~ archived since 2018 ~
~ archived since 2018 ~
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 70 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionI have no patience for him and what’s-her-name pick me wife in the show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:54 AM |
| 3 | if you’re gonna get married they better talk about you like Stephen Colbert talks about his wife Evelyn McGeeAmber rubs me the wrong way but I can’t pin point why. Lauren I find adorable and I like her a lot. She seems very smart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 02:36 AM |
| 4 | if you’re gonna get married they better talk about you like Stephen Colbert talks about his wife Evelyn McGeeWhat do you think about their wives ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 7 | Can anyone else also not partake in romance movies/books anymore?This is why I’m mainly reading mysteries and whodunnit type of books because the romance tropes of LVM and ditzy/klutzy/not-like-other-girl women who don’t put themselves first is very aggravating to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:04 PM |
| 19 | Have men buy pregnancy tests when you start sleeping togetherRecently my mom and I were outside of a pharmacy waiting for my dad to go buy something and we saw a young couple (between 18-22) that were clearly deciding who should go into the store to buy whatever they needed. Their body language clearly showed that they were uncomfortable over what they needed to buy so it was clear it was either condoms or birth control or a pregnancy test. The guy gave her money and guided her into the store. It’s ridiculous. If he can’t buy either of these things he sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 11 | I love it when I see FDS ideologies on other social media platforms🥰I love her and I love this sweater. I went to Zara to try to get it but they didn’t have it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:52 PM |
| 42 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?You have an answer for everything. You take everything personally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:21 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inTrust me I agree. My point is geared towards society as a whole. How it can judge women for needing a relationship more harshly than men that have perverted tendencies. For example how men would make tik toks being angry because they lost their links on pornhub and that’s “acceptable” while a woman needing a relationship is unacceptable. And while it is problematic in itself for me one is harmful for this lady and the person she dates while the other is much more damaging in multiple levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inI’m not saying we ladies need it to live. But that it can be a need in life that people can have that is acceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 03:50 AM |
| 40 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inWhy are men shaming women for wanting relationships or a partner that actually cares for them yet we can’t say shit about men wanting to have depraved or troublesome things in bed ? One is a need in life and another one is men being into weird things because their sexual behaviors are out of order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:44 PM |
| 126 | Assholes are good at sex ...Exactly. Which is why when I see this in a book or a show it annoys me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Sexual coercion that I didn’t even recognize.My ex was like this too. He would say I needed to broaden my worldview about not wanting to have sex with him and stop limiting myself because I wanted to make my parents happy. This is all bullshit I just didn’t want to have sex at my parents. To me it’s super disrespectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 5 | Most men these days are homiesexualMan I wish I knew about this before it’s so true for some men I don’t get it. We can have female friends we love and not be obsessed with them to those levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:51 PM |
| 45 | The✨mandacity✨Guys do that with everything ! At work I’ve seen men talk out of their ass and just straight up lie and they are still believed. I have to have back up for whatever i say otherwise it’s wrong. Edit- a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 09:04 PM |
| 22 | My experience with a LVM.Well my ex was super nice to me at the beginning and would be amazing. Then once we were LDR he started disrespecting me and just basically doing thing that would drive anyone crazy yet I felt like I was causing all the problems and all around the most difficult person to deal with so I get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:26 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InNo. What is happening? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:57 PM |
| 21 | My abusive ex sent me a cashiers check (via my mother) for 30,000 dollars. What do I do? (Besides cash it)I wouldn’t do a thing. I wouldn’t cash it and I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Why is he sending this now ? Why is he even talking to your mother ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:44 PM |
| 90 | Is anyone else dreading the end of WFH?To me the worst thing will be having the men from the office that are clear assholes around. They know not to mess with me because I will shut that shit down but having them around and knowing they will never get repercussions over their lack of respect and common decency will be difficult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 03:13 AM |
| 100 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?I didn’t in my pickme days but now I do. I also don’t want to worry about stds and will have them tested before I even do anything with them. I also would add to the list men that have he threesomes. Or get rough with me like in movies when they push you hard against the wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 03:05 AM |
| 66 | 🙄 There’s literally no pressure on men because the bar is in hellWhy would it even be a bad idea to buy a ring? If it’s not within your means buy something that shows you care or is a good design for a good price. And even if you buy something expensive you can always pawn it in hard times. My dad buys me gold jewelry because he says I’m giving you something valuable that will remind you of me and that you can use in a hard time if needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 10:59 PM |
| 7 | „OK, enough about me! Now tell me... what do you think about me?“It’s not just in dating. Before I’d talk to men on here just to get friends and everything was about them. They would start conversations and only speak about themselves, make jokes that would only make them laugh or say random bullshit things that were not important. When guys on here say they have a hard time getting dates I can so understand it. The worst part is that they don’t get in our shoes. Would they like if they were treated the same way ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:13 AM |
| 27 | jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???“I want to not have to offer anything and I am not okay with women not being okay with this” - why would a woman waste type with a stupid ass man like this ? Like what’s the point ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:11 AM |
| 21 | Don't threaten me with a good timeOne married guy from work was very into me tho I didn’t see it until my boss called it out. Once he hugged me for a long time. Enough for another guy to look up from his cubicle and look at me like “Wtf is happening?” And I was just like damn he was right. It’s so uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:41 PM |
| 2 | WHICH ONE OF YOU QUEENS DIVORCED THIS LVM LMAOI used to have a roommate that would talk shit behind my back to mutual friends telling them how I was disgusting because our flat had a lot of hair in the ground because I have long hair. When his bathroom was this level of disgusting and he had a lot of trash in his room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:48 PM |
| 16 | Imagine being in a Long Term Relationship...I was in a relationship with a guy who I made cum so much and I would pamper him after sex too. He never made me cum. Then once we were talking with a lesbian couple about how good sex they have and he got super worries about me cumming more. And I was like dude you need to make me cum once before you worry about doing it more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:45 PM |
| 21 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youI did block them afterwards. It took me more than I’d like to say but I did and I felt much better after. It just took me time to understand it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 12:39 AM |
| 6 | I won't be keeping in their company anymoreThere’s this guy I know who has flirted with me a lot and he says he wants new things in life yet he never cares about doing things to obtain these goals. He really only plays all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:44 PM |
| 84 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortI have had my share crushes or situationship a with shy guys and this is so true. The latest one I used to like came off as shy and his friends claimed he never spoke about the girls he had things with. Then one time he got some drinks in him and started taking about how he would curve girls that were “intensely interested in him” and another time he straight up said that he wasn’t interested in being chivalrous to girls he wasn’t FWB with. Boy wasn’t even that attractive. They all know what the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:37 PM |
| 7 | Financial costs of “Casual Sex”I used to think this one girl I know was crazy for not having sex with her boyfriends or with guys in general. It was a VERY smart thing to do and it makes me feel bad now for having judged her but stds do worry me and now I won’t even have sex until I know the guy is fully invested in me. Maybe only if we marry first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:29 PM |
| 1 | I don't think I've come across a single HVM on dating websitesI’ve never thought about this but it makes so much sense. Also love your handle, what would I not give to have an austenlike romance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | I don't think I've come across a single HVM on dating websitesI’ve recently come across a shit ton of profiles that say something like a couple trying to find someone to have fun with. And it’s like wtf ? Why would you even agree to this?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:46 PM |
| 9 | Even before FDS I believed in blocking and cutting tiesI like how you deal with things hahaha you’re great ! Like you said, it’s wasted energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:06 AM |
| 47 | Even before FDS I believed in blocking and cutting tiesLike why isn’t getting rid of negative people from your life cool ? I just can’t phantom why having standards is looked as uncool. I know what serves me and what doesn’t and if I chose to get rid of the things that don’t help me I have all the right to do it and not be considered immature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 17 | Even before FDS I believed in blocking and cutting tiesI agree. Otherwise it will just be a toxic circle. And you don’t know what they can use against you without you even knowing. I have male friends that keep tabs on their exes for the sole purpose of messing with their heads and he for sure gets annoyed when the girls don’t give them the power to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:11 AM |
| 22 | I don't even know what to say anymore at this pointOmg i googled it and it’s so depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:44 PM |
| 14 | Bridgerton was a hot mess but I still binge watched it!I couldn’t watch it. It was just too annoying. The bad CGI the current music. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:24 AM |
| 13 | Hot take: men with terrible handwriting are always shitDitto. My ex seemed super smart, he improved my vocabulary and would read papers about physics all the time but then went and told me precum wasn’t a real thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 35 | Breaking things = domestic abuse. It’s physical intimidation that counts as DV.Wooooow. Once I had a thing with this guy who was mainly dating me but he and I both still saw other people. But when we went out together or where at a party or whatnot we would always be together. But one time We going to meet at this party and when he arrived he kissed a girl and I was able to see from afar because the group he was with was very loud. Of course once he came over my side of the party and saw me his color drained. And he took me to his apartment and started fighting me about ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:48 PM |
| 17 | Maybe he’s trying to do her a favor by kicking himself out of her life so she can move on to better things...My mom ALWAYS made me pay attention to this. She would call out when my cousins crappy bfs would do this to them and tell me that I should never accept that. To her it shows how self important the man was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 10 | Tricks Men Use Not to CommitYeah this is what makes me not watch her videos. That they are super long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:13 PM |
| 7 | When he asks you “WYD? 😜”She did make a video of herself being her boyfriend for a day and leaving a mess behind her. So if that’s her reality how radiant can you be ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 52 | Stop Talking To Men Who Flirt With YouA guy at work once made a pass at time (kinda touched me inappropriately but not in a super scandalous way) and I stopped talking to him. He went and asked EVERYBODY why I had stopped talking to him. I’m talking even a guy who worked with a friend who I didn’t even know me just knew I existed. Men are disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 4 | “Men meeting women in fields and taking them to alleys, prepare to be brutally murdered TONIGHT ON SICK SAD SCROTE!”On the other hand her sister was so right about keeping her options open and being strong. Not letting men in unless they showed their value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:03 PM |
| 8 | She’s right, you can’t teach someone to love you or make you a priority. When someone genuinely cares for you, they’ll want to make you a priority and act like itShe also has a bunch of other videos that are great too. I love her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 10:55 PM |
| 6 | Hating on your own gender to make men like you...My boss at my current job thinks this and to be completely honest the most problematic people in my work group are men. Men who stopped talking to other men because they won something over them, men who blocked (yes blocked ! ) a coworker email so he wouldn’t get involved in stuff, men who pin women against each other, etc... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:39 PM |
| 42 | Cracks me up EVERY time.I am on a dating app that’s has this thing where you can chat in groups and a man was saying that he thinks girls wouldn’t mind a guy dressing badly if he’s hot and I said that I do. He thinks girls would find excuses for hot guys dressing badly. He took that as me saying I would rather be with an ugly guy who dresses well than a hot guy. And I was like hot guys can dress well too. They are not mutually exclusive and just because your frumpy ass can’t be bothered to dress well doesn’t mean I wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:54 AM |
| 9 | I’ve been rewatching Daria during quarantineI am watching it on Pluto tv a free tv app. I don’t know which countries that works on tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:57 AM |
| 15 | Thanks to FDS I can't watch romcoms without picking them apartI hate how they gaslight us saying that nothing happened with that girl when he grabs her butt and does not introduce them at all. Then she’s allowed to go into this room and call him naked guy and also going out with her and lying about it. All of this was cheating even before she kissed Marco so wth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 03:42 AM |
| 3 | Biggest Pickmeishas in TV historyThe main character in girls trip. The main character in desperados. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:19 AM |
| 4 | I'm No Longer Ashamed of Being "High Maintenance"I had the same relationship with my first boyfriend. He was super nice and perfect when we were on the same city. Then he had to move back home for medical reasons and he just ignored me. Or wouldn’t read my texts. Or wouldn’t call when he said he would. And I just became mental. I just couldn’t wrap my head around it and I was the worse with him because of that. My mom would tell me that I needed to calm down and not be as mean with him. I always felt I was the one who was wrong because I was s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:32 PM |
| 78 | NVM writes an essay on what he wants in his partner. It is not a satire. Comedy Gold.Also if they continue it with “I rely on my neocortex” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 02:50 PM |
| 21 | Pick me dance-I thought I was being compassionateI’m not sire I understand what is going on here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 01:19 AM |
| 42 | Guys would use my tip to make their dinner cheaperEven if the cultural background doesn’t match a man who pays for dates if they want you they will pay for dates. My college in Mexico has multiple students from different countries where men didn’t initiate or pay like men in Mexico do but then went and learnt that they had to do that otherwise they wouldn’t go out with girls they liked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Excusing a male rocket scientist for making his wife who had just given birth get up and take care of kids because he was too tired from watching his wife birth his child. "Hahahaha he can't even warm soup for himself he's such a sillybilly. Luckily he has lots of women to take care of him."Please just shoot me if I ever end up with a man like this. I always get annoyed when people bypass a lack of social abilities or the ability to take care of themselves if the man was smart enough. To me that’s just bullshit. What good does being smart bring if you don’t have the ability to take care of yourself and reach out to others in a proper way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 03:00 AM |
| 24 | Bet this guy would have 0 qualms about having sex while “hanging out”Seems like so. It was also stupid because I never even showed interest. He just decided to come at me with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:49 PM |
| 114 | Bet this guy would have 0 qualms about having sex while “hanging out”I’ve had a guy tell me he wanted a relationship with me but that he wouldn’t take me on dates or become a couple until we had sex so he could make sure we’d match sexually. As if. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 02:10 PM |
| 95 | Dear teenage girls: Stop idolizing these average-looking Tik Tok famous dweebs. Apparently these are the top of the top. They have inflated egos and think they are gods due to their high follower counts. You could find cuter boys at your local vape shopI really don’t get the hype on these guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 11:34 PM |
| 30 | He asked me to pick up the check and I caved. Help.I think that in this case he just won’t match with you because he thinks paying for things on the first dates is something he should not do. He decided most of the things both of you would do (if i understood right) and he has the nerve to decide when you will pay to? I never do that to anybody because it’s just unacceptable. But maybe that’s just me. I would just not go out with him again. I haven’t had luck in the past with guys but they always payed for everything. And a guy asking you out bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 09:56 PM |
| 9 | Dating in times of CoronavirusI saw a note on a girl that got wine sent over from a guy to have a date over video call. You can do that ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Jessie Reyez FDS songs (cuz i love her)Love Jessie ! Shot Clock by Ella Mai is a good realization song too ! We should start a playlist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:05 AM |
| 2 | HVM media examples?And also more punctual ! But yeah I feel you. I want a Jake too ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 10:06 PM |
| 2 | What are the things that you say or do to help yourself in this patriarchal society?My boss sometimes tries to rile girls up against each other. More so when one is a pick me and constantly does things that he loves and when the other girl just wants nothing to do with all that drama. How would you respond to this ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 01:15 AM |
| 13 | Ladies, I’m a roll. Roast em’!Awesome response ! And tinder now checks the messages ?! That’s good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 11:35 PM |
| 86 | The dangers of befriending a pickme: A cautionary taleMan this is so scary and eye opening ! I’m so glad you posted this because more girls need to see this. This girl got out of this situation just by how smart she is, thank goodness it didn’t go as badly as it could’ve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 06:02 PM |
| 52 | Maria Felix: The Lady BossShe was the best for sure. It’s funny that she’s an icon in Mexico and a great example of a strong woman. While Pedro Infante is one as well but he was a womanizer and mistreated his partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 02:58 PM |
| 6 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?It’s not being a bitch if people earned it. It’s not like you chose to be mistreated or disrespected in a way that would cause you to not want to talk to them again. If they had the nerve to earn it and just didn’t care about you why would you have to care about not speaking to them ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 02:54 PM |
| 8 | What’s the thing about FDS that you struggle the most with ?Same! It’s hard for me to meet new people because I work a lot and when I do go out I tend to want to focus more on my friends. I only meet new guys if they don’t come off as horny fucks that just want to make out with you that night. If they do I close off so fast and just ask them to leave me alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 02:52 PM |
| 53 | When even your brother shaming your body because you have natural big breastsI’m so glad the mom put him in his place but I feel like this is needed more if he and the nerve to say these things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:04 AM |
| 122 | 20 year old female with a 60 year old males. Into BDSM. Still lives at home and relies on her parents for financial support and not this scrote 🤡His dad is right about freaking out about this relationship being pedophilia. It’s not ok for him to call her names tho, but he at least is trying to bring some sense into her. Putting aside the BDSM the man in question doesn’t give her the financial stability that she is losing by fighting with her dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 02:23 PM |
| 55 | Men are far sicker in the head than we can ever imagine. Predatory men are the NORM.What a piece of shit. I’m just shocked the levels of idiot people can get to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 02:19 PM |
| 10 | Are all men in IT crazy/creepy?I have a guy friend that works in IT that is not creepy but trust me most of his classmates back in college were. If they didn’t have poor social skills (i.e. making sexual comments for nothing) they belittled women or they just were weird/rude/judge mental. Then again I think it would be a mistake to generalize since said friend says that were he works now has a lot of class act men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:07 AM |
| 13 | Kso, when are we holding men accountable?This girl won’t be the first nor the last he will give this attention to. Does this girl really expect all girls to respond as nicely ? Some won’t care and just keep being friends with the guy because to be truthful it’s not their problem that he can’t respect his girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 03:07 PM |
| 13 | Seriously what is happening today?!? This mid 20s GF is expected to be financially responsible for BF’s kids?! In her comments, he wants her to contribute to the kids college funds??? Just NO.Yes exactly. I mean in the other one she was asking for something that made her be able to have fun with him. In this case the man is just asking her to pay for shit she shouldn’t pay for in the first place and bring her nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 09:45 PM |
| 50 | Seriously what is happening today?!? This mid 20s GF is expected to be financially responsible for BF’s kids?! In her comments, he wants her to contribute to the kids college funds??? Just NO.Yet the post about the woman asking for the guy to pay for the nanny and a to go meal is uncalled for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 08:55 PM |
| 33 | Hold men accountable!They did not. He has no idea what he wants and I don’t have time for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:38 AM |
| 41 | Hold men accountable!One time this one guy asked me to go out to for some food because we were both tired and wanted to hang out. Originally wanted to go out for drinks but we both didn’t feel like it when time came for us to meet. He was kind of deciding what to do and kind of started saying things that made it clear he didn’t want to go out that much. So I bluntly told him, “I need you to decide what you want to to. I don’t need to go out with you but I need you to make up your mind because you’re wasting my time … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:48 AM |
| 22 | How do you weed or vet guys who just got out of relationships?I normally ask them how their last relationship was and I bring up that you always learn from them and see how the conversation grows from that. How limited they are to not accept that we really all do bad things in relationships and that’s why they don’t work. If they say they are looking for a good time now it’s obvious they won’t commit. I don’t think there’s an easy way to vet them tho they can always lie so you need to constantly be good and respect me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:44 AM |
| 29 | FDS Newbie/Pickmeisha horror story/ventGirl I know you’re working on it but just because you were fat you don’t deserve to be treated that way. Girls who are overweight can still get guys that are high value. I really hope you don’t put up with this bullshit anymore. I’m so sorry that he’s treating you that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:22 AM |
| 39 | Ladies, if he’s interested, you’ll know. I also love that she didn’t compromise her standards.This gives me hopes ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:26 AM |
| 12 | Anyone else just done with dating?I’m the exact same way. It took me a while to fully commit to FDS ways but I’m now clean of all the dating apps, have removed the men that do not have my best interest in mind from social media and have rebuffed advances from this guy that likes me but sorta doesn’t like me some days. I just don’t know how I will find a HVM but I sure as hell won’t settle. I won’t be known as that girl who settled for a less attractive or less value man just because I was blinded by the small pool of sucky mean … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:24 AM |
| 19 | HVM WILLKinda the same idea but the other way around - but my cousin had an amazing boyfriend that got a to go meal from the restaurant he took her out on for her mom since she was older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:21 AM |
| 37 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?I wouldn’t care since I’d know that he did that to get a rise out of me and undermine me as q mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Don't be afraid to let your voice be heard!My sister always gets told that she makes things personal but that’s just because she uses her voice wisely and she calls out bullshit in her work environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:25 AM |
| 1 | NVM under the impression that his girlfriend is both his mother and his employee.What is in his post story ! I think he deleted his account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Have you ladies seen wedding rinse repeat ?Oops lol yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 07:56 PM |
| 23 | I realized I was a pickmeisha in friendships tooHe is a piece of shit. I erased him from all social media after that. It took me a while but I realized I didn’t need that in my life. Also I heard about how another dude at work spoke shit about me and the added me on Facebook after he left our company as fucking if I would accept that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Mi historia como "pick-me"//My pick-me tales (español)Siento que tienes toda la razón del mundo al ver que el porno también nos afecta a nosotras. Pienso que es fácil ir aumentando la violencia en ellos para que te guste más. Yo si la veo pero únicamente cuando es hecha específicamente para mujeres y que se vea que verdaderamente la mujer lo disfruta. De lo contrario no me gusta nada. Pienso que este es un buen compromiso por el momento. Lamento mucho que no has encontrado un hombre que te quiera por lo que eres más que por lo que no eres. Espero q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:10 AM |
| 17 | The delusion continues, am I crazy or is the age thing inappropriate? Report?This is disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 07:35 PM |
| 7 | Who in their right mind would swipe right to this?I put the barfing emoji to cover this dude’s dick. I obviously reported him but why does he think girls wanna see his limp dick and dirty room ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 03:38 PM |
| 21 | Theory: most men can’t handle casual sex.I had an open thing with an exchange guy at my school. I had just gotten out of a super intense relationship and I wasn’t really looking to get involved with anybody. So I didn’t want to get involved romantically with anybody. When this guy started asking me out I went happily and just spent time with him knowing he has to get back at one point soon. So I took that normally and accepted it. He just couldn’t deal with the fact that I was ok with it. I was even ok with him kissing other girls. I j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 02:09 AM |
| 16 | Married 11 years, together for 13, and he has YET to eat me out.The weird thing is that he’s just unwilling to talk about why he doesn’t want to eat her out. If you read some of her comments she talks about how he has zero explanation for him not wanting to eat her out nor does he get involved in solving the issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 02:09 AM |
| 23 | What are some of your dealmakers?Being nice to women in general. Not just women who they think are attractive and actually respecting them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 14 | What are some of your dealmakers?I feel you on that last comment. I am the same way normally, asking random things and I just can´t deal with guys who look at me as if I am crazy for coming up with random conversations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 09:07 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)how do we feel about HVM who have small annoying habits? Do we let them go or should we nicely push for them to stop doing it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 08:53 PM |
| 56 | 2020 starting strong!I like his messages but I just wish he’d stop it with those balloons. They are bad for the environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | What do you guys think of Matthew Hussey?Can you elaborate a bit on that please ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 09:53 PM |
| 13 | Shut down negotiations of any kind this week. No is a complete sentence, full stop.But what if let’s say my mom who always does a lot for me and only asks for small favors asks me to do something really simple ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 02:46 PM |
| 23 | If you ever wanted to know how a LVM acts, just watch thisDude he shouldn’t throw in her face what he did for her. We all know he made her get a different image. It’s not like it was all her idea. So he can piss off and get his own band aids. What a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 04:40 AM |
| 39 | I think I'm learning their code...Why even have a relationship then ? It just baffles me. Like if you have an emotional attachment to a person why would you be ok with them being sexual with another person ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 04:22 AM |
| 32 | When they want to commit to you they willAnd to play with our minds to get easy sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Dudes are exhibiting feminine behavior...Well he just starts making comments of touchy things he identifies. Which irks them. Then he makes them spend time together and praises the other one for the things that annoy the other girl. Then once they are not getting along he doesn’t shut up about it and defends the other in a way to piss the other one off rather than have them get along. It’s difficult to detect at the beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 09:32 PM |
| 4 | new hvm dateMaybe don’t do it on the first date ? Once he has proven his effort in deciding other dates you can drop him hints on what places you’d like to see so they can take you there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 01:54 AM |
| 29 | Why? Just why?Also why does he keep texting the word busy to you ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:06 PM |
| 28 | Dudes are exhibiting feminine behavior...So one of my coworkers is exactly like this. He likes to pit girls against each other and then is super surprised when they don’t get along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 05:24 PM |
| 61 | TW: stupid LVM admits to ignoring a woman’s boundaries. Disturbing proof of male depravityThe comment in that thread are awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Sis it's ok if you want your man to spend more on your ring than he does on a single $60 video game...what did people answer to her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 02:06 PM |
| 2 | #FuckboyFree2020 #KickHimOut2020 # LevelUp2020 Report InI am here for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 01:45 PM |
| 21 | Fuckboys be like..A guy from work that isn’t even attractive tried this on me. He would always ask me to have sex before as if dating him was something I wanted to earn. I point blank told him that that would never happen and it my no to that was definite. Then I asked him about his success rate with that mindset. And he said it about 20%! Yeah fucking right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 02:49 PM |
| 7 | Is a depressed man worth pursuing?One thing is to be in a relationship with a man and then something makes him be depressed and you help him deal with it if he has proved he’s worth it another totally different thing is to date a man who is depressed now. He needs to be better for himself and then be in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:04 PM |
| 22 | My first FDS inspired clap back. How did I do?I wouldn’t have sent him screenshots. I would’ve told him “projection much?” and blocked/ghosted him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:02 PM |
| 32 | when I find the one she can delete my tinderAs if liking anime wasn’t enough of a turn off he can’t even spell it right. Tbh liking anime is not a problem. But men who state it are the ones that mostly/only like it so to me that’s just ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 05:59 PM |
| 28 | Derrick the dummy.“Really good pussy” and “grow with me”. This man should fuck right off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 02:58 PM |
| 25 | What's the most hilariously stupid thing a guy has done on a date with you and how did you react versus how do you wish you'd reacted?I went on a date with a guy I met at an university event. He seemed very nice and like a total gentleman. We went to see a movie and everything was going well until he nudged me to get my attention. When I turned around his dick was out of his fly and he asked me if I wanted to give him a blowjob. I was astonished and just say no but I wish I had gotten up and left him with his dick out at the movies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 04:02 PM |
| 15 | Had this conversation on tinder this morning. I truly can’t believe some men are like this about self confidence.Who does he think he is ? Regina George ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 03:58 PM |
| 27 | When your mom is trying to set you up. It took me awhile to straight out say no.I loved your “I’m going to shake you” like. Just tell her that she should know how amazing you are and her selling a guy to you because he’s dressed nice and looks well with glasses is too low of a level for your amazing self to focus on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Have you successfully broken an addiction to a fuckboy? Tell us how you did it, please!So before I found this I was very interested in a fuckboy. Mostly because we saw each other pretty regularly which nullified all that block him/ don’t respond shit. So what I did is just clarified that I wasn’t interested in him at all in an indirect way since I didn’t have the courage to tel him “hey I know you want me and try to play with my feelings so drop it I will never go out with you or do anything sexual with you”. I talked about a guy I’m dating, described him as the polar opposite of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 05:05 PM |
| 8 | I just want to remind you all to get hardRight on ! In the end no one will protect our feelings and interests but ourselves. So we need to make sure we have the love life we want. I want to be wooed. I want a guy who takes me out on interesting dates, makes and effort and is super clear about how much he wants me. I will not accept the half assed attempts guys do because I’m worth much more than that ! No one will make sure I get it but myself. And I sure as hell will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 04:47 PM |
| 25 | Excellent... refuse to make your self small for a man, let him meet you at the topThank you for this. I have a friend who tells me all the time how I intimidate men and how this is not helping me find a boyfriend. She went as far as to tell me that her boyfriend and her spoke about how I am and he said that he’d be scared to try to get with me because he feel like I would judge him and think less of him if he plays nice and I would think he’s an asshole if he comes strong. It really worried me for a while but then again I’ve had men be interested in me and pursue me so clearl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 04:41 PM |
| 6 | already knew what he looked like....Nooo dogs are cute and he isn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 11:53 PM |
| 44 | I'm ok with being rude for a minute. I'm not ok with being dead.I’m always very upfront to guys when they are being persistent. I’ve had men come and ask me to dance and when I say no they say “so you were dancing just now, then you just don’t want to dance with me ? Come on let’s dance” and I just retort with “you’re right I just don’t want to dance with YOU” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 02:45 PM |
| 15 | But FDS is the worst sub on Reddit...?It just got worse and worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:38 PM |
| 13 | Bad dating coaches and terrible mainstream dating adviceI do tend to ask my guy friends advice on dating. Mostly when they already know the guy so they can give me a better perspective. Their advice is almost always shit. They tend to tell me to give the guy sex and/or confess how I feel. I need to remember that guys need to work for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:47 PM |
| 42 | Sisters, are long ass messages a red flag for anything?I feel like he’s just trying to impress you. It’s not a red flag unless he doesn’t actually like cooking or if he brags all the time about everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 09:52 PM |
| 9 | In my twitter draftsDont go out with him if he’s not paying. Edit- a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Felt like this belongs here!The thing is that, that was just common decency. I have picked up friends from a lot of places even if its inconvinient because I´d rather have them with me and safe than waste a bit more gas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenYeah I have no idea how to do this either ! I want clear instructions Jajaja | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that men jump to think we are much more interested in them than we are ?Do you have a link for it ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:11 AM |
| 6 | Felt like this belongs here!I have no idea ! We live in a big city and she still goes the distance to see him in places far away from our area even if it’s rush hour ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 07:06 PM |
| 120 | Felt like this belongs here!A friend of mine has a boyfriend right now whom at the beginning of their relationship treated her well but now won’t even go to pick her up even though they are going to a place near where she is at, it’s rainy season and she doesn’t have a car. He’s obv not a grown man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 04:00 PM |
| 48 | This is the story behind every online profile saying "Im done with cheating and lying women. Im not buying you dinner. You need to act like a lady to be treated like one!"But then again we are the emotional ones who can’t deal with life because we deal with our emotions in the moment and don’t use it as a crutch to be an asshole to future sexual/romantic partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:27 AM |
| 16 | F**boys who aren't even DTFYes. A guy from work loves flirting with me and he invites me to do things more often than not but then he never crosses the friends line. He just dances on it. He lives with his parents. He works too much during the week and he says he’s not into casual sex. And I’m just sitting here like ??? What do you even do with your life? How do you not want to be with somebody ? Or at least try to have sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Daily reminder: don’t ever settleYes ! Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:47 PM |
| 6 | What’s the most offensive word you’ve been called by a scrote?The worst I think was in fifth grade. I was called a seal in heat because of the way I laughed once. Totally uncalled for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Man can't remember the last time his GF bought him dinner, she says it's her Dad's money. Here's dead weight, dragging her down.I do think she should be doing more to level up as a person but he shouldn’t expect her to do everything for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 05:12 AM |
| 16 | How do you respond to breadcrumbing without blocking?When a person flirts/texts here or there to keep the person interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 01:57 PM |
| 10 | Question about Facebook DatingI think they would’ve already slided into the dms. In my town Facebook dating sucks. All the guys that use it are just not my type at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 01:34 AM |
| 13 | Don’t call me your “cariño”Mexicana represent ! ❤️❤️❤️ They tell you that and don’t even bother to learn Spanish after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 02:48 AM |
| 11 | How did you ladies deal with shame looking back at past relationships?I had a lot of shame on a past relationship because I labeled myself a psycho because of how I acted with him. I was a little bit tbh but it was all caused by him. I would’ve been nice and a good girlfriend if he hadn’t love bombed me and then just breadcrumbed me and manipulated me into thinking it was all my problem for not accepting how he was. Now I realize I wasn’t in the wrong. Even if you did something that brings you shame try to remember that you know much better now and will only come … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 05:54 PM |
| 16 | Why is the ugly social-inept STEM-nerd negging me? Aren't I supposed to be the one being pined after? How did the ball move so far across the court that I'm waiting to be validated by him now? WATCH THIS eye-opening video!Can somebody tell me what the video says ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 07:34 PM |
| 2 | FemaleDatingStrategy in SpanishI can help ! I speak Spanish too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 02:37 AM |
| 2 | A reminder that if he thought you were valuable, he would treat you with value. Either he doesn't respect you or doesn't have his shit together. Remember, he'd find the money to take a supermodel on a date, he just doesn't think you're worth it. He's wrong. Boy bye.Sorry. English is not my first language. But what I mean is if there ever are exceptions to our rules | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 04:21 PM |
| 5 | A reminder that if he thought you were valuable, he would treat you with value. Either he doesn't respect you or doesn't have his shit together. Remember, he'd find the money to take a supermodel on a date, he just doesn't think you're worth it. He's wrong. Boy bye.I do have a question for something that is not clear to me. If he shows that he cares in every other single thing but has simple ways on other aspects or let’s say has a specific limitation that doesn’t give him the freedom to do a specific thing he should how do we handle it ? When do we know that an exception is acceptable ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 04:17 PM |
| 16 | A reminder that if he thought you were valuable, he would treat you with value. Either he doesn't respect you or doesn't have his shit together. Remember, he'd find the money to take a supermodel on a date, he just doesn't think you're worth it. He's wrong. Boy bye.I personally do not think a coffee date would be a bad idea for a date, sometimes if you´re busy its the only thing you can squeeze in and it could probably help as an alternative to the pre-interview. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Help dealing with male coworkerAn what do I do if he tries to flirt with me or pays special attention to me ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 10:31 PM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter