure you're right.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 08:57 PM
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To me it sounds like she said something a bit stupid because she was nervous and trying to ingratiate herself with you. I would have ignored it and moved onto something else.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 03:06 PM
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This made me sad. You sound like a very nice person and he is not being nice to you. The things you describe are not normal. However hard it is you need to find someone else - he will tell you you are wrong about this, but you're not.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 12:57 PM
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This resonated so much! I feel like whenever I mop I manage to mop myself into a corner where i cant leave, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 01:21 PM
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I know I'm just a stranger on the internet, but in my opinion you don't need to lose weight, you look great. Just saying.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 02:36 PM
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Yeah, totally is! You can make the best cheat's fish pie this way. Layer of spinach, layer of mixed fish/nice big prawns, small pot of double/heavy cream, top with instant mash. Properly delicious. The pancakes sound really nice, will look them up!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 02:44 PM
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Good idea, I do this too. And if you batch something like a huge tomato sauce you can reuse it four different ways (e.g. chilli, shepherds pie, marinara etc.), so it's not like all the meals are the same. Plus, I love a good cooking hack – favourite one is using frozen mashed potato. On it's own it's not great but add loads of butter, wholegrain mustard or horseradish, a bit of cream and plenty of salt and pepper and I honestly don't think people can tell the difference. Also pancakes for breakf…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 02:17 PM
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Do you think maybe you could go easier on the cooking? Not stop but maybe don't aim for cordon bleu every time, if that's what you're doing?! I love cooking but have also got cooking fatigue recently, so for a couple of weeks I switched to really simple, minimum effort stuff – salads, sausages and peas, anything I could bung in the oven without really thinking about it (hello chicken goujons...). Took literally seconds and now I'm feeling a bit more creative. Also how old are your kids? Maybe if…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 01:44 PM
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Completely agree with all the below – you should be sharing this, and he should be respectful of your efforts. Just wanted to offer a different tac for whoever is cleaning – that seems like hours worth of work to me! Do you do a deep clean every day? I work and I do a deep clean once a week, and the rest of the time I just do the basics - tidying, wiping down surfaces, making the bed and spraying to so it looks and smells nice. Could you/both of you ease off on your expectations a bit? As a tota…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 10:41 AM
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What do you guys do when it's kind of cold but not wintery enough for tights?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 09:02 AM
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Yeah, I think that's it. Once I'm asleep he thinks if he's quiet I wont wake up... but I always do! And for the headphones suggestion, it's a bit of a weird set up with a projector, but might suggest he watch stuff no his laptop in future. Thanks all!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 10:23 AM
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Drawing?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 05:01 PM
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Hmm, I think he'd just say it's not that big a deal to him, it's only half an hour or so...etc. but will try anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 10:18 AM
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Hmm, he likes to read in bed so think maybe we need like a bedside table and a lamp? Good thinking though. thanks
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 08:58 AM
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Good idea! I have an eye mask somewhere, will dig it out...
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 08:58 AM
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Agreed! Any brands you recommend? Don't feel quite comfortable wearing just a sports bra as I have giant boobs so the ones in my size aren't very pretty, would quite like a little cropped tee or something to go over the top
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/19 08:26 AM
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Thanks. Aren't Lovehoney and Ann summers more lingerie? Was thinking kind of sporty, but maybe they do both?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 11:02 AM
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I get a gel manicure every three weeks, change it to normal polish or just nothing if I'm feeling broke. I think it's one of the best beauty treatments you can get, as its obvious that you've had them done and they do last. You can get gel manicure kits with the lamps on Amazon also - I have tried these with good results :) also I'm getting a course of laser hair removal - working brilliantly but it depends on your hair type and skin!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 07:31 AM
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If you have a glass shower screen it makes a big difference if you squeegee it after each use, as it doesn't allow the water to form watermarks in the first place,l. Vinegar spray is great on glass and Viakal is amazing for the rest and personally I love the smell!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 07:56 AM
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Personally I've found tough times to be quite revealing. Everyone loves a fancy dinner, but are they going to come to visit your ill grandparents with you/help you move house/come see you when you're sick? If no, probably not a keeper.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 07:58 AM
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I'm surprised everyone is suggesting OP confront him about this. To my mind he hasn't done anything wrong, it sounds like he was enthusiastically greeting an old friend and it was completely innocent. In fact, the fact he did it in front of you to me suggests there's nothing going on there, otherwise he'd be a lot more secretive about it. I just ignore it and try and get to know her - she might be ok!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 07:51 AM
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You can get really beautiful silk/turban style headbands from places like Anthropologie, and cheaper knock offs on the high st. I think they look very sophisticated and elegant
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 03:40 AM
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Honestly, it sounds like your self-confidence is quite low. Probably not what you want to hear, but I know that I'm when I'm feeling at my worst – tired, stressed, anxious, unhappy – my skin looks terrible and I think I look a lot older. When I'm on holiday and rested/happy, I think I look tons better. And it's just the same face so... I think if you could learn to be more comfortable in your own skin, through whatever method worked, then you'd feel and look prettier by being happier.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/19 12:13 PM
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Sorry for the slow reply! Smear it all over with a cloth, wipe off with old newspaper and buff :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 01:28 PM
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Vinegar spray is simple and works amazingly on stainless steel and glass – Stardrops is the best. I use Zoflora a lot (product that smells like flowers) – capful in the toilet, capful in the sink of hot water while I'm cleaning, sometimes I fill the kitchen sink and soak my cloths in it to disinfect them – makes the whole house smell amazing, I am addicted! And use it to freshen up the bin too. Ketchup is good for cleaning brass with newspaper too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 07:43 AM
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Thanks – again, really useful, especially points 1 and 2. I think I am taking it all on personally and need to step back a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 09:32 PM
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Thanks, that's really good advice. He likes sports but recently he doesn't even have the motivation for them. I suggested we take up tennis together but then felt like I was cramping his style a bit... thoughts?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 09:12 PM
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I think art is a great shout actually. A couple of really nice big prints can transform somewhere instantly – try online for decent deals on things like retro travel posters etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 12:03 AM
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Declutter – put things in baskets, boxes, stationary trays etc – and then decorate with a really nice quality blanket and a nice scented candle on some kind of tray. Doesn't have to be super expensive, just has to look nice! Also flowers make things look much more stylish :) Plus I would save up and get some kind of nice retro chair and a nice cushion if you have a small room with a desk in it, and make sure all textiles are the same colour :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 11:25 PM
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"If you still want to do things for them or with them, that's ok but it's important to do it without expectation of reciprocity." I think this is a really good point. For a long time after university I felt so frustrated with friends that would just take and take but never give anything back. Then I learnt that I have my close friends – a handful of them, who are always there for me, make me feel great, and who I would do anything for – and my fun friends, who are jolly at a dinner party but are…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 02:22 PM
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Something I've also learnt is that people are almost never as angry about things as you think they are. If I had to disappoint someone in some way, I'd always have it in my head that they'd then spend days fuming over it and cursing the day I was born... lol. The reality is probably that they'll feel slightly put out, but if they're a good friend and you're putting effort into the relationship, they'll get over it fairly quickly and things will resume as always. Also re: guys, I think most men m…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 01:48 PM
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I feel like this a lot, and one of things that's helped me is not necessarily turning things down/saying no etc. but setting out my "terms" out very clearly. So, for example, if a friend wanted a hand with an essay (or something like that), I would normally jump straight to it, often cancelling my own plans to do so, and even if I didn't really feel like it. And of course, that would happen again and again, and I'd start to notice that the favour was never really returned, so it didn't feel grea…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 01:44 PM
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There's a really good vinegar spray called Stardrops :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 04:13 PM
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Ooof! It's like £2 here in the UK! Maybe if you have any friends travelling...haha
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 08:26 PM
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Bar Keepers friend is a grit that turns into a paste – worked wonders on my shower screen and you can leave it on for a while before rinsing x
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:03 PM
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Have you tried Zoflora? Great disinfectant for putting down sinks/loos/general cleaning in all different floral fragrances. I love the hyacinth one – a little goes a loooooong way! Not sure if they have in the US though.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:02 PM
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Ahh that's really good to hear, helps me keep the faith! How did you guys meet?
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 07:52 AM
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Good way of putting it that last line, thanks. Is there a post that describes the choosing part then? Because that seems the most crucial thing.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 08:00 AM
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As someone who has only discovered both of these subreddits today, they do seem quite different. One thing I would say, which is a total sweeping statement, is that the red pill seems to contain a lot of people who are quite bitter/maybe not that objective in the comments? Some of the remarks seem quite revenge-focused to me, whereas the comments on this thread seem positive overall. But then, I've only read a few of both :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 10:22 PM
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Some good points here, and it's helping me to understand, thank you :) You are right that it feels all consuming at first glance, but I'm sure that's just because this is what this thread is focused on, rather than your whole lives/the whole picture, as you say. Re: your last comment, I guess it's because there aren't many posts here about what they do for you? And again, I'm sure that comes down to the nature of the forum – that's not the focus, but it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I'm curious…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 10:17 PM
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area near entrance for bags/shoes/jackets fresh relishes (sweetcorn and chilli, homemade salsa etc.) craft beer bar (you could make one?) puddings/birthday cake! Often neglected but important! and good music, fun decorations/straws etc. and try to create a loop, so that people can circulate from room to room and don't all gather in one place. Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 10:08 PM
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Once things are cooked you can put them in an oven on the lowest possible setting covered in foil.. OR put them on a platter covered with a foil and then lots of teatowels to keep the heat in :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 10:00 PM
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Also amazing username! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 09:58 PM
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Thanks for this, I guess both replies make me realise that the idea is, if you're with someone decent, then they're also putting the same amount of effort in naturally. Which is great, and I guess is a bit of a new thing for me! Can I ask how long you've been together? Would be interested to hear from people in their 40s/50s to see if the dynamic stands the test of time.... Makes me realise that perhaps I'm judging by the people I've been with, who on the whole, give or take a couple of lovely o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 09:57 PM
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Ah, that makes a lot of sense, thanks for replying :) I think that's the ideal relationship, where you're both working as hard to make each other happy as the other one... congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 09:47 PM
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