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| 36 | Do not be jealous of the new girl… abusers do not change. Even if they somewhat “get better”, you deserve more than whatever half baked fuckboy shit this ex-douchebag has to offer you. Leave him in the past sisters, pray for the women who encounter him, and thrive. We are worth more than we know. 💞It's so gross. Before I moved abroad and met my fiancé the ex would also randomly contact me asking me to visit him out of state. He would pull the, "We should get back together. We can if you move here", as if I would be dumb enough to walk into that trap. He was dating his now-wife at that time. Every day I'm amazed at the lengths men will stoop to in order to satiate whatever weird sexual fantasies they have going on in their minds. Like, imagine doing something productive with that time inst… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 133 | Do not be jealous of the new girl… abusers do not change. Even if they somewhat “get better”, you deserve more than whatever half baked fuckboy shit this ex-douchebag has to offer you. Leave him in the past sisters, pray for the women who encounter him, and thrive. We are worth more than we know. 💞An ex of mine once emailed me after no contact for a few years. He started going on about how awesome his wife is, and that they'd just had their second kid. At first I thought, "Oh, why didn't he think me worthy enough to marry me? She must have something I don't." Then I realized, if he's so happy in his marriage, and if she's so amazing, why would he be emailing, tracking my social media accounts (that I had at the time), asking about the details of my engagement (he asked me for engagement, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 07:05 AM |
| 16 | How to get over a friendship with a pickme friend?I'm so sorry you're going through health issues right now. I hope you're on your way to healing. I agree with everyone else: block and delete. I recently had a "friend" contact me after she got angry about me being proud of my mixed-race heritage (crazy) and ghosted me for two years. I deleted her from the messenger service in our country and forgot about her. About a week ago she sends me a message saying, "Long time, no see. Let's hang out." I gave her my schedule but didn't initiate or make a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 02:03 PM |
| 45 | Narcissism and Narcissistic abuse: something every woman should know aboutMy mother is a textbook narcissist. These all check out. As weird as it sounds I tended to stay away from men who reminded me of her (personality/characteristic traits that can be attributed to being a narc). I think it saved me a lot of heartache. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 09:35 AM |
| 1 | How can any one say supporting this industry is ethical when the customers are this openly irresponsible, depraved, & careless? What l read basically translated into, “haha I repetitively exploited women & thank God I got to use a prostitute without repercussions that many of them end up having.” 😥💔PSA to anyone visiting or living in South Korea: Men and women rarely get tested for STD/STI's here. They use the excuse, "I'm not dirty". Prior to meeting my fiancé I went out on SO many dates with men who looked at me crazy when I told them I get tested every three months. Reading this made my stomach churn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:06 AM |
| 42 | A gentle reminder about ignoring red flags, and forgiving yourself for allowing them to use the power of your wind to fly.This post is about forgiving yourself and not beating yourself up about missing/ignoring red flags, regardless of why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 12:15 PM |
| 61 | The comments are sad 😔I mean, at least he's self-aware. I wish all men came with a warning label like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 11:59 AM |
| 48 | Recovering from sexual assaultThank you~ I did with the first few men I dated. Every single one of them either ended up using that against me as a reason to breakup, or used it against me as a way to get me to sleep with them soon after establishing the relationship (because that's logical, right?). I even "dated" a guy for 5 months who comforted me after I told him, slept with me, then ghosted me the day after. Many men will always, ALWAYS use your past as a weapon against you. Best to hide the ammo and bury the gun. I have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 05:45 AM |
| 72 | Recovering from sexual assaultI'm so sorry for what was done to you. You did not deserve that and NONE of it was your fault. What worked for me: Lots and lots of therapy, time, and taking is SUPER slow. Before meeting my fiancé I took a few years off dating, and when I did date, made it clear that I wasn't going to be rushing into anything physical. That weeded out the manipulative jerks pretty quickly. My fiancé and I dated for a year and only started have sex after we became engaged. Everything before that was him proving … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 04:12 AM |
| 7 | I'm engaged, but this is kind of a vibe.I absolutely ADORE this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 34 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄Who is this Creature from the Black Lagoon? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 12:13 PM |
| 8 | Yus Qweeeen 👸🏻This was adorable, lol. I love it. She's super gorgeous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:10 AM |
| 225 | Reminder: Please don’t be like this 37 year old woman on a blind date.I've always hated Family Guy. I agree, we shouldn't be like this character, but the fact that FG made this into a joke annoys me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 02:37 AM |
| 837 | I don’t know who’s worse: her trifling mama or her POS husband. I found this on Facebook and was shook. Honestly I probably would have went to jail.Wtf did I just read? Is this even real? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:12 PM |
| 34 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpExactly. As much of a dick JW is, he didn't intend on Spike being popular and viewers wanting him to be Buffy's end-game. I always saw their earlier relationship as toxic and enabling, and though they ended up reaching an understanding later on (also, Spike sacrificed himself for her and the entire damn world, which to me, is pretty HV), what they had wasn't initially born out of love/respect. I feel like TV was so different back then. I don't remember anyone looking at what Spike and Buffy had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:03 AM |
| 59 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpSpike redeemed himself (what he did was awful, and he's nowhere near being HV, but I feel like that was kind of the point of his character). The other men in the show did not. Joss W. is horrible, but he did give us really dynamic female characters (a few were definitely a miss). I always found it weird that JW decided to make the main protagonist FIFTEEN (she was younger when Angel first saw her and became attracted to her) when she and Angel fell in "love". Though it isn't much better, Spike a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 12:38 AM |
| 14 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?Current hobbies: Archery, guitar/songwriting, continued study of the Korean language + resuming Japanese, ice-skating (been a bit hard to take part in this due to COVID). Hobbies I'd like to pick up once COVID dies down: Indoor rock-climbing, piano or harp, dancing, and Pilates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:44 AM |
| 209 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.I've had to tell guys I have a boyfriend in the past so they would leave me alone (not that they did). This kid is whining about how no one likes him when we have to pretend to be in a relationship so men will LEAVE US TO OUR PEACE. Men STILL bother me though I wear an engagement ring. Hell, they bother me when I'm out with my fiancé. Other than him being a baby about not being acknowledged, his tactics to get women to talk to him are creepy and manipulative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:34 AM |
| 30 | Referring to women as girls🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:35 AM |
| 455 | Referring to women as girlsWhen a man refers to me as a "girl" or a group of women as "girls", I start referring to them as boy, boys, or little boys. Usually makes them change their tune pretty quickly. They know wtf they're doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:12 AM |
| 105 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Appreciate the art, or get the fuck out of my museum. I LOVE THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 02:54 PM |
| 1083 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄I would literally have to get a surgeon to cut open my face, rearrange my organs, slice up my nose, add silicone implants to my chest, cheekbones, and chin if I am ever going to have a chance in this modern dating market because men are absolutely fucking deranged in their standards for female beauty. Moreover, I am expected to have a tiny waist after childbirth and work full-time while giving my MaN 100% of my time and body. I am also not allowed to age, make more money than my SO, or be seen a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:06 AM |
| 15 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menThank you~ I experienced it a lot in the US. I thankfully don't experience it in Asia because people think I'm half Korean, half white now lolol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:55 AM |
| 90 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menFellow mixed race woman. When I did something "good" it was attributed to my white/Irish side, but when I did something "bad", or when my ex (in the US) or his friends wanted to poke fun at me, my black/latina sides were blamed and attacked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:04 AM |
| 1 | I have received many angry dms from men because of this sub in the last 24 hrs wtf? Anyone have privacy tips, this is getting grossTurn off your DMs. I've had mine off for about a year, and it's great. I used to get those Reddit Care Resource messages, too, but blocked the account and now get nothing. Silence is peaceful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:24 AM |
| 17 | No words…Lol. They are SO adorable, but really are like, the assholes of dogs tbh. They're so independent (which is a good thing, but not when you need to give them a bath and they're arguing with you for an hour). I also feel like they're smart in the sense that they know how to "work" you as an owner. They're very good at figuring out how best to get away with things, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:19 PM |
| 79 | I've had to tell myself this after cutting a few toxic people out of my life, especially with long-term friends who have felt the need to pat me on the back and tell me that I've "come so far" every single time we speak. It comes off very patronizing and forced. DAE understand what I mean?I can relate to this so much! I sometimes think when people say you've changed, they're really saying they prefer you meek, depressed, without a voice, or whatever it is that made it easy for them to overpower you (or make themselves look better). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:16 AM |
| 399 | No words…100% passive aggressive. I've had a husky before. They are infamously difficult to train. They're also super stubborn, need a lot of care (I can't imagine taking care of one with two kids under 2), and even when they are trained have a habit of not giving af about what you tell/want it to do. They have SO much energy and short attention spans, and if they don't have a job to do/something to focus on, will get super destructive pretty quickly. He absolutely researched dog breeds and picked one of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:55 AM |
| 64 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Never. My fiancé cooks for me 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 04:56 AM |
| 11 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:41 AM |
| 59 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himIt is. I'm thankfully in another country and there's no way he'll ever be financially secure enough to ever travel abroad. I'm happy that'll I'll probably never see him again in my life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:40 PM |
| 48 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himThe area I lived in at the time was very....red. I'm a biracial woman of color. He's a white guy and we were in the town he grew up in (about an hr from where we went to high school, which was more liberal). I found of papers stashed away of his ex filing for domestic abuse multiple times. Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:40 PM |
| 49 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himThank you ❤ Weeks before he was slipping burning pieces of paper under my door because I wouldn't sleep with him., then choked me against a door. I should have left then, but I was like 23 and terrified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 69 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himYerp. About a year ago he found my burner FB account (I'm not sure how because I have a fake name, no photos or friends, and only use it to buy speciality sausage 😂) and sent me a shirtless photo of himself 🤢🤮. I blocked him shortly after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:33 PM |
| 261 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himOne of my exes messed with the engine of my car (under the guise of needing to get something out of my car after I kicked him out). Nearly ran into a tree and killed me while on my way to work the next morning. Confirmed by a mechanic that it had been tampered with. Got a restraining order the next day, along with transferring all the bills into his name (he was making minimum wage and couldn't afford the two-bedroom that I found for us without me). I left the state shortly thereafter because he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:22 PM |
| 19 | Man Sues Woman After She Refused To Have Sex😂Might be fake, but I enjoyed her energy nonetheless lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 12:39 AM |
| 106 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂I once cohabitated with a man who didn't see the point of buying a mattress, let alone a bedframe, a rug, a couch, a TV, or internet (I was in my early 20's and a dummy). He was perfectly happy sleeping on a blow-up mattress and eating Chili's take-out every night, using MY silver hair-cutting scissors to trim his balls, and using our MY laptop to watch movies when I needed to use it for homework. I am so proud to say that my fiancé (we don't live together because we're not married yet, and I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:04 AM |
| 153 | I Regret my Plastic Surgery: The Impact of the Patriarchy & LVM FathersAs someone who is about to get a reduction (I'm a G cup naturally and will be reducing to a large B), this is disgusting. Men are so dumb and only think with their stupid dicks (and it's creepy that a father would even say this to his daughter). They don't even think about how difficult and painful (emotionally and physically) it can be living with a larger chest. I'm SO sorry he said those things to you. What an abusive loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 11:41 AM |
| 454 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮"Well since you put it that way..." proceeds to dump him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:55 PM |
| 6 | Whenever I'm feeling down about a broken friendship or someone not treating me the way I should be treated, I have a little talk with myself. I remind myself that yes, I am enough, and no, I will not sacrifice my own happiness or stability for someone else's. Choose yourself every time.You're very welcome~ I hope it's a comforting reminder from time to time :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Whenever I'm feeling down about a broken friendship or someone not treating me the way I should be treated, I have a little talk with myself. I remind myself that yes, I am enough, and no, I will not sacrifice my own happiness or stability for someone else's. Choose yourself every time.You're so welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 14 | Whenever I'm feeling down about a broken friendship or someone not treating me the way I should be treated, I have a little talk with myself. I remind myself that yes, I am enough, and no, I will not sacrifice my own happiness or stability for someone else's. Choose yourself every time.Glad you got out of that crappy situation. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but happy you've learned your worth. You life will only get better from here. Sending you virtual hugs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 18 | Whenever I'm feeling down about a broken friendship or someone not treating me the way I should be treated, I have a little talk with myself. I remind myself that yes, I am enough, and no, I will not sacrifice my own happiness or stability for someone else's. Choose yourself every time.I wholeheartedly agree. Thank you for putting this positive energy/message out into the world. I think so many people (including myself) will benefit from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 02:31 AM |
| 93 | Shout-out to this line in a Korean drama. Didn't expect that but really loved itCame to say this. 95% of shows here promote pick-me behaviors. I stopped watching K-dramas a long time ago. The movies are much better anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 12:43 AM |
| 36 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeI never had an ounce of interest in this show. It always looked so cheesy and tacky to me. The title was off-putting, and it seemed overall, really boring lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:13 AM |
| 90 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?I check up on him from time to time. He is still that same kind, polite, and well-mannered young man I remember. My ex corrupted him a bit (got him into pot and pretty much encouraged him to drop out of high-school like he did), but he's since gotten himself back on track. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 12:35 AM |
| 172 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?Sounds like one of my exes. For Christmas he got me a bunch of stuff that neither fit me, nor had anything to do with my interests. His mom did the same. His little brother (who was 16 at the time) got me a beautiful customized leather journal from England because he knew that I loved to write. He was such a lovely kid, and treated his girlfriend like a queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:00 PM |
| 282 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerGive her time. She's also at 19, still a child (one that works in a very messed up, very public industry). My views changed drastically from 19 to 21. I really don't like Howard Stern though. I can't believe he is still on air. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:55 PM |
| 199 | 'RACE PLAY' probably means he's lowkey a RACISTSame goes for men who highlight your race for any reason (positive or negative). I had an (white) ex call me his African queen. I'm very multi-racial (Irish (more than he claimed to be because I had living great-grandparents from Bray at the time), Welsh, Latina-Black-American) and proud of it. It was so strange, uncomfortable, and uncalled for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 02:13 AM |
| 32 | Just Maintained a Boundary!Something that works for the "Aww, you don't want KiDs" is saying you hate children (even when you don't). Shuts people up very quick, lol. I love kids, but I don't want them--neither does my fiancé. We both use this and it works like a charm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:18 AM |
| 3 | This is likely the darkest 'joke' in the entire sitcom and this guy is laughing about it happening in real life. Beware the man who laughs when women are in danger rather than report it to the police 🚩🚩🚩I love It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. It highlights how depraved, messed up, and disgusting men can be. That's the point of the show, and it's one of the reasons why Rob created it. I have a friend in the industry who can vouch that Charlie Day, Rob, and Glenn are all pretty HV. The men out there who are taking this show and living by it/replicating the acts on it and thinking they're being funny/cool, are the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:29 PM |
| 52 | Do you have any male friends?Ugh, and disgusting. Oh yeah. He also ended up getting married to a women he obviously hates. So glad I distanced myself from them and that friend group. They were all toxic as hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:02 PM |
| 58 | Do you have any male friends?Maybe? He didn't seem interested while his brother and I were dating, but he did make fun of me a lot (this was in high school; his brother and I date for 10 years), and always steered conversations to highlight me being short or having big boobs. I remember feeling so grossed out and confused when he contacted me years later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:41 AM |
| 188 | Do you have any male friends?I have two gay male friends that ironically practice FDS without being in, or knowing about the FDS community. I have 0 straight male friends because every every single male "friend" I've had tried to sleep with me. One was the brother of my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:01 AM |
| 199 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.When looking up surgeons for my breast reduction I made sure to seek out female surgeons with an all female front-desk staff/surgical team. I'm in Asia, so it was pretty tough (took me four years to find her), but SO worth it. I also go to an all female staffed OB/GYN called "Yes, Queen!". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:00 AM |
| 22 | “I’m not lonely baby, I am free… finally!” - Cinnamon by Hayley WilliamsI've been listening to this album since it came out. I have adored Hayley since my teens (we're close in age). Check out her talks/podcasts on generational trauma, depression, and other mental health topics. She seems like such a sweet woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:38 PM |
| 1 | When you’re a woman millionaire before your 30s and have realized your worth thanks to FDSI'm not in the U.S. :( Maybe Etsy has them. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 11:24 PM |
| 17 | When you’re a woman millionaire before your 30s and have realized your worth thanks to FDSWhere can I find this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 03:24 PM |
| 301 | Which one of you is this aboutA WHOLE TWO orgasms! Someone get this guy a medal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:40 PM |
| 7 | Safety tips for Internet.Ah, yes. I also use FB and Instagram for business. No personal accounts though! It really is crazy how much being online takes up so much time. I would love to give up Reddit as well, but subs like this and a handful of others have really helped me. If we can keep the good communities and do away with the toxic/bad ones, that would be lovely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:01 AM |
| 39 | Safety tips for Internet.Agreed. Deleting FB and Instagram four years ago was the best thing I've ever done for myself. It not only improved my mental health, but freed up so much of my time. I've been so much more productive since then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 12:55 AM |
| 9 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.It had never happened to me before, so I was a bit floored, haha. We're still fantastic friends, and I went to his wedding/am friends with his now wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:16 AM |
| 37 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Agreed. I met my HV fiancé on OLD. I live abroad and we were both too busy with work to meet people IRL. I also met a lot of good BF's via OLD that didn't work out due to moves, lack of compatibility in the LT, and feelings changing into more of a brother/sister type relationship (odd, I know, but it happens lol). I've always used FDS as guidelines: I tailor them to my own boundaries, morals, and wants/desires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:41 PM |
| 34 | Vetting during OLD/date suggestionsHim making a joke about you cooking for him would be such a turn-off for me. Before meeting my fiancé I had a lot of guys (on and off OLD) say something similar. For me, it screams dependent, needy, lazy, and like a man who wants to be waited on hand-and foot. Who asks someone they don't even know to make food for them? Same goes for him offering to create "our own Oktoberfest". It seems like he's trying to get you to come back to his place to drink. I personally would have gotten annoyed by now… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 12:04 AM |
| 56 | The farce that “men age like fine wine”Hilarious considering around 40 is when the guys here stop giving af about themselves and let go. I also seen so many gross guys with gorgeous women on their arms (even in the 25-30 age range). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 12:50 PM |
| 4 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?He was 1. a diabetic that ate like shit, 2. a closeted recovering alcohol, weed, and (sometime) meth/cocaine addict, 3. spent all his money on weed and PlayStation games (no savings), 4. angry that I didn't want to touch his pee pee after he threw "our" (my) $2K laptop across the room, threatened to destroy everything I owned, and seemed to relish in the fact that one of our managers hit on him daily (we worked together). And we're the emotional/unhinged ones. I left quietly in the middle of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 11:48 PM |
| 309 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?I mean, they can just go to therapy like everyone else? I had an ex that would go on rages when I didn't want to have sex with him. He tried lighting my room on fire (we were sleeping in separate rooms at this point) by shoving pieces of burning paper under the door. All because I didn't sleep with him after he had been abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:07 PM |
| 236 | Block and deleteYears ago a guy sent me a message on OLD (after reading on my profile that I don't do fwb or ons). It read, "It's good that you're fat, so there's nothing to worry about on my end". I'm 5'0 and 105 pounds. It actually made me burst out laughing because of the ridiculousness of it. All they want to do is get a rise out of you and like you said, get ANY reaction out of you to make themselves feel as though they're being heard/paid attention to. Imagine being that self-involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 01:25 PM |
| 169 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherMine: Smoker, alcoholic, weed-dependent, dabbled in meth and cocaine Verbally, emotionally, physically (once was enough; I left after that) abusive when things didn't go his way Would cry about his mom that died 18 years ago and about how he missed her so much after said abuse occurred Spent all his money on weed and video games, yet never had money to pay me gas for "our" car (I paid for it and the insurance) Deadbeat dad to two daughters (I was 26 and he was 28) Domestic violence charges filed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:36 PM |
| 46 | From the horses mouthThe egg does not chase the sperm. Someone put this on a t-shirt and sell it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 12:51 PM |
| 28 | How do you feel about the squid game? Do you think it’s worth watching?I really enjoyed it. The last episode was kind of meh, but the character relationships, stakes, and how well it portrays certain parts of Korean culture made up for it. The show isn't about the violence itself, but the lengths that people will go to in order to obtain wealth and prestige. Give it a watch, and if the violence proves to be too much, drop it~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 11:43 AM |
| 7 | Perfect example of a lovebomb - Dr WendyThis. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:35 AM |
| 39 | Perfect example of a lovebomb - Dr WendyKorean guys in Korea use this trick all the time. I've been on dates with multiple guys where on the second or third date they present me with gifts (I've gotten 24K gold necklaces, diamond rings, offers to pay my bills, and Prada shoes (lol, so that's why you randomly asked my shoe size on the first date). It's almost always followed by inquiries of where I live, or if they can "stay the night" because "I live far and it's a burden to travel, and I paid for dinner and two dates". There are onli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 12:53 AM |
| 146 | I went and read comments about the Korean Marriage situation and thought this one was greatThanks for being concerned, but I'm 200% sure. His parents raised him outside of Korea, and he grew up in a household with three strong, fierce, no-nonsense women. His dad is also a HVM, and I believe it's why he is the way he is. We've already decided not to have kids (TMI, but my tubes are tied and he has a vasectomy). I know he seems like a unicorn, but believe me, I had to date a lot jerks in Korea to find him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:40 AM |
| 308 | I went and read comments about the Korean Marriage situation and thought this one was greatIt's been truly amazing watching it happen in person over the past few years. I'm not Korean, but I'm engaged to a (non-traditional) Korean man in Seoul. In the past five years I've seen so many divorces and women who refuse to get married. Ten years ago they'd be shunned. It's so nice to see women finally standing up for themselves and refusing to give in to the BS that a lot of men still expect here. I have so many Korean girl friends in their late 30s who are absolutely killing it at life (ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 11:12 PM |
| 37 | Apparently it’s hard for men to *not* be freely insufferable even while doing something as mud and as taking a lift/cab 🤮This is one of the reasons why South Korea is now testing out "female only" cabs driven by women. They're only allowing female riders as well. We have apps here where we can pick drivers (their photos are available), too, so I also choose the lady drivers so I won't be harassed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:40 AM |
| 11 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."Men's clothing is so comfortable compared to women's clothing (I wonder why). I totally get the sensory thing. I can't wear black jeans (fabric+dye gives me like, leg prickles???), and tight pants or leggings make my legs feel like they're being teased with a feather (the only way I can explain it lol). Wear your baggy shirts and shorts. You are wonderful, gorgeous, and badass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:58 AM |
| 42 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."Yeah, they are. Most of the men here try dictating what their wives/gfs wear, and only like the hyper girly "pure" image. Imagine the stares I get walking down the street looking like Lydia from Bettlejuice by my fiancés side (he wears all black but still dresses pretty "Korean"). I've had exes complain that I'm not feminine enough and buy me clothes they preferred me to wear (went straight into the garbage, lol). So controlling. I really hope not! They've been offering financial compensation an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:00 PM |
| 38 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."It doesn't help that if a man attacks you and you hit him back in self defense, it could mean jail time and fines for the victim. Absolutely depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 98 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and at such a young age, too. Oh yeah, I totally agree with the madonna-whore complex thing. They want a "pure" ultra "feminine" submissive Korean wife, but mess around with "open-minded" expats. Funny thing is, a lot of Korean men get married to their own only to cheat on them with foreigner women weeks/months into their marriage. Many of them want to "date and marry out", but can't due to stupid family expectations. This breeds a lot of unhappy marriage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:15 AM |
| 125 | Reminder: Korean men spend more time and effort on their appearance and are generally more polite, but they are no different from men in other countries. My (Korean) fiancé sent this to me this morning and said, "I'm embarrassed to call myself a Korean man if this is how men here are acting."Agreed. I really wish the obsession with both would just go away already. I've seen so many young expat women come over here chasing Korean men only to end up 1. pregnant and alone, 2. married and abused, 3. in a situationship that last years (with future faking), while the Korean man has a fiancé or girlfriend on the side that he "breaks up" with her for only to marry days after the break-up. There's a reason why more Korean women are opting out of marriage and kids these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:17 AM |
| 21 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!I do this a lot (engaged, but I honestly love dining at Michelin Star, or upscale restaurants solo). A lot of my friends don't like to go to expensive places, and though I could go with my guy, attending alone is honestly a great way to decompress/wind down from the week. I bring a good book, or my laptop to work on my books, and have a nice time out with no pressure of conversation or feeling like I have to entertain someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:13 PM |
| 14 | I feel that I’m always walking on eggshells with you.Thank you! I really appreciate hearing from someone who understands. I've been called crazy/sensitive/ridiculous for feeling this way, so...I can't begin to express how good it feels to have someone "get it". I have cut all contact with my mother as of eight months ago, and have been completely at peace ever since. I'm so glad to hear that your nephew (I hope his brothers are doing ok) was able to get away, and that you've removed a toxic person from your life. I'm sorry you grew up dealing with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:09 AM |
| 105 | I feel that I’m always walking on eggshells with you.My mother used to tell me this. I was 13-17, and didn't like her having loud parties on weekdays and weekends (I was later diagnosed with Misophonia and severe depression/anxiety, but of course, she doesn't believe in mental illness) or her laughing obnoxiously on purpose because she knew it nearly brought me to tears. She used to tell me that people had to walk on eggshells around me when I would get upset when she or family made fun of me, or when she talked about my period/body hair to her fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:40 AM |
| 25 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.It's legal here in South Korea, but if you hurt someone (yes, even if they are trying to r*pe or assault you), your attacker can press charges against/sue you. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 12:05 PM |
| 14 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryThere are laws in place, but no one follows them (a common issue here). Women are often passed over for higher salary positions because we have the ability to get pregnant. I have a handful of friends who were fired from their jobs because they got married/pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 30 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryCountry: South Korea I'm not a native, but from what my native friends have told me (and from what I've observed) women are still facing a lot of rigid stereotypes and gender roles. The general consensus is still very much that women should be at home tending house and raising children (though this is changing with the younger generation). Women get paid considerably less than men, and though we are frequently in positions of power, don't get taken as seriously. Though this has improved over the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:57 PM |
| 11 | Don't get plastic surgery just to attract menI can't agree with this 100%. I had a breast reduction and labiaplasty (one to treat terrible head/back/shoulder pain; the other to treat horrible discomfort). Both surgeries gave me a more positive outlook on life because I was no longer miserable and suffering from pinched nerves among other things. Could I have lived without getting either surgery? Sure, but getting them totally changed my life. My fiancé was worried about me getting them, and would have rather me not (due to how dangerous PS… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:43 PM |
| 21 | This is probably exactly how some scrotes process mundane, everyday transactionsI worked as a cashier in Lumber when I was 18/19 while paying my way through Uni. I got hit on SO much by nasty old men. I looked 12 at the time (am 5 foot nothing), and would also get sly remarks about how I didn't look old enough to work, followed by them asking for my contact information. Same thing working as a FDR at Hilton as my second job. I didn't think about it much back then, but it was pretty much sexual harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:27 PM |
| 24 | The truth tea ☕️🐸Thanks, and whatever your goals/plans for life are, I'm rooting for you. No idea who you are, but we all need someone, even if it's a stranger, to root for us sometimes :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:04 PM |
| 84 | The truth tea ☕️🐸Honestly, can relate. I dumped my ex right before starting my MBA. Finished in half the time, was awarded honors, saved 1.5 thousand a month at work, and wrote a book series that's in the process of being edited/published. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 12:25 PM |
| 3 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementHe's Korean, but he was raised outside of Korea for most of his life. He moved back here about five years ago. His parents are also very Westernized (most of his family live in Europe). Believe me, I know all about Asian men and what to look for (evidence in my post). My Korean girlfriends have my back, haha. Thanks for being concerned though~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 7 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢He seems.....delusional. It sounds like he's creating this hyper-intimate connection with a woman who could be his CHILD, in his head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:06 AM |
| 38 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementAs someone living in Korea, I agree with women here taking more of a stand and living their own lives. There are SO many unhappy marriages here. Women are pressured (even bribed with money by family members) to have children they don't want. If a woman is working and she gets pregnant her company can fire her, leaving her at the mercy of, and having to rely 100% on her husband. Marriage r*pe does not exist here. A lot of women spend 10-15 years raising children and end up working in cafes or chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 11:55 PM |
| 40 | This is uncomfortable on so many levelsYeah, I heard her say 18. I was just saying that she looks much younger, which makes him even more of a pos, haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 11:35 AM |
| 85 | This is uncomfortable on so many levelsShe looks super young, too. I'd say as young as 14/15. What a pos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 10:32 AM |
| 3 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Eh, there are plenty of Korean men here in Korea with bad skin. They tend to hide it with make-up/cosmetics/lasers. A LOT of men here visit dermatologists regularly. I will say one thing, people here are very serious about protecting themselves from sun damage. The options for sun protection products here are great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:37 AM |
| 20 | Trading her self-respect for a Lego set🎵🎶She was a Queen. He was a troll. Can I make it anymore obvious?🎵🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 01:45 AM |
| 2 | When their lame man-brags are deeply unimpressiveThis reminds me of living in NYC while trying to walk anywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 11 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEThis made my chest hurt, and reminded me of a long-term ex I had. We lived together and his voice would get so demon-like when he yelled, just like the scrote in this video. There is absolutely no reason to yell/scream at your partner like this (unless they're are coming at you with a weapon and you're trying to defend yourself). Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:27 AM |
| 4 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Where did you purchase this? I, too, would like a crown. This looks amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:16 AM |
| 30 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!I will never forget the time my ex-friend told me about her husband before I met him. She described him as a, "Viking-type man with a sexy beard who loves working out and eating healthy". He was overweight, no more than 5'6, seven years older than her (she's 30; they got married when she was 25), and was a huge asshole that treated her like a child and told her she would make a terrible mother. She would get super excited that he "let" her use his credit card to buy dinner, and would make him bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:52 AM |
| 36 | Caught a man filming me yesterdayYup! Thankfully there are more women on staff than men. I was surprised too, especially considering how foreigners are not often taken seriously here. It angered me, and bummed me out, but at least he's gone. I didn't go to the gym for about two-weeks after that because I was so paranoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:41 AM |
| 88 | Caught a man filming me yesterdayA few weeks ago I was at the gym running on the treadmill. I was wearing tight-ish yoga pants and a crop top because the owner keeps it a bit toasty in the place. While looking in the mirror I saw a guy sitting behind me on a stationary bike CLEARLY recording my butt. I hopped off, told the front desk girl, and she had him show her the recording (and delete it). Haven't seen him since. This is in South Korea, by the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:47 AM |
| 51 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"Indifference is the best revenge~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:50 AM |
| 8 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendThe only issues I have with Diana is that throughout her books she uses r*pe as a plot device entirely too much. Stuck on a plot point? R*ape. Dialogue not interesting enough? R*ape a 9-year old child. It just...it got exhausting and I had to put the books down for a bit before updating myself on the series. The show leaves out a lot, and I mean a lot of the worst of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Sex in a relationship...I'm going to keep it as is. I spend a lot of time at my desktop (writer and working from home at my FT job), and it's extremely annoying to keep having to block multiple times a day :/ I think some lovely ladies commented responding to a few things I mentioned before editing, so hopefully that's enough! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:56 AM |
| 19 | Sex in a relationship...I know, I shouldn't. I shouldn't have deleted the contents. Men just make me SO damn tired. Ugh. Even having to block them takes so much energy out of me, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 12:56 PM |
| 22 | Sex in a relationship...No worries. I live in Asia, as well (am American). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 08:46 AM |
| 22 | Sex in a relationship...Where are you from if you don't mind me asking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:10 AM |
| 62 | Sex in a relationship...Oh for sure! I lived with an ex that would clean (after having to remind him multiple times) and get angry when I didn't say thank you or praise him or want to sleep with him that night. I shouldn't have to stay thank you for tidying up a shared space. You should just not want to live in filth naturally, you animal, lol. I really, really, really hope that the young men growing up now are being taught how to take care of themselves and not treat women as maids. I mean ones that are still in middl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 04:50 AM |
| 179 | Sex in a relationship...Firstly, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. I can relate, and I'm sure every single woman on this sub can, too. I, too, have noticed that look of resentment or let-down. In the past I've let men walk me home, (in my 20's) and to see puppy dog eyes and awkward lingering when they realize you're not inviting them up was so gross to me, and such a turn-off. As if they are owed sex for taking me out to dinner and pretending to be a decent human for a few hours. I also find it funny how a lot of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 04:42 AM |
| 72 | Sex in a relationship...This is chilling. God, I really feel for those women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 03:45 AM |
| 89 | Sex in a relationship...Agreed.. Gay men are lovely, and I've been sent flowers, taken out for dinner, and spoiled by them in exchange...for...nothing. It's a breath of fresh air. I swear, some straight men would do well to take a leaf out of their books in regards to how to treat SO's and women in general. Sometimes I want to take my life savings and buy an island where women can go on retreats to get away from penises for a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:37 AM |
| 44 | Why some women put up with the bare minimum from men in North America: a short essay on societal+patriarchal conditioning, pros and cons/benefits outweigh the costs mindset, and the fear of singledomSame stuff going on over here in South Korea (p.s., they're just as shady and s*itty as other men, they just put more effort into their appearance). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 09:24 AM |
| 2 | I am not your dream girl.Give me a year! And thank you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:56 AM |
| 7 | I am not your dream girl.Who WROTE this? This is the exact vibe I have for my main female character in a Young Adult Fantasy series I'm working on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Fun little chat I had with one of my co-workers today (South Korea). Hopefully this doesn't offend anyone here.Who? This is a chat with one of my girl friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Fun little chat I had with one of my co-workers today (South Korea). Hopefully this doesn't offend anyone here.A little backstory as to why I said this in the first place: My co-worker/friend's ex of 10 years 1. cheated on her for their entire relationship, 2. lied to her for 10 years about having a job, 3. was a useless asshole who didn't deserve her (he refused to marry her, which, she ended up dodging a bullet anyway). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:45 AM |
| 5 | “I didn’t know what you meant”We didn't own a microwave, but my mom constantly made food that hurt my stomach (was diagnosed with IBS/GERD/gluten intolerance at 19; mom never acknowledged that I was in almost constant pain as a child "You were never sick" "I was in and out of the hospital as a child" "o_o?"). I also learned to cook early, around 8. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 10:50 PM |
| 6 | “I didn’t know what you meant”I grew up with my mom doing this as well. Heated up leftovers always tasted like metal/plastic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:55 PM |
| 26 | I would have called the policeShe should have taken his phone and messaged everyone in his contact list the video he recorded. What a Grade A creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:17 AM |
| 2 | The popularity of male kpop idols has been shattering LVMs’ egos, but if we complain they watch porn we are “insecure”.Ugh, ugh, ugh. I feel bad for her, but she should have known better (and join this sub). The audacity! Paying for half a room...I really wish women (and girls) would do more research before coming here, and to stay away from men for a while when they do. TMI, but that's something I noticed (back in my Korea-pickme days...yeaaaars ago). A lot of Korean men have issues staying hard during sex. I mean, it's not like I've slept with a boatful or anything, but the encounters I've had, most of them we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 10:37 PM |
| 3 | The popularity of male kpop idols has been shattering LVMs’ egos, but if we complain they watch porn we are “insecure”.Yup. This is exactly it. I have tons of stories from dating here. Like, men asking me out to dinner then while leaving the restaurant asking me I want to go to a hotel. They don't ask Korean women this. I did have some fun telling them to pay for the hotel and that I'll be right up (then making a beeline for a subway station), but even that got old. Another tried molesting me while we were at a noraebang in the middle of the day. He started freaking out on me (told me I ruined his birthday and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:13 AM |
| 6 | The popularity of male kpop idols has been shattering LVMs’ egos, but if we complain they watch porn we are “insecure”.Yup. You hit the nail on the head. I was actually super hesitant about dating here, and didn't for a while after a lot of bad experiences with Korean men. My fiancé had to fight me tooth and nail to get me to date him, and this was after we were already friends. He's never pulled the crap guys pulled here, but I like to keep my guard up (hell, I still kind of have it up). And yeah, them being Korean doesn't mean they will treat you any better. I really hate the Korean man fetish crap going aroun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:52 AM |
| 30 | The popularity of male kpop idols has been shattering LVMs’ egos, but if we complain they watch porn we are “insecure”.This is true. And the real kicker is that while they ARE more attractive, they can somehow be shitter than their Western counterparts. And yes, the average Korean man isn't anything to write home about, but they do put more effort into styling themselves. Source: Have lived in Korea for years. Have dated Korean men for years. Engaged to a wonderful) Korean man who tells me all the shit he's seen men here do to women. Don't be fooled by the good looks. Infidelity is around 70% for marriages here.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 14 | What sex/hook up experience helped catalyze your FDS ideals?I think when they do this they're trying to lube you up so they can stop going down on you and shove it in. Makes my stomach turn over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 07:06 AM |
| 2 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.It is. But of course, this doofus isn't thinking (or is and doesn't care, which is highly likely) with his brain. Even after a few months you're still healing. I am actually really worried about this woman, whoever she is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:27 AM |
| 2 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.No worries. Def not here for upvotes. I just want to get this crap out there. It really pissed me off to see it and I had to tell someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:11 AM |
| 4 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Nope. People are actually responding with tips......sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:47 PM |
| 6 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Happy she has a good partner who cares enough about her not to demand (or ask) about sex immediately. Congrats to them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Ugh, ugh, ugh! I'm so sorry you had to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:46 PM |
| 8 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.I reported him. He also posted on a BDSM sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Thank. You. This is correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:44 PM |
| 31 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Same. I kind of wish she was the one that posted so I could DM her and talk her out of staying with this abusive fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 12:15 PM |
| 141 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.I see a lot of women on r/Reduction who seem to have partners that aren't very helpful or supportive throughout the reduction process. The ones that are supportive/caring are more often than not, lesbian partners, and that's saying something. So many women seem to be overly concerned about how their men will react to them having smaller boobs instead of being happy their girlfriends/wives aren't in constant pain. I always want to tell them to drop them, but would probably get attacked if I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 12:03 PM |
| 118 | Your partner just went through a life changing, PAINFUL, major surgery and all you can think about is your dick and kinks? As someone working on getting my own breast reduction, this makes me really angry. It take a full year for your breasts to be properly healed from a BR btw. 6 weeks is nothing.Agreed. If he really cared he would be posting about to better help her through the process, or asking what he should be doing to make her feel more beautiful since BR's usually have a lot of scarring as an aftermath. ANYTHING besides how long before I can stick it in her and injure her with rope burns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:36 AM |
| 2 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?Welcome, and thank you. I liked to think that all of these experiences combined helped me be better prepared to see through BS. And now I'm not shy about calling people out on it~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:52 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?Thank you! I was a such a pickmeisha back then. But yeah, I found myself in a bunch of really, really unsafe situations. I thank my stars that I'm still alive tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:39 AM |
| 5 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?God...where to start? Coffee shop. He was boring and was a horrible conversationalist. Kept staring at me for long periods of time while being silent. I excused myself to go to the bathroom. Ended up sneaking out the back door and going home to drink wine. Riding bikes. It was 90 degrees outside, and I ended up being gross and sweaty at the end of it. He walked me to the subway station, said bye, and was never seen or heard from again. Walking in an industrial area of town. Was literally just wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:26 AM |
| 12 | LolI hate when I use OLD and it says they're 6'0 when they're really 5'5. Get outta here, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 2 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.I just read your screen name (I'm at work and hiding from my boss, lol) and laughed so hard. I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:36 AM |
| 2 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.Can you come over here and run a class for these scrotes? Seriously. They're dumber than a bag of dicks. I can see how they would be seen as a safer option. They know the cultural expectations and will MOST of the time adhere to them. Though they're being woken up a bit, the mindset isn't really going away completely anytime soon. I WISH my mother-in-law would try to pull the shit they pull on Korean women, lol. The bit about them sowing their oats and playing around with expat women made me cri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:32 AM |
| 2 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.I am screaming. You have hit the nail on the head, and are right on so many points. It's funny that you say that because after living here for a while and coming in contact with SO many assholes, I stopped being attracted to them. I still enjoy the aesthetics of Korean men (not the feminine ones), but when you realize how a lot of them think, it puts you off a bit. And damn. I didn't know deaths were a common thing in K/V marriages. That's just...fucking awful. I do notice that when I do see Kor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:51 AM |
| 2 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.Alternatively, I see this A LOT with white men as well. Boils my blood. My Vietnamese ex-friend (she won't talk to me because I kept pointing out what a shit-bag her husband is) is married to a overweight, ugly, short man seven years older than her. She treats him like a King. He does the bare minimum and has her in a cramped one bedroom apartment cooking and cleaning for him all day. It's gross. Oh yeah, Koreans are big on calling other people lazy while touting how hard working they are. Jokes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:19 AM |
| 36 | Field Report - 8th date suggestion from a man interested in pursuing me. See comment for context.Ew and no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:44 AM |
| 4 | If a guy ever mentions these words-“InDePenDaNt” and “CoOkiNg”-send this video and run!Wooh, girl KILLED it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:47 AM |
| 66 | Prime example of the type we don't give our valuable presence to. A date with a woman is worth far more than $18.75. He had the audacity to call himself a "gentleman" after all that! 😂He seems like the type of man scrote to say, "Well I changed the baby's diaper four times this week so you have to do it 8 times now because you're the woman." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:01 AM |
| 3 | “I heard that in Asia, if women can’t cook well they can’t get married. Is that true?” he said. And then this conversation. He is overseas born Asian. What a huge turn off.A lot women won't marry a man here unless he has a certain amount in the bank, takes care of himself physically, has a car, has enough money to put down on a nice house/apartment, and works for a good company. Men are expected to provide for the wife, and many women quit working after they get married (more women are opting out of children), or quit to start their own businesses. There are still ain't shit men here, and men who are super misogynistic due to the culture not valuing women, but the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 12:09 PM |
| 6 | “I heard that in Asia, if women can’t cook well they can’t get married. Is that true?” he said. And then this conversation. He is overseas born Asian. What a huge turn off.I have so many friends (South Korea) that don't know how to cook and make their husbands cook for them (I suspect some of them refuse to learn to avoid Chuseok and holiday cooking duties), lol. He better start taking cooking classes because Asian women are starting to wisen up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:52 AM |
| 12 | The “Blood in the Water” TestI've noticed that women seem really uncomfortable or awkward when I give them compliments out of nowhere. The other day I saw a lady co-worker and started gushing over how cute her outfit was and how beautiful she looked (we're close, so it wasn't too strange of me to mention this). She said she wasn't used to getting these kinds of comments from women. I wish it were a more common thing (though I know some people just don't take compliments well). I love putting a smile on someone's face by poi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:09 AM |
| 8 | The “Blood in the Water” TestJust wash your hands clean. Best thing to do. I feel bad for people like that, but also, I kind of don't. I feel like people that do this have some serious work they need to do on their mental and emotional health. "Take out the trash..." works for friendships, too~~ I'm glad you got out of that situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:46 AM |
| 23 | The “Blood in the Water” TestWhy, why, why? Why would she do this? Does she feel that bad about herself that she has to make others feel low? Get a hobby or something? Go read a good book. See a psychologist. Something... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:42 AM |
| 11 | The “Blood in the Water” TestIt baffles me that someone can be this cruel. It never crosses my mind to even tease people, let alone prey on their insecurities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:39 AM |
| 6 | The “Blood in the Water” TestThank you. 2020 is the year of cutting out toxic people, IMO. Life is too short to be surrounding yourself with people that don't lift you up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:50 AM |
| 60 | The “Blood in the Water” TestThis. I mentioned to a (girl) friend of mine that I'm planning to get a breast reduction because I'm insecure about their large size and that they give me back, head, and neck pain. Since I mentioned it she started taking jabs at my "big tits" and "huge knockers", sprinkling comments in about my big butt (it's not even big, but she doesn't have a butt or a chest, so everything is big to her I guess). This escalated to her flip-flopping between making nice comments to tearing me down days later a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | I know who he is. I blocked him after this exchange. He fully expected me to talk to him after two years of no-contact. Was fun messing with him.I deleted this (got some angry Korean messages out of nowhere). I pretty much kept telling him that I didn't know him, lol. It made him really angry that I was rejecting him in English and Korean lololol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 03:40 AM |
| 6 | I know who he is. I blocked him after this exchange. He fully expected me to talk to him after two years of no-contact. Was fun messing with him.He called me mean right before I blocked him. Lol. So fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 12 | Would you date a man who likes game of thrones?I myself love the books and show, but I'm a huge fan of reading and the historical/fantasy genre. Would you feel the same about someone interested in the history of the Middle Ages or the Medieval Period (incest occurred in these time periods)? I'd be more concerned if a man likes to watch porn or those weird anime's where all the girls look ten and are over-sexualized. Not everyone watches the show for the T&A. The court intrigue, complex story-lines, twists, and similarities to historical even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:37 AM |
| 8 | Women who are already in FDS approved LTR: how much about your insecurities (about your self/ looks), fears (specifically about relationships), or mental issues do you tell your partner? Should you ever share your insecurities with a bf? Any advice on this topic?None and never. I have a licensed therapist for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:55 AM |
| 1 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.Np. You'll have to send me a message (I've turned off chat) if you want them~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:13 AM |
| 1 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.Np! I have all the files for the first season if you can figure out a way for me to get them to you, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 7 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.Glad you like it! Not many people know about it (at least in my circle), so it's nice to find those that are aware of the show. I love the Romanov's, too. I wish we could get a good show for the Romanov's. I admire Catherine as well. She saw what she wanted, went for it, and didn't take any bullshit. So ahead of her time, as were many female monarchs. I finished the season the same day it premiered. I was on vacation at that time and ended up binge watching it. I've re-watched it three times sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:04 PM |
| 2 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.Hulu, but I had to torrent it, as Hulu doesn't work well in the country I'm in! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 1 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.Yup, the show is really open about not being 100% accurate. It does sprinkle in actually history though. It's definitely meant to entertain, and does a wonderful job of it. I've been a huge fan of her since I was a child. I've always been obsessed with East European, Asian, and Scandinavian history. I especially love Tudor and Elizabethan history as well. Can't get enough of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 2 | If you haven't checked out the show "The Great", you should. Catherine was such a badass woman.They announced season 2 a bit ago. Not sure when it will be out, but I'm so excited for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 09:49 PM |
| 3 | (South Korea) They won't even let us job search in peace.So depressing. Lol. I would never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:05 AM |
| 15 | (South Korea) They won't even let us job search in peace.Haha. You're right :p I'm not replying at all. I'm just trying to get it flagged, as high school girls here will often pick up jobs like this for pocket money. It's horrible and dangerous. There's not really a taboo on having sex with high school aged minors here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:48 PM |
| 13 | Me putting one of my male friends in his place (in South Korea and guys often joke like this, and I have none of it).Do it~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:50 AM |
| 15 | Me putting one of my male friends in his place (in South Korea and guys often joke like this, and I have none of it).Man, the old ladies here are troopers! I have a soft spot for they. They are some of the hardest working resilient people I've ever met. You can borrow her! She loves telling off assholes. It's one of the things I love about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 05:39 AM |
| 25 | Oh hell noThis looks like one of those toe rings from Claire's I wore in 2001. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 05:09 AM |
| 14 | Me putting one of my male friends in his place (in South Korea and guys often joke like this, and I have none of it).고마워. 그래야만 했다. 무례한 남자. ㅋㅋㅋㅋ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 02:20 AM |
| 90 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMJust came here to say this. He so is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 10:20 AM |
| 48 | 😍😍😍We need this in South Korea, too. So many gross pervs running around here thinking they're entitled to sex after taking a woman out on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:53 AM |
| 35 | I liked you better when you were miserableNever marry (or date) a man who says, "I liked you better before when you were...." or "I liked you better when you had (long hair/short hair/less weight/more weight/whatever)". This is a put-down and is meant to make your doubt yourself or find fault in yourself. I had an ex tell me he liked me better when I had ear length hair. I grew it out to waist-length and got more attention from men for some reason--mostly staring. Like, I'm sorry my decision to grow my hair out somehow makes you feel in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:48 AM |
| 8 | Do NOT reply to male PMsI got one of these about a month ago: "You're a disgusting fat loser bitch who will never find a man." Me, 5'0, a size two, living in South Korea in my own loft apartment, and has a sexy-ass HVM prosecutor boyfriend.\sips tea** Blocked without a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | What pop culture character is your inspiration?I just started watching JJ yesterday and love her character. Not a huge fan of the show so far, but her character is very 3D and realistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:11 PM |
| 9 | Woman finds out that her husband’s cousin’s ‘secret child’ is actually his from the time he cheated on her.This is like...something out of a book or movie. I feel so bad for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:45 PM |
| 5 | Don’t act like you’re any different boyExactly. There was a time I thought something was wrong with me because I would get emotional during sex. I thought I was strange because after having it with someone I wanted to be closer to them. You're right, the culture surrounding sex needs to change. It's so toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:18 PM |
| 25 | Don’t act like you’re any different boySame. I've tried separating emotions and sex, but it doesn't work, and my brain isn't wired that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 11:07 AM |
| 5 | Another thing I found today - bingo for when to leave somebody. The girl also has a website linked below.The correct response to someone saying this: "You're right. Bye." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:04 AM |
| 65 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡Good god. I'm glad he's out of your life because you do not deserve to be treated like a personal bank account. What a loser. This really pisses me off. The audacity of men. Thanks for posting this. I hope it helps out a lady or two that find themselves in a situation like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:01 PM |
| 148 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡Girl, wtf were you doing? This is nearly $2.2K in a span of 2 months. Were his arms and legs broken? Did he have some kind of disability preventing him from supporting himself? I have so many questions. You should NEVER have to give a man ANY money for any reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:49 PM |
| 5 | How to identify lovebombing?They're not smart enough to think of anything more clever, thank god. And it is scary. There must be some document floating around with these lines on it or something. Ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:42 PM |
| 20 | How to identify lovebombing?"I feel like we've known each other for years, not months." "I just feel so comfortable and secure with you, even though we've only know each other for a few weeks." "It's so hard to describe. I really feel like we connect. I've never felt this way about any other woman." "I know it's only been a few days, but I think you're the one." "I want you to know that if we break up it will be due to an outside force, not either of us not loving/caring about each other." "I really want to stay with you a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:01 PM |
| 12 | Please, let me know your thoughts on this...10 year age gap. Block and delete forever. No, just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:28 AM |
| 29 | YikesI know this isn't, but I'm going to hope for her sake that this is satire and she's being sarcastic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:26 AM |
| 2 | A rant about some things i've learned while getting back into datingI would like to compile a book showcasing stories just like this, but I'm afraid it will land into the hands of LVM's and they'll use it manipulate and continue behaving like scrotes. I'm so happy for you for removing yourself from a situation like that, and I hope he gets what he deserves. What a lazy, unattractive, and sad excuse for a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Woman's BF "playfully" almost drowns her, cue LVM in the comments saying it's "nOT aBuSIve"For sure. Everyone has their own threshold. My current bf and I like to scare each other. My students do the same thing with me (and I with them), and I find it hilarious. I'm against teasing though, in all forms, friendships included. The important thing is that the involved parties are being respectful and respected, and feel comfortable and non-threatened. Anything that crosses that line (even a little bit) is indeed abuse and bullying. And I'm sorry you had to deal with that. No one deserves… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:10 AM |
| 16 | This was just so ridiculous I had to post itLolol. Damn. Why didn't I think of that? I'd be impressed by the effort, and also disgusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:01 AM |
| 8 | When an LVM pops out of the wood work with a “miss you” text, this is the only way to respond.Du...is his name Dummy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 04:13 AM |
| 58 | This was just so ridiculous I had to post itThis reminds me of the time a friend of a friend tried to get me to sleep with him because he "had cancer" and was moving out of state in a month. I just said, "So?" and never spoke to him again. Men really do be out there trying anything and everything they can think of to get laid. Why not use that energy on a Master's degree and nicer clothes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 04:12 AM |
| 53 | Woman's BF "playfully" almost drowns her, cue LVM in the comments saying it's "nOT aBuSIve"Yeah there's no point in engaging with these people at all. I'd message the girl privately. She seems like she needs to have someone explain to her what abuse is, and that it takes many different forms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:37 AM |
| 146 | Woman's BF "playfully" almost drowns her, cue LVM in the comments saying it's "nOT aBuSIve"Playing and being playful is tickling someone, or yelling "boo!" when they round a corner. Playing around isn't holding someone underwater and almost drowning them. The hell is wrong with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:33 AM |
| 13 | LVM leads with the question “Are you Chinese?” straight off the bat then starts insulting me when I don’t play ball.What a disgusting human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:31 AM |
| 9 | A little reminder....This really hit me. I've felt so guilty for cutting toxic people off in the past (especially ones that seem nice, but are garbage deep down). This is a great reminder that it's their loss, and to not blame yourself for the emotionally nefarious acts of others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 06:36 AM |
| 8 | Something I've encountered on the apps lately as a 30-something...I had a brief fling with a 40 year old when I was 19 while on break with a long-term ex (gross, I know, I had major Daddy issues). I'm 32 now. He emailed me a few months ago telling me he wanted to marry and have kids with me. First of all I have a boyfriend. Second of all, even if I were single, what the hell would make him think I'd want to be with and have children with a damn 53 year old? He spent his 20's and 30's dating only goth chicks (which I was at the time) and refused to date a "norm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 04:09 AM |
| 3 | Something I've encountered on the apps lately as a 30-something...Right. Settling down in another country (like I have done) is a completely different story. Hoping from country to country though...no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 04:04 AM |
| 29 | LVM exampleYou, I like your brain. Amazing. Keep being a feisty, fiery Goddess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:58 AM |
| 100 | What do you think? Parenting done right. How to raise a HVM.Amazing. A huge step up from that, "He hits you because he likes you" nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 9 | I really love this tiktok. As someone that is currently learning to love myself and do things alone. Seeing ppl do this encourages meThis is so adorable! I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 20 | IVE FOUND THE CURE TO OLD!This is a common service here in South Korea. Tons of people do match making in their late 20's-30's. I know a few people who have met their husbands through one and are happy with kids and everything~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:58 AM |
| 16 | Age, job, education, mattress statusHaha. One involved a guy (this is in South Korea) taking me out on a double-date, hitting on my friend, and asking both of us if he could have locks of our hair (we're both curly girls). We thought we were going to die that night. Kind of funny, but kind of not... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 09:13 AM |
| 17 | Age, job, education, mattress statusAlso idk why but you asking that just cracked me up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 07:10 AM |
| 23 | Age, job, education, mattress statusI have so many dating stories. Some hilarious, some just downright sad. What is with these men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 07:10 AM |
| 16 | Age, job, education, mattress statusLolol. He worked at a Circle K (my stint in Florida, which was a whole ass mess on its own). Was charming and sweet af but could not get his shit together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 07:09 AM |
| 34 | Age, job, education, mattress statusBack i my pickmesha days knew a guy that slept on a mattress in someone's kitchen. He took me back to "his apartment", which was really nice. But when he said, "Let's take this to the bedroom". I was just like 🤣🤢✌. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:27 AM |
| 11 | Spoiler Alert: she agrees to a second date. 🤦This is one of the most unattractive things I've ever seen in my life. Wait until they get married and he starts using trash bags as blankets, or gets her engagement ring from one of those $.99 machines at the grocery store. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 11:16 PM |
| 73 | Three hours between these messages... that mask came off QUICKSeems unhinged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:47 AM |
| 236 | Man asks for tips to help him stalk a Twitch streamer because her likes her. We can’t have anything nice without men trying to insert themselves and their desires.(⊙_⊙;) I'd advise him to go see a therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:04 AM |
| 19 | Saw this and though of FDS. How to Prevent Rape.Right! Yes, we know it happens, but the cases are drastically, DRASTICALLY lower than the millions of women who have been raped over the course of centuries. Dumb dumbs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:43 AM |
| 16 | Saw this and though of FDS. How to Prevent Rape.This needs to be made into a meme/PSA! So damn true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:16 AM |
| 11 | Saw this and though of FDS. How to Prevent Rape.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 63 | Saw this and though of FDS. How to Prevent Rape.Same. When I first saw the title I was expecting a bunch of tips for women like, "Don't dress in provocative clothing", "Don't walk alone at night" when really men are the problem. We shouldn't have to alter our appearance or routes because it's men (not adding women/same sex couples because I myself am heterosexual, but I know it does occur) that need to control themselves and have the common decently to not act like animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 70 | Saw this and though of FDS. How to Prevent Rape.Yup. This is satire, but still relevant because some men (especially the younger ones) are huge dummies and need to be reminded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:25 AM |
| 58 | Treat yo-selfI love this. Here in South Korea it's really common for girl friends to buy each other flowers (after break-ups, on birthdays, etc.). It's such a nice gesture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:02 AM |
| 29 | Boyfriend suggests a prenup to “protect” his house, OP drafts her own prenup that also protects her assets and investments. BF doesn’t like a prenup that doesn’t solely favor him and they break up.Maybe he should sign something so she can protect her dignity, sense of self, and pride. Maybe something along the lines of him not cheating, watching excessive porn, and promising to actually pull his own weight once they have a house and kids. Seems fair, no? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 09:56 PM |
| 5 | I had no idea he was gaslighting me. Story in the comments.Where is the context behind this conversation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:10 PM |
| 30 | Why are men so 🤮......stay safe ladiesI'm sure he would have done this even if she were wearing an astronaut suit. I feel so bad for her, ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 12:54 PM |
| 15 | Do you hear the PickMe's yet? 'I don't care if he doesn't get me a ring, I don't care if my proposal is shit; it's the thought that matters! Expectations make you a golddigger' 🤡😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 12:17 PM |
| 98 | Do you hear the PickMe's yet? 'I don't care if he doesn't get me a ring, I don't care if my proposal is shit; it's the thought that matters! Expectations make you a golddigger' 🤡What in the heck is actually going on here? Is that a cigarette butt? A line of cocaine? A piece of rolled up tissue? Everyone looks high af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 10:25 AM |
| 2 | 👏RANDOM MESSAGES OUT OF THE BLUE ARE NOT A COMPLIMENT👏Oh man, I totally get you. I claim bi-racial but I have Irish/Welsh, Puerto-Rican, and black in me as well, so I 100% understand what you mean. In Korea I get people refusing to believe I'm from the U.S., and everyone says mean things about all kind of ethnicities (directed toward me) that aren't even in my racial make-up. Like...mind ya business lol. And they probably will never grow up. Sucks for them though. What a miserable life to live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 09:35 AM |
| 2 | 👏RANDOM MESSAGES OUT OF THE BLUE ARE NOT A COMPLIMENT👏It's super rude. I would never talk around/about someone, even if I knew they couldn't speak or understand my language. It's just so rude and childish, and really shows ignorance and lack of social tact. I'm sorry you had to go through this. It is not OK, and they should be ashamed of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 08:52 AM |
| 8 | Living alone tipsOr they'll try to turn you into a sugar Momma, lololol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 03:22 AM |
| 11 | Living alone tipsI hope this helps! I can't give any advice about the head covering. Just use your judgement and do whatever feelings the most comfortable. And they don't want to understand. They're so lucky they can walk down a street, or past a group of women in the middle of the night and not feel threatened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:52 AM |
| 7 | Living alone tipsThe peeing thing make my stomach turn over. Men are so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:51 AM |
| 9 | 👏RANDOM MESSAGES OUT OF THE BLUE ARE NOT A COMPLIMENT👏The cancelling last minute and me having to initiate plans is what really gets me. I have a girl friend who I had to always initiate plans with (she's a housewife and at home all day). When we did go out she always invited her husband (who is a huge dick, and nearly 10 years her senior). I recently just cut her off after she kept making weird comments about my race (I'm bi-racial and she's Vietnamese), hair, and body. And eff that guy. A year is a hell of a long-time. People know exactly what th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:42 AM |
| 63 | Living alone tipsThis may only work for men on your floor, but: Large muddy/dirty work boots left outside your door (brought in every so often). It signals that: There's a man living in your home That man probably works in a field where he does heavy lifting For everything else, get a faux wedding/engagement ring. Some men will not be stopped by this, but it should stave off the bulk of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:15 AM |
| 14 | Want a guy who listens and replies fastEhhhhhhhhhh. It's a huge coin-toss dating over here. A lot of men here like to love-bomb in hopes of getting you into bed. There are Korean sites about how to trick foreign women into sex (buying gifts, taking them on vacations, giving fake information about their accolades) as well. Korean men aren't any more polite or respectful than the average scrote. They do however smell better and take more care of their outer appearances (and know how to take care of you when you are in a committed legit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:04 AM |
| 32 | 👏RANDOM MESSAGES OUT OF THE BLUE ARE NOT A COMPLIMENT👏I've applied to this tactic to friends as well. A friend texted me the other day after 7 months asking what I was up to. I deleted and blocked him (very platonic friendship and not at all attracted to one another) without saying a word. I don't waste my time on people who can't be bothered to send a text message that takes less than thirty seconds to write. Get out of here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:01 AM |
| 58 | Someone commented about OP making the ring himself because it's also cheaper and all the pick mes obviously started saying 'BUT IT'S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS 🥺'...but the replies on the plastic one were too much for meIf he can't afford a ring how is he going to afford a honeymoon, a down payment on a house, a mortgage, groceries for next 30+ years, anniversaries, a child (if wanted), doctors appointments, college.......retirement.....? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:25 AM |
| 11 | My friends and I love this one: this LVM told me he didn’t believe in condoms on a first date and when I ended the date he unraveled.This is the text equivalent of, "Hi...hey...hi, gimme a smile, sexy. Bitch." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:40 AM |
| 130 | Some of these men have deep rooted misogyny, and a superiority complex that outshines the sun. The delusion level on this one is also alarming 🚨Wtf is going on here, lol. He's really a loose canon, isn't he? And I HATE men that come over here (Asia) in search of a spouse expecting them to be submissive. As someone with family in the Philippines, women will not stand for BS over there. They are lions, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:54 AM |
| 14 | I’m tickled looking at the women starting to consider this.Thankfully this is just improv, but shame on the women who would consider this. Where I live marriages for green cards/visa's are really, really common, and never end (and they always end) well for either party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:25 AM |
| 4 | So I made a tinder for my friendI kind of wish I had someone interview prospective boyfriends in my late teens/early 20's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:46 AM |
| 10 | What are some things that you used to think were normal/cute but now realize are red flags? 🚩I know someone like this. Her husbands also tells her they shouldn't have kids because she'd be a terrible mother. She laughs it off, but, like, what a horrible thing to say to a woman...to your WIFE (even if they don't want children). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 01:04 AM |
| 20 | “I can’t think of a specific neg so I’m just going to keep it general.”He's probably seeing your beauty, confidence, and BS meter, and is offended. He knows he can't trick you into bed and doesn't like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 12:47 AM |
| 8 | Unconventional red flagsI agree. I have a bf now, but if he and I ever break up and I decide to date again, I'm going to need to see a full-ass background check (with marriages, credit score, and job history) at this point. Can't trust them to tell the truth about anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:57 AM |
| 108 | Just say you are broke and go. 🥱Came here to say this. I'd rather treat myself or one of my girlfriends. Eff that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 19 | She says her relationship is fine other than the fact that he never showers, she has to baby him 24/7, he stinks up the whole house and still expects sex.*gags* Yet they expect us to smell like roses and complain about normal healthy vag smells. So gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 03:06 AM |
| 10 | How many of you ladies are childfree?Child-free. I'm open to having ONE kid, but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. I am perfectly fine with being the bougie rich Aunt who travels and brings her godchildren back tons of gifts from abroad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 03:03 AM |
| 165 | Unconventional red flagsNumber two is SO important. I dated a guy who would love-bomb me, hold my hand, and talk me up, but I swear his facial expressions were so off (should have trusted my gut with this one, but I convinced myself that it was just his face). He always looked guilty/uncomfortable/nervous/dead-eyed even while telling me he cared about me and saw us dating years down the line. He broke up with me to go back to his wife (told me they'd been separated for a year when it was more like three months) and two… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:58 AM |
| 55 | How are we supposed to find a HVM when males are openly lusting after teen girls? IMDB reviews for Train to BusanThis makes me sick. I teach elementary, middle, and high school students in Korea. If anyone ever said this about one of my babies I would knock them the eff out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:42 PM |
| 16 | How do you think your life would have changed if knew & believed FDS in middle school?I wouldn't have let men, "friends", and family treat me in ways I absolutely did not deserve to be treated. I would have focused more on my education (I have an MBA now but it took me a long time to get there) and my writing career instead of stalling both for a man/men. I would have realized that I'm not difficult, unlovable, or "only good for one thing" much, much earlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:14 AM |
| 9 | Dear fucking gods.What in the ever-loving shit IS this? Like, you have to a special kind of stupid to pull something like this out of your ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:11 AM |
| 42 | He still wants contact and wants to see meStop talking to this waste of space. Block and delete. He's trying to keep you on a short leash to feed his ego. If he cared about you you'd be his girlfriend exclusively. Save yourself being hurt more than you already are and dump this scrote. And while you're at it, drop the other four men, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:25 AM |
| 8 | for those who we're the " chill/ cool" girlfriend what happend and Is being the cool/ chill girlfriend ever worth it ?The coolest girls are the ones who simply say "here's my boundary, if you want to break it, sure, go ahead, but I'm out." THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:57 AM |
| 7 | How did you Level up?Thank you! It took me YEARS of struggling financially, mentally, and socially to get to this point. Moving itself wasn't difficult (I'm a huge planner), but adjusting to the culture and learning the language both took some getting used to. Other that that the worst of my problems is missing hot Cheetos and NYC bodega plantain chips :p I had a few friends before I moved here, but I didn't use them as a support system so I'd say I pretty much did it alone. It was lonely at first, but it helped me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:02 AM |
| 33 | How did you Level up?Moved to another country. Got my MBA. Started pursuing my dream of becoming a published author. Started keto, went back to the gym, and lost a ton of weight. Blocked all my shitty "friends" and noped out of all toxic personal and familial relationships. Quit social media and regained both my confidence and time. Started taking better care of myself (nails, hair, clothes) for ME and not some ain't-shit loser with a chip on his shoulder (who lied about having a wife and child...for....6...months).… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:38 AM |
| 7 | What is the Ultimate LVM name?Mark, Sky, Brian, Blake, Matt (seriously), and John (or Jon). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:42 AM |
| 5 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄Yup. There are a few gaming addict groups popping up more in the area I live in, so that's a relief. At least someone realizes how much of a problem it's becoming. Probably 1/4 of the reason why the birth rate is declining, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:02 PM |
| 13 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄It is. But here it's not seen as an addiction, just as drinking too much isn't seen as alcoholism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:06 PM |
| 28 | “TaLk To HiM aBoUt It” 🙄I'm in Korea and gaming is super popular here. We have buildings called PC bangs. It's a room full of computers where people (usually men in their teens-40's) sit for hours gaming. It's awful. When I started dating here if a guy told me his hobby was gaming I immediately blocked him. They get hardcore addicted over here. It's gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:59 PM |
| 49 | How to be happy aloneNot sure if this will help, but as someone who has lived over overseas for four years (and spent the first year mostly alone), get multiple hobbies. It's obviously not in your best interest to pick up anything like hiking, skating, paint and sip or group activities, but maybe this would be a good time for you to learn how to enjoy your own company. Take up knitting, or writing, or reading, or cooking. Or take up all four. The point is to keep your mind and body so busy that you don't even notice… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:25 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel stupid after wasting time with NVM? I feel so dumb, believing I could change someone.It's isn't just a NVM, this is a straight up abusive trashy sad excuse for a man. I'm so sorry you went through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Classic Handbook Rebuttal. Y'all have no idea how empowering this feels until you give it a shot. LVM posing as HVM blew up my phone for days talking about gettin drinks but can't handle anything more apparently. 👸I'm still very new to think sub (still working my way through the Handbook while writing my own book~). Amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Classic Handbook Rebuttal. Y'all have no idea how empowering this feels until you give it a shot. LVM posing as HVM blew up my phone for days talking about gettin drinks but can't handle anything more apparently. 👸Come correct or don't come at all. I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:54 AM |
| 2 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.Man. I've been saying this for YEARS and always get funny looks. It seems insensitive, but it's very true. They're clutching onto old traditions and ways of thinking and still trying to force them onto their children and grandchildren. I've only met a handful of 60+'ers that are a bit more liberal. They're all well traveled and speak a few languages. My bf's parents are a part of this group. They're always telling me how ridiculous it is that Korea is still fighting against LGBT, globalization, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:27 AM |
| 1 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.I absolutely love this. I have a few Korean lady friends who will cuss men out and call out their BS, too. It's hilarious to see them retreat with their tales tucked between their legs like the dogs that they are. Korea is slow to change as a country. It takes years and year for any movement to really take hold, and it sometimes takes multiple tries. I don't know how much longer I'll be here, but I'm interested to see what the next ten years will look like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:55 AM |
| 4 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.You seem like a cool kween, too :D I know exactly why. It's rooted deep within the culture for guys to do whatever they want with who they want without repercussions. Lots of man-children here. I only hope this K-drama/Pop shit dies down so impressionable teenage and 20 year old's stop coming over here to find their 오빠. There's a lot opportunity and money to be had if you come here for the right reasons. Finding a partner should be the last thing on their minds moving to a foreign country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:49 AM |
| 5 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.Eesh. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Not to make blanket statements, but Korean men are known compulsive liars. Even with Korean woman. Even with a 5'8 woman at 110 pounds who dresses to the 9's. I adapted this phrase when I went on dates and Korean men started acting a fool, "당신은 그렇게 귀엽지 않아요". It's roughly translated into, "You're not that cute" meaning you're not as cute/great as you think you are. Bye, boy. Good on you for dropping that loser. What a waste of time, mental energy, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:12 AM |
| 3 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.This is true. Thankfully not all are like this (my current boyfriend proposed and I've met his parents). Oh, for sure. I'm well attuned to all of this. There are a few that don't adhere to these strict social norms who have parents that are only concerned with their child's happiness. I'm very thankful my bf's parents are one of these. They love me no matter what (I'm a bi-racial white-black person btw). The thing I've noticed is that Korean guys can be VERY sneaky. Before I came here I didn't h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:06 AM |
| 16 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.The thing is that it's not. Koreans can live with their parents until they marry. I have friends in their 40's and 50's who are living with parents...and are completely supported by them without having to pay bills. On the flip side, most Koreans move out with millions of won in savings because they're not expected to contribute to household expenses until they move out and start their own families. Perhaps they want their own lives and to not be under their parents, but there are many who don't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:35 AM |
| 30 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.Oh for sure. I've lived (and dated) in this culture for going on five years. It's really sad to see how many woman equate money with happiness when they KNOW most of the men here "aren't shit". I feel like back in the U.S woman have a tad bit more sense at least. Not by much, but it's better than here. A lot of women are opting out, but marriages are not slowing down that much. In my office alone I've gone to about 10 wedding ceremonies in the past three months (yes, people are still doing full-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 09:59 AM |
| 59 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.I have to disagree about Korean women not marrying POS men. There are still SO many women here who will marry a lying cheating man if he's in a high-level career and can provide Gucci bags and a big house. My bf is a prosecutor and that's all that anyone cares about when I tell them. "Is he rich? Are you going to marry him so you can live a comfortable life?" Like, uh, I have my own money/savings and am already comfortable, lol. This is true though. Korean men are all about surface things. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:55 AM |
| 16 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.It is terrifying. I was engaged to a Korean guy (we're still together but realized neither of us really wants marriage at the moment) and everyone at work keeps asking me when we'll get married and have kids. The confused look on their faces when I tell them I have things I want to accomplish/do/experience before that happens (if ever at this point) is hilarious. It's as if no one can fathom wanting to be free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:37 AM |
| 125 | South Korean women rejects scrotes for marriage because they don't want to be bangmaids. Vietnam hold educational classes for pickmeshas for the rejects.I'm an American living in South Korea. I actually attended the immigration classes in this video but stopped because they're filled with weird propaganda and information on how to be a "proper submissive wife". It's disgusting. Half of the women I know (mostly Korean themselves) who are married to Korean men are miserable. They're expected to mind the children, keep up the house, and cook and clean while their husbands hang out with friends and go drinking every night. Cheating in marriages is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:52 AM |
| 31 | Close-minded Longterm BoyfriendReading this reminded me so much of a 10 year relationship I left 8 years ago. Much like your guy, mine didn't seem to be interested in my thoughts, feelings or emotions. He would get whiny when I turned down sex, and made me feel like shit for it. I too felt repressed, held back, and stuck in a box. He also had a habit of blowing up and throwing things (threatened to break my laptop when I refused to let him use it because I needed it for school, and it...was mine, but he called it "the laptop"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 07:50 AM |
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